'detgfrsh - Can you point me in the direction of some of these Swiss certifications? Links to websites would be great! PM me if you like :)  Thanks!!|||@Nebublahs - I've been into various forms of art my whole life. So I've worked with multiple paint mediums, sketching, sewing, crochet/knitting, sculpting (clay), photography, graphic arts, even...|||I'm having this same experience with the INTJ I started dating a few months ago. It started out nice - it felt like we just fit each other because our personality types were so similar. I feel like...|||I make my money using the sciences side (Information Technology), however my real passion is in the humanities (social justice and environmental art). I'm starting a business/coop/community around...|||So I finally broke down and used an internet dating site to try to meet women. The matching criteria used by this site seemed rather comprehensive and after about a month of only 80% matches, I got...|||When life gets rough or I'm really just struggling with something, I will journal, usually extensively. Otherwise I've got all the negative crap around whatever's upsetting me floating around in my...|||I studied a bit deeper into astrology a couple of years ago and found a lot of the information and comparisons fascinating, and the more people I interviewed around the matter, the more intrigued I...|||I get that this is a confession thread, but why does it seem more like the INTJ's shock factor to out-do everyone else?|||Ha!  For some reason I never made this connection of preferring written communication and my personality type before. I've gotten so much flack from people in the past for preferring to email rather...|||INTJ's do prefer to listen to the conversation inside their own head because it tends to be more interesting/intelligent/coherent/etc, however if you would like to improve your ability to turn down...|||So be honest with him.  Why not tell him exactly what you just stated here.  I think he would really appreciate hearing everything particularly in that last paragraph, and then he will know you're...|||They're still talking to you...|||Cheesy horror flicks can be humorous, but I could never laugh at someone's pain in real life.|||I read this book (The Five Love Languages) when I was engaged about 5 years ago in order to help strengthen the relationship.  At that time, mine were Acts of Service and Quality Time.  However,...|||I've been told I have excellent people skills - I know, though, that it's because I think through everything so much I know just what to say to one person versus the next.  I'm feeling less and less...|||I've been offered a job from a previous employer.  The role consists of my previous position there as lone-geek onsite (all-in-one IT Support at a manufacturing facility) and ISO Management Rep...|||Nope.  Good luck.|||Yes, auto-pilot is a very good friend of mine.  We spend a lot of time together.  Reading some of the posts here reminded me of another INTJ forum with an included Idiot's Guide to INTJs, with a...|||My goal is to be debt free in three years, which for a 31-y.o. American woman is rather unheard of.  That means if I choose to continue working after that point, it is to create further savings and...|||I'm having this same issue - trying to make professional connections in the business world in order to get a job that involves really using my brain and being productive and going home at the end of...|||<--- INTJ female - I cannot comment as I did not see it either.|||Lewis Black!!!  Oh - and Brian Regan makes me chuckle...|||I say you ought to consider not only it's negative effects on you, but on the other person, to stay in a relationship that is not right/meant to be.  When you stay together, you do not allow the...|||I think it's important to remember that neither Jung nor Meyers & Briggs intended for this to be a typecast, you're this type or you're not.  Rather it was meant to infer your typical responses to...|||I understand.  It's one of those utopian ideals - but for an INTJ AND someone regularly deployed for extended periods of time - finding someone IRL is tricky, and even if you do (pardon my...|||I agree with the other INTJ's.  If you put a lot of fluff or feeling into a thank you email, you're more likely to push the INTJ away... be concise.  It really is how we like it.|||So I'm still trying to work my way through the right way to handle this with minimal injury to those involved (myself, my SO, and her two daughters).  As much as I think it might be, I still am not...|||That's not comedy - it's a horror flick.  My whole childhood was like one big Jesus Camp!!  *shudders*|||Much like Expat, my perfect world response (if I were living in a manner that is true to myself) would be:  1 - Mental Self 2 - Physical Surroundings 3 - Finances 4 - Fun / Recreation 5 -...|||Get out of my head!!  You stole all my ideas.  Now I need to come up with a new goal and a new dream... :P|||1. What are the differences you notice in your relationship compared to other female types? I'm not DEPENDENT on my SO.  I am an individual.  I like to still have my own friends and do my own...|||I personally believe there is no such thing as love in the romantic sense.  When feeling romantic love, I am reminded it is actually a form of insanity.  You forget who you are.  You ignore what...|||I'm not sure I understand how you can be true to yourself and yet withhold parts of yourself.  It seems an oxymoron to me.  I'd rather find things I enjoy doing with others where I don't have to...|||I tend to be thinking (or maybe in your case Feeling) what it is I'm going to say next, so I don't actually LISTEN to what the other person is really talking about or getting at.  I think the biggest...|||I'm reading a book on the quality of one's life and it gives a list of the author's perceived Core Values.  As a reader, I am supposed to put the list of core values into order of importance in my...|||On the career route, I recently signed up with Career Advice, Personal Branding & Job Search Help from Top Career Experts : CAREEREALISM because I am impressed with their system and support to help...|||I drink on rare occasion, usually to support a friend at a celebration, and then I generally have one (at most two) mixed drinks.  I enjoy getting a little tipsy, but never full-on drunk.  I like...|||Exactly.  When I enter a relationship, it's because I enjoy the other person, who they are, and how I can be myself around them.  It's just after a time of getting to know them, I start to find...|||I've never met an INTJ female in person (that I am aware of).  Regardless of personality type, I tend to relate better to men.  Due to societal standards, INTJ qualities/tendencies are not...|||I am indifferent about gender when considering an intimate relationship.  I would rather be without meaningful friends than be without meaningful work.*  * I currently hate my job and am in a...|||*ditto*  That is my struggle...|||I can relate.  When I went through my divorce, my whole family turned against me (my ex put on a great PR campaign).  Most of my friends stopped speaking to me.  I was quite literally alone.  I...|||Thank you anitant.  I know this stuff, and yet the societal and cultural norms/expectations invalidate so much of what I know, I get confused.  I'm so thankful for this forum to realize I'm not the...|||I'm not sure if I'll ever be able to make that distinction... maybe I'm really supposed to always keep friends only, and at arms length, so I don't keep hurting people...|||I know as an INTJ I always need challenges in my life and my projects to keep me interested.  I see something, I see it's not working right/well, I know I can make it better, I do, but I don't want...|||In agreement with the rest of you!  Blatant Ignorance in the form of: Manipulation & mind games which tend to involve complex emotional triggers Prejudice Intolerance Stupidity Unwillingness...|||Yeah, my mother was the same.  I think that's why I married him in the first place - it was familiar... :P  Thankfully I learned before it was too late...|||OMG - did you know my ex-husband too??|||My scores for 1 and 5 were tied.  Upon further reviewing, I know I'm a 5w4, tho I definitely have 1 tendencies...  Maybe some day I'll cough up the money for the full test and see what it has to...|||Yes!!  :)  My SO is an ENTJ and we have an amazing connection - mentally, physically, etc.  And we have since we first met.  With our NTJ combined, we both love and understand our logic and...'