'I think people are generally hypocrites, so I do agree with that. But I wonder if this double-standard is more common in Fi types? I've noticed similar behavior in my ENFP sister, and ENFPs are also...|||I think more smaller conversations is a great idea! :) And as you said, will hopefully be less scary for him, too. Big conversations I know are draining for me. Breaking them up will be better for...|||I wasn't sure where to post my response. ^^;;; So I thought I'll put it here since I'm technically responding to this post.  It really does sound like you both want this. As you mentioned in your...|||I wouldn't encourage playing games or testing him. It's just not nice. : No one likes to be played with. Again, it would be best if you two talked about this rather than making any assumptions. The...|||First of all, I'm so excited that you have some great outings planned! :) It sounds like you're in a much better place and that you're really living your life.  Don't let him make you feel guilty...|||She probably wanted to join, but got wrapped up in something, and by the time she realized she should be moving, everyone was already gathered and it was too late. Timing is everything in these...|||Her not coming to hang out with everyone after everyone else had arrived is not surprising. As I said before, for a socially anxious person to come into a room with a group of people already there is...|||Kind of like what MetaMD said, some people still have preferences for there being a distinction between the man's role and the woman's role. Now saying that is going to bring to mind all of the 1950s...|||Aww, I feel like this is great progress. :) It sounds like she's becoming comfortable enough to open up to you. It'll be much easier for her to express herself over text than in person, at least at...|||Sorry, not an ISFP, but I thought I could help shed some light on this. :)  I had some serious social anxiety and shyness issues when I was younger, and I can see a lot of my younger self's...|||Since you've just moved to a new area, you get to start your life totally from scratch. This is both a great opportunity and a challenging opportunity. Since you're new, maybe you can spend some time...|||How interesting! I've never been to Asia, but I've felt like the places I have lived (the US and now the UK), no one seems to even notice when someone has nice manners or carries themselves well....|||I didn't know anyone felt this way about proper ladies anymore. :D|||I'm so happy to get to be able to help! ^^ Thanks for letting me know how things are going! I always eagerly await the next installment of your story. :)    Okay, mid-range I isn't so bad. It...|||This is interesting. So would you say that he's very introverted, more introverted than you? So the reason you're hard to read is not necessarily because of the degree of introversion, but because...|||Lol you should know Google tracks what you search XD This may set off a few red flags. It does sound like getting him to come to your place or meeting outside of either of your houses is probably the...|||Wow, this sounds great! You're seriously making me jealous with how this is going and what a sweet guy you've found!  It is good that he gave you some feedback about being hard to read. I think for...|||INTPs make quick judgements, but don't necessarily jump to conclusions quickly. The INTP I know quickly makes a judgement on new information, but he doesn't necessarily reach a conclusion.|||Lol I can relate to wanting things planned well in advance, but it's so sweet that he's being so thoughtful about planning this! And he seems to be staying surprisingly flexible. I think it's good...|||Just wanted to give some extra feedback on this :) I would probably ask, too, more out of curiosity than anything. I would want to be sure I understand why the other person is asking me before I...|||I'm talking about function stacks. Introverted types are confusing, because their first function will be the opposite type of function in regard to P or J in their four letter code. Extroverted types...|||This is fantastic! I think this was a very wise thing to do. It shows him that you're willing to be open and honest with him, and that's essential for a relationship to work. That he apologized was a...|||PureINTJ  I meant to add this in my last post and forgot. This is a little off topic, but have you heard of the app called Bumble? It's relatively new. You said you were new in town and didn't have...|||He sounds quite sweet! Using emojis correctly is not something I've ever thought about, but I can see how it would have a serious impact when just starting to date someone--when everything gets...|||PureINTJ  Wow, it looks like a lot has happened since I last posted! My mom is an ISFJ, and she definitely needs alone time to recharge after socializing and after any intense emotional situations....|||Thanks for including me in your update! :) I feel rather touched that you thought enough about what I said to include it in your newest plan of action.  I'm sorry to hear you feel like things...|||Yes, I think being introverted makes it much more difficult. I have to say, though, it seems to be at least in American culture that partners are generally prioritized. Everyone has hopes of being in...|||I really like how you've phrased this. And I totally agree with what you've said about prioritizing partners. INFJs, who typically struggle to find someone who is accepting of them as they are, I...|||It's very hard for INFJs I think, because people are just so unfamiliar with how we process things. Even the most empathetic/sympathetic people struggle to see where we're coming from. It's just too...|||Wow, I can relate to this so much! All of it. But I have to wonder, even if we don't wear our hearts on our sleeves or aren't so vocal about our opinions that we are inconsiderate of others, does...|||Something that I discovered while working really hard to figure out my Enneagram was that it's important when you're trying to figure out your core type to basically type your pre-25-year-old self. I...|||I agree that INFJs are likely to be the least authentic, as they typically function in a way that if often very strange to other types, mostly because the type is not so common. Early on, INFJs...|||I think I'm 459. I relate to a lot of the descriptions of the Contemplative archetype from the link that was posted.|||Even though there are 741 million INFJ's on earth, out of several billion people, it's still quite a small number. So I guess it depends on what your definition of different is. Unusual? Yes, because...|||I'm also 5w4, but I don't advertise my being strange. Might be because I have 3w4 in my tritype (no 2 in there at all), but I really don't like sticking out. It seems like it's something I can't...|||This is actually a really interesting connection that I never thought about. A well developed INFJ is able to operate as an ESTP? That describes the transformation really well, though.|||I feel like I can identify with your experience. I can't really explain how or why I developed my Se, I just reached a point in my early 20s when I thought, There is so much beauty around me. I want...|||I think MBTI and Enneagram together create a fuller picture of an individual's personality, but Enneagram seems to get treated too broadly? Thinking about numbers, most websites only describe the 9...|||Ah! That's fair enough. I felt like as soon as I started reading about it, it was so interesting I couldn't stop myself. Now I know more than I wish I did, because I've spent so much time on it, I...|||I think the only reason I started studying functions was to confirm my type, because I had read so much about the pitfalls of tests and the difficulty in determining S/N and P/J. I think it's...|||I think this is a good way of thinking about it! Improvement rather than complete change. I don't know how much people can change, but the only pitfall of MBTI that I've found is quite common (not...|||As aurly said, he's going to need his alone time. Don't interpret it as rejection, but like most introverts, he will need time alone to recharge after lengthy interactions, especially if they're very...|||Sorry, I just had to respond to this, hope you don't mind! As someone who has gone through depression, I thought I could provide some insight that will be helpful to you. Don't take your friend's...|||I feel like I can relate to this a lot. I went through a phase where I always expressed things as they were, and people really don't like that, especially girls. Sometimes, I still find myself doing...|||Not an INTJ, but I hope you won't mind if I contribute my two cents. I totally agree with Luck that you shouldn't compromise who you are to attract someone, because honestly, who you really are will...|||#1: I would probably straighten my clothes and compose myself, and then I would try to walk away. To be totally honest, I'm not entirely sure what I would do if he came after me, though. Depends on...|||I second this motion. I've never been much of a fiction reader, though I've drawn and painted all my life. Even so, I've always been very drawn to sciences and am now in chemistry. I read a lot, but...|||I'm not an INTJ, but I can relate to some of what you're saying. When I was in high school, I was borderline OCD. As soon as I recognized that I was falling into this behavior and giving into...|||It's so interesting how circumstances can make two people form an unlikely relationship that ends up blossoming. :)|||I've noticed this, too! I also make an effort to listen to upbeat music to prevent bad influences to my mood. Especially when I'm stressed, sad music is really not helpful and seems to have a greater...'