'in fact, i think i've never had a boyfriend or a girlfriend who doesn't  keep in touch with at least some of their exes (i think even the infp guy had a girl who was in his closest circle of friends...|||wow, this was so long ago, yet someone's still posting something here, heheh.    so what, like, when you have a romantic interest, you just give up on your friends altogether (-->the 100% of my...|||this. i always get typed as an introvert by those by the letter tests, because, if asked, of course i say i prefer to hang out with a small group of close friends rather than a bunch of people i...|||omg LOL, why didn't anyone say that it has to be a human that i'm walking with? i walk my dog in the woods every other day, so, naturally, when i was presented with the image of a forest, the first...|||i've never been in a romantic relationship with an intj, however, one of my best friends is an intj, my dad is an intj, and i have an ex-classmate intj whom i really admire. it's defintely true that...|||being an enfj female myself, i can honestly say that having very close male friends is definitely not a threat to the person i am dating, ever. unless we're on the verge of breaking up, because,...|||hey, i think that one of the main problems here could be that she feels too responsible and too involved, and unsure if she can 'do it' - since as you said yourself that you're a huge mess right...|||i used to think of myself as a very go-with-the-flow type of a person, because i'm easily talked into doing something that i haven't planned and i also sometimes just come up with the most random...|||depends on the field you want to be in. there's plenty to do in business anthropology, meaning, huge corporations and such hire you to do research, but that's definitely not where i'm headed. of...|||hmm, i wonder, how exactly do you intend to pinpoint the one and only enfj with whom you are going to make that connection and that's going to help you? what should we do, fill out some kind of...|||social and culture anthropology. i LOVE every bit of it, and the good thing is, it's exactly as balanced between abstract theories and real life action as i think i need. applied anthroplogy gives...|||well, i think this one's still arguable :P   firstly, it's not like you're gonna have great relationship with someone JUST because of their type (e.g. like if you're heterosexual, you' re not gonna...|||hmm, i had never looked at it this way.  i couldn't say that i feel that i start behaving like a sensor, but there are contexts in which i will give great attention to details.  however, i am always...|||well, isn't this one of the major things that come in the Fe dominant pack ? at least ever since i got to exploring the functions, i've connected the desperate need to communicate my reasoning,...|||(   umm, no,strictly speaking they're not both really extrovered feelers, enfps have Fi, not Fe.  )  but about this, though  - there's a lot of truth in this not only about enf men, but...|||SPOT ON! especially about that perceived introvertedness - almost all of the tests that don't type by functions have typed me as an introvert, either infj or infp (almost all of the tests that type...|||ah, my taste in music is so wide it's sometimes hard to believe myself that it's normal to like both classical music and norwegian black metal, industrial music, ambient, indie, rock, electronic,...|||the term child abuse has always seemed to me quite a bit ambigous and determined by context much more than by any, dunno, legal definition. because, well, if my parents employ corporal punishment...|||i guess this kind of explains why i always wanted to be gandalf in the lotr playstation games, lol|||actually, the idea of an enfj-enfj pairing seems like something i'd really want to try out, someday, because, well, even though i haven't met any other enfjs irl, it seems that we do share enough to...|||oh, wow, this is great! i actually have discussed the post-apocalypse setting with my friends ever so often, because somehow many of us think that an apocalypse would really do good for the world,...|||well, ever since little, i have thought that death is not sad or undesirable, suffering is. i don't think killing people is cruel to them, hell no, even if they're happy and healthy, because, well,...|||ah, i'm glad to hear that.  then again, what i meant was, as the child grows up and becomes more..well, able to make sense of the observations she makes, and gets to see mother acting in a variety...|||wow, this all sounds so fucked up, where do you find people like that? scary.  the one thing in this whole story that bothers me the most is what will becom of the cute litle three-year-old, growing...|||every compliment i receive is very special, but one that seems to really stick as something i can remeber when i feel down and that helps me het a grip again goes like this - it's such a calm and...