'I experienced the same thing. Sometimes I think it is more difficult as males are still expected to make the first move in a lot of cultures. But I often fantasize that one day if I did click with...|||I don't understand this, could you perhaps provide a specific example? To me it sounds more like you're trying to change others to an idea in your head of what they should be. Maybe they are happy as...|||I fluctuate a lot, and it's strange how it works. I get caught up on past events and project them into future fantasies that are usually negatively undertoned. I get a little haunted by a couple of...|||The ultimate one for me was to make videogames, which I'm now following although coming up against a bit of struggle.  Other ideas I've had is to be a teacher, therapist and world leader. But the...|||May I ask what an improv class is?  I am happy that you've got something great in your life to feel good about :)|||Thank you HumanRenaisance, I have entered my first year of IT study after several years in science. I only just figured out that I want to do something in IT. I am actually leaning towards game...|||It's perfectly normal mate, you're fine :)   I met this girl about a year ago, spoke to her a total of 5 or so times and got rejected and I'm not over her yet. I guess people would say that isn't...|||The thing that upset me most was that my 3 favourite characters died ;_; Lupin, Snape and Sirius. I wasn't surprised much by Snape dying, but Lupin seemed to come out of nowhere. And Hedwig, damn.|||Harry Potter is probably my favourite thing on the planet ever. I grew up with it, played heaps of the videogames and read the books several times. Even played a bit of Quidditch last year (don't...|||I have been single throughout my life so far (only 22 though). And I was miserable for a long time because I fantasized the idea of a relationship and thought being in one and being loved would be...|||I love:  Mi-Goreng noodles - so delicious!! Trading Card Games Rain Red pen ink (I think it looks warmer/friendlier on paper if that makes any sense haha) People who seem at peace with...|||Yeah I played SimCity, but is it really like that? hahah I don't know why but I thought there was a lot of maths content, kind of like some aspects of engineering, design and so on.  Cheers for the...|||My dream job at present is to design levels and artistic content for videogames. I believe I can achieve this, but the fall back will be something IT-related :)  What is city planning like?|||Yeah my mum seems similar too, came from a family where the father was physically abusive. As a result she never followed her passions or her talents (she wanted to do nursing, and was a great...|||I find that my mothers nature is a serious detriment to my own mental health, and aspects of it have seriously degraded my life growing up (such as low self-esteem, over-compromising for others,...|||I didn't watch the videos because I refuse to spoil it for when I go :)|||Hey there lemony, I hope you're still around the forums to read this, I procrastinated a little in my reply XD  My new hobbies were things I always wanted to try but for some reason just put them...|||What did the boy with no legs and no arms get for christmas?  Cancer.    Still my favourite.|||I'm heading towards IT, specifically level designer I think. I'm not particularly great at maths or art but if I love something nothing will keep me from it. And I guess that's it, do something you...|||So how have you guys managed to help develop yourselves better? I can see I fell on the poorly developed side of things in regards to F.F.S's list. Sometimes it's so easy to mistake reckless...|||I am thankful for having a life where I have the opportunities to experience joy in many forms. I'm thankful for having awesome friends, for having all the money I need at any given moment, a nice...|||Wow, I really hope I'm as lucky as you one day :) I fell for a couple of people but they didn't feel the same about me, so I guess I feel more sceptical towards it now.|||Hahaha, I laughed out loud XD (I would of wrote lol...but that doesn't really mean 'laugh out loud' these days)  Yeah, I love anti-jokes. Set up a good joke and just crush it with mediocrity or...|||This, this times a gillion billion. It's like trying to solve a 27-sided rubicks cube whilst looking through a kaleidoscope :/  I may or may not have exaggerated a little in that sentence.    I...|||*Nods*  Sure is hahah   What did the boy with no arms and no legs get for christmas?  Cancer.|||You guys would absolutely love the Anti-Joke Chicken Meme.    What's blue and smells like red paint?  Blue Paint.   Why didn't Billy get what he wanted for christmas?|||I live close enough to Sydney :)|||I haven't been in the mood for Bat for Lashes in ages, but Daniel and Pearl's Dream are awesome :)   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i6gHLHbYVeA|||I'm scared of dying before I finally accept and love myself, I'm scared of dying and not having the opportunity to share a loving relationship with someone, I'm scared of not finding the hobby that...|||I have no idea what era I would love to see. A tribal setting would be awesome, as dvnj22 mentions a Shaman sounds..familiar lol. I think being a counsellor to a king would of been cool, a sort of...|||Discovering the freedom to be awesome :)|||Ralph Fiennes is an awesome person :)|||We might need to convince her some more on those parts :laughing:|||Well I'll input something from the male perspective, in that I would not be happy if my girlfriend were to have another close relationship with a male (outside of a normal close friendship I mean)....|||I think that might be where some people go wrong, I don't think you can give love away, which implies that you will eventually run out of it yourself. Rather you share the love you have in your life...|||Is there something wrong with men who grew up without their fathers, or are you just concerned because you keep attracting men who are insecure because of it?   My dad left when I was 5-ish, and...|||Love also, giving and receiving.  Close behind, I would say I want purpose.|||http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RnAMDg7IVWs *Above video NSFW audio, alright if you have earphones :)*   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2sBxIGbcgMw  That second video puts me in hysterics XD|||Hey Sil, as above I thank you for letting us ask you some questions :)  I was wondering how you two met? It just seems that a lot of INFJ's (and me) find it difficult to make connections with...|||I would love to eat something nice and just sit somewhere peaceful talking to someone I like :)  If you wanted to do something - you mentioned that you two have many similar hobbies, any that can...|||The girl I asked out completely cut-off any chance for me to talk to her. I would have liked to remain friends, I do hope she didn't assume I was only asking her out because of physical reasons. But...|||I wasn't abused, but I was neglected. I wish my mum made more of an effort to force me and my brother off the computer/console and realise that there were fun activities we could have shared...|||Yes, my own brother legitimately asked me if I was gay. I'm not gay lol, it's just I can appreciate that I might appear unusual to others.   You know, Hugh Jackman is someone I really admire. He...|||Pun intended? XD That reminds me of something a girl asked me a long time ago, Why is the sun so...sunny? hahaha    Do you/other girls reading this think it's a bad thing to make the first...|||I used to beat myself up over never being in a relationship, sometimes I still do. It hurts a lot being lonely, but it hurts even more trying to find someone and having no luck. This is quite...|||No nudity please, unless there is 1 girl for every 1 guy hahah    I've always dreamed of being a knight in a medieval setting, a position where being fiercely loyal actually means something huge....|||Is this like where we want to dwell in the afterlife or where we will actually be buried? XD  Not too fussed on where I will be buried, although I wouldn't mind having my tombstone carved out into...|||You know, I never even thought of all that intense focus being directed into my fingers, it is pretty funny when I think about it like that XD I was always too focused on what was happening on...|||I've been unemployed a long time also, but I am studying so it isn't so bad. When it comes to seeing professional work and getting disheartened, that's a massive INFJ trait. I think you should stop...|||Man I do that all the time on videogames, just as I'm about to kill someone online, my face freezes up as my neurons decipher a creative route to my enemies' demise.  Something tells me though that...'