'Wracking my brain and I don't think this is a MBTI thing but a more maturity level thing and can run across all 16 personality types.  Bit rude, definitely presumptuous and just plain obnoxious.  I...|||Maybe finding out his language of love (words, acts of service, quality time, touch and gifts) and doing that for him so he feels loved?  For me, romance is big and acts of service.  It's always...|||Hey Melchiz I remember you from awhile back.  Welcome to the ENFJ boards.  It's sometimes a bit quiet here...  *watches tumbleweed roll by*  But good people do pop in (like yourself!)|||I see that you have put a lot of thought to it.  If you have developed romantic feelings for her and you are 100% sure she just sees you as a friend, I would not hold my breath about changing her...|||Yeah, totally random event.  Odd day it was.  inconvenient.|||Explosion and Evacuation.|||Sounds like a wonderful teacher!  Yay for the great teachers in our lives!  It makes me think of my recent math teacher who was scary in his way, he played no games, and was rough around the edges,...|||Feel the soft fuzziness/texture of soft materials.  Inundate your senses with music and beautiful art.  Go out into the woods and be very present and aware of the sky, trees and layout of the land. ...|||These posts seem to happen a lot.  This is difficult and difficult to gauge since we are just going off on what you are saying and don't see the interactions ourselves.    My best guess would be he...|||Well, to think of him with compassion might make it less draining to you but yes, be clear on not picking up phone calls/texts after you explain why you need space.  He will have to adjust.   ...|||Ah and yes, people who say there can be friendship immediately after a breakup, not an easy thing to do.  It takes months or years to understand there is no hope of salvaging the relationship and one...|||I find INFJs don't communicate their needs well until they get to the breaking point and poof, gone and do this one-sided thing.  It is your responsibility to set up your boundaries clearly and his...|||Very social person and I seem to be the organizer of social gatherings as well.  Would not call myself the leader of my social group but I do love playing hostess and ensuring everyone has a good...|||It sounds like he is hurt.  Your needs should be met but it sounds like a one-sided break up.  You sound pretty self-righteous about it.    There is no right or wrong.  Some will judge you on this...|||The feeling of wind on your face and a cool breeze on a hot summer day.|||Wow, sounds like an emotional roller coaster.  I laughed when you said you read his diary but please don't shoot you as he was there and it was during a fight.  Yeah, lying is no good.  Where's the...|||Yes, because films are pieces of art.  We need more art in life.  It makes life that much more beautiful. :)  But to not completely derail this thread, I have been thinking of the original OP's...|||Fettuccine Alfredo.  I haven't had this in years.  It was eh, alright.|||Watching Beauty and the Beast because damnit, Disney movies make me happy when I'm in an emotional slump.|||I guess it depends on how open the person is to discussing about emotions and how close you are.  I think it depends on the person on how comfortable they are about talking about intense feelings or...|||Yes, it is exhausting to put on the pleasant social face when you are sad or angry about something.  I agree that we live in an isolating, alienating society.  It's sick.|||Thanks for the recommendation.  Oh, you know movies, not always the best representation of life but the great ones make us feel deeply about things.|||But shouting for the heck of it is all the rage now.  ;)  I just realized I need to watch more French language films.|||The stereotypes are true then?  For instance, in movies they always show the fighting French couple and then passionately kissing/making up after.    I am more for open displays of emotion, but...|||Your Mother is always with you. She's the whisper of the leaves as you walk down the street. She's the smell of certain foods you remember, flowers you pick, the fragrance of life itself. She's...|||Saw this thread in the INFJ forum.  We ENFJs need a place to mourn too.  This is the thread for you to post tributes or obituaries to lost family members, loved ones, childhood items, pets, what...|||Yes, I can see how that would be true.  Getting sucked into the moment.  Living very in the present.|||Very smart.  I would highly advise against it.  You might be satisfying sexual urges but it's just not as good as the real thing.    I think INFJ's in general don't rush into things.  ENFJs and...|||LOL.  Oh, good.  :)  I tried, oh, did I try but FWB never works out for me.  Someone usually gets attached and it gets weird or people can't do friends with benefits properly as they don't know how...|||Glad it worked out for you.  Good advice, above.|||What is this fakeness stuff?  Sometimes when you try to be agreeable, people think you're acting fake, I find, and unfortunately it's just perception, not the truth.  I identify with what you said...|||Having had casual sex and sex with someone I truly care about, sex with someone you have an emotional connection to is hands down way better.  Making love and having sex is two very different things...|||Could be better.  Started intermittent fasting.  So hungry.  Grief is a biatch too.  Sigh, life.|||Yes.  It does break my heart too that it seems we are hurtling to the destruction of the planet in the name of unattainable growth.  How people are absorbed in their consumerist, materialistic...|||recursive  You can find out your tritype by taking the enneagram test found in the index.  I find it pretty accurate.  Here is the link: Comprehensive Enneagram Quiz|||You are correct in not pursuing someone who isn't responding.  It takes two to dance.   Serious romantic and idealist and was with another NF and thought things were going great.  Tend to get ahead...|||Having experienced heart break recently too, I would like to help with what helped me through that time.  Lots of sadness, intrusive thoughts and crying.  Had a very difficult time sleeping as my...|||Hey, that's really cool.  Pretty good representation.  You have the world, harmony, peace, animals, teddy bears and religion/spirituality in there.  Just needs a rainbow and everyone holding hands. ...|||Ouch, harsh guys.    Yes, we on the vast interwebs do not know your exact situation and only hear it from your point of view.  It's safe and anonymous on a forum where you can be whoever you want...|||As an ENFJ, I don't know this testing business.  All my serious relationships were instant chemistry from the beginning and mutual attraction and interest that developed into a serious relationship. ...|||Sleep. Baking. Contentment.|||Sorry.  It sure does hurt a lot when a friend just throws you over like that.  I'm of the mind if someone is so easy to let a friendship go then they don't deserve to be in my life either.  There's...|||Most definitely.  Don't worry, you're not the only one.  Most of us are very self-absorbed in our lives, myself included.  And then as time goes on, it's almost weird to get in contact with them...|||Yes, I typed that up very late last night and realize my mistake that myelin is found in the brain as well, not just the peripheral nervous system and it is produced by oligodendrocytes instead of...|||Yes, I'm learning to be patient.  He once told me one of his super powers was patience.  Another adorable trait of his.  I thought I had gotten better with age but apparently I need a refresher...|||Duplicate|||This last part is oh-so-true too.  I was just discussing with another ENFJ how we like to lead.  (Although we are not adverse to taking a back seat either if others want to take the lead.)  I'm...|||That last part cracked me up.  You always tell it like it is, no sugar coating with you.  :)   LunaWolf, your story sounds like a friend I had in junior high/high school as well.  She was uber drama...|||_Observer_, you just gave me a brilliant piece of insight.  There was a misunderstanding leading up to this and I think it made him feel not understood as I wasn't getting his side of the story.  We...|||I laughed at this.    Note to self, don't visit Khiro's neighborhood because of the stabby feet people.  I'm like Oswin, I sleep with my feet covered unless it gets too hot then one foot sneaks...'