src: fix multi-base class ObjectWrap::Unwrap<T>()

Fix pointer unwrapping when T is a class with more than one base class.

Before this commit, the wrapped void* pointer was cast directly to T*
without going through ObjectWrap* first, possibly leading to a class
instance pointer that points to the wrong vtable.

This change required some cleanup in various files; some classes
used private rather than public inheritance, others didn't derive
from ObjectWrap at all...

Fixes #6188.