'Oh! The times I couldn't use a baseball bat...some napalm...or even a small thermonuclear device...But I digress...|||Why must you constantly bang your gums? Are you afraid that if you don't hear the sound of your own voice, you must be dead?|||Oooooh. Somebody's Ovaltine got napalmed this morning.|||Does she have a job? Can she support herself? (And: Are there children involved in this situation?)  If so, is it enough for her to make it on her own? If not, can she move in with family? (Do...|||I fantasized about retiring today.|||1. Often first person, sometimes observer.  2. I dream of both people I know/knew. Sometimes a person appears who looks nothing like s/he does in reality, yet I recognize her/him. I rarely dream of...|||My late wife was INTJ and the relationship lasted thirty-five years. Just sayin'...|||Grey  .. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AxQtmn_f7Og... Life is filled with so many shades of it.|||I have no problems with money--of course, I am much older.  It is generally not a topic of conversation since my wife died.  I discuss my finances with as few people as possible.|||I think I am the same way. I'm at my five-year mark as a widower, after a 35-year relationship. What I don't know about dating would fill several volumes/terabytes...|||A ham sandwich walks into a bar, slams its fist on the bar and says, Barkeeper! Gimme a double vodka!  The barkeeper is at the other end of the bar, chatting with some customers. The ham sandwich...|||I've always been partial to the Linus Van Pelt response.|||Why? or How?  I think the OP is fairly accurate--at least for me.|||Hew Hess Hay [Pennsylvania]|||I've been in 37 out of 50 US states and five Canadian provinces.  I've been abroad to Germany [Studied there at the Christian-Albrechts-Universität zu Kiel while there were still Federal Republic...|||It lasted for thirty-five years--and will be a hard act to follow, now that I'm a widower.|||I DO vent a lot--it's my only outlet sometimes. (That's OK. I'm a widower.)  Don't feel bad for being human. :)    I can write and lose track of time...and it doesn't matter.|||2-3|||INFJs have trouble processing because we're so self-reliant and already in our own heads. It's difficult for us to reach out and discuss problems with others.  I made headway with a half-dozen...|||I became a widower almost five years ago. I'll buy the first round. :toast:  That typed, any woman who asks too many questions about my late wife or my marriage has crossed the line. I  never make...|||It shows that one had the drive/gumption to start, work through and complete a project. Just don't sell yourself short--or denigrate someone else's choice of study.|||I agree with this. I door-slam only those people who have done something extremely unforgivable to me--and I never look back. It is not something I do on a regular basis, but I do admit to having...|||Yo! :welcome:|||Enjoy it while you can. Once you enter The Real World, you will be seen as aloof, stand-offish or just plain strange.|||Why can't I retire already???|||On a scale of one-to-ten, I'd probably score a 12.|||Some people just have better aural (as opposed to visual/olfactory/tactile) memories--or something stands out in the conversation.|||That I *already* am smiling...Sheesh!|||Trains.|||Showoff!!! I have only five... :smile:|||0 from this part of the Peanut gallery too.|||I go to the gym. I also take dance lessons and go to dances. (Yeah--*not* very INFJ-ish, but there it is...) I work at improving/competing against myself, or learning new things.  Sometimes I find...|||Everyone thinks they have their life planned out--and then Life happens... :smile:  It's OK to look back occasionally. Keep looking forward most of the time. You have chosen some excellent...|||Silence--pure bliss...|||I've tested as INTJ more than once.|||Why didn't I pull something out of the freezer to thaw for supper tomorrow...?|||I lift weights and take part in some athletic competitions. :smile:  You're 17--give yourself the chance to develop into the person you will become.|||Hard to say.  Being a widower, I get misty-eyed or cry whenever I experience a trigger moment--something that reminds me of my late wife--and I never know when those instances will strike. (It...|||Hmmm...I was quiet most of the time, had a few friends, and was all set to go out, see the world and set fire to it.  I kept in touch with one person (my best friend) from high school forty years...|||1. Breathe in, then breathe out. Then continue doing this. 2. Survey the landscape around you. 3. Consider your strengths, weaknesses and options. 4. Talk with others. Follow any advice you get...|||I have found both species to be excellent micro-surgeons who have manged to worm their way into what could pass for my heart.|||I have always been this way--and to a certain extent, I guess I still am.   When I was in high school and college, I felt like I was thicker than a brick for missing cues--especially since I was...|||The whirring of my laptop.|||Yeah...I'm pretty oblivious too.|||I've always been partial to this possibility:  Calvin and Hobbes Comic Strip, December 20, 1985 on GoComics.com|||I'm quite the introvert--and three outta five people who know me would agree. :smile: Having lived as long as I have, I just observe situations and choose my battles carefully.|||Is this where I'm supposed to say, I love humanity--It's people I can't stand!!!? :smile:  Unless one aspires to be a hermit (and there are time I have felt that way), social interaction is...|||As one who is beginning his *Cough!* 60th *Cough!* journey around the Sun as of today, I find that these are all good, sensible bits of advice. I shall add:  Eat healthily and get in your exercise...|||Go with your determination.   If you like math (or are interested in it), I suggest you explore it a little further. Curiosity can be a good thing, despite the warnings we receive against it. If it...|||My condolences. Please accept bro hugs from a fellow widower.  I hope you have the support of family and friends. There are many web sites for those in our situation. If you haven't investigated...'