'Every relationship has challenges, but perhaps yours has too many, and perhaps this is how Mr. INTP sees things too. If you need examples, I'm talking about LDR, depression, he believes he won't have...|||Sometimes I feel peaceful, and sometimes I realize that life is so hard. But not usually at the same time.   Yes. Fantasizing helps. Also, in some cases I can change my dream. But some dreams just...|||I like to look reasonably tidy and respectable, but other than that I don't really care. I'm naturally good looking, and twice in my life I happened to look hot for a couple of years at a time (slim,...|||Yes, absolutely. I didn't even know what anthropology was until I decided to go to university and I read about the courses offered by various departments. As I read the descriptions of anthropology...|||Or, I don't answer polls because. . . . [several choices listed]|||I am very cuddly and affectionate--at home, in public, wherever--if the other person is willing. Some lovers aren't into all that, which is okay too.|||Thank you all for your responses. To clarify, I did go out of my way to offer a listening ear, hugs, visits to people's houses, or whatever seemed necessary. These were not formal things or group...|||Two weeks ago there was a fatal accident in front of our house. My ISTP boyfriend ran out to see what he could do. I called 911 and then went outside with him. A few other people came out of their...|||Where could this possibly go? At what point would you be willing to confess your feelings or act on them--today, or when he finally blabs to you about his relationship problems, or the day she moves...|||I don't think I'm that hypersensitive to rejection by people in general. I'm pretty used to it. I can be hypersensitive to being dismissed; for example, if I'm wrongly accused, or if someone else...|||I'm not a guy, and since you feel you might be in physical danger, I hesitate to give advice. Here it is anyway:  Try being a bit more friendly. Not hanging out with them, but just saying hi (or...|||I freelance now, so I don't have some of the work stresses that others might have. Also, I never had a career, so I didn't take work too seriously, although I did need to take it seriously enough...|||Commitment is important, or it can be, depending on the situation and the person. We can't predict the future, but sometimes we kind of want a plan.   A non-romantic example: My landlords put the...|||I live on a small island in Canada. At the time, I was living in another part of Canada (a different province).|||She was supposed to be privately adopted but the adoption wasn't approved in time.   I tried several times to get help, including trying to put her in foster care, but the thing about child...|||She's doing great. She is one of the sanest people I know. She's done a lot of weird and interesting things, but now she has a good job. She bought a house by herself at age 30. She has lots of...|||Yes, I live in what is basically a shack. Although the roof was repaired a couple of years ago, other parts haven't been repaired, and there has been damage from many rainy winters. We've had hot...|||My daughter is almost 37. She turned out great, after all my failures, bad temper, some things I'm even ashamed to admit. Just do what you can and don't worry too much.  As for your batteries--if...|||I hated high school: I quit on my 16th birthday and moved to the city. My new life was crazy and hard but much better than high school. I understand that you (@Kanani) don't want to drop out of...|||A corner of my house smells like cheese. Although I sometimes eat in that area, I'm sure I've never eaten cheese there. What else could smell like cheese--a rotting nut, a dead mouse? What should we...|||My friends on the Net Who I haven't met yet And probably never will  You understand me  And you want to be free And you're never run of the mill.  Sometimes you're mean You're humor's a...|||When I was much younger I was very sensitive. Now that I'm older I guess I'm still sensitive, but the difference is that I've learned to manage it better. When you're younger you still want to put...|||I am with an ISTP. So far it's very good, and I feel like I'm on my way to actually understand the term partner, which hitherto I have refused to use with regard to romantic associates.   I don't...|||Thank you all for your responses. Very helpful.  The other night there was a bad accident in front of our house. Although ISTP was by far the youngest person on the scene, he knew exactly what to...|||I never had any clothing sense, so I guess I looked like this for many years, even when I was supposed to be well dressed for work, etc. I have always worn a lot of black, just to simplify things. A...|||Great responses so far.  I don't really forgive. If someone offends me, I don't want to be friends with them. But sometimes they remain in my life because they're neighbors or whatever. In such...|||Our local hardware store is owned by gay guys. They have a nice cafe in there. The store and the cafe have names, but nobody uses the names--it's just I was having a croissant at the hardware, etc....|||Lying is more hurtful than anything.|||Maybe this is the kind of stereotyping you don't want. But anyway. . . .  I was pondering the differences when I was trying to help my friend figure out her ENTP son. I told her I am a lot like...|||I understand about the he is the man thing. But it won't work in this case. You have to do something. Invite him for a coffee or something.|||The other responses are right on.   Usually something happens that offends/bothers/inconveniences me, and I walk away because I hate confrontation and I can get along just fine without the...|||Wait till you get old. Then everything is a challenge. Woo hoo!|||Flagging:  708658  Human flag (seems like a guy-appropriate hobby):  708666   Also, look up planking on Google Images.|||Me neither. When people suggest any kind of art or craft (anything smaller than, say, building a table), I aaaaaaah!  I like hula hooping and flagging to loud music. Also hiking/hanging out in...|||People with dating questions often say this. I don't see why it would ruin the friendship. You aren't attacking him physically or crying or trying to manipulate him, so why would he be upset? Just...|||Yes, sometimes you have to just do.   I know what you mean. I had to do a collage for a self-development thing once, and I thought, ew, yuk. But in fact it turned out really great. (However, it...|||Although I am INTP, I scored very close to the border on the P-J continuum (I think I was 1% P).  My boyfriend is ISTP. He changes his mind a lot, and it drives me nuts, because I plan around what...|||INTP female here.   Yes, it's possible. Ask him.|||It means he doesn't hate you. Sounds like he's a bit confused too. Maybe he wants to be friends. If you had sex in the past, maybe he wanted to have sex but then decided not to.   If you want to be...|||I get some flak for this, but mostly I keep a low profile so most people don't know or care whether I care. But yes, people who are close to me sometimes think I'm uncaring. I think it has been a...|||Overeat.|||Fee fi fo fum Red herring in my egg foo yung.|||Yes, I do it a lot.|||I don't know how much of what I have to say is INTP perspective and how much is just me. . . .  Personally I am never friends with exes. Usually I never see them again and never want to. With some...|||Great advice! Sometimes when I'm afraid to say something, I just pretend I'm someone else--someone who would say such a thing. Then after I've said it, whatever comes next comes next. Good luck!|||What's wrong with Songs unsung? It follows the great tradition of Wrongs undone, Bongs unbunged, and Schlongs unhung.  And for you dog owners. . . . Kongs unflung.|||I'm finding this thread very interesting. I'm an editor, and I can see what's wrong with a writer's logic, consistency, means of expression, etc., etc. But I do admire those writers for being able to...|||Hint: The fact that it's a wrench is important.|||I tend to be very slow, until I really learn the job and the entire system (or work out my own system). Then I can go really fast.  However, in my current work (editing) I haven't picked up speed...|||Like @Salmon, I don't remember the details that led to the conclusion. If I know I'm going to be quizzed later, I will remember. But if something just comes up in conversation later, then you'll just...'