'I don't believe this is true.    The golden rule says nothing about being identical, merely that as a decent person you will treat others decently.   For example, to exercise social restraint at...|||What? What do you mean, not productive?  :-) You shared a profound and meaningful insight with your fellow human beings.  You generated insight.  You made me laugh. These are all good and valuable...|||Archer Game of Thrones Defiance Due south Life on Mars (british) Sherlock (british) Firefly Dollhouse Buffy Green wing|||It's amusing this thread got bumped when it did, as yesterday I started pulling the black T-shirts from my wardrobe (completely unaware of this thread) to find I had... nine of them...  :-)  At...|||The golden rule covers it pretty well for me. Do unto others as you wish be done unto you.  If you take the time and care to think that through, it can guide you through life pretty well. That,...|||To the OP: You can't get out of the situation, so figure out what you want/can get from this. Do you want to be liked? Do you want an education? Something else? What do you want from your school...|||Hmm.  INTPs are more socially acceptable, have a better social manner.    They can manufacture social acceptability better than INTJs, perhaps.  But some INTJs at least are very attracted to people...|||This. Oh, this! Can I give you a gold star?  A bottle of champagne?  Something, anything, to show my undying appreciation for your insight!  :-)|||It depends on the street...  :-)  If it's a rural or suburban street with no people on it I spend a lot of time looking at the plants and animals, thinking random thoughts about nature interspersed...|||INTJ here.  I cook a lot and really enjoy it, both mundane everyday cooking for the family and experimental or adventurous cooking.  I rarely use recipes, and mostly cook by feel, but generally...|||Kleptomaniac liturgical dancers jig for songs advocating deprivation  iigrigg|||Wow, that sounds hellish uncomfortable.   However it makes you still sound like a human being.  :-)  (Some INTJs worry me, in that they appear not to feel the emotions at all, and therefore do not...|||This.   This is absolutely my experience too, on both counts. And what's more it's accurate; it damn well works, even if there is no immediately obvious causal link.|||Maybe so... but the rest of us haven't.  :-) And neither have you, since you not only clicked your way here, but also bothered to post.  :-)|||Infp?|||Yup, that's the important bit right there. By constructing a temporary social self you are not manipulating others into something they don't want or that is disadvantageous,  but rather putting them...|||Why not?|||You are hardly alone with that one.  :-) At least men can get away with a certain discomfort with the gushy hugs & air kisses thing.  But if I show anything other than massive enthusiasm for close...|||I'd debate that on both points.  :-)  Without being contradict-y, I just want to raise a couple of points:  Statistically we make up +/- .5% of the population, so to me that's pretty rare.  And...|||Just out of interest, do any of you INTPs find a lack of empathy (when compared to the probable empathy levels of other types) a functional problem at all?   Do your social interactions get along...|||Is it actually true that we all hate showing emotion?  I don't mind showing my full emotional spectrum to people I care about or people I trust.  However I am not overly keen on showing emotion...|||While I do completely agree with your general line of thinking (manners maketh the (wo)man, people!), I'm assuming that as an INTJ you've mostly been posting in the INTJ forum... and you do know what...|||Mendi I'm a female INTJ and I get exactly where you are coming from.  Maybe it's because I'm female;maybe because something like that happened to me not so long ago - a long-term platonic...|||Okay then. That settles that question - Snapple is just trolling and isn't remotely on the level here. Sex work is a difficult, dangerous, and poorly paid trade and very few women do it as a...|||Sorry I'm a bit late in on this one, but I had to say something here:  Love can turn to hate in a heartbeat.  They are two sides of the one coin.  If you love, if you hate, - you care passionately...|||This!  This is so true.   I am not sure that anyone, of any type, appreciates being fixed in the context of a romantic relationship.  Romantic relationships - healthy ones at least - are...|||Love is a state where, to a greater or lesser extent, the well-being of the love-object is essential to your own happiness.  The well-being of an object of pity is not essential to one's own...|||Apparently I'm an elephant.  Good memories, good family structure, formidable opponent, generally liked and respected... could do worse. It's not what I think of when I look in the mirror in the...|||That's a good boss, right there. Lots of people aren't very keen on people who are right a lot of the time, let alone acknowledging it publicly.    Heh.  My son and I are fairly similar (both...|||You must be better at this process than I am - I find that while it _should_ work in theory, it tends not to, for me at least.  People get confused or resentful or just plain old want to do it...|||My current job is an exceptionally good one, as it consists of a regular array of new projects, mostly completely different from each other and requiring an extraordinarily steep learning curve for...|||Oh Okay, I think I get what you mean now.  There's an idea worth considering. I doubt anyone is going to come up with a conclusive answer to that one in a hurry though.  :-)|||This seems reasonable to me. One needs the other to give context to this.  Neither happiness nor unhappiness could be well understood without the other, as then whichever state prevailed would...|||Of course you are always right. :-) I read somewhere that one of the reasons INTJ is so exasperating to other types is not just because we think we are always right, but because we actually are very...|||I could not agree with you more.  That book is going on the must buy pile.  :-) I've read others by Rosin and they are usually interesting.  Like you, I am a little bit sceptical about this...|||Gullible...  :-)|||I don't know about wanting to rule the world.  I don't think that's my style. But I do want to make the world a better place, and one of the most tangible ways to do that is to help people to whom...|||Ah, now there is a question.  Which is happiness and which is joy? I agree with you about happiness - happiness seems to me to be the simpler of the two, more readily triggered by ordinary things -...|||I agree there has been a lot of change in the past ten years, but I am not sure that all of it has been positive. For example raunch culture, which is allegedly about women being free to express...|||Maybe it's all about the moments? I know the times I can accurately say I have been happy, happy through to the core, have all been fleeting.  Intense, but fleeting.|||You've answered your own question right there - with the words of a true INTP.    Case closed. :-)|||Argh.  I wrote  a long and thought-out response to this but was interrupted.  When I went to post it was all lost.  Stupid timing-out tokens.    Hmmm, interesting perspective.  I don't - and...|||That sounds a little bit too good to be true.  :-) Not even the Mormons themselves seem to have taken this to heart sufficiently to lead lives purely in pursuit of joy.  For my part I suspect the...|||Why sir!  But we've scarcely met...  Actually we haven't met at all,  I'm on my 10th post in this forum, and frankly two words are too cryptic for even me to make much sense of. Bed is fun and...|||This is hilarious, mostly because it is so hideously accurate...|||That's interesting - I never did the contorting in the first place, and as I get older I'm starting to think that maybe that was a bit of a mistake. Because of my directness and almost fanatical...|||Just a very slight diversion from the OP (whose author is so very young, and so very INTP...)  Has anyone had this exact argument with anyone who was NOT an INTP?  Now I'm not exactly a bleeding...|||And then one day you actually fall in love... and are mighty confused that there seems to be more to it than that... :-)|||Ah yes... I remember those days. Sometimes I'd drive to a shopping complex (on my own!) and just... park.   And I would be alone and there would be no-one tapping on the car window.  I wouldn't...|||Apparently the wanting of a baby, the ticking of that clock, trumps everything else - even for an INTJ.   I remember making long lists of the pros and cons of having a child. The 'con' list was way...'