'The only things worth exchanging a human life in order to protect are not things that can be physically damaged.  See also: the George Bailey effect.  Who has a life that's worth trading for a...|||My ENFP wife is extremely affectionate when it's her affection to give.  However, she needs to give permission to another to come into her personal space and give her affection.  She partly needs to...|||That sounds precisely like the two of us.  It's actually kind of strange to read that.|||...even though you generally aren't.  This is the most accurate post so far.  My younger sister and I consistently both type as INTJs.  We look and feel very different, but we're wired almost...|||This is not something capable of being figured out through random and anecdotal online forum posts.|||Just do your homework.|||I could not disagree with this more strongly than I do.  I'm not big on using MBTI for absolutes, but my 2 worst dating relationships  with with ISFJs, and both were horrible series of...|||1.) Rarely - more than once or twice per month would be frequent for me. 2.) No. 3.) Your question assumes that dreams can predict future events.  As dreams are manifestations and do not think or...|||So, my fiancee is (as some might predict) and ENFP.  She's experienced my sister and me together, and my dad, and my uncles, and she is troubled by the lack of physicality in our relationships, and...|||I can appreciate this.  I find this has gotten worse and worse for me since I finished law school 5 years ago.  The more clutter, the more difficult it is to let things simmer and become ready for...|||Reminds me of a discussion my dad (also INTJ) and I had once.  He said to me half-jokingly I have often had the idea to carry a pad and pen to write down the bright ideas I have because I can have...|||I find it extraordinarily hard to communicate well with SFJs.  My mother is an ESFJ in a house with 3 INTJs... and it was a, um, rocky upbringing.  Much worse, however, is ISFJs.  I dated one last...|||Today, I was looking for a shirt and had no idea what I'd done with it.  I was juggling about 10 tasks this morning ahead of going to my aunt's for Thanksgiving.  I went into full blown 'find the...|||I used to be in favor of the death penalty for many major crimes, but now I can't agree with it.  First, as an attorney, I can't not see the evidentiary problems, and legal costs, which are both...|||As this is a work acquaintance, I would suspect that the nature of the work, and his relationship with it, may affect your relationship with him.  If he's fully-engaged at work, and interested in...|||Sometimes.  Usually, it looks something like this.  I have a problem (usually something big - debt issues, car/house issues, corporate things I'm involved with, etc.), and it's one that I can't...|||This I mostly agree with.  I would add to the final note that I see no reason to be afraid of death because most of the time, planning for it is futile.  You cannot assume or work it into any kind of...|||Eh, my parents are this match in reverse.  They've been married almost 40 years, and I've never seen them fight, but to be honest, I have no idea what to think of the quality of their relationship. ...|||Option 2.  Assuming I could maintain living my current, modest living conditions, I would work Option 2 for the minimum period of time, or work to get myself fired when I don't feel like doing it...|||I think that there's a lot of room for subjectivity here.  I will often not make a decision simply because there's no reason to make one yet.  Deciding whether it's appropriate to even make a...|||People do watch too much Big Bang Theory, and I agree with this.  I notice brain-body disassociation issues with all of the INTJs in my family, but the coordination and fine motor skills thing is...|||I wouldn't try reading tea leaves here.  I'm in fairly close proximity to all 3 of my ex-s, and I don't give them a second thought.  In fact, I recently emailed one solely because she worked at an...|||Point 1 - No, actually, it's rather appropriate.  I don't assert that lack of evidence (as you want see it) is evidence of something, but rather that it does not allow for the conclusion that there...|||I don't agree with this.  In fact, I think INTJs are more predisposed to examine the possibility of God's existence than other types because (1) an honest INTJ would admit that he or she cannot...|||The answer to this would depend on whether my work is a vocation or just a job, but frankly, in either event, no serious effort at acquiring what others would consider balance is likely to be...|||That's like an assumption that you won't get wet while pissing into the wind.|||This principle applies to a lot of things in the life of an INTJ.  It's how you deal with the lack of fulfillment that matters.|||I've got several in my family (sister, father, two uncles, at least one first cousin), and I had known at least one other in grad school. Frankly, I'm grateful for them.  It means there are people...|||Frankly, I don't think type matters in this realm all that much (that is, I don't think cooking ability depends much on your type).  With INTJs, the brain acclimates well to cooking regardless of the...|||This is why I did my best stuff in law school, and have felt as though I've been trying to run with a ball and chain around my leg ever since.  There are just too many meaningless distractions and...|||You spelled feel incorrectly.|||Yeah, I think this is serious misunderstanding of the INTJ.  It's actually not far off from what I think a lot of people conclude about us though, mainly because it's missing what's going on in our...|||To be honest, I don't really understand what it is that you're after.  Reading just your posts through here, you've got me kind of confused about what it is you're asking.  I would point out that you...|||I don't 'like' being assertive, but it is definitely better than  having nothing happen, or having a I don't know where do you want to  sit moment.  Sometimes I just straight up order people...|||Can we get a definition of what a 'hipster' is, exactly?  My sister and I are pretty sure that our dad was the original hipster, and that he's just been copied.  He does some really weird shit.  He's...|||I noticed in the law school and bar exam experience that this was the case.  I thought the bar exam was relatively easy - it was a lot of work to prepare for it, but the material was pretty simple...|||The best compliments are in cases where a person does some affirmative act requiring that he/she formed a positive conclusion of my ability (this is usually lacking when people praise solely in word,...|||This is 100% accurate, I think.  Instability in life, and/or gaps left unfilled (seemingly for unknown reasons to others) can become a defining feature of an INTJ, and dictate lots of other things. ...|||That first part is the great irony of being an INTJ for me.  Yes, I do the second thing a lot.  I'm slightly less vague about it though - my goals are much more specific, and are usually aimed at...|||Ha!  I use a few television shows as reflections on life.  Of course, it's hard to do since I no longer own a television.|||As to the first part, yeah, I mean I eliminate things once I conclude that they aren't working and aren't going to work, but it takes a long time for me to remove them completely, if I ever do that...|||The 'right' to vote is the single more double-sided coin we have in society, and the Framers weren't stupid: they did not put a whole lot of faith in 'the people' to make good decisions, which is why...|||Yeah, I don't understand the example with brother at all. My own experience, which seems to be common among all the INTJs in my family (in fact, I think I can use this to parse who is really an NT...|||1.) See this other thread that you had started where we've hashed some of these issues already; 2.) What's normal for you to feel is a lifelong battle that you'll be waging with yourself as an INTJ....|||I find that my mind is most busy at the bookends of sleep periods.  I'm a busy body in the 3 hours or so before I have to go to bed, and can be very productive, in practical terms, at that time.  On...|||I would agree with most of this, too, by the way.  It's really the whole issue: you have to make a person trust you who has a difficult time trusting and growing with new people.  Add your own INTJ...|||The short answer on that last question is simple: you won't.  I dated an ISFJ last year for about 6 months, so I have some perspective for you.  Apart from our personalities, we were a exactly what...|||This is a bizarre thread.|||Oy!  My ESFJ mom v. a family of INTJs.  Life in my household followed this pattern often: 1) INTJ off in space while in presence of others; 2) ESFJ mother pokes, prods, or interferes with said INTJ...|||VelociRational I don't get offended, so don't worry about that.  To the extent you make the suggestion and advocate for it, then you are, really asking for it, even if only in response to others. ...'