'^Haha, I can definitely empathize with your feeling of loss. I have an addictive mind as well, as you know, and I readily admit I was addicted to the ride itself, in addition to The Guy. As well as...|||FueledByEvil ,  Season 3 is closed, for sure. A short but eventful one, as it turns out! ;) I hope season 4 will be more stable and genuinely about friendship, should it ever come to pass, and that...|||I'm talking about the process of getting involved with someone and opening up. I want the emotion he claims to have, if only I was able to let loose in his company more. I have no way of knowing if...|||Okay, I'm on my way to my work trip, and have just enough time to comment on this.  In fact for me dialling a phone is not a simple task. I suck big time at that, and other such tasks that people...|||Yes, I would. My problem is (and aways has been) that I find extremely few men exciting. This is why I try to give things every possible chance to develop further, every time I happen to encounter a...|||I'll keep this short today as I'm in work rush inferno (very helpful in thinking less about The Guy), but I'll say this. He has been actively carrying the development of our relationship. I contacted...|||I will record some steps of my disengagement from him on this already branched-out thread, just to make them more tangible for myself. It will be a very hard effort, as the sense of belonging I have...|||princessJAY What an amazing analysis! Thank you very much for this.   That's me for sure. I've never become this involved though. And then again I have, with my ex. It just felt a lot different as...|||princessJAY  He is able to guard his boundaries with crazy women by now, as he's been practicing a lot. But this causes more craziness on her end, as it feels super bad when he doesn't let her as...|||Okay so (I realize how this thread is turning into my personal diary of sorts and I don't think the development can be reversed at this point.. sorry! :D ).  Today I get an SMS from my neighbour,...|||Oh wow Fueley!! They would be correct, you should not worry. Least of all about posting on some online forum when you have that  going on! Nothing significant has happened anyway and I'm soon off to...|||Yeah definitely not my style. It'll be fair game or no game, even if I sometimes feel like he wants me to manipulate him into wanting me.  More ethical ways of making him feel for me could be...|||I'm not so surprised. He knows what my ex is like, for one thing. He's in fact the only guy I've felt I can talk to about my ex, in the hopes of him being able to see past it. With all the others I...|||This belief would be far fetched in any case, but as of this morning there has been an additional factor in play that I can no longer dismiss.  I woke up with the realization that I want to have...|||In that case you should be rooting for me and The Guy ending up together. Because you know who's going to be next in line if this thing fails? The other ENTP I met on Tinder. And you know which one...|||I don't see your post as judgmental at all, Fueley.  One thing is for sure: there will not be a blame game of any kind, no matter what happens. I'm sure he knows this too. I've been absolutely...|||Wow Fueley... What a treat this is you've written! Amazing.  I was at a low point when I wrote the recap. Now I'm feeling okay, even excited. Looking back, the low points are gradually less and...|||As per requested by dear  FueledByEvil , Season 3 of this twisted, fucked up saga is about to begin! Or end. I have no idea which.   Recap of what happened since the previous post:  1. As we...|||I was just on my way to making this exact comment. Thanks for saving me the trouble, I guess.  In fact I logged in here to start a discussion like this one. Asking if other INTPs are happy with...|||In my book it is possible to ask questions in a non-questioning manner.|||^Yes, yes, yes and yes.  I'm actually still talking to him over email, and have suggested we meet one last time, because I forgot to give him some chocolate I brought him from my work trip. :) ...|||^Dude you break my heart, seriously. (Loving it.)  I've felt for a long time that this is what it is. And also that he wishes me to grow the hell up, and sees how it will still take a long time. We...|||Well I have learned to cry. Already a long time ago and I'm now quite accomplished if I say so myself! :D Also I learned to feel all my feelings openly. Wasn't easy and apparently I'm still...|||Thank you so much for a post full of beauty.  I know my way into reveling in sorrow all too well. During the past few years it's become a regular rehearsal to just submit to it. That seems the...|||GeniusOverlord , you made me cry with your post. It's so absolutely spot on and accurate in every detail. I feel like I have been seen, my situation has been validated and my love interest has been...