'I've known a couple of INTPs who have lived in Seattle, and they ended up being a bit bored by it. Kind of a homogeneous culture, and monotonous weather.|||You have a brilliant business plan. Or it could be for just INPs. :)|||I'd prefer the opposite, personally. LOL|||I'm a girl on a dating site and I'm talking to an INTP. I'm INFP. We talk about the nature of the mind, music, programming, metaphysics, science, technology, and other interesting things. His profile...|||Cool, how far away were they and are you still with them?|||INXP here, wondering if any of you INTPs have tried OKCupid. If so, did you end up meeting anyone interesting? And if so, did any of you have any sort of amazing mind-meld...|||I cringe at those lyrics too. Incredibly misogynistic.|||The mask comes off.  Yeah...for a sec.|||INFP Mating Dance:  Seek her out by accident Wonder where the moment went. She likes me back: avoid her now! Shit might get real. Oh fuck, oh wow! Sneak a glance in here and there. Shyly...|||Is this all through texting? Just call him.|||Where might those people who think INFPs are adorable be found?|||I totally relate to this. I have fantasies about going back to call Mulligans at various points in life.|||Are you asking because you were thinking of getting on Match or OKCupid or something along those lines? I have a feeling that using those sites might be a bit disheartening. You have to cultivate a...|||Me too. There's way too much pressure otherwise.|||I don't. I find the whole concept very contrived. I'm only comfortable being friends with someone before anything romantic happens.|||I had an INTJ friend and I felt that she saw me as a wimp. I don't know how mature she was, but she was a very fun person.|||I clash with them because they aren't up in their own head like we are, and they get frustrated with that. It makes them think we don't care about them since we don't notice details. :(|||I agree. But I know what you mean about INTPs. If I could get my INTP back minus his crazy...|||I just peeked at your profile cause I love your answer and it says married. What is your wife's MBTI? I'm divorced, and I never had my ex take the test but he seems like INFJ.|||As others have said, earn our trust. Don't gossip, and be empathetic, for like a year, and then maybe we'll trust you about certain things.|||I've always had this numbing out thing when it seems like a normal INFP would burst out crying instead. Some examples are being reprimanded at work or fired; being dumped; being turned down for...|||I worry that I'm always going to be the girl that looks good on paper but that for some mysterious reason that no man can explain, I'm just not the one they fall in love with. Ever.|||Is the reason you know that in the end you will hurt him because you are bisexual, not gay, and you intend on eventually marrying a woman? If that is the case then you are truly playing with his...|||My laptop.   (My cat was just here but decided it would be more fun to chase a ball across the room).|||I was comparing myself to my INFJ sister. Of the two of us, she is definitely the more social and warm. She has never gotten angry and cut someone out of her life, and I have. She's very maternal,...|||Sounds a lot like borderline personality disorder or bipolar disorder. She probably needs a friend more than anything else right now.|||Just make sure she knows you only want friendship, and if she seems to want more and you know you never will, cut her loose.|||Not all INFPs make dramatic statements about their inner darkness. Doesn't mean they don't have inner darkness, though. I hide mine and channel it appropriately through writing and therapy. This girl...|||It sounds like your ex has mental health issues. Regardless of MBTI type, if she's not getting treatment for her problems, that's likely the reason she's acting odd.  Regarding INTP/INFP...|||Bullying. Pettiness. Tattle-tales. Meddling. Gossip. Condescension.|||This is not going to go over well with her. First of all, we INFPs are very much the opposite of you INTPs. It is quite hard for us NOT to feel hurt, and the situation of showing our real self to...|||...when you feel like a raw, exposed nerve due to your emotions and you think everyone can tell how awkward and vulnerable you feel, and then someone says you appear cold and robotic.|||danniek, are you me? LOL|||I seem calm and even aloof on the surface, but inside I am super-sensitive and emo. I have a tenderness for animals that is almost excruciating, and the kind of loyalty to my friends that would make...|||Not sure how to describe this or what I can do to get over it, but I will try. Is it an attack of social anxiety? Separation anxiety? Out-of-control Fi? Codependency? Or what? I've been scapegoated...|||Oh, I thought you liked both! Well, my gay cousin tells me that guys give off certain signs that they are up for hookups, such as eye contact. Do you have any more experienced friends who can give...|||You need to flirt! I should think that with a few flirting skills under your belt you should do just fine. You seem to be an attractive, young, bi dude so you have a VERY wide playing field. Just...|||You could write an editorial for your local alt-weekly paper or start a blog post. Try joining change.org. Introverts are better at leading from the intellect rather than the podium. (Think of Noam...|||I think it's because we take relationships seriously. Introverts can be very attractive.|||I've been friends with ENFPs and in romantic relationships with them also. They have often tended to make me feel more comfortable being extroverted and mischievous. We've had a lot of common...|||Is that the INTJ slogan? :proud:|||What I've found with NT men is that if they have an intellectual connection with a woman, their physical attraction to her increases. (They have to already be somewhat attracted, though).   I've...|||I do want more than friendship with him. I feel like I've made it really obvious simply by spending so much time with him and offering to help him with things here and there. I joke around with him,...|||Then why does he say we're just friends? Why won't he make a move or define the relationship?|||That's what I was wondering. He seems shy, and has no relationship experience. He's a gentle, caring soul and would NEVER abuse anyone. He's just awkward, and sometimes tactless. We've been hanging...|||I know, but I'm wondering if he's curious for any reason other than idle curiosity. It does seem strange that he would ask me that.   Does it make a difference to know that we were out at a...|||Thanks! What should I be wary of and what kind of red flags?|||It was a confusing conversation. I don't think he believes all people are abusive even though it sounded that way. But even so I'm not sure what he was getting at.|||I disclosed to a guy friend of mine (like me, INFP) that I had left my most recent relationship because the guy turned verbally abusive.  My friend had said a couple innocent things that triggered...|||My ex-love INTP would confront me when I did that. He'd ask why I was distant if he didn't already know, and apologize for hurting me, and take me out to dinner and be nice. We INFPs appreciate that....'