'He can't prove that his theory/hypothesis is correct,  nor wrong.  The debate is based on lack of enough data, both from you as a potential test and from scientific research.  Neither one of you know...|||I would choose the place where I could develop better: education, career, networks etc, the things that are important to you and potentially improve you regardless whether you guys stay together or...|||I am not sure how to answer this question, I enjoy having thoughtful conversation with all different people,  and find it interesting that people are different.  So, in general,  I don't find ENFJs...|||I can relate to the Ne-Ni difference between me and my INFP.  He throws out many ideas in one conversation,  while I try to put them together or try to see how they are connected.  When he jumps from...|||Congratulations and good luck!!! That's wonderful! You have to share the experience of ENFJ/INFP couple in parenting in the future :)  Thank you for sharing the insights, I can see these, but...|||You should definitely ask your ENFJ!   I happend to watch a TED talk yesterday about vulnerability and connection, you can google these two terms. When you show your awkwardness, when you are...|||I am very curious to know what conflicts ENFJ/INFP couple would have after marriage: when facing daily life, many routines/responsibilities,  how is the dynamic of the team?  I and my partner haven't...|||That's good:happy: .  The essential skill that I've learnt in the past three years with my INFP is: other ways to keep myself sane while waiting (for opportunities to communicate).  For me, it is my...|||Since you are ISTJ,  I am guessing that you asked too many questions without introducing much about yourself.  That may make her feel that you are studying her like an experimental animal or...|||I am sorry that you are going through this ...  Please be patient and continue to communicate.  To communicate,  means that you will be frank but exposure your vulnerability to your partner.  The...|||really, a mature and content INFP,  who endured darkness of the past,  who had seen sadness and despair,  but still chose to forgive and love and embrace life....  I think this is priceless,...|||This gives you an idea how calming INFP is:  http://widdershinsacademy.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/07/mbti-animals.jpg|||Also,  one suggestion for career, and this is pretty much my INFP partner's strategy and not from me: if you don't like your current job,  but you don't have a better offer,  don't quit it and jump...|||It seems to me that the biggest problem of her,  is that she didn't know how to say no.  This is very very common for ENFJ.  We got involved in relationships that we didn't really want,  or we are...|||My situation is actually different from relationship textbook,  I think.  What works for me is the INFP style passive-aggressiveness..., angry and dark,  about to retreating to a cave..... It hurts...|||I have an analogy:   in an ideal universe,  ENFJ wants to build a network,  with his/her SO in the center,  and everyone else connected with him/her harmoniously, and his/her SO is the most...|||Ahhhh,  I need to grab my INFP to read this !!!!  But I already know what he would say : hmmm,  nice theory!  Don't ever think that you can chat with guys like before,  no way:laughing:|||i was wondering how your interactions/affection is distinguished with your SO how do you make your SO feel special despite your very outgoing/intimate nature? how do you reassure your SO? how do you...|||We are attracted to broken soul, aren't we?   Sounds like her relationship with you is quite new.  For an INFP to think through all scenerios and make decision,  you probably would expect a time...|||Thank you and I understand what to shoot for now.  One more detail:  when you say passively,  i would picture this scenerio: I bring you a book/story that I internally find interesting to share, ...|||How do you want to be cared for / supported when you are sick?  Especially what do I need to pay attention to as a more extravorted partner?  Hugs is not an option for us since we are long...|||We really cherish someone who makes the effort.  It matters less how much you do,  it matters more how much you improve compareing to previous you.   If you are shy,  but you overcome your shyness to...|||Exactly!  I take care of everyone else,  and myself.  I feel that he is the only peroson in this world who knows how to take care of me,  who can tell that I am a little bit upset and immediated tend...|||It is great that you guys had the conversation!  I think INFPs need as much interaction with their significant others as we do, if not more.  Any cool feeling can be seen as a warning sign, instead...|||Try not to take what they say personally!!!  