'Perhaps it's not reasonable to expect the benefits of saying something like we should make our computer passwords 'iloveporn420' to exceed the costs...|||It's also strange how these people don't seem to be nearly as anti-Neo-Nazi as they were anti-Nazi...|||My Mom is an ESTP. Every day is say whatever pops into her head day. I'm exhausted within 5 minutes of being around her...|||That must be a good feeling to be part of a likeable group...:rolleyes:|||To anyone who likes watching documentaries, check out Forks Over Knives and What the Health.|||Not to mention that dogs need to be walked...outside...where lots of strangers will want to stop you and talk to you about your dog...:shocked:|||Among other things, being able to distinguish between intimacy and passion helped me to realize that what I really want in my friendships is intimacy as it is defined in the theory. I had always...|||My INFJ friend introduced me to this theory a few years ago, and I found it very useful.   I particularly like the distinction between intimacy and passion (as those are commonly conflated), and I...|||To be fair, there's no such thing as an asshole or a bigot: Those are just labels that we apply to people when they appear to display behaviors/characteristics that we (subjectively) don't like...|||Because ESTJs are the most common personality type (https://mypersonality.info/personality-types/population-gender/)...|||I've never been that way, until very recently. I have always been the person that wanted to stay in touch with good friends when life has taken us in different directions, but (long story short) I've...|||I've thought a lot about whether cats have personality types and/or whether they use the cognitive functions.  I'm pretty sure all cats are Sensors, and I also tend to think that they use both Se...|||There are multiple different theories about what constitutes a perfect match. One of the most popular is the one that suggests that a perfect match involves sharing either the N or the S, and then...|||The general explanation for why Jesus performed miracles was to provide evidence in support of his claim to be the son of God.|||As you know, I am an older INTJ male who has a younger INFJ female friend, so it seems like I should have something useful to add. I’m not sure that I do, but your comment “I guess he doesn't like...|||It makes sense that the most similar type to any given type is the type with the opposite E or I and the same N/S, F/T, J/P, which (as you note) for the INFJ would be the ENFJ.  Perhaps the...|||According to this Psychology Fact #451 (PSYCHOLOGY)  Being unable to get someone off your mind indicates that you are also on that person’s mind.  I could believe this if it said If you know...|||INFJ -   It is completely mind-boggling to me that you are coming back to my city today, and that you still haven’t contacted me since July. I have to say: I am disappointed in you, and in how...|||I guess I've just struggled to figure out whether I am in or out with my pal. She has said several things that made me feel more in and more C3, but her ignoring me for the past 5+ months makes...|||Thanks, Rebecca M.  So it sounds as if there are 3 categories of people for you: (1) Those that doesn't deserve any of your energy, (2) Those that do deserve your energy but whom you nevertheless...|||Are you like this with everyone in your life, or only people who are a low priority for you?  Put another way, if you treat someone like this, could that person reasonably conclude that you don't...|||My INFJ friend (who moved to a different part of the world a year ago) emailed me on July 23rd to say that she would definitely schedule a phone call with me in August.  I haven't heard a peep...|||Don't miss these exciting Aapprriill threads, coming soon to an INFJ-Forum near you:  1. What's your real name? 2. What's your birthday? 3. What's your social security number? 4. What's your...|||Sounds like we have the same friends...:dry:|||The INFJ: Everyone's Favorite Feminine Hygiene Product|||Dear INFJ,   INTJs aren't flaky people, (I'm pretty sure Te is anti-flake), so I think your lunch date should materialize on Friday. INTJs also typically have well-thought-out reasons for the plans...|||Being around my ESTP mother makes me completely exhausted, in a manner of just a few minutes...|||Huh uh, you said Ass-ume...|||Thanks for asking. I'm happy to weigh in.  Yes, I tend to regard these social conventions as silly and just ignore them. I'm completely oblivious to this kind of thing, and if I need to know...|||We all know that Christmas is a big commercial racket. It's run by a big eastern syndicate, you know.|||Thanks for explaining, ladies.  What you said rings true for me. My ex-INFJ friend was usually the one to bring up an unspoken conflict between us that I was inclined to leave unspoken. She used to...|||Where does INFJ's alleged need for harmony fit in...?|||Interesting. Is this the same INTJ that was involved in the wedding schedule kerfuffle?  Not sure whether it's an INTJ thing or not, but I definitely don't enjoy discussing subjects that have...|||I think I resemble this remark. Care to elaborate...?  PS: Nothing like a surprise visit from Gene Parmesan...|||That must be a really good feeling. I hope to someday get there in relation to my (former?) INFJ friend...|||That's great! I'm glad it worked out that way...|||Were you the one who initially suggested getting together with him for tea? If so, he will probably expect you to be the one to follow through on your suggestion by also suggesting a particular place...|||At the risk of repeating what others have said, your conclusion here is almost certainly incorrect. For starters, I think he probably cares a lot about your feelings, which is why he asked your...|||Thanks, Igor. That was very touching to read. From what you've written it sounds like there have been situations where you have cut people from your life, even if (1) you still liked/loved and cared...|||Yes. If you say you're gonna do something, do it; if you don't think you can follow through on something, don't commit to it in the first place.|||Out of curiosity,   1. How did those female friends respond to you cutting them from your life? 2. Did you ever discuss this with them? 3. Did they ever try to contact you?|||Dear INFJ,  As you know, it has always bothered me when you cancel plans with me or when you don’t follow through on some commitment you’ve made.   It took me a long time to realize that I am...|||I can't speak for all INTJs, but I actually think I am quite aware of how other people are feeling, at least more than the stereotypical description of INTJs would suggest. The issue, though, is that...|||Not sure if you know this or not, but Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) is a thing...|||Funny story: My Dad cheated on my Mom and they divorced when I was one year old. I grew up blaming myself, and thinking that if even my own Dad doesn't love me, then I must be inherently unlovable....|||Isolated|||When an overstressed/unhappy INTJ has isolated him/herself from others, I would say that the best way for someone else to respond is to do something nice for the iNTJ to show that you care (such as...|||Te helps, too...|||I have a very hard time moving on when a friendship has ended without me really understanding why. I obsess until I get understanding and closure, and if I don't get them, then I think about it for...|||Makes me wonder if our types are the most likely to deal with porn and related addictions...'