'I just got off the phone with him. We only spoke for about 5 mins but it was good. He wanted to talk to me so that's a positive.|||Thank you for you're input. During our phone convo, he said he wouldn't be contacting me daily as he used to. He told me to only expect to hear from him every 2 or 3 days. As he was pulling away from...|||Good news. He called today and wants to work on a friendship. I'm relieved and would really like that if it's possible. I'll back off and let him come to me when he's ready so he doesn't feel...|||Yes, he is considerably younger than I am and letting go is my only option. I have fond memories and he will always be in my heart. It is so hard though. I'm in a lot of pain.|||I agree that it no longer works for either one of us because of where each of us is in our lives. It was an impossible relationship from the beginning. We both knew we could never be together forever...|||Sadly, I tend to agree with you. I think it's really over.|||Typo: I accidentally said INFJ in my post but I meant ISFJ.|||Wow!!! That was heavy WTF happened??? I thought ISFJ's forgave everything.|||I posted in December '14 about my breakup with an INFJ guy. I'm an INFP and had usually dated and only been attracted to INTJ's. I happened to have the good fortune of meeting an INFJ and fell deeply...|||I posted in December '14 about my breakup with an INFJ guy. I'm an INFP and had usually dated and only been attracted to INTJ's. I happened to have the good fortune of meeting an INFJ and fell deeply...|||Hahaha! You're awesome! And yes! If you're ever in Seattle, we'll have a drink of something. I really hope you get your families back some day. :-)|||It is SOOOO difficult to find a solid, quality person in the world...let alone someone whom you're attracted to and get along with. I'm elated for anyone who is fortunate enough to meet someone to...|||Hi, I'm very sorry you are suffering. I went through a break up a little over 3 months ago and I know how badly it hurts. I will just tell you what helped me. I started going to Al Anon meetings. It...|||Thank you SweetSunshine7! I read you loud and clear. Family is a HUGE influence in many African cultures. As much as my guy loved me, it wouldn't have worked. It's really hard for me to understand...|||I just wanted to give an update on this whole scenario because I've often read posts and wondered what ultimately happened to the person/people involved. I have just hit the 13 weeks point of my...|||I agree with your comment about him lacking maturity. That's true. Now that I have 5 weeks of distance since our breakup, I've been able to see things more clearly without the severe emotional pain...|||This is why I LOVE INTJ's. You call it like you see it. :-)|||Move on and put yourself back on the market for a great guy to love. They are out there (great guys) but you have to be emotionally available and optimistic to find them. :-)  Thank you for your...|||Yes. He calls me and texts me everyday. He says he loves me and wants to be friends. We broke up because his family didn't approve of our 12 year age difference, I'm white and not Muslim. He's West...|||Thank you. Break ups are difficult; especially when you're the one who was dumped. I still love him. I can't just shut that off. It's going to take time. I understand what you're saying about what's...|||I really appreciate your response but I'm not sure I get what you're saying...Do you mean that he's doing these things to subconsciously/consciously push me away further? Are you trying to tell me...|||Hahahaha! Time to flush the turd. Well put...and you're correct. I've allowed him to mess with my emotions and I didn't consider his actions to be controlling until just now after reading your...|||I wouldn't use the word toxic to describe him. He's actually a very kind, considerate, loving person. He has just confused me with some of his actions after he broke up with me. I don't understand...|||Thank you for that link but he doesn't share anything on Facebook. He hadn't changed his profile pic in about a year. He texted me those pics I was talking about. I don't believe he is...|||Hi,  I'm an INFP womand and my ex ISFJ boyfriend dumped me one month ago. However, he has contacted me either by calling me or texting me every day since he broke up with me.   Lately, he has...|||Well put, Zen Lizard|||UGH!!! I'm going through a break up right now too. My ISFJ boyfriend broke up with me 3 weeks ago and it still hurts pretty badly but every day it hurts a little less. I think it's particularly hard...|||I just want to thank everyone who responded to my original post. Your input was very helpful to me during this painful time. It has been really hard but it's now been three weeks since we broke up...|||Hi there,  I'm an INFP woman and have been dating an ISFJ/ISFP man for almost a year. We got along really well and love each other but he is African, Muslim and younger than me and I'm a white, non...|||Hi, I'm an INFP woman who was dumped a week ago by my possibly ISFP boyfriend of one year. I can't tell if he's ISFP or ISFJ. This has been extremely difficult for me and to help me through this I'm...|||Thank you so much mjostrong. This was helpful. My ex is a very good guy and I know this has been hard for him too. Reading your responses definitely gives me peace of mind. I do believe he...|||Thank you SO much! This is very helpful to me. I feel much better about things just reading your responses. The hardest thing for me is feeling like I didn't matter and that I was disposable. Even...|||Thank you for your post. Things were hopeful yesterday but got worse today. He told me he's going to stop texting me regularly. I'm so scared he's going to just close the door on me for good and I'll...|||Hi, I'm an INFP woman who was dumped a week ago by my ISFJ boyfriend of one year. This has been extremely difficult for me and to help me through this I'm asking for some ISFJ input to help decipher...|||Thank you. I tried to get him to meet me but he isn't ready to face me yet. He told me he feels embarrassed. I want to believe he's just pulling back because he was hurt and needs some time to...|||Thanks for that. I like direct, concrete communication so this is really hard for me because I'm seeing his actions through my lens. I even asked him if he wanted space and if he would like me to...|||Zen Lizard, I have another question for you. I'm getting mixed messages from him and I was hoping you could help me understand what may be going on with him. He has been texting me good morning...|||That describes me exactly! I usually don't shy away from conflict with people I'm closed to. I dive right in and need to get it out and resolved before I can feel relief. That has been a problem for...|||Wow! I love this. I'm going to locate that book. My willingness to engage in conflict usually depends on who I'm going up against. If I feel like I'm dealing with a reasonable person or one of my...|||Thank you for all of your input. I can feel things starting to warm up with him again. We had a nice text exchange later last night and I think we're on the road to mending things. I don't like to...|||Thank you!. That's a really big relief to hear that. The only thing I texted today was, I love you and he responded back with I love you too and I asked him how his day was. He responded to that...|||Thank you for your input. I'm very worried that he is going to associate me with something horrible that he doesn't want to revisit. The fact that he texted me first thing this morning was...|||Thank you. I think that's good advice. He texted me this morning with a Merry Christmas and told me he loves me. I haven't heard anything from him since which is totally not normal. I'm pretty sure...|||Yes, he said he wants a friendship and says he still loves me.|||Hi there,  I'm an INFP woman and have been dating an ISFJ man for almost a year. We got along really well and love each other but he is African, Muslim and younger than me and I'm a white, non...|||Lol! I'm aware of that formula. ;)|||Yes, things are going exceptionally well!   And yes, the real problem is inability to commit because of the massive age difference. I'm open to meeting someone with many of his qualities closer to...|||I'm finally off the crack! Yay for me! I've been traveling in SE Asia for the past month and it was the perfect amount of time for detox. I'm truly done with this arrangement and can say with...|||I don't get it|||So I have an update...my IxTP invited me over today because he really wanted to see me. He didn't say he missed me but I could tell he did by how lit up and chatty he was when he saw me. We haven't...'