'Identified with her in the situation she opened up about.|||I made it a while ago, but I think it was something like 2 parts cornstarch to 1 part cocoa powder, and I put cinnamon in there for color.|||I love jewelry and fashion, though I won't sacrifice comfort. For instance, I rarely wear heels for two reasons: they're uncomfortable, and I'm just about six feet tall. Heels make me stand out more...|||Maybe you could befriend her and feel out the situation a little more? Since you're not sure if it's laughing or crying? Maybe you could help her indirectly just by being a presence.|||I think I met another INFJ this weekend. It was interesting. She opened up at one point, but just a little, and I realized she was indirectly asking if I identified. I don't know much about her. She...|||I can identify with this, especially with a stranger. I think it could be because I have my guard up.  I also suspect one of my sons is a similar personality (too young to really type though), and...|||Sounds like you've gotten into a good place in how you're thinking about this. Not responding to someone you've known for so long takes guts, no doubt. I understand not wanting to give up on him....|||There's no series of questions to ask that can get him to open up. It's almost like you're trying to figure out how to get to him, so you can convince him... If I ask my ISTJ husband what he's...|||The different ways to journal described in these responses is inspiring.  I like the idea of naming each journal.  I journal. If I don't do it for a while, my thoughts get tangled up. My journals...|||Realized I neglected to mention in my comment that I ended up marrying a different STJ. I have a really hard time nailing down the E/I part of both of our personalities. Maybe the fact that we're...|||Welcome!  This situation is eerily familiar. An INFP liked me. I liked him back. We were an unofficial thing. My feelings for him fizzled.  A few months later, he came back and asked if I liked...|||I take care of the finances at our house too. And he loathes doing finances for his business, though he seems to prefer that over dealing with customers.  Wanting to get things done WITH us.......|||I realize this is addressed to ISTJs, but there's some INFJ-ness that's gone awry here.     It's okay for it to not be fine with you. And it would be okay for it to not be fine for him to use you...|||YES! She runs even further with the metaphor!! :laughing: I do love cake... metaphorically and literally.   Now I'm craving cake.|||I love this. I keep thinking about it, running with the metaphor.  The mundane: the cold cereal, the peanut butter sandwiches, the routine casseroles... even the hunger in life, the doing...|||This. Yes. And if I'm pressed to react without processing, prepare for disorganized verbal vomit. I filled a journal, then had to wait for my new one to arrive in the mail. I felt like the postman...|||You're definitely right.  It's better to be single than to commit yourself to someone who doesn't get you, won't accept you, doesn't love you, makes you feel worthless. Be single. Get healthy. Shut...|||This.  So much. Don't squelch your emotions. It's like when one knows they need to lose weight to be healthy, and starts out by trying to squeeze into skinny jeans. Emotions aren't processed by...|||Me too!! Don't we all?  You're right--opinions are nothing new. It's the impulse to voice every single one of them that drives me crazy. I believe this problem is exacerbated by social media.|||I can offer my experience. It wasn't me who was sick, but my son. We had a limited amount of time with him, and my mother came to help me. In contrast to the stark reality of his diagnosis, she...|||Romance has required me to become more aware of my own thoughts and feelings, to learn how to voice them. Otherwise, we becomes this pendulum swing between him and my occasional explosions of...|||This is advice I'd have given my younger self:  Hush. Just because you think you know doesn't mean you know. Presence and silence are precious and powerful.   You're just as special and beautiful...|||I have several rational-type friends, and I'm married to an ISTJ. So I don't find the type, as a whole, annoying. I do find the tendency to shoot down my ideas is annoying. Also, the tendency to want...|||Dear ISTJ, darling man,  Thank you for setting out my coffee cup with a pre-loaded K-cup this morning before you went to work. It was the first thing I saw when I walked into the kitchen....|||Forum search isn't necessary to see INFP/ENFJ posts--they're all right there in plain view with no need to search. I think it has more to do with wanting to talk out their specific situation, which I...