INT-3103 TCP Propagate Exceptions to GW Thread

Previously, when a calling thread was waiting for a reply, and an exception
occurred on the socket, the exception was not propagated to the thread and
it would eventually get a timeout, but with no indication of the problem.

Propagate the exception to the calling thread by invoking onMessage()
with an ErrorMessage.

Ignore the ErrorMessage in other TcpListeners (inbound adapter, gateway).

Ensure NIO closes are not missed by sending an ErrorMessage when the selector
thread detects a closed channel.

Add tests for Net, NIO, cached and failover connection factories.