'You can play chaotic neutral but still be pro-social, right? :) As in, it's useful for a party to work well together, whether they're making good or evil decisions. This way, you could be the...|||This is bad, I think. Just based on the threats to kill herself if you leave. I hope you're okay and that she is too.   My best friend from college is an INTP with an ENFP girlfriend, too. They...|||(^ Lol to Forgot to add OP was impotent.)  I think maybe the OP is just trying to understand a commonly held belief inside and out. I hate feeling like I've bought into what essentially ends up...|||I'm very confused! When I saw the thread topic, I thought it was like A Modest Proposal kind of satirical thread. I kept going back and forth... I can't tell if my Fi is making it impossible for me...|||16, INFP, not diagnosed.  Erm... was it just me, or did other people think their scores would be higher as they were answering questions?|||Hi Salad Days, What is it you're trying to fix? having feelings of jealousy? (That's what I'm gathering from the title of the post)... but what if the feelings are trying to tell you something? :/|||This is an old request, but if you're still interested (I so rarely read nonfiction), I just read A Blessing by Gregory Orr. I guess it's technically a memoir. If you want a way to evaluate, here's...|||Irrelevant: Oh, Monsieur Melancholy. It's been too long. :) I took a hiatus and how I missed your threads.|||I don't know. We'll pretend that I'm not also a grad student right now and that I could theoretically afford to spend money on a co-working space.  I think I'd probably never be interested in one,...|||Me! I use Skype for a lot of my work, so for that I prefer to be in the quiet and predictable sanctity of my home. But for my just get it done work, I tend to prefer cafes. The kind that let you...|||I'm saving this. SO WELL PUT. I think this must be how I ended up in poetry. Images are still much easier than words. :: sigh :: :)|||Your post is very vague. Can you give us more concrete info? Like what are some really weird things to get my attention? When you say I gave her some [attention, I hope], how? What is she doing...|||Everyone is different, but a lot of brain scan/MBTI literature shows higher correlations of empathy-related brain activity in Fs. Maybe that is why? (One source)   PS I'm really proud of my F7...|||There's nothing wrong with that! You Be You. :) I only meant that I probably have little to offer of use, based on how differently we see things.|||Man. I was totally going to respond, and then Techie1 had to go and say the word utility.   Fundamental difference in premise between my kind and yours, Sirs NT.   I heartily salute the women...|||I think what a lot of Fi users above are saying about sincerity might actually be the friction between an Fi user (your ENFP) and an Fe user.  In his article on INFPs (I realize it's not the same...|||Do books count? :/|||Could it be a 9 desire-to-merge thing? Less to do with sexual attraction and more to do with the fascination of becoming more like someone you admire? (I had this a lot in the past... she said as if...|||Aww! I like NT-NF matches... :)  By public image, did you just mean how you appear to her when you're talking to other people in her vicinity?  If so, I would agree with what CptObvious says...|||364850  Come over, everyone! I has two. And much 5-lb-dog wardrobe.|||I think there are too many of us now for this to be an appropriate image. (What book is that from, though? I don't remember!) More like this maybe?   http://www.tubechop.com/watch/2833881|||I find this helpful from the Enneagram Institute website. Despite being about relationship trouble between a 7 and 9, the article highlights some of the 7 and 9's differences by saying how each type...|||I guess I'd like to confirm your suspicion. I've NEVER heard military movie as a genre, let alone as *the* genre that can get someone to cry. Though... does something like Armageddon count? I...|||LOL. If they're stressful to watch, why do you watch them?!  I was also going to say to anonymouskaytie, Maybe this 'talking during a movie' question introduces too many confounding variables...|||lol This was so perfect. Thank you for corroborating the ESFP theory! :)|||It's a dark and scary place. :D|||Actually, since this thread is somewhat based on generalization....  You know who never sit through movies silently? In my vast sample size of three ESFPs, they never sit through movies silently....|||I sit through a movie mostly in silence, but I can't suppress laughter or tears. It doesn't occur to me to hold back because I'm totally sucked in. Does that count? or did I fail? :(  (BTW, my INFJ...|||https://bookofbadarguments.com/|||Hm... I sense a preoccupation with food and drink among us INFPs. :)  I, like the OP, am immediately infatuated with anyone who hands me coffee. This morning, I walked my dogs to the coffee stand...|||Their hand gestures kind of remind me of Sims 1 interactions. :)  lol - One of my dogs is barking at this video.   He does this when my INFJ friend and I are talking sometimes, too.|||Well, it depends. What are your interests? Sometimes it helps to have something organized so that socializing seems like a secondary purpose. (I guess you can tell that this advice comes someone...|||I really relate to this (from when I was younger, though). It sounds like you're being smart about not expressing your opinion to your dad. If you know he'll react in a terrifying way, it's probably...|||Lol -- I love how you and Iamtp are totally having this side conversation that none of us INFPs are engaging.   And, @Iamtp, if not for the rabies, we'd bed you. I speak for us all.  EDIT: I...|||I'm really relieved to hear you say that. I think I also tend to project an even-keeled, (poorly?) Te-filtered exterior. Partly because, otherwise, I've run into a lot of problems trying to explain...|||I'm also interested in sleeping 6 hours a day.  I want to go to bed by midnight starting tomorrow (obviously, I've already missed the boat today).  And I want to start writing 3 hours a day,...|||I would have said Shell until I heard NPR this morning.  Chevron is probably just as bad, so I realize this is an illogical reason. But my preference for that yellow shell isn't really logical...|||Hi Crystal19. I'm a little confused. (But like Belle Chat says, it sounds like a excitingly tantalizing situation!)   Could you clarify some things? You said he's someone you can't have, but you...|||Anyone who makes people feel unable to speak their minds. (And I don't only mean this for the oppressed minority, though they are usually the ones who feel silenced. A vocal minority can bully the...|||I do this sometimes.   Not with the same feeling of hurt you describe -- I think I've always been very lucky in that regard. Also, like infpwoman, I'm also very forgiving when people I care about...|||I don't know if this illuminates anything for you, but in case it does, have you read personalityjunkie? He says:    The way you described spacing out reminded me of this. (Because I liked the...|||Yeah, tell us how this ends. :)|||I do. But more as a measure of how self-possessed I am. In other words, if I read it and feel compelled to live my life based on what it says OR use it to understand myself at the face value of the...|||Thanks for understanding. :)    I know what you mean. But one of my best friends in class is an INFJ, and (maybe her perception is different because she is a 4?) she always says that her hyper...|||Is it possible you're doing something socially inappropriate without knowing it?  When I was in Korea for a year, I was told by my friends that people could really tell I was American, even if I...|||We do not inherit the earth from our ancestors, we borrow it from our children. -Native American Proverb|||Hm... Actually, the problem avoidance could be a 7 thing more so than an INFP thing. Other INFPs I know want to resolve conflicts at the end of the day. They're just nervous about paying the initial...|||digitalbum, Thank you for that video. Another reminder that the world is a scary place.|||31 out of 36. That really was fun!  Did people see the compiled results? Maybe not enough people have taken the test, but there don't appear to be any obvious trends.|||I had a professor who once told me that if I had problems with a guy's  character or personality, I should decide early on if I could live with  those problems forever because those are the issues...'