'ENTP - does this description sound like you? I'm having trouble typing someone that I know (I really only feel confident about the E)...  Social, outgoing, playful, engaging, charming, energized,...|||zomg, I was in a bookstore tonight, and I totally found my crush from a couple of years ago. It was like where's waldo in this crowded little bookstore. I found my way back to where he was browsing,...|||An INTP at work came and sat down right next to me at a meeting. Starting asking me questions. Usually, this is a very formal meeting, so I was pleased that he was friendly. I think he picks up on...|||Hm, I guess you are right. There are lots of possible reasons for aloofness.   But if I take your suggestion, his friendliness could also indicate simply that he is a nice person, and is friendly...|||TL;DR When you are aloof or cold with someone who you were previously friendly towards, what are some possible reasons?  My ENFJs- are you out there? ... I need some education about ENFJs acting...|||ENFJ who was one of my mentors at work, is now cold and aloof. Some background: we are both single, un-attached. Some possible attraction or mutual interest, but this is unclear to me. Has switched...|||Okay, so 'just ask' the INTP is one simple solution to the question 'what is he thinking?' But, my question is also 'how can I approach him in a way that makes him less anxious and becomes willing to...|||I wonder if INTPs make up like 70% of guys doing online dating? Haha, it just seems full of people who sit hopefully, but do not act. Is that accurate at all? I'm not completely excluding myself from...|||I think I'm chatting with an INTP in the online dating world... and he had to cancel our first date (coffee) due to a work scheduling thing (this I believe is true, it checks out). He has a hectic...|||I have been messaging with a guy on a dating site, and we have had a good convo rolling, but have run into some issues with scheduling the first date. He asked me if I wanted to meet up for coffee, I...|||So, you would be understanding that you did not received even a first message from this person. That is cool of you. Months later, would you be willing to respond to her as if fresh start? Would you...|||My INTP quest continues. Your 'type' is such a draw for some of us INFPs :P  I have an online dating scenario. I know, I know. Always ripe for overanalysis. I just want some opinions on this... ...|||ENTPs - do you ever pit people against each other? I know that sounds kind of awful, but I wonder if you sometimes delight in charming people, and getting people to do things for you? It seems that...|||Morfy Kitty  I would say open the conversation very slowly, calmly. Do this someplace where you feel comfortable, and at a time when you could both part ways if needed. If this is meeting for brunch...|||Yes, at first I worried that you were my IRL friend. Haha! Unlikely though :)  As for my feelings... guaranteed that they are highly individual based on my situation with this long-term friend. In...|||I'm an INFP in a similar situation with an INFP guy friend. I will say that the constant anxiety-limbo plays to the INFP enjoyment of anticipation and future orientation, but it does eventually...|||haha, I appreciate your comments! I'm just, more than a little confused by my situation. So the 'go get him' mentality is not exactly feeling 'safe' for me until I understand WTF his mixed messages...|||Lol, you ppl. Okay, well I'm not going to ask him, so I'm just going to stew about it in silence. It's really not my style to ask a guy if he likes me. We would have to be like in some obvious...|||Do you ever drop sexual innuendos in conversations? Or are these more likely 'Freudian slips? Just wondering if *ntps would use this as a tactic for showing their interest?|||Whoa, so, really!? Then I definitely need to find some way to type this person. Is there a thread for that? Like describing a person and having someone help you type the person? I know it sounds...|||What more fun can I stir up here...  Part I: How do you/other intps you know 'flirt'?   Part II: Do you know of any INTPs who are major flirts?  Part III: If someone is like an...|||Ah yes, this makes sense. Being sure before perceived risk, etc. is a good idea. But that also puts you in a bind, because men are often expected to be more overt in their interest. But yes, there...|||Exactly re: gravitate towards then, but remain tame. Okay, so say it's not so much involving a power distribution, but simply an intra- & inter-personal awkwardness. For example, you are both new...|||So if you clearly have romantic feelings for a girl, but it's complicated - say like, you work with her - how do you behave? How to you handle this situation? Imagine she is your boss, or your...