'I was was with my ISTJ ex-husband for 14 years.  We rarely argued. He was and still is very reliable, trustworthy, dependable and caring.   We drifted apart because there was a lack of fun,...|||0%    -   It says I should be vigilant about people with psychopathic traits who might take advantage.  I guess when I was younger, I did assume the best and it was easy for certain individuals to...|||I think that amongst XXFJs, particularly INFJs and ISFJs, there's an increased tendency to want to help and make others happy etc.  I certainly feel that pull.  We've just got to be careful that...|||I'm scatty and often don't notice my surroundings because I'm in my own world.  I put something down, like an umbrella, then walk off without it.  I might be engrossed in something at work, eg a...|||I have two daughters: one is  ESFJ and one is ENFJ.  Their father (my ex-husband) is ISTJ.  So it's definitely possible for two introverts to produce extraverts!|||I think if you are the one doing most of the 'giving' in the relationship, and spending lots of time trying to make your SO happy (whilst not demanding the same in return) you are more likely to be...|||Ok, but maybe it's just the way they answered the question in the survey.  Like rather than say how they really feel, they might say how they think they ought to feel based on logic.  E.g. I must...|||Ah, c'mon now! Stop exaggerating (even if it's for comic effect)!  My best friend is a married female ENTP so I will consult with her and may get back to you to disprove your claim!|||Well I guess most people are cordial and polite to acquaintances because cordial and polite = distant.  But sarcastic, teasing and tactlessly blunt?  That doesn't necessarily sound like 'being a...|||What???  You mean if I start a relationship with an ENTP, he's going to have a few friends waiting in the wings, ready to take my place? Not sure I like the sound of that. Better watch out for...|||Unemployment is stressful for anyone, but for a man (of any type) whose partner has a baby on the way and feels he ought to be the 'provider' for his partner and baby (as most men do) then multiply...|||purposive I know where you are coming from.    I'm  a very animated INFJ (clearly not all of us are) and I have an INTJ work colleague.  When I'm talking to her it's like we're so similar yet so...|||Yes, I can see what you're saying here.  With INTPs, I feel interested, engaged and amused.    With ENTPs, I feel the above plus energised, light, alive and completely myself.  To generalise,...|||Mystery is ISTP.  It's like somebody puts on the Internet that he's INFJ and it suddenly becomes 'fact'  But if you look at his body language and eyes, they are nothing like an INFJ's.  He is...|||So, go on, what's the connection between INFJs and Ewoks, then?  I'm sure you'd love to tell us :)|||Ok so here's another theory to throw into the mix:  Perhaps you are a more confident and secure person nowadays, so that you don't need to rely on external validation in order to feel good about...|||My mum is an INFP and my Dad is an ENTJ.  They have been together for 43 years.  They are really happy together and very close.  They are rarely apart from each other, especially now that they are...|||Your advice is interesting. I like it.  I was wondering if Ti users like ENTPs find it more difficult to work out what they want and therefore end up sometimes feeling bored, listless, disconnected...|||Probably they were INFJ cabbies!|||You seem to be saying that an INFJ might accuse someone of a weakness as an excuse to withdraw from a relationship, when the real reason they are withdrawing is because the relationship makes them...|||Rationally, I am tolerant of other's weaknesses, but irrationally I can still get irritated. But if I'm feeling irritated, I tell myself 'well, they just can't help being like that.     I work...|||I'm starting to realise that I'm a little less structured and 'J' than the average INFJ here.  Was brought up by INFP mum so that might explain it!|||Well, finally there's something we can all agree an INFJ would not say (I hope)|||I'm just one of those people who doesn't dream - or at least if I do, I can't remember them when I wake up|||Why? Don't tell me you like doing taxes!  Probably I'm the atypical INFJ.  I guess it just shows we're all different.|||(To the boss) Just tell me what you want me to do and precisely how I should go about it.  You don't need to worry my little head with the reasons behind or the purpose of the job.|||I had an interesting and fun morning going through my household budget, studying the monthly income and outgoings in great detail.|||I know that I am an INFJ because I know that my cognitive functions are Ni-Fe-Ti-Se in that order.  But where have we got the idea that INFJs perceive themselves as victims, enter into abusive...|||What about things like health spas, massages from masseurs, pedicures etc?  A lot of women talk about how they love to be 'pampered' but I'm really not into it.  It's like: 'You're invading my...|||I can relate to the situation the OP describes and I have clashed with an ESTJ at work a number of times.  They're just so different to INFJs and my habit of asking 'why' is perceived as a criticism....|||You say, I feel like I need to be impressive to be accepted. I think you summed up your whole post with this sentence.  I have no idea what MB type you are, but the main thing you have to deal...|||Like DiamondDays said, he sounds more NTJ to me.  Some NJs can test as NPs (myself included) because we're more organised and decisive in a long term, driven kind of way and less interested in making...|||What about following a pet theme like 'the dog ate it, the cat spat on it, the hamster used it as a blanket, the rabbit thought it was a carrot, a hedgehog hibernated in it...' something like that. ...|||My INFP friend's 16 year old ENTP daughter says that she hasn't done her homework/ course work because she's a 'kinaesthetic learner'!??  Well that's what she tells her mum. I've no idea what she...|||I keep asking these questions to all four of my ENTP friends.  One of them has let it be known that my persistent questioning about what jobs she would like to do when her kids are older (she's a...|||This is great! Explains it so well.   Also, the part about integrating Se in later life definitely applies to me. (I'm 41)|||For me, Fe seems like sharing emotions with others rather than delving too deeply in my own emotions.  So when I see other people feel sad, it makes me feel sad.  My everyday behaviour and my choice...|||I express superficial emotions like excitement, irritation, frustration, happiness easily and frequently and I sometimes even exaggerate them for dramatic effect!  But when it comes down to the...|||^ A prime example of the dangers of Ni overuse!!  Ok, I know you wrote it as a joke.  But really, you've clearly spent a long time fantasising about this.  Is that a good use of your time?  Or...|||*thinks* hmm....  Maybe it's not that people love to hate ENTPs but that ENTPs love to be hated!  You know - like how little kids play up and be naughty because being told off is still getting...|||Ooh DiamondDays, I really HATE you!    (Did you love that?)|||NTPs aren't annoying.  They're lovely :)  There's a lot more scope on the 'hate'  thread for debate. On the 'love' thread people say something complimentary about ENTPs, then ENTPs say 'Yeah I...|||The tests make me either a five or a two, but I relate more to the type 5 description.|||Actually, I'm not sure either which teaching areas are specifically Se.  I have two ESTP colleagues.  One is in charge of Art and the other is in charge of sport/ P.E.  So I guess probably it's that...|||If you've just started then this is the hardest time because you haven't got the experience to just 'wing it' from time to time.  Lots of things will just come automatic with experience so it will...|||I'm actually in the management side of things now, specialising in kids with learning or behavioural difficulties.  I get a nice balance between strategy, planning, analysis (Ni stuff) and direct...|||A 3 hour journey is a long way.  Ok, I understand now why you haven't yet met up.   Nevertheless, I hope that you manage to meet up with him in the not so distant future.  Personally, I don't trust...|||Sounds like you really ought to meet up with him, if only to bring you down to earth if it turns out that in real life he is not as great as you imagined him to be.  But you are a bit worried that if...|||Yes, but the potential for rejection, humiliation, embarrassment and awkwardness is huge if you're just going to be direct and ask out someone who has been a good friend for a long while.  Surely,...|||Sorry, I misunderstood.  I thought you meant her timing during the concert was bad.  I didn't realise you meant bad timing as in that point in your life.  So she has a boyfriend now? Well, I guess...'