'The bolded part is important. If the other person is not willing, then you're just wasting your time and energy. You also need to know when you're being played. That's a judgement you have to make. ...|||No, I don't. The internet gives you a sense of anonymity under which I hide. With the exception of certain close friends, I'd never tell anyone too much about me, even if they ask me. Hopefully, I'll...|||The second but I'm not sure how happy I'd be in a relationship where I had accomplished nothing. Accomplishing something is directly tied to my self worth.   In the end, for purely personal and...|||I can't describe faces very well either but I'm pretty good at identifying people as long as I've seen them a few times. Sometimes all I need is a split second glance and I'd be able to tell who the...|||I call my best friend or I'd keep it to myself and try to deal with it somehow. It's tough but I've got over 20 years of experience doing it.    Lol, that's something I would never even consider...|||High 120s, low 130s. How useful the IQ score really depends on what field you're involved in. Having a high IQ would be really good if you were in a science related field, not so much if you were in...|||I don't know how to phrase this but you come across as this white knight type person. This is not a bad thing but it can have a negative impact. Just be her friend. Call her once in a while, text...|||To be honest, I can't really think of something that shocked me. I think this is because I'm somewhat of a pessimist and my parents were always telling me about the dangers of the world. I don't...|||Yea, I get what you're saying and its happened a few times. I don't let it show that I'm too bothered about it irrespective of how I feel. If someone is really trying to pick a fight with me or make...|||I know that feeling. Its doubly hard when you're an introvert.  PhoebeJaspe's post has got it spot on.|||I saw a post about this on reddit.com and thought it'd be an interesting question to post here.   How many of you feel that if you feel really really strongly about something, you can affect it...|||Its a paradox of sorts to me because I don't like people snooping around trying to find stuff about me but I can get really curious about other people. There have been times I've done recon on...|||Well, I used to be bad at math until I got interesting problems that forced me to look at math of my own will. Its a lot more interesting learning co-ordinate geometry and projectile motion equations...|||Well, I believe you can have great jobs if you're willing to look for it.   That's great cause I know a lot of people who've jumped into stuff for superficial reasons (money, location, status etc)...|||Not a fan though I like couple of her songs. She's pretty creative though.|||CynicallyNaive:  Going to school and college is the safe option. To make it without them, you need to be talented and willing to work hard. Personally, I'd only agree to someone dropping out if I...|||Plenty of times. Whether I act on it is a different thing though.|||I'm generally careful with money. I don't make any expensive purchases without careful analysis. That said, there are scenarios where I do things without looking at the price even. It always has to...|||IMO its both. Genes determine the probability and tendency for you to be something. The way you grow up, your surroundings, your experiences, your habits etc shape how you become. For example, given...|||your family  I'm fairly myself with them. They don't really understand me all that well and I'm not comfortable discussing personal problems with them. SO I wouldn't say we are very open but we get...|||Getting back at someone requires knowledge about the person. Since he's been your friend, you may know stuff about him that could hurt him. Its different for different people and I don't think you...|||Well, I don't really have a problem being with people one on one if I know them well. At that stage, they know what to expect from me and I know what to expect from them. Its uncomfortable with...|||nallyha: I'm working on a numeric language..:-)|||I don't think so. However, I believe looks (among other things) have an effect on your self confidence and self esteem which in turn affects the way you behave in public.|||INFP are supposed to be very creative people. I think I've lost my creativity. I say lost because my parents say that I was a creative kid. This when I was really small so I don't remember it. Either...|||I don't think that there is actual physical pain. The high emotional pain gives you that impression. Painkillers here would not work because of that. Alcohol and drugs can affect the emotional side...|||Same here to an extent. Its a contradiction for me. In a group setting, I'll want a bit of attention but if I end up getting it, I'll feel embarrassed and discomforted (is this a word ?). The...|||No surprises here. It almost physically hurts for me. I end up berating myself to man up.  Rubyet Life is so much simpler when you're not emotionally attached to someone.|||Feeling unsure and slightly depressed and trying to tell myself not to jump to conclusions. I should go to bed now.|||I've been in a similar position where I had to choose between a girl I wanted to spend time with and doing something that would advance my career. I chose the girl and I'm still not sure I made the...|||This is much easier said than done though. You can try and rationalize it but at that point in time, it will feel like its your loss and not theirs. Someone telling you that there are better people...|||robitussin Very true. You begin to learn very early what is and what isn't expected behavior from a guy.|||Dear Person, I'd just like to say that you're such an awesome person. You have no idea how much I think about you and how much I look forward to meeting and interacting with you each time. I just...|||I wouldn't say embarrassed but disconcerting sometimes. Particularly because I'm a guy and that's not how the stereotypical guy is supposed to be. I don't show this in public but in private I end up...|||I was looking up MTBI and found this site on google.|||Well, one thing I do is to ask open ended questions.  To be honest, I'm not too good with this as well. I tend to rely on the other person to carry it. I'm generally quiet in group conversations...|||English, Russian, some french and a couple of indian languages. Living in different parts of the world helps when it comes to learning languages.|||I'm exactly like this. I never initiate anything except in rare instances. I'm pretty talkative one on one though. Its just a comfort thing I guess.  I'm not sure I get the special part. Do they...|||Hey young me,  I know your slacking off in school right now and mum and dad are trying to get you to study harder. Don't listen to them. You're doing fine. Be happy about yourself. You're fine the...|||Well, to be fair, its a pretty extreme situation. I wonder how other types would respond in such a situation.|||I'd beg and plead with them. Try to appeal to their good side, make some sort of deal etc. However, if the person proceeds to divulge it, he/she had better be prepared for the consequences, I will...|||hmwith No worries, I should have worded that last sentence better.|||hmwith  Its a valid question. Something I am genuinely curious about.  I know a few people that are absolutely terrible at keeping in touch. This is not something that was specific to me (I was...|||hmwith I'm curious where you got the idea that I was pretentious.|||Interesting. I find ENFPs to be like slippery rabbits. We'll have this deep meaningful conversations but then they completely vanish and I'm left scratching my head. The first one I knew drove me up...|||Well, I bottle up my negative emotions. I'm not sure about acting out. I've a feeling that we'll probably have different views on what exactly it is. What do you do when you act out ? As for me, I...|||Remus Lupin. I identify with him on so many levels. Ideally, I'd like to be like Sirius or Dumbledore. I'd love to have Dumbledore's charm in social situations.|||Well, I'm in computer science and I love programming. A lot of INFP are unsure of what they want to do but luckily for me, I've always been sure that this is what I've wanted to do. A lot of people...|||I did. I typed myself as INTJ and then INTP. INTP actually isn't that far of the mark because I generally act like one in public.  Hanging out in the INFP forum is what finally convinced me of my...|||I relate to some of it. Specifically the relationship ones. I'm not sure how to deal with it either. Its one thing to have positive self talk but what something really is wrong and something must be...'