'I can concede emotionally unstable as an acceptable description of my younger self. It is only by the grace of God that I escaped adolescence, where numerous episodes of angry, violent, and manic...|||http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m658fb3p6C1qg3g8c.gif|||I'm gifted with this curse|||I share a similar background with this person you've described, and also partake in weed smoking.   Eastern culture tends to approach dating and relationships with a more practical and almost...|||1) Especially hot tea 2) Not a change per se, but a VOTE. Ix92ve decided to be the type of person and conduct myself in the type of way in which I believe society as a whole should towards each other....|||Do not be offended if it seems like the INTJ is not aware of your existence We ARE aware though. And will even go so far as to do little nice things like stock food that we know you like in the...|||This is a pretty good attempt. Well done. You are probably close to the mark on your guy's character and frame of mind, but I'm not so sure regarding the reasonings behind his judgement.  analysis...|||This TED talk video posted by ENFJgirl might be relevant: http://personalitycafe.com/enfj-forum-givers/87222-interesting-ted-talk-about-vulnerability-love-acceptance.html  It sounds to me you are...|||You are funny. Quite the Beatrice. Are you like this in real life? I must say it would be quite refreshing to hear a woman talk so frankly about men like this in real life, and more so about...|||I get the impression from the post your biggest want is to believe everything you've stated above the arrow. I'm all in agreement with treating others well and better, but I do not push or impose as...|||I understood it, and I like the twist of words. I missed the root of your original comments that it was referring to the conception/perception of love.   People only love money because money...|||@Luckyperuser I believe the biggest impressions that parents will impart onto their children's views and behaviors as adults are by who they are as persons themselves, not what they so call teach...|||Rest assure your kind gestures are duly noted and greatly, albeit perhaps silently, appreciated. Good job!|||Hi Taneka- This is not a disagreement or a reputation. I just want to add a perspective.   There is no difference between the person who takes science too seriously, who believe we are nothing but...|||@Luckyperuser- I try my best to accept people as they are and see things from their point of view. I do not have any illusions of grandeur about changing others, and even less so the world. Some...|||I did a long post and PC erased it for some reason before I can hit reply, so now an abbreviated version.  I think my ideas are just statements of the obvious. It is the looks and flak I get from...|||I find your thread and posts to be thoroughly interesting, and hence will reward you with a response.  -Do you mind when people verbally spar with you?  Depends on their sparring competency. If...|||Tell them, better yet demonstrate to them, (only if it is true) that you admire and appreciate their expertise in their subject of specialization (all INTJs have one or a few), and fully utilize them...|||Okay I totally get where you're coming from, and see why the situation you've described is frustrating. =)  The compartmentalizing comment applies very much to me, and probably makes me less of an...|||Finding a 'mindmate' is the most important aspect for longevity sake. It is VERY difficult for me to accept a commitment of marriage with someone that I can't communicate with well, that is, an...|||Because I can get people to do what I want them to do|||Love watching sports alone and love it more with people. Reason is what @Enormous Hatred said. The art and science of each sport is amazing to watch. Every sport is a system, and to see a system...|||If I consistently give you my time and attention, then it's pretty safe to say I care and respect you. I can't be persuaded to acknowledge your existent otherwise.|||I work for a fortune 300 size company, and the only challenge that I've faced is to not allow myself to succumb to boredom and then complacency. I've been working for 5 years now since coming out of...|||Rah_Meqqah - I was fully aware of the irony in my statement, and the cause for that is the irony of life itself.   Have you ever watched Unbreakable with Bruce Willis and Samuel Jackson? The only...|||I work with Relational Databases, i.e MS Access but bigger, and I think IT is a great career if you are someone who values, or are better at, intellectual work than manual work. The work environment...|||Big ass smiles even when there eyes speak sadness|||You have just been OrangeAppled, booyah! I'm j/k but that's really how much I liked, and agree with, her post =)|||This is not directed at you personally Rah_Meqqah, but I think it is unhealthy and conceited for a person to devote their life and decisions on the basis of promoting the greater good of humanity....|||Btmangan or other INFJs- Being too good is a vice and can be harmful, both for yourself and others. There are times that call for ethical actions and there are times that call for unethical actions....|||Although Napoleptic's advice is good, I think Popinjay's is better from a guy's perspective. Don't bring up the topic specifically unless your friend does first. Hang out and give him some...|||I think the world is soon moving away from the US Dollar as the reserve currency, and this is not necessarily a bad thing for the US neither. There is no such thing as absolute superiority in nature,...|||1) I do not think a global government would ever work because of the cultural history of nationalities, but a single Reserve currency will be an eventual necessity, probably along the lines of the...|||I don't believe in self-sacrifice unless the person involved is very important to me, and even then there is a limit that I'll never cross. So, no, I wouldn't consider you a bitch for having a change...|||PSA: To woo an ENFP, and keep them, you need to follow the advice Jerry gave to George in that one episode of Seinfeld: “It’s about showmanship, George. When you hit that high note, you say goodnight...|||Do you believe in destiny?  No. I believe there are a lot of things in life that are out of your control, but there is also such things as good and bad gamesmanship. It takes hard work and smart...|||This statement would be funny if you are being sarcastic. How oxymoron it is to 'create' commandments at each step of the way. Just like a handbag for girls, a commandment for every season for INTPs?...|||For people are created for happiness, and he who is completely happy can at once be deemed worthy of saying to himself: 'I have fulfilled God's commandment on this earth.  I'm consider myself a...|||@WickedQueen- excellent posts. I think the Chinese mother thread is about Amy Chau, the Tiger Mom.  Istbkleta- You do not seriously believe a color blind person can will their eyes to learn to see...|||Let me take a step back, and withdraw the 'our' from my prior statements and replace it with an 'I' because I'm sure not all INTJs do this, but I certainly do.  The reason/motivation to 'test'...|||I think the two types can make for a very entertaining dynamic.  Both are usually very confident and have a tendency to be cocky, but the expression of these self attributes will differ.   INTJs...|||I don't think Tridentus ever concluded about what strong 'is', but simply posited the description as general society's standard perception of strength.   Furthermore, a general observation of the...|||hmm...sounds like both parties have common goals, what's the problem?  Joking aside, that's not even what Fi is. Fi simply means feelings are mainly derived via subjective interpretation rather...|||Like the post.  Agree on the general premise of problem solving myself, although I wouldn't necessarily consider myself or personality as problematic. I simply started to consciously pay...|||Iago from Othello - Ultimate. Scariest. Because you'll never know it.   Falstaff/Harry from Henry IV - More typical. Both are villains but they are so damn charming you can't help but want to...|||So what I'm hearing you say is, INTJ is the very definition of awesome... =)  This is also my favorite anime. Very thought provoking ideas. I also couldn't stand Suzaku! If I had to type him, I...|||WTF? How can having resemblance to Shakespeare be a bad thing? How is the ability to UNDERSTAND, and on top of that ILLUSTRATE with words the full spectrum of the human condition not be enviable but...|||1) to be me 2) to collect food for thought 3) to work my body so I can sleep, and perchance to dream again 4) to build and maintain relationships  5) to notice, enjoy, and appreciate all that...|||I have always had more self-esteem than can be justified. Meaning I never needed any tangible achievements or hear any verbalized validation to feel good about myself. I have never felt like an...|||ESFP - Because it would be nice to just Live, and be completely in the present. It would be refreshing to luxuriate in a feeling without your brain automatically diluting it with reason. It would be...'