'If your boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse gets sick, or has some chronic illness, how do you react? Do you feel concern or want to help? Offer to do things for them? Or are you inclined to wait til they...|||Thanks so much, guys. I certainly don't plan to be accusatory. Actually, I now plan to text her back something like wow, your hair looks amazing; it will be stunning on your wedding day! Hey... so...|||Somebody, please help me with a very awkward situation. I could use some INFJ insights here.   The short version: I have been friends with a woman for the last 4 years; we hang out regularly as...|||Well that makes me cringe!! Seems to ring true with other INTJ's I have known, though. ouch.|||I appreciate everybody's answers. To answer the comments that I seem overly interested in INTJ men: I am genuinely interested in learning how INTJ men act as a baseline, because they're supposed to...|||Really helpful insights, Paradox07 and Figure. I'm literally going to copy/paste your posts to my notepad so I don't lose them, if I ever forget this stuff. ;) Thanks so much!|||Something I've noticed from reading about INTJs is that they seem very forthright. They don't like to flirt because its too ambiguous/uncomfortable... they would rather be direct and not waste time....|||Thank is very enlightening... thanks for all the feedback.|||This sounds like a kinda fine line. For instance, an INTJ I know told me he desires to feel like a man in his relationships. In other words, not emasculated. He's a very masculine guy (whew, that's...|||So how might one express this appreciation though? By being silent, or simply not criticizing...? Because once appreciation is made known, how is that different from expressing support?|||As the title says... do INTJs (men, specifically) desire a supportive partner? Somebody who will listen to them, be with them in their corner when the world is weighing heavy on them, etc? Do INTJ...|||I am trying to hone my ability to spot an INTJ man. How about BJ Miller in this video? Share your thoughts!  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HBGtLZHKgZI|||Thank you (both!) for taking time to reply... RexMaximus, yeah the way you described how you are when you're uncomfortable was def him. WhiteJester, we have talked before and he never did any of...|||I have skyped a couple of times with a guy I met on a dating site, and we really seemed to hit it off on day 1. However, last time we Skyped I noticed him touching his face/neck a LOT, and quite...|||I am devastated.  One of my very best friends is getting married, I'm helping plan the wedding, but she did not ask me to be a bridesmaid. (?!?!?!) (sorry, my title of this post was incorrect. I am...|||I'm dating a man, late 20's, very good looking, but has generally low self-esteem. He has difficulty making small talk and is rather awkward when he's nervous. (Some of you may recognize this man...|||Thank you for such a thoughtful reply. I do try to build him up and reassure him I am happy spending time together, etc... that being said, it's hard to rubber stamp his every statement, because...|||He had a gravely serious setback some years ago, and it impacted his ability to move on with life. It took him a long time, perhaps longer than some people, but I am still uncertain of all the...|||Hello everyone,  I want to know what is the best/kindest/most effective way I can help an ISFJ man overcome his insecurities. We are both in late 20's.  He seems to think the best of everyone...|||I am a female INFJ dating a male ISFJ, and trying to understand our similarities/differences.  As somebody who is highly intuitive, I'm somebody who is always analyzing people, situations, and...|||I am an INFJ, and have known a few INFJ men in my life.  While they are the most admirable people I have ever met, they are all, to one degree or another, uptight.  If you show them where their...|||I would appreciate some input, especially from INFJ guys. :)  1) Under what circumstances would you ever tell a girl thinking of you? Would you say this to a casual friend, or would you only...|||Awww, this was totally the kind of response I was looking for. I knew there had to be some good reasons. This just made me feel much better. You sound like a good guy with a good heart, just...|||I appreciate anyone who replies to my question. I am not sure why anyone would assume I haven't asked him, just because I post about it here? I have indeed asked him, this morning by email, and...|||Some of you may have read my recent post about my new relationship with an INFJ man. We are both in late 20's, and both are INFJ.  I was shocked when he told me recently that he had never been on a...|||This really made me smile... thanks for the great advice, PlsTryAgain, and everyone else who responded!  To the poster who seems to think I'm a stuck-up priss who wants a fairytale man, that is not...|||I am in a new relationship (2 weeks) with an INFJ man, who I've known for two months. I am also an INFJ. We are both in late 20's.  Even though we have some really important things in common, and...|||For the longest time I was the suffering wallflower, especially at very bustling parties.   But I have since become a lot more at ease with myself, and can really enjoy myself... only if I know at...|||Start realizing the value of your own advice. Don't be shy, and don't suppress the urge to contribute something that *is* (because it is IS) truly useful.|||I am wondering how many other INFJs are at home on a Friday night because it's too tiring to hang out with people who leave you mentally and emotionally drained. Prefer staying in this weekend,...|||52028I5202752026 I am pretty new to having discussions with other INFJs, especially online.   It's really cool to me how I can feel how you all are so INFJ... almost like seeing aspects of...|||Ethylester and Raichan: thank you for your insights.  I just wanted to post an update... I took various bits of advice from different responses I got here, and decided to text him (was a hard pride...|||Raichan -- We dated long distance for two years (he was in the military). He's back now and lives 5 hours away from me; we have seen each other in person just three times, but have talked every day...|||I need a little insight; am going crazy inside my head right now.  So this INFP guy I've known/dated for about two years (not officially bf) is ignoring my texts for 1.5 days now. I just don't know...|||Thank you for the reply, Theodore. As for this guy (let's call him Tim) he has told me numerous times that he knows what he wants to say but doesn't know how to say it. I hate to say it, but...|||So I started dating an INFP several months ago... at least, I am 99.99% positive he is INFP, based on my past friendships/relationships with other INFPs. He is not extremely introverted, he even...|||The title basically says it: I know INFPs are typically slow to reveal their true selves. So what does it take for you to relax, let her in, and develop a deep mental/emotional connection?|||I am writing a paper, and have a couple of question for the INFP guys, please!  1) Your girlfriend breaks up with you. How soon are you able to begin looking around for somebody new? How long does...|||Basementbugs, I'm so sorry... I have always been somewhat aware, in my INFP relationships, that you are a gentler, more sensitive kind of people. Very lovely, actually, but not enough people know how...|||Do they ever work out in the end?  I have dated a couple of INFPs, both incredibly sweet lovers... which always fulfilled my nurturing, loving side... but they were both very laid-back about day to...|||Can anybody relate some insight into the mind of an INFP child growing up in a broken family? How does an INFP man view women, as an adult, if he was raised by a neglectful/promiscuous mother? Also...|||I am an INFJ lady who was recently seeing an INFP man.   I will make this short as possible. Let's call the guy Tim. He is a *wonderful* person, but I decided we didn't have enough in common -...'