ISPN-3357 Insufficient owners with putIfAbsent during rebalance

* Properly retry the command when the OutdatedTopologyException is thrown
  from a backup owner and wrapped in a RemoteException both on the primary
  and on the originator.
* Set the ignorePreviousValue flag on the command when retrying, even if
  the originator is not the primary owner.
* Keep forwarding the old way in replicated mode, and revert
  ReplCommandForwardingTest