Do you derive joy when someone else succeeds?. Do you not play dirty when engaged in competition?. Do you have a big intellectual capacity but know. That it alone does not equate wisdom?. Do you see everything as an illusion?. But enjoy it even though you are not of it?. Are you both masculine and feminine? politically aware?. And don't believe in capital punishment?. These are 21 things that I want in a lover. Not necessarily needs. but qualities that I prefer. Do you derive joy from diving in and seeing that. Loving someone can actually feel like freedom?. are you funny?. la self-deprecating? like adventure?. and have many formed opinions?. These are 21 things that I want in a lover. Not necessarily needs. but qualities that I prefer. I figure I can describe it. since I have a choice on the matter. These are 21 things I choose. to choose in a lover. I'm in no hurry I could wait forever. I'm in no rush cuz I like being solo. There are no worries and certainly. no pressure in the meantime. I'll live like there's no tomorrow. Are you uninhibited in bed?. more than three times a week?. Up for being experimental?. are you athletic?. Are you thriving in a job. that helps your brother?. are you not addicted?. curious and communicative