I can't speak for all INTPs but I have been in love more than once (still am). And for me the experience is much like you describe. For me, it begins with a strong intellectual connection and then...|||I'm an INTP, my dad is an ENTJ, and my mother is an ESFP...very possibly an ENFP. My brother is an ESFJ.|||Age: 22 Gender: Female Ethnicity: Caucasian, Native American  Personality trait you are proudest of: Genuineness  (best guess) Profession: Psychologist  Hobby you most identify with: Poetry ...|||Fair enough, as long as she doesn't think she can walk all over you! A sure way to bore an ENTJ.|||So you really like this girl, and she's not sure how she feels about you..Well it's good she finally admitted she wasn't sure if the relationship was going to continue, but the way she has been going...|||Of course the INFJ must be healthy too. I recently got out of a friends with benefits relationship with a very unhealthy INFJ, and honestly I think he did a lot of damage I am not even capable of....|||No offense but you kinda sound like a bad friend. If you feel so much pressure to be friends with someone maybe you shouldn't be friends with them. Trust me I've been in your position before, I was...|||And then there's the whole nature vs. nuture argument|||I don't think they necessarily make one more capable of empathy though...|||In most ways I'm a text book INTP. A lot like my close male INTP friend. A bit more empathetic, but Idk if that's because I'm a woman or just because my life experiences have developed me emotionally...|||I can see how suggesting he seek counseling could be offensive. Of course, I personally think pretty much anyone could benefit from just talking to someone, and that's the whole point of the...|||Sorry to hear about this! May I recommend that he seek a counselor and or another confidant so you don't have to bear the weight of emotional issues all by yourself. Of course it would be greatly...|||Not saying I wouldn't give an S a try but every man I've ever been involved with has been an N. Pretty sure they have also all been INs, but idk. I tried to date an ENTJ and although there was a...|||Well said, I think the root of my uncomfortability with it is the being contrived aspect|||I agree with this, I also feel a little insecure about complimenting & reaffirming people because I feel I come off differently than I intended sometimes.|||I always dress nicely, unless I'm just sitting in my room, then the emphasis is put on comfortability. BUT I never wear the correct shoes for the weather or location, I just can't for the life of me...|||This is exactly how I'd describe my Ne. I'm still trying to understand Ni though. It's intriguing but frustrating when my INFJ friend for example can't tell me how he reached  conclusion, but they...|||Haha yes all the time, though I'm less absent minded then I used to be. Now tends to be more when my roommates & their friends come in or I'm thrusted into a social situation unexpectedly. Also when...|||I think the few obviously overused love plots in movies can be damaging to peoples' psyches. They raise unrealistic expectations and ideas about love and sex in our modern world. And is their...|||Many people are unintelligent. But ignorance is also often a product of fear. The combination, especially lethal, is characteristic of many. Sad, but true.  I think it's nice that you want to...|||How about do both? And hey fellow female INTP!|||Hi there! Welcome. I'm a big fan of INFJs! Not married to one but in  love with one. Would love to hear anything you have to say about your  partnership with an INTP. Enjoy the site!|||Yea I am pretty wordy but somewhat feely too. I think my bro prefers to be the one mostly talking so I'll let him do that|||Good point! Yeah I've noticed that ENTJs stay consistently themselves in  most situations. Which is admirable, no offense to INFJs. I don't  necessarily stay 100% me myself...|||Me too, but since I've been in college I've made tremendous leaps and bounds, and it feels good :)|||Great illustration of the differences between ENTJs and INFJs, and many reasons why I enjoy the company of INFJs! As long as it's genuine I enjoy that they can be analytical one moment, goofy the...|||Definitley, and hanging out with different kinds of people leads to growth and balance|||I think you do want feelers, or you will once you remember they can help you grow. You can also help them. And they're about 50% of the population, so they're hard to avoid. Maybe they don't...|||I trust you are honest with yourself, I wish every INFJ and well, every person ever, was too. Rather than allowing himself to come off as awkward or uncomfortable, this INFJ can either come off as...|||My brother also enjoys intellucutual conversations (I think if he didn't, we wouldn't be as close) and I think I'm pretty good at keeping concepts relevant to us and people in general. I imagine it's...|||Thank you for your reply. You sound more introverted than the INFJ I know. I'm not sure what his reasoning is for hiding his feelings, but I think it's too prevent getting hurt & hurting others. You...|||I read a book in high school about meditation. I can't remember what it is honestly but I'll update if I do! I know I picked it up after researching eastern religions. I recommend just relaxing in a...|||No, I agree it has more to do with his being an Fe. If he was an Se user that could potentially lead him to take things too personally given the present conversation (That doesn't acknowledge facts...|||That was a very good explanation, I agree. It also kind of sounds like Asperger's Syndrome to me.|||Okay, thanks. It sounds like you would only take the leadership role if you personally felt it was truly needed. Basically I was just asking if you would take a role that was unnatural to you for...|||For me it happened to be mistaking an INFJ for an ENTJ who is heavily guarded & loves to put on an ENTJ mask. I think it would be a lot rare to mistake a true ENTJ for an INFJ ;}|||I wouldn't consider a difficulty to create emotional intimate relationships necessarily a trait of extreme introversion|||Yea, I do think that INTs & other introspective types have similar characteristics to schizoids, and also are therefore, potentially, more apt to develop those feelings of alienation, etc.|||I can imagine that a lot of ENTJs would be attracted to the military too. Thank you for saying that you like to make others feel comfortable, I've definitely noticed an INFJ doing that & originally...|||Both my brother & I need to develop our inferior functions as well. I think he is also still immature in certain ways, more so than I am, but I definitely come off the wrong way to him all the time &...|||Yea! I really appreciate ISTPs ability to do that, it's helped me grow a lot. And I really think the ISTP ENTJ is a good match! You may scare the feelies away though!|||Great thread! I'm not an ENFJ but I'm highly interested in personal development and I will take this advice to heart! One of my best friends is an ENFJ & she's been in a rut after breaking up with...|||Haha yea existential out pour has gotten me into trouble with ISTPs before|||Avoid theoretical business that can't be applied tangibly. ISTPs like adventure. It is my opinion that an ENTJ and ISTP will get along pretty well naturally so just be yourself but keep ya theories...|||No, I don't think there is a link between INTPs & schizoids specifically. I think there's a link between high intelligence & schizoids however. Also people who are ambidextrous, who are also usually...|||Extremely helpful, thank you. My Fe is underdeveloped, but the rest is true as well. I do think he should deal with the reasons why he feels guilt, and then forgive himself. Then take himself more...|||Thank you for your reply! This made me think that perhaps the INFJ I know has a hard time initiating emotional contact.|||ESFJs and INTPs,   Please tell me about your relationships with the other type. I'd like to just hear what people have to say about the other type,  how you get along, what you fight about, and how...|||Yes, as long as the INFP is around the ENFJ, they won't be able to move on. This was very true of my INFP ex bf.|||So I have an unhealthy INFJ in my life and I try to be there for him, reaffirm, etc which I can tell he appreciates. BUT, he is unhealthy. As in made a mistake against his own moral code & is filled...