'I should clarify that this guy hasn't made any remarks yet, lol. I was just saying in general what I think about people who make remarks and think it's acceptable. In fact, my INTP ex was the one who...|||So his remarks are more of like, Please support me, I need you right now sort of messages?|||What about a close family member or a child? I'd hope you'd understand if they needed to tend to someone like that more so in times of need and struggle.   It's too early in the game right now to...|||That's what I'm scared of. I listen, and I empathize, but I am so terrible at reading remarks, and honestly I greatly dislike people who expect me to respond positively to their back handed, wishy...|||I mean it could be either of us, or it will be. I always had the impression that a healthy relationship requires these emotional relapses created by past hurts. I've had them with current friends,...|||Ha, when we first started talking to each other, I was pretty convinced it was nothing more than a booty call. Then he showed interest in going to my work party with me, and I was pretty confused...|||That's kind of what I'm rootin for.|||Honestly I think I'm just terrified of my feeellings cuz damn are they fiery, uncontrollable. I'm like Bruce Banner, but instead of rage it's like this insane manic romance monster that burns...|||HA I feel you. Honestly, I really think I could fall crazy hard for this guy, but I kinda forgot how. So maybe it is on fire somewhere. I'm like the dragon instead of the princess in the ivory tower,...|||I guess I'm wondering if it will reappear if things really pick up with this new dude, and maybe I'm just majorly on guard right now. I kind of get the sense that he is a little bit on guard as well.|||Fairly certain I'm dating an INFJ, and I'm scared he will get bored or sick of me because I'm not at all romantic. I value love, relationships, connections, but I typically express this through acts...|||I've got a question. Are INTP's slow to feeling the jams of a new relationship? Is that normal? I started seeing this guy about six months after a failed fling, and after basically all my hopes and...|||What about a female INTP life-long BFF? I'm in need of a BFF. Mine was stolen by some bozo guy. :dry:|||Replica of my moody, boring INTP ex. He had good fashion sense tho. 252194  Me now: 252202  I'm convinced if I wear exciting shoes no one will care that my outfit is forever always...|||Yes in that it is a part of decision making. Most thinkers I know (including myself) get themselves in sticky situations (an understatement) fast because they don't take into consideration what feels...|||This is exactly how I feel now. When I start to notice manipulative behavior, I'm like:   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GOiVYbWJDOA  I don't even feel sorry for my former self. I was just young...|||Lose 30 lbs and bath 3 times a day.   He didn't just cheat on me, though. He spoke badly of me, gas lighted me (which, in my opinion, is absolutely disgusting and unforgivable), and was doing hard...|||While I'm not trying to diagnose you or anyone who relates, have you ever read about people with Borderline Personality Disorder and their issues with identity? Again, not saying that anyone here has...|||Perhaps. Idk. Back to the drawing board!|||They are awful lovely. Yes, I think some people get too in depth with scarification. I like the simplicity of it, not a fan of full detail.|||I just recall you questioning your type. I know I was way off, lol.   Ya, you're right. I definitely got over it way faster than I thought. I'm glad I did it. Saved a lot of worrying and regret I...|||I feel dumb about the whole thing now.|||Hey Frenetic Tranquility, how are things? So you're a confirmed ENTP? Yeah, that's what I was guessing. That's what I was guessing from the start but my friends told me I'm being cynical and give it...|||That's exacrtly it! I had to do it for my own sanity! I'm glad you did it though, spared you from some worse hurt. I guess the same holds true for me. Haha.|||That's like, my one major regret with him. :rolleyes:|||Idk, I enjoy the bonding. I don't think of it as, Oh god I'm stuck liking this asshole, lol, I know that's not what you mean, I'm exaggerating stuff. The way I think of it is, For a moment, I can...|||That sounds like a solid plan. I like you.|||I really have the lamest tattoo so I really can't judge, hahaha. I don't have a brand, but I would like to get one, if done right it can be really beautiful. Also to argue against myself, I forgot...|||I know 2 classified ENFJ's. One is a good friend of mine. He's got Asperger Syndrome, which I think would make you confuse him for a different type, but he has that same, large, warm, goofy heart....|||If my skin looked young forever, then maybe. Idk, tattoos usually look ugly, imo. And for some reason I find scarification more legit and cooler. Idk, I feel like there's more of a symbolic reason...|||^^ Right on. Yeah, it really isn't a choice for me, so I guess that's a good way of putting it.|||Thank you! Yeah, that's how I feel. I'm tired of not doing anything and letting something go, never knowing, never trying. Thought I'd do something different, a little braver. And yeah, I think I did...|||Are you aromantic? I feel somewhat the same, still I enjoy the hormonal bonding that comes with sex or even just being a companion to someone. Yet, not everyone feels the same way. I'm pretty...|||I enjoy being invisible. I also enjoy being seen, it just depends on my mood I guess. Everyone has their own way of getting noticed, and everyone has their own way of enjoying life. Not everyone has...|||Mid twenties, him- early twenties. Idk, I guess what I mean is playing mind games with others as Machiavellian. But maybe it's just him. Or maybe that's the point of dating, to find out I'd much...|||Resilient, I think, is an excellent word. That's what I'm striving for as a person. Thank you.|||Thanks guys.  Welp, now that I am slightly recovered from that hell of a hangover, I have some insights which I'd like to share.   A) I realized he was playing tricks on me just to show off that...|||Ya I guess I've learned the hard way. Just gonna go back to watching life pass me by and day dream the rest of it.|||I just told a dude I liked him. Via the internet, in a juvenile, awkward, 7th grade-ish way. I like you. There it is. Take what you want from it. He hasn't responded.   Kill me now. Why, oh why...|||I'm not quite sure how it would be hard to open up in front of an INFJ. Maybe it's just me, but xNFJ dudes are like the only dudes who can get me to spill all the beans just be staring at me with...|||Psh, whatever. I don't read too much into anything... :rolleyes:  Yeah, I suppose it would be wise to see him as a human, although he constantly tried to illustrate himself as anything but. A...|||I should clarify, the transient part was me venting, because that's what my ex said in his very elegant speech wherein he basically told me I was nothing more than a fling to him. I'm not looking...|||For the record, I find someone's heart to be something of precious cargo. I say what I mean, but I would NEVER say some of the disrespectful things I hear partner's say to each other. Maybe it's...|||Does it count if we are aware of this and are really trying? Cuz it's not natural for me, and when people say that, it makes me want to crawl into a ball and give up on ever attempting closeness. In...|||Actually, I have been lucky enough to meet quite a gaggle of you oddball males. I just wanna make new friends. You're ranking pretty high up there, and you know how to treat a lady. This should be...|||Jking about the EDM part. :tongue:|||What are your thoughts on INTJ girls, and where can I find you, other than at EDM festivals? (I'm terrified of crowds).|||Yay!!!  Although, I would suppose that comes down to the individual. To me, someone who has a thick skin and can laugh is faaaaar more attractive than someone who wants to 'talk about feelings,'...|||See? This is why I like talking to you guys. You're so able to help people out without picking on them and getting right to the core of the issue. Also, I guess I should also say that calling NT's...|||Thanks Mimesis. I always appreciate your words. :happy:'