'I agree with cursive -- I like a good balanced dose of masculine/feminine traits.  My husband is INFP and is balanced in that regard.  Maturity is a must.  I get turned off by over-compensating,...|||Funny, I have a similar relationship triangle:  I'm an ISTP female, my husband is INFP, and best friend is INTP (male).  I don't think we have the same issue, but I think I can understand why he...|||My INFP husband's results:  11 Quality Time 9 Word of Affirmation 6 Physical Touch 4 Acts of Service 0 Receiving Gifts|||There is no single action or series of actions that will cure you, but I suspect you already knew that.  It will be an indefinite span of time, so slow that you just forget you were in your head....|||I've still been dating my ENTP, for about 5 years.  And I agree, maturity is pretty much a must with this pairing.  But when that's present, it could be such a rewarding relationship for some...|||Man, this seems like a sensitive subject.  But I think one point is fairly obvious:  You may be all for it, open and willing;  he may not.  I think this sounds most likely:    As you mentioned,...|||Join a team league, like kickball.  Seems to be a good way to meet people.|||I've often equated my distaste for displaying my emotions publicly to my desire to not draw attention to myself.  And I too have wondered if this was a result of my childhood, since I've preferred to...|||I would say it's mostly C for me -- especially when I'm around other Ti folk.    C.) Impersonally defining the facts of a situation, then criticizing the poor (or praising the excellent) logic that...|||I'm a .NET programmer and love my current job as a software designer/developer.  I've been in one other programming position before, but it was mundane trouble shooting tasks.  I was good at it, but...|||I can totally see ISTP/ENTP couple! :)  (I'm a ISTP chick with an ENTP dude as well)|||I could see INFP for Gaiman.  And yeah, Shadow from American Gods was ISTP. Richard from Neverwhere was ISFP.|||Ouch :/  I hope you're doing okay with all of that.  Your relationship sounds just like one that my ESTP best friend got out of with an ISTJ.  It was also about a year, and brutal to watch.  She...|||Wow, that is pretty rough. :/  I'm sorry you're going through such a sh*tty situation.   It sounds like you both really care about each other, and that you have an overall good relationship.  But...|||I will say it's easier to talk things out with a more socially adept person.  It can be hard to talk things out with my INTP best friend.  I feel awkward and uncomfortable with his responses, like,...|||I really couldn't say what this ISTP is thinking or feeling.  But being up front will definitely clear things up.  And if he's anything like me, he'll try to respond positively if you are clear with...|||If it were me in his shoes, I would prefer to just grieve in private.  I really don't like my grief to be out there, except with those absolutely closest to me.  Part of it is I just don't have the...|||I avoid unnecessary drama.  If it is necessary drama, I'll deal with it.  But drama is draining either way, and I definitely don't enjoy it.  Thrill seeking doesn't have much to do with it,...|||Sounds like a complete jerk to me.  Some unsolicited advice:  Don't waste your time trying to compromise with him in any way on this.  His behavior isn't the type of thing to compromise on, and it...|||It certainly would.  My perception only comes from him, his dad (who has since left as well), and that book.  So I am by no means claiming any real authority on the matter -- just what I do know,...|||I am somewhat familiar with the community -- my long time boyfriend is an Ex - JW, and we've discussed his past life pretty extensively.  Regarding you being recruited:  Truth be told, if they're...|||Both are good, but season 1 seemed more... substantial some how.|||Raawx:  Yeeeeeeesss.  I very much agree with your typings (~98%)|||It's true that I'm primarily present-oriented, and my life is here in the present.  Near past and future (by a couple of weeks/months, maybe) is a close second.  And I don't think about the distant...|||I agree with the above posters that you should continue to show your interest from time to time, but let him do the majority of the initiation.  If you don't hear from him in a while, a friendly...|||My heart goes out to you.  Sounds like a really crappy situation.       petitpèlerin is right, in that this is childish, and probably utterly irrational to you, but I think this is at least a...|||lightbox - First off, I hope you're closer to some kind of resolution about this.  