'Hey dude bro, here.  Read.  And read.  Now go re-evaluate your life!|||Well, that's assuming it's only a two-piece puzzle ... (And sometimes it is! Two monos together.) But, sometimes there are connections left un-fitted... consciously or otherwise. Sometimes a third or...|||This lady might not be your style, but she's all about habit work, and: Ask Havi #9: smoker’s edition Topically relevant post!  It's not that you have to replace a bad habit with another bad...|||Ahh! Yes. As an SP 9 (and introvert, of course) this is basically how I look at socializing. How much energy is this interaction going to cost me? Can I deal with that right now? Is it going to...|||This feeling has been present for me since I emotionally stabilized.  It's easier to live my life if I forget about it. Everything just becomes too real and it sort of feels like my heart is gonna...|||I believe in soul mates (since I have several). I also believe that non-soul mate relationships can work and be great (since I also have one of those).  How do you know? It's impossible to...|||Me, for 12:47. I don't see it too often though. I see 1111's frequently, but 1247...means ...something ... to me... I intend to find out, like, at least a week before I die. It'll come to me, I am...|||LOL. Roll call?|||Yeah, I actually seem to be a morning person, I don't feel right if I wake up after 9 or 10am. Cloudy days also dim me down; my body wants sunlight, as much and as early as possible. But, unless my...|||The most broadly useful advice I could give is to figure out what your Enneagram type is, and go from there. MBTI is not where meaning and life purpose come from. It only influences how those things...|||Have you communicated with her about this? Tell her that you feel unsupported by the way she tries to express her listening and support, and offer some alternatives. Try not to blame her or make her...|||Yeah, I read them. What skews things is that I also live them. I could have a whole franchise if I wrote my life.  Alas, I will probably never go there. But I do have a penchant for fiction, and in...|||Yeah, pretty much what I was thinking...  Seriously though dude, if weird/scary is your vibe, then you go right ahead. But no reason to misinform. Penises aren't, in fact, magically painful, and...|||Self-compassion, mate -- radical compassion.  Your profile says you're a 3; it sounds like in high school you were caught up in and invigorated by the tides of your social group, and the culture...|||Perfectionism takes many forms! Be wary. A perfect life is an empty life; but your life is filled with unpredictable, absurd, beautiful things. And mistakes. And failures. And joy.  This is...|||Rather timely that I wrote this post yesterday: http://personalitycafe.com/infj-forum-protectors/80810-failing-counselor-role.html#post2001411 (fourth paragraph and down is relevant).  You're...|||Most everyone here has touched on my thoughts.  You don't create yourself; but you could consider finding yourself to be the act of re-creating your life in your own image. We are all...|||I second the comment: Most introverts. Also, probably, nearly all Highly Sensitive Persons (The Highly Sensitive Person Book). Personally, I voluntarily hug 1. people I am in love with, and 2....|||What a difficult situation... I'm so sorry you had to go through that, and are revisiting it now. It is hard to watch someone hurting for such a long time, and that sounds like an especially messy...|||Shantkn - You know, I'm not sure if I can explain this properly, but I'll try.  I was in your same situation around 4 years ago. Only it wasn't a theoretical wish to help people -- I was actively...|||I'm sure I'm an INFJ too, I think I'm a pretty stereotypical one though! Mega counselor, touchy-feely... I guess I mean my Fe probably presents itself in a pretty typical INFJ way.  But I've taken...|||Hahahaha. I have a problem. With hearing any Skrillex song on reasonably good speakers. Apparently he is being played on mainstream TV now... who would have thought....... (He is also to blame for...|||Sounds like you found a girl with issues... or one who was acting distant and flippant to get you to respond in a domineering way. Neither is particularly related to type.  But I will say this....|||No need to hedge! It's an open conversation, anyone is welcome to join in :happy:  A real (immersion) bath is not quite a pleasure for me... it's something I about one-third enjoy, two-thirds...|||I don't know my FIL's type. He's very earthy, works with his hands, can't for the life of him figure out how to use a computer (very practical > theoretical)... also: racist, hates new ideas and new...|||Ah, I've had my struggles with food. If I let myself control my diet, it triggers me to go into a huge restrictive phase -- but my body, such as it is, will NOT cooperate with not eating for about...