'Sadly, no. Not at all.|||Books and Lego!|||Do I hate it when people find me attractive? Hell no. I wish people did. As far as I know, no one now finds me attractive. And not many people ever have.|||Disrespect. Looks like you got that in spades.   You want change? Talk about it. Compromise. Discuss. Insults to get a result? Grow up.|||Labrandy, I recently found this site, and I found it enormously encouraging. You're not alone.   Genderfork|||I completely hear you when you talk about feeling the failures of the past and letting them drag you down. And they only way I've found, for me, to defeat that is to consciously acknowledge it when...|||Being ignored is very wounding for me. It's almost like being consigned to hell. If you're upset with this ENFP, my suggestion would be to confront them about the event and clear the air.   I live...|||This precisely. Though I wish I had people willing anywhere to bed me, like Pink does.|||Wish I had that. I get a notion and then it gets drowned in fear and doubt and overcaution. :(|||I'm with you, Heather. I never had a problem with feeling the space occupied by any car I drove (unless I started actively thinking about it, and then it all went to hell), and though parallel...|||Dude! I've always wanted to be a goth but they wouldn't let me into their club 'cause I always wear my happy pants!  ...Disclaimer: I'm well aware that a goodly number of those in the goth...|||Oh, yes indeedy. That's the one that I feel most closely matches my personal mindset. It may be because it seems to avoid a lot of the negative connotations I seem to find in other descriptions,...|||Nicely said, sir.|||Your strength will ultimately confound and defeat the bruises of the past. They ain't got nonthin' on you. [[hugs]]|||Agreed! It feels like a survival mechanism gone haywire. Healthy Si is there to remind you about things that worked, and things that were unpleasant, so that you can pursue and avoid them,...|||The more emotionally and mentally hale an ENFP, the less annoying. I know I've come off as a groundless loud boor, and I know others who've come off that way. A lot of it has to do with insecurity....|||This. A lot. It's not as bad in my situation--no sabotaging of gift-giving, for instance--but there's always, always a sense that there's an expectation of obligation to him. And these expectations,...|||Selene: a doctorate is nothing but a little piece of paper. I'm pretty damn sure that if we were to take your heartfelt, impulsive thoughts and see how many people here you've positively affected,...|||I friggin' well pissed myself at that!|||I hatehatehated working as a phone monkey for a non-profit. This seemed strange to me because, well, we're supposed to like all the interaction, but then I realized that if you answer phones for a...|||@thehigher--the Shoulds are murder. I'm fighting a lot of them off even today. There are a lot of distilled dictates about how to live one's life, as written by society. I put that in quotes...|||But...why wouldn't we like you?|||I'm someone who likes a bit of alone time. Mostly for processing!   When I'm on my own, I like to: -watch documentaries on TV and talk at the television -write stories -read stuff -play an...|||Plain. Effin'.  Brilliant.   Cheers for that.|||I admire you, Weka--I have no internal affirmation mechanism of any kind. Or if I do, it atrophied long ago. I worry that everything I think of myself is overinflated and incorrect, so I end up...|||I wish I could feel good about being worshipped (not that anyone does, but hey). I do best with acknowledgements and reasonable praise. I get flustered with actual compliments or anything fancier...|||I damaged myself very badly by trying to fit in. Of course I don't fit in. Not only am I loud and funny and strange and spontaneous, but I'm also smart and (heavens forfend) a girl and I'm fat, too....|||Still wishing you and your friend the best! :D|||I've been in this place before, too. I started numbing out and shutting down because I kept getting signals from the world and society that I was somehow broken or wrong. There was something...|||I'm an ENFP and I wish I'd stop projecting all my fears and doubts onto others. :frustrating:|||Regardless of what it is--physical, verbal, or gestural, it needs to be genuine. I can see fake from a mile away and it's gutting.|||Fear is enormous in my head. I think it's a weathervane for this self-assault, too. We fear doing the wrong thing, missing the right chance, hurting someone, missing an opportunity, that we berate...|||I'd thank you twice, Finaille, but the button won't let me.|||Y'know, reading the instructions doesn't stick. Doing stuff sticks. By doing, it etches itself into whatever pathways exist to do things more than once. You've primed memory.   Oh, and I, too, am...|||Yep, it's happened to me. On one occasion I sussed out the context, and then it made sense, but on the others, it did seem to come out of nowhere.|||Taught myself Photoshop and Quark (yikes, that was a while ago) by sheer puttering around.|||...Are we? Er, thanks!   ...I can count the number of times I've thought of myself as hot on one hand. Hasn't happened recently, either.   What I've noticed, however, is that we seem to the...|||Good heavens, you're adorable, Danse! Reminds me a bit of Zooey Deschanel, in fact...|||That's amazing! With the INTJ I know, half the time I get the vibe that you're talking about, and half the time I feel like the person gets frustrated with my ridiculousness and wishes I'd just get...|||...It may not be...this might be worth following up with consumer protection! :(|||I'm the one who keeps thinking the wind sounds like rain, and feeling oddly disappointed about it...|||It doesn't work if you have to ask for it, I've found. I wonder why that is? Maybe it won't feel genuine, if we had to request the behavior we were hoping to receive?|||Glad to be of service. :laughing:|||That's fascinating. The one INTJ I know well seems to me to be uninterested when I get long-winded, like he's just humoring me sometimes.|||You do? Most of the time I get shot down for it, or receive a look of long-suffering impatience. Although some find the backstory amusing in itself.   @kaycee: Agreed! Context is vital. :) ...|||I echo the previous posters, particularly Naleena. Ultimately, this classmate is not your responsibility. You have done (or are doing) your best to help him; to do more than you already are will...|||Yes. Just acknowledge her anger. No advice whatsoever. Venting is purely emotional, there's no logic to it. As others have said, if an ENFP is seeking logistical assistance, we'll ask for advice.  ...|||I'll bite.  A Flooded Field  Helena didn't have much but the farm, with Roy gone. He'd gone ten years ago, and she stayed 'cause she had nowhere else to go. The rain started on Tuesday, opened up...|||I rarely have problems with sleep, but there are times when I'm just not sleepy. I'll be tired, but my brain will be fully aware, and there is just no sleep. And I hate it. It usually means that when...|||The past few weeks have been utter shite. This one is bittersweet for me, but ultimately empowering.   YouTube - Kate Bush - This Woman's Work'