'bigstupidgrin: Thank you for that. *bows*  I've lost my ideals, and maybe that's why I'm hurting. I thought about reaching out to the INFP forum because you guys seem to have an okay attitude...|||WhateverLolaWants: Thank you for that. *bows*  I've read that description before and it rings true. What I'm having a hard time with right now is that hidden aspect of introverted feeling. It...|||Also, Vive, I still can't tell if I get my energy from being alone or from people. Some people are generally psychic vampires. I've found this to be verified by others... so it has little to do with...|||Vive: You're right, there is a lot of self-hatred going on. I don't like enneagrams. I keep getting different results. I once tested as a 6, but to be fair I was in a very sordid mood at the time,...|||Moonious: Despite being an Fi-dom (presumably, pssh) I can actually relate to the whole not knowing what your ideals are anymore. I don't. Why? Mostly because ideals don't exist in the real world. I...|||I agree that the more someone is composed of rigid extremes, the more they are likely to be disordered.  And my apologies, my statement was said mostly out of frustration, and also I do not...|||Sooo...  I'm  Receiving Expressive Intimate Reflective Enthusiastic|||I... can't... quite... put my finger on it -_______- but something about the whole structure doesn't jive with me. It's like it's a block when the world is a circle. Rather than saying I am INFP,...|||I've read this before, and honestly, I'm STILL having a difficulty seeing which bracket of those 5 I fit into. It really depends on the day. My extroversion/introversion goes through cycles. I've had...|||@AndyFP: Mostly I'm having a hard time even identifying myself as a type, despite having spent endless hours in the past several months on this site, other forums, researching the MBTI and reading...|||I can't speak for you or anyone else, but then again my endless open-endedness about things is annoying me right now: Hmm... maybe it's this, but then... maybe it's that... *shrug*... OMG, A...|||I  donx92t know about other INFPs, but I have done a lot of things that  helped expand my life experience and thus teach me to be more open. This  required compromising my ideals and values on many...|||This is the best thing I've read so far today. Thank you, thank you for that. Wow. *bows*|||I struggle with this as well, and I admit that having other people tell you to suck it up just doesn't make the feeling go away. I have a theory and it's that sensitive people (or HSPs) exist as a...|||Also, this article is really useful: INFP Personal Growth  Let me know if that provides any insights.  Somehow, upon reading this I can't help but become aware of how much of what I 'seek' is...|||Resplendent Obscurity: you might like this link -> ENFP Personal Growth  So maybe it's okay to judge something as 'good' or 'bad'? I'm having a lot of issues with this. I try so hard to be open and...|||Welp, that's me in my youth, in a nutshell.  However, like I said, inwardly I DO possess strong judgements -- at least now I do. And that 'Te bitchslap,' though I don't usually try to explicitly...|||Actually, everything you said makes lots of sense, but I sometimes wonder if we (and I mean ALL of us -- or most -- in the MBTI community) are over-complicating things. Perhaps the personality types...|||And: Forever in an existential crisis.|||I have more: Who the fuck am I?|||I want to reference a 6-word poem I read, but it's 6 words: I only collect angry buddhas now.  Otherwise: Technically, everything and nothing. Zoink.|||I must be an anomaly because I am very neat and organized, and always have been. Whether it was a force of habit from childhood by my parents, I do not know. Much everything else about my life is a...|||Actually (and I have no shame in admitting this), I once have. (I'm waiting for everyone to look and go OMG). And it wasn't like anything anyone here predicted; but my situation was also unique, a...|||Most notably I get jealous of someone who gets more attention than I do, even if that perceived attention is in my head.  In hindsight I realize it's just insecurity masquerading as...|||Are you actually trying to get me to watch an 18-19 minute video? :shocked:  I've got things to do, gotta go...  Okay, okay, I'll try to watch it... (later).  All I was trying to say is that...|||I know you said that I don't have to answer, but... I want to. :) These are my thoughts on the matter: it's a little more fluid than that. At least, I'm finding that I may have a mixed style, but...