'Wow, you guys are awesome.  That's a great starting point for me.  Thanks so much!|||Hi there, kind and generous INFJs!  I'm in search of some tips and advice - I'm a young ISTJ guy currently pursuing a young woman who's confided in me that she is, in fact, an INFJ.   Some...|||3. I tend to get focused on one specific train of thought and follow it at the expense of everything else.     Yes. I regularly forget where I put things simply because I don't pay attention when...|||Nah. As a 21 year old male who just finished college, pop culture moves too fast for anyone to really understand. The people who seem like they understand are just better at pretending than everyone...|||As an ISTJ, I'll be the first to admit I do this sometimes. I can definitely see one (or myself) acting something like this on camera.  Edit: ...Well, not to that degree. Man, she's kinda nuts. Haha|||Being an interesting person is about 99% the way you go about life and 1% type. I know quite a few ISTJs in real life and some of them are hilarious people who are fun to be around, while others are...|||I agree with this. I'd say my INTJ dad thinks like A+B...(yadda yadda yadda)...+F=G while I'm more prone to go through all of the steps (A+B+C+D+E+F=G). INTJs like to extrapolate on limited data...|||2 things:  1) I think opinionated people are attractive when they combine their information and intelligence with an equal amount of tact and respect for others. There's not much more attractive to...|||I tend to try and come up with an explanatory narrative for the failed relationship that makes sense to me (i.e. Why didn't it work out?). Then I use that analysis to help me make whatever personal...|||Ha, I'm just glad this thread has been helpful for people. I don't mind in the slightest where this gets moved or if it doesn't get moved. Seems like it needs some serious editing to be an article...|||Given that you don't mention getting the feeling that he's giving you trouble in sort of teasing way, I'm not sure what to think. The IM consistency is especially strange - I don't really see an ISTJ...|||I just wanted to stop in because... *feeling famous* :ninja: :laughing:  Haha, but in all seriousness...If there's any way I can help, let me know. It seems like there's a lot of very good advice...|||That's me around attractive girls. But it works out alright because I get the you're adorable feedback. Devious, you say?   :ninja:|||Gentleman's right. He could be assuming you're just a really nice person who does that sort of thing for everyone. That wouldn't be my own conclusion, probably...but guys can be pretty oblivious. I...|||Haha, most of this was a brain dump from about a year ago, but I'm glad it's been helpful to so many people.  Sure...ask away - I'll answer as time allows. :happy:|||So we like to make plans while thinking only about the present? :wink:  It's worded fine. You could leave him to plan the outing; if he's really busy however, he may push it to the side in favor of...|||I don't really know but my hunch would be that he's doing it for you. Or he might just forget and leave it on all the time (That's me. Haha). If you really want to know, just ask him - Awesome..the...|||It would probably at least make him smile - I've just heard the joke too many times. Also, it's a bit impersonal...as in, humor is great, but it works better in contexts where it's an inside joke - a...|||Handwriting is the only way...|||Couple things:   Yes, this would be an issue for me. I wouldn't be that comfortable with beginning a relationship right as I head away on an extended time away. LDRs are very difficult to maintain...|||Me too, to be perfectly honest. Personally, I think you've done plenty. If a guy is too passive to make a move when a girl is making herself clearly available, he's not ready, not interested, or is...|||These aren't examples of friendly teasing. These are examples of insensitive bullying. My mother used to say, It's only a joke if everyone is laughing. I think that holds true. Of course, sometimes...|||He will. You'll get the un-airbrushed truth. And he'll blush deep-red while delivering it to you. If that appeals to you, by all means. It won't hurt your chances with him - it might embarrass both...|||I'd look at the context and the tense he used to say too busy. Did he say he has been too busy? If so, don't worry a bit about it - that's just a canned excuse for being single in the past(which...|||Do you know why you aren't interested? Cause she's going to want to know. Whether she asks or not, there is always that what's wrong with me? thing that circles in your brain as a girl. I wouldn't...