'^^ Thanks. PM inbound. I'm totally open to any and all advice right now. Actively looking for help and guidance in all aspects of this.   Thank you very much.|||^^^ Thanks. and agreed.  As always, stone100674, your wisdom is warmly welcomed. Thank you for your keen insight.|||Nope, that wasn't the situation. An abusive professional relationship was passively allowed to endure (another party - peer level, but the team leader - creating a hostile workforce and an abusive...|||Thanks! :) Not doing it for a reward, but because I care for this person. The reward comes if they are able to feel safe, supported, encouraged, and accepted in total. If they can feel safe around...|||I should have provided more information. Apologies.   This is not an unaddressed issue in this individual's life. It has been addressed, dealt with, and incorporated with acceptance into their...|||Anyone have any advice for how to help/care for a survivor of child neglect and (physical) abuse?   I realize this crosses type lines. The victim - now an adult - is an ISTJ.|||Me. Right now. Stalking all ya'll.|||10 chars...|||I was inspired by the subject matter. I'm somewhat passionate about the topic. ;) haha, thanks! I'm glad it was entertaining!     LOL. That's the face ISTJs can make. ;)|||ROFL.   Is this a good woof or a bad woof? :)|||I think that ISTJs and Matured ESTPs can be a great mix. The ST mix is intellectually stimulating and relaxed all at once, and the E/I split is the same, too. There isn't the roughness of the T/F...|||Did someone say ISTJ & ESTP relationship potential?? :crazy:  I'm going to preface everything I'm about to say with the caveat that you shouldn't pursue or date types. MBTI should not lead your...|||*vomits a rainbow*  I *allllways* love the affirmations!! :) Yay! o/  *shoots self*  Thnx. I know I'm awesome. ;)   (and you are too)|||51750|||ROFL. ;)   Fundamentally, we are in agreement. Ditch the *****.|||Fuckin' hell. Spoken like a true Feeler. :) ;)|||^ love the correction. :) Gracias!! :)  (drunk off my ass and only one missing a? Victory!)  Yep - carry on. But be prepared for her type to want an answer. *shudder*  Distance is your friend!...|||All we have to do is destroy everything, and then we can take over the world. I swear. The plan is perfect. Get the fuck out of my way and stop shaking your head.|||stone100674 - I'm going to echo Pinky here, on this one point. I'm a STP, and even I get this.   If verbally told that your isolation was due to the injury, absent of all other interaction, I WOULD...|||I don't know if it's maturity level or if it's functionality difference, but can't we ALL tell when we step on a land mine? I've asked an ISTJ a question before that they DID NOT want to answer, and...|||Me: What time is it now? ISTJ: ...Get out. Me: !? ISTJ: What time is it.  ... Now. Me: What time is it in five minutes? What is the time when Tom leaves? ISTJ: *fighting back smirk* Get thefuck...|||...... See, NOW the HTML coding is working.... *siiiiiiiiigh*|||Her Se is tied with her Ni. So you may be onto something here. <br> <br> Action, success, word play, analysis, figuring things/people out, advancement, challenges, etc. Those seem to be her rewards...|||How do I delete this thread?   For some reason, the HTML is only working sporadically on my posts. This one didn't work, obviously. I reposted in a more clear manner above.   Mods, can you please...|||So I'm running a project in my office on exploring cognitive functions as it relates to high performing teams. People are volunteering to have their cognitive functions tested.   This one employee...|||So I'm running a project in my office on exploring cognitive functions as it relates to high performing teams. People are volunteering to have their cognitive functions tested. This one employee came...|||ESTP. For Def.|||You know, much of it is in the approach. Instead of asking, How do you FEEL? try asking What are you thinking? Thinking is a much more comfortable and logical place to be. It's easier to process...|||Odd.... with my ISTJ, we serve as each others' counter balances and professional rocks. He's dumped his entire schedule to be there for me when I needed to explode, and I changed my entire day to...|||No. no, no - Ironman = ESTP.  For sure. :)|||^^^ This. Times 1000.   Fucking brilliant.|||^^^ fucking brilliant. :)|||I mean give him space. As an E, I want to be around the people I like all the time. I have learned to respect and honor the I's need for space and retreat.      Interesting advice. I can see my...|||I have read that article, actually, and so has he, as it pertains to his type. One of my projects at the office is typing out high functionality project teams vs low performing ones. Functional...|||Stone, I think you're on to something here. He's admitted he is in the ISTJ 'avoidant loop'.   I can see bald faced panic way more easily than I can see malicious intent in this one. Your line...|||Good question. We are equivalent level managers in separate departments.|||Agreed.   And I've asked the coworker to tone it down. He didn't set out to be a jerk. There are always mitigating factors. I just have to find out what's going on.   Which will be later. I'm off...|||An extremely valid point. And taken.   Im receiving mixed messages a bit in this front. Believe you me, I am not a hanger-on when there isnt reciprocal interest. :)  For other favors, he has...|||As always, niss, your insight is exceptional. My gut says a mix of the two. In all honesty, I didn't mind the no answer.   I did mind the ambiguous silence.   Very unfortunately, this played out...|||Interesting answer, DC. If there is a deeper past meaning it's not from our friendship. This has never come up before.   It was a request for an airport pickup. I have a tight ten hour turnaround...|||Alright, what gives?  Does silence = no? I thought you guys were the great concise communicators?   I asked for a favor - please help me out with something not earth shattering, not strange or...|||I'm stressing out a bit and I'm looking for insight/advice/guidance/type awareness as to what's going on and what to do about it.   My stress comes from work, predominantly. I am in a senior...|||Stole this from the ISTJ & Expressing Emotions thread...     Reading through that thread and Memphisto's post especially really struck home with me. I just spent 24 hours straight with Mr. ISTJ,...|||Mr. ISTJ had a Very Bad Day at work. Lots of drama and infighting amongst a project team, and people who are not respectful of his SME authority on the matter. He was reaching out to me over email...|||Agreed. You have feels. You simply control them.   I'm talking about when those feels are destroyed. Through trauma, depletion, exhaustion, etc. How do you guys deal with that?|||Yes, this, exactly. The depletion through some form of trauma of all of your emotional willpower, well being, and health.   Hyper rational survival mode. Fascinating. What did that look like?  ...|||Just had the discussion with him re the above. I couched the trait expressions so that he wouldn't know which was which.   He called the actions and thoughts, as described above, of the INTJ as...|||Again, amazing advice. Thank you for that INTJ vs ISTJ breakdown. That's one of the best I've ever seen. Looking at it that way, he seems to be even more solidly an ISTJ. I will be discussing this...|||niss  Again, amazing info. Thank you! I agree, this is fantastic information and extremely clear and concise. I really appreciated the real world example he threw in there too. For me especially...|||Fascinating! Thanks again!  Great example. I hope others can share examples too. This is great to learn about. : )  I am trying to puzzle through an individual at the moment. I'm bringing...'