'I think I have the hardest time with SJ's.|||So far I (INFJ male) only know one confirmed ENFJ female.  She is a friend, and we are still new friends, but I really like the person she is, and we seem to have a great chemistry.  INFP's are...|||Apprentice  I agree with most of what you say.  I am a Feeler, but if I am not a thinker, then how did I get such great marks in college, and produce good works in my profession?  I can clearly see...|||I think INTJ's would be excellent programmers.  I am an INFJ, and I was good, but I really didn't like it even though I did it for 10 years.  I am now a Systems Analyst.  I write the wire-frames, DB...|||Oh the fantastic letters I've written in my head, disguised in style as to not reveal myself, to out other people's evil actions.  I wouldn't rule out doing this if I was ever in this position again,...|||It is said that people often confide in their troubles to their INFJ friends because they feel we are good listeners and they feel they can trust us.  INFJ's love to give advice to their inquiring...|||Me too.  In my case, mostly because I thought the ENFJ was interested in me.  I feel silly, embarrassed, and doubting a skill set I thought was solid in (being able to pick up what someone else feels...|||I found this article on another web site, and I wanted to share it here in the hope that it can help my fellow INFJ's and those who interact with them to understand what goes on in our heads, and how...|||Ahh, you ENFJ's are so cute.  I am just amazed.|||Anyone can be seduced and fooled for a while, and when people first meet they are usually on their best behavior, so you can't base your long-term decision on short-term information.  I assume there...|||Every situation is different, but if it is one where I see them on a regular basis, then I talk to them.  I make eye contact with them.  I say hello or give them a pleasant smile.  I can usually...|||I never found someone to love like that.  I probably never will.  I'm getting too old for that kind of idealistic love.|||I have a new ENFJ friend, and it's early in the friendship, but its pretty amazing so far.  I feel like she understands me.  We listen to each other.  She is kind, caring, and smart.  I can tell she...|||FIIK.  I'm still looking for what will work for me.  Love your post though.  Ahhh God!  What works for you?    I try not to give too much advice for the exact reason of not being able to do some...|||Today, I was conversing with a friend about concerts we had been to many years ago, and bands we've liked over the years.  This is an old high school friend that I keep up with on Facebook, but whom...|||I am very interested in conflict resolution and conflict dynamics between any two people.  I love my ENFP's female friends because I feel warm and wonderful around them.  I feel like they care. ...|||This is a great video explaining the often confused INFJ verses INFP.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lXp8M4AixKA|||Well said!  BullsEye!    If someone is bothering me, such as projecting something onto me that is totally not me, I am quick to anger.  Yet, I know, if I articulate my point, they will be angry. ...|||lol|||D4P:  I wrote a nice response to your post, but PerC screwed it up somehow (network error?).  Now I'm left with a really strange looking post (which I will leave so you can try to read through it). ...|||Why don't you ask her why she does that, and tell her you aren't afraid to have your feelings hurt by her response? &nbsp;You can even tell her she can write it down and explain it if she finds that...|||I had to look that up since I hadn't heard of it before.  Definitely not me.  I'm a live and let live kind of person.|||There has to be some explanation why we can't see each others points of view.  Take politics for an example.  You can't just call the side you disagree with a bunch of dumb-shits, because people on...|||Why do laptop makers put the mouse pad in such a place that part of my hand is always moving the cursor and causing me havoc when I type (erasing whole sentences, moving the cursor to some random...|||I know the kind of work I want to do, but I don't know what job title to put to it, therefore, I feel hopeless in finding the right opportunity, or let alone how to go about finding it.  Actually,...|||It doesn't sound like he loves you to me.  I would suggest you get a person you can physically see, and end it with him.  To me, he has already ended it with you in his mind.  I'm sorry.  I know how...|||It's in the book The Sociopath Next Door by Martha Stout.  In another book I read, all the Class B disorders add up to 15% of society.  I make this point because those disorders do the same types of...|||How in the hell do you turn off your labido.  Where is the switch?|||If you look at all the studies they've don'e on sociopathic people, there is a lot of evidence that shows they indeed are different, and lack feelings like the other 96% of the population.  Check out...|||Now who wouldn't want to be around someone like that?  More please! :)|||Obviously, not everyone thinks like you.  You are unable to understand why there cannot be world peace, because you cannot mold your mind into what someone else's mind is, thus, you cannot experience...|||Dang, I hope I am not so much like that.  I suppose there are all different degree's in how bad an INFJ can be.  I'm here on this site to meet others like me, and learn about how others might see...|||I think I get what you are saying.  A nice example would help me make sure I get it 100%.|||OK, I don't want to hurt your feelings, but you're a mess over this guy.  Calm yourself down.....breathe and relax when you find yourself getting anxious in his presence and know that everything...|||I have not seen any human being walking this Earth who can take criticism without getting defensive.  Even if the feedback is sugar-coated and delivered on a silk pillow by a clantily-dressed angel,...|||I must say I thoroughly enjoyed it too.  It's something I could watch again someday.  I told my INFJ daughter that Hopps was an INFJ.  But, I can see where she could be an ENFJ.|||So many times when I myself am writing about other people, or when I see statement above, I believe they can apply to humans in general.  Without any specific examples, I can't confirm or deny what...|||I read about the first 10 posts here, and a lot of the behavior described doesn't sound like INFJ behavior to me.  Perhaps the people you are referring to either aren't INFJ's or they are very...|||You're so beautiful on the outside, but on the inside you are a soulless and cold.  Can't you ever open up?  Can't you ever answer a damn question, instead of elusively skirting around it, and...|||I'm in a trough now professionally, financially, and in my marriage (that's a long story).  Even with all that, I am in a way better position than most people in the world, so its not like I am not...|||My attorney advised me to exercise my 5th amendment right.  Ever played the front line in volleyball, and someone sets it up for you perfectly to spike it down the throat of the opposition?  It's...|||OMG, are you all my people or what?  You all had me grinning big reading your OP's and responses.  Am I the greatest of deeply flawed.  The answer is:  Yes!  Both of those I am sure.  Just roll...|||UraniaIsis Karaethon Mantra MaximL  Thanks for replying to my request for NF friends post.  I apologize for not replying sooner.  I had all my notifications switched off because I thought I was...|||Me too.  I guess it isn't as much as losing myself as much as a momentary daydream of a few seconds, and admiring the beauty.  My conscious mind knows it's just a picture (or a person, in real-life...|||I totally get why you would see and say that.  I, many times, wondered Am I the narcissist?  I checked into it, and for my case, I think I am not. So, even though we can seem like we are...|||I'm here to learn and share.  I have no problem admitting when I am wrong, especially when I am clearly and embarrassingly wrong, as I was in the original version of this thread I started.  You in...|||Hi,  Sorry I didn't respond to this earlier.  I had my notifications turned off for a long time by accident trying to experiment with the settings.  I empathize with you.  I know exactly how you...|||Thanks for your suggestion.  I am going to stick with cashiers check.  It's his job to get the money to me.  I don't want to wait 1-2 days for a check or electronic payment to clear.  I have one...|||RainIsMyColour  That is good information to know.  My background is computer science and math.  I know that people in my field poo-poo all over the field of psychology, and view it as a...|||@charlie.elliot   Oh wow, you are correct.  Thanks for your feedback.  I'm a bit embarrassed at my ignorance.  I looked up the difference between J and P.  In my original post I was just guessing...'