'If it's not what you expected, try browns instead :) I definitely prefer browns to blues, but everyone's different.|||In life, and particularly in your working life, you will be working with others. I would suggest accepting that you'll be working with this person, and instead concentrate more on dealing with the...|||All the ingredients for an unhealthy relationship. It all sounds so romantic (and familiar).|||That explains how you go through idealising and devaluing others, but I was more interested in hearing about how you think the devaluing impacts the other person (the person suddenly being devalued).|||Actualized type: ISTJ (who you are) Introverted (I) 88.89% Extroverted (E) 11.11% Sensing (S) 66.67% Intuitive (N) 33.33% Thinking (T) 52.94% Feeling (F) 47.06% Judging (J) 80% Perceiving (P)...|||None of this makes any sense to me.|||If I knew someone had feelings for me and I didn't have feelings for them, I'd probably start distancing myself from them. Mainly because 1. I wouldn't want them to get hurt 2. I don't need/want...|||OrangeAppled  These are my own observations, based mostly on INFPs I've come across on this forum. No it's not scientific, I wouldn't claim it is.  I have to point out, though, that your quote...|||If that is the case then that's fine, I don't mind being wrong.|||I think it's important to be open and honest so we can reach some level of self awareness. Behaviour that is dysfunctional/damaging to the self should be identified and labeled as such. What I have...|||Fair enough, I suspected that was what was trying to be communicated. I still think a lot of INFPs are rather childish in terms of how they deal with difficult situations, as well as how they handle...|||I'm an ISTJ. My personal opinion based on a number of INFPs (as well as ISFPs, actually) I've interacted with/come across on this forum... yes. Many INFPs do come off as rather childish. I don't know...|||Hey! Welcome :)|||I disagree, based on first hand experience. And it's definitely not out of pride/fear of rejection. But I don't want to dwell on that.  I hope you'll consider initiating conversations more with...|||Would be great. Then we'd all stop wasting time on people who aren't interested in making meaningful connection.|||Welcome (Again :P)!|||Would be interesting to hear about how you think your devaluation/discard (because that is what it is, at the end of the day) impacts the other person.|||I love this quote:  Sometimes you hold back from talking to someone not because of your pride nor because you fear rejection.  But because you know deep down that if they wanted to be there in...|||Library... what's that? [emoji14] just kidding, though I haven't been to an actual library since I was about... 10? That would be 16 years ago? I have Amazon Kindle, and Audible, so I have access to...|||Hello fellow ISTJs :)  I'm looking for some book recommendations! I don't know what I'm looking for exactly, but something for my T. I'm interested in self development, and I've been going through...|||Nothing is going to change unless you change -- and this takes some effort. That's not to say you're not trying, but you need to try harder. And it all begins with changing the way you think.  1 -...|||What's the one thing that makes you most happy in life/happy to be alive? Feel free to detail how it makes you feel, and perhaps try to explain why you think that might be.  If you can also include...|||The problem with that is it's difficult to know whether the cause is some chemical imbalance, or if I'm doing something wrong. If it's something I'm doing wrong then drugs would just be hiding it,...|||For the past few days I've been on the verge of tears throughout the day. And when I'm alone I just want to cry. I honestly don't know why, or what's triggered it. Being off work for a few days...|||I feel like I'm having a 1/3 life crisis. I don't know what I'm doing, and nothing makes sense anymore. Life really isn't fun right now :/ If I could magic it away as if I never existed and no one...|||Lakigigar  That's very interesting. Thank you for sharing.|||What's unhealthy about imagining your loved one being paralyzed or dead??? What's healthy about it? What kind of emotions do you feel when you fantasise about such a thing? Do you like feeling sorry...|||Lakigigar  Your post strikes me as being really, really unhealthy. I don't mean to judge, I've had similar fantasies before.|||I'm not sure too sure what the best thing to do in this scenario would be. When I'm sad/grieving there is very little anyone else can do for me (unless I'm very close to that person, or they're a...|||As with all feelings, loneliness is difficult to describe. But I'll try and give you my perspective on it.  Firstly, I relate to a lot of what you've said. I'm not a very social person, I keep...|||Moonious   Please see a doctor. It's not normal to have a headache for 2 weeks.|||The more I try to understand ISFPs and INFPs, the more I'm convinced they're just crazy. Crazy crazy crazy. I feel crazy just thinking about how they're crazy.  And now I'm experiencing semantic...|||Oh so that's what you meant! Yeah if I were you I'd drop him right now and not look back. That's way overstepping boundaries and it shows he has no respect for you whatsoever.|||BrownEyedGirl1  I don't know, I'm only going on what you've said. He might have a completely different interpretation and perspective on this whole thing. Just as there are reasons why you...|||O.o  I'm sorry, but this is pretty ridiculous. I don't have anything else to contribute at this point. Good luck!|||I'm confused. What does he want from you now exactly (other than getting you to do stuff you no longer want to do)?|||Kajada   I listened to all of those bands when I was 15/16! [emoji14] some other bands I remember from back then... Trapt, The Killers, The Used, Blink 182, Funeral for a Friend... I also liked...|||He does sound very immature. I wonder what type he is. Anyway, at least you know where you stand with him. I hope you'll stick to your values and not give in to his childish behaviour.|||I don't seem to get excited about anything. I'm not sure if it's a personality type thing, or if it's something deeper. Does anyone else feel this way? And if so, what's your type?  Examples: ...|||I was just kidding hehe 😊|||Regardless of that, it doesn't give him the right to be a dick. It doesn't sound as if he is even trying to save your relationship/understand where you're coming from... and that's not a good sign....|||I feel bad for you. He sounds like a dick. But I think it's clear that you're not compatible, so I hope you'll stop wasting your time/energy on this.|||ferroequinologist  What do you mean by who you really are? What does that mean? I believe we can change what's on the inside, if that's what you mean. For example, I've had to work on being a...|||BrownEyedGirl1  I never knew what that was like, until I got involved with an ISFP [emoji14] In trying to make sense of her, I ended up losing my balance and I ended up being very...|||BrownEyedGirl1  I guess you fear being trapped for whatever reason, maybe it has something to do with your childhood. I know my ISFP friend didn't have a very good childhood. I can't say I...|||BrownEyedGirl1  That's an interesting point you make about whether we're in fact the ones with the my way or the highway attitude. I think in some sense, yes, we are. We would like others to adhere...|||That doesn't mean anything. If you want me to accept you and I want you to accept me, but were two different people with different needs, how does that even work?! lol. If you don't want to take...|||If he gets angry and defensive, then you'll know he's a dick/not partner material. You would have saved yourself a lot of future BS.  Also, if he's straight up giving you the silent treatment for...|||I wrote a long reply but I lost it damn :(  Why don't you communicate to him what you have to me here?  Asking how well endowed the guy was etc isn't reasonable at all. It serves no purpose. I...|||Also, I'm going to say something and I could be totally wrong... but I suspect when a person comes along who accepts you fully, you won't care for that person. Maybe you will think along the lines...'