The Same but Different: How Twins Can Live, Love, and Learn to Be Individuals
"The Same but Differentpresents a stunning, in-depth look at the lives of adult twins as they face the twin challenges of closeness and independence, love and resentment in their evolving relations with each other."-Nancy L. Segal, PhD, Professor of Psychology, CSU Fullerton, and author ofBorn Together--Reared ApartandSomeone Else's Twin"Shows adult twins how to 'out their feelings' about their twinship, . .  . explore them in a healthy manner, and deal with their twin issues so they can pursue more independent and fulfilling lives."-Susan M. Heim, blogger, author ofIt's Twins!andTwice the  Love, and coauthor ofBoosting Your Baby's Brain Power"The Same But Differentbursts open the doors on the emotional struggles  and triumphs of twinship . . . a must read for any twin, as well as any  parent of twins."-Natalie Diaz, founder of Twiniversity and author ofWhat to Do When You're Having Two"Joan Friedman is one of those rare twin experts who tells the whole truth about the experience of being born alongside another person, growing up constantly lumped and compared.The Same but Differentexplores the powerful complexities of trying to build separate friendships, careers, and romances when one is paired - genetically and societally - with another person. Required reading for adult twins and the people closest to them."-Abigail Pogrebin, author ofOne and the Same: My Life as an Identical TwinandWhat I've Learned about Everybody's Struggle to Be Singular"This book offers a deep and thoughtful exploration of the experience of  being a twin and the route toward individual development through the minefield of opposing desires regarding sameness and difference. It recognizes that each twinship is as unique as the individual twins in it."-Vivienne Lewin, psychoanalytic psychotherapist, London, author ofThe Twin in the Transference, and contributor toSiblings in Development"Friedman acquired her stripes as a twin herself and as the mother of twins--all in addition to her academic credentials as a twin specialist. She is a destination writer for anyone seeking information on this topic. An excellent combination of psychology and self-help; unequivocally recommended." -Library Journal