'I would say I'm definitely a shy extrovert, either that, or an introvert. In new social situations, I'm usually pretty quiet and reserved, mainly because I'm observing. This usually leads people to...|||We're usually the people asking, Are you ok? when you've had a bad day, even if we don't know you well. We are the people who make the coffee in the break room because we had a few extra minutes....|||I'd say the hardest part about being an N is that most people AREN'T. Feeling left out or judged because I'm crazy. Seeing little connections, or having big ideas, epiphanies, that are really...|||1. What does your introspection involve? Generally, my introspection is a bunch of different thoughts, feelings, or ideas floating around in my head until I can connect the dots, or draw a meaning...|||Hahahahahahaha. Is it possible for you to sit somewhere else? Sally sounds like she has a bit too many personalities. You shouldn't have to walk on eggshells at work just because she's unstable....|||He needs to stop hiding. There's nothing that makes a person more lonely than hiding a huge part of themselves. Not only are you isolated from others, you're isolated from YOURSELF as well. He needs...|||My boyfriend is an ISTJ. Their simple, straight forward, attitude is refreshing to me. I like that you always know where you stand with an ISTJ (or, my boyfriend at least). As a feeling type, I tend...|||Re-read your post and look at what you're saying. If you want to make it better, start by changing your attitude about your husband. You'll reap what you sew. Come up with reasons why you love him...|||I do this all the time. It's unconscious for me. Drives me crazy sometimes. I have a very strong set of values and feel that I know myself decently well, but I don't think it usually appears that way...|||I don't have enough energy or focus to answer all of those questions, plus, I think everyone else already did a pretty damn good job. But one thing I did want to add, although I'm sure you logically...|||I definitely fit into the category of shy extrovert. However, I'd say ENFJ's are also known to be cautious, and that's how I am in social situations where I don't know others well, or don't feel...|||I like to be able to analyze those people and balk at the ridiculousness. I kind of love Bridezillas, btw. It reminds me of who I don't want to be, and I like to try to read into those people. I...|||You don't know who you are because you're always focused on who OTHER people are. As Fe's, we tend to focus outward instead of inward. We listen to other people's opinions, and never form our own. At...|||I don't know about all ENFJ's, but I know that, for me, I am very choosy when it comes to the people I'm close with. I know a lot of people, and have a lot of surface relationships with many...|||Screw this day. Screw being a grown-up. I feel so burnt out. So fucking tired. I want to be free, and play in the sunshine, and make daisy chains, and go swimming, and get my hair done.  That is...|||myjazz I thought I was an ENFJ at first as well, but I'm not entirely sure. I go through strange phases of being extroverted and introverted. Sometimes, I'll be messaging about six people at once...|||Whelp, didn't mean to offend anyone with my foul mouth. Or, fingers? It's not that not-knowing my personality type weighs so heavily on me that I can't sleep at night, or go on three-day meth binges...|||Just because someone says something about you, it doesn't mean it's true. Think about it objectively, try to take your feelings out of it. Are you bored and trying to stir shit for entertainment? Are...|||You have to consciously change your thinking. That's the only thing that's going to help. Other people can't help you if you wont let them. Other people can't change your way of thinking. In my...|||I've been struggling with my personality type for the last month or so. I'm fixated on it. I don't know why it's so damn important to me, but it definitely is. When I took Jung's personality test in...|||You have to stop giving a shit. Which pretty much means; there's nothing you can do. Step back and look at things from a logical standpoint. Where will I be in a month, six months, two years (etc),...|||ForsakenMe, I think it's all about wanting to protect people and keep the peace, for me, at least. I'm sensitive, so I treat people as I'd like to be treated, which means sparing their feelings....|||Honestly? Hannibal Lector. If I had less of a conscious, but your ass I'd feed a man his own brain. That's fucking brilliant.|||Doesn't sound like an ENFJ to me.|||Mr. X, what freaking time-zone are you in? It's totally Sunday. Well, Monday now.