'Thanks for the compliment and welcome, Niss. I may lurk from time to time :)|||Yes, in my experience, when having emotions about big things that require analyzation or thinking through, I will be pretty emotionless until I've decided how to deal with it or understood why I felt...|||My advice when you do have your talk is try not to be overly emotional and ask him for the truth, explaining that understanding is the only thing that will help your relationship / or if it's over,...|||Yeah, we are. All of my serious relationships have been with FPs too. I dated an ISFP for 3 years, then an ENFP for a year, and then this ISFP this year. Also my bro and dad are ISFP so I have a lot...|||Yeah, I've come to the conclusions that he still hasn't dealt with his feelings in his past relationships which have all ended up blowing up in his face pretty badly.  I realized that he had said...|||Yeah, the past few days have been hard. It would be easier if he could tell me that there WAS something wrong with us. He says he got a feeling that he didn't want to marry me at that point (and...|||Hey all,  I've come across a rather odd scenario with an ISFP and I wanted to hear your insight on what you think you would be feeling in a scenario like this. Any opinions are appreciated.  I...|||ISTJ with ISFP. 4 months, but our connection is wild. I feel like I've found my soul mate. And I didn't believe in soul mates before...|||Being full of yourself is a combination of having insecurity about yourself while simultaneously seeing your abilities as defining you and needing to be superior to others around you. In this sense,...|||Deleted|||NylonNeonLeon That's extremely admirable for you to have already pieced together the flaws of being a young ISTJ. You are exactly right and with time and with that awesome brain of yours, you will...|||I can speak as a workaholic ISTJ. I have 3 jobs and am a student in college still. Work makes me feel good about myself. Like I can achieve things and am desired for my skill sets. However, when I've...|||So I've been digging this guy for a while but things are complicated. I'm pretty sure he is an ISFP.  I met him years ago during high school, but now 6-7 years later, we hung out through a mutual...|||I've cheated before several times in school. Honestly, if the content doesn't matter, I'm not going to use it again, then I don't feel like it really matters. As long as I learn the material that is...|||When people treat me or people I care about with disrespect. I will give them a piece of my mind.|||I definitely get an INFJ reading and my best friend is an INFJ. You seem organized and planning oriented / responsible, which seems J to me.   The first thing that stuck out to me was your...|||I have pretty high self esteem. My mom, who is also an ISTJ, suffers from lower self esteem.   For me, I get low self-esteem when I see a pattern of mistakes that I've made. I feel like i'm in a...|||Lack of creative thought. No one is taught to think anymore. Information is there but kids aren't learning the skills of coming to thoughts on their own or thinking deeply.|||I get into this thing where I feel weird and I look at the events to see what the catalyst was. Even if deep down I know what the catalyst is, I get into the habit of telling myself You shouldn't...|||ISTJs want to prove how awesome we are. Also as a gamer women, we're used to men seeing us as inferior gamers. Don't show her that you buy into that stereotype.   We are competitive. It's fine to...|||In my experience, commitment isn't the problem for ISTJs. It's overcommitment. She tried to balance too many things and can't handle the stress. She has prioritized and decided to cut you out. She...|||Krisena - I share this situation with you. My best friend is an INFJ and our relationship works for the same reasons you said yours does. You have to have mutual respect and understanding for each...|||Set One:  1: How old are you? 24  2: What was your favorite subject in grammar school? Grammar school?  3: What did you want to be when you grew up? Teacher  4: Do you enjoy reading? If so,...|||I loved Lincoln Logs and LEGOs equally.  Video games, I do like RPGs and strategy. I love civilization V, might and magic, I also played World of Warcraft in a hard core guild back in the day.  I...|||This is EXACTLY how I feel. I think ISTJs are great, I mean, I am one, but I don't need to be with someone who is thinks JUST like me. I like the balance of being with someone different than me and I...|||I'm very good with money. I rarely spend money on things I don't need or items I haven't researched and am not sure how useful it will be to me.   I got my first credit card about a year ago and...|||Yeah, I don't think I should worry about it I suppose.   Here's a question though: I've been pretty open about sexual stuff with him. I make a lot of dirty jokes (It's partially how I flirt, but...|||Sorry if I typed it confusingly!  We were on a date, went back to his place to chill for a while and while we were there talking on the couch, he looked at his phone and texted someone for a second...|||Hi all,  I just went on a first date with an ISFJ male whom I met at a party last month. We had been talking online quite a lot (didn't hang out because he was studying for a grad test) but when he...|||Smart! Less than you'd think heh. :P About 1/3 on pages 1 and 2. Then you get into all the personalitycafe stuff and it's all me lol.|||Ask her what you want to know. Be straightforward. Don't try and figure it out and make any assumptions, that usually leads to feelers not knowing at all what I really mean and turns into them being...|||Makes me think of a trip I took with my family to San Francisco. Further, the lighting would make me think of when we went to NYC.|||Yes. I play and teach piano for a living. I also create and arrange music. I also took tons of art classes as a kid and love to draw and paint.|||I actually played WoW competitively back in the day and made a shadow priest character (They use a lot of spells that start with the word 'mind like mind control, mind blast, mind flat, etc) so I...|||@snowbell Yes, I'm aware there are two s's. And like any ISTJ, there is a reason for this.|||My personal theory is that you are genetically disposed to perceive in a certain way, and could go either way but may be more likely if both parents are Ns or S, etc. A lot of families I've seen,...|||I'm obviously going on basic trends. Not all P types are fluttering around without a plan or drive to complete tasks, but you'll see this is much more prevalent in males under 25 who are P types than...|||I've learned the same thing about the people I've dated. I dated an ISFP and an ENFP seriously and they helped me out of my comfort zone and taught me to be more relaxed and enjoy life more. Now i...|||It's not that it's an F thing to not have ideas, FPs are just less likely to put the details together to make it happen. That defaults to us lol.|||I redirected this thread into the cognitive functions forum instead. I think it belongs more there, just wanted to see what my ISTJ friends thought!   Reposted here:...|||I've noticed that the direction isn't really important. A lot of Ni people will do it in all kinds of directions. It's the same glazed over dreamy look though that distinguishes it. The Si look is a...|||There is some sound advice in there, but it's funny to me the things you think that sensors like haha. Mainly Extroverted sensors are going to be the ones who want the club or bar scene or enjoy...|||Absolutely. Every relationship is going to have it's problems / troubles / issues. Even two very similar types will find something to argue about. It's just at what point is the person / relationship...|||I'm glad you've found it useful! I've been confirming this for a few years now and it's always proven true to the people that I have 100% typed. I also catch myself doing Si eye movement ALL the...|||It's true that sometimes we can be short sighted in our thinking, but you can't deny that we get things done, (albeit in ways we know they will get done) and fast. We don't spend a lot of time...|||Thank you all for your words of encouragement! I appreciate it and it gives me some inner peace.|||I'm the youngest and still nostalgic. I don't think birth order has anything to do with it.|||As I get older, I get more and more nostalgic. I'm about to turn 24 which I know isn't old, but I catch myself looking through my old facebook pictures and statuses looking on the past several times...|||One of my friends was actually mad at me for NOT crying about a big break up. I eventually did, but it took me about 4 days. ISTJs HATE to cry, it takes something like a big emotional upheaval to get...|||1. Intellectual Stimulation / Be able to show me points of view I can't see on my own (so someone who thinks differently than me) 2. Someone to help me navigate social situations better 3. Goal...'