[ticket/11691] Stagger the convertion of soft delete updates

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[ticket/11691] Stagger user notification reconversion even more

PHPBB3-11691
[ticket/11691] Change detection of effectively_installed()

When start is set for a migration, it is not yet effectively installed.
So we just continue doing it...

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[ticket/11691] Fix some more problems with softdelete update

* wrong order of arguments on sql_query_limit
* avoid "BIGINT UNSIGNED value is out of range" errors
* increase limit for the loop

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