'LOL, especially with my crazy strong Te huh? ;-)|||I promise I will think about it. :)|||I will definitely communicate with him. It probably won't be exactly your words, but I will definitely communicate in person and via text and handwritten letters. :) I just hope he gets the hint.|||Uhhh... very good point. Oh dear, the signals I'm sending him (that I thought were clear) are actually more complicated than I had originally thought. I *think* he knows I'm shy(?), since I'm pretty...|||Hmmm... do you guys think it's adorable when girls clam up?|||Gentleman and joe_the_buckeye, I suppose you guys are both right about him not being able to read my signals. I've realized that I have probably inadvertently sent him signals suggesting that I don't...|||Oh my gosh!! This ^ is SOOOOOO true for me too! All my friends (even close ones) think I'm super extroverted. The INFJ's I know (who are supposed to be able to read people) have always guessed that...|||The title of the thread is misleading. I have not figured out how to change it. I was originally typed as INFJ, but have had doubts because the description does not match me completely. However, I...|||Gentleman: I know ISTJ's are hesitant to take the initiative and are really, really bad at reading social signs. With this guy, though, I am trying to be as obvious as possible without outright...|||stargazing grasshopper: I have been reading that post at least once a week ever since I stumbled upon it months ago. :) It is an IMMENSELY helpful post for understanding ISTJ mentality.   ...|||To be honest, I am a bit uncomfortable with making him drive us to Bible study each week, because he has to drive 40 minutes out of his way. However, if I drive and pick him up, I barely have to...|||Thanks Epicyclic - would you mind explaining what you mean by trying to make a mile out of an inch?|||joe_the_buckeye: thanks for the suggestions - I will incorporate some inside jokes for sure. We definitely have a few of those. :)  Update: I had Bible study again today with this ISTJ. He opens up...|||This is why I usually emote through writing (letters). Otherwise, I can't even predict how bad of a leaky faucet I might turn into... :rolleyes: oh the joys of being an ISFJ...|||I definitely generally analyze everyone. But like johnson.han.3, I have learned to only care about my analyses of people I really, really care about. Those are the people that I waaaaaaaay...|||My inferior Ne drives me crazy. It makes me doubt myself, and generally, the more important the matter, the more I doubt myself. :frustrating: For example, I currently like this guy, and he does a...|||Thanks for the suggestion, Epicyclic. I won't include pictures of the two of us because I don't have any of those. We also haven't really been anywhere alone (just the two of us). I was thinking more...|||Thanks! I actually have a running list of all the little acts of service he's ever done for me and I will definitely pick a couple of the most memorable/funniest ones to include in that letter. :)|||Consolidated Potato: Yes, I might do both, especially taking into consideration the advice of joe_the_buckeye. Instead of making the letter-opening scenarios vague/emotionally charged, I think I...|||joe_the_buckeye - oh, I'll ISTJ it up a bit by handwriting it. :happy: I'm super traditional and am all up for handwritten notes. You think that's a good idea or am I taking it a step too far with...|||Lol,   johnson.han.3, I speak fluent sarcasm too, as evidenced by my Keep staring, that'll make me feel real good stick-my-foot-in-my-mouth moment. Generally, I like to think I have better...|||Thank you, you are very sweet. Care to infuse some of your E and N into that ISTJ for me? :)|||This ^ is why I am glad I came online and sought all your advice. Thank you so much for sharing,  chanteuse! As an ISFJ, I am much better at articulating my feelings, although I only choose to do so...|||Yes, I can already see exactly what you mean, chanteuse, although to give my ISTJ credit, I sense when he's stressed and am much quieter, but he still takes the initiative at those times to keep the...|||I should clarify that I am an ISFJ, and the title of the thread is incorrect (I haven't figured out how to change it). Sorry about that! But I do tend to read into other's feelings... try not to...|||stargazing grasshopper: thanks for your input! I agree that ISTJ's are not unemotional or cold - they do have lots of deep feelings, they're just not very good at expressing them. I can definitely...