'@FakeLefty It's interesting that you say you hate programming? Why? I love it, love that you get to build stuff, , that you see the results immediately, that there are so many ways to do something...|||In the office:  There may be ways to get this job done faster, better - but let's just follow the rules, mmkay?  ... and while we're at it, let's document our progress!  We need to have a...|||Depends. Small clubs where I know people = ok. Big impersonal clubs = meh. It also depends on whether I can get in the mood.  But my Se is very well developed and I have learned to use it almost...|||I think you're way ahead of the competition due to the simple fact that you have the guts to put yourself out there. Trust me, women can smell guts, and there is nothing sexier!|||Yes but aren't you glad you tried?|||Thank you rd93 !  To clarify, he told me during an argument that he would never be able to feel as deeply as he did for cheating ex. That he was capable of love but never again that deeply and...|||Hello lovely and kind ESFJs,  An ESFJ I know was betrayed by his wife a couple of years ago. She eventually left him altogether and he was crushed.   He has managed to rebuild his life but he...|||Good luck, Acerbitas!|||That is beautiful!|||When you can change said fan, without having done anything of the sort before.|||Happy about Nothing. (love your username :) )  Change, even good change, makes me anxious initially.  I don't know why I need the time. To calm down? To get used to the idea? To gather some...|||I am finally beginning to understand feelings-based decision making. Wow, what an alien way to go about the world!  The ESFJ and I have been discussing moving in together. I do want to, but I told...|||I actually prefer advance notice; I need some time so I can pump myself up for socializing. It's unlikely that I will come out if you call me while I'm having a nice, quiet evening at home.   But...|||Character Strength # 1 Appreciation of Beauty & Excellence You notice and appreciate beauty, excellence, and/or skilled performance in all domains of life, from nature to art to mathematics to...|||I make a terrible leader. If I have to lead people in accomplishing a task, I give them the tools, show them how it's done once and then expect that they can work it out from there. This works out......|||ESTP,   Don't come to my desk telling me how to write this code!   1. The only reason I am on it is because you don't have the knowledge to do it yourself.  2. Since you don't know have the...|||Duh, of course :) Thanks!|||What do you mean you didn't realize it until you became pregnant? What changed?|||Is your Ni an asshole, too?  I'm in a relationship with an ESFJ and things are truly great. Best relationship of my life, most loving man I've ever encountered. But whenever we spend time apart my...|||I vote for electrician, too. It's crafty, you see tangible results every day, you get diverse challenges in diverse environments, plus it gives you an opportunity for independence later as...|||Nah. I'd ask LOTS of questions.  But thanks for Mark Wahlberg. He's hot!|||I'm so sorry, Nubb :(|||On one hand, I have a high tolerance for pain in the sense that I think I am more composed than others when in pain and it takes more to make me flinch.  On the other hand, I have a very low...|||It seems to me like you're going straight for the friendzone again.  Why don't you make your move? You can decide where this goes, now. If you expect her to decide -- she won't, this would mean...|||I was an explorer as a child (count me in with the easy navigation crowd). I loved to take things apart to see how they worked. I've always been very curious. I didn't do sports* but I loved to swim...|||True dat. My point was, the plaque was independent of and before the fund. He got the plaque as thanks while he was homeless and broke.  The medallion comment was really funny!|||I do similar blunders all the time. I try to express my support and end up looking like an insensitive ass.  Take this news, for example: Updated: Homeless man turns in bag containing $42K |...|||That's definitely more personal, genuine and thoughtful than some generic I hope you're okay. It shows you actually think of the person in that circumstance.|||I'm very social when I choose to be, even bubbly with the right crowd/circumstances/alcohol.  But I wouldn't say I'm open. First, because I don't have the kind of self-absorbed focus that open...|||Ritual I've found these interesting: http://personalitycafe.com/istp-articles/76785-recognizing-inferior-function-istp.html...|||She sounds selfish and entitled. Why do you even want be in her presence let alone engage with her? Do you not have better things to do with your time? Time is precious, spend it wisely.|||I was drinking and observing for the most part, laughing at the ESTP's antics. I danced a little with my ESFJ boyfriend.|||Social events are so much more fun now that I know about personality types!   I had a small gathering with friends yesterday. The ESFP was goofing off like a clown. The two ESFJs were having a...|||Chatter can be interesting. Especially over brunch. Brunch is my favorite! Alcohol before noon, hello!  But seriously. The girlfriends with whom I actually want to talk have traveled the world,...|||Thanks for the links!  I'm pleased to see that bar owner is one of the favored careers. I was thinking of doing that when I get bored with computers! It's funny though, you have all those...|||Why?|||I can't resist telling the truth either, even when I know it'll make people get all butthurt.  ESFJ BF was lecturing me yesterday on how my exercise choices are not optimal and what I should be...|||Unless you state it clearly, with these words I don't have a romantic interest in you and never will, he is probably hoping. Please be kind and let him go, if you don't want him that way.|||My test results put me more or less in the middle between ISTP and ESTP (Ti-Se and Ni-Fe are approximately equal) but I relate to ISTP much more than ESTP.  So I second reading the type descriptions...|||I'm in IT.   I got started without a degree, first doing websites for fun and eventually got a job as a web developer. Loved the process to get there, loved the job.  Years later, I went back to...|||1. What is the best way to initially connect with you?  Say hello, initiate (I probably won't). Doing something together is best, interesting conversation about topics with a practical application...|||It's so interesting to read about your ISFJs and how similar they are to my ESFJ.  I have to say, personality typing has been a revelation for me. It's helped me so much to be kinder and more...|||My BF of 4 months is an ESFJ. The credit for this relationship goes 100% to him, it would have never happened were it not for his strong Fe. I am passive, really content being on my own and I have a...|||I just figured out two of my girl friends might be ISTPs. I get along very well with them, they're super easy going and cool and there is no drama whatsoever. Our communications are terse and sparse...|||I do, too.  And sometimes when I try to explain that I really meant it, my explanations get interpreted as further sarcasm.|||You know that ignoring someone is the most insufferable thing you can do to them, especially the type of person you describe.  So you could make this into a challenge for yourself, a little game to...|||Yes, being trapped (literally or figuratively) is scariest.  Romantic relationships are a close second. Because I have no idea how they work! And uncertainty makes me very anxious. And someone...|||Mazda MX5 (Miata). The wind in my hair when I drive with the top down! The amazing sound system! And the speed, ahh!! I didn't even drive until I was 29, I had no idea how much fun having a fun car...|||Posture:  http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/10/091005111627.htm Sitting up straight in your chair isn't just good for your posture – it also gives you more confidence in your own thoughts,...|||I used to test as INTP as a teenager when I wasn't much in touch with my body.   I have been getting more and more in touch with the physical world in recent years, so much so that I think my Se is...'