Top 3 in order: Physical touch, Quality time and Acts of service.|||Same here, I tend to come up as ENFJ but with a very low E. I would say I'm an introvert, an INFJ because most of my life I live in my own head a lot, daydreaming etc and unlike E who are very aware...|||God, this made me LOL.|||We get very good at creating myths about ourselves and if we take the MBTI too seriously (it is a theory btw) then we are likely to become self-fulfilling prophecies - creating the situations that...|||1. Kindness 2. Support 3. Integrity - honesty, consistency and reliable 4. Change - improvement 5. Determination|||All of this is soooo true! I only have so much energy to be divided for my family and a few close friends, and I am a solitary person. I need my space to reflect and think and make sense of...|||Thanks for this discussion. I took the MBTI again and this time came out INFJ. Usually I come up as E, but only just over. When I took the MBTI assessment by a qualified assessor, my E scale was low....|||I agree with your example a lot. There's a guy I like at the moment but it's kind of confusing, mixed signals...and I wonder whether I'm rationalizing too much as well! It's annoying. But I've been...|||Hahaha, I wouldn't hug someone I'm interested in....yet - not until I'm actually 'with' them - that it's official. The hugs given then are, of course, different to the hugs I give my friends.|||It's a movie in the making. Watch this space!|||If I sense that someone is interested in me but I'm not interested then I'll most likely to: - Avoid long conversations with them and keep it to small talk, nothing personal - Don't make so much...|||Lol, so funny :-)|||Whoopee! Yes, I definitely think there are low numbers of NF's in the UK!! Esp London - think I meet a lot of SP's and SJ's *sigh*. They don't seem to know our meaning of 'compassion' and I get...|||Hi Thanks for the list of ENFJ's - it made me smile :-) Sea cumcumber - are you in the UK? I'm in London.|||I very much doubt that a guy's flirting is down to his MBTI type - that's just stereotyping! It could be that he's just a player and that's it!|||I thought I was the only one too! I've been told that at first few meets/impression I appear stuck-up and intimidating lol. I'm a 2w1 too, and I do work hard to meet goals and am quite serious. And...|||Yep I do! I get annoyed, and then feel frustrated when they call me again and again with the same problem and they say 'I KNOW you gave me advice on this but....' And then after a while of them doing...|||That's really interesting, and helpful! Hmmm...so he may be an ESTP or ISTP, or possibly an ESFP - sometimes it seems as though he doesn't mind what the impact of his being late for lessons, and some...|||I think he's definitely an 'F' because he comes across as a warm and friendly person, although he is quite a shy person - a girl-friend at work told me that he is shy at first but then he gradually...|||I don't think I know him well enough yet. I've read up the personality types ESFP and ENFP and so far, he sounds more like an ENFP - or he could even be an ENFJ. It's quite a fine borderline!|||Thanks! He actually reminds me of another friend of mine (ENFJ) who's interested in some of the same things as this ice skating friend. But yeh I can't tell yet whether he's N or S....are there any...|||Loves Apple products, anime, a lot of things oriental (although he's caucasian). Has a goofy laugh. And when he talks about anime he looks very much like a big kid (he's in his early 30's). Likes...|||I have two male ENFJ friends and both are very outgoing. But I'm not very outgoing, I'm social and chatty but not loud - probably cos I'm low on the E scale? I prefer small groups and Intuitive type...|||To everyone's post: I feel the same and agree with the advice, help and suggestions.   The stickler is when helping people, feel happy, give some more, feel happy then at some point feel very...|||ESFP's are good at cheering people up and although they can lend a shoulder to cry on the time is limited - as in they can only take so much! It's as if they expect you to bounce back to happiness...|||Smiley and everyone - that is true. ESFP's are very funny and full of life - my sister is hilarious and is very good at making fun of herself and others. Yes they can be sooo vain but as a reminder...|||Yes I completely agree about the manipulating people etc if there is a fall out - happened to me on quite a few occasions. Bad-mouthing is what I call it - very immature. If there's a problem I...|||Ah I see, I must admit that I'm not a huge fan of small talk - it seems that I try to make small talk about general stuff but it doesn't seem to interest them and then in my head I sigh and then...|||Whoops, my title is meant to say ESFP - why don't I seem to get along with them?   Hi  Can someone please tell me why I don't seem to get along with ESFP's? I think my eldest sister is an ESFP...|||Oh golly, that seems so ages ago, I'm completely over the guy and have moved on haha. No, I think he did get the message, he just didn't have the decency or compassion or even manners to reply - and...|||Hi, the update:  He didn't reply to my text and then a few weeks later he announced on his facebook status that he's off the market hence he is making this girl exclusive, I sent him a fb message...|||I believe a lot of people look for 'good' characteristics and traits in others - the thing to be careful of though is that these good traits might not actually be present i.e. we're fooling ourselves...|||Here here, it's like these people think the world is against them and the world owes them something back, when instead they should have a bloody good hard look at themselves in the mirror.   ...|||Please ignore everything in my above post. Got some sound advice from Johnny :)|||Yeh I completely know what you mean by that. And no I won't bring myself down - I'm very good at moving on. The most will be is me feeling disappointed for 1-2 days and that's it.  Okay, I was...|||MBTI type aside, those who are very independent and don't like to ask for help is due to having perfectionistic beliefs and seeing asking for help as a sign of weakness.  Stubbornness - most likely...|||Cheers Johnny. I sent him a text to say I want to talk to him about what happened and if he wants to as well, but also asked is he willing to hear me out. That was two hours ago...will let you know...|||Since he's got some sort of phone phobia, I'm willing and happy to call him and clear the air, cos I was the one who didn't ask him directly whether he was seeing anyone. I'm thinking of calling him...|||Okay, I seem to be saturating this thread with my individual posts...  But any suggestions or advice on what I could do or not do?|||Thanks. And of course, I'm looking at him as more than just 4 letters! And at the end of the day, we all react differently to different situations. But then again as a contradiction - human behaviour...|||Yes, exactly my view and how I feel.|||Thanks everyone.   No, he hasn't done anything yet to make me feel better. I guess from his point of view he hasn't done anything wrong so why should he apologise? looking at it broadly, I said...|||Thanks Johnny, I really appreciate your advice - someone else also gave similar advice and I do understand that it is him wanting to be certain.  My response to him earlier today has caused an...|||I told him that I knew about his seeing someone and have cancelled the working together. Told him I was putting my own feelings first and doing what's best for me, and also that I don't see or talk...|||My mutual friend told me that he said it in a depressive tone. So maybe at that time he was being negative...I don't know...guess I'll never know. And I agree, I'm not worked up over it anymore....|||It really bugs me when people are too chicken to tell you. Talk about being inconsiderate and selfish....but most of all cowardice!  This guy didn't do any damage to me, but yes definitely I agree...|||Nothing is gonna happen. I found out some girl took him out on his birthday and apparently he's started dating her now. I found out through a mutual friend, he said to this friend that he's put off...|||Hi everyone  So I told him last Friday, I didn't professionalise my feelings, I just said to him that I'd begun to like him more than a friend, he was really taken aback, there was a pause and he...|||This is said in a lighthearted tone. I think you may haven't read my posts clearly. Professional reason: I work in the field where it is very similar to therapy, having any sort of 'feelings' for...|||Thanks :) I think the girl asked him out on a date.   But I understand what you mean and agree as that thought has crossed my mind. But the other way of looking at it is that I'm just expressing...