'Yeah i'm an a-hole too depending on who you are and what you consider one to be.  Nothing wrong with that... just be you. who cares what your supposed to be... who knows maybe your brother is the...|||Sure, don't we all have layers?  i don't think I have ever met a one layered person...  I have been known to focus conversations and interactions on the other person involved, even if that means...|||life.long.battle... and still struggling.  Almost like you wish you could meet that person who is in your head and you wouldn't have to say a word to them, just chill and it would be awesome, every...|||Okay, my turn!  No I would not ask you out... you are not my type.  I prefer tall, lanky, dark characters... with penises. (although I wont say I haven't ever been interested in the lady folks, just...|||That makes complete sense.  Before you admire us though please keep in mind that we INFJs think about what we are going to say a long time before we say it... at least I do.  I think about the...|||good luck!|||I got my answer... I was in fact being rejected as i initially assumed.  Thanks anyways for the help guys and gals!|||I took the you will think i'm boring and i wouldn't want things to feel awkward as the rejection.  I tried to make it more blunt today by just giving him my number and asking him to text/call me. ...|||I could sure use some help understanding the logic behind this...  I tried to ask a INTJ i know to hang out today.  I got shot down as i halfway expected to be, because I would think he is boring,...|||Today it looks like a cheery little boy cuddling up next to me watching cartoons and sharing a cup of coffee (i.e. milk for him lol)|||I do not feel stupid at all.  I do accept that I am not perfect, I make mistakes but I also learn from those mistakes.  I have a great capacity for acquiring, processing, and sharing knowledge in...|||If it were me id just want the person to tell me and let me figure out why and how to fix it.  Just be straight forward... whats the worst that can happen?  Honestly is she really that fragile that...|||Now I just feel even more stupid for trying to please everybody -.-  Oh well lesson in the process of being learned|||What I mean is every person on earth even the ones you have never and will never meet versus as you detailed in your reply those whom you truly care about.|||I was slightly inebriated upon first reading the post which may be influencing my overall perspective on this subject.  I hate to go off topic as i'm sure the OP has an actual need (actually i'm not...|||lmao I think that is a fascinating option...  I would have never guessed a frond would have such human complexities.  I must spend more time with mother nature.|||If you had this revelation at all...  When did you realize that what others think of you is unimportant?  How did it change your life?|||So, i don't have time to sift through this thread and find out if my question has already been asked.  Do INTJs seek appreciation- is this important to you to hear when someone appreciates you?  I...|||O.o  I don't understand what language you are typing in.  Is a girlfrond a female frog pond?|||I visit the other type forums to look at the humorous threads.  The INFJ threads are usually very serious lol|||oh the ego...|||Not so much falling out of love but moreso realizing that it wasn't love as i thought it was to begin with.  Once I realize something its hard to go back to being ignorantly happy.|||I haven't had many people hurt me with words I think i hurt myself more then others by over-thinking situations but there were two instances that have stuck with me for a very long time 1st being...|||Trying to figure out how to do that, no word of a lie!  Thank you brain your messages are appreciated lol|||I have had SO MANY people tell me that they do not want to make me upset because i'm scary when angry... something I have never actually understood because at my most angry I actually draw away from...|||You might enjoy reading some of Jung's original work in that case|||It sounds as if she is a bit imbalanced and this is manifesting itself as being possessive and overbearing.  Shes absolutely displaying INFJ qualities but as daydr3am stated they are the qualities of...|||LiquidLight that certainly is an interesting perspective.  I had not considered that my real life friend might potentially be my real life animus, more so I was curious if my mind might project the...|||Lady Nurture thank you so much for sharing your dream!!  I am really looking forward to learning more about myself through my own- perhaps even with the help of intuitives such as yourself :)|||You are going to love this :)|||No.  I recognize before I shut someone out how harmful and toxic they are to me.  It does not weigh heavy on my heart to take care of myself.|||Yeah... I am perpetually lonely mostly because I don't let people in so its my own fault in the end.|||I'm feeling relieved that I am not the only one who does this!|||Aww thank you!|||I had a very interesting dream the other night, very lucid and very vivid.  At the beginning of said dream I am greeted by a friend whom exists in real life and the friend greets me with a hug and...|||I want to play!  Bask in my INFJness O.o    https://twimg0-a.akamaihd.net/profile_images/2197288221/image201205060020.jpg  I cant find any pictures where i'm actually looking at the camera. ...|||I have never actually purposely sought revenge on another person.... that makes very little sense to me.  I know that I have hurt others in the heat of the moment but plotting revenge just seems a...|||Also when they say, I'm a jerk, I went to the infj forum to ask infj's how I could hurt your feelings in case we fight.  We shouldn't be friends anymore.  Feel free to shut me out of your life now.|||I get so offended when someone tells me... you are an amazing person, I am so happy we are friends.|||BATTLE!  If shes going to INFJ you with her moodiness then INTJ her with some hardcore sarcasm one of you will eventually be the victor or you will both explode to smitherines!  Honestly though,...|||Reading your responses and thinking about this more it does feel somewhat like a superpower/weakness because like Joon said its almost like I am giving the person access to me through my eyes but for...|||I realized that I avoid contact with people whom I do not know or trust.  I never had really noticed it in the past but more recently its become really apparent to me and it feels kind of awkward now...|||I have a very hard time expressing my feelings verbally and physically. I also have not ever felt complete trust with anyone but even with my family members my sister who is the closest person I have...|||My best friend is intj ans we are like peas in a pod.  I think because I am not super strong on the feeling end might be why.  We do relate very well though.|||What is this inappropriate you speak of?  I have never encountered such a novel idea (hahahhaha)|||flicker099 I do understand what you mean, i don't think I could ever give up caring about people as people, that goes against what I believe in completely and I would surely die or end up...|||flicker099 thanks that is a good starting point...  I think you pointed out one of my bigger challenges- what other people expect me to be.  I've been working on not caring about that for a while now...|||He's extremely handsome, great smile, bubbly personality.  We spend a LOT of time together.  Hes so intelligent, loves to cuddle, very playful.  I knew i loved him from the moment I met him and I...|||im good at hugs|||Not an INFJ thing (unless i completely missed it but I don't think I did)  So... I am on a mission to understand who exactly I am...  Strange I know it seems like a fairly basic and simple premise...'