I've been wondering why I do that too. When something starts to get serious or I feel responsible for someone else's attachment I just turn off.  You know that old saying, 'I couldn't love anyone...|||and for the record, he took space, you didn't give him any.    It's a matter of understanding boundaries. He tells her he is breaking up with her and of course he explains himself and they...|||Bbiabco, I'm sorry to hear you're having a rough time.  I was the INTP in what appears to be a similar situation. I was seeing a girl long distance and I ended up breaking up with her because the...|||Dem 3 A.M. feels   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_DsBTZEi2iY&feature=youtu.be|||I thought the point of this was to field a position :P|||That hasn't exactly been the case in my experience. However, I was ruling out INTP's in particular. ExTP is fine by me.|||We know so much about how really small and localized parts of the brain work and the gross division of it is super obsolete. It's not even useful as a model for other things. Not even a starting...|||anthraex I have heard this story many times. The details are eerily similar to an experience I had with an INFJ in highschool...and then an INFJ during university...  I can tell you that the INFJ I...|||https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=leIKDodeQs4  This is what we're supposed to be doing with the gift of limitless synth options|||Actually, its biological function is to strive to fertilize and get fertilized. Not being sentient does not limit the biology from having specific function.  edit: i'm speaking of the species, not...|||Honestly, I think the lighting does him no favours. His body fat percentage doesn't look high and his muscles are developed enough but he's not flexing and the light isn't cast from the side,...|||it's of the same category as biting your lip or touching your neck. These are behaviours that people do when under heightened tension/anxiety/excitement. Because these areas are sensitive some...|||You don't know me, you don't know my life! I'm a strong independent brown bear who don't need no one tryna unna stand me|||- unreflective - deceptive - homophobic - doesn't take care of their health (brain health, body health) - short sighted/overly impulsive/no discipline|||ESFP's will often try to 'push through' and redouble their effort rather than refine a strategy. His putting in more work and tons of effort might actually have been a bad sign, like a tree...|||Sometimes it's not you, it's them. My brother, an NT, really hit his stride when he went to uni in the city and met people that he could be himself with.  Small towns have a way of developing their...|||I sell my art so yea, I'm alright.  I draw with ink and sketch the most. I have also used water colour and pastel. I also learned stone carving from my nana who was a professional artist and I...|||no no. phonetic kernel. as in a homonym for kernel but not the kernel, as in popcorn kernel, in meaning. it was a third imaginary word, the spelling of which I hadn't considered and the meaning was...|||I made (make) this type of error frequently.|||Over generalization is what people fear. There is a risk that you will be blind to individual characteristics because you are anticipating a known pattern of behaviour. Expectation is a helluva drug....|||I thought colonel and the imaginary phonetic 'kernel' were two different words. I should have wondered why I never saw the word in print in military context, only heard it spoken. I feel like that's...|||A lot of comfort there. You've got room to work.|||I have this problem with INFJs in particular all the time! mother, girlfriends and friends.  You're right to point out that our experience of time is different. However, our memory is not random. ...|||Some people equate introversion with mystery and depth. They just don't understand the theory they're claiming words from. also, personally, I don't think a percentage is relevant to an MBTI...|||It will probably be spontaneous and then someone is going to get called to the front of the class to solve a problem on the blackboard and oh no why am I in middle school again?!    Azalea Sho I...|||Hibiscus Thanks. Of course I do. I hear your emphasis.    Stelliferous it's not boredom, it's perfectionism. I want to spoil her and i'm just trying to learn ways to do that. From the feedback...|||Of course, i'm not looking for a 1 to 1 here. I am trying to gain new info to add to my already robust models. I am curious to hear anything from other ISFJs, just anecdotes, if you would risk the...|||uuum, sooo, I just started seeing an ISFJ and I was wondering about the dynamics during sex.  I tend to be significantly more dominant and that's not a problem. She has mentioned that she likes...|||I am friends with three of them. I went to high school with one of them and I lived with the other two.  I didn't have to 'spot them in the wild' as it were because I didn't know about the mbti in...|||I am going to approach from a first person cognitive perspective. incoming. First of all, in your scenario you would be blind. We have vision because we can capture the usual/relevent amount of...|||I don't have this problem. I cannot relate. Also, doesn't some young buck ask this question every week?|||I think if you consider that love is one of the many inputs to conscious thought and behaviour then it seems a lot less ludicrous to say that one person can love another unconditionally. Other inputs...|||I think that's a fair assessment. I suppose the root of it is that we don't easily loose perspective? We don't loose the taste for everything else we had in our life before we fell in love.  My...|||Space happens naturally most of the time unless you're in highschool or some bullll. I feel the squeeze most acutely when I want to see my friends  and my partner wants me to spend that same time...|||i actually took notes on blank pages for creative reasons...|||Was it a date? because although you are literally clinging to one another that sounds like a lovely low risk initiation.  Clingy would be asking for too much too soon (you're not) or for too much...|||leadershiiip. Giving orders and public speaking. I don't do them often and I enjoy them when I do them successfully.  I like the rush from taking long odds and I like competitive sports.  I find...|||I think the golden rule applies well to giving gifts to ISFJs. As the lizard says, actually listening and remembering what she likes is huge. Memory and sentimentality are at the root of a good gift...|||I find that ENTJ's are unsentimental at first so I'm not likely to be interested right off the bat unless there's a strong physical attraction.  As a guy, I don't mind being pursued. I will also...|||I think total group cohesion is a tall order.  ENTJ: because of their direct, impersonal decision and action oriented qualities. We won't be living in a theoretical world. ESTP: I value similar...|||Sometimes if you do the same thing and it's a later down the line, the different circumstances make all the difference.   It's not me, world, it's you.|||my motivation to understand what I am and what others are stems from a desire to connect. I also use my understanding to stretch and learn new behaviours and ways of thinking so I can become the...|||No, I just checked, they still hurt.  On the note of INTJ and INTP differences, the literature would say that the INTP having an introverted deciding function makes us much more process oriented....|||deez nuts.  Seriously. Whenever I start to wonder if life is just a dream I squeeze my balls and that brings me back down to earth. The mind body connection has immeasurable value.|||Well that's an important tidbit.  I met me best friend when I changed schools. the bus came early on the first day and I missed it. There was only one seat left in the class when I finally arrived....|||maybe you don't need knew friends but just knew ways to interact with your friends. Maybe there are mutually stimulating activities you haven't tried yet? Doing new things together is a great way to...|||We're out there saying the 'right things' too.  One time I spied one of us and I called him out on it. He asked what I meant because it's an absurd thing to say, that i'm not like them either. He...|||Anywhere on the spectrum. The excitement and optimism is the important part. I don't feel it for everyone, just the few who catch my eye and I can connect with. I think most INTP's would agree that...|||Establishing intimacy with someone is a great time. I love love, I love girls. I tend to get really excited about new sparks. My intention is never just to aim for sex but to see each relationship...|||There aren't a lot of parts of society that I want to partake in. One of my primary motivations, much like some others who have posted before me here, is to get enough to be left alone. I want...