'Okay, so I am in love with someone I am pretty sure is INTJ.  He sees no value in actually finding out for himself but either he is a socially and emotionally effective INTJ or he is a very bright,...|||I wake up every morning and say to myself, Hmmm how can I be my most INFJ'esque today?  Then I make evil plots to manipulate people and break hearts and be cold and aloof and obviously superior which...|||What, you mean it isn't summer in Finland right now?  ;-)  I get to brag about living in the balmiest part of Canada but I still go out with hat gloves and scarf on most days. Also, where I live it...|||I sometimes say exactly what I think regardless of how others will react, and definitely more so online where I have little at stake, but in my personal life I censor myself regularly because if I...|||I am INFJ most certainly and I do not feel misunderstood on a daily basis and I do not assume any time that I am misunderstood or disliked that it must be due to my INFJness.  INFJ describes may...|||This baffles me, this issue that I keep reading people have with INFJ females and I wonder if it is because we tend to expect or rationalise any perceived arrogance in males more than we do in...|||Once I got beyond high school, which was a very very long time ago, I never really had any awareness of anyone actively disliking me.  Certainly it's possible that some didn't or were neutral on me...|||I used to do this a lot and your question made me think oh hey I don't do it so much any more and then I realised that's because I am significantly less social.  Otherwise, my best strategies for...|||I'm sorry for your loss.  :-(|||I don't give unsolicited advice and at my age far fewer people seem to seek advice from friends than they do in their twenties.  In my twenties I was a regular advice giver.  Now I just offer...|||I'm rather under the impression that most INFJs dress according to whatever their own definition of doesn't draw too much attention is.|||I put all insects carefully outside and preferably in a plant.  I do this even with the weird, ugly, creepy and otherwise not-cute ones.  However, I never squee.  :-)  Maybe I'm too old.|||I get this!  I've had this experience not just with thanks but when in some way someone indicated interest, affection, admiration or some sort of positive and flattering response to me and then I...|||I don't know if I dream in colour or not, though I simply assume that I do.  I am too busy focusing on the meaning of the dream to notice if it is in colour or not.  I assume that if it were not in...|||Also, you could assume that soapy water (shampoo) has run down the length of your body and sort of washed your legs passively.|||I  I would intuitively loathe such a place.  Is the problem perhaps because some intuitives are intuitively magical thinkers and others are intuitively skeptics?  Less glitter and more moss, maybe...|||Yes, I do also get fully formed ideas in my head which I then write down.  Typically a whole sentence forms in my head at one time,  but it's as though I don't quite know what that sentence says...|||I think while I am writing, thoughts are only half formed or they are formed but I don't know what they are until I write them.  I often write quite a lot and then delete some of it, sometimes half...|||Oh my goodness yes, this really upsets me.  Sometimes I just leave the cafe.|||I think actually that is sort of what I am trying to say and to sort out here.  We all have different levels of what we see as passionate or as emotional.  I just think I am being normal, perhaps a...|||Thank you for your input.  Are you not interpreting my question as How can I not be so emotional?  I do not think I am overly-emotional at all.  I just experience some people who overestimate the...|||Those are all definitely good points.  I made my question a generalised one but I have actually specifically experienced this problem with a former spouse and with a parent.  There isn't any...|||I agree.  I am new here so sorry if it's annoying that I'm responding to an older post.  I am reading everything so avidly I forget to look and see how old it is.  I loved all of the detailed info...|||Yes, it worked for me too and I got ESTP.  I was cringing the whole time I selected answers that were not really me and it was really hard to do but weirdly fun at the same time.  Thanks!|||Yes, you have described exctly what happens when I converse with my mother.  I don't think I've ever felt embarrassed for someone letting it all hang out, but I wonder if I might come across as too...|||I think I have a very expressive tone of voice, that's a good point.  I probably also tend to vent to my mother who just hears that her baby is not okay and she wants to toughen me up so I can...|||[QUOTE=Kirjuri;24837202]The purposes of these two threads are getting mixed up. I would also count in the Counsel thread.[/QUOTE  I suppose the purposes could overlap somewhat though I did...|||-I am quite skilled at typing on my laptop while it is off to the side and the cat is on my lap.|||Brain off.  I can feel my body today.  Arrgh!  Body!|||I never know something is bothering me until I start to rant about it, but usually it is some huge ethical topic unless there is someone outside with a leaf blower and then I will be too busy...|||I make a lot of eye contact when in conversation with a person.  I suspect I come across as very intense.  If my eyes are wandering the subject is a bit trivial to me and I am being distracted.  I...|||That makes a lot of sense, though I often have troubles articulating that.  I think I am literally looking for some things I can say in response to someone who accuses me of having an emotional...|||I think I get you.  I use the word TRUTH a little tongue in cheek.  I do like to talk about morality, ethics, religious views and religion but I am also cautious when getting into territory where...|||I find that when I get comfortable enough to let my guard down and try to describe how I think and feel about an issue, the person I am speaking to gets the idea that I am much more emotionally...|||I spend a great deal of time exploring topics that interest me through reading and I seek serious journals, books, articles and qualified people in that field to read.  I develop many of my opinions...|||I want to participate but I am rantless today.  It's still morning though so one of my usual pet peeves just hasn't hit me yet.|||I don't know how to tell this story in short form.  LOL  I am sure there were so many factors involved but let me assure your breaking heart that I finally (took me a long time) got out of the bad...|||Thank you for your very detailed and kind replies.  I should add another confession:  I always come across as having more anxiety than I really do because I am very comfortable verbalising my fears,...|||Sarcastic humour is my strongest suit.  Keep your knickers on!  I did try to add a winky face and it seems to have not shown up.  I am sorry that you have chosen a dubious role model of manliness but...|||Are you sad not to be seen as someone to chat about TRUTH with or are you using that as an expression 'sadly I am not that bro'=so back off and don't talk to me?  LOL-I'd never ask this in offline...|||Some of this definitely makes sense to me.  I would say that when I dress I am aiming to be subtle but polished, appropriate with a slight touch of individuality.  Never outrageous or trying to draw...|||I don't know any other INFJs that I am aware of but I am somewhat aware of my own typical mannerisms.    My eyes go all over as I am taking everything in, also I am keeping an eye on my safety.  I...|||LOL-this is exactly what my INTJ sweetie would say to me and I love him for it.  So sensible.|||Yes, this is a really good point.  We want extroverted feedback, we need to be told we are appreciated even though we will probably shuffle our feet and say aww shucks it was nothing.  I have to...|||I think it has something to do with how what we give to others takes a huge toll on us but that doesn't show because part of our value system is to appear as though we effortlessly give.|||Happy home alone with my cat.|||I am always trying to be perfect and then I feel immense guilt because I don't even know what perfect is so of course I can't achieve it.  Trying to be all things to all people is exhausting and...|||Well, I am an atheist and I basically agree with the poster above.  Humilty based on realising we are all human, all have flaws and strengths, most are trying our best, most people are good people...|||I really don't want to do this but at the same time I believe that being adaptable and flexible makes me a good person so I will suppress my own wants/needs and do what you want but DAMN now I feel...|||I don't understand Te because I don't use it.  I am a Ti user and my mother is a Te user and I always accuse her of having black and white thinking and she gets very indignant.  We do seem to be...'