Fix rename detection for tree-to-tree diffs

The performance improvements I introduced for rename detection
were not able to run successfully for tree-to-tree diffs because
the blob size was not known early enough and so the file signature
always had to be calculated nonetheless.

This change separates loading blobs into memory from calculating
the signature.  I can't avoid having to load the large blobs into
memory, but by moving it forward, I'm able to avoid the signature
calculation if the blob won't come into play for renames.
Make rename detection file size fix better

The previous fix for checking file sizes with rename detection
always loads the blob.  In this version, if the odb backend can
get the object header without loading the whole thing into memory,
then we'll just use that, so that we can eliminate possible rename
sources & targets without loading them.