'^This is me 100%. People ask me what music I like and I'm like: I dunno good music.|||Ah, one of those eternal stalemates of life. I guess I should try to break it. Maybe when one of my friends has sorted their life out enough to want to/be able to help me with this. They're not that...|||Yeah I suppose leading with I have an existential crisis isn't the best idea, when the person you're talking to hasn't ever had one. I can imagine it's pretty hard to fathom what it's like if...|||Quite. Here's a thought: what if some 'problems' in life just aren't meant to be solved? I'm really thinking right now that the only way out of an existential crisis is to literally forget about it...|||However, I feel like denying connections to others is merely struggling against human nature. Humans are inherently social beings and last I checked, I'm still a human, so I disagree.  Thanks...|||I know EXACTLY what you're talking about. I think people easily dismissing typical INTJ problems could be because they're weighty problems for us, but to other people, it seems like something we just...|||So I'm dealing with an existential crisis again, as is par for the course when I don't have any immediate obligations or deadlines and I'm just sitting at home by myself.  I've always loved the...|||When I have a crush on someone, I basically try to become a really good friend. I'll always listen to her. I'll help her out whenever she needs help. I'll encourage her. I'll try to hang out with her...|||I had a few classes in 11th and 12th grade with an ESFP (I'm pretty sure she's an ESFP).  She's not the smartest, but boy was she committed. She blurted out some hilariously wrong answers in...|||.|||Yeah you might be right, but it would be such a shame though.   Thanks for your input :)|||I think it's been a slow burn, with annoyances piling up over time (e.g. being oversensitive, inadvertantly rude sometimes, etc.), but then again, I only really got to know Eva and Lily well about a...|||I really love You can't fix something you didn't break. It's so true. I'll have to remember that one. I'll try the objective criticism. Maybe that'll work.  Side note: Our choir is going on...|||Wait is this an elaborate joke about how all INTJs are robots? :P  In all seriousness, I like most of the classic stuff. Heaviest I go is Slayer I think. Screaming isn't really my thing to be...|||I used to get mad all the time when I was a kid. Like screaming mad. I'd get normal mad at lots of things, but only screaming mad at my brother, who still to this day loves to make me mad. ...|||Whoa that fourth paragraph is really interesting. I never really thought about it, but it makes so much sense. Just now, I was talking to Michelle about a fairly good friend of hers, who I know as...|||I'm sorry for what happened with your friends.   Yeah they're seniors, so you're right about the high school. I like your advice though. I was already considering something along those lines, but I...|||That title sounds a bit dramatic, I suppose, but that's sort of what this is all about.  So, I have three female friends (17yo), an INFP, let's call her Michelle, another INFP, Eva, and an ENFP,...|||Hi, ENFPs.  I'm writing a story, in which the character drama revolves around an INTJ and an ENFP, after getting along, clashing, because they're both putting up a front, a metaphorical mask.  By...|||Hi, INTJs.  I'm writing a story, in which the character drama revolves around an INTJ and an ENFP, after getting along, clashing, because they're both putting up a front, a metaphorical mask.  By...|||Hi Echoanne! :)  1: It's possible that he views you differently now that he knows you're an ENFP, but I don't really get that vibe here.  2: Unless he's a jerk and I don't think he is, he's not...|||Don't worry about it, man. ;) (Also: hehe long face :P)|||I forgot that that expression doesn't exist in English, whoops. :P It just means you cast your proverbial line to two romantic interests to see which one will bite.  And here we see the magic of...|||Thanks. :) I was of course, because they're girls, almost instantly accused of 'betting on two horses', but it was to be expected. I get those kinds of prejudices a lot, because I don't really fit...|||I'm doing pretty good. I was able to make two of my friends happy on valentine's day, so I'm feeling pretty great right now. :)|||*stumbles into the room* Oh hey guys, what's up? :)|||Hi all.  