Various cleanups for REFRESH MATERIALIZED VIEW CONCURRENTLY.

Open and lock each index before checking definition in RMVC.  The
ExclusiveLock on the related table is not viewed as sufficient to
ensure that no changes are made to the index definition, and
invalidation messages from other backends might have been missed.
Additionally, use RelationGetIndexExpressions() and check for NIL
rather than doing our own loop.

Protect against redefinition of tid and rowvar operators in RMVC.
While working on this, noticed that the fixes for bugs found during
the CF made the UPDATE statement useless, since no rows could
qualify for that treatment any more.  Ripping out code to support
the UPDATE statement simplified the operator cleanups.

Change slightly confusing local field name.

Use meaningful alias names on queries in refresh_by_match_merge().

Per concerns of raised by Andres Freund and comments and
suggestions from Noah Misch.  Some additional issues remain, which
will be addressed separately.
Simplify query_planner's API by having it return the top-level RelOptInfo.

Formerly, query_planner returned one or possibly two Paths for the topmost
join relation, so that grouping_planner didn't see the join RelOptInfo
(at least not directly; it didn't have any hesitation about examining
cheapest_path->parent, though).  However, correct selection of the Paths
involved a significant amount of coupling between query_planner and
grouping_planner, a problem which has gotten worse over time.  It seems
best to give up on this API choice and instead return the topmost
RelOptInfo explicitly.  Then grouping_planner can pull out the Paths it
wants from the rel's path list.  In this way we can remove all knowledge
of grouping behaviors from query_planner.

The only real benefit of the old way is that in the case of an empty
FROM clause, we never made any RelOptInfos at all, just a Path.  Now
we have to gin up a dummy RelOptInfo to represent the empty FROM clause.
That's not a very big deal though.

While at it, simplify query_planner's API a bit more by having the caller
set up root->tuple_fraction and root->limit_tuples, rather than passing
those values as separate parameters.  Since query_planner no longer does
anything with either value, requiring it to fill the PlannerInfo fields
seemed pretty arbitrary.

This patch just rearranges code; it doesn't (intentionally) change any
behaviors.  Followup patches will do more interesting things.
pgtest:  allow passing parameters, e.g. -s/--silent
Previously only -n was recognized.