'I get that...I was pretty upset when I started this thread and when I get like that it's all or nothing.|||For me it goes in stages. While there has to be a sense of intrigue, I need to know something will actually come of the possible relationship. Since my ability to talk is usually compromised, Im...|||So..I've always tested as INTP. And honestly, I'm pretty stressed...being at that point in my life where I'm trying to conquer my indecisiveness, figure out a career and become independent while I...|||Being a female INTP with very little real-world experience...it's tough. I'm very scatterbrained and indecisive- with resting bitch face...and while people tell me I'm nice, my interpersonal skills...|||It's really hard for me to stay angry at someone...even if they really screwed up. I will cut them off though.   Revenge would be a waste of my time. Relationship-wise I've never been cheated on,...|||I’m not big on eye contact either…but when I do make eye contact with him I tend to do the intense, unwavering soul-stare thing. I realize now that this probably isn’t socially acceptable.   He’s...|||He remembers every little detail about me and (according to him) thinks very highly of me. When we aren’t together, he’s initiating contact usually throughout the day.   He won’t look me in the eye...|||I guess I'm just confused, because some could interpret hanging out as rather noncommittal. He always wants to hang out at my house and watch movies, and although he has indicated a desire to show...|||Same..but I almost feel like it isn't the best way to get to know someone?|||Setting my personal views aside, are INTPs the type to prefer hanging out over going out on dates with a romantic interest (assuming he initially took you out to places for the first few weeks and...|||I’ve only had one relationship before..and looking back, there was no “depth” to it. Granted, I had a different view of love and intimacy at that time than I do now.   Goofy…yes, that’s one of my...|||Wow..all of your concerns definitely resonate with me. It’s tough, because you care about the person, but when they’re so reserved with affection and display it sporadically, it can be very confusing...|||I won’t lie- words of affirmation are good when they aren’t tossed around and come from a guy I care deeply about, but when I hear them, I sort of just stare at the person (and knowing me, I probably...|||mhm...|||Romantic? Like, Disney romantic? Not really, no. It might seem like a good idea in my head, but putting it into reality feels almost…awkward? Or I fear that the fantasy almost won’t live up to...|||I wouldn’t text my INTP about getting a new pair of shoes or anything like that..but that’s because I’m an INTP, and he’s, well…a guy. Sure I may be excited about them, but that’s due to the fact...|||I’m a minimalist, yes.   Teaching...If it isn’t in a classroom or with +10 people, then maybe. I’m good with kids, but I prefer the “watch me do it” or experiential/ hands-on approach. It isn’t...|||Hmm..  When I was with my ex, I found myself doing all the work and making excuses for his behavior. We were together for 3 years. He would tell me he loved me and went on about how he wanted to...|||I suck at communicating properly- I’m pretty socially inept. When I do talk it’s usually when I’ve just taken my stimulants or when my Fe surfaces and I start rambling on about something. I can also...|||Just curious here. If you're an NT, what emotional needs do you have in a relationship?     I want my partner to be my best friend. I want to know that I can go to them for support, and vice...|||mhm. I tend to clash with ISTJs.    INTP, INTJ or maybe an INFJ|||Same. I tend to be pretty passive about initiating anything-never had to before.      But yeah, find out what his interests/passions are and read up on them to get a basic understanding. Ask...|||I’m seeing another INTP right now (sort of, he’s away for a few months) and I have to say it’s extremely confusing, but we’re moving very slow.|||mhm.    I have no issues with commitment, but if a guy doesn’t take any initiative in progressing a relationship and enough time goes by, I will start rationalizing why it might not be a good idea...|||The struggle is real.|||Isn't it lovely when that happens, though?|||^-^|||I’d agree with you, but then we’d both be wrong.|||mhm.|||Children seem to be drawn to me. When I was a young teen, I had a posse of neighborhood kids that would follow me around everywhere. I guess they viewed me as that “cool” older girl that treated them...|||Why not?|||What more fun can I stir up here...  Part I: How do you/other intps you know 'flirt'?    By not flirting.  Part II: Do you know of any INTPs who are major flirts?|||I don’t seek to “dominate” anyone. However, being more assertive, outgoing, talkative, etc.  depends on my mood,  my understanding of the other person, and numerous other variables.     I’m sure if...|||Preferred dating activities:      Sleeping   Videogames   Netflix    Fishing   Cards Against Humanity|||This too.|||And this.|||This.|||Difficulties? I have trouble with facial expressions and disclosing my feelings. And I don’t try to get along with people I don’t like. I’m also very socially inept and seem to intimidate men....|||Only with guys I seriously care about. If I’m interested in him, it’s safe to assume that he’s the only one in my sights. I’m also a pleaser/giver.|||Ix92m a serious person, but in an almost child-like fashion. Ix92m not very emotionally expressive, but get excited about the simple things. Ix92m low-maintenance and easy to please, and yet Ix92m...|||Um, I seem to have a preference for INTPs.    1st relationship lasted 3 years, but it was toxic and, well..boring. The INTP I’m seeing now is lovely, because he’s the whole package. But after 2...|||A solid approach. I’m usually the one who ends up taking the initiative in that sense. If I like someone, I actually enjoy doing a bit of pursuing (to a certain degree). However, I don’t like to ask...|||My ex had that “honest to a fault” trait, but it pissed me off because it came from a place of fear and insecurity- not from one of respect and genuine care. It is possible to be honest and...|||Fellow INTPs, please enlighten each other (and myself of course) on the following:   1) Suppose you were romantically interested in someone but got rejected after finally going out of your way to...|||I dislike them as well- the pressure sucks, and I hate it when it tells you the person just saw what you sent them, and yet they logged off without responding.   I typically receive 1-4 word...|||Interesting. I also prefer face to face, but thatx92s because I over think everything, and when it comes to texting, I cannot get an accurate read on the other person and generally assume the worst...|||Only when I want people to back off and give me space.   Other than that, I have been told that I was agreeable- and since agreeableness (to a certain degree) is considered a form of emotional...|||Based on personal experience, I seem to have trouble getting along with: ESFJs (I think that's what my mother is), ISTJs, and immature INTPs.  I don't like being talked down to, or manipulated...|||I don't even know how I function.   *slowly crawls under bed and curls into fetal position*|||Speaking of which..how does everyone else (other INTPs) view texting? I mean, do you only do the bare-minimum (yeahs, hmms, stuff like that) in general? If texting, which was originally very...'