'I have a hard time not to take things personally. If somebody does anything that I would not do (and that would include small things like keep me waiting, critize me etc)  my gut reaction is If he...|||Anything by Wen Spencer and Sharon Lee/Steve Miller. I also like Lois McMaster Bujold a lot. And from the old masters Dickens (probably helped that he is not part of the school curriculum where I...|||You are making my point. Do you see any non vegetarians writing that passionate on the topic? I have to admit I am deeply suspicious about people with a mission. Missions very often end in hurting...|||I get much more try to relax a bit!|||[QUOTE=Pedromac;3127868]I say things a lot of the time that can sometimes be taken as inappropriate for the circumstances but I do it so I can read someone else and see them on a deeper level without...|||Difficult to make a long distance diagnosis, but I think you might be ENFP with a rather low P score.   This is a continuum and you probably come quiet close to 0 on the P score. But since...|||Another good clue might be the way you react to deadlines. If you have a very important deadline in three weeks, do you start now? Or do you do your best work one the day of the deadline? If the...|||I hate to sound like a wet blanket, but I have never once in my life got drunk. I hate the feeling of losing control. I can obsess for hours about normal conversations, I do not even want to know...|||That does not sound very ENFJ to me. Are you sure that's what she is?  The only thing that comes to my mind is that she might not feel respected. If I get that feeling I tend to explode, too....|||It depends. I can be very passionate about a lot of things and then I will move heaven and earth to get things done - sometimes without waiting for others to catch up. I will normally be very...|||The most dangerous world views are held by people who have never seen the world (Alexander von Humboldt)|||I was the same, if not as strongly (probably because girls tend to do better within the school system). If he goes the same way he will learn to a certain extent growing older. Teenagers are very...|||1. At what age did you discover you were an ENFJ? 30  2. What was your first reaction at this insight? I loved it - it made so much sense!  3. How interested were you in finding out more about...|||I would probably say it that way, too, because I would be afraid you would see my request as a burden. So for me the subtext would be something like: Please tell me if this is bothering you. I...|||I do this, too, and I would not see it as unhealthy. In fact I found it a great coping mechanism. I am very good during a crisis, because I can shut my feelings down. If somebody is physically hurt...|||I tend to see every possible angle of a situation, and I feel sometimes duty bound to bring this up. So if I talk with somebody positive I will tend to see (and mention) the more negative items and...|||I am wondering why you see that as manipulative. Could it not be his honest feelings about this situation? ENFJ are focused on F so we tend to make arguments based on feelings, but I would not see...|||I like ENTJ, they are so easy to get along with - as long as you do not let them steamroll you into their way of thinking. They can be pretty overwhelming, so sure that theirs is the right way. And...|||For me mostly understanding myself and others better. Why do people do the things they do? What patterns are there? How do your beliefs what life should be differ from mine? How do different...|||Try to appreciate his point of view as a counterpoint to your strengths and weaknesses. He will notice things you will simply overlook and vice versa (and no, just because you did not think of it...|||I love reading, so many new people to meet! Which is why I have to like them or the book is not working for me and they must not die in the end. And I also like meeting new cultures, even if they...|||I need silence, but I think best when I am moving around while thinking, so when I have something to puzzle out, I normally go for a walk.|||And at least in Europe and Asia you would have lived through two world wars, you would have many of your friends die as soldiers, by bombs, by starvation - My father's mother was born 1898 and she...|||I am sorry but anybody who thinks classical is one type of music just does not know very much about it. How can you lump Bach and Verdi into the same category and expect the same type of person to...|||I can empathize. Deep, deep down I am always afraid that if people get to know me they will not like me any longer, so I have real difficulties opening up to anybody. Basically I only trust my family...|||It depends. If telling the truth will hurt people, I will lie and have no problem at all with it. There are too many people who enjoy hurting others by being brutally honest when it is not...|||From personal experience I would agree. I normally have a much harder time with I than with T. With the introverts you never know were you are because they will not open up, and I am continually...|||Of course nobody knows better what type you are than yourself, but are you totally sure you are not P? Granted, I rate very high on the J scale, so I might be an extreme case, but I have never met a...|||The best test is: If somebody phones you now and invites you for this evening to do something you normally like doing, are you happy and excited or are you frazzled, because you have to change all...|||I think this way of thinking can be dangerous. I remember there was a book a couple of years ago about a woman who got diagnosed with breast cancer and everybody kept telling her that she would be...|||I wish I could thank you twice for that post, it is so true!|||Benevolent creator|||It might perhaps be, if it was a conscious decision, which it normally is not (although disgusting is a very strong word). And I did not say they cannot cope, they hit a hard spot and if they had to...|||I do not see myself as extremely feminist, but I think it is very difficult to separate nature from nurture here. There is a very strong social pressure for women to have children and if you do not...|||Oh yes, I can.   I try to tell myself that not everybody is as sensitive as I am and especially T types often do not remember something I feel bad about for days. Which is why I find it so relaxing...|||Why do you think it is your job to get her to do something? And I do not mean that provocatively or accusingly. You sound a bit like a father trying to get his daughter to get a life. If you are her...|||Why is she not doing what you think she should do? Normally ENFJ are not procrastinators, so there should be a reason why she is not doing something. Given the T/F difference it might be that she is...|||Yes, unfortunately it is. It is a kind of damned if you do and damned if you do not situation. Either you get overlooked or you get told you are too aggressive for behaviour that would be accepted,...|||No, most of the time I am not confident, but people would never guess it. I can be very decisive, but afterwards there always will be doubts. Should I have said that, should I have said it this way,...|||And obviously people liked you - a lot. That should count for something. Do not burn them, give them to somebody to keep for you. That way, you do not have to look at them, but they will be there...|||And that is part of the problem. I cannot not connect with people in the room, especially if they are quite and in the corner, because I think about how lonely they might feel. But getting noticed...|||Yes, I am ambitious, to get approval from people that matter. I want people to approve of me, to be proud for me, to think I do well. I am not ambitious in the sense that I want to have lots of...|||Quite often I go into a party or seminar or any meeting with the plan not to say anything, especially nothing controversial, to be quiet, on the edge of the room, so nobody will notice me.   But...|||To be alone, especially the idea that all my immediate family might be dead in the future and nobody there who knows me any longer.|||It really depends on what you mean by your descriptions. In my opinion I get things done, and fast, but my solutions would likely strike and NT or SJ as being not objective or detailled enought and...|||I have an excellent memory for the most unimportant things, but I cannot for the life of me fit faces with names. I know the faces, I know the names, but I have a really hard time to identify that...|||ENFJ can choose careers because somebody with a strong influence favours that career and they do not want to disappoint. But having said that: in my experience college majors have not much to do with...|||One more point: when I took the test it said very clearly that you are the best judge of your character, so if you are that uncomfortable with the result (and have tested ENFJ before) I would go with...|||Good luck! I have been studying both Chinese and Japanese and the moment you stop actively learning and/or using the characters they are gone, so keep at it! Let us now how your test turns out.|||Exactly my list! I have to admit I also like books for the escape they offer. And you get to meet so many new people (even if they are only fictional)'