'Humans have to become aware of ambivalence, because generally we're raised into dichotomic mindsets that prevent us from looking at the gray area of something. It's only when we realize that we...|||Wow, that's an crazy endeavor you had to experience. It's possible that when you were younger that the events were so traumatic that you dissociated and blocked them out (sometimes people using the...|||All of what you mentioned is hazily familiar to my story as well. It's crazy to know that dynamics and dysfunction in most households seem to have similar systems of treatment and this may have been...|||Every time I feel myself reaching this level, it always reminds me of this clip.   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vXbCWJNfq_0|||It's very strange how passive aggressive narcissism works, as it's one of the most confusing things I think i've ever experienced. My father is crazy about learning, he looks at himself as a genius,...|||None taken. But don't misunderstand, the reason I posted this was not to find another categorization, but for people to see how a lot of it connects to these 4 evolutionary responses, and that we CAN...|||So as of the last year or so, after quite a few years of hard work and research that i've put in, I've reached a conclusion that I am suffering from what's called C-PTSD. I certainly have a...|||Yes, exactly. You feel our pain xD.|||I happened to have verbally abusive parents and other family members, as well as child neglect and emotional disconnect from my parents (mostly father who would generally not be home and would be out...|||*whoops double post*|||Well after being able to see him one more time before he went back to school the vibe felt better, still different, but it was a better day. I still feel aloof from him at times but it fluctuates now...|||I think it's a result of lack of development in certain areas during childhood (most of the time because of trauma). The sensitivity stays (or becomes apathy) because it became internalized, and thus...|||Yeah. It feels familiar like i've experienced it before but not with anyone i've been this close to. It's odd but interesting how friendships can quickly shift dynamics, though I don't talk about it...|||You described the relationship to a T while describing the one you had with your previous friend, we went to the same school and we talked about pretty much all that was described in your question....|||Yeah I agree, i'm sure he's doing okay though :).|||Hello everyone, for those that like conscious and genuine hip hop I wish to present rapper Supastition. In my opinion he's painfully underrated and majority of the songs i've heard from him are...|||19. I'm curious as to how many people have had dysfunctional parents in their upbringing and/or some form of social abuse by peers outside of home, and whether or not that determined a lot of their...|||Yeah it did help a bit. Still a little lost in thought about it but i'll just have to see how it progresses.  I'm a little confused about that article though :/ , it was a little difficult to...|||Yeah, that's pretty much how it's feeling as I think about it. I will see how I feel hanging out with him a little more but if the feeling perpetuates, then I think it's just that time.|||I concur.     Well it's not that I always need to have fluent conversations, but it's just that the conversations that I usually have with this person are very expressive. However, in this case,...|||Yeah, I feel that it's possible because our interactions seemed very weird and awkward this time. Even though I still had no problems telling him how I was feeling & vise versa, something just didn't...|||So today I had been looking forward to seeing my ENFP closest friend for the first time in months (b/c of school pretty much), partially excited to see what he's learned and being able to share some...|||Yup. It leaves me apathetic sometimes so I gotta remind myself that there are people out there that care, just gotta find em'.      I am similar with that, as I don't like playing with fire (or...|||Now that I think back I have had moments where I questioned my friends on where I stood in their minds and what they thought of me..I tend not to do that much with a lot of the friends I currently...|||I don't why but I found this hilarious :laughing:    It's all good :). Well I was aware that both manipulation and deception can be used in a positive or negative way. However, I have also read...|||Interesting, I might try that.   And yeah, i'll just have to play my cards right and make sure I don't get played myself, while finding where this new identity lies. I can't wait until I finally...|||Unfortunately the projections will always be there, based on traumas and memory. I don't really think there's anyone to find personally. My own self-identification and personality never really formed...|||Yup. I didn't truly notice that problem until I learned of the scapegoat stuff. It's quite amazing how we don't see the influence until it's too late. I always hear from people that they never want...|||It's mainly because of my fear of hurting them. You know how some criticisms might be more hurtful than others? It's mainly because I have experienced criticism and outright disrespect on almost...|||Yes I definitely relate. Even though i'm slightly more genuine to my personality I still can't throw out the mask because it is an expectation that people want to see out of me, as they are convinced...|||I actually figured out the shame concept from her, I noticed that the way she described it was very reminiscent to how I was as well as how I was raised. Though for me I am always vulnerable, whether...|||Thank you :). I actually have been wanting to look into nutrition for a while, so it's possible that it's connected. Though i'm not unhealthy or malnourished as I eat pretty balanced with everything...|||I feel that I attract people with these kind of power dynamics, in that being assertive can be problematic to their feelings. I also understand this to some extent that if I bother someone...|||Take as long as you need :). Yup, that's exactly how my brain functions when i'm around people. Luckily I don't get anxiety unless I feel forced to respond to something rude or disrespectful towards...|||Yeah it's not enneagram based but I think our response to certain things as we grow up are kind of what determine our enneagram in a way (not saying it's a definite but it certainly holds some...|||As of recently I have made a personal discovery about the origins of how and why I have a certain fear. And it also ties in with the Enneagram 4 labeled fear that they have no identity or personal...|||Sorry. Moved this to the debate thread.   Go here instead :)  http://personalitycafe.com/debate-forum/503106-ultimate-political-lie.html#post16037658|||Hmm, i'm pretty much the same, only difference is i wouldn't consider them a soulmate. So when you say partner are you looking for a relationship? Or is it a friendship that you seek (in which case...|||I've been feeling how you felt for....i think 6 years now? At least I think, but i'm still going through this now, with everyday being a question of why I am alive..rarely contemplating suicide and...|||Thank you for your thoughts! I feel the same way. Maybe it's the perfectionist kicking in, idk, but it could also be because we know our capabilities, and what they would be as a parent; as well as...|||Thanks for your post, much appreciated :)  It is a personal decision. It's just a decision that can affect others, not just yourself or your family, but strangers alike; that's all i want people to...|||Nah, its not postpartum, this was a few years after she had her kid (then again i don't know if there are any cases that expand over a year, but in that case, it may no longer be postpartum). This...|||Yeah, I personally don't like being labeled or looked down upon because of my preferences. I can tolerate children, but only for specific amounts of time (also depends on the child), like if its a...|||Aww that's terrible! But then again, it's people so it's expected for them to make a quick judgement based on a taboo decision.|||Yeah, that's an interesting idea you have there, and it's quite possible that it exists already in somebody's theory/philosophy. As children our emotions are very volatile, and any small statement...|||Yup it was that one! Okay, i misinterpreted your sentence, in which case i actually agree. My brain breaks sometimes, and I stopped questioning it x'D  To be completely honest, I have no clue how...|||Thanks for your 2 cents! Whatever works for you man, just be aware and take precaution of the changes that will occur, physically, mentally, and socially.|||Yeah that's true. I could be looking at it too personally. And it's nice to know i'm not alone in my thoughts sometimes. Keeps me stable.|||I agree with most of what you said but also disagree with the last statement. If we apply what you said to the 3.6 billion women in the world, chances are that it will result in many, many more...|||I agree. They could be either one :p , but personally i'd rather not put my planet on a gamble like that. And I can't say that outside influences from my generation of kids (and even adults from the...'