'^^^Loved this.    Plus lavendersnow white cat pose.|||Read Coming up for Air by George Orwell.  A middle-aged man disappears for a week back to his childhood town/village.  Recommended.    Disappearing wouldn't be to see if someone would come to...|||Didn't he?  Well maybe that would be too unreal to have a dad like that, like something out of the movies... But if you spoke those words, accept the truth of your own words ...  as you say, many...|||not understanding the PPPs.  Pink political photos.|||Maybe INFJs should give their views and opinions more ... from the heart and the mind  ... a dilemma though  ...|||I like.  But whats with the Mickey Mouse holding hands with the scary creature in front of the burning car?|||Well I thought what you said was deeply poetic.  And if your dad truly said something like that you are truly blessed.  Coming from the deep south (of South London, England, lol!) I thought what you...|||Problems with giving opinions?  Sometimes I'm happy to and will fight for them.  Other times less so, because :-  1.  My deepest views and values - that I will be misunderstood or judged.  This...|||P.S.  I don't follow politics in the States much, though we have lots of pictures of Trump in our newspapers who are 'shocked' with some of his remarks.  However, perhaps in true INFJ style - I think...|||I'm from the UK and for me the word liberal has become more and more a pejorative term.  For me, political liberals live in a privileged world usually cut off from real difficulty.  But they still...|||As I understand it, Ni is not always immediately 'verbal'.  Our instant intuition can be fast but perhaps relatively unconscious, at least to begin with.  So you get an impression of something, a...|||I think my post had two agendas, reflected in the answers ...  First, sorry to go on a bit!  But I was distressed by counsellor's reaction.  I guess (Fe) tried to smooth it over at the time.   It...|||St Elmos and Hppygirl, thank you for your comments.  I was taken aback too that the counsellor didn't understand what I was getting at and  seemed to immediately go down the 'pathology' road.  It...|||Nabbit, for a few years I tested INFP, before sudden change to INFJ which has remained the same for a long time.|||Generally I would guess INFJs - fairly open, expressive-faces-trying-not-to-give-too-much-away but failing miserably.  I am sometimes taken back at how closed, flat and expressionless many peoples'...|||Interesting.  For the record, I should add I think overall I feel born this way, so a strong disposition I would say, though with society and family expectations playing their part.  But I am...|||I saw another thread recently called Fe is magic on auxillary function Feeling Extrovert, which was interesting.  In it, the poster referred to an article of the same name by Stellarmaze, which I...|||Just wondering.  I showed a new Counsellor I saw only a few times a page of INFJ material.  She seemed to think it explained what was wrong with me as a result of my childhood, which she knew...|||Thanks hppygirl! I am glad you kinda get where I am coming from. Another book arrived on my doorstep yesterday.  The Orphan: A Journey to Wholeness by Audrey Punnett, in case it is of interest to...|||Yep, agree about being aware already, at least to some degree.    But my added extra-take is that maybe we also miss stuff e.g. appreciation!  Maybe sometimes - equally - people might find it...|||Thanks to everyone's contributions.  Further thoughts on this .... those brain cells are sure working hard!  I was reading about Jungian archytypes yesterday*.  I think that kind of feeds into...|||So very much what Rather Unusual says here, it kindof explains what I think I am trying to get at.  And why perhaps we sometimes feel so isolated.  Also really appreciate what umop 3pisdn and mystiko...|||Yeah, lol, when I get attention / appreciation / validation - I can feel quite confronted at times and don't really want it!!!!  Its like it messes with my flow ...  But it can be nice if done...|||First off, just feeling a bit sorry for myself this afternoon :-/  I was just wondering why INFJs often feel unappreciated and unseen, and if anyone could shed any light on this.  I think perhaps...|||thinks: FGS, stop boasting about your kids! says: nothing  thinks: why do you think you're so great? says: nothing  thinks: God, why, why why on earth are you so bossy?  how does anyone around...|||[QUOTE=Khiro;24438794]I was, but then I experienced what it's like to be hated and it's not as awful as I expected. I actually think it strengthens you a great deal because you're forced to accept...|||[QUOTE=tthomas;24225786] ... because INFJ people's hidden agenda is to be Healthy ....  Interesting tthomas, I kindof get that agenda, though I can't put it into words exactly .... but thank you...|||Personally, I don't have a lot of people running up to me for free therapy, which is a shame as I have a lot to offer, lol!   INFJ's can be a little standoffish you know, maybe we look like we might...|||^This.  This New  Year  I was around a lot of different people at a gathering.  The people nice and really enjoyed some of it.  But when people are rude, bossy, or boring - I do feel like I need to...|||oops ....|||I think I said these are the questions one should ask oneself.|||Hppygirl's comment, reminded me of an article Shameless and Loveless I read a year ago.  It argues that sexual shame is a good thing and that it can have a protective value.  It is a Schutzgefühl...|||I also wonder if INFJs more likely to be single.  I am in my 50s, and have been single all my life.  To be honest, I wish I had realised  it earlier on and made more of it in a way.  Though I think...|||Yes, I think that is what I was trying to say .... and the downside of tying you down to obligation to convention or   As I read yesterday a quote from Anais Nin   I disregard the proportions,...|||I'm from UK, but always found this American expression fascinating.  I believe it has its origins in political policy sponsorship, lol.  For me it means, you are given a reality in which you are...|||I loved the Dubliners, one of my favourite short stories ever.  I did read Hesse in my teenage years - I found him somehow.  PRobably in a library here in the UK - who knows how INFJs find what...|||Yes, I think I totally get what you say Fabi!  The quiet, inner knowing of childhood before we had to learn fancy words to explain ourselves!  I sometimes still feel it.  And I think it is a great...|||I have found what helps is to keep going.  Having an enquiring spiritual mind can be a great blessing.  I finally found my Faith and my Truth (Catholic).  Albeit after many atheistic and Eastern...|||1. Have you ever considered suicide?  Regularly I think, especially from mid-life onwards, though mostly vague and passing.  Its usually to do with pain and related feelings.  2. Have you ever...|||Mostly true.  I was in a supermarket this morning, buying biscuits, and talking to an employee as I tried to pick them up.  An impatient couple strode up; the woman said something and the man...|||Interesting thread!  I have a thing about wolves too.  And owls and snowy owls!  And I like horses very much though I have no contact with them.|||Things I might do:  1.  Try to work out if there's anything I can do. I will either think about it, go on forums, google it, very occasionally seek advice (though usually advice doesn't help much),...|||Gosh.  Just come off the phone to my son's school.  Not being kept informed of anything by the school office.  Staff member being passive aggressive and stupid and refusing to take responsibility...|||I had a strange realisation last night ...  I'm a typical sensitive INFJ plus been in difficult circumstances many times in my life, perhaps partly through my idealism, partly fate.   I know I...|||^^^ You may be right, it may be the kinder gentler option; it could be that simple.  I agree its always about putting themselves over others too.   I have reflected a bit more, and suspect that...|||I kinda don't like to get involved.  But if I do something in the real world, i.e. step outside my home and open my mouth(!) my experience has been you .....  get .... involved.  I do like to...|||I think we also find it completely confusing when people behave badly for no obvious reason, when we never would (if we could in any way help it anyway).  Maybe that's the crux!  We're just totally...|||Columbo.  What else?!|||InTheRockies, thank you.  I read your link thread MakingCuts, and was, like, wow.  The ENTJ door slam is mostly simple, quick and painless.    They don't look back, or even sideways. ...|||I have been thinking about this quite a lot recently.  I came across the idea of INFJ 'door slam' a few months ago, and its been quite an eye-opener.    I realise there are several issues at work...'