'I've landed one of those professional, managerial-type jobs with a big learning curve. Exciting, for sure!  The thing I keep running into, though, is that while trying to close the gap and learn...|||This is my experience (and my boyfriend's) as well. And I've never been good at putting on an act. Makes me so tired....  When our organization got flipped upside down last year, two people who put...|||That's what I want, yes!!!|||YES. I do not understand how people listen to the music they listen to. It can put me in a funk all day if I'm not careful. Sometimes I avoid certain grocery stores because I know they'll be playing...|||Hey, lovely people. If you want to skip the long story, just read the bottom (Anyway, tl;dr.)   So, I met this ISFJ guy a few years ago - he was my boyfriend's good friend, and they had moved to...|||I'm on my second professional job, and if there's one thing I learned from the last one and the people around me, it's that you can't escape office politics if you want to succeed. My instinct (and...|||I've been through something similar. Up until now, the longest I'd ever dated someone was six months. I went through some rough stuff in high school, and let myself be seriously mistreated by men...|||Ha! You sound like me, and I'm definitely an INFP.  I have an INFP friend who is very different from me as well. You have to remember that MBTI doesn't define everything about a person. Even the...|||Agree with pmj85 - don't give it too much thought. If anything, MBTI could be a tool to better understand each other's expectations and behaviors, but it can easily be taken too far. I think it can...|||MBTI is about preference and dominant functions. Some people get confused and test as a different type because they see themselves in all the answers (i.e. Do you make decisions based on logic, or...|||My best friend in high school and I were totally joined at the hip for the majority of our time there, and she was probably an ESTP, by my guess. It was a lot of fun, but eventually she got tired of...|||Like many others have said, I don't see anything inherently wrong with polyamory. I'm not religious, and I don't think I have the authority to decide what's best for others.   That said, I've...|||A fairly common thing to hear when people have a conversation about art (at least in my city) is how impressed they are by the numbers. For instance, That took two hundred hours. Wow! Or, He used...|||Well, I'm not good with kids (I actually really hate working with children), but my INTJ boyfriend taught a class last summer and he seemed to do an excellent job (despite not being typically good...|||I felt the same way, except with a lot more thank god it's over. I wasn't surprised by it, personally, as high school itself was just something I was impatiently getting through, not really...|||Yes, this!!  I've been with my INTJ boyfriend for two years now, but when we first got to know each other, I hated him! It was a bizarrely Pride & Prejudice type of experience. Like many people he...|||I think this is absolutely what's happening. I am not a very trusting person, and sometimes when I'm feeling low, I can see cruel intentions or darker motivations when none are there. He has never...|||This was so helpful - thank you. I want to print this off and put it on my wall. I have actually bookmarked it and will come back to it. And you obviously know an INFP - those imaginary...|||Yeah, fictional detectives? Of course! Twin Peaks, X Files, Silence of the Lambs... so many crushes.   For an INFP I can see why we'd be attracted to certain kinds of detectives. If they really are...|||Oh, man. You just described a thing I used to do, too. Personally, I let myself get sucked into fandom for a few years (so not even characters of my own making, really) and I dove so deep that I...|||As for plot: same here! Plot almost never comes naturally to me. I think that's because so rarely do I care, as a consumer, about what is happening; I care about how it's told, or what is being said...|||Oh, man. I got so tied up in knots during art school. My last semester, I already knew I didn't want to be a painter after all, but I wanted to finish up to get the degree (and to complete what I set...|||Lately, when my long-term INTJ boyfriend and I try to talk about our artistic tastes (art, music, film, etc) it devolves into an argument, hurt feelings, and frustration. This was not always the case...|||It feels right to me. Satisfying. The truth doesn't have to be beautiful - that's not its deal.   Although, by the dictionary definition of pleasing to the mind or senses aesthetically, it...|||Friends of mine tend to occasionally reveal biases against certain groups of people, and that always baffles me - I think because I tend not to think of people in terms of groups. This might be more...