'Most of the time, it's just that when I express how I feel or my thoughts, they aren't always accepted. I feel most understood when someone takes the time to really listen -- not project, not...|||I agree. I also find the biggest difference to be their future focused perspective. As someone more set in my past experiences, it's a little harder for me to understand them.|||bigstupidgrin and  tryingtodobetter ahh I see -- perhaps ENFJs are a bit headstrong in relationships. But yeah I agree, it's still a red flag. I'm definitely not looking for that rn, so I said no to...|||I recently met this guy (ENFJ) through a friend -- we hung out in a group setting for about an hour or two. Afterwards, he asks me to go out and I agree. Have not gone on the date yet, but we've been...|||Hmm not necessarily - I'm not sure then. Might be some other factor?|||Hmm maybe it is just a certain loyalty to the friendship or trust in the ISFJ to always be honest with them. Have they been friends for a long time?    I haven't had the experience of clicking...|||Oh for sure. I totally relate to your 'silly examples' lol. I take forever to pick where to eat, I spent like an hour at target deciding which desk bin to buy, I'm so bad at deciding what to do when...|||I agree completely -- I was in no way saying that INFPs, or any type for that matter, is better than another.   My whole point was to relate to the OP and demonstrate why being an INFP is unique in...|||Can someone explain to me what the OP means? (Possibly with an example?)  I feel explaining myself in person is easier due to being able to use facial expressions, hand gestures, and all that....|||As an INFP, I just wanted to chime in a little.   Firstly, I understand the feeling of the OP. I started high school with no friends, and in four years, I never found a group and only had one...|||I love them. They are honestly one of my favorite 'types' of people. Like others have said, they're caring, practical, they make you feel welcoming and are great friends. I seem to click with them as...|||I can definitely relate. It is a fine line to tow between reality and fantasy for an INFP, but I do believe meaning can be found, as long as you are actually basing it off real experiences instead of...|||Thank you! This is great advice for when I go on a trip overseas in the future (planning to visit my friend in London over spring break).|||Oh my god, I love the boring dad crap don't worry lol. I really loved the way you described it, as observing a painting. I've never related the feelings, but looking at nature really does give me the...|||This was a great response -- thanks for all the safety tips! I am definitely inexperienced and would not have thought of some of those suggestions. I keep going back and forth, but this response...|||Hmm you're right. Since my plan is slowly falling apart (lol), maybe I will go on a hike? I'll try to think of things where I'm always doing something.|||Hm do you ever get bored?|||I'm so glad someone else understands! Girl, I feel ya on the fake friends bit... I think you may be right, I'll see if someone else wants to go, but otherwise I might do what you did and just spoil...|||Hmm you're right, I could see myself getting a bit bored if there aren't things to do. Especially on the drive since it's so far. I was also thinking about going to every park in the city or explore...|||My birthday is coming up in a month and I'm turning 20. I usually don't do anything for my birthday, but the last couple years I realized how disappointing it is to literally do nothing for my...|||For the longest time I thought I was an INFJ because I would always test as it, and still do. I even made a thread on PerC asking people what they thought I was (lol) and they said INFJ from the way...|||Nah, I don't think only the goals keep me going. Most of the time, I enjoy the feeling of getting things done and being productive -- it's kind of like a habit now. And I think it's a little...|||In my experience, there have been two ways to embrace the Si/Te side.   The first one focuses on simple accomplishments and the happiness I get from that. I like finishing assignments, doing well...|||Yess!!!!! Exactly lol. I thought I was the weirdest person ever for doing that! Glad it's just more of an INFP thing. But yes I think there certainly are exciting things in life that can make us...|||I'm sorry, I feel you. Ever since I was a kid, I would go to bed every night creating scenes from the TV shows I love as I fell asleep. I lived in those worlds more than anything.   I still feel...|||I really feel you with this one -- I have also had to embrace my Si/Te side. It's hard to step out of it because it's honestly satisfying to be productive. At the same time, I would never want this...|||I agree that there probably aren't any solely INFP games, but I do gravitate towards RPGs that focus on character development and storyline. When I play those, I don't care about side quests or...|||Yes, always.   When I was a kid, I would play out made up scenes in my head every night before I went to bed. They were always from shows or anime that I was obsessed with. I lived in those worlds...|||I definitely feel you -- it is sometimes hard to watch people looking so hard for love, when sometimes the best course of action is to just focus on the self. I have friends who are also like this,...|||Librarian In my experience, any type can be an 'outcast' due to circumstances outside of type. As an INFP, I'm flattered that you'd want to join a club of us lol. I actually don't think I've met many...|||Hi! INFP peeking into the thread. I had written all this stuff about how I felt this feeling before, but the more I wrote the more I realized it was different. I will say, however, that I have felt...|||I do the same for school! It really does help to not think about the outcome. I always tell myself, 'At the very least, I'll just try my best -- I just don't want to feel the regret of failing...|||I'm glad there's someone around my age who relates to this. I never think about it after the fact, but it really does take time to form friendships. Whenever I am in the midst of 'forming' a...|||Of course! Glad I could help a little|||From My Limited Experience:   1) Umm kind of like you said -- soft, warm, smooth. It should get your heart racing though. After a while there will probably be some tongue, but it shouldn't be...|||Depends on the activity, but I'm usually pretty good with discipline. It has benefitted me academically -- because I work hard, I get scholarships that put me through university, which is really...|||I agree with Larch that sometimes a person in general just isn't a good fit, regardless of type so it might be that. But if not I do have some general advice.   The great thing about S types is...|||Oh my god, I'm literally trying to rekindle a friendship with a INTJ right now, I'm meeting her this weekend after not speaking for over a year due to a fight + her leaving for college. I was the one...|||Charlie -- Perks of Being a Wallflower Miles -- Looking for Alaska  Chandler Bing -- Friends Ted Mosby -- How I Met Your Mother|||I really like that. I definitely have found myself frustrated with friends or losing friends and decided to become hardened and cold -- it really didn't work for me. It made me bitter and unhappy. I...|||I'm kind of emotional right now because I just got in argument with a friend, involving our whole group. It was a long time coming (built up feelings on my end), and it ended with me saying that I...|||I do openly judge sometimes, like calling someone out for something and though there's a relief from letting out how I feel, I feel a little tainted/bad afterwards. I think to openly judge is kind of...|||I'm thinking about majoring in biology, and going to vet school in the future. In general, I'm interested in biology and chemistry because it helps me understand the world. There is a code to the...|||It's funny because I never roast my friends or anything. I think it's an inferior Te thing, but who knows. I just don't want to accidentally offend or overstep.   I don't think INFPs are brilliant...|||I first fell in love around this time last year. It was this boy I liked on and off in high school. We were both very shy and didn't think the other would ever like us. He had finally asked me to...|||Both of those responses were really helpful, thank you! I think I could probably try some different things like go out for hikes or relax at the park when finals are over.   And I've never heard of...|||A lot of the times, I feel stuck in the past and unable to let go of the things that once hurt me. Even when I kind of want to, I end up getting picture flashbacks when something reminds me of the...|||Ohhh my gosh okay. Thank you, that cleared things up.|||I was wondering if you guys relate to Fi and, if so, how it manifests?   I can relate to Fi in terms of having and weighting principles/morals that I would not be willing to give up for others...|||My math teacher asked the class, Did you pretend to be another person today? From this morning when you woke up to now, did you pretend or act like someone else? Do you guys even know who you are? ...'