'A have quite a several ENFJ friends...I could see that. While they're with you, they make you feel very important (and, in that moment, you are to them), so it's easy to forget that their capacity...|||When you try really hard not to feed the trolls, but feel guilty for snubbing them because trolls have hearts, too.   When your NF friends are worn out by your geek-festing and request a normal,...|||I have a lousy memory for inconsequential things most ppl consider favors, to the point of wishing others wouldn't do me any, because I never seem to keep track of tally in a socially appropriate...|||Suspicious of the motives of others rather than poised, thoughtful and insightful. Anger or insecurity clouds clarity of understanding. (This usually stems from betrayal or perceived betrayal in the...|||I have a good memory for emotionally charged situations and conversations, or situations that triggered a strong intuitive experience for me. On the other hand: names, dates, that you're allergic to...|||Pssssst: the most healing thing an STP has ever done for me as an INFJ is to distract me from the swirling vortex of emotional introspection periodically (not permanently, it's an important part of...|||Yeaaaah, taking someone on as a project is usually a really poor way to begin a relationship. You have to give her space to work it out herself, or you're setting up a dynamic she's going to...|||I still have dreams/nightmares about a horrific train wreck of a relationship I had with an INTJ in high school. I'm not even mildly attracted to him anymore, it's just that I was so ridiculously...|||no, no...I meant, that's how some Fi users seem to respond to Fe. I agree with your conclusion 100%. :wink: I was in a hurry and worded it poorly.|||Initial INFJ/ISTP attraction can be a little whirlwind-ish, partially because the ISTP is all mysterious and intriguing to the INFJ, and the ISTP finds the INFJ new and exciting.   After that wears...|||I have weird associations in my brain....  I tend to assign numbers, days of the months, months of the year, certain words, lyrics of a song a certain place in space. Like, on a 3D grid, they have...|||My Si is pretty crappy to nonexistent. It's kind of humiliating sometimes.   Could it be an enraged Fe? Come back here, dammit, and be REASONABLE? If so, that's really horrific, isn't it?...|||I'm fairly certain after years of reading/dabbling that I'm INFJ (which I realize is suspect because of the unrealistically high number of people, especially females, claiming to be INFJ, for...|||I work hard to let my I want to care for you and love you and self-disclose and weave BFF bracelets come out of the bag slowly. It's hard sometimes; an ENFJ friend and I were just talking about...|||Adding to the thoughts already here, I've noticed that my ENFJ friends tend to apply their intuition the most practically of all the NFs, at least. They're deeply intuitive, but are generally...|||I guess I'll have to break the trend...I have a really difficult time making sure communication doesn't totally break down in my attempted ISFJ relationships. We get along fine, mostly, but there's...|||Well...being that I'm INFJ, I tend to get wordy, and a lot of what I'm communicating gets lost when people's eyes glaze over. So, I was thinking doing more excerpts, like, ENPs tend to test limits...|||Dear Lord. What on earth have I done? :frustrating::blushed: I'd try to explain more, but I'm afraid it would only muff things up worse. I should probably say something witty right now, but I've got...|||Whereas, as an INFJ, I find meaning in connecting with others...it's when I feel closer to the meaning of things, or what have you. :)|||My Fi friends have mentioned Fe feeling fake to them, because it's *so* invested in the other, and that seems hinky to them. I think Fe comes off as insecure; if the Fe user would simply gain some...|||F posts are more accessible. That doesn't make them better, mind you.   I enjoyed the original post; thinking, digesting.|||I'm a hippy at heart, really. So, a definite NO to putting on airs with clothing/possessions/etc. Still, I do sometimes feel little regal or benevolent sometimes while I'm walking down the sidewalk...|||Dang it. I was worried it might come off that way. It sounded like such a good idea in my head...:frustrating: Sometimes, I hate this stupid world. Carry on.|||EDIT: aw, crap. I was asking for pics to use in a parenting ENPs how-to, but didn't think that through very well. Arg. I swear I'm not a creep! :frustrating:|||I suppose (and this is probably a function of INFJ + depression) that I have to question *everything*, because I want to know the answers, dammit. Even if it hurts. Or so I thought.   