'The Ex moved the daughter 16 hours away from any family or support on the mother's side. Where he moved, some of his family is there. The last I heard, he was living in a trailer house in Arizona, a...|||@Lauressa It's ok. It's easy to read this as a continuing event. I'll tell you what I'm feeling. I'm angry at her...for leaving all of us. I know that sounds selfish, unfair and completely pointless,...|||From what I understand, she overdosed. But I link this entire situation to that dreadful action.|||Thank you. She was quite miserable with the situation. I hoped she'd be able to pull out of it.|||Thank you for asking. But, it didn't have a happy ending. I ask myself if there was more I could have done...perhaps there was. I tried to help. Maybe trying to help is worse.   All I know, is I...|||@Proserpine  Don't be afraid of your Ne. It will subtlety gnaw at you, and help indicate to you the best time to get him to talk to you. One thing I can tell with my experience with ISFPs - they...|||@Proserpine Ahhh. Yes. This sounds very familiar. :) This is how me and my ISFP friend were. The first thing to remember is...RELAX. That awkward silence that you're feeling, most likely is NOT...|||@only hopeless That's an interesting perspective. I had a great relationship with an ISFP. But it was very very quiet - I figured that it didn't have to be that way, it just seemed natural for it to...|||87606|||I've just gotten around to reading this last response. Wow. I couldn't see it at the time at all. Thanks.  That's one thing I love about PerC - feeling comfortable enough to post a brainstorm...|||Ducky|||@JaySH Thanks Jay. Your input is always appreciated.|||@JaySHHi Jay, I like the writing. But, this situation is so much more serious. My brother doesn't really care about my best interests.  My home was hit by the tornado back in May. My brother is a...|||@dubba_dee Unfortunately, that won't fly. (yes, pun intended) :)  My brother always feel like the victim. Since this actually involvs money, he'll feel left out.|||I'm under a bit of duress, basically can't see the sky because of all the clouds. So, I'd like to ask my fellow PerC community to help me make an analogy, so that another understands my point of...|||Depends. Family and friends, yes...usually.  Significant other, no. I practically welcome being smothered. What space I need, is negligible in that instance.|||I wish I would have went with my gut feeling in college...to become a professor.|||*sigh* ...you may not get in INFP to really open up in this way, or the way you'd like...and I'm speaking mostly for myself. It's just too personal.|||To answer your question: Both. Pursue and be pursued. It seems like NFs, in general, don't like to play mind games (like, being hard to get). We need affirmation, even when we say we don't.  ...|||@dubba_dee ...just like @ATLeow said, explaining these kind of feelings to a mother/father or even siblings and friends, can be soooo very challenging. Being a little different isn't that bad....|||Meliora   Well, it's been interesting to see how things have been turning out. First...he is NOT very patient, but he's doing the best he can. He's appearing more patient, than he actually is.  ...|||@MissJordan   Thanks for your input. Your reply helped solidify what I was thinking. I think there needs to be some time that goes by for this to work, and being there as a friend would probably be...|||I'd love to have some advice about my INTJ friend. This is a little longer than I anticipated.  This friend is in high school, and had an encounter with a girl that was rather attractive. She is...|||I'd love to have some advice about my INTJ friend. This is a little longer than I anticipated.  This friend is in high school, and had an encounter with a girl that was rather attractive. She is...|||@OrangeAppled I know! ...lol I know. That guy, you can't take what he says seriously. He's like a stand up comedian mocking your height/weight/gender or race! He still makes me laugh because he...|||There is nothing wrong with you. You have a gift to give to the world. My entire life, I was singled out by my friends and family - always the listener, yet when a listener needed to be found for me,...|||You know, when I've been in doubt about my dichotomy, it seems to help watch videos that explain the difference. They aren't always right on, but if you watch enough of them, you'll see a...|||@mushr00m is right. You'll find so many INFPs online, which (to me)  is actually kind of embarrassing.  I don't think it matters if you're female or male either. I know a couple of INFP females,...|||ISFX - I'd break it down like this:  ISFP - 55% ISFJ - 35% INFP - 10%  ...lol - at least that's how she comes across to me.|||Our friendship has been great. She's very quiet and spends many moments contemplating things, so I know she has a lot on her mind in general, but she's so adapt at simply listening. She seems more...|||Yes, awareness is the key. This is what I experience, some things seem intangible. Other things can be explained, yet still not quite understood by others.  Example, persona projections. I find...|||I dominated in sports. American football, basketball, track. Captain of the team. I was a running back. Highly competitive. I went on to play football for the University of Oklahoma. So yes, an INFP...|||I don't think living in the moment, means you can't or don't plan for the future. I think of it as an emotional state of being, projecting yourself in that moment - or projecting yourself outside of...|||I've heard the same. ...but I can't remember when I read it. ENFJs can be the most introverted extrovert, and many INFPs can be the most extroverted introvert. And as oddly as it sounds, somethings...|||This is a catch-22 for me. I can be extremely neat and organized, ...a typical perfectionist. But, if I'm not by myself, I simply can't stress it. In other words, if I'm doing a chemistry lab with...|||Hmm. This reply may not be well received. But, INFPs look for deep connections, I think many NFs are like that actually. I have to sense a connection, or I'll continue to search for one, probably...|||I would live in a world where discrimination isn't a part of the vocabulary and soul mates are timeless and attainable.  If there was one thing that you had the power to rid the world of, what...|||...you think your situation is weird? lol - Well, it is. But, I'm *really* not sure how to vote, so I chose other.  I was adopted. I was raised as the youngest child...and one of the youngest...|||All I could think was: Here I go again, because I must have anticipated this moment, for teetering off the edge of the nightstand was another mix of cheap Tequila with lighter fluid, beckoning my...|||Hmm. 4w3 here, and evidently one of few that freely admits it. (I think that @arwen7  can relate)  So, I may appear passive, but I have an internal fiery spirit.  More competitive than most INFPs,...|||Wow. That's so nice of you to post this. But, I have to say - there's a lot of mutual respect. My little girl is an INFJ, and I think she's pretty special...actually, I've gained quite a bit of...|||@Aquarian  Well, it was a great suggestion! I have some excellent ideas on just how to make it more enjoyable for her. It'd be perfect for her mind, and she'll have no pressure at all to fit any...|||Many of you sound just like my daughter, it seems (with a few exceptions), there's something to it. I know she gets easily bored and discourage, but she's young too. And, I usually do a good job at...|||omg, I loved that...I think that girl is a clone of my cousin!|||My INFJ daughter. She's awesome. :) 727747277572776|||I'm not an INFJ...but, you describe my little INFJ daughter to a T. So thankful to have her. She *always* has to be doing something with her hands, art, crafts, badminton, gardening. I started a...|||I have an INFJ daughter. She's remarkable, but one thing in her personality...she seems to get bored VERY easily, and discouraged.  I'll give you an example. I took her to play some pool. Everyone...|||Ah...come on! You all are so shy. Pretend you're an INFP for a moment. :-)  I have a friend that is curious (either he/she is an ISFP...or he/she is interested in an ISFP). Besides, I'm curious...|||Nepal and Burma, only because I'd be interested in testing a theory after reading an article:  Which Country Best Matches Your Personality? | Taken by the Wind | Taken by the Wind  But, I kind of...|||No. When I have, I put on my rose-colored glasses, and still see good. Unfortunately, the reverse is rarely true, because I tend to already see the best in them, so it would only solidify who I...'