'I have not actually ghosted anyone.   I'm just wondering about other INFP's experiences, since I seem to have been ghosted by an INFP recently...|||How often do you ghost people?  Is that your preferred mode of breaking off contact? How do you feel about doing it?|||and, from before:  Would be interesting to hear about how you think your  devaluation/discard (because that is what it is, at the end of the day)  impacts the other person.  No, you're...|||That's a great question, Ajaz.  First of all, I won't be obvious about it to the person. I will want to hang out with him less, I will become distant and more circumscribed in my communication. I...|||Just wondering how you express (or hide jealousy)? And how does it affect you, those around you, and the object of your affection?|||Lots of great stuff has already been said. I will just add my 2 cents, as I was an INFP working in a social work situation (though due to my position, I was not officially in a therapist role. I was...|||Meaning, what happens when you go through a phase of idolizing someone...and then the cracks in the perfect image you've constructed of them begin to form. And you get disillusioned when you realize...|||Hello fellow INFPs.  I tend to fall really hard and really fast and do irreconcilable damage to all my erstwhile relationships. Yet again, I'm falling into this pattern. :shocked:  I'm upset at...|||Hi.  I recently met in person an INFJ male I'd been talking to online. We'd only been talking online for a few weeks, but we have a lot of mutual friends so I felt comfortable with him. When we met...|||Hello INFJs!  (I love you guys)  I was just introduced, via the Interwebs, to an INFJ male by mutual friends. He and I really hit it off. We've chatted every day and talked on the phone. I can't...|||So, ever since I read this post I can't even speak to my guy.  I just feel like what if I've been wrong the whole time and he's never been serious about me?  My phone is off.  I can't bear to hear...|||In the last few weeks I've heard two different people comment about couples in relationships who are undergoing couples therapy.  In both cases, the people I was speaking to said, basically, And you...|||Just to qualify: I have tried to figure out what type he is.  He really is quite difficult to figure out in MBTI terms.  It's frustrating.|||Great point.  Great way of putting it, Flora.  That's exactly what I'm trying to do: basically, translate what he's saying to me into my language.  Example:  Ohhh!  When he says 'Relaax. ...|||Hmm!  You know, that's very intriguing.  I never considered the possibility he could be an S.  Probably because I fear S's more than any other types.  Do you think that's wrong of me?  ;)  I guess...|||Thank you.  That is a great article!  And so are the others linked from it.  I will definitely read more of her stuff.  It occurs to me that I didn't explain the situation as well as I could have...|||I've been sorta seeing someone for almost a year now.  We've been going  super slow, which has been a new--and wonderful--experience for me.  In  recent months it's been getting more serious.  We're...|||We're very passionate, caring, ethical people, and we often find the  world around us callous and cruel, which is disheartening.  But mainly I think we can end up depressed because we're usually...|||What about ENTP guys and INFP ladies?|||I am in the beginning stages of a relationship with an INFJ male, and an odd thing happened the other day.  We had spent some time together last week, and then both of us needed to leave town. ...|||Upon reflection, I realize that not all personalities interpret things the same way.  I would like to emphasize that the suicidally depressed losers you so accurately portray us as was sarcasm. ...|||Thank you for so eloquently demonstrating my point.  This is how most people see us.  This reaction is exactly why we don't open up.  You tell us why we're flawed.  You have no idea why we're this...|||INFJs (like INFPs, wave) do strive for intense, strong connections with people.  However, these connections are by no means unattainable.  No, we shouldn't get over this.  What we should get over is...|||That's interesting.  I've read that it can take INFJs a long time to open up about their feelings.  (I've heard months)  Do other INFJs also feel deeply for people very quickly?|||If you do try a dating website, 2 things: 1.  I would advise against seeking anyone outside your region.  The more difficult it is to physically get to them, the worse your chances for the...|||Thanks everyone for your helpful responses!  A few follow-ups...   