'People have problems/challenges regardless of asking why. Yes, all types question why; however, I think it is reasonable to say intuitives question why more than sensors, for example in questioning...|||You are worthwhile.  You are more than your job/major/title.  --some ideas from Feeling Good by Dr David Burns  http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0380810336|||Me too. To me the why is more interesting than W, W, W, W and H.|||Are NFs the people always asking why, while others only care about what and when?|||Look for: physical attraction, intelligence, enthusiasm, creativity, individuality, idealism  Romantic situation: bonding intellectually and creatively while watching a movie, making crafts,...|||Try listening to uplifting music you like. For me, it's Jimi Hendrix. And try comedians on Pandora radio, always a hoot. :happy:  http://www.pandora.com/#/music/comedy/todays-comedy|||I am in my forties and work as a customer care rep in a mid-sized company. I have friends; however, I think my idealizing and perceiving prod me to be different, more outgoing and noticed and...|||Is this normal INFP or just me?   * Fantasize being the center of attention but hate being the center of attention :frustrating: * Feel bound by introversion and controlled by extroverts * Bust...|||Where do you think INFP self criticism, being hard on ourselves comes from? Is it part of our nature? Or were we trained to think that way?|||Struck a chord with me. FYI: I'm reading Feeling Good by Dr. Burns. Thanks.|||Liked this, using military focus for good. Disagreed with loving myself above, say, God, but liked striking a blow to doubt. Thanks.|||Were you/are you raised in a harsh, military-style family, who provides for you physically but not mentally? How did you/do you deal with it?|||when you  Act childish a lot. Feel better in fantasy than reality. Say a lot of non sequitors. Change your mind a lot. Keep silent in public, but talk nonstop with family. Find it hard to...|||I want to be accepted for who i am, not for a false image i've created. But the truth can be overwhelming, like Emily Dickinson said:  Tell all the truth but tell it slant, Success in circuit...|||Started swimming, preparing for a 2.5 mile open-water race this summer.  Bought Ray-Bans and a fedora, looking stylish.|||All the time. I think it's best to follow other types' examples and forget it; let others try and figure you out. Why wear yourself out? They care more about themselves anyway. Like the prayer of...|||Sometimes I feel like a alien and think others see me that way too. I try to hide my it. A lot of it came from my Sensing family who was clueless about my boundaries, and I am clueless about a lot of...|||I can relate to what you wrote. You might try mindfulness. It's one of the things I'm working on in The Dialectical Behavioral Therapy Skills Workbook by Matthew McKay, Jeffrey Wood and Jeffrey...|||Yes, that's how it was growing up in a family that valued sameness over experimenting, strength over vulnerability, tradition over spontaneity, teaching over learning, agreeing over questioning. I...|||Often it seems like having a primary introvert feeling function is useless and disabling, versus having something like primary extrovert sensing or introvert thinking. Any suggestions on how Fi is...|||Something that helps me change my negative thinking is dialectical behavior therapy. Here are some highlights I got from Wikipedia:  Observe  Non-judgmentally observe your environment in and...|||Yes, I'll look into it.|||I thought I'd put this here and not in Education/Career, since this one gets more hits.  I have an English degree and have been working in phone customer service for about 8 yrs. I want to be a...|||I wanted to know why I procrastinate and how I could change it, so I collected some notes from the Internet:  Procrastination may be caused by rebellion, acting out of a power struggle that is...|||All good suggestions, like the bit about meditation.|||I learned not to care, became desensitized, became a bully, became a narcissist, came down on other people who pissed me off, which was everyone, because, hey, they were idiots.|||Ordinary People by Judith Guest|||I lose interest, concentration with dull, repetitive work, so my productivity goes down. Most Judging people I know can concentrate on it and get rewarded, while I get corrected, and my confidence...|||Narcissistic personality disorder symptoms may include:   Believing that you're better than others  Fantasizing about power, success and attractiveness  Exaggerating your achievements or talents...|||Prone to it? No, because anyone can develop narcissistic personality disorder.   It starts with your relationship with your mom, for a boy, or dad, for a girl. From birth through age three you...|||Just realized how silly that sounds.:)|||Borderline personality ESTPs: they're in-your-face psychos who project all their neuroses on you, blaming you for their insecurities. They mount their allies against you in their battle for control...|||I bought Toxic Parents on Amazon. I'm also reading If You Had Controlling Parents by Dan Neuharth and Children of the Self-Absorbed by Nina Brown, which have good insights.|||Yeah, I've gotten that a lot. When I tease back, I'm called harsh. It was okay with my parents when my ESTJ sister criticized me, because I am a guy and I could take it. But they would not allow me...|||I have experienced this too. My dad has said , Just get over it. Get on with your life. I can't help you. Which is true, but I think what he really means is: I don't want to change. I don't want...|||I like the nondefensive responding method you described. Thx for the book suggestion, sgman.|||I have experience that too.|||Yeah, I understand.|||Yeah. When I wouldn't play my dad's teasing game, or asked him to stop, that caused him to do it more, and it also started my sister bullying me. I would talk to my mom about it, but she did nothing...|||In my family while I was growing up, my ISTJ dad and ESTJ older sister and sometimes my ESFJ mom teased and criticized me. I don't think they meant anything by it, but I felt hurt and kept a lot of...|||Thanks iinnffpp and Souled In. You're brilliant, caring people. I'm thinking my post was a past rant, but felt like taking another look, getting new perspectives. What sparked it is my sister is in...|||When I was in my mid teens, I felt dumb and nerdy. I wanted to be smart in all subjects, fashionable, popular with cool kids and extrovarted. I got fashion hairstyles and wore fashion clothes, got...|||Here's a quote about frustration from an Osho site:  If you don't want to be frustrated, don't expect. Live without expectations and there will be no frustration. But people go on expecting; they...|||Brilliant. Words to live by.|||Brilliant. I teared up a bit knowing someone is out there sometimes feels the same.|||I'm jealous of others' success. I'm angry at myself for being unmotivated, irrational and unproductive. I want a better job, but I fail because I am angry and depressed and believe it will stir...|||The important word is live.|||When I start getting depressed, before I know I it, I get overly concerned with the following:    Unfairness  Perfection  Self conciousness  Revenge If I notice this happening, I've learned to...|||I have this theory about Sensors:  Sensors are divided into 4 groups:   1. Sensors, who are good at ball sports.  2. Sensors, who are good at fixing things, especially cars.  3. Sensors,...|||I have had a difficult relationship with my dad. I think he is an ISTJ and is very domineering. Starting in my teens, we got into arguments. I would end up hitting a wall or breaking something. It...'