'[QUOTE=Chasin Paper;15682402]Yeah, I know what you mean.:dry:  It seems to happen to me in four year cycles I have a really great year: totally extroverted, social circle developed, really happy....|||I've seen lost years used to describe a time of turmoil, questionable mental health and/or escapism. A time that people look back upon and generally don't have much to say about, other than the...|||Im not really all that scared of death. As far as I know, I didn't exist before I was born, and that wasn't so bad. I'm very scared of the process of dying though. Ive been in a situation where I was...|||I keep getting thanks' for my earlier post... I would like to append to that post and say that for me the ideal to strike a balance between your passion and your ability to provide for yourself......|||I have always been curious if most people have such views but I only end up hearing them from people who I connect with ie the  oddballs :P  I mean the human condition does inspire some pretty...|||Heh... well if this survey means anything, then count me as one of the INFP's that validates it :P   I tend to make life decisions based on passions rather than financial gains. Instead of getting...|||I've always gotten way more out of friendships than out of relationships. Since I dont see myself having children, I find the idea of spending my life with one person to be a bit of an alien...|||Suggested watching: Black Mirror.   I think the popularity of that show, which deals with the exact themes you're talking about, is evidence that many among us feel a sense of alienation thanks...|||An example I just thought of:   My first obsessive high school crush...   She liked me too, but I was so nervous around her I couldn't actually initiate anything romantic. I would get so nervous...|||I think i've found myself obsessing over the idea of people in the past... That is to say, I don't know them well enough to just see them as the human beings they are. Getting better about that as I...|||I think my life has suffered from a lack of typically adventurous moments thus far. I consider myself pretty shy, but I've traveled solo a fair amount, always pretty much on the beaten path, save for...|||How did it turn out?|||Im not quite thirty but its getting close.   1. In matters of love-- tell people how you feel. Pining wastes lots of your time, and staying with someone when you don't love them anymore because you...|||Haha so Im guessing via your question that you're probably 16-22 ish?   Im 28 and I've always along with old people better than any other age group. Really for many of the same reasons you've...|||Like someone else said, it really is better to establish interest early on. Not just for the person you're interested in, but for yourself.   That way, if you don't get the reply you're hoping for,...|||Yeah... Im glad you guys are responding in a way that suggests lots of grey areas... Love and attraction are two very different things, although regardless of how curmudgeonly I get, I think I'll...|||For those of you who currently love someone in a romantic sense... When you first met, was it an awesome almost immediate understanding, or did you just sort of gradually grow into loving each other?...|||Hi everyone,   I have a confession to make. When I finished college way back in 2009, I pretty much stopped reading any sort of fiction. I guess I've always been more into film and music. BUT... I...|||273594  Here's one from a biking thing that our city does during the fall. Man I miss that weather right now :P|||I'm still trying to figure this thing out. Through experience, I've found that my ideal job involves using my hands, and providing a basic, useful service to other people. Here are some observations...|||I definitely can relate to this-- the main dynamic was always between my dad and my older brother(had younger sibs but they were way younger)-- Both dad and brother are pretty grounded in reality,...|||The search for meaning seems to be an inescapably large part of the INFP picture. (Why am I doing this? How is this action effecting that action etc.)  I'm turning 28 soon ( which I know is not...|||I had my first episode of this when I was 8 or so, then had really bad spells of it throughout a lot of my teens. I learned to control it when I discovered it was just another way anxiety manifests...|||Wow- Hit close to home with that one. Going on 2 years since my least serious relationship and I still can't bring myself to date anyone for fear of hurting their feelings.|||I think you just sort of talked yourself through to the heart of the matter. Ive learned hard over the years how short and uncertain life is. If you want to take your relationship with another person...|||I find a lot of this to be the case with me as well. I think a lot of it stems from the fact that if someone doesnt seem interested in me, then it allows me to idealize them, and enjoy what could...|||Yeah I definitely have struggled with idealizing people (mainly romantic interests, sometimes friends). It has lead to a lot of pain and unkept promises.  Regardless of how perfect or cool a person...|||Im 27, so I am at the point where about half of my close friends are married. With the exception of a couple flings, I haven't dated since my last serious relationship that ended in mid 2011. I...|||Ive been going through a reflective period lately (these periods usually result in a spike of me visiting personality theory websites and discussions).   I have a feeling a lot of fellow INFP's...|||You know, as awkward as it is for me to post about job problems on an anonymous internet forum, I think putting it all into words and having an impartial stranger agree how slimy the place is, has...|||I know a 60 something year old INFP whose an amazing visual artist (painter). He could probably have been a professional artist, but instead he decided to make his living as a maintenance/custodial...|||Yeah, the strangest part about all this is that it's at a Non Profit that focuses on affordable housing and helping people get out of poverty. Woops.  Negotiation hasn't worked. The hiring manager...|||I was recently told about a job by a hiring manager at my workplace earning 5-6.00 an hour more than I make if I were to apply. I applied and was then told that my current job will be ending at the...|||I find the way work is structured to be one of the most bizarre things about our world. To me, taking a job is a serious commitment of time and effort, and oftentimes the interview process reveals...|||I channel my inner redneck. The inner redneck is a twangy raspy voice that demands me to quit being a ______ ________ and get out there and _______ do it. Its crude but extremely effective.|||I have no idea. And I'm sure a lot of other INFP's could say the same :P. Every time I think I know, something changes.|||In the sense that when Im around children no one trusts me to supervise them/be the authority figure because i just get swept into joining their interesting antics? Yes.|||Last year was pretty soon after a bad breakup for me. To keep from letting it get me down, I invited other single friends over to my house for a potluck. Good times were had.   This year, I will...|||some of my favorites:   Brazil (the 80's Terry Gilliam one) Submarine Shaun of the dead Spirited Away Willy Wonka and the chocolate factory (The Gene Wilder one) Rushmore Wristcutters: A love...|||I felt this way for the first 25 years of my life, and then I realized 2 things- First-- Everybody is awkward, because life is inherently awkward. Second-- Awkwardness is actually pretty funny when...|||I am glad you wrote this because I feel very similarly, but couldnt quite communicate the idea. Its not that I would prefer things to stay the same out of fear or discomfort associated with change,...|||Hello,   I dont know if there have been any significant studies done on this question-- but I have read it on the internet so it must be true...   It would also be interesting to see if this...|||Yes. Especially the third one :P|||From the Myers Briggs stuff, INFP's are typically flexible easygoing types. However, I find myself to have a lot of trouble making any significant life changes, even though I feel stuck where I'm...|||Haha thanks, Its probably my standard goofy posing for a photo expression that does it :P|||Ah, well, I think just being open about who you are and what you care about, and listening to what the other person has to say goes a long way whether the persons INFP or ESTJ or whatever. I still...|||Can you elaborate a little on what aspects of feminine vs masculine you're referring to? I personally find myself to be less likely to pursue a woman directly if Im interested in her, so oftentimes...|||92400  This is a picture a friend took of me recently with my pet chicken Susan. I think it says as much about me pretty much any picture out there (minus my cat, the musical instruments the...|||I think as it stands, my spiritual beliefs center around energy, and how it just sort of moves around the universe but its never created or destroyed. I stand completely neutral on the topic of the...|||I find myself very guarded about my personality to most people. I have a work persona and a social persona that is generically nice and attentive, but I like to separate my dark quirky sense of humor...'