'As an ENFJ, how ambitious are you? I am fairly ambitious. I have two undergrad degrees; Sociology/Religious Studies & in Education in ESL/Secondary Education. I left about a 3 year gap between both...|||Welcome!  I find that writing my thoughts in free-flow about the situation helps me cope with separating my feelings with the other person. I also remind myself that I will not allow another...|||healthy ways - workout regularly, yoga, talk to my boyfriend/friends. Maintain a regular sleep schedule.  unhealthy - chocolate. more chocolate. Sometimes other unhealthy foods :/|||It is going excellent! Are relationship is building an amazing foundation. We love to express our feelings for each other through poetry (my preference), through drawings & art (his preference). We...|||Hey INFPs - barely post anymore. I just wanted to share that I met my INFP boyfriend on Feb. 4th of this year. We met through a dating app. We have never been more in love - we've both described our...|||It's been six dates and I found myself an INFP [he took the test ... and yes, he is an INFP]. The connection is just so amazing and intense right now, it even scares me.  He told me he has never...|||I am curious what you'd like. Yeah, we ENFJs are unique. Wonder if this has to do with enneagram/love styles.|||I don't have a ton of info. as I have not met this guy in person & only chatted with him yesterday for the first time online. Here's what I do know:  -according to his profile he is looking for...|||Here are some signs:  -they tend to talk faster  -they will have a tougher time filling in gaps in the conversation -sometimes they won't initiate the interaction, get a bit more shy or wait till...|||Dislike my INFP best-friend's sister. We only just met this month. I don't know I felt strangely upset about why I don't like her sister and guilty. The girl is so self-absorbed & does things that...|||Yeah. I hear you there. You just never know that you will fall in love with someone. It does come out of nowhere.|||Well put. I am borrowing this one in the future.|||Here are some ideas: -anything handwritten or created by hand (so original) this can range from poetry, a cleverly created time line of your relationship with photos (in form of a YouTube clip too)...|||I totally relate to what you said there.|||Yes, I am with you. I find it very hard to fall in love. Some people have been known to mistake my friendly, extrovert behaviour as some kind of romantic interest. Must be going out of style to take...|||Thanks for the reply. I agree with what you've said. I would actually like to dump and bail-out on her at this point.|||That is what she said. However, her friend reporting me to HR would not have any affect on me. I don't work there. I am simply an individual who applied for a grant (which is govt money). This money...|||thank you. sane advice.|||Hey, I am working with INFP on a community project. Without going into too many details, a number of people have dropped the ball on her including the Illustrator who was working with her [an INTP]....|||https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OntHieZofGA    So good. James is also a Youth Worker/Musician... the non-lyrical version of the song is amazing.. any how..|||https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gXWD1HjWI8M&amp;index=35&amp;list=PL940F90747B3D4A  F3  Throwback to 1995.|||Reminds me of the barista at my local Starbucks. Still checking if he is going to do some more rad art work and what's next in his life. lol|||https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZpDQJnI4OhU  Bono is rumoured to be an ENFJ as well :)|||yeah, that's the correct way to put. I felt my post was rather unbalanced. The one male ENFP I know is an excellent photographer & very reliable when it comes to delievering his work. I think it was...|||Yes, that's what I was conveying. Glad it made sense :)|||Really :tongue:  I think about the 2 ENFP friends I have (well one isn't a friend anymore by virtue of the total lack of effort she puts in our friendship). They amass so many friends very quickly....|||Is it me, or do other ENFJs have trouble opening up? I find it takes forever for me to actual talk about myself as a person unless someone asks direct questions - but, who the heck does that? :P|||Mostly jealous of their social acumen. They walk into a room & trump all the efforts of other people (namely ENFJs), through their charisma and larger-than-life personalities.  I find they say alot...|||I agree with what Gilly said - point on.   I find that people simply do not directly ask questions about me. I think it is refreshing for ENFJs to be able to talk about themselves. We value...|||1. A big party that will have mostly acquaintances and strangers. There is alcohol, food, and music, but the point is to mainly talk to others.  I would likely be tired thinking about this event,...|||part in bold - Something tells me that you feel disappointed about this or at least confused that he wanted to stay-in-touch, but chooses not to initiate contact. If he isn't choosing to contact you,...|||Thanks for sharing, Gilly.   Well, I believe in my 30's I started to care less about fitting in and pleasing other people's whims, particularly people who wanted me to change. I also became much...|||I didn't read the link yet. I had a best friend that is a ESTJ. Very controlling and unable to accept new ways of doing things. It was her way or the highway. I also felt she cared too much about...|||Thanks for the reply. I like how you helped me work that out, ENFJ brother.|||Have you tried an I feel statement? Basically, you would explain how you feel without implicating him. So, you could say something like, I feel _______________ (frustrated, rejected, shut down...|||https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G_KzlvxrEpU|||Norina, yes, good observation. There were other reasons he didn't want to share with me... I often wonder why he would not want to. I typically don't see ESFJs as very private people.   Thanks for...|||Couldn't agree more with all that is posted here. Don't over complicate things. Start with FB & then a coffee before moving on to something more. Honestly, if she does not want to talk to you she...|||Yes, during times of frustration I feel the same. Before I reach out to someone I ask myself, if they aren't there for me when I need them will I be ok with helping them now?. This help me put...|||Question for my ENFJ brothers and sisters...  how do you get over a breakup especially with someone you still have great memories with and truly loved? I still my ex ESFJ boyfriend and it is been...|||I would not worry at all. He also told you not to worry - trust him! The thing is he knows to know she needs to own her feelings and that he isn't responsible for them. It is important that you...|||When I look back on when I met the ESFJ I once dated, he was immediately affectionate with me. Reached for my hand, kissed me - very obvious. When we spoke he listened to me intently & asked me some...|||<--- new picture of me. By new it is a year old, but I haven't changed in years...|||Just watched the trailer. I cannot decide from the ity-bity-clip if he's an ENFJ. Looks like an awesome movie!!|||Mr Selfridge (my newest love) Fresh Prince of Bel - Air Star Trek the Next Generation (thanks to my INFP sister) Breaking Bad (whole season is fantastic) Top Chef  I don't have a lot of time to...|||It's been a while ENFJs :)   I am curious to know how your views on relationships (romantic, familial, friendships, colleagues) has changed over the course of your life. A broad question that can...|||Not as popular as ENFPs though. I find that if their is an ENFP in the room they will outshine us. People just gravitate towards them!   I think if we need to take care of the needs of the group,...|||It used to bother me in the past, but knowing that I dislike (not hate, I cannot say I hate anyone) some people, I am comfortable knowing that others would also dislike me. I used to have a sense of...|||Great question.   -I had a little school on the block. I would make worksheets, buy all kinds of supplies for my stickers, & fix the boo-boos of the little kids. Is it surprising that I am a...|||Normally I do not like beards on men. However, when it comes to Mr. Selfridge I'd make an exception. It looks really sexy. Well groomed and suits him well. My ex also looked very hot with a beard :)...'