'Thank you, Falling Leaves. Your advice was really helpful, and it made me laugh. :happy:    Isn't that the truth...  You're right; both she and I have been framing things about how he would...|||Thank you all for responding, I really appreciate it. thunder, what a great suggestion! Maybe that would at least offer stress relief, if nothing else.   zynthaxx, in response to your message:  In...|||Dear ISTJ in my novel writing critique group, If you say one more thing about how my genre, writing style or subject matter is not modern or popular or no one does it like that anymore, I...|||Thank you for your sweet note! Your words are very helpful and insightful. You're right -- it is a form of control. By not letting go, it makes me feel like I have some sort of sway, power or control...|||I am currently in counseling -- partly for this, lol. So I'll let you know how it goes.  I'm a Christian, so I sought a counselor who shares my faith, and she recommended that I learn to forgive...|||My sister is an ISTP and kinesthetic learner (probably like many of you). She's really going through a hard time in her new marriage, and she doesn't seem to know how to process and work through her...|||Dear ISTP, You're masculine and tough, and I still get thrown by the fact that you don't have a very expressive face. So seeing you light up when you look at me because I'm carrying your baby is the...|||That's sweet! :happy:|||I'm pregnant with my first and due in six months (March 2014), too! Congratulations!  So obviously I can't chip in with how my child will turn out yet. My mom is INFP and dad is ESFJ. We kids are...|||Always.   I think it's because fear plays a huge part in how I live my life, and that's not healthy.  Do not mistake the fear for intuition. I think our intuitive accuracy is greatly impacted when...|||Dear ESFJ, I could tell that you judged me for worrying about getting pregnant... and then judged me when I became pregnant and worried about a healthy pregnancy. Now that you're pregnant, too, and...|||So, whenever I start wondering why I don't fit in with all-female groups, I start going through a circle of questions:  Is it really because I'm so unique or different, or am I just flattering...|||I'm having an insecure day. My husband and I are thinking about moving back to our hometown, and we're both really excited about it -- especially about being closer to our family and friends. I've...|||I'm the opposite. I apologize all the time. I'm pretty sure it annoys people sometimes.|||I just realized how much of my internal world is... my internal world. Hardly anyone knows how active this world is, and they probably don't really care, though I'd love to share it with someone.  ...|||Dear Lord, yes. After being together for 9 years and married for 5, why can't I just accept the fact that my ISTP is just not an expressive person? I STILL am always asking, Are you okay? Why does...|||An ENTP friend of mine matches the orders many here have listed, with her (self-described, though not in the same terms) weaknesses being self-awareness and self-management. When she would chat with...|||What my Dad told me a long time ago: If you can't think of something to say, just ask them about themselves. People love talking about themselves.  It sounds like you like this girl, so I'm sure...|||Dear ISTP, Thank you for listening to me cry because of my chronic writer's block and laughing at me while I smacked myself in the head and cursed by brain for not working, in true INFJ fashion. It...|||You just described my ENFJ friend and her ENFJ mother -- so I'd say ENFJ. :-)   As an INFJ who works from home, I happily spent about four out of seven days home alone... lol. (Read: Definite...|||Sadly, I got swept into this behavior during a particularly unhealthy phase I went through when I was 21. To this day, I'm horrified and ashamed that I acted in such a way, but I think it taught me a...|||Last year, I returned to my love of fiction writing and began writing a novel that is deep within me and practically demands to be written (read: very important work, to me -- not just for kicks). I...|||Life isn't about justifying your existence.  or,  Choose peace over fear.|||Very cool! You will love it, especially with the ancestral link. (Some of) My ancestors were from Wexford, so my husband and I took a day while we were staying in Kilkenny to drive an hour to Wexford...|||I've been feeling the same way, OP.   You didn't specify if you're specifically a Christian or if you relate to God in another faith, but a friend of mine recommended Experiencing the Depths of...|||I just went to Ireland in April -- it's incredible! I wish I could live there.  We didn't stay in hostels, but IIRC, we walked by one in Glendalough. Granted, Glendalough is in the Wicklow...