'chanteuse: trying to get 100% rid of perfectionism sounds just like another form of perfectionism|||If you really believe that you have these traits inside you, you should have a feeling of you being for example charming. Now in a situation where you want to be charming, don't try to think about...|||Hello INTJ's. I currently discover a lot of patterns like internal psychological patterns, patterns how I can internally structure information, patterns of moving attention... My issue is that I...|||Today I bought a wordbook at amazon. Now I'll learn to translate and compare my private language/mapping with the mapping most people do. Normally most people who talk about things they don't have a...|||Great that you see that at your age - I needed 4 years longer to start facing my issues. I also were very reserved - for me books and the Internet where my bridge to the collective world. However...|||Does anyone of you know that feeling? Feeling worthless, because I were bullied at school and ignored by my parents. I even stopped trusting them as child oscillating between love and hate - being...|||Hello personality cafe. I'll probably have a talk about 20 years family issues tomorrow with my mother. Trying to speak about such topics seem to lead to avoidance reactions, but now at least my mum...|||I think development is highly dependent on the environment -> for example if you get lots of contradictory experiences your development either stagnates (-> you are overwhelmed and can't handle them)...|||Hello I'm currently developing a theory about how to get useful associations and would like your help. I think there are some basic elements of the human experience and you can refer everything...|||I read quite a lot of books and these 3 helped me most, because they gave me some key ideas:...|||I would go back to 10. I'm 20 now and felt I lost a little part of me every year. I got bullied at school resulting in some emotional damage (social anxiety) and in avoiding trouble-behavior. I...|||What does adventure mean of ENFPs? Would you see the following as an adventure: -refusing to choose a common job - creating and offering your own services for people -researching a scientific...|||My general moral view is like that (don't know in which category that falls): -every human has a conscious experience, so he is able go have pleasurable and painful experiences -> an action is good...|||1. honesty/intimacy (sharing everything like emotions, hopes, dreams, fears) 2. open minded for new ideas/experiences (that includes valuing processes like rationality over content (like my...|||BearyDiverse Have you ever tried to control the dream to do something meaningful for your day life like asking questions like: -whats my life purpose? -who am I? -I have this issue in life - how...|||-I am -You are  -symbol|||You can learn to create: First think about something you want to have/do. It should be something in the area of the unknown - you aren't completely sure how to get it and it should be valuable for...|||I don't think this article is manipulation -> its everyones choice to read it or not and another choice to agree or reject it.   @Risen-from-Ashes:  Did you have a religious experience? If so is...|||I would send him to different cultures to let him see different views on life and different values. He should go the path of courage - face any fears (evaluate before if something could be real...|||I don't know if thats all Ni, for me it seem to work though: -retreating from your environment into your head, works best in quiet environments/few or better no people around, focus on either...|||Yes, everything you know should have a source. As far i know intuition is pattern recognition. So you have to experience something (-> you could share what you experienced before you came to your...|||MissJordan Since I read language in thought and action and understood the basics how language works and how it influences our thinking (and that people confuse symbolic meaning/words with reality -...|||Not reality hits in your face, just the most people don't even seriously try to fulfill their dreams or just don't dream of changing the world. Many people just discourage you every day to live your...|||Since you seem belief that different religions are different ways to approach the same thing, do you think a scientific approach to this topic might be possible to some degree? Like there might be a...|||There is this vacuum within us that we cannot fill. It is a manifestation of the ego. We seek to fill it, only finding that things disappear into the abyss. Instead this must be used like gravity:...|||As far I know the issue with psychology in general is that there are many things that are just not objectively measurable. How do you want to measure internal states like emotions, states of...|||After being hugged by an ENFP-girl I became way more open to hugs in general and sometimes feel a need to hug someone. So I have this theory: At first only ENFPs were into hugging - however its...|||I feel like my feelings stack a lot. Like I'm feeling my own feelings, an association of the current situation with the past and the feelings of other persons infecting me which results in a hard...|||Your explanations for 15 and 75 sound completely viable. Though you normally look for the easiest explanation of a pattern. So in a IQ-test they would be probably count as wrong, while if you can...|||Reason for 90 is like CloudFire already said two numbers on the edges multiplied = middle number. What are the valid reasons for 15/45?  I can give you another Ni-riddle:  3+3=4 4+5=7 7-4-4=...|||I'm currently into psychology/personal growth. There are many great books about it. You also can find online resources like: TED: Ideas worth spreading Awesomeness Fest - YouTube en*theos -...|||Lets give it a try :)|||I guess I have a talent to intuitively understand systems which are too complex to completely analyze them in a logical way. I guess its Ni-Ti figuring out logical relations as part of the system...|||I would say the greatest gift and curse of being an INFJ is the rarity of the personality. Its a curse because there a few people who understand you and its easy to go on a wrong path thanks to...|||I looked for a shared flat and got it verbally guaranteed. Then I got a very short term rejection and the housing market is bad in Stuttgart (Germany), so I had to move to a friend of the family....|||If you have a basic negative opinion about yourself like people don't like me and interpret everything that happens to confirm that. people laughing -> about you people talking more vivid to...|||Its Christmas soon. I thought a while about it and came to the conclusion that I don't value traditions like Christmas. Actually I really like Christmas - for the nice atmosphere, decoration, meeting...|||I would say that highly depends on self esteem (and for me fear of rejection). In the past my dating strategy was avoiding the persons I found attractive (which surprisingly gets as good results as...|||I guess my thoughts are quite similar: feeling sorry for dishes/other objects during an argument, because its not their fault - have a conflict with the involved persons instead. Maybe I should tell...|||I found the following test interesting to take. Its about word associations.  The result (MBTI-type) seems to be trash, however the resulting word matrix is interesting.  Watchword Technique of...|||I'm currently reading the following book: The Language of Emotions: What Your Feelings Are Trying to Tell You: Karla McLaren: 9781591797692: Amazon.com: Books I haven't finished it yet, but so far...|||Let me share my experience. Video games can be a great escape: -you meet other intuitives (-> come along better with them than with the people you meet everyday) -you have lots of stuff to think...|||Just some assumptions:  So I assume I can have superpowers as well. Otherwise he could always have a super power that is impossible to prevent with earthly methods. Now a common human being doesn't...|||I was a child and my parents mixed cocktails. They were with alcohol, so I got none. I decided to mix my own: orange juice with soap. To make it worse I drank it really fast, at least a half glass...|||Yesterday I had a strange experience. After going to the cinema my whole perception was strange for the rest of the day. I remember having this like 1-2 times a year: -I saw everything more sharp...|||I would probably become a little paralyzed, unable to handle the situation and just try to escape. Then thinking a lot about it and somehow try to apologize later.  I just thought about something...|||Welcome to personality cafe!  I don't hear dialects. There seem to be a kind of subconscious translation for me, so it just sounds like normal language. Exceptions: I concentrate on hearing it,...|||Hello. I currently try to help my mother (probably ISFJ) - she seems to be not happy with her life. Her current days look like this: -sleeping -washing -buying food/house work/cooking (she's...|||For me personally I wouldn't generalize this: -I'm not the fastest reacting to something unexpected. So its quite likely that I am just focused on something and just miss the right moment to react...|||This thread is very interesting. I also found emotions being quite infectious. They also can be confusing. Lets compare emotions to a hourglass. The glass seems to be quite cold and the inside is...'