|||Is there a gentle way to let down an ISFJ girl who's made it clear to me in her own quiet and kind way (implicitly, not explicitly) that she doesn't look at me as just a friend? My dilemma: if I'm...|||I dish it, take it, dish it back. Don't think this has much to do with type - more, whether or not the person is accustomed to friendly teasing growing up. If not, they might take it as a sort of...|||On a side note, if it doesn't work out.... :blushed: :laughing:  I kid, I kid. You sound like a very caring and considerate woman. Your ISTJ is a lucky man. Keep up the good work!|||I think it's a bit of a two-sided coin for us - we're either completely opaque about our problems, or we're extremely direct. It can be a bit of a shock to people when it's the latter, but that's...|||Yeah - the 'friend zone' might be the death zone for other types - for us, think of it as our 'comfort zone.' We don't tend to date outside the comfort zone unless we're desperate or Cupid is on the...|||One might say this is also true for certain non-religious people as they often place significant trust in scientific naturalism (which is basically metaphysics meets science, absent observational...|||Absolutely this:     Beyond that, it depends on the stress - if it's work related, I put all my time and energy into making the cause of that stress go away (i.e. a task that needs to be...|||I want to say this in the nicest way possible, but this is something you should absolutely talk to him about. You (especially him) both need to learn to communicate with each other - all...|||Not sure I can help you understand him, but one thing to keep in mind is that ISTJs tend to look for clarity in relationships. Personally, I get the feeling he's changed his mind about you about 3-4...|||I think an ISTJ would be driven to resolve the issue in one of two directions - stabilize the relationship (talk about the issue, see a counselor, etc...fix the issue), or break it off. One of our...|||Honestly, I have virtually no idea - this doesn't sound much like ISTJ behavior to me. How does your friend feel about him? It could be that there's somewhat of a relationship imbalance where one...|||Eh...I doubt it. We ISTJ guys aren't the flighty/whimsically-flirtatious type who run off with every girl who shows direct interest. If he likes you, he's not going anywhere - he just may take...|||In defense of accounting, most standardized systems are arbitrary to some degree. Someone has to make up and set rules for everyone to follow in order for any system to work. Same with languages - at...|||Political Science and Economics. My interests lie in politics, philosophy, religion and history.   Personally, I think econ is a great major for ISTJs - generally stable job prospects utilizing a...|||Hmmm...I can identify with this to some degree - I like INTJs. They don't tend to overreact to things, aren't prone to gossiping, and generally are good at giving advice...the differences between S/N...|||Wow. Just wanted to say I thought this was an absolutely fantastic answer,   Daniel_James_Maher    Hi Sydney, I don't have time to respond to all your questions comprehensively (and I think Daniel...|||Exactly this! Listen up, non-ISTJs. :happy:|||A woman who shares my beliefs and values, who is kind/respectful to others--a woman with a cheerful attitude, an eager laugh, and an ever-ready smile. :happy:|||How do you view and handle theory?  I love playing around with different ideas and spotting trends, formulating hypotheses about things, etc. Largely, this is one of the reasons I've enjoyed...|||If it's small, appropriate, and doesn't happen that often, it'd strike me as very thoughtful. Otherwise, I just don't like feeling indebted to people. I enjoy giving, but receiving often makes me...|||Pretty much all I have to say is in the first post of the thread in my signature.|||Yes, but less now than when I was younger. The length of my attention span and my ability to focus on something without being distracted has definitely been one of my strongest gifts as well--that...|||Ha, anyone who's read my long-winded, often semi-pointless essays on here knows the answer to this question. :unsure: :laughing:  I also have a blog and like to write opinion pieces on various...|||My explanation would be that it's due to the common misinterpretation of introversion--that introverts don't like being around other people. Unhealthy extroverts often have just as much difficulty...|||Ballast hit it on the head. That's not ISTJ behavior--that's immature behavior. You'll be best served by moving on. Anyone who uses emotional manipulation like threatening to break up with you over...'