'Anyone wearing a ski-mask and/or carrying a gun. Otherwise I remember that, at some point, every person on earth was a drooling toddler wearing a diaper and tripping over their own feet... just like...|||Some guys are nice, others are not. Some people like nice guys, others do not. Life is one big grey area and any attempts at a black & white statement inevitably brings out disagreeing sides. When it...|||But can he dance?|||It sounds like you're friends with Napoleon Dynamite. I would consider that a win! Especially if you're ever around tainted milk :)|||There are very few surprises at home, so I go out as much as possible (despite the fact that it drains me to do so). I know home is always there for me as a sanctuary when I need to recharge, but I...|||As long as it's safe and consentual, it's just sex...  There's always a danger that one person develops unrequited feelings for the other, but if both are honest and up-front it can just be a lot...|||This may sound odd, but keep an open mind. Many people used to tell me to hang out where like-minded people would be. Pretty obvious, right? But what I started doing was hanging out where the people...|||This will probably answer few (possibly none) of your questions, but I feel compelled to type it anyway. Apologies in advance :)  The best dates/partners I've ever had all came when I stopped...|||Today my girlfriend bribed me into going to Costco.  Acquisition = new coffee travel mug Cost = the little piece of my soul that dies every time I set foot in Costco  Worth it :)|||I've never asked. Most people just offer. I've been very fortunate because I would probably have a hard time asking.  Try writing please provide me with a reference at the bottom of a box of...|||Yes! Anyone who has a job, yet says no to the offer, clearly has a more enjoyable career than I. Think about the countless hours spent trudging through work for an equal amount of money...  And...|||The trick is to learn how to quickly organize your thoughts in a single deep breath - a breath you take before responding to anyone during a conversation. I used to stutter as a kid because my mind...|||If you can't be sincere, at least be quiet.|||I'm with Angelexterminadora. I hold no expectations of anyone else, so they can't possibly disappoint me - this, in turn, makes me not worry about disappointing others. Should I really stress out...|||Just missed your deadline. Sorry.  I hope it all works out for you. I'm sure he won't be pleased - but if he really appreciates you, he'll understand.  Good luck!|||Cape Breton is gorgeous! Especially in the Fall...  My Sister lived on Vancouver Island for a few years. It was the most jealous I've ever been of her. Victoria seemed like my kind of city - warm,...|||One of the few constants in life is that people will behave stupidly and irrationally and in their best interest, 99% of the time.  One you accept that everyone behind the wheel of a car will be a...|||All Canadian coasts are beautiful... right? :)  Granted, newfie weather sucks, but the people here make up for it...|||I live in a culture where everyone addresses each other with some sort of affectionate colloquial greeting. I can't even go through the Tim Hortons drive-thru without being called my love or...|||Bears, because they're furry blood-thirsty forest ninjas.  Sharks, because they're like water-bears.  Bats, because... well... no real reason other than their creepy little bat mouths.   Upon...|||Confounded Great advice! And bonus points for using the word phlegmatic :)   mintyphoenix Sounds like it's time for you to break-free and be your own person. I know, that sounds cheesy, but it's...|||A multi-faceted issue, no doubt, but I don't see how advertising/media is a symptom and not a part of the problem. Please elaborate - this point of view sounds interesting.   edited for spelling:...|||I love my girlfriend when she wears no makeup whatsoever, or if she has an inch of it on her face - she's beautiful either way. And we've lived together long enough for me to know the difference...|||I believe you. If you dated George Costanza, the Elephant Man isn't a big stretch :)  Without sarcasm, the world would be a better place if there were more people like you...|||I think that HDR is overused and often unnecessary, but with the right application it can have a strong impact. But that's just me. I don't necessarily view photos for their journalistic integrity. ...|||If I'm crazy excited over something, I usually get to it right away. If it's just meh I wait until the very last minute in an effort to force excitement through a fast approaching deadline. I like...|||I vaguely recall this thread appearing on the ESTJ forum. Most people assumed the relationship wouldn't work, but I felt that it was very judgmental to assume a relationship won't work because of...|||While I empathize with the consistent public persona, I'm not sure why it's causing you to feel empty or confused. As long as you understand the real you, and are comfortable with who you are, then...|||If two people ask a favor of me, one says please and the other doesn't, guess who gets my help...  If I appreciate it being said to me, others will appreciate it being said to them. Because of...|||I don't think I would ever use the phrase give too much. Yes, I give a  lot in terms of what the OP described, but saying too much feels like I am expecting something in return  and am not...|||Focus on the present, look towards the future, let the past be your compass.  Don't hide from regret - it gives you character.  Once I embraced where I've been, the rosey memories of the good...|||I can get that you might not have reacted to your cousin. Something like that would have taken me by surprise, and I would be left relatively speechless. However, my first reaction would have been to...|||I took an intro to symbolic logic in my second year of university. It helped a lot.  Introduction to Symbolic Logic  I also find it helps to be as efficient as possible with my...|||I rarely rely on others, but sometimes the situation is unavoidable.  I go out of my way to never ask for help when possible. I enjoy the self-satisfaction that come with a job-well-done, and that...|||Again, I feel like I might be on the outside of common opinion here:  1. Not always emotional. Usually physical. Sex and intimacy are different beasts that I tend to separate. 2. Yes and yes. I...|||I'm not sure I could ever quit. I've never had the desire. Cigarettes make most of life's pleasures even better. That first smoke after eating... heaven.  Good for you though... You're a stronger...|||Apocalypse based fiction! I know it's sad because humanity is near extinction, but there's something very zen about survival being the sole reason for living life. I can't imagine I'm the only one on...|||Tim's borders on religion for some, so I bet you're getting great experience :)|||I enjoy that there's so much noise. It's a great distraction from my own thoughts. Without the noise I would never get any rest. Silence bores me...|||If you're looking for insight and similarities, you've come to the right place. This place is over-flowing with helpful people. No matter what your situation, someone here is in the same boat. ...|||Communications Coordinator with a charitable non-profit. Yeah, that's specific enough :)|||It can work. Let's not forget that the relationship is between two people that aren't necessarily the written-in-stone embodiment of a personality type.  I had a 3+ year relationship with an ESTJ...|||More than any other, this thread gives me that warm feeling that comes with a collective experience.  This forum is my little secret. I'm glad I'm not the only one :) You guys really are awesome!|||I read this other thread started by you: http://personalitycafe.com/infp-forum-idealists/58370-weird-feeling-back-my-head.html  Becoming a chef is probably the right choice. If I felt like that...|||This thread is a self-contained narrative of awesomeness! Just the right mix of mystery, foreshadowing, and closure. I love it.  Nothing against Mei, as I don't know the story, but starting a...|||These threads crack me up.  Other than obvious things like must not eat puppies I never have a mental checklist of requirements for the people I date. Everyone has redeeming qualities and...|||If lazing around and playing video games makes you happy, you shouldn't feel like it's unproductive. Time spent smiling is never wasted :)|||If it were me - and I'm strictly speaking for myself here - I would keep the job and try to adjust as much as possible until I succeeded.  I was always extremely introverted and anxious, and social...|||I confused Tom with Chris and thought this thread was going to be about your vigilante internet predator catching exploits. Ha ha. Oops.  I would perpetually project personality traits onto...|||We're not always accustomed to opening-up so much so fast, which is usually what happens when you quickly fall for someone new. My natural reaction in past experiences was similar to yours. I...'