I've made a few 'friends' here on PerC, but I'm finding it hard to keep talking to them. I have this natural instinct to not want to bother anyone, even when I really want to talk to them....|||Not even/definitely PerC isn't free of gender and type stereotyping. Stereotyping, albeit to a certain level, has to be expected and there is no point fighting it. To be honest, I tend to...|||I'd thank you again, but I'm afraid we'd get stuck in a thankfulness loop :P  I guess this is a great example of the reason why INTJs and ENFPs get along so well. They brighten up eachothers days...|||I'm consistently amazed by your (and ENFPs in general) ability to make me swoon. One of my favourite things about ENFPs. You made my day. Thanks :)|||Let me tell you. There are things in this world that I like, like ice cream. There are things in this world that I like a lot, like 'Avatar: The Last Airbender' and deep, intelligent discussion. ...|||It's natural for our society to prefer respect is earned, but I prefer my respect can be lost. I respect everyone (nuance: to a certain extent), because I'm not an egomaniac who only finds some...|||I get that a lot. INTJs tend to only say something when they really have something to say and they usually talk pretty calmly under normal circumstances.    Universialism is something very...|||Tridentus PZS , sorry for not getting back to you sooner, but I've been really busy lately. Thank you for your responses though. They're really interesting. :)  Ok, so I have some more general...|||Hi Pinky! :)  From my experience of having a crush on someone for about three years now, you will emotionally wreck yourself if you stay so invested in the possibility of a relationship with him. I...|||There was a thread on this a while ago and I found this answer by Kiproco (http://personalitycafe.com/enfp-forum-inspirers/68038-what-does-unhealthy-enfp-look-like.html) quite interesting.|||Hi everyone! I'm in the planning stages of writing a story (yes still :P) and I need your advice.  The story will start with each one of the characters discovering what they want in life and...|||I like MissLady333 's nuance, because it does differentiate between people who find it weird that other people like them, and people who are, in a way, a bit depressed. I count myself among the...|||The title reminded me of a tweet by Yoko Ono:  Imagine the eternity you will be living in.  Smile! I love you!!! :)  I couldn't even make this kind of gold up if I tried. :P  On topic: you...|||17 in my last year of secondary education. Joined a year or two ago.|||I love being in the water and I love casual swimming. On the other hand, I'm a pretty bad swimmer and I'm hilariously bad at most watersports, but it's still a lot of fun.  Sounds like if we ever...|||I'm not lactose intolerant, but I do have (light-ish) cow milk allergy, if that counts.  I'm also lethally alergic to nuts. I just have to eat one to make my throat swell, blocking my trachea,...|||It's not my thing and I don't really get it, but if you like it, go ahead. Who am I to judge? To each his own.  (Although it is technically illegal, but whatever, I download movies sometimes and...|||My pleasure. ;)  I don't think INTJ-ness and happiness are mutually exclusive, it's just a tough balancing act, as with so many things in life. I'll let you know once I figure it out. :P  I think...|||Oh yeah, I found out a while ago that only around 17 a small percentage of all people who date start getting 'decent' relationships, although most of them still crash. It's not that I'm in a rush to...|||Good question. I just work with the means given to me here and try not to get too annoyed.  If you can't change the system, don't bother getting mad at it. (Diogen - 2015)  Also, hi, what's up?|||Because of my temporary break from PerC, I've missed this thread completely, but I thought I'd share my thoughts anyway, as a 17-year old male INTJ who's only been on a date once, of which I only...|||Let me just start off by saying that I'm exactly you, except for the gender and a few years of age (12th grader myself). This constant solitude is something I struggle with every day. It sucks.  ...|||Coincidentally, an INFP friend of mine called me too serious just this evening (for not liking a geography teacher much, who tells stupid stories to get popular with the kids, but isn't that great a...|||I'm not really seen as negative most of the time, but I am very well known as being very sarcastic, because I make a point of it to be completely honest with everybody (to a certain extent), which,...'