'I don't think anything about her is an ISTJ. Not a one.  She may show traits that people misconstrue as being ISTJ, but that's just because of whatever stresses she's under at those times.|||I can identify with having a strange attraction to things far against my moral code.  What I know is that even those I sometimes like those things in my entertainment, I have no interest in those...|||OMG YES. FREAKIN +1 on that jcal  I feel like I'm way WAY WAY more accepting of the possibility that I'm wrong or can't see something from a certain point of view than most are and yet I get called...|||Well, it's often non-ISTJ women starting those threads.  I guess ISTJ women are generally less problematic for non-ISTJ guys?|||Yeah, what I meant by really obvious is at least 100 times more obvious than saying good friend and brother  In fact, that's the opposite. If he objected at a time AFTER you said good friend or...|||It's not just an issue for you, it's an issue I think many ISTJs have. And the reason we have it is just because of how our minds work. There is NOTHING wrong with needing more time to process...|||If I'm reading this right, you are saying that you ARE open to having a relationship further than just great friends? In that case, even if you don't feel like you can directly say I want to have a...|||I don't really know. Probably just around each other too much too soon? She was possibly just distracted(though I wouldn't put it this way) with life stuff since the whole trip was about helping her...|||He definitely thinks of you as more than a friend and definitely quite likely as a love interest. I wouldn't say 100% for sure until he ACTUALLY says this though. If anything, I IMAGINE he's very...|||I ABSOLUTELY agree with not forcing yourself to rush and making people wait. If they don't have the patience to let you gather your thoughts they might not be worth the time it takes to talk to them...|||That is a gross exaggeration. Any human can understand any other human if both sides put in the work to do it. If they don't then yeah, they won't understand.   Saying an ISTX would never...|||If he wasn't just having a bad day, explaining that clearly, like No I actually really want to know how you're doing and I'm prepared to listen to what you have to say seriously and won't get bored...|||I don't think love language is so completely related to MBTI types in that way. Like I said, I actually like physical affection. Though I do agree with too much surface level instances of it being...|||I wouldn't call that being a pseudo-ISTJ, just an INTJ with those particular qualities.|||I definitely identify with having musical taste all over the place and even getting introduced to stuff through other forms of media, but overall I think my taste is a little more 4 if we're going...|||A good reset, reboot, reevaluation is refreshing.|||Well, it certainly went.  No problems or anything, but not much conversation outside of language questions of basic stuff. I feel like I really shouldn't have driven her from the viewpoint of...|||I see, yeah I had a really hard time understanding exactly what the thread was about.  About the song, it's funny because the song is just about Hokkaido Japan as a place and has entire verses of...|||Chuckle produced in record time even out of context. I believe the data shows this humor to be what could be classified as highly effective. Experience noted, enjoyed, filed. Thank you.|||I dunno, I'm not into it at all.  I feel like Si tends to create artistic taste in ISTJ's that is completely relative to their experience growing up rather than anything else. I've never met an...|||Too late, I already did and she said ok and not only that but she has to go today instead of Saturday which I'm perfectly fine with but yeah! :shocked:|||Yeah, thanks. I helped her out today to get a look at the area she's thinking of moving to and although all i did was drive her there and back is was a pretty good day and I got super happy about it...|||I just meant like, if their personality just constantly and unintentionally conflicts with mine often. Although, if it was intentional that would obviously be a red flag too lol  I see, thanks for...|||islandlight  That sounds like the kind of reason I might give when I'M trying to lie my way out of something. Definitely seems like a bad sign to me.    To be honest, I'm not 100% sure yet, but...|||Yeah, being an ISTJ, as much as that excited part is super loud right now, the more rational part isn't convinced yet. I talked with my roommate about it and we reached the conclusion that I need to...|||I definitely concur on Ne for ISTJ's being a negative thing almost completely in my experience. I use it, for sure, but it always comes out naturally only when I'm really stressed out and can't...|||I can't give any advice, unfortunately, but I can say that I also have difficulty getting a long with the ESTJ's I've met, so you're not alone in that. I'm actually interested to hear any...|||So, I am sort of getting to know a girl one my own terms for the first time ever. By which I mean, I'm the one inviting her out, and I met her on my own rather than through friends who already knew...|||Yeah I felt the exact same way reading that, niss  Thankfully it ended well lol|||Curry is the ultimate in food delivery methods.|||That is the worst thing about being the quiet one, when people decide to take that as being good manners or like self-control, or whatever other thing they want to reward you for when all you want is...|||1. Please define empathy. From the Mirriam-Webster:  The action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another...|||I am sorry this is off-topic but your avatar is driving me INSANE right now. I looked at it for like 3 seconds and now it's become one of those unscratchable mental itches.|||Nothing. It's pretty much just a normal day for me.  Maybe at the very most I'd like to have a nice dinner with a SO, but other than that I don't really want any kind of celebration and even when I...|||If he can change at all it's going to take a very long time. I think he originally said 4 years on his own for really good reason. You will NOT be able to rush him to mature, and some aspects of...|||OMG YES that ft. inconsistency absolutely KILLS ME. You said it in much more detail, but yeah, all of that that you said. lol|||If it wasn't a breakup I'd actually appreciate such detail, but since it is, I agree it's probably too much. Especially if the ISTJ is in love with you|||It does seem strange that a bunch of people have been banned all at once|||I have literally only felt real, effortless(as in I wasn't specifically trying to understand or specifically trying to relate or empathize) empathy probably twice in my life.  Once was the...|||You spend several hours maybe even spread over multiple days tagging all of your music. Adding album covers, fixing genre listings, improperly named tags etc.|||If he's like me, he might be running away because he literally can't process anything anymore and just needs to shut off to regain energy to even be able to think or talk.     I get angry when...|||Weekend   Thanks, for real. I think I knew that, but I've been resisting because in some ways, even though i'm afraid of mediocrity, another part is afraid of becoming something more, which is what...|||I mean, there's some other people i talk to outside of this close circle that I definitely have deep talks with but it's like, to me, their problems are still their problems, not mine. So while...|||How do I even do this? I mean, I'm living with what I would consider to be very supportive people even by most people's standards. At least I think so.     Again, I think I have this already but...|||This is something I've definitely had an issue with for a long time now too. Not really sure how to deal with it either|||I'm 3 years late to my own thread. Sorry, I think I just panicked and needed to say something, and it's kind of happening again. I forgot I even made this thread.     See, I feel like I am very...|||No, Japanese can be spoken genderless unless you specifically point it out.|||I mostly watch anime, read manga, play games(specifically character action games like DMC, MGR, Bayonetta, etc.). I haven't done it since I was a kid but I've always liked mountain biking and camping...|||Personally I kind of hate that I am an ISTJ. Living with an ENTP I see the power of Ne Ti and with INFJ the power of Ni Fe and I just hate how selfish it makes me feel. I don't have self-discipline...|||I have an INFP friend. She has been pretty strongly affected by her life experiences so she gets angry or upset somewhat easily and often with me(I think). I want to be her friend, and I know she...'