'No I can understand. I'm so used to being alone at times, I miss it when I'm out with friends. Then again, if I'm holed up in my apt for too long (like 24-48 hrs over the weekend if I have no plans),...|||This made me incredibly sad. :(   Some of the responses in here made me sad to know there are amazing people in here feeling lonely. (I appreciate the honest, I may feel alone but never lonely as...|||I used to frequent another forum years ago and just find forums to be compiled of introverts. Perhaps some ESFJs don't have the time or patience to be active on a forum. I go through my moments when...|||Oh yeah for family.. hm. Take her to a favorite restaurant of hers. If you know she's into something like birds, or zombies, or flowers (I have no idea what your aunt is into and I'm being random...|||Could not agree more!|||Hm, I am an internet NERD. Memes? Seen it all. Thank you instagram. Maybe I developed adult ADD but its a bad habit of always checking my phone on some social media outlet: either fb, instagram, or...|||YES! I don't know what it is.. Some of my best friends growing up used to say Oh, you know where to find Scyllla at a party - look for the quietest, shyest guy and she will be right there next to...|||Omg this is the best question ever! Seriously, good work. Now, expect a novel.. ;)   All joking aside, some ways to show appreciation from my experience (and keep in mind I'm currently dating an...|||I always feel like we are hated, so its nice to meet someone who appreciates us! Thank you!   I take the MBTI test every few months to make sure I am maybe not some other ESxx type. Always ESFJ.|||Yay! You are my forum twin! ESFJ here, dating an INTP for past 1.5 and you couldn't have worded it better: best person I know. We've had our ups and downs (and downs aren't even really 'down' like...|||You couldn't have explained it any better. I swear you could write a book about this pairing and I'd buy and read it all the time.   I finally (after much obvious realizations and going from living...|||Curious what happened (if you don't mind me asking). Very similiar situation I'm in and we have known and dated each other for over a year (took awhile for us to be like 'ok we are together right?...|||The INTP I'm dating (and have observed over the past year and half) is so much like this.   I'm an ESFJ and the OP sounds a bit like me honestly. My INTP has friendships from when he was in HS and...|||As someone not new to this forum, or INTPs, this is all hilarious.   I think I'd be annoyed too if I were an INTP to be coming across thread after thread on How do i know if INTP loves me?. :)|||lol I follow that author, Heidi Priebe on fb - she's awesome! A few times she has even replied back in a comment!!   And yes, I needed to read that. So true. Thank you!|||Couldn't agree more, Mollusk.   As much as I always kind of wanted an outgoing Exxx type, I now know after meeting different types of people, I just feel more myself and love my surroundings when...|||Yes, so true!   So far, the best match (lately as I grow older) has been INTP I've been seeing on/off for 16 mos now (things seem to be back 'on'). The reassurance I get from is whenever he spends...|||all of this yes!!!|||I can seriously read anything and everything you write. Its amazing.   Okay, that being said, everything you described puts my INTP into more I than E. I think because I'm 'in' he just feels SO...|||Man, sorry to hear this. I sometimes feel my assertive, sometimes 'over the top teasing' ways with my INTP could lead to damaging him but he knows he can always talk to me if there were any problems....|||Getting past the skinny dipping part (we've all messed up at some point, so I get it), but if she's still talking to you and hanging out, she may be just feeling you out and putting you on some weird...|||No. I help without ever thinking they would help me, or rely on them helping me in the future. I'm not sure if this is a combination of people disappointing me over the years (I've built up a lot of...|||I re-read this like, 3 times. This is so eloquently put, I had my INTP guy/friend (whatever we are) read it and laugh uncomfortably. (i know that's his way of agreeing non verbally)   I honestly...|||Yeah I kind of feel this way to be honest. I may be jam packed on a Saturday but then I need sunday to just be lazy and not leave the house and chill in my pjs. Sometimes I come across guys who SEEM...|||Sounds like you've been with or maybe currently with an ESFJ? You hit the nail on the head here and described why I keep appreciating the INTP in my life. I can't explain it well, but it's just so...|||The INTP I know would never (intentionally) hurt anyone or thing. Passive, lover not a fighter types. But, yes there are times where he hurts me emotionally, not realizing how much I do adore him...