'I admire your cleverness in trying to beat the system by tricking your mind into negativity in order to produce the opposite.  :)  But, as you probably already know, you and I aren't built for that...|||Jared A. , have you read Getting Things Done by David Allen? I find it's a nice system to get things done in a practical way that doesn't get too terribly caught up in mission statements and such. ...|||You not only calmed my fears but made me laugh with your handy scales.  :D|||There is a truth that I feel on the inside that is set in my inner being like steel.  And then there is Truth that sometimes validates my truth and sometimes shows me to be a liar.|||Hmmmm... probably Belle.  She very sweet.  But I think she's romantically set forever after.|||ThirdArcade ,  I am sorry to hear of your heart struggle in this.  I think if I understand your story, you are right that you can't really step backwards into the friends role with any comfort at...|||I believe that's the first time I've ever seen the words exercise, mushrooms, and marij**na in the same sentence.  LOL!  Please be ever so careful though, my friend.  You are such an eloquent...|||- The feeling that I've offended someone. - The feeling that I've hurt someone innocent. - Judging. - Empty run-down buildings that were former places of business. - Passion for a goal without...|||Hi Cable.   It's interesting to me that you thought that most INFPs would be touch and quality time, because when I read this thread, I assumed most would be touch and words of affirmation, which are...|||My results were about 50% accurate, and I think that's because I have a random-thought generator in my head that can produce random answers out of nowhere that aren't necessarily anchored to who I am...|||What a beautiful web site and concept!  Congrats!|||Why not? The Marines could always use INFPs.  I'm guessing that if it's a mistake for you to be involved, you will know as you progress through the early stages of ROTC.  You don't have to sign your...|||To Elenar , the man with beautiful writing skills, nice taste in art, and knowledge of beings from other worlds:  may your discovery of other like-minded people be only the beginning of your healing...|||I need to place myself into a story that I have enjoyed, or a story that I've made up, and see myself moving in it.  Like I'll imagine I'm on Deep Space Nine, and I'm fighting the Dominion in slow...|||I have a strong need to know that when it comes to being an INFP, or any of the other categories that I fall into in life, that I am not alone.  And really, that's what draws my into this forum.  I...|||I think of values and desires as being in the same category -- we reach for these things and ideas.  Emotions are the reaction to whether we get them or not.  I value respect so if don't get it and I...|||Hmmmm.... Well, I'll take a stab at it, and I apologize if it isn't helpful.  For me, emotions aren't, in and of themselves, motivators.  To me emotions are reactions to what motivates us.  I see you...|||I need my Sensing friends and family in my life.  I need reality checks.  Sometimes I'm so far away riding a unicorn/zebra hybrid to the tune of Knight Rider that I need someone to bring me to...|||When I took the Myers-Briggs test, I thought I got the wrong results, because I have always enjoyed performance.  They called me a closet INFP because, to others, I looked like a more gregarious...|||Wow.  dog8food , your post reads like poetry to me.  I feel as if I could have written that at many times of my life.  Thanks for that transparency.  I work so hard at avoiding pain.  Sometimes I...|||For me, living is dreaming up wonderful life and pursuing those dreams with vigor.  However, the harder I pursue, the more stressed I become, and the less connected I feel to those dreams.|||Verus , first of all, I am very impressed that you are 13 and know your personality type well enough to articulate it.  Wow.  Let me also try to encourage you that although you will always have masks...|||Like orangesicle , I find myself being mostly my normal disposition in dreams, but very occasionally, like goldaline , I go into hero mode, with super powers and end up saving the world through my...|||Like @Cheezdude, I'm not one who ever wanted to live alone.   When the house is full of people, I enjoy listening sitting alone doing my work listening to them bustle around the house.|||I chose mine because its my line of work -- that and Elenar was taken.  Dang!|||Breton I know your frustration, and I feel sad to think of you struggling.  Just to encourage you, although there isn't a quick fix, it is possible to learn to be friendly and pleasant to be around...|||I have been bullied in my school years.  I did try to fight back once, and it ended up that the bully walked away because I was crying so hard.  I do think my disposition gave bullies courage to pick...|||I see you've already been talked about yello but since you are there I'll take a shot myself.  I feel have a beautiful sense of art.  And not just one artistic discipline either -- you seem to...|||I am an INFP, but I don't know any other self-proclaimed INFPs personally, so this might not be totally accurate... but here goes.  I love what seems to me to be a powerful connection emotion without...|||I do feel lonely regularly.  But I also feel overstimulated regularly, so I need to be alone.  It seems that if I could control with precision the amount of time I spent alone and with other people,...|||Since I'm not allowed to change anything, I would go back in time, hide somewhere, and watch my first kiss.  But I'd hate for anyone to discover I was watching -- that would be really difficult to...|||Many thanks for the warmth my friend.  It feels good in here.  :)|||So sorry you had a bad day friend.  I'm hugging you from afar.|||I'm hugging all of you in my mind... cautiously... wondering if you are all too good to be true.  :)|||it is difficult being an INFP.  But I've met a lot of people, and I have yet to meet someone who I would consider completely normal.  One of the advantages to being an INFP is that you can see,...|||reduce   No problem at all.  Yes, I think you are right.  In hind-sight, a lot of those would-be relationships would have been quite disastrous had they moved forward.|||Hi!  I'm one of the producers for 'The X Factor.'  We understand you would be a perfect replacement for Simon Cowell!|||Exactly. I know I am -- to the death. But I doubt that's the impression I give to the casual observer.|||IcarusDreams I apologize as well to you.|||reduce .  I apologize for offending.  Those stereotypes weren't my intent at all.  I was trying to figure out why you came to the conclusion that we are natural doormats and that all women need to be...|||Dreamon, this is quite a fascinating post -- thanks for taking the time to articulate it.  There is an inherent weakness with us INFPs that, I think, is a turnoff to potential mates and friends.  Not...|||Bless you for putting this into words.  Any ideas why these characteristics are somewhat boring to the world at large?|||I really like your ideas about the balance of emotions.  Certainly, only accepting happy, fun, and peaceful emotions and rejecting the unpleasant ones -- that would make us one-dimensional.  I do...|||I'm driven to find happiness.  If I haven't felt happy or pleasant for awhile, I will find myself, almost involuntarily looking for it.  Some thoughts...  I've always understood emotions, like...|||I've guessed that to be true -- girls go into that relationship thinking I'll keep what I enjoy and change the rest.  I have to admit that I've gone into relationships with that thought.  But if I...|||Naruto's Hinata - INFP|||I always thought that all girls wanted a nice guy that would be romantic and treat her well. I had a ton of crushes over the years that all ended with the phrase you are like a brother to me.. :)...|||When I'm feeling down I find myself getting obsessed with one thing or another. I believe I would really get into drinking -- big time. For that reason, I avoid it.  I really doubt I could be...|||I actually get very frightened that something I've said to someone will be taken as something hateful and mean.  I do a lot of over-explaining myself to make sure I'm not accidentally offending...|||Hi peterbreter,  Thanks for your post.  I think I understand your quest for happiness.  And your conflicts with debt and career-versus-relationship struggle are familiar to me as well.  I hope you...'