'Hello. I understand how your mind is running now.  But most people do not, and will not think this far or complicated about things.  So you can give meaning to other people. This is not futile for...|||Hi Gorenzel. If you would not care, this post would not be here. You would not want to stop drinking, you would not concern about who your friends are. Fact is you care so much you can not handle it...|||You should realise people will always gossip and talk about others. Especially when they stand out in any way. You do not have to see this as flattery. But you can see it that you touched peoples...|||Ok I feel like replying to this. Many people seem lonely, affraid to open up, looking for deep relationships.  Looking for that one person who fully understands you.  I'm only 28, and I'm already...|||Yes, this happens from time to time. Things you could do are mindless activities. As you don't feel the urge to do anything, running or walking, or working with my hands, is enjoyable for me when I'm...|||TBH if you were my friend and you said that, I would understand. I don't like it when people throw irrational anger at me.  I receive this way too strong and I just want to understand you so I can...|||Opening up really is the best healing you can get for yourself.  Nice post starry.|||No, I understand what you are saying. But the current problem of rage can be put on hold for now.  Alcohol gives you no excuse. Ok possible the rage will manifest with other things.  But you will...|||I agree with lovabie. Talking is very good to relief stress. Sometimes you just want to be heard.  Sometimes when I don't need talk, but the 'me-time', I go walking with my dog in nature. This...|||Well, everybody is another person when he is drunk.. I'm a jolly drunk, sometimes a bit to the annoying side aswell. But it doesn't matter.  I advice you to stop drinking...  Your problem seems...|||Back to the question of telling her. I wouldn't. It would become awkward I think. You don't even know for sure if you like him that way, or vice versa.   He does not know you are bi? Which I think...|||It is hard to tell the motives without meeting this guy. From what you write, it does seem like you met at a bad moment. Few weeks after breakup? This guy was not ready for anything new. I...|||I have lost it a few times in public. Few times at work.. People didn't know what hit them. Started having this more and more the last months actually.  Any stimuli was just too much and made me...|||*How do you define success? Succes is not measureable, so one must enjoy the small things in life, and start counting.   *How important is luck in achieving success? I believe everybody creates...|||It reminds me of this one:  x93May you - Work like you don't need the money, love like you've never been hurt, dance like no-one is watching, screw like it's being filmed, and drink like a true...|||I envy most of you. I can not cry myself. I'm trying to. Sometimes I can get my eyes blurry..but really.. crying..seems impossible. I think deep down I'm fighting it. Because I know no other...|||Hi Reality.   I felt strongly about replying to you. Because even tho my lowest was a lot of years ago. I feel like this moment changed me for the rest of my life. I still live my life with ups...|||YouTube - Jonny Lang - Breakin' Me Live   I'm sorry :happy:   edit: YouTube - Wish you were here|||I've cut the quotes because it got too long. But these say for me all I need to remember all those words. I like how you both explained the same thing. In other words..which makes it even more clear...|||lol :crazy: Good thing I'm very competitive.|||Hi Female INFJ.  I wasn't really talking about a specific situation. I was thinking about plenty of them when I was writing. I think my previous reply gives more insight in which context I am...|||You hit the nail on the head FromTheWorldUp. I do know when people misunderstand what I am trying to say.It is something I instantly know. I know we all have different values in life and I embrace...|||Thank you so much for your words and thoughts Katey. It is amazing that I could find understanding in misunderstanding here. After reading this I was thinking. What probably is the most...|||It bothers me that people misunderstand me because I am able to see things from another direction. This is something that is becoming more obvious to me...or..bothering me more and more. I think...|||You know..I ask myself this question every now and then.  Most of the time, and in most of the replies I've read, you can ask yourself, after answering. What is stopping me from doing this right...|||I'm not really an every day visitor here, so I don't know the history about your posts..but I like some of the things you write here.    I can relate to this. I also experienced this ... I don't...|||I can relate very well with you. I'm going through this period..a good friend married, a best friend got kids, ... A lot of things are changing and everybody is moving on.  I'm learning that...|||In order to change the world, you simply use the media.|||:crazy:  I say yes to improvement. Both on the in - and outside. I believe one can improve, if one understands. So I try to understand   My 'projects' used to have a deadline. But by now I...|||The five senses... Here on the infj forum we only talk about the six senses :mellow:   ... but to come back on topic. I hear more sounds than others (around me)..but I'm high sensitive when it...|||First of all, I have not read all replies yet. But this is an interesting topic. I wanted to get my words out before I am completely distracted.    Yes.  Why? Sometimes I just fantasize about...|||True.  But understanding the true potential of an INFJ is like watching life from behind a glass with some *feeling gloves in it.    *define:feeling gloves - thin gloves attached to glass in...|||I know why I am overrated.  I can totally shift everything in myself, into everything that another person needs. My reaction, my action, my interest, ... everything. This is simply...nature. ...|||Let me tell you why it is NOT ok to carry your girls purse.  First of all. Before you go out you ask them, Honey, do you really need to bring along such a large handbag, or, Sweety, do you...|||Looks like we all have the same problem. I can relate a lot with what balderdash said.    I don't run away tho. What I do is, I test people. Which usually makes them run away. :crazy:  I...|||Losing a close female friend is something I can relate with. We loved each other...but different. It was like there was this connection between us. I can't explain. I loved her for the person she...|||I knew about astrology before I had even heard about IMBT. Theories about ourselves are always interesting to read about. ... to think about.   I could totally relate to you, zomboy.    sun:...|||I don't think this is called maturity but responsibility.|||So something did happen to you which triggered these fears. Maybe not directly to you, but your environment? Did anything changed? How long ago did you experienced these feelings?|||Ungweliante gives some very good advice on how to deal with it. It would work for me.  Tho, I am curious, if you are willing to share..you said:    Were these fears rational? Like, did you had...|||The reason you keep changing is because something is bothering you. You need to find out what that something really is. And seems like you did  The question is not HOW DO I GET IT BACK, but how DID...|||http://images.fanpop.com/images/image_uploads/Bruce-ALMIGHTY-jim-carrey-85820_944_1400.jpg|||Two different questions.  I'm most passionate about everything that concerns me. And everything that interests me, concerns me. These interests change frequently and go from silly things, to more...|||25. It is interesting to know a persons age. Not that it really matters. (In most cases)|||haha goosfraba. :laughing: I do this aswell. :proud:  But have you tried sport? No better way to get rid of any rage.|||An INFJ who is taken for granted. :shocked: New to me...  But seriously, it is hard, but an INFJ has to try and think more about themselves. You can be selfish and still be a good person.  ...|||Hi there Council. Welcome to the cafe. It is a good place for some of us INFJ's to find some understanding. When I read your story I know how you must feel.  I also had these moments where I...|||Well I do not discuss any details...I just tell them I'm down. This is enough for me, and for them.|||... mmm. Think about it.|||It is like we have a split personality. I accepted these dark periods for myself.  As dailybranflakes I also try to enhance these feelings. Sometimes I need days, sometimes hours.  The people...'