Duct Tape Parenting: A Less Is More Approach to Raising Respectful, Responsible, and Resilient Kids
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books are like diet books: They work for a while and then you're back to blimpdom.Duct Tape Parentingseems like something else – an idea that's workable for the long run, because, at base, it believes in the kids themselves.” (Lenore Skenazy, founder of the book and blog,Free-Range Kids) “Duct Tape Parentingis for every parent who's grown tired of picking up after the kids, taming sibling squabbles, and doing all the work around the house. In an age of overly involved parents, Vicki Hoefle offers a battle cry of sanity. I read her book in one weekend, immediately put her wisdom to use, and saw results right away. I was stunned. If you want to change the dynamic in your household and nurture self-reliant, thoughtful, and resilient children, read this book.” (Katherine Ozment, contributing editor and weekly columnist forBoston Magazine) "Vicki Hoefle does an amazing job inDuct Tape Parentingof providing relatable, helpful advice. Her approach is unique and extremely thought provoking. This is a must-read for parents who are tired of advice that does not work and need a re-charge for their families."(Vanessa Van Petten, author, RadicalParenting.com) “In this gem of a book, Vicki Hoefle gives parents a commonsense approach to raising respectful, responsible and resilient children. Her lighthearted, down to earth manner helps parents clarify their goals for their families, understand the roots of behavior and develop a path to creating a happy, healthy and supportive family life.”(Amy Lew, PhD, author ofRaising Kids Who Can)“The most important family dynamic that we have achieved as a result of Vicki Hoefle’s approach is one of mutual respect. We feel like a team, like four people who can depend upon each other. This book is a must-read for any family who is looking to create a supportive unit built on honesty and trust.” (Katy Smith Abbott, Dean of Students & Assistant Professor of the History of Art and Architecture, Middlebury College)“An informative and irreverent guide, this book is a must-read for anyone who wants to raise resilient, problem-solving children.  Vicki Hoefle offers a Goldilocks way forward: not too much parenting, not too little, just right.”  (Craig Idlebrook, writer and parent-educator with the Boot Camp for New Dads Project.www.bootcampfordads.org) “If you are interested in more positive family relationships and raising capable children who will courageously step into adulthood, take the opportunity to read this book. It is never too late to change your life.” (Cindy Pierce, mother, innkeeper, comic, author ofFinding the Doorbell, Sexual Satisfaction for the Long Haul) “This is a must-read for every parent, parent educator, and teacher. The exercises help you identify the problem and the little reminders tell you exactly what to do (‘putting on the duct tape’), when to do, and why to do. As a counselor and educator, I recommend this book wholeheartedly to every parent and any individual who works with children. The ideas are so applicable, that I will use some of them in my classes, even at the graduate level! And as a parent my duct tape is ready…finally.” (Bengu Erguner-Tekinalp, PhD, assistant professor, Counselor Education, Drake University) “Rarely does a book come along that offers parents solid information about why a parenting style is so important, tools and tips that make it easy to try, and inspiration that keeps us afloat as we find our way. Vicki Hoefle is the real deal. She’s parented five kids and taught thousands of parents with this approach. This book should definitely be on the top of your stack!” (Dina Emser, Certified Positive Discipline Lead Trainer, author ofRoadmap to Success and Trusting the Fortune Within) "Hoefle's straightforward approach to empowering our children debunks the parenting myths that often cause unnecessary stressors that are all too common within families. Her techniques and highly identifiable case studies demonstrate that it is possible for parents to have mutually respectful relationships with their children, while lovingly engaging with them and providing the knowledge that builds their abilities, confidence and independence."(Dawn Lyons, freelance writer & editor, teen consultant & advocate, www.linesbylyons.com)