'I'm a pothead and I've tried cocaine at couple of times, MDMA, ecstasy, speed... But I like pot the most. I don't know if it's the same with other ESFJs but I'm really not the kind of person who gets...|||Well, it all depends how she feels about that job and how she feels about you.  I don't think an ESFJ would say no to a job to be with someone s/he has a crush on. We don't like taking risks that...|||I know. It seems in contradiction, but it makes sense to me anyway. I'm a fairly quiet person and I prefer working isolated than in groups, by far. It's just that being a performer seems so...|||ESFJ.  I got my BA in film studies and comparative literature.  Starting a Master's in library science.  Dream job would be... Writer, lyricist, singer, filmmaker or actress... Or anything that...|||My advice:  Take the job and show her that you love it. You've done your part, now stop asking for her approval and just do your thing. Don't try to convince her, let your happiness convince her....|||ESFJs are ISTPs' supervisors. ISTPs actually tend to be intimidated by ESFJs because we use Fe way better than they do. ISTPs have Fe as their inferior function, so they acknowledge its importance...|||ESFJ atheist. Raised as a Christian but never really went to church, or prayed. Fascinated by Buddhism.|||Well, I don't think ANYONE finds it easy to stay concentrated on something that bores them.  I have ADHD. ADHD is easier to identify than ADD because it's more than concentration problems. ...|||ADHD/ ADD maybe?|||This is a subject I'm really interested in. I'm trying to determine if some types tend to change more when growing up, and what could possibly be the cause of this. You're welcome to share your...|||Yeah, you're probably an SJ, then. ESFJs' tertiary function is Ne, so we do have Intuition, even though Intuition as we commonly know it has little to do with Intuition in MBTI. You can be...|||Be blunt. My ex was an ISFJ. If I hadn't kissed him, he would've never gotten the hint.|||Philosopher Persona: Philosophers love being creative with their ideas. They have active imaginations and love exploring anomalies and sometimes scientific curiosities in the physical world....|||I couldn't have said it better.  When talking to Intuitives, I often find myself thinking: How is that relevant? What does that have to do with anything?  The funny thing is, Intuitives...|||Yes and no.  Arrogant: NO. Actually, it's the exact opposite. When I'm under a lot of stress, I start to believe I'm utterly incompetent and I blame myself for anything bad that ever happens. ...|||ISTPs are much easier to read. INTPs are easier to read than xNTJs, but most of the time they don't really show emotion. The thing is, though, I don't really feel the need to read INTPs because...|||It totally does. There is barely any logic in political preferences, anyway; it's mostly about values. (Even though, as a French Canadian, I can't understand how anyone in their right mind would want...|||As a Fe dom, I completely disagree. That sounds more like Se. What you're describing is impulsiveness. When I get angry, I let it boil inside for a very long time without externalizing it. But boy,...|||I heard having problems dealing with change can be fairly common among ESFJs, but I've never felt like it was particularly hard for me, or any ESFJ I know. Of course, I like some form of routine,...|||Dude, what. I'm an ESFJ feminist specialized in the deconstruction of gender binaries. I'm not fucking bubbly. I'm an intellectual. Enough with that kind of bias.  Thanks googoodoll for saying...|||ESFJs and INTPs are usually great friends! We've got the same main functions, only not in the same order, so we're similar but different enough to keep each other entertained.|||ESFJs will try to make you feel good, they'll get you to talk about yourself and make you like them until the relationship is ripe. Then they'll either wait for you to make the first move, or be...|||xSTJs and xSTPs have the best chance of surviving, I believe. I think xSTJs might eventually die in a crazy attempt to save a loved one, though.  xSFJs would last for a while but would probably let...|||I'm excellent at it when the person has normal emotional responses. By normal I mean the ones shared by the majority of people. I'm bad at reading NTs, though -- not because they're more complex...|||It isn't, though. He hasn't made a decision yet. Which is why I'm trying to figure out the best way to communicate with him.  I don't know where I messed up, but it seems like I didn't voice my...