|||If I can meet an ENTP interested in me IRL, i'd definitely love to know more! Seems most of them are INTx honestly, or taken by someone else lol. I will definitely keep an eye out for this type bc I...|||Yeah, you are wording it well in regards to the INTP i know. In recent events, I found out this INTP loves me, so it explains his very (surprisingly) affectionate, cuddling ways with me.   I have...|||It could be- I am pretty laid back/easy going. From other stories I've read on ESFJ (women) and INTP (men), it's almost horrendous stories of how demanding for attention we are, how much we don't...|||Yeah, most of my male friends are INTJs to be honest, and they are like the brothers I never wanted. I love them sure, but after awhile they piss me off and I need some distance/few days away from...|||I have read that article several times when I had the INTP living with me and I was helping him explore his sexual side (he was a 26 yr old virgin that I uh, deflowered -is that what the kids are...|||YES! This all sounds too true for me (as of last few years).   One thing's for sure  -- If I ever came across any ISxx's, I'd be sure to sink my claws of curiosity in them!   Just glad i'm not...|||I tend to gravitate towards introverts more... When I find someone extroverted, it causes ME to be the introvert and let them do their outgoing thing. Maybe I like to be (since i'm used to it) the...|||Well HI friend!    Yes, I do agree with this, but I seem to try to follow their lead (I can be bit guarded too because of being burned in past). So if they're eager, I am too. Who knows though.|||I have yet to meet any ISxx... :( I am always looking for various types! Thanks though!|||I won't get into much details, but just curious if any other ESFJs having a hard time connecting with someone to have a meaningful relationship in their early 30s? I would think our type has the...|||I hate people. (As much of a people person I am, sometimes I just don't want to deal with them, but you'd never hear me posting about hating people because no one would believe me due to how social...|||I have a very positive story with an INTP. I'm definitely an ESFJ (I seriously take the test every 6 mos to see if it changes, nope -- and my friend has taken it and COMPLETE INTP so its relatable) ...|||I don't think that's necessarily the case. Guess it depends on the situation.   At first, if someone is starting to be rude to me (I'm trying to be helpful, and they're being condescending or too...|||Since I didn't read correctly the first time... and i understand you ACCIDENTALLY shot your best friend..   Maybe I've been watching too much Walking Dead or Scandal, but I'd dig that bullet out of...|||I constantly get told I'm so nice or one of the nicest people they know.. or 'too nice'.. but honestly, maybe I keep my 'mean girls' attitude in check and hidden, but I find myself being mean to...|||2w1 here.   I am the youngest. Almost an only child in a sense as my brother is 13 yrs older and was never around growing up (I recall him moving out when I was 4-5).   So nice to meet many like...|||INTPs are wonderful (so far...)   I have read enough about them as I'm currently kind of dating one (he's very shy and in his mid/late 20s Im his first girl encounter lets say) but so far its been...|||I couldn't agree more. As I grow older (ugh I turn another year in 2 weeks too), I have found myself more upset by someone going against their word and flaking out then when I was in my early 20s. I...|||I'm currently seeing an INTP and before him I believe most of my partners were INxx to some degree.   Not sure about the rest of you ESxx in here, but do you notice if someone is MORE extraverted...|||I just saw the last Hobbit flick last night and thought about Bilbo's part in the whole group and which one I would be (oddly enough - thankfully you have this random thread!)   As much as I admire...|||You could not have described it so perfectly for me than that.   I've been typed an ESFJ for awhile, but knowing I'm currently looking into taking a major career break in a few years to travel the...|||Yeah it seems on one site I get more of ESFP result, but over the years and watching youtube videos explaining ESFJs more, it seems I'm more of that type - I seem to get off (in a non-sexual but...|||Thanks guys!   I've been on forums before (more so 2005-2010) and meeting new people online from across the states and even globe has been so beneficial.   What I like most about PerC from my...|||Thanks! Merry Christmas to you too!   I keep forgetting its the holidays because I live about 1000 miles from my parents and more/less spend this season to myself (bit of a hermit crab oddly enough...'