'Took my very first Yoga class the other night. A friend of a friend is getting her certification, and needed volunteer students for the class.  It was somewhere between 'there's another 1.5 hours...|||Honestly, everything you've said sounds like a perfectly normal INTJ to me. Far-forward thinking is very common for us, and to me it does seem easier to make a decision on a long-range basis that is...|||You've received several literal replies, permit me to take a different approach.  The 'one is always right/the other is always wrong' pattern is a rather common dynamic in a pairing, and it occurs...|||Explaining your own joke, or in this case, a favorite poem, sucks all the joy out of it ;-)|||Why are you dithering??? She already asked you out! Ask her if you could take her to dinner. She'll either say yes, no thank you, or she's not ready.|||Because when I'm direct, most men run.    Yes. You broke the code.|||If your haiku lasts more than 4 hours, please see your doctor.|||It's okay to do stupid stuff and be immature. It's okay to make mistakes in relationships. We've all been young and dumb, and if we live long enough, we grow up.   If I may offer a piece of advice:...|||After my grandmother died, after the funeral and what-not, after getting back to my life in another city, it took me years to go visit her grave. I sensed that if I went, I wouldn't be able to leave....|||I completely and thoroughly lack this superpower. One of many reasons I'm certain I have (mild) Asperger's. I can't read individuals to save my life.  A crowd, though.....heh <evil grin> or an...|||Nice! Latin was a long time ago for me, but I can see how much is lost in translation. In English we have to spell out most of the details of a verb tense before we even get to the meat of the verb....|||Ultimatums won't work with an INTJ. The more the mother digs in her heels, the more the INTJ will respond in kind.  Even if the ISTJ mother is absolutely right, and absolutely justified, it won't...|||Why can't I mention anyone in a post? I thought you just type the @ symbol and their name, but that doesn't seem to work.  And if I'm replying to a post, my spacebar does not work unless I start my...|||I stumbled across this the other day, it's Myers-Briggs plus a letter: A or T, assertive or turbulent.   https://www.16personalities.com/articles/our-theory  I have no idea of the research that...|||I grew up in a family of ISTJs and I married one. My elder kiddo (teenager) is most likely INTJ like I am. I think I have the background to cover this.  The general prescription for growing up INTJ...|||I'm too lost in feels and pain and life crap to form words, but I come here a couple of times a day to 'hear' my cadre of rational, intelligent people talk about their lives. It gets me out of my...|||Never get involved in a land war in Asia. But only slightly less well-known is this:  never start a debate with an ENTP. Dumb Therese.|||Yeah, I often find myself wanting to reply, esp to those who are regulars, though I check myself most of the time. But I rarely mind when someone replies or comments on my posts. I usually welcome...|||Since you originally said 'she seems kind of too dumb....', okay, I can see how perceiving these things about her can get interpreted as 'too dumb to be an INTJ'.  On the other hand, most of what...|||Saying he's 'trying out' a new management style--ugh!--it makes it sound like a science experiment and comes across as a pretty callous interpretation. (To be fair, it's an awfully bad day here, so...|||I always feel like Alice going down the rabbit hole when I go see my parents. I end up messed up in the head and don't know what is true and right. It usually takes me a few days to get back to...|||I'm curious--what does 'too dumb to be INTJ' look like? Speaking as a wise and intelligent INTJ who is capable of being obscenely dumb at times, I'm puzzled.|||sick and tired of being sick and tired. Want to scream from the rooftops but can't muster the strength.|||My sister performed as a background dancer for a couple of big names (though never at the Superbowl). Generally speaking, those folks are dripping with talent. But alas, it highlights the fickle...|||I made these last night, interesting. Going to fiddle with the recipe, it's definitely a keeper! I had everything but the applesauce and date paste, so I subbed two ripe bananas for their volume. It...|||Would you share the recipe please? I do a lot of primal/paleo baking but haven't come up with a decent brownie yet.|||I've kind of been through that, esp with the 18 different body shapes I went through in the last 15 years. :rolleyes: If you send me some pics of what you're wanting, or seeing on the rack, I can...|||On behalf of non-jerk INTJs everywhere, I thank you for responding to someone else's immature behavior with your own lovely growth. :wink:|||Soooooo jealous of you both! One of these days....|||1) He actually thought I was telling him, to his face, that I wanted his job. While being cheerful and excited.  2) He didn't give his interpretation of my words even 30 seconds of scrutiny,...|||As an INTJ, may I pipe up on this?  My very kindest, most charitable read of this guy is:  he is an extremely immature INTJ with a lot of brokenness that generates his jerk-ish behavior.  My...|||Okay, I'll bite. (Well, no, I don't really bite!) I'm an INTJ and the way you describe yourself is what really resonates with me.   Why do you feel drawn towards competing with your friend? If I...|||(thou shalt not covet thy neighbor's mentor, thou shalt not covet thy neighbor's mentor, thou shalt not covet thy neighbor's mentor)  It's not working. Eff it.|||We missed you too! I was wondering why you'd been so quiet ;-)|||Thanks for that, it helps. If he were a friend, I suppose it'd  be easier to have a live-and-let-live approach. As a mentor, the leaping without looking is hard to respect. And when it impacts my...|||Sigh. Mentor is most definitely, absolutely an ISFP, not an INFP.   25 years, thousands of hours in his presence., and so many interactions that affirmed 'INFP'.....how did I get it so wrong????...|||Are first-person narratives, with blushes, etc. okay? Asking for a friend. :tongue:|||Well, I'm off to the tattoo parlor now, gonna get that wisdom inscribed on my eyelids. Truth.|||Utterly terrifying! I suspect several of us here are secretly hoping you figure out the 'be yourself' thing earlier than we did, so you can get to the groove/flow/joy/self-satisfaction part sooner....|||Now THAT is perspective! I just shared emotions and my soul...it's not like I showed up in the bar in a towel and created a need for eye bleach.   Whew, thanks for that. Feeling much better now!|||What the what was that that I just watched???|||I think you're both right :-) And I thank you for the clarity I lacked!  It is ridiculous, full stop. lilysocks knows me well enough to know when I need a sharp smack in the face to get back to...|||Yes, that feeling of being violated by your own actions creates a dissonance that's annoying to say the least. But a Mentor generally possess that good grace you mention, I'm counting on getting a...|||Criminetly and for the love of Dog, another coin dropped in Therese's brain. Mentor may actually be an ISFP, not an INFP. I truly can't tell.  I've only known him for 25 years. I'm a little slow on...|||I expectorated my real self all over my mentor yesterday. An hour and a half in a bar (I had only one drink, so it wasn't the gin talking). Who I am, what drives me, what matters to me.   I...|||I've read through this entire thread, and I'm struck with the thought that you're pursuing the wrong goal.  I'm probably way off base, but I've been around the block, especially with regards to...|||My daughter is a tax evader.  Sitting in the pharmacy drive through....How was school today dear? I guess they're studying the American Revolution because she tells me she's a Freedom Fighter and...|||Oh that's awesome!!   Broadly speaking, you came up with what I consider the perfect gift: something useful and slightly indulgent, that shows the giver spent time thinking about me.  ...|||MIL is my Mother-in-Law. She's really quite sane, but has Parkinsons. She perseverates on ideas and doesn't respond to logic. (She used to, to some degree, unlike many of the people who usually...|||Wait what? I'm thoroughly confuddled now.'