make connections to tork subprocesses self-healing

When a tork subprocess terminates, its parent process now replaces it
with a fresh instance.  Thus the tork process tree is now self-healing.
socket files were always deleted: even if not ours

If a tork instance was already running and a new tork instance was
started up in the same directory, then the latter would always delete
the common socket files (currently belonging to the former) upon exit.
drop socket retry logic: self-healing does it now