'And what is the title of this thread? Trying Not to Dislike ENFPs? Thank you for giving me another reason not to try so hard.   How's that for rolling the fuck out? Worth your two cents?|||Nice assumptions of something you know nothing about.|||And this is exactly why I am done with ENFPs. INTJs do not let people close, so to let someone in that presents as the closest thing possible to a perfect match, but turns out all you are to her is a...|||INTJ male here.   I showed my gooey insides to an ENFP female and she pretty much destroyed them. It's been over a year and I am still broken, thank you. I don't see the magic of the INTJ/ENFP...|||She knows without doubt how I feel about her. It does not matter to her one bit. She does not want a relationship. Period. What we had was just a fling to her, so she tells me. Her actions, on the...|||Is your Diploma still wet? You do not know me, so kindly keep your self-righteous analyzing to yourself.|||I can't shake her off because I love her, has nothing to do with Te or lack thereof. INTJs are not unfeeling robots no matter how hard some try to fit that image. As for not dating for ten years,...|||I can tell you right now....straight up....she is not a slut. Nor is she any other name you may wish to call her.|||She has moved on, without looking back. She appears to be happy as all hell. However, I have to wonder. She is drinking almost ever night, or at least several times nights a week. She didn't drink...|||If I could get away from seeing her every day, I would.|||Nine months later and I'm still hurting and depressed. I can't get her out of my system. I still think about her, not as much, but it's still everyday. We see each other every day, so that makes it...|||Trust  Being understood  Being accepted|||You just described every ENFP I have ever known.|||My two cents concerning traits of an ENFP that were mentioned a few posts back: I have noticed that an ENFPs personal life can be a clusterfuck, but their work life is generally very organized. Why?...|||And people say INTJs are cold.|||Isn't it the ENFP normal to not go back once they are done?|||My ENFP ex broke up with me, and she is sailing right through it. She is quite happy and enjoying herself. No problems. She is the one that ended it, so its not that big of a deal.   How to get...|||Family: Yes  SO: No|||Why is it so easy for an ENFP female to move on after a relationship ends? Totally cut you out of her life and act like you never existed?|||Its just another day, like any other. I worked, more or less.|||Thank you, but, no. I am not fine, but I'm not flipped out either. I just don't want to blame my problems on an innocent ENFP and add my voice to the chorus already unfairly bashing them.|||Thank you for the offer, but in all truthfulness, I have hit an emotional bottom and words are very difficult to find. She did not intend to hurt me in any way, it's not in her to do that. She is not...|||Thank you, but that's not what I was after. I was very wrong to have posted what I did about a woman that did not deserve to have those things said about her. She is an amazing and wonderful woman....|||The relationship is over, there is no hope of even salvaging a friendship at this point or ever. Which is too bad because she really is an amazing woman. She is nothing like my rage posts made her...|||I am here to eat as much humble pie has each of you can shove down my  throat. I was very hurt and angry when I made this post. That does not  excuse it, however. It was childish and immature of me...|||I am here to eat as much humble pie has each of you can shove down my  throat. I was very hurt and angry when I made this post. That does not  excuse it, however. It was childish and immature of me...|||I am here to eat as much humble pie has each of you can shove down my  throat. I was very hurt and angry when I mad this post. That does not  excuse it, however. It was childish and immature of me to...|||I am here to eat as much humble pie has each of you can shove down my  throat. I was very hurt and angry when I made this post. That does not  excuse it, however. It was childish and immature of me...|||I am here to eat as much humble pie has each of you can shove down my  throat. I was very hurt and angry when I made this post. That does not  excuse it, however. It was childish and immature of me...|||I am here to eat as much humble pie has each of you can shove down my throat. I was very hurt and angry when I mad this post. That does not excuse it, however. It was childish and immature of me to...|||You just described in reverse what it was like for me, except she dumped me when she was done playing with me. Ever seen that ENFP?INTJ cat and Rubics Cube meme? Yeah.|||What's with using INTJs as toys and entertainment? ENFPs claim to know INTJs well enough to know we care deeply, yet you get what you want from us and move on like nothing happened. Whats with that?|||Yes she is the ENFP. It is another INTJ male that is poring salt in the wound for pure sport. He is taking great pleasure from my pain.|||Right now I am having salt poured into the wound by some piece of shit that is enjoying rubbing my nose into it. If I say anything, I am the bad guy, the one with anger and jealously issues. What the...|||I am not a toy, or entertainment, or a lab rat. Right now I am pissed as hell because I am hurt.|||INTJ and ENFP is a disaster waiting to happen. The INTJ is the mouse the ENFP cat will play with until it gets bored. Then its pick up the pieces time, and at some point someone while come along and...|||Being a toy, kicked to the curb, then some fuckwad rubbing my nose it and pouring salt in the wound.|||My advice? Unless you like being a toy then kicked to the curb, stay the hell away from an ENFP.|||Is an ENFP worth fighting for? No.|||ENFP and INTJ is not ideal. The ENFP will use the INTJ for entertainment then move on to the next new toy.|||I am horribly drawn to ENFPs, but after getting my heart ripped out by one, I will never get involved with another one.|||Not for me. I am done with them. I have an ENFP boss (female) and at least two ENFP exes. Getting any of them to focus on something beyond the newest shiny thing is/was impossible. It puts you at the...|||Sex.  Seriously, it's sex.|||Actually, ENFPs are the end of INTJs. And personally, I'm done with ENFPs.|||Well, the one I feel for is anti-commitment, so I got screwed. Considering my track record with ENFP females, I'm done with them. The attraction is incredible, but the long term is dismal.|||What you are seeing is only the tip of the iceberg. An INTJ under stress will get grumpy, then frustrated, and finally angry. We beat ourselves up on the inside. We think about how bad we fucked up,...|||Yes, the draw is very powerful. However, it has been my experience that there is a lack of commitment on the part of the ENFP when compared to the INTJ.   I am more then willing to concede that...|||Don't most INTJs base, or at least present, their personal opinions on logic?|||Something I have learned about ENFPs; they are very similar to rabid Pit Bulls when you succeed in pissing them off. Truly pissing them off is difficult, but step on their core values, or judge them...|||Maybe the immature twits are that way. Not so with the more mature and finely aged variety. I think both ENFPs and INTJs can make each other bat shit crazy, but with some effort, an understanding of...'