'Flies away might be the problem.|||If you're having a recurring problem with holding onto friendships, there can be an underlying problem that often comes from problems in childhood or infancy.  That's probably something that you'd...|||People care because it's an instinct.  Humans and other mammals survive and thrive together, not in isolation. Are you hurting? It doesn't seem logical to end it because the future is...|||Here's what I have come to understand about depression:  In the mammal (limbic) part of the brain is the instinct of bonding with family and tribe. When those bonds are damaged by death, betrayal,...|||It is my preferred policy to communicate with minimal quantities of pomp and other embellishments.  j/k  Seriously, I do a lot of technical writing, and I like to be explicit -- avoiding ambiguity...|||The Mensa group I was in had regular seminars, which were led by any group member who volunteered.  So you could give a talk on a cause you are interested in, and poll the group to see if anyone...|||Yes. One other thing to keep in mind is a quote attributed to John Donne: No man is an island  (presumably applies to women and neutrals as well).  We do need to find our tribe of people we...|||Hi Jeb,  I have been struggling with this for a very long time.  I have learned a lot, but I am still struggling, so I guess I haven’t learned enough.  As a suggestion though, there is a book I...|||I joined a few years ago, because I was lonely and thought I might need conversation on a more intelligent level than I was finding elsewhere.  I dropped out after maybe a year, because I wasn't...|||Hi Intro,  Here's my take.  Email is a great medium for certain things of a businesslike nature.  However, it is really bad for making emotional connection.  Speaking as an INTJ, email is really...|||I went ahead and voted Yes, even though I hesitate to call it belief.|||Yes, that sounds like total dedication. What are the benefits of your meditations?|||You're experience reminds me of a story by Mark Twain, called At the Appetite Cure.   At the Appetite-Cure - Mark Twain|||Hi again.    I've read through your retreat journal.  That was an intense practice schedule!  I'm very interested in the transition from the noble silence (a great name for it) back to talking. ...|||I don't know -- Maybe that approach is for a different purpose than the breath-focused approaches.  What you described sounds similar to some coaching I received from a psychotherapist, for the...|||I started a thread called INTJ Support about a week ago, and it's remarkably inactive.  Now I'm thinking that reaching out for emotional support is more of an Extroverted Feeling approach than INTJ. ...|||I had not heard of Vipassana, but I Googled it just now and read a little about it.  Very interesting.  I’ve done a number of meditation retreats, and have also found that the experience can be...|||Thanks for the link to the list of methods.  That's very interesting and helpful.  Resilient to stress is a wonderful outcome, along with feeling generally happier.  I'm noticing that I tend to...|||Namaste.    I’m inviting discussion among INTJs with a structured meditation practice, such as TM (transcendental meditation), focused breathing, mantra, pranayama, Kundalini, Zen, etc.  However,...|||I was referring to the bold and italic highlights.  But I see it now:  buttons at the top of the text entry window.  They show up as B and I in square brackets, and I thought you had keyed those in. ...|||I like your awareness of the differences between thinking, knowing, and being. Do you have any sort of metaphysical practice, such as meditation?  Also, I noticed the formatting commands in your...|||Wow, you could hear a pin drop in here!  I'm really surprised.  I guess whatever support people need must be happening within other threads.  So be it!|||Hmmm.  Well, we are still individuals, no two alike.  So yes, how we handle it is up to us.  However, there is also basic cause-and-effect.  If a child doesn't get proper nutrition, their body can't...|||Cool.  I like how you said it.  It's superstitious to believe something exists with no evidence, or to believe it doesn't exist without evidence. Wanting to know, and having the patience not to jump...|||Suppose I'm camping and I hear a noise at night.  I think it's a bear.  I shine my light around, and there is no bear in sight.  So I was wrong.  However, that doesn't mean there are no bears.  It...|||It occurred to me one time that a lot of groups seem to think they are the only ones going to heaven.  Most of them (maybe all) must be wrong, I realized!  That doesn't mean there is no God, however;...|||Very much so.  I'm noticing there's a lot of crossover between trauma and the INTJ traits.  I also practice meditation, which takes me into a deeper level of who I am.  So then I see some of the...|||That's fine.  And if you're just venting, that's okay too, this is a venting thread.  I like to be helpful, and there doesn't seem to be much I can do about the disconnect between you and other...|||It seems logical to me* that being deprived of normal emotional bonding and support in those formative years would drive a person to develop self-reliance, and perhaps more faith in thinking (which I...|||Okay, so what's an example of something you would like to talk about?  ...either here or in Private Messages.|||Sorry, I thought you were feeling stymied and looking for a way up.|||You sound kind of tweaked or stressed about it; maybe frustrated.  I'm not there to see what is going on.  But your comment reminded me of something that is frustrating for me.  As an analogy, I...|||Let us know how it turns out.  :-)|||Oh yeah, I know that feeling very well.  Half of it is that other people are seldom interested in my insights and inspirations, so they wind up turning away from me.  But occasionally it clicks, and...|||I'm new here, so if this is redundant or out of place just let me know.  It seems good to have a place where people who are struggling with something, or feeling challenged, could come to ask for...|||I'm new here.  Could someone explain what Ne is, and the other symbols in a similar format?  Good reference?  Thanks.|||This reminds me of my situation.  I feel somewhat the same way.  I think diversity on a team is a good thing; no need for everyone to be alike or have the same skills.  Think of a baseball team with...|||This reminds me of my situation.  I feel somewhat the same way.  I think diversity on a team is a good thing; no need for everyone to be alike or have the same skills.  Think of a baseball team with...|||I feel for you.  That's an awkward situation.  I'm not necessarily any good at this stuff, but here's my suggestion.  I would speak with bride as soon as you can, either in person or by phone.  Ask...|||Thanks for posting this.  I feel the same way about connecting on a genuine level.  It does take some time to develop trust.  If someone is going to judge or trash my feelings, or reply with cliches,...|||I have a meditation practice that takes me deeply into a realm I call God.  It's an experience; not a belief.  Before I found meditation, around age 27, I couldn't get past the idea that belief...|||Thanks for friending me!  I can't send personal messages yet, because I don't have enough posts or something.|||I find it helpful to think in terms of evolution.  Individual survival instincts--fight-or-flight, anger, fear, hunger, sex drive--evolved with the reptiles.  Then the mammals evolved emotional ties...|||I recognize different kinds of intelligence.  The logical processes that an IQ test measures are just one kind.  There is also emotional intelligence, which includes an ability understand and click...|||truth #2:  Re. x93Develop what youx92re weak inx94 and x93Maturing process:x94 Yes Yes!  BTW, what does your name mean?   Mountain Gal:  Yes, those brain imprints are very compelling.  It may take a lot of...|||Me again.  Thanks everyone for the comments.  Wow, I just joined P.C. yesterday, and already I’m in a more interesting discussion than I’ve had in many F2F groups.  This is great!  I realize that...|||If I were typed based on my hair color, what would be a genetic trait.  If I were typed based on my native language, that would be a consequence of my life history.  If I were typed based on the kind...'