'Seralya For 20 years! Such strong resolve! :proud:|||TyTy  You made me almost tear up! :happy: by the way (I meant tear as in cry, just in case)   And then I thought this person has to be a woman, and then I scroll down to see that you've quoted...|||strangestdude  I did, believe me! I treated like a novel experience. It was fun, once.  But not anymore. ;) It's like one of Albee's plays! Absolutely no center! Exhausts you!   Arranged...|||Infinnacage Distraction works. Just be occupied with something else w/o fixating, of course! ;)   It worked tonight. Out with family, just got back home, and relieved! I should remember this. ...|||Perfect, like you said, internal. Others will have no clue, not even the person I share my cubicle with, at work.  But what do you mean when you say, into negative feelings? And how do you control...|||Thank you bromide!    This has been the best news in the whole of today. (Lousy day at work.) I am researching Limerence. It is such a relief to know that these feelings can brew up involuntarily....|||Mostly, and a good majority has been women. I wouldn't limit this to relationships / companionship.  It's the intensity that scares me!|||Hello,  I am posting this message here because I can't seem to find information on the topic (INFPs and attachment issues) anywhere on the internet.  I have noticed a few things about my behaviour...|||That is what came to my mind too! It kinds of shatters the illusion of being perfect; which by now, to me, is a relief. I think I can empathize with my nature better after reading that, and also make...|||I came across this webpage just a little while ago. I was wondering what you fellow INFPs thought of it.   INFP - Geniuses of the Heart  Let me know!|||Calvin perhaps? From Calvin and Hobbes.|||Calvin perhaps? From Calvin and Hobbes.|||You couldn't be more right!|||https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g_haZtxNvF8  My brother introduced this song, and now I can't stop listening.|||ok, a question to all you lovely people!   Do you find yourself forgetting things- normal, everyday small things- like, a word in a written sentence. or, using a whitener to rub out a word and...|||Very true @refugee  As for being proactive, I was being proactive today, but it just didn't feel right.  So much like refugee said, I am beginning to ignore the popular values/ behaviour pattern,...|||I can relate to that!|||kind of laid back and calm.  Or, totally disoriented and spaced out?  I am not sure, but I am floating around, and feeling vaguely pleased and happy. Nice feeling. Like being here, and not being...|||I was reading this. Two sentences in and I thought wait. What? Are we such different INFPs? and then I notice your name and type- not INFP. hehe!   The basic animal instinct, on finding something...|||I wouldn't say I have ADD. But I have always had trouble completing whatever I started. That's an INFp trait. Three-fourths into whatever I am doing I'll lose interest.  It's not a good thing, esp...|||I am not sure what to say about your situation, because I haven't had a baby.   But I think I react almost the same way. I have been told to stop myself from reading too much into people's actions....|||Son of a gun we'll have big fun on the Bayou!  Pick guitar, fill fruit jar and be gay-o! Jambolaya, craw fish pie fillet gumbo!  http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=endscreen&v=-4o86juvMEE&NR=1|||tell me about it! And it's not just a romantic interest. I have found myself being obsessive about people old enough to be my grandmother! (I am a girl by the way, and no, it was not romantic at...|||twist and shout (twist and shout)  c'mon c'mon c'mon c'mon baby now. - The Beatles   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MDIHcMg7GT4&feature=related|||Amelie|||Well, this is my first job. But I am going to focus on being burned out.  At work- like somebody else also mentioned, the need to constantly socialize throws me off balance. It is sometimes all I...|||22 :)|||I don't hate people as such, but I have observed a few personality traits that seem to bring out the worst behaviour in me.   a. People who act overfamiliar with me. Like they say things only very...|||Que sera sera by Doris Day. So comforting. esp if you are an angry and hurt infp.|||I ended up watching the story of Ichabod and the toad!|||I couldn't have put it better. This is exacty where I am right now! It is maddenning to just sit there and let people trample you, make you feel suffocated and angry.  But the problem, I think, is...|||This is insane! This is exactly what I am doing!!!|||Wellsy So is it really healthy to be just open with our anger?  but being passive aggressive in itself is hard, I could muster enough energy to be openly rude!|||I certainly relate more to fictional characters than actual people. It is so much easier, because they exist in your imagination, and when they exist in your imagination, there are certain parts of...|||offtopic- I realise, but seriously, are we passive aggressive people?   and why is that such a bad thing? other people are rude openly- we are sensitive and when we flip, we become...|||You know you are an INFP when,   being angry and upset can slow you down physically.|||Annoyed and apprehensive. I am dreading going to work because it is full of loud people who aren't thinking about the damage they maybe doing to other people.|||Long is the way, and hard, that out of Hell leads up to Light. - John Milton, Paradise Lost        Dear InverseKnight,|||I just got out of an obsession/crush. It is hard to let go, although we know we have to. I prayed. Really hard, because a part of me was not sincere when I was asking for freedom from the obsession....|||COnfused. I think I expressed too much interest in somebody. I like him too. But we work at a conservative place, and I don't date. But I like him, and I let him know that I like him, I am now...|||That is me to a T. Oh my goodness! *huge bear hugs*|||The core values are my strength. I am usually very passive and forgiving, but when it comes to violation of my core values or disrespect being constantly dished out to somebody- I become very very...|||This is so true. I am going through the exact same thing. I am an Introvert (obviously), and I am very very conservative when it comes to dating/ relationships and I usually take my time deciding or...|||Competition brings out the most aggressive side of a person, and most of the times, the focus shifts from the task at hand to winning. I don't find it pleasant because someone gets left out. And if...|||When you believe in the universe, and spend hours stargazing.   When you are deeply offended, almost violated, when people behave in a very rude manner.   When you can't stand seeing a child...|||I would have to say, Water Hyacinth by Robert Pinsky. The poem is hard to find online, but it's a wonderful read.|||This is so true! And so weird- I did almost the same things together today. Well, I haven't found my mobile in a week. And I got into the wrong bus and did not realise I was going the opposite...|||just pleasantly excited and happy. Also a little guilty about being so happy after reading the forum. But you know as the tailor says in FIddler on the Roof Even a poor tailor is entitled to some...|||jd_    So true! That is one of my major concerns. I like to write and paint. And I def do want to be a writer. And so true about the job things also. And, true about the multiple interests. I...|||Wow! Thank you so much! We've planned to spend a day together and discuss all of this in earnest before tying the proverbial knot. And I like men nearing thirty because I seem to connect more with...'