I like to feel special but when I find out a friend likes a song I do I feel good. I enjoy connecting with people and the more I have in common with somebody the better I feel about my place in the...|||If she's crying morning, noon, and night - I highly doubt that your offer will be met with any derision. If someone is crying all day long it probably means they are at the end of their rope. Being...|||I can't speak to what would be best for you. What I can tell you is that you seem to be so emotionally distressed that you seem a bit jumbled right now. The first thing I would recommend is to write...|||So it's Friday night. Early on in the week, I had a couple separate groups of friends invite me to activities for tonight. All of them were things I would thoroughly enjoy.   So I just got done...|||I guess there aren't any concrete reasons why, I just never saw myself doing that.|||That is eerily similar to my own experience after college.        I have learned this too but I hardly considered it an acceptable way to deal with the loss of identity I was enduring. Maybe...|||My first though when discussing an ENFJ villain is a manipulative sort of leader who brings everyone to his way of thinking through sheer emotion and cleverly worded parables that convinces his...|||Wow. Spot on. You had my head bopping from the moment it started playing story of a girl haha. That's one of my old guilty pleasures. Man you hit on some really good songs I haven't heard in a really...|||Bill Burr Louis CK Most episodes of Scrubs ^These two have insightful observations about human behavior.  Anything that pokes fun of silly cultural norms.    Dislikes are comedy that employs...|||Some people see approaching INTJs in an effort to form a relationship to be very difficult. I used to think so as well. The honest truth though is that it just takes a different approach. Some people...|||I agree with this in the sense that as someone who is FE, I collect odd or embarassing experiences because I end up sharing them with friends.  We have a good laugh over them and it makes for good...|||I found you to be very articulate and descriptive, personally.  I agree with theory 2.  I'm not really the type of person who worries excessively. Either something goes well, or it doesn't. I can...|||I ran into a problem recently and I wanted to know if any of you have encountered the same.  In college, I made a big diverse group of friends. I became the president of two different clubs and...|||I've been told this by a few people in my life. A few of my IXTP friends see any attempt to cheer them up, or seduce them, or to discuss and suggest a comprise as manipulation. I once had a friend...|||I get where you're coming from. Hahaha but also as an ENFJ I can identify where your spouse might be coming from. I actually have had a similar conversation with an ex in the past about being...|||SO: 45/50 SP: 39/50 SX: 39/50  Damn. Why are my scores so high compared to everyone else?|||By the same token those same what ifs could be applied to him being an awful person who would cause untold death and suffering. Those what ifs don't really lead us anywhere useful.   I think where...|||Scale of 1-12 my results were  10Physical Touch 8Quality Time 7Words of Affirmation 3Acts of Service 2Receiving Gifts  Seems right. Best gift I ever got from my ex was a letter titled...|||To me that sounds like you are choosing to abstain from making a difficult choice on the grounds that you aren't qualified to make such a difficult choice. You're allowing the choice to be made by...|||I've learned, from years and years of being in relationships that your partner will unconsciously expect you to know what they want in terms of a sympathetic ear, or someone to help them brainstorm....|||This happens all the time with transplant lists. The reality is that resources are scarce. Giving it to the first person to cross your path, to me, seems like a decision made to indulge your own...|||Just curious - is that really how you look at it? Is the conservation of resources really looked at as a punishment?   For me - if I had an abundance of miracle drugs I would save this man. However...|||Let me ask you this... would you enjoy killing him?   If so I think we just got the backstory of the dying man lol|||Hmm thank you all. That gives me some things to think about. Mostly in regards to your approach to your romantic conflicts not being much different than conflicts among friends. Especially in regards...|||Do you find that your approach to relationships differs greatly from your approach to friendships and other social interactions, in terms of resolving a disagreement?   I had an INTJ girlfriend who...|||No. This guy might be a great guy and all but everybody begs for their life and shows remorse when faced with their own mortality. I'm not going to judge the guy. He may have murdered for vengeance...|||I think I'm one of those ENFJ cases that might be borderline. Or at least, I represent the Js that are ordered about some things, but not others.   My room is often not clean. People who put their...|||As an ENFJ, I have a bit of insight to give into these. I have many circles of friends. The perception of being two-faced can stem from a few things. One of them is likely a scenario in which I'm...|||Your analysis seems spot on Robert. I'm very grateful for the time you took in helping me figure this out.   I also just took the Enneagram test from this site and got 8w9 The Bear. My trifix being...|||Haha that's a bit disconcerting.   Ugh I'm coming off as impersonal. Honestly, I've been on this forum before and I recognized that everyone here seems very intelligent and so when I first went to...|||Ok so I'll attempt to answer as briefly as possible but I admit I'm pretty much the kind of person who necessitated TLDR  Face to face conversations - It's something about the flow of a...|||My best friend is an INTJ I'm basically completely opposite from him. I'm an ENFJ(P)  He is a Network Specialist in IT and he's always calling me on the way home from work to inform me of the...|||Interesting. Though I still found myself hesitating on certain questions as I was still unaware of which one I really preferred.  My shadow type: Introvert(44%)  Sensing(38%)  Thinking(62%) ...|||0. Is there anything that may affect the way you answer the questions? For example, a stressful time, mental illness, medications, special life circumstances? Other useful information includes sex,...|||* Name - What do you preferred to be called? Whatever you're comfortable with though in real life I go by Dexter  * Male/Female/Trans? Male  Location I live in Carnegie, Pennsylvania right...