'Hello!  I didn't know where else to put this, so I thought making a new thread would be alright.  I'm an ENFJ (could be INFJ; still trying to figure this out, because I think I'm a bit too quiet...|||So, he actually called me, and we talked about the situation.  He told me that he was a little pissed that I wouldn't choose a side, but that he understood where I was coming from.  He's not mad any...|||I am hearing him.  I'm listening to him and letting him know that everything he is feeling is valid.  Both sides were in the wrong, and it's good to have the conflict in order to move forward (which...|||Hello!  My friend is an ENTP 8w9.  Recently, he was involved in a bit of a disagreement with some of our mutual friends.  I didn't see it as anything too terrible, but he was pretty irritated by...|||5 Wanted Traits 1. Emotionally secure and sturdy. 2. Passionate and direct/decisive. 3. Kind. 4. Intelligent with a love for knowledge. 5. Protective but not overbearing.  Name 5 Turn-Off...|||Any ENTPs up for letting me PM them a couple questions?  I'm a little weird about posting them publicly.|||Already been said, but yeah, that post reeks of so much bullshit in so many places.  Almost everything about it is incorrect, except maybe the careers and the About Me section (even that section...|||Definitely, I see myself slip into 5-ish behavior when I'm just worn out.  I tend to withdraw, think about the problem, enjoy solitude, study.  My friends have told me that when I'm stressed, they...|||So, I've been going back to tests, even though I usually try to stay away from them, because a lot of them are skewed.  However, I've been typing consistently as 8, usually with 2, 5, 1, or 3...|||Hey!  I'm happy you caught this thread, because I definitely trust your judgment!  I've considered it, but the fears of 5 don't fit and neither does the path of disintegration for 5.|||narcissistic    My aggression doesn't really fluctuate.  It's always there, just not always directed at people.  I am not passive aggressive or evasive; I am frank with a person when I have a...|||Because I typed as 5 when I first got into enneagram, matured a bit, became more assertive, less reclusive, less argumentative but more discerning when picking my battles, more sure in myself and...|||Definitely.    I rarely feel an actual sense of threat, probably because I smell bullshit real fast.  Eight times out of ten, the person people are intimidated by is actually harmless, a...|||I would just not send.  He's made himself clear, and it's polite to respect his boundaries.  He hasn't put any effort into salvaging this either, and you've put a bit more into the relationship than...|||I mean, I do notice possible pitfalls, but I tend to have a sense in finality concerning how I will fix them.  I don't prepare for a problem; I cut the problem off.  Sometimes I miss the problem, and...|||I definitely see the validity of your second observation, but I'm a little hung up on the first.  It's not that I'm ambivalent about my anger -- I know it's there.  I just wouldn't consider myself...|||I would say I tend to do the second more often than not.  My friends have complained about me doing the second, saying I come at things more strongly than I intend and that I do take things too far....|||Hey there!  I'm really trying to figure out which type I am between these two.  Reasons that I think I may be an 8: -I seek out challenges, and I don't fear if I will do well or not.  I know what...|||.|||No, I'm the same way about a few 2's.  Some 2's are great and kind and adorable, but then there are some who are unhealthy and they are just so obviously seeking attention that it drives me crazy.|||Oh, no, that's alright.  I'm definitely trying to keep a careful watch on my typing.  Thanks for the reminder, though.  I came here for advice, and you've been helpful and insightful.|||Really?  I'm pretty certain of my stacking.  SX/SP definitely fits me, and SO blindspot descriptions always fit.  I'm pretty certain the way I process is Ni to Fe and that I use Ni, Fe (and...|||Sylas  I relate to some of that (troubleshooting, standing up for the underdog, and studying evil), but there are some parts I don't relate to.  I rarely feel fear in what most people would...|||Hm, interesting.  So would it be correct to describe eights as solid, consistent, and constant?  Would it be typical for an eight to sort of have defenses already prepared in order to avoid...|||Hm, I wouldn't consider myself particularly angry, but when I am angry, I don't tend to turn from it.  It rests and brews, and I think I kind of subconsciously wait for the right moment to let it...|||Hm, I agree, but at the same time, I can't tell which one I relate to more (8 or 6).  It's less of an issue with a couple of out of place traits, and more of an issue of having a substantial amount...|||I think so.  But also, that would definitely make sense.  I like risks and challenges, but I take deliberate steps.  I thought that was more CP 6, but you're right about the reckless thing.  So are...|||I think my struggle is that I do experience anxiety fairly often, but it's mostly about the safety of my family, rather than about every little thing.  Because of that, I've typed as a six.  I've...|||Hello!  I'm wondering how one can tell if they're an 8 or a 6?  Are there any tell-tale signs?|||Can any 8's back this up because now I'm questioning my type.  This is me in a nutshell.  I thought measuring people so harshly had to do with my SX variant and my 1 fix.|||My type 6w5 - 1w2 - 3w2 SX/SP  Types I'm Attracted To: 8's, 3w2's, 5w6's, 6's (but I don't see a relationship with another 6 lasting)  Types I Am Not Attracted to: 2's, 3w4's, 4's, 5w4's, 7w6's ...|||Hm, that's so interesting.  My friendship with my INTJ is nothing like this.  I personally hate passive aggression.  If I have a problem with a person, I will tell them.  Communication solves...|||INFJ here!  My INTJ friend thinks it's funny when I say delightfully morbid things, whatever that means.|||My INTJ best friend and I get in painfully long conversations.  When we first met, we actually got into an hour and a half long conversation about my synesthesia and the appreciation of art.  About a...|||I want to know how INTJ's interact with INFJ's in order to compare to my personal experience with my best friend INTJ.  A couple of things I'd love to hear about are:  1.) Intensity (do other...|||This post is so old, but I'm bringing it back (while also semi-infiltrating this thread bc I'm not an INTJ).  Is this an Ni thing?  I experience this as well, but it's more like guys catch my...|||Kinda true, tbh.  (We're way too idealistic, and a lot of INFJ's take any criticism of their actions as a personal attack, rather than seeing it as a chance to improve -- oversensitive,...|||Sounds like less of an INFJ problem and more of a low self-esteem problem.  You gave her a sound criticism of her character, and while people don't like to be told they're wrong, it's mature to see...|||Are any ENTP's willing to let me PM them for advice?  Sometimes, I feel a bit uncomfortable posting about specific things online.|||K.  PS: You're probs a 4 INFP, just to save you some trouble.|||Will come back to this later when I have more time, but just wanted to leave a couple of comments to subscribe and also so I don't forget.  1.) Now I know how my ESFP friend probably feels when my...|||I never claimed to have a degree or be a doctor, but if you really want credentials then mine are six years of studying personality theory.  But I'm sure an over-simplified, dichotomy-based, twelve...|||INFJ's?  I know it's been answered, but I'd like more opinions if you guys are willing to give them.  Do you find that you get along with INFJ's of the opposite gender?  I'm a girl, and every ESTP...|||Have a feeling that OP is very much not an INFJ and probably took a 16personalities test.|||Sx/sp|||This was adorable and warmed my heart.|||F 2 Well not exactly.  That picture makes me a little uncomfortable, to be honest, haha, but yeah, I've been told that want I want is way too idealistic.   Marv  Yeah, I'm an SX 6.  I do think that...|||Depends on what moral philosophy you ascribe to.|||This.  I am usually not an aggressive person whatsoever.  My ISFP friend is actually more aggressive than I am, but she pointed out today that I tend to choose my battles and choose them well. ...|||I'm currently in a very passionate love-hate relationship with Immanuel Kant.'