'Quite a varied amount of responses. Interesting.|||You messaged him because you wanted to be friends. Then you said you messaged him on accident.   Your intentions don't seem clear. I would be quite skeptical of you.|||Purpose or no purpose, you continue living. Not like you really have a choice.|||What trends have you seen for the INFP 4 and INFP 9? What types do you frequently see them pair up with?  I agree with your idea that INFP-ESTP is extremely rare and not even heard of. Their...|||The details!|||Tell him what you have told us. Then tell us what he tells you.|||Yeah, out of all the people we encounter in life, only a few really hit it there. Though that's not to say people can't grow into each other. I think if it's missing that spark, it won't feel the...|||I don't know about him, but speaking for myself, I wouldn't make a move. Only when someone else gets the ball rolling will something happen.  I agree with the other replies in this thread. He might...|||Good point. I'd likely stick to my ethics. I think it'd be easy too. It's much easier for me to feel than act. The process of going from feeling to acting (on a romantic interest for example) is an...|||A late reply I procrastinated on typing up. Anyway, nothing much really happened. We just drifted apart after we went to different high schools. And yes, in my case, it was more of a thing of youth...|||Neither did I. Make sure to run fast, because it might just catch up to you.  I kid, I kid.  Good luck.|||1) Speaking for myself, yes. I've always been rather passive. I used to think that the person was probably busy, and sometimes I didn't feel important enough to start a conversation.  As for...|||Here's an interesting description from socionics about duality which I think relates to the idea of a soulmate:   Personally I haven't found a soulmate yet, if such a thing exists. But there's no...|||It's one of those things where you know after the fact and you wonder what could have been.|||To me it sounds like you haven't found the right one. And you don't want to give it up so easily to someone who you feel nothing for.  Maybe you want something more meaningful or someone who you...|||Yes, I feel the same way. I don't really have any advice.   I often feel like my values and ideals have to be compromised, but at the same time I can't let them go. I too yearn from what's not...|||I steal glances mostly. I don't take initiative and make conversation. I mostly sit back and watch her now and then. See what she's like as a person.   I can sense it better now. I was very...|||I agree. Behavior can be shaky ground. It's where the behavior stems from (functions). The only thing is is that it's easier to judge someone else's behavior than their cognition.|||Took that part out. Takes awhile for me to get my thoughts together.  I find the Fi-doms have a more intrapersonal smile than interpersonal smile. Though it's just a hypothesis.  I don't think...|||INFP's seem to be very cutesy, sociable (even though they say they're not) and smiley, and that's just not me at all  Those people don't strike me as Fi-dom. Not the way Jung describes them.  ...|||Yes, you're INFP.|||INFPs are stubborn. They won't come around until they want to. Maybe never.  I didn't read that entire thread, but from what I read of it, it sounds like you've done everything you can.  He's in a...|||She sounds like a child. Warning signs everywhere.  It sounds like you're doing everything you can. Now she has to do her part.|||I guess that doesn't apply to me, since I have all the encouragement in the world. ;)|||INFPs. I see how the unhealthy ones are. Reminds me of myself.|||Very difficult. People aren't themselves. They want to be some thing other. They tell a story of themselves, how they want to be, instead of how they are.|||Words won't be able to convince you. You'll have to have an experience that takes away your cynicism. Maybe it'll never be taken away.|||Sorry.   I often have a need to feel right and analyze people's feelings. The Te thing is your own problem though.|||There are only bad things in the world if there are good things.  The world seems bad depending on what you decide to feed the mind. If you watch news that focuses on tragedy, then that will be...|||exchange student = even if he did like you, he might have thought it would have not worked out because of distance  never initiating contact = infp passiveness  to what extent do INFPs say nice...|||My mother is schizophrenic.|||Nah, I'm type 9. Feel like a nobody instead. :proud: Nobody special  As for relationships, I do think INFP males and INTJ females have it harder. They don't always fit the conventional mold of...|||Halo effect.  Which studies?  Human nature is half the story. What of nurture? (Culture, environmental influences?)|||Nice to hear.  Also good to hear an actual relationship of years, rather than speculation.|||With no one :laughing:|||At that rate, you can say over-anything is a turn off.    I feel as though all the advice is useless. In reality all sorts of things happen and no one model will help. X won't attract others, yet...|||It sounds like your relationship with your boyfriend really took a toll on you.   When I think about love, I think about acceptance of what you are.   You say that he hasn't done that, that he...|||Well, now you're aware. Maybe you'll be aware again when the time comes in that moment, instead of after?|||It's impossible for him to convey what he feels. Only if you were him you'd understand.  Just let him be. You can't really do anything to help him. He has to help himself.  Inferior Te might...|||I can relate to everything you said.|||ISFJ  must be Ne and Si  also have a INFP friend|||Share what you have written here to him in letter form. Alternatively, find a different way to share how you feel. Preferably one that you think will have an impact on him.|||I think everyone projects. Being a verbal sound wall, that's up to you. You can sit there and agree or you can call them out.  A good way of asserting boundaries is just to say what's on your mind...|||297994298002|||Can you change my username to floater212  Thanks in advance.|||Admittedly, I did miss it.  Fair enough. Your imperfections make you perfect ;)|||nevermind don't change my name. i keep going back and forth on this matter. cant decide on anything.  whatever, just let it go.|||Nobody's perfect. And Dr. Phil isn't a doctor.    Fi is stuborn. It goes at its own at pace. It you push it, it will not budge.  Fi thinks it knows what is right for itself, and believes others...|||can you change my username to clearday22  there's no time limit is there? my previous username change was only a filler 'cause I couldnt think of anything at the time|||I can really only remember two things that were said about me: that I was shy and that I was good child.  I was incredibly shy. I feared venturing out on my own. Adults scared me. Sometimes I...'