'No, I wouldn't say I´m stubborn at all. I can listen to another person's arguments and reasons and totally understand what they mean and where they are coming from. If what they are saying makes...|||Mm, yeah. What you have explained is the classic symptoms of co-dependency. No boundaries, no expectations, martyrdom, hanging around waiting for a change; it does not matter what your personality...|||I have found they are much more crazy! When I was younger I never really paid people as much attention as I do now. Now that I have children, and responsibilities, I look at people differently.  I...|||meh...young people.|||30 minutes from NYC, 10 minutes from Newark NJ, but I live in the burbs. Wouldn't have it any other way.|||My husband in an ESTJ and this is him to the letter when it comes to work. He's a quality control manager. He gets to tell people what to do and make sure stuff is right. I swear that job was made...|||Oh cool! I was starting to feel like an old hag around these parts.   Do you think you're the same now as you were in your 20's and teens?  I would say I am a hell of a lot more introspective. I...|||@zynthaxx and @Erbse, thanks your advice! I have another question though.   I know I want to be a database administrator, leaning toward Oracle. My interest was piqued at an old job when I was...|||Just curious.|||I hate it with a passion. It was one of the reasons why I stopped talking to a good friend. She never directed it at me, but she would put her family through hell. She expected others to read minds,...|||In my teens I didn't dress up. I my 20's I was full on glam; make up the whole nine yards. Could probably jump double dutch in heels. 28 or 29-ish I started toning it down, mainly because my focus...|||Erbse It's been a long time! I didn't know you were in IT; were you always? I hear you on the people aspect of things. This is one thing I have learned as Ive gotten older. You really have to learn...|||So I've decided to go back to school. For a long time, I wanted to be a nurse until I became a patient, and there is no way in hell I could do it. Nurse are special, special people. The have some...|||Married to an ESTJ for 6 years, together for 8, and we have two children.   He's like me turned inside out. We definitely even each other out.|||My husband is an ESTJ and we get along really well. We are opposite in every way and it works great for us. We are not emotional people so neither one of us feel slighted if the one other isn't...|||Just give me a passport and some money to get around and I'm good. I don't even think I would need a permanent place to live.|||He has believed the things his parents have been telling him for a long, long time. If he didn't, he would have been gone on the first thing smoking. I left my house when I was 17 for the very...|||Yes! You understand what I'm saying. Sleep is for my body, not for my mind. I need to rehash the days events, clear the cache if you well. If I go to bed without unwinding I won't be able to sleep,...|||This has happened to you as well I take it. I would answer the door and say, Hold on. I would shut the door and get my room mate by saying, Your friend is looking for you.|||Do you count sleeping as your re-charging time? Not re-charge as in rest, but re-charge as in collecting yourself.   Today I had a busy today. My family and I went to a street fair, went to visit...|||I pretty much don't like the same things most other people do not like. Well, most introverts that is. I don't like to be interrupted when I'm concentrating. I can't take house guests for too long...|||Yeah right! They will send them right back. It's good that they limit the sugar since we have such an obesity problem here in the US. I just feel bad for the peanut kid. He's sequestered at lunch...|||Doh! I forgot, they're not allowed to have cupcakes. Only health snacks like carrots and cheese...or bring in some yo-yo's for the children if it's your kids birthday. Fun!|||How I WISH I were exaggerating things; it really is that way. I don't know where you are in the world but here (NJ, USA more specifically) you're not involved unless you're hovering over your kid....|||My daughter started Kindergarten this month. I want to be involved in my daughters education, but I can't do it in the extrovertish way. I can't do: classroom mom (handing out cupcakes and juice),...|||This is what I keep in my back pocket. I have two kids, a husband and a mortgage to pay. Nobody is going to get in the way of me taking care of my family. Don't let them drag you into the bullshit...|||Oh yes! My element is Fire, so that would make me a fire dragon. I was reading some description about fire dragons and it said that the room tingles when one walks into the room...who the hell writes...|||I am a saggitarius on the cusp of Capricorn; neither one match my personality...at all. Now, my Chinese zodiac sign is a different thing entirely. I was born in the year of the Dragon and it fits me...|||I really enjoy comfortable silence; my husband I have a lot of it.|||I've been on hiatus so I really don't know what happened...I hope it all worked out!  Anyways, on to the post. I agree 110% with Khys. All of the things that you've described come with maturity. As...|||Don't say that. It really isn't a bad gig at all. Just don't marry an idiot and you'll be good to go.|||+1 for the feelers! LOL I know that not every feeler is a bleeding heart and not every thinker has a cold heart so maybe that was a bad example. I think what I have a hard time with is the, well...|||I came to the conclusion over the weekend that I'm no good with feelers--friends, lovers, or otherwise. My cousin and I virtually came to blows over the weekend about bad childhoods. She was trying...|||Me and ENFP kid.  She was highly pissed off because I wouldn't let her wear this crazy looking pink shirt/dress thing to her grandma's. She was in the middle of harassing me about it when I snapped...|||As long as your not being mean to old people or babies in my presence it's all good. Oh, and stay outta my garden.|||I would drink drinks that were on fire, jump out of cabs without paying, bet on horses, leave 20 dollar tips, and make it a goal to drink every last one of my friends under the table-in other words I...|||I did DJ, I read it at the time you posted it and again last night, but it wasn't sinking in :-/ So I posted this question.|||Say if a person has issues with alcohol and is venting about it I'm all ears. I'm able to offer advice, tell them what I did to stop, etc. If the person is close to me I'll carry with it for a while...|||Bury me face down so everybody can kiss my ass|||Yup, that's me but the other way around-my brother and I are 13 years apart. I was also raised by my grandparents...and not the spunky type either!|||How old are you? That says a lot when it comes to relationships (in most cases anyway).   I've been married for going on 7 years. How does it feel? Good question because I don't really know! I...|||huh?  Why is sentance [sic] misspelled? Is this a trick question?|||Giving kids an ass to kiss is never in a parent's best interest. One day that same parent will be expecting those kids to wipe it. My brother better get his shit together because he's the one that's...|||nope I'm not either. I haven't talked to my mother in going on two years and anyone else that I cared for has passed on. The crazy thing is that I come from a pretty big family but I keep to myself....|||Wow, how is it that no one saw these traits in your brother? Were people ignoring them with the hopes he would change? I can't see someone going from Mr.Rogers one day then the UniBomber the next. I...|||My thing is if you've violated most laws your scruples are a little loose so why does this have to be a legal concept?|||For years I've been wanting to finish my degree. I would like to be an RN. BUT my husband thinks it's a waste of time. He believes that I should start at the bottom and work my way up like him and...|||I really think I'd do alright. I say husband would have a hard time because he HAS to work or else he gets all crazy, he has to follow the rules and respects authority so that automatically means...|||YYAASSS! That's what I'm tawkin' about Galldune.   But on a serious note, you are right. You are screwed pretty much screwed-of course there are exceptions but it's rare. If your charge had...|||You know this actually worked?  The thing that was driving him nuts at the time was our bathroom not being complete. I explained to him that nagging me was making me more stubborn and...'