'Why not How do girls like to be flirted with? instead?  Honestly, smile. THAT is how guys should flirt with a woman. Then say something private, a joke or a comment, that requires you to whisper...|||And THIS is why I moved out of my apartment into a one-bedroom home a mile deep in the bush in the middle of nowhere. Neighbours? No thank you.  And you're not a freak at all. Hated my noisy...|||I'd want to take a step back and ask why she thinks love is only love if it lasts forever in some sort of commitment?  Love is fluid. Intangible. Unpackageable. You can't say I love you therefore...|||I LOVE it. In the worst way. It's like the perfect motivation to me, to be told I can't do something or won't achieve something. ALL of my best successes are because someone said I couldn't do it. I...|||My fave is an old movie, something I've seen a hundred times and don't actually have to watch to know what's going on. Coupled with crawling into bed, under my down comforter, temps turned down low...|||Huh. Always thought it was a bad experience that made me think I'm not deserving of the love I receive...yet maybe it's actually an INFJ thing! Yippee! I'm not messed up, I'm just me! ;)  Honestly,...|||Bachelor's in Agriculture. And I work in Networking Professionals in Public Health. Go figure...I hate conversations. : P|||A thread on the INFJ forum made me realize that my type is kinda...easygoing about proposing. Straight forward, ask the question, take whatever response you get.  Was wondering what INFPs do for...|||Like the rest, alcohol and the right people (won't drink with folks I don't trust) and I'm a riot! Bouncing off walls (and playing soccer barefoot in a dress in an empty field at night...), if I'm...|||Extrovert Friend Calls: Friend: Blah blah blah Me: <puts phone down. Cleans apartment>. Completely! What else happened? Friend: Blah blah blah Me: <I should probably be listening...but...|||Oh us and our doorslam. Yeah, been there. And yes, it sucks when you do it to someone you love, and you know you're doing it, you know you're being a douche by doing it, but you just.can't.help.it. ...|||Never engaged, never proposed. ALMOST proposed to my ex (obviously THAT didn't work out). It was actually the clue to me that it was time to end it...  8 year anniversary of dating, right on a leap...|||Typically, silence is a'okay. It's kinda pleasant. Let's you think. I've had a couple of those awkward ones, that were a whole new level, when you realize it's quiet because you're both wanting to...|||My home is a custom-designed 2 story house on 10 acres of woods, 5 acres of pasture. House is nestled in the bush, 1/4 mile down a winding driveway. I designed it myself, drew all the plans, built it...|||Elliott, find yourself an INFJ ; ) We're all about empathy, and the moment you're sad, we're sad. Ditto on the happy! Really, I love my INFP man. And don't think he's feminine in the slightest. His...|||So question...do INFPs typically initiate sex or wait for their partner to give them the go-ahead?  And on the same note, how important is sex to an INFP? Is it like 'nice to have, but I'm happy...|||Here's my question...in an emergency situation, do most INFJ's turn into: - Take-charge save the day folks - OMG it's horrrible <PANIC AND RUN ABOUT> - <BLANK STARE OF FROZENNESS> - Tell me what...|||WHAT?! The gaming subculture guys can really rock! I'm a tall slender young attractive woman who just happened to tell her man last night: You know I'm really glad you turned out to be geekier then...|||How the hell do you know when you've found The One?! Seriously, what are the markers of that woman compared to all the other woman? And when you've figured this out, how long do you wait to be...|||Funny, I always thought it would have been harder had it been shorter...Mainly because a decade is plenty of time to see all the failings, all the it never would have worked, the worst of...|||Aww, <hug>  It sucks. Trust me, 11 year relationship = life lesson on love. Breaking up sucks, and worse when you had plans in your head about how awesome the future would be with that person. It's...|||Seriously, I'm a woman and I confuse myself, lol. I always tell my man that I could never date a woman because we're so freaking confusing. And he tells me he could never date a man because they're...|||Touch is #1.   ...but to touch means we're together (which covers quality time) and to touch is to speak without saying a word (words of affirmation). So technically I need all three, but Touch...|||I'm the same way, and have to say, kinda always have been (more so now that I'm more aware of my emotions).   I can honestly say, when something is on my mind and I haven't resolved it, I'm up and...|||Haha, yeah. It's strange how you can be socially nice to folks, carrying on a conversation while your brain screams I DON'T CARE! WOULD YOU PLEASE JUST SHUT UP SO I CAN GET BACK TO MY THOUGHTS?!...