I can empathize with not feeling like your needs are being met, regardless of the circumstances.  I have to agree...|||Cohle is so Ti/Ne (INTP) it hurts.  Marty is an ESTJ.  One Ne type response that comes to mind:  Marty:  Do you believe a man can love two women at once? Cohle: I don't believe man can love ...|||This.    It seems like you're very focused on how your boyfriend treated you unfairly.  And if your boyfriend was the one posting on the forum, I think all of our responses would be geared towards...|||Hmm... I couldn't really say based on the differences you described.  But I will say, I've met ISTJs that seemingly don't like routine.    It's funny, I sometimes feel like ISTJs are my complete...|||I couldn't comment on most of them, but V always struck me as an introverted Thinking or Feeling dominant, and more Ne than Ni.  INxP  maybe?|||It would take a lot to not accept my child.  It would probably involve being destructive to themselves and/or others.  And even then, I don't think that would affect my acceptance of them or my...|||It depends on what you mean by chance.    A chance at having the same exact relationship?  Absolutely not.    A chance at re-defining or creating a whole new relationship based on marked...|||Yep, what everyone else said.    I might also add that from his point of view, he may think his response put it back in your court.  As in, he made it clear that he cares about you, but doesn't...|||Hear, hear.  I think this is a concept most everyone's heard.  But I don't think most have truly grasped the significance.  I don't know about you, but when someone tells me this, I feel defensive...|||Saying nothing does not equal illogical.  It's just picking and choosing your battles.  Hypothetically, how would you feel if some person who was a strong or intense debator corrected everything you...|||Why does being non-aggressive cost you your logic?  And does he know that you feel this way at all?|||Just curious... what does he do for a living?  I know that my work as a programmer makes me in a sort of troubleshooter critic type mode a lot of times.  I have no problem challenging something...|||I don't even know if this is on topic anymore based on some of the latest responses buuuuut....  I've always been convinced that the Christian apologists C.S. Lewis and Timothy Keller are INTJs. ...|||I think ISTPs (along with any type really) are perfectly capable of abstract thought.  I personally quite enjoy my in depth conversations with my INTP best friend.    But it is pretty crucial for...|||Also, a few of the previous posters have a good point here:  What you think is a problem, may not be something they think is a problem.    And that's another thing that can shut me down.  If...|||As a little sister to an INTJ, and a few INTJ co-workers I interact with a lot, hopefully I can provide a little perspective :P  1: Why do ISTPs avoid sorting out problems? Based on my experience...|||It sounds like there's definitely something going on beneath the surface.  Is there something that comes to mind that you could have done to her?  It might have even been something you did to someone...|||My point being, you will never really know how much she may or may not be thinking about this just as much as you are, based on her behavior alone.  The only way you'll find out is if you just jump...|||Whenever my friend freaks out about a guy or a situation, she sounds hysterical and/or obsessive to me about every possible detail  (she over-thinks things, which I think is pretty natural to aux Ti,...|||I can definitely relate.  And as you said, I think I set myself up for it as well (in reality).  Doesn't make it hurt any less though, and I think rationalizing it, even by telling yourself, Well...|||I can understand why you brought up the story.  I think I would be tempted to bring it up too, if I had that sort of information.  But in my experience with dealing with difficult people (and it has...|||My best friend is a female ESTP, so maybe I can shed some light.  1) Is it common for estps to turn friends into lovers? In my experience, ESTPs (of both genders) have no qualms with turning...|||This sounds pretty sh*tty, and you sound really emotionally stressed about it.  I'm sorry to hear that.  This guy sounds kind of scary and crazy.  I can't tell you if your decision to confront him...|||It seems to be a pattern that I congregate with other Ti'ers:  ESTPs, ENTPs, INTPs.  I would throw ISTP in there, but I don't know all that many ISTPs.  They're also difficult to become close with :P'