'[QUOTE=RestlessCryptid;27632314] I'm already paranoid enough about being around emotional people. It scares me to the point where I'll start shaking if someone breaks down in front of me.   I...|||I can be very blunt. I usually try to be diplomatic, and break the news as gentle as possible, but generally I'm direct.  And I can be insecure for sure, especially if I sense a discrepancy between...|||I have a a good friend INTP and he doesn't exhibit a lot of visible emotion,but we sense each other and it's ok with me. If I were in your friend's place and you were telling me the story, I'd...|||Hi RestlessCryptid  I dont know about other infjs, but me being one, I feel and sense everything that goes on with the people i focus on. I had to make efforts throughout the years to unfocus on...|||I could use some other opinions at this point in time. Regardless of personalities, I think everybody can be short-sighted, narrow minded and so on. So although I know what I want and am pretty...|||wow, that's harsh!!  One cannot say they're interested but then walk away for 7 months just because they decided so previously.  And if that's their style, then ok. But she has no obligation to...|||wow! realistic scenario. getting lost in the details, he said/i said, he did/ i did and trying to tie the loose ends is total waste of time and feelings. Love is not an obligation! it's there or...|||That was really cute and lovely mushy.  ;D|||roaring chipmunk Why would you? Just wondering ... And what do you mean? Is she flirting with others? Are others too attracted to her to your detriment? Do you wish you had more assurance from her?...|||Eggsies I do?!?! :D|||Welcome to NFJ club!! :)|||Free personality test, type descriptions, relationship and career advice | 16Personalities  This is a fairly accurate questionnaire.|||hi :) i think for the first part, you made huge progress just by acknowledging there is an issue. Being aware and disliking the flaws/problems one may have is a great starting point and one of the...|||I hear ya! In my opinion, real love and chemistry is hard to find. Sorry, I don't mean to discourage you. I've been single and not even dating for over 3 yrs till recently. And found that being by...|||[QUOTE=Seeker;25321738]P.S. if anyone wants to say, There, there, poor Seeker, that sounds so stressful. You are right. You should not have to put out to be loved or to compete with rivals for your...|||That's true. I think it's important to want to improve no matter what others do. It's all about values and principles, at least for me.  Which is why it's amazing to connect with like minded spirits.|||I was under the impression that INFJs, for a third function, have quite well-developed Ti for the most part. It would explain why you guys get along so well with INTJs and ENTPs.[/QUOTE]  That's...|||Amazing!! I recently met an ENFJ and the two of us are inseparable in the most organic, symbiotic way. Even when we're not physically together, we are together!  Thanks againf or sharing!! And my...|||It is so heartfelt! Thank you for sharing! Do you know what other/personality type wrote it??|||Oh, I agree Gilly! Using Ti is not my priority often. But it's getting there.  I am learning to be open about wants and needs, although I know what they are, I'm always afraid I might be imposing. ...|||[QUOTE=KC;25266002]Care to elaborate? :kitteh:   Oh I also avoid conflict like the plague. I tend to let many things just go. I don't take insults personally and usually have a verbal cutting...|||Thanks for the heads-up @KC  Oh I can imagine you can really explode. I'm an introvert and when I get mad, it is the end. Haha  I meant ENFJs don't go out of their way to hurt others purposely...|||Oh you definitely should. I think ENFJs have a very good insight into themselves and others and they also have the capacity of being unbiased  and they lack maliciousness.|||Lol. You guys r too funny. Thanks for the video @KC|||[QUOTE=KC;25239946]Such appreciation for ENFJs, I feel so happy for the both of you.   Such an ENFJ thing to say! :) thanks!  You people are AMAZING!! No BS, no stupid games. just plain and pure...|||:( I wish I could hug you!!!   Remember this: you are unique!! It is a fact that in all the billions of people on earth, there's no other just like you!!  And being an ENFJ, that makes you so...|||I posted this on another ENFJ forum as well but couldn't help it and post it here too   This is more a question for the men ENFJ but if ladies have input I'd be grateful.  I'm in a relationship...|||Awesome! We do too! Lots. I try to express that as much as I can but I will read up some more on the luv language. Txs|||Thank you for your response nonetheless. I'm also a type 2, helper. We both been thru harsh relationships and he's so amazing trying to be there for me, that it's part of my nature to want to be...|||I'm pretty sure he's type 2, the helper.|||Hey guys, This is more a question for the men ENFJ but if ladies have input I'd be grateful.  I'm in a relationship with a wonderful ENFJ man and he's always very attentive, caring and giving. ...|||@Impeiris   I was suicidal once. For real. I'm also a speed demon and luckily enough for me I did not find a tall enough bridge.   What I can tell u is: find professional help!   After I...|||BroNerd  Oh, sorry to hear things r not too good.   There's no real right and wrong. There's ur choice. And there are consequences. It depends on the results ur willing to put up with.  There's...|||thewoodlandfairy  It's quite the intriguing story. I have no doubt that the two of share a special spiritual connection, a spark, which is very rare.   What you do with this connection is what...|||I have to say that ur probably right. From ur point of view! I mean I know I want a lot more than the average person. But should I compromise what I want, simply so that others see me in line with...|||MrSlunk no intention to be evil. Lol    Just play. I don't like mixed signals but you cant be in someone's face ALL the time. Give them a bit of room, whole maintaining  interest from afar, using...|||BroNerd  I feel for you! Well, I'm an INFJ and I do have a tendency to be controlling. Over the years I had to admit it to myself and make all efforts possible to change that. As in the end I...|||Jinsei Txs :)  I find ur avatar intriguing. And interesting.|||Do not attack anybody dear to me, or it may the last thing you will remember  Do not play cocky or fake with me! I WILL make you cry!  Other than that we can be civil. Lol|||Another Lost Cause  Yes and no.   There's no perfection. So if ideal means perfect...yup, they don't exist! Lol  For me ideal is a combination of favourite, preferable traits, combined with...|||That's why we're the dreamers! :)  I dream too. A lot. Ur not alone. And I'm mortally shy. I could not for the life of me let someone know I liked them.   There a couple of guys in my lifetime...|||Hahahahaha!  I got a great kick from reading ur post. Lol refreshing!  And true! My friends pity me, have this look on their face as if they're sorry for me, trying to math me up with others. And...|||Yes, absolutely! I've done lots of self search and splitting of the hairs, goings far as doubting all my values and principles, trying to prove them wrong. But in the end I am who I am.   I've been...|||oliveanderson  Hmmm, I've been where u are. And I'm not even close to ENFP but being and INFJ I would try to disappear from the friends circle for awhile.  You know, give it a rest, so to speak....|||mony  I really agree.|||Well, yeah I know I'm difficult and have high expectations. Can't help it. Because if I lowered the standards I wouldn't be true to myself.   In fact I've gone thru different phases. First I tried...|||Hahahahaha ur too much fun!|||Hugs!! And oh, if/ when u do meet an INFJ make him wait a little haha. Dangle the bait and let him squirm a bit.  INFJ  ( maybe not all) like the play and the tease. Not knowing if u really like us....|||:) quite the topic lol  Here's my other 2c: don't worry about it. INFJ and ENFP have a natural, organic attraction. Don't feel pressured into anything. Yeah, I like smart ppl,  but ur smart may be...|||Jinsei & Kiawaki  It's a very interesting read and I think both views are valid. Just different timing.  For instance in my own experience, I applied Jinsei's advice long ago and for many years...'