Yes, I've had this given as 'feedback' after initiating a break up and then discussing what went wrong (I always like to do this as it gives me closure). My ex boyfriends have generally told me that...|||I'm a girl ENTP and just reading your post gave me palpitations. As much as we love playing devil's advocate, questioning and debating everything, we generally dislike being subjected to questions...|||31 is really nothing at all - you're still pretty young and have plenty of time to do everything. I'm 40 next year and all I see in front of me is opportunity to do more stuff. I've prioritised the...|||He is being very unfair to you by apparently moving on with a new girlfriend already yet still contacting you giving conflicting messages. I wonder if his new girlfriend knows he is still in contact...|||Exactly the above, particularly what Scarlet says. ENTPs generally do not do things out of obligation to others - we only do them if WE want to.   Thus, if I am spending time with you in the first...|||Yes, introverts have a different type of sexiness which I think is more of a 'strong and deep' type. Extroverts tend to have their confidence and sexiness on show for all to see, whereas you know...|||I'll let the 'almost all' quip go and won't ask who you think is FUGLY. :unsure: :wink:  But I personally can see the confidence that I think all ENTPs have radiating out from the photographs. We...|||I'd like to thank all the responses to this thread - some real food for thought and it is genuinely interesting in how different people (even of the same type) deal with it.  Obviously forgiveness...|||Emotions suck big time. :wink:  I know when I'm happy and obviously I like being happy but even then it still scares me that I might become 'overwhelmed' by the feeling itself and do something...|||How did the more recent contact come about? Did he or you initiate it?   ENTPs are very open and honest about liking someone - I've initiated all but one of my significant relationships. The only...|||Thanks for everyone's replies - really interesting reading!  There's a part of me which knows full well that not forgiving is harmful only to me, though so far it hasn't ever happened like that -...|||I don't know why that pic has come out so small.|||Well, aren't we all fantastic looking? Here's me.   320938|||I don't know if this is just me, but I've realised lately that I find it almost impossible to forgive people if they mess up/piss me off (or lie to me) in a fairly big way. It's odd because I know...|||Not saying that at all, but the simple mathematical reality is that the available pool to choose from is much smaller at my age. Most men are either married with kids or in serious relationships. I'm...|||Thanks for both of your posts - a viewpoint I hadn't considered. Will bear this in mind.|||OK, as I'm in the aftermath of a break up myself, I'll be less harsh than I would be normally, because whatever the reasons - and especially after 5 years, it must hurt a lot and I'm sorry you're...|||I need to be better at communicating. There's been some research on this and apparently the happies/most successful couples are the ones who are communicating all the time and dealing with the little...|||Met two really good male friends in the queue at a Star Wars convention. They just happened to be stood behind me, we got chatting, wandered round the con as a threesome, exchanged numbers and kept...|||Yes, I guess so. I don't want him to rest on his laurels as it were. I *never* enter a stage in relationships where I think 'this is it, we're good now, we know what the other likes so we don't have...|||Cheers! I think I'm doing the right thing at the moment, though I know I'll have to speak to him at some point. My instincts are usually right, though all I'm sure of is that he isn't telling me the...|||I will contact him at some point but I honestly think it's for the best right now that we don't speak - I'll just end up shouting at him, such is the level of anger I have towards him at the moment....|||Some advice needed, my awesome ENTPs.  So I broke up with my bf (INTJ) a few weeks ago, though it was all a little odd the way it happened. He'd been a bit distant for a few weeks so I sat him down...|||A large amount, I'd say get married for more practical reasons - both men and women. It's difficult to get statistics on this but a study I read about years ago estimated that approximately 40% of...|||I'm sorry to hear you lost your wife at a young age. Without wishing to intrude (ignore if you like) - have you met any women since who compare to her or was she one of a kind?       You just...|||I think I know what you mean - I get an emotion (usually takes me by surprise) that I can't immediately talk myself out of. And I hate it when it happens.   Honestly? I tend to just have a few...|||I realise there's no pressure on me as I don't want kids, but I guess I just look back at all the relationships I've had and wonder if I could have done things differently.   Since starting this...|||I make decisions with difficulty, because I can so often see everything from all angles and I have trouble narrowing it down.  As others have said, I'll often just come to a decision purely for the...|||Not sure if other ENTPs feel the same, but this is easily the trait I hate most in others - whether they are just friends or partners.  I'll be the first to admit it's the result of an underlying...|||I take secrets to the grave if necessary - for the simple reason I wouldn't want anyone else to break my trust so I keep my side of the bargain when needed.   I don't like the idea of cheating at...|||I take secrets to the grave if necessary - for the simple reason I wouldn't want anyone else to break my trust so I keep my side of the bargain when needed.   I don't like the idea of cheating at...|||Yep - I'd say most ENTPs are flirtatious! He obviously enjoys talking with you and ENTPs will certainly hang onto someone they know they can chat to on the big issues.    Could be, though it...|||ENTPs love debating the big questions - we're not really interested in making idle chit chat for the sake of it, and we get bored easily so more normal/routine things being discussed can bore us...|||Well, I got dumped. I'm annoyed that it was me who had to sit him down and ask him to be straight with me - it was obvious something was up the last few weeks but both of us had so much going on that...|||How good are INTJs at opening up emotionally? From what I've read on here, it's not the easiest thing to do for this type.   And do you prefer to do it in your own way and timescale (rather than be...|||Ah, OK! If she's flirting back with you, it sounds as if she'll reciprocate whatever way you choose to ask her out. Good luck!|||It would freak me out to be honest. If you've been talking for years quite normally and there hasn't been any particular flirting on either side, this is going to be quite out of the blue for her....|||My INTJ boyfriend is delightfully boring, if I'm completely honest. He's even been told he's boring by other people. But I adore him for all the ways he's different to me. He's solid, dependable,...|||I'm very visual - words on their own do not interest me at all. Everything I say or think is connected to a mental or real image.   No idea if this is typical of ENTPs.|||Turn ons: intelligence, curiosity, confidence, knowing your own mind, generosity, naughty sense of humour, likes travelling/exploring, independence.   Turn offs: selfishness, arrogance, doesn't...|||Exactly this. If people are idiotic enough to want please others, they can go ahead. But I couldn't respect such a person. Which types do you think are more likely to be people pleasers? At a guess...|||We're very rational about that kind of thing - though I don't think I'd connect on an emotional level if it was a first date. At that stage it CANNOT be anything other than physical attraction and...|||There is fairly good evidence from dating sites that despite all the 'lists' of personality traits and qualities people are looking for in a partner, when they meet someone they REALLY like, pretty...|||Regardless of type, any man who judges a woman for having sex on the first date is not worth bothering with!|||I don't prefer one over the other - both types have equal standing in my life. I tend to keep the groups separate though. I have a CRAZY group of extrovert friends and our nights out are loud, wild,...|||ENTPs, obviously!   I sometimes admire the patience and stability of the NTJs but I know that I am fully enjoying everything life has to offer - spontaneity is key for me.|||A work colleague once asked everyone in the office what they thought of his new facial hair (a silly little piece of bum fluff under his bottom lip).  Everyone else: Oh, it's...lovely.  Me: It...|||Nope. Never suffered social anxiety - I'd say ENTPs are one of the types least likely to suffer from it, simply because we just don't give a fuck what others think of us and we also know that we are...|||All of this. Just because you're in a committed relationship doesn't mean you stop finding other people attractive. And our global internet connections now mean we can potentially stumble on someone...|||He told me he wanted to talk about it and why he was doing it (the counselling) and that felt like he was 'involving' me in the process. It doesn't really bother me - I just want to make sure he...