|||I have a difficult time being professional, then again, I'm only nineteen. I work in a nursing home as a CNA, and being professional can be quite important. However, some times my feelings get the...|||Mr. X, is it your ENFJ sensitivity that's causing you to act so terribly condescending and rude? You don't have to be a doctor to see signs of psychopathy. I don't think the OP meant anything...|||To be able to shift your perspective and feel/think as someone else would, pretty much just solidifies that you're a feeler. If you weren't, you probably wouldn't be able to do that. I do that as...|||Adasta, you're on the ENFJ forum. What do you expect? We are ultra-sensitive perfectionists; anything less than perfect will not be tolerated or acknowledged. You're criticizing a type who can't...|||I don't like it when others use generalizations about ENFJ personalities. I think everybody can be manipulative, for one reason or another. Yeah, I'll pretend that I like someone when I really can't...|||I agree with BlueSeven's statement. I know that I don't go where I'm not wanted, if I have a choice in the matter. Also, I can usually read people quite well, and can tell when they're starting to...|||So here's the deal. I need to figure out how to deal with burn out, without burning out. I need to figure out how to sleep, without actually sleeping. Relax without relaxing. Take a break without...|||Probably when they stop giving a fuck. Take a person who is genuinely kind and concerned for the well-being of others, take advantage of their good nature, take away their sense of control and...|||I'm a girl, so it may be different for me, but I know that I always wait for the other person to initiate the whole, Oooh I like you business. To me, it's not like playing hard to get but more...|||I currently work as a CNA. LOVE IT! I like to take care of people, anticipate their needs, and you really can make a difference. It allows you to use your Fe, and Ni. To be able to think up new ways...|||Why do I have three different personality types? When I take the Meyers-Briggs test, I'm an ENFJ. Took a different test today, said I was an ENFP. Took another test, it said I was an INFJ. While I...|||My boyfriend is an ISTJ. Honestly, we get along great. One thing I love, is that he's a different way with me than he is with anyone else I've seen him around. He is much more go go go than I am....|||Personally, I don't think it's right for doctors to impose their views on patients families/patients. I think that it may be the doctor's job to educate patients and families about DNRs, so that they...|||Shit. *grown-up|||Option 4- Deny her friend request. Do not message her. Have one of your best friends delete you, add her, and then both of you can stalk her together and talk about how fat she looks in those jeans....|||You never forget it. Don't try to. If you're upset, be upset, you have a right to be. You can distract yourself after the initial shock wears off. But I would suggest to mourn your loss. Cry. Don't...|||I don't think you truly feel this way, in a permanent sense. I think you're hurt and upset. I think your true thoughts about your circumstances are being diluded by the way you feel currently. Hence...|||If you mean what I think you mean by the contacting your friend on the dating site thing, I hate to say it, but maybe he just doesn't like you. I don't mean to be rude or insensitive, because I know...|||-When you type a sentence, don't like the way it sounds, backspace, backspace, backspace, start again. -When you color coordinate your m&m's before you eat them, or eat them in a certain order....|||I think it's fairly common for ENFJs to hide things about them that they don't think others would consider socially acceptable. However, I know that, when it came to my secrets, I couldn't hide them...|||I become especially angry when I feel powerless. My father is an INTJ, and he can be quite controlling. This morning him and I got into an argument, because he now wants my boyfriend to ride a bike...|||The best thing I did after my break-up was lay on the couch for two days, eat Ramen noodles, scream angry song lyrics, and CRY. Mostly the cry part. Another thing that helps for the long-term...|||I was in a relationship for a year. Six months later, I still can't listen to Chasing Cars by Snow Patrol. Haven't gotten around to burning the clothes he left. Can't delete the pictures. However,...|||Don't be a weenie, bro. ENFJ's (at least, speaking for myself and most of the ENFJs on here) are some of the kindest people you'll meet. If she does reject you, she'll probably do it in a very...|||I usually expect more from people than I do from myself. And it's not in a way like, I expect you to call me before you go to sleep, have dinner ready when I get home, and text me all through out...'