'In my experience, ESFP's don't make very good matches for INFJ's. As an INFJ I am drawn to every female ESFP I meet like a moth to a flame, but they are Kryptonite, man! As attractive as they are,...|||I spend a lot of time in conference calls throughout the day and I do find comfort in familiar voices, especially during meetings with a lot of people I don't know. It's kinda like when you're at a...|||I occasionally get depressed as a result of compounding circumstances that I feel I have a hard time controlling. Really, I get depressed over petty things and once I am able to realize how petty...|||I consider myself a cyclist first and foremost, but I log between 10 and 15 miles per week on the giddy-up sticks. As the weather gets cooler I run more than I ride.  I especially love running when...|||OMG! With Animal Crackers!|||In my experience it is bad.   Baby kittens and candy are sweet. The women that I am generally interested in look for strength, security and sex appeal. Of course I have the curse of being drawn to...|||On the subject of Y'all, I actually get a kick out of it. My company has a couple offices in Alabama which I frequent. Seems that whenever I go down there I pick it up right quick along with all...|||They say that in Buffalo, NY USA as well. Specifically older people of Polish descent, of which there are many in Buffalo.|||I do experience lust but only for women that I am both physically attracted to AND feel some sort of psychological/emotional bond with. Just looking at sexy women without at least establishing strong...|||I totally agree with this! My ESTJ wife and I would absolutely kill it on the Amazing Race! When we're in sync and focused on the same goal it's like our personalities compliment each other to the...|||Jesus.  I mean, that door was opened and I couldn't resist.|||Not so much in middle school or high school, but once I got to college people suspected me of being gay. Luckily people are more mature at that age so I have really only dealt with people saying...|||I love nature! I grew up on a farm and practically lived outside all year long, finding beauty in everything in this world. Today my mood is affected by the weather, I am a sun worshipper to the nth...|||James Bond.|||I'm a big fan of uniqueness. In the same sense I have a deep abhorrance for all things mainstream, trendy and/or popular. That is not to say I am not trendy, but I like to think that I am a...|||My wife is an ESTJ, and let me tell you... it is tough! I've been with her for 13 years and I'm sure she doesn't embody all things ESTJ's, therefore my following list of traits are stark...|||I really feel for you, Lumielisa. I have 2 kids (3 and 6) and I thank my lucky stars that I have a full time job to break up the time. Don't get me wrong, they're great kids, but they require...|||I'd be flattered that someone else is thinking about me enough to talk about me. It means I'm in their head! :ninja:|||I've found a good deal of success in the realm of training. I do a lot of digital content development work; basically taking PPT presentations, adding animations and voice-overs, and publishing into...|||Hanging out at bars socializing with a lot of people, enduring loud, pulsing music, and hitting on women is NOT fun in my book. I gather that type of thing isn't fun for any INFJ.  Trying to find...|||No touchy! No touchy! Anyone closer to me than arms reach is too close. The ONLY exceptions are my kids and women who I'm physically attracted to/romantically involved with - in which case, touchy!...|||I'm totally with you on that. I used to try to fit in as a kid. I became pretty efficient at it after a while but it seems like too much work now. I guess it would depend upon how much of a disparity...|||Luke Skywalker by a mile!! May the Force be with me!|||I get aha moments all the time but they're never people-based. Instead, they're always focused on creation of business processes, web-sites, tools, etc. or songs. In these cases they're always...|||Every time I try to hit a baseball!  Subtle environmental changes go completely unnoticed to me. One day I was sitting on the couch talking to my wife and noticed a new picture on the wall. I said...|||That's a Ni-Fe vs. Ni-Fe stalemate, right there! I can imagine my own thought pattern.  Thinking: Should I kiss her?  No, that would be to abrupt, not the right time. But what if she really...|||Sadly, I've never gotten close enough, mentally, to anyone to share my innermost thoughts with. There's a thread about soul mates... my ideal soul mate would be someone I could seamlessly take into...|||Sounds like you need another INFJ to me!|||I was an outcast in grade school - middle school. People picked on me because I was smart, apparently that's a bad thing in the minds of children. I thought I was weird then and affirmed to myself...|||Aye... I'm quite the dreamer. I surround myself with T's to remain grounded; they're so boring though. :tongue:|||I used to work in the same type of set-up, 'cept I was the boss. It was still weird because I felt like I was invading my employee's privacy all the time. Here's some ideas:  Turn your workstation...|||I've certainly broken a few hearts in my day. It usually happens because I get close with girls and they develop romantic feelings for me that I don't quite share. In retrospect I am kicking myself...|||What Delilah!?!? That says you're an INTJ?|||41%INFJ 23%ENFJ 14%INFP 9%INTJ 3%ISFJ  I used to test as an ENFJ when I was younger (and perhaps biasing my answers toward extroversion).|||I'm down with that. I usually look to Craigslist first for something that I know is high quality but very expensive brand new. I'd rather have a used carbon fiber Trek Madone than the top of the line...|||Time to break out one of my all time favorite bands that 99% of the people I know scoff at... THE MARS VOLTA!!   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QkgRUfhVPUw  Everything these guys put out is gold...|||Well said. That's how I interpret it as well.|||I can memorize strings of random numbers. Phone numbers, account numbers, you name it... but I have to see them. I claim to have a photographic memory. I probably really don't but I make that...|||Driving toward continuous improvement every day.|||Totally. I propose we put them all on an island full melee weapons and let them off each other or learn to live in harmony. The last time we did that we got Australia and that turned out pretty well.|||There are some traits that I possess that often make me question my INFJ-ness, materialism is certainly one of them. I understand that you cannot pidgeonhole a person based on personality type but...|||I personify an individual who is book smart but lacks common sense. I consider myself to be above average intelligence and those who know me would agree (I kick ass at Trivial Pursuit!)....|||My wife is an ESTJ. Our relationship is rocky and very hard to maintain.  I've had my heart ripped out by a few ESFP's in my day. For some reason that type, especially if they're a fellow Enneagram...|||That is it for me too; I'm too hard on myself if I'm not the best.|||ugh... lyrics! My achilies heel! I can seriously write music all day long but I struggle so much with writing lyrics. I want to be deep and descriptive but when I attempt to write like that it just...|||I'm a competitive cyclist in addition to being naturally susceptible to negative body image, so it's sort of a perfect storm for me.  For the last 4 years I've religiously counted every single...|||Ouch, baby. Very ouch.|||Man... I don't know how they do it! None of my skills have ever come naturally and I have had to work tirelessly to develop what little I have. Honestly, prodigies make me jealous and for my own...|||I'm a musician and songwriter and I love music, so I guess it's a resounding yes, us guys are musical from my perspective. :happy:|||Your eyes are breathtaking; and your superfluous use of elipses goes well with my ambiguously inappropriate overuse of the semi-colon. Shall we continue this discussion over in JD's Flirting thread?...'