'https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ObrYXo93QYI|||I will say that being an ENFJ male only works (in my experience) when you have used your Ni to become very masculine.  Overtly masculine, male ENFJs are irresistible.|||A lot of good has been said here.  I'd just like to add that we take a great deal of pleasure in making other people happy.  We don't get happy because somebody made US happy.  We get happy because...|||Could also be because we are constantly trashed by other types and have no need or time to put up with total and utter bullshit:)|||To be honest, I am getting bored at this site already.  Guess it's an ESFJ thing not to pay it much mind!|||Private.  Very private.|||People seem to appreciate the fact that we are not self-absorbed, are generally quite clever, follow all the proper protocols, and are generally warm and fun to be around.|||Slightly different from the typical ESFJ functions.  I was abused as a kid and as I went through recovery, I changed types.  I grew up an INFJ, then was briefly (in succession) an ENFJ, ESTJ, INTJ,...|||I've already deleted her number.  It's really a blessing, because I know now more than ever what I don't want in a woman.|||Well, everybody makes their choice and you've made yours.  I'm sorry for your loss.|||Female CEO? ROTFLMAO|||I'm Roman Catholic (best institution ever) and I say you are wrong.|||This has turned into a politics thread.  Let's end the discussion.    Summary of the thread: ESTJ goes out with ENFP, ENFP wants to meet again, ESTJ not sure.  Compatibility in question.  Good...|||Because it's in their nature.  Women are built to be submissive and men are built to be dominant.  Estrogen and testosterone.  Oh, and the Bible and thousands of years of history too.|||All the hostility!  And you talk about me having an ego!  Very holier-than-thou.    If you believe something, you should believe it with your whole heart.  If there is any doubt in your mind about...|||The date went well and we got along.  She was not very hot to me (not unattractive though).  She suggested meeting up again to hang out but I'm not sure I want to because I can already tell that...|||I'm still playing, lady.  Date's today; we'll see how it goes!  Thanks for the input, all.  Although to hear some of you, it sounds like I've already killed this before it started.  She did agree...|||Dude, give it a rest.  There's not a passive-aggressive bone in my body.    To the other poster, yeah, I am bored.  Killing time before my date tomorrow:)|||My liberal comment was very tongue-in-cheek, hence the emoticon.  I have showed the utmost respect to everyone here-it's others who have launched into personal attacks on me.  As for the...|||Stating my own views honestly and directly, being myself is trolling?  LOL.  This is why I don't like the internet.  I get along much better with people out in the real world.    Lighten up for...|||Actually, she's right.  Ladies shouldn't swear;)  Your mention of a fedora brings to mind this great song.  Ever heard it?  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gFyYfLvQo7g|||Good!|||Wow just wows don't work with me either...it just makes you sound like a liberal;)   Because why not.  Let's see how it goes.  What if we love each other?  Can't know if you don't try and I don't...|||No problems there, because I am a leader and that's not an act-it's how I am.  My whole point is that it's not the girl's job to let the man doing things.  By being with a man/going out with...|||Well lots of love to you too, sweetheart.  LOL.  Sexist is a BS word used to demonize anyone who would dare differentiate between the sexes.  It doesn't work with me.  And I'm sorry you feel that I'm...|||What happens when an ESTJ lies / encounters a lie?I don't like it; that's what!|||I especially like ISFPs.|||Sweet, feminine, obedient, submissive, loves me unconditionally, hot, reliable, happy, good cook, wants to be a housewife and mother, willing to drop her career and let me do everything.|||I appreciate your post.  Here's the deal though- if the girl is allowing you to lead, then who is really in control?  It's the girl!  I think that the man should be in control.  Try and see it from...|||Hehe...just so you all know, one of my very best male friends is an ENFP, and I love him to death.  So whimsical and friendly and full of energy.  Historically I've had a harder time relating to the...|||I'm not throwing punches at everyone with her 4 letters.  Heck, I'm not even throwing punches at her- just her behavior, which is to me quite unladylike and not becoming at all.  Hopefully she is hot...|||OK, thanks for your help guys.  I will handle the date properly and see what her behavior is like in-person and whether I want a second date or not.  Case closed.|||Here we go again.  No, I'm not trolling.  And for the record, the 21st century sucks.  20th century FTW.|||Because she is the one who told my friend she was interested in me, she is the one waiting around for me to call, and I am paying for both of us.  The least she could do is be grateful and not call...|||Her vocal tone sounded distressed.  All I ask for from my dates is a willingness to act like a woman and not have an attitude.  So far she is failing that test, but we'll see if she drops her...|||Wait, wait, hold on.  I never said anything about stepping on her or booting her or smothering her.  It's just that as a man I expect to make the plans, lead the conversation, and so on, and I don't...|||I suppose that's one way of looking at it.  My perspective was that since we didn't know each other, she might feel more comfortable if we got to know each other on the phone first before meeting...|||Hi all, I have just gotten off the phone with an ENFP with plans for a blind lunch date (a friend set us up), but during the conversation, right before she proposed lunch (in contrast to my original...|||Have you ever considered he might be an INTP?  They often have very strong views on things and can become flippant or dismissive when things don't interest them.|||Oh, I don't know!  Speaking as a guy, any time I see a nice girl like that so happy, I feel warm and fuzzy inside.  Look at how happy she is.  *sigh*|||https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=01FTLQz5sd8|||I am not ESTJ in nature or a female, but I must say that I dress like an ESTJ, deliberately wearing white shirts, ties, black shoes, and etc.  The reasons are highly similar to the ones listed in...|||Characteristics I've seen: -Male -Very well-dressed -Mature and professional even at a young age -On the ball.  Quickly takes control.  Has a plan. -Goes to great lengths to always appear...|||https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KRD5P3llYNs|||You guys have got to listen to this.  Epitome of 60s easy-listening.  Perfect!  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rsw-hT7rMVM|||True, but had you used the technique of imagining the worst, this wouldn't have seemed so bad.  For example, the worst could have been her sending you a bunch of insulting messages, then blocking the...|||Hmmm...I am shallow in the sense that I will not date women that I don't find attractive, and I do like beauty.  But let me amend my earlier post and say that there's got to be good character...|||Face-to-face.    And before you do it, imagine the worst.  Imagine her laughing at you, doubling over laughing, and then giving you a stern look and saying, Why would I go out with you?  Then...|||There's a forum called city data that I'm sure would be a great resource for you on this topic.  Lots of material there and lots of state to state comparisons.|||Infj.'