|||^Thanks Desthro for the pat in the back.   I wish my sexuality was as straightforward as you suggest. I'm unable to want any other person than the one I love, so first in order will be disengaging...|||Well we met and discussed things, and it looks like there's no point in continuing to invest. In other words: we ended it. Not really strictly, but from all practical viewpoints it's over.   The...|||My radar about men tends to be fairly accurate, so I've come to trust it a lot. When I see something good I will hold on to it as long as there's any stamina left in me. This happens so rarely, and...|||Totally on point. Everything you said. <3  As I know he's been mistreated by women before, I definitely do not want to do anything like that to him myself (like let him chase me and then get bored...|||Interesting definition. I'm so happy that there are already three accomplished individuals on the ENTP forum who have been able to give very valuable information, without which it would have taken...|||What he could have said. Word for word. I can't believe there are people out there (here) that seem so much like him, as he is the only such one I've ever met. On the other hand one would assume I...|||FueledByEvil, I totally enjoy your rambling! Please keep at it. :)  Haldir, would you care to elaborate on your question about INTP female sexuality? What specifically are you referring to with the...|||If I may elaborate on this, his relationships have mainly fallen in one of 2 categories: 1. traditional woman, high degree of primal lust but a weak mental connection and a weak compatibility with...|||^Good question, will get back to it next time. Right now I'll go get some sleep and wait for the answers that will surely come.|||I know other things we could do besides just handling it.|||And you're right, this used to be me.  Then I met him.  Still learning the ropes, it's all so.. foreign, but very, very nice to me. :redface-new:|||Haldir, *blush*  That's kind of what I meant when I said high maintenance, meaning maybe I'm expecting too much effort from his part while resting on my laurels. Your comments seem to awaken some...|||A perfect way to illustrate what we need: the Z-axis! Perfect perfect.   I'll be considering this right before I fall asleep tonight, for sometimes answers come in dreams. :) Especially answers to...|||My oh my, you're being waaaay too gentle trying to rub this in. Much appreciated at any rate.  Hard headed? Touche! You're actually telling me the same thing the guy has been trying to tell me. He...|||Haldir, what a superbly clever analogy, and do I love analogies! The especially intriguing thing about this particular analogy is that although I have zero knowledge about baseball, I was (edit: may...|||Just to clarify: are you saying if he is a) demanding with regards to partners and b) not chasing me, then your point #2 applies, regardless of other factors (such being that he likes me...|||^ And why have I not thrown myself at him? Because I want him to clearly choose me first, meaning lose the less-interesting-and-unstable-but-fuckable woman he has been seeing (casually) and stop...|||Oh I can totally use all the bad news I can get at this point! BRING IT ON :yeah: Anything to help me destroy what I feel for him (sadly I don't think there's anything you guys can say to really do...|||He is right for me. And I have no doubt that his heart is pure. What he says is not bullshit, ever. When there are contradictions, it's because he is undecided or hasn't thought about the topic...|||Forgot to answer this. He says he's considering if he even wants a love relationship of the type I'm going for (serious, committed, loving, long term, etc.). He said he hasn't before met a woman he...|||Dear   FueledByEvil,  Thanks for the comment! So much has happened I probably haven't been clear about the things you point out, so outlining it here:  1. Yes he has been honest and...|||Jeez! Something just occurred to me (again..!), and turned quite a lot around in its occurring.   He isn't rejecting me, really. He is testing me, yes, but in the most loving way possible. Also...|||^Just so as not to appear as a crazy stalker lady (which I am though), I want to point out that the above message represents a fantasy. I won't be acting on it, as it would probably creep him out big...|||Something occurred to me just now. He hasn't replied my email, which I sent on Friday trying to clarify some details of our discussion on Thursday night. This is not super uncommon for him, but the...|||Okay so the saga continues.  We took it slow up until I came back from my business trip. He called me immediately when I returned and asked me to take a trip with him. My head was in clouds! I...'