'So I have a question about my INFJ roommate/best friend (only in quotes because god knows what's going on with our friendship right now).   She's been in a really unhealthy place for the past...|||I used to be a lot like you describe, but I've been trying to be more assertive and less passive in my relationships (including friendships, in a number of ways). In fact, for my current...|||I'm not like that at all. I'm friendly and open with everyone. I'm probably more likely to withdraw from someone I'm interested in (initially) because I'm afraid to reveal my feelings.     This...|||If this poll represents the general population, October will win. October 5 is the most popular birthday (yes, those are New Years babies). Human gestation is actually about 10 months long from the...|||It's a myth that virgins always get attached too quickly. Truth is, attachment varies by relationship and individual. When I was a young, curious INTP teen, I pretty much just found someone who I...|||So I was curious about this at first and don't mind an outsider's opinion, but...... I am getting the impression this list is not going anywhere, and I checked out the other thread and that didn't...|||My subtype is INFP. I have very high Fi, apparently.|||One of my best friends is an INTJ, as is her fiance and another mutual friend of ours. They're all women, I don't know any male INTJs in person that I'm aware of now.   I can't speak so much for...|||Thank you for pointing this out. I think you make a very good point, and I should've clarified in my post that I was mostly thinking about times when I feel someone is being manipulative or...|||It sounds like he's deflecting the problem from himself to you. Tell him directly that he's hurting you. Use the formula approach -- When you _______, I feel _________. I need ______ to feel better...|||Turns out he's an INTP too. Think this formula might be doable. :D|||That's an excellent example.|||I wish someone would do a scientific study on the people who come in here and complain about mistypes, and then come back in 3-6 months and go Hey, turns out I'm an XXXX instead!!   Oh yeah, I...|||I think women tend to get conditioned into paying attention to emotions more... there was some study I read about how men and women interact with their same-sex friends, and men tend to sit away from...|||Certainly, I would imagine so, but I don't feel capable.|||The INTP profiles always say that they are looking for mindmates.   I think there ought to be a warning, though, that when you find a mindmate, your head/heart turn into a total clusterfuck at...|||I would find it rather endearing, actually. If I wasn't interested, I would say so, but if I thought the person seemed nice/respectful/interesting, I'd definitely give him a chance.   I would...|||This is exactly what I worry about when I tell people I'm not nurturing enough to parent! All my friends are like I'm sure you'd make a great parent! but just watch how quickly they take back their...|||Well, if anyone would like to volunteer to purchase me a new mic/webcam set I will happily make y'all some videos. Otherwise you're going to have to deal with the crappy sound recording that I never...|||I told you I was having problems with my f***ing mic! If you listened to it you would have known that.|||Vocaroo | Voice message  :||||If I'm trying to date them, yeah. Some guys I don't mind it with, but my mothering is very limited anyway.|||I dunno about that. I can understand it and relate to some degree, but even now I'd consider myself socially successful and some days I still just want to crawl under the couch and avoid everyone.|||Actually, that's not a real solution, because the research that has been done on the gender income gap takes into account time taken off for childrearing. People love to try to pin this onto women...|||SAHMs on facebook are my biggest pet peeve. All day, posting about every little thing. Which is why this website exists. There is nothing that I find more irritating than someone updating facebook...|||I would've said stuff like that. Not in college/grad school, but high school for sure. I was/am a super perfectionist, but I wouldn't call that rule follower. It's a distinct disorder. :happy:|||Next year I will move for the 19th time in my life. Each time it gets easier and easier to let go of things. On my last move, I didn't take any furniture except for a couple bookcases, and was able...|||[/QUOTE]  Thank you for posting that. I've found the more I let go, particularly of objects and desiring objects, the happier I am.|||My mother's not a narcissist. She has a lot of negative tendencies, and based off this description I could guess that my maternal grandmother is one. Which could explain why my mother acts more like...|||Yeah, I used to try the whole exercise while smoking thing but I always lost motivation quickly. After about 2-3 weeks of not smoking, my energy levels are so ridiculous I basically have to work out...|||https://fbcdn-sphotos-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-ash3/535771_453358568022909_153786011313501_1661238_2016071024_n.jpg|||Okay, I know it's not cool to smoke, or whatever, but since I quit smoking I feel less badass. :sad: Also being a hyperactive perfectionist cheerful nerd doesn't help.   I like to have at least...|||Why not try to get a job on campus? I find that it's much easier to work at the school you're attending. Typically they're flexible with your scheduling needs and the jobs generally aren't terribly...|||Tiebout's theory is problematic and not that predictive. In an ideal world, yes, maybe, but for numerous reasons the majority of people don't vote with their feet and generally aren't educated enough...|||Oh god, I am crying. Should not look at this thread at work.|||I'm beginning to think I might have a mild form of congenital prosopamnesia.|||Yes and no. Very basically, yes, that's the process. There's quite a bit more to policy though, some of which includes how something is implemented after the bill is passed. Policies notoriously fail...|||I know how to lobby and do a little bit of that work, but I'm mostly interested in policy analysis and design and would love to work at a think tank and/or research organization.  What do you mean by...|||It irks me to be in classes with people who are essentially going to school to become mid-level government managers or nonprofit executive directors. Because when those people make dumb as fuck...|||6.022 x 10^23.|||Hmm... this is very fascinating. Perspective is something I think about a lot. I do not believe I was raised to have very much of an ego, and in the past few years have been willingly, consciously,...|||I have mad skills in nerd metaphor flirting. I'm not talking about fluffy pop culture nerd stuff like star wars, I mean like stats and physics and linguistics. The harder the science, the better.  ...|||Well, what does vulnerable mean to you?   Is it telling them about your inner self? Crying in front of them? Asking for help? Being physically naked? Sharing your worst moments? Doing something...|||Yes and yes. I was homeschooled until high school (I had a bit of a nervous breakdown at 11 and my therapist recommended it). What they don't tell you on the TLC show is that these people don't just...|||If you read what I wrote (and you quoted) I did not make any statements about what I know is right or wrong - I clearly stated that it is my opinion that mr. rozay is wrong.    Seriously?...|||It's not that interesting. If you've ever seen an episode of 18 and Counting (or 20 and counting, I don't know what number they're up to now), you probably have a pretty solid grasp of what my...|||No, I'm not too stubborn. I can understand your point of view, I just happen to think you're wrong. Big difference.     Which to me, just demonstrates a lack of understanding of the functions and...|||Banana - You are easy going, well adjusted, generous, honest and empathetic. Youx92re incredibly generous of heart and a great listener. Thatx92s why you are often the one others turn to for solace and...|||Uhh...and that's why I don't get references to the 90s, and when my friends post stuff on facebook that's like You know you grew up in the 90s when... or Remember the 90s?! I'm clueless. Also, I...|||Are you talking about ice cream or dating?  This thread has so many possibilities for innuendo....'