'What are your feelings on the matter?  :p[/QUOTE]  I'm not sure if there's a difference, I guess. Or if one is really all that bad.|||How do you know whether you've matured and have control over your emotions, or whether you've sufficiently dulled them?|||I adore this! Words of wisdom she speaks.|||This is interesting now. If I understand correctly, it's not that you're asking if ENFJs are prone to trauma, but if they have trouble letting go of it and allowing themselves to heal and move on. I...|||Hiya. How's everyone doing??|||I should really stop getting my hopes up.|||I usually raid this thread with all my negative feelings. But today, I'm doing pretty okay. Hating my monotonous job responsibilities for today, but it's not getting to me. All is well at this moment...|||@john.thomas Along the lines of what @Senshu_Ben_Gone is saying, don't limit yourself. I always thought of myself as the supporter in social situations, but in reality, I don't like it there. I want...|||@EminentFate My statement wasn't meant as an attack either FYI. I comment on a lot of posts so I didn't know I'd responded to one of yours before. I have a pretty strong belief that people (I'm not...|||Ah but we should be careful not to hide behind our type. Not to say that we don't all wear masks at some point, I just don't think there's one ENFJ mask.|||Um, I shouldn't be feeling like this on a daily basis. It should not be something I come to expect every day between 8-10 pm.|||Well change terrifies me sometimes but I also crave it and stagnancy also terrifies me sooo yes. Yes I think I will!|||The only constant is change.|||Yeah it's nothing new. So I've got the time thing covered but that patience thing I'm not so good at. My fear is that now it's kind of permanent. I need something to shake me up.|||I guess I just feel really trapped with my life. Nothing seems to really go the way I want it to, and I don't feel equipped to do anything about it. Self-fulfilling prophecy, I know. What I don't...|||Lol I didn't need your response to be anything, other than genuine and honest. I don't need your response to be shaped by what you think my needs are (although I know I do the same thing all the time...|||Walking helps because you use both sides of your brain (to control both feet) so whatever ruminating thoughts you have get broken up because those nerve firings are now being redirected and...|||Do you get it often? If I can ask...|||Ahh. Except it's not located to a sphere, it's just spreading. I'm sure it'll pass. Right?|||Other spheres of discontent? What was my current one?|||As an aside, while the pain is becoming less poignant it's becoming more broad? I don't know how to explain it. Is that just a phase?|||Oh, sorry about that. The drama had died down by that point and I didn't really want to talk about it any more. Thanks for the support though.|||Yeah it's okay. I did what I needed to do. I found a distraction. My friends weren't that much of a help. Nobody really checked in on me after the initial oh are you okay?? So someone from okc...|||Maybe it's time to identify some of those hopes and dreams and go for it. There's no reason not to shoot for the stars; being a little foolish and shooting towards those dreams is what keeps us going.|||Do any of you associate sharing feelings with intimacy? It feels so wrong to share my feelings with someone I don't know all that well. It almost bastardizes and takes away it's significance to me....|||Thanks, all. I just have limited coping skills. I'm right now terrified of being lonely - that's my biggest concern. I'm realizing how much time I devoted to him and I feel like that empty time is a...|||I'm afraid that I'm going to lose a lot of joy and happiness for things that I shared with him. I have a tendency to associate things with a person, so once the person is gone, the feeling for things...|||Nope. ENTJ or something. He's not inconsistent though, which is why this is so weird. Something's going on. And I dunno, I always see 2 sides of the story, so I know why he might be acting this way....|||I just don't get how someone can one day be talking about what birthday present they want to get me, and then the next week ignore me completely. This wasn't a short term thing. It had its issues,...|||Oh but it's not a choice. I'm not talking about vulnerability with another person. I'm talking about the inability to hold up emotionally. Everything affects me.|||I wish I was stronger and tougher. But I'm just this sensitive thing that doesn't fit in with who I want to be.|||Seeker, you are so damn nice. I just want you to know I respect and appreciate that in you.   As for my post, I was more introspecting. Was just something I noticed in myself. I can say oh I'll be...|||Call me masochistic but I totally have a thing for ENTJs.|||I think there's something wrong with me. I thought that it was just situational but it seems to follow me in a number of situations. It's not debilitating but it affects me. I also thought that it...|||In one of my classes we took the official MBTI and we were discussing the value of testing and what the pros and cons were. And I mentioned a con that it can be affected by our mental state so we...|||To answer your question though niffer , yes. I've had that experience a number of times and it's hard to know when you're over-emotionally burdening someone, or when they just aren't the right fit...|||I think that as feeling types, our emotions are quite strong, and if we're not comfortable with them or we weren't taught how to express them properly, they become kind of frightening and it feels...|||All of the above. Hold it back in public. Emotional sniveling mess. NOT graceful. I try to hold it back because I know it'll be all over once I let it go.   Movies, moving articles, TED talks,...|||webnek you are handy! That looks awesome though. I also love those mirrors.|||Definitely Seeker . Repression and suppression is just nonsense. It's useless and it pissed me off that my dad would do that to me. To him, he still thinks it was a worthy cause, but I just think...|||Mmm I hate that. Anything you want to talk through?|||Agree with pretty much all of the above.   But to be honest I didn't read all of it lol so apologies if I repeat.   I (we?) have been trained to not express ourselves or for whatever reason we...|||I am SOOO sick of not being able to actually live in my damn apartment.|||Murphy's Law wtf plz gtfo of my lifeeee 4eva.   Seriously though, it does get tiring...|||Eggsies   doyly?|||I never live in black and white, and I probably should a bit more. Glad it worked out though. I think each individual friendship is what you make it. Some have different flavors and as long as you...|||Good luck!  ps why would they be out of the building by 9 am?|||Synchronous?|||Darth Alpha How do you view the ENTJ-ENFJ dynamic?|||Agree with so much of this. Pretty much all of it. It totally depends on the nature of the debate and the person I'm debating. I need to feel listened to and understood. Online debates are extremely...'