'A little cold, yeah.  First of all, yes, I was being a bit of a silly ENFP. Enthusiasm, excitement about meeting a potentially compatible person, which happens hardly ever, etc.  Secondly, is this...|||Ummmm... hi INTJ friends!  It has been awhile!  I dabbled over in ISFJ land for awhile and it went VERY POORLY (all attention-seeking and lack of forthrightness and ugh).  But...I have identified a...|||Yeah, given that it's been 2 weeks since I asked to have a conversation and he hasn't done so much as acknowledge my request, I am going with not in at all (and I have emotionally moved on as well).|||Yeah, given that I already told him I was hurt and it has now been over a week without him even responding to my polite request to have a conversation about why something feels off, I think I am just...|||Thank you for the apology.  I am probably a little sensitive about being criticized in any way for not being patient/empathetic with those who really do need more internal processing time than I do,...|||So I should...keep waiting for him to acknowledge my request in some way, because it was inconsiderate of me to not respect his feelings by merely asking if we could have a conversation instead of...|||Well, thanks for everyone's input, but it apparently is no longer needed...  Either I have misidentified his personality, or he's just an emotionally immature a**hole, because it has now been a...|||Thanks again for all the input, everyone.  We have officially survived the vacation time (texted varying amounts almost every day) and have a date planned for Friday. Woo!  I am still adjusting to...|||Thank you, that is helpful and reassuring.  One of my favorite things in interpersonal interaction is figuring out what makes people tick, drives then, demonstrates love to them, etc, so when someone...|||[this is so long.  I am sorry.  I tried to be concise, but... all the feelings...see tl;dr at the end...]  I am a pretty true-blue ENFP (with some J tendencies in work environments), including the...|||I know I am way behind in answering this, but I have been doing an informal poll of all of my closest friends, and the vast majority are xNFJ, with a few ESFx in the mix.  I know of one (just one!)...|||I have frequently been asked what I am drinking/taking when I am stone-cold sober.  (Why would I need to be on something to dance on a table at a frat house?!)|||Tiny keys.  Hehe.  As to whether or not I would ever say that to him... I think had I thought of it right there and then, I would have (never had trouble being bold and honest with him!), but alas,...|||I suppose that is possible, though it was difficult to make that kind of argument because he was unable to clarify/specify exactly *what* in our interaction was lacking, and he himself had already...|||I think if our logistics were simpler (lived in the same city or knew when we would live in the same city), I might have said that.  But since that is still a complete unknown, it did not seem worth...|||We agreed to a clean cut with an open door - for me if I ever need to process further (doubtful, since it was such an open conversation to begin with) and for him, if he ever realizes what a terrible...|||Less spoiled, more... What's the phrase... appetite whetted??    God help me...|||So.  I think I need to return my INTJ decoder ring.  The INTJ and I talked last night.  He isn't feeling it (his words), and while he thinks I'm awesome, and enjoys spending time with me, and...|||HA!   g_w , I think that actually *is* how I instinctively communicate with him, though I am not 100% sure now that you say it... Duly noted.  As for the silly-storm... Like... Non-chalantly...|||He typically tries to (and does), but we have a well-discussed understanding that phone calls should happen when both are available and feeling up to a phone conversation (neither of us really LIKE...|||theredpanda - I would guess that might depend on the ENFP in question's value system, but I, personally, would never lie maliciously - in fact, anytime I lie it is because of, at the very least, a...|||jeb713 - I… think so?  We have been playing phone tag for like 3 weeks.  I left the country for 9 days in the middle.  He called when he thought I might be back (returning my call from before I...|||Scene: I am 5 minutes late to something relatively inconsequential   What I say: Ugh, traffic.  Missed every light.  What really happened: I REALLY NEEDED THAT SONG ON MY IPOD AND THEN THE ITUNES...|||Indeed.|||g_w Let's just say I'm doing my damnedest not to frighten off the INTJ.  (Especially on reviewing that the disastrous relationships of my past were with an ENFP, a likely ExFJ, and an ENTJ… with the...