'Dear favourite PerC ship,   I hope you work things out soon. Y'all are making me relive my divorced parent angst. Be the change you want to see in the world :wink:  Sincerely,   INFP.|||Dear ENFP,  I'm sorry that we fought, but I'm really happy that we talked about things and worked through everything. I really appreciate that you listened and validated my feelings. I promise that...|||I wouldn't say that I have a strong presence in groups, but I have definitely learned how to be a charismatic person. When my social persona is 'on', people have no idea that I'm an introvert -- let...|||INFP  BA in Gender Studies and Philosophy Certificate in Human Resources and Labour Relations  I would probably do my education over if I had the chance. Specifically, I would have focused more...|||Cis female INFP.  55.833 out of 100 masculine points 60.833 out of 100 feminine points 60 out of 100 androgynous (neutral) points|||The risk is that if you get found out, you're most likely going to get fired on the spot, which means no reference -- and a sketchy job history with no references will make it progressively more...|||I have actually recently decided that INFP is a better fit for me :kitteh:  Which isn't to say that INTJ 4s aren't a thing, I just don't happen to be one.|||My INFP groupie confession is that I think you are an incredible human being. The absolute best. I can't really remember what my life was like before I knew you, but I do know that it is infinitely...|||I think it's silly and a waste of medical resources.  1. There are already more children in the world than childless parents wanting to adopt.  2. Even if you do happen to be the sort of person...|||I would say that most of the women I know date up rather than down. In general this doesn't surprise me simply because of traditional gender roles. Men do make more money, on average, than women, and...|||NSAIDs (and opiates, for that matter) are fine. NSAIDs are actually commonly prescribed to help deal with menstrual pain and both are commonly used by women with endometriosis, so it's a very safe...|||Do you have curly hair or straight?  Curly haired people are prone to this because their hair doesn't slide off when it falls out like straight hair does; it gets caught in the curls of their hair...|||The advice above is good.   I'd reiterate that just physically being there can be really important. Watch movies or TV shows together, go for a walk or a drive, play video games, just sit there and...|||Female INTJ, I've been in a relationship with an INFJ guy for more than three years and we're very happy together (planning to get married; move to the suburbs; have 2.5 kids, a dog, and a hybrid;...|||This bugs me too.|||I'm an INTJ in a relationship with an INFJ guy. We've been together for three years so far.   We met on OKcupid, and one of the things that I really liked about that was that the questions and the...|||I haven't encountered this in my romantic relationships, but I did have this issue with a friend. The way that I saw it,  I couldn't understand why she felt that we needed to like all of the same...|||This thread is both timely and perversely hilarious. I was just diagnosed with a pretty serious heart condition yesterday.  If, and it's not likely that this will be the case, but if this condition...|||Dear universe,  What the ever loving fuck did I do to deserve bipolar, endometriosis, liver problems, and heart problems? SERIOUSLY, NO ONE ELSE IN MY FAMILY HAS A SINGLE THING WRONG WITH THEM....|||I went by myself for the first time a couple of months ago. It was a movie that I really wanted to see, but that no one else was interested in.   I have mixed feelings. If the alternative were...|||I really liked the advice given here:    Sometimes giving people space can have the unintended consequence of making them angrier because they feel like you don't care about them (If you cared...|||I don’t think that there’s anything that you could have done beyond reaching out to him, which it sounds like you did. I know that it probably sounded like I was defending him in my first post, but...|||Uncertainty is the worst.  I've been dealing with an (until recently) undiagnosed mystery illness since the autumn of 2012. Out of the blue, I started having horrific episodes of pelvic pain that...|||In general, I would react pretty similarly to how your boyfriend reacted, from what you've posted.  There are a couple of reasons why I would do something like this.   First of all, I don't like...|||INTJ 4w3 so/sx.  I actually mistyped as sx/so until just recently because I'm extremely introverted and spent a lot of time growing up being misanthropic and hating people. I realised I was a 4...|||Why do you do it? Do you ever feel guilty about doing it?|||The two people I know who are at the end of their PhDs have backup plans in becoming a French teacher (she is francophone) and applying to medical school (she has an undergrad degree in immunology or...|||I'm 5'1 and stopped growing at 14.|||Whether or not you do a philosophy degree will really depend on what you want to get out of it.   Some of the best advice that I got from my professors/friends in grad school when I was considering...|||Yes, I think so. I only really know one 4 well -- my long distance best friend -- who is a fellow 4w3, but whenever I stumble across lists of famous 4s they're always people I'm drawn to and think...|||Update: Previously mentioned best friend turned out not to be such a good friend after all.   My current best friend and I found each other through PerC after some mutual stalking. It turned out...|||Here's to 10000 more (no seriously, don't retire or PerC will be ruined for me forever :crying:)|||Dear ovaries,  Stop. It.   Sincerely,   An INTJ who can't stop puking and passing out because you have been giving her round the clock pain for the last 12 days.  PS, while you're at it,...|||Dear 2013,  Among my list of grievances are:  -The 4 family members you've axed since the beginning of the year -The 8 non-familial people in my life you've also axed since the beginning of the...|||To the various you can't be INTJ if you're not mentally healthy, I'm sickened by all of these delusional people trying to be like me (LOL you're not that special, I assure you) has it ever...|||Dear  kaleidoscope,   I just deleted that comic you once sent me about wanting to squeeze someone so hard that their insides explode the other day AND NOW I FEEL LIKE I AM LACKING INADEQUATE...|||NO.|||Even though I have a lot of self-loathing, neurotic,  4ish stuff going on at any given time, I do generally think that I'm a pretty attractive person.   I'm a talented writer, I'm very passionate...|||I am insulted that I am not an example in your article... I thought my friendship meant more to you :( Just kidding, it was interesting to see everything put together after all we've talked about...|||No, I have never had any real confusion in terms of my type. People have a harder time pegging me down now that I'm older, but it was never difficult for me to figure out and I remember thinking to...|||English, math, and chemistry were where the shit was at for me in high school. I also liked languages; I was enrolled in French, Spanish, and German for three years.|||OP: I'm sorry that you are having a rough time.   However, I second what other members have said about seeking mental help. I have mental health issues of my own, so I understand that it can be...|||This is the gist of the conversations I have with my INFJ. I'm 4w3 and semi-fluent in girl and he's a 5w6 engineer who can be so. hopeless. I love him, but sometimes his lack of social graces and...|||This is basically right on the money. The only reason why I was not older than I was when I lost my virginity is because I was with someone who was confident enough to initiate sex. If I'd had to...|||I am also super squeamish to the point that blood makes me pass out and I have serious worries that if someone I love gets hurt I'll just faint and leave them to die :shocked:     I am also...|||I love this so much.   I just recently started making lattes at home, so I appreciate the physical work that goes into making these kinds of beverages.  I don't miss Starbucks at all except for...|||Snakes.   I am convinced that I would literally lose my mind if I were locked in a room with one, no matter how harmless it was.   I tried to describe some of the feelings they give me, but I...|||Why are you dating someone that it seems you do not like? If you're having massive issues like this after two months, I don't see the motivation to remain in a relationship with this person. You're...|||I think it's a great idea for all of the reasons you've laid out here. I'm of the same mind as you are that if it's a feature that's available, why... not? It really doesn't seem to cause any harm...|||Some of the responses in this thread are extremely childish :bored:  I'm not a guy and I'm not dating an INFJ lady, but I have been in relationship with an INFJ guy for over two years now and he's...'