'Have to ask because I'm so confused:  I'm an INFP and I've been recently reconnected with an INTP with whom I was friends in university, 12 years ago.  I am separated but still living with ex for...|||lol, yes, I've heard that too.  I wonder if other personality types can accurately discern the INFP look?  I am friends with an ISFJ who keeps inaccurately thinking I am giving him the look when I'm...|||Yeah, there is definitely a look.  To me, it feels electrically charged, when I give it.  I think it may come across as a glint in the eye to others, but not sure.|||When I like someone, I put him through little harmless tests to see whether or not he likes me back.  The test always involves him going out of his way/comfort zone for me, because I give a heck of a...|||ok, so I've considered the really helpful feedback I have received, and the update is that I decided to text him and keep it light.  I just said I'm glad you liked the link.  Perhaps I will send you...|||I'm going to re-read this post as I move forward, just to remind myself what I am avoiding.  If it is just going to be like that again, I'm going to get out.|||Thank-you for your perspective.  I would like to hope this is the case, and that he does miss me.  I can see that I will need to have better boundaries with him, should communication move forward. ...|||lol, you may say so.  In fact, I wrote a song about him being a dick :proud:.  It's like you were there- supportive minion/personal coach feels just right.  I think this is why I have so much...|||I dare say you're likely right.  My experience of him was that he had very deep feelings but was not often in touch with what they were/why he was having them etc.  It could be likely that he has...|||I'm pretty certain he knew how I felt the whole time, even though I didn't come out and say it.  Actually, I think he liked it...I think it was a boost to his ego.  It seemed to me that when I...|||Thank-you for the response...some thoughts I had...  As an introvert, I appreciate distance myself.  That was never an issue.  It was not me demanding we spend every day together.  I am of the...|||I rant for a while, so skip to the bottom for the question, if you like...  I'm an INFP, he is an INTP.  We were very close for two years and were together nearly all the time.  I had feelings for...|||Yes, I think in terms of emotional maturity, he is teenager-like at times.  I would never dream of asking someone if they had a crush on me in front of another person, regardless of who it was.  I'm...|||What does it explain?  Lol, I'm totally in the dark.  He is late 20's, his brother and I are early 30's...  He recently said he wanted to join the military, so I guess that would help him grow out of...|||Yeah, he knew.  Boyfriend is his brother.  I do definitely think he is immature, not just because of this but because of the whole picture.  I keep getting the feeling he is into me, but then he will...|||Would you get to this point because you have feelings for the person, or because you're trying to rule out reasons for their behaviour?|||How do ISTJs act when they experience unrequited love?  Why might an ISTJ ask did you develop a crush on me? to someone whose boyfriend is standing right there?  It seems illogical.  That person...|||That confirms what I thought.  Just getting mixed signals.  I normally read people very well- unfortunately for me, I get intrigued by people I can't read.  They're like a mystery to solve.  However,...|||His brother told me he is like this with his closest friends.    Makes sense.  Sounds congruent with his behaviour.    Yeah, I'm definitely done inviting him to do stuff.  I just don't get...|||Really.  He has one friend he's had since childhood.  And two work friends who occasionally do lunch with him.  Plays video games a lot, not that they are the problem.  Perhaps he just prefers the...|||And, I'm back.  I want to be friends with ex-boyfriend's brother, an ISTJ.  For me, that means we hang out, go for coffee, etc. once a weekish.  As an INFP, I don't see how it's a friendship without...|||stone100674, Good point re:  the part in bold.  I won't press it, and the next time I see him, I'll see if it remains a preoccupation.  Kind of hope it's not, but it is what it is, and I appreciate...|||stone100674, I definitely thought you were awesome enough to deserve capitalization...like Mr. Big, you know- it's so incredible that it deserves the Mr!  However, I see that you and niss are humble...|||Caring is all that matters, in my books :)|||niss, I'm just breaking every rule in the ISTJ book, aren't I?  