'Honestly maybe even an unhealthy ESFP|||God let's all hate on the intjs lol   INTJ leaders - think of Putin. Trump is too easily influenced, too loud, brash, easily swayed, etc. I agree with those who say ESTP.|||How do people relate to your goody side, when they see it? Or your personas?|||How did you slowly progress from self-harm to more safe coping mechanisms?|||Messing with people is one of my favorite past times|||And it especially helps when it's my heart that's teeter tottering around|||You are all so incredibly gracious and understanding and i appreciate it so so much. I'm constantly wondering the whys and wherefores of people's emotions and actions (which make no sense to me) so...|||God i identify so much with this, it's been just about two years and i'm still not over this other guy.|||Thank you love, I needed to hear that. It's incredibly soothing. He just found out how I feel and hasn't really said anything, probably trying to figure out how to graciously handle the situation....|||God im literally so disappointed in myself right now. i know better than to pursue someone who barely gives out wanna-be-friends vibes. and not only that, but it's not like he even tried to get to...|||Fuck e he went from saying he wants a relationship (in general) when we first met, to now telling me he's not ready for a relationship and he wishes he could tell me his life is all perfect but it's...|||This is so encouraging to read! I experience this loop on a weekly if not daily basis LOL especially when comparing myself to the pofessors in my specialisation, who I one day plan on having as my...|||The feeling is mutual|||Well hun...you are an ISTP   Genuinely joking|||I identify with this so hard|||I get pretty much all of what you guys are saying, in fact, eerily so (to different extents). I guess one of my problems comes from using my logic to project a suspected outcome on someone regarding...|||Dying (oh my god there is not like intj humor)|||Sounds about right tbh|||I always get wrong readings on how people perceive me, but I rarely misread people themselves.|||Thanks for the answers, they're informative and interesting.  Have been going through some shit for awhile now and actually find myself turning to netflix, inaction, and romantic attraction or a...|||Arrogance at worst and self-confidence at best is something we're readily known for. We know the limits of our knowledge etc etc. However, do you ever feel like you don't know enough, or aren't...|||To be fair, in certain circumstances where i feel comfortable and the mood strikes me, it's not so much that i don't want to express or share my feelings so much as i don't want to have a fucking...|||Tru|||Omg what i've emboldened describes so much of my problems w people, especially this entp i was seeing awhile ago. He had been the highschool debate captain and turned everything into a challenge @...|||In public I come across as an extroverted istp. And actually, INTJs are welllnown for our creativity due to the fact that we're extremely imaginative and closers. I myself am a writer, and my brother...|||Gooood toooo knowwww.....slookin like i should adopt that mentality|||It's basically just that i feel like i'm being shockingly obvious and transparent about my feelings, which makes it feel like an already rejection that he doesn't initiate and hasn't done anything...|||What are you talking about jack daniels and tom waits sounds like a beautiful combination|||The straight up approach?? Aw hell nah   Lol i might eventually. I just need to settle rn|||Blah i quit you guys. Gonna go back into my little hermit hole with my pets and books and music lol. 'Sway too goddamn scary to outright ask him; i don't want to fuck up our friendship in case he...|||Omg little darlings i feel like an F, im so proud of us for taking care of ourselves. Dare i especiwlly liked your list and its methods|||Youre wonderful, thank you. He's already told me I don't scare him/come off as too intense (in regards to hanging out) and yeah. Icr if i said this or not, but he self-admittedly is bad at not...|||Did you have any early childhood traumas? Or late childhood traumas? Or traumas of any kind?|||So you'd definitely say that you have a pretty healthy attitude /approach towards dealing with shit? Damn I'm jealous lol. Has it always been like this for you? Do you ever have slip-ups?|||Aw fuck that shit man. I'm by nature the exact same fucking way, and it's only been recently that i've slightly learned to initiate/pursue. But always doing it makes me feel like him bugging him, and...|||I'm not dating him (yet? Fingers crossed) but I'm getting to be good friends with a lovely infj guy. Like you, I've recently been developing my Fi, and that has helped me a tonnn to be able to relate...|||So accurate |||I'm trying to better understand myself and my impulses behind some of my latest actions and behavior.   On a scale of 1-10, 1 being something along the lines of listening to a song that makes *you*...|||This.|||I have initiated, like, 4 outta 5 times man, it's my always having to initiate that confuses me|||So does he just accept my invitations to chill bc he's lonely and i'm very good at making him feel listened to, or ? And lavendersnow thank you for the reminder to not read too into you INFJs lol....|||First of all thank all of you for the responses, theyre awesome!    This.   Hah.....yes but ive been wrong before.   We've hung out several times, but 2 out of 3 times it's me initiating (so...|||Who do you think im not |||IM SO SUSpicious this sounds too good to be true?? He wont freak out?? If he likes me then why doesnt he initiate???|||like at least until he initiates hanging out? i kinda feel like a spontaneous kiss is around the corner B)|||noOT UNTIL IM SURE|||then what are the chances of him liking me romantically?|||and for two?|||Even before i know their types, i can always peg infjs because i'm so fucking attracted to them (moth to light kind of thing). Earlier in the semester, i was introduced to this wonderful guy. made...|||omfg at this question. we're not actually robots, we've just excellent poker faces. does everyone really believe everyone else keeps their heart on their sleeve?   we feel emotions under every...'