'ahhh my heart just melted reading this.... you, my friend, are of the few that get it. congrats & keep it up. =)|||AHhhh ...This is me.   I'm so glad i clicked on this thread and discovered that it's not just me. phew!   This also extends to my love for my friends. I know a lot of people that only have one...|||Wow, seems like she's going through a lot all at once. My heart definitely goes out to both of you....   I have a tendency to do the same in extremely stressful and emotionally taxing...|||I think mine's pretty legit... =) I like that everyone has different top character strengths. Hurray for diversity!   1) Love  You value close relations with others, in particular those in which ...|||GAH YES!!!   My most recent ex-roommate is an ESTP, she turned what once was a happy save haven of a home -- into a dreaded pit of hell that i was scared of coming home to each night.   Most of...|||I agree with this 100%.   I was my most grounded/balanced self when i lived with my INFP roommate. After she moved out, I had an ESTP move in and we definitely clashed and couldn't find a way to...|||I agree that INFPs and ENFJs are very complementary to each other. My very best guy friend is an INFP -- but there was never a romantic interest from either side, nor will there ever be.  We...|||WOw. Well there's clearly something going on behind the scenes that he hasn't articulated to you.   But keep in mind what he HAS already articulated to you (however minimal). He said You and I...|||I can safely say that I'm the same way as far as reciprocal openness. I'm an open book in the most relatable sense, I willingly share information & stories that facilitates a shared closeness. But...|||Call me superficial, fake, and naive. I confess that I keep people at an arms length, with rose colored glasses on.   I instinctively keep my friendships at an arms length. I meet a lot of people...|||Mad mad mad respect for Tina Fey.|||This is me.   I come from a long line of very strong independent women. My dad & the men in my family are very kind, compassionate, respectful, and super supportive. This is what I look for in a...|||Yes, there are definitely opportunities to collaborate/work with other musicians. I played in a lot of ensembles, quartets, composer recitals, and the orchestra -- so that was fun. But although there...|||Great to see that you're pursuing music! I started out majoring in music when I first went to university. I played the Harp -- and absolutely loved my instrument.  HOWEVER similar to pmj85, I...|||I love seeing everyone's different yet similar interests! Go ENFJs! =)   I like.... - hosting intimate parties, gatherings, & themed potlucks - brewing my own organic specialty beer  - going...|||I think my takeaway from my situation is understanding my friend's comfort levels and drawing those boundaries between myself and her romantic interest. And also being able to clearly express my...|||OMG WOW -- when i read your initial post I already had this exact thought in mind!   One of my best friends is an ESFJ, 7w8 with a VERY strong sexual subtype, followed by SP/SO. I've always known...|||Short explanation of how i 'choose' my friends...   There are some people who make me feel warm, fuzzy, and ooey gooey inside. These types of people make me feel happy by just standing next to...|||I just came here to give a virtual *high five* to all the >6 females  .... read through some of the previous exchange in this thread. Made me think of this article titled: How Many People Have you...|||Nice to see other veggie ENFJs out there =)   I've been vegetarian for about 7 years (with the occasional consumption of fish). Of course, I tend to make the exception that whenever I travel to...|||A couple of weeks late... but here's a Happy New Year picture for you all! Me on the left and my ESFP dance partner/guru/friend on the right, who continually inspires me & warms my heart. <3 59202|||I generally think it's more beneficial to stay on good terms than not, with the exception of being completely screwed over by your ex (in which case, i'd tell them to fuck off).   Granted, trying...|||Oh man -- yeah, so my best friend does exactly that... and she's an ESTJ. Sometimes yes it was indeed circumstantial -- but admittedly other times it was a lapse in judgement and I simply forgot to...|||ooo...  I'm Blue, Sensitive Tan, Violet  Also i'm a type 2 (so/sx/sp). Sounds about right!|||AH! this is me...   So most of the other responses were in reference to SO's.... in which I'm in agreement on. I'm definitely not a jealous lover. BUT I can be a bit of a jealous friend. I don't...|||This is a great question.   