|||I have the added challenge of having been raised by an ENFP with ADHD.  So help me God, if I get anywhere within 5 minutes of the prescribed time, I call it a win… (it is so hard to explain to people...|||Faaaaaaascinating.  (I'd say I'm taking notes, but I'm feeling pretty good after reading that thread ;))|||This made me laugh so hard.  One of my friends used to ask, when I said I would be somewhere in __ minutes, if I meant in real time or my time.  She had a valid point.  (THERE ARE SHINY THINGS...|||My friends know better than that, heh.  I love hosting people - but only my terms and with time for preparation (for the house and for my emotions!).  There are a select group (maybex85 5 or 6?) who...|||I like to be chased, but only by someone I like.  I am unimpressed by grand gestures if I'm not interested (and I am rarely really that interested).  Even if I *am* interested I am more likely to be...|||I think this is related to why I feel like I've won the damn lottery every time the INTJ breaks out into raucous laughter.  (And I give him the same for excellent wordplay and puns - terrible puns...|||The idea is that the person has some time - even just a few moments - to prepare for bad news to come, so that it's a little less of a shock and maybe they won't totally shut down and be able to hear...|||FePa Ugh.  Maybe just... tell him that you hate it when he says that?  And in the future if he needs to talk he should just call you and start talking?  (in medicine we talk about firing a...|||Worst four words ever.  Especially if up until those words there has been nothing to suspect - light, pleasant banter, no fights, no mild disagreements, no warning signs.  Makes my stomach turn and...|||Heh.  I will not deny my weaknesses, though I will say that I am loyal nearly to a fault and so don't really fit ENFP there, which is the NF-descriptor that made my-but-not-my INTJ a little leery...|||That also works on scorpions.  For the record.  (I am not afraid of spiders - aside from the large furry kind - so much as i hatessss them.  HATES THEM.  But not as much as crickets. <heebie...|||1. Definitely know 1 male, maybe 1 female.  Probably know more (given that I have a lot of science/engineer/computer science friends), but don't know their types.  2.  Hard to read?  Not terribly,...|||Hmmm.  I really (really) like to answer genuine questions about myself, so sometimes if I'm really interested in someone I make a conscious effort to let them talk, ask them questions, etc., because...|||Having gone through plenty of iterations of does he like me? doesn't he like me? WHY IS HE TALKING ABOUT OTHER WOMEN IF HE LIKES ME?! panic-crazy-emotional breakdown, sometimes for months (MONTHS)...|||Yep, pretty much what ai.tran.75 said…  I can talk to a wall for any length of time, but generally despise small talk (in a bad mood even chit-chat with a store clerk can make me irritable) and...|||The funny thing about it is that I am not, like, DYING to talk to him.  It would be nice to talk to him, but I do not desperately miss him or anything.  The only reason I start getting anxious after...|||jeb713 - due to some circumstances when we started talking, we didn't text at all in the beginning, and now that that has been established I actually prefer it that way, even if it does mean less...|||Dear INTJs: you are straightforward, and yet you are baffling.  (Warning: Ne ahead...)  To confirm a conclusion I have come to - if you like someone, and know they like you (all bluntly stated, out...|||My memory is fairly photographic, but if I didn't snap a picture of the object... all hope is lost...|||Only if it has been more than 10 seconds since the item left my hand and I do not put it in a place I usually put it and/or am thinking about something else when I put it there (see: the time I...|||THIS.  It's part of the all-or-nothing thing - I have all these little systems in place re: where things go, keeping things in order, etc, and the system either works perfectly or is completely...|||Superfluous - don't know if my cheekbones are high or not... Maybe?  My av is actually me, so you be the judge (if you can see cheekbone well enough...)|||YES.  And  jeb713 - I often choose staying in over going out for exactly these reasons.  Now, if it's forced on me - like I am sick and have to stay in when that isn't what I need emotionally - I...|||Yup :)|||Sometimes - usually I can tell well enough whether or not I have piqued their interest and can tone it down so that there are as few mixed signals as possible.  The trouble is always with the...'