'I see your point and it's something I had never thought of before now.  I agree that of those INTJs I know personally,  including myself,  we all have intense internal emotions about a plethora of...|||I think with age I've become much more confident.  I care very little what others think of me unless they're responsible for a wage increase ;) Still,  I'm with TheTreeBarks as far as contributing to...|||I like to be very comfortable and very understated stylish.  I don't like to draw a lot of attention to myself so I like to look good but in an I'm not trying THAT hard kind of way.  I also don't...|||I have always been incredibly relieved after every breakup. I feel free to be myself and do my own thing again.  However it doesn't mean I don't think about exes from time to time.  I'm married now...|||It's a great tragedy.|||No, I think I understand where you're coming from now. Either premise can be perceived as a risk depending on which way you look at it... however I am still inclined to choose option 2. If you're...|||Hah... this is one of those moments where it appears we are each speaking a different language. You do not seem to be getting my point, and I am not getting yours. It is becoming a circular debate....|||A few people mentioned entrepreneurship with Option 1, me being one. Do you expect to make $360k/year with your business after overhead? I'm not saying it's impossible, it's very clear that it is...|||A tenant using space they haven't leased which impedes another tenant who actually leased the space from using it. SEEING RED. It doesn't help that this tenant has made it his mission in life to...|||I have a theory that could be completely wrong, but I'm thinking that perhaps those that lean towards the first option are younger and less experienced with money matters/careers OR have experienced...|||I didn't read every page, but most of them. The reasoning was different. It was not about free time and time > money for those that chose Option 1, it was more about the fact that in Option 1 you are...|||I suppose you are right. However, I think the most surprising thing I have found in posting this in the INTJ sub-forum is that it appears that most who have chosen Option 1 appear (IMO) to be giving...|||Hmmm... Let's see. My husband and I are both INTJ though incredibly different in many ways. I read this thread a few days ago and have been trying to examine my actions to see if these apply to me...|||My two cents on this one...  I have always been an extremely protective sibling as I am protective of all the people I love dearly. I would rarely ever stand up for myself as a kid because it just...|||I've noticed a lot of people choosing option 1 because time is more important than money. I agree with that concept, and I feel the same way. However, I chose option 2 for the same exact reason. If...|||Hmmm... I did not factor in different locations around the globe as far as the monetary value is concerned. I answered under the assumption that 40k/year is enough to live comfortably on and put away...|||Here's my thinking on it...  Originally I was leaning toward the 4 hour/40k job... because you are in fact making much more hourly at that position ($192.25 per hour vs the 80 hour/400k job at...|||A few people brought up the question of enjoyment of the job. I edited it to add Assume you enjoy both jobs to take away that factor.|||Borrowing this one from the INTP forum which borrowed it from the ENTP forum.   The original thread on the ENTP forum:...|||I thought and thought about this one.   Originally I was leaning toward the 4 hour/40k job... because you are in fact making much more hourly at that position ($192.25 per hour vs the 80 hour/400k...|||Ahhh, yes... your vision matches mine. I'll take that palace and have a mountain chalet as my second home :)  Right, Fi makes more sense for the music/mood aspect.|||Ooh, I need this one right now. We sometimes get so bogged down with the things we don't like that we forget to appreciate everything in our lives that we love.   1. The first cup of coffee in the...|||Ugh, I had a Biology exam in college that I still remember. I pulled an all nighter studying. Granted, I had completely stopped paying attention in class once I realized everything I needed was in...|||Looks like our definitions differ a bit. I rarely give excuses for my failures or shortcomings... if I half-ass something I know I have the potential of failing, I'll own up to that. I'm the first to...|||Sounds like you're taking on responsibility for the outcome of your friends' behaviors. If asked for advice, or if they're telling you about something and you feel compelled to offer your wisdom......|||I love Latin dance. It took me a few years, but I've gotten very good at it. Now it may be because I'm anticipating my partners moves because there are certain moves that almost always follow a...|||What I got from the definition was that self-handicapping is not making excuses but is more about sabotaging yourself or quitting something before you really give yourself a chance to succeed or...|||I had to look up the definition for this one, but once I read it I realize I do self-handicap.   The definition I found:     I do it often and have for most of my life. I was actually thinking...|||Makes complete sense to me.|||Yes! This! Exactly this. When I'm given a task with a little more leeway for creativity, creating a more efficient system, or something challenging, I'm all in. I didn't think about that, but it's...|||I can tell you for a fact that those INTJs are not a myth! My husband is in his 30's, and I bet if I hadn't met him until his 40's with even more time to age and mature I'd be just as crazy about...|||I hope so for you too!! *hug*  Having all the qualities on this list does not mean the relationship is perfect, I don't believe that exists. It just makes it easier to deal with the tough things...|||Hmm... makes me want to work harder. You're right, I am paid to do it. The thing is, I do get it done when it's supposed to be done, I just don't fully exert myself as I used to.   I'm definitely...|||I've found that it's not type dependent for me, but completely individual. My mother is an ESFJ and we get along very well. We're able to recognize our different viewpoints and speak those, but see...|||Question - When you have a job you find unsatisfying, do you still give it your all?  I've been with my company for 2 years and have enjoyed it for most of that time. It's a good job; I have my own...|||I'd say I used to fall pretty hard and quickly... but just as out as in really. I made the mistake of often putting my SO's on a pedestal and making them into what I wanted but what they weren't. The...|||I've definitely had some fictional character crushes, and still develop them!  - Mr. Darcy (Obviously) - Spock (Not until the newer movie franchise) - Barrens (From the Fever series by Karen...|||ENFP Mother,  You are doing everything right. Keep doing it. If she hasn't recognized the differences in personality and how others show love and affection, she will. Regardless, keep on hugging...|||I had a list like that before I met my husband... then I ripped it to shreds and threw it out of a window when we got married.  After many failed relationships in the past I was more open to the...|||I always have a sort of escape route where my feelings are involved, so my behavior would reflect that. I'm extremely independent and have no problem being alone, so I would likely feel a certain...|||Generally the guys I had crushes on had already shown me in some way that they were interested in getting to know me. I reacted by making myself available for dates, phone calls, texts, etc... I...|||Truth.|||Hah, yes. It's not necessarily all sunshine and daisies. I'm actually married to an INTJ 3w5 (I'm 5w4), and we have a very strong and happy marriage. Everyone is different, even if they have a...|||I have been both on the giving and receiving end of this one. Let me tell you, being on the receiving end hurts like a bitch if you care about that person.   I can site several examples of exes...|||If he ends up coming fully clean with her, which is what it looks like may have to happen at this point, and you don't want to lose her as a friend... perhaps you can send her the link to this...|||I have traveled alone a few times. When I was in Mexico for a study abroad I took a trip to a coastal town in the west. It was... heaven. I took surfing lessons, I met some interesting people, I ate...|||Whenever I get to feeling that I'd like a reset, and I do sometimes, I focus on what I can do right now to be the person I wish I had turned out to be.   There's still regret. I do sometimes go...|||After reading the responses, I think perhaps the thread would have been more accepted had it been prefaced with In your opinion.   In my opinion, those three words were a given.  In my opinion,...|||I'm an INTJ 5w4 - and I feel VERY deeply. I have very strong emotions about things, and that's not a rare occurrence... it's just rare that others see it because with negative emotions I'm analyzing...|||Rather than using the language of fact when I don't know every detail, I'll say something regarding common sense, laws/rules, or something along the lines of unequivocal (which is similar to...'