'When you're in public and overhear two people arguing and get way too stressed about something that isn't even your problem; this problem then continues to bother you until some guy walks in with a...|||In addition to needing someone who gets me, I also need to get them. The combination is a challenge  I try to primarily look for someone I get and then test if they get me.|||..uhm... I think this belongs under a different kind of personality page..?|||Yes, I test. What I generally look for is how much space I will be given to be the real me. I have a lot of humour and sarcasm in me, and have always been self concious. Because of this I constantly...|||Are INFJs often clumsy? I can be, especially when being observed!|||Ashamed yes. Me too. Childhood stuff. Someone in close family with manipulating and bad temper. That person destroyed my healthy ways of responding, and I struggle with it to this day. So sometimes I...|||...left the quote out by mistake..|||....aaaand when the anxiety of speaking up against something that goes agains your values is equally painful as quietly accepting as a result of being afraid of the attention....     But in the...|||When you pretend to be an extrovert because that is supposed to be the ideal. But when I fail to put on that extrovert me, I can’t build real friendships as they get confused about who I really am -...|||I want to develop my intuition because I already have the amount it takes to be able to know there is a lot more to people than what they openly tell us. I can read quite a lot, I have been told by...|||That is not an answer to my question.|||I keep reading about INFJ's ability to read emotions and temperaments - and I can partly relate. I notice subtle things that others I know often don't, like body language, but I don't pick up on...|||Me too. I can never watch crime shows because I have a big problem with murders and violence being entertainment when so many people in this world have to endure living in it every day of their life.|||Not shy, pretty social and outgoing, but generally people drain me. So I don't need them much... So I don't make new friends and I don't want to. I have my family and nice colleagues at work, plus...|||I have the habit of wanting to ease a potentially embarrassing situation. F.i if someone at lunch at work says something that makes people's faces go blank, like  omg what did he/she just say.. and...|||Oh my. Every time an all the time. And I always support the underdog.|||When you are so dedicated to do the best for everyone at work that you get totally exhausted... :-( When I try to say no that stresses me way more than to say yes. So then I say yes to almost...|||You are very much right.  As I am eager to do the right thing, I don't always have the perpective to say what's best for me. I have strong work etichs, and had to because I had my own business, but...|||Right? That's what it's about for me anyway, what gives me energy and what sucks the life out of me.   As an INFJ I need alonetime. A LOT OF IT. And I am a grown woman, mother and wife, which means...|||I actually love PC games.. but as a mother and wife I know I'm not supposed to, and it's embarrassing, so I don't anymore.  My favourite game of all is Sims2. Not 3 or 4 :-) Then there is...|||When you socialice all evening with work colleagues and have such a great time  - - --  and suddenliy feel the need to leave... but feel so guilty, thinking they would feel they did something to...|||Exactly what I do... :-)|||I had several, but kept it very private. It is a phenomenon, not easily explained, but extremely common ☺️|||Will try to answer wthout giving it too much thought :-)  1 - Depends on the way they say it, who they are and in what context, but I would be stunned for a second  I think, and then laugh it off -...|||So true, and #8 relates exactly to this thread. I am going to read it carefully over and over again: 9 Humbling Life Lessons I've Learnt As An INFJ ⋆ LonerWolf|||You are spot on with me :-) I mimic people and alter myself after who I am with. Irritating. Though I do try to direct conversations towards a little deeper stuff, like the structure behind something...|||I guess it is common for me as an INFJ to be searching for soul mates. I am so lucky to have a wonderful husband, but I long for a friend I can truly relate to on a deeper level. I don't have many...|||Exactly, that may seem so funny to extroverts, but we get that :-) My husband is an extrovert, but still enjoys alonetime. He hasn't done the test, but I would bet good money he is ENTJ.|||That is interessting - I thought about that, I am a walking contradiction in so many ways.. even made a thread about that some weeks ago. :-) I just long for peace of mind. To much stress.   Thank...|||Thank you so much, tiredsighs....!! So glad to get an affirmation like that, you got it. I've been squeezed up in a corner, and so my aggressiveness is a form of protection.   I crave a lot of...|||Part 1, does life change us (type wise)  I keep getting infj as my result, since I first did the test several years ago.   However, when I read examples of infjs and how they act aloof and...|||You really sound like a lovely person :-)|||-- For pointing out the horrible behaviour of a close adult family member.   Still to this day this person is a problem maker and says horrendous things. My mother and her sister were so shy of...|||Interresting :-) I have always been such a believer of justice that I would NeVeR take the blame for something I didn't do. I would fight hard to prove my innocence, and those who would blame me...|||..or to not be negatively affected by the lack of meaning? Guess not. :-P|||Serenity  Edit: I must admit I was so ready with my word that I didn't read your post first. Only to realize you said the same one. How nice :-)|||I got confused now, as INFJs we crave authentisity, and fake is the opposite. I really relate to the quote about not managing to fake a hello. Wish I could though....|||The bet I've seen so far, I just LOL'd so hard..... Especially at the Introverts UNITE (separately).. almost every image is me..... !!!!|||This applies more to some decades ago, when I was 12-16 years old and MTV actually was about music... :laughing:  ...when the first time seing a music video of a song you love, really changes the...|||Oh So True..   And you torment yourself for it for hours, days, weeks and even years...|||The other day one of my favourite people said I think you and I are really alike.. *yay*  I know he is a soul mate, and I have allways known we will be really close friends some day. Until now...|||When you don't care about fame or glory - and you do the right thing only because it is the right thing to do.|||INFJ Introvert(56%)  iNtuitive(38%)  Feeling(12%)  Judging(22%) You have moderate preference of Introversion over Extraversion (56%) You have moderate preference of Intuition over Sensing (38%)...|||When I've given a friend or encounter a promise, big or small, I bend backwards to keep that promise and be on time with it. But when the task is done it's not unusual that the other has forgotten...|||That is one of my biggest challenges.|||I tend to not take compliments in.... But my husband says wonderful things to me all the time, so I don't look elsewhere regardless :-)  Have been with him half my life, so what I can recall from...|||When you gladly accept looking bad doing what (you know) is right, than to do things wrong (to you) to look good.  I can't stand people who put up facades to make them seem perfect. I would rather...|||Jung Test Results   Introverted (I) 62.5% Extroverted (E) 37.5% Intuitive (N) 58.33% Sensing (S) 41.67% Feeling (F) 62.5% Thinking (T) 37.5% Judging (J) 79.17% Perceiving (P) 20.83%  Your...|||Thanks! The Myers Briggs test always concludes with INFJ so I go with that. ;)|||Of course, those :-) I thought you meant there are specific questionnaires on this site. Thanks for clearifying.'