'I am reading Feed by Matthew Tobin Anderson and Quiet by Susan Cain.|||Welcome, from another INFJ.  I would love to have another INFJ to discuss the big things with.  Let me know if you ever want to talk!|||Meretricious: of or relating to a prostitute, having the nature of prostitution.|||Solipsism: extreme form of skepticism which denies the possibility of any knowledge other than of one's own existence.|||Dottywine: Thank you!  Those are great suggestions.  I don't know how you have time for all of that, but I guess that's part of the problem - I don't prioritize me well enough.  A hot stone massage...|||Just after dusk, I stopped beside a lake on my way home from dinner.  The bullfrogs were unbelievably loud and the entire swamp was twinkling with fireflies.  It was awesome.|||I like both of these ideas.  I recently downloaded an app that is a gratitude journal and I am hoping that it will help me be better about focusing on the positive.  Baths are great, too.  Especially...|||I'm not into role playing, but thanks for the suggestions!|||I'm working on stress relief and trying to think of things I can remind myself to do everyday.  I walk daily, but that's about it.  What do you all do?|||I am making questionable decisions for myself and pondering making more.|||I don't really have PMS that manifests itself in being angry or vicious but there will be a day or two before I get my period that I will be hypersensitive and much more likely to cry.  I wonder if a...|||Oooooooooh, great one!|||I love the intense emotional connections between INFJs that I have and have had, but my experiences have been that NFs are really great with the same types of communication and emotional nurturing...|||I definitely agree with all the posts about the angry look.  I have found that I am told I look angry when I am either very focused on something or am thinking through something that I find very...|||I'm in central Minnesota, U.S.A.|||Would you consider teaching?  Academia is a common place to find NTs.  Teaching would also allow you to be involved in your field while still being able to afford extravagant things such as food and...|||I am an INFJ who is more reserved than shy.  Welcome!|||As a fellow INFJ, I welcome you!|||I did not know gallimaufry!  I love bungalows - I am in the Midwest U.S. and there are many of them here.  I did have to remind myself what ersatz was, too, though I think I used it in a poem once a...|||I agree with some of the other things I've seen posted in that you will see follow-through more in a mature INFJ than an immature one but I think this might be more a manifestation of the change,...|||Exerio, that is a great word!  And a new one to me.  Really can't go wrong with cookie, either.|||I searched and didn't find a thread like this.  If I'm blind, feel free to delete it and slap my hand.  I just had to share this word I just learned.  Baculum.  Look it up.  ETA: Please add your...|||I am constantly asking questions to learn about the world around me, the people it consists of, how those people relate(d) to the world around them, how their perceptions are the same as or different...|||I have an extremely difficult time communicating with my boyfriend (an ENTP).  I've actually never had such difficulty communicating with someone, and even when a person has been a really poor...|||Here is one of me taken a couple of weeks ago:15853|||I am clearly at some sort of crossroads in my life.  I can't believe that it is possible that I don't have a single person IRL that I am really close to.  Nobody with whom I physically visit, anyway....|||I have kind of a phobia about things being contrived so I try not to try for a certain look by just wearing what I like.  Anything other than this just ends up feeling like I'm pretending.|||I am so sick of drama resulting from lack of accountability.  I manage to prevent causing drama for others, does it really not occur to them to return the favor or are they just lazy?|||I think everyone should have the legal right to abuse their body in any way they see fit.|||I am a very comfortable atheist.|||Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance by Robert Pirsig; Please Understand Me II by David Keirsey; Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand; Lolita by Vladimir Nabokov; The Ultimate Guide to Getting It On by...|||Thanks for the suggestions, guys.  HarMONize, I have not looked into Meetup.com.  I think that it might not work as well for me to try and meet up with people physically because I am so pressed for...|||For me, I would say that it would probably be closer to the given a chance to take a step closer into the circle option rather than you being chosen.  Shy is a funny thing for me - sometimes it...|||It took me two full years to mentally prepare myself to acknowledge what should have been clear from the beginning: that my marriage, while having had many good qualities, was no longer a positive...|||I confess that I am afraid of what I am capable of.  I'm afraid that my full potential isn't actually very great.  I'm afraid that the real reason so many things have gone wrong in my life is...|||The busier I get, the more difficulty I am having meeting people.  As an INFJ, I don't know a great many people as it is, and I don't have a lot of time to meet new people.  I find myself turning to...|||Yes.  If I worked solely off of my intuition and stopped over-thinking things, I would rarely finds myself in the kinds of dramatic and stressful situations in which I sometimes find myself.  I liked...|||I also find this question difficult as okay is a subjective word. Okay generally? Physically? Emotionally? I like when I am asked about my thoughts, however, as it makes me more aware of my...|||thegirlcandance: He is a child of divorce.  His biological parents, while I'm sure they have their own feelings about each other, have done an exemplary job at co-parenting respectfully and...|||Aizar, these are current messages and it is not only when I pull away that he is affectionate, but frequently, I won't be able to engage him for the life of me but then the minute I give up, he...|||Wow, thanks for all the insight and responses. I thought I had my reply notification on, but I guess not. I actually did not go snooping for these messages, he asked me to do something online for him...|||I am an INFJ and have been dating an ENTP for about 8 months.  All of that time has been a struggle for me - communication is not an easy thing.  When I am open to communication and trying to engage,...|||I am an INFJ and I am terribly complex.|||It's the NF.  Nice usage of pariah.|||Wow, you seem like a happy fellow.  Cheer up!  I test either INFJ or INFP.  You're among friends here.|||I'm back and forth between INFJ and INFP.  Welcome!|||Hello, and welcome!|||Good luck!  Hope it does the trick.|||I once had this same problem.  I just kind of dealt with it for months, growing (quietly) more and more frustrated and freaked out about it.  Finally, I thought to mention it to a friend and the next...|||Sorry about your plight.  Hang in there.  Welcome to the forum.'