LU-1468 o2iblnd: Support OFED-3.5 for o2ib

OFED is having new structure based on linux kernel code + backports
and packaging. Here is detailed information.
http://lists.openfabrics.org/pipermail/ewg/2011-December/017156.html

This patches are the lustre build improvements to support OFED 3.5,
3.x whatever future OFED release.

Porting from:  Id4ffc39bc7fc24cc591bf6fb47e9b0e662993bda

Signed-off-by: Minh Diep <minh.diep@intel.com>
Change-Id: Icb64c3ab57be4bcbbdd8120aec6b58d02ff7253f