'I am always falling for the introverts...|||Or, when you go all Sherlock Holmes on someone, then quibble with yourself about your assumptions, berate yourself for being judgmental, get all needy because you feel like you may be a bad person......|||I completely agree... I have moved to a new city, and know very few people. Even though I make acquaintances easily I find it hard to get intimate friendships. They seem dazzled and entertained but...|||Ha! I have been there...I have learned over time to relax, and listen more.  I, however, still fall into the habit of over complimenting (which makes some people uncomfortable) and being validating...|||Ok, so I have never really dated before. I really do not know what I am doing, and it is becoming clearer and clearer that the way I approach the whole ritual is ...wrong?  Or perhaps I am drawing in...|||MR. Ed  Heh,  I can completely relate to you in regards to this statement.  I wish I knew what it would feel like to have someone as interested in me as I was in them.  A friend of mine said my...|||SIDETRACK: hmmm... should everyone want to date a zombie? I mean doesn't everyone look for someone who likes them for their brains not their body? Jojo~  LOL!! Amazing! I would follow someone...|||I am very curious what ENFJs think about the Zombie Apocalypse!  I have talked to several other types and the responses are always very reflective of their identification.  So here are my...|||Walk away sun,  I feel that pang..Almost presses the breath from me.  As far as it being reciprocated...I have no idea. I think I tend to feel more strongly for people than people have ever felt...|||I work some place where things NEED to be done in a specific order.  I am the person my Boss depends on the most in terms of getting things done.  I get flack for asking people to do their jobs....|||I will definitely do that!  Thank you for the advice...|||So, I just recently moved into my own place, all by myself, no boyfriend/girlfriend..for the first time in my life.  I did the great Striking out on my own because  I really didn't feel like I knew...|||I hate it when people ask me questions about myself..but that is because I hate the looks on peoples faces when I do.  My history is not for the weak of heart.  I, personally, feel very proud of...|||The ISTP I love..yes, love...will not tell me anything.  He always seems to be eyeing me with suspicion, and now that I have read these comments I have to wonder if he was thinking I am ingenuine. ...|||My ISTP friend is on his last warning...When he pokes at me it just riles me up closer and closer to a ~situation~  One of these days the tech room will be in shambles, he will have a Dear Lord!...|||Thankyou... I appreciate all of your feedback :)  I really have no idea where this situation is going to go.  However, I do feel that this is one of those ~Learning~ moments.  I am learning that I...|||Wow,  I would really love to have someone in my life who would go to all the Museums, Movies, Concerts, and events with me, and then spend long hours after ward laying in bed, drinking wine and...|||Hmmm interesting....Yes, and ...no.    And there is the RUB.  :D  When I say that I LOVE someone ... I mean it.   My definition of love means that I accept and honor them for who they are and who...|||So, I got into a dispute with my ISTP friend.    It was over something so simple as a meaning of words.  It was simple but profoundly affecting.    He called me his BFF  (Best Friend Forever)...|||Lets see..I was Chuck e Cheese (my First Job, DONT LAUGH), Wildland firefighter, Flood Response, Oil recycling educator, Secretary, Painter, Construction lackey, Event Coordinator, Hippie Store...|||Words of Affirmation ....(4).Words only mean something to me when they are followed up by action. Quality Time ....(8) Museums, The Theater, Art Shows, festivals, Movies, ....cultural stuff rocks :)...|||LOL!!!!  Oh dear lord,...you may be the Male ..Me!  Ha!  I tested close to borderline on the T and F, ...I am also somewhat close on the J and P.    I read all the enneagrams I was close too in %. ...|||Noble heart,  Wow,  Thank you...  All I can do is nod in absolute agreement to everything you just said. I had to giggle with the Wolf pack imagery.  I tell people who are really close to me...|||Brilliant Idea :)  I would be more than happy to give feed back on food.  *SigH* I would love to see New Orleans.    So, would out sin/stereotype..be Gluttony?  Or Lust?  I do not see us being...|||LOL!!! AWESOME!  Yes,..oh yes...all of the above and more!...OR...Less :D  I too can do much with very little as long as the feelings and doings are genuine.  