'Yes, it does.  Makes sense.  And that's why SPs are so cool.  Perhaps thanks to Fe thing, it does not come naturally to me.  I seem to have a fear for missing opportunities for developing...|||Good news, then.  I am so restricted by linear process myself when something needs get done.   Assuming that he is looking back at you in the same way and is indeed an INFJ, I suppose he may be...|||Physical proximity.   Yes, I understand.  But I was not trying to get involved with her romantically.  I really enjoyed her company - again, so effortlessly - and genuinely wanted to get to know...|||Haha.  No worries.  Let's turn your sigh into another try...|||I see.  But those weird interactions have not deterred you from stop thinking about ways to reach out.  That's N in you, isn't it?  I'm imagining that women with S would simply pull back and move on....|||What is the scenario you'd like to see develop?  What is the ideal result that you'd like to have for yourself?  I would also like to know more gory details about the jealousy incident, which seems...|||There is a book (a collection of essays) called On Life After Death by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross.  Quite fitting a title for this thread.  It's very short and an easy read - highly recommended...|||This is an old post, and I don't know if you are still around, but I wonder.  I wonder if you have more insight into that question.  What drives some of us - perhaps a bit later in life - to go...|||Hum.  What I felt was more a solid affirmation about who I was as a whole.  External circumstances seemed to trigger the state, but once triggered, that state itself was no more dependent on them.  I...|||Forgot to link the post above to Frigidissimus.|||I can relate to a lot of description of the state of the mind - the flow.  I am not sure about your analysis on that, though.  Those chatters are not negative to me.  (I hope I'm speaking the...|||So that means that this state may need to be triggered by a specific task or activity in the beginning, but it can take off on its own once it reaches a certain level.  Like an airplane, then.  It...|||Thanks for the link.  Yes, there were a lot of the flow state characteristics, but it seemed slightly different.  A flow state requires an immediate task to which our awareness merges.  I may have...|||Yes, indeed - sureness or certainty, for sure! I can relate also to that it is not necessarily control.  I was happy - or profoundly peaceful - during that incident, but I can see one can be angry...|||When it is there full force, what is it like?  What in your audience usually brings it down?|||I've only had it once in my life.  Perhaps some people experience it more often.  Exact reason is hard to pinpoint, it seems, but do you see a pattern of events/thoughts leading up to the realization...|||Yes, I was!  That's what it was - complete relaxation.  But it came with keener awareness of everything - self and environment around me.  Ok, so that sounds like a state of hypnosis...  Can we...|||I really like what you said.  Let me think...  So it seems to me now that I was in a subtle state where introversion and extroversion were happening in close proximity, so to speak.  Being...|||.|||Yes, but those internal perceptions are at the mercy of external circumstances (a foreign land, pretty clothes, etc.).  When external circumstances change, the internal perceptions change also.  It's...|||And yet there is no music without silence.  What I felt was actually like my Se suddenly taking a leap and grown up.  (I guess the equivalent of this for an ENTP would be like your suddenly grown...|||What are the circumstances when that happens?|||That didn't come out right.  Not comparing ENTPs to toddlers...  (Nudists, maybe.  :P)|||Is it Si that we use for things that need to be looked after?  What you describe might have to do with that it is your inferior function, perhaps.  I think I can relate generally to that feeling of...|||I wonder if anyone has experienced something similar.  This happened once in my life.  I was at a cafe with my friend.  I do not remember what we were talking about, but it was something pleasant...|||He started a thread that counted 14 in less than a month.  At this rate, he'll reach 30 in less than 2 months.  I think we are helping him in such an Ni way.|||Yes, you are.  Yes, I am judging.    When we mature, we don't take ourselves as seriously as we did before (not meaning that we no longer do).  This is something that always requires time, and it...|||I'm restricting the use of bonding to mean the effect of sex, which psychedelicmango and I were discussing.  Nothing more.    Ne is strong with this one...  I would listen to the Ni, if I may...|||Oh yes, there is one, BUT, we don't, and will never, truly understand it.  What I've been saying is that we shouldn't even be concerned about trying to figure this out in the first place.  I am not...|||I asked for clarity.  The best way to do so is to show the implications of what you said and to give you a chance to refine (or go along with) what you are saying.  Can you discern a question from an...|||Same here.  I don't assume that all these are automatically true.  I'd like to see how something is true before committing myself to embrace it as true.  There is, however, always one step that we...|||Wasn't trying to amend my impression on you, Scarlet.Black... (Like this name, by the way.)  I saw a guy walking backwards to the edge of the pool.  I gave a shout at him, but you didn't see the...|||Oh, you just had to reach out to that equality, didn't you?  How about this; we change the very framework.  Instead of wondering who has the answer, we just focus on what is the answer?  But...|||Are you implying the following?  If both partners are virgins, they do not have a means to achieve intimacy on their own.  They need an outside help first.  One or both of them need to go and lose...|||Hum...  I think you read in too much (or not at all).  Would you still agree that if these women you refer to had a choice, you would rather see them doing something else?  If your answer is yes,...|||Man, this is tough one - tough to understand how you understood what I posted.  What are the things I haven't done?  Input?  Circumstances?  Real things?  At least with psychedelicmango's posts, what...|||I really didn't see that coming...  Please expand on that.  Would you also mind reflecting on how you used this word prostitute here.  It reveals something you believe in, doesn't it?  You seem...|||But many INFJs care about the grand idea of romance...  The psychology you and OP are talking about (overcoming the mental barriers etc.) is different in nature from some INFJs here are talking...|||Totally dismiss others and impose their own views?  Somewhere I read that often comes with this particular patch.  But hold on.  ... in fact, are you not doing exactly that, to those INFJs you accuse...|||I was not sure at first, but I think the case is quite the opposite.  He is extremely aware of his mental state, and this awareness is the best prevention against domestic abuser, etc. in making. ...|||I have my own pet books that I treasure, but I would not share them with anyone, unless I get to know the person well first.  (I suppose I am an INFJ after all.)  But how about you give it a try on...|||Who said that if we are INFJs, we have to act like counselors and protectors (in a way you imply above, which I don't know is what is really meant by those words)?  Now, I know it makes us all feel...|||If that is how you argue, then you'll have the same argument bouncing back against you.  Just imagine a group of women come out and say, We happen to enjoy sex as much as men do, if not more.  I...|||Yes, I have explored this before in various different contexts, and the following is what I have so far come to realize.  To the extent we are aware of our own image, our image is our goal and...|||Wow, I didn't see this coming...  But it simplifies things a bit.  Probably not so much for you but certainly for her.  You are already in love.  There is no room for anybody else.  And for that,...|||Well put.  And frankness works fine, if not better.  Physical attraction is a funny thing.  For many, including myself, it is critical in romance but not necessarily the essence of it, which sounds...|||You're not talking about just friendship.  You're talking about a romantic relationship.  She did not pass the line for physical attraction for your taste, but you found yourself already...|||I was once in a very similar situation.  I was single and she was married, and we got along so well.  We were both aware of something romantic underneath our interactions, which we never openly...|||And did you mean to be talking with an INFJ?  Then knowing which type you are actually conversing with might help, too.  :P  (I mean any type can offer thoughts, but you did come to an Ask an...|||Yeah, this is tough...  To me, that type of chemistry is the only thing that ever kept me up all night.  The real chemistry takes two to be generated.  I hope he'll listen to the same chemistry that...'