'Well, I don't know where you live, but here , the situation is equal to yours. Finding a job is hard. You are not alone, trust me.  I don't have a car as well, because I invested all of my money in...|||Exactly Dulcinea, it is a mild form of Bipolar. The ups are less high, and the lows are not so down .  You are very right about light and exercise. Sometimes it's hard to force myself to get out...|||Cool, thanks. Today I'm feeling okay. Yesterday I took a tiny bit of SSRI. Doc said I can do it (he suggested taking it all the time of course). Actually I suffer from Cychlothimya, that means I'm...|||Sounds like a Zen principle. I like it. Do you think the book you mentioned is worth a read ? I've got so many self-help books that I could build a house with them. Probably 10% useful books / 90 %...|||Again , INTJ , it's natural for you to NOT CARE about what people think .|||It's easy to say like that when you're INTJ. INTJS's in my experience don't give a damn about communicating with others.  (I get along very well with intjs btw....)|||Your idea is very good, but I've been doing that for my whole life (musician)... I still feel unliked by some people...hated by others....liked and loved by many, but still I focus on the haters........|||So I've been through a deep depressed phase these days. I should take SSRI but I refuse, cause I consider it a 'crutch' and I would like to solve the problem at the core.  I've got a great number...|||Endless possibilities. Exactly what I'm talking about. You sound like a wise person (at least wiser than me ahah) .  Maybe then I'm just a control freak, and I would like to control the future.|||So, in times of stress I always have this 'train of thought', for instance when I need to take an important decision.  It takes forever for me to take a decision, because in my mind, new ideas...|||The most tragic movie I've ever seen is 'Lovely Bones' . Absolutley shocking and horrifying.|||I see. Well that's interesting. I think the problem here is, when you have completed a 'task', reaching your 'goal', it wouldn't make sense to do that again. Maybe your motivation is not that high...|||Been there, done that. Take all your stuff away. For months. Forget about it.  Do SOMETHING ELSE. Play games. Watch movies. Listen to music. Socialize. Forget that you're a writer. You need to feed...|||I see depression, apathy and a bit of detachment. I have had that kind of look.  It happens.|||If there is an authentic drive behind a 'passion', I need no discipline at all. If I get confused with too many projects, I just need to cut out the 'less interesting ones', and maybe put the energy...|||...and ? Please elaborate . What do you mean exactly with that 'nice' ?|||That's what my Gf did with me. It took her something like 10 emails and 2 or 3 'NO' from me. She was really determined (she's INTJ) .  But I agree, dreamers need to learn to live the present...|||ROFL man I'm dying. Literally, I'm chokin' from laughs haha Need to find an Edgar Allan Poe t-shirt ASAP !!!! It's the coolest thing I've ever heard haha    LOOOL :rolling:|||I realize my post was a bit harsh, please bear in mind it was meant just to provoke thought.   Your reply makes much more sense than my question, you are absolutely right there is much more...|||How does an introverted idealist should approach women ?   Isn't an INFP a beta male ? I'm starting to think that it's a feminine type.|||Some years ago I have made an electronic record. Maybe someone will like it. It's dark ambient electronica :-) :-)  https://www.cdbaby.com/Artist/AcidGhost  cheeeeers !!!|||TY. When depression kicks in, especially after I drink alcohol to lower anxiety, I become silent and quiet.  It happens probably 5 days per month . I let 'em say whatever they want and I don't know...|||You're never too late !! :D|||Funny (and interesting) thread, and I find hilarious that an INFP created it. It shows that our imagination is just deranged.   I mean, who would think about typing a pornstar ? We do.|||Two days. After that, I'd go crazy not seeing anyone.|||I agree with you. I am noticing that people like to tease specific persons, like the quiet ones . I will try to take myself seriously and see what happens.      Yeah, also I think social...|||I see INTPs as giant calculators who gather informations. The one I  know, alwasy has this 'blank', serious facial expression. You know how  he deals with his shyness ? By telling jokes, a lot of...|||1. Communicating with people who don't even listen to what you're saying and talk over you. 2. I see no solution other than not talking to them 3. I've always scored INFP, sometimes INFJ|||So, yesterday I decided to go and meet this guys again, instead of choosing the avoidance path.  I went to the pub, standing straight and looked' em right into the eyes, but I behaved in a polite...|||Your courage is remarkable. I've tried to live abroad. I felt like I was escaping from my problems. You see, I like challenges, and I would like to conquer them all. I am a bit crazy, I know. I am in...|||Ok, I will explain better. Living in a small town, even if I decide to stop hanging out with this people, I  still would have to meet them when I go out, say, in pubs. We go at the same concerts and...|||Actually I'm pretty sure that by doing what you suggested, it would get worse. Because they want a reaction, they want to see you angry. Plus everybody says that I'm the kind of guy who's...|||So a couple of days ago I went to this friend's party. We sat at the table, it was like 5 extroverts and 2 introverts. Bear in mind it's old friends I used to go out with when I was an extrovert...|||A shower to me is like meditation. Concepts and ideas start flowing in my head :)|||If you studied things that you found interesting, then no degree is useless !|||I love every kind of blue. I associate it with hope.|||we INFPs always try to save little insects from death|||Well,after some days of 'ruminating' I have come to a conclusion : it is better to move on with my life, because trying to find out the reasons for what happened.....might be useless !|||What about being honest and telling her what you really feel, without expecting anything from her ? Maybe she will not judge you ...|||You have danced together and have become friends. That's no dilemma to me, it sounds like a good situation for you . What are you waiting for ? Sometimes you gotta take some chances, because you...|||Wow . I deeply feel the way you just described. It is truly devastating inside when it happens !|||That's what I'm trying to become :)|||I get obsessive as well . I think some people would rather not tell you WHY they don't like you as a person, or what have you done to them. They probably have their reasons and want to keep them...|||That's what I've been trying to do for a year. I just keep checking her FB page from time to time, just to inflict myself some pain. Masochism ? Anyways lots of cool answers.It feels good knowing...|||I have been bothered for a long long time now by this question....let's say that you try to befriend a person that you think it's important for you..... and then this person IGNORES you with all his...|||Anger is good. You just have to express it.  But there are many different ways to do this. The worst thing you could do to yourself is bottling it up, because in the end it will make you a depressed...|||Hi Faerie,I did the exact same with my music. I started playing guitar when I was 13,and I couldn't give a shit about the rules of music,just playing from instinct. It was lots of fun. Then I started...|||The magic stuff and places that you find when you're daydreaming (read : all the day)|||I literally spend my days chewing the inside of my mouth.|||Yes. It's a fascinating ritual for me. A moment of introspection. But I'm no chain smoker.'