'This was such spot on advice that I laughed, because I was already dreading being in a situation where I would be saying Oh no, not again. You're entirely right that I've been frustrated by her...|||This was great--thank you. I think it would be helpful to ask for a weekly check-in and/or other best practices rather than focusing on what she could've done differently. I see that my bias here is...|||Hi  Eryngo, it was great for me to hear that I'm probably not going to get an apology. I think that's true, and I do think there's part of me that would like for her to admit that she messed up, so I...|||Thanks    islandlight. That's some good advice. I think I should definitely come with the questions for her on this. I was planning on working out the hours I have for other projects plus this last...|||Hi! I'm having an issue with an INTP higher up at my company. Is this the place for questions like this? If it isn't, let me know.  I'll call my INTP higher up Kay for ease of reference. For...|||Ah, thanks for sharing! I love how symbolic that gift of the Fountainhead was, and how the gifts from your dad opened up different fields for you. That's really cool. Now I'm thinking about a small,...|||Thanks for these tips,  furryfury! Are you a scientist?   I'd gotten a bit stuck because I know he'd love have a drone to play around with, but the past two weeks of reading drone specs in my free...|||Hello ENTJs! The holidays are here again! Though there have been some gift threads and questions before, I'd love to hear stories behind a gift given to you from a loved one that has remained...|||Sangoire, I loved this: I like the shades of grey and the unplanned because that is where I learn the most. I hadn't ever verbalized it before, but I feel a clear, singing resonance with this...|||I'd choose the fancy winemaking vineyard estate if we were doing something like learning how to make the wine, learning about wine pairings, etc. But I also love wine. And learning. If it's more than...|||Ooo this is hard. From my own perspective, I would say this in one of two circumstances: (1) romantically, I forced myself to make a move and it was a very difficult thing for me to do and if nothing...|||Yep, that makes sense to me. Aligning a company's overall strategy with HR seems like a task for an ENTJ. Translating the interview into an evaluation of a person's potential economic contribution to...|||:laughing: Ooo that's cool to know. Maybe I am onto something. Those fields do seem great for ENTJs--creating well-working systems that involve people!|||Hm! As an NF, I've found that NTs are great psychological counterparts for me. Although I've thought of INTJs as more interested in psychology (and particularly psychiatry, since it's more...|||I've thought about this a bunch. I assumed for a while that I'd just have kids someday, but as I've thought about it more in recent years (now that I'm in prime baby-making years) I've realized that...|||XNTJs are tied at the top.  I've had serious relationships with both an ENTJ (current--lovely) and an INTJ. I like different aspects of both types. I'm leaning towards saying that romantically...|||This list makes me wonder if my ENTJ SO and I would've made it, if he and I met earlier in life (We're at 3 years now though!). It's definitely something I've wondered before, and actually not just...|||Ah, I see. There have been a handful of times I've known I was going to get along well with someone or even known that someone was going to be important to me, but it doesn't really hold to type....|||Based on experience, INTJs are probably the most consistently good (and reciprocal) connections I make. My SO is an ENTJ though, and it's the best relationship I've had to date. ENTJs are much more...|||I have, funnily enough, worked on endeavors for almost all of the social causes you listed above. I've worked in high-need K-12 schools in areas of the country with some of the highest crime and city...|||Hi   SeraphAP,  It's taken me a little bit to respond, but mostly because   stiletto said much of what I would've wanted to say. I agree with   stiletto that your lady's response to break up with...|||Thanks, all, for taking the time and for your input! I guess the situation didn't seem that definite to me, but that could have been my perceiver lens and that I'm entering this situation late in the...|||maust, thanks for your response. It might be that he has done some sort of cost-benefit analysis and decided that it's not worth it to make amends. The remaining care that he's expressed to me...|||Hello ENTJs!  This is something I've been curious about for a while and my ENTJ SO hasn't really given me a satisfying answer, so I thought I'd throw it out here:  Background: It seems like my...|||I'm sorry if you felt that I was generalizing what you were saying. I wasn't complaining about you generalizing. I was adding another perspective to what you were saying and pointing to the fact that...