'I have the SAME argument with my INTP boyfriend all the time. He's introduced me to friends and family, but he refuses to bring me around his new co-workers. He says he doesn't like to mix worlds....|||Thanks everyone! A lot of you later posters really hit the nail on the head. He really is a wonderful man who, not only tolerates my daughter, but totally adores her. If I wasn't so nervous and...|||Yes, totally! He said it really made him feel better just knowing that I understood why he'd been feeling steamrolled. He says it's true he fears my need to jump to closure when I am stressed, but...|||Ok, I just talked to him, and we worked this all out. There's a lot of back story. Basically though, I didn't include him at all in the apartment hunting processes, and that's really what bothered...|||YES! This is exactly what I am afraid of. I have been involved with a man like that before, and it was horrible. I am afraid I'm just about to get into the same thing here. I mean, if this is a good...|||Well, I was thinking you could relate, as an INTP, to a time when you felt angry at a certain external family situation (a move, for example) and didn't know how to deal with your close loved ones...|||Hi Everyone,  I posted here a lot last year about my best friend, a confusing INTP. Now I'm dating a seemingly awesome INTP. Very smart, funny, and usually very caring, protective and complimentary...|||hah! Yes, that is so him. he always wants a blueprint to my inner, emotional life. And I actually suck at talking about emotional things and my own needs. So that is already a big communication gap...|||I'm really close to INTJ (like 1% feeling), and I think I can relate to him. I did the same ignoring thing to my first boyfriend (an INTP) for about six months before we finally started dating. I...|||The sex thing was a joke, Everyone!|||Yeah, exactly. He feels it's like, I'm your boyfriend. Of course I'll be there for you.  But I don't mean it to imply that. I profusely thank my ENFP friend for being there precisely BECAUSE she is...|||I said BESIDES sex, people! ;)  And I'm not saying I have sex specifically to make someone feel appreciated. I just find it can have that effect.|||Hi Everyone!  So I'm now dating this really nice guy. I've been going through a difficult time, and he's been incredibly supportive (always there to listen, taking me out to dinner to get my mind...|||yes, he confessed further yesterday to feeling nervous and blatantly said, if i ever do something that bothers you, please just tell me. don't let it fester.  i just tell him, don't worry. i...|||Hi everyone,  I've noticed with the guy I'm currently dating (and my INTP exboyfriend as well), that, although neither is blatantly clingly, they give off a certain eager to please/nervous...|||All the ENFPs I know are actually really good at math and science, so they must be good with logical thinking. I think they just rarely apply that logic to social interactions with people. Or...|||He doesn't sound like an INTP as much as he sounds absolutely insane. How old is he? Could he be having some kind of psychotic break?|||thanks, gang! our next hurdle: talking on the phone! we're supposed to talk tonight.  i am so nervous! i really need to just calm down. . .any words of advice?   it's funny to me how he is totally...|||They were all works of literature with a little theory mixed in. He majored in English Lit.  I read the ISFP description. I see a BIT of that in him. He is certainly very hard on himself and...|||More Data! (and a question at the end :)   1. He has an absolutely beautiful apartment. It is filled with books, but everything is very orderly and aesthetically pleasing, even artistic. He also...|||As a follow up question: A lot of you have mentioned his probable anxiety about screwing things up. Is there anything xNTPs find especially soothing for that type of relationship anxiety?   ...|||I actually hope you're right! I think, for long term relationships, I tend to be more attracted to I types. We understand each other's need for quiet time to recharge|||ha! thanks guys. well, i'm pretty positive about the NTP part because he claims he loves to argue and that anyone who gets offended by me probably isn't anyone i want to be friends with anyway....|||I'm not good at expressing my affection for people in words. They never sound genuine to me. And also, as a woman, I like the guy to lead the way (and then I'll meet him if I feel the same).  I...|||I posted this in the ENTP forum as well because I can't figure out which this guy is. A bunch of them suggested he sounds like an INTP. I'm not sure because I've only ever known 1 INTP.    So...