'A very good friend asked to make a mixtape for her, and I want to, but I'm having a hard time with it.  We have a different taste in music. Do I make a tape with music that resonates with me, like...|||What if you see yourself as evil, or an act as subjectively evil, like forcing a mother to chose which child of hers will die, and then do that, create that situation, force that, because it is - to...|||Amongst the most evil kind of human creature is the adult, criminal, sexual sadist. Intuitivly adept at what he does he creates primary victims that cannot be processed as victims by the law, as the...|||Intensity is one thing (guilty as charged), but evil, and intimidating, that is another. You don't act in these ways, do you?   One only sees the tip of your personality iceberg, fellow Ni-Dom....|||Hey you all.   Hm. This is an ENFJ relationship issue that I bring to you, but I find now that it actually kind of defies description. Something very strange is happening since I've connected with...|||I have an example. Maybe it makes more sense what I mean if you see what happens to me when I go all preacher.:   The Ethics of Extreme Porn  The premise of the article is: Is some sex wrong even...|||Are you familiar with the sensation of righteous indignation?   Do you ever feel a compulsion to give words the a fire in your belly?  Do you ever find yourself compelled to preach?   I do,...|||I watched Star Trek - Into Darkness this weekend, and I just sat down for a ritual that I've been doing for years: Looking up Ebert's review of a movie I've seen to see his take on it.   Rest in...|||With respect, that is complete bullshit, and verifiable bullshit at that. There are conditions we can treat, there are conditions one must manage, and then there are conditions we can cure. As luck...|||That is of significance how exactly?|||There are so many possible settings for a science fiction show, I don't understand how in this day and age you could still go with one that has aliens that are humanoid. And multiple species that are...|||It's not really a pseudoscience. It's a self sustaining cult. Someone could run with it and turn it into a religion, easily.  The other day I saw a thread here where a woman interpreted her...|||1) What brought you here, and had you digging into functions and types, was it a profound experience for you?   2) Do you think that the MBTI can, or should, serve as an agent for change? Either on...|||I hypothesize that the need to be understood may be a misguided need to know oneself. Misguided in the sense of channeled in the wrong direction. Many here are on a journey of self discovery, are...|||@bengalcat  It's complicated. It is a tool, a means to an end, as am I to her. And that's fine, I'm content with that arrangement. As it stands, at this stage smooth and shiny is still important. ...|||Everyones, except mine. Because in the land of the blistered the two shoe'd man is king.|||newjessie  It's what I tested as once upon a time, but it's come to mean very little to me.   While some people fall prey to definitional systems of personality, seeing everything through this...|||I look at it from a different perspective. I see no value in the MBTI as a definitional system of personalities, merely as an indicator of state of life, and from that perspective, codependent people...|||I can't control what I feel. Just like I can't control what I see, or  what I hear, or what I smell. I can only control what I do with that  information. Keeping a cool head is really what it's all...|||I met someone. Things have been very intense, very fast paced, but going rather well. But, as I get a clearer understanding of who this woman is, deep down inside, I fear they will not continue to go...|||Or, here, take a look at this enfp (I think?) specialized in your exact problem :)   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o|||The trick is not to make it less scary. It's not a defect, it's a feature. The trick is to be ok with it being scary. You lean into it. It's like they say, that having courage doesn't mean you're not...|||Religion is unwise. That's a very old statement, in a certain context, one that I'm personally very fond of, and reflect my own perspective on the subject.  Religion is regarded by the common...|||As far as spirituality goes, Siddhartha by Hermann Hesse is my go to.  As far as good books to read go though, there is a book called Boundaries by Townsend and Cloud gave me the  mental...|||I know one relationship between an ISFJ and an ESTJ, and it's a thing of beauty. You'll just have to take my word on that while I focus on their challenges. It's a wonderful relationship, BUT  They...|||Here is something I found interesting, and have no idea what to make of.   A manipulation tactic that works with most INFJs at some stage of their life is the empathy hook. It takes most of us a...|||Delighted impudence|||ManWithoutHats  Don't you find this line of argument tedious?  I do, so l'll make it short. The state of fMRI right now is that we can record visual data and process it. That is a measure of...|||All of those things can be measured.They are products of our brain flesh, an organic computer, which we can scan. We can make measurements and based on these, predictions. The entire science of...|||If you can't measure something, it doesn't exist. That is what I think.|||I've found writing generatively works a lot better for me, meaning I don't know where a story will go when I start it. Therefore I don't start with ideas anymore, so have at them.   One story I had...|||http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QQrGRR6Su4E  I want to reach my hand into the dark and feel what reaches back, oh my /fans self|||No frowny face. It's just a worst story, with a hint of awesome people in it. I'm in a really good place, and you will be too if you aren't yet. Look at us, we fell, got a couple of bruises, wiped...|||You have as little choice in going genuinely crazy as you do in getting a cold, or cancer. We're not talking about attitude adjustments, or choices, but a breakdown of the apparatus that allows you...|||It's difficult to talk about, still. It involves faking pain in order to game me for my empathy. It involves elaborate and ongoing deceptions. She fucked her patients. She fucked strangers in parking...|||Am I manipulative, since I can imagine using manipulation? Am I self serving or amoral because I can put myself in those shoes, and imagine acting in that way, understand the motivations that I then...|||An ISFJ is the only woman that ever managed to really seduce me against my will. It was her tenacity, and her sincerity, her openness, her kindness, and her force of personality. It can happened from...|||I like to think that it's inevitable, and that it's happening fast.   Every time barriers fall away what constitutes a sense of community increases. It used to be dangerous to go from one village...|||The Paper   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4NeHWLZbs0g  What I really liked about this movie is how out of time it is now. It's an adaption of a stage play, so it features strong characters, and...|||It's not easy mastering ones emotions. It's something that we learn because we are forced to, and that goes for all ways in which we mature. We grow with the challenges that we have to face, with the...|||If you're dealing with a semi competent social manipulator you don't win by playing his game. The fact that he chose you means he is confident that he can beat you at it. I would trust that...|||Profound loss scares the crap out of me. A loved one dying. A loved one dying while I watch, helplessly. Watch them suffer pain and terror of oblivion, and then see them fade away into it. It is the...|||@AyaSullivan Thank you.   You're right that it's not actually a weakness to expose ourselves, but some people do perceive it as a weakness, and are afraid of it. I've met one of those recently, an...|||The incredible capability of the mental tools at my disposal.   It was just yesterday that I once again managed to surprise myself. There's a woman, an ENFP, and we've written each other emails...|||You crave to break, and strive to fear, you don't see that release of burden is so near, that wars are won by losing, and weakness shown by choosing, that love can burn and that it should, and hurt...|||I didn't say something to my ex. Years back circumstances were very complicated, and while we had a wonderful present we had no future that did not also include sacrificing dreams, and plans,...|||It's not a short list. These three are big ones, though.  If they shroud themselves in victimhood and embrace cowardice, meaning those who dispense blame and comfortably wallow in misery rather...|||I'd like to talk about vulnerability.   What does it mean to you, vulnerability?  What situations might make you feel vulnerable?  To be seen as weak in the eyes of others, or to be seen as...'