|||I know what you mean! I have to admit, I feel a little embarrassed listing bathing as a disliked activity, but I seriously hated it for 20 years until I started showering every.single.day whether I...|||Sure, sometimes, to both.  What I don't have is complete, sequential memories of events. I can't remember this happened, which caused this which was interrupted by this ... and I build conceptual...|||I stand my by statements about boundaries -- anger is meant to protect interpersonal boundaries. And boundaries start from the inside moving outward: We maintain our own fence-line, just like others...|||Vivid Melody, I'm not really comfortable talking about it in a forum as public as this, but oh my god your whole post resonates with me... Please feel free to PM me if you want to talk. :)  (It...|||Interesting topic, aside from all the directionless UST...  Any kind of kink is pursued because of strong feelings. Right? You don't ACCIDENTALLY end up with it. So INFJs, being the cold,...|||Souled In Yeah, I get a lot of what you're saying. It's actually a vital component of FUNCTIONALLY getting over avoidance! That's kind of the next level though ... because, it takes a...|||Hm... for anyone interested -- do you know why you procrastinate?  Procrastination is a form of avoidance. So it's usually only a symptom of a sneakier, more secret problem. Depending on the REAL...|||It could help to verbally acknowledge your role as a supporter/advice giver, like how you tend to meet her needs ... and then explain what YOU need out of it. It's draining and makes me resentful to...|||Yes. I've lost nearly all my jobs because of this.  My last one exemplified it. It was entry-level retail, with no high responsibilities, but I just couldn't tolerate the emotional pressure. I'd...|||You're not alone. I'm in love four times over :tongue: I wonder if we have more or less of a problem with not being out. When we do have relationships, there's more support, but more of our life to...|||Is the ultimate center of your plan actually about the synthesis of energy? Or about ... you know, bettering humanity -- enabling people to have happier, mentally healthier, more secure and...|||Hm... Does he know you frequent that social media site, and that you could've seen that he posted something?  Personally, I drop hints and send signals that way a lot. In fact, lately I probably...|||I'm very sorry to hear about your struggles, SillaSY. I'll gladly share my experience.  I've pretty much run the gamut of ED. I've starved myself, binged, purged ... It all came from the same...|||Because my separation from them isn't just a temporary interruption. I feel like I should be satisfied with the type or level of relationship that I already have, and it feels like asking too much....|||To actually be with the people I love. Even for a day. An hour.  I feel horribly guilty for wanting this.   A universe or two down from there, I'd enjoy getting that Shiva Nata kit. And freedom...|||I'm twenty-one and I have a pretty limited social group. As far as I know, I've never met another INFJ in person.  One of my online friends turned out to be one, though, and possibly another......|||I have more of an obsession with finding family resemblances among people. If I see a family out and about, after a minute I hardly see them -- I see their common genetics! Once I have the kind of...|||Same here. I'm almost 22 and I can't drive, HSP-ness kicks me in the head every time. There is just waaayyy too much going on for me to process, and I think I have a really hard time prioritizing it....|||Hmm... I was reading something similar to this earlier, in A General Theory of Love (which has, btw, set my mind on fire with ideas). Emotions indeed rise up quickly and subside quickly. What makes...|||well, they are part of your past, they are written into your brain -- and your mind is trying to tell you something about them. the memories & emotions need to be heard. the fact that they're coming...|||This right here is brilliant, I've never heard it put that way before. Thank you :)|||Getting control of my tendency to subconsciously manipulate others is one of the ways that I track my self-growth/maturity.  I understand people really well, and can act and speak in such a way as...|||When I was in an extremely dark time in my life and very depressed, I'd binge-drink to numb out all my feelings. I refused to drink at all if I couldn't get fall-down drunk, because tipsiness makes...|||Since you asked... I am definitely NOT a scanner.  I have a distinct tendency to laser-focus, all the time; which, I assume, is why it's easy for me to be over-stimulated; which is probably why I'm...'