'Ding, ding, ding, ding!!!  We have a winner!!!! (Thanks for posting this Marzipan)    EXACTLY.....what happened here. WE (ENFJ's) got asked a specific question, and we tried to start problem...|||Yes!:happy:|||I've struggled with both of these, but have recognized them for what they are and work against them.  It goes back to comparisons.  Satan asked Eve in the Garden to compare what she was given with...|||Thanks!  The wedded rocks.  They have been there for years and weathered many storms including those bridges made out of something from the rice plant.  I thought that was cool.    Yea......I know...|||Lol!!!  Loved that by the way..the screw the forrest part.:laughing:  (As well as your Avatar pic.  Everytime I look at it, I smile.)   Anyways.....all we have is what Inquiery is telling us.  His...|||Lirulin,  You said:   Scroll back up to the top of this post and read my first thread thoroughly.  The same conclusion you drew, was the same conclusion I wrote about with direct confrontation...|||Well.....the reason I asked you what I did, was to kind of help you see that your idealism is still holding out for hope here.  Since he's not good relationship material, it would probably be best...|||Why????????|||I've heard the whole logic debate against ENFJ's and for me, that doesn't fly at all.  We're not stupid dumb butts that don't know anything about logic...it's just not the first thing we pull from. ...|||Ditto.  Don't ignore the signs.  We tend to blow these things off if we really like someone and our idealism takes over blocking the truth.  The reality is....later, it could be him cheating on you...|||Good point Smiley.  Here I was writing.. gearing up for battle!!!  Grrrr.....|||First of all, I'm really sorry for the pain you've felt from these other people.:sad: You're probably going to hear a lot of, I'm stumped, here. The reason I feel stumped, is because overall I tend...|||Thanks for sharing this!  It's really nice to know that there are others out there who do appreciate and care....but more importantly, take the time to come back and say so.  In the world of the...|||I flunked accounting the first go round, and took it again. I somehow found myself years later doing medical billing and balancing the accounts, which......if anyone here has ever billed for...|||This is TOTALLY true.  Oh gosh how true and the whole walking away thing in these types of situations for me is extremely tough.  Closure and restoration can't always go as we'd like.  Any ENFJ...|||Word of the day: Conversate. Lol!!! Southern slang for U wanna talk o me? :tongue:  Seriously, I heard my ENFP daughter using this word with full confidence at our last gathering.     Oh yes,...|||Busted!!! Lol!!!  :tongue:|||Luck or fate?  Hard to say.  I think the combo for us was...1. Met on a forum for a specific thing.  We got to know each other for a year and bonded there.  2.  We got to meet in person for a few...|||I had a few growing up I met at camp.  The internet opened up a new world for me.  My BFF is in Australia.  Had the pleasure of meeting this wonderful person a few years back.  She took this test...|||ROFL!!!  True so true.  Never new the power of booze on an I, until a few years ago.  Lol!!!!|||I hope it's okay for me to pop over here into this subject.  I have a very vivid dream life.  I remember watching the movie 'Avatar' in 3D and whispering to my spouse, This is what my dreams are...|||Me too, except I think it was older kids.  Between 10-13!!!  Oh gosh...never again!!  Ha, ha, ha!!!|||:happy:))))))))))squeeze((((((((((((((:happy:   Thoughts and feelings are one in the same.  Often I will say, I need to talk, and if I get put off for a while, and the other person later says,...|||Wow!  We need a dream thread!!  Kind of wondering about that and personality type.      One of mine was going to be:  When you dream in technicolor and you later find it to be absolutely true.   ...|||I love it!  My new joke is.....Can I interest you in a nice tall glass of Kool-Aid? to my husband? ROFL!!!!:laughing:|||Let me try to explain this for me.:unsure: (scratching my head)   Well....words are like a paintbrush, and the music is the canvas that they use.:happy: Although my taste is all over the place,...|||DITTO!!!!  T is a nice break of laying down other people's burdens, and without being able to even pull the T side...we are open targets for takers trying to play our feelings against us.  Sometimes...|||I had to come back and add something here.  If you and your girlfriend are aware of your types, then...that's big.  We're in the process of learning how to celebrate each other's differences, yet...|||I related to this one several fronts!    Let's see...I did the long distance thing for almost a year, and married my shadow type.  This was before I knew anything about personality stuff.  Never...|||Yea....at first I was thinking this is an unhealthy ENFJ and that still could be true.  I know how I feel hostessing an event, so a boss trying to please or make the work environment alright? ...|||NOT a morning person, and Melatonin is my BFF when I struggle with getting to bed at a decent hour.  It will be like 11pm and I'm wide awake with no real interest in sleep and that's when those...|||Where has this topic been all my life??? I too am a SAHM, and my children are in their teens now and I'm still young, b/c I started young. I've struggled with this decision for YEARS. I was pressured...|||I was on a forum with toxic people a year or so ago and just...my intuitive side told me that until I completely broke ALL ties, it would always be lurking and at any moment someone could pop back up...|||In Jr. High and High School, I played basketball, ran track one year, and played one year of softball.  I made the volleyball team, but dropped out as I saw how much time it would take from my...|||Yea, as I was reading the other views about us, Cher started playing in my head! Lol!!  Life in stereo.:laughing:    Yesterday.... had personal things not been going on with me, I would have...|||I am like....close to 100% sure my dad is an ENFJ too.  It was the neatest thing growing up with him.  I felt bad lots b/c we related so much better than him and my mom.  I don't know her type other...|||Cigarettes.  My downfall.  I've about given up on even trying to quit anymore.  I view it as no different as any other type of addiction.  I turn to food with the emotions too, but have never gotten...|||It's me Jojo. At dinnertime my family asked, What's up with you? I sat there for a moment and then the lightbulb went off. I said, Tomorrow's the family reunion. (pause) I enjoy them, and seeing...|||I don't wish to get into namecalling either.  It wasn't the intention of this post and I didn't list any other personality types or names of others who I've seen write things of this nature for that...|||I've accepted my faith, but it's not come without some serious deep questions.  (The following is from a Christian perspective..of losing and finding faith again in Christianity.)  Disclaimer:  I...|||Alright.  I have noticed on other forum boards, there is this trend of quickly lableling ENFJ's as liars, cheats, and cons.... among other things.  I've read here on this website long before...|||Amen sister!!!!|||All the answers here are going to reflect nothing more than personal experiences, and lying is a trait that has a lot to do with morality.  Depending on how that line is drawn there for an...|||I tend to listen by my moody feelings.  Like sometimes while cleaning if I'm wanting to feel the warm and fuzzies, I'll set the satellite music channel to the 40's or 50's.  I'll clean and think of...|||I relate to lots of those, except...  ~I do enjoy alone time now.  I've come to see the real need of it..to recharge.  I haven't always been this way, so I'd say it's not the ENFJ's first choice. ...|||Oh gosh...my parents have recordings of me belly laughing as a baby.  DEEP belly laughing.:laughing:  The same with baby photos as far as big smiles.  Lol!!!  And to this day, if I play those tapes,...|||I only know one NT so far, (personally) and this individual is awesome at the hunger/fullness thing. It wasn't until I was reading here today it hit me, it's probably a personality thing too. Cool...|||Love the 'bling' on your username.  Cool!!!  Welcome.'