'I think that came out wrong. I'd like her to like hearing from me as the outcome, in sense that if she didn't want to hear from me then I wouldn't want to message her. Although that's not something I...|||Have you ever ghosted, the act of disappering on your friends without notice , a friend for a long period of time? Did you ever reach out to that person again? What happened?  I was on here about a...|||I have thought about professional help but something about it doesn't interest me. I also don't know how to get in with someone or if that person will be good. It's a bit daunting.    I am aware of...|||*double post*|||I was asked what I consider a good friend so that is what I think of as a good friend to me. I know what others consider a good friend is going to be different. You could ask my closest friends and I...|||Oh, I never thought of forgiveness as moving on, at least in this situation, since there isn't anything to forgive. I am a bit upset right now but it's not her fault, and I'm not holding it against...|||Sorry   InTheRockies I made an important edit to my post. Your advice still stands and I appreciate it very much but I already answered some of your questions. I don't have something to say right now...|||Yes, I've said similar things but I like the way you put it.     That's hard to put into words as it is complex. Right now I can't think of anything more than a list of traits. For myself a true...|||I know I have to let it go and at this point I could just drop the friendship, never talk to her again, just because I am upset. That does not seem like a healthy, or proper way to let go. I also...|||Well I have talked about the situation before and I know some people remember and think I should let it go. It's a situation of unrequited feelings and and that she is now dating someone else. I've...|||How can you be forgiving and supportive of a friend who, not intentionally, did things that hurt you and then made life choices you don't agree with?  I' have never been upset like this before and...|||The first time I asked is when she said we are friends and that she didn't want a relationship because of school. That was quiet a while ago, about two years. This last time was at Christmas and she...|||Anyone able to give some advice on whether or not I should communicate a certain topic with someone? I usually am open and communicate but right now I just do not know what to do.  I have a very...|||Up until this last Christmas when I brought up what I thought about her that may have been the case. Although I think she was way more unsure than I was. Even some things she said Christmas have me...|||Other than moves have you actually told her? In your post I didn't see much, if any mention, that you actually told her that you like her.  Open and honest communication is usually the best,...|||Interesting of you to ask since recently, as in a few weeks ago before this whole conversation here, I did catch myself getting upset at here for no good reason. I wouldn't necessarily call the...|||Sorry, I had kind of been assuming most of the advice here was leading toward ending the friendship. Although I am not sure why I assumed that, it's just the advice I see around so much for others in...|||You are right again, I barely have a plan a when it comes to the social and emotional aspects of life. The social aspects of life are not usually high on my list of importance. This is an extremely...|||I am sure it is possible to be a combination of both.   I find myself to be calm, emotionally stable, not caring too much about what other think of me, yet I can still be very perfectionist and...|||Not necessarily any specific type but any people who are reclusive with their emotions or are able to change their emotions, thoughts, and opinions, so easily.  I don't know enough about the types...|||I think most people on this site are similar in that respect. Why else would someone come here? Sure there are fun enjoyable aspects to this site but a lot of the site seems to be about figuring out...|||I agree, I do seem a bit obsessive. That is the hardest thing to change because when I care about someone or thing a lot then my brain thinks about, and analyzes, the situation a lot. I have to...|||Hmm, I've done all those things before but never once expected anything in return. I do things, such as helping, or giving people gifts, because I truly want to and not because I've expected...|||No need to apologize, I actually appreciated the questions but I will say they were not easy. You are very right, it doesn't do me, or even her, any good for me to worry about her, our friendship, or...|||The only thing is, and I say this without any clarification from her so I may be wrong, I thought at one point she was interested. I know she doesn't now but I never did find out about the past. I've...|||Sometimes I'm quiet afraid to do certain things when it comes to people I am interested in. I don't know how to full explain but I worry about my intentions. That I am not doing things just because I...|||What is orbiting?   Also since I don't see myself as judging her would you care to explain? Sorry, doesn't mean it's not true but if it is true I would like to see it.|||It may seem like I am holding her to past patterns but I'm not trying to. I'm not going to ever confront her about these things. My posting here is more of a way to entertain my thoughts and...|||Cake! Cause it has always existed and is always getting eaten. Have you ever been eaten?   Also isn't this the ask an INTJ thread not ask an INFJ thread? :tongue:|||If I am the cake, and the cake is a lie, then I am of no help in giving directions to this potion. Especially since you did not sign the waver. Sorry.  Although why would you want a potion to live...|||I'm being sincere when I say, with these most recent questions, gaining information is my only agenda. Yes I have asked here before about this but last time I was trying to figure out if there is...|||Sorry if it seems like I am hiding an agenda. I'm not trying to hide anything. My only agenda was to gather more info on my thoughts, get opinions from others. The beard conversation wasn't that...|||I'm not entirely sure why but something about that first paragraph is funny. She may dislike his beard although I mentioned previously she said it simply looked Ok on him and by the end of that...|||*Woops, duplicate post*|||I'm an NF and I'm hooked on programming. What does that mean for me? I'm also a graphic/web designer so...|||You've suddenly got a chance to ask one person, or fictional character, from any time period a question.   Do you know what you would ask and who? If so, what and who?|||Swede and        Wellsy  I had no idea there was a research and study behind this idea and similar others. I'm not surprised as there's usually research on most ideas and topics. Still very cool to...|||That is something I understand, still liking someone even if a negative trait is noticed. One question though, when/if you notice those things does it change your opinion on where a relationship...|||First, did you sign the waiver?|||Hmm, either we really don't agree or are talking about two different ideas, I think the latter. I'm just having trouble linking assumptions to physical traits, at least from the example I gave. I can...|||So I've got an interesting question, or at least by my bias I do. After having a good conversation with an INTJ friend of mine she said some things that got me thinking about INTJs in relationships....|||Hmm, I didn't think of it like that. I guess so because even so she was aware she may forget on Sunday and had told me that I should remind her. She wouldn't have said that if she was bothered by my...|||Ah, I see. Luckily there has been no sign that she has. Plus she's asked in the past why haven't I just called when, I haven't heard back from texts, and we had plans.|||How so do you mean, would you mind explaining a bit more?  One thing I wonder is if we have contradictory thoughts on what an important friendship is, or at least what actions should be taken to...|||Understandable. I would have only said it because I want to find out but I can see how it would come off as manipulating and needy. Is there a way to ask that wouldn't come off in that way?   Well...|||Not to undermine but that would be an unexpected reaction. Only because I have never gotten that reaction from anyone before. May I ask why that would be your reaction?     I wasn't think about...|||I got her answering machine. Mentioned I hadn't heard from her, asked if everything was alright and said to give me a call something. I wonder now if I should have asked about her maybe avoiding the...|||Yes this has been extremely difficult to decide. Our friendship has been through some serious stuff recently and I have not been so direct; I've held back. To finally be able to talk but at the same...|||I edited my post and added context while you posted. Sorry, I tend to edit and add after posting.|||INTJ forgetting to contact someone when they said they would earlier in the day?  Or forgetting to contact someone in general? Maybe avoiding conversation?   I was supposed to have a more serious...'