'I probably have a lot of thoughts, which I will try to articulate later. But for now, just this: Give it time. It gets better! =-)|||I think it's a combination of factors. Idealism is part of it. It takes time to sort out what is important and what isn't and is better off accepted. I think some of it is that there are fewer people...|||Okay, first of all, you're not an alien...at least, not unless I am, too. I think this is pretty normal for INFPs. And I think the answer is that it takes time. I do think we have a different set of...|||Ha! I loved your comment about NTs. My bf is an INTJ, and yup, he jokes (I think he's joking?) about world domination. Heh.|||If it makes you feel better, I have, or have had in the past, most of those same thought patterns. I was particularly intrigued by your mention on the excellent intuition that sometimes is...|||I can relate to this. Creating is my passion as well, but there are many ways of being creative. Career-wise it can be one of those things that ebbs and flows. What I mean is, there are a lot of...|||I remember thinking like that with my first love. It didn't work out, and I became pretty jaded for a while, but I got past it, and I've gotten some of that back, just tempered with more caution. I...|||It sounds like you've found something really special. It sounds like it's just that she's been hurt before, and is trying to play it a little safer. I think with patience, you will be okay. =-)|||Yes, I would go to him. But the problem with thinking about it from that perspective is that, I, like you, am an INFP. Her thoughts processes might be entirely different. It sounds like she needs to...|||Your last post clarifies a lot. In the original post I got the impression that you didn't know a lot about yourself and really hadn't done much introspection yet. Your most recent post paints a...|||I agree that a lot of this is probably being off the medication. Antidepressants can have side effects, and some of these can include the person taking them being more emotionally muted, being tired,...|||To the OP, I think she is still unsure, maybe ambivalent, but maybe having feelings toward you that her head is unsure she is ready to handle well. It sounds like she's trying to do what she thinks...|||I'm starting to feel more enthusiasm about my job career in software at the moment, in part because the project I was working on that I hated ended, and in part because I came across something that I...|||I took the Enneagram test that Personality Cafe has (I didn't realize they had one) and I got 4w5, which also seemed to fit. So, I think I know that now, too.|||Okay. I think I get it now. I looked into my tritype, took this test: Enneagram Tritype, and figured it out (the test did cost $10, but it helped with my confusion on this). I am a 4, tritype 461,...|||I took both the first test and the second one and got different results. For the first, I got 6w7 as my top result and for the second I got 4w3 as my top result. Both main results seem to fit me,...|||Hi. I was wondering about free online tests to find out my enneagram type and any interesting additional information (like wings and such). I read about the enneagram years ago, but I don't remember...|||I think that it may be that your perspectives on this are not as completely in opposition as it might at first appear. I think that there is an important point made in the first post quoted in that...|||I work in software, and it's kind of mixed for me. There are parts of it that I love. For the most part, working has been more enjoyable than school. The creative projects, learning new technology,...|||I got ENFJ for ideal and INFP for real, but while I do sometimes wish I were more outgoing and organized, when it comes right down to it, I would rather be the type that I am, and learn to develop...|||I don't know what her motivations are. Maybe she just wants everybody to spend time together. Maybe she has an ulterior motive, like testing whether you will get jealous. But most likely she's just...|||Dogs. As a kid I would have said both, and most other animals, too. For a while as an adult, I would have said none...I think too much of that kind of energy was going to parenting, and I didn't have...|||I think to put this all down to type is to oversimplify it. That being said, I have some of the same issues with my INTJ bf, just to a lesser degree, thankfully. We have both had to work to...|||Other people have already said, this, but no, you're not a horrible person. It is very common for people to have sex again after a breakup. It was at a time that she was vulnerable, yes, but it...|||Sadly, I relate to this. I've gotten better at accepting the world as it is and finding parts that fit me, but there are days when I want to scream. And I think most people don't get it. I mean, it's...|||Reminds me of an Ally McBeal episode. Georgia asks Ally, What makes your problems so much bigger than everyone else's? and Ally says, They're mine. Lol.|||Thanks. I used to think the way you do, but I see so many people around me in worse situations, and it makes me think I should just force myself to make it work. Plus the more I learn about INFPs,...|||I understand what you mean, though I think right now I am on the other side of the scenario. I feel frustrated with my job. Meanwhile, there are people I know who have it so much worse that I feel...|||I used to love it. There was enough new to learn and enough that was creative that I really enjoyed it. But lately it has been a lot of boring detail work and it feels like every time I think I'm...|||I think maybe you are taking type a little too much to heart (no offense intended). I absolutely think that we can develop areas we are not as strong in. But type is more about what we tend to...|||I love Zuko. =-)|||Yes, yes it would. =-)|||Do you DM or write for other DMs (assuming D&D is the tabletop roleplaying game to which you are referring, which I realize it might not be...but it's the one I'm familiar with, and I'm not sure what...|||Me, too. I think I need to work on my discipline and self-confidence...oh, yeah, and the actual craft of writing... =-)|||To the OP: I haven't read all of the replies, and for that I apologize, but it's after midnight and I'm tired. I did, however, read your full post, and here are some thoughts. First, I think there is...|||http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l5BvhlHFO8w  Meant To Live by Switchfoot   (We were meant to live for so much more. Have we lost ourselves?)|||I have had a hard time settling in to a career. There is so much I am interested in and I have trouble with boredom and monotony, so it makes finding one career that will continually be rewarding and...|||I've read that INFPs tend to struggle with this a lot, change majors, change careers, etc. This has been true for me. I am currently in IT and there are parts of it that I love, but there are days...|||I would like to see women objectified less. It bothers me that we are often evaluated primarily on our appearances and treated by some people as if that is most of our value. I know some men who do...|||I can't speak for other INFPs, but I'm happier in a relationship. I tried the friends with benefits thing once with someone I'd been friends with for years. I don't regret it, but it was hard on me...|||Is there a way that you can keep your options open? Take classes that overlap for the two courses of action for a while? Or at least try out some of the hard science classes, some of the public...|||I think this has actually gotten better with time, though it got worse for a long time first. I think that it is the most idealistic people who become the most cynical because they have higher ideals...|||I have wanted to be a writer since I was about eight, which is when I first started to try to write a book. I've started and not finished a lot of novels over the years. I am getting better, but I...|||I have kids. I was a teen mom, so I can't imagine not having kids. And honestly, I don't think there's anything more wonderful and rewarding. I am not married, and have not been, but I would like to...|||I'm not sure anyone fully recovers from any important experience, in the sense that it shapes who they are and how they view things. But the pain, that I think we recover from. The first was the...|||^This (you summed it up better than I could). Your experiences up to this point are valuable, even if that is hard to see right now. And you are really young. It will get easier, especially if you...|||I'm not familiar with the functions, though it is something I'd like to learn more about. However, I think I can still relate to some of this. Lately, I've been doing more monotonous, detail work in...|||Hi. I can relate to some of the confusion and the pull between making what seem like practical career choices and following your heart. I am still in the process of trying to figure out that balance...|||Yes. It's not perfect, but I think I can often read people well. I predicted how my brother's first marriage would turn out years before he met his first wife. It was kind of disturbing. There have...|||I got INTJ as my most compatible type, which is my boyfriend's type. I've generally tended to really like and get along with other INTJs in my life as well. I am fascinated by them and by the way...'