'I'm afraid to share because I know how anxious I am, and it's hard sometimes for me to tell what's an unhealthy attachment, and what's something I should actually be upset about. I usually err on the...|||Fearful avoidant, I believe. I've been seeing him for almost three months, without any defined relationship status. The biggest red flag is that whenever we have sex (which has been twice), I'll hear...|||(meant to reply in quote)|||I'm currently seeing a guy who I am pretty sure is an ENFP (though it took me a while to really peg his functions), who seems to have an avoidant attachment style, while I am an INFJ with an anxious...|||I used to be much more upset over doing what I wanted to do in life versus what I had to do to get by.  I think we NFs tend to have special snowflake syndrome when it comes to stuff like that, and...|||Possibly, but I'm really not comfortable with anyone enough to do that. Prolonged eye contact feels too intimate for me, and I can literally feel my muscles tense up if I hold it for more than a few...|||Hate is a strong word, but I really really really don't like you!  This lyric just about sums it up. I can't hate, but I can despise.|||I attempt to act normal and hope to God they notice that I like them, because it is impossible for me to flirt if I actually like you.|||Absolutely, yes.  Anything that is mentally and emotionally stimulating with a dash of comedy is a good date for me!  Also, I think a lot of INFJs are secret smokers. I'm not sure why, but I'd pick...|||Exactly! Everything is clean, but it's also everywhere.|||I've never seen someone with Fi have facials like that before, lol! Same here, hers are the most active I've ever seen on a person!|||I was just wondering because my mouth also gets all contorted when I talk, but mine's a result of trying to talk while suppressing a smile.|||Windblownhair to you tend to smile a lot while talking?|||Though I have the cognitive functions of an INFJ, I used to take personality tests as a teen and scored INFP because I could never tick the yes boxes when it came to being organized and tidy. I...|||I grew up in two houses with entities in them, and I've had some psychic incidences before.  It was so real that it left me with PTSD (professionally diagnosed) and depression at VERY young age....|||Lugria  That's the thing, I don't see an abundance Fe in you, but Fi. You seem to be so in tune with yourself, and you have such a vivid internal world. Look up what Fi is, you are almost a...|||Could you fill out one of the questionnaires? :)|||I definitely think you're an INFP. Most likely not an XNFJ.|||I'd bet money that Charlie is an INFP. Jack Howard is maybe an ESTP?|||Only when I'm listening can I do that at all, and not for very long, as it can be overwhelming. Ti makes it nearly impossible for me to maintain eye contact while conversing. My eyes are mimicking me...|||I think it's a BS stereotype, to be honest. If anything, we try to fix things for too long, and end up getting so hurt that we cannot physically allow ourselves to care anymore. Our resources have...|||You wild, unkempt heathen, you!|||IMHO, my writing style shows off my function stack.  If I'm stressed, I get all Ni-Ti, and my sentences look kind of Hemingway-esque in that they're short and to the point, with a heavy drizzling of...|||An ENFP or ENTP. ENFPs are fun, ENTPs are hilarious. I would be entertaining myself for HOURS.|||So, I've only ever met one other INFJ, and I was surprised at how much we both express emotion with our eyebrows.           I mean, like, the entirety of externally visible Fe is coming out of those...|||She's probably an ISFJ if she doesn't find the idea of being an INFJ to be repulsive.  There's no way in sweet Hades that an INFJ could type as an ESFJ. None.  Also, cognitive functions>MBTI test|||I'm of the belief that we're born with a disposition, but not necessarily a personality in the way the MBTI defines it. I think we're very influenced by the environment around us as well as our own...|||Would this be unusual for an INFJ to experience this after a period of not really knowing how they feel? I sometimes can't tell how I feel (not think) about situations until they subconsciously...|||They're too dismissive of Fe and Ti for me. If you don't play exactly by their rules, then you must be a simpleton.|||Not an American liberal.  One cannot honestly look at human nature and believe it to be capable of the utopian society that must be present for things such as socialism to work.  We wish it could,...|||Early 20's. I was often typed as an INFP or INTP as a teen, neither of which match me cognitively.|||I am constantly reading in the forums about how INFJs and ENTPs tend to do rather well together, and I must admit that if there is any type that can get me hot and flustered in the best kind of way,...|||I actually go and watch a lot of improv comedy. I apparently like to watch others do what I can't.|||Honestly, Jay is probably going to leave both of you alone. He might have chosen you because of the NF connection, but the messy situation shot that whole thing down. We hate conflict, and though he...|||Imho, it depends whether you're dealing with Fe or Fi. Just a generalization, but those with Fi tend to be way less courteous than those with Fe, in my experience. Everything is about how they feel.|||I personally think you sound more like an INFP, but everyone's a little different. As someone who believes themselves to be an INFJ, I don't have trouble explaining things in factual ways as much as...|||Yes, actually. I'd believed for years I was another type until I familiarized myself with functions, then I realized I wasn't that type at all! Why do you feel like we struggle so much with these...|||The number 47 comes up in my life ALL THE TIME.|||And here we see the Alpha Male, quietly asserting his dominance over unsuspecting passersby...|||It really depends on who I'm talking to. Generally, I make eye contact when listening or saying something regarding emotions. When I'm trying to describe something or when something is being...|||That's not a doorslam, you're overanalysing it. As long as you've done nothing to betray him, he'll probably welcome you back into his life. Just go slowly at first; he has to get used to the idea of...|||I sometimes consider it because I can't seem to find a place where I feel any sense of belonging or purpose, and that I've somehow lost my talents and intelligence to soul-sucking depression. I...|||Depression, ADD, and Social Anxiety.  Though, I do think my social anxiety is directly related to my depression. I feel as though I might project my poor self-image when depressed, believing that...|||I get along best with NT types, and most NT types are males.|||Thank you so much for your time, Garnet! I found what you've written especially interesting because I've never typed as anything but an N in any online quiz I've ever taken, and my ESTJ mother and I...|||I've been trying to determine my true type by studying the functions. Unfortunately, I began to do this by going function by function, not fully understanding the concept of stacks. I came up with...'