|||Hmm... I am kind of thinking that maybe none of it is unhealthy -- the unhealthy part is that we are uncomfortable with who we are...? Just a guess off the top of my head.  It's weird, because in...|||Gah. That's me -- especially in social situations, which is weird, because I don't always remember feeling this way.|||Victor Hugo strikes me as an INFJ (a narcissistic one). On top of all his political activism and apparent ability to see both sides of things (judging by his flip-flopping between ideologies), he got...|||Here's what I LOVE about my ISTP: - Fiercely devoted to me - I know he will seriously do anything to make me happy (even though most of the time I don't think I deserve it) - He can ignore...|||Political systems seem good in writing.  The common strain between them all? They depend on humans to carry them out. Flawed, selfish humans, which will always exist. Bottom line? No political...|||Dear ISTP, Thank you for always reading the new stuff I add to my novel and giving me good feedback. I'm looking forward to returning the favor and helping you bottle your second batch of beer...|||I think early retirement played a big part in how my ISTP chose his career. He will be able to retire at 46, but I think he'll wait until 56 to maximize his earnings. He's very strategic that way....|||Outwardly, I say some sincere version of thank you about a million times (I say thank you a lot.)  Inwardly, I feel so happy and I think about it like, for a really long time! (If I think it...|||Both of my parents were teachers, and my mom home schooled me and my three siblings.  She was tough. But that was incredible.  If I could summarize all her teaching expertise in one point, I...|||I can relate to what you shared. I can't accurately explain my stance, but I simultaneously agree - yet I also don't totally agree. I'm currently close friends with someone who has done some...|||One of my long-term, close friends is ISFP. I've functioned as her confidant/shoulder/counselor/encourage-r for years as she's gone through hurdles and struggles, etc. Since she trusts me with a lot...|||You're probably right. *shrug* Not sure if it's actually an Fi thing (which isn't in our functional stack, but I am not good with the cognitive functions), but I'd agree that we can be pity-party...|||Yeah... I don't quite get the protector description. It doesn't seem to apply to either me or the other INFJs I know in real life. We're (speaking of myself and two INFJ friends) not assertive...|||Your thoughts are eloquently expressed and beautifully, artistically formatted! I've had similar thoughts, though not necessarily related to MBTI but just interpreting (or projecting!) people around...|||Ningsta Kitty - You may have already explained this (and if so, I'm sorry that I forgot!) but why do you like lucid dreaming? I was thinking about whether or not I'd try the techniques you mentioned,...|||This is a fascinating subject! I love dreams and dreaming! Like others have asked, Ningsta Kitty - please share the website and/or books you've enjoyed - I would love to check them out! :happy: ...|||Whoops - wanted to add: We should recognize that there's a difference between not being able to relate to a person and not being able to relate to what he/she said. Some instances may be the former...|||I think @Vivid Melody said it saddens her just because she wants you to feel accepted - it made her sad that you don't feel like you've connected (Fe at work). :happy:  Sometimes I can relate to...|||A_Small_Potatos_Mind - One thing that has helped me understand my ENTP friends better is learning that they aren't arguing their opinions... they are sparring. To both my female and male ENTP...|||I don't have any solidified theory about this, but I'd be willing to say that Ni could share similarities with schizophrenia, though they would be much diminished/diluted... does that make sense? I'm...|||I think everyone has covered the main points: Find good friends (rather than seek the popular crowd), do your thang regardless of what other people think (e.g., embrace your quirks and don't doubt...|||Have you been to Personality Junkie? That blog has a few posts about Ne v. Ni like you suggested, and this piece about ENxP and INxJ discusses ENTP/INFJ dynamics with regard to Ne/Ni. It doesn't...|||Anything that engaged my imagination. Much of that I did on my own, but my mom would create treasure hunts and mysteries for me to solve.  ...Embarrassed to say some of them took me years to...|||Have you ever seen this? I think it covers a lot of issues: The Other Side of the INFJ - Personality Junkie  For me personally: I struggle with holding grudges. Also, in my attempts to handle...'