'I go to Scotland in a week! Very excited!   Will be visiting a friend studying at the University of Edinburgh - we're taking a 1 wk. road trip all around the highlands, then spending another wk....|||Great, just another straw to add to the I'm a freak magnet pile:  I have been spending the last few months in social withdrawal, regrouping and focusing on me... Just when I was feeling better...|||I dislike my sister's latest bf. He seems controlling - says things to her like, There is only one person in the world who cares about you more than anyone else - me. God forbid anything happens to...|||reisiger The word 'cake' is also of Viking/Old Norse origin, apparently. From 'kaka,' though we've changed it to cake.|||I'm sick of people always looking to me to provide them with direction, aid, whatever.   I don't want to be woken up at 6am because you can't make concrete plans, have no alternate ideas, but you...|||Does horticulturist work?|||返事を待っている... 美しい夢?|||I wish to learn this too! There have been so many instances where I tried to rent a car overseas, only to be told they're fresh out of automatics with a disdainful look. One lady in France actually...|||Day 4 of my sister's nonstop bitch-fest. Nonstop screaming, getting pissed off at everything, jabbing fingers in people's faces, spewing invective for hours on end in her room...  She really...|||I'm sitting here smelling faintly of chlorine from swimming. Love swimming/being in water. Hate the chemical stink.   I wish pools didn't need chemicals............but I understand.  Looks like I...|||I wasn't sure at first, so I decided to just ask. The latest guy, Pat, was gracious enough to tell me that he didn't like how I made him feel ignorant about his own job. He works in corporate tax...|||I'm not sure why my sister thinks it's okay to constantly talk down to me, take everything I say the wrong/in a negative way, and treat me like shit... but I'm not allowed to even ask her for...|||Speaking of online dating, I'm surprised by the number of guys I run across who are intimidated and secretly put off by a gal who's actually smart (book & street), and very inquisitive by nature....|||And today was going so well...  My sister took the wrong train and ended up 2 stops before ours. She's screaming at me right now for not picking her up from the train station and telling her to...|||Why can't people be braver. Why are people so afraid of connecting, come what may? If we both feel something, and I reach out, why do you shy away?|||.|||My ex once made fun of me for being old-fashioned/almost quaint. So what? SUCK IT, LOSER.|||For me, it boils down to my friends thinking they know what I'm thinking, based on what they think they know about me. However, I never reveal all of myself, and people rarely ask or test for other...|||Give me HUGS! Or just touch me in a loving way.  I don't mind if they can't seem to say lovey dovey words, but at least show me with your body!|||Signed up for the PADI Open Water Diver Certification. Here we go.  When I'm done with that, I'll go for the advanced.  NYC is a shit place to try to do this, but that's what VACATIONS are for!|||reisiger  That was a fascinating and eye-opening wormhole you just sent me down. What a convoluted and crazy history the region and its peoples have. (I will never understand what drives people to...|||Traveler?  Hehehe, Afrikaans is his first language. He grew up in Cape Town & Namibia.  Thanks so much!|||Thanks. I love second and third party opinions - it's always good to have perspective since I'm SO BLIND.   He's originally from South Africa, and seems to love living in Iceland (6 yrs. and...|||...........My friends want me to mail a note to the guy I liked in Iceland. They say I have nothing to lose, so why not? I agree that there's nothing much to lose...but I find myself feeling shy...|||I've been inspired lately to look into getting a scuba certification. I finally have the means ($) to actually get one without hurting the bank too much.  Traveling and exploring eases my...|||I met a soul that seemed very much like mine in Iceland. I wish I had a chance to really get to know this person...   It was just one of those moments of instant recognition, except your...|||Off to Iceland tomorrow, yay!  Anyway, been trying out this online dating thing... and it's been total crap thus far. I have the kind of face that makes creeps want to jump out of the woodwork at...|||All my closest friends are INFPs! How did this happen?  They drive me insane, but at the same time, for me, they make the best friends.|||I've been waiting 2 weeks so far, which is probably nothing, EXCEPT when you're the one waiting for the reply! (Nah nah, tamp down on the cray, b...) He goes on every day in the afternoon, because...|||Thanks for the list of possibilities! Made me laugh.  Now, pulling my head out of my ass, I'd actually like to know how INTJs view online dating.   Is it a necessary evil?  What would drive you...|||Just hi, I like what I saw in the profile, and I'm interested.  Meh, I'm not one to force interaction, but I really liked what I saw, and we appear to have very similar viewpoints/mindsets/etc.|||An INTJ 'liked' me first on a dating site, and I'm definitely interested. Sent a message, but no reply. What's up with that?|||There's an INTJ I see on OKC that I really want... I messaged, and no reply. Judging from what the INTJs say, it's going to be never or forever before any reply comes.   My friends say I'm being...|||Crimson Ash  Ah, thank you for answering.   This is me now. I used to get stuck in the wormhole of What if...? but realized it was doing me no good. I need the question to be answered, despite...|||No, but I would love to. :kitteh:|||I went to the INTJ forums and it was... daunting. I find them... more vociferous than us. I guess it's that love of argument/debate.|||I have a preference for INXX, though INFPs sometimes annoy me.   If I knew what the filter was, I would do it in a heartbeat. I've edited my profiles so many times just to see what would work, to...|||I find that I have this overwhelming need for privacy about many things, my love life being one of them. Anyway, despite that, I'm trying to overcome my fears about loss of privacy, and joined 2...|||Am I a friggin freak magnet?!  Just trying to overcome my trepidation with regards to the loss of privacy caused by putting a shingle up on the online dating sites/apps... BUT, getting constant,...|||ientipi  What if the INTP is the one who doesn't want to let go? Should they just be cut off?|||Told a friend I don't feel we're really friends anymore because so far it's been 90-95% upkeep from me, and only about 5-10% from them.   This is a friend who won't speak to me unless they need...|||How do INTPs end friendships? Is it just pushing the other person away until they give up?|||Have been spending time getting over the INTP ex. Can't quite seem to divest myself fully of the pesky old feels and the last twinges of hurt - they keep cropping up from time to time. I'm usually so...|||The 2 friends I'm going to Spain with tomorrow haven't planned jack sht, and left it all to me. Wth? La la la - FACEPALM.|||One day I'm going to own my own place and the insulation/sound proofing in the walls will be thick so I can't hear anyone that doesn't live in there with me.  I can hear the damn whistling from the...|||I usually chuckle when I'm somewhat amused, but when I truly find something funny, it's hearty (and apparently infectious) peals of unabashed ringing laughter.|||I'm taken for an extrovert if I'm around my friends, even if it's only one of them. I need familiar faces around and then everyone starts thinking I'm an extrovert.   I was always super shy in...|||I finally have internet after a week of waiting. I swear... Verizon mostly hires fools for their service center.|||Ugh, I don't know how my sister can watch TV from the moment she wakes up until she sleeps, for days on end.|||No high hopes here! I'd like to finally meet someone a bit more spicy/caliente! I can't do vanilla for so very long.'