|||I notice that some intps do not really know how to ask personal questions of other people. Or rather, maybe this is men in general, when they are nervous? I know, I know, people will say DUH, we are...|||Well it sounds like you have the answers for yourself right there, in the end of your post! I think it's cool that we often have our own answers, which we can arrive at through talking or writing...|||Yea, I think you make a good point about dating to get his ex out of his system. He still mentioned her in coversation, but he made it clear that he has had time to process it and 'get over it'. He...|||Yea. I guess I am having questions about each one of his four letters. He is a scientist though, so ... ENTP or even Is/nTP could be possible? Jealousy definitely gets a girls attention, but not in a...|||lols to the last couple pages of this thread. :laughing:  Necrilia  : I love the golden retriever comment. I've totally seen this happen with several INTPs! It's so endearing!  I hate to break up...|||So imagine that a woman has opportunities to pursue an INTP, and she thinks there might be mutual interest. But the mutual messages aren't quite clear enough for two over-thinking introverts.  ...|||How do you approach an intp with more-than-friends interest? Is it possible for a woman to be too forward?   As a female INFP, I am not often in the role of pursuer. I know how to flirt, but I...|||I am going to try not to make this all about my crush on an INTP, and over-thinking it. But... maybe a little bit.  You INTP guys seem like a 'type' that is least likely to try and employ jealousy...|||Yes, yes, yes. I can see this all about INTPs not wanting to talk when tired, it's true. I've seen it with my intp friends in the past. Especially because I'm a pretty attuned 'inf', I think there is...|||Man, you guys are saving me here. I was super pleasant with him when I left him to finish his ginger ale, but I went immediately to my room and started overthinking and beating myself up. Wondering -...|||Oh totally, this all makes sense. I was curios to know the process, which you outlined well. I never thought of INTP as robots (no, that's intj, right?) haha. but really, I think most people are...|||Well, the guy who offered me chocolate? He's done it again. But this time, he offered me a brownie, and I accepted. I'm beginning to question all of this though...  In some strange twist, he made...|||I'm fascinated by INTPs, so I guess I'm going to dominate this board for a while. I seem to fit INFP best, but I test with a more balanced T, and I have lots of intp friends...  Personal question:...|||Basic question: is there a trend in INTP attire?   I would assume something practical, comfortable, and possibly showing a little bit of their wit. But with some sense of aesthetic appeal, like...|||Good point, I was thinking more in a benign way. For example, finding out if she is doing online dating, if she is still close with her ex, etc. Finding out things related to her availability, and...|||Just out of curiosity... do you guys ever have other guys wing-man for you by finding out info from a girl you like? Imagining you are mutual friends, or something like this.|||I need some clarification on this point... what is the 'explosion' in reference to? The feelers being upset, or the thinkers being repressed?|||Right, well all of that is pretty insightful. It must take some good relationships, friends, or therapy for intps to get more in-tune with the emotional world. Really can't hurt anyone to be more...|||Yes, this is super helpful. Just be in the moment, an be authentic. Can do.  Is it common for intps to develop slowly when it comes to emotional intimacy? I have met some intps who can open up, but...|||Wow, thanks. I feel like I know that he is into me, intuitively, but I'm still sort of unsure about misreading his friendliness. I mean, the guy is super kindhearted.   He's 31.|||This is very helpful. I need to pick your brain (or other intp brains) then about some intp scenarios that have cropped up for me.  -After a casual friend dinner at intps house, he offered me a...|||Ah, I left out some information. We have a mutual friend, and this mutual friend told me that this guy is ready to find a long term relationship.|||Well on a similar note, a new guy just moved into my same apartment floor. Pretty sure he is INTP. We have mutual friends who have teased us about being a good match.   We have met a couple of...|||All that you've described here is exactly true of me as well. I tend to type as an INFP, though I think I have more balance with extroversion and thinking. It's no wonder that INFP-INTP is some sort...|||Haha, thank you! I like that you are punctuating your success with Borat-like enthusiasm.|||Thanks, this makes a lot of sense.  Then, would you say that most of you INTPs are these authentic, ethical, insightful creatures? I've met a handful, mainly science-guy friends (so there are many...'