'Any stories about an ENFP + ISTP marriage? (I'm currently dating one.)|||I've become really good at/comfortable with, the situations in which I am the client or the boss-- like your hairstylist example. My Fi and Te have figured out a way to handle this where Te addresses...|||I feel like I've lost my happily, friendly, enthusiastic, fun, and witty self. Has anyone else experienced this? If so, what caused it, and how did you pull yourself out of it?|||I think by beat yourself up, I meant more like view yourself, as a friend, in a negative light so much so that you avoid close friends. For example, to consider yourself abusing your friends by...|||I'm the same way in most situations, but I've found one type of scenario that I feel like I don't know how to handle: work. Even if I don't like or care about the person, I can't just ignore them...|||So I was reading up on my S.O.'s personality type, when I came across this tidbit that is TOTALLY ME! Can anyone else identify?  Unlike the Ne-Si function pair, which encourages makeshift tool use...|||I do the same thing! And I think what happens is, I try to let them off the hook, only to be blindsided by resentful feelings when they do it again.|||I just wanted to say that your motives behind these issues are really noble, and I don't think you should beat yourself up about it (not that you asked me..)  A true friend wants to be there for...|||Solving problems and coming up with new ideas. What the problems and ideas are exactly, is subject to change. Like, monthly.|||I think an ever bigger, more pressing question is: How passive-aggressive are ENFPs?  I also hate passive aggressiveness, especially the kind that Fe-users use, where they don't address the issue,...|||I love this thread! More answers/stories please!  (I have nothing to contribute here, unfortunately)|||We will have to deal with it on our own, but you can still help. The key is to listen, listen, and listen to our hurts! We need to talk through these things. Usually we do not want advice unless we...|||Lol wut? Are you talking to us? I feel like ENFPs, or at least myself and the ENFPs I know, are absolutely flooded with self-issues and doubts. We are Fi-users, after all, and we take ourselves way...|||On a side note, I wish current ISTP boyfriend was into MBTI like y'all are. :unsure:|||Totally-- ISTPs don't use Fi. But it is interesting that we have this in common. I agree, it could be the similarity between Se and Ne... or perhaps even Ti and Fi can express themselves similarly in...|||So, this will sound weird, but first guy seemed like a 7 minus any niceness. If that makes any sense. Like, he was really energetic and all over the place and outgoing... but it was like he didn't...|||See, with him, he is mannerly and ridiculously nice all the time, to everyone. A homeless person will come up to him on the street and he'll shake their hand, ask them their name, and give them some...|||They could have different enneagrams. Current guy is probably a 9... first guy maybe a 7 or a 3?|||In my experience, it's the xNFJs who are notorious for I'm mad at you and won't tell me why because you should know. I also feel that Fe-types are confident of their rightness in those types of...|||I can see that.   I dated another ISTP when I was 16 and he was definitely not as friendly/likeable to everyone as the current ISTP, so I was just surprised at how much Fe I see in current bf. I...|||That's odd-- usually ENFPs don't do the I'm mad at you and won't tell me why because you should know thing, because we also are better at reading than interpreting. We make good guesses, but we've...|||I suppose I should specify: he is polite and considerate to EVERYONE he meets, not just me and other important people. He is seriously one of the most affable people that I have ever known, but I'm...|||Er... if at all?  I'm dating an ISTP who I feel must have a decently developed inferior Fe, because he is way more polite and considerate than I could ever hope to be... But I don't really know...|||Well, it mostly didn't make sense because he was drunk... he started weaving the names of streets and stores we were passing into his metaphors. It was at about that time that I realized he was three...|||Several years late to the party... but that is EXACTLY what happened me and my ISTP! It was hilarious... I was all like, Oh? And just who are you in a relationship with? And he was like, ...You?|||I saw my ISTP boyfriend REALLY drunk for the first time recently, and it was hilarious. I was driving him home and the whole time he was monologing about life and love-- unfortunately none of it made...