'I was extremely quiet, but very kind and warm. I always made friends with the people that didn't fit in. Not just other children, but adults too. My friend's grandmother, who had emigrated and didn't...|||A Life; Desire. ~ Bernadette Roy {Poem} | elephant journal  A poem of mine :)|||Hi everyone!  I just started writing again recently and one of my poems has just been published on elephant journal:  A Life; Desire. ~ Bernadette Roy {Poem} | elephant journal  I'm feeling...|||Alienating and frustrating. I wouldn't change my personality though. I feel like IF I can make the life I dream for myself, I will be more content and balanced than most people.|||Not important! I try to use as little furniture as possible...I sleep on a futon on the floor. Everyone thinks I am crazy though. There are some great links I read on why using less furniture is...|||I know this was posted a very long time ago, but I had to reply- I have done exactly the same thing! I am a female, and posed completely nude for a male artist. I know INFJs are stereotyped as being...|||Do you think of yourself as creative?  Yes I like to think of myself as creative. Talented- maybe not, but I do have a creative edge!  Do you think the loss of creative inspiration has any effect...|||Yes I feel the same way. It's a painful feeling, but I'm grateful for it because it forces me to understand myself better and examine what I want from life. Whenever I feel this way, I have to really...|||I dated many people over the past few years, and I was never sure if either I had a connection. I spent a lot of time justifying their character, like they're really nice or he's career-orientated...|||Hi everyone,  Have you ever dealt with a family member disapproving of your s/o? If so, how did you deal with this? I'm currently in a relationship with an ENFP. We've been dating for a few months...|||I like people, but I have to admit I don't try very hard to make new friends. There are people I spend time with, and whose company I enjoy, but a friend is someone who I have a very deep bond with....|||Yes I do this. Like lollicat said, during times of emotional stress I tend to totally disassociate myself. I also tested as an INTJ originally. It was only after going through a very long period of...|||Quality Time, Words of Affirmation, Physical Touch, Acts of Service and Receiving Gifts. Can't remember the scores on each, but physical touch and acts of service were equal.|||Huge fan of Murakami, favourites being Norwegian Wood and Kafka on the Shore. Quicksand by Junichiro Tanizaki is very good as well, as is the Diving Pool by Yoko Ogawa. Both are dark, complex and...|||I dislike conflict, but I'm getting better at dealing with it since I've started work. In my personal life I avoid conflict, but if pushed I confront it in a very calm, logical way. I tend to keep it...|||70.  The ambiguity test is in itself ambiguous; I have no idea what this means...|||Yes this is true for me too. People become infatuated with me and mistake that for falling in love. As someone who is very careful with my feelings, like RunForCover07 I've always been a bit...|||Use a vacuum cleaner!|||I'm not an ENFP, but I relate to this! Both my boyfriend (who is an ENFP) and I have very corporate, stable jobs, even though we're creative idealists at heart. We're corporate hippies! I'm saving...|||All the people who have been interested in me have been attracted to my ability to 'see' them. It's actually become a problem, because sometimes they've become so interested in how I make them feel,...|||I also have the same feeling. Currently I'm in the midst of a humdrum, corporate job, but in a few years I plan to go exploring. I've always wanted to go to China and teach English, so once I've...|||I got 19! Which is terrible…however I don't think that this test is necessarily accurate. I have faith in myself and my abilities, but I don't think I'm narcissistic in any way. For example, I got a...|||No she's not- she was only in it for a few more years. Also I think she's actually an ENFJ, not an INFJ, so that changes things!|||Yes that sounds like me, but not as extreme. I am fairly organised, but it is a struggle for me and I know I'm not on top of it as I should be. I'm always 5-10min late but not REALLY late, I get my...|||This is actually pretty accurate! Shame you got an infraction, I found it pretty light-hearted and funny :)|||I constantly feel this way, but I rarely act on it. I'll play out fake scenarios in my mind, which sort of relieves the urge! If I do act on it, beware though- I have the ability to destroy with no...