Akin to the other responses... I also feel like I'm an open book. Willing to share very personal information, and generally very relatable to all types of people that I...|||How are old are you?  In my late 20's  Where are you from?  California   How long have you been on Personality Cafe? lurker for 1yr, active for 3ish months  Other forums you frequent other...|||Hmm. yeah. I do the same when i'm slowly transitioning out of a romantic interest into a platonic one.   Like i previously stated, my preference is to remain friends...  especially if we've taken...|||eek.... this is definitely me. So i don't think it's necessarily exclusive to ENFJ males.  I don't know what it is, but I tend to know if there's something there or not relatively quickly (2-3...|||His Fe shining through during his speech to his campaign staff, post election results...   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pBK2rfZt32g][SIZE=2|||Here's an article in the huff post about ENTJ Romney vs. ENFJ Obama written back in September. A pretty interesting read & run-through of why the two are typed that way.|||Likewise..   Only, when I first meet another ENFJ (and i don't know it yet), we'll totally vibe and the connection is off the chart. I feel like whenever I meet new ENFJs, they're all so...|||Ahh I also VERY briefly dated an ENFJ about a year ago. We immediately clicked right off the bat, and I felt like we got each other emotionally -- more than I've ever had with another person. But...|||Ahh yeah... well he wasn't/isn't always like that. I just listed the worst of the worst that pissed me off.... I could go on and list all of the wonderful positive INTP functions. But that wouldn't...|||Lol... just want to preface this with the fact that this isn't an  attack... I'm listing what seriously pissed me off about my ex-INTP bf. Needless to say, my list should be taken with a grain of...|||I'm more or less very self aware.... and also aware that i can be pretty twisted sometimes when i want my way. Being a master of the art of inception can be dangerous. With great power, comes great...|||To me, I feel like Halloween kicks off the Holiday season here in the states....  Pumpkin carving transitions us to pumpkin eating, which then fattens us all up for 2 months of insatiable gorging...|||Whoo hooo! Time to share Halloween pics:  51811 Costume 1: This is me and my INFP bud. I'm Krysta from Ferngully, and he's a scout.   51812 Costume 2: cheesy robin costume that I borrowed. My...|||I would answer your question with... yes, but it depends. ha.   But in the content of your context provided... i would have to lean more toward the he's prob being friendly. When I was in college,...|||lol, as i was reading this i was thinking.. pshhh. isn't this the pot calling the kettle black??  But you redeemed yourself in the last line. haha. ;)|||oooooo same.... uck. There are two rules that I try to abide by if I know it's going to be a late night.   1) One drink an hour rule. This one helps me keep my composure, considering the fact that...|||Ahh yeah -- I have two very close INFP's in my life (one male, one female). When I first met them, I was drawn to each of them and we immediately clicked with an elevated level of understanding that...|||Left of the center. Although I seriously believe the issues that are important to me are non-partisan... unfortunately there's a tendency for things to naturally get politicized even if they affect...|||So I read this article today: 9 People You Become When You're Drunk ---- SUPER HILARIOUS BTW.   And indeed, I'm definitely not all of these when I'm drunk, and I may have a higher affinity toward...|||I'm guilty as charged for doing this.... but only after long drawn out emotional turmoil and consistently getting burned by the hot potato at hand.   Like the responses above me, I do keep a wide...|||Locally made, eco-friendly, reclaimed wooden earrings. =)   50493|||Ahh i'm guilty as charged for joining the Meetup and not (yet) attending an event. You're about an hour away - so not that far, but just out of the way enough to make it difficult to fit in my...|||Good Question!   You know, i never even really thought of it myself until this very moment. There are things that I 'notice' first that catches my eye... but then there are other things that draw...|||I guess i'd just like to echo what's already been articulated in this tread by everyone else...   Personally, I tend to internalize criticism, whether it's constructive or destructive. Outwardly...|||This thread is hilarious btw! love love love reading through these posts.    In all of the recent threads that I've been able to briefly read  through, I feel like ENFJ's are quite good at...'