'I personally would stay very very far away from this one. If something seems to good to be true, it probably is. What can they get from you? Your personal details=identity theft, the security...|||Might as well tell her. She'll say yes or no. One way or the other, you'll know and be a ble to move forward.|||I've never heard of The Beatles (said by a self-proclaimed music lover)  You don't have to like them, or be an expert, but never having heard of them? Literally could not think of anything to say...|||My dad once said that I don't like to compromise. My first thought was that that wasn't true at all, I am an easy-going person,  I'm perfectly happy to compromise.....when i don't care about...|||I can't say that I have it completely figured out. Luckily I've never managed to get myself in serious debt, but I haven't been very successful at saving money. Good place to start for me - pension...|||Good luck with the thinking. I hope you find some peace.|||Remind yourself of this. Write it down and stick it somewhere obvious, on your mirror or similar. Don't fall into the trap of thinking that you are responsible for her. You are not. Well done for...|||Learrn. I know that sounds harsh, but you can't fix everything, it is important to realise that. Remember this:  God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change...|||Don't get stuck in a rut. It's too easy to find a job, or a relationship, or a group of friends and then just stay there without thinking. Before you know it, it's 10 years later, you're in a...|||It doesn't sound like she wants help and I don't think you can force someone like that into getting help, unless she actually gets committed to a hospital, and even then it's not guaranteed.  It...|||You say that the system isn't working, but has she actually seen one therapist for an extended period of time? I've never been in the situation myself, but bouncing from therapist to therapist...|||Sorry you lost your job, but you're handling it well. I recently hired a career coach and found it enormously helpful. She really helped me figure out my strengths and weaknesses and also the kind of...|||You're being quite harsh, considering you don't actually know the person. Some people don't set out to steal food, and that behaviour wasn't mentioned. It seems like she just doesn't realise that she...|||Some people expect to be taken care of, and if you allow the situation to continue it will become more and more difficult to get out of it.  Best to be honest with her as soon as possible. Tell...|||You should go deeper than just your personality type, there's more to you than that. I went to my local library and flipped through all of their career-type self-help books (they'll be in amongst the...|||I've gotten better with age, but can relate to a lot of what's been said. When I was a kid I used to lose the car a lot. If we went to a shopping center or something, I wouldn't be able to find the...|||Aah yes. I recently saw The Cabin in the Woods, a fair bit of it reminded me of Buffy, in a good way of course.|||Am I the only person who liked Buffy?|||Hmm, maybe you should spend a little time figuring out exactly what you want from a job, that way you can apply for positions that excite you and where you will be a good fit. Otherwise you'll just...|||Have you looked at NLP? (neuro-linguistic programming). It's something you can do on yourself to help with various negative habits/thoughts. I'm not an expert, though, and actually know very little...|||I have two tattoos and I love them both. They both mean something to me, and was thought over for a long time before actually taking the plunge. I think I might get more, but I have no plans for any...|||I do the same thing, thinking about worst-case scenarios. Sometimes you just have to ignore your own mind.  Good luck!|||I haven't read the book, but I try and write to-do lists and I'm starting to use my phone for notes etc. I often find though that I'll make a to-do list and then never look at it again, because I...|||It makes me feel weak, and out of control. Being in control of myself is very important to me.|||I have a cherry blossom tattoo which I love. I picked cherry blossoms because in Japan they symbolise the transient nature of life, and in China they symbolise feminine beauty and strength.|||Used to when I was younger. I could never understand why I was supposed to walk around with a smile plastered on my face. Why does absence of smile equal bad mood? Hasn't happened for a few years...|||I enjoy sex. To me it's  an important part of a relationship, and a way to be intimate with someone, though not the only or possibly even the best way.  I've been single for a while now, and I miss...|||It's a tricky one. Changing jobs very quickly can make you look inconsistent and flighty, but sometimes it has to be done. Can you find out more information about the offered jobs? You should be able...|||I think most people find the unknown a bit frightening at times. I do sometimes too, I tend to just ignore those thoughts and keep going. Once you say yes to an offer and sign a contract it's too...|||I'm toying with the idea. I don't hate wearing glasses or contact lenses, but it might be nice to wake up in the morning and be able to see perfectly. So I think I will go to some consultations with...|||I don't always feel like an outsider. Also, past performance is no indicator of future results, so I'm gonna keep trying. I may be an introvert, but I need human contact from time to time. I have...|||I have tried meeting people via a meet new people in the area type website-thing (very articulate first thing in the morning). It didn't work out, I met up with them regularly for a couple of...|||Ha ha that's funny. A bit of a concern, that you could end up meeting crazies. At least you have a funny story to tell. In fact, crazies are OK, I dread meeting boring people.|||Does anyone here use the website meetup.com? Or some other similar site designed for meeting people (I mean in real life, not just virtually).   I joined the site a few months ago, but haven't...|||I haven't been in school for a while, but I always used to hand in on time. At work I'm pretty good with deadlines too. Particularly if it's given to me, or if I told someone I'd do something by a...|||I can't speak for others, but I make a decision about how important the correction is. Most of the time it just doesn't matter and I leave it. If I judge it to be important I'll try and correct...|||I don't wish I was a different type, but I do sometimes wish I was better at certain things, like knowing what to do if someone bursts into tears in front of me. I do believe that I have a lot of...|||Too true. People will often claim to be a perfectionist like it's something to be proud of. Perfectionism is often a hindrance.|||I've cried for various reasons: tough breakups, sad movies, death, a couple of times when I was sick and just feeling very miserable. However, I HATE crying in front of other people, so I'll swallow...|||Nothing wrong with saying That's good enough and then leaving it. I sometimes change it to Good enough for now, and then I might pick it back up again at some point. Don't need to be the...|||I remember having a couple of outbursts when I was young. I got incredibly angry about something and the feelings were so intense I didn't know what to do with myself, it was awful. Thankfully I...|||Thanks for the comment, telepariah. I suspect that what you describe is pretty endemic all over the world. Few organisations are truly innovative. I do think this will be a challenge, but I'd like to...|||@ wiarumas: I know a little about change management, though I must admit I hadn't thought of this in those terms, you're right of course. Not something I have any real experience with,  I have some...|||I agree with you on that, but knowing myself will influence the decisions I make. If I had known that I would probably require job changes every few years (I get bored quickly), I might have chosen a...|||Yep, which is why I said kind of. Mostly I have that thought in relation to job and career. I'm not a particularly driven or ambitious person, which I am fine with, but am feeling a bit stuck and...|||Yes, that'll be the basic concept. We'll definitely want to get ideas from everyone in the company, though with the culutre we have here I don't know if surveys would work (we already have vast...|||I can't post links, but if you google the  student room you'll get there.  It is focussed on the UK, but they have a pretty active forum, so someone else might have asked the question already....|||I recently joined the forum too, for much the same reason, I'm on a bit of a self-development and self-discovery kick lately. I'm older than you though, I kind of wish I had started doing this 10...|||This resonates with me, especially the last sentence. I dislike making a big fuss about my own achievements, though I'm getting better at it as I get older. Unfortunately it's something you have to...|||Yeah, I guess so, some people do seem to update with the least little thing: Just eating my breakfast, On the bus on the way to work etc etc etc. I just find it strange that they would rather...'