'a space whale - The only reason I worded it like that was that when I would try to communicate with her that it hurt that she criticized me, I sometimes get the responses Jeez!! or Come on!! I do...|||Thank you! I will definitely look into that :)|||Sorry, double-post! Page didn't totally load after a minute or two and I refreshed it... >_<|||pinkrasputin - I am 22, actually. But I do know what you mean. I don't think I am ever going to feel like an adult, even though I am very well capable of taking care of myself. My Mom does not get on...|||@marzipan01 - THANK YOU! I feel like you worded this so much better than I could have. Your situation sounds quite similar to mine. The scenarios aren't exactly the same, because sometimes it is...|||...I wish I were more eloquent with my wording, because then maybe I would be misunderstood a little less by people. I feel like this every day. :|||First of all, I'd like to apologize for not posting for like a week. I started an internship recently, but it has VERY long hours, so I have not been on the computer much...   @nadej - Yes, I live...|||I don't know if I'll ever be able to communicate normally with my Mom.  I try so hard, but for some reason, I am the only one in the family that she snaps at or seems to get in pointless arguments...|||Been dating the same guy for a bit over 3 and a half years, with the exception of about a month or so last year, but that time helped for some reflection on what needed to be worked on. We still have...|||Please listen to what everyone is saying. My ex boyfriend was the same exact way. You may not notice harm if it's not physical, but eventually you will possibly notice the mental/emotional damage it...|||ENFPs gone wrong?  Say hello to Robin Williams' character Rainbow Randolph from Death to Smoochy!  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=enNOYsdgUOI Umm... Pardon some of the language. And the length...|||Next/Possible Careers Non-profit/activism/advocacy work   Current Careers  Got laid off from the diner a week or so ago, so here's my volunteer experience. DV/SA Hotline Volunteer (Domestic...|||@Thorgar - Oops, I think I misworded that. I told him that I appreciated it would be more accurate. But yeah, after talking to him that one more time on the phone, I didn't bring it up anymore...|||Thanks for all the input guys! And talking a bit more with him after calming down did help. I did reiterate how I was feeling yesterday and the concerns I had because of past incidences, and he,...|||I guess I will try talking to him about it.  When I had brought up the date initially through text, he stated he was fine with it. I had told him that I appreciated his attempt to be a bit more...|||I am not expecting him to be jumping off the walls about meeting a friend of mine whom he has never met. I would just prefer to not have him act (or feel) particularly negatively during the outing...|||Thanks for the responses! I was curious because I have an old friend coming into town, and she wanted to do a double date. I asked my INTJ boyfriend if he'd be up for it, and he said yes, but he...|||Out of curiosity, do any of you -on behalf of a partner- push yourself to be more social at the expense of what you want to do (ie- go on a double date with people you don't know, family functions),...|||Forgot to mention here a little while ago, but about a month and a half after we broke up, we talked through our issues and my SO admitted he had some personal issues he wanted to work on (which I...|||Coming from an ENFP (though I am borderline I/E), it could be any number of things. Does she have a lot of personal stress going on in her life? Issues at work? (Sorry ahead of time if this reply...|||Upon further reflection, if I were to become an unhealthy ENFP..... I wish there was a female version of Rainbow Randolph from Death to Smoochy. That'd totally be an unstable me. Would have posted...|||Germany and North Italy from Axis Powers Hetalia? Might be wrong, but they seem to be remniscent of an INTJ/ENFP couple. 30727307283072930730|||As far as academically, I can't stand math, but I like leisurely doing logic puzzles, some of which involve math. If a grade is connected, I don't like it because it's one of my worst subjects,...|||When I am a little upset or miffed, it makes me feel better when my significant other initiates talking and checks up on me and makes me feel special (I am usually quite doting on him but it makes me...|||http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VUm8wtDQgTU This.|||Thinking about it, I've never really dated someone of my own race. I've had a few crushes, but that was it. Besides, the guys who weren't of my race tended to have more in common with me or were more...|||Well, considering the experience I've gotten in college, I'd like to go into domestic violence awareness advocacy and nonprofit work related to that and homelessness. Here's to hoping that goes...|||If you mean stable as in emotionally and inwardly, as well as outwardly, it was definitely developed and learned. (Although I had emotional damage that brought up a large chunk of the instability as...|||Unless the calm is making me fall asleep, there have been plenty of times that having that calmness gives me too much time to overthink all the awful things going on in the world, or even things you...|||Back in a relationship with my INTJ again. <3 I think the space was good for us, and things will go a lot more smoothly for us this time! (Had a fairly healthy relationship in the first place; stress...|||I want to travel to different countries, write a children's book, write an epic, record at least one music album (but not to become famous), go on a safari, ride an elephant at least once, see the...|||I own a bit of makeup but I virtually never wear it because I don't like the thought of going to rub my eyes and getting eyeshadow or mascara everywhere, and think I actually look better without it...|||Aw shucks, I hope that's what his thoughts are of me. He can be cynical at times so I am hoping that the sign he was not bothered by my insistence of trying again is a good sign... If you would like...|||Update, I guess, since the thread is still open. I have been doing pretty well over the last month, but a day or two ago, was very uncharacteristically depressed, and made it somewhat apparent on a...|||I cannot stand the thought of cheating in the slightest, and anyone I know who's cheated, I don't really trust them much anymore.  Never been tempted to cheat, and never have. I don't even flirt...|||Hmm... Throughout my life, I've had countless little crushes, but as far as dating? Between freshman year of high school and now (entering senior year of college) I have dated three guys. First one,...|||It's really helped to read this thread. My guy (INTJ) and I mutually broke up on Monday because we are going through different stages of life, but it's still been tough. (We both have things we need...|||They are bluntly honest and they are loyal, even when circumstances change. :)|||And thank you to everyone for the helpful advice! This has been a rough time but it all really helped.|||We just ended up talking about it early and both initiated a conversation. I ended up telling him exactly how I felt and he told me what his view of how things happened was.  I am glad that he said...|||Well, I talked to the psychologist I've been seeing lately, and things became even clearer to me. I would always get an uncontrollable fear that he suddenly wouldn't care about me or find me...|||Thank you, this is a really rough time. I will give myself more time to think about this, but I do feel that I will likely feel the same way in two weeks or a month (or longer!) from now, and I have...|||Thank you all for the replies so far. That was a given to me already as far as not telling him straight off. We both need time to mull things over. Things ended very civil; I just need to be a bit...|||My close-to-3-year relationship with an INTJ ended yesterday. It was peaceful (no spite or hostility, but very sad). We still care about each other very much, but we were just causing too much stress...|||Wish I could help with that, but the only experience I have is with (who I think is) an ESFP.  But I was willing to hold out for as long as it took for my ex-SO, but he couldn't handle it quite so...|||Ends up my other bestie is the same exact type as the first one I described; ISFJ. Despite the S/N difference, we have virtually no conflict at all (which I noticed is a tendency with other sensors...|||If my S.O. had a spirit animal, I'm pretty sure it'd be a cat. He has some cat-like tendencies.|||Looks like they kept breaking up/arguing and getting back together, and finally ended up together in the end.|||Thanks for the input, it's interesting to hear your thoughts and the straight-forward honesty is always appreciated, of course. :)|||Sorry, misread the post. I guess I'll ask a different question though.  Has anyone ever changed your mind with resilience or optimism when being ousted by the neglect option?'