'OMG, my head is going to explode from this conversation. I recently had a heated debate about fashion with an INTJ guy I was dating. His manner of dressing like more of a geriatric than my -almost 60...|||Some of them, I find it comforting to be around b/c I feel so at ease. Others are fucking exhausting in their miserliness and just general overall know-it-all demeanors.|||I would probably consider that a betrayal if the post was made without your having bothered to discuss the matter with me first, rather than having resorted to seeking anonymous advice. It would feel...|||Going on the assumption that the person in question is someone I love and/or care very much about, I will apologize sincerely for having done something to make them feel that way, and I will make a...|||I personally, while easily frustrated, very rarely show it, and very rarely get truly angry. I recently dated another INTJ for a few weeks, and he sounds a lot like your husband.   I couldn't stand...|||Also, this. You don't need to tip-toe around me, ever. Seriously, just don't. I not only do not need your coddling, but it is also woefully unwelcomed.|||I cannot stress the significance of the above post by lilysocks enough. If I say I don't know exactly what's wrong, or that I don't want to talk about it, I am NOT being a passive aggressive cunt who...|||Meaning, wherever you may find it.|||Well, the problem, you see, is that when we go out and use our Se, it's kind of half-assed Se, which results in some pretty epic fails. I TRY really hard to get all things prepared for a party, for...|||I have a strong sense of aesthetics and appreciate beautiful things, even well-cut clothes, etc.   I constantly narrowly avoid (sometimes fail to avoid) running into inanimate objects, even such...|||I'm an INTJ with ADHD. I've been getting treatment for it since I was about 18 (31, now), and I initially thought I may have been an INTP b/c of my struggles with organization and staying on task....|||Lol, well, I'd say I have a thing for deviance, not badness.  Distinctive difference, here. You should not look for an INTJ woman to be your Sugar Momma unless you've got some kind of -between the...|||The point is they're going to do it, anyway. You only control you.|||Reading of all kinds, baking, cooking, learning new things, painting, obsessively researching whatever my latest, frequently changing interest is at that moment, drinking (booze, preferably) & having...|||I do the only thing I can do: make sure that I'm not contributing by putting more shit out there.|||Fuck yes, I would. I'm awesome. But seriously, after my last relationship w/an ENFP ended so spectacularly, I think someone like me would be a refreshing change of pace. What, you want to make PLANS...|||I do it to take a break from the monotony of my job, most days. I find it helps to reset my brain a little, but no indication of improved cognition that I can tell. I've done it for over a year.|||Shit, I was gonna say this. Well, I guess I won't be doing it for a while now, anyway, so I'd better find something else fun to do.|||What about something that could combine your personal ties with medicine with your loves of writing and policy, etc? You could write hospital and/or healthcare policy. Or you could become a political...|||I don't think that at this stage of my life, I could justify and/or live with having abortion, but I certainly could've in the past when I was younger, and I think women should have the right to...|||Sorry I'm not really answering the post right now, but, do NOT go to law school. Saying it doesn't have very high job prospects is the understatement of the century. Your intelligence and talents...|||Thank you. I feel the same things you are expressing, here. I did actually give him ample opportunity to explain before jumping to conclusions. Also, I was even willing to give him a chance to seek...|||I have no idea what to make of any of this, but it made me laugh. :proud:|||Haha, wellll, unfortunately he is not interested in growing into a better person. I quote, I'm ok with my psychological damage remaining untreated! This is a ship that is sinking and I am not about...|||I can tell you that I am hyper intuitive, and I have no less than BEGGED him to confide in me and communicate his feelings on countless occasions. You can't force someone who is determined to see the...|||I have to tell you, I am in 100% agreement with you on all of this. He of course tries to deny that he has any problems whatsoever, and in the end, I feel sorry for him. I am grieving the wonderful...|||Ha, well, I can agree with this second part, mostly. I do not think he would've been caught by most other women b/c the intuition we have just makes us pick up on little things most ppl would never...|||This made my day. :happy:|||This made my day. :happy:|||Are you sure I didn't write this post? Just saying, maybe you broke into my brain or something and then passed it off as yours...  I have no desire to have biological children. Being pregnant...|||Any insights you all may be able to provide for me into what would lead to such behaviors and/or how I may be able to recognize signs that something is amiss w/someone BEFORE wasting over 4 years of...|||Welllll, I've got to believe that not everyone is shit, since I know I'm not, and I can't be the ONLY one! But yeah, it's fucking deflating to repeatedly have your trust betrayed by someone you...|||Hahaha, well, the truth is, as an Enfp, it actually does really hurt him every time I rant to him about how horrible he made me feel. He doesn't want to hear it b/c it's painful for him to have to...|||Thanks, I guess that I'm out of bed & getting ready for work today is as good a start as any! Heh, Yesterday, I called in sick. I legitimately did feel sick, in my defense, but, I think Im a little...|||This is all really sound advice, & much appreciated. I plan to make an appt with a therapist tomorrow. I will need to go around and remove reminders, as well. I can't bear any emotional setbacks.|||Thanks, that actually feels good to hear.    It is, epically so. It still feels surreal, like it can't possibly be happening to me.    Yeah, earlier I sent him a rant e-mail just b/c I had to...|||Thanking whatever Gods may be out there that I grew up with a Father who idolized my Mother, and would be so heartbroken if he knew about this, that I doubt HE could get over it.   It will still be...|||The incredible part of it is really that I don't think he has any guilt! He just feels badly that he hurt me, but not for his actions, basically. He had no remorse while he was having sex with these...|||Thanks, it's really helpful just to be reaffirmed that you're on the right track, at least. But seriously, about my being a likeable person, he said:  you're totally awesome, and brilliant, and...|||Any advice on how to cope with such a terrible experience as this is much appreciated. I posted this on the intj forum, but thought I may be able to get some insights from more non-intjs here, as...|||For me, it can really go either way. For example, I just found out my boyfriend of 4 yrs cheated on me for several months with numerous women, and I have not left my house since Friday.:sad:  So, in...|||I've come to believe that people who do not share this state of being just will never fully understand. We don't know how we know, we just DO!   It's so hard to find that proper balance where you...|||This is so true. At 30, I've finally learned that it's ok for a friend to compliment, but when they do it in a comparison, the friendship will always be unbalanced, and thus, not a friendship at all....|||OMG, are you me?|||I am an opportunistic sexual being, but this is limited to my romantic partner. When I have no one special in my life, I practically never think about sex; however, when in a relationship, my sex...|||It was new to me as well, I assure you. I only found out when my first friend to have a baby informed me. She was naturally incredulous, as she was taught 9 months, as well. I personally have no...|||Try 10 months, buddy (yeah, my friends were surprised to learn this upon their 1st pregnancies, too).|||I was thinking the exact same thing, hahaha. Ermmm, wtf is that? is what I'd expect to get, if anything at all...  For all the things I love about TX, there are as many facepalm inducing...|||Not to derail this quality discussion, but, I thought it was only appropriate to inform you, one ChanceyRose, that presumptuous @ssery made my day, and I'm forging immediate plans to execute the...|||Accidental duplicate post; Sorry.'