'much <3.  (why are you ENFJ females so cute, lol)|||I agree, same here. That's why I could stick up with a job for 4 years at a media agency job (despite my allergy to being managed). Partly thanks to the accomodating style of an ESFJ manager. As long...|||Definitely happy with linters for PHP, CSS and Javascript that point out these annoying syntaxical details before I get stuck in a four hour 'bug' hunt.    Are you an INTP?|||If I may revive this thread another year later... It's good to update how our job experiences are once in a while isn't it :P Just came across this page because I was looking for INFPs in the front...|||Sounds awesome! I can imagine it's such a great combo when it works.  Sorry for reviving an old thread, but I would like to know more about the dynamics. Right now I have an ENFJ female friend and...|||Honestly I am increasingly curious about the emotional intensity that both INFPs and ENFJs have. Somehow I can't live without it, even though sharing true emotions can be risky and volatile, it's...|||Yeah conventional society is just really a bummer for us!  At the moment I'm having fun with freelance webdesign projects, which feature wireframing, design, wireframing, programming and testing,...|||ENFJ cuteness, yay! :-)  INFPs can be quite different from eachother sometimes but for me it's important to have my own 'bubble' where I can't be read or pinned down because I am cooking up ideas...|||Interesting, I assume it's not the talkative people that are your reason for wanting to live there, haha.. What would bring you back?|||Yeah it seems to be in retreat, luckily! Although in some areas of Peru it's far from gone. At least in terms of domestic abuse and respectful behaviour towards women. I'm in contact with a Peruvian...|||I am also Dutch, but I prefer the more indirect ways of communicating. Honest, yes! Please let me know what you think, indeed. But I find that a less direct message can also convey what someone...|||Are there any INFPs in Peru? I am from Holland but I am amazed at how hospitable, humble and indirect people from Peru are. It's refreshing compared to the direct, blunt Dutch culture. That has worn...|||I thought it was worth at least a reply :-) Kind of overlooked the fact that it was an old thread, sorry!  Not caring or caring less about other expectations works good for me. It's hard to let go...|||Do you mean when people are kind of narrow minded because they have to protect their carefully built up image? (albeit grandiose or not) I try to stay away as much as possible from these bosses...|||Sorry for replying so late. Just a couple of months lol...   Currently I am in a transition phase after getting overstressed at my job. Still running low on energy...   Stress free would be nice...|||Cool, I have been trying to figure out what career step to take next. Being a webdesigner, I am getting tired of technical goals, dealing with too many detail requests, strenuous bug fixing, etc. You...|||Personally, I don't like that an ENFJ can come on strong, making you feel great and special at first. But before you know, they're ignoring your messages or sending other mixed signals that are...|||I've had a friend tell me he doesn't see me in any conventional job. Which is so true. I need originality, authenticity, innovation, and at least some amount of freedom and appreciation.  And it's...|||I guess I'm still grappling with this on a personal level, having had symbiotic parents and working through some insecurity & dependency issues. There seems to be an important difference in 2 people...|||Ah, I think I know what you mean. I've heard statements like it would be nice if... or maybe someone will... in a generalized way, and have myself act upon these statements to take care of a need...|||Geoffrey Epic post!!  Maybe NF empathy is tough sometimes because it goes after things of the heart, which is often something I would try to avoid naturally when it gets ugly, unfair or confronting...|||Oh yeah, the magical what just happened moments. Can you give an example of that?|||Sounds like a sensible thing, as friends we can support eachother greatly.|||Isn't the Ti function installed in 4th position by default for ENFJs? Or is this a non standard issue? ;-)  My female ENFJ friend is quite smart also. She loves T guys I think because of how their...|||Would you date one again, if so, under which circumstances? :-)|||Sounds epic :-) And recognizable. I feel happy or even hyper after ENFJ interactions usually.|||Are you still together with your gf? If so, what are your common interests & goals that make it succesful? :)|||For me, I'll definitely just tell her that I find her special at first. Unlike hey, was fun, bye. Then you're in my Special Zone, hehe... The area between Special Zone and Dating Zone is kind of...|||For me it's helpful to take a friendship approach first. I don't care if I'm friend zoned because good friendship is my preferred basis for something more. The hard part is when I get feelings and I...|||I'm sorry to hear that man... Were you exhausted and misunderstood because of a large I/E difference? Or was it more about the difference in values of your Fi and her Fe?|||I totally dig the organised and result driven lifestyle ENFJ girls lead in combination with their lovely ideals. In terms of dating I feel it's really tricky because as an INFP man I prefer to just...|||I guess my definition of strong also included the more extraverted types who like to assert their own values strongly, and sometimes also communicate that they're so strong that they won't let...|||+1 on not needing more mother type of dates. Done before, still doing:mad:  First get your own mother connection issues healed, then attract more healthy types with your own health (maturity).  I...|||In my opinion, making the spiritual connection with God through worship is the best place to be, because God's love can freely flow through the INFP ways :-)  I do have a conflict though. Once I am...|||I'm not dating one, but an ENFJ girl lives next to me. It's a really close friendship in terms of emotional sharing and humour, and now I'm constantly re-evaluating the difference between a close...|||Right now I think ENFJ comes closest to romance for me. First NF closeness experience (wow!). I've been in short term relationships (<6 months) before but I'm done with all those misplaced...|||I got the feeling that I am familiar with this dynamic between female ENFJs and male INFPs. I'm having friendly contact with an ENFJ girl for some time now. With ups and downs we seem to be getting...|||Now I recall: I've had that exact same thing said to me by an ex I suspect was ENFJ too.  And I recognize a lot of dynamics from your post...   But I would never want to be like an ENFJ. At least...|||Yeah I recognize that with myself :frustrating:  There's some unconscious process that happens when I talk to smart and sweet independent women. I start to admire their independence. And before I...|||I'd do a follow up so here it is: I just thought about the NF emotionality and how that can connect to relationship satisfaction.. NF's are feelers tuned in to other people and prefer harmony. So...|||I second that about the overanalyzing. It's good to take the step to let relationships just happen. Giving eachother the freedom to initiate, to take the relationship and connection further, or not....|||Yay for happiness! :-D|||So recognisable!!  I hope it's possible to feel more secure by having friends who support you as well. I tend to expect wayy to much from a potential SO otherwise.|||For now I seem to be attracted to women who are nice to me all the time. Feels kind of dependent so I hope to move on to more passionate relationships.|||It's a typical dreamer thing to do, isn't it.. Dreaming of a possible future with someone and then excessively worrying about that, etc. Can I ask how you've learnt to connect more in the moment?|||Thanks for your honesty there. I recognize what you call the domineering aspect, I guess I was wondering before, where that came from. I think it's when I get overwhelmed by her debatefulness, that I...|||:sad:  My humble opinion.. Female ENFJs are too cute to be SOL darn it! Not possible.  Did you ever get together with an INFJ male (abundant J qualities and stuff)?  If there is ever an ENFJ...|||When it comes to love types I've more often seen INFP female <-> ENFJ male recommendations than INFP male <-> ENFJ female (not on the list guys, the theory says no).   But wow, I LOVE this...|||Good points, thank you...  We do have a lot of expectations eh...  Dating seems to be on a lot of peoples minds. I do too fall into that 'trap', thinking I can glue myself to an interesting...|||Interesting perspective. Quote of the day for me :-)  And I am discovering the importance of art and other imaginary forms of expression just now. Life always has rough edges and the only right...'