'VCTN We had just started working on a college group project together and up until that point had been exchanging emails pertaining to the project. I could tell by the ideas/thoughts he described in...|||I love reading about what is going on inside the average INTP's head when he or she is flirting. I remember the first time my INTP tried actively flirting with me. I was wearing a blue and...|||I was lucky enough to meet an INTP guy a few years back. We've been happy together ever since. No clue if the two of you will work out that well (more than type determines compatibility after all),...|||antahon In short, the guy told qingdom (while in a seemingly bad mood) to get lost...so he did. As you can see from their interaction several years later though he didn't really mean it when he...|||Iamtp I notice, as I have known him for several years. His family frequently accuses him of just not caring AT ALL because the way in which he shows that he cares is rather subtle and/or delayed...|||I'm in a relationship with one of you guys. Two things of note...  1) Thinking about caring about others way more often than you demonstrate outwardly that you care about others (potentially...|||Yeah, but he can't afford one and frankly, most people can't. I just wanted to know if any of you had any tips regarding ways that he can get motivated on his own or even specific forms of exercise...|||A good friend of mine is an ISFJ who would like to get healthier and begin an exercise regimen. He is having problems with motivation, however. He likes (and seems to need) a workout partner in order...|||Hmmm...one INTP that I know does a variation of this. Being an ENTJ, I'm often sh*t when it comes to discerning the mood another person is in unless that mood is made glaringly apparent. INTPs are...|||I have been in a relationship with an INTP (that I care about very much) for nearly a year now. All is well, with the exception of one pattern of behavior that I just can't get past. My INTP b/f is...|||I honestly don't think that all is lost between you and your father in terms of amicable relations. It's hard for an INFJ to grasp, but XNTJs tend to be retarded when it comes to how we are affecting...|||Simply put: you need to construct a rational, logical argument for why his behavior is indeed negatively affecting you and your family (one that includes tangible evidence of the negative effects...|||I thought I would contribute, as I am happily dating an INTP.  My 2 cents? If you want to know if an INTP is attracted to you, the answer (in my experience and based on what I have read in this...|||CosmicJalapeno I am currently dating an INTP, and his microwave skillz are indeed impressive.  Granted, his microwave only has 2 settings (on or off). Said microwave is on when plugged in, and off...|||I say at least finish high school.  Unless you plan to be self-employed, potential employers don't care what you learned on your own at your level, generally; they want to see that you (at least)...|||I'm with DuKempriZ.  Instead of using typology to draw a line between you and your family, try to use it as a tool to better understand and communicate with them.  The fact of the matter is, these...|||Maybe you should try to see it like this: the people that you attempt to contact very often don't want anything more than to hear from you, and see it as a pleasant surprise when they do.  Besides,...|||While I understand and appreciate the INTP desire to not be intrusive, trust me when I say that the likelihood that you are being that way is slim to none.  You guys are so infrequent typically with...|||Four words: LACK OF DIRECT COMMUNICATION.  If you like something, say it or in some way demonstrate outwardly that you do.  If you don't, (diplomatically) say so as well.  This thread has provided...|||I don't find INTPs to be mean.  As someone else already noted, it is usually the reverse if accusations of being mean are made.  I have been dating an INTP for several months and things have been...|||Hey hey...beneath my cold exterior lies a/an (insert something poetic that implies depth of feeling in an angst-y and esoteric manner here).  To be fair, I want to share my emotions, but being a T...|||Graficcha Thanks for the thorough reply.  I don't have any major emotional issues to contend with...just rare moments in which I would like to vent a bit.  Being an XNTJ, I don't expect him to...|||My turn! I'm hoping that this will be a simple inquiry...  I have read on various threads/forums that INTPs generally don't like their S.O.s to be emotionally-dependent on them.  This I understand....|||I noted this in another thread, but I am dating an INTP and he is definitely into physical touch as a demonstration of his feelings.  I am not certain whether or not this is an INTJ quality or if...|||Well, stereotypically, that title likely would go to ESTPs the most often.  I have seen a fair share of ENTP womanizers and ESFJ cheaters as well though.