'Unfortunately, I wrote a reply which then disappeared!  UGH  Only he can take down the walls, you can be patient, stay the course, be you!  However, he sounds young.  The INTJ I dated when I was...|||Communication is the key!  I can't think of any type better to shoot ideas off of, the back and forth INTJ/ENFP banter is intoxicating!  The chemistry between myself and my INTJ partner apparently is...|||I will try to clarify, here in general I do not think much, at all.  I surrender to sensation.  He on the other hand seems to think a lot.  I have asked my other sexual partners and they don't really...|||I/ENFP here-  How to flirt with an ENTJ?  I  feeling a little clueless here, which sounds funny, however my usual natural flirtiness seems to go out the window when I am encountering someone I am...|||INTJs - do you think a lot during sex?|||The level of dedication and thoroughness that the INTJs have put into this situation and thread is quite endearing.  I absolutely find the type of logical sentimentality that you all have expressed...|||I have wondered about that, when I have mentioned my concern that my level of intensity might seem to some as needy, my INTJ gives me that playfully snarky look and says bring it on.  :)  I think...|||Wow, this thread is exhausting!  Pinky, do not be afraid.  You are strong enough to deal with any of the outcomes.  Plus, you are very young.  People tend to regret the things the didn't do more...|||Love, love, love, my INTJ!  I am bursting with love right now and just want to sprinkle the universe with glitter! Sunshine and rainbows people! Joy and completeness!|||I probably already replied to this thread.  Complete nympho here...however I prefer sex in a relationship/sex with some level of emotional intimacy.  At least a friend.  ;)  Pleasing my partner and...|||I really do pick my battles, issues of empathy, health and safety are the most importabt.  School is also an important thing.  I allow then to have a lot of flexibility and creativity with their...|||In a relationship with an INTJ...wow.  I have never felt so understood in my life.  We are so incredibly alike in so many ways, it's like we have the unique ability to look at concepts and ideas from...|||It is about being compassionate, leading by example.  The golden rule.  We are so loving and compassionate  with our children, they see respect and guidance   They want to live within our guidelines...|||I am swimming in a sea of love.   The most wonderful feeling is meeting and getting to know someone who understands you!  I am with an INTJ with just a slight T over F preference and the level of...|||It seems like only the most personally secure and self confident women are my female friends in groups.   Except I do have an INFP friend who struggles with that. Although I am friendly to everyone, ...|||Now if that does not sound smothering!   Wow!  Did you ask them both to take personality tests?|||when you get up to get something from the bathroom and on your way see a sex toy on the bed and decide to masturbate.  I still can't remember what I wanted to get from the bathroom either...?  But,...|||I was not looking for a relationship when I realized that I had feelings for a friend (who happened to be an INTJ).  Although I had been sending signals out I had to tell him directly that I had...|||The only thing that makes up for it a bit is the amazing relationships I have developed with the kids.  If it wasn't for that I probably would have greater regrets.  I have prioritized my...|||I love my kids, but one kid would have been a much easier choice for me.  I have lost a lot of my freedom, it would not be so difficult except my ESTJ husband works all the time so I feel like a...|||I have only seen my friends twice in the last couple of weeks, and for not a long time.  I know it sounds stupid, but at home with my family I can sometimes still feel lonely I am yearning to be with...|||I think I have fallen in love with an INTJ.  Actually had him take tests, and it seems I was correct in my original assessment of his personality type.  The way we communicate is wonderful, the sex...|||Yes! Yes! Yes!  Oh wait...there was a question involved?    ENFP in relationship with INTJs...very sexual!|||We are both well into middle age territory.  ;)  For certain he has matured a bunch.  I think I was always more mature than most due to some unusual life experiences, I have never been flighty like...|||My experience with INTJs:  They always find me -- and it is just from being myself.  As a social butterfly I am out there conversing, finding out about people, etc.  At first I think they write me...|||Update of sorts--  He has proclaimed me to be his girlfriend.  I guess the intense pleasure fest we shared made quite the impression on him.  Us ENFPs are known for out sexual enthusiasm, and I...|||Cool... :)|||Falling in love with an INTJ.  Will he know before I say it?  ;)|||Falling in love with an INTJ.  It is a beautiful thing...|||I don't know that our growth is stifled, however different cognitive functions are probably developed.  There is a school of thought which considers ENFP/ISTJ duality.  All that being said, married...|||I have had my first wanting to bang my head on the wall moment with my INTJ (I am not calling him a boyfriend yet as it has only been a few months).  We talked about love, and he basically told me...|||Anyone here in a long term ENFP/INTJ relationship?  I am a middle aged woman who has had a relationship going with a very well rounded, mature INTJ now for several months.  All I can say is WOW!   ...|||INTJ-INFJ....we seem to understand each other so well.  I am so amazed by them!!!|||My ESTJ husband is smothering me.  Completely.  I hate living in this mad state of domesticity.  I am not meant to live like this.  It is one thing to work, it is another thing to make work your...|||LOL...I agree.  I think I make him feel like an all powerful sex God...and he *is* panty dropping hot.  I think he realizes that I truly accept him for who he is, all of him and want him to be his...|||At this point I think I did the right thing.  I already presented myself as someone he can call to talk or whatever, he knows I am open minded, nonjudgmental.  I am just going to let it go.  I have...|||How do I help an ESTP in a bad place?  Sounding very depressed, kind of hopeless?  He opened up to me deeper than he has, ever.  Not superficial, just brutal honesty. I reached out and told him that...|||I think I saw this over on the INTJ thread.  I would just maybe shoot off an email.  I am thinking of you, but giving you space to figure out what you want.    Then leave it up to him.  Don't...|||Be the best you that you can be!  The right person will find you... :)|||OK, maybe I can help you...not sure.  I an ENFP in a 20+ year relationship with an ESTJ.  However I am an ENFP woman...so I am not sure if it is exactly the same dynamic.    If you are prepares to...|||As an older ENFP here are my thoughts.  Just be you, live in the moment more when you are with him and just try to have fun.  Talk and get to know each other.  Don't worry about sex at all, have...|||Thanks and I absolutely agree.  One thing I have noticed is that the INTJs in my life seem to find me.  It is like they sit back and kind of observe me for a while and then realize there is so much...|||Hey, absolutely not rude at all, I will explain.  As an ENFP I tend to be very social, bubbly and outgoing.  Some might see me (attractive and kind of colorful) and assume that I am kind of...|||Met a supercool INTJ...known him for a few months but he just sort of noticed me a month ago and there is some sort of connection. No just want to swim in his thoughts right now!|||Emailing an INTJ and for the first time I think that I found someone who can keep with me mentally.  I always wondered if I would find someone like that, and now I have had two INTJs find me this...|||Nympho who loves emotional intimacy!|||I wonder if he just gave and gave to make all those around him happy and neglectred himself and his own needs.  I feel like sometimes I do that, and I can get how someone can do all of that yet not...|||So Mr. ESTP opened up.  In fact, dropped a lot of deep, personal, info on me.  We talked a lot over a few days.  I was excited to really get to finally see him show some vulnerability.  But then I...|||Thank you for clarification... We are continuing to email and I will say I am incredibly impressed with his thought processes!  We can take the same general idea, discuss it from two opposite angles...|||I don't think you could 'fake it'...or at least not this person.  Because I had seen him talk on multiple occasions and we talked previously even.  This is the first time we had the opportunity to...'