'Thanks. It's all mixed together -- grief, envy, regrets and anger.|||Thanks. I am frustrated, for different reasons. 1) She achieved the success I never did. 2) Parts of my family's problems appeared in her work, without our knowledge or consent 3) She was a bitch to...|||Thanks. Maybe I am overthinking it.|||I've been wrestling with this one. Haven't come to a satisfying answer so I wanted to try it out on the forum, see what wisdom I get.  I have a cousin who is very creative. Her writing has won...|||I'm reading The Most Important Person in the Room, doing the exercises diligently each day. It's really helping. I find I'm less tired than before. I used to be exhausted dealing with people. The...|||Thanks I appreciate the offer. I have, however, seen therapists up the ying yang and read lots and analyzed lots. I get the feeling what I need to heal is not words but action. Maybe a pet. Or daily...|||Meditation is excellent. You could also try Chinese Medicine acupuncture. They view depression as another chronic condition like arthitis. It is no different, just an imbalance in the system.|||I have been through a lot. Both parents have died, and I've lost two siblings, one to suicide. The latest brother to go died in December. It's been unbearable. It was a very unhappy to start with,...|||Vulnerability is attractive. But I really hate to see a guy cry. Turns me right off.|||As an INFJ/INTJ with strong F, I've found it hard to fit in. I prefer the life of the mind to XBox and Real Housewives. I just find conventional boring and difficult to relate to. I am now...|||I'm very bad at rating articles that say X study shows people with unhappy families will go on to have unhappy lives. Makes me pessimistic about my own life. I learned a long time ago how crazy my...|||Thanks. I find the situation unsettling but I won't freak out about it.|||Here's the kicker... I wasn't sure before but having had more contact with him... he's attracted to me. He hasn't acted on it openly. He hasn't asked me out or made a pass or inappropriate comments....|||That's what I've decided. Thoughts?|||Last year, I fell into a severe depression. I was even being pursued by a man (he wasn't right for me). I didn't care about being in a long-term relationship for a while. It wasn't even on my radar....|||I so wish this could be true!|||The title of the thread is intended to invite deflating...  But I'm just sayin'. Just went through a round with someone I was interested that didn't work out... This merry-go-round is tiring and...|||I'm so bad like this. I carry relationship inside my head, not realizing that the other person has no interest or has moved on.  But I do think thoughts matter. They influence our energy, our...|||Yes, it's that she is ill and she loves her husband dearly. She credits him with getting her through this.|||That's right. I have to remind myself it's what you do that matters; not what you think. I've admired the way she carries herself, with such courage, that maybe I've idealized her a bit. She adores...|||My friend's friend is terminally ill. We've met on several occasions and I've always enjoyed her company. I met her husband at a party recently -- and dammit, I'm attracted to him. He is an outgoing,...|||I've often heard Life always doesn't hand you what you want. People use it in the context of not getting a bigger car or larger house. Growing up, I thought I can accept that. I will work towards...|||Remember this rule: the best batters have an. 325 ERA. Which means you won't get a hit 2 out of 3 times. This is the rule. Keep this in mind and you won't take rejection personally. I'm a chick and...|||I didn't understand this comment.|||Fuck yes. In a similar way, it's like when I came back last year. She would not/could not accept that I didn't want to interact.|||Maybe it's guilt. I just don't understand why I can't be chirpy around her, say hi, be cheery and move on. I've taken to avoiding her because I don't want to get sucked into her vibe. Last time at a...|||Yeah Rebecca.M -- that sounds about right. Seems to me I am not the only one she'd harbour resentments towards. Like I said, she has to be the centre of emotional attentin/intimacy|||That's the part that puzzles me. It's a vibe really. Controlling and self-centred.|||It's not that she is actively asking me to join in now. But she demands emotional intimacy. If I want to keep to myself or keep things to small talk, it pisses her off.|||It's the control part I can't stand. There's a guy in town I dated briefly. He was so needy that I broke it off quick. He was always wanted to know how I felt about him, see if other men were asking...|||Now that I look back on it, Karen's done things that seem very high school. I passed it off at the time as small-town culture. Like I was organizing a social club and invited her to join, among many...|||It's like going to the dentist. Dread it and avoid or suck it up and get over it.|||You're just so wrong. Absolutely wrong. You sound like you've got a lot of anger yourself that you haven't dealt with. It's blinding you.|||Nope. Just do it, quick and painless. Remember: there are different types of approaches (soft vs hard sell). Talk to the girl about general interests (if she engages, she likes you). Ask her if she's...|||Thanks. Yeah maybe it's a matter of forgiveness. Maybe we're just different. I should accept that.|||I am not sure how to handle this relationship question. It's not about romance (for once!). There is a woman in town, Karen, that I became friends with. Since it's a small town, we ran into each...|||I'm a cautious careful person who is an adventurer. Sounds like a contradiction but it means once I go through with my risky project, I go What the hell was I thinking? I adore that poem --...|||As time draws close, I begin to doubt my judgment... maybe my friend was right. Maybe it's why I haven't been able to meet someone|||He also has two children, one of whom is very quiet and the other who is very emotional. surely he learned to read the signs there.  But it's not just the body language, he also doesn't believe in...|||I felt like a crazy person trying to convince a sane person that something was true. I kept wanting to say Why can't you see it? He kept using the word evidence. He says sometimes I don't have...|||I think ENFJ. He is very in-tune emotionally but he doesn't get the dynamics of attraction. He admits to being baffled. I'm baffled that he's been married 20 years and doesn't get it.|||Thanks. I won't be meeting this guy until later this week. Yeah I'm miffed. Still miffed.|||Jack doesn't understand how staring into someone's eyes is a sign of attraction|||But really, Jack is fucking clueless. Unless it's logical and verbal, he doesn't buy. Which makes me wonder how he's managed to survive being a public school teacher|||And as a consequence, doesn't quite believe me when I tell him XYZ is attracted to me even if XYZ didn't come out and say it.  Jack is a dear friend of mine and a sensitive New Age male. He has...|||Just afraid it won't work. I am so used to being let down by guys or having men tell me how great I am, that they'll always be there for me -- then they get cold feet and disappear. I've learned to...|||She says he loved this quiet, beautiful serious girl, and that he recognized me (whatever that means)|||We've met a few times actually but since I wasn't open to the possibility of romance (long story) I didn't recognize his behaviours. She told me this to understand why he's acting the way he has....|||There's a guy who's part of my social circle. I like him a lot, he's a great guy. I dont see him much because he lives out of town. A friend of ours recently informed me that this guy loved me from...|||Adrien Brody is dreamy. Is he as cool IRL as I would hope?'