|||I'll chime in! I'm not an INTP, but I'm dating one and have an INTP uncle who is a father.  The INTP that I'm dating has no children, but he does have a dog that he treats in the same manner that...|||A brief observation: both one of my best friends and my grandmother are ISFJs.  In my experience, I tend to get along much better with ISFJs (and -SJs in general) in my own age group than I do older...|||@ Op, I don't know if he is putting you on a pedestal (each INTJ is individual and all), but I doubt it.  INTJs tend to think things through thoroughly before acting, so him stating that he has been...|||While I don't believe that the INTJ-ESFP pairing is among the least likely to occur (as someone else noted, I would imagine INTJ-ESFJ relationships are much more rare), I don't see the average...|||I give the people that I care about that which I value most: my time.  If I care about someone, I initiate contact with that person on a consistent basis.  I really, REALLY like someone that I am...|||Others have handled the specific questions well, so I'll just add one point: I think the INFPxINTJ pairing is one that works much better if the INTJ is a male and the INFP is a female.  As a female...|||I would like to second the surgeon suggestion.  I might also suggest really thinking long and hard about entering into a medical specialty, such as dentistry or dermatology, that would almost require...|||8w9. This makes sense as, while I am definitely an INTJ, I usually test low on the I (55-65%).|||Believe it or not, I NEVER do that, and I think it is because of my view on arguing in general.  If I enter into an argument with someone, it is to try to (hopefully) solve the problem on which the...|||Disclaimer: I don't know your g/f's type, and I am an INTJ (but had a long-lasting relationship with an ISFJ and have a very close ISFJ friend).  That said...  If there is one over-arching lesson...|||Warning: book ahead.  I'll begin by asking a non-type related question: are you sure that you're not just idealizing the relationship now that you are no longer in it (aka placing too much value on...|||ENTP: not romantically compatible in my experience, but absolutely hilarious, creative, and highly intelligent.  We make a great team when working on projects and the like. ENFJ: capable of...|||Not an INTP...meh...  Mom: ISFP (and functioning alcoholic) Dad: ESTP (Borderline Personality Disorder, currently on high doses of anti-anxiety meds instead of therapy)  The only other NT in my...|||Ah ok.  I admit, that form of consolation (the words of comfort thing) does feel rather useless/pointless.  It seems to work for quite a few people though.  It's often when I try to offer a solution...|||Note that I said that I am detached in a physical sense.  None of the listening that I mentioned involves touching.  If I don't know a person well, I don't comfort that person physically.|||As some others have said, if I don't know the distressed person at all, I am somewhat detached (at least in terms of physical contact).  One thing that I have had a bit of success with is simply...|||I have known 2 ESFPs well.  One was unhealthy, and given the plethora of stories already available about that situation I won't detail it here.  The healthy one? Great, in small doses.  We're good...|||I think that the answer to your inquiry is relative to each individual INTJ.  I say that, because your ex was more indecisive than I would have been (which I will get into briefly below).    In...|||(sigh) I remember this phase in my interpersonal development.  In my mid-teens, I realized that I was being overly-harsh with people, particularly when it came to rejecting them in some way.  In an...|||I have two INFP friends, and what I value in them is their ability to so-eloquently (and often elaborately) express their Fi and also their Ne-driven creativity.  Said INFPs are also often hilarious....|||I'm a borderline E (still introverted though-but I usually only test between 55-60%) and an enneagram 8 so take the following with a grain of salt...  I prefer plans to be made further ahead than...|||In echoing the be real sentiment, I say just be yourself.  Corny, yes, but INTJs value sincerity and, furthermore, can often sense when a person is being fake in some way a mile off.  Also, I don't...|||I am close to an INTP who has been very...down, lately.  In short, said INTP has stated that he has numerous complexes, feels inadequate in many ways, and that he currently feels as though he has...|||Ok, I will include some details that I didn't the first time.  Yes, she is my grandma.  It is for this reason that I did show signs of listening, and even said I would take her advice into...|||In my gut, I agree that I have done all that I can.  My biggest issue (and one about which I can do nothing) is that she is going to seek out any female family member she can and gossip about our...'