|||As an INFJ, I'm all about the future and planning and daydreaming about what I want later in life. The here and now, meh, it's happening so there's not much I can do with it, but if I get doing the...|||I gotta admit, I sure do! In hindsight, I probably am rather lucky that my INFP found it bemusing and rolled with it! I like a good deal of sarcasm and wit and banter in a conversation with someone I...|||Haha, yes to all three! I actually smashed into a clothing rack at the mall the other day and burst out laughing. People just stared like a grew a fourth head : P   Is it weird how much we think...|||Omg! My INFP, except he's not in the military but is in a position of leadership and power! Super strong willed and authoritative at work, and comes home as the deepest, artistic, creative soul I...|||Oddly I'm partially with john.thomas, even though I'm not depressed. I think INFJs are happiest making others happy, so I'm kinda living to make the people in my life proud of me, and develop a...|||Ditto over here. The more I love someone, the more cautious I become about screwing something up! First meeting someone I'll be totally me and then as we get to know each other, I become more...|||Every event is different, but I've always cried a lot. I cried in front of my boss the first time because our work group was bickering and he wanted us to talk it out. I'm not good with that sort...|||Over the relationship and the person fast? Yes. Soon as I knew it had no where to go, and as soon as we made that decision, I was over it. Easy as that. To be honest, I was back in the game within...|||I posted recently on the INFP forum trying to see how my strong emotions might affect my SO...  And the responses really got me thinking that I cry WAY too much. My emotions just get the better of...|||<sigh> That's exactly what I fear he'll think (or already thinks but doesn't tell me). :sad:  The hardest part, is that for me, it makes sense. As weird as that sounds. It's not being off for...|||Alone time = just being and doing the things that I love, that no one feels the same way as I do about. A chance to reflect and dream without interruption. A chance to reengergize and place aside...|||It's really come to my realization recently, that I often feel a disconnect in my relationship without necessarily being able to logically say something is wrong. I noticed that I'll pick up a...|||Been dating an INFP for awhile, and I'm an INFJ. He is SPECTACULAR, and truly the love of my life. Something about the ability of an INFP to perceive emotional struggles within an INFJ and slowly...|||I'm right on the same page as you here. I think because we're exceptionally emotional people, driven by our emotions and even more so by what our emotions are perceiving around us, we often allow...|||Not an INFP, but magdalenna, I'm an INFJ dating an INFP for a reasonable length of time, who sounds awfully similar to yours in many ways (though we haven't been married for 10 year!).  Two things...|||@Theosophie THAT is the key! If these people are draining you, then they're not that special person for you! I remember being on dates and TRYING not to yawn because I was mentally exhausted with...|||It's personal opinion, but I couldn't do this. A big chunk is because I *know* that it would allow my partner to be polyamorous too, and well, I'm a jealous possessive type (in a gentle passive way)....|||I can totally see where you're coming from, and have to say that I went through a period of massive dating and it opened my eyes to one things: BE PICKY. We really relate easily to everyone, and as...|||I feel for you. I always (often?) feel this way when around new people. Outside my key group of friends, and even sometimes within that key group. I never feel like my stories are actually...|||Love it! I'm in an Fe + Fi loop and this is EXACTLY what it's like! I just want him to know how happy I am, and he's all happy that I'm happy (he likes hearing it because he really only knows for...|||I wouldn't say aggressively...but I love debate. And I love finding underhanded ways to undermine or insult indirectly the person whom I'm debating, to beat down their confidence and give me the win...|||Wow. Vivid Sunset, I actually stopped for a second and wondered if my bf had found my thread online!! :blushed: It was like actually having this conversation about layer with him (which I haven't had...|||I should probably say, that the two face title was to draw attention :blushed: Not meant in the negative way it can be misconstrued.   Reading the responses, I think it's helping to see the...|||Almost instantly upon that first touch (hug, hold hands, whatever). Not there, I'm just not interested, because my emotions are tied really closely to my physical being.  As we went to hug on our...|||Oh dear. As an INFJ, I'm going to say that it's not your unreliability that she was frustrated with. At least, in these same scenarios (been there) I would have behaved very similarly in the past....'