'Thank you very much for your thorough and helpful answer! :) I will definitely apply your advice. :)     What a trying time in your lives! I hope you two will be friends again someday, even if...|||Update:   Things have been moving forward the past few days. ENFJ seems to feel more comfortable around me. His behavior is loosening up a bit, like he knows it's safe to say things in my presence...|||Ha ha! That was perfect! (Okay, it would have perfect for ME, lol.) But I think an ENFJ would find your gesture extremely sweet. I really like it because it was thoughtful AND funny. Good job putting...|||As an INFP, I can super-relate to this. I used to feel that if I were paying attention to one group of friends (or person) that somehow I was being disloyal to another group (or person). It really...|||Details! Details! :happy:|||If you experiment with this, it would be really interesting to hear the results, for better or worse. :)|||Hmm. I've been thinking about this, and it's difficult to give advice when your subjective experience is so foreign to me.   But ... I have noticed in NTs the ability to decode a situation in...|||Sounds like you all got along pretty well, though. :)|||That's funny! :laughing:  What was it that worked between the two of you? Did you never feel judged?|||Love the Cthulu.|||I'm sorry to hear that. (I didn't know ENFJs could have worst possible times in their lives, LOL.)   Why did it suck?|||I'm asking what INFPs thought of their experiences dating ENFJs because I'd like to hear it from the perspective of my own kind. Other types are welcome to respond, but I'm particularly interested...|||I profile EVERYONE. I look into their motivations, their actions, anything I can wrap my mind around. But only those I'm interested in on some serious level, whether it be friendship or more, do I...|||Thank you for this, jungify. I understand this completely. I'm watching him to see where he has planted his walls, and I know I have hurdled at least one small one, possibly more. A few days ago he...|||If you can, bounce off of what she is already talking about. If she is relaying an anecdote from her life (or anyone's life), respond with, This one time I was . . . Then, if she hasn't already...|||Dulcinea, thank you, thank you, thank you! I see what you mean now. And in my mind, it really elucidates how a J might handle a relationship differently from a P.  Or maybe it's just me.   From...|||INTJs. So cute, yet [place themselves] so far away! ;)|||Gotcha. Thanks for the help! If I make progress (or not), I'll let you know. In the meantime, if y'all think of anything else to add, I'm listening! I'll be in my corner plucking up some courage. ...|||Now take a deep breath, relax, and change your mood to content. ... And let us know how it goes. ;)|||Thanks for telling me this. It gives me some hope and more strategy to work with. :)    Umm, you don't mean, like, tell him how I feel about HIM, right?? You mean about stuff in general?   ...|||Once she begins, I predict things will move quickly. I mean, with the whole opening up thing. :)|||Wait. What? Why would they need to hide feelings if they only want a friendship? There would be no feelings if they only think of the person as a friend, correct?    (Oops, sorry, I deleted too...|||Thanks, Einstein, that really helps. You've given me something to chew on.  Leave it to an INTJ! :)  Am interested in hearing from others, too. :)|||There is a thread on here somewhere that mentioned ENFJs showed their romantic interest by sharing personal information.  I'd like to explore that further, because what one ENFJ considers personal...|||Thanks, you guys, so much! Thank you for being understanding and not judgmental . . . and ever so helpful!   Today I was going to apply your recommendations, but I didn't get to see him. I have...|||Looking for some sympathy here.  I'm an INFP, and I have a crush on an ENFJ.  It's the first time I've met one, other than my brother.  But I just found out he has a girlfriend. I'm bummed.   I'm...|||The only thing I can think of to say here is . . . try to enjoy the agony.  :tongue:|||My thoughts exactly, especially reading through this thread.  Shared philosophies:  1) cooking sucks, but ya gotta eat, so might as well keep it easy and simple  2) limit social contacts: too...|||Have you never experienced this feeling with a romantic interest?  (Not judging, just curious.)  :happy:|||Jeeeez.  :shocked:|||I think it hit a sore spot with some of them (hence the new thread for the topic), so whether it's ok is debatable.|||An INTJ with a lack of closure?  Maybe a heightened *desire* for closure, which if not achieved may bring anxiety.  Believe it or not, it was indeed an NF who used the word retard (an ENFP, if I...|||Such as?   If a person is mostly unemotional, then any pain that is felt is felt like a pin-prick rather than a knife through the heart, right?  So, if you have failed relationships, what do you...|||I have wanted desperately to take revenge, but never have. I had LOTS of dreams about it, though!|||Sorry, I think I had my timeline screwed up, something that happens inordinately often. :sad:|||Precisely.  That's what I meant by both types being able to use their inferior functions, but it isn't worth it to you (in the sports analogy), so you don't mess with it.   I got a D in calculus. ...|||If you think of one, let me know!|||Question: Are ISTPs emotional retards?   I think of the F in ISTPs the way I think of T in myself: there's just not much of it there.   If you were to put a calculus equation in front of me, I'd...|||Without going back and reading the whole thread again, I'd venture to say that it should all be relevant to INTJ-INFP relations.  :happy:|||You *might* want to wait until after the two of you have reaclimated yourselves to each other following the summer break.  Think of it as a warm-up period.    Or just go for it! :laughing:|||I'd be careful to put too much stock into what feels like an (instant) connection.|||Yeah, getting that badly needed affirmation is like taking a breath after having been under water too long.    But he still should have found a way to contact you to let you know his phone was...|||You know you're an INFP when you realize it would be unwise to marry another INFP.  Both parties would risk starvation and homelessness! :tongue:|||It gets better.  <<<hug>>>|||When you pay for the gas . . . but drive off without putting the gas in.   Twice.  Yep.|||Lucky: Any experience with qi gong?  I'd like to try it myself.|||I don't know about other INFPs, but what you describe is very much like what I experience. :laughing:  My family thinks I'm crazy.|||Agreed.  And not only does it require balance, but it first requires a desire by both parties to put in the effort.|||Guess that did seem a bit harsh, LOL.   The thing is, once a critical mass has been reached - and then surpassed - permanent damage has usually been done.|||No worries!  :tongue:     Yeah.  I would have been suspicious had I not heard some of his coworkers/friends discussing it with him.'