'I am the same. What I do,  is send them occasional emails asking how they're doing,  and letting them know what I'm up to. In this way,  even if it's only a paragraph,  they know I'm thinking of...|||I've noticed a lot of us like hiking and walking. INFJ= love of nature perhaps?|||My training is a little unique. I'm a CrossFit instructor, and I train in other movement arts with an emphasis on functionality as well as mobility. So...I do powerlifting and what not in addition to...|||Working on upper body strength to improve my kongs. Parkour is the world's oldest movement art in my opinion. Not as into tricking as it doesn't seem as practical as ukemi and the like, but flips are...|||A dominant INFJ guy? Wow. I'd be in trouble too if I was you.  Post an update will ya? I didn't think any alpha INFJ's existed!|||What do you mean you put on a facade? Please explain.|||That all makes sense. I would agree on the issue of violence. I am starting to take self defense courses in martial arts. Purely for defense. I don't think I'd be interested in a man who initiated...|||Hey St. Elmos! I just noticed your image. You're an HSP too!  <3|||Yes. For myself, I relate fairly wholly to most all all feminine traits and thus desire a partner who will bring home the bacon, fight the bad guys, be physically strong and capable, and still hold...|||I concur. Hence I asked for the males here to define it for themselves as is their own reality and in their own skin. I'm trying to understand the differences.|||I LOVE it here. I am surrounded by the most beautiful terrain.  Four seasons. (Ok only 2 days of snow but that's more just right for me!) Trees. Mountains. Rivers. Snow. Green. Lush green everywhere....|||Sigh. Story of my life.|||Ok...so there are all the societal standards and stereotypes of masculinity and femininity.  In truth I think both genders are both...with some having more of those traits than others.  I've met...|||I would say I like each equally, and they are both genuinely me. However each has pros and cons. Online - I don't really worry as much about everything and interact more because I control the...|||Good one! YES to this. Five foot radius please. Unless you're my SO, in which case you better be all over me. Every day.|||Hmm. Too bad, you're a bit too far away to have coffee lol. Sorry to hear you are surrounded by people you can't relate to.|||Hooray for parkour! I love it as well.|||Yes, and no. Depends on my mood and level of energy. In general I enjoy CrossFit. And parkour. And hiking. Hope to add to that list as I become stronger and more agile.|||What Zac said. Authentic. Romantic. Agape.  The whole enchilada.|||I'm dying to meet another in person. Been waiting my whole life for someone who understands me and now that I know there are more of us out there, well to heck with it - want to meet up? We can...|||I couldn't agree more on both points! I was almost in tears when I found this forum!|||When they pick up the phone if you call.  When they start acting a little awkward because they just tripped over themselves literally or verbally because you're making them feel all flustered and...|||Amen Panda. For myself, I was so excited to find this forum. Been wanting an INFJ friend my whole life and never found one yet. We are a rare species, and I'm torn between thinking that's awesome and...|||Thanks for the reply! How long have you been in the relationship? Is it true that being so alike = boring, or stifles growth? Is it too intense?  Are you both homebodies or is one of you more active...|||Yes.  He was in 19th group, or Special Forces for those not in on the military lingo. Oh and on the P thing...I guess your post was very direct, blunt, and not especially...not sure how to put it,...|||Sounds like I need to be a bit braver and more direct, get out of my head (where I live most of the time) and initiate things more.  :)|||Yeah, I get that he's not typical, nor does he fit the traditional societal definitions of 'masculine'. I use labels loosely to try to make a point or understand, but don't live by or become boxed in...|||We've been married for 10 years. Sounds like you like a little of both? I'm a shy reserved introvert so wasn't sure how to handle this ongoing dynamic over the last 10 years. I don't know if INFP...|||There is an INFP in my life that is very perplexing. He likes his space, even more than I do, and I didn't think that was possible lol! I'm finding it's typical of you INFP's.  :)  Anyway, as a...|||I was going to ask a question just like this, so really interesting thread.  I see and validate everyone's views, good points all around really. The problem I have is the women involved in the...|||I would say that this is true. I grew up in CA, near some of the big studios. These girls/women are broken inside. The industry definitely takes advantage of that. Did someone force them at gunpoint?...|||Your answer almost sounds like a yes BUT... What's the but?|||Sigh. Yes, and yes. I especially resonate with allows you to learn so much about a person and they don't even need to give you a direct answer And then I have to wait around for them to realize...|||Um...lol Plato. Your comment reminds me of the scene from The Grey where he is asking for help and responds Never mind, I'll just do it myself.|||Well I think the difference comes in what one considers meaningful communication. I have an INFP friend who values space and physical affection like a simple hand on the shoulder over a long...|||Authenticity, someone committed to growth, living a life of purpose, (ambitious), lover of children and animals, tenderhearted, a good communicator,  a good sense of humor. I'm generally attracted to...|||emotional maturity, authenticity, and a sense of purpose YES YES lol|||Well, if I have to give a black and white answer I will say yes. But I have had unique sensory experiences and knowing that seems to touch on the supernatural, or things beyond the veil of our...|||Well...depression is a complex topic. I think that with perfectionist tendencies along with the NJ combo, we're always looking to improve. Most people seem to have bouts of depression, it's how you...|||I do CrossFit.   :)   Can run if needed but it's high impact so not preferred.|||Finally someone is singing the song of my people!|||Update?  More specifics? I know this craving you speak of ....for words of affirmation. Do you both see eachother? And if yes,  how does it feel to have the inability to hide? Does it cause...|||Yeah I agree with this one! Often I think I'm rockin it and really it's more like Will Ferrell dancing lol...|||Wow, I can definitely relate to this! It's hard to see so much in others and not try to heal the pain.|||What do you all do while you're processing or taking downtime? For myself, I journal a LOT!|||I like downtime and socializing with the right people.  I definitely withdraw when I need to process things, am at a major crossroads, or am hurting or really upset. I don't say much to anyone...|||What do you mean by this? What is the accurate type then for females? Anywhere you would recommend typing more accurately?|||What are some of the typical communication issues you have with your INFJ? I have an INFP in my life that I love to pieces but we seem to always be saying the same thing in different ways, and have a...|||Beautiful, thank you for sharing it!|||I also know an INFP who joined the military. He was definitely a square peg in a round hole. Good for you for stretching yourself. Although, a bit harsh lol, even for an INFP. Sure you're a P?'