'Not married, but I would to either elope or have a super small wedding. I don't see weddings as being for other people personally.|||I'm assertive when it comes to my ideas, morals and opinions, but not always my rights. In my childhood I was definitely pretty passive. As an adult I'm relatively assertive. My assertiveness is...|||I'm sorry, I feel you. My father is also an estj and he could be described exactly the same way. My way of handling it was to move away and distance myself emotionally. Have you ever tried talking to...|||The reason why most 9's mistype is because enneagram 9 descriptions are garbage. I'm actually a 9 that knew I was a 9 immediately, but that's because I identified with the core desire of having inner...|||You e8 entj father sounds just like my e8 estj father. I'm also a 9w1.    You have to assert yourself in order to gain respect from him. It's ok if you don't want to follow his plan, but you should...|||Goodness, this is literally my childhood. Except my parents are still together. I honestly wish they'd gotten divorced sometimes.|||I find it so easy to be around intps, they're truly some of my favorite people. It's like they're not affected by their emotions, but they definitely care about what other people experience. In...|||Weirdly enough, I don't mind it terribly. I guess it's because I believe that no one can every truly know or completely understand another person without being that person. The people closest to you...|||Librarylady Are you a 9 perchance?|||It's funny cause I'm not at all easily manipulated by peer pressure or people pleasing, but if I feel like I've done something morally wrong it'll straight up haunt me for indefinite amounts of time....|||I respect isfj's a lot. I don't have any as close friends, but my mother is one and so is my cousin and I love them dearly. My mother can sometimes be very emotionally manipulative, self-victimizing,...|||Yeah, I rely on gut instincts all the time. I find I rarely regret it though.|||If I could be any other type permanently I'd pick enfp. But I relate most to:  1. enfp 2. intp 3. infj 4. isfp|||According to the mbti stacking order, it would be your third valued function. So I'm an eii and an infp in mbti. My hidden agenda function is si, or the desire to be healthy.|||The only people who try to perpetually boss me around are my estj and isfj parents. I think that when people give off an open-minded vibe, others try to automatically control them. I just ignore...|||Maybe you just have to meet new people. Constantly keep striving to interact with new people. Meeting new people is always exciting for me because it's opportunity to explore new possibilities in...|||I think infp 4's and 6's are more similar, and infp 9's and 5's are more similar. Both 4's and 6's are emotionally reactive, self-questioning and they experience a broader variety of emotions more...|||Yeah that go quality is why sp's are amazing. In high school, I was close friends with an estp, esfp and isfp, and it was such a good time. So many of best childhood memories came from hanging out...|||I've been attracted to entps in the past. They're interesting because they can be so friendly but they also have the ability to verbally tear people to shreds. With the entps I knew, they loved...|||twirler This is why we need an infp convention. It would be like the quietest convention you could imagine, no one would show up. But don't stop looking, we're out there! I've been getting to know an...|||atamagasuita I have tried it. I've even enjoyed it. But like LordPixel said, I don't treat it like a spiritual experience. I'm not that troubled by alcohol in itself, I'm more troubled by the way...|||LordPixel Good for you. I'm glad you're in a better place now. And now you can show the way for people going through the same thing.     twirler I have a couple of sensing friends where we have a...|||Your repulsion to how those guys treat women is exactly why the world needs infp men. I'm a female infp and I don't know what it's like on the other side, but I know it can't be easy to live with...|||Ah yes, snobbish is the perfect word for this. I can be unintentionally snobbish as well. I think it ultimately comes down to variety. I've realized it's fine to have fun, crazy moments like that,...|||When it comes to physical attraction, I've been attracted to a broad variety of physical features. Though I always notice things like facial hair and hands for some weird reason. Ruggedness is a good...|||This is messed up, but every time I make plans, I feel a tinge of hesitancy or regret right before I go or after I say yes. I always wind up going anyways, cause I refuse to flake, and I'll always...|||I appreciate this post so much, thank you. I see a similar pattern in my parents. They both immigrated from a third world country to the United States where they achieved prosperity and stability in...|||Wanting power but valuing integrity over power is very oneish. Integrity and personal responsibility definitely seems to be a big deal to you. These values are not solely owned by type 1 but they are...|||Holy moly Batman, that was deep. I had to read it a couple times over again because of how beautiful it was. I had an isfp friend who would randomly drop truth bombs like that and you kinda remind me...|||Damn, this was insightful. Are you a 9? Are you a ti user? I assumed you were.   I agree with you on a lot of points. The lie that 9's tell themselves is that they can be content with anything....|||All I can say is, I'm rooting for you both. That was so touching.   In regards to being creative, you don't have to be the creative one all the time. Like, you just have to support her in her...|||So, is it safe to say you want a partner who's half-assed? :wink:|||Wow, that's an excellent point. I tend to hone in on the individuals that I feel like are being pushed out.  I care about the vulnerable and the people who have been forgotten and overlooked in...|||You are an extremely self aware and developed estj. But there's a couple points I want to make.   -You can experience your emotions without losing yourself.  -When a person is good for us, they...|||This thread has been helpful to me as well, because I can forget how I'm coming across or how I'm affecting other people with my behavior. So it's good to see it from the other point of view.  ...|||Isfp's want to experience the meaning. They prefer action over speculation. Infp's want to conceptualize and verbally take apart the meaning. They prefer theory over action.  Though I will say, as...|||I think I want an infj now lol.   I would prefer my partner to be more structured than me, and I tend to value decisiveness in men,but by no means do I need someone else to run my life or make...|||Red Magician Why resentment?|||She sounds about as infp as it gets lol. I'm a little confused about what the problem is though. Is the problem that you don't see the relationship lasting long term? Is it that you can't gauge her...|||Asd456 Good Lord, I'm kind of embarrassed by how much I relate to your boyfriend. The perceived emotional coldness, the obsession with hobbies, the stubbornness and selfishness.     I do have an...|||god of whiNE and TIts. I do love isfjs, my mama is one and so is Samwise Gamgee and you can never go wrong with Samwise:).   But I've never been able to relate to fe or ti as cognitive functions....|||Hmm, I'm an infp, so I've never really related to fe, but Sp/sx makes sense to me as well. When I read the description of the social blindspot, it felt almost a little painful, because it captured a...|||So when I reflect on my behavior in my relationships, I behave like an sp/sx, and I test as an sp/sx but a lot of my interests are so oriented. Could you guys type me based on the following...|||I personally have faith in God, and this has largely resolved the inner turmoil that you described.   In regards to what you said about holding on to underdeveloped values, I think this occurs when...|||I think fully expressing your emotions in their entirety will get them off your chest and then you'll be able to focus on other things. So find a way to express yourself, whether you use art,...|||Lord Pixel I actually isfj's could be a good bet too. Istj's definitely have a goofy playful side to them, but I find isfj's are even more playful while still being quite practical. They just tend to...|||That's because xnxj types are chronically sexy. Idk what it is about them. I tend to find especially enfj's and intj's very attractive in different ways. Enfj's because they're like the ideal leaders...|||As far as personality goes:  -similar spiritual beliefs - Integrity, strong moral code - Nonjudgmental of people who are different - Self aware -Takes responsibility for himself -Goofy, weird,...|||Have you officially introduced him to the enneagram? Or have you typed him on your own? I ask because learning about the enneagram was what enabled me to improve my tendencies and thought processes...|||You definitely have some strong one and nine energy going on. I'd say 1w9 or 9w1 sp/so if I had to guess. Some 9w1's experience self-criticism but not quite to the extent that you're describing. As a...'