'Sorry I can't respond lollicat at length but just wanted to say after reading your post, I really wish you and your ISFP guy the best. Sounds beautiful and honest what you have. I'm only just coming...|||Hello hello.hello everyone! Love all thesr replies! Unfortunately havent had my laptop (at repairs) and want to reply (type) properly. Using mobile and its a pain!  Read ALL your responses though!...|||btw he studied psychology at university. He said he didn't take it as seriously as he should've though.|||duplicate post|||Oh wow this is so helpful and insightful. Thanks :)  Tbh , I don't ask him questions at all, well..tell a lie, when we first met we were having dinner and he was sort of facing sideways at the...|||Hi,  Hope I've posted this in the right place. Forgive me if I haven't.   Been seeing this guy for 2 months. Its strange, I don't know what to call it, guess it's too early for that. Anyhow, we...|||When you don't know who you are  When you're being misunderstood 90% of the time  When you try to explain to an extrovert why you're comfortable being alone for long periods of time, and then...|||Been seeing a lovely guy for about 6 weeks, all premature so still sort of finding out about each other.   I think he's very intriguing and I've just got to say it, the sex is something else. I...|||Hi,  I've been seeing a guy, presumably an INFP. Definitely introverted though, as he proclaimed so..  I've noticed he is more distant than guys I've been dating before, and that's fine and I get...|||Hey thanks chanteuse  I take it all on board, some valid points you've made there, and I'll put into practice nect time I'm in a similar situation :)  I think the reason why I didn't excuse...|||Heaps of info there, and I'm taking it all on board. Will look into the type therapists you mentioned. Sounds interesting.. Yea regarding my father, sometimes it frustrates me that he doesn't know...|||Ah thanks Sygma . Appreciate your input :)|||Thank you Razare, really helped! :)|||That machine gun/verbal bones analogy, I so get it! Normally I shrink and really go inside myself at those moments, and then I sometimes don't even make sense when I speak because I've been mulling...|||Rethink hey, thanks. A lot to take in there, food for thought! I'll get back properly, jsut haven't had the time to!  Thanks again! :D|||Yes, I actually feel drained even just thinking about having to contribute to a convo let alone actually saying something.. Yea, I get the bitch or shy thing.  I may come across like I'm...|||Thanks for the recommendation :)|||Thank you for this, soooo relate! God it nearly brings tears to my eyes knowing that I'm not the only one who feels like an oddball in these situations!  Yep, as yourself, trying to come to terms...|||This rings true with me..all of it.|||Hi,  So, went out for family dinner yesterday. After the dinner, I was told by my father that I act distant, like I'm daydreaming (sometimes I wonder if anyone in my family actually know me :( )...|||hey, thanks all. haven't checked this (duplicate) thread in a while, but appreciate all responses and hijacks ;0|||edited*|||Effin ell you are a bit of an A-hole aint ya! (your words, not mine)   I don't like games...I like directness, whether the outcome ends in tears or not.   PLUS, as a girl (actually I'm a...|||Aha! Thanks for that...yes I thought as much, I really see dedication, especially where his two lovely little boys are concerned and it is admirable and commendable. It's good to see someone have...|||@EtrnlZombie Hey it's ok...food for thought there, thank you! :)|||Yes, I mean, can HE wait that long? Well, obviously I guess. I am yearning to see him, I haven't pestered or pressured him in any way though, just sort of following his cues...trying to stay cool and...|||Hi guys, sorry to be a bother, but this was a message from him today as a response to me asking him out on a 2nd date, seeing as he intitiated the 1st one..  Heya xxx Yeah,I'd love to J. My...|||Garet that's cute.. :happy:|||mystikro  Insightful, thank you! :happy:|||Jebediah thanks ! You've given me more to think about! :rolleyes::happy:|||Antipode interesting...thanks!|||@etrnlzombie Thanks very helpful. One more question - Have you ever made a girl wait during the early stages of dating, even if you liked her a lot?|||Lad  thank you that was really helpful!|||edited * because wrong forum|||Much appreciated :)|||Definitely has some serious mental issues...wow|||I'm sure you are..and I stand corrected. Apologies Jeb :unsure:|||oh thank you guys for  the messages! i've only skimmed through them as at work but will reply tonight! Thank you! :wink:|||I also don't think  he's INTJ...he's way to feely, overtly feely. I mean I didn't epect him to spill all that out..It's like he kept it in, and I prompted him, then it all gushed out. Well, I'm...|||OK I have news people. I have goooooood news!   I finally pulled my thumb out my arse and was direct. I whatsapped him an hour ago and I started off by saying    Was thinking...do you wanna...|||For me, it's like if I get an inclination that a person isn't interested, I tend to go cold on them, forget them, cut em off, move on....I'm nearly at that point, basically.   I'm not a mind...|||Ha! Wow, ok...that's pretty effed up! Wow...I'm actually stunned. Well, I guess I'm sane then, lol... ;D|||Hello,  Interested to know how you approach dating? If you really like someone, do you make the first move? How are you through online messaging? Are you spontaneous in the dating process? Can you...|||I think nobodys actually fully sane. I think we all like to believe we are.   Those girls you mentioned....do sound a bit mental. I'm fully aware that I can be needy, and I'm working on that, but I...|||Wouldn't say I'm insecure. I am self assured at times, but yea I do feel attached or cling to a person once I've got physical with them, and yep even a deep kiss can do that! For me anyway!|||I know... :0 I do want to physically see him. But we're 120 miles apart and I know he has the kids only at weekends, work during week and bla bla. He'd have to really plan to come down to my city.....|||how to switch feelings off..|||being told you sometimes seem disconnected from whats going in that moment.. (this was at work)|||Thanks for the tips! :)|||Thanks for that. Well, as mentioned in previous posts, my issue is fear of rejection - VERY guarded with experssing how I feel too soon, but I know at least if I know he isn't interested I can move...'