'Hi guys, I need some advice.  For the sake of helping you guys understand the story I'm about tell, I'll provide some background information. I work with a pastry chef I'll name Jessica*, a grill...|||You all don't know who he is...and you all don't know who I am either. For all you guys know, I'm not even Pinky!  His privacy will always be respected by me. I understand that everything he tells me...|||Thanks for keeping everyone updated Green Girl :happy: It really is a saga....|||Hello, WeatherTalk! Thank you so much for the kind words. :kitteh: I checked out the thread that you recommended to me and it brought me some insight. Some INTJs are pretty hard on themselves because...|||Hiiiig_w! Good to hear from you as always. :happy:  I have to say, both of your theories have a lot of merit and they make a lot of sense to me.   a) He definitely magnifies my INFPness to the...|||I can see why some people would be apprehensive when it comes to romance in the workplace. Actually, I was in a 3 1/2 year relationship with a co-worker at my old job. It was a little tricky because...|||It's interesting to know that INTJs can be slow to warm up. I have always had a hunch that my INTJ is the same way because I can tell he thinks A LOT....about EVERYTHING. :confused: I know he's...|||It helps to have a lot of insight on this from a fellow introvert. I appreciate it. :happy:   I definitely do think that I hold myself back because of the cozy home in my head. It's funny we're...|||I'm glad I'm not the only one out there feeling that way. Let the commiserating begin. :wink:|||Thank you INTJs for your warm welcome. :kitteh: I appreciate you all for the wonderful support!  You all seem to be telling me the same things for the most part. I know I should definitely try to...|||Hi guys, it's Pinky again and I need some support. PS....*HUGS!!!* :kitteh:  I am trying my best to distract myself from my intense, outta this world, lovey-mcdovey feelings for my INTJ co-worker....|||Haha how come? INFPs and destruction don't usually go hand-in-hand! :tongue:|||Sometimes, emotional healing is necessary before one can find answers. Emotions can be a distraction and once it is dealt with, clarity in finding a solution will follow. I'm glad you were able to...|||Icy....I'm sorry to hear that you're hurting right now. :unsure: *hugs!!!!!*  Emotions are fickle beasts. The idea of falling for someone is always risky business. You have to trust them not to...|||You know what? I don't think anyone has ever explained to me why I'm so nice or why they like me.....that's probably another good reason why I don't take what anyone says too seriously. If someone...|||It is equal amounts of both. I was recently venting to a friend of mine about some problems and he told me that he would always be there for me because he thought the world of me. For some reason, it...|||You sound very similar to me. What people think of my values have very little impact! They are so deeply ingrained me that I do not need any approvals (or lack thereof) to stand by them. If people...|||I feel like I have no idea how other people feel about me. It is ironic because I am SO in touch with my own emotions and feelings....but when it comes to knowing how people feel about me, it's up in...|||That is true actually...I've never really felt like I've fit in anywhere. Does anyone else just feel like they're seen and not heard? Maybe that's part of why it's so hard for me to be receptive...|||I actually am a type 2! I know that type 2s like to give.....do you think that's why it's so hard for me to receive anything? I would totally love more insight if that is the case! :happy:|||I consider myself someone who gives a lot of love to everyone and everything. I have a great capacity for caring and I love those aspects about myself. I often do things that show how much I care for...|||Wow really?I'm really glad you think so! Thank you for the kind words. :proud:    I was surprised too. He had a vibe about him that made everyone kind of stay away. :unsure: I really wanted to...|||You all give such awesome advice!!!! :proud: I backed off and let him do his thing....and he seems as good as new. One thing I so greatly admire about INTJs is their ability to find a solution to...|||I really believe that the two days he had off did absolute wonders for him. He was able to get some alone time in his system! He is back to being himself and it's so great to see.  :happy:Thank you....|||Coconut water is the bees kneez! INTJs have good taste apparently :kitteh:|||I feel that we really are valued when it comes to our loving nature.  