Creating Real Relationships: Overcoming the Power of Difference and Shame
Difference and shame are underlying dynamics in relationships, which are either healing or wounding the partners. Shame in relationships has the effect of driving down a partner's real self. Shame steals energy, optimism and excitement long after its initial pain. Nevertheless, the partner whose face flushes with shame is also one who wants and needs to learn how to hold his or her head up in calm dignity and realistic pride.  The message of hope that lies hidden in every moment of the creation of Real Relationships is that a hard work miracle does exist.