'When I make a new friend, when there's a really strong spark between me and the other person, and our mutual interest is instant and spontaneous right from the beginning, and there's loads of stuff...|||Fack off, basterd American racist. May your army rot in hell.|||Bumping as 0 replies.|||I currently work in advertising and marketing, 8 hours a day, 5 days a week, and enjoy the job even if I don't consider it my vocation. There are some days on which I need to work overtime, and...|||Also makes sense.  Need some creativity and/or good research to do so though :)  Any ideas for my case?|||Get involved in the social or religious services.   In religion, there are many roles in which you don't necessarily have to be a minister, but can provide assistance to the promotion and...|||But the extremes are created by today's existing economy and society. Whatever you call balance, it will be defined by what the job market has to offer.   Note I make a distinction between a...|||Whatever else defines your life and personal circumstances.  For me, it is mainly to live healthily and travel constantly to be in touch with family and friends. That costs a lot.|||As an update, I really enjoy the job I do right now (even though it is not my dream career).  Apart from the work hours, which are officially 9 per day (but recently have become 10-11 on some...|||Well, but if you really enjoy the job AND that's the lifestyle you want, maybe you have already found your balance?  My only concern is: what if you do find a woman and happen to build a family? I...|||Also true.  There are many more factors in the real work environment than just enjoying something.  I believe it has to do with each person finding a suitable and sustainable mix of what they can...|||For anything else that may happen unplanned? (even romantic - what if you do meet love, when you least expect it?) :kitteh:|||I know what you mean - I am good at following the script, but then I don't understand or forget the stuff soon after the exam. I think following the script was good at high school, but now, since I...|||I am not trying to be critical, but at least raise some awareness:  How do you expect to build (or even think of) family and friendships?  Spend time with them?  Solve any problems that may...|||Despite being an enthusiastic and high-performing student, I started noticing small difficulties when we had to learn mathematical analysis at high school, i.e. derivatives, integrals, etc. I could...|||It is dangerous for our health.  The occupational psychologists here will surely know that straining oneself doing the same thing throughout the day can be very unhealthy. Recent studies show that...|||To all young people considering which career path to choose, and to all those who are considering career change:  Always remember to find out what are the work hours and career progression, then...|||I think the underlined and bolded question is what I should have included in my original question.  What if people have other dreams higher than their career path? What if people place more value...|||But what troubles me is that it seems that most of you associate security with boredom. Why?  I think the central part of my question  (and probably what distinguishes it from similar...|||Very insightful...|||But what about the other channels of happiness which are enabled by the money? Love, family, ability to pursue hobbies and interests with the money?  If you get the money for those reasons, why...|||Does it matter whether we do the career of our dreams (especially those which are hard and underpaid), or a job that allows us to live the way we need/wish to?  Recently, I decided to accept a...|||I must say that I have experienced quite the opposite and witness the opposite all around me.  This probably depends a lot also on culture and geography. I am aware that in many Western countries...|||Maybe the Cup analogy was too much of a tournament in this situation :) I didn't mean literally having the cup on our mind (as in having a child).  However, do consider how many aspects of all...|||Yes, only one, although he's not literally mine. Why?  Which information sounded wrong?|||Having experienced long distance love so many times, through my own and my friends' stories, I feel that those who need sex the most are the ones to fall first.   From what I remember, it isn't...|||What do you mean? I would say it says exactly what I said :P  Oxytocin is a component of the love cycle and its absence may affect love negatively.  If two people who have sex regularly don't...|||And what is the reason for this?   Not sure what exactly you mean by suggesting that we don't have any signals...   Well, is that is the only reason, biologically speaking?  What about the...|||Bumping to first page.|||I meant detrimental in a purely biological-psychological sense, which of course can interact with cultural notions and the active behavior and choices of each individual.  I will try to summarize...|||While it is sadly true that many religious people choose to do something just because it is religious and thus fits with their fashions, even religious ideas often have underlying practical and...|||Sexuality is such a huge brainwashing tool, and easy to use as it is easy to program; I once belonged to the dumb sheep who thought sexuality was the peak of all experiences in humanity, but luckily...|||I would like to hear your response to my last post.  Thank you|||I understand and can agree with everything you say, however...    A few points to consider: - My family is spread across 2-3 continents and the woman whom I would like to marry lives in a...|||This is exactly what I fear feeling like.  By the way, I started, and I really enjoy what I do. Yet, when I see the others, my parallel path, I often am afraid to loose myself, get stuck in this...|||Reminds me of movies involving time travel :)  Please note I tend to be quite different from the majority in many things I say, but here is what I would tell my younger self:  Learn to rely on...|||My questions remain.|||Yes, so the personality psychologists say:  (wikipedia) Keirsey descriptionsChampions delight in novelty. They are optimistic, enthusiastic, and vivacious, craving expressions of strong emotion....|||Now, this seems a much better explanation as to why people should be more sensitive when making fun of or discriminating against someone who is different. But as I was saying to the other guys above,...|||According to some experts though, it is more than a taste/preference and almost an involuntary reflex :D Again, I didn't mean that orientation literally doesn't exist, but that I don't recognize...|||...with the only difference that I have met or heard about people who have actually changed and are happy with it. Not scientific, but definitely anecdotal.  Yet, if I say Well, I have a friend...|||In fact, as I wrote to sprinkles, my ideas express neither need for change, nor that it is abnormal to behave some way. I complain about the fact that it is looked down upon with much stigma if...|||Well, for some people, including big corporations, it does define you. When you apply for jobs at blue chip companies, you are asked for your sexual identity and orientation. I guess that for many...|||Agreed! But what I meant was being open to all possibilities, including change; not FORCING/programming those possibilities. Analogue situation: for most of my life, I might have been used to having...|||I swear that trying to bring up the subject in casual conversations always carries the risk of being labeled with all sorts of prejudice. It is almost a taboo subject... how can there be taboos in...|||It is no secret that ENFPs have multiple interests, but I am curious about how other ENFP's career ambitions evolved in their life time - from the first moment you thought about when I'm big I'll...|||I think the project work (instead of routine work), the different clients and/or suppliers / accounts and of course the creative aspect is what makes this quite ENFPish. Interestingly, my position...|||Oh, well. My gut says I could do this forever, i.e. one different career every 5 years or so :D But I also feel I want to contribute to every field I am seriously active in, i.e. I don't want to...|||Bumping message to the top as it had left the first page with 0 replies.|||It seems that the mainstream categorizes human sexuality into straight, gay/lesbian/bisexual AND trans and that those categories are hardwired and one cannot think outside the box.   Because I...'