|||As for Se users, one girl (actually I think she was Te, never mind) would openly commend me for what she called my saintly behavior and calm demeanor, and behind my back shit-talk me to make...|||Yikes, this is a tough one for me. I thought my commitment phobia was an ENFP thing, but now I'm fairly certain that I'm an introvert (Idealist/Dreamer, rather). The thing with me though is that I've...|||Hmm, curious, because though I've always seen my relationship with the INTJ being a beneficiary one, I can't always tell who had the advantage. Actually, being that INTJ was severely cold and prone...|||I can agree. I had the eye contact thing with the INTJ, too. It could be because I'm rather split between I and E. INTJ was a severe introvert, so it helped a bit that I wasn't.  In the context...|||Thank you for that.  I can agree that defining ourselves as children can be a lot trickier. For one, our memory banks might give us a skewed perspective. Whether we are objective or subjective...|||Yeah, all the time, when I was younger. I think I just learned to temper myself and take things as they come. My close friends still know better hehehehe. I can convince a stranger I'm calm and...|||OMG, I LOVE YOU, I WANNA CRY... :laughing: Can we be friends?  You're like my twin.  That identity crisis is where I am at now. I'm not enjoying large lavish parties as much as I used to. I'm...|||Ahiko: It's okay, take your time! I appreciate you reading all my dribble. :P  I feel like I'm vomiting left and right but the order of my logic is all skrewed up; and yes, I am filtering it...|||Their personality type: ENFP (Turbulent variant). What the fuck is TURBULENT variant?  Sounds pretty nifty though. :tongue:  Okay, the only really reason why it says that is because I'm...|||Curious. I get the same inability to settle on one thing because I want to explore EVERYTHING.  Maybe you're right about my Fi being a little funny in its functionality, but I only think it's...|||Acey: And though I did just say it's about finding a job that fits you, I realize from my own experiences that it was trying things on for size that did not fit me that actually helped me foster the...|||It's the worst. I had that happen to me before. It was a cocktail waitressing job at an upscale restaurant/hotel. The management was stuffy and very stiff with their rules. I wasn't allowed to wear...|||Hah, I honestly don't know what to say. *embarrassed*  To be fair, my bf and I did discuss issues of exclusivity a bit prior. He expressed preference for monogamy and I expressed preference for...|||ElliCat: Right now I'm crazy caught up in black and white thinking. I should likely soften my ideals a little and allow a little room for imperfection, but there's a part of me that's just like NO!...|||ElliCat: I hope you're right. This might just be my own subjective thinking, but I'm just finding myself at a war with myself.  It really comes down to childhood memories of being teased. I don't...|||I don't know if this has been discussed before, and how much... I'm too lazy to look, blahhh... -__-  I think I've finally debunked my personality type.  I used to be in love with an INTJ. We...|||I think I'll try that.  *shrug* Will the pang of defeat eventually dwindle?  I feel like I turned in all the experiences and skills I've hoarded over the years. It's like they mean nothing now...|||I'm starting to lean toward INFP, actually. It's just not easy for me to continue ignoring my innate social awkwardness. Externally I can parlay all my accumulated social grace and practicality...|||Woohoo, you have a lot of really awesome information! *bows* Thank you, thank you. :)  I've heard a lot about that stuff before, but thank you for bringing it back to my attention and also...|||Holy moly, was that a lot of output. Erm, ENFP loquaciousness much?  :crazy:  Okay, I want more info... gimme more!|||@Ahiko: I'm having a hard time with the enneagrams. I want to accept them, but they aren't jiving with my internal system. Seems too narrow for me. I've tested first as 8. Didn't take the test...|||All three? I'm either very talented, or a total mess. :laughing:  I wish I could say Fi, but my value system hasn't become sharpened until I reached 25 when I came to full realization about the...|||Also, enneagrams mean nothing to me. I can't decide if I'm a Helper, Peacemaker, Challenger... Can't I be all those things? I think I'm all those things.  Welp, all this thread and circling...|||OMG, who are you? It's like you ARE me. :laughing:  I don't think I've found anything as relatable before.  In the context of my upbringing I'm trying to debunk what I think is the truth and...'