'For me it is not about not forgiving or not using the golden rule. Someone is only doorslammed after repeated incidents of the same bad behavior. It would be quite stupid to not realize that the...|||I think it is easy to spot fellow INFJs if I interact with them in some way. I notice they are polite and agreeable and smart.|||))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))|||I agree with this. This is my safe haven where I go to be understood because I am so misunderstood everywhere else in my life.|||I only like to have deep relationships. Don't tell me that I need to have more (shallow) friendships because that is not me.|||You know you are an INFJ when sensors correct you on specifics and act like you are an idiot when in reality you know that they do not get it - that they are not seeing the big picture.|||I just finished reading Nice Girls Just Don't Get It by Lois P. Frankel. In this book the author also suggested reading Brag! The Art of Tooting Your Own Horn Without Blowing It, Crucial...|||Thanks for your opinion. I do value it because you seem like a caring person. I appreciate that you did some soul searching because that shows a lot of character. Perhaps my friend is an unhealthy...|||I don't know. I was hurt, puzzled and shocked by it because I have always considered her a good friend and I never shut her out. Perhaps she was actually saying that she found other friends to...|||This thread is also relevant to me. I know this ENFP friend who is so confusing to me. First, she says she wants to catch up at a restaurant. I meet her there and she proceeds to point blank tell...|||Sure, you don't have any family members that have dominant intuition. However, I wouldn't say that you have no intuition in your family because ISFPs have introverted intuition as their terietary...|||I had to laugh at her intro because I could relate so much. My family members are all pretty much introverted so when we go camping we are sitting around the campfire with our noses in our books...|||The only e-mail I have saved had real emotional significance to me.  I knew I was going to doorslam a friend and I knew that was my last communication ever with that person.  The reason I saved the...|||I am married to an ISFP. He says I am emotionally very needy but that he doesn't mind. I agree that I am emotionally very needy. What I love about my husband is that he is a GREAT listener when I...|||When you hold back telling your boss something about your life or what you are thinking because you don't want to be forever stereotyped.|||Melancholy music|||I can definitely relate to your mom's behavior.  My dad is an INTP and my mom is an ISFJ. They clash a lot and it seems to be getting worse.  My two sisters are ISTJ and ESFP. My brothers are...|||I am truly stumped. Perhaps people in the ENFP forum would have some good advice about this?|||I personally don't think ENFPs and INFJs are a good match.  There is a great discussion about this at (E?)NFP's and relationships, commitment, and stability.  Hope this helps:)|||When someone says something to you that is snarky and you cannot come up with a retort because you are so stunned and you have to go home and think about where they are coming from to understand why...|||When you say I feel when you are stating something instead of saying I think even though I think is more appropiate in the sentence.  Example: I feel like the weather is nice today instead...|||I am an INFJ 4w5. I don't have any friends (just acquaintences) at the moment besides my husband and my sister, which I am actually okay with. There are a couple people who want to start a friendship...|||The last time I got sensory overload was last weekend when my ESTJ mother-in-law was visiting. The first day she talked nonstop and I listened intently and acted interested and nodded in all the...|||You must be a perciever because you said you hate to think of any relationship as being completely closed ever. Personally, that drives me nuts - I need to have closure or else I cannot move on. I...|||This made me laugh out loud. I suspect my boss would say the same thing about me.|||Making Work Work for the Highly Sensitive Person by Barrie Jaeger, Ph.D.|||I am an INFJ female married to an ISFP male. I think if he is cooking dinner for you he is very interested in you. I wouldn't worry about messing up because ISFPs are genuine people and I think he...|||I check that my keys are in my purse multiple times. I check that the door is locked multiple times. The reason I do it because I am so spacey and thinking about other things so I have to double...|||My joy today is having a lazy day.|||I experience my inferior Se when I am stressed out. It makes me want to do some exciting activity to blow off steam instead of being in my head as usual.|||People who seem to have no understanding that not everybody is like them and tries to change you to be like them. People who ask you to cover for them at work over every mundane reason. People who...|||Thanks Jamie.Ether for starting this thread. At first I was a little skeptical but by the time I was finished reading your post I did feel better and more postitive about myself.|||I just tried it twice and both times they asked me m or f and then asked me if I was horny.|||I love all the stuff from restaurants and stores that come rolling in for my birthday. So far I got a $10 off gift card to Sterling Drug, a $5.00 off coupon for DSW shoes and a gift card for any free...|||Psychological Types by C.G. Jung|||Yes! Which is why I am obsessive about checking to make sure my keys are in my purse. I also am always forgetting where I put things so I ask my husband because he understands my weird logic and...|||Yeah, your ex doesn't sound sane.|||I was just reading C.G. Jung's book called Psychological Types. On page 380 it says regarding the introverted type: His ideal is a lonely island where nothing moves except what he permits to move.|||Someone who I doorslammed sent me an email message and I ignored it. I think she got the message because she called and left a message on my voicemail saying that she wishes me well.|||When I door slam. I door SLAM!. No more communication. Ever.|||1) Is this unavoidable INFJ behaviour for life? To be insular, self depreciating & needing consolation/reassurance/resolution 50% of the time (& amazing the rest)? Yes, it is her personality. My...|||Sleeping! I get kind of depressed when I am tired.  Watching a really good emotional TV show or movie or listening to emotional music, or reading a good book. Going for a long walk.|||I am curious how many INFJs smoke or do drugs. Whether you do or not what is your reason?|||There is nothing that I hate about my body because I exercise and eat fairly well and the rest is just genes, so I have accepted my physical traits.  The thing I hate (strong word there!) is...|||,  In the ESFJ that I know she cannot intuit anything at all, and conversations cannot flow from Point A to Point C. It has to flow from point A to Point B to Point C. She does not like to talk...|||Lately, I am extremely picky about friendships. First, I have to feel very intrigued by the person. Secondly I have to feel as if the friendship will be a long one and will last. I put so much time...|||I am curious to hear what INFJs opinions are about ESTJs. Thanks in advance for all replies. (I know the title says ENTJs, it's a typo. I meant ESTJ.)|||I don't think that I know any ENTPs in real life. However, after reading some threads on PerC from ENTPs I am  interested and curious to know one because I appreciate their logic and admire their...|||I was curious as to what ESFJs think about INFJs?|||I appreciate all your comments. When I asked your opinions of ESFJs, I meant what is your opinion of the ESFJs you know, but I thought that was implied. The thing about the ESFJ that I know is that...'