'Hi  @Fathom ,  I am sorry you are feeling stressed out and turbulent. I know that is a difficult place to be.  Your question is a really complex one, and I have five or six different thoughts...|||I'm 8 months into my second long-term relationship with an ENFP. My first one lasted two years, was amazing when it was good and a nightmare when bad, and eventually devastated both of us.   I...|||Devil!|||This is gonna sound corny as hell but I'll say it because it's true... no one can really love you until you love yourself. Because at the end of the day you won't let people love you, and you won't...|||Dear INFP,  You strange, lovely girl. I have no idea what you are thinking. I don't think you have, either.   Whether you are wearing black lipstick, frowning thoughtfully, and crossing your arms...|||Dear ENTP colleague,  It is a bizarre pleasure to sit next to you at work. I enjoy your pointless ramblings and witty rejoinders. I never know what you are going to talk about, or where the day's...|||Developing Fe... yeah, been working on that for 10+ years and still got a lot to go...  As an Fe-user, I pick up a lot of energy from other people that I don't know what to do with. When I don't...|||I'm sorry for what you've been through. I have also seen the way people avoid witnessing the despair of others. It's  to mask their own guilt and shame. We have to admit that we all do it at some...|||I agree it's unfortunate that INTJs are portrayed as robots. It makes it easy to overlook the deeply human and moral insights INTJs can provide with combined Ni-Fi. It also makes it more likely for...|||Hmmm, was going to respond earlier but am glad I waited, because now I have more of a sense of what you mean by politeness. I think I get what you're referring to. You're referring to the special...|||I know I've been on PerC too long when I let myself get triggered by idiots and am mean, callous and Judgey to everyone I care about.  Or can I really lose it that hard after being home for 8 days?...|||http://www.cookingforengineers.com/  This site makes me think of you guys. :)  I especially <3 the algorithms at the bottom of some of the recipes.  Recommend the lime-marinated grilled chicken...|||INFJ.  I have a BA in Anthropology with a minor in French language and literature.  I'm now doing a dual Master's in Social Work and Public Health.   It's a pretty good fit and I'd recommend it...|||Lemon ants Paper lollipop sticks Palolo (the sex organs of Samoan sea coral worms)  All manner of intestines…  A Midwestern “ambrosia” Conch is probably one of the strangest, chewiest things...|||Coming from an INFJ, just my two cents, this chick is not an ENTP troll. Way too sensitive and general lack of sense of humor.  This goes beyond normal. If I had to analyze, based on the levels of...|||Very much like what MrSlunk has to say.  I can't speak for all INFJS, but my experience:  Early 20s one-night-stands: Embarrassing, painful, and shameful. Usually happened drunk, and did not have...|||Hi Chad,  Good question. I think that Ni is hard to verbalize because the process is largely unintentional and spontaneous; we reach conclusions and generate ideas through a process of subconscious...|||I like to think that I'm adventurous AND (pseudo-)organized. So I can't have that ;)  I would say the main difference I've noticed between me and my P friends and ISFP ex-fiance include a J...|||I'm definitely Intuitive. Isn't dominant Ni the whole thing that distinguishes INFJs?  Frankly, the Ethical INFJ description seems so... un-INFJ to me. Dramatic? Loves to be the center of...|||OMG Yes yes yes! This is what initially attracts me to most ENTPs. I am polite and restrained by nature... so I am attracted to the opposite in others. Just be your hilarious, blunt self... please...|||I have an ENTP friend who has said that, to be frank, his main motive in life right now is to make money. He's a smart guy who dropped out of a PhD in Applied Mathematics, and I think he's feeling a...|||No, most of these don't have much to do with the development of Ti at all. They seem to have more to do with changes in how Fe is functioning.   My Ti doesn't really govern how I relate to other...|||Dear Self,  Please never forget the following basic rule of thumb with regard to jokes:   Funniness + Good taste = Acceptability   If you want a joke that's slightly offensive to go over well,...|||Dear ENTP auto mechanic old enough to be my father,  How much flirting/time spent in your shop/unnecessary personal phone calls are going to be required before you fix my car? I enjoy sipping...|||I don't believe in ghosts.  