'What do you mean?  What's changed?  I feel a bit out of the loop :/|||Dear n2freedom  Thank you so much for sending that quotation through - think I might it this down and put it on my wall where I can see it and be reminded of it every day!  I haven't been on PerC...|||Hope the jackass takes heed and does not bother you again...although I'm sure he will, he sounds persistent.  Lol, sooo many guys I've been interested in have referred to themselves as an asshole...|||I would say I notice how I'm feeling through how I see the world.  If I'm feeling like I'm capable of anything, and the thoughts in my head are just keep going, there's always a way through, then...|||Dear Self,  Well done.  You did a good job today - I can't remember the last time you wrote 2,000 words in 12 hours.  Not all of them are useable, and there is a lot of rambling, but because of...|||Yeah I know exactly what you're talking about - I've started to think about it in a different way recently.  Okay, so I used to think of people as being a real them inside, with all of these...|||I find this bit interesting.  I have always thought I was able to read people in that way, too.  It's often a lot easier to see it in others than it is in yourself...and therefore I do think that...|||My only two experiences of changing my mind about guys have ended up badly.  Basically, they always liked me, and I spent enough time with them to persuade myself subliminally to try it.  One was a...|||You're a Seeker.   Committed and focused you're hard-working and have a  real passion for expanding your horizons. You have impressive levels of  motivation and enthusiasm that inspires others.A...|||Dear ISTP,  It really does get easier and easier to not be in contact with you, when your latest attempt at reconciliation consists of the following texts:  :)  <One minute later>  Heyyyyyyy|||((0Πg®átµ|_α +íØ||s!!!|||You're talking as if people come out of the womb in MBTI/socionics form.    It's a model.  A model that is an approximation of reality.  That is filtered through perception.  Ergo, it is not...|||Yeah...I think we're mind twins!|||You obviously haven't seen this:  http://personalitycafe.com/istp-forum-mechanics/66400-dear-personality-type-sincerely-personality-type.html  One of the funniest venting threads there is.  A...|||What?  Lol could you back this up with some concrete ENFP/ENTP - specific behaviours that do not apply to other types?  I don't really see how Si is relevant to the situation/behaviour, personally....|||Don't know about that...I'm one of the most overly-analytical people I know (about a billion people have told me I think too much). I would classify myself as an ambivert.  But slightly leaning...|||You got that right!!  Was it an email?  It's really great to see you are completely on top of the situation.    P.S. PM is currently brewing in my head :)|||I think that in reality, it's never just one person doing the controlling (there are many forms - bribery, deceit, emotional manipulation, silent treatment, etc.) and the person who's doing the...|||But Duck,   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KE5GGMhmo-M|||Maybe.  But I do recognise these thought processes as similar to mine when I was at the height of craziness in my ISTP involvement...obsession quickly leads to desperation (i.e. what on earth can I...|||This is interesting.  I thought the same about myself and the ISTP I got involved with.  Although there were moments of intensity in a good sense, we definitely unearthed each other's dark sides,...|||chimeric  Thank you very much for your kind words :o)  I very much appreciate your contributions on here too - honesty and integrity are two things that you have which I value greatly.  Yes, I...|||Let's go|||Dear...ESTJ?   Anyway it doesn't matter about what type you are.    Please stop imposing on my right to live a free life.  I understand I'm a new housemate, so I have to learn how to do things in...|||Couldn't agree with you more.   My city has a cycle scheme and I love cycling back from friends' houses late night/early morning.  There's something very liberating about cycling...and a good...|||Exactly the same - it goes in waves.  I NEED to be alone, then I NEED to be around people, but never either one for too long.  It's ambiversion to the extreme.  Maybe one of the more balanced aspects...|||Thank you for your responses...lots of interesting perspectives.  I asked one of my friends yesterday over the phone what his view on affectionate mockery was and he had another novel idea.  He...|||@Life.Is.A.Game  Wow...your story just popped up on my phone.  You've been through a lot - and you're very brave for starting on the way to facing up to it.   I have no words...but I know you'll be...|||I did want to discuss...the nature of affectionate mocking, and when you gave your opinion and I questioned my friend's behaviour, and her purported motives etc., you basically told me to tell her...|||I wasn't suggesting you were.  I spoke to her before I posted this - I explained my perspective and we're past it.    I am aware of my own reactions and that I am accountable for them...thanks...|||Read the first, I agree - excellent book and still so much to absorb from it.   Will look into the second one.  Thank you.|||This isn't just about me...lol.  It's a principle.  I feel my friend's behaviour today was counter-constructive.  It is also a habit that I have noticed she has.  It hurt me because I recognised on...|||Good for you.  I have problems with this.  What I have experienced is that either I don't get it when someone's putting me down (or just ignore it) and then I notice through a build up of behaviour...|||Thank you for your responses :o)   Yes, I see this, however it's often difficult to tell where the line is with  someone - I can generally laugh at myself and my quirks, but if it's a  problematic...|||Okay guys, will try and summarise this as quick as possible.  You know when you're buddies with someone, or you're related to someone, or you are hot for someone...and you kind of flirt/play with...|||Urrgghh haha yeah bloody hell it's such a struggle sometimes!!  When feelings become overwhelming even for the ENFP, then a period of cold rational distance actually helps with perspective.  But the...|||Thank you n2f! :)  Those are some good pointers.  One that is a severe indicator I'm falling into all those traps is when you don't feel comfortable just being yourself anymore.  I'd be...|||Thanks Doc.  Yeah I know.  I only learn through experience though!  And I think I want to find someone who I can trust, be let down rarely by, and still trust.  I think it's possible, but rare. ...|||I completely agree with this.  I have accepted it's true about me...but I'm not sure what to do about it.  I'm constantly working on my self-awareness, logic, patience, compassion etc., and I keep...|||@BlueGiraffe   This happens to me whenever I'm going through a depressed/stressful period.  As long as I can find out why the thoughts are happening (which is usually quite simply related to the...|||n2freedom  Phew.  Well good for you for figuring it out.  I don't know about you, but I find it difficult to write someone off unless I've got a proper rationale for doing so, and it sounds to me...|||Ahem.  Sorry but Mike Patton is mine.  You can have the other four though.|||Dear Physiology Textbook,  Is it not enough that you bombard me with excessive amounts of ridiculously superfluous terminology that I will likely never use after I've passed the exam that...|||Lol funny... FYI I never attributed the exact words to him being an ISTP. I exemplified a communication problem between an ISTP and an NF (a typical situation that occurs, according to the the...|||Congrats!  And wow, I was listening to this the other day and and it's such a classic!! Haha|||http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z1gxJ7mj2uY|||Well yeah....that's not the issue.  My point is, how did we arrive at such different conclusions about what was going to happen, when the conversation seemed (from my POV) to be crystal clear?|||True.  However, there are some things that seem so obvious when you say/hear them, it almost seems to be pedantic to question them.  Example:  ME: So we could either go here and do A, or go here...|||I think this is an excellent idea for ISTPs/ NFs who have trouble communicating.  When I was around ISTP, in direct conversation it was often like we were speaking completely different languages. ...|||Wow that was quick!! Congratulations! :)'