Fix several bugs relating to suspendWhenHidden

- If an output is bound in the UI before it exists on the server, the
  server will suspend the new output until something else causes
  manageHiddenOutputs to be triggered. The refactor in shiny.R sets
  the suspended flag to .shouldSuspend.
- As part of the previous refactor, we don't set suspendOnHidden in
  defineOutput; instead we leave it empty and .shouldSuspend knows
  what the default should be.
- In shiny.js, unbound controls were not being suspended. This was
  fixed by having sendOutputHiddenState be stateful; anything in
  a visible state that disappears on the next iteration is marked
  as hidden. Also unbindAll now calls sendOutputHiddenState.