Rework the idle callback to have a safer interface

It turns out that the uv implementation would cause use-after-free if the idle
callback was used after the call to `close`, and additionally nothing would ever
really work that well if `start()` were called twice. To change this, the
`start` and `close` methods were removed in favor of specifying the callback at
creation, and allowing destruction to take care of closing the watcher.
Assorted test fixes and merge conflicts