|||Thanks for the replies everyone! Very insightful! EmpathNFP, your post is spot on. I'm sort of in awe of him- he's just SO enthusiastic! I appreciate it even though it scares me a little :) ...|||Hello ENFPs! How do you feel at the beginning of a relationship? I just started dating an ENFP and everything is amazing so far, but as an INFJ I tend to be pretty reserved and take things slowly. He...|||1. So, when did you lose yours?  When I was 18 to my boyfriend of 2 years.  2. Any stories to tell? No, it was pretty standard. We didn't know what we were doing. Nicely awkward :)  3. Do you...|||Yes, definitely. I get like this when I'm under stress or some other negative emotion. After a bad break-up, I really let go and threw myself into drinking, socialising, casual sex. It was quite...|||I'm an auditor in a big corporate company, which apparently is the worst job an INFJ can do! If only I had known myself better in university and not been peer pressured into applying for finance :) I...|||Yes, definitely. I appreciate openness- otherwise what else is there to talk about! Even if I don't see eye to eye with all my friends, as long as they've thought through their ideals, I respect...|||When I was a kid, I always found it funny to stare at people intensely without stopping until they became extremely uncomfortable/left. It was a game to me, but I sure freaked some people out!|||I do lots of yoga. It has brought a lot of peace to my life, and it keeps me balanced. Otherwise, I do some cardio and otherwise am fairly active. I consider myself to be a very healthy, mindful...|||I'll share my own experience with an ENFP. The way you've written reminds me of him, so perhaps this will help you. From your post is seems there are two areas you'd like to address: your attraction...|||So pleased you made this thread, I was just reading the book and wondering the same thing! I would love to what people think about the other characters, like Mameha, the Chairman, Nobu, Hatsumomo etc...|||32/36, though I think they are really subjective!|||Callisto88, I also survived my first week of work! Yay us :)|||Thanks Zombie Devil Duckie and lenabelle! Now that I've thought about it, I don't think I should ask for a friendship but I'd still like to write the letter. I keep thinking, if I got a letter from...|||Thanks for the reply! I should have elaborated on what I wanted to write. Just a letter explaining my POV on everything that happened a bit more, and then asking to meet up and talk about the...|||Cellar_Door, your post was very interesting to read but I wasn't able to pick out the facts of what actually happened. From what I've read, it seems like you've trying to gauge her behaviour from...|||Ni for sure. Like others said before me, I am defined by my intuition and it guides my life. I can't think of a good metaphor to describe it, but I suppose it's like being in the Matrix and choosing...|||No, I never make the first move. It's never been a problem for me either. I'm very content by myself, and I'm not spontaneous enough to put myself in a potentially awkward situation like that! Good...|||Hi everyone! A few months ago I was in a very complicated situation with an ESFJ, and I'd like to rebuild a friendship with him. Long story short, I got to know an ESFJ who came to feel very strongly...|||Hi everyone! A few months ago I was in a very complicated situation with an ESFJ, and I'd like to rebuild a friendship with him. Long story short, I got to know an ESFJ who came to feel very strongly...|||Hi everyone! I'm not sure if what I'm experiencing is the Ni-Ti loop that I've heard about, but I think it might be. Recently I feel like my intuition has been totally overwhelming me. This has lead...|||Just found this:   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jEgX64n3T7g|||I respect honesty, kindness and confidence in anyone. I dislike people who are overly loud and judgemental. Show me that you are engaged and curious, and I will respond. For dating- I hate...|||Hi fellow INFJs!  On all the online descriptions, we're often described as warm, fuzzy magical little beings. Of course, in reality everyone has flaws! Are you aware of your flaws and, if so, what...|||I do this occasionally too. Do I feel bad about it? Honestly...no. I'm seeing an ESTJ, and both of us tend to withdraw to let things cool off. It's never intended in a malicious way- in fact, I need...'