'Angelfish-  I really enjoyed reading your post.  You seem to have a lot of really good insight into the IXXP ways.  I agree with you that I have definitely played a huge role in the whole...|||Laguna-  Thank you so much for sharing a bit about your experiences with me.  I am happy for finally met someone who knew how to have a healthy relationship, that it came at the right time for you,...|||Laguna-  Thank you so much for sharing a bit about your experiences with me.  I am happy for finally met someone who knew how to have a healthy relationship, that it came at the right time for you,...|||Hey friend!  I was thinking your ex did sound like some sort of unhealthy ESXX type.  Seven years is a long time and I am definitely glad you finally decided enough was enough!  I sure am feeling...|||I agree with you that he wants to let go and that something is obviously hurting him that he is unable to move on from.  I think it has to do with the fact that when we first started dating, he did...|||He normally tests as INTP/INTJ (most commonly INTP).  I agree with you about the timing thing and I hadn't thought about it so I am glad you brought it up.    It seems like our timing was definitely...|||Thank you for apologizing.  It really means a lot to me.  We were pretty much like a couple who has been married for 10 years.  I bet we spent more time together than some couples who were married...|||I know what you mean about those quiet guys going off and you never know  what’s going on with them bc they give so little information.  We tend  to think out loud and put a lot out there on the...|||Laguna-  I know you are trying to be nice and helpful with your post, but I honestly found it hurtful.     I explained earlier that the lack of sexual desire was because I was in an accelerated...|||Another Lost Cause-  You seem to understand his thought process very well, which makes sense since he typically tests as an INTP.  He normally does look back and realize that he was the one causing...|||Thank you for your sympathy and for your honest advice.  I agree with you that I shouldn't take him back.  And I definitely don't think he values the relationship as much as I do if he can just...|||ASME-  I seriously can't believe you guys had feelings for eachother for 10 years and neither of you said anything.  Was it really awckward hanging out with him knowing how you felt but being so...|||Thank you, Vitamin.  It's really hard losing the one person who really knows me.  I feel like I have lost a part of myself.  But it definitely helps to know that someone else has been there too.  And...|||Thank you for defending me, Diamond & bringing me back to reality.  You're right about me trying to change myself to make things work, which doesn't actually work!!  I know I can't change him I just...|||Vitamin-  I can see why you would think that he is a selfish person.  His actions as of lately (the past year and a half since he started grad school) definitely have been such.  But when I was in...|||When I was younger,  even around 25, I was much more impulsive.  If I wanted to buy something, I would do it whether or not I could afford it, even if that meant not paying my bills on time.  I can...|||You are constantly scaring people away that you are in relationships with bc you are so intense, but you know that you really love that most about yourself because at the end of the day at least you...|||Hey Adro!!  Thank you so much for the hug & for taking the time to read/respond to my post.  I think you are absolutely right that I need to draw the line.  I definitely have a hard time giving up on...|||I think meditation helps me to really be in the here and now.  Also, exercise seems to help calm a busy mind quite nicely.|||I dated my IxTx boyfriend for 3.5 years on and off and we just broke up a week and a half ago.  I have been having a hard time with the fact that I have lost my best friend and also the only person...|||ENFP here and I do not want children.  In fact, I was on a date a few weeks ago and the guy started talking about how some couples who don't want children end up having them anyways and they are glad...|||Well, there was this ESFJ and my cousin and I were partying with him and his friends.  Halfway through the night, they decided, without asking me first, that we were going to spend the night at ESFJs...|||I get in trouble with this all the time.  I am very blunt.  And my dad (an ENFJ) hates it.  He wants me to be nice all the time, especially at family gatherings.  I end up ignoring people instead. ...|||coconut cake.|||My father is an ENFJ.  He is a good person, but he was definitely too hard on me growing up. Then again, I was very sensitive.  I needed more of the unconditional love/support versus all of the...|||I will not hug someone repeatedly if they signal to me that it makes them uncomfortable...I tried hugging an INTJ only once and he just stood there, so I never did it again.  I do not enjoy making...|||I don't know if people like me.  But at this point in my life, I would rather be well-respected than liked by everyone.  Most people don't matter in the long run.|||I tried the online dating thing, but I found it to be very overwhelming.  It's hard for me to filter through all that info.  Also, I have to meet someone to know if I like them.  But there were so...|||Rim, you might be right.  Perhaps I am an 8w9 or something.  I have tested as a 9, 5, 1, and 7.  But I do tend to look very 6ish when stressed out and 3ish when healthy (which is now), which is why...|||I am an enneagram type 9 sx/sp and I tend to be intense and passionate, yet somehow very withdrawn.  I am assertive and I will immediately stand up to anyone who messes with the people I care about...|||I like that INTJs are OCD because it makes up for my lack thereof.|||Sometimes I wish I were an NT so I wouldn't take things (like failure) so hard.  For instance, my friend is an ENTJ and she is able to walk away from a bad relationship and immediately start another...|||yuffy, I know what you're describing...it's annoying when someone tells you to be honest and then they correct you.  What's the point of asking us our opinions in the first place, if you don't really...|||I don't currently have a bff.  My ex-bff was an ENFJ.  My current friends are ENFJ, ENTJ, ENFP, and INTP.|||Any date that is very unlike a date will work with me.  Going on a walk, going on an adventure, anything that is low key really.  Be sure to make me laugh, but please no schmoozing.|||Muchaparadox, these are not people I actually dated, just people I was interested in.  It never actually got to the dating stage.  I agree with you though, especially the last sentence.  I am not...|||You are so intense.  You scare people away.|||I prefer dogs, but I have never actually had a cat before.|||As a child, you would get bored and run off when you were with your parents in public places and they had to get you one of those leashes for kids.|||Chickydoda, I don't know about ISTJs, but INTJs definitely do.  They don't realize that giving an apology isn't about giving into someone's feelings or even about feelings at all...it is about...|||Angua,  that sounds like a pretty nice deal.  Do you ever get to visit him?  Does he have any single friends? ;-)|||Sheppard, is that true?  Perhaps I should start looking for an INFJ then.  I know a female INFJ.  She is lovely.  Where do you guys hang out??|||I tend to be distant when I really like someone if I don't know if the feelings are reciprocated.  INTJs give little to no feedback, followed by frequent criticism, especially at times when I am...|||This sounds like BS to me....most of the smart people I know are also somewhat attractive.  However, I will say that a great mind is much more attractive than good looks, at least to me.|||When I need to be productive and it is a task that I do not want to do, I get angry about having to do it and this makes me more productive.  Sometimes, I get angry at myself and I tell myself that I...|||I seriously dislike babies.  They don't do anything except cry all the time, they are completely dependent on you for everything, and they are boring.  I don't mind them when they get older (around...|||My mom is an ENFP and she has always been a great mom.  I am good with kids, but I don't want to have any of my own because I value my independence and freedom too much.  And when you have kids, you...|||My father is an ENFJ and he is the most extraverted person I know.  My mother and I are both ENFPs and we are much more introverted.  My friend is an ENTJ and she is more outgoing than I am.  The...|||You have been scaring your crushes away since middle school because you  are so intense, but you don't really care that much because you feel  like you are happier alone than you will ever be in a...|||I frequently look around at work and watch to make sure everyone is OK.  I am very protective, especially with patients. But I don't typically stare at people because it makes me uncomfortable when...'