'Ava82, I want to thank you deeply. I have received many good responses from INFJs on this forum, but this one was by far the most humble. I appreciate this.    May I ask you more details about what...|||I promised her that I would not contact her at all for three weeks. That's why I rejected your advice. I still appreciate it, regardless.|||Although it's very painful to admit because I truly don't want to lose this woman, my intuition is telling me that the above statements are the most accurate in regard to this situation. It hurts, it...|||I appreciate the contrast of your advice. Nevertheless, I think this would be very wrong. It would show that I can't give her space. She has expressed that it's not romance that she wants, she...|||She did end the relationship. We are on a three week break/rethink period only because I requested it after she broke it off.  I want to do anything I can. I am a fighter, I don't give up. But I...|||Your advice is passionate and fills me with me hope. It's uplifting. But there is little that is worse than FALSE hope. You say fight for her. But how? I want to, I want to do anything I can, but I...|||What did she do that broke your trust?|||I really appreciate your caring words. You could not be anymore right than what you say about health.|||I see. Just to make it clear: what broke her trust was that I would often show up at her house unannounced during stressful situations. I invaded her personal space.   I do believe she still has...|||[QUOTE=Kozokana;3032766]If it was something major, that really upset me I would probably wait a while before trying to rekindle things, if ever. QUOTE]  Do you think you could pin-point what the...|||Thank you, INFJs. Your advice has been insightful. Please keep it coming. I would like as many opinions and experience reports as possible.|||She knows that I felt upset about it. I actually got the shakes when she told me about it. But she also knows that I do not want to control her, that I want her to do whatever she wants. You can't...|||Yeah, I don't think she ever had a problem understanding why I did it. She basically cannot let the good of our relationship (similar interests, spiritual connectivity, and general good times)...|||Is it ever too late? If so, how can you tell with an INFJ?|||This is a good point. I think if I valued the person greatly, if I had a deep desire for them to be in my life, if I could see that they were making a serious, earnest attempt to be trusted, then yes...|||I appreciate your response. I would really like to earn her trust back, no matter how much patience it involves. I think it would help you to know the way in which I violated her trust: I showed up...|||Hello everyone, I am an INTJ male. I was recently in a serious relationship with an INFJ female. She ended the relationship mainly because of trust issues between us. Although she could easily admit...|||Hello everyone, I am an INTJ male. I was recently in a serious relationship with an INFJ female. She ended the relationship mainly because of trust issues between us. Although she could easily admit...|||I can relate completely. I test as INTJ all the time, but I relate way more authentically with the INFJ description. Plus, my intuition tells me I am an INFJ. I just like to think that I have the...|||Every moment of suffering must be transformed into beauty:  The door is locked shut and you are on the street dumbfounded: The disciple has been abandoned by the master. It is finally time for...|||ENFP/INFJ interaction is the rhythm of a rushing stream in the midst of a peaceful meadow. Our interaction, when it is flowing freely, is both exhilarating and balanced.|||This gives me hope that there are more ENFPs with such dedication!|||I would definitely move for someone special, for that is what makes them special, that I would move to them. Location, form, mean nothing, we give home the meaning it contains.|||Okay, that's it: sounds as if it is time to have a big ol' PerCafe INFJs who want to meet other INFJs party! The location? A temple sitting on top of the holiest of mountains. Please RSVP to me.|||I am Ukrainian. And, yes, I appreciate Tolstoy very much. I like hockey but I do not play it.  Go on being cryptic, I like it. When you say it has to do with the Goddess, I am led to think that you...|||Female INFJ: I am not sure why you feel this way; there are plenty of male INFJs out there looking to connect with INFJ women (I'd know, I am one of them). Your fantasy is not so far-fetched and...|||Why certainly, please come along.|||Allow the experience of beauty to come at you in any way and you have touched infinity, a boundless existence. Rendered limitless, you can step out of time, you can stab time. You can fly forever...|||For Beauty.|||oooooooooo yes, I certainly have danced with the devil many times by moonlight. It was the devil that put that swing into my body, yes, it was the devil that possessed my every move. This source,...|||yessssss, ENFP in pink pants!|||Every night, before I go to bed I try to focus on what I would like to dream about, on what answers I would like to extract from my unconscious. I aim at lucidity every night.|||This is beautiful. I love it. You are so right, you know that, right; it's dead on. I appreciate you for putting this on here.|||Thanks Sassypjs! Might a say, looking sassy in those new shoes!|||Yes I would enjoy that. However, I've always had trouble finding clothes that fit me well at thrift stores. I usually justify paying for a new article of clothing by the fact that it fits me well....|||You got it; I am with you on this one. I love the costume game of picking what to wear each day. Clothing is an easy outlet for self expression.|||You took the words right out of my mouth; you've got it, I've been there.|||Said experience is mutual, friend; I've been in your place many a time.|||So Little Richard once said that any problem can be solved by dancing. I agree with the man; I resolve much of my stress via manic dancing to my favorite vinyls.   If there's one thing I know about...|||Do you cry?  Yes.  If so, how often?  Definitely not as often as I used to; I have become more like a rock when it comes to negative emotions. That is, I am determined to not let my negative...|||I've thought in the past that I wanted be an INTJ because I was under the illusion that they had all my type's good qualities and none of the bad, i.e. they were more rational. But since then I have...|||I am most heavily influenced by the work of Omar Rodriguez-Lopez (the mastermind behind the music project known as The Mars Volta) and Phil Elverum (mt. eerie and the microphones).   A week ago, I...|||Yes it is. I am flattered that you think my physical features are up to par.|||That's right! How could I have forgotten the joys of owning a pig?!|||I would like to know which of you are heavily into the work of Phil Elverum/the microphones/mt. eerie.|||Dog: Austrailian Shepherd. My Aussie is an ENFP! He is my traditional match.|||Dog: Australian Shepherd. My aussie is an ENFP! He is my traditional match.|||You Puerto Ricans play some sexy guitar. Omar releases a large supply of albums aside from his work w/ the mars volta. Check it out if you are unaware. His music carries a great deal of emotion.|||Who here is a fan? Come on out! I am trying to connect with you on the deepest of levels.|||INFJs who are into the films and projects of Alejandro Jodorowsky: come on outta the woodwork!'