'I am totally objective about my flaws, the ones I see in myself. But I do not want anyone pointing them out to me. No thank you. Unless you prepare me gently. Because I will take a small critique...|||Birthdays are for gratitude. On your birthday, you can be grateful that you were born, that you are alive. You can be grateful to your mother for birthing you, and your father for contributing half...|||Two INTJs on a date. Plan the date together. Or each of you plan one part of the date and coordinate to make it work well together. Like, you decide where to eat, and he decides what to do before and...|||How is thinking the world runs on cause and effect the same as a domino effect? Cause effect does not mean one domino, one line. It means, my actions affect the world, just as yours do. As did the...|||This is why I appreciate the internet. Meeting other like minded people.   This lack of empathy used to bother me about myself. I saw it as a flaw. I worked hard over the years to improve my...|||INTJ good at math, here.   However, math past basic algebra is fairly useless unless a person is pursuing work in a field where high level math is necessary. It may be good brain stimulation, but...|||I find it most difficult to have to tip toe around the INFP's feelings. It seriously drains me to have to be so sensitive. I can appreciate the INFP, but I need more naps when they're around.   If...|||I want to shout, I'm bored! but I actually have too much (boring stuff) on my plate. I am not unfulfilled I don't think either. My last therapist said I was, unsettled.   The best way for me...|||Certainly. I am so INT without enough S so that no matter how I want things to be, I can't always get the job done myself. So I surround myself with ISFs who love me so much, they do the S work for...|||I turn potential debates into opportunities for other people to express their POV without feeling judged. In my head, I am tearing apart their argument, and I might gently suggest that there are...|||Rather, they give me life, a reason to live.   I didn't mean to sound callous. I meant, I enjoy observing and learning about and understanding them. For me, having pets is not about warm fuzzies or...|||I am also an INTJ with complex PTSD nearly resolved.   I experienced much healing from EMDR, which I did on myself and then eventually with a therapist.   I was also helped by learning how to...|||You know you're an INTJ when you regard people, pets, relationships, parenting, health, fitness, food, housework, and self-improvement, all as science projects.|||Can you swing the other way? If so, how does it affect you?   I'm an INTJ, but there are times when life pushes me the other way. I end up needing to be more extroverted, for example. Here is what...|||Which personality is good at house cleaning? Probably an ISTJ. I'd like to be that, for about an hour every day.|||Another vote for harmony is truth.   Only say what needs to be said to settle with harmony, and if you are not interested in reinstating the relationship, state that as well. That does not detract...|||What you describe is impatience and entitlement. Impatience is definitely an issue for me. Entitlement is not connected to materialistic type things, but upon reflection, it's definitely there,...|||Why all the guesswork? If you like him, tell him so. He'll either decide he likes you, too, or not.|||Of course internet people count! Though I do find it uncomfortable when 'friends' post personal pics on their FB feed.  Regarding your mirror comment, as a child, when I cried, I would go look at...|||I know I have relaxed considerably now that I understand how others perceive me. When I'm asked, 'what's wrong?', I simply remember to switch on my human face instead of getting irritated or nervous...|||After 23 years of marriage, I am secure in my attachment. That, after coming into the marriage with RAD, is progress.|||INTJs for sure.   TMLT to enjoy fishing.|||ESFx, I think.  TMLT rescue an abandoned puppy because it will die otherwise, rather than because it's a sweet little puppy.|||Definitely a believer in G-d. To me, it's much more pleasant to live my life believing in G-d, than the alternative. With G-d, I'm never completely alone. I've been in a foxhole several times in my...|||I'm very much a perceiver type. I wont wear a mask but I try to be pleasant and accomodating. Not all thoughts need to be shared, which isn't a mask, it's just wise.|||He is toxic, for sure. I'm sorry you're getting bullied by him.  I'd try witty humor back at him:  Double date with John.  Though that may instigate more toxic waste from him.  You could...|||In order to be the best you can be, you have to recognize your strengths and accept your weaknesses. People don't actually change much, what they do is make better choices. We come closer to our...|||It is self-defeating to dwell on the past, I think. The fact is, you are married to an ESFJ, and you need to figure out the science in that. I see the biggest conflict in the E vs I. Finding a way to...|||Intolerant of lazy? That would be a self-hating INTJ.|||Obsessed health freak here. Workout for hours. Eat a strict diet. I get frustrated though, that when I finally find obsessive bliss with a specific routine, I get hurt and have to adjust it. Or when...|||I'm an INTJ and my son is an INTP, so I know that personality quite well. I can tell you that I am one of the few people who accepts and understands him, and appreciates and enjoys him. We have...|||When you are the mother of a large family but you sit in the living room facing the computer with headphones on and music blasting.  ETA - and when everyone is home, you sneak off to the exercise...|||Dancing is great. No small talk required.|||If by procrastinate, that means, sit there and do nothing, then no. I'm rarely doing nothing as I sit here. I'm fighting myself to go do what needs to be done, even though I hate it. I'm trying to...|||I am so totally I'N that it took a while to figure out the T and J part.|||I appreciate the various weather types. They all have their purpose. As long as I have what I need to function comfortably in that particular weather. Warm clothes in the cold, water proof in the...|||I married an ISFP. That solved the lonely problem of being 'rare'. Then I had lots of kids, my 'built in' friends. And pets. Now I'm filled up with more extroversion than I can sometimes handle....|||I've explained the MBTI to my (large) family and one person did have a hard time accepting being an F rather than a T. I do think she sees the F as a weakness, and wishes she was a T. But that's...|||I am an INTJ married to an ISFP, and it's a match made in heaven.   I talk, he listens.   I plan and then he makes my plan happen.   I organize the house, but he does the housework.    I plan...|||When people don't care about doing things correctly. I don't mind if people don't do things correctly. It's when they just don't care, and because of that attitude, they keep making the same mistakes...|||The way I deal with people I don't like, is to say to myself, I don't care. I don't care what they say or do. That person is just not my problem. Luckily, you are not her parent, so you don't have...|||No, definitely not thought of as absent minded. Wouldn't that better fit an INTP rather than an INTJ? They seem more oblivious to their physical surroundings, ime.|||Let them complain. There will come a time when they realize I was right and then they'll cherish my wisdom and never forget me.|||I push emotion to the back of my mind. Unfortunately, it sometimes takes important information with it. lol. For example, I am very nervous about an upcoming minor surgery, and when I was called with...|||I 'saw' my baby's soul go back into her lifeless body. People who've watched a person die 'see' the soul leave the body. I read somewhere that a body weighs more after death, because the soul is the...|||Obsessive not addictive. I definitely over-focus on my interests.|||Obsessive personality but never addicted to any substance or thing. If I sense that my body is becoming addicted to something, I'll stop it. I might even enjoy the challenge.|||No plans, no goals. It's a problem. Which is alleviated when I have purpose.|||I cannot decide which color I like or dislike most. There is value to them all, I imagine. Even neon green looks good as a single stripe along the bottom side of a shoe.   My motto is:  we cannot...|||RIO - it's perfect, except the dog slobber part.'