'Yeah, there's time I go to big gatherings with people my ISTJ don't know by myself.  Now family gatherings are ok.  But not gathers were they don't know anyone.  I'm a low extravert so don't go out...|||I use to get a lot of mix music tapes and still get lots of cds with mix music.  Maybe I'm being picky on what is romantic.  Never thought of that until now.  Hmm...You gave me something to think...|||After reading the links Laeona posted, I realize how far my ISTJ and I've come.  (Come May 2017 we'll have been together for 18 years.)  Is our relationship perfect?  Hell no!  But do we love each...|||I'm going on 18 years come May 2017 with my ISTJ.  For the most part, we don't argue.  If we do, it's usually because of miscommunication.    My ISTJ can be insensitive with feelings at times but...|||Wow!  Great stuff!  Thanks!|||Thank you for your response.  I've accomplished a lot in life, so I don't think it's that.  As for regrets, the only regret I have in life is that I didn't date more INFPs before settling down. ...|||INFP not responding to text since December 18th.  She does have a tendency to go long periods without talking but not going without checking her messages.  She claims she is a high EMPATH. The last...|||How come I, an ENFJ, feel understood by INFPs but so misunderstood by ISTJs yet find myself attracted to both?|||Hello INFPs.  Missing my INFP friend to talk to.  I'm feeling bum about turning 40 this year.  Any ideas what I should do for it and/or how to get over this bum feeling?|||INFPs rock too!  ;)|||NFJs are intimacy junkies.  Doing things for us is great but what really turns us on is playful banter, creativity in the bedroom, lots of emotional attention (make her feel desirable by desiring her...|||Well said!  And, yes, both definitely need to be healthy.  I think that is true for all relationships though.    Just so you know, not all INFP/ENFJ compatibility are created equal.  I know several...|||I'm a NFJ with a very low E. When down and out, I turn to drawing because I have no musical talent. It's like I'm able to express my feelings positively without hurting myself (facing a possible...|||Do you have a high 8 because 4w5s sound a lot like 8s? And 8 with a 4 is like a lightening storm but in a nice hot way.|||I think it's my high 8 that love high 4s.  This compatibility has a love and war feel to it.  I'm not so sure about the 5 and 2 combo because my 2 hates when my 5 withdrawals emotionally.|||:)  This book is where I discovered the 9 and 2 connection.   Amazon.com: The Enneagram in Love and Work: Understanding Your Intimate and Business Relationships (9780062507211): Helen Palmer: Books|||From what I've gathered, high 4s like high 3s.|||Are you a high 9 because 2 and 9 have an incredible emotional connection?|||I think I figured it out.  I bet you are a high 2 and he was a high 9.  They merge emotionally together.  It's freaky, scary, and exhilarating at the same time.  Both types need to be healthy because...|||I, an ENFJ, can be overly sensitive.  My ISTJ of 13 years is blunt which at times can be taken as being insensitive to my feelings or critical.  I'm learning to not take everything so seriously from...|||After looking into tritypes, I've discovered why I have this uncanny connection with 2 INFPs in particular.    I'm a 2w3 8w9 6w5 one tested both 3w4 or 4w3 (there 4 and 3 were equal) and 9w1 6w5...|||Let me know if this sounds correct.  9w8 2w3 7w6  The peacemaker w The challenger, The helper/The achiever, The enthusiast/The Loyalist  I bet you do well with a high 3 in your life because...|||Where are your results?  It should be a table listing the percentage of each number.|||I tested high on 2 and 3.  I'm higher on 2 so I'm a 2w3.  The test I took gives me my high scores, so the values I listed are the scores that I tested the highest on.    Thanks for the links by the...|||OK, enough of me denying myself:  I'm a high 2, 3, 6, 8.  I figured out my connection with my INFP friend.  We feel connected because of my 2 (The Helper) which she lacks and her 4 (The...|||I highly recommend paying $10 for this test.    Enneagram Test - Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator  It's more accurate and it explains your types in more depth.  Good luck!|||Thank you for the book recommendation.  I will definitely add it to my book collection.|||Okay, a good friend corrected me and said having a 4 isn't possible.  Ugh!  This tritype is hard to nail down, but I feel like I'm getting somewhere though.  I do think my testing of 2, 3, 8 is due...|||Your parents sound like they were in the unhealthy stress stages of the Enneagram during your childhood.  For the record, my dad was a lot like your dad and mom and I'm pretty sure he was in a very...|||By the way, nothing to take personally, because I discovered that those values are actually my stress state, so normally I'm a 2, 4, 6.  I tested 2, 3, 8 because of my childhood experience triggered...|||Thanks, Jawz, for your story.    After taking the full version, I actually tested as your least favorite person.  I tested as 2 being the highest with 3 and 8 being the same second highest.  I can...|||BTW, here is a link to a more accurate test, if you're interested.  It has around 150 questions and cost $10.  I highly recommend it because it pegged me and was very informative.  It also talks on...|||Since this is a short test, it's not as accurate as this link which gives you a lot of information for $10: Enneagram Test - Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator  However, looking at your results,...|||It's weird but I never felt a power struggle.  We are protective of each other though.    The only thing that I've realized is that we tend to want to help each other, rather than ourselves.  You...|||I feel the same about my INFP friend too.  It's so dang uncanny how we get each other.  Thanks for sharing your story.|||I think I have a grasp on how to figure out our tritype.  If you want, click on the link and fill in your gender and click next. Free Enneagram Personality Test  Take test 2 times and paste your...|||I think I have a grasp on how to figure it out.  If you want, click on the link and fill in your gender and click next. Free Enneagram Personality Test  Take test 2 times and paste your results and...|||Have you experienced this phenomenon?  That is meeting an INFP with a  very similar tritype to yourself.  If so, did you end up in a  relationship with this person?  If so, how was the relationship?...|||Have you experienced this phenomenon?  That is meeting an ENFJ with a very similar tritype to yourself.  If so, did you end up in a relationship with this person.  If so, how was the relationship. ...|||Sounds like to me, the real question is do we really hate being alone or that we hate being without companionship?  The reason I ask this is because I don't mind being alone as long as I know I...|||Completely alone without being around humans, animals, internet, or texting--not a chance.  I have to at least have my canine companion.  I need some type of companionship even if it's only my dog. ...|||Welcome to the forum, sephora.  Thanks again for your post.  It gives me some hope that my ISTJ will not cut out our niece and nephew from their life.|||Thanks everyone for your remarks and comments pertaining to my situation with my ISTJ.  I really do appreciate it.  I think we've talked this subject into the ground and that I have my answer. ...|||Thank you so much for giving me some hope.  I really do appreciate it.|||I'm WELL AWARE that all relationships require work.  I have several long term relationships that the communication is no where as difficult as it is with me and my two ISTJs (my spouse and mom).    ...|||I agree with this and so does my ISTJ.      However, we both disagree with this one.  It's a BIG DEAL!  My ISTJ HATES being wrong and will not admit being wrong even if proven wrong.  And,...|||A metaphor is a literary figure of speech that uses an image, story or tangible thing to represent a less tangible thing or some intangible quality or idea.    This is a perfect example of what I'm...|||Thank you for your story.    Our different views and opinions is exactly what's paying a toll on me and my relationship with my ISTJ.    I thought with a lot of work, we could over come these...|||Thank you for your reply.    Our communication is one thing that has tremendously improved over the years.    May I ask how many years you've been with your ISTJ?|||Thanks everyone for your input.  You've given me some things to think about and talk over with my counselor.  The friendship between my ISTJ and I is very strong.  You've made me well aware that...'