'dogs are so cute and so are enfps :)|||ooooh this is fantastic advice :) thank you :)|||thank you :) i agree :)|||aw why do you think that :( it can still work! one time i had a plant that died and looked really dead and everyone said throw it out and then i watered it and put it in the sun because why not i...|||whoa weird, he said both of those things, minus the dedication part. i have yet to see that part :(|||lots of making out and a sad goodbye because i moved :(|||hehehehehehehe :) you're good|||also what ended up happening on your end? why arent you and the enfp together anymore?|||you honestly have a gift with words. you could not have described it better.  losing an enfp is absolute devastation because you lose tht person that makes you not feel like a misunderstood unicorn....|||Thank you :) I couldn't agree more. My best friend is ENFP and I always tell her that she is truly better than any friend I could have ever dreamed up. We have so much chemistry that I am not sure if...|||if it were that simple, i would not have posted this in the first place.|||you're so right. he did even say i have never gotten attached to someone this quickly before as a bad thing. i am sorry you were manipulated :( people who do that need to get a life.|||Hey, thanks for your response :) why did you guys break up? did you ever consider or try to get her back? i'm sorry about that :/|||Yup, he mentioned that haha. but isn't it a great method? at least i can rule out booty call.|||Thank you :) you are spot on. everything you said was right on the money, truly. thank you for just getting it. i may be future tripping, but i am worried that one day something will just click...|||I never did that with him, I wouldn't even consider it unless I was in a long term, committed relationship|||thank you so much, everything you said was incredibly on point... where his heart knows but for any number of reasons he doesn't feel worthy enough of what his heart wants. He actually said this...|||I guess i just wish i knew what he wanted, and that if he doesnt know, to leave me alone. him taking actions that make me think he might care really won't let me move on to someone else, no matter...|||Well I think this is absolutely true. I think he fell in love with me, and he realized it when he went away and missed me, and so he ended it because of how serious it became. and he has exactly...|||Hi you :) thank you for your amazing advice again and for remembering. I think that time has already passed already :/ he made his decision back in the fall (on impulse, unfortunately) and he has to...|||I know right :)|||^ sooooo true, all of it! very well put. i door slammed because he was being an ass btw :/ it is immature, I only did it out of respect for myself, to not expose myself to that treatment again. I do...|||Noooo, probably just mental cheating, no? I can't see an ENFP cheating unless their F is underdeveloped|||So true. When did that thinking end for you, if ever?|||No no that's not what they meant, ENFPs are super loyal. My best friend is one and she is the most loyal and incredible friend, I couldn't dream anyone better than her. But ENFPs definitely get...|||Thank you for responding :)  I asked him if we could still be friends back in the fall when we broke up, and he said that he couldn't be, we couldn't be. I think he is right... it is difficult to...|||Thank you, this made a lot of sense and clarified a lot. He is so emotionally intelligent and people intelligent that it was odd behavior and so it makes sense that he wouldn't make the connection...|||Hey, thanks for your response :) I totally agree, he does not want to get tied down to me which is why it ended :( but i don't think he is trying to find someone better. he knows i was good for him,...|||Why does my ENFP ex call to x93check in,x94 text, longingly make x93hintsx94 here and there that I am special to him, contacting me for every holiday, that his mom remembers me, etc. Last summer he said he...|||Yes i do wish I could do this! one semester i had to take in completes for two classes because i couldn't focus, my emotions were clouding everything. it only happened once, usually i have them under...|||Once upon a time a young woman was at a social gathering, drawing people to her by listening deeply to them. Across the room she noticed another doing the same thing, just in a different way. He was...|||:) 405706 The worse that could happen by waiting is that he goes away, for good, no? ENTPs and reading into every little thing! Yes he's entp. i guess i meant biting in that when someone can take...|||Once upon a time a young woman was at a social gathering, drawing people to her by listening deeply to them. Across the room she noticed another doing the same thing, just in a different way. He was...|||awesome, thank you! you have clarified his thinking process, and I absolutely will do as you suggest. you made me realize I had forgotten to mention that he had indeed suggested that he doesn't want...|||When he told me he was ENFP two weeks ago, I ran for the hills, and for good reason. The one ENFP male I had dealt with wasn't reliable... all over the place, overwhelmed easily, a nightmare. When he...|||Yes!! Exactly|||Thanks Pinkachu. I can identify with your experience. Trauma like that forces you to think in fight or flight responses which can affect the people we love.   I did tell him about a week after I...|||Thank you for making me laugh unexpectedly: sexual assaults are a gift that just keeps on fucking giving.  As for you are not ultimately responsible for the ways your own assault will affect...|||Hi, thank you for you response. I am so happy he/she was prosecuted. I ended up sending him a PDF letter over email explaining everything (will help from bethdeth) and he had a kind response but he...|||I agree, but then why are INTJs attracted to extroversion? I honestly have never understood that|||This is exactly it. Exactly.|||Hey, I totally understand what you're saying and I appreciate the response. Secondary victim is key here. That is exactly where my concerns stem from. Someone violated my body, I violated his...|||Thank you so much for your response. Yeah, I get what you're saying. I guess I say it to protect myself, I don't want anyone to think I wasn't being smart or something. I know that sounds bad, but...|||Thank you so much for this, your thoughts are very helpful. I really hope that is the end result, a deeper connection. This made me less terrified to tell, and I can't thank you enough for that.|||Thank you <3 Grateful for this response|||Hi :) Thank you for your post, you raise several good points that have helped me a lot. Yeah, the dating at 22 thing was hard to hear. He doesn't want to date until he wants to get married, and he...|||Hey, thank you so much for your response. This especially gives me hope: My experience is that sharing these things that make us vulnerable almost always leads to a deeper relationship. Thank you...|||Goodness, thank you so much for your response. You see, you're expecting yourself to act in accordance with a budding relationship, IF it were under normal circumstances. But what was done to you...|||Thank you so, so much for this response, I really feel your support :) you are very kind. I see where you are coming from. I wish this wasn't his reaction, but this is just how he operates. I can't...|||I can't thank you enough for your response. That is exactly what I am worried about, the hurt that I caused. If you don't mind, I'd like to message you later about your experience. Thank you thank...'