'I read somewhere an argument that Mike was an ISTJ. The 1st 3 letters are pretty much unarguable. IMO he is a J. Which saddens me to say, as any ISTP who watches the show would love to claim him....|||I've been gone from this site for I don't know how long now. But I stumbled across this thread via Google and was pleased to see that it has a solid span across 2 years! I decided I'd revive my own...|||Absolutely|||Hmm, seems I accidentally skipped a lot of posts before I put my last submission here.  I'm going to 2nd what you said, Kadjunga.|||Emotional maturity is different for each individual, not for each type.  The only emotional differences between types are the ways that they handle their feelings, not how well they handle feelings.|||I think stoic is the word for a lot of us.|||Wow... This is freakin' me.  I'm so amazed to to read this from someone else really; I've tried before to explain this to someone, and it's just about impossible.  Heh, I thought it WAS impossible...|||My head's not in the clouds.  It just seems that way from the dirt.|||Fun, yes.  But why lick the icing for the rest of your life when the cake is right there? (Oh, I'm so clever.)|||I agree completely with you on 1 and 4.  For 2 and 3 though... I can't say I'm against you on these, but I don't agree completely.  I'm somehow attracted to feeler types myself, but yes, over-emotion...|||I can see how this topic may be more geared towards ISTP men and ENFP women.|||You best summed up the question right here.|||Large bombs have long fuses  I didn't want to quote myself, but here's the reason I did (see post #6 & #7): http://personalitycafe.com/istp-forum-mechanics/13704-istp-you-intimidating.html ...|||Your signature quote seems to fit this thread very well.  I'll have to disagree with you somewhat though.  Perhaps ISTPs don't send out intimidating vibes on a regular basis, but there really is a...|||This particular story caught my attention.  It seems that if someone were doing that to me, what would bother me would not at all be the hitting itself, but the fact that he thinks he can do this to...|||I think it does.  In general, we're not violent, but we ARE aggressive.  ISTPs tend to develop reputations for being calm and passive, yet also aggressive and intimidating when the situation...|||Because they disagree with you?  If you already know all of this stuff, why are you even posting here?|||Amen to that brother!  I've never actually done it, but I know a few people who have.  I'll just say that I've heard nothing but positive reviews!  It must be incredible, to be that high off the...|||I agree with DJArendee.  I can easily sympathize with your stress over what happened (yes, we ISTPs can jump to conclusions too!)  but there is no reason to be upset.  If anything, maybe be a little...|||Shoot, if I were the other guy in that story about the heart monitor, I'd believe it to be just a matter of time before things become official.  I mean, that whole situation sounds like it was really...|||You can kiss him out of the blue but you can't find the courage to tell him you like him?  He obviously enjoyed it.  And so did you.  What are you waiting for?|||P/J has always been the hardest for me to understand, but explaining as the controlling function behind the others seems to be the best way to do it.  I would agree with you in theory, but the two...|||No, you have no way to completely remove all chance of rejection.  Yes, sending your friend to talk to him could help you, but you can't ever be absolutely sure what the outcome will be until you...|||2nd and last lines:  Amen|||FiNiTe, would you be cool with having a pursuer?  Or do you insist on being one instead?  Just curious.|||Honestly, the more I think about this, the more I think you should handle it without your friend.  If you do need her help, you'll still do ok, but there seems to be a lot of fear of rejection here,...|||That ought to work, but make sure that your friend doesn't probe, seriously.  Basically, just don't let him thing that you sent your friend yourself, he needs to think that your friend is just...|||I completely agree with the last two posts.|||A lot of his behavior sounds like mine towards the girl I'm interested in.  If anything, it sounds like you're closer to a relationship than I am.|||Haha, thanks!  No worries, I'm gonna take it easy for a little.  To be perfectly honest, the better part of me wants to delete this thread from the internet.  No offense to anyone who's helped me...|||It's not girls that are my problem, just the one I happen to like at the time.  But you're right about the pedestal thing.  Honestly, all the mushy stuff I've been saying and thinking had made me...|||Wow.  Rudey, thank you.  Seriously.|||Flirting alone is not enough, but it can be the clue that the ISTP needs to motivate him to initiate something.   So, so true.|||That's one difference that would be hard to deal with.  I imagine a lost distance relationship would be tougher on her than on me.  Well, I'll be home for most of the summer.  Hopefully it'll be...|||Check this thread out, Sassy:  http://personalitycafe.com/enfp-forum-inspirers/7863-how-win-enfp.html  I learned a lot while reading your post, so I'm guessing the biggest help I can do you is...|||I've done this too.  I'll get distracted by following their eyes and accidentally zone out.|||I'm just a guy-pursues-girl person, period.  Call me typical, both as a man and as an ISTP, but I believe it's a man's job to initiate (assuming both parties like each other, not just the man or the...|||Think about it... an infinitely long lifetime in paradise.  It kind of makes the whole we're-all-gonna-die-in-the-end-anyway issue fade away.|||Mind it?!?  LOVE it!  Maybe I speak only for myself, but your loving energy just makes me go crazy! (In a good way, of course).|||Ah, man, so do I!!  I've still got her on my mind all the time.  But there's just no way around yet another loooong wait :sad:.  Well, my biggest comfort right now is this; the more effort this...|||She seemed pretty ISTP-ish to me.|||It's definitely not choice A, although he seemed to be picking at her more than actually rejecting her answers.|||Painful?  That was great!  I think I can empathize with her on a lot of what she said.|||MannyP just about summed it up for me.|||I'll say it then:  I am into ENFPs  There, an ISTP has made it official :wink:.|||The best thing I can say... is that something just clicks.  I just love your type and everything about it.|||All these other ISTPs have explained it as well as I can hope to.  Especially with what DJArendee said about the duality relationship between the two types.  It just FEELS right with this type.   ...|||Shoot, I don't know!  Well, I don't know how to put it to words anyway.  It seems like compliment is the word to use here; you've got everything we believe we lack.  I don't really have a full...|||Sweet!!:proud:  Sorry for the slightly pessimistic post last time, because it seems that it was unnecessary.  I DID see her again, for a good while too!  Nothing big of course, but the simple...|||Thanks again for the help, to everyone who's posted.  Update:  I could go into specifics, but again, I'm paranoid about revealing my true identity :cool:.  So, I'll try to explain things without...'