fixes PowerDNS/pdns#666

SO_REUSEPORT is available on various bsd operating systems as standard, and also as a linux kernel patch from Google. It allows

1) Running 2 powerdns processes concurrently so that you can restart powerdns without loosing any packets
2) (the main purpose for my writing this patch) On linux with a patched kernel removes contention from many threads using a socket. In my tests this improves performance with a packet cache from 300kqps to 1mqps

If the SO_REUSEPORT call is available, the attached patch causes each receiver thread to open a new socket for connections which allows each thread (on linux) to operate at full speed rather than waiting on a slow socket. It should fail nicely ie if the call is not available at either compile time or run time it will just use the initially created socket.

Was merged in to linux 3.9 series - see https://lwn.net/Articles/542629/ for more information
mutex lock the g_localaddresses as under very rare conditions it can segfault at startup when initializing many receive threads with many addresses
Merge branch 'so-reuseport' into lmdb-back