'I have an ESFP best friend, which is a pretty different dynamic, but people used to mistake us for a couple all the time.  There's a lot of miscommunication between us if we aren't careful, and I...|||I think it's more about which parts of yourself you value being balanced.  A J probably should make the most sense for me, a super-flaky P, but I've never been attracted to that. I keep going...|||It's been about 6 months since my dad died. There was a lot of embracing the grief in the first few months, but I'm so much more functional now that I'm doing the 9 avoidance thing. Not that it...|||Agh, preach. I completely agree. I wish there was a way to get people to respond with more than, I know but most of the time Islamic people [something racist] when they're reminded that extremism...|||I'm constantly envious of people with a natural drive.  Why don't I have any motivation, and how the hell do I get some?  :unsure:|||Hah, I think what you call human decency, I call basic respect. (:  Mm, there is a definite difference in the base amount of rights women have in some parts of the world, but it's often so...|||Agh, exactly. It makes no sense to me that people fighting for the rights of one group would ignore the rights of another group. Hypocritical and awful.It especially makes no sense when you consider...|||Yo. Do some reading. Real feminists are not only crusading for women's rights. You're getting stuck on the semantics and misconceptions. Feminism: It’s Good For Men, Too  Although, I'll note that...|||I used to feel rather ambivalent about all things political - I understood the importance, but didn't care to have it impacting my life much. I've gotten far more activist in recent years, although...|||Hey, INTP dude! I'm currently dating one of you, so obviously I like your type quite a bit. I'm not certain why INTJs are praised as the best match for our type - I guess having a J around is more...|||Man, that sounds awful. I'm not in grad school, so I don't have any specific advice, but it sounds like it's either time to seriously change how you're approaching grad school, or switch to something...|||Very insightful! Thanks for sharing.|||Gorgeous, thanks.|||Dude, I'd say being a 7 explains it all. When enneagram type and MBTI type are looked at together it can explain a lot of inconsistencies. Maybe try finding other EXXJ 7s to see how the contradictory...|||I wouldn't describe many cult leaders as main stream, but somehow both are typical behavior descriptions for ENFJs. (: Fe is definitely able to be off-beat and rebellious. Behaviors are less...|||Try looking into the enneagram. What seemed to be weird MBTI behaviors for me turned out to be entirely typical for my enneagram type.  Of course, it's possible you're not an INFP at all, but you...|||We're all human. Sometimes we just like to pretend that the images we project and the stereotypes we cling to matter more.  It's natural (albeit naive and problematic) for people to try to fit...|||I much prefer the type descriptions that lump us in with the ENTPs. Those always highlight our curiosity and intuition over our adorkable quirks and love of all things fluffy.  Actually, I just...|||Yeah, I have that exact train of thought a lot.   Despite the apathy, I have to say I appreciate feeling on level with a dust speck. It's weirdly freeing and makes it a lot easier to focus on what...|||Left Brain    Right Brain 31%    ------- 69%  You are more right-brained than left-brained. The right side of your brain controls the left side of your body. In addition to being known as...|||It's ironic we have such trouble with motivation when we're amazing at inspiring it.|||I mean, sometimes. I've related a few times on semi-spooky levels to people on here - 974 tritypes, mainly - but most of the ENFPs I know in real life are pretty different. We relate in a lot of ways...|||Yep! My grandma once told me that, as a toddler, I used to rearrange everything in her house to be in straight lines. While I can be horrifyingly messy, I'm either that or ridiculously neat. I never...|||There have been a lot of studies on how too many choices are paralyzing for a lot of people. A few options feels like freedom; too many is license to screw up.  For me, it helps to remember that...|||My first roommate was an ESTP. She was friendly, loud, and unapologetic. People were always over - most of them rude to me on one level or another - but we got on well enough when it was just the two...|||Naw dude, a lot of us go through this awkward stage. I still only feel like an extrovert around introverts most of the time. But college, by forcing you to constantly interact with your own age...|||Well, I don't organize to keep things orderly. My room usually looks wonderful and then has hidden explosions in all the drawers. I'm neat because I like the aesthetic value. Considering my...|||Hah, my INFJ best friend has the messiest environment. It always made me laugh to hear that she's supposed to be neat just because she's a J. My ENFJ mom is a little neater - because that's the...|||It doesn't matter what the types are, just balance 'em out. They can go well together, but conflict is interesting.   If you have two Ps and one J, things will move with banter. If you have two Js...|||Just out of curiosity, which forums? I somehow only found AIM-esque chatrooms when I was looking. Clearly, my googling is not up to snuff.|||Unfortunately, much of your studying is going to be boring. Languages require memorization. That's what I'm worst at, but I've found flashcard apps and games (like matching) make the drudgery a...|||Hah, it's funny looking back at that post now that I thankfully no longer care.  It'll either work out or get easier. (: Either way, it'll be interesting.|||I agree that culture is the real barrier, especially if it comes with differences in language. Things getting lost in translation, so to speak, seriously hinders relationships. However, there's...|||This post sums up my life philosophy, though I don't believe understanding breeds fondness for all people. Some are less empathic than others. However, it definitely makes love easier, and that's...|||I'm not generally mistaken, type-wise. I just wanted to say most INFJs I know don't have obvious J-isms - I think all that is much more extroverted J. Most INFJs I know and love have insanely messy...|||I'm often inspired at the worst moments - when I need to get something important and imminent dealt with. xD  My difficult yet hopeful periods are likely my most creative.|||There's reflecting, and there is wallowing.  Reflecting I'd usually describe like how you put it. I think @liza_200 was thinking of the more negative reflections, where it gets repetitive and sinks...|||ENFP passing through. I got ISTP, weirdly.  I'd be more interested in seeing what answers resulted in what. But, eh, probably bs.|||I haven't made tangible lists and such, but whenever I make a mistake - aka whatever I arbitrarily decide is incorrect behavior - the shame echos around my head for days. I also get much more...|||It's terrible - embarrassment as a form of humor is so alien to me. I have to hide in shoulders or leave rooms, even when it's just fictional characters.|||I base my self worth almost entirely on the success of my accomplishments at any given moment.|||Mentally kicking myself for saying I'm free.   In my defense, I didn't think your plan was going to suck.  adsjfkdjflk|||Where would you live? Ever changing.  What would you live in? Something small enough to travel often.  Whatx92s your transportation? A dragon.  What would you create/do that would change the...|||Giggle. Trip. Get overly excited about mundane activities.    Hah, I was waiting for this joke as soon as I saw the title. (But not all of us love INTJs best! C;)|||I actually connect with others very easily.  I just lose track easily, as well.|||Your life is based around a lie right now, but somehow you'll get through that.  Don't stop taking photos; it helps.|||You said it perfectly. I can and do say I love you rather flippantly to people and easily to close friends and family. Although my dad hardly ever uses the phrase - it still surprises me when he...|||I tend to find a trait appealing because of people I've liked, rather than the other way around. Still, the general pattern seems to be a charismatic smile, a strong jaw, and some lankiness. Friends...|||Hah, I prefer to think it's that most don't care. Which would be fine, except that many uninformed vote anyway.  And as for too many blaming the president over Congress, I agree completly. However,...|||I quite like partying - the best nights always involve meeting fun people and unexpectedly bonding. Dancing is also lovely, as it removes any chance of awkward conversation. And, well, it's dancing....'