|||If I cared that much about getting my job back, I wouldn't ask for a two-months vacation. What's bugging me here is not really the fact that I'll be losing my job, but the fact that we can't find an...|||Well, jobs are hard to come across. Especially jobs that pay that well and look that good on a resume. I've been on mimimum wage for way too long to ever want to go back.  And it's not just me...|||ESFJs tend to be reluctant to MBTI at first. I know I was. You just have to explain how it can help her in a CONCRETE way to appeal to her Sensing. Tell her it'll help her to read/ understand people...|||I met my INFP friends though forums, I think that's the best way!|||Glad we agree.    I know 4 INTJs (yeah, a lot) and about 6 ESFPs. That I know of, at least, because ESFPs are very common (that being said, I only know 1 other ESFJ).  I don't like stereotypes....|||Well, I'm hoping to violently destroy any stereotype people might hold against ESFJs. Or against any type, for that matter.   Just kidding. I'm an ESFJ. I don't do violence. I'll just send love to...|||Is this a trick question?  Taking over the forum, of course.|||Well, right now it just seems like a vendetta. It sounds way more like a threat than a reasonable decision. I am going to take those two months off; you really want to see me fired because of it? ...|||Well, it's not logic, it's theory. MBTI claims ESFJ/ISFP are the best match. ISFPs' lives tend to be quite messy, so ESFJs offer counterbalance. Nurturing is not about warmth, it's about providing...|||Haha, you really are an ESFJ. That's exactly how I felt, too. We tend to have long relationships and are so used to work towards something that a situation like this almost feels like a terrible...|||Welcome, RiftsWRX. It's great to have another ESFJ onboard.|||My ex is an ISFJ. ESFJs and ISFJs are meant to be best friends: ESFJ's perfect match is ISFP. The issue with a ESFJ/ ISFJ couple is that you both want to protect and nurture each other, yet neither...|||Hi! First of all, a little disclaimer: I love ENTJs and haven't had any problems with them yet. Except with my boss, who's an asshole. I was hoping someone here could help me out.  He's a...|||I don't know about you guys, but INFPs make me feel amazing. They like to compliment in a very free way, and it's like they're in awe before my ability to handle a conversation with ease and to...|||I think it is. I don't know much about functions yet, so it's kind of hard to explain... For a start, Judging types tend to be more self-critical than Perceiving types, because performance is...|||I'm not letting my personal taste dictate my typing. I don't dislike Sansa. She's just not an ESFJ. But there are so few ESFJs on this forum (and therefore, a global lack of understanding of what...|||I think that if you can get her interested in MBTI, it would be a great start. Before knowing about it, everytime I faced a problem with someone, I would think: If they were in my shoes, they'd...|||It's true that closed-mindedness can be a problem among ESFJs, who tend to over-align with the popular opinion. However, any ESFJ that is reasonably smart notices this tendency and tries to go...|||I have trouble believing that... Aren't you just being too harsh on yourself? I think that's a common trait among ESFJs.|||It's not so much about self-esteem than about independence. SJs are usually very driven, they know what they want and aren't scared to go and get it.  About your gif, I mean, seriously, how could...|||I'd say you're right. ESFJs are like chameleons; when we meet new people, we have a tendency to mimic their expressions, posture, accent (this is especially true for ESFJs with strong musical...|||I can't deny it, even though I do wish I was less sensitive. I guess what I'm trying to say is that yes, we're sensitive, but we're not damsels in distress. And I'm obsessed with the gif in your...|||I generally don't get along with ESFPs.  I have trouble getting along with ESTPs, ENTJs and INTJs (even though INTJs and ENTJs usually like me; for ESTPs, it's the opposite, I have nothing against...|||I noticed that on this forum, ESFJs are often reduced to their stereotype, and since we're very few of our type on here, most of the time we don't get the opportunity to set anything straight. ...|||Help. I took 3 different tests, and got a different result each time:  Eclectic Energies Enneagram Test Results: 1w2 Eclectic Energies Enneagram Test with Instinctual Variant Results: 3w2...'