'Here's where I think the problem is. It seems that you see just going to school, getting a job, and having a family as being boring, shallow, and perhaps beneath your ambitions or perhaps your...|||I've been programming professionally for 15 years and I own a small software firm. When I write code, I'm using T for sure, but when I design systems, I'm using N and F. Being able to design GUI, and...|||You are much too kind! I am doing well, thank you. I hope you are too.  :happy:|||hahahaha!!!|||Paneity - the state of being bread.  Or in some contexts, of merely being bread.|||Violin / Piano / Bass|||LOL    It's not materialistic to buy simple things that make you happy or bring you comfort.  It's materialistic to buy things in hopes that they will (but which never do) or just to impress...|||Yes!  I think that most of us do.  It's a trait (we have high standards). But in your case, despite your worries, you were still able to pass your exams and get your advanced degree (after getting a...|||You are not a doormat. Those companies policies and the way their people handle their customers is deliberately designed to be intimidating just so most honest people who don't like conflict will...|||Agree.  Slightly cynical realist who would really, really like to be an optimist, but also one who values empirical evidence.  Sigh.|||Yes I think it's a great combination, but of course, so much depends on the individuals involved and their expectations.  If you can accept him just as he is and not wish he were something else at...|||I used to find this difficult when I was younger but it gradually became easier as time went by and I gained experience, wisdom and confidence.  I think that the reason many (most?) young INFJ males...|||I'm from Toronto, Canada, but now live in Liverpool, UK.|||I'm very introverted but for me, this is a choice and not due to shyness.  When I'm around people I like I can be the most talkative and extroverted person in the room.  But I get bored easily and...|||Well I'm a type 4 so I always prefer to be different and stand out.  Having said that, I can more or less fit in with the crowd when I need to.|||Depends on the context.  I love INFJs, INFPs, and INTJs - most of my favourite people are of these types but that doesn't mean I don't like people of other types, I just don't know them as well.|||No.  No one is obligated to allow anyone who causes them pain to remain in their lives, no matter who they are or what the relationship.  In my opinion, respect is earned and there is no free...|||Both my ex-in-laws did everything they could to poison my marriage for their own small-minded, parochial, and tribal reasons.  And in the end they were a significant reason why we didn't last.  I...|||Yes I can completely relate.  I feel like it's my natural calling and the only thing I would gladly do for free because I love it so much.  I also get impatient with my ES-type friends because, as...|||Nice work Dale - and most of that was poems, that is quite an accomplishment!|||Tell him.  Seriously.  (And give him the letters).|||There's nothing I HATE more than being ignored. You can tell me to leave you alone, you can tell me to fuck off, I'll forgive you and move on.  But ignore me and you've made yourself an enemy.  I'm...|||It's because you have different values than they do.  And one of the reasons I like you is because I agree with your values.  I'm sure that you like your skinny friends for reasons other than their...|||Agreed.  I find that the woe is me mentality is used to justify two things - taking the easier route of doing nothing about your problems, and being mean to people.  Neither one of these things...|||That makes me a little sad because you're one of the nicest and most awesome people I know.  If you're a freak than so am I.  (Of course, that is possible, lol)|||I think this is one of the best pieces you've ever posted on here Dale!  It has a really nice flow to it.|||Good explanation Michael, thanks.  I understand what you mean.  I know it isn't easy and it doesn't sound to me like you've actually given up - it sounds more like you are just discouraged.  I hope...|||See, this is the type of thing I was talking about - thank you for this example.  But I want to suggest to both of you that everyone is worthy of love and can find it but you need to change your...|||A few pics from this summer...  https://lh4.googleusercontent.com/-u0-1vccOf7Q/TgeIG31pQHI/AAAAAAAAANI/bKWp5ajj-MQ/s512/0621011345c.jpg ...|||A doormat?????  Where did you get that from?  You think that serving others makes you a doormat?  On the contrary, it makes you magnanimous.|||That's what I thought too.  Reaching out.  Zomboy - I wonder if the reason you hate people is because they don't understand and appreciate you.  I'm talking from personal experience because I also...|||Bravo!!! I was going to say something along those lines but you did it better.  The idea that things were better in the good old days is complete BULLSHIT.  My advice to you is very simple, so...|||Ahhahahaha!!! LMFAO!  Bravo.      I feel exactly the same way as Arclight here - very well said!  There is not much I want to add to it, except that I do make an effort to be kind,...|||Well said!  But I want to say again that in my experience, a lot of women will give men they are interested in signals that say please approach me - so in that sense they often take the first...|||This type of thing happens to me all the time too.  There are relatively few people in my world that bother to communicate the little things that can make such a big difference.  Making a quick call,...|||Wow Jaws, both incredibly clever and kind of beautiful at the same time.  That's quite some little paragraph!  (And yes, I did read the original...very impressive!)|||Most INFJs do this but there are so many self-centered people in the world who just don't think of others.  Keep one thing in mind though, if someone thanks you for doing what you simply consider...|||I have made a conscious effort to really develop my intuition and I have gotten even better at reading people than I was before.  I agree with the OP that sometimes sharing those views can be unwise...|||Well at least you can vent about it here.  :wink:|||Really sounds like you need to get your own place.  I understand this situation intimately - it can drive you mad.|||It's obviously a very sensitive issue for some people.    Normal???  I don't think so.  The combination you are talking about is rather rare.  Certainly not normal.|||Congrats dude...|||Congrats on hitting 6500.  That's a LOT of posts...|||The Chainsaw Opera  Vivacious strains from Verdi’s brains imbue the woods with the saturated sounds of La traviata, and the spirit  of young Violetta dances among the pines, who mime her like...|||First of all, you come across to me as being very upbeat and positive and I think those are attractive traits.  But this last part here I think you may be worried about nothing.  It's not necessary,...|||Hokahey - you are completely misunderstanding me.  This has nothing to do with gender roles.  It has to do with showing the person you care about that they are desired.  It's about showing the person...|||I was very hesitant to post this here, but wtf...  Love Seeps  Open your eyes, sweet angel, the doors are opening and you can walk through.  Let the butterflies fly from your lips and the pink...|||This is awesome!|||I disagree, but in any case, if what you're doing is working for you then cool.  If not, you might have to consider that this is the way things are.  Creating interest doesn't mean you have to be...|||Dude!  You da man!'