tls: proper .destroySoon

1. Emit `sslOutEnd` only when `_internallyPendingBytes() === 0`.
2. Read before checking `._halfRead`, otherwise we'll see only previous
   value, and will invoke `._write` callback improperly.
3. Wait for both `end` and `finish` events in `.destroySoon`.
4. Unpipe encrypted stream from socket to prevent write after destroy.