'This is so cute! :kitteh:     I'd probably think this was him twigging onto what you were talking about, but then doubting himself.    Yes!|||:couple_inlove:  Does he need to sky write something for you to twig? He is totally into you. :laughing:|||I reckon this is spot on!|||Wasn't suggesting what you should do, it just seemed like a more INTP way to respond to the situation.  I dislike when people use type to justify everything. I like to look at type as a tool to...|||freeness Have you considered just asking him? INTJs respond well to bluntness. Maybe you could say Where do you see us in the future.  When he said meet new people i didn't take that as new...|||Okay hold up a second.  I don't think that posting something someone else posted is creepy. I share things all the time.   If he stole something that was original to you, eg: an artwork and...|||Interesting. That sounds quite INTP of you! Am I wrong? I don't know how INTJs usually deal with this kind of thing, but from what I do know, INTJs like closure / completion.|||Wouldn't you rather know the bad news asap? So you can deal with it? Isn't the mental uncertainty of not knowing his fate more problematic?|||He is bathing you in fe <3 - this is fe used for 'good' instead of evil. lol. But I also think he is crushing on you. At the very least, we will try to 'lift other people up' (anyone, even...|||Can you reach out to him? :(    That's what I meant, though. Being able to choose to respond to them (or choose not to at all). For example, if someone says something that is 'saddening' i feel...|||It's emotional insecurity. We are so scared of rejection (like most people) but we feel SO STRONGLY for people that being rejected literally feels like our heart is being broken into a billion pieces...|||I love arguing or throwing back and forth theories too, because if offers me an opportunity to learn.  Most sensors I know (and I really am not trying to be mean here!) are satisfied to stick with...|||I can relate. Most people seem completely unaware of their drivers. Even many INFJs are too, many are so damn self indulgent and I really don't fit in with them, not that I care much.  I also...|||I have seen this in sensors, but also feeling types (myself included). Sensors are by far the worst / most close minded, in my experience.  I wondered about this for a long time, and I came down to...|||Right.  I can be very strategic and thinking-focused too (especially at work / research, etc). However, the only time I can really consciously choose to emotionally respond is if I really hate...|||Are you sure you're not an INFJ. Very familiar :laughing:  I no longer think I am human. I identify as a walking dichotomy with a hair do.|||I think you're right. I have been around INTJs for years and I have become accustomed to having to be logical and coherent lol. My INTP just tells me some wacky story and expects me to believe it. I...|||He doesn't understand his value to me because it isn't intellectual. His value to me is emotional. I don't need help with intellectual things, more so making me feel valued and loved. He doesn't get...|||I think this is generally true, but with INFJs it is not. I have loved people for years without them even suspecting! :laughing: People I am seriously crushing on and being a stage 10 clinger towards...|||inmyeyes I have been meaning to respond to this for the past couple of days but I haven't had the time to properly do so!    I am so glad your mental loops have resolved, at least! :kitteh:   ...|||Really? He seems completely logical and rational to me.|||I think it's quite a realistic hobby, actually. Make: Iron Man Costumes|||harry01 I do believe you've answered your own question :kitteh:      :chat02:|||Thanks for clarifying. :kitteh:|||Sorry for coming late to the party but I have been lurking and wanted to respond to this     inmyeyes - have you resolved it or is it still a work in progress?  The fact he told you very personal...|||Dude, i'm not wrong. All humans lie.   I think its more likely that people are deluding themselves about what constitutes a lie. Lying by omission is a regular occurance for introverts, but we...|||INTJ & INTP get into a discussion about feelings.|||http://img.michaeljacksonspictures.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/popcorn-blank.gif|||lol. Nice try.|||This is taking victim blaming to a whole new level. :shocked:   I still maintain that this is possible:   http://i.imgur.com/rR8XvZQ.jpg  But there is the possibility it could go the other way...|||Yeah, back when I thought he was into sex and it was only awkward because it was new, I made a comment about wanting to 'practise' lots, thinking that would be sexy and alluring... he kind of freaked...|||:laughing::laughing::laughing:|||This is true! He did mention that he is very lonely though.  I can't imagine an INTP would maintain an all day every day relationship with someone out of pure loneliness though, right?  He even...|||Really? You'd just give up a relationship if you were dishonest?    If it can be broken it can be fixed, right? The teddy bear can be laundered?|||They are IRL friends who play chess online together, not those dodgy random people who cheat at everything online as a default.    I don't care about the chess game - it just inspired me to think...|||I can relate to nearly all of your post (except dancing, I am not good, but sports in general I am very coordinated and excelled at). I am certified INFJ (as opposed to online test taker!).   From...|||Online chess. There are simulators that would allow you to enter each move on the board and it would tell you the best move to respond with to win.|||I think it's safe to assume that nobody likes to be perceived as dishonest. But if you are actually dishonest at some point, and you are confronted about it, wouldn't admitting it be the way to...|||I read a study recently that said that on average, men tell 6 lies a day, and women 3.  I'm not talking about pathological lying, I do know from experience generally that INTPs and INTJs in...|||So you don't like to be perceived as dishonest, even in situations where you were actually dishonest?  The avoidance on top of the dishonesty, in my mind, is adding more dishonesty to the lie, no?...|||I get that INTPs are pretty honest people, but c'mon... everyone is human and everybody lies!|||I am easy going mostly, but can also be a complete bitch, but he has never seen that side of me. ;)  lol he must be desperate and lonely to like a curvy chick? :unsure: - without wanting to sound...|||Sounds like a good thing to challenge, then :P  I am asking vaguely about an actual situation that I know that happened with an INTP (not mine). I was just wondering if it was common.  The...|||What this guy is doing to you is extremely manipulative too. He is viewing you as a conquest. Something to achieve. A game. :(  Can I ask why you haven't INFJ doorslammed him?|||Hey harry01 - can I ask you a hypothetical?  If you were 18, had a wonderfully supportive family and friends circle, had money and resources, and you could do anything at all with your days, what...|||He sounds horrible. Is he out of your life now?  I had a recent brush with an ISTP very very similar to what you describe. He is a friend of a friend. I saw through his bs immediately though and...|||I definitely wouldn't respond that way. If someone pulls away from me I give them more space.   You're right about not 'settling' - (paraphrasing). I never thought i'd be in a situation where I was...|||As the title suggests... when you lie about something, and someone (particularly a love interest) finds out, how do you handle it? Do you lie more to cover? Do you admit it? Avoid it?   :)|||I was with my ISTP for a year - he was crazy personified, but I also think he has borderline personality disorder upon reflection. There were red flags early on but he was such a charming narcissist...|||I would never willingly play a game with him.   I havent seen him in person since pulling back, but he is responding by messaging me constantly because im not as available so your 'hard to get'...'