'Always happens to me and still continues to... understanding the Ni-Se interaction helps a lot, realizing that you're frustrated because the Ni vision doesn't manifest in Se reality can be a big step...|||hahahaha reminds me of my ENTP dad breaking my brother's collarbone as a kid because he karate-chopped him off the playground structure.|||That's absolutely not true. It might not be reasoning in the way that you might think. But when you observe objective feelings, they are processed by your intuition which is able to take each bit...|||If there are any, just curious.|||I really apologize for not being able to respond to everyone that has been so helpful, currently having an extremely busy week and barely have time to think about the issue at all, let alone form a...|||I've read a bit about sublimation. Still trying to work out how I can achieve that, I don't really know how to divert that energy to a different place.|||This is absolutely what I'm looking to do. To be quite honest, I don't really know what it even entails so I wish I could provide more details. I just don't enjoy the fact that I look at her, or any...|||I definitely have considered this perspective as well. It's a good point, something I will have to think about more. I appreciate the responses though. Thanks a lot, definitely going to have to...|||Hahaha XD now I'm just embarrassed. Fair enough. I guess the whole point is that I want it to be completely selfless (100% based upon wanting to make my partner happy), rather than be fulfilling my...|||I can see both sides of it to be honest. I guess I'll have to think about what you said a bit here.|||FlightsOfFancy This is a good approach actually. Unfortunately, due to extremely complicated circumstances (we've been pseudo-dating or extremely emotionally invested/dependent for ~ 6 months, she...|||Definitely thought that this might work too. It might just be a blasted inferior Se thing. It does get exhausting after awhile.  Uviteru The main reason is due to (as I said somewhere in there I...|||There's a couple INTJs I know that like or don't mind rap/hip-hop. I think a lot of it might come from the inability to relate to the whole culture and irony of a lot of rap music (though this is...|||How does one rid themselves completely of lust, and more specifically, sexual desire?  I'll add a little information as well. I'm a 19 year old male (hormones amplify this problem more than I would...|||I actually recently began trying to journal. It pretty much comes out as word vomit because I tend to try to express more than I can physically get out at once, and so I just scramble to get any of...|||Catcher in the Rye kind of thing I guess...|||OrangeAppled I think there is definitely a bit of the whole attempting to justify her behavior thing going on there. He always seems to get pretty upset when she tries to explain to him why she...|||Fcking greatest forum response ever. Man, I really appreciate the help guys|||Alright, this essentially confirmed my suspicions of what probably needed to be done. Thank you guys for the help.|||A friend of mine (probably ENFJ) has gotten herself in too deep with another friend of mine (INFP). They were very close friends for a while and began bordering on a romantic sort of relationship....|||Definitely thought of how I would react if members of my family were to die.|||redballoon  I also really like your signature by the way.|||I absolutely understand what you're saying, and I saw that particular part of the article as well. The point I'm making is that I perceive hundreds, if not thousands of people per day. I think that I...|||I apologize if you thought I implied that anything going on here was scientific. If anything, the only thing scientific is trying to account for the observations I see in my daily life, which (as...|||Hahahahaha I have friends who are exactly the same. They'll be 10 drinks in and I can still have an intense discussion with them. The only real change is that they are much less considerate of other...|||To be quite honest, I really don't have any reason outside my own observations (the 7-8 confirmed INTJs that I know, all of which are quite physically imposing (or at least tall)) to believe there...|||I feel that man, many of em are more specimen than they are human.|||All of the INTJs I've ever met (most of which I'm close friends with) are pretty physically imposing. I don't think I've ever met one under 6 feet tall.  So how big are you guys? I always thought...|||Absolutely wonderful thread.  I, too, have been trapped into the INTJ (again for lack of a better descriptor) mode of thinking for my entire life up to this point. Constantly competing with my...|||Pretty much exactly what ideologicalflowz described. It's a drive to 'achieve' in every single thing I do. I want so desperately to leave my mark on something for some reason, and I'm not sure why...|||Well quite a few of them were just seemingly out of nowhere, while a few seem extremely obvious in retrospect. A lot of it was making connections in explaining why I feel a certain way and what...|||Similar to the problem of having competition being a motivator for me, but trying not to compare myself to others...|||Yes, almost exactly what I mean.|||Hard to describe I guess. Pages and pages of notes of ideas coming to my head, I was pretty much writing constantly. It still had a pretty Ni feeling to it, but I was just processing information...|||I actually do that pretty often too, now that I think about it...|||Yeah, it was brilliant. Totally operating on a different thinking process, pretty interesting stuff.|||Must be pretty awesome to have as a dominant function. Wish I knew some of you guys in real life, even getting a small taste of mine was pretty cool, pretty enlightening stuff.|||Pretty much what the title says. Is it possible not to take life too seriously while still achieving highly at what you do?|||Ahhh, see I'm really not sure. Like I shouldn't know if I should feel that way or not, especially considering that in the past I didn't experience this (though I was much less social with my free...|||I mean I can't say for sure, but I have a hard time believing that anybody who loses complete control over their emotions will be capable of being happy. And if they are, that means they must have...|||Hello and welcome :)  May the feels be with you|||Already seeding|||Hmmm, well that would be really hard to say not knowing the relationship. Another thing that's a bit subtle would be if his speech picks up speed, even only moderately, when he nears a conclusion. ...|||Happiness doesn't necessarily mean losing control over emotions. In fact, happiness comes from limiting desires/urges/etc. while learning how to control how certain things make you feel, how you can...|||I would imagine that Ni and Ne can clash due to Ni's tendency to converge onto a single idea, while Ne's tendency to diverge into a large amount of possibilities. Ne, like you said, is great for a Ni...|||They are, in fact, of the highest quality. I'm waiting ladies...|||Really interested in talking with a few of them, I'm sure they are full of fascinating ideas. Unfortunately I don't know any, and don't even know where to begin looking or how to talk to them.  Any...|||Figured I might come here for a bit of advice. Just as some background though, I'm a 19 year old male currently in college.  Moving on to the actual issue, it's as the title suggests. I've really...|||Well I guess we are. I got my best friend (also an ENFJ) a bunny from the build-a-bear workshop combined with a handwritten note XD. I'm almost 20 years old (and a male) so I wouldn't worry about it...|||I dunno, the fact that I can relate to him in the readings when he is describing his own thought processes and experiences leads me to believe he would be INFJ.  Obviously this is all pure...'