Fix .update_all and .delete_all when using a condition on a joined table
in a default_scope.

`Model.joins(...).where(condition_on_joined_table).update_all` /
`delete_all` worked, but the same operation implemented with a
default_scope generated a SQL error because ActiveRecord ignored the
join but implemented the where condition anyways.
Fix cases where delete_records on a has_many association caused errors
because of an ambiguous column name. This happened if the association
model had a default scope that referenced a third table, and the third
table also referenced the original table (with an identical
foreign_key).

Mysql requires that ambiguous columns are deambiguated by using the full
table.column syntax. Postgresql and Sqlite use a different syntax for
updates altogether (and don't tolerate table.name syntax), so the fix
requires always including the full table.column and discarding it later
for Sqlite and Postgresql.