Getting Good Loving: How Black Men and Women Can Make Love Work
"With compassion for both genders--and a lot of common sense--Audrey Chapman leads the discussion on how black men and women can move from destructive relationships to healthy loving."--Bebe Moore CampbellBestselling author of Brothers and Sisters"Offers healing prescriptions to help us work through our complex problems and move toward healthier relationships."--Nathan McCallAuthor of Makes Me Want to HollerWhile many black men and women enjoy good loving, countless others are trapped in a cycle of bitter emotions and disappointments. As couples therapist Audrey Chapman traveled across the country conducting seminars and workshops on male-female relationships, she was struck by the deep yearning of individuals struggling, often in silence, to find "good loving."In Getting Good Loving, Chapman examines the psychosocial dynamics in black relationships and explains why unrealistic expectations and confusion about masculine and feminine roles are the two main reasons why black men and women continue to misunderstand one another. Chapman addresses what she calls the "entitlement syndrome"--a subconscious belief that one's romantic partner should make up for one's past suffering. Through case studies and intimate revelations from both men and women, Chapman explains how these root problems surface and how they can be transformed to create healthy, loving, and interdependent relationships.Here is an honest and sensitive exploration of how to take responsibility for our own happiness and get what we all need--good loving."Chapman explores the root causes of common problems between black men and women without using that knowledge as an excuse for destructive behavior. Getting Good Loving offers a positive approach to strengthen and encourage black couples rather than laying blame. I highly recommend this book to anyone seeking to better understand relationships between black men and women."--Alvin Poussaint, M.D."With sensitivity and wit, [Chapman] suggests ways black men and women can shed their defenses and learn to trust each other again."--Publishers Weekly