'I'm currently dating an ISFP and it's the most magical relationship I've ever been in, especially after consistently dating ISTPs who I am super drawn to but everything I love about them ends up...|||A frequent point of frustration for my ISTP is my tendency to want to edit my opinion or incorporate relevant opinions/data into my own -- in other words, harmonizing with other's opinions. It...|||I'm with an ISTP!  Good lord, it has taken a solid 2 years to get him to open up to my minimum emotional transparency level. But the patience is worth it. It just keeps getting better in terms of...|||I agree that my level of control is entirely situational... If I am with inner circle people, there is no filtering. I get manically excited pretty often without restraint and I cry when I'm happy...|||I am amused that only an ENFP and INTJ have managed to do this for you, as is the case for me as well!  I do this sometimes. Mostly because I am deathly afraid of being perceived as needy and...|||Haaaa, I DO have a difficult time noticing those things because it's not my default communication method. I do my best because I want to be an appreciative and affirming partner, but you are correct...|||Poko Yes! I can totally see how suuuuuuuure.........? has been used when there's lots of skepticism and little interest xD Well....ARE you emotionally stunted in comparison??  Aquc Hmm, I'll have...|||Thank you so much for that! You have no idea how important that was for me to read, really.  I've already created a separate file in my head on how to read and deal with ISTPs as opposed to what...|||THIS, THIS! Why?! Is this related to Fe being inferior, you think? Also, pardon the haphazard exclamation marks but it's something I'd noticed and it was something that I'm going to really have to...|||Oh my gosh! You do this too?! This is something I struggle with. Sometimes it seems like my ISTP is not enthusiastic about something I suggest because he says sure to almost everything. And so I...|||Ahhh! I'm glad you have that in a friend! I most definitely feel that way about my ISTP friends. I see and feel that they are equally as caring, not necessarily as sensitive, but there is this...|||G'rawr! Can I just say I feel the warmest of fuzzies for you? And I wish you the best!  Yes...I have some control issues. I like to *know* a lot of things and sometimes no matter how many...|||Goodness! I can see now why things in my relationship have played out the way they have! Haha too true...there have been times where I despaired because I kept running into many layers of emotional...|||It makes me so sad, particularly on the ISTP Facebook group, that there's so much hostility towards ENFJs as a type. My guess is that they have only come across immature and uncompromising ENFJs in...|||Also: After having my very first conversation with an INFJ within the passed two days. I was wholly unaware of the typing at first but we kept going back and forth, very surface level. Kind of like...|||Did I answer your question? Or should I think about this further, elaborate and/or clarify?|||smallpeas That's interesting, this sense of reciprocity you speak of. Perhaps we are that much more sensitive to rejection. Our idea of self is partly related to how we are evaluated by those...|||Agreed. And like Ringer said we want to be trusting.  I want to talk to everyone that will listen to me about my innermost thoughts and feelings. Seriously, if I could I would. But not everyone is...|||Both. I don't wear my heart on my sleeve. My heart is tougher to reach and is only given when someone is deemed safe.  Positive emotions like happiness, excitement and wonder, and confidence I let...|||Ha! I love your responses!  I was mostly quiet and always observing adults and listening to their conversations. Around my family members I always asked why, but my dad's side of the family was...|||I second the request for a specific example.  I also ask tons of questions dancing around an answer to a question I'm thinking of, but not the actual question, which to others would appear as...|||Furry pajama pants: They're like hugs for your legs!|||AHAHAHA! This is exactly what my ISTP says. I've got a little ways to go in the self-confidence department which eventually stabilizes the batshit craziness of the ENFJ. Watching me progress from a...|||You know, I don't believe age has anything to do with emotional maturity. Cognitive development, yes, but I have seen some very stable young people that have it more together than those in their...|||I can just imagine my poor counselor! He/she will probably just feel totally bull-dozed.  Here are my problems, I don't need help identifying them. Here are my childhood traumas that led me to...