'I agree with Lord Bullingdon here,  Though, In the end, what even is safety? Is safety just feeling safe? At the moment safety means that, though, feeling safe can be quite dangerous in...|||The problem doesn't necessarily lie with what you should or should not be saying, the problem lies in the fact that you don't say something until it really frustrates you. When we are very frustrated...|||Ever since the glitches started happening my password keeps changing (or rolling back to some unknown password of mine). Every time I ask for a new password, it changes to something else again after...|||Xzcouter I think the general 'let's see if I fit this behavioral mold' is only going to get you so far. Behavior is merely (and arguably a less important) part of the expression of an Enneatype,...|||Thanks for your reactions, everyone! This is somewhat of a monster post, so I tried to organize it a little.  -Kaden   Reality can be very confusing yeah, though I believe it's all about what...|||Sp/So here,  Man, I have been trying to write this post for around 2 hours now, but it's just not working and I'm feeling tense, which is  usually a sign I'm getting anxious about this. Probably...|||A place of health? Hmm, I wouldn't say it comes from a place of health. It is alright perhaps when you are sort of feeling out a new relationship and you are practically strangers. The testing is...|||I don't really think I test people*. For me it's like this: I either have faith in them. I'm talking about a general sense of faith here, not the conditional kind of trust.. I mean it's not all that...|||While I do appreciate the advice, I believe it's something that happens not because people don't understand that they are typing on a merely superficial level, but because they don't see it is a...|||* Aren't you afraid it will chase you? - No * Aren't you afraid of it's size? -No. * The way some of them look? -No... Then you must be afraid that they'll bite you! -No, I am...|||Interested in comments on my typing. Because I'm bored, but also because would like to see a perspective different from my own.  (Posted it yesterday, but it doesn't display for some reason)|||Interested in comments on my typing. Because I'm bored, but also because would like to see a perspective different from my own.  (Posted this yesterday, but it seems the post has disappeared.)|||Interested in comments on my typing.  Because I'm bored, but also because would like to see a perspective different from my own.|||THIS. When I get emotional I'd rather isolate myself, well that is of course in retrospect. If I vent, to anyone or over here, I can pretty much assure you that I will regret whatever it is I've...|||My reactions to the bits of advice for people that want to get along with Type 1:  - Take your share of the responsibility so I don't end up with all the work. I don't see myself as ending up with...|||Well, of course it's going to be at least somewhat confusing if you throw 27 subtypes at people and go and explain them. I believe though that an important aspect in the Enneagram is time. I don't...|||I find it hard to differentiate shame and guilt. Let's define shame as the feeling there is something wrong concerning your character, your nature. And guilt as the feeling that you have broken...|||Hmm, yeah, the time aspect smells like BS. I don't see how temperament is related to that. I believe I read somewhere that age was related to it, something having to do with becoming accustomed to...|||Perhaps, yet one can seek their identity in many ways, while others try and see themselves as more separate and somewhat alien compared to those around them, others try very hard to belong and fit...|||I don't just mean the 'I'm mad at you or a This made me really upset or things like that. Sure you might keep emotions from someone you are intimate with, perhaps because you have no desire to...|||Interesting,  This reminds me of countries, charity, etc supporting certain peoples that are at war, with resources or any other kind of humanitarian help, while in general I have nothing against...|||Fair enough, although I must say I'm really not fond of the term delusion as it seems to imply there is something seriously wrong. I mean sure, we're all biased, but that would make every single...|||Hmm... I think I would reply 'fine' not really out of a lack of negative experiences, there most definitely were obstacles to overcome, but that doesn't make it somehow not 'fine'. To be honest with...|||I was dead set on becoming a doctor. Now I am studying psychology, so I guess I am going to become some kind of a doctor. .. I will be a doctor for the human psyche!!... ..Bit of a stretch, but...|||Sharing emotions in an intimate relationship is more of a must than anything else really, if you're not really willing to share your emotions or really be open with the other person, then how exactly...|||Hmmm.. I don't think I have a really hard time relating to any type, that is not to say that I understand what it would feel like to be that type, it just means I can find something in my own...|||https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9CfiBv-Tm6s|||saph We all wear masks, even if we don't want to and, honestly, like others have pointed out, what is boring is really subjective and dependent on the individual. Sometimes to get along you make...|||Looks pretty accurate to me  and I like the avatar|||Hmm.. I suppose thinking badly of myself and thinking about my future and just seeing all the 'roadblocks' ahead.  I can so often be tricked into thinking that view is very realistic, but it really,...|||I really appreciate you writing this bit of advice. You know I could argue I feel all this fear about people rejecting me, because I used to be bullied or people used to reject my behavior. I could...|||I've been questioning the source of my moods long before I got into the Enneagram or this forum. My worries often seem rather nonsensical to me, but my awareness of the fact that they come from me...|||Favorites:  Vulnerability - Even though this is not exactly a pleasant feeling to have, I do find it empowering somehow. I Believe there is some strength in admitting that I'm afraid of something...|||First of all, thank you, everyone, for responding. Your stories are incredibly interesting reads. I did my best to react to as much as possible, but I'm also having a bit of a hard time piecing my...|||After having been away for a while from both this forum and the Enneagram for a while, I came back to this forum and the theory. Not focusing on being an Enneagram 6 or being whatever type I...|||I learned English because it was just everywhere. I mean it was in the games I played, the series I watched and it even popped it's head around the corner in school. Becoming reasonably proficient in...|||Interesting, though I see now that what I tried to tell you about copying handwriting wasn't clear. What I meant was that I at a certain point wanted my handwriting to look better, and I saw my...|||Interesting! I'll participate too! 397674|||Sorry to interrupt your venting, but I just have to say something:  In the end it's I believe not just yourself you should rely on, the thing is, only you can save yourself in the sense that only...|||Hello there, I currently  identify as an 369.  What's it like to be me?   I think I will start with a little blast from the past, or well not so long ago because I'm pretty young. What I can...|||If think there could be another reason: since it also might have something to do with your Enneagram type. I mean an 8 is going to doubt his decisions far less than a 6 would for example. At the very...|||I wouldn't consider any able-minded human weak, for it would imply (to me) that they lack the capacity to life a fulfilling life, no human lacks that capacity, is what I believe, but definitely not...|||I don't know anything about research on that subject, but I can understand why people would wish to trade their own current mental constraints (that's the name I'm giving to the difficulties one...|||Unfortunately not all children are naturally loving, I'm not sure how the system would mold these children into lifeless drones, after all they stay human, they will still be kids. I would say that...|||westlose A very nonthreatening avatar, though it also shows a bit of individuality and originality, still it is displayed in* such a way that it is socially endearing, but faintly intense. 6w7 -...|||Stupid tritype of mine, it's almost like I can never truly be honest with myself and others because I notice myself copying some of their mannerisms, the way they talk, the words they use, so I can...|||Now first things first, your tough love. You know, it's quite a nice idea to show people harsh truths, but then again you have to hope they will eventually take it the way you want them to. The words...|||:(  But seriously, you might have stumbled upon something, I often find myself in the presence of people, doing such things of course give me some amount of security, though at many points I find...|||Amor_Fati I can see your point, but I think that you do have to take into account that they are just aspects of his behavior, the cognitive functions are a theory after all, there is not always...|||I can relate very much, I do my best to always be polite to people, though my manners.... they are not the best, especially during dinner time, since I can't really eat (inferior Se for the win) and...'