|||i think this is an often misunderstanding when beginning to explore the vast lands of mbti, that people think of the type as letters, not functions.   one thing could be, though, if we add the...|||wow, hadn't noticed this reply in the thread earlier, and this is very interesting, because i feel i have exactly the same problem with my infp boyfriend, he's like the only person whose emotions...|||so many people have elaborated on inner beauty, harmony, confidence being the founding stones of beauty that i am kind of ashamed to say that ever since the age of 11 i have been very self-conscious...|||i disagree with this here (would say that this is a horribly stereotypical vision of extroversion), because i think it depends which function is the extroverted one and also on the culture in which...|||what i'd gladly add to this is that i think the indecisiveness stems form the fact that decisions are so important (at least for me) - being a judging type, even going with the flow has to be...|||ehh, it's not like i don't understand the grief response itself -  i see where it comes form and i see how it works, it's just that i don't relate, as in, i have my own understanding of death, and...|||the difference between this and the situation i used as an example was that i was not relieved her suffering was over, since it was an unexpected death and she had not been in any suffering - the...|||so, here's the deal - most of my family think there must be something wrong with me, because i've got a weird attitude towards death. in my opinion, it's nothing to be sad about - since the person...|||i just don't feel like my deep thoughts as you call them are appropriate to be posted in a forum like this - i don't really see why anyone should be interested in those, since it's not like someone...|||ok, i didn't read all of the other comments too carefully and maybe i am the unhealthy type myself, but the way she acts, oh my god, sound so much like me once.  so, to give you an insight into a...|||actually, that must have been a very strange article, because i don't think there's any reason for enfjs to not be friends with thinker types - even if we don't take into account the aforementioned...|||well, this might not be exactly what you're looking for, but i was a bit surprised recently when i read some article about the functions (unfortunately i don't have the link anymore, since apart from...|||heh, i still don't think one should be sure about any direct connection between genetics and type, i'd much rather reckon that genetics are simply in charge of our brain development, and depending on...|||a most recent one would be  our heads are stakes, driven right through our hearts (Dennis Cooper)  though i am not sure if this is a completely precise quote, like, i could have switched...|||wow, this explains a lot!  i wish my mother (isfp) had read something like this when i was still a teenager and i had to pretend that i was going to sleep or sleeping already for her when actually i...|||hah, on the usual tests that just type you by the letters, not taking functions into account, i usually come out as an introvert, because i really value my alone time and socialisation is something...|||1. when i was 18, for almost a year i felt like i was 30 (not in a bady way, though) - had a stable everyday job-like thing to do, except it was school, not job, a wonderful lover with whom i lived...|||this might not be the case of what i will be explaining, of course, and he might really have taken it seriously, but if you apologised, it's just gonna go away.  however, i wanted to give some...|||being a lazy person, for starters, i'll just quote myself from a thread here, where an intp asked how is it possible that an enfj girl likes him, where i shared my reasons for having been in a...|||oh, i have no clue if this could really be a personality type thing, but it's always said in the type descriptions that infjs are most prone to experience some, umm, cases of foreseeing future and...|||it's oh so true, and not even that difficult to explain, i think.  see, we're dominant Fe, meaning, extraverted feeling. That means, we kind of, well, feel the people around us - we analyse their...|||well, for one thing, i used to think that i could be a thinking type for quite some time, because i genuinely enjoy purely intellectual challenges and am very successful in academic pursuits of my...|||this is actually very interesting, because i am sure he's dated people before me, but he nevar wants to talk about it (which is ok with me, because i don't care and actually dislike discussing past...|||the match really is worth something, yeah. it's kind of like infps are one of the rare types that can genuinely value the not so obvious things in us that we would like people to value, and care for...|||if you want a really, really affectionate pet, i'd suggest getting a sphynx cat - mum mother always says they're not really cats but some cute monkey aliens, and i couldn't disagree with that - the...'