Add buffer_std flag to MarkBufferDirtyHint().

MarkBufferDirtyHint() writes WAL, and should know if it's got a
standard buffer or not. Currently, the only callers where buffer_std
is false are related to the FSM.

In passing, rename XLOG_HINT to XLOG_FPI, which is more descriptive.

Back-patch to 9.3.
psql: Re-allow -1 together with -c or -l