We Have To Talk: Healing Dialogues Between Women And Men
Most popular books about relationships stress gender  differences: We're from different planets, we don't understand each  other, our words have different meanings, and so forth. This book  asserts that we can understand our differences and get past them,  replacing isolation with connection in a healthy, growth-fostering  relationship. The authors call this "getting to 'we.'"Shem and  Surrey have worked with more than 20,000 men, women, boys, and girls.  We hear workshop participants using "gender dialogue": asking  questions to aid in understanding and reconnecting, such as "Name  three strengths the other gender group brings to relationships," "What  do you most want to understand about the other gender group?", and  "What do you most want the other gender group to understand about  you?""Disconnections between men and women are inevitable--no one  ever gets it right the first time, or all the time," say the  authors. "It's not only what you do that matters, it's what you donext." This book gives insights into our differences--such as  men's "relational dread" and women's "relational yearning," and how to  move past conflict to collaboration. The chapter "How Couples Grow" is  invaluable, describing a detailed process to work through impasses and  rediscover the "we" in your relationship.--Joan Price--This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.