'I suggest you read through the ISTP forums, especially the few related to ISTP relationships. Not to be discouraging, but if you've been waiting this long you may need to consider moving on. ISTPs...|||Thank you for making me lol by admitting you had headphones in, which is something I could see myself doing.|||Just made it home for a major rabbit show. Keep working toward increasing your sense of well being - being fullfilled and happiness - yes, this is possible, at times for a few moments and other times...|||As a counseling provider REBT is one of my faves!!!!!!!!!!! I think it includes what Cognitive Behavioral Therapy was missing -  the Emotional. I think the spiritual is a necessity at well if one is...|||My experience is that ISTPs are not touchy with people they don't care about. The closer the person is to them the more they are inclined to give physical affection, which is interesting as Physical...|||INFJaxyG Focus on your personal growth. Are you happy with you? If not, why and work on it. Do you have a good relationship with yourself? If there is really and Ni thing going on then you need to...|||Just answering to give you more ideas from my brother's job choices (he's an ISTP).  Worked for an (animal) feed store in teen years. Worked in the automotive department at a major chain store....|||I year ya. I am great at understanding other's feelings, but mine seems so hard to understand and its hard for me to talk with others about them.  Vent- I finally come out of my feelings shell and...|||Is that even possible? Even when I try to ease into being vulnerable by sharing a small amount of (core) information I feel like I have totally exposed my inner most being. I can share a lot of...|||He definitely cares for you and values you in his life. Have you ever felt that special chemistry between the two of you when talking alone? The type that seems to slow time down and feels totally...|||I tested INFP for years as for MTBI. It wasn't until a chat with some PerC members that I realized I was INFJ. I have dealt with feel anxiety and depression. I say felt because they were often not...|||When you were a child and knew things that happened before you were born about your parents that no one ever told you.|||When your talking to your ENTJ daughter and you let slip the dots your connecting in her conversations. You have sigh a relief when she doesn't catch what you just did because her Ne didn't...|||I'm starting to get really pissed at the surveys that keep popping up when I am on a PerC forum and I can't just ignore, click x to get back to my forum screen or click the back button to get to the...|||Dear ES_J Please let the ISTP & INFJ (SP wanta be) streamline the maual (make it 35 pages instead of 150) and write it in words that are understandable to the usual person (if my INFJ brain doesn't...|||Being SpSx, 4w5, I can understand the difficulty connecting with groups. I used to be connected more with groups, but have been doing a lot of work on me and needed the separateness to identify me...|||I agree with Gilfoyle.   Keep in touch with your Ti in the moment to prevent from doing something you regret. (in other words don't get in a grip and overthink.)  A safe way to develop Se is go...|||Protect yourself and your children. Its not worth loosing your identity, self-confidence and sense of sanity. Your children need you at your best. I had to leave an unhealthy marriage and if anything...|||Visiting with my parents. Mom was 13 and dad 17 when they met. They didn't really like each other the first time they met.  The second time they met mom was 15 and dad was 19 and that was when mom...|||At home, :smug: sorry couldn't resist. I've been enjoying some solitude. Not sure I am the best to ask that question. It's easier to tell you where I hate to hang out. The mall especially at...|||One thing to consider is that he may have come to a peace about the attraction. Just because you don't feel, sense, read what you used to doesn't mean he changed his mind. Also, be careful what...|||Lots of good advice. Its been over 15 years  since my ex cheated and left me and the children. A lot of good has come out of the fact I didn't let it destroy me and the children. I am much stronger...|||Thank you for the emotion word lists. I'm all giddy. I think those are the best lists I have seen. Since I am a clinical social worker (counselor) and executive director of a counseling agency I'll...|||I think keeping things on strictly professional basis is the best for him and you. It will also help protect you from his personal issues interfering with work.  If there are issues in his marriage a...|||Troll the INFP forums. Something like,  I have become fond of you, enjoy spending time with you and would like a. us to officially start a relationship and see where it goes or b. you to be my...|||INFJ and Christian.  