I'm gay too, dating an ISFJ. I tend to prefer more athletic guys. I completely agree with what you said, especially the last sentence. I'd much rather be entertained/have fun than be fussed over.|||Does any ISTP listen to Madonna, or am I on my own there?|||You just don't want any contact with other people, after a full day of being surrounded by people. I think some people find this hard to understand. My boyfriend prefers to talk about his stressful...|||Hi all.  I just thought I'd get other people's opinion on this.  Yesterday I worked an all day 14 hour shift. I came home and couldn't wait to just shut off and watch tv until I went to bed....|||I totally agree with you. When I come back from the gym I feel much better in myself and this translates into how I treat others.|||I can't stand running, I find it so boring. I prefer weightlifting and using other gym equipment. Although when I do run, I find the mp3 player to be a lifesaver. It keeps me going!|||Yes I can see your point about the ENTP's with more developed Fe. Perhaps they're not so cutting/harsh with their comments on people.|||I have been working in my new job for a month. The first time I met my ENTP co-worker, I couldn't stand her. She appeared hurtful in her remarks, said it as it was, the sought of person who doesn't...|||I tend to leave things to the last minute if I let myself. However I have learnt the benefits of doing work ahead of schedule. I find working under pressure does deliver better results though.|||Im with Kadjunga on this. If you think yourself boring, then you come across as boring to others.  I find lots of things to keep doing when outside of work. I love reading and learning new things...|||Amen to that!|||Always strive to look at the bigger picture. Most 'small' things in life are not even worth thinking about.  Do what you enjoy, hang around with people you want to, take life as it comes and enjoy...|||Thanks for your passion about these two areas in particular. I work with mentally ill patients and am gay myself. It's refreshing to find someone who is accepting and passionate about such issues.|||Valentines Day has become too commercial. You can show your appreciation/love for someone anytime of the year, not when you're told to. I find it hard showing affection/love to my SO on any given day...|||I love reading the rants/raves on here, it makes me laugh so hard sometimes. I can relate them to the ISTJs in my life.|||Yes I get that thought soemtimes when hugging, flip them in the air and spin them around!|||I think that's what I do. I think you could call me 'egocentric' but not in a 'selfish' way too. I like talking to people, and getting their perspective on me as a person. It helps me to analyze...|||Yeah you're, right. It comes down to ageism. She doesn't like the fact I am superior to her. If I was a complete dick I could understand, but I never ask someone to do something I wouldn't or haven't...|||Thanks for your perspective, she doesn't sound like an ENTJ, going from all the descriptions on here.|||It takes time to build a good friendship. I find common interests definitely help. The people I have really bonded with have taken the time to sit and talk to me. They also know when/when not to...|||I get on well with most types, but I really like ESTPs, I have quite a few ESTP friends.|||Mostly the same as me. Sometimes I don't have the energy to talk in a group, especially when the conversation topics (to me) seem boring.  However, if I'm in a good mood, I will usually sit there...|||We took one of those quiz things in a training day. Perhaps she didn't fill ity out right!|||You're right, that's where most of my 'soft side' is directed!|||Yeah I think it is the fact im superior to her. She definitely likes to be in charge! She also loves to work on her own and is not a team player. As you say though, I can't link that all to her...|||I have worked with this female ENTJ for about a year and a half. She has slowly started to get on my nerves. She is a lot older than me, yet I am in a superior position to her. This appears to be a...|||I like banter with other people, sometimes it gets mistaken for flirtation.|||I only really hug close friends/family and only when I think they need it. But yeah, it gives me (and hopefully them) a good feeling when a hug does happen.|||I find that when I hook up with my ESTP friends we end up behaving mischievously too, it's like two kids! It's great to be childish at times.|||redryder , I had a similar upbringing. I used to ask a lot of questions in church as a kid, and sometimes didn't get a satisfying answer. I know there are some religious ISTP's on here, but religion...|||A penguin caught a fish in antarctica and then it was eaten by a polar bear. Satisfied from his delicious meal, the bear went to sleep. And bingo was his name-o. He had been given this posh name by...|||Darner, I agree with you. My ESTP friends bring out the talkative side to me, we share mutual interests and can talk for hours about them.|||I would say that time management skills are essential to survive when your overwhelmed with work/responsibilities/exams. When I started my job I was disastrous at time management, I would...|||I was reading this thread http://personalitycafe.com/estp-forum-doers/83189-what-mbti-you-best-friend.html on the ESTP forum about ESTP's friends.  A lot of the ESTP's cited ISTP's as their...|||My best female friend is an ESTP, she adds to the excitement of everything, just awesome!|||1. In a fantasy world where everything was exactly as you wanted it to be, what would your work environment and coworkers be like? I'd love to have a job that involved jetsetting around the world....|||There are probably some ISTP's around you in your life, (ofcourse there are ISTP's in NYC!) I guess because we can be quite quiet and don't seek attention, we can go under the radar.  I like to go...|||When stressed, I can't stand people talking or doing unnecessary things. I find myself snapping at people when they behave this way. However, I usually remain calm and quiet (on the exterior!).|||Yes, pulling a face like that would also help!|||Phones are great tools for communicating quickly with others. I prefer to text like a lot of other people have said,  it's just more direct. Nothing worse than an unnecessary long phone call that...|||I'm currently sitting next to my black cat on the sofa loving life!|||I find the best tactic is to avoid people/don't bother talking to them like Kadjunga said really. If you have to work with them just be as monosyllabic as possible, they should eventually get the...|||I love all the documentary channels, especially the history and animal one's. The crime channel is interesting too, I'm watching 'Snapped'  at the moment. It's about women that put up with horrible...|||RE: weddings, I share the same feeling as him probably. Not fussed with weddings. I've had better funerals actually.|||Im just laughing at my Dad's (ISTJ) opinion of weddings. ''Fucking weddings, I hate them, give me a funeral anyday!''.|||I totally agree with you. I am very disciplined when considering new purchases now. However, I used to always buy random books, films, games etc. that I would use once or twice then dump.|||I've learnt to talk to people more, especially feelers, even if it all seems like crap to me, they seem to respond well to it.  I definitely smile more than I use to, people respond better to it...|||Ha, was kind of funny actually. ''Yeah man, I need some doughnuts too.'' I just love the monotonous tone.|||Which 'mood' are you more likely to be in on a daily basis, ISTP or INTP?|||Ah so it does work!