'Thanks to ISFJs, who are fantastic listeners and always willing to give advice that is spot on. Even when I can't word my feelings properly, they somehow seem to understand exactly what I'm feeling...|||I find conversations with mature INTPs to be enlightening. I really admire how much detailed research goes into supporting an INTP's beliefs (the definition of logic, right?) and it's refreshing to...|||Everyone has a different way of coming up with a decision. The best way that I've come up with describing it is fluid vs. static. The first group of people believe that decisions can always be...|||I wonder if making passive aggressive comments are related to how ESFJs distinctly dislike confrontation. Since it is hard for us to tell someone directly what they're doing wrong, we try to show...|||Being genuine is what I value most in other people and in myself. I really can't stand it when someone's actions and words don't match up. Being the true you requires that you face hard truths...|||Just popping in to say hello! :) Our ploy to seduce the ENTPs into wanting to seduce ESFJs has worked.|||I also agree that walking on eggshells doesn't make for a healthy relationship. ESFJ and INTJ communication difficulties are due to a misunderstanding of social boundaries. INTJs (and also INTPs)...|||Interesting perspective on the differences between ESFJs and ISFJs. I certainly agree with the last three statements, but I'm not sure exactly how I feel about the first statement. I'm very fortunate...|||Gossip is about people. ESFJs love everything related to people. It doesn't surprise me in the least that ESFJs and gossip are associated; we love talking to people, thinking about people, and making...|||Generally, making other people happy is what keeps us ESFJs happy. For example, I like cooking because it's a great way for me to gain quality time with someone; so in this particular case, I don't...|||I know I'm guilty of this on many occasions. Being emotionally driven is kind of a double-edged sword. When we're happy, we feed off of our own happiness and spread it to others, who then feed us...|||One of the things that attracted me most to my INTJ was his different perspectives on life. I find that INTJs have a very systematic (not sure if right word) way of looking at things and like to...|||Satisfying relationships as a whole require healthy people, regardless of personality types. However, I do think that ESFJ/INTJ folks inherently have a lot of big misconceptions about each other...|||But I had just finished whetting my ninja swords.|||I agree with the both of you - one of my favorite ESFJ superpowers is the ability to effortlessly understand a given situation from multiple perspectives. Empathizing with others makes it easy to...|||You've boiled it down to the essence! It's often hard for ESFJs (and any young child) to think about multiple concepts and theories at the same time, so I recommend sticking with one concept until...|||Agreed. Processing time is so important for ESFJs, since we use it to sort out our own emotions and which of them are getting in the way of us coming to a realistic solution. Also, it's not uncommon...|||I also had the hardest time learning math when I was younger (especially those fractions). For me, it was extremely helpful to have some sort of concrete demonstration. For example, I had thought...|||When I was deciding what my MBTI type was, the introvert/extrovert dichotomy was actually the easiest for me to figure out. Being social doesn't really have anything to do with it, since I've met...|||Great topic! And I loved that you broke the question down into manageable chunks!  1.) Often, the reason that the topic is too out there for me is because I don't understand the jargon being...|||I find INTPs quite interesting with a refreshing take on the world. Time to go re-type myself.|||Photos are great,  and I love printing them for actual photo albums.  (Old-fashioned, I know, but I love the thought of having my memories in a  tangible form that can withstand server crashes and...|||I'd like to expand upon what @Great_Thinker said. The best way to argue with an ESFJ is to tell us how you feel, what exactly is bothering you, and what we can do to fix it.   You don't need to...|||I'm no INTP (totally sneaking away from the tiny Harry Potter closet that is the ESFJ forums), but I'd take boredom over pain any day. As mentioned previously, pain makes it difficult to concentrate...|||There's really no justification for her to say things like this. Sure, personality type plays a role in how you think about things and you may be tempted to behave one way or another, but ultimately,...|||My drug of choice: caffeine.   But no, I'm not interested in trying any of the harder stuff.|||To continue on with the trend, I agree with the poster above me!  I don't think that she's trying to put you down for being introverted. If she really is trying to understand how everyone around...|||Reading this was déjà vu. In high school, I locked one of my friends in the car with a girl that he liked and wouldn't let him out until he asked her to go to prom with him. For me, I was getting...|||Having had multiple confrontations like this with my roommate, I absolutely agree with the things that have already been mentioned. If you continue living with A, you'll have many more scenarios...|||I agree with this. Your friend certainly sounds annoying, but it isn't strictly due to her personality type. Jealousy, competitiveness, and condescension are not traits that belong to any one...|||You're spot on about us trying to find social happiness by interacting with tons of people. As extroverts, our spirits are lifted by other people. Interacting with other folks as they go about...|||I love 'Once Upon a Time'! But I don't agree that Regina is an ESFJ. She has the hardest time understanding Snow's point of view and voicing her own feelings. Also, she has no problem with starting...|||I always thought that I was drawn to extroverts and introverts equally, but then I realized that most of my close friends are introverts! They make fantastic listeners and the introverts always see...|||Completed. Please let us know what your topic was after you've finished gathering your data!|||Without further context, it's pretty difficult for me to extrapolate why your friend is reacting the way she is.   For me, it really bothers me when I detect even a hint of insincerity in an...|||So true! I think it's pretty common for ESFJs to hold it all in because a.) they hate confrontation so much and b.) it's easier to keep stressful things inside because it doesn't disturb anyone...|||Not all ESFJs go to clubs. I'd prefer not to reek of alcohol and vomit. Not all ESFJs hang off a cliff. I'm actually quite afraid of heights. Not all ESFJs are trying to see how fast we can go. I...|||10 Quality Time 9 Words of Affirmation 7 Acts of Service 3 Physical Touch 1 Receiving Gifts  Pretty accurate for me. But I still appreciate gifts!|||I don't think ESFJs are the perfect type. I don't think any type is the perfect type. Personality typing is simply a method of describing  why a person may act the way that they do, and it takes all...|||Optometrist in training. One of the main reasons I picked optometry over the other medical fields was because of the social aspect. To really get to the root of your patient's visual problems (which...|||I always liked math much better than history (which bored me to tears). I can see how some people would hate math, especially if they think it's just memorization. But personally, once I understood...|||Talk to him about things that you're interested in, because ESFJs love hearing all about what makes other people tick. As lenabelle said, if you are yourself, I'm sure he will enjoy being around you!...|||I'd have to say ENTJ.  But before I continue with my discussion, I'd first like to mention that conflict is a natural part of any relationship and friendship, regardless of personality type. And...|||In my opinion, environmental and cultural factors play a much bigger role in determining one's stance on this topic than one's personality traits. It's true that ESFJs value tradition, but I don't...|||Very interesting, though the social responsibility questionnaire's choices were limiting. Sometimes, I would waver between the choices of important and not important. There ought to have been a...|||E. I live for other people. (Wait...you mean E isn't for exaggeration?)   But more seriously, I feel that the reason I do most things is because it helps me understand people. I like concepts...|||Hah! This has happened to me before. I've noticed that INTPs (and other types, I'm sure) will be in the middle of a conversation that is flowing along smoothly, when all of a sudden they ask a random...|||In these days of paranoia and a healthy dose of mistrust, some forms of hospitality are put off on the wayside. Gone are the days when we would accept rides from strangers or keep our front door open...|||Slugs, snails, and killing spiders (or any insects in general) that are big enough for you to feel even with a 1in wad of tissue.  And on an equally serious note (because what could be more serious...|||If I were him, I'd love to receive a quick little message. As @rd93 said, an ESFJ really can't receive too much affection. It seems like there's multiple reasons why he isn't responding as regularly...'