'Hi guys..  I'm trying to get over a nasty break up. It's been a month. I was doing fine when I was going through an anger phase, but now I'm just depressed and highly emotional. I don't know what...|||Sort of 'zoom' out on the world or perspective.... also to switch on and off emotions.|||Could you explain more please?|||Guys, I need your advice..   I think I'm in that phase where I'm going back and forth about whether to try to reconcile and talk to him about getting back into a relationship, but on renewed terms....|||Trying to. My ego is definitely damaged. :( I just want to make him realise that I'm worth it as a partner. Ugh. No use at all going about this.|||Hahhahaha ... logic™.    Well I started accidentally thinking about the possibility of us getting back into a relationship on renewed terms and that got me all fudged up again T^T. Why do I want...|||Thanks!   I don't get it either to be honest. I really don't freaking get it. I call bullsheet on the whole personal development part. I reckon it was a logical excuse that he wanted to hear for...|||So I've been letting it out by singing songs. I used to do this and I had people sing along with me in school, but nope, now I'm all alone.. I decided to record it and slap it on the internet.  ...|||HRMM ... not really, he wasn't the kind to necessarily intentionally start conversations. He's more of hey I haven't spoken to this dude in awhile... so I'll send him a message or lets hang.|||Ahahhaa yea I knew what you meant. I felt the same way about what you said therefore it was sort of a dramatised reaction to that.|||It's odd that this isn't my first encounter with INTPs. I've had one in the past too. He was muuuuch older than I was and I was a juvenile ENFP at the time. Well at the time I wasn't 'smart' enough...|||I'm sorry to hear that.   Ugh all the feels. I'M SORRY I SCARED YOU WITH MY LOVE. Is it an INFP problem? ._.|||bahahha.. To be honest, the concept of it sounds good. BLARGH. But it was him that I loved, not the idea of being in a relationship. darnit.|||I wonder if we could throw our own cozy virtual environment for that. I'm assuming everyone in this post is across the world from everyone else. I have a bunch of tools to use for LDRs that never got...|||Spoken like a true INTP... or Thinker at least. :tongue:  Oh well.|||awesome! it was the right way round when I uploaded it though! ._.|||Hehehe..   http://i2.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/newsfeed/000/345/169/bc7.png|||Yeah, I guess I kinda expected him to put as much as I would have as well. Thing is, should he have expressed that throughout and managed the expectations as well, it wouldn't have been such a hard...|||I've been going out a lot. Practically spend my time with my friends outside home (I have a very stressful family to deal with). I suppose in a sense talking it out here on the forum helps too. I do...|||Probably not. I just can't. All those empty promises at the beginning and how I have been let down. D; It's so much easier to be just plain angry.     Well he seems to be having a ball of a time...|||hells yea. I scared him away with my conviction and passion. GAAAAARGH!|||Awh, *hug*   All us hurt INFPs should have a little party together and just take it all out, go to a trampoline park or bouncy castle then go crazy.. or something.|||My contention about the matter is basically wouldn't you consider relationships as part and parcel of personal growth? I understand that maybe I had placed really high expectations (different from...|||*hug back* thanks :)|||As much as I've been wanting to do that, I never have 'enough' to be physical about it. I ended up not eating much and staying up late till I just go flat and burn out. I vent a whole lot and rage...|||Thanks for all your responses, it's highly encouraging.   It's just all incredibly painful right now. On his social media it seems like he's doing fine.   I'm really fluctuating between absolute...|||I'd like to believe that. I think that's the biggest underlying thing here. Did he really like me? Or was it just convenient for him.   But at this point, I just don't have enough emotional...|||Hahah I probably should've included a tag on vent. I think a part of me is looking for an answer to whether he bothered as much as I did or not. What's going on in his mind now.. etc. It's annoying...|||Nice try|||I can't stop thinking and replaying what we had and the fact that he's probably going to move on far quicker than I am. He is an INTP. The story that we had together was typical fairytale story - we...|||I'm more of a friends with benefits person, although after my first proper relationship I don't think I would want otherwise anymore.|||I'd consider myself a Buddhist, but with elements of syncretistic beliefs. It's hard to find anyone who's interested in this kinda talk, especially being relatively young. D:|||318506  Ah damn, how do you rotate this?   Here ya go!   Necklace is from my adopted grandmother from Borneo when I had an exchange volunteer programme there last year.|||so, you may care for him, but also care for yourself. please.  That's what I really have to remember.|||I recently discovered that I get lazy explaining things to people because everything in my mind is way more vivid and I'm pretty sure people won't understand it.|||unlikely|||OHHH. okay. Got it. haha. I've always loved those little yellow things. :3|||Why so?|||yes. I need to remember that I'm posting in the INTP forum. Have to pay closer attention to grammar.|||That's brilliant! We're changing the design to this : http://farm5.static.flickr.com/4132/4965440209_bb1b47d45c.jpg   No longer the huge minion cake thingy|||That's.. um.. out of topic.|||Woah, thanks for the ideas guys! Keep em' coming.|||Hey guys!   My class is going to have a farewell party for our chemistry/biology tuition teacher next Wednesday.   He calls us his 'minions' (the one from the movie Despicable Me), so we're...|||hahaha.. To his personality I guess.|||Thanks for your input on this. I've done all the steps that you mentioned - identifying why I'm attracted to his company and Why he makes me feel like crap. I'm also trying my best to try to avoid...|||Here's the deal : He's a friend whos very much older than I am. I take him as my mentor in life and I confide in him a lot. I also try my best to be a good friend. He's an INTP - a very difficult...|||The thing is, it's clear that I value him more than he does of me. I don't even know why I'm still friends with him or why I care so much.|||Thanks guys for all your help at the moment, I'll reply each of you soon in this thread when I have the time. Perhaps in another day or so.. I like all your suggestions and they make lots of sense....|||Let's just say that I'm friends with a person who I really care for right now. But in the past few months, all he has been doing is making me feel like crap all the time. I'm quite emotionally...|||I made the biggest mistake by confiding in someone. I don't really think it was a mistake, I just confided in someone about how I felt and stuff. (was going through a rough time) He was an INTP. I...'