'i'm not ISTP but...  I think one can drive one's self crazy trying to type themselves 100%. We are all human (well, most of us are ;) ) and we should just take the obvious traits and deal with...|||haha yes.   he didn't like small talk, low tolerance of incompetence, let very few people in...etc.  yet he was very charming and engaging with those he deemed worthy.  however, he was free...|||I mistyped my ex as an INTJ when he was really an ISTP. i'm too lazy to type out why but a lot of it had to do with logic and reasoning, no emotion, independence, high IQ, etc.|||hahaha, ok ;)|||Cetanu, what did you post to me? all i see is a red x.|||lots of nice looking people here ;)|||Sorry, i wasn't very clear when I mentioned that I thought he was an INTJ. I should have said initially, haha. I pretty much had him mistyped. not that it matters ;)|||yeah, see, i've become so numb i thought i was going into some deep, dark abyss because I'm normally the type that always looks at the positive and deal with things and move on.  But I'm not that...|||thank you. :)  i was told that even if he had ZERO feelings for me, he lost a sure thing at least 3x a week, and that's gotta hurt him, even if only in the pants. HAHA  gotta have a sense of...|||He was so obsessed with me he couldn't let go of his need for new sensations here and there. :/ /end sarcasm.  He was a sex addict. I didn't really think so at first, and maybe i really wanted to...|||hahaha, you guys crack me up|||thank you for your response. :)   a synopsis of the turn of events: (warning - very long!)  started off as FWB. lines clearly drawn. lines got blurred. we spend a LOT of time together, he...|||No, I am not into mind games. This is what was so refreshing about our relationship. We could talk openly and honestly about anything, putting emotion aside. It was awesome. I'm on my phone and I'm...|||this is 100% accurate. :(|||hope you all don't mind me reviving an old thread....  so, how do you deal with heartbreak when you know (and have admitted) that it is specifically because you f*cked it all up? meaning, that...|||There is some great advice on this thread. I am currently going through the same thing, so I feel ya. ;)  I don't have any advice other than what has already been said (trying to take it all in,...|||I resisted coming here to this forum but now here I am. :unsure:  Am I going to get a headache? haha, just kidding ;)|||actually, the ex was most likely an ISTP. yup...got that only half right ;)   but yes, I have had an attraction to INTJs as well.   shit, i find anything attractive that is just NICE to me and...|||um, I think i might be an ENFP.|||:(|||this!!|||Lose the muscles and i would totally date you, then.  kidding.  anyways, you mentioned INTJ twice on the types you dated.|||thank you for my entertainment for today. i was getting seriously bored here at work.  I have to go redo my makeup now because i've been laughing to the point of tears. :)|||LOL....I love music and those words put a song into my head. that's all. that's why i said carry on...like don't mind me butting in some useless statement.  :)|||OHHHHH, i love what you did there....   carry on...|||you belong on the big screen. not on this board ;)|||Hmm...good point. But I'm pretty sure he's not attracted to me. I mean, he says all kinds of wonderful things about me and, like i said, all his friends ask what is up with us, but i do know for a...|||you're welcome :)  and no, i'm not attracted to him in the least. i'm not sure why. there are a LOT of people that ask him why we've never gotten together - we are just THAT great together :) ...|||idk, i think any person of the opposite sex who wants to spend lots of time with you is interested in you and not just a friendly way. if it's healthy, it starts off slow and friendly and builds...|||Happy about Nothing.   my ex INTJ friend was always about not being vulnerable. yet he liked to get me to open up to him. he would sit and listen, not exactly offering any kind of support, but just...|||@Happy about Nothing.   my ex INTJ friend was always about not being vulnerable. yet he liked to get me to open up to him. he would sit and listen, not exactly offering any kind of support, but...|||Interesting!! Thanks for the input ;)|||Interesting!! Thanks for the input ;)|||full of shit? care to elaborate? Just curious.  and btw,  hello, everyone....|||I've made it through the difficult part. The worst is behind me. Now just to get myself back to normal again. Whatever that is. :)|||i haven't been getting any notifications at all lately.   i just thought no one liked me anymore. ;)|||HAHAHA....you would be surprised...  eta: speaking of rock stars..does anyone think Gene Simmons is an INTJ?  and i don't even know what the hell i am anymore. i feel nothing...am nothing. haha|||when i was a child, i had been playing by ear. when i finally got lessons at age 8, i was completely frustrated having to learn everything like I was a baby. i didn't want to learn how to read music...|||I didn't know going in that the exINTJ was an INTJ but i played it by reading him a lot while i was physically in his presence. I never had to initiate any kind of contact - i let him pursue me. And...|||*perks up*   carry on...|||I believe this is EXACTLY what happened to me and the ex-INTJ.  He wanted very badly to make it work, and tried to do something he was utterly and completely incapable of doing.   and I can say the...|||i totally took your post as just that. Not saying INTJs are sleazier than others, just *insert bolded words*. and whoa, is that true.|||i understand how you would come to the conclusion that i think ALL INTJs are like him, but that's not how i feel.  if i felt that way, i wouldn't be here. :)  i'm here, at this point, to help me...|||Not sure if i should put this here or under stereotypes but I'm going to say something positive about my ex-INTJ.  I can honestly say that in the 5 months we were together, he had never ONCE said...|||Thank you for that. I really appreciate it. The hard time I am having is with myself - accepting that I made a very bad decision, and the uncertainty of if i ever meant anything to him. I don't miss...|||My ex-INTJ used to tell me that he rarely opens up to anyone (he did me) and never let's anyone in. (even though he was IN everyone else :/ )   So i guess i was speshul....he trusted me and let...|||Compromise sexual morality, and an INTJ can be the sleaziest of them all.  i'm going to cut and paste this into my brain and heart as part of my moving on process which is at a snail's pace. :/ ...|||i'm not an INTJ but I used to like to feed insects to spiders in their web to watch them weave them up. i never saw the spider actually kill the insect, just used to watch in wonder how they spun it...|||my ex-intj was a major womanizer. an INTJ with a cute face and style.    pretty damn deadly.  but he admittedly learned everything he knows from older women and some sort of manual that was...|||i only wish that my ex friend could come to the point you have. you really have come a long way. it takes a lot of strength to go back and look at your faults, realize them, understand them, and try...'