'To be honest, I don't know if I would truly be capable of doing what you want your mom to do...I don't know if I can truly let go of what I feel I need out of a relationship.   For those I truly...|||Out of the four NT types I've always gotten along with INTPs the best.  My best friend is an INTP and I know a few others that I've always gotten along very well with.  Out of the four NT types, they...|||For me, this gets easier the more I do it.  I also kind of like to go back through the reasons why I said no and remind myself that they're completely legitimate and important.  I try to use those...|||I agree that this is individual for me, but I also think that it makes sense for their to be a general connection between the idea of tradition and Si users.  This doesn't mean that every SJ is going...|||Well, for me, what I mean by tradition isn't always the same as what other people mean.  I don't mean it in a sense of ceremonies or doing things the way they've always been done or doing...|||To be honest, as others have said, I really don't think any of this has to deal with the exact type of SJ we're talking about.  I think it's down to your personal experience.   I think any one of...|||For me personally, this is a pretty complex topic.     It's hard for me to say what motivates me to do good things for others.  A lot of it depends on my relationship with the person.    I have...|||I have noticed that with those that I'm close to, because I open up more to them, they do see me as a deep person and understand my depth.  So I definitely agree that the more we share things about...|||I definitely agree with the part about Si.  That's totally how I feel.  And it's something that can be very hard to get across or describe to non Si types.   And that's the exact reason why it's...|||I do hunk this all or nothing mentality is fairly typical in ISFJs, and I think it's directly related to our dominant Si.  We have trouble adapting on the spot and we stay very committed to things....|||I think all in all you've covered the topic very well.  I think a big part of the problem is how people define the terms deep and shallow.  Shallow always carries a lot of negative connotations and...|||I've been a high school math teacher for ten years.  Anyone of any type can be a great teacher and any one of any type can be a bad teacher.  It's just like anything else in life...your type will...|||Can you give some specific examples of this?  You sound very flexible to me!      You must be very strong to work in daycare!  As I mentioned in another thread...I know nothing about babies or...|||Well,  you can't win 'em all, especially on the Internet.|||I definiteky view myself as cuddly light.  :)  I actually think I'm very cuddly, but I hide it and hold it back a lot, especially because I'm male.  I usually get along with INTPs extremely...|||I think a lot of it depends on other aspects of the friendship too.  It really depends o. If the other one cares about the friendship or not.  When you do contact the person, if they agree to hang...|||I think this is a really good point. I mentioned this sort of thing in another thread, and an INTJ and an INTP both mentioned how they are really appreciative of people who make the effort to keep up...|||Well, I think it really depends on if you think you SHOULD be bothered by whatever it is that's bothering you.   In my previous post, I was referring to things that you deep down felt shouldn't...|||This has definitely happened with me, though the details are different.   For me, I think what's tough is that it's so hard to make new, deep friendships.  So much of this goes back to my own...|||I agree with Falcon5.   One of the biggest things that helps me is not reacting in the moment.  Never let yourself respond to your immediate emotions.  As Si doms, things catch us off guard, and...|||First off, NineTypesOfLight gave awesome advice.   As far as the short notice thing...sometimes you just have to say no and not care what she thinks.  ISFJs have a hard time saying No when we...|||i think my post #29 addresses this the best.  I am fully aware this this isn't about me, and I would never in my life expect my two friends to look after my emotions...sending one card and two texts...|||And as I've mentioned, I was more relieved than anything else.  It made me feel good to know that it meant something to her.    the thing is that I've never expected a response, especially not...|||And I can't watch it because I'm not home!  I'm going for the Sharks, but I have a feeling your Pens will win the Cup.|||That's good to know.  I usually do try to give logical advice when my friends ask for it.  I try to come up with something and kick around some ideas.  I guess I just usually feel like it doesn't go...|||I do understand that without the background explanation of the situation (and explaining a lot about myself, which I've left out), all of this sounds (and in some ways, is) obsessive.  But I think...|||Thank you for that.  This lines up perfectly with what I've been learning from the ENTP I've talked to.  One thing I've noticed about my ESTJ friend is that...he's always helped me out with so many...|||This is always something I've struggled with concerning T types.  I've always felt like I've WANTED to help them practically and logically...but it seems like every time they have a problem, I can't...|||It's interesting...these are the kinds of things that my inferior Ne has always been super worried about.  However, what I've learned lately is that I can't let my mind get carried away with these...|||I find her particularly fascinating because it took us a while to figure out her type.   But I think where her INTP attributes come out the most is when she's in her work environment.  Even though...|||That's good to know.  My main thing is just understanding what the silence means.  I'm trusting in the idea that if I was being annoying, an INTP would be likely to tell me instead of just being...|||Hiya INTPs.  I haven't posted much in this forum because for the most part I've gotten along very well with INTPs in my life (though I'm an ISFJ myself).  My best friend is an INTP and I get along...|||I'm totally the same way.  When I laugh my teeth show.  But when I smile normally, especially in pictures, I never like to show my teeth.  It looks goofy to me when I do it.  But I definitely notice...|||It's hard for me to say because this situation is different than how it would be for me (I'm a guy and my dad would never stop me from dating someone...of course, I'm also 32).   So my opinion may...|||I wish I had read this before seeing your posts about my SJ rant a while back.  It explains a whole lot more about everything.|||I think this is a huge part of all of this.  When I'm stressed, I become much more irrational and emotional and can't think clearly.  It's hard for me to stay calm and make good decisions.    So if...|||I just ran across this video and I found it quite fascinating:   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vs-3gPXN-0Y     Basically, it's about how people of a type will tend to have similar facial...|||Yeah, I guess sometimes I don't appreciate everything I have.  I know not everyone has these social opportunities and it can become even tougher when you're married with kids.  I do have a decent...|||The fact of the matter is that all types have things they struggle with.  And even though some of these things are challenges, they are not things that define you, and they can all be improved upon....|||One thing that I've noticed about myself lately is when there's some kind of get together that I go to with acquaintances, I have a really hard time making an exit, even when I feel like it.  ...|||It's hard for me to answer this with you.  I think it's down to WHY you don't feel comfortable with.  Can you pinpoint things about ISFJs that don't seem to fit with you?     Or is it that there's...|||First off, I agree with Sweetish .  I think this is mostly about dom Si and inferior Ne, and I think with ISFJs, this leads to over-worrying in a way that ISTJs don't quite fall into.       In...|||It may be a person to person thing.  For me, caffeine doesn't seem to affect me at all, except that it keeps me from sleeping if I drink something caffeinated too close to bedtime.|||I don't know....I somewhat relate to all three, but I don't relate to any of them completely.   If I had to choose one, I would choose silly-serious.  I think I always feel a desire to relax,...|||I understand the difficulty of a situation like that.  I've had times when I've just caved in and met up with them.  Interestingly enough, sometimes it's been horrible, and other times I was actually...|||Well, it mainly just helps for me to blow off steam.  I feel like I keep all of the little irritations pent up inside of me.  When it happens a few times, it's no big deal...I can understand if...|||Yeah, I agree.  When people have the desire to adapt and work together, even if it's difficult, it will end up working out, no matter what the types are.  But if only one side (or neither) is willing...|||Unfortunately, even at 32, those things are still true for me.  I've gotten better at them, but I'm still working on them.|||I think I can relate to this from an Fe standpoint in this regard:  I just sent a gift to one of my friends.  I put time and money into it.  I really enjoy the notion that it will make them happier...|||I personally agree with you that it's far easier to try to understand one of your bottom four functions by trying to find similarties to your top four.  To me, this is especially helpful because I...'