'Thanks Takadox, I really appreciate your advice. I'll keep it in mind.|||Cool, thanks. I thought I had them all lol.|||Thanks for your message. I'm not sure my bf admits that... although when I went back to him he reacted positively. I know however that I won't bear with being pushed away again. It has to be the...|||A very good example is Wilson in House. (And house a very good example of an ENTP). My boyfriend and I find their relationship (although on a friendship level) so representative that we watch it just...|||What's that book?|||I suffer from anxiety when I've had to cope with long-term difficulties. It involves irregular heartbeat and breathing problems. Last year, (at last) a doctor prescribed light alprazolam to take only...|||Errr... gender: other???  What's alternative music?   OK... done ;-)|||And very young - What's the point being a clever ENTP if it's to behave like an ESTP?   Well, exactly. No one can foresee the future, we can only rely on our first impressions, so what's the point...|||Online dating is just a means, not an end to itself. It's the same as meeting someone through friends's parties or whatever. I find unhealthy to chat for months on without meeting each other. My...|||I didn't - I just wanted to clarify things a little ;) I agree with the ego thing for women too but men.... lol|||Same here :crying: As a child/teenager she never showed respect or even interest in my intellectual abilities. Even said one day what's the point being so clever at school if you can't do anything...|||Lol, you drugged her a lot ;) I've been thinking of seeing a counselor and my ENTP bf agrees. But I feel shy about putting on a show in front of a stranger. He does this, She says that. Euh......|||Thank you drmiller, I wish he thought the same as you! :tongue:  Indeed, I think I understand him a lot more than he thinks and I have told him but not sure he realizes this.  One big thing though...|||Thanks but I think this is irrelevant in the situation. Us NFs, are not clingy and pretty hard to stick to someone unless we really think the person is worth it. And HE not me (in the beginning)...|||Also, I forgot to say something important : as an NF, you will understand he likes you way before he understands you like him. NTs want logical evidence and as there is none in this field are never...|||From my experience with ENTP guys, there will be signs which will make sense to an NF but not to them. Just reading the above discussions on whether talking lots to someone is a sign they fancy you...|||I didn't get that bit but all the rest makes a lot of sense, thanks. I decided tonight (just before reading your message) to break into his isolation as all this had become unbearable to me. I spoke...|||That's a bit exaggerated. We INFJs are sensitive but very open minded to discussion and not naive when it comes to human nature. If by hurting their feelings you mean touching their ego, then I...|||If I undestand well, just talking helps? Even if she doesn't analyze things with you? Interesting... It's indeed very different from what I would expect from a therapist.|||Oh Lord, sounds like my boyfriend :unsure:. He feels rejected/not appreciated for absolutely no reason. Then he gets into a pushing away mode which yes, is very painful and very damaging to the...|||I don't feel attracted to ESFPs, other than on a friendship level, probably because I've tried to date a few of them and it never worked. I've had great fun with them though, I love their...|||I divorced last year from ESFJ, also the father of my daughter. We loved each other sincerely and were very honest to each other but I never felt understood. He didn't care much for my dreams, my...|||Would you be willing to see a shrink (any kind of psychologist/psychotherapist) or do you generally tend to rely on your brains to self-analyze and maybe get better? Why yes/not? Thanks for your...|||And what if they don't? What if they start doubting too and need you to prove YOUR commitment and loyalty? Doesn't that show how much in that situation you doubt your own feelings?  This is really...|||Thanks wildchild. This might sound like a stupid question but isn't that supposed to be more NF-like? I mean the time to let the emotions settle to see clearly?|||To be more specific, I've read on a forum about a lost/unhealthy/desperate ENTP this: If you ever know an ENTP that gets like this, the key to their pulling through is to argue back against their...|||More specifically my question was about being alone when you're depressed/confused/unhealthy, not just to chill out, or due to circumstances. Is being alone a state that is likely to make you see...|||Hi,  I was wondering how ENTPs cope with loneliness. Do they sometimes choose to be alone? Can anything good come out from being lonely for a long time (say, days) when an ENTP feels out of...|||I agree up to a certain point and that's one of the reasons that can biaise a P/J test.  I like goals and dislike not knowing where we're heading (a lesson for example where we don't know what the...|||you CAN talk people's heads off or you DO most of the time? All the ENFPs I know can't stop talking and it's not a critique, just an observation ;)  It's funny because I thought I was ENFP for a...|||Thanks to all of you for your replies, it feels good. Especially that I feel I have almost no one to turn to, honestly.   @INFJigsaw Thanks so much for your support. It’s true that it gets very...|||Yes. I stopped having contact with my ESFP mother after she told me after one of her multiple emotional outbursts that she would see her grand daughter again (my daughter, at the time 1 year old)...|||Do you talk without stop most of the time? Then you're ENFP :-D  Do you hope/try to help/make people change? Then you're an INFJ...|||With boys, a great deal lol. With girls not at all... I got used to it and most of my friends were boys. I wasn't keen on girlie things anyway ;)|||Hi,  My ENTP bf has very emotional reactions: he gets annoyed at trivial things, bursts with anger, goes cold then cries... I can't cope with his moods, having myself a lot to deal with at the...|||Revolution|||I understand what you're going through. The problem with this is that it ends up getting obessional and can deeply affect your own sexuality.  It's happened to me and it took me ages to recover, and...|||I suppose I used to kind of like it but I've grown to dislike it more and more since I've started dating my ENTP boyfriend. Debating with him quickly turns to unfriendly arguing and just never...|||I see what you mean. I studied science because I loved rivers. I wanted to wade around, do surveys, join Greenpeace, make a change to this world but... ended up stuck in front of my pc, modeling...|||The scoring must then vary from one website to another. I thought it worked like the results from personality.info that a lot of people use around here. That's why I couldn't understand how you could...|||I don't mean to intrude but with your N at 50%, I suggest you may be ISFJ rather than INFJ.  I'd think it very unlikely for INFJs to fall for xSTJ indeed...  EDIT: euh... how can you be INFJ with...|||I don't agree with brutal..|||Some people get totally carried away by their own feelings (I'm in loooooove!!!) and don't seem to care much about the other person's feelings. I've had this problem many times (but not with...|||My go:  Let's get high on LSD and have some fun.  What did you say your name was? Let's have sex in the car. Good, bad, Kindness are subjective things. I told you I didn't love you and...|||HAHAHAHA! Me too! That always puzzled my boyfriends ;)|||LOL I LOVED this !|||I think so, yes. Some things seem so obvious to us that we can have the feeling that telling others how to behave will make us sound (once more lol) moralizing. Also, once you've told someone (to...|||I wrote this list thinking of love relationships, but I guess it could apply to other relationships too (parent, child, friend...).  Do's and dont's to keep your INFJ happy:  1) Listen to him/her...|||We love each other sincerely but unfortunately it doesn't seem enough to overcome the impact of our recent past and the present difficulties. And loving him does not mean I can deal with everything,...|||Thanks aquarian. I'm actually trying to think beyond my feelings and make some sense of things. Knowing that a lot of people here have a somewhat similar way of seeing things, I think sharing...'