'yeah, me too. Drives my husband crazy. I finally read that the tidying helps clear the mind, too, and that seems about right--the way running helps some people think.|||This might just be immaturity with INFJ. I remember this in my teens and early 20's...but it's done now! yea.|||You are all amazing. I think I've been stressed about work too much, or something, because in the last year my 1-2 drinks a week have turned into 1 and sometimes 2 a night. It's usually wine, but...|||...mine likes thrillers, too, and fantasy. I read the Song of Ice and Fire series this spring, and now he's into them, and you can't get him to do anything! But I was like that when reading them,...|||Hmmm, I disagree with most of you because I have been happily married to my ENFP for 12 years now...he's only slightly E, though. He's spontaneous to my stick-in-the-mud-ness, a bit messy to my...|||The thing is, even if humans don't understand you, animals will.|||Hi, yes, I identify exactly with this (INFJ, less Fe, inclined towards INTJ-dom a lot, and enneagram 9)-- and I know that for me the 1,2,3 levels came with age and experience. I don't know how old...|||I was definitely shy as a kid, even as a teen, I think. Now I'm better at dealing with new people and situations, but I frequently just don't have the interest. I still hate calling people on the...|||me too. although I might want to forget!!|||Currently not working as a scientist, per se, but I have majored in physics, then geology, minored in anthro, got a master's in paleontology, now do a lot of geography/map making. Love the sciences,...|||I agree with all the people that say they loosen up a bit and say things they never would have normally, talk more, are more friendly and light. I meant to thank all those people, but gave it up...|||the new Mumford and Sons---http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WLGMyo8wfPc|||To add to this, put BUTTER on the bread before the nut butter, and it's EVEN BETTER. No lie.|||I don't believe in a god anymore, because I see no evidence that anyone is out there, paying attention. I have felt the presence of some sort of higher power, but then again, I felt the same way when...|||me too!  1) Let's assume that you are back at college. Your grandmother gives you $200 to pay for textbooks. Instead, you spend it on something else that is trivial in relative to the textbooks. Do...|||I was with someone I felt was the one, but I slowly started to realize I wasn't the one for him. That was terribly sad... but then someone else came along and invited me to take a swing dance class...|||No, although I was becoming a vegetarian... I had a shoulder injury, and went the other direction. I am now eating paleo, which has pretty much cured it and all these other weird body troubles. But...|||No. Maybe I was when I was in school and writing regularly, but I suck at it now. I'm much better at pictures (drawing/painting) than words. I am way too succinct, so that I leave out important...|||Just want to say to triplespresso (hmm, now I want a mocha for some reason...) that you must be an excellent mom, and thanks for trying to understand your child this way. It amazes me how many people...|||I agree with the above comments and just want to add a nutrition factor. My mood is much better when I get plenty of vitamins, either in pill or veg, and also good meats, especially fats (I mean...|||I'm a 9, maybe a bit 9w1. Of the nines, I'm a self-preserving sort.|||I was raised to make eye contact, but I just can't do it for more than a few seconds. I always break it off. Prolonged eye contact is too intense for me, and I feel bad if anyone thinks I am being...|||I have a Master's in Paleontology and used to want a PhD, but gave that up after working in universities and seeing the real life of professors. Pretty good, but for the publish or perish stress....|||I can relate, as I am very close to being an INTJ. Maybe that's you, too? I am much less touchy-feely than other Fs, but I still make decisions based on F more often.   It's ok to not fit an MBTI...|||I collected things when I was a kid, but now I'm the purging sort. To the point where I overdo it. I can't stand lots of stuff around, but that could be that I live with 4 other people and dog and...|||Me, too, except I'm not sure anyone would call me the life of the party. But I mimic, too.|||For me, there's no real feeling of a wall, but I am not more than casual friendly at first. I don't even really make eye contact with people unless I really have to meet them, like through work, or...|||I have several meanings for life..  One is purely biological- we are here to reproduce. In order to live forever, or rather, for our DNA to live forever, we produce offspring and make sure they get...|||I used to get drunk probably weekly in college, less often after...now I do like to, on special occasions. Honestly, a wedding is sometimes only fun if you are drunk, ha ha. Ahem. I find a certain...|||Alex Clare - Relax my beloved.   I love this man's music.|||Hello! I'll reply with the poem of the day from poems.com. Thought some of you infjs like poetry and all that.  The Supplicant   prays for birds  before an ancient icon— a stray cat.The inbred...|||Nope, I don't even baby talk to babies. I hate it! And I remember my little cousin that I used to babysit told me once she loved that I didn't talk down to her, but just talked to her like she was my...|||My avatar is just a meadow bird, a bobolink, so called because they say, Bob -a -LINK! Amazing, no? I'm a nature-lover, but not  a birder like some people are. I just grabbed it off my work server....|||Try to stay with people who care about you, who wouldn't let you hurt yourself if you need to.   Get counseling.   Or, and I think this is important, make sure you get all your vitamins and...|||I'm not sure if this will help, but...I've been married to an ENFP (ish) for 12 years and he still doesn't really understand me. I don't expect him to, as no one has ever really understood me ever. I...|||I would go with your gut on this. She may be a friend you get to know, who leads you to knowledge or new people that will be important to you. You could imagine the mystic side of this...it's meant...|||and cello. For some reason, both make me feel the same. I think the sound waves must be in the same range or something.|||Yup, happens to me, too, although it's better now that I'm, uh, old. I've got no weird hormonal stuff going on, unlike the real young folks here...never underestimate the moodiness that hormones...|||I'm really sorry this happened to you, but I think introversion can be so hard to deal with for an extrovert. I think in the future, if you start to ask why do you feel this way? kinds of...|||I think maybe (on your part) you might want to stop complaining when you are with people. Just for future reference. Life's too short, and it doesn't help anything, usually. I say this as an old lady...|||Love Alex Clare right now! http://soundcloud.com/alexclareofficial|||Yes I do this all the time. I'm sure I annoy people who want sympathy. And I can never fit in; when I go to the city, I feel all country-bumpkin, and in the country, I feel urban, and on and on....|||I was raised as a relaxed Catholic (my father was Methodist, but did not attend church), and never experienced the whole guilt thing. But I was pretty devout, read the Bible (once), until college...|||Oh I'm a bad responder, this is late.... anyway.   RE:  Girl vs. Woman, maybe I'm defensive, but I really think it's because I'm a scientist, and like to use correct terms. They do it right in...|||I tend to think the word feminism is overthought. To me if you have a mother, or a sister, or a daughter, or female friend, and you want them to be healthy and happy and successful in their lives,...|||In high school, I was on XC, indoor track and track, hung out in the art room for free time, but aced math and science and went into a science field. So I'm the nerd-jock-artsy type?  WUT. I also...|||pro-choice  I carried 3 babies to term and am currently raising them, and it's hella hard nasty work, people. You just can't force someone to do it.|||Definitely yay. I don't do too much on my own, but I love class, and feel so good after. My flexibility, strength and peace of mind has improved greatly. I jokingly credit yoga for saving the lives...|||Just to add to this: I think my husband is an ENFP, and we have been married for 10.5 years. Our personalities work very well together, although we have to work on communication, like everyone. We...|||I am an empath as well, to some extent. Usually I have to be near the person, but when it's a close acquaintance, then the phone works. I have a friend who is like your friend. For years, she's had...'