|||thanks, everyone!  yeah, i'm pretty sure about the NTP part because of the infrequent communication and not verifying details until the last minute. also, he describes himself as loving to argue,...|||Which of the behaviors make you think so? Do you identify with any of those things? It's also possible I'm just misinterpreting them and have drawn the wrong conclusions. (Like, maybe he wasn't so...|||So I've been out with this guy a few times, and I think he's an ENTP. I don't know him well enough to interpret his behaviors yet, but I've made some inferences so far. (Sometimes I just get...|||thanks guys! you were right. a simple text cleared everything up. all is well :)|||yeah, given he was the one who asked me out again, i don't THINK it's a matter of being low on the priority list. Also, he didn't literally say check one thing he actually had to check specifically...|||Hi ENTPs!  Question: I had a date last weekend with an ENTP. He emailed me the next day to schedule a second date. He asked me when I was free. I told him. He said, I just have to double check...|||ok, so what exactly would you say? like, thanks again for dinner. i had a nice time. ?|||Hi ENTPs,  Last night, I had a nice date with a guy I met on an internet dating site. I'm pretty sure he's an ENTP. I know for sure he enjoyed himself. He paid for everything. He made a point of...|||[QUOTE=Tendency;1662854]Man, I've used sites on and off for years. I'm surprised that this person has enough responses to get practice dates.>  Yeah, that's what surprised me as well. When I...|||Ha! Well said. But here's my defense in this case: He USED to be the sweetest, gentlest, smallest, quietest boy in our grade. It wasn't until he went off to college that he became such an asshole. I...|||Ha- you sound exactly like me! (I see you are an INTJ). That's my whole issue. I'm not attracted to someone based on pictures and what they say about themselves. I need to really know their mind...|||Yeah, it's kind of surprised me how well my INTP friend took to this online dating thing, actually. To me, it seems a bit awkward. But I do have friends that have found success that way. They are...|||It's true what the others have said about the INTP loyalty to those they respect. I've basically blurted out more awkward, emotional, clingy things than I can count to my INTP exboyfriend (now...|||How are you guys when it comes to online dating? (Like using dating sites). I'm new to the field and just curious. My INTP friend finds someone he really likes, exchanges several emails, then asks...|||When I was in a relationship with an INTP, I had no idea when he was going to say I love you or if he did in fact love me until after about 8 months. We were long distance then, and he came to...|||exactly! i'm trying to keep my flexibility/kindness but also gain some assertiveness and a sense that I matter too.|||Yeah, I know my submissiveness actually freaks him out. I mean, he's known me long enough that he's not going to be suspicious of me per se. And he obviously likes that I'm flexible and accomodating...|||As an INTJ/INFJ, assertiveness is something with which I struggle. I'm trying to become more aware of my own needs and voice them in relationships.   Anyway, I'm just wondering how you guys tend...|||I'm pretty sure he's NOT an INTP (he works with machinery as a technician/sales person) but I really have no clue. . .Can INTPs work with machines?   I just know he's smart and has a sarcastic,...|||Hey guys,  I have this other friend, and I'm trying to figure out his type. I don't know him very well. What are the key factors you guys tend to look for in trying to figure out someone's type? ...|||I just want to say my INTP friend does that sleeping thing ALL the time. His preferred mode of dealing with emotions is curling up in his bed and napping (for as long as necessary), and he is also...|||Wow! That really hits the nail on the head. And I think, when he is still in the infatuation stage with a girl, he's willing to violate his own boundaries and do whatever it takes just to be with...|||Ha- I say go for it! Provided she's a decent person, if you feel emotionally and physically stirred by someone to the extent that you need to build in boundaries, I think it's a sign you have a...|||Ha-yeah, it's literally curb your enthusiasm. I think that P function in him is just too unpredictable. He says some girls make him feel like he's under a spell while he's with them. He thinks...|||Oh- I already agree with you. He's been open about his feelings (still has feelings. still attracted. just adamantly opposed to dating again). That's why I said I could see myself dating him, but I...'