Then, today,...|||I agree that we all have our complexity. I wouldn't call myself simple, but I'm not going to pretend to have more to offer in some way than others, for sure. Other types, to me, have a simpler (more...|||I dunno. Since I don't have all the information of the universe, I might not automatically toss the idea of sacredness, but..it may not look like what I assumed before. I think it would look more...|||I think it especially hurts my heart to look at my children, who I love so much, and think that they're somehow less worthy of love or less special...or something. They're still just as wonderful to...|||I'm not sure, Nordic. I think, for me, a sense of love has come from creating perfect pictures in my head about how love should look, and it was very impersonal (read: safe), and I could put a nice...|||Ok, I'm going to preface this with the fact that I'm 7mo postpartum and probably a little fragile, so I'm not going to be able to receive any amount of harshness without it sending me into a...|||misha- watched the video this morning, and it was really timely for me right now. I was actually up at 1am last night crying (something I don't do a lot) on the phone with a friend, having an...|||Fwiw, I'm usually well aware of my own flaws...painfully aware of them, actually. I hear what you're saying, and agree with parts of it, for sure. I'm not certain, though, that I could transform my...|||So. I'm working on this in my personal life: trying to be emotionally full and confident without the need for affirmation from others, particularly the Ts in my life who have no issue constantly...|||Hence my comment about it being a personal problem...I was mostly just pointing out that bad parenting isn't type-specific.|||Whelp...you can do things the hard, intense, explosive way (marry young and then learn about yourself WHILE marrying someone else who is also just figuring out themselves) or you could do it the...|||I'm an INFJ married to an ISTP, and, yeah...that may be an individual problem thing. I'm definitely picky about how I handle problems with our kids and more sensitive to their needs/upsets/wiles than...|||Dear precious giant J 3yo...  Your mom loves the stuffing out of you, and I think you're so good and smart. However, if you throw your food on the floor once more because it doesn't meet some...|||Dear offspring's new art teacher and cashier at the grocery,   You restore my faith in random encounters with humanity. That makes my evening a lot happier. Good for you and carry on!   -fuzzy on...|||I did my own. Holy carp. The 11 Life Path is a little spooky-accurate for me. :shocked:|||I guess it would never occur to me to nitpick someone else in order to connect with them, at least not as a first line of action. I banter back with those who do it, but, generally, I find it...|||Now, I kind of do! :laughing:|||I've watched one of my ISTJ friends flirt, and it's weird flirting. She loves to point out people's factual and grammatical errors, and she always does it with a twinkle in her eye and with the best...|||April 4th. :kitteh:|||Made a bunch of phone calls I'd been putting off, enrolled one kid in dance and one in pottery classes. Even went and met their teachers to be...nice people. :proud: I've never regretted making the...|||I hate parties, and avoid them at all costs, but if I'm at one, my Fight instead of flight looks like crazy insane Fe + Se abandon. Oooh, feel this, taste this, wheeee! Let's smile together and...|||Nodding over previous posts about accepting help without strings attached. I'm horrible at the social You scratch my back, I'll scratch yours, because I'm not really sure I'll be able to dredge up...|||See, my Fe is pretty alive and kicking, so me and my ENTP daughter enjoy tickle fests and ridiculous jokes and generally shocking people for fun. She brings that out in me, and I love her for it. I...|||If you're into smut, there's better smut out there. The writing was abysmal. I rolled my eyes four times in the one page I read, and then got a headache. If I'd read the whole book, I'd probably be...|||If I can understand a behavior, I can forgive it, absolutely, and do so frequently. However, I've forgiven a lot of people who I don't have a relationship with anymore.   For instance, an ENTJ...|||Bright ocean colors. Corals, seafoam, butter yellow, clean plum purples, chocolate browns, navy blue. I like things that are either feminine-looking or with clean, simple lines. I'm not really a fan...'