|||Somebody who has a better understanding of determining type using cognitive functions, enlighten me. Why is cognitive functions testing considered the way to determine extroversion/introversion? All...|||Thinking the same thing. They're taking over.|||Thoughts from an INFJ surrounded by STJs (husband and a lot of his friends/coworkers)...  First impressions of ISTJs are almost always incomplete,  especially if they're at work.  I get a quick...|||I'm about *this* close to changing into that shiny new coat. I took a cognitive functions test a few weeks ago, and it was ENFJ. I've always been very reserved, and I do need time alone to gain...|||I don't think it's so much a proximity thing. I don't know if it was that my emotions about the whole thing were too much to handle--I can't pretend to know her motivations, but if I were to guess......|||When I was dating my now-husband, I was head of female staff for a non-profit. Time with him was refreshing, replenishing for me. It gave me a chance to step back from my responsibilities with...|||...when you're wronged, and you know the offending party needs to be confronted, but you think the situation inside out, predicting reactions and planning responses, until you're convinced it won't...|||They probably just know that you hate surprises and wouldn't enjoy it :cool:|||This is similar to my reaction! I was genuinely shocked and so appreciative that they would all gather to celebrate with me. But I had no idea what to say or do. And everyone was staring and smiling....|||The other day, I got genuinely but uncharacteristically upset because a wide load was driving down the highway without the proper flags and without an escorting vehicle. Totally illegal. I didn't...|||I think parenting causes me to lose some objectivity toward my children. I think it's by design, for the sake of their survival. I change their crappy diapers, get up with them in the middle of the...|||Have you ever had a surprise party thrown for you? How did you react? If not, how do you think you might react if someone were to throw one for you? I'm particularly interested in INFJ reactions, but...|||I sat down yesterday to try and answer this, and kept getting interrupted by my children, haha! I enjoy being a mother. It's messy and crazy and stretching and exhausting, but I feel like it's the...|||Oh! Got it! If we were in person, I would have caught that. :laughing:|||No, I don't think so.  I didn't marry The One. He became The One, my soulmate, when we committed to till death do us part. I think I could have married anyone. He could have married anyone, and...|||First of all, there's no such thing as a flaw-free person. So this idea is hard to wrap my mind around.  I would not find someone who had flaws that made it difficult for him to realize his full...|||Dear ESTJ mother-in-law,  Thanks for your kindness. Kinda makes me feel like you've accepted that I'm a permanent part of your son's life. Took you long enough.  -Your INFJ daughter-in-law ...|||It does seem like trying to get your family to understand how you were hurt is futile. I don't know if bury is the right thing to do... but certainly, it seems no real resolution can happen with...|||If that's the case, definitely wait to confess your feelings. I think she probably does like you, from what you've shared. But she may not know that for herself quite yet, given the fact that she's...|||Your value does not lie in your performance. My advice is to learn where your value does lie. And keep going to therapy and taking your medication.  You fear the hatred of others. You sob over your...|||I think we've connected in the past over our ISTJ/INFJ marriages... I'm sorry you're going through this. We had some trouble with my husband's parents several years ago, and we ceased communication...|||Yeah this has gone beyond an ENFJ thing into just plain unhealthy. Being mean to someone one likes is what junior high kids do. Immature and unacceptable.  Also the ENFJ stereotype of acting...|||This.  Just because someone shoots down my ideas doesn't mean that I shouldn't follow through. I have good ideas. They're wild, but they're good, and I make them happen. It's hard to get past that...|||I personally reserve confrontation for two reasons: to improve a relationship I want to continue or to stop negative behavior that is directly affecting me or people for whom I am responsible. This...|||As an encouragement, I said I wasn't open to a relationship the first time my husband confessed his feelings for me. It wasn't a, No, absolutely not. I am not interested. I remember I told him I...'