How to be a good daughter to an ESTP Dad?  Seriously I have a lot of issues with my ESTP Dad and I really feel like he's been more like a buddy than a Dad and I feel like I just have continuously...|||Internet dating and INTJs  So I recently made a profile on internet dating website because I'm in the midst of moving to a new city and dating in general is often a good way of getting to know more...|||I know you said INTJs but to prove how much integrity NFPs have- it takes me forever too- I often envisage that it's all going to be smooth sailing and all the fish in the sea etc. but the reality is...|||Terrible yes-  I try and hide in a corner  For example I saw someone I am reasonably attracted this evening  I think I just burrowed my head in the sand like an ostrich I was aware I was saying...|||How does an ESTP want to be loved|||NTs provided that I don't irritate them   - intelligent, interesting and don't think I'm crazy (in fact often interested in what I have to say) - often interested in my input once they get to...|||Yes- I like an optimum amount of pressure- not too little not too much- somewhere in the middle of the pressure bell curve thanks! Yes- I constantly get caught crying- embarrassing for myself and...|||Out stare him, then open your eyes wide like 'what are you staring at'? Hmm but this could also look submissive   I tend to do a lot of yoga these days because working in mostly male offices for...|||Amen! say nay to the naysayers!|||Hmm yeah well in the end ignorance is ignorance- it is worse for the ignorant person because they miss out on knowing a lot more about the world, about other cultures and about other ways of being-...|||How subjective is this stuff on your part? DO you think you may be misinterpreting some of this stuff?  Fi-doms can be bullies but possibly this has some sorts of lessons for you about how to get...|||:-) you asked this question on the ENTJ forum too- are you think about a particular xNTJ or are you just putting it out there?|||Wow! that's the exact opposite reason for why I've toned down my openness and flirting in the last five years because I encounter a lot more taken people and I don't want to offend their significant...|||When I look at the ENTJ thread I get the impression that ENTJs only date ridiculously high achieving people who are extremely good looking and have amazing social skills. IS this true or do you...|||I suppose that he helped me out a lot with work stuff and sort of professionally counselled me- I suppose that I usually keep a very strict boundary between work and life but I thought that as I was...|||Thanks- yeah maybe I'm just to justify explain why I do not want a co-dependant relationship (maybe even just to myself) and why after being in relationships where I prioritised other person I would...|||Also I suppose that fairness is actually more closely associated with Ti than Te :-)|||I suppose that I am also making a value assumption here- that people who would want interdependent relationships would also value a certain amount of gender equality and thinker/ feeler fairness.|||I suppose what I mean that being a female intuitive female- it is already a bit of an uphill slog in an 'SJ' Thinker dominated world career world-  I suppose I see posts by female NTs about having...|||I love this idea in theory but I have seldom seen it in practice- I know of one otentially Intp and Infj relationship where I have seen this occur but still I think that the Infj has sacrificed a lot...|||Also on a personal note to give you an idea about an NFPs capacity for integrity although I've been on and asked people on dates I haven't been involved with anyone on a physically intimate level for...|||Also on a personal note- the Istj I dated ended up moving cities for work anyway so I'm glad it didn't work out- it was always going to be about his career not mine.|||You hit the nail on the head! That said I'm not sure I would ever want to 100% commit everything to someone anyway- what about friends, family? My career? I'm a very dedicated, loyal partner and I...|||Just reviving this thread because I have a question along these lines  I asked someone out (suspected ISFP male) who I used to work with over facebook, kind of casually, I thought (I left the job...|||Thankyou :-)|||I am aware of this theory but I'm not sure whether it applies to me :-) Thankyou|||PERSONAL RESPONSE;  My first boyfriend and father were probably ESTP-   Let me just say there is nothing nice about growing up with a string of 'Dad's girlfriends' who do not really like you and...|||:-)  Who would this be then?   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nu3cezCkzf4&list=PL9Z0stL3aRykWNoVQW96JFIkelka_93Sc  An ESTP?|||I get it- I particularly get the idea of security from an SJ- Also I'm a 6w7 so the security thing is particularly appealing for me  I dated an Istj a while ago and I liked the fact that a lot...|||Good advice! I'll keep it in mind- yeah the fact that I'm moving away is what gives me confidence to ask someone out but I realise it might be the opposite for other people- I think in the past I...|||This is really good advice!  I was recently pretty interested in a guy who I'm pretty sure is ISFP- I was particularly very emotionally attracted- because we have pretty similar values but the Ne/Se...|||Absolutely! but I'm 31 so I need to get over that- plus I can commit partially but there always needs to be something uncommitted- or space to move- plus I'm an extremely loyal and monogamous partner...|||Yeah I think this guy might be an INTJ- he seems really together- I'm definitely scattered- scrawling on the backs of random bits of paper I pull out of my bag etc. I don't think I've had a lot of...|||How to ask an INTJ on a date?  I think I have an INTJ tutor in the last class of my post grad degree- either INTJ or INTP, I'm looking at moving to a city about three hours away and I think he's...|||This writer seems to think that Intx of both genders have the most difficulty in dating and that Esxps have the easiest time, again it really does seem to depend on age- it seems to be about high...|||Pucca  Now I'm beginning to think I'm an ENFP too, I often get told I'm extroverted, I love people and social situations and I do have a profession that involves lots of Te (Science and Law...|||Hi there,  I'm in a similar boat in that I'm an extroverted introvert, my Mum still thinks I'm an ENFP but I test INFP, I love people and I love socialising but I definitely need recharge time, I...|||I had an ESTP first boyfriend- we were just too different- I think that you can only know that someone loves you if they actually say that they love you.  This particular guy drifts back into my...|||The INTJ forum might be a good place to ask? I'm not even sure what an INTJ might not notice except that we tend to be quite sensitive and I find that NTJs and STJs can easily offend, often without...|||I love this! nothing like some good honest criticism (7, 11 and 17 particularly apply to me) I'm going to the Isfp forum in future for relationship advice! :-)|||On a more personal note I actually really like nice guys- particularly Isfps but unfortunately in the past they've broken up with me rather than just behaving badly until I break up with them- also I...|||This is pretty true- I think that the same thing happens in reverse too like when you feel really seriously about someone who just wants to have sex with you- this could be dealt with not by berating...|||Off topic but are you insinuating Ni is more useful than Ne?|||Get close to an IxFP- I don't crave intense emotions but I experience them on an almost daily level- it's exhausting and often makes me wonder if I suffer from a mental illness- but seems to be the...|||Probably not- yes, I was thinking of an individual and not intending to criticise the type as a whole I happen to have some very close ESTP relatives as well who I love but I think that if there is...|||I find Estps a bit too intense, especially if they're overusing Fe in a  bit of a manipulative way or when you look into their eyes and realise that there is just an empty husk with nothing inside,...|||I suppose that I would just like to see a sense of fairness in it all, if some social things are more difficult for INTJ women then surely this is balanced out by other aspects life professionally? I...|||This is a very broad generalisation and does not take account the changes in dating preferences that come about with age as people start thinking about having children etc.  I think that some of...|||I agree with this, I thought that I wanted to be a Christian for a while too but more just because I really like the idea of having a community and something to believe in- so I went and explored...|||Thanks! I'm in a similar position- I don't feel that I've always been rejected but I don't seem to have been able to obtain the fairytale romances that I was seeking and I'm in a  similar position...