Actually, I recently confided in a co-worker about how it felt like nothing I did for anyone mattered. I went out of my way to...|||I am type 2! I haven't read much about it but I think it's called The Helper?|||Hiiiiiii Icy :proud: It's so great to hear from you!  Thank you for your advice. I have definitely been trying to give him space. We hardly spoke to each other the past couple of days. Hopefully...|||I already feel like I'm riding the emotional roller coaster with him....and that needs to stop! I very easily pick up emotions around me and I seemed to have picked up his. People have noticed how...|||You always seem to know how to make me smile. Thanks a lot for your support.... I really can't appreciate it enough. :happy:  My internal brakes are definitely smoking right now because I'm all...|||What you said kind of stung me to the core....but it's something I needed to read. Thank you. I am planning on leaving him alone. He knows he can always come to me if he needs support.|||Well, his phone went off during our lunch break and I noticed him groaning kind of angrily each time he received a text message. I'm not so inclined on sending him a message after noticing that. :/...|||Yeah I agree...it's a lot more serious than I thought. When I spoke to him, it really seemed like he did not want to talk about anything. I knew that if I mentioned anything about how he was feeling,...|||You guys....I'm so worried about him. :sad:  It didn't seem like his mood changed at all over the weekend...  He was on his lunch break and I went ahead and sat at the table he was sitting at. It...|||Hugs!!! :proud:  Yes, I think you and my INTJ are quite similar then. Maybe it's the subtle gestures that can make someone's day a little better instead of forcing something out of them in their...|||Thank you all for the advice and support. :happy: I'm glad to know that I am approaching this the proper way!  The next day after all this happened, I was hoping he would be feeling better. I don't...|||Hi guys, it's Pinky again and I have a new question for you all.   The INTJ I have been working with has been going through something lately and I want to help him out!  He came into work and...|||Today, I had a mini breakdown at work. I won't get too much into it...but it had to deal with me having enough of interacting with rude customers on a daily basis. I ended up getting emotional and...|||I think I have been acting a lot more detached to him than normal....but I cannot bring myself to fully withdraw. I have the biggest fear that I'll lose him....that I would become just another face...|||Thank you Zuflex. I've been beginning to wonder if I was the only one who had a funny feeling about this whole thing. I have absolutely no idea where I stand in his life or how he feels about me....|||For some reason, I feel as though my INTJ has been withdrawing from me.   He has been acting the same with me for the most part though so it's hard to explain...but I can't shake the feeling that...|||Oh I wholeheartedly concur with you. These INTJs have helped me out so much with their sound advice and encouragement and I'm so glad I have them to help support me. Logical sentimentality is the...|||It seems as though there are some things being spread around my workplace regarding me and my INTJ. :frustrating:   I have asked for advice from two of my co-workers regarding the situation between...|||Thank you!!! I appreciate it. :kitteh: I don't know what got into me. It is EXTREMELY uncharacteristic of me to just call a crush out of the blue to hang out so I can tell him that I have feelings...|||Oh I am SO an expert on the subject of hugs. Do they have honorary degrees for that? :proud:|||I think I can truly say that I can see deep beneath the icy-ness. :happy: However, I can always use a little help from our healing rays. :wink: I've told my INTJ a million times before that I can see...|||Tram, I am truly appreciative for the kind words! INFPs are so nice and thoughtful. :kitteh: I consider the outcome a success too. My heart is less heavy and I've learned to not hold back so much....|||I'm glad you can feel the love and warmth in this thread too!!! :kitteh: And I hope it keeps the sadness at bay for you. I know all about broken ideals. :sad: I think one of the greatest gifts in...|||I'm speechless! Thank you so much for taking the time out to tell me something so heartwarming and supportive. It truly means a lot to me and I am smiling right now. :happy: Like I said, I could...|||Haha!! Girl, I need a drink too.... :crazy:  And tell me about it! When he reached in for a hug, I figured it was going to be one of those quick, casual ones because he was a little busy. But when...'