i logged on today with the intent of exploring self-defeating tendencies.  my own as well as others experience.  hoping for a little support, direction or inspiration... at the very lest a venting...|||so wish i had a set of those magic bracelets and golden lasso!:blushed:|||:unsure:hmmm  maybe start actively living a life; to me, your post sounds as though you go through it all quite passively; believing things happen to you rather than  resulting from any action you...|||excellent point!  which leads me to wonder ... why is kindness often mistaken for weakness?|||perhaps the random act could be less directed ... holding open a door, smiling at a sour puss, picking up a piece of litter, leaving a flower on a friend's car.|||only you know your intent.  what do you carry in your heart?|||pssst ... if she beats you to the random punch, why don't you throw in a special treat with the lettuce and milk? a note, a picture, a chocolate bar, an avocado, a candle, a big randomly senseless...|||i would imagine, then, you are already inspiring others to pick up the torch, so to say!  keep on shining!|||lol! nick lowe sang all about it!|||thats because that pashmnina scarf was yummy!  hopefully it will inspire you to senseless acts of beauty! lol|||Surprise! It?s Random Acts of Kindness Week - Tonic  So, will you actively attempt to manifest a kinder world?  some of us do every day, some of us resent being told when and what to do; others...|||Kept 81213 you provided such wonderful insight, which is very much appreciated.  your shared experiences really connected me to some of the issues i have been tossing around in my mind.  the pacing...|||so, i'm an openminded carefree (for the most part) ENFP spirit who happens to trip across the path of an offduty ESTJ swat cop who sweeps me off my feet.(with his hand on the small of my back)  two...|||i would be interested in reading this if you don't mind digging ...|||I totally agree with both of you!  and yes, having a nice buffer of good times and good vibes is certainly a shield.  I often start with a generalized statement, while having a more specific...|||YOU ARE A GENIUS!  i had no real curiosity about the dots, although immediately knew what you referred to.  i clicked and viola! *mmmwwwaaahhhh* big kiss on the cheek for you; i promise i didn't...|||Have you ever felt someone just sucking the life right out of you?  I have, more times than I think is ok!  Admittedly, it is usually partly my fault.  I love to throw myself out there and FEEL!  So,...|||i am tenacious and genuine. i will let you know if you have sadly mistaken my kindness for weakness; and you will be better for it. i make the perfect dirty martini.|||i just saw your climate controlled beer vault, ETG, on youtube.  way cool!|||i love it when questions bring more questions!    i was terribly confused by tropical zodiac ... and non western zodiac, so i hit the interpoop and did some reading.  granted, what i will share...|||BINGO!  that is where i am leading.  thanks for the feedback!|||my peanut butter can always use some jelly :)  i do struggle with order .. both in feeling the need to put things in place ... and feeling confined when there is too much structure.    so, i...|||keep exploring and enjoy yourself!|||Right On Geodude! :cool:|||i totally agree that astrology is far more than sun sign, but i was going with the keep it simple stupid mind set figuring i could discern more information as time rolls on.    by investigating sun...|||sorry , i posted twice and am unsure how to remove the duplicate|||i am curious ...what is the correlation (if any) between astrological sun sign and MBTI typing?  i am an ENFP    i am a november sagittarian|||i really feel what you are feeling, even when you do not verbally express it.  so much so, that i sometimes get choked up and can't speak.  othertimes, when it seems i am hanging on your every...|||NatalieAnn asked me this very same question...  Hello! Great question!  lets see if i can do it justice :0)  wisdom is knowing i am nothing: to me, this reflects the state of nonbeing attained...|||um ... maybe you have a hard time disengagining from the thinking part of yourself into the feeling part of yourself.  it takes trust (or faith or lunacy) to release hold of reason and allow the self...|||hi! enjoy!|||that moment just before lips so very close meet ... ah simple delight.    my lover and i spent a solid month just kissing for hours.  teasing careeses, at times very physical and ardent ...  in...|||i am also a fan of  ... what did you call them *scrolls up and looks* ... craft beers.  a friend of mine brews at home.  he is a fourth grade teacher and into all things scientific.  while he tends...|||ok, for what it is worth ...   be there, but don't smother: she sounds vulnerable and in transition. if you are looking for a healthy loving LONGTERM relationship no need to rush things into the...|||without a doubt Gilda Radner!       “some stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle and end.  Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without...|||it is très compliqué ... ah the intrigues of life!:blushed:|||well done!|||AH, sweet slumber!  LOVE to sleep.  tune out for a bit, recharge.  i HATE alarm clocks.  don't use them.  my day is always a struggle if i am sharing morning with a fan of the snooze button UGH!...|||http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o5nSFRJcr9A|||in other words pinpointing a population that would best be served by  believing what is necessary for them to believe so that we can live successful compelling lives?  curious, indeed.|||do you need a hug?   ))meyou((   there you go a nice little side by side hug.  feeling better?|||you made me smile|||Cure for Pain ~ Morphine   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=985JGeGq_tc|||yum... pomegranate?  although yum to danish pastry, too!|||thanks maddieraine! hope you are having a lovely evening:wink:|||hi there livingalife. i thought i could have some good time here by sharing and discussing ideas and experiences with others[/quote]  me too.  seems like there is plenty of threads to learn from...|||i relate with the ripple effect of just being in the moment and inspiring others to be comfortable and confident in their own skin...not because you are trying, just because you are.|||Hello sensitive doer ... what led you to this forum?|||although res - not so much a greeting as an acknowledgement ... you are an interesting cat|||Grey and Res HOWDY!  i feel like i am looking through my magic mirror and seeing all my new friends ... ok i am dating myself a bit with that but, made me smile!  Am still learning the lay of the...