'I'm re-posting this from the ISTJ forum. On second thought, he may be an ISTP - definitely IST.  I have a guy friend I believe to be an ISTJ or ISTP. We’ve known eachother for a couple years and...|||Fear of what? Being fully rejected? Do you think he really just decided he's not that into me or it's something else? It just kind of messed with my head a little. I was really thinking of giving it...|||I have a guy friend I believe to be an ISTJ. Wex92ve known eachother for a couple years and Ix92ve always had a feeling that he likes me. He even throws a few little hints out there every once in a...|||Exactly this|||OMG! This is my life with my ENFJ friend.|||Yeah, I hear you on that Iselia. I've done the acquaintance route with him and I do meet other guys. It's just that we've known each other for a while now and we are friends. He just seems to freak...|||1. INFJs hate other people. I like most people. I love a few people. My intuition usually warns me about the ones I shouldn't trust. I sometimes give them the benefit of the doubt for awhile. Once I...|||I used to be very quiet and people described me as aloof, hard to get to know, sensitive.  I've come out of my shell over the past 5 or so years.   Now I get: Funny (a lot - to the point that...|||I have said before that I can control my emotions to show very little on the outside, but they run very deep on the inside and I have no control in there.|||I hate forced research. If there's something that really interests me, I can research for hours - looking for commonalities, contradictions, taking into account the bias where the info came from. ...|||My emotional well being rules my life. I can logically look at myself and realize how many great things I have in my life, but I don't feel happy so it doesn't matter. Then I feel guilty for not...|||Old thread, but having this issue with an ENFJ friend....  Yes, I have feelings for him, but he has decided that he doesn't want to be in a relationship at all ever again. We have always been just...|||Would you go as far as using the friend word to get a reaction or throw someone off? I don't mean like having a conversation saying we're just friends, but my friend will act in ways that seem...|||How do you react if you feel jealous, but aren't necessarily purposely made to feel jealous. Like if you were interested in a girl and there were other guys that were pursuing her...Would you feel...|||Signs I like an ENFJ: I find him hysterically funny I will spend much more time than I will with anyone else texting him I really really look forward to spending time with him, but sometimes I...|||I'm a female INFJ though. Would be nice if ENFJs weighed in. How would you react if a friend of the opposite sex started getting a little closer? Paying more attention, flirting a little more...|||It seems that INFJs & ENFJs have this in common. That's part of what makes the combination so tricky I think.  I'm liking Maeve's idea....Showing some signs without necessarily saying anything....|||I'm not very good at flirting. Especially if I'm actually interested. I guess I can flirt all day long with someone I don't really feel something for, but if my feelings are involved I clam up. I try...|||I was just venting. I don't really react in any crazy ways :) Just what goes through my head and then I say oh, ok. sounds good or something like that.|||So I was feeling a little psyched up by all this today and I put myself out there a little. Brought up doing something that we I had talked about. The response wasn't exactly what I was hoping for....|||Maeve - I think you're on to something..... I've been dealing with this dilema for a while now too and trying to find the right way to make myself more out there without risking my whole being. I'm...|||I mean this in the nicest way possible but....that is a total ENFP response! :) My ENFP friend can lay all her cards on the table with the exact reasoning that you stated. INFJs are completely...|||I feel your pain!!! This must be the dynamic between INFJ/ENFJ. My situation isn't 20yrs old, but it's very similar in every other way. I don't know the answers either.|||Thanks Jawz.   I guess I'm a huge chicken. I feel like my heart is very fragile and I'm desperately afraid of the pain of rejection. I have let myself get in too deep with this guy and it will hurt...|||more, more, more...... Please :)  I just spent another confusing weekend with the guy in my never ending drama of does he or doesn't he like me. How will I ever know? When will the timing ever be...|||Thanks Jake. I remember hearing that being treated differently from the rest in any way, even if it's not more attention than the rest is a good sign. I keep trying to remember that, but I psych...|||O.K. y'all. I used to post on here more, but mainly just read now. I have a good guy friend that is an ENFJ. I would like more than a friendship with him, but I don't think he really knows that....|||I love this thread. I have an ENFJ friend (that I've also had a crush on for a long time) who has a harem of girls that he hangs out with. Sometimes I feel bad, like I'm just one of the many, but I...|||I lurk and occasionally post. Mainly because one of my best guy friends is an ENFJ and I have a mega-crush on him. Always trying to de-code the mystery of his actions :( He likes me, he likes me...|||I have developed pretty strong feelings for him. I'm torn between hanging in there to see what could develop (but risking getting hurt more) or backing away and cutting my losses.|||I usually let him initiate texting. He'll let it go a few days sometimes, but then always ends up texting me something. He's only recently started inviting me to things, but there are always other...|||I don't want to make this thread too specific about my situation - I really wanted to hear the insights of ENFJs (and spouses of ENFJs :) ). What has already been said is great stuff and I thank you....|||I see that Jawz is Enneagram 6, not sure what Crono is. I'm wondering how much that has to do with the not expressing interest in addition to the ENFJ thing.  Jawz - So how did you end up with...|||Jawz - You comments are very interesting. I've seen many threads on this subject but never exactly what you stated about masking your behavior and words. How long have you been divorced? Have you...|||I know this has been done before, but...... There are some new people on the site and I think it would be interesting to get some new perspectives :)|||I would say to be patient with her. If she's amazing in so many other ways, it might be worth it. No one has ALL their crap together. Maybe she's been hurt in the past and handles relationships a...|||Dude - I feel your pain. It's like doing a crossword puzzle blind-folded on a rollercoaster for me.|||I would just like to say to anyone who is confused about how an ENFJ feels about them.... Welcome to the club  I have experienced this (still am) and it seems like this is a very common theme on...|||I used to always score as an INTJ, but after a lot of emotional crap happened over a few years, I started scoring as an INFJ. The INFJ description fits me much better. I don't think my core...|||Tell me that my impressions of a person are wrong. That they don't want me to get hurt by holding on to a fantasy that might happen someday. Advising me in a way that makes me seem like I'm a...|||I thought that a lot of times NFs inparticular have a hard time intuitively knowing if someone has feelings for them, when they also have feelings for that person. Reason being, if you want that...|||In my experience, ENFJs are very loyal when they are in a committed relationship. Also, in my experience, people of any type that cheat have some issues with loyalty and have a higher probability to...|||I like it! It's much more like poker than chess. We're both wearing sunglasses so no one can read what our eyes are saying ;)   Thanks for saying this. Yes, you're right - the reasons he has for...|||I just want to resurrect this thread.... I'm still going round and round with my ENFJ friend. I have feelings for him and I feel like we've been playing a chess game for the last 6 months of trying...|||I feel for you! I absolutely HATE to let someone down like that. I think it's because I can empathize too much. I put myself in their place and know how much it would hurt.   Sometimes you have to...|||Ah, ok....I won't kill you. I guess I'm just sensitive cause I like parties :) But all my friends know that if I spend a weekend being all social, they probably won't see me for a weekend or two....|||I disagree with that. I am for sure an introvert but I love parties. I just can't party all the time, I need my alone time in between.  People who like parties are not necessarily extroverts and...|||There are three men that I have really cared deeply for in my life (not counting family): ENTJ ESFJ ENFJ  I guess I'm really drawn to extraverts. I think the common denomenator here is charisma....|||Being an introvert or extravert isn't so much based on whether you like being with people or alone - it's more about where you draw your energy. I get confused as an extravert all the time because I...|||This has made me really start thinking about how anyone would EVER know I was interested without outright asking me. I have a recent example of two different guys that I'm friends with. I do things...'