'That's just how they are, at least some of them. They're quite sensitive people, and far from self - focused, so he's just nervous about what you may think of him, because he thinks as you as a nice...|||The ENFJ that loves me did something to me that was really, but really hurtful to me. Now he's in a ditch, probably being very hard and down on himself. I've let him know I really want to make it...|||I think none of the types is perfect, and I think it's dangerous people use the description as very ideal, whereas people aren't ideal. ENFJ's aren't either, there are some weak spots recording to...|||Infj.|||Thanks, I'm glad you can relate, I felt deeply hurt lately because of someone not understanding this, and thinking it doesn't make sense, because nobody hates me, so I'm glad I'm not the only one.|||Eggsies guy if I knew you in real life, I would give you a hug for your wonderful insights, that can help people out. If you don't mind - Getting the feeling the other person doesn't like you, is...|||https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zfDFAAGFfsY  And stop analyzing, I really tend to ruminate the hell out of things sometimes, and it only makes me feel like crap. This really helps! (:|||I don't know if this is for all INFP's, but for myself, it can be very devastating. Not really when it's a stranger, it works like, the deeper I love someone, the more I tend to hold it in, because...|||Popular, nah, never been that. Guess it's because most people are sensors and my N is too strong to keep up with the majority of people all the time, who are sensors. Yes, it does really hurt indeed....|||I like NF's and NT's (except the ENTJ) most. However, it really depends on the individual, I can't stand people of any type that are too self - focused.|||saltana: However, listening to my Fi - I personally get the sense, your ENFJ may have felt criticized because you're telling him he has to change for you. He's hurt. Especially when he feels it's...|||saltana. They can indeed get VERY, very sensitive when it's about this issue.  I brought it up, just very casual to an ENFJ recentely - before I knew it was such issue-  and he totally unexpectedly...|||Me too, it's hard in group - settings, but one on one it's easier. (:|||Dump her. If she treats you like that, she isn't worth your love at all. There are so many better girls out there, believe me. (: I think you're holding on to her, has to do with a kind of social...|||Who says introverts are boring? Honestly, most fun people I've met where IxxP's, so... (: Only stupid people think that, from what I've experienced in life, and we ain't going to marry stupid guys...|||Yes, some people do this indeed, and it's hard not to take it personal, probably they just can't listen and like to talk about themselves, but it's always an awch'' Like your picture btw, you look...|||Yeah, ISFP's suck too. :wink:|||Yeah, it's really the case, feeling is quite the norm here, which is quite nice. When I see things about north - America, there seems to be much more a macho mentality. It's sad you have to feel,...|||Oh, we're so nice for each other. No balls. My ass.:dry:|||Perfectly possible you're just an INFP, but you may just not be in the most healthy period of your life. (:|||Or did you mean my first post? (;|||Which continent/continent part are you from? (:|||I think other INFP's made the point already... It will be really hard to get this girl back. Can you blame her? I mean, that girl probably respects herself more than just that you know. Above that,...|||Ravenclaw. :kitteh:|||I feel your pain, really. I feel better nowadays, with the people I know today. But I really know that feeling. Don't let it scar you, it will be better, there are other people out there, who will be...|||Western Europe and North Europe are very F - minded, especially SF. T's aren't really looked well at here. Empathy has great value, and T's can come of as to rude. East - Europe has a more ST minded...|||Thank you for existing. For voicing exactly and without shame or limitation, all those feelings and ideas, that are often running trough my head as well. I really look up for you, for that. It makes...|||Normally, I have a bah - mentality about those booh, people, who are waiting to be saved by someone else. So I really have no need to do that.  However, I always had a soft - spot for underdogs,...|||Hahaha, the weak thing, is such stereotype. Really. In real life people say I come of as a strong - minded, collected, talented person, who's great at standing her ground and walking her own shoes,...|||ENFJ's with strong Ni, or INFJ's with strong Fe.|||I've noticed there's really a very broad scale of different individuals among the INFJ's. I click with some amazingly, and with others - it's okay - I'm not fond of all of them. Yet, I have yet to...|||This disappointing thing, is something I experienced as well. I heard the worst and most painful thing that can happen to an ENFJ is someone being disappointed in them, that it hurts more than a stab...|||What has happened to you then? If you're able to talk about this. It seems to be something really common, among ENFJ's. Maybe this thread can help people further - and save future relationships... <3...|||I'm happy I am not alone with this. It's really annoying, to be an INFP, and having that judging function that can't stand not knowing 'what's going on', especially in an emotional charged situation,...|||Thank you for your time. :) You're very insightful. I have a 'deeper' question. What did you mean exactly with: the thought of fixing stuff being overwhelming?  That the whole situation is being...|||Ooh, lol. I totally disagree with this one, really.   I've read a quote that said:  “Opinion is really the lowest form of human knowledge. It requires no accountability, no understanding. The...|||I think it's more an xNFJ thing to be honest, to be closed about your own feelings and opinions. From what I have discovered in real life. INFP's are very open when it comes down to it. I mean, they...|||Hmm, your sure he's INFP instead of an INFJ? Some xNFJ's tend to hold their opinions back, it's out of fear of rejection. INFP's tend to be more comfortable in their own skin, so also about their own...|||An ENFJ is angry at me, and is ignoring me now. I tried to contact him, but he shut off communication. I see this as a form of passive - aggression, showing how displeased he is with me. But it's...|||Don't push her, be consistent. If a guy is a flirt, I would be suspective as well. I would be afraid to end up heartbroken by him. I think she just needs some time to get to know you, be patient and...|||From what I've seen, they're just neutral towards that person. But they tend to talk and think badly about them.|||Nothing to do with cognitive functions, it's just about processing information. I've seen very emotional healthy and very unhealthy people of all types.|||Not is this order, all for something different, but generally speaking those types:  -ENFP's: they feel like a much more expressive version of myself, I love the emotional/introspective openness,...|||https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vtOfKT9gO6w  If one of you is interested, same Tom Facey said. (:|||Read into the functions. xNFP's and xNFJ's share none of them. (:|||That may be you Eggsies. (: When I was detecting a flaw in an ENFJ I know, he got upset with me, by pressing it too much. I like to talk about flaws. :) Flaws is what makes us interesting. It's the...|||I'm so glad to read all those things, I totally GET what you mean, every word. (: Oh - ENFJ's get it too, btw. (:  All N's may... It are mostly sensors that misjudge, in my experiences.|||Thank you, for your words. I agree completely, with every word, with Little Star. I am always soft when it comes to dealing with others, I'm sensitive when overwhelmed in the moment. I have great...|||Haha, I hate it. (: But I'm happy you can see we are strong people. (: It's not really bothering that people think I'm cute. It's a problem when cute => = weak.|||Yes, they usually like us. For our extraverted intuition, relaxed nature, and the fact we actually care. And because we have hidden emotions or something...'