The Woman's Guide to How Men Think: Love, Commitment, and the Male Mind
“The war of the sexes is historical, and methods of creating peace are plentiful, but few work well. InThe Women's Guide to How Men Think, the author, a man, offers women a code to male thinking that could bring an end to this war, if embraced. Readable, practical, and wise, I recommend this book to all women who want to understand men and to all men who would like a better understanding of themselves.”—Harville Hendrix, PhD, author ofGetting the Love You Wantand coauthor ofMaking Marriage Simple“If you are lost in translation when you are trying to communicate with your man, this is the go-to guide for you. Smith provides a wonderfully clear understanding of the relational disconnect that plagues many relationships. In reader-friendly language, he presents sound and positive strategies to help struggling couples. It is an invaluable resource!”—Carolyn Daitch, PhD, author ofAnxious in Love.“At first glance,A Woman’s Guide to How Men Thinksuggests a twenty-first century version of John Gray’s classic,Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus; however, rather than focus on men at their worst, Shawn Smith writes about what he terms ‘good men.’ As a therapist who promotes secure-functioning relationships, I find his premise—that there are men willing and able to love and commit in relationships—refreshing. Readers of both genders should find this book sheds new light on many of the age-old dilemmas of pair bonding.”—Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT“Shawn Smith’s book is not only notable for its helpful contents, but also for the way in which he opens his heart and mind as an authentic, personal ambassador of the good men he represents. In every chapter he gently but firmly builds upon his basic premises: women can master the tools to get more of what they need from their men, guys are relatively easy to love if women don’t expect them to be like them, and women and men need each other’s core contributions if they want to create the ultimate fulfillment each of them deserves. In a unique blend of substantial research, humor, and a strong conviction in what he believes in, Smith delivers his story in a manner that is easy to embrace.”—Randi Gunther, PhD, author ofRelationship Saboteurs“We have always known that men and women think differently, and now that difference is brought to light in an uplifting, easy-to-read guide to understanding how the male mind actually works. Smith has given women the gift of how to really get to know the man they love, and how to love him more.”—Barton Goldsmith, PhD, author ofThe Happy Couple“Shawn Smith has written a powerful primer for modern women who have not been schooled in gender differences.The Woman’s Guide to How Men Thinktakes a gentle approach to helping women understand what makes men tick—which will, in turn, help women find the love they seek.”—Suzanne Venker, author and cultural critic“Shawn Smith’s book provides a wonderful service in helping women understand men. He weaves together research, clinical experience, and personal experience in a clear, accessible way. I will recommend this book to clients and students, as he is able to highlight the influence of gender without stereotyping or being simplistic. Smith shows us how to avoid the trap of resentment that comes with misunderstanding, and gives thoughtful and practical examples that can improve relationships.”  —Shelly Smith-Acuña, PhD, author ofSystems Theory in Actionand dean of the graduate school of professional psychology at the University of Denver“I can’t think of another self-help book I’ve enjoyed reading so much. It’s rare to find one that is not only scientifically-based and incredibly practical, but also laced with humor. Chocablock full of fascinating insights into male psychology, this book provides an honest, realistic, and effective pathway for improving and enriching your closest relationships.”—Russ Harris, author ofThe Happiness Trap"Shawn Smith does not apologize for male traits, nor does he try to change them. Instead, he reveals what they mean to women who want a better relationship with the man who possesses those traits. This book walks female readers through the male mind, and helps them understand how to be more empathetic and connected to the man they love. This book teaches that men’s behavior and love is not better or worse, just different. Acknowledging the difference is what makes this guide a gem.”—Helen Smith, PhD, author ofMen on Strike: Why Men Are Boycotting Marriage, Fatherhood, and the American Dream—and Why It Mattersand forensic psychologist in Knoxville, TN“Smith is a brilliant writer who explains the mysteries of the male mind with intelligence, compassion, and humor. His well-researched book is a compelling guide that provides a better understanding of men and will result in improved relationships. This is a must-read for every woman.”—Michelle Skeen, PsyD, radio show host and author ofThe Critical Partner