'Any INFJ having a relationship with a ENFP? Being the INFJ older, how this could work? This ENFP thing, that they need to try everything out before knowing what they want or like, would not be a...|||Hello dear INFPs, I'm so happy with all the answers for my post. Thank you very much. :hugs:  It's very helpful to read your answers. I love my INFP, but I'm scared to tell him that. He's still...|||Effy thank you. I think you are right (and also my guts) and I don't like the fact that I'm feeling led on... I have the feeling that he values me and WOULD LIKE TO love me, because he knows I'm...|||Sometimes i wish i was extroverted and not monogamous. But then... i like who i am. Contradictory.|||Hello again, dear INFPs  I have some questions:  1. How do you act when you love someone?  2. Are you aware of your feelings, or do you need time to process then and realise, it? How long does...|||Don't get rid of it! It's very useful for many things, you'll see... :) Just try to always have in mind that it can be different than what you think/expect.   Good luck!|||Necrosis  You are creating a whole universe inside your mind about what's happening to him and maybe the way he treated you before and is treating now is just a coincidence and has nothing to do...|||So, my cute INFP is coming back slowly. He even brought me chocolate. :tongue:   What kind of small things make you happy in a relationship? What can scare you off and make you run away?*|||RestlessCryptid   what Kirjuri said.  Also, the half-laugh, I tend to do that when I want to cry but I'm controlling it. I smile and, depending on the situation, start talking non-sense. It was...|||Rebecca.M  I really like your advice. Problem is I'm always hungry and cook for myself. Maybe it's better if I start to meet the guy after I eat ;) not a bad idea, actually...   Well, this time...|||That actually makes a lot of sense.|||What if the guy was being nice and cool and doing this things to me as well and then he changes after a while? :P     My best friend is an ENTP and I was kind of in love with him for a long time....|||hizumi   I didn't know there were other INFJs in the offline world as well :tongue:  It's like that: I start by being friendly, nice... If I really like the guy, I start to invite him over, I...|||I'm mostly talking about love relationships here.  I was thinking if - because we are so giving- we tend to attract selfish people. Or... if in our PoV everybody will look a bit selfish to us. Or,...|||Uh oh! Much better: a bunch of women screaming at the same time! :D Who's in?|||Well that's funny... My INFP date was having this kind of behaviour with me (throwing futons, crying, being a mirror, and also option b), when I was being kind to him. Hm... What's wrong with you...|||been in the exact same situation before. what's wrong with these ppl?|||I may not speak for all INFJs, so have in mind, that maybe it's different with him. But to be honest, I have this talking outbursts sometimes (not always) and if he's doing it with you, it's probably...|||Could an unhealthy INFP become manipulative (out of being afraid of loosing control in a relationship or out of jealousy, for example)?|||Let's help me make a shitty breakup (that kind when the person says they still want to be with you, but disappears) at least a bit fun?  You could start by helping me figuring out a nice plan to...|||INFJ  Been compared to: Maggie from The Walking Dead. My ex told me that mostly because of the looks, but personality fits as well. Wendy from Peter Pan. I don't know why, this is a long time and...|||:cold: Every-little-day-thing-word-said-or-left-to-be-said-hurt-as-hell    Dear INFP,   I may sound extremely silly, but I think that real love, when it happens, it happens for both parts....|||(:|||Just came back to re-read my last post and apologise for my non-native-speaker-english. :D|||When you decide as a life-philosophy to respond to verbal aggression with smile and love and that's what you call being passive-aggressive in a good way.|||sereneone  That video is brilliant, thank you very much! I've spoken to my ENFP friend about all this (also Fi, right?) and she helped me seeing the situation from another angle as well. I need to...|||I've finished an 8-year relationship after moving together with the guy to a new country. I was so worried about his feelings, that I waited for a moment where he'd realise for himself this was not...|||This is very phenomenological of you. I've done that before, but only on paper. Thanks for sharing.|||Thinking on how we're all alone together. Hi-Five!|||That's a very good insight! Thank you very much. But I've made a mistake, actually. The guy is an INFP, not INTP. As far as I remember, my T is much more developed than his. My biggest problem with...|||entheos  Your post helped me in many ways. Thank you a lot, really!   I've already talked to him about this, at least it was a start. Last time we met, I felt so disconnected, that I started to...|||I like this guy a lot and I really like the fact that he is sensitive (it's hard to find people who are more sensitive than I am). I also don't really care if he's not manly. My problem is maybe with...|||Do you often find yourself thinking about what your 'mission' on this planet might be?|||I'm dating this INFP guy since 5 months and it's very hard to access how he feels about me, specially because he is very introverted, have a hard time communicating and sometimes not self-aware of...|||Ah, ok! Now I get it. I'm still knowing how INTP works, so I can't add much to that. I see him getting passive aggressive a lot, but without telling me directly if he's upset. That stresses me a lot...|||Hm... normally I'd agree, but it just doesn't sound like him. Well... time will tell the truth. Now he's lost the opportunity to meet in person, since I'm back to where I live (in another country). :)|||I've never thought he might be sexually attracted to me. As I said before, I'm not his type. He flirts, but I guess it's his style. I had no doubts about friendzone. My original question was why is...|||If you assume since the beginning he wanted sex, right? That would also be my first assumption, but then again... We are friends since two years, he never did this type of thing and afaik, he never...|||So... what's happening with my ENTP friend, if he's arranging meetings with me and cancelling the last minute? This is not his MO at all. He's done that 3 times in the last week and i live in another...|||i had no idea, it usually helps me.|||I think it helps if a person really likes you and do the best to understand you. This way you can talk and talk. The person asks, you answer, etc. I'm just not sure if the guy is that willing to...|||chocolate!|||I got sick, I have a very fucking hard exam on friday, I have a 13 hour flight on monday, not so much time to study, my brain is not working to focus on study. I'll get a very bad note and I'm very...|||Oh, yeah! 100% ! This guilt is truly annoying. I'm having this problem lately with the guy i'm dating as well and finding the balance between being totally there for them and totally selfish is very...|||That's really nice! They say you just find the one after you stop looking, right? I love my friend, but he is not monogamic. I guess this is common in ENTPs (?). So I'm more than happy with the...|||You're lucky! I think that's exactly the biggest self-growth personal issue i'm facing now. I kinda lost hope, that I'll find someone that gets me.|||When your ENFP friend says you build up entire universes inside your head with tons of different possible outcomes to a situation. When you are afraid of exposing your TRUE feelings to your friends...|||I can't know about him, but I recently had a big conversation with an ENTP friend about a guy I'm dating. This guy was very rude to me, just because he was in a bad day and didn't even realize it....|||I'm putting myself in the conversation. :) I think I'm arriving in that point as well. I had an 8 years relationship and I thought he was the man of my life. I felt he was my best friend and the only...|||I usually create things, like songs or texts, or smth artistic, so I don't feel unproductive. :) If not, I listen to music or meditate. I feel those moments are productive as well, to give me energy...'