'Question- If you are familiar with the Enneagram, what would you think I would be? I have been doing some testing and found this quite interesting... but my results varied.... but I did end up with...|||P.S. Who I am as a person and who HE is a person. Again it isn't as complex to him.|||UGH.. My Brain hurts today. I suggest self-help books- his answer is I don't read. I am sure he would as he does when I send him something, but he doesn't read with the pure interest in learning. He...|||Actually, MBTI is what is bringing us back together. I had shut him out completely before looking into this. I knew we didn't understand each other and were at a mute point. I completely gave up,...|||It didn't happen :/ Really my fault because I didn't set it up. We were constantly doing things and didn't have enough time.    I didn't press the issue. I don't think he is ready. I am taking a...|||Thanks for your answers. I was genuinely interested. Really just comparing myself and relationship; as well as, learning more and more about you all!|||Quick Question-   ISTJ and myself are going to start,together, every Sunday looking over Typing.   Tomorrow will be the first, 'self-medicated', session. :)   ISTJ's- Where do I start? I don't...|||Hello Everyone!   I was just curious. How are your all's reltionships on average. (Of course I have my own presumptions, but I wanted to hear it from you) If you haven't already read previous...|||That wasn't my intent at all. Another misunderstanding, alls well, I'm not too great at explaining my point of view anyway.   Should have known better.    Thanks for your alls input on the...|||Someone told me it was little j vs. capitalized. So now, I know there is a difference. ISTJ, ISTJ. Thanks for your help!|||No I typed him myself. I didn't take a test, I read all about Cognitive Theory and this is what I came up with. Then I started reading through the forums and was able to back up, my anaysis, per say....|||Someone yelled at me (not literally) for it. I don't know. All I know is after reading reading and more reading this Forum is exactly how he is. (obviously everyone is different) but personality...|||You guys really make me smile alot!!! You both are absolutely right.|||But you are my counselor! :)   Who what when where how, okay... got it. At least now I have a format to go by. I have to go but will be back on later or tomorrow. Thanks so much!!   P.S. How do...|||Sorry Niss- End of day rambling still at work and I have been CRAZY busy. Hopefully you can decipher what I meant. I'm sorry didn't want you to read my mind LOL:laughing:|||Well that was really helpful, honestly. At first when I began reading, I was thnking you still didn't understand, but I guess you do. After the examples. Why does he not think of these things? I have...|||Well, sometimes - when arguing, there is more than 1 truth that both individuals may be debating seperately. It's the knowledge of these that may allow you to see that there may not be a right or...|||Lol so there's different levels of stereotyping? You all are so funny!    Someone once told me:  A drug, is a drug, is a drug. Doesn't matter the type.   Or- A lie is a lie is a lie. lol   A...|||We have 'super powers'|||Bubba: Anyway, like I was sayin', shrimp is the fruit of the sea. You can barbecue it, boil it, broil it, bake it, saute it. Dey's uh, shrimp-kabobs, shrimp creole, shrimp gumbo. Pan fried, deep...|||Another ISTj Trait I have witnessed. Maybe from more of an abstract sense- But  You all have never completely switched a situation around were You were not Wrong, and the other person was?|||And ISTj's don't stereotype? Already have their mind made up on something or someone that they may not even know? Or have looked at it from different perspectives?  Sorry, I know an ISTj and he...|||Okay, you guys are not understanding what I want and don't want.   1. I want to be able to be more clear and precise (when I specifically want him to do something)   2. I don't want to play mind...|||Ahaha Its so funny, I must say. I have been lucky enough to witness this happen.|||How do you think I got this far? Google Baby!! I love google and wiki :)  @ Niss- Keys-  Yes it is a ENFP thing. I am the only person I know who could truly 'lose their head if it wasn't attached'...|||lol I constantly tell people my motto: google it!|||I completely understand where you both are coming from, and I understand the 'mind reading' issue too. I guess I am being stubborn on this particular instance because I know what I have said that was...|||I like to call it our super powers ;)|||Welcome!  :crazy: How many books have you written? I love to read! Website?|||[QUOTE=niss63;759952]Don't stop reading, just yet. There are several threads with many, many posts related to this topic in these forums. This relationship pairing is fraught with great difficulty...|||I know... I went on a tangent!! Im excited and tired. I will respond more ISTj-like Tomorrow :) But don't stop you all have helped me so much!!   I did re-read it and was like.. Oh Lord!...|||Thanks!   Well that's a new ideal I've never heard.|||P.P.S---   Sorry for all the grammatical errors. I am really tired and OBVIOUSLY English Class was not my favorite. I am a Science Noob.|||Hi Everyone! Thanks for the feedback! All of it has been very enlightening. I am understanding more and more. As I go through and re-read certain responses, I will specifically ask any questions. I...|||Oooo Okk! I am trying to be more careful, but somehow always miss something!!|||She isn't out of your reach.. you just need to extend beyond your comfort zone to touch her.   It makes me sad too, buddy. But here's some optimism, at least you recognize and feel the emotion :) ...|||One on one and PDA. What struck me as so odd, was 3 years ago I told him I wasn't overly affectionate esp. in public. I am still that way, but damn a woman needs some type touchy, feely. I all about...|||referring to one of our senses touch or feel.|||LOL I love it! It sounds like my ISTj so much... his form of affection to my dog (which they have some bond I can't explain, considering, I let her sleep with me when he isn't there haha) Is letting...|||Well that was very enlightening. The first few I do remember reading through. It's nice to get others perspectives on how this difficult combination will or won't work.   I can definitely relate...|||Thank You All for your responses. I genuinely appreciate any insight.   Thank You Niss for at least letting me know, there is hope. I will be researching thoroughly and will get back to you soon!! ...|||I just have so many questions; it seems endless. Thank you for your input.   Do you think it will be more beneficial, asking for advice, on the particular things I want to strengthen, in the...|||As simple as an ENFP girlfriend can make it. Please try to oversee the errors. ISTJ's   My bf and I have been on a rough patch from the beginning, 3 years now.  *(Insight- He would never agree to...|||I figured it out, after reading and reading and learning the cog. functions he is 100% ISTJ. Your thoughts on how you think this may or may not work?|||He is an ISTJ allllll the way!! Any suggestions here?? Wow, we are soooo not made for eachother but I can say I think he admires my natural  intuition (intelligence to him) and optimism.   HELP|||Thanks so much!!! This is the best advice yet, and funny enough thats where I originally put him. He is exactly the way you just explained, but does understand but I know he doesn't at times. I am...|||I have posted multiple things and I am completely confused about typing my Boyfriend. As an ENFP I thought I already had him categorized, but then he took the test and it was no where CLOSE. (Tested...|||See there are many similarities. Like he is genuinely happy. Nothing really gets to him, Im the one with all the issues it seems. Well thanks anyways for your input!!|||See I am driving myself crazy with this because on one hand he resembles alot of the characteristics and just lacks communication and affection with ME. Around others and friends he is completely...|||See now this is were I am confused, because most I hear is cuddly, but My bf tested as ENFJ and is NOT affectionate what so ever. He has a hard time petting my freakin dog for God's sakes.   He...'