|||Haha data points... Spoken like a true thinker! It always cracks me up to hear life experiences discussed in a dispassionate, objective manner.  One of the things that I don't like about the INTJs...|||That sounds EXACTLY like the relationship I have with my ISFJ mother!! Still, I wouldn't have any other type for a mom; she grounds me like no other.|||Oh yeah, I do that all the time! That's sort of the fun part of the Ne-Te loop, because at least Fi isn't completely left out. It judges yourself and decides that you need improvement. Then Ne comes...|||I didn't mean rigidness as in spontaneous versus planned... Actually, I LOVE planning things. In fact, planning/daydreaming about all the cool stuff we could do is at least half the fun of taking a...|||The problem with the Ne-Te loop is that two extroverted functions are never supposed to, ideally, be working in tandem. It works well enough at my job, where I use Ne to gather data, Te to make...|||Good stuff, thanks for your thoughts! My current job requires lots of Te, with equal amounts of Ne and Si (at different times, luckily), and almost no Fi. I'm really stoked to be developing that...|||That all sounds great in theory, but in actuality, I've just never developed an attraction to an INTJ because I don't find them very exciting. Maybe if I met one that is really, really physically...|||Having pendulum-ed from one extreme (my natural desire to seek greener grass) to the other (enduring a bad situation in misguided loyalty until I'm beaten and bruised), I've learned that what's...|||So true! When we're feeling positive, the world is our oyster and full of eternal possibilities. When we're feeling negative, especially stressed or scared, we somehow forget the undulating nature of...|||Agree 100% with all you said, especially the red highlighted.  On another note, I dated an ISTP for 2 years and it was one of the best relationships so far. We ended up breaking it off mainly...|||Totally agree, except I don't have any INTJ friends. My boss is one however, and though she's kinda cold sometimes, I feel like she's someone I can definitely learn from. I also feel I'm best...|||As I'm in my mid-20s, I'm going through some serious tertiary Te development... but I feel like lately it's been going a little overboard. I'm stuck in a Ne-Te loop! This is what's been going on with...|||In order of least attractive to most:  I've never been attracted to an xSTJ... not repulsed, just not attracted-- they aren't really crazy or fun enough to interest me. I HAVE been repulsed, and...|||I am entirely confused by this. Dogs? Scullery Boys? Cat wives? What?  I never have a man in tow... who wants to tow around a dude? Or anyone, for that matter. I need freedom and I want others to...|||I need to own my anger more, and stop viewing it as wrong or bad. Supposedly, it's actually a helpful emotion if you use it correctly... which I haven't been.  I tend to try and turn anger into...|||I agree with the above... when I read your evidence of aux Fi, it struck me that all the descriptions were actually negative, as if you don't like Fi and view it solely as a weakness. Could that be...|||I'm an event coordinator, with plans to someday have my own event planning and design business. I've been doing this sort of thing for about 3 years now and I love it...   I need a job with equal...|||ENFPs are supposed to be very disorganized, or so says all the literature. And yet I LOVE organizing things (and I'm better at it than nearly everyone I know, including plenty of Judgers.)...|||PREACH IT GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Ugh, this is such a freaking thorn in my side. I love guys as friends but it's very, very rare that they will be all for the totally platonic relationship that I...|||It's seriously a thing. Both of us do it like crazy. The INFJ I lived with was constantly judging me for it, so it's nice to have a roommate who won't give me passive aggressive looks if I make a...|||This is more or less the experience I've had with INFJs... they makes excuses for their bad behavior but harshly judge bad behavior in anyone else. That said, the ones I've known were definitely not...|||I love my ESTJ friends dearly, but living with them would be a trainwreck. Despite my strong Te, my Ne-Fi lifestyle would annoy the shit out of them and they would end up hating me ;)|||I've been out of my parent's house for six years now, so I've got a decent amount of experience with roommates. Very recently, I think I've come to discover the BEST MBTI type for an ENFP to have as...|||Same here. When you go to an art school, you tend to be designated the artsy one. Also when you sew, do interior design for all your friends, throw theme parties, and have about a million d.i.y....'