Thanks for giving me the benefit of the doubt :)|||stone100674, it sucks to be a newbie.  Sorry for the misstep.    He is hard on his brother regardless of whether I am there or not.  Once, a year ago when I was dating ex, the two of them got into...|||Stone100674, Thank-you for your reply.  Especially for taking time to read all that- I have been informed about long text and too many questions for ISTJs, so it was good of you to reply.  Yes, I was...|||Niss, Thank-you for the advice re:  short, to the point posts.  Glad to know the headings were useful.  I know as an INFP, I can be wordy and descriptive, so I added headings to make it a little...|||So...I was dating a guy on and off for the past couple of years, but it never got serious (although I'm the kind of girl who would prefer something serious) because I felt it was just a really bad...|||Ok, I see where you're going.  Thanks.|||There was definitely no you language, and I started out the conversation by asking him how are you?  What's going on in your life lately?  I notice I haven't heard from you as much and am...|||I appreciate your insight.  As an introvert I can understand the need to retreat and reflect, especially if someone has pointed out something in me I wasn't ready to see/change.  Perhaps it is more...|||So...I had this fascinating, intellectually stimulating INTP in my life for the past two years.  We were very close, and yes, I idealized him I would say.  In the past three months, he started to...|||It was so funny.  My INTP sister came to visit me for the weekend, and we hung out with my INTP friend.  I have been complimenting my sister on her very original art for the past two years (she has...|||I'd like to add one more:  Tony Stark (Ironman) as played by Robert Downey Jr. in Avengers.  Wow!  His brain is an intense puzzle I want to figure out, and I enjoy his cockiness for some reason, lol.|||<iframe width=420 height=315 src=Sun Down by Iver - YouTube frameborder=0 allowfullscreen></iframe>|||Yes, yes, and yes!  I thought I was going to be all original and stuff, but Marimeli has said it all.  Mr. Darcy, from Pride and Prejudice because he's both intelligent and disagreeable on the...|||Me too!  I'm all whimsical and feeling deeply and so in awe of the INTP's seemingly unfathomable depths and breadths of fascinating information that I often wonder what they see in me...I have no...|||The INTP in my life also likes to spend as much time as possible with the people who matter most to him.  But this is a quality that I really cherish in him because he is so consistent in his...|||Yes- you know exactly what it's like to live in my head!  And the elation-depression roller coaster is so intense.  Lately I've been doing a lot more yoga to just give myself a break from that...|||I do agree with all of this.  I Have tried to get over it, have tried to date other people, but stubborn, idealistic INFP heart loves him and seems not to be able to resist melting when he lets me in...|||I appreciate the advice.  I like the part about not making myself too vulnerable- as an INFP, I tend to put myself out there more than I would like.|||Thank-you for the clarification, that's a little more hopeful.  Hmm...now to figure out how to respect his boundaries and still make it clear how I feel...|||This is really sound advice, Mr. Rozay.  I guess I'm just going to have to take a risk if I want to un-friend-zone myself :)  Again, thanks to everyone for your help.  As always, INTPs have come...|||I find that, at first, most people really don't get the dynamic of exes who are good friends sharing a residence (of course we have our own separate rooms).  My family was really weirded out by it at...|||First, I just want to thank all of you for your helpful insight. I appreciate your time and consideration of my issue.      Ok, so I've asked him both indirectly and directly about his feelings...|||ok, that's very helpful!      I loved your first paragraph because this questioning, researching, objectivity is exactly why I am in love with him!       And there is definitely this very...|||Given the following scenario, how would an INTP behave if he is in love with a person?  If not in love?  I have a business partner who is an INTP.  We met at a workplace over one year ago, and...|||I moved in with my ex a few months ago and it is going well.  We have been good friends now for two years.  We separated for a while after the love relationship ended, but maintained contact, as we...|||The Power of One, Robin Hood Prince of Thieves, Braveheart :)'