Hmmm... a happy family life, children, love, change and creativity, spontaneity, working on fulfilling projects, building a career, helping others, becoming more myself every day...|||Just hanging out with my SO, laughing, cuddling.   Thank you for this thread L_Lawliet, I just realised how much he makes me happy.|||It sounds to me like you've simply hit it off with the istp guy and you might just be overthinking things! You either have chemistry with someone or you don't, and it sounds like you just don't have...|||Thank you, I do like it!|||24337 Yet another bassist here...|||Hmmm... do you snore?|||I'd spend the whole day with my soon-to-be-boyfriend. And then I'd sleep over. :cool:|||Oh, I'm so sorry to hear that... things don't always work out, but feeling love for someone is always a good thing. I know it's hard, but believe me, if you're capable of having strong feelings for...|||I know how you feel. I used to feel that way a lot a couple of years ago. There's no magical way to deal with it, but I find that focusing on the lack of a relationship isn't helpful. When you focus...|||I feel exactly the same way. It's like my achievements don't exist - others may appreciate them but I don't really give them a second thought. What consumes me is how I'm failing myself by not...|||If you exist, then your match exists too. You deserve it. Keep the faith. :-)|||OrangeAppled, your guy sounds awesome... I want one!|||Yes! Before you know it, they're in your heart and then you realise you wouldn't have it any other way :kitteh:|||I don't work in the health care system and can't imagine wanting to personally. But I definitely admire those that do. I can definitely see that there is a lot of pressure and unreasonable...|||Hi Nelle. Welcome!  I love Japan. I'm sure you'll have a great time there. :-)|||We heal the world with compassion...|||I like this...the idea of letting go...|||For me, it feels stressful because I want things to turn out a certain way. I want to be able to control the outcome...it's uncomfortable when your potential happiness (in love) is in the hands of...|||Very, very true (on both counts!)|||I think the best way to deal with this might be to slowly distance yourself from her by gradually seeing less and less of her outside of work.   Perhaps you could become really 'busy' with a new...|||I've just started seeing someone who I feel more of a deeper connection with, beyond any feelings of lust.  I'm really curious to hear how some of you (especially INFJs) know or have known in the...|||Intrigued, in love, infatuated, inspired, introspective|||I can't believe I'm finally confessing this, even if it is online! Okay...I cheated on two exams in high school. I brought in some outside material that may or may not have contributed to my good...|||Dear ENFP guy,  Today was strange. In fact, you're strange. I don't know whether you are really attracted to me, whether it's just a passing phase, whether you just are really too busy, or have too...|||Maybe you could try some good old-fashioned flirting? When you see him next, try a few of the typical flirtatious gestures, such as eye contact, little touches, teasing etc. See if he reciprocates...|||It sounds to me like this guy is bad news. You were dating a while ago, and he just cut off contact with you? And now he's all friendly again but hasn't contacted you in 10 days? I don't think the...|||ukinfj, it sounds to me like you aren't in touch with your desires. What do you want out of life? What do you like? What do you feel would make you happy? From what you've written, I can't see that...|||I personally couldn't be satisfied with only having platonic friends, as much as this is very fulfilling and important. I do think there's something different that a romantic partner provides. I'd...|||I've experienced friendships with women and men where I've felt that I completely like, adore and respect them, even love them. In this way, I understand how it can be difficult to see how this is...|||I agree. And I think that it's impossible for one person to judge another objectively. All of our opinions are subjective. One person's freedom fighter is another person's terrorist. Things are never...|||I absolutely don't believe that anyone deserves to die, no matter what they've done in their lives. I couldn't hold a gun to someone and kill them, so I can't condone the death penalty. I think that...|||I feel really humbled reading all of your experiences. Thank you for sharing with so much honesty.    I used to be the same way - I could never eat sensibly when it came to sweets. I would always...|||Without my sensitivity I would not be able to write or create the music that I do, so to me it's a vital part of who I am and I wouldn't trade it for anything.   Yes, it's difficult living in a...|||I really recommend 'Before Sunrise' and 'Before Sunset' (its sequel). They are all about the 'what-ifs' of love, missed chances and possibilities.|||I definitely analyse people's actions, motivations, intentions. I'm always trying to discover the truth behind people's facades - why they act a certain way, why they are the way they are. I think...|||Hi noctiluca. Lol, I love it! And yes, there have been many moments where people who thought they knew me have been really shocked to find these odd, subversive sides to my personality. They used to...|||I just love how similar my hobbies and preferences are to the ones already stated. It's like looking into a mirror :-0|||I think it's so important to be with a guy who is an adult - emotionally mature, experienced, independent, has integrity and a strong sense of themselves. Otherwise the relationship can become...|||It sounds like INFJ#2 did like you. For me, it's so important that I feel comfortable enough to share private details and open up, and opening up with someone is a big indicator that I like them....|||Razare, your situation sounds extremely similar to one that I was in recently. I was re-hired as a casual worker at my old job to help carry the weight of the office admin worker who was not...|||Voldemort, I think you've shown a lot of courage to write about your feelings here. I really feel for your situation - I've actually felt very similarly to you when I was younger, so you certainly...|||I do put effort into my make-up and hair whenever I leave the house (unless I'm just picking up some groceries at the local store). When I think about it, it's partly because I like to feel like I'm...|||Wheelie, sounds like you've been through a really tough time lately. I know, emotional situations like these can be so draining...hope you're holding up okay.  From my view, it seems like her...|||Oh my goodness, yes, Pan's Labyrinth made me bawl. One of those unique movies that really made my heart ache.|||I watched 'V For Vendetta' last night. It made me shed a tear.   Kriash, 'Mary and Max' definitely does it for me too!|||Thanks Waiting. Actually, this is very good advice, and what I need to hear right now. :-)|||I'd love to be able to just let it out, and it's wonderful that that approach works for you. But for me, I'm always conflicted between being authentic and being polite.   Of course I want to be my...|||Congratulations on the script! :-) That's a huge achievement! So is writing a novel and the poetry!   I really think us INFJs are too hard on ourselves most of the time. Honestly, you have to put...|||I also enjoy teaching English, and I consider my writing and music to be a service to humanity.|||I used to write a lot in high school, just some very cliched science fiction. Now I love writing, but only when I have strong inspiration to do so. I recently had a short story published in a...