Thanks for posting Tchaikovsky Vivid Melody. It made me cry, haha. Brought up a flash of many good childhood memories. I just about now realized how much my parents contributed to my INFJ fairyland...|||i feel bad :( just plain bad. the weight of the things i still have to do, separation anxiety (my boyfriend being out every night and I'm staying in, because I have so much to do), fear of missing...|||I need to work on my constant feelings of resentment towards my partner. He is in this 'I need my freedom!'-phase, whereas I am more in a: 'I need some stability!'-phase. And now we got a puppy. I...|||You are absolutely right of course.  I think I just find it hard to see people spiral down and down. I know this guy now for 8 years. At first, I would always listen and - where asked - give advice...|||how do you help people who don't want your advice, but seemingly only want to complain about how bad their lives are?  furthermore, how do you deal with your own anger concerning other people not...|||I used to totally enjoy dance parties. You could say it doesn't really sound like an introvert activity, but because of the loud music I could safely retreat to my own world without it being noticed....|||I know you are not feeling well and therefore you are pushing me and other friends away, but I am not sure you are realising yourself that you are a lot to take. Friday you are angry at the world,...|||That's an interesting hypothesis too, thanks for sharing. When, do you believe, are people invested enough in their conflict resolution work?   I am just still trying to consolidate the right...|||Yeah I should've left that out, I understood you perfectly the first time. Hence this:   Later on in the article he states that emotional vampires might attract other emotional vampires, people...|||Thanks for responding! Could you describe to me what exactly rubbed you the wrong way? It might be written a bit too bold...with a bit too much assumptions. I can see that too. 'This is like that and...|||Dear INFJs,  How are you today?   I am curious about the following subject: emotional vampires. We all sometimes exhibit emotional vampire-behavior and it's good to be aware of your own...|||I suppose my boyfriend is an ExTJ of some sorts.. Presumably N... But a very laid back one at that ;) I always had a hard time typing him, because he is so so so contradictory. He can be very chill...|||I'm in love with Se|||https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SIiIcd_mx40  Don't you Forget about me I won't  Won't tell nobody  :strawberry:|||Yeah I know.. Maybe we should consider nature vs. nurture? What do we do because we learned that it's good and what do we do by heart?|||This was very blissful and insightful to read haha. One of my best friends is an INTP, he is somewhat unhealthy too, he likes to disappear in his Ti-world, but I can Fe him out again, if you know...|||Haha, my fellows on the INFJ forum helped me remember that I am in fact more of an INFJ (because of Se when stressed out, for instance). But indeed, I score high on both Ne and Ni, both Fi and Fe.....|||Thanks for replying haha tipsybig &      reisiger. It's an existential crisis! :tongue:  I indulge, most defintely haha. I started to think I was an INFJ in the first place, because I can resemble...|||newsflash: i think i might be INFP?  (i am growing up and see certain patterns in my behaviour.. + my friend pointed out to me that i am definitely not a J...uh oh..after all these years! sometimes...|||Hello there, sorry for the rant in advance. Feel free to think with me.  I've been typed as an INFJ for a few years now, but am now considering that I might be INFP.. I always knew I was more on...|||I don't know how to human. I don't know what is normal.  This whole weekend was dedicated to feeling other people's feelings and adjusting my mood, tendencies, rhythm and thoughts to them (I have...|||I am starting to enjoy writing for writing's sake more and more :) I am in a kind of happy mode.. Exploring thoughts, music, ideas, researching optimal well being. Everybody should write about and...|||Upset: aloof. I will try to let it seem like I don't care. Angry: well.. angry. I have a lot of anger. Perhaps it' my 8-wing, I hate feeling powerless. It's not a pretty sight when I am rubbed the...|||Trivial pursuit. (too much facts) Playing ball games (i am slightly cross eyed)|||I'm glad to read people are keeping their heads cool over here. Anxiety is not helping us any further if we cannot do anything about it. Sure, if there's a fire in our house or someone you love is in...|||I am feeling particularly artsy the last few days. I posted some analogue pictures on instagram and FB and they were highly liked.   I think I always had the idea I wasn't creative (because my...|||https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A5OB6UdlR9A&index=51&list=FLymdVcQ2ZcVXBUiV75PIafw|||Aaah the feeling of fresh knowledge. I love discussing topics like hedonism, moralism, life choices, the future with like minded friends. The best feeling is when we both can bring each other new...|||Uncontrollable rage.  Vanity. A slight feeling of superiority (for seeing the greater picture, for being an independent thinker). But more so than anything: learned coldness (dissociating from pain...|||hell hath no fury like an ENTJ scorned.  my BF has some narcissist tendencies, that are more on the surface when he starts drinking. 'I am the only person who is right and I shall control all...|||i'll write an essay for dare devils, living dangerously 101  :devilish:|||http://static.boredpanda.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2016/09/funny-comics-owlturd-comix-adulthood-life-shenanigansen-26-57d7fe6d9af79__605.jpg  haha ;) this resonates with me. I do have a lot of...|||I can be heaps of fun, I really love to play. My 'normal' work mode is pretty serious and philosophical, my 'play' mode is: 'HEY, let's be friends and make the world a playground!', more ESTP/ENFJ....|||Several things... I am working alone in a hotel room, which is like I am part of some weird movie of sorts. Like the movies with a motel somewhere along a desolate road, where dodgy people live for...|||Who puts me and my feet back on the surface of the earth? It gets annoying now, since I know this isn't going to lead anywhere. But my brain has taken over. Good thing it will diminish in a few...|||woops double :bored: i ruin even this haha.|||I have this weird night time anxiety where it is hard to see what I am worth still. I put every mistake and every worry that I have under a looking glass. I made a spelling mistake in a (already...|||In general I have no idea how to lead my life.|||Challenging my perspectives and myself. I am always always always looking for tools for self improvement. Lately I had the idea I was standing still. Due to new experiences I am finally growing...|||I met a woman at work who checks all the pay checks, does the paper work and all other back office things. We spoke and she told me she identified as an INFJ. This threw me for a loop haha. She...|||Why am I always so tired and unsatisfied. I teach people to find what makes them happy... Those who can't do teach.  Maybe I should spend this evening to leisurely activities. Like scanning...|||Now I have managed a paying job, I'd like to find a nice job with a nice company|||I am realising that I am starting to sound like a guru. Every day it gets a little worse. I am preaching my learned beliefs to people who are not specifically asking for it. I need to be aware of...|||I am so stressed aaaaah|||oh i hate that i have to wait for 1,5 hour for a call i might not receive|||What are important values for you in friendships? Maybe it is good to know why you shut down - apparently the other people do not meet your standards, so then I think it is important to know what...|||I recognize myself in OP's mother. When I make mistakes, I will turn it into a small story to entertain. I like this 'human'-ness in other people too. Be yourself, embrace everything, your weaknesses...|||You are doing ok along this path: he defined how some of your remarks might feel for him, you can communicate that you never meant it this way. T's and F's frequently but heads as it comes to being...|||&     Scarlet.Black, I had it too! I had a hard time adjusting to college, a new enviroment, getting a few new friends.. Studying wasn't what I expected. I had difficulties defining my own rules,...|||Lol  cafetalk. Very good that you stood up to your own therapist (!). I would have thought at least a therapist would understand all of our sensitivites. My father always told me that I was too...