A curse, aye?    Awww, the good old bargaining with your alarm clock trick...  Do you, guys, feel like these thoughts are plaguing your mind only because you have to sleep or... is it like...|||Do you guys tend to suffer from sleeping problems?  What are your thoughts prior to sleeping? Does your mind wander to different problem? Do you have an issue 'shutting down' your mind? Do you tend...|||Dunno... It did happen to me a couple of times. And when it did, I had no idea what was going on. And it was sad, because they were people whom, I was kind to because I wanted to be helpful, never...|||Yes, devil's advocate is fitting. My friends got really frustrated with me, when I defended various points one day and their polar opposites the other. I didn't do it to annoy either... I sort of...|||The staring is not the problem. The problem is when others notice that I stare. The usual 'what are you looking at?' and 'stop looking! I can't stand your eyes on me' following are not nice. But I...|||The Princess Bride by William Goldman.|||You have a hard time, aye?  I don't find it myself too easy. In my encounters I always end up as a sort of reflector of how others feel. And ultimately, it is very tiring. It takes alot of patience...|||Just don't overdo it. Imagine people starting to criticize you to please you, lol.    Yeah, yeah. Reminds me of my gran's advice: Don't speak up and never say your opinion. Don't get noticed....|||I do not think that is exactly true. People may not forget, but they may shift how the thing that happened to them shape their lives. That is healing. Wounds don't disappear, of course they cannot be...|||People define good with bad, because that is how we rationalize it. Doesn't necessarily mean it should be thus defined. There is lots of points in fantasizing, because that can be the craddle of...|||Impassioned message? Maybe there is a serious fault in communication. Maybe they misunderstood you. That is the cause of many many problems between people. However, if it is so, I find it best that...|||Hm... that is terrible, this means you practically didn't even have a proper closure. I don't mean to be forward, but have you thought about finding them and confronting them? As I understand they...|||Only the thought makes you itch with allergy, aye?|||Have you thought about apologizing? Or clearing things up?|||I am sorry for your losses. Can I ask if they stopped talking to you after a particular fight, or they got more colder gradually, before parting ways?  Also, I understand now that this is a...|||I think the best way would be to hang around people with developped Ni? Interpersonal skills are best learned through mocking and assimilation, I think. So try to find people that seem genuinely...|||With the cave allegory thingy... well, you have to take into account that people's souls are full of fear. Exiting your comfort zone to explore something that is new to you is not exactly easy, even...|||I think I actually find that intriguing. At least when you show that you do care, I don't know... it seems less phony. Albeit can be percieved as unbelievable. Besides I think it is fine, it can be...|||*coughs incredibly loud* Should I take that seriously? I mean I gather that it's true that you may not connect with anyone/everyone. But come ooon, you guys can charm your way through the most...|||Oh but I agree. If things were perfect I'd have no work to do. BUt fantasy is just that, aye?|||I deeply envy you for your intuitive gran. Do they succeed in standing up to the... ahem 'master' at his own game?|||I used to be awfully suspicious about that. Especially as altruism not being one of you guys' priorities. But then again I am awfully suspicious about anything that breathes... And nowadays, somehow...|||About a potential unideal world. ^_^|||So it's all about equal exchange... I feared as much, hah. I kid I kid... aye. I noticed that ENTPs have a knack for making people uncomfortable and pushing just the right buttons. So this is were...|||Oh, I see why it's important to be inspired by NF. Though being an NF is no guarantee that ones interpersonal skills are apt, or inspireable for that. But I find that NTs can be inspiring to me as...|||That seems fair. On a bigger level, I believe this is how most people come to get attached to certain things. I think 'feeling fake' should be disconsidered for some people, as it tends to sound to...|||Heaven help you yo not have a crush on someone who has Bieber Fever...|||Hm... Doesn't that make you feel regretful afterwards?  I don't mean the part of trying to please and woo the other person, but the part about morphing into someone else. Then again you are talking...|||Thank you for your input. I am deeply sorry for your friend.     What is wrong with being you? I believe Thinkers are very much likeable. Why do you think NFs are 'seriously likeable'? I...|||Weeell thanks for letting me drain you with my question. I will keep in mind what you said. Won't.ask.irrelevant.question. Do you like icecream?|||That made me laugh really hard. It is good to know. Thanks! ^_^|||Do you hold in high regards people you are asking advice from? Are you very selective about those? Do you usually seek advice from firends, or someone you percieve as a higher authority in the...|||Apparently I am a masochist. Enjoy me while I last.|||Yes, yes lots of questioning involved. However, doesn't that appeal in the least to your narcisstic side?|||Hm, yes this was what I was afraid of. Being percieved as a judge of the soul. Thank you for your insight, it pointed out things that I have been willingy neglecting.|||Kudos for emotional manipulation.|||In an ideal world people would have the willingness to be genuinely kind and willing to solve problems cooperating in harmony. Also, as a rule, icecream would be freely distributed.  Tell me about...|||I am sure many people would appreciate your talents. Sadly, norm life is just that a big bs. How wonderful would be a life without being forced to change your inner nature.|||Just one, really, but that lightbulb must deserve change.|||I do inadvertedly change to please others, not so much for a need to be accepted or loved, but for a need to not be in the spotlight. I do not really care about people who have a problem with me or...|||Schmucks, I cannot believe I am here again... And researching the INFJ-ENTP dynamic at that... Anyhow, I have this question: How do you ENTPs feel about being on 'therapy' with an INFJ? INFJ tend...|||Oh, I agree that an emotional involvement furthers your role as a helper. Of course you cannot be apt in helping people without a fair share of empathy, which will enable you to understand things on...|||I think the key to your dilemma is in the fact that this place, discussing about emotiona among other things, naturally has as a conclusion people opening up. As well as you have to keep in mind that...|||Does it matter... I do not know... That is what I am trying to figure out... I know in certain situation people are feeling comfortable with me on an advanced level, but sometimes I fell like my...|||Awww, you little Scrooge. Do you really think it is manipulation? This leaves no room for genuine emotional interaction in my opinion. Perhaps having to deal with the emotional side of things tends...|||I don't know... like the fact that we have firm beliefs of right and wrong? Or that in many cases we can be stubborn and uptight if we deal with something we morally care about... That is the main...|||I doubt it would occur to anyone else to do it...|||Usually I have no interest in distinguishing between counselling and befriending someone. The lines are very clear. When I listen to someone I don't care about emotional attachment, as my only goal...|||Lol, what kind of delusions? What you talking about, good sir?  Now, excuse me I have to go and feed my Unicorns now.|||I cannot argue with that point, people do let themselves to be jerked around alot, but then again everyone is just trying to live and cope as best as they can.  Of course that fighting for my...