'Honestly at this point I think I would rather risk starvation and just bust my ass to freelance the crap outta this town rather than being chained to someone else's terrible idea for a paycheque.|||I can appreciate that this was a mistake, but in a 1 year contract position for my first real job ever, I did not feel I was in much of a position to make the system work as it should. When I was...|||I am a 27 year old INTJ and I am embarrassed to say it, but I have a problem with work. I worry about my ability to find and hold down a job. It is not that I am afraid that I won’t be able to do the...|||My poor longsuffering dad is ISTJ. I don't really understand how they ever agree on anything.   Yeah, my mom will also sometimes look at me like I'm crazy too. Like let's say I started to answer a...|||I've never had a one night stand. I think I understand at least some of the appeal though. The no-strings-attachedness and potential for novel physical pleasure is attractive, but the idea of getting...|||With close friends and family I can be very high energy, dynamic, vocal, expressive, and silly. Stick me with people I don't know and I have about as much energy and dynamism as the butt end of a...|||I peace out and stop engaging with them altogether.|||You sound like a guy I could get along with just fine, and I suspect many other female INTJs wouldn't have an issue with your lack of experience or your preferences. What matters is the quality of...|||Dude, I just saw this movie and I gotta say I do not remember there being a gay tiger...?|||Sadly this reminds me of nearly every conversation with my ESFJ mom. I am lucky if I can get the first sentence of my answer out before she's already finishing the rest of my answer for me and asking...|||Qualities I look for: someone with the ability to listen actively, take constructive input, synthesize a great deal of information quickly, who isn't afraid to take decisive action when it's called...|||I can relate on some level to the OP, but I don't think of it as 'wandering' thoughts as much as automatically running background processes. If my surroundings are especially boring then I become...|||Oh man, yeah I can relate on the parental front here. My mother has suffered from anxiety and depression, including more recently severe anxiety attacks sometimes lasting hours and hours. She is...|||There's a chance that this might not apply to your situation, but it might be worth taking a look at what lifestyle habits you have developed and what ones might be damaging to you. It's amazing what...|||Hello. Somewhat antisocial INTJ here. A couple of the best friends I've had have been ENFPs, but sadly we grew apart and I am really bad at keeping in touch with people I don't see that often. I'm in...|||Well, it's been around half a year since I originally posted my plea for an INFP-INTJ translator.  I re-visited this thread today because IT'S ALL HAPPENING AGAIN, and I needed to re-read everyone's...|||Preferred methods of feeling expression:  - Doing thoughtful and/or helpful things for my partner - In writing - Sexually :kitteh:|||Grades 1-8:  Terrible feelings of isolation and misunderstanding. Terrible relationship with ESFJ mother. Total lack of relatable peers. Cliques. Basically no close friends after a falling out with...|||You'll only get to know an INTJ if they want you to know them, and that may take a long time to build trust. I would say simply be yourself, and if you happen to snag an INTJ's interest in the...|||INFP BF's Love Language results:  10Physical Touch 7Quality Time 7Words of Affirmation 4Receiving Gifts 2Acts of Service  Compare with mine:|||INTJ http://i59.tinypic.com/2ry33nn.gif  INTP http://i62.tinypic.com/sg1mja.gif  ISFJ http://i58.tinypic.com/k9j43l.gif  ISTJ|||As a female INTJ, I don't think I am particularly remarkable to behold. Most of my strengths will only become apparent with prolonged exposure. Generally I am quiet, opinionated, quick to find...|||Occasionally, if I am discussing something with someone else, then the other person's introduction of new insight or a new perspective will illuminate something to me suddenly, and this new data will...|||My closest friends are:  INFP (3) ENFP (2) INTP (1)  A couple more who have not taken the MBTI, but I suspect INT(x) and another probable ENFP.|||Kudos to you and your wife for sticking it out despite all the differences. It's been interesting for me to hear about you two. Like you, I've just been curious to read about another female INTJ/male...|||Whoops, sorry for the double post. Having poor WiFi connection issues. I am new to the forum and not sure how to delete a post...|||He is definitely prone to thinking this way. It gets uncomfortable for me when I feel like he's putting me on on a pedestal. He has a way of categorically minimizing every hardship and difficulty I...|||Out of sheer morbid curiosity it makes me want to stage an INTJ Poetry Reading. BAHAHA.  I imagine something like this:   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SySZdvsFYt4    100% agree.|||I think you and I might reach a service overload. Within a couple days there wouldn't be anything left to do. Actually, hold on a sec. That is exactly what I want. :laughing:  It's worth mentioning...|||Speaking of siblings, I'm the INTJ older sister of an INFP brother AND an INFP sister! My siblings also seem to appreciate the 'bullshit laser' that comes with my advice. I get along very well with...|||*Tips hat to your infinite wisdom.*  Wait, I'm not wearing a hat.|||Thanks to many of the points brought up by the lovely, helpful people in this thread, the BF and I actually had a good talk last night. We have concluded that both of us definitely feel love for one...|||I have more to say, which I will save for my next post, but for now just a quick thanks to everyone who replied. I will have more time to get through reading and responding later today.  As for...|||LOLOL :laughing:    This is true.     He's not willfully hurting the relationship so it's difficult for me to express my dissatisfaction with him without feeling like I'm just being a dick...|||Hahaha, oh wow. I feel less weird now. Thank God. It's hard to find other INTJ women in real life. We are a pretty elusive bunch.    Absolutely. He performs well academically, has excellent...|||As soon as you mentioned hating paperwork, I was all ears. That's exactly what he says. He just can't bring himself to do the 'grind' activities of filling in applications, researching, etc. It...|||Well, extremists are obnoxious, loud, and demand public attention. Moderates are none of those things. I think that explains why there is not more public derision of 'Feminazis' from self-identifying...|||Thank you for your reply, InSolitude. It is incredibly helpful for me to hear another perspective (even if not an INFP one!). Sometimes things seem so obvious to me that it is difficult to imagine...|||As with any group of people who subscribe to an ideology, there are always going to be extremists who give it a bad rep. At its core, feminism is just the belief that women should legally and...|||Stay gold, Ponyboy. :happy:  Read it in high school and loved it.   I would recommend The Ocean at the End of the Lane if you haven't read it.|||I am INTJ, and my boyfriend is INFP. We're both 26 and live together. He is having a really hard time figuring out what he wants to do with his life. His degree is in theatre, and right now he's...|||Apparently I stare. I try not to, but I do.   Like many people have mentioned, I have a tendency to avoid the person until I have processed the feelings and decided that I want to move forward with...|||Hi. I just joined the forum. Thought I would introduce myself.  Personal ~  * Name:  You can call me Nitrogen, or Nitro. :)  * Gender: Female  Location  I was born and raised in Canada,...|||Hi. I just joined too. Also a female INTJ. Nice to meet you!|||I appreciate the record email or messaging provides, so it's my usual method. However, if something of particular importance needs to be discussed, especially if it's time sensitive, I would rather...'