'My guess for the mixed signals when in mixed company is that Person A dated someone else in the group previously.  That's what I would do.  Try not to make the ex too jealous or even let them know...|||Tangent:  Linkzelda  I find it interesting that in at least two subsequent posts, you mention the limitations of human language several times.  Maybe somewhat ironically, I discovered this only...|||Not going to read 60+ pages of responses so pardon me for any redundancy.  I've never had my IQ tested but I've always wanted to.  I don't think I'm significantly smarter than anyone else.  In fact...|||Not really, no.  I have tried to be romantic in the past because I thought that's what you're supposed to do.  But my INTJ husband wasn't really receptive to my efforts anyway, so I gave up.  You...|||Superior.|||https://media.giphy.com/media/tGQFAuLzsabkI/giphy.gif  Ahh... such a good point.  People have all but lost their conversational skills, but are terrified of silent moments, so they flood their...|||Oo... me too.|||All that happens is that my filter gets reduced and I become exponentially more blunt and insulting which is why I don't drink in social situations unless I know the people I'm with really well (or,...|||I was clueless and dateless in high school.  I was a late bloomer and was absolutely puzzled when college began and I started getting attention from guys.  It went from zero to 50 fast and I really...|||I hear that too big time.  That's part of why I shied away from the group the first time.  I envisioned the obligation that might come with it too.  But I haven't experienced too much of that yet. ...|||I couldn't have said it better than Geonerd.  I like that you tied it together with not being competitive because I'm not either and I definitely see the connection.  If there's something I want, I...|||I'm typically surprised when people like me, lol.  I am really terrible at small-talk, etiquette, being thoughtful, etc (because I either find them tedious, exhausting, or not genuine).  So I am...|||They are low-maintenance emotionally - not dramatic really.  I have a really low tolerance for that so INTJ is refreshing for that reason.  On the flip side, they can be so surly that if you can't...|||If he gets drunk and tells you he is in love with you, then I'm telling you right now, that you have the upper hand.  Don't apologize.  Feel free to tell him he's being an ass, because he is.  Let...|||Super interested to know which land you've colonized and on behalf of which country.|||Yikes.  The tone of this thread changed very quickly.|||Ok let's do this.    An historic... :exterminate:  The one phrase that manages to be both deliberately pretentious and grammatically incorrect.  An hour An herb A history book A hat|||That's some good stuff right there, Geonerd.  I might actually take some of that advice!  :tongue:|||xSFJ folks are tough for me, and I have tons of them in my life by happenstance:  Dad, MIL, neighbor I'm actually close to somehow...  But if everyone is mature, it's not a big deal.  They are just...|||I feel lonely most of the time.  And that's part of why my marriage is in jeopardy.  I've started to wonder if it isn't better to be lonely because I'm alone rather than lonely and married.  And I'm...|||It's supposed to be fun.|||My husband is an INTJ and I can tell you where the problems come in.  All of my best female friends are introverted feelers.  I need close relationships with these types because I am emotionally...|||This tangentially relates to something I've been thinking about.    Things with my husband and I aren't so great.  Consequently, I've considered what I would do (relationship-wise) if we were to...|||Mona-Lisa and Jean-Ralfeo were just so great.  So over-the-top.  I always think, as an ENTP, that we have more subtlety, but we really don't.|||I get a little nihilistic too at times.  And I think we all get a little better at compensating for our shortcomings the older we get.  Salude!|||You're overthinking it.  It's possible that you straddle the line between sensor and intuitive.  I similarly straddle the line between judger and perceiver.  But it's a more often than not...|||First off, do you consider the INTP as a good colleague to have around? I'm not sure, as a colleague, they would not be as helpful to me as other types for the simple fact that they are incredibly...|||As a spectator, they are interesting (of course as our polar opposites).  But I know one ISFJ and I can't handle her for very long at all.  I find her intriguing as a person because she's so...|||Question (particularly for the fellas):    ENTPs.  What do you think?|||As an ENTP, I often find myself envious of what you're feeling.  I detach easily and I struggle to empathize.  In away it makes life logistically easier, but I know I'm missing out on something...|||I adore Ducky.  I suspect he might be a feeler though?  He seems to react emotionally more than logically much of the time.  I agree that StarLord is probably ESTP.|||I'm unsympathetic and/or not thoughtful at times when I really wish I was inclined the other way.    I'm a bit messed up emotionally in that I have a hard time identifying mine sometimes or...|||I really straddle the line between judger and perceiver.  But ultimately (more often that not), I tend to err on the P side.  I didn't really test though until after I became a parent which, for...|||Isn't cigarette smoking still really prevalent in Europe?  To me that trashes your body pretty badly and it's just trashy in general.  And what's the legal drinking age in your country?  I'll admit...|||The most simply I can state it is like this:  I am not an emotional person.  But I am a hugely sentimental person.  I'm not quick to emotional reactions at all.  Not anger, sadness, excitement. ...|||Feeler vs Thinker was probably the easiest one to decide for me.  I've always known I wasn't a feeler and it was ALWAYS most apparent when I was among other women.  I always felt that I was supposed...|||Not openly.  I'm very personable (I think).  But sometimes people don't understand the things I do and assume I'm a bitch.|||I haven't seen the new season yet, but I loved the original show.  Log lady for-evah.|||ENTP  BA: International Politics with a focus on Russia MA: Political Science with a focus on International Relations  I like it very much, but gainful employment isn't easy to find with a...|||It's the difference between sounding professional and sounding like a spaz, but good luck!|||I'm not saying personality doesn't matter.  I'm saying try not to just write I'm enthusiastic.  About what?  Everything?  Instead say, I'm enthusiastic about....  or In my last project I rallied...|||Holy crap, that is a good idea.  I can't believe I've never heard that or thought of it myself.  PerC... life skillz.  FWIW, I think it's ok to use personality words in your cover letter, but not...|||Really interesting that you distinguished between men and women.  ENTPs possess typically masculine personality traits so for a woman like me, it gets weird sometimes.    For me it's the reverse. ...|||I'm not sure but I'd really like to know.  I often feel either universally adored or universally repugnant.  I have a friend with whom I share many mutual friends.  When it's just she and I, she...|||We have confidence, but we're pretty mellow so it doesn't usually come of as super arrogant or cocky.  Most ENTPs are smart-asses.  I am completely aware that it's not everyone's cup of tea, but to...|||Minimalists are so full of it.  Everyone loves money. :gentleman:|||I find your attitude more interesting than the actual content of your post.  Gifted whatever that means...  rule follower, ew... teenagers, groan...   You have a really negative and dismissive...|||I'm afraid not.  There is an inverse relationship between my blood alcohol level and my level of existential dread.  But maybe it's just me; good luck.|||Money and flattery.  In that order.|||If I'm feeling ____ I like to read ____.  a. cerebral, dystopian fiction b. lazy/lonely, romance novels c. mentally atrophied, history or classic literature d. trollish, Personality Cafe'