|||Thanks for the suggestions -  chanteuse, I'll consider being very straightforward. To be honest, I'm a very traditional girl, and I much prefer that the guy takes the initiative. However, I can see...|||johnson.han.3: love to get your thoughts! Thanks! :)  Update: Thank you, everyone, for your encouragement and advice. I confirmed with the ISTJ that he is indeed single. chanteuse, You were right....|||joe_the_buckeye! Ha ha ha. Well, I'm glad we hit it off well, as your Lengthy and Subjective Guide... was super helpful for me when I first started taking an interest in this guy (months ago) and...|||Thanks so much! Right now, I'm basically using baking for everyone at Bible study as an excuse to give him half of whatever I bake. I don't want him to feel awkward if I specifically bake for him. Do...|||johnson.han.3 - hahaha! I'm tempted wrap some space up and see what he says. Thanks for the awesome suggestions though! AriesLilith - I'm pretty straightforward when I communicate - I don't tend to...|||I am definitely a type 6w5 ISFJ. :) Don't know what the ISTJ's Enneagram type is though...  A little update: I saw this guy briefly at church today. He's really stressed about his schoolwork. For...|||^That  Oh, and bat crap crazy. I'm going to have to steal that one and use it sometime on my friends. :) Also, how people argue with no logical sense just befuddles me.|||HAHAHAHA!! The ending of that TED talk was HILARIOUS!! Based on the cakes, I'm going to have to agree that I am mostly a builder and partly a negotiator. Very enlightening. Thanks!|||Hmmm... I like quiet and conservative, and I definitely like old couple holding hands :) johnson.han.3, would you mind explaining what you mean by builder? Thanks!|||Devalight: Thanks for sharing your experiences. I have, through another thread, confirmed that my MBTI is actually ISFJ. The description matches me much more accurately. Also, I have a very strong Te...|||Serious at work, but I know how to/can/do joke around too. Craaaaazy goofy with my closest friends - but very few people get to actually see that side of me. Count yourself lucky if you do. :)|||This, ^ especially narcissism, plus: 1. People who complain all the time about everyone and everything 2. People who don't keep their word - if you say you're going to do something, you better do...|||Oh good, I have some hope that he may actually like me more than a friend! Do you agree? I'm going to bed now - good luck with your studies! Make sure you don't fall asleep over your textbook! ;-)...|||Hahaha! All right... I'll keep that in mind if I don't get replies from you. :) To keep the conversation going then - do you think this guy is ISTJ, or are we still unsure between ISTJ vs. INTJ? ...|||Unhealthy ESFJ's can be very impulsive. I doubt a P would argue with you if you took 2 more showers than her. The unhealthy J is impulsive and judges others.  The second girl definitely sounds...|||Tee hee hee, I'm going to have to try that on him and see what he says.|||He talks, just very quietly (especially when he's stressed out and with a group of people he doesn't know very well). And yeah - definitely not Dr. House when he's around the Bible study folks....|||Yup, I think I'm an ISFJ with an unusually well-developed Te (due to my career as a scientist). Thanks  lackofmops!|||Thanks chanteuse. I'm actually not sure if he's an S or N. He personally tested for only 1% preference of S over N. However, there is another guy who leads our Bible study who is definitely an INTJ...|||Thanks,     cyamitide, for the links. After doing a lot of research (I've been reading about personalities nonstop since before I started this thread), I still think this guy is an ISTJ.    ...|||Thanks johnson.han.3, drmiller100, Cmart:  I've been doing lots of reading and thinking about the functions. I think I am ISFJ, with a very well-developed Te (due to my career). Even though my...|||drmiller100, Cmart, lackofmops: I'm trying to learn - why do you say that Si and Te are obvious? Would you mind pointing out some sentences to help me better understand these characteristics and...|||Cmart, lackofmops, TML3193, drmiller100  Here are my answers to questionnaire #2:  1. Is there anything that may affect the way you answer the questions? For example, a stressful time, mental...|||And... FYI: here's the thread that's helping me determine my real MTBI. Feel free to help me out there too!  http://personalitycafe.com/whats-my-personality-type/453770-type-confusion.html ...'