'Good luck!|||Amen.|||I didn't like the concept of being one of those weird psychic people. You know those guys. Freaks, the lot of them. I liked being logical and grounded and not overly emotional and clearly INFJs are...|||An INFJ could be equally well-suited in either. However, neither job is a paragon of glamour. Expect both to require lots of work and many days of being unappreciated. If you'd rather be directing...|||The one thing I have found, even as a solid INFJ myself, is that the people I try to type INFJ rarely if ever are and the ones that end up being INFJ are people I typed something else.  Yep....|||I certainly hope you're right.|||Welcome, unknownINFJ. I'm a 6w5 as well. The heightened Ti serves me very well in my line of work.|||This sounds like something that's injured his self-image quite badly. Without knowing the details (not asking for them, mind you, if it's something highly sensitive), I *can* intuit that his retreat...|||Welcome, Lerena. ENFJs love being spied upon. ;)|||Welcome. Tell us a bit more about yourself.|||Welcome. Dig the username.|||It's more like we're not keen on manufactured pathos. :P|||infjdreamer, the letter is fine.  However, if you don't get a reasonably quick response from him (and by reasonable I wouldn't sit on this longer than a week or so), cut your losses as chocolat...|||Then, unfortunately, he sounds like a pretty good guy. Sorry. :P|||Depending on how secure or counterphobic he is, you may be exactly right about that. He's also likely to be less open, even with you, if he thinks you're not going to receive what he has to say...|||It's also helpful to remember you can become good at drawing lines artfully, even if you never feel good about doing so. It's just something that has to be done.|||I've known two, both women. The bingo is when they mention emotional transference, which is the hallmark.|||As someone in a related field ... yup. To say nothing of the ethical issues of him dating a current client.|||It helps to realize that, despite the P, IPs are inherently judgers (and the converse is true for IJs). Drenth has a nice article on this: Rethinking Judging & Perceiving in IPs & IJs|||I think the letter idea is probably the best one possible under the circumstances as well. It might still be too much for him, but I think you have the greatest chance with it. I'd phrase it exactly...|||To your specific questions:    I think that's unique to the person. However, let's also be candid that the risk to him is much greater than the risk to you. He doesn't know you're not going to...|||I think these are two separate things:  - I don't like opening up to people on topics that are important to me if I feel they won't treat them with the appropriate level of gravity. As a result, I...|||I have this foot twitch, especially when I'm trying to think fast.|||As an INFJ currently in a committed relationship with another INFJ, he definitely likes you, or at least has a non-casual interest.  However, I also empathise with his position. In my line of work,...|||Pointed question: are you sure you're an ENFJ?  I'm in a committed relationship with another INFJ, myself. There are strong elements of what you're describing in ours.|||Quite. Unfortunately little that can be done about it now, and that risk of hurt and embarrassment just increases the longer the engagement lasts. That doesn't make it any easier, no doubt, but it...|||It was less seeing the Ti than it was seeing the other attributes. Like most, if not all, INFJs, I've always been susceptible to emotional transference (i.e., Ni-Fe); I knew what others were feeling...|||I've learned to set those kinds of boundaries, and not weasel by allowing them to negotiate me down, but I still don't like doing it and I don't think I ever will.|||Quite possibly the worst movie I've seen in my life was Meet The Parents. My friends enjoyed it. I spent most of it mortified under my seat.|||This is a bit of an oversimplification, but I think it does get the basic notion.  For a number of years I mistyped as an INTJ, largely because I have a strong Ti (I work in a highly technical...|||I don't think there's an easy way you can end this, only simple ones. No matter what you do, you'll end up breaking his heart and feeling badly about it.  If I were on the receiving end, and trying...|||I find that we INFJs end up being a sympathetic ear more often than we'd like simply because it's so hard for us to turn away folks who are hurting. Unfortunately then we end up being garbage...|||Welcome. I won't hold the GTI against you. ;)|||I enjoy older series. Ones particularly high on my list are Maison Ikkoku (my avatar), Kimagure Orange Road, Macross, Ranma 1/2, Neon Genesis Evangelion, Urusei Yatsura, You're Under Arrest!,...|||Welcome.|||Awareness of someone else's feelings or wants does not equal social intelligence. I can't control my awareness of what's around me (I can try to ignore it, but it's there). The social intelligence...|||Professional doctorate.|||I don't think I could say it much better than Lad did.|||Welcome. Don't worry, only Mr. CafeBot bites.|||Welcome. I empathize with your story, because I believed I was INTJ for the longest time.  And thumbs up on the Metroid avatar. Why Bioware, particularly?|||Welcome. I empathize with your story, because I believed I was INTJ for the longest time.  And thumbs up on the Metroid avatar. Why Bioware, particularly?|||Welcome. What sort of cat?|||I think a lot of boys would be classified as hyperactive now (I consider that to be a very bad thing). I know I would have been, but I had a number of teachers who instead of booting me off for a...|||Since you asked: Godai from Maison Ikkoku, one of my favourite series. I'd compare it favourably to Kimagure Orange Road, which is also a favourite of mine.|||Can I ask what's so magical about 20 and no serious relationships?|||Welcome (back).|||Welcome. Your English is clearly good enough. :)|||Speaking as a male INFJ, the most troublesome shoals I've run aground on were (in retrospect) INFPs. This isn't to say the love of my life couldn't be an INFP, but I'm just playing probabilities...|||For me, if I don't know if we have much common ground, I'll be more reticent to speak about them. It's a piece of me that I'd worry would not be well-received. This would extend to obvious things...|||I think I'd be terrified to date another INFJ. I'd wonder just how deep into each other's souls we'd gaze. That could be the kind of searing scrutiny a relationship could not bear.'