'Because I was stressed and angry and hurt.|||Thank you for this post, nightsong! Although I'm a female INFJ I absolutely relate to what you're saying. I've had similar experiences and after my last painful breakup I feel like I don't have it in...|||This is great advice. So far, it strikes me as the biggest challenge to stay open and approachable all day, when you really feel you need to withdraw and be by yourself. I'm afraid I will have to cut...|||I'm really tired and will go to sleep now, but I'll certainly take this thought with me. Thanks for sharing, you guys are awesome!! I just had the thought how much I admired one of my high school...|||I feel the same way! The last few weeks have been quite overwhelming for me...especially because I care so much about being fair and treating every student adequately...also, because of our capably...|||That's what I figured too. I think it's one thing that I simply have to adjust to having a real job now where I naturally have less time for myself than before...but I did doubt in the last days...|||Thanks pearlgirl87, I'll keep looking ;-)|||My dear fellow INFJs, does any of you work in the field of education? I've just started my training as a secondary school teacher (in my country that means I teach kids ages 11-18) and it's great...|||I want to go to a very, very quiet place and reconnect with myself. That would be awesome!|||Agreed :laughing: The balancing part sounds really great...now I really can't wait to meet more ENFPs ;-)      I would love for someone to take me on a wild ride :-)|||Hi! I'm great, thank you! :-)    Wow, that's really nice to hear. I met a lot of new people today at work and I realized that I still feel so different from all the other girls at times. Even...|||28 years old and I feel I'm digging deeper and deeper into my fear. Lately, I've come to the point where I'm actually grateful for any kind of fear, because it shows me in which way I'm still...|||You just made me very happy! This is exactly what I'm looking for in a man...it's not only rare in women, trust me.|||Yeah, I get that...it's so sad though! Well, sometimes you just can't tell. Maybe you do move on at some point and that's exactly when he comes around again. Wouldn't be so uncommon I think :-)   ...|||Oh, that sounds pretty confusing...like none of you was able to really articulate their feelings. This seems to be a common problem in ISFP-INFJ relationships and it's exactly what I'm experiencing...|||Okay, I'll definitely try and speak my mind more openly. The truth is, I often feel like just hugging him and being sweet, but then I just don't do it, mostly because I'm confused by his body...|||Mitzi You mentioned you and your INFJ broke up because of a lack of communication. How did you experience this? Did his communication style annoy you? Sorry for asking so many questions, I'm curious...|||Oh okay. That actually makes a lot of sense with him...and I can be like that too, especially when I get a vibe of the other person not being open to talking about their emotions :-/ so I should...|||I adore ISFPs. They're sweet, caring, earthy people, who are fun to be with but are also deep. I love the discussions on spirituality I have with my ISFP friend, we get to explore the topics very...|||I had to learn the hard way - slowly, gradually and painfully -  that even though you love someone and they love you back, it doesn't mean you manage to create a life together. Still makes me sad!|||Love it!|||Haha. In strong sp-wannabe mode I feel like a gypsy queen, very feminine, but in a more aggressive way than I normally behave. I'd probably make the perfect companion for your tough guy ;-) As...|||Thank you so much for your reply! It's good to know I'm not alone - I was starting to think I'm just some crazy INFJ gone wild ;-) I like what you say about se becoming a more natural thing...it's...|||I gotta disagree. I don't feel in control of the situation at all, especially as se is my weakest function and I'm afraid I'm not very skillful at using it...that's sort of the problem: it's really...|||umop 3pisdn Thanks, I did look into your thread as well... I wonder why there were so few replies? And nobody is joining the conversation here either. Is this such a rare thing or have there maybe...|||Now this intrigues me... have there been times you felt like you were mimicking SP behavior? Did you like it? Was it only a phase or did it help you to integrate your Se more?  I think being...|||Absolutely, I do that too! This is actually very important, thanks for the reminder!|||Scootaloo Thank you for this thread! I absolutely relate to what you said. For me, it was and still is a process learning to trust my intuition, my inner knowing. Since I've looked into inner work...|||Dissonance thank you so much *blushing*|||Okay...I think I'm finally ready. Here we go... hi! :-)  187730|||Mum's an ISFJ, dad ISTJ, my brother INTJ.  I get along well with my older brother although my extraverted feeling always clashes with his extraverted thinking. Extraverted thinking still drives me...|||Yeah. It just strikes me that I always try to counsel people in a way that they feel they have come up with their own solution because I don't want them to feel weak and embarrassed. Sadly, hardly...|||I feel the same way. Which is kinda ironic because I myself love to explore people, I need to explore people, I need them to open up to me to feel connected to them. For a long time, I didn't realize...|||I'm drawn to INTJs, I feel secure around them and love to explore deep intellectual topics with them. I also feel valued by them and most of them find me cute and respect me for my intellect and my...|||summer break sucks|||This. In particular, many many people don't even seem to bother with simply saying good morning or hello when they enter the office. That drives me nuts, it's so disrespectful and ignorant! It really...|||YES. When I watched X-Men for the first time I was like now I know what my superpower is! :-) And as you can see in X-Men, this power comes with a huge burden, it's very stressful...depression goes...|||INFP... not surprising at all :-)|||I hear you... :-(|||The two INFPs I know are loners, very private and somewhat shy people, but very physical, especially if they're into you. They're naturally way more physical than I am and not prude at all. They...|||Love the question! :-) So far...ENTP (there really is this both the physical and the intellectual connection, mind-blowing indeed :-)) and INFP (their very physical beings, the sex is fun and...|||Oh you ENFPs...so hot!!! Thanks for being so beautiful!|||OMG this is so right to the core. Do you realize that there are types who have no idea how to mirror another person? While we are doomed to to this for our whole lives apparently...I feel that the...|||I've been that girlfriend! I was engaged to an INFP who felt the same way you describe here. Unfortunately, he never told me at a stage where we would have been able to talk about it to at least end...|||Thank you guys for your replies.     Thanks! I should probably look more into enneagram. In the past, I tested as a type 9 as well though and scored really low on the type 4. Intuitively, I don't...|||Okay confession: Ix92m an envious person. Like, extremely envious. I came to think about it more deeply after reading this pretty accurate description oft he INFJ type: INFJ Personality Profile  It...|||I know, it's so frustrating. I just had to pass a couple of oral exams and even though I knew a lot, I had such a hard time verbalizing my thoughts. For me, it definitely has to do with not thinking...|||These people are the worst to me! I always try hard to express my opinions in a respectful way and I'm perfectly fine with agreeing to disagree. What freaks me out completely is if somebody gets...|||I hear you :-(|||I agree! I think in the long run, there are two things INFJs have to deal with: 1. we have to realize why it is that we feel we need to please people so badly and 2. we have to find a way to be more...'