'Emerald|||Just know fear is imaginary because its something our mind creates. Feel the fear, and do it anyways.|||One truth to bring light into your perceived loneliness is that everyone goes through the same thing - even people outside our personality type. This truth is enough for me to realize that we all...|||During this period of dating, your best take is to have fun. It doesn't matter if she's taking pictures with previous ex and posting them on twitter or Facebook. You should not care at all at this...|||This is actually a really good question. I'm on the fence. It totally depends on the interpretation of talking to her from time to time.  If its talking to her by means of praying, then I think its...|||You control how the friendship will develop. If you don't say much about yourself, then how can a friendship develop further from the superficial stage?|||Just do you and be yourself. The only advice to give is to initiate the contact often. Depending on his social skill, its smooth sailing from there assuming you both have a connection going on. Its...|||If you lack congruence in your overall attitude - facial expression & body language not quite aligned with the words your saying, then its very easy for someone to pick up a face of a liar. I try my...|||I used to be socially awkward. Whenever I talked to strangers for the first time, I would always think they're rejecting me as a person. I was wrong though - they were rejecting my opening. No one...|||Here I was on the verge of say something about how I wasn't credulous - then it hit me. Well played.|||I just found out the definition of a catfish. TIL.|||Yesterday made me realize the differences in our (INFJ) thought processes. I would say that my intuition is my strongest trait - it just feels natural, almost like unconscious thinking. I'm going to...|||Damn man, its okay, everyone gets nervous. Even the most prolific dudes with female game get nervous. The best way to go about the nerves is just feeling the nerves and doing it anyway. There's a 3...|||Sounds like an INFJ to me.|||That's because listeners give off that effect. If you appear interested, you will appear interesting. As much as you let someone spill their heart out because people love talking about themselves,...|||I've had that problem in the past, shit, sometimes I still do it, but not as often! What I find works best is to redirect your thought to something else, preferably something in the present. Worries,...|||I'm telling you man, its our body language. Its impossible to see ourselves in third person perspective but the ability to attract hurt people must have something to do with our non-verbal cues - our...|||Law of attraction my friend. What you think, you become. The more you tell yourself you don't fit in, the more your entire entity and universe will lead to that direction of thought. I hate to break...|||If he treasured your friendship then why hasn't he put the initiative to hit you up in the 3 month hiatus? Relationships - platonic or romantic should not be a one way street. As much as you value...|||Attractiveness makes you approach them, the personality makes you stay. The combination of both makes the whole package attractive.|||I've always had a pronounced sixth sense. I get the so-called 'vibes' we INFJ's are so notoriously known for at such an early age. I vividly remember the day my ex-girlfriend gave off a vibe of...|||I met my best friend in junior year high school. The best part about knowing him for so long is that I come to realize how big of an extrovert he is until I recently discovered the personality type....|||I'd be like.. prepare for regret if you don't take action eventually! Fear is holding you back from what could possibly be an amazing experience regardless of outcome.|||Most of your dreams are your untapped/unconscious desires. Dreams can be clear, and sometimes not so clear. A clear dream would be hanging out with your friends in a normal setting and feeling joy,...|||People will always appreciate honesty over sugarcoating. If you show disinterest in her link, then it only tells her that you have an opinion. Which is perfectly okay. Sometimes its the phrasing that...|||I knew I had this sixth sense. I even told people about it and they thought it was crazy.|||This whole adapting act is actually quite charming to the people we do it to. In their eyes, they will appreciate someone who is capable of entering their spirit and understanding their moods and...|||Well, it depends entirely on the connection. If the air of your conversation was playful/joking, then I'd phrase it somewhere along these lines: Oh, by the way, we haven't been talking much! :( We...|||I consider sensitive/kind people who lash out occasionally so people don't step on them human. You can't always be sensitive.|||6% INFJ  I've been living a lie. Oh well!|||Hey butterfly. You sound like a sweet and caring friend and that's really admirable! I'd love to have a friend so caring in maintaining a connection as much you. With that said, this entire situation...|||I think its more of an issue of hard work and ambition rather than intelligence. I like to think of my intelligence as unlocked potential. Not to say I'm intelligent though, I can be more intelligent...|||Politely tell the truth.|||I think the feeling of awkwardness is mostly the feeling of inferiority. That's my take on it.|||That's the problem with being a people-pleaser. There is so much focus on trying to do 'good' for others so they gain your approval that you end up neglecting your needs. I think we can still be warm...|||Keep doing this. Hang out with the people you feel happy to be around with. Those are the genuine people who are accepting of your true self. Never try to get validation from other people just...|||Acceptance.  You will only feel comfortable once you've accepted the fact that there will always be someone better looking than you. It is also accepting the fact that humans are drawn to...|||You don't need validation from us. Just tell yourself that you're a sexy beast and that you have worth. Nothing in this world can shake your confidence with this mind set. So if I tell you that...|||Reading this makes me smirk. I do this to test with girls I am interested with not because I am angry with them. (Unless you actually did something malicious, but I doubt it!)  The 'ignoring'...|||Sound and smell. When nostalgia happens to me, I smile like an idiot to myself.. like a smirk sometimes.|||Actually in high school, the general consensus of my peers have told me that I gave off an intimidating/superior vibe around them. It's just my natural expression. I guess nowadays I'm making a...|||I don't think its hard for an INFJ to find love. I mean, our mentality and overall vibe gives us a sense of mystery that many people find attractive. I mean, who doesn't like a challenge? I certainly...|||Definitely nurture. Your personality growth will depend greatly on how your parents are mostly. Additional factors include friendship, environment, school - but a large portion of it will involve...|||Being an INFJ won't really affect the way you do your job well. I mean, it's all in the mentality. As long as you do your job with confidence, I don't see anything wrong with being a waitress with...|||Hey, sorry to hear this!  I guess I can relate because I've had a recent break up as well. I can empathize for what you're going through, but believe us when we say time will heal all wounds. Right...|||Wow!  Glad to see a lot of you guys are on the same boat as me. I was beginning to think that I was too self-conscious or soft spoken. I guess its in our nature to sit back and analyze. Funny I...|||Does anyone else feel like they are more soft spoken and tend to analyze the person and situation more often whenever they are around new people?  I'm pretty curious because a couple of days ago I...'