|||Haha, yeah, that's a good summary of Shameless Nation's and my discussion. I was mostly just speaking up, because Shameless Nation made it sound like all INFPs would rather stay in their...|||Most similar ideas are generalizations? I'm not sure what that means. Yeah, we're definitely focusing on different parts of INFP descriptions because of our different values. I do not want to be...|||Right, I wasn't saying that evaluations of success aren't subjective. What you wrote implied a fundamental difference in how an INFP and an ENTJ would evaluate success--that's what I disagree with....|||Hmm... I still don't agree. I think that goals can definitely overlap, even if the way INFPs and ENTJs approach a problem can look very different. Additionally, if a person can look outside of their...|||I actually completely disagree with this! I think, yes, I enjoy the process/journey more than the ENTJs I know. They can often be more focused on getting quickly to a goal (It's nice though that the...|||Woah! Things have really gotten weird over here since yesterday.  I see that you've headed out of this thread,  maust. Feel free to PM me if you want to continue this conversation or what not. ...|||Ah, I can see how trying to adapt the way you communicate while trying to talk about something emotional could be especially difficult for an ENTJ. And I definitely think it's important to be able to...|||Hmm... Jumping into this conversation--this point is interesting to me! I have no issue with adapting the way I communicate for different situations if it makes my communication more effective;...|||It's easiest for me when people are sincere and transparent. I'd say acknowledge that you can see both sides of knowing the tough spot this leaves him and the shop and how that made this a difficult...|||Hahaha, that little blurb is wonderful. Thanks for the link.  Oof, and sorry to hear about the hit on your health and wealth! Hope you've bounced back well.|||Do many INTPs have issues with substance abuse? A couple of the INTPs I know struggle with this, but I've resisted thinking it was a thing since two people doesn't really make a pattern. They're also...|||That's great that you're trying to help her get to know the profession better and are open to her being serious about being a creative! In times of stress, a good way to motivate an INFP is just to...|||Handsome Jack, is your INFP girlfriend on the track to become an art professor or is she still deciding on how to go down that route? And does she have any work experience? How is she supporting...|||Hmm... We're derailing this thread, and I'm thinking you're mostly a troll so I won't bother with saying anything else to you after this post. I'm also with Maust about reporting you. I certainly...|||True that. It's only important not to reveal what your vulnerabilities are (cloak your true vulnerabilities). Uhhh... isn't that hiding your vulnerabilities... while also being disingenuous about...|||I also believe we kind of choose who we love. Maybe initial attraction/chemistry/connection isn't as in our control, but then we're have the choice to grow that connection into something deeper or...|||Hi  summberbug,  First off, I'm an INFP in a long-term relationship with an ENTJ, and I love the dynamic!  If you're still interested in her romantically, I would not advise saying otherwise by...|||Hmmm, this is really interesting to me! And it's led me to think that maybe INFPs and ENTJs are rigid and flexible in very different areas (opposite areas?? situated well for accelerated growth if...|||Thank you for this thorough response! It was really informative. Engage her with Se activities to feed her Ne! That's a revelation. I try to feed her Ne, hoping some of my ideas will catch and engage...|||Interesting! Thank you for your response. Do you have any suggestions for what might be a worthwhile award? I'm wondering what kind of rewards wouldn't trivialize the tasks at hand and that I could...|||Thanks, everyone, for your responses! I'll keep these bits in mind as I move forward with her.   JustJulia and Lunagattina, I'm sure she's an INTP. She's been one of my closest friends for over a...|||Hello INTPs,  My INTP friend has been struggling with inaction for years now, to the point where she can get extremely depressive (i.e. can't get out of bed, can't make herself eat, plenty of...|||Oh my gosh, that picture is INFP-ENFJ perfect.  My vote is for ENTJs. I very much like being with mine! Theorectically, I could easily see myself working well romantically with certain ENTJs,...|||What the what? There are a number of things wrong with this:   (1) You're assuming that Socionics relationship pairings trumps all other aspects of person-to-person compatibility (i.e....|||Hi there,  Handsome Jack. Does your INFP girlfriend know how strongly you feel about this issue? Not because that in itself would be likely to change her stance on it, but because the two of you may...'