'If he likes delineating blow-by-blow events of people's lives, perhaps you could give him a blow-by-blow of your life a little each time he texts? then - after exchanging texts for as long as you're...|||sometimes complex family issues - and demands - can create awkward interplay between people when a wedding is involved. family members (sometimes mothers, sometimes fathers) can insist that the...|||contrary to all the hype, we are anything but mind-readers! intuition can often sense realities concealed within a person, or mysteriously just know things about them (hint: it only seems...|||may i add a thought?  confusion about one's MBTI type is likely due to enneatype influence.   there are stereotypes - as well as statistics based on such small segments of the world population...|||i'm sorry about how you are feeling - i can only imagine what kind of pain you are going through. :(  may i ask some straightforward questions that might help you sort through your feelings? if...|||be yourself, be genuine, and always tell her the truth, don't hide your true feelings or internal struggles.  don't take any special strategy to try to get her interested in you - just be your...|||yes, it has happened. there are people in the world who take advantage of kindness. two reasons come to mind:  1) many people are so self-protective that they become self-centered in their approach...|||i am so sorry you are going through all this :(  you aren't a burden - you definitely deserve help! there are people who care and would want to be there for you. you know how meaningful life feels...|||this is great!!! :)|||on the MBTI test i've only ever tested as INFJ. on the cognitive functions test, i once tested as ENFJ. :)|||the most likely soulmate for an INFJ is anyone with a compatible enneatype.  i'm getting married to an ENTP in a week, but his ENTP personality is not the primary source of the magnetism between...|||Dear House,   Since you seem intent on following the Second Law of Thermodynamics, allow me to introduce you to the fourth one:   'In a closed system, disordered arrangements tend naturally...|||strange recognition...an enfolding sense of comfort combined with soothing shock at the inexplicable sameness|||apparently i carry on rambling, goofy conversations in my sleep, sometimes. i think my subconscious mind has a silly streak, a very giggly one. lol|||1. our personal space is sacred ~ invade it, unlock doors, touch things, or move stuff around only by invitation  2. our time alone is inviolable ~  it's nothing against you but necessary for our...|||i wish to add: answers in this thread that are labeled by you as lacking in logic are just people replying in kind. when a person makes an insulting comment, the person at whom the insult is directed...|||you're not crazy!!   INFJ brains are linked heavily between the conscious and subconscious, therefore the line between dreams and conscious reality is fuzzy. we INFJs perceive this world partially...|||there are no people in the world without subconscious emotional biases. no one in this world is purely objective, no matter how much they flatter themselves that they are.   objectivity means you...|||enneagram test results aren't necessarily accurate, and enneagram typing isn't necessarily static.   enneagram theory teaches growth beyond natural tendencies or downhill spiraling into one's worst...|||yes, somewhat often i get a feeling out of the blue about something happening in the life of someone (with whom there are emotional ties) who is away at the time, that i couldn't possibly know...|||i can identify with what Antipode said about finding non-Fe types less draining during that time. i LOVE Fe types; this has nothing to do with how i feel about them as people; it has everything to do...|||one more addition:  THE COMPLAINT: You can't be an 'X' type because you aren't acting like one.  (another variant of the above: You must be a 'Y' type instead of your labeled type ('X')...|||i have yet to understand WHY 4 is considered such a cool type. i am a 4 but don't view it as any sort of badge of honor, more like a badge of shame...actually, i don't understand why any enneagram...|||[spaceholder for when i have time to post here, tomorrow] :p|||accept us the way we are. this is the opposite of criticism, insistence on verifying the supposed validity of our feelings or behavior, or impossible-to-please-ism.  be there, and still be there...|||enneagram type 1 INFJs are likely to follow the rules with extreme care, while internally debating them (perhaps castigating themselves for this tendency), being very critical of the current...|||it has been so incredibly reassuring to discover that the physical traits that i could never accept about myself are actually some of my fiance's favorite features about me, to see that what i could...|||It was a dark and stormy night, and Snoopy sat alone on his typewriter punching out a post for the INFJ Random Thoughts Thread. When he was done, Woodstock translated it into HorizontalLineglish so...|||i.ADORE.your creativity!!! :)|||Vivid Melody:  http://www.ohmagif.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/02/cute-adorable-kitten-reaction-to-tickling.gif  :)|||has anyone found that peppermint improves their mood?|||http://www.mcdowellcountyncdss.org/images/motherprotectingchild.jpg/image_preview|||i hope it comes true!!! :)|||Think of an experience in your life resembling the children's story The Emperor's New Clothes - were you a part of the crowd, or the child? Share your story! :)|||i was defiant, but not in the typical way...more of an i dare you attitude. it's hard to describe.  i respect the role of authority to enforce rules that don't violate human rights, and wish for...|||same here...why is it that deceit has its own very recognizable vibe? that is a vibe that unsettles me to the core, and i can't relax when in the presence of it.|||i feel that way too - there is no way to have emotional intimacy without emotional truth with each other, even when it is dreaded. and what is a relationship without really having emotional intimacy?...|||Dear Thoughts,  Stop fighting! Enough with all the arguing in there! I realize you can't agree or come to any diplomatic conclusion that satisfies all of you, but I can't hear myself think over all...|||Ni dumps a wide variety of grains of flour and seeds and dry goods into a sifter (Ti) that stirs them around to sort them out, separating them by what fits the defined grid and what doesn't,...|||this might arise from an INFJ's enneagram type more so than their MBTI type.   for instance, if you look at the source of the over-responsibility, you might see the enneatype there...is it:  -...|||i have been that way at times. sometimes i think we need more social interaction than we admit to ourselves. :)|||the more compatible he is, the more he will like you, the more you reveal of your true self ~ and i find that men are often far more accepting than we women expect them to be: it seems that this is a...|||could introversion be more an involuntary response to emotional drain than an actual preference for INFJs? i wonder if i am only as introverted as adjacent others inspire me to be...|||insecurity can also motivate a person to allow the other one to initiate communication, so as to reassure oneself that communication is wanted by the other at that time, and to avoid (feared or...|||What makes you relax...this way?  You lay back and your muscles melt into the softness as the cushions yield and form themselves around you, enveloping you in comforting pillowed relief, as your...|||it is interesting how opposite the view is, when observed from within our head.   from the outside, the door is closed to new ideas, thus the person within must be closeminded and stubborn. from...|||Can you take her aside privately and ask her if there's something you can do to improve your relationship with her? I am so sorry you are dealing with this :(.|||it might help to focus more on how much you love the man who gave it to you, rather than on whether you love the ring. the ring is a symbol of his love - it is not the essence of your relationship. ...|||so, so true - i deleted the only ones that haven't been said to me, but the above list is CLASSIC - great list!!! :)|||it hits me lots of times, such as:  - when someone in need needs me at a time when it's inconvenient or when i had other plans, and all i can think about is myself  - when i'm tired or...'