|||I was put in Gryffindor, and it really surprised me. I was expecting Slytherin. I tell people, Isn't that just crazy? The test must be whack. But secretly I'm pleased.|||I've always thought that too!! His theories make me roll my eyes more often than not, especially since, as such an accomplished psychologist, he might have considered that he was projecting an awful...|||Ooh. :S I don't think this has to do with MBTI, honestly. It sounds like he's what they call emotionally unavailable.   What do you think would happen if you told him you needed something in...|||Well, for me it happened less than two months ago, so I don't have much perspective. But I'm pleasantly surprised by just how much more confident (and happy) I feel already. I've always craved...|||I think what it is is that we know a valuable thing when we see it. True love could be viewed as one of our causes, too. I find myself working immensely hard to help a relationship flourish if I...|||Not anymore, but I used to. In high school, if someone I didn't know asked me the simplest thing, like, What was #3 on the homework? I'd panic and my throat would close up, and I couldn't...|||I think it's likely that at some point I might want to go back to right now - my early 20s. While there's a lot to learn and a lot of new things to deal with and figure out, I'm pretty sure I'm...|||Haha, I feel a little odd saying this, but with several approved male friends of mine, literally anything goes. I guess that sort of turns things into friends with benefits rather than just...|||Actually, the odds are quite high. No matter who you are and what measures you take to counteract it, friendships fade. I know it's not what you want to hear, but sometimes despite everyone's best...|||I don't officially identify as anything, but I feel like I'm both towards the middle of the gender spectrum and that I mix or move between traditional genders. I will say that although I'm...|||Let me propose something.   You told one person how you felt about them, they ended up leaving. It likely had nothing to do with you telling them how you felt. The next time you told someone how...|||I think it's a bit of both. Since there aren't as many people out there who share the exact order of our cognitive functions, we probably do react differently to a lot of things, process information...|||Hmm. I guess I'm a little confused as to what you mean. I'm not a conservative INFP, I'm pretty moderate/liberal. But I'm mostly curious as to why you're asking. Do you know an INFP and are curious...|||I always wonder about this!|||I am not REMOTELY a cautious driver. I am not incredibly aggressive, more like sometimes reckless and careless. I'll admit it. My sister, who is an INFJ, is an EXTREMELY cautious driver, on the other...|||I remember thinking I had AvPD in high school. Some (therapists) would argue that no one can cure themselves from any real personality disorder, so perhaps I just had severe social anxiety and...|||You know, I used to? But not anymore.  When I was in elementary school I was obsessed with fantasy novels: Lord of the Rings, Wheel of Time, Madeline L'Engle's series, Harry Potter, etc. I wished...|||Hmm hmm hmmm....  1) I love how laid-back and fun-loving I can be.  2) I love how self-aware I am. I love that I can look at the dark parts of myself, or the weak parts, and be honest and upfront...|||Anytime I see or hear the word jealousy I get that song in my head.|||When I'm feeling healthy and secure in myself, it's not easy per se, but it's easier, and tends to happen more often. When I'm not feeling secure, I often pretend I don't like anyone and don't...|||The more I read posts on this forum about what it means to be an INFP, the more I start to realize just how much I've numbed myself over the last few years. I read things about how you are...|||This is really good advice. I'm not a 2, I'm a 4, but I had a very close friend who was an INFP 2. It frustrated me that he would never allow himself to admit when he was feeling like anything but...|||I can see where that would be frustrating. I actually had a similar set up at my workplace about a month ago, and their solution was to take me off the project completely. Which... I mean, if they...|||Um, I'm guessing this is, lol.   I once belonged to a club at school that was related to my major. We had planned a couple projects and everyone had a relatively equal amount of input. Everyone was...|||I love this short! I'd forgotten about it!   It reminded me of INFP when I first saw it, especially the part at the end, where he's looking up at the stars and you know his mind is somewhere else....'