'My whole life I've worked really hard to not screw up and be successful yet I still find myself unhappy and lonely. Funny how it doesn't really matter how hard you try. I suppose we have a higher...|||What if part of the fun is getting caught?  Cat and mouse isn't fun unless the cat at least gets to swipe occasionally.  I'm almost tempted to created my own scrabbletray dupe.  We could have a site...|||Small takeaways:  Just getting out of a two year relationship is a cop out.   He needs to choose whether he wants a relationship or only a FWB, and realize that FWB can get trumped and ended by...|||He is risen...Happy Easter, everyone!|||1) It was cheap (big scholarship offers) 2) It had my major (and was a very good program) 3) See #1|||I think most people are complex.  We all of varying life experiences beyond just our personality.  Dealt with different problems.  It's just tough to see that deep unless you are really close to...|||Hahaha...given this post, I think you're gonna be just fine.   Sense of humor always goes a long way too.|||Be kind and be yourself.   We're still males, not aliens.  Do your typical feminine seductive stuff (personally, I like when girls ask me out, but that's probably not true for all ISFJ males). ...|||Yeah, you have to watch completely relying on the stereotypical descriptions.  I'm certain that I'm ISFJ, but also not all that traditional.  The schedule thing is true and I also don't...|||Lol!  I want to play that version!|||No clue.  I have lots of people who think I'm an extrovert though.  Usually in MBTI tests my I vs E scores are close to balanced, but they always end up I, which I am certain is accurate.|||Hey, we need to talk...in private. Usually works pretty well.  Especially if you sounds slightly angry. Typically we're a little self conscious and don't like when people we care about are upset...|||Yup, sounds like he's overdue for a Hey! What the hell!?  I wouldn't be shy about it.  Straight up call him out--sounds like he deserves it if you two were that close before.  Might be that he...|||Dating sites are kinda lousy. If you don't like clubs, hit up a coffee shop.|||I can relate.  Though I think it's more discomfort and a sense of is this really worth the effort than actual fear.  Maybe fear if it's someone I really care about and I'm really nervous they might...|||Not even remotely close.  Seriously a hand is better :dry:|||:Smilies3: All the girls in the room gonna be like :jupiter:|||Who says they don't help?  If you're with a steady partner, you learn what they like and you put at least some focus on that.  It's completely possible to have sex and only the guy or only the girl...|||:eek-new::eek-new::eek-new: Is vagina envy a thing?  Cause that sounds kinda fun to try just once :drooling:  Now back to drinking beer and growing chest hair to forget I admitted that...|||I'm not an INFP, but I'll answer just to help get your thread started.  Successful:  There's a lot that goes into this, but I think the first step is getting your own life together a bit.  Finding...|||I'm sure they want the best for you and don't want you to miss out due to fear. We all have a short time on this earth--taking some risk is worth the reward.  And remember that the people who care...|||There has to be some behavior differences based on gender, but I doubt ISFJ males and females really think very differently. As for emotions, I keep them to myself since I doubt anyone cares to know...|||It's really sad to me that so many say that religious has negative connotations.  I suppose that's probably the result of fundamentalists terrorizing people and hypocrites in search of power...|||Nothing wrong with self-guided study, but my beliefs definitely drive me to try to deal with other people.  We all have shortcomings and we all need help, right?  It's their problem if they react...|||Ok. So I guess that means that religious people are spiritual but not all spiritual people are religious? Practicing faith outwardly means you do it inwardly by default but some people only practice...|||I've heard more and more people say this, but I don't really understand it. I always thought spiritual and religious were synonyms. Don't they mean the same thing?|||How is it sin to be tricked? Sounds more like you were victim to a dishonest guy.|||I only tease the people I'm most comfortable with and like.  I wouldn't guarantee it's flirting, but I generally find that the same qualities I value in friendship, I also value in a relationship. ...|||I really like it when a girl actually walks up to me, tells me I'm cute, and asks me out.  It shows courage and self-confidence and is really sexy (and it's only even happened once, so I certainly...|||For me it's a bit of a catch-22. I want to go out to clubs and meet girls. But as an introvert, going and doing that kind of thing by myself is exhausting. Probably the public place I'm easiest to...|||I know how you feel. Hope you find peace sooner than me.|||It's definitely a good thing not to blindly believe anything someone tells you.  You have to explore things for yourself.  But I'm sorry to hear that pulled you away completely--sounds like perhaps...|||Hmm...my only suggestion is to try to work on the skill of empathy outside of these difficult situations.  Ask to understand how someone feels when all that emotion (such as anger) isn't directed at...|||I would probably be at work with the rest of the poor schmucks who didn't get the day off.|||I've got a very technical job, and it works perfect for me.  I know ISFJ's often love serving people (and I certainly do), but I tend to get a little too emotionally attached.  It's a relief for me...|||Like to cook (especially for people).  Dislike doing dishes.|||Done...but you have to come back and post your results!|||If you really like this guy, why don't you ask if you can come visit him  for a week?  It would give you a chance to explore your feelings for  each other, and might make for a very fun vacation (and...|||I love being approached by pretty much anyone.  If I need space, I'm usually not in a very publicly approachable  location.|||What if everybody made a genuine effort to keep in touch with everyone who has been a significant part of their lives.|||I don't have any experience with anything you described, but I would think what you're dealing with transcends type.  Mothers will do anything to protect their children, and they can't deal with...|||The most fun way to find out is try out all 5.  Even though everyone has a primary, that doesn't mean we can't appreciate all 5.  Mine is physical touch, but I sometimes wonder if that has been more...|||I'm not really sure that I have an ideal.  I'm most attracted to girls after I get to know them a little.  Somehow a sweet heart and happy/friendly demeanor dramatically improves their...|||Be happy you had such a wonderful experience and don't worry so much. Either your relationship will survive or it won't but there isn't much point in worrying about it.  Control what you can control...|||I would recommend you stay away from the South, Texas, Midwest, and rural areas.  Your best bet might be a city on the east or west coast if you're looking at the U.S.|||Does it matter whether he's very interested or not?  I think the more important question is whether you're very interested in him.  If you are, ask him out.  If not, go about your business as normal,...|||Sorry to hear you feel this way--I have a similar situation, and I don't have a significant other in my life.  My only suggestions are to make sure that you are adequately reaching out to people...|||I have many similar personality traits.  You can label them as you wish, but I definitely consider them feminine.  My whole life, I've had more trouble relating to guys and making close friendships...|||It's pretty much assumed that the first couple of dates are always casual.  After that just talk to the person you are dating, and let them know what you're thinking and feeling.  If they think...|||I think a lot of this comes out of a lack of commitment in general.  Ideally, when you make an exclusive commitment to someone, you are agreeing not date other people.  That means you don't go...'