'My few cents:  1. We tend to kinda blame ourselves when any kind of relationship goes wrong (even if its just a love interest that never turns into anything). So I'd say if you want to help her,...|||Hi,  Many times in life we may end up in situations where everything can seem dark, bleak and without any path out. I've been there myself. The loneliness makes all of the despair seem even worse. ...|||Just talk to him. But keep your boundaries straight, if he really did hurt you he should know this, but also know that you want to forgive him.|||There is no such thing as an ENFJ villain...|||Expressiveness, honesty and humor.|||1. It can be overwhelming, especially if it feels like I'm fighting on multiple fronts (the people in question not being completely open to me helping them AND their problems being difficult). I find...|||Be supportive in whatever way you can.  ENFJs dont really crash and burn, except when we feel we've lost the support of those around us or feel let down by them. If that doesn't happen and we don't...|||As friends, very well.|||Take a step back initially as to avoid being in our range right when we are angry. Then as we've cooled off a bit (few days later), approach us with something totally different, while being perhaps a...|||Hmm I think its different from person to person. Some ENFJ's are extremely good at hiding any sort of emotions from anyone who they don't consider close (myself included).|||Give him a bit of space, then ask him to hang out and just ask him face to face. No pressure, just keep it light and mention how he seems a bit distant and you think there's no reason for it as...|||Sorry, but I have to disagree with this.   In general, we strive for harmony and for those around us to feel good and happy. When they do, we do too. Both because we feel like better human beings...|||Am I the only ENFJ who deals with a lot of mood swings ? Or is this something others can relate to ?   I mean I am quite a perfectionist when it comes to anything and I have high expectations for a...|||That, or a lot of things which we find to be wrong or unfair piling up (towards us or other people who we care about).|||In my opinion it usually happens when we get fed up with people. We'll generally avoid conflicts or showdowns, if it means that harmony will be upheld and if we still see the people in question as...|||Poor cat :(|||Thanks for your post.   I'm sorry if youve met some bad ENFJs. On a general note I feel I need to point out a few things (general, as there's always exceptions): 1. Emotionally unstable ? Yes, I...|||A few of the reasons as to why I think she's an INFP:  - I can usually feel people quite well (hurray for ENFJ!) and she reminds me a lot of a few other girls who actually took the test and are...|||Great advice, thanks a lot !   So far, the only move I've made has been to add her on facebook (I don't have anyone else from work on it) and then I liked her profile photo. Sounds silly, but...|||Yes, you're right I don't know her type for sure. Just have a feeling its INFP from the way she acts and behaves.|||Anyone have any stories they're willing to share ? (good stories over bad ones, preferably).   I have a crush on an INFP coworker. There seems to be chemistry between us at times, but I'm usually...|||Daydreaming seems to work for me.|||And then, at the same time, remember that life is too short to hesitate or to not go after what you want :)|||You can't make an ENFJ omlette without some eggsies ! (i guess)|||That's because we can get you to do whatever w.. Hey! Did I mention you look really nice today ? :)|||I consider the following to be both the toughest, but also the most rewarding part of being an ENFJ:  The constant battle, with its victories and defeats, of trying to push my passion and idealism...|||I prefer the discrete look, with a bit of subtle colour variety:    http://costumei.com/pictures/2013/05/Kramer-Dressed-In-A-Pimp-Costume-In-Seinfeld.jpg|||I can get rather passionate and outspoken during conversations, but not really emotional (at least not in a way in which I would show it, while still being able to continue the conversation :) ).|||Very well said, especially the part with the intensity for people we really like.|||Tell me about it... I have to beat them away with a stick.  But on a serious note, I know what you mean. This ENFJ flirtiness is so hard to control at times, because I dont even realize I'm doing...|||1.  I wouldnt call it a sacrifice. But we are generally more than willing to go the extra mile for others, without expecting anything in return. And we feel its worth it as long as we can make...|||Sounds like ENFP to me.  We ENFJ's are not that laid back. We are always busy trying to motivate people to join us in saving the world (or some sort of grand cause).|||No offense, but wouldnt it be easier to take the test ? (like the rest of us mortals:) )|||Answer is yes. It's normal for ENFJ's and its not uncommon that we do stuff like that, even with people that we have no romantic interest in. However, in your case, where there's a romantic interest,...|||That video is cringe-worthy ...|||Just stepping into this out of couriosity, how do you know she's ENFJ if I may ask ?|||For me, it goes somewhat along the following scale:  1. Controllable negative emotions -> No. No point in showing weakness, or stirring up negative energy if I can avoid it. Instead I'll pack it up...|||I think we have an introverted side thats always present, even when we're at our most extroverted moments, in the midst of other people. Its the side that has us daydreaming, the side where we keep...|||I CAN express them really easily. But I don't usually show my true, inner, personal feelings to others... unless its someone I trust.|||http://fc00.deviantart.net/images3/i/2004/111/0/e/Don__t_feed_the_Troll.jpg|||http://cdn.meme.am/instances/500x/57474698.jpg|||I'd advocate going for the indirect approach. ENFJs love meaningful friendships and relationships. Just be open and honest and keep touching on deeper topics with him in your conversations.   At...|||Perhaps he acted on something which was a spur of the moment kind of thing(we routinely get carried away by impulsive emotions). Then he realized it would be wrong, since he has a girlfriend and...|||If you don't mind me asking, why would you want the relationship to be meaningful if you are both moving away in the near future and you see things ending there ?|||It means taking a step back. Out of the river flowing with emotions that we bask in and which tends to overwhelm us at times. Exactly because we might feel overwhelmed, or because we need to assess...|||Yeah seems like it. Him giving you his number and actually comign close to you to say goodbye means he probably liked you, more than in just the confusing over-friendly ENFJ way I'd say.  Try to...|||Nice turn of events :)|||Player :P|||^Hehe, your story reminded me of a similar one I had, very typical for this kind of naiveness. I was in my early 20s standing on the bus. Out of nowhere, this girl standing next to me starts...|||Think it's a very common ENFJ thing.  Happens to me all the time, this naiveness that you mention. Feel as if the line between being nice (and genuinely interested in someone as a person, not...'