[BUGFIX] EM: reduce prominence of state column

Decrease the width of state column and invert the coloring.
The prominence of the state column is reduced to minimum.

Change-Id: I979b93b0bd1924fac856087a2b00e9ad30eb12ee
Fixes: #46967
Releases: 6.1, 6.0
Reviewed-on: https://review.typo3.org/19640
Reviewed-by: Wouter Wolters
Tested-by: Wouter Wolters
Reviewed-by: Benjamin Mack
Tested-by: Benjamin Mack