Outgrowing the Pain Together
Because love is not enough... a step-by-step plan for overcoming  obstacles together. Childhood abuse has many forms, but the message is  always the same: people who love you hurt you. If you are the spouse or  partner of a survivor of an abusive childhood, you know what that  means-a relationship that has you worried, angry, or frustrated. You  may be wondering if the person you love will ever "get over" his or her  past, and if you can ever have a "normal" relationship. You may even  have thought about leaving out of frustration and despair. But there is  real help. Therapist Eliana Gil understands the special problems you  and your partner face. Based on her extensive clinical experience with  adults abused as children, she has developed a unique, much-needed  program specifically for couples. It provides guidance in:Anger  management.Safe and successful ways to express feelings.The  dangerous trigger words: what are they; what they do.Touching or  being touched: no more fear; no more guilt.Good sex: Loving,  fulfilling intimacy.Decision-making and power: equal partners at  last.Ending the silence: communication that  worked.Commitment: being able to count on tomorrow... and more.