But I saw a bunch of them one summer when I was about 8 or 9. It was late at night and I was laying up in bed at a cabin where we were staying on vacation. I saw a pair...|||Yup, I know this feeling too well. Been here myself with several ENTPs. I think your insight and instincts are right on.  I think I was alarmed by the intensity of my attraction to them. ENTPs make...|||I practice Soto Zen Buddhism and I've done a 10-day Vipassana course as well.    Right, good point. The emotional angle is a more westernized and trendy take on meditation  than most traditional...|||I think you hit the nail right on the head. Meditation is NOT necessarily a relaxing experience, nor is it supposed to be, though it is being repackaged and sold as such for Western consumption as a...|||Dear INTJ,  Stop texting me you want goodnight kisses. If you want a kiss, you have to show up for the date first. I get that you're on a different time schedule and all, but last time I  checked,...|||This sounds lovely, however, a bit more like my ideal daydream of how I would respond than how I do respond.  1) If someone I'm close to and who I respect is cruel, I will be hurt and confused and...|||Ahhh :) Nice to see you, my friend.   FYI, your inbox is not accepting personal messages until you clear some space.|||LOL well-put; this encapsulates many of my relationships with INTJs, particularly males. I'm hopelessly attracted to them but do not trust them; there's something in that cold and scheming Te that...|||I was in a relationship with an INTP that was probably, looking back, one of the most satisfying, stimulating, and challenging of all my relationships. Also, the sex was hands-down the best I ever...|||A beautiful agony each waking moment...  Through valleys low, over summits steep,  Tripping once more, I stumble on.|||I think anyone can be a jerk. Personally I sometimes like NT-jerks because at least they can be  reasoned with and have a clear cause for jerkiness. NF jerks are  harder to deal with because the...|||Initially, validation from other INFJs to feel better about myself.  Now, mostly to understand my friends'/love interests'/acquaintances' types better so I can interact with them more successfully....|||LOL. I (and my fellow submissive, personality-lacking co-types) surrender!!|||I meditate regularly at a Zen center, and I am friends with several ENTPs who meditate regularly. I know they benefit a great deal from it.  If you think that meditation is about turning your...|||I think Juno was an ENTP, too. Also, pregnancy does weird things to people...|||Thanks OP for posting a topic I've always been interested in!  I second Sally and Jack from the Nightmare Before Christmas - Jack is my prototype for an ENTP! - and Calvin and Hobbes, and I could...|||https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nM10bm-Elvg|||Hello fellow INFJs,  It's no secret we have high standards, both for ourselves and often for the people we care about. I try to be  supportive of the important people in my life, but sometimes I...|||Yeah. Man. So you moved all the way down to be near her, and nothing comes  of it. And then it's pretty rocky and dramatic for a while, and now you're stuck, alone, in this new place, with a new...|||That's right on. There is a lot of internal conflict, and he totally sees and capitalizes on it. I hate feeling like I'm being mean, and I think he capitalizes on that too. But with - at least...|||Hey Melchiz,  I don't think it's rare for people to fall outside the lines at all. The 16 types are approximations based on clusters of traits - no one is exactly an INFJ. We all have tendencies...|||Hi Occam,  I found this article about dealing with nihilism. Is this what you're talking about?  Strategies for dealing with emotional nihilism - Less Wrong  It looks like a lot of the...|||I'm having some trouble with an overly-aggressive ENFJ guy friend of mine.   I'm just friends with him but he's got feelings for me. We hang out a lot, because I enjoy his company; he's one of the...|||Dear INTP,  You ask the most deceptively simple but profound questions. Do you ever get tired of being misunderstood?  I realize that we steamrolled over your point in class without giving it due...|||Sometimes when I'm in the library or at work I take my headphones off over and over again to check if anyone around me can hear the awful music I'm listening to. :tongue:|||I remember reading Les Miserables in study hall in 9th grade, and reaching the part where the soldiers finally corner Enjolras in the corner of the ABC cafe, and he stands up and makes this inspiring...'