'Khender you're partly right, i've done that in the past and been very disappointed so I know the signs, and yes I know it's happening here to a degree but i'm actively trying to stop that.  In most...|||Hi, i'm an INFP and was a team leader of 12 people for over 2 years, it was hard, taking meetings, speaking in groups, but familiarisation of the people will make it a whole heap easier.  I have to...|||I'm 30 now, and also single.  I have been in and out of short intense relationships for the last 8 years however the last 1.5 years i've stopped, I want to wait for someone I genuinely think would...|||I was 23, it was about a month after my birthday and I was actually annoyed about that at the time, that'd it be 23 not 22 forever, because at that time I felt like there was something wrong with me...|||Thanks Distill, you're right that you never really know what's going on, but the girlfriends of my close friends I have a pretty good indication of since we all hang out fairly often and they do seem...|||I'm 30 now, and all my close friends are 30 too, and 2 to 3 years ago they all paired off with significant others, my close group of friends numbers about 5 (6 of us) so 4 of them suddenly all found...|||You have a warped perception of men and women.  Gentlemen deserve ladies, not some women hell bent on complaining about how her bias perceptions are means to label men.  You come across as someone...|||This all reminds me of a friend, a guy friend who said women are so much more unfaithful than men and that they cheat a lot more.  Because he had slept with 5 or so women that had boyfriends and we...|||I'm speechless almost, you're suggesting your personal subjective experiences are a basis for generalising men...   I don't agree breaking up with someone is harder than being broken up with, you...|||Ok so now it's turned into, guys can't comment on this thread even if they feel it's complete bull and it's talking about them directly... this is crazy.  In fact this is perfect, this is how...|||This idea that it is a man's duty to cater to the woman's ideal...  You do realise that while you break up with men who you perceive as being harsh and derogatory, men break up with women because...|||Im probably going to be unpopular for suggesting women get over their sensitivities a little bit.  I haven't read all the replies only the first page but really, you may think some men are so...|||I wouldnt quote an IQ test because as noted they seem ridiculous, everyone I know seems to come out as the smartest person alive in them.  I would just rate myself from the last 10 years of working...|||Hey Marie, I suppose I said it because of what you mentioned but it wasn't in direct response or trying to put you down, I have no idea what you look like or how old you look, it just sparked a...|||I'm 30 and dated a woman at 48.  Not sure how I feel about it, i needed someone and she was super caring but fell deeply in love with me.  I always told her we couldn't stay together but I find it...|||Sorry repost from my phone, below is my post.|||I feel exactly like this too, it's a problem i haven't got a real solution I feel like I'm panning for gold at an extremely slow rate, shaking the stones and mud at glacial speeds but am ever hopeful...|||I presume that over the course of 5 years (wow...) you've tried all manner of things, but to not get an interview I'd likely say your CV leaves a lot to be desired, you may not even realise how it...|||I did (am doing) this very thing.  Got sick of my job, wanted a break, moved to Japan where I don't speak the language.  I became a primary school teacher, teaching English, have done it for a year,...|||I'm not a parent but am a teacher, in Japan, seeing these kids and general society work sooo freaking hard (nearly everyone starts work at 7 or earlier and works till 10pm or later, though only paid...|||I'm not really fat but I used to go to the gym constantly, however for the past 2 years (wow has it been that long!) my constant changes in environment gave me a good excuse to stop, I dated a woman...|||I'm 29 (for a few days still) and I had a strange teenage life.  In my early years up till about 15 I was fairly unpopular but stayed off the radar screen rather than being specifically unpopular, at...|||Sorry I wrote this on my phone at work, it's a little rushed but the message is there.|||Ok so this is my take, as a 29 old man who's been through it a couple of times, 6 months ago being the last time.  I've done the whole holding on, or trying to be friends thing, or pretending I'm...|||Everyone is a different mix but my encounters with ENFPs have been dangerous, just realise they require much more attention than they give, and it doesn't matter where that attention comes from. ...|||Best thing someone has ever told me has been People overestimate how much will change in their life in the next 2 years but underestimate how much will change in 5 years  It's not very catchy but...