You don't want to know what i see.|||upintheskyonlithium I was once on lithium. For about a month and a half. Before that I was given an SSRI but that flew me through the roof and I had to stop. Without going into detail I didn't hit...|||Alrighty As I was doing laundry today I was struck by the idea of a post human/higher functioning species world and what that means for reincarnation. Like a post nuclear world where only bacteria...|||Rebecca.M i don't have anything constructive to add, but want to thank you. I had a similar mother experience and you've just articulated the Fe thing in a way I hadn't been able to/realized. My mom...|||I think I appear warm, easy going and relatable to people. My critical voice tells me I am cold, selfish and self absorbed. I've realized that I absorb and reflect people's energy. If positive, I...|||wowee zowee!|||I think Ald52OnMyTonguePleas meant that the :mellow: behavior is on their end, not ours.|||Great question. The topic must have triggered them, and here is a space to anonymously throw their BS around while holding up a BA.|||I can't believe i have to explain this, but your entire argument is 'Listen to other people's opinion on whether it was misogyny or not because you're limited by subjectivity.' (Because it probably...|||If you have a Bachelors in sociology then I am sure you are aware of the term gaslighting.|||Robert2928 and Troispoint Being open to other people's opinions also involves the both of you being open to others. Wellsy was kind enough to provide two pieces of excellent information regarding...|||.|||Hey no problem. This thread became a free space for people to engage and challenge each other's ideas. I couldn't have hoped for anything more.|||Are you asking what I would exchange for someone to solve my problems? If so, being INFJ is difficult at times, but I wouldn't change.  I'm more likely to be wary as to why someone would ask...|||Your argument, if true, suggests misogyny is purely subjective, and the problem lies in the affected individual, pardoning the offending behavior. Simplified, you suggest all women overreact. Which...|||Thank you for breaking it down so eloquently. I'm about three pages in to both essays and look forward to finishing them after work. Silastar dragging you back into this conversation. Sorry bud...|||Wellsy put the final nail in subjectivity arguments coffin in above post, and I'm too lazy this early in the morning to reiterate.|||Goodnight :hug:|||To put it shortly, it's not your place to pass judgement on whether anyones experience is misogyny or not.|||Thank you for sharing Shea :hug:|||False. This is your projection. If you knew me as a person you'd know how baseless this assertion in. Also in no way did I ignore him, I spoke to him three times over the trip. Not sure where you're...|||Always!|||https://www.theguardian.com/world/video/2014/apr/04/everyday-sexism-turn-tables-women-men-video This video is a great take on when women turn the tables, for your viewing pleasure :)|||Yes, so true. The other day I was walking over a bridge and a guy leaned out of his car and said 'hey gorgeous' then did a thing with his tounge..  why anyone thinks this is acceptable behavior is...|||How is this moral stereotyping?|||I see where you're coming from with that. The first thing that popped into my head was doubting ones experience, and for me that is a dangerous path to tread. We can only walk down the road so far...|||I think the original post was lost in analysis re: my experience. I know what I experienced. I started this thread out of curiosity regarding other female INFJ experiences. No offense to men...|||Nor do I, but unfortunately misogyny/misandry exists. How to respond being the question. I like your take on that.|||If you're trying to point out the obvious, well done.  We've been over the fact.. feel free to start a thread concerning women.|||I don't understand your grammar..|||[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] I like your mantra. I have a similar one, a Nick Cave quote from the song 'Far From Me'; '..in a world where everybody fucks everybody else over..' which is quite tongue and...|||AxoIotI i find peace with myself in the belief that everything happens for a reason and as it should. Mistakes are opportunities to grow, ask forgiveness, being honest with myself and others, to...|||stormgirl Many good points. I believe misogyny can range from the extremes you described, to subtle manipulation with the aim to change a woman's behavior to fit their comfort zone. In dating,...|||Yes, that I may have come across as condescending and offensive is a valid point. He certainly responded as though I were being so, only the confusing thing for me was that I was babbling on happily....|||Yes, I agree it's an inferiority complex. I also have simply shut my mouth, which has caused reactions in those I'm speaking of, who told me I disappear with a book and am too sensitive. I have...|||One recent incident: I was at a wine tasting with three people, one was a man I had been dating and was on the trip with. The woman pouring for us mentioned the vineyard used to have bio dynamic...|||Thats a convoluted question. I believe in equal say between genders, which is the traditional definition. I don't fight for it- nor do I make it a point when speaking to people- for me it's a given...|||Yes, it's a double bind. I also avoid them and go on to rant to friends. I'm curious of how other INFJ women respond in the moment. For me, I take note and continue on like nothing happened,...|||That's one way to interpret it, except I don't hate men. Observing their reaction to me. Hoping this thread isn't a rally to defend the emotionally abusive in the world.|||Of course women do this. I'm speaking in the spirit of unwarranted assholery. And yes, self defense mechanism for perceived intimidation. However I believe communication is the ultimate healer. There...|||Unfortunately I went on a trip with a person who met nearly all your criteria. He blamed my withdrawal from hurt on my sensitivity and told me that I made everything about me, when I was faced with...|||Lately I've encounter varying degrees of misogyny moreso than I've noticed before. Manifesting itself in blatant shut downs; insecure men unable to hear a woman with an intelligent opinion, to off...|||I have a rocky relationship with the only INFP I know. We mirror each other and respond in kind when hurt or confused, with a major difference being i talk about it, he doesn't. I see a beautiful...|||greenstone Sounds like you've taken great steps toward overcoming depression. A big thing to knock off are drugs. Marijuana will mess with your emotional regulation and perception of the world. I'm...|||Anytime :)|||I seem to remember playing with imaginary friends a lot, though I never referred to them to my parents, or even thought of them as imaginary. They were a given. And a lot safer than playing with my...|||You may find some solace in Sam Harris, Richard Dawkins and Christopher Hitchens. YouTube any debate, sit back, crack a craft brew, and find comfort in some pure badassery.  Feel free to PM me to...|||You sure you didn't misread INTJ?  Jokes aside, NPD is sadistic. INFJs may be somewhat elitist, but our empathic/serving nature gives NPD a resounding disqualification. In my humble (superior)...|||Never. If they respond in kind I've found someone worth their salt. Otherwise it's better to nip things in the bud, eh?|||Does anyone know where I can find 30-45 minute Spanish lessons online? Most of what I find are 'bite size' snippets and Apps, but that won't lead to the kind of fluency I'd like. I'm familiar with...