'Welcome, fellow ENFJ! I'm relatively new to ENFJ land, having been an ENFP for as long as I can remember. Hope you find all you're looking for here! It's a great place to learn.|||This is true. Some of these people have been in my life well before him, so I think that is what is making it harder. I have given up a few friends who I met after him, but people who have been in my...|||From someone who has dated an ISTJ for over 2 years...run. The don't do wishy-washy sounding ANYTHING as it relates to  relationships and get frustrated with you if you desire that. Just run. For...|||Okay, I don't want to sound conceited, but to anyone out there, do you find members of the opposite (or same) sex are generally REALLY attracted to you? Like, you become friends and then two months...|||I agree with this wholeheartedly. I really don't have anything to add. Well said!|||Hahaha...I just want to be happy all the time. Whenever my boyfriend (ISTJ) gets mad at me, I have my ritual.   Hold me-->He has to hug me Love me-->He has to hold me tighter Give me kiss-->Lots...|||That's funny...my ex always says that he can do that to me...and he's always right.|||I definitely feel that way. I always want to figure out WHY the relationship had to end and why we can't be friends. I'm terrible. I dated guy who has changed letters so many times I have no idea...|||Welcome! Enjoy it! :)|||Maybe I'm just a bad example but it takes me FOREVER to get over someone, especially if I stay in contact with them. I'm still in contact with my ex and it has been tough on my relationship.  But he...|||Hahahaha I love it.   This is just so weird for me.  In high school, I wasn't Ms. Popular #1 but I had a lot of friends. And my friends at home are the only ones getting me through right now....|||Yeah, it's a horrifying reality. But thank you :)|||That's been my main way of meeting people this semester. I'm forcing myself to join the clubs and groups I wanted to join before and my goal is to get involved with them. I'm sure I'll meet people...|||I admit that NO friends is an overstatement.   But ignoring the hyperbole, I have to say that is how I feel.  I'm a college student, sophomore year, 18 (so I'm a bit young). Last school year, I...|||I definitely think that the Js that I know have a tendency to flaunt their common sense. And because of that, when they overlook things, I fling it in their faces. But I try to do it jokingly,...|||I definitely feel you on that. We have some agreements that have evolved into a constitution of sorts, where certain actions have certain consequences.|||HAHAHAHAHAHA. My boyfriend calls himself an 80-year old Jewish man.|||For some of the events that happened during his childhood (infidelity, divorce), it still seemed relatively stable.   My biggest frustration is how forceful he is about his way of doing things. ...|||As many other people, I've been in a relationship with an ISTJ (a bit over a year) and we've been having the same issues with the coldness. I just try and try and try to get him to emote and I've...|||I would definitely say I'm emotional and impulsive, although with a selfish edge rather than cocern for others. The use of the golden rule is a good idea. I just don't stop to think before I do...|||Hahaha, now I feel like either wa, I'm a bit screwed. Right now, I keep hurting my thinker friends with my impulsive, emotional decisions. I guess I'm just going to have to let time and wisdom and...|||i can't believe I left the career path off. I freak out thinking about it. I'm a first semester junior (I'm ahead, not behind) and I am really worried because I can't think of one concrete sort of...|||I definitely just got a little bit stressed reading all the stressful situations. I feel most stressed when people try to control what I do. My parents really like trying to tell me what classes I...|||Yeah, I don't want to get to a point where I'm not being myself. I'm just not sure how to make the most appropriate decisions based on feelings versus logic. Things generally end up better for me...|||All pertinent info, thanks.   And I definitely agree about thinking logically. I guess I just really want to find that balance. There are people important to me who I would hurt far less if I just...|||ENTPs, I'm looking for some help.  I really want to work on my thinking and logic. I find myself in trouble and hurting people because I make decisions based almost entirely on how I feel. I...|||This is an interesting thread. For me, as I mature, I feel like my T is contantly being strengthened. I'm sure it is mostly because I've surrounded myself with strong thinkers and it is hard to be a...|||Triplets. lol. My whole family is INxx and they are far more introverted than I could ever be. But I have a tendency to close up around them.  We're really different.  With my friends, I am ENFP all...|||Oh, I used to do this at that age. :( She's probably just stressed. Also, misunderstandings really upset me more than most; it could be the same for her. Let her pout and then talk about it later or...|||Yeah, I love Jack Johnson and Jason Mraz also. I saw the latter live and it was amazing. I've heard Everything Is Made in China before and LOVE them.   If people are looking for music, last.fm is...|||I would like children...no more than two and preferably twins. A boy and a girl. Yes, I have this planned. I'm scared to parent, but I think I can do a good job.  I have the energy needed in...|||I completely agree with all of this. Yet this past semester, when I really didn't have any close friends at school, I longed for that companionship again.  I have two people who I truly believe see...|||Hahaha that's cool. At my college, people are mostly into mainstream hip-hop/rap, so I sort of stand out when I have no idea what's going on in that music world. I do love the beats, I just cant get...|||Sociology major, Political Science minor, with an interest in Urban Sociology, Crime, and Deviance. Yay for Social Sciences.:laughing:|||Oh my gosh, I LOVE This Will Destroy You. Excellent taste.  And Sigur Ros and Mogwai. I do find myself far more attracted to alternative music. I love Ratatat also, which is electronic. Of...|||An INFP did wonders for my life...when things were good, they were AMAZING. But when he would really try to make me reason I simply could not see it from his perspective. He frustrates me when he...|||Hey! Welcome to the site! I hope you find everything that you're loking for. I've found this site to be very helpful and hope you will also. :)|||Hey fellow ENFPs...I was wondering about peoples' favorite types of music. I really am looking for some new music and was just curious to see if there were any trends. Personally, I'm a fan of post...|||Welcome. Hope this site serves you well. :) Posted via Mobile Device|||Welcome fellow ENFP! And omg, I'm so excited to see someone else who loves soundtracks. Excellent taste. :)  Also, I've noticed several ENFPs mention Anthropology as a major. I'll be taking...|||Wow. This has really helped me see I'm not alone. I feel so indecisive about careers it isn't even funny. I'm a sociology major but I have no idea what I'm going to do after school. I know what I...|||I definitely don't understand ISTJs. How can someone just be so...stable? I guess we ENFPs are traditionally known for that. With all the ISTJs I know, I feel like I can never win arguments because...|||I really like that idea of getting involved together. We don't have anything like that but I'm sure we could find a common interest (probably something politically oriented) and join forces on it....|||As an ENFP, I have a hard time accepting the idea that someone will be never change. I have a tendency to strain healthy relationship to try to save people who are hurting themselves. For example,...|||I agree with that. We do have relative ease completing any tasks because one of us always has the skill set for it.  My issue is with the second part. I've talked to him about looking for things we...|||Hey, sorry it took awhile to get back. Specific problems with my ISTJ...he is constantly nitpicking...I hate feeling like we constantly have something we have to fix in our relationship. For...|||Hi everyone! A friend of mine introduced me to this website and I figured it would be a great way to get to know more about myself. ENFP is the M-B result I've been getting for the past few years and...'