'Honestly, I think this has a lot to do with intimacy and trust. At least that's how I've always looked at it. The more intimate you are with someone, the more you trust them, the more you'll take...|||I do idealize people close to me, but I tend to keep that idealization to myself. Sorry all you wonderful people out there.|||I second that. :tongue:|||Sometimes, I think there might actually be a great deal of value in the lack of a emotional response. It keeps you in that logical troubleshooting mode that is sometimes necessary to really get to...|||When I have a problem, I usually call out to my ST friends/family. I feel like they have a way of keeping me grounded. When I reach the point where I actually feel like I need to discuss a problem,...|||As an INFP myself, I'll try to explain our occasionally bizarre behavior in this types of situations:  We are introverted feelers. Which means we're almost always going to consider a situation...|||I miss being in love, or any strong emotion at all. Been feeling a bit numb lately.|||Put simple: Tests are quite unreliable.|||5w4 sx/sp - reporting. I'd recommend reading the 'timeless Enneagram Article Series'. You can find it on this forum.|||That I have built my defense walls so high - that rather than protect me they have left me in complete isolation  That I'm genuinely unable to love  That I'll never find true happiness  That I'll...|||I think all of the points you've raised are somewhat obvious ones. If you don't mind me saying so. The phenomena you describe is precisely why a lot of people turn to mindfulness. There comes a point...|||Actually per the system's logic, every single INFP is FiNeSiTe - in precisely that order. Think of it as an engine those functions are the integral parts of the machinery. What makes it run. Tho you...|||I'm not self-centered, I'm an introverted feeler. I use that one a lot.|||Some of us male INFPs have a real problem with being romantically aggressive. I know I do. I'll be extremely interested in someone. But I'll feel like I don't have any right to be aggressive - when...|||The thing is that, due to our function order, Ne is the function through which all INFPs naturally extravert. So yeah, extraverting Ne would mean giving it more room to operate. I've found that in...|||Nope! not poking my fingers into this hornets nest.|||Yes! I remember telling someone how I have no idea what the proper emotional response is, ever. It's so frustrating when you know exactly how you feel, but you couldn't tell anyone because they...|||http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8hURcDA6u08  Broder Daniel - Army of Dreamers  We're not strange We're just sleeping We all just drift around We're not trying We are dreaming We all blend in...|||The more I want to open up to someone - the harder it becomes.|||I certainly recognize that in myself, and I've been trying to wrap my mind around it to come up with a reason why I act this way. I think it has to do with our need to feel passionate about the...|||Hmm, I always won hide and seek when I was a kid. Never thought of it like that tho.|||http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-v0lUYbf7gQ   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=djLRO8wjdKw   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rrBeWxGnV9A&feature=related|||Reevaluate everything, again.|||Affection is a very complicated feeling for me. It's hard to explain but basically affection is always accompanied with a great deal of anxiety. I desire nothing more than being intimate. There's...|||I'm not so sure tossing the guy in jail actually accomplished much. Sure, technically speaking he did commit a crime and should be locked up. But I think that what his imprisonment actually...|||indecisive|||The government would probably penalize it. Which would open up a huge black market for dream-machines.|||Do Men Find Very Skinny Women Attractive? | Psychology Today|||In short: Fe - We Fi - Me|||Feeling like I had the chance of a lifetime, but I let it slip through my fingers.  Oh, when will I ever learn?|||Ok, so I've been trying to explain the MBTI to some friends, and they've been asking for links. Do you guys know any good pages to start your research into the MBTI? Aside from the PerC-articles.|||For me it's more about the feeling they provoke in me than anything else. I'm definitely not measuring according to any objective scale. If the feeling isn't there, it really doesn't matter how...|||I almost feel like I use melancholia as some kind of a safety-blanket. A way to avoid dealing with the world. I wonder if melancholia ever can be anything other than a means of escape.|||Trust me the anxiety will catch up with you in the morning, 'least that's what drinking does to me.|||To me authenticity is more of an ideal than practicality. The authenticity-ideal is expression of your genuine ideas, feelings, opinions without them being diluted by the external world. As...|||The only thing to do is to come to terms with it. But I find that it kind of comes and goes, depending on the day. On a good day I'm fully at terms with my awkwardness - I embrace it. Thus turning it...|||I think I can. It's trusting my judgment enough to go with it I have a hard time with.|||I think this is a pretty cool motif for a tattoo. (Say wired round your arm.)  http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/2/23/One_Ring_inscription.svg  Personally I don't have any tattoos and...|||Been called stubborn my whole life. That's not about to change. I'd think that most Fi/Ti-types might be considered stubborn from the perspective of a type with an extroverted judging-function. As...|||A simple sms: You're my hero.  That has to be the sweetest compliment I ever gotten.|||I'd like to try being any of the Fe-doms. They're lovely people. It would also give me more insight and practical knowledge on the differences between the two F-functions.|||What strikes me is that you might be trying to make too big a leap. Wanting to accomplish everything all at once. Which might be dragging you down, as you feel like you've somehow failed for not...|||Just remind yourself that it's the quality of the experience not quantity that matters. When you finally get around to doing all the things you've wanted to, the feeling will be so much sweeter....|||If the inhabitants are hobbits, sure.|||Hahah, I love how that's exactly the expression you have in your avatar. :laughing:|||Balance. 10char|||I'm not particularly fond of evo psych, either. I find it a little bit too unromantic for my tastes. But if I may argue the point on it's behalf. I'd say that they would call into question the...|||I agree with you about intellectual attraction. I'm just not sure if that could not just as well be incorporated into instinctual attraction as well..know what I'm saying?|||I'll second this.|||I've been wondering. Do you suppose that all of these lists of attractive traits really are just rationalizations? The real attraction being all in biology, body-language.   The order being:...'