LOOOL. i was only in richmond for 2 weeks in dec 2015 so i can't speak for that but 1 out of every 3 filipino males i know is esfj, including the one at my office here in singapore.|||How do I deal with this? I'm competent and intelligent, but my boss doesn't seem to believe in me, doesn't respect or care for me. That's fine--to each their own--but I'm going to be working at this...|||hey sorry for the late replies--didn't mean to ignore, i've been on a business trip!     heyhey, thanks for your perspective! :) you're right, i shouldn't pretend to be optimistic when i'm...|||@KC Ahaha first off I'm genuinely sorry for bringing chaos and confusion to the ENFJ forum! Being the self-absorbed person that I am I just had to have another relationship thread ALL TO MYSELF.  ...|||Long post to follow.   My boyfriend is an ENFJ (27), and I'm an INFP (24). We met while doing our Masters last year, and have been inseparable (i.e. 24/7) for close to a year. We're the love of...|||nooooooooooo! Seeker you are so lovely and intelligent and i always look forward to reading your posts. if you haven't noticed i even stalk you from time to time because i want to know what you're up...|||with the exception of keeping organized, not only do i do all those things but i actually do them better than my enfj significant other lol|||infp here. my boyfriend is enfj, and the past six months have been completely transformative for the both of us. i've dated other xnfjs in the past, but they didn't work at all like this relationship...|||eh it depends. i'm an all-or-nothing person. i was quite flaky when i casually dated a couple of guys because subconsciously i knew that they weren't quite right for me: too alpha, too conventional,...|||love it! clumsy yet intelligent is me too :o) and you might be the first infp i know that likes rap!|||i really love that your guiding emotion is hope, because i think it's a core component of fi-ne. just like you say, its absence or presence determines whether there's a vacuum or wellspring in our...|||in pixar's 'inside out,' the boss of riley's emotional headquarters is joy (her parents' emotions seem a lot more mature/stable and share the power a little more evenly). who is the 'boss' in your...|||in pixar's 'inside out,' the boss of riley's emotional headquarters is joy (her parents' emotions seem a lot more mature/stable and share the power a little more evenly). who is the 'boss' in your...|||just finished my masters! don't know if i'll make it through a phd, though there's nothing i want to do more than to remain a student.|||thanks for the solidarity guys! yeah, it sucks. it especially hurts because when we let people in, we really, really let them in and give them access to the most sacred bits of ourselves--we've...|||fellow infps. do you find yourself losing friends a lot? i have a history of people wanting to get really close to me, but then backing off when they detect signs of disinterest. worst of all--i have...|||sorry i'm not an enfj, but i'm at a similar place in my life and i just wanted to solidarity fist-bump you. being somewhat more future-oriented than past-oriented, i find that i get a lot of anxiety...|||this isn't a special snowflake post, nor is it an attempt to start an infp circlejerk. ain't nothing inherently better about being an infp, and i also don't think we're more misunderstood than...|||hey fellow infp! obviously i'm not an enfj but since my current partner is one, i thought i'd give a few cents based on what he's told me.  your profile is interesting and i've no doubt that there...|||i used to think there was something wrong with me because i felt 'horny' all the time, haha. turns out it was more a case of needing to have a target for focusing my introverted feeling on.  at the...|||i have a far greater capacity for loving less-than-perfect situations than i thought i had. i am brave enough to put my heart on the line. i see darkness all around me, but even if i wouldn't have...|||bill and hillary clinton?|||ai.tran.75 and papillons you guys are right that if she's so willing to drop an 11-year friendship she's not worth fighting for. and no, i won't be contacting her again after she bitch-slapped me--i...|||my enfp best friend of eleven years verbally bitch-slapped me and door-slammed me a few months ago, and i wish i no longer cared but unfortunately, i still do. we don't live on the same continent, so...|||what do you guys dream about while asleep? notice any themes, patterns? do your dreams tend to be realistic or fantastic, or both?   also, how would you explain dreams? unconscious vehicles for...|||I don't think it'd take anything more than a direct and sincere exchange about trust.  He clearly has nothing to worry about.[/QUOTE]  ha, y'all are so consistent with your advice: just be...|||Uh, they're friends? Is there something you're implyyyyinggg?[/QUOTE]  haha, well. i think it's backward looking to suggest that guys and girls can't be friends. he should be able to be friends...|||if you're in a committed relationship where you see your partner as 'the one,' what are some reasons that would make you go out of your way to go hang out with other girls alone?|||Or maybe he literally was really irritated because of some other issue...I mean...I've snapped at people before...as long as it isn't a pattern, is it really something to obsess about? Has this...|||wow, you're beautiful. aside from really nice eyes, i've noticed that all the enfjs i've met have very compelling noses.|||yeah, it does! i agree with you completely about people not being able to find total fulfillment in any one relationship, and about needing a network of relationships to fuel their self-growth.  i...|||not exactly sure. that's what i was hoping to find out through your answers. :) i don't know if there's an absolute definition for it, but i suppose i would say something along the lines of desiring...|||oh please interview eggsies! it would be so cool to meet a devoted member of personalitycafe.   i'll admit i'm especially curious because eggsies mentioned being chinese, and i too am ethnically...|||do you consider yourself emotionally promiscuous?|||fe is cool and all, but it's the auxiliary ni that makes enfjs irresistibly attractive. not to be presumptuous coz i'm not enfj, but i think it's quite easy to exaggerate their 'niceness' and...|||alright, thanks for the advice and solidarity. yes, i think i do tend to allow myself to be victimized--i will watch out for that. he hasn't blown up on me since the incident i wrote about, but if it...|||hehe, i don't think it's a bad thing either! i'm learning that using fe can be quite fun--being with my enfj and watching him deal with people has taught me to have better rapport (and better...|||i wonder if an fe/fi couple might not start to resemble each other? are fe and if necessarily two ships passing each other in the night?   as an fi-user, being with an fe-user has helped me to...|||extremely true. i am absolutely fascinated by ni--the elegance which which it drills down to the essential. this is why ni-users strike me as much more intellectually rigorous than ne-users, who are...|||hey, thanks for all the thoughtful responses!   Seeker thank you for sharing your vulnerabilities regarding love. i've lurked here quite a bit and i have to admit that for some reason i find myself...|||well i know that this enfj had a rather troubled childhood, the details of which i won't divulge out of respect for him. the short version of it is that he has experienced a shortage of love...|||anyway, i know i can be quite annoying sometimes--absent-minded and a little slow to react. i think enfjs prize efficiency, and also seem to expect more of those they love. so i really need to...|||there literally isn't. which is why it's all the more baffling. he's still apologising a day later, so it must legitimately be an anger management issue?|||yesterday my enfj lost his temper with me while we were out and about and raised his voice at me. it was because i was fumbling with something while on public transport, and he gets impatient when...|||The hardest part about being INFP is that Fi is fucking insatiable.|||one thing i've come to conclude about my enfj boyfriend is that he does not relive emotions the way i do. that is, he isn't able to return to the embodied experience of a specific feeling. sometimes...|||https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fSQgCy_iIcc|||hello! i'm a female infp (4w5) who is currently with a male enfj (who i suspect is 6w7 or 7w6). we seem to be inseparable. it's a passionate yet mature relationship where we both feel like we are...|||thanks for this. my enfj significant other has a rather pronounced public/private split and sometimes it confuses me. i don't know which one is the 'real' him, or if there is indeed a 'real' him....|||@Eggsies @FromFarAway thanks for your responses! :) it's interesting that you are both so open to the idea of it. the objective side of me really like that enfjs are not automatically enslaved to...