'Yep have been single for longish periods (five years or so) several times in my life.  The first long dry spell (early 20s) was after being burned in first LTR.  Slow to trust after that, and let a...|||I am not that good with money, as in I have never really had savings for retirement, rainy days.  When I have earned decent money i've thrown it around (e.g. buy expensive leather jacket then give...|||I like this one and have implemented some of his strategies. I play this kind of thing in bed as i go to sleep. He talks a little fast and it is a bit of info overload but all good.  I have been in...|||Habits, mixed results. Struggling to make working out a habit at present.  OTOH I have just cultivated a habit recently, that i am having success with. I used to let my room (where I spend 90% of my...|||preferences for romance: INFJ, INTJ, INTP, INFP. but INFJ way out in front .  Friends: as above but add in ISTP, ENTP. ESTP, ESFP and I guess ENFJ.  Children, don't have any preference but i...|||Honestly? I think you know what you have to do.  Don't muck around or waste any more time.  You can do better, or, being alone has to be better than this kind of partnership. jmo|||yesterday I was off work sick and sleeping in the day, and I had vivid and random dream, but it probably wont make much sense to anyone not from NZ or not aware of the people in the dream. It all...|||probably 'Love Story' or maybe it was 'The Way We Were'.   (showing my age )|||I am so upset and angry right now. I was having a casual conversation with a neighbour and it turned to dogs and pets. I have one, he used to. He ended up telling me a lot about how he had got his...|||I suggest you read up on the Victim romance style, (socionics). It is almost  normal for you to be this way.  Rejection is hard but sooner or later you find that you will be the rejector, ever think...|||Chocolat, it seems to me that this person is being manipulative, and I know for myself I bend over backwards to thwart any attempts at manipulation. I will run a mile rather than let them do it to...|||I have an ISTP friend and we get along fine, feel I can really trust him. He has a dry sense of humour and is a very good person I feel. We don't hang out that often, but always have good talks when...|||I like all kinds of cheese and always have. I gave up dairy a while back though (for ethical reasons) so it's off the menu. Healthwise; pro- makes me dream a lot more, the night Ive eaten it Con;...|||my thoughts are that her texting you like this is typical of an ESFJ woman. I don't think it's a good match at all TBH.  One thing I learned about ESFJ recently is they have no 'long view', meaning...|||I've mainly had OK experiences with them and generally have no problems with them; they are doing a hard job. BUT once or twice I have dealt with lying ones, or those who tried to trick me, which...|||I doorslammed an ESFJ who was very into playing mind games and creating dramas out of her boredom. I was not upset with her at the time at all, it's just that once I had her number (observations of...|||I'm not in the USA but many people here go on and on about Trump, so does our media here. I only know him from The Apprentice which I used to enjoy. Based on that I liked him. Sure he's got an...|||I suppose that I am very serious, deep down, and that they had better not insult or denigrate my values or beliefs. The last time this happened (3 x times)  it was ...doorslam.  On the surface I am...|||I tried it a couple of times in the past and got off pretty fast. Met a couple of ppl for coffee, but the second we met in person I know' nup, no chemistry'. Chemistry is a biggie and it is true, you...|||HI all. I wonder if others here enjoy Terrence Malick. When i was a lot younger I saw 'Days of Heaven' and then 'Badlands', was haunted by both, in a good way. (and I watched a hell of a lot back...|||well, for me, when I feel fear or the 'big freak out', I know it is looooove. I have come to see it as part of my normal pattern. I did let it stop me going to the next level, once  when younger and...|||Hey, Backpackers' hostels are usually cheap places to stay, and i have enjoyed them, despite bunking in a room of several . most are considerate as they are used to the BP protocols. If you have back...|||one time I walked out of my house and a crazy neighbour who had been hiding in the bushes leaped out and started screaming at me and hitting me, starting with knocking my sunglasses off my face and...|||I am one extreme or the other. enormous wardrobe, ridiculously so. At present trying to close a teeth gap with a band. This gap was not there a year or so ago... then I got into this habit of resting...|||https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OVCO_F0fUas|||In my younger years, I creid almost daily (20s). Now i can go months without... but dumb things like soppy films set me off|||Ed Snowden documentaries. It blows me away that he would all but throw away a large part of his life, and sacrifice himself to do something for the greater good - and at SUCH a young age.  Sure,...|||tested, but didn't know anything about MBTi at the time so forgot about it. ..tested again a few years later, have always got same result.|||In all honestly, when this happens at bedtime, as it sometimes does, I take medication that specifically works to stop ruminating thoughts. (Quetiapine)  - it is very effective in calming the mind...|||Being in a relationship with a person who sounds like an Unhealthy ISFP?...believe me it is gonna get a lot worse before it gets better...if it ever does. :(|||I've only ever seen Cohen typed as INFJ.....? no personal opinion though as while I like his music I do not have in depth knowledge of his life.|||I have seen Nick Cave perform live ever since the Birthday Party days and followed his career closely since then. There was a good documentary feature made on him recently, '20.000 days on Earth' I...|||first time: anthropology second time; fine arts|||I dont know many INFJs IRL (more's the pity) but for myself: Gesticulate a lot when speaking. Lock my eyes on to someone's eyes when they are speaking and i am listening, nod my head a lot at what...|||Bowie communicates very well, both on stage and in interviews.  ISFPs are not exactly known for being good communicators. Here he is talking about the internet, present and future ...|||why not put your Fb settings so that anyone who wants to can 'follow' you  even if they are not friends with you?  FB has a friend number limit too.   good luck :)|||I told you so|||yes. the words 'i told you so' are NOT words I enjoy saying at ALL...or as in more recent years, thinking without saying.|||ISFP. no way! maybe ENFJ or ENFP. i seem to recall his being typed many years ago as E 7...fwiw. I feel like I have lost an old friend. :(  edit, watching the interviews i am leaning more towards...|||Being out in nature , whether it be riverside, forest, beach , mountains, or fields, is definitely one of the BEST things in my life, and it always has been. I prefer clear but mild (not too hot)...|||W i k i p e d i a     sucks!!!!!!!!!!|||https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d_IPt57W8Cg|||my drug of choice til the day i die yesssss :)|||She is your (socionics ) supervisor. Things will go horribly wrong when you try to undermine her as your supervisor. This is the theory in any case. These relationships can be very problematic in a...|||TBH my rather bad experiences with several unhealthy ISFPs i have known, and the fact I only know one who seems all round decent, has given me the feeling they are one type for me to avoid in future,...|||2 words: Jimmy Launay  lol|||I'm considering writing the gallerist an email about the potential financial dishonesty with the gallery, as well as disclosure of sensitive information regarding the gallery and negative gossip I...|||all I can say is i have been there...it passes with time (like depression )   this guy might help (Michael Leunig the wise)  447650|||Can you not stay married to your wife and have a deep but platonic friendship with 'Ann'? I recently read the biography of Maxwell Perkins- wonderful book!- and he had a great love for a woman he was...|||i am always dubious about fictional INFJs.  why? well, I reckon a fictional character can only really be INFJ (or any other type)  if  a) they are fully based on a reaL life person, (or...'