For me its about a relationship with God / Creator. I believe Jesus Christ was God in human form (without sin nature) and proved how much He loved humanity by going through the...|||I can be flirty when I am relaxed and just having fun. I have had guys think I was being more than just nice when treating them like I treat everyone else. When I start really having feelings for...|||Take it from someone who's been there. There's a right time to let go and walk away. If the other person chooses to live in their misery there's nothing you can do to make them leave it behind even...|||I was wondering the good or the bad butterflies before I started reading. Depending on how empathic you are, you may also be sensing his butterflies and therefore making the butterfly effect feel...|||Shit, that scares me, except the science that is incorrectly defined as truth.|||A mentor once told me that a person will often target their anger (rage) on the person(s) closest to them because this person is safe.  Maybe that is the case for you with your wife. This mentor also...|||istpshin  you suck at relationships and act indifferent, but deep down, you desire a deep and meaningful one.  I'm supposed to be great at relationships, but have found few to be deep and...|||Thank you for responding. I will try to clarify what I am asking. I'm (INFJ) working to communicate better with the ISTPs in my life.  When you are intently listening to someone do you get so...|||Thank you all. I laughed as I took a break from getting ready for a big inspection coming up that our company has to meet 85% of like 300 of 450 pages of a standards manual so we can provide high...|||Do you have to consciously make yourself respond in a one on one conversation, especially if you have mainly been listening?   I don't see this with my ISTP brother, but with my ISTP friend. I will...|||voncloft I don't think you are being an asshole. Your reasons seem rational and considerate of potential children. I understand the pressure you feel from your mom to give her grandchildren. It's...|||I am looking forward to 2017. I think its going to be good year. I feel better than I have in years. 2016 has been maintaining status quo while coming back to a complete acceptance of me after 2015...|||Dora - are you sure your ISFP? :wink: You sound so much like me. I guess the 4w5 rather than the cognitive functions is the similarity.    W W - You remind me of my daughter who's in her first year...|||Being judgmental - Yes, INFJs can be judgemental. As for me, both my parents are Js. The more mature I get the less judgemental I am. I think the motive behind an action is more important than the...|||For me it can take too much energy not to be nice. Tick someone off and then have to deal with their mood, DRAINING, unless I'm in a take no crap mood and can meet them.|||I so understand not doing parties and other social functions. I am talking about anywhere you have an opportunity to ease drop without  being creepy. Standing in line at the bank, for food, to check...|||I'm a therapist (LCSW) and know the basic 4 personality types well. I started learning MBTI / Keirsey / Jung a year and a half or so. I normally test INFP, then ENFP and once ISFP. No more than a few...|||As and INFJ woman its not so difficult to me men, but its been difficult to meet high quality men that are willing to go deep. Those willing to go deep and still be logical (logical to my mind) seem...|||For me when there has been uncertainty of getting what I want in a situation (any situation) for a long period of time and then circumstances change and its 95% guaranteed to happen I still question...|||I have only known 1 INFJ male for sure and I respect where he has come from and continues to grow as a person. There is a guy who I have thought is ISTP, but then I wonder if he is INFJ. He carries...|||f. Depending on how reserved he is, sharing something like this could make him feel very exposed to everyone. However, he would also probably appreciate that you are reaching out trying to understand...|||Thanks to all who have responded. Very interesting read.  I believe in life (existence) after death especially because of an out of body (near death experience) when I was around 11 years old. To...|||I think anxiety is very common for INFJs. If you are an empath, which I think most of us are in some manner or another, have mercy - that just perpetuates it. I've experienced anxiety just as far...|||I did a lot of therapy after my children's dad left, let's see, around 16 yrs ago. As wums said it can open up a can of worms and it did for me, but glad I did it. I went back to college at that time...|||I wouldn't go by the last part of the conversation being your monologue and therefore she should respond next. If an opportunity comes up say something as simple as hi and smile. Take the opportunity...'