Then everything will be fine :laughing:  Once you learn to communicate their way,  you will like it: straight forward, frank, direct to the point.  They...|||“First of all, to the INFPs, something to consider about ENFJs, is that ENFJs tend to disclose, or at least look like they're disclosing a lot about themselves to a lot of people. Sometimes, they can...|||Being extroverts,  we usually need to talk our emotions through.  No matter what,  I think it will be healthier to shift the focus to your own life.  I definitely need to let out the steam,  and I...|||Also, for your previous posts,  so all of this happened within a couple of days?  For INFPs,  this is probably a short time...  Plus he is still replying your msg,  that is not bad...  My infp...|||Don't leave him completely alone if you want to continue to try;  also,  if he is shutting you out,  it means he hasn't sort through his emotion with you, anger sad whatever it is.  If he can really...|||I will use what I learned from my INFP partner to explain,  it may be different in your case,  it may be the same.      Sometime,  working hard means not to do something or not to say...|||In theory,  when you love someone,  you don't have to reveal it.  You make the right choice /do the right things for the benefits of the other party.  Even if you are confronted,  in every moment, ...|||You may re-examine you criteria and your ability to love unconditionally.  whether each one has anything to do with love ?  I think,  when you are looking for soulmate,  you just look at the soul.  ...|||How well do you deal with your significant other's close family and friends?   For me,  when I decide he will be the guy,  my goal will be to bring him in my previous harmonious world of...|||I was in a >10 years relationship with an INTJ,  we were each other's first partner,  both of us learnt our lessons.  For any pairs,  it is not about how good it can get when communication goes...|||I didn't know you have this layer of intention...  I don't know what to suggest...  I only know that when my INFP gets to that dark-phase-retreating-back-to-a-cave mode, I always freak out and reach...|||You guys are amazing...!  i am really grateful for this forum,  how can I imagine......|||Do you then just fall asleep? My INFP explained why he sleeps much more now, seriously......|||I remember reading @lydibug 's story last year...   Oh,  I can relate to this,  only on the other side as ENFJ,  also as a female;  An important difference may be that my previous relationship was...|||This is an excellent advice!    Don't think too much and wait too long,  she may enter another relationship while you are still debating with yourself.  Either confess directly,  or at least try...|||@UtterMess  @enigmawrappedinbacon  @gestalt  Thank you all for pointing out these are different issues.  It is lucky that I didn't bring it up the way I thought of......  For smoking,  I know he...|||Please help me to see how I can communicate in this situation:   Background: I and my lovely INFP guy had been in romantic relationship for one and a half year now.  It is great connection, very...|||I noticed similar posts previously : INTPs were attracted to ENFJ,  or trying to argue in this forum that their functions match with ENFJs' (which is quite a turn-off...) ;  maybe I am biased,  but I...|||I don't quite understand your question.   I guess both.    Though one can argue that ENFJ can find something inspiring in anyone,  I do find that when interacting with some people,  it is quite...|||I want someone to inspire me to be a better person.  But I don't think this needs to be just one person, and it applies to friends, family, colleagues, even strangers...|||That beind said, your post highlights a good point: while I don't think that the lack of time together is automatically indicative of him not being into me (every relationship is unique and doesn't...|||but it sometimes seems like he's not as busy as he makes out to be and I don't understand why he doesn't put in the effort spend time with me.  My INFP asked similar question.  For me,  I feel...|||The reasons that some other need to say to the ENFJ is probably for the sake of your own happiness,  this is something an ENFJ may never really be able to put there,  it doesn't count as a reason...|||Thinking that she has chosen according to her own will and she is happy about her life,  will that make you feel better？ If you really love her,  won't that seeing her happy make you in peace?   It...|||I am in solid basic science research field...  surrounded by thinkers...  I think science/engineering careers still need lots of people skills, especially now a days,  collaboration is almost...|||I speak for myself,  yes!!!  I love my teddy bear INFP!  Women get turned on easier when they are relaxed,  how come that is not attractive :kitteh:  INFP is not just calm,  it is a sense of...'