Yes, I have seen the nervousness and the desire to impress me.  However, it's been logistically difficult for me to see how he...|||I just need you to know that I used to believe this about men (well, about people in general, but I'm heterosexual, so it was men that mattered) and it's not true!  Yes, there are men out there who...|||Yes, we always hang out alone.  If we're in a large group situation we separate from the group to speak to each other.  And it's amazing the way it feels--like we don't know anybody else is around...|||Considering how long you guys take to open up and share your feelings, I'm wondering if there's any way I can tell if the INFJ I'm interested in likes me as just a female friend or more than a...|||sartreality, or any INFJ, could you expand on this?  Do you have any preferences on how your romantic partner could help?  Do you maybe drop hints about what you need but not ask directly, and want...|||It's interesting.  A lot of times I have very much in common with INFJs.   My INFJ friend said one time, I'm just like you, except I get stuff done.  We both laughed really hard at how true that...|||Souled In is an INFP.  On behalf of both of us, we apologize profusely for being who we are. You may be an exception as an INFJ; I've heard most INFJ's take a while to open up.  Like months....|||This is a good question, but Meow can probably recognize them, esp with his training.  You know a sociopath by the gut feeling you get from them -- it's as though they're acting like a human, but...|||Have to back Kaly up.  Until a couple weeks ago I was TOTALLY anti-Facebook.  I only joined b/c I had very painful surgery & a long recovery time and needed something to distract me.  Turns out...|||Are you guys more likely to be all lovey-dovey-attached at the beginning of a relationship, before you know whether the person is right?  Or more likely to be skittish/arm's length away?  I ask b/c...|||Sorry, party people.  I had an emergency surgery, followed by a more complicated surgery, where I was under general anesthesia.  The 2nd surgery was scheduled the night before it happened!  I saw the...|||That may just be a personal thing.  I spend a ton of time thinking about my emotions, analyzing should I have been mad? why am I so frustrated right now? am I usually this sad when X happens? ...|||I get what both of you are saying, both IcarusDreams and Roze.  My INFJ crush used to seem stiff to me.  But after he pursued me and I got to know him better, I realized that it's not so much that...|||I’m still not sure about what you mean here.  There are other religions besides Christianity that have standards or laws that you consider to be impossible.  How does that relate to why people judge...|||I'm not sure what you're getting at here.  Could you elaborate?  I'm sorry--I'm not trying to attack; I just don't know what you mean.  Are you saying other religions are judging Christians?  Or?  ...|||Okay, so he lived and then he died.  That part makes sense.  But what does it mean to have the keys of hell and of death.  Does that mean he can go into them whenever he wants to?  It may make...|||Why do you think that is?|||I know, right?  I mean, they're the most visible examples of Christians we have.  And yet, you guys on this thread, if I'm reading you right, don't seem to identify with them.  The crazy thing to me...|||Boo!  Hiss!  Come back, silly!  First LookingGlass leaves, now you.  Next Vaan's going to swear off technology.  XD  You don't think your comments are good enough or something?  What?  You are...|||Ahhh, now I'm with you.  That makes a lot more sense.    A little too vague.  You'll have to be more specific.  Also, hell is a Christian concept so that begs the question.    See, now...|||Not at all.  Abraham didn't sacrifice Isaac because he didn't need to; it was a test.  He wanted to see whether Abraham loved God enough to do it.  And Abraham passed the test.  If God wanted Isaac...|||Okay.  Here's where I'm getting that stuff about Jesus being sacrificed from:       Deut 33:29: Happy art thou, O Israel: who is like unto thee, O people saved by the Lord,  the shield of thy...|||LOL, seriously?  Yikes!  Is there anything Christians can agree on?|||Where do you get the idea that a human can qualify as a sacrifice?  Doesn't God abhor human sacrifice (e.g., Lev 20:2-5; Ezek 23:36-39)?    You're going to have to unpack what you mean by...|||You may not have meant it that way, but I consider it a serious question nonetheless.  The fact is, Christians do not follow the law anymore.  Why not?  The Israelites, as you said, were given laws...'