'You're walking down the street and notice that random people are smiling at you, so you smile back... but can't, 'cause the reason they were smiling at you was because you were smiling at them, and...|||Couldn't get more ENFJ than this:    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bpd3raj8xww|||I can't speak for all ENFJs, but my deep thoughts are like precious jewels that I handcrafted and keep in a treasure chest inside my mind. These jewels are my sanctuary and sources of inspiration...|||Fiction: The Dogs of Babel by Carolyn Parkhurst  The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen (Guilty pleasure...) Brave New World by Aldous Huxley Inferno by Dante Alighieri...|||What are some things that you struggle with, and what do you tell yourself to help you get through it and grow as a person? :)|||I love hugs, but I won't hug people for that long unless I know them really well. Usually it's a quick hello/goodbye hug, but if I really love you and I know I'll miss you, I'll hug you for as long...|||I've only found one cure for this feeling, and it's much easier said than done, but it's possible: love without expectations. Love for others, not for yourself, but love yourself. Love better. Love...|||I don't have trouble talking about myself when it comes to what I'm doing or how my day went, but I prefer keeping my deeper thoughts and emotions under the surface.  Oftentimes I'm so emotional that...|||You know you're an ENFJ when you spend more time on other forums than the ENFJ one, 'cause your friends' personalities start to become more interesting to read about than your own.|||Thanks for posting this! I liked that you pointed out that we ENFJs tend to look to INFJs for help in times of trouble. It's like we instinctively know that INFJs (though perhaps not always typed)...|||-Knowing that I'm needed -Passion -Comfortable silent moments -Core values preferably similar, although I love different perspectives on everything else in life--keeps things interesting :)...|||Yes times a billion.|||Hahaha! I definitely say it like that in real life. :)|||Sometimes I start to hate the inner voice that says, You should know better. If there's a potential conflict between another person and I, it's my job to understand the other person's point of view...|||How do you know if a friend or family member really loves you? What makes you feel the most loved?|||What are your biggest pet peeves?|||Do you ever feel pressure to be different from who you really are? If so, in which areas of your life do you feel this pressure? How often and in what way do you cave in?|||Do you like talking about the abstract and theoretical or would you rather talk about current events/feelings you're dealing with? Do you ever find yourself tired of talking to NFs when their minds...|||As ENFJs, how important is personal growth to you? How do you grow and what happens to you (emotionally/spiritually) during the process?  I ask because it's one of the main focuses in my life, and...|||What is the real you that you would like people to understand? Just curious... :)|||If INFPs are boring, why in the world does your forum entertain me more than any other? What does that say about me? ;)|||1. I am obsessed with quotations. 2. I put people on pedestals, and I'm trying to break this habit 'cause I've recently discovered how unhealthy it is.  3. I'll party until about 2AM then leave and...|||I was just curious... Do ISFJs need to be somewhat misunderstood? The ISFJ I know has repeatedly said that this was one of her worst fears. If it's one of yours as well, why?|||Oh gosh, there is such a broad range with ISTJs. I've only met two, and although the ISTJs have common characteristics (task and detail-oriented, perfectionists, driven), they were too different to...|||What makes you feel most like a failure and how do you deal with it?    For me, it's relationships of any kind that don't meet my impossibly high standards. If I can't make it work the way I want...|||Yes, I've just recently realized that I was a control freak, but luckily it only comes out when I'm passionate about something. But hey, I'm passionate about a lot of things, so... haha. Since...|||You have self-help therapy sessions at the most absurd hours (thinking time, the painful kind), and no one knows about them but you.|||I care too much. I over-empathize, and it eats away at me! When people don't come to me for help, sometimes I feel offended. The worst part is... this is completely illogical. Why do I have this need...|||Very much so. I dated one, actually. :) Great guy.|||I learned that it is the weak who are cruel and that it is the weak who are cruel, and that gentleness is to be expected only from the strong. ~Leo Rosten  Experiencing our familiar rooms and...|||You're all alone on a ski lift so you start whistling and subconsciously start swinging. All of a sudden the ski lift stops and you realize what you're doing so you immediately stop the swinging. Ski...|||Haha this is spot on. I'm a black belt, and when people find out, they almost never believe me right away. ;)|||You're kidding me, you're kidding me, you're kidding me, OH MY GOD!!! This is EXACTLY what I'm doing/how I am!!! I'm in nursing school, but I know I'm a natural teacher. Still, I'd rather not go into...|||Haha awww! This is cute. :) The last time I saw one of my INFP friends, I wasn't expecting to see her, so when I did, I ran, gave her a hug, and literally knocked her down. I had to pull her back up....|||I agree with all the other ENFJs on this thread--ENFJs are literally everywhere. The trick is spotting them, I guess. I think an ENFJ trademark (well, with the ones I know) is that they tend to plan...|||Ugh, I just love you INFPs. PerC is probably so sick of posts like this too, lol. I bet if they could ban them they would. ;) But really--you guys are the sweetest.|||Haha, I can completely relate with this. It seems like the guys that I think are out of my league are the ones that end up liking me. I was actually just talking to my brother about this. I asked...|||Oh, no worries, I've wondered about that myself, actually.  :)  I guess I could be.  It's definitely possible.  I only scored a little higher on the J scale.  I'm a planner though, if that helps. ...|||Haha, ohhh yeah.  Most definitely.  I've ended up on accidental dates so many times, it's embarrassing.  Also, this is a recurring conversation:    Guy: So... what are we? Me:  Huh? ... Me: ...|||Ok, this bothers me... I have a sort of people ADHD, where I can't spend too much time with one person, no matter how much I like them. Sometimes I want so badly to make myself want to talk/be with...|||Hey hey!    Thought I'd make one of these here (stole it from the INFPs), but yeah... quotations offer such insight into a person.  I'll share some of mine and what d'you say, fellow ENFJs?  Post...|||This is spot on, actually.  :)  I DO like to give often, especially when it's unexpected.  I like giving fun, thoughtful gifts.  If I get someone something practical, I'll usually add to the gift and...|||I'm not sure if the Fe helps me read others.  I think it's the Ni that does that, actually.  :)|||You're so insincere.    I've never had anyone say this, but I always fear that someone will.  I sometimes think that when I tell people that I love them, they don't believe me because I tell so...|||You can brighten someone's day even when you're having the worst day of your life.|||Yes, I can completely relate.  Sometimes I see people sort of like jewelry in that they all have some kind of shine or glow about them, but some people shine brighter than others.  I understand what...|||Caraez,   Have you known these ENFJs for a long time?  I ask because INFPs are hardly ever on my radar until they make several attempts to get to know me.  Even these attempts are so subtle that...|||Yes, I can definitely relate to this.  I'm a creeper to the extreme.  Like... I made a Google Map of where all my friends live so that I can easily find their addresses if I need to send them mail,...|||I don't think I'm initially naturally drawn to a particular type of person.  When I walk into a party in which I don't know anyone, I start talking to whoever is closest to me.  I quickly befriend...|||I'm actually VERY affectionate.  I didn't realize it until one of my friends described me as the spastic, touch-feely one, haha.  When I see people I like, I can't help but give them a hug...'