'What is strong, anyway? Eye of the Beholder. Not being a dominant jerk =/= needing a relationship mommy as was so unfortunately suggested some posts above.  Nothing wrong with flying, being...|||Not really, but I tire of these argumentative and unnecessary attacks. Unfortunately, I predicted right  they would come, as I was hoping for a peaceful resolution.   I will defend even *you*, but...|||I am convinced INFPs can achieve anything. They just have to believe in it. Thus *if they wanted*, they could be successful at things usually deemed weaknesses. It's just rare that they enjoy life...|||There's no one single real life. Every person defines what's real to them. Plus they can be efficient. (And you are INFP too, and I don't believe your own comments apply to you.)  All types can...|||Often, it's not wrong to be angry at injustice, or when you need to stand up for yourself. No one should talk down to us, or treat us like garbage because of biased or whatnot-I prefer NOT to ever...|||I mean no offense, but you seem to fail to understand the gist of individuality. Everybody IS a Special Snowflake  (and thus, using the term as a pejorative gets old fast.) Individualists are not...|||I love romance-just feel that as seen on TV (or romantic movies) doesn't apply to many of us.  Don't mind big as long as it's heartfelt and meaningful. I disagree big must be inauthentic. Big...|||I feel awesome being myself! Many INFPs are bombarded with ideas like: this is how a man/woman ought to be, what he/she should achieve by this or that date, what his/her priorities should be. Such...|||I am feeling music. Unfortunately, I can't share with any of you how it feels, as it's so individual and hard to put into words.|||https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lzIbT4JG6Ig&feature=youtu.be|||Had to mention, you can work and improve  on being less shy. I bet I was more shy than you are when I was your age. But you need not worry about becoming more extroverted, as it has no necessary...|||You don't need to get more extroverted. Do we ask cats to bark?  Confidence is good-it should be based on reality, though, and is not truly tied to arrogance. Playing the cool and collected dude...|||Well, from your statement, I can tell your misjudging them, because you are not at all like them,  and wouldn't be needy as they are. Then again, I may be misjudging you.   I despise when people...|||I feel sorry for this situation. I have been shut out once because of a misunderstanding, but it wasn't a romantic interest, and wasn't an INFJ-was an INFP (not a member of this forum, that I know...|||I would have told you to let go and not write the above (too late-my apologies). Guess I am INFP, and have a different perspective. I would start seeing her as a good friend only, and feel free of...|||LPs were an amazing technology which should have never died. Was it inconvenient for personal space? Likely, but generally, the musical sound was amazing. (It is NOT dead, per se, but may as well be,...|||Fragrances (niche or otherwise), but it's a relatively 'affordable luxury vs quality, unique clothing, which although also something I like, I very rarely splurge on.  Nothing inherently wrong...|||I am 100% sure most clinginess assumed from INFP friends and/or partners is assumed, rather than real, as many people aren't ready to truly understand where the INFP is coming from. While there can...|||Sometimes romantic people believe that if you forget your true loves, they were never real or meaningful. I have learned that all true love was and remains meaningful, even if you totally erase the...|||It's hard to judge personality type based on music/onstage persona/other things. Unless they reveal it sometime, or are very obvious examples.   There are many INFPs into metal, so assume there...|||Only they know, but I know there's way worse, and they hardly get reprimanded. Many other good people have been banned throughout my history here-this young man seemed like a great guy too.|||It's worse when nice people get banned, and they let jerks with horrible character run amok, even after reporting them. Trolling without impunity. Probably why I've stuck to the INFP sub-forum from...|||Never have I been married (older than many of you, but still Happy.)|||This is precisely what many INFPs with problems should contemplate-IGNORE THE DATING SCENE , and date on their own terms, following their individual values, rather than binge-dating (derived...|||Yes, INFPs are not related to so-called nice-guy syndrome, as seen on TV (and books/material not really aimed for them as the customer base.)  Second, it's painful when I've seen good people...|||Apalled at many humans' lack of sensitivity and tolerance-some would rather mock, troll, and/or enjoy conflict rather than take responsibility for their actions, or lack thereof.  Best wishes to...|||You jerk, I am sorry you are not being properly moderated.   Go mock people elsewhere.|||I get it, it's the internet, so it's OK to troll left and right without addressing the issues. Facepalming is such a deep and detailed response.|||How so? Explain in detail and rationally.   You must be trolling us at this point.|||I understand you are more invested in this, but to be fair, even though I hate some of society's rules, I just ignore them and live by my own code (which in this case has nothing to do with going...|||If it was merely the internet, I wouldn't care or post.   At least your previous comment about your INFP male experiences can be safely ignored, since it's just the internet. Maybe even made...|||No need for rudeness. I did read-doesn't sound good, as all that I should have been followed with a statement similar to: I am sure many INFPs aren't like that, though. It certainly doesn't...|||Must have had incredibly bad luck,  because INFPs are NOT anything like this, generally speaking. Read the thread for more information. Would recommend to avoid judging future INFPs you meet based on...|||1. Unique 2. Tolerant 3. Genuinely kind/caring, but 4. Wary of people 5. Introverted 6. Immensely emotional and sensitive (I don't ascribe negative associations to these terms as many do,...|||Nothing wrong in showing your emotional side, if it's genuine. Not showing it is worse. Anyone who doesn't like you being sweeter/more sensitive/more emotional than her is not meant for...|||Worth mentioning that is probably not on your best interests to pursue someone that supposedly likes jerks (if these exist). Wait for people that will like you for who you are, rather than becoming...|||No one should care as a)relationships aren't a race or even competition (really mean it) and b)whining about lack of success at whatever is not necessarily tied to being nice (in fact, I've known of...|||Seems like you are happily married, and just wanted to congratulate you on your evident contentment. Keep following your dreams, and best wishes for you and your loved ones.|||Though I know where you are coming from, I disagree simply because some individuals do not want this difference dynamic you mention. It is really a fact, IMO, that opposite attracts is a...|||It's stull highly annoying-what's wrong with INFPs as lovers? Is it ignorant bias, traditional views, or what?  I say this not for my sake, as I laugh at these notions, but I hate the unfairness...|||I wouldn't, but I am not polyamorous, and have a strict sense of loyalty and fairness to all parties. Same reason why I find playing others distasteful, and I wouldn't even date more than a person...|||I understand your logic, but if the tendencies are inherently wrong, I should not feel forced to play alongside them. I don't ask others to change who they are so I can like them more. Being...|||Girls don't  exist-individuals do. No need to sacrifice your inherent softness,  if it's part of who you are. We are worthy enough to be loved on our own merits, rather than those of other...|||Reading the first page of this thread, for the which I was around some years ago, makes me a bit disgusted at the I like them as brothers/friends comments, because it implies they are somehow...|||I  so happy you are married to the right person-it's trally more than type.  That said, I entirely agree with the quoted paragraph. I HATE with fiery passion when someone implies that I need to be...|||My previous message got lost in the Subway (not sandwich store.)  In short, you are all fine as INFPs, and have nothing to worry about, much less hate about your perfectly lovely selves  (even the...|||It's right.|||I am quiet because I am-not due to fear, nor are masks strictly necessarily (I despise them myself.) Sometimes I know (assume) most people aren't interested in my world, and generally speaking,...|||These sort of tests, even if just for fun, always match me with INFP without exception. So much for the opposites attract, theory, which I am convinced does not apply to all.|||I am older than many, though am not here all the time. I like how many INFPs can relate to each other despite their obvious generational differences, on top of each being an unique person. In fact I...'