Four Funerals and a Wedding: Resilience in a Time of Grief
"Magnificent ... an exquisitely honest book." --Newark Star-Ledger"There are so many who would benefit from Smolowe's emotional intelligence, warmth and wisdom." -- Dr. Lloyd Sederer, Medical Director, NY State Office of Mental Health,Huffington Post"No one would envy Smolowe's ordeal. But the way she handled it and writes about it? Very much so." --New Jersey Monthly"A  fabulous writer ... Hearing about grief from the inside gives me a better notion of how to respond to it." -- Rick Hamlin, executive editor,Guideposts"People need to know how grief works, what it feels like ... They also need a story. Smolowe's engaging, informative and moving narrative puts flesh to the bones of our research." -- George Bonanno, professor of clinical psychology, author ofThe Other Side of Sadness"Forget everything you've heard about the grieving process. Jill Smolowe's memoir about the death of her husband and other close family members -- and her eventual true-life happy ending -- upends conventional wisdom, providing a new narrative for grief. By turns humorous, matter-of-fact, and wise, Smolowe does not shy away from uncomfortable moments. But she also emphasizes moments of grace with an eloquence that will take your breath away. As she probes deeper into her own feelings and motivations, she's never maudlin or histrionic. You'll feel like you're in the company of a wise, funny, rigorously honest and yet compassionate friend. I found myself in tears several times -- and I also found myself cheering her on. Her insights about grieving, and moving beyond grief, should be required reading for all humans. I loved this book."    –Christina Baker Kline, author of the New York Times bestseller Orphan Train"This is an absolute must-read for people struggling with loss."--Publishers Weekly"Surprised by her resilience after a series of losses—including the death of her beloved husband—People writer Smolowe has written an uplifting memoir about grieving and moving on." --PeopleJill Smolowe has written a moving memoir of loss – and also a uniquely uplifting one.  Emphasizing the resilience, not the grief (though she portrays both with a novelist’s eye for detail and ear for dialogue), she offers essential insights for those who have lost people they love, or know others who have, or will one day find themselves in one or the other of these positions – in other words, for every one of us.  Exploding many truisms about dealing with death and illness, this book provides insight for navigating the perilous path between saying too much or too little, and concrete suggestions by which the bereaved, and those who care about them, can move beyond the ritual “Let me know if there is anything I can do.”–Deborah Tannen, author of theNew York TimesbestsellerYou Just Don’t UnderstandMany accounts of grief are called ""brave"" and ""unsparing,"" butFour Funerals and a Wedding truly is those things. It's the first account from the silent majority who respond to loss not with paralyzing sorrow but with remarkable strength. Jill Smolowe challenges orthodoxies surrounding bereavement and shows how man does not just endure, but prevails. --Ruth Davis Konigsberg, author ofThe Truth About Grief