|||Changing schools is a risk, I think the odds arent good that it will solve your problem but there is a chance, personally I'd say stick it out in your current school.   And please realise 99% of...|||I don't know how old you are but having been through a few break ups the thing I've learnt the most is to conserve grace and dignity, which can at times be impossible.  My recommended action is to be...|||I really think that's just normal infp, don't take introvert to mean never wanting to be social. I am extremely social in small doses assuming all is well in my life otherwise.  My friends (nearly...|||It's all related to the other person, you very well might not have to swear it but 'get stuck' with an insecure F girlfriend and despite all her alluring traits, you very well may have to swear it.  ...|||From what you've mentioned i'd be leaning towards infp. Infp's love being around friends, it's the making friends from strangers that is a challenge for some of us.   I know 2 ENFP's and let me...|||I'm 29 and the number of times girls have said I've never met someone like you, you're amazing, I just want to be with you.    I'm also single, and officially jaded.|||Lately i've been all consumed by matters of the heart.  It's been a while, I can't say the last year lacked drama but, I just saw a beautiful and strange sight.  A picture of a girl I once dated in...|||I can relate.  I'm 29, got a degree in finance, came out of University and took the first professional job I could get doing Accounts Receivable work for the government (in NZ), couple years by I...|||I have surrendered to fate and it has given me the strangest outcome.  I loved a girl, not to the stage of being in love, but definitely loved her and she me, it turned into long distance and things...|||I have had an erratic dating life.  It amazes me how young people start nowadays, i'm 29 and I guess I did have my first girlfriend in my last year of highschool but we just hung out and kissed a...|||I've been there, about 6 years ago now, and it took me about 2 years to beat it, but it was a constant struggle of making a little bit of progress then it falling apart.  I went to shrinks, I even...|||Ok this is a classic TL;DR post, but it contains a few emails and in fact you don't need to read it, it's just therapy to speak about it for me.  The girl that wanted to give me everything (ENFP)...|||This thread has helped me, I don't feel i'm whining as much and I say what I want.  I'm not going to write my story, but it's a big one.  I know I will learn a lot, right now I wonder how I can...|||I hate relationships, I hate not having anyone but when they come they're so complicated.  I hate how forgiving I am and that there's no way for me to end one, I must simply wait for the other to do...|||Wow i've done something to deserve the badness I get.  I have been seeing this girl, this extremely passionate ENFP who would call and txt me constantly with messages of love, I loved it but I got...|||I have body hair issues but they have definitely decreased with age (29), I have done everything in my youth to get rid of it, I don't really have back hair though, I have ass hair though haha and...|||I find I sea-saw from being a good person to be friends with (all the compassionate, kind, helpful, listening, funny things someone mentioned) to being a bit of a mess to deal with, and it is...|||Easy,  Music definitely, Loud music in the car driving on a highway with no one else is close to nirvana for me, Exercise, or more specifically the feeling afterwards.  and recently i'm...|||Just watched this and thought i'd share it, in fact I encourage everyone to check out TED: Ideas worth spreading it's amazing I just found it myself, it has so many good talks on it.  I like how...|||I've had good and bad experiences all with the same ENFP.  I'd like to meet more though, I think there is great potential with the right ENFP/INFP combo, everyone's different though, delightfully so....|||I think you're on the money.  Individual and upbringing.  I know one ENFP very well, she is quite manipulative which stopped me from seeing her in an romantic sense, because she was just a friend I...|||29 - 3 relationships, longest about 1 year, the rest 6 months.  I've had about 8 other flings as people put it, I guess they came out of loneliness and the need for physical contact, I don't like...|||I want to hear more of these, probably one of the best threads i've seen.  Unfortunately i'm basically single, all relationships i've been in have come through work (not including school), in fact...|||There are always more fish in the sea, I recently have got past this feeling you're having, funnily enough it was me, a rich white boy, with a Mexican girl - ENFP (also rich though), and much you...'