'Left to my own devices, I take an EXTREMELY long time to make new decisions. (Routine is my friend.)  Not only do I filter everything through Fi (and presumably Si, though I'm not as aware of it),...|||Materialistic16%54% Offbeat46%48% Thinking        33%51% Interpersonal36%56% Vital        73%54% Easygoing        80%54%  Your MOTIV type is AXHWVR Your MOTIV+ type is |A|chwVR ...|||Cool. Thanks!|||Yeah, I mainly want to make sure we prepare her to make it in this world, since we won't be around forever... right now the big concern is organization, particularly with homework. I try to emphasize...|||This is very helpful, Geonerd. That does sound rather like my daughter's expression of Feeling. And my INTJ husband's attempts to organize her are frustrating (for all of us). I'll try to stay on the...|||Can anyone out there recommend a good parenting book that would be suitable for an ENTP child? (I'm pretty sure Ne is my daughter's dominant function, though it may be too early for a middle...|||Can anyone out there recommend a good parenting book that would be suitable for an ENFP child? (I'm pretty sure Ne is my daughter's dominant function, though it may be too early for a middle...|||I've come to the realization that a couple of my family members simply find it very, very easy to believe that whatever they want to be true, is the truth. :sigh: I don't get it.|||I just watched Transparent season 1 episode 9 (Looking Up) and I am devastated.   They killed Ed. They fucking killed Ed.  We were never meant to do this alone. We were never meant to break up...|||These are so good. Whatever I have to add probably echoes these. But I'll give it a shot.   Value other people without necessarily valuing their opinions. Value yourself and your opinions. No...|||Good question. I don't really know, but these are my thoughts...  Growing up I felt pressured to conform to what I now know to be ISTJ-mode. That is, I don't think that I was an ISTJ when I was...|||I don't even know what to make of that post. I think it's cool that the couple is sharing with each other what makes them tick. It's just that I strongly identify, AND strongly fail to identify, by...|||I feel like I'm coming across as a broken record, but I'll invoke the concept of balance yet again. I think ego death sounds highly undesirable as an ultimate goal; yet I suspect that a certain...|||I'm loving this topic. I used to sort of approach music as a guilty pleasure, because growing up, my xSFJ mom consistently warned me away from sad music, fearing that it would drag me down. It wasn't...|||I think most people in this world don't know what they need, including their need for other people who care enough about them to question them.|||So, is a movement from self-hatred to projection a progression?  (Actually, I think it is. Ask me how I know :sad:). Anyway...   Northanger Abbey messed me up from reading it in college, as a...|||INTJ and ENFP, apparently. Both were able to create an intensity of connection through Fi, I guess. But long-term, kindness as a person's core value was even more important.  Wish I'd known to seek...|||I used to try to hide my sensitivity when I was younger. It was exhausting. Now I've decided to live my life as myself, and accepted that not everyone has to like that. (I figure hey, I find...|||I agree. Plans are not promises. Punctuality (not rigidity) is a virtue, but it's not a high priority.|||What Im FiNe said. A good work ethic, imo, calls for more balance than single-minded dedication. (And true teamwork calls for more cooperation than groupthink. :happy: :sad: )  I came of age in...|||Cause you can kick 'em to the curb.|||Tells it like he sees it and slanders recklessly.|||One funhouse ride after another -- for better, or...|||This was a major problem for me in the past. It was wrong to be angry, so I had to try to suppress it at all costs, but then of course that only led to uncontrolled blow-ups later. Everyone is...|||I'm so tired of the THIS VS. THAT thought wars going on underneath the surface of everything. No one seems to want to address these false dichotomies directly, or even to acknowledge that they exist,...|||Fun to dance to. Aaaaand that's about it :)  6/10   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eVD9j36Ke94|||I have to agree with not-necessarily-healthy and not-necessarily-harmful.  I've never had much of a desire to watch it (once I indulged my adolescent curiosity, I found it more comical than...|||I meant underdeveloped auxiliary Ne, as an INFP might have. I may be projecting because I can see some of my younger self in your mom's situation. I used to be scared NOT to be traditional, and sort...|||Sounds like she could have underdeveloped Ne. I think it can be slow to emerge, especially if it hasn't been valued. Maybe she could use some encouragement to explore different options in life, and...|||My INFPness is bigger than yers...  I laugh so I don't have to cry. :laughing: :crying:|||Yep, lots of INFPs value logical reasoning. Thank God :D|||Some people are wired to be more sensitive to environmental factors than others. It's not a matter of being too sensitive. There is evidence that around 20% of EACH animal population, including...|||For me, they don't make me feel detached; they just take the edge off my emotions so I can take a step back and decide what to do with them. My theory is that it allows me to use the Fp1 region of my...|||Agreed on Clinton. Sanders is better. Trump is ridiculous.|||Just make sure to let the monkeys out to play sometimes :wink:|||https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C82frmjbw5Q|||ESTP who plays an ESTJ on TV to confuse everybody.|||For me, it's an intense focus on whatever it is I'm thinking about. Once when I was a kid I was so lost in a book I was reading that I didn't hear my dad call my name -- and he was sitting right next...|||It's not that I feel the need to be understood (except by loved ones), I just hate being misunderstood and then misrepresented. It's okay if you don't understand me. Just STFU about me then. I don't...|||At least twice a day :happy:  I make time to be by myself and either let my thoughts percolate, or turn them off so I can recharge. Once in the middle of the day (during siesta time), and then...|||When it's not safe to be vulnerable, it's normal to be uncomfortable with emotions. And it's prudent to wait until you're sure of something before articulating it. Although I've learned to qualify...|||It varies. Personally I do enjoy it on occasion. I was surprised to discover how fun improv can be :) I used to have pretty bad stage fright, but now I've sort of learned to deal with it by NOT over...|||Thanks for these links :)    I'm not sure what you mean by this statement, but by malignant narcissism I meant something along the lines of social torture for the fun of it. :/|||:hugs: I know. I hate it when people toss around the term special snowflake syndrome too freely. Probably, it's loosely based on some real human tendencies, but too often it's used as a silencing...|||I think I like Tetsuo Shima's take on this thread better :tongue:  I have rosacea, and people occasionally think I'm an alcoholic.    What's really scary is that when you think about it,...|||Gullible in youth, trust issues in crochety middle age...  I've had to work on my B.S. detector, and life experience certainly helps with learning what clues to pick up on. But if anyone claims to...|||Dare I hold out hope, a closet Clinton supporter? :crazy:|||It's so nice when a misogynist raises his/her hand and waves it around wildly. Makes things a lot simpler. :P|||I do think there is some benefit in psychologists' encouraging people to think more in terms of surviving than of being victimized. BUT. This approach has been so hijacked in our culture by...|||For people who don't need ethics and don't understand justice.'