While doing elaborate, decadent...|||MY basic needs:  5 Silver plates piled high with... 1) Fruit  2) Chocolates (some truffles and a fondue pot)   3)Meat   4)Cheeses   (Wedges and Fondue Pot)  5)Bread pieces.  A bucket of ice is...|||Dear Megalo,  You are right!  Here you go! :)  ENFJ: The Cult Leader  ENFJs are big thinkers. They are extremely charismatic, and wish to offer the benefit of their wisdom to the world at...|||Heh, Jojo...You are very perceptive.  My back ground fits the 8 archetype...my boundaries were trounced on all over the place, but for some reason I was absolutely resilient.  I became very...|||I totally agree.  I would consider it unethical to humiliate anyone.  I am close to the divide between F and T too...Interesting... Thank you :)|||So, I have tested ENFJ over and over.  I have also tested equal %'s on Enneagram 8  over and over.  I was recently asked How does this work?  How can you be ENFJ and an 8?  This was a fair...||| Kiwigrl   You and I are very similar :)  I will find out what they like to eat, plan 3 other side courses, perfect the arrangement with the right seasonal desert, and wine to accompany the lot. ...|||I tend to be drawn to the moody, super intellectual, shy types.  If I could see myself with anyone long term I think It would be someone who would participate with me in social scenes, let me run the...|||LOL!!! These made me soo happy :)  I particularly like the ...just do what we tell you  one.|||Heh, Taurus  Scorpio rising. Triple Grand trine in fire.  Or so they say.... :D|||I really really hate being told that I am Too Much.    I still have no idea what that means...|||I am close to someone who is an ISTP...Well, as close as you can be to one. *smile*  We hated each other at the beginning. I thought he was bitter, moody, and heavily on the micro-managing.  He...|||Well Thank You!  I appreciate it :D  I took my own advice and directed my angst into a walk.    Question:  When ~you~ (all of you lovely ENFJs) get really upset/super emotional...Do you ever feel...|||Yes, I am experiencing it today in fact ...*smile* I often feel guilty when I am angry because my brain naturally involves itself into a process of what I am responsible for, what the other person...|||I will take the E.  While most of the time I get myself in trouble, my extroverted nature has put me in the middle of a lot of situations that could have gone really bad.  I used to be a care...|||I have done that too!  It is almost like if I walk into a space/environment and it feels stagnant or empty  I feel like I have to move it or fill it with something stimulating.  BUT....If the...|||Sometimes it seems to me that with this much influence there comes a price.  Almost a responsibility...So, I thought I would share something that really frustrates me and see if any of you ENFJs out...|||I had to smile when I read this list...All of it is very very true.   People are always trying to put me in a position of authority, or come to me when someone needs to be told what hole their head...|||I have been known to be really quiet around boys and girls I like.  I will also avoid touching them because I enjoy touching too much.  Some of descriptive I have read above are spot on, but I still...|||Being touched is really really intense for me.  To be touched means more to me than it would to other people.  When I touch I mean it as an intention to bond.  I can tell if people are touching me...|||I took the enneagram test 6 times.  I got 8 over and over.  While ENFJ fits me really really well, I also cannot deny my 8 tendencies...As much as they tend to conflict....or make things interesting....|||I am usually found as the Hostess.  Cooking, directing, counseling the drunks, and keeping the energy inclusive to everyone.  I love to be the ring leader of a party, but not the center of it. ...|||I love someone who is an ISTP...My exact opposite.  I act differently around him, but he also behaves differently around me.  I make him into a chatty cathy and he makes me think more than I am...|||Thank you for the warm welcome!   I look forward to reading and contributing when and where I can. :D|||Yes,I am an ENFJ.  For better or worse I am the quintessential version of this Type. For years I have denied my tendencies and now that I am in my 30's I am learning how to embrace my...|||I would like to add. Dom/Dominatrix.  Works in the interest of the client/plaything.  Does so at the wielding end of honesty.  Provides support and freedom to choose, but makes sure that the...'