'Yea.  If you saw my recent response to this thread.  Exactly.  That's what I got from mine also.  He was very disruptive and irritating.  But, I've FINALLY got him to chill, and let me do my own...|||I have been in a relationship with an ESFJ for 20 years and, I'm an INFP. I'll try to sum all that up.  The overall emotion of the relationship is comfortable, feel like family, unhappy, secure,...|||I just want to say hello again.  I've been sooooo busy.  I've owned my own business, then lost it.  Also, there are soooo many different things and social sites on the web these days.  I've been...|||Hey.  One thing I found out is, you MAY not actually be interested in your TRUE Holland Code.  Your inferior function has a tendency to interfere.  It has a subconscious way of wanting to express...|||Oh no.  They don't have the same last name.|||Well.  She's in a 3 year relationship that is getting me sick.  They do not click at all and, she cries every day telling me how badly he's treating her.  She says since her friends moved away, so...|||lol.  Ok.  I will.|||Well.  No test is perfect, just like no government is perfect.  It's a guideline that is more accurate than guessing I would think sort of speek.     I forgot to mention what I meant by ideal. ...|||Lol.  Well.  I try to communicate with them in a way they understand better like a different language.  But, mostly I believe that life itself forced me to use my thinking more.  Sometimes I'd rather...|||Well.  I'm INFP on both Myers-Briggs and Socionics (there is an explaintion why).   One says ESTP is the best match for me and one says ENFJ to put  it shortly.  So, you're saying you tried your...|||Ok.  Let me explain as quickly as I can a long story here.  I've been into socionics also.  I've been trying to convince the ESTP's we are a dual match and, NONE  of them agreed with that.  They ALL...|||Are there other kinds of test besides a self test?  How would you take THAT test?  I took the MBTI in college in one of my courses. also.|||You said needy, clingly TO START.  What do you mean by TO START?  Do you mean at the beginning of the relationship, then get cold again?  Hmmm.     I know an ISTJ-he's pretty cool.|||Yea.  I know.  I don't have anything to hide, and people can't see personal info on facebook unless they are our friend.  But, I already sent the info. How do you delete a message on here?|||Well for a silly question there sure are a lot of people interested in answering.  And, you don't have to read it if you don't want to.  So, it must have been somewhat interesting to you to read all...|||You hit the nail on the head with that one.  It's a feeling of unhappyness, unfufillment, that something missing.  Sometimes depressing when there are arguments.|||I'm defidently not saying to throw away a relationship because you're not compatible.  I'm not trying to convince others to leave their spouse for sure.  But, if you're single, or in a very unhappy...|||Which theory is the most accurate when it comes to best matches?  MBTI or Socionics?|||My daughter would like to meet a friend on here and get to know.   She's and ISFP and socionics says you guys would be a good match.  you can write her on facebook at Heather Chaisson in Louisiana. ...|||There is a reason why some people test the same in both test.  I wish I would have saved it on my computer.  But, therre is an explanation for that.    I'd like to know which one is the most...|||Hi.  My daughter would like to meet an ENFJ to get to know you better.  Can talk to her on Facebook under Heather Chaisson in Louisiana. I told her I'd try to find her a friend on here.  She's about...|||lol.  Yea. I suppose it is a little funny.  Well as far as maturity goes, I'm 39 and dated guys 4 years older than me with a few 20 years older than me.  They were mature, just didn't click right....|||Well.  I've been studying a lot of this stuff over the years.  I'm 39 and never seem to get it right.  The MBTI DOES make a HUGE difference.  At least you can understand each other more.  Once you...|||Yea.  I see that too.  It's comfortable, but the spiritual part is missing (the N).  Thanks|||Wow!  I wasn't rejected lol.  Great!  I was just wondering if you agree with the Myers Briggs saying that ENFJ's and INFP's are ideal?  I've never met anyone like you before.  That's why I'm on here....|||Hey.  Maybe you can help me.  Myers Briggs says the ideal person for us in ENFJ secondly ESFJ.  I've been miserable with ESFJ for 18 years on and off again.  Socionics says we match with ESTP (but it...|||Ok.  Here I go again.  Myers-Briggs said INFP's (me) is best matched with ENFJ and ESFJ.  I didn't agree with it, because I've been depressed and miserable with an ESFJ for 18 years.  But, Myers...|||Ok.  Whatever.  I just assumed the opposite of love is hate.  But, there is in between also.  Oh noooo way do I want to be hated.  I'd rather be ignored lol.  The only way I don't care is if I hate...|||Oh. Ok. lol.  Well.  That's good to know and bad to know.  Since that was my only hope of the best match.  Mbti was wrong to me, and socionics doesn't look all that promising saying that ESTP's are...|||The Myers Briggs and Socionics doesn't say we are a perfect match, but I love ya'll and I'm an INFP lol. Just because someone is different doesn't mean you have to hate them.  They just look at...|||You were 13?  He must have been real young also.  Boys usually don't get mature that young.  He was still a kid himself.  I think maturity had a little something to do with it also.  I know some guys...|||hmm.  I confess I hate to work lol|||Make sure you are not dehydrated.  Only decafinated beverages would help.|||What?  It seems you are having problems with people at your house.  Are you still living with your parents?|||I was feeling tired of being rejected and misunderstood by the other forums lol.  I need to run back here at home with you sweet understanding INFP's like me.  I just wish they would have said that...|||Well, when a person is hurt and another person is more concerned with the person that hurt her and wondering what's in it for me?  Seems uncaring and selfish.  But, glad to know the truth.  Glad to...|||It obviously hit a nerve for some reason.  If it weren't an issue, I don't think it would have bothered you so much-the question.  It's just a question.  Do INFP's have the capactity to be logical? ...|||lol.  It's like the porkipine hugging the cactus|||That is so sweet.|||You're trying to point out your point of view which seems a little selfish in some ways to and uncaring, but I have an open mind.  I'll try to interpret her point of view differently.  When you are...|||Ok.  I see your point of view.  I think this is better communication than attacing each other.  She attacked all of you which I'm sure she didn't mean.  I don't believe all of you are bad guys.  It...|||Well, my mom (ENTJ) is bad with names and sometimes faces.  Everyone knows her.  She says, everyone knows me, but I don't recognise them. I feel bad,so sometimes I just say yea yea, I remember....|||Well.  It seems you are judging her for loving this man and wanting to be with him.  Remember the times you loved a girl and she didn't want you, but you kept going back?  The chase?  Don't act like...|||Yea. They don't mean anything by it.  Their caring is teaching you something and challenging you.  That's how they care.|||Hey guys.  I've been writing about this stuff expressing it differently.  But, that's a different perspective on it (feelings).  Yea.  The feelings were overwhelming (I tried keeping it to myself...|||Yea.  That would make me vulnerable to rejection.  He may be turned off my my sensitivities, but honestly is the best way to go.  So, thanks for your advice.  I will do that.|||wow.  ok. There is only one thing that I don't get.  If I love someone is because I know them and the dating part is meeting them.  I have to date them before I could love them.  You said you love...|||My mom is an ENTJ and she's the baby of 3.|||I know.  My mom is like that (ENTJ).  Of course she used to do hair for a living.  She spends lots of time making herself up.  She'll ask me, do I have more rouge on one cheek than the other? etc. ...|||That's sweet.  You know why I asked too, is I fell in love with this wonderful INTJ type of person and, I told him I love him.  He told me he didn't know what love was and has never felt love for...'