'Dear ENTJs,   I seem to like people. I like looking for their best aspects and listen to them and I find compulsions and feelings fascinating. Please tell me that it's okay and I don't have to hand...|||ToughLilCookie It's tempting to say that I am/might have cornered myself into the wrong field of work entirely, but I'm-- wondering whether I can make it work anyway. Unsure yet how exactly, but it...|||myGTI That's pretty much it really, I like how my anonymity allows me to be more open about what I share in these boards (which, atleast for my standards, quite a lot. Especially in sex/relationship...|||enfpeeved Is this the same ENTJ you have been asking about? (If yes) How are both of you doing?|||Dating another extrovert is a new.. experience. I have only dated introverts before.|||https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BfM_PJDk0r8|||Irrational decision-making.|||https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BfM_PJDk0r8|||Took a (work) strength assessment test, having no/very little idea how to apply the result into my field of work (I don't intend to drastically change fields). I'll sit on it for a bit while, for now.|||Do not ask questions you yourself are not willing to answer.|||Not putting up my picture keeps me honest. Honesty > wanting to show my face.|||Handsome Jack Then a very unhealthy one? Since ENFPs seem to be all about possibilities. Taking people down is the act of someone who feels trapped.|||(My) insecurities (currently, about my relationship) are like 1-foot long transparent fat blind cockroaches that only thrive in deep darkness. In bright light they're not threatening at all. ...|||Happiness is a vine.|||I don't want one. Alright, let's try this: I cannot imagine (the use of imagining) of having another-type alter ego. I'd take/would be interested in having a male version of myself, maybe.|||Do ENTJs see themselves as superior to other types?  To some of them.  Or to everyone else in general?  To some of them.   Are ye all Steve Jobs, Napoleon-esque hard-charging types? I prefer...|||I'm still unsure how much/how to communicate in a relationship. How much to leave out, what to adjust. What to do with this feeling of uncertainty.  It is very easy to rush this but all of my...|||What's left of you is (only) smoke, now.  Dissipating? Lingering?|||@Prada the ESFJ I know is firmly operating on being emotionally manipulative/emotional blackmailing, I could see them wanting to keep the 'peace' would strike down those who stand out. They'll do it...|||xSFJ ('getting along'/ against people who stand out/ preserves 'the niceness of' status quo), some strains of INFx (against materialism/idealistic, they can be quite vocal + aggressive). ExTJ might...|||http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Oni8_k5twU|||As I recognize what someone wants (of me), somehow ... there's a sadness in it. I will comply, of course. I am not against it, and maybe pleasing them is what I've been created to be, anyway.  It's...|||That my parents/older brother wouldn't like them.|||My INFP ex is (I'm still in contact with him) one of the most stable, down to earth guys that I know. The way we disastrously crashed and burned might have been mostly because we were immature and...|||Butter cookies or shortbreads?  As peace offering.|||DIY Planners.|||This. I need to know that they won't only 'behave' (functioning well?) when I'm there/ keeping tabs. I don't want a child to take care of, 'home' should be a place where I can take off my armor and...|||Hanging out with friends, baking, feeding people, lately, hogging my significant other, as well.|||https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C_3d6GntKbk|||@furryfury Thank you. I'm thinking of keeping a Google sheet file for it, it should be making it easier to highlight/designate a color and move around.  It's pretty obvious that a lot has been...|||https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GFGPSx6cPN0|||Any advice for household/everyday financial planning?   I have been vaguely aware of how horrible my family's day-to-day spending habits are (ENFP mother, ESTP brother), but when actually starting...|||Were you quick to get hurt as a child?  No. I was a rather jockish child, in retrospect.  Was there someone that bullied you for being a crybaby? I was the bully. I did get into fights, however,...|||Animal Oh, nothing so dire/anguished. I just ... slightly misbehaved and having absolutely no regrets about it.  Good song though, I'm not familiar with the artist/singer.|||I have no intention to make excuses, nor apologies.  Sorry.|||That's figuring out feelings for me, it's often not worth it. And most of the time, it's irrelevant/not that important anyway, but not so when dealing with personal relationships with a Feeler.   ...|||I've been thinking about this. My ENFP (still getting used to that) said several times Don't think (about it) too much, as he saw me processing something that just happened/a remark/a conversation....|||http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xs9X8NhQJF4|||In my case... it was mostly a realization of-- in order trying not to get hurt, one often end up hurting oneself.  But it is scary, choosing to be vulnerable without being careless. How to balance...|||Genes do not care about human happiness. Physical compatibility and  dizzying chemistry do not mean that happiness will surely follow.   I want to be happy.|||http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fK3fVJtFTh0|||I have not. Thank you. Well, except this one(s),    As I finished writing the above post I realized I cannot/ would not actually contact him. Because it would be.. somewhere between disrespectful...|||.... Hello, I'll attempt to keep it brief,  - It was a long distance relationship and we were friends for years before we dated, - We talked about everything, everyday, and it was-- wonderful...|||@enfpeeved Personally (I don't know how other ENTJs approach it), not at all? Feelings are difficult, so by default I don't open up to many about that-- because it's confusing, but experiences tend...|||I decided to trust you.   For now.|||http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=37Z_bIqIWpg|||http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cL4uhaQ58Rk  Please see me reaching out for someone I can't see Take my hand let's see where we wake up tomorrow Best laid plans sometimes are just a one night...|||@Little_Bird @series0 I realized at some point that one can choose not to be jaded -- without being unwise. Around late 20s - early 30s (or even lower), it seemed that plenty women are already burnt...|||enfpeeved ... define 'closed off'?|||.... In some ways I was impressed by how it came together, I suppose. It felt more like 'fate' than effort, though. A series of coincidences that forced me (us?) to consider the prospect somewhat...'