'YES! I absolutely love this one, I've stumbled upon it before and it kind of blew my mind a little the first time I saw it. It makes total sense too. And it actually takes some pressure off the...|||You're right, I want my creative work to be a second career. It's not quite there yet, but I'm starting to get a little bit more serious with it. So yes, I do put pressure on it. Maybe the keys lies...|||Ah yes, you describe it well. I both love it and is afraid of sharing, especially to a new crowd or something I'm not sure if it's good enough. But it's so fun to share too. It's true for my work -...|||Happy, I love the word self-handicap. It describes it well.   I agree with doing it every day makes it easier. I have a tendency to do a lot work for a while, working almost every day and then for,...|||Hi fellow lovely ENFJs!  As a writer and aspiring author I've struggled with fears when trying to do my creative work. First, the fear that I'm not good enough and doing any kind of work would be a...|||Thank you! It feels a bit more hopeful today. And I know, something is gonna work, sooner or later.|||I'm so tired of life right now.  I have since last summer a job as the leader of a student organization and I spent the fall working 60-80 hours a week with high pressure and responsibility. I'm...|||Interesting! I'm a cusp too between Taurus and Gemini. I'm Taurus but if I was born another year I could have been Gemini. It's a weird combination, really two totally different signs. Never read a...|||I've also heard something similar to you'll never be happy - that he doesn't have almost any demands on the relationship while I have too many. I agree that pushing isn't a very good method and...|||Thank you all for your responses!     Your description is extremely accurate for my situation. The only thing I don't experience is your second point about So, but my boyfriend is in MBTI terms...|||Hi!  I've figured out that I'm Sx/Sp and my boyfriend is Sp/So. Does anyone else have experiences of this combination? Do you have any advice for me? I've realized we aren't the easiest combination...|||I do this too, and it's useful but dangerous. If we are too much of a chameleon we are so affected by who we are with, and we loose ourselves. I've realized that I mirror some of my boyfriends...|||Yes, I run and I love it! Usually run at night with music, to clear my head. Works great!  I read somewhere that ENFJs were the type most likely to deal with stress by running, so there is probably...|||I've come to the same conclusion. When I stop waiting for things to happen or for others to do the things I want to do with me, and go for them myself, just because I want to, then I become a happier...|||With a healthy and understanding ENFJ, you don't need to be bossy to express your need for independence. We get it anyway. My ISTP isn't bossy at all and I respect his need for independence.|||http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DjUX2LESOpM|||I hope it works out for you! :)|||To be fair, it has mostly happened with people who I've gotten to know through partying with them. But I might hide my intuitive side from people I don't know. It feels like the more private,...|||I don't think that's necessarily true. We have reversed functions - but the same functions. That makes us the same but still very different. In other words, we often have similar values and think the...|||That is sooooo interesting! I've been told by new friends that they didn't think I had that much depth to me and I've read here a few times about people having the same experience. One would think...|||Oh MY god. I have so much to do.   I'm working for a student organization for a year and we are only two people working full time in the organisation, me as the representative for the organisation...|||Well, even if we have the same functions, communication isn't necessarily easy. I'm with an ISTP and have read about others and what people keep coming back to is that communication is key to make...|||This is exactly it. I think we manipulate and do other things to affect other people's behavior because we get influenced by others all the time. It's natural for us.   That being said, it's not a...|||I work out a bit irregularly but when I do it for a while it becomes an addiction pretty quickly. I also store up my anxiety and stress in my body and I easily get back pains and such. Training...|||We ENFJs tend to see brightly on the future and we have our goals that we want to reach no matter the hardship. For me in terms of kids that means I don't care if the first years will be hell, I...|||Haha it's a good thing we have the same experiences because written, it sounds really weird! I narrate in my head to, very often think of what I would say. I can get angry, upset or start laughing...|||Jesus and mother of God.   I've spent the last hours mediating between my mum and sister over the phone. I've said I'm not getting involved but this time their fight seemed so out of control I...|||Thank you, I will use this approach. You are a wise man.|||Haha okay I see the difference. The end of the alternative sounds a bit manipulative to me though. ...because I like spending time with you, meaning if you don't do this then you don't like to...|||You are probably right that I am the one who needs it. I see it like our relationship needs it but fair enough, it's rather me that needs it to function in the relationship.     Haha I lol'd....|||I don't live around Uppsala unfortunately and I've never heard of soccer golf but it sounds fun! I'll check if there is anything like it here.   I do know we don't need to do everything together. I...|||This is helpful! I'll try to tell him that. I think that he thinks he doesn't have that many impulses really but I don't believe that. :P   It was very witty. :wink:|||We would have to take a bus to get to a hiking trail, but that is a possibility. We have talked going for a hike for half a day or a day and he seems up for that as long as it's not winter. We have...|||Hi!  So, I'm trying to explain some about the Ti-Ni loop and the role of Se for my ISTP boyfriend. He is all weirded out and says about a thread I linked  This guy is proud he made a sandwich...|||It will get better! Remember that she is putting you in this situation too, so she is also responsible for your health. Hopefully you moving out will also reduce your stress and improve your mental...|||Yeah, I know, I have drifted apart from almost all of my old friends. It's how it works I guess, but it's sad. Hugs!|||I agree that it's important, and that speculating isn't really leading anywhere! I have talked to him about it but I will try a bigger discussion about it. I'm not home at the moment so I've used...|||I agree, it's really tough. I keep thinking how when I actually do get a really close female friend, I'm gonna look back at this time and realize how much not having one was getting me down. It's...|||Interesting that so many of us have the same experience with mothers.     Be strong and look out for yourself! Moving helps a lot, I moved 5 hours away so she could only reach me fast on phone....|||I think I know how you feel. I was best friends with an ESFP for 10 years and when I moved to another town to study and the friendship needed a little effort from her side, she didn't do shit. I was...|||I'm definitely a shy extrovert. I'm usually shy with new people and can be awkward with people I don't know too well. I find it easier to be social if I'm in some kind of role, like if I need to be...|||I don't know the theoretical explanation for it, but it seems like sensing fuels judging a bit. Guessing it has to do with sensors being more grounded and to a larger extent lives in their senses.  ...|||Whatever type you are, you interest me.   If you are ENFJ with a somewhat complicated relationship to your Fe, you could use Ti as a way to shield your emotions. From others and from yourself.  ...|||Dear ISTP boyfriend,  I more and more realize I have no idea what goes on in your head. It's starting to freak me out. I look forward to your next random blurt of thoughts.  Sincerely, with love,...|||I have had to learn to not invest fully in those who don't want to be helped. My ISFP mum is very needy, in constant need of comfort and support but do not want to change. I have tried many, many...|||If my partner isn't bringing up any considerations about the relationship, that freaks me out. My ISTP boyfriend never really brings up any issue and I know we have our issues (I bring them up!). So...|||You are very welcome to use MBTI as a game. What you said though is that you know it's more of a game. I know there are troubles with finding empirical evidence for the functions and I surely agree...|||Hi Platena and welcome to PerC!   It all sounds pretty ENFJ to me. I don't know where you read we are supposed to be good at expressing our feelings - we have a tendency to be scared of asking for...|||She sounds like a lovely dog. I too want a dog someday, I'm adopting a second cat now since my other cat got lonely. I agree that it's heartbreaking to see them still showing you that they are happy...|||Ah damn. If you feel there is still time you could try some funding site (like kickstarter). Tell me if you do and I'll help you, but make sure you can donate from other countries in that case. My...'