'Because they're our soul mates.  Whether they believe in soul mates or not.  *headdesk*|||I hate how the walls are so thin in this place.    It means that I can't cry.     Also, Pseudolonewolf, sorry if you didn't want any response, but just as some encouragement:  You are yet young,...|||:sad::crying::frustrating: All the crying faces. All the stress.  Why is living in the world so difficult?  And why am I always the one doing one thousand and two things at the same time?  ...|||Ohmygosh CANNOT HANDLE THAT.|||When someone finally gets you without you saying anything, and you are just like OHMYGOODNESS IT FEELS SO GOOD TO BE UNDERSTOOD.  I LOVE YOU, YOU SMART PERSON.  And then you go cry sweet tears...|||When you see a miscommunication occurring (because people are not interpreting each other's body language, inflection, etc.. accurately) but are so tired from all the other things like this you have...|||Depends on what age group we're talking. Under 20, more than two years seems like a huge gulf. After the infj is 20/21 and especially after she's out of college, I would say approx. five years max...|||It's entirely possible I would continue a friendship and correspondence in that situation. When I have frienships, they are deep and lasting, and I put a lot of energy into them. And I would consider...|||:bored: I feel like I would probably just die. If I really loved the person--warning: this will probably make zero sense--I think I might forgive immediately but never get over it. Maybe. I'm...|||Really? An ENTP would find my sporadic behavior *entertaining*? And my emotional commitment issues *intriguing*?   Dang, get me one of those.|||Thanks.  And :sad: I'm sorry to hear that.|||Fe is swooping down upon me... Just wanted to say that I agree it doesn't make sense to claim that INFJ's wouldn't make good authors (maybe conflicted authors--see Samuel Johnson--but aren't we...|||^^Agreeing with Tatl33 about INFJ authors.  Our empathetic capacities, our ability to see many different outcomes, and the qualities that get us dubbed visionaries are all nicely tailored to...|||When you get embarassingly tongue-tied when you're playing the extrovert and trying to talk too fast.    (I just realized that when I trip over my words it is probably usually because I'm talking...|||Well, then, it's a good thing I'm an INFJ who doesn't do this.  I react *just* as strongly to manipulation as you do above.  I am not exaggerating when I say that I have come close to being...|||I confess that I am REALLY not into confessions.  At least not confessions to other people.  I like things locked up nice and tight, thank you.|||When you're coming to terms with the fact that you're coming to terms with the fact that you're never really going to come to terms with it.  -_-|||And this is one of the many reasons why we love you.|||My inner life is soooooooooOOoooOOoOoOOOOoooo complicated.  It's not easy...|||Rationally, I know the idea of no one ever being able to love me is ridiculous. And I also think I would make an excellent life partner, an excellent wife, for the right person.   I do worry,...|||lol|||Lol YES.... Love is a serious, frightening, overwhelmingly beautiful thing.  Be good to her.|||THANK YOU!!!!!  Now I can go to sleep tonight without refugee's comment competely crushing my soul..........|||Uploader issues....|||I suck at this too.  It's not so much that I lack ideas as that I am--no matter how hard I fight against it--one of the shiest people I know.  And that especially comes to the surface when I'm...|||AHHHHH people who pose as fighting against racism, then are racist.    People who say they support women's liberation, but contribute to a culture that expects us to sleep around if we want to be...|||Until the time is right sounds like A) she is waiting to decide if she really likes you before she kisses you, or B) she has some very romantic notions about the first kiss.  (Which I find...|||Obviously I don't know these people and could be confused, so keep that in mind, but this does not sound good to me. I think he should get out of this situation. If the woman wants a romantic...|||Congratulations on catching an INFJ. I think it's something we consider to be pretty important, momentous, etc... even if we know in our heads that first kisses almost always are not good....|||You actually wear socks?|||Absolutely. I feel SO bad for them. And then depending on how pathetic they are I usually either give them the cold shoulder (which I think is very different from what you're describing, jmmm) in an...|||CHARISMA.  You have it or you don't.|||I would have to first ask: how sure are you that he's an INFJ? If he really is an INFJ, then I would tell you that it is going to be hard for you both and you should probably keep the relationship as...|||The short answer: yes. Absolutely. I did this two days ago. An INFJ (at least, the kind of INFJ I am) really might actively ignore someone, even if they had only good feelings towards that person....|||Because you're an IXFJ.  And they're hopelessly charming.|||YES.  The constant struggle.|||Houseguests are STRESSFUL.|||Why must time exist?|||Wow.  I was just judged, by someone who knew almost nothing and assumed almost everything about the thing they were judging.  THANK YOU FOR THAT.   NOT.  angerangerangerangerrrrrrr|||Sometimes people literally have to tell me:  You are exhausted.  CLOSE YOUR EYES.|||You know you're an INFJ when you're tired to death but instead of sleeping you've got your eyes wide open, giving the world a blank stare, willing your subconscious to spit out solutions to problems...|||And when you're misunderstood.|||Dear EXTP boy,   I wish I had smiled when you begged me to smile.    I wish I had spoken when you said hello.    I wish I could thank you for saving me.    I wish I wasn't so infuriatingly...|||**crying inside**|||Number one guilty pleasure:  Daydreaming.  Sometimes I worry about the extent to which I live in fantasy land.|||I get mistaken for an extrovert in small-group situations with people I feel comfortable with.  Mostly because I work really hard to make sure everyone in the group is happy, comfortable, etc... Even...|||When you are at once too delicate to cope with the world and too strong to give in to it.     When slamming the door on someone feels a lot less like slamming a door, and a lot more like...|||:sad:|||Yeah... It can get really exhausting to always be the one with the highest emotional intelligence in the room.  Good luck with all that.    And as I understand it, the proverbial doorslamming...|||Haha yes...I have definitely done this.  And while I have also observed and appreciated the reactions of the people I was protecting and the other witnesses, it's really neat to hear an account of...'