'I guess I have a tendency to encourage people in a certain direction if I think they'd like it. Even if it isn't verbalized, there is a certain negotiation that goes on. I sort of try to discover...|||Wait, he's real?|||If you think wes anderson's characters are annoying and flat, I'd like to know what kind of amazing cinema you've been watching that allows you to have such standards.  Also, I don't think Max is...|||hey, I'm an INFP. you shouldn't take my sweeping generalisations about reality too seriously. They are usually a better indication about what kind of mood I was in at the time, rather than as a way...|||Welcome to humanity. There are two kinds of people: violent people, and people who don't realize that they are violent people.  Of course we're not violent all the time. But, we all have a violent...|||I can honestly say that this hasn't been one of my bigger concerns in life. Thank god there's something that I don't have a hangup about, at least!|||Here's how I'm attracted to darkness: When I see a completely loneley, abanadoned place, that's so desolate that nobody would ever want to go there, or so creepy, I feel a really strong compulsion...|||Being an INFP is like this: You look up. You try to find the highest ideal. You can never quite live up to it, yet others somehow seem to do it. The world starts to make a lot more sense when,...|||I think being cool means to be yourself. To be alive, responsive, full of vitality.|||People talk about things that they don't understand at all, with a lot of conviction. You already realise that this happens a lot, but the sheer scale of it is going to blow your mind.   Edit: And...|||The exact same thing from OP happened to me once (well similar) I went to the doctor with depression, and he basically told me to pick myself up. Looking back (it was a few years ago), it was a...|||When you're so keenly aware of the multiplicity of ways that your efforts can become unbalance, that you never attempt anything seriously.|||When you debate about the potential damage, vs good, that posting something deep on a forum will bring, when the consequences are outside of your control to help 'land' them.  <3  Take care...|||When you are surprised to realize that the people in your life are not the characters you've assigned to them.|||I feel the same.. I made some dumb posts a while ago.. Idk if anybody noticed.. but still..|||When you really don't want to hurt people's feelings, and you know they are sensitive about stuff.. but you know full well that the stuff they are sensitive about, they don't need to be sensitive...|||I consider myself to be honest, so weirdness comes with the territory.|||Also a girl, I expect. I have a distinct problem identifying myself in those because I don't have boobs.|||In my case, there isn't a deeply buried sense of arrogance. It is barely beneith the surface, covered by a thin layer of ingratiaton and passive aggressiveness. I'm just too good for this world...|||There is no thread for epiphanies in the INFP forum. This is not right, because I think a core part of the INFP experience is those experiences of transcending an existing understanding, to reach a...|||Okay I'm not quite 30, but I've seen some shit and I'm wise beyond my years so here is my 2 cents: Learn to be kind to yourself, even when you're not living up to your highest ideals. There are...|||I would really reccomend NVC for this. Just search on youtube: non violent communication. It is totally real and authentic. It's not gimmicky at all.  All you need to do is learn how to listen,...|||ITT: people taking a situation they have no direct experience of and very little info to go on, extrapolating it to their own experience, and then giving advice based on that.   Usefulness:...|||You can only say 10% of what you're thinking, so you have to choose wisely.|||Lonliness is a funny, elusive thing. Sometimes you can be by yourself, and all alone, and feel really sad and really long for the presence of somebody else. Other times, you can be all alone, and...|||Figure out what their ideals are, and then build a SHRINE to those ideals for them. Semi-joking. It's a weird idea, but I would defo appreciate it if somebody build me a Shrine to my deepest ideals....|||When you're drinking a mixture of cordial and sparkling water instead of soda, because you don't agree with the advertising and you don't like all of the crap they put in soda... but you haven't...|||I tried to edit a post today (I gave some really bad advice, cleverly disguised as good advice because I was grumpy and feeling destructive), and I want to delete it. I managed to update it to add a...|||As INFP, we assume that the others' judgements holds as much weight as our own. But as you get older, you realise almost everybody is fronting, and you can easily push them over if you want to. They...|||I've struggled with this for years. What I've been workiing with is learning to value, and ride inspiration on it's own terms as it comes.   Overcoming writers block is a creative endeavour. ...|||Perhaps you should try thinking things through a little more|||mushr00m yea, i think I've developed strategy through go, but I'm not naturally strategic. Another similarity is when I try on a move and a more advanced player has already seen how it will develop...|||Where does that guy live now, that you used to know a couple of years ago? Is he still local? If he's really nice, he might be up for giving you a hand. He sounds like almost exactly what you're...|||Do you know anybody who might fit the role of conversation driving instructor?|||I practiced playing Go, and also programming, and I think they have made a difference to the way I think. In particular, learning system design concepts, like UML.  From learning to play Go (which...|||haha, and then reality sinks in again when you realize what college is like!  I've got another one: When after discovering this forum, you have to re-assess your identity as one of the smartest...|||I think because the INFP's least developed function is their extraverted judging function, they are not as good at communicating the subtle feeling distinctions and intuition, that they get via their...|||I'm interested in S/M. I've got a  submissive side that I don't really know how to feel about. I'm not sure how to relate to it. If anybody is interested in exploring the theme in an intelligent way,...|||You think a quadruple double-post might be pushing it a little bit, but you are willing to look the other way, because it was entertaining and clearly for a good reason. :D|||You have learned not to make so much of an effort all of the time, without assessing the situation first, because you have learned that not everybody is trying as hard as you.|||Sometimes it seems that the struggles you have wrestled with for years, that you are finally managing to get a handle on, are things that everybody already knew how to do anyway.|||You cant get to the 15 post count mark (so that you can pm people you are really interested in talking to) because you want to do the INFP forum justice.|||There are layers. From the top, down:  Calm -------- Hopeless -------- Wired -------- Forlorn|||I have the same problem, but I've had a bit of a realization recently that has put it into a much better perspective.  Instead of trying to engage with this vague, slightly ominous presence called...|||Yeah, learning to get a handle on my moods is very difficult for me. It's really easy to get set off by something.|||I never used to want to be a leader. But these days, I often find myself thinking I can do better than this.  I can run into obstacles though. One is that I hardly ever talk in a group. I just...|||I tried to quote the guy who said toe fungus... sorry|||eewwww|||I was thinking about this today, actually. I think in our society, feeling isn't really valued as much as some other functions, because it doesn't have immediate tangeable results. Infact, I think...|||Here's my theory: The problem with trying to express yourself clearly as an infp is the same reason it's difficult to be organized: it is trying to use thinking.  You've got to be very careful as...'