|||Ooh! Freezeframe, I do have friends that I talk to but we're in the same boat and kinda run ourselves in circles...The other one I'm pretty sure is a highly functioning sociopath, to quote Sherlock...|||Isolation is needed to a certain extent to introspect, yes. But what do you do to prevent yourself from introspecting too much and mood-swinging all over the place? Just...pep-talk yourself?|||niffer  It's good to know I'm not actually crazy and it just seems like it when comparing myself to relatively unreactive ISTPs -.- Not so good that you're going through it too...I just have hope...|||For the past two years it seems like my life has been completely shaken up and I haven't been able to find my center of gravity. I met a man, fell in love, broke up but we are still emotionally...|||I think that how much an NFJ reveals to you and how quickly definitely has to do with maturity and experience dealing with different types of people; I'm even more convinced.  I understand what is...|||I think the lack of trust presently arises from experiences since childhood.  **I really dislike speaking for the entirety of the ENFJ population because I am only one person, so forgive me for...|||Crikey! That's exactly what I've been trying to get at. Thank you for being more succinct.|||Ahhhh, I see where your confusion would come in. *I* happen to be a really assertive female. I choose my men, not the other way around and over the years I've learned to just tell who I'm interested...|||@x1nfamousx Which is why the golden rule of thumb for knowing if you can  trust is, is whether or not we can trust you! If we open up to you, chances are we won't hide our feelings -- at least not...|||smallpeas  Sometimes I don't know my own feelings about things. Or concepts. But I know how I feel about people after reflecting. Also in response to how do you know if I'm acting on my feelings...|||Success stories? Ehhh, more like success, failure, work-in-progress! I dated an ISTP for a year but broke up about 5 months ago (kind of my fault for pushing him into a corner) and decided to remain...|||^^^^THIS was beautiful. We go to the source.  I only get into relationships because I believe it's for the long haul, now. If the relationship is going to compromise my emotional health or my...|||She does! I so relate! Sometimes I need to remind myself that people don't like being stared at so intensely, so if they look away when they look back at me, I'll look away briefly so that they're...|||23 you say? Assuming he started around 18 that gives him five or sixish years of opportunity. At least 5 people a year. To me, that doesn't sound bad. Because there have been times in my life were I...|||Night of The Wolf by Nox Arcana!  Because sometimes I like to pretend there's evil afoot and I'm about to banish it too hell along with my Genetics homework.  ...|||As a Hispanic woman interested in pursuing a surgical profession, I completely agree that all of these things are still very much present in today's society and continue to plague us as a whole. In...|||I know two ISTJs. One of them we've had a rocky friendship for 5 years. At first I felt really unappreciated by him because he would ignore me when I was too excited, basically anytime I was...|||Oh my goodness! This post! It's so accurate. I have an INTJ best friend and we get along so well! But it doesn't appear that way to other people because we rag on each other like none other. One...|||It only gets tiresome when you give to those who don't reciprocate or show any appreciation for what you've given, be it time, compassion or a favor.  This only happened to me when I was in younger...|||Yes! Type 2w3 and I'm a perfectionist so I compete with everyone around me and with myself to always be the best that I can be--and that better be as close to perfect as possible. This is manifest...|||Aquc That's strange! (ha, sorry you guys just keep reminding me about things here and there)  What I love about my ISTPs are that they are the most descriptive complimentors! One of them does so...|||YES! My ISTP doesn't know about Myers Briggs and showed only passing curiosity but he explains himself to me so well, when I ask the right questions. This is probably the hardest thing for me to...|||When stressed, I've been told it physically manifests itself as taughtness all over. I move rigidly, more quiet and less expressive. My friends usually know that the second I stop talking or asking...|||A shame, indeed. There's always residency, you never really know where you'll end up...Hooray! I so look forward to being shipped around the U.S  Also, there's no reason why we can't talk :D|||ickle Goodness! What made you decide to change your mind about medschool, if you don't mind my asking? And what are you doing now?   I hope no one minds my very pointed questions >.<'