'Cyamitide, I am glad you mentioned semi-duality. For what it's worth in my experience it is preferred for dating relationships over duality.|||I am a female ESFJ with a male ISTP for over 10 years. Easy communication, have fun together, and can't stay upset with one another for any significant amount of time. He loves Fe and I need strong...|||Revoker, thank you for clarifying! I can be a little easily distracted and childlike (developing my tert Ne) and I do get excited and happy easily. After reading about ISTJs I was trying to be as...|||It would definitely make sense that you get along with your mom as Si doms really tend to enjoy each other's company. I don't even notice tertiary Fe much! I find ESTP and ENTP lacking in it. To me...|||I totally get the ISTP/ ESFJ connection. It's like a mutual understanding!! I've been with an ISTP for over a decade. Socionics describes us as semi-duals which is one of the more favorable matches....|||I am a little surprised (but not completely) to see Fe users mentioned in this thread with such frequency. I am starting to identify the ISTJs in my life. I really enjoy their calm company and...|||I would think they would love someone who could help them ignite their Fi...maybe and INFP or ENFP.|||I think you should be honest with them that you don't think a relationship would work but you think they are attractive and want a casual relationship. I really appreciate men who are confident and...|||I have found much of what I have read about ISTPs to be a bit of an exaggeration. The ISTP I am married to is thoughtful, romantic, academic. Of course I am biased but I think he is brilliant!   He...|||Scylla,  I agree. INTP is a good match for ESFJ but they are hard to start relationships with because they don't seem interested. Same with INFP and ISFP...all of those types are somewhat shy.  ...|||Your observation is correct. However, there is more to it....ESFJs can get romantic attention and brief relationships somewhat easily.   In my experience those relationships are short lived. They...|||I think the OP brings up an excellent point and one I have asked myself.   Based solely on personal experience I think ESFJs can get too intense too fast and not pace the relationship. Once the...|||Thank you for sharing that link. I believe you are correct in your assumption about it being Ne that I use as opposed to my suggestion of Fe. What is interesting to me and my family is that I became...|||This is interesting and something that has lead me to study MBTI and socionics more in depth. I tend to test as ESFP or ESFJ yet I favor Fe highly and use Si often. I dislike Se when I need to use...|||Spend as much time with others as possible, and essentially avoid being bored and alone for any stretch of time.|||I agree with the second point made by Norina. It is a misconception that ESFJs are not aware of their feelings.  I am ALWAYS aware of how I feel about EVERYTHING. I just may not express it in most or...|||I do agree we lack forward thinking and planning and agree with the videos on this point. My lack of Ni is my weakness (probably why being around INFJs makes me feel so inferior). There is a...|||As an ESFJ I enjoyed your video and found it quite accurate! However, I have a few comments:  1) Even though I have inferior Ti I still can make and prefer to make decisions quickly. This includes...|||I agree with the two previous posters. As soon as I saw this post I thought I hate people. Lol.|||Well ESFJs love to talk and if someone can bring out their inferior Ti we will enjoy talking to them for hours. I do find that INTPs love to talk just as much as ESFJs. The only difference is that...|||I think INTPs are incredibly charming! As an ESFJ I love how they will break down complex topics, love to analyze, chat for hours (literally until the sun comes up), stay unbiased and calm when I'm...|||I really enjoy INTP friendship and communication, but have not dated one. Although I am married to an dominant Ti ( ISTP). I think the ESFJ INTP relationship has great potential as we use the same...|||I do feel this way from time to time...not with INFPs though. Two of my closest friends are INFPs and we became fast friends.|||Since the Infp started it....I will join in (ESFJ here). I heart INTPs!!! :fall:|||The nameless composer, I am an ESFJ who married outside my ethnicity, religion and nationality.  Forget tradition ..I have Fe. The heart wants what the heart wants.|||I think those pairings are ideal for ease of communication and daily living. This of course which can lead to long term relationship success if that is what someone is seeking, but everyone has...|||T men with Fe.  I have dated Fi men (ENTJ and INTJ) and we clash romantically.|||Jcal, that is a very interesting observation. Not to deviate from the topic of this thread but I personally start feeling depressed if I am not in a role where I can care for others in some capacity...|||I'm a female ESFJ and have only known two other male ESFJs in a marriage. Both of them married very introverted women.   My one male ESFJ friend from childhood was always looking to date someone he...|||Despite being very high on the E side of ESFJ I am more and more hobbit like with each passing year. I certainly enjoy the comforts of my home and having friends visit and stay over. Introspection...|||Are you certain he is an ESFJ? Sounds much more like an ESTJ to me. ESFJs are not afraid to express intense feelings. As an Fe dom we live for that sort of thing!  In my experience ESTJs seem to...|||You're writing style reminded me a lot of my ENFJ friends!  Also the interest in media/communications/creativity is strikes me as more ENFJ than ESFJ. You sound very confident and your post is very...|||I'm sorry more ESFJs aren't on this forum to share their insight....|||I have two very close INFP friends. I feel I can be very honest with them about who I am.   Although not described in any literature I have read I find the ESFJ is also very idealistic (as is the...|||This is about a different ESTJ ( a peer at work, non- manager). I posted about difficulties I had with a close relative....that person is an unhealthy ESTJ. This ESTJ I think is quite healthy. I am...|||How much bluntness or critism is part of your interactions with ESTJ? I'm trying to figure out if this ESTJ is trying to be helpful or just doesn't like me.|||God no. I feel like I can pretend to be an insider but very few people know and accept the real me. It's a lonely feeling living in the past (Si) or being young with conservative values.|||My closest friends are INFP, INTP, INTJ. I love INXXs|||What type are you? INTJ?|||Have come to love INTPs.....|||I find the ENTJ quite sensitive. By this I mean if they think they can help you with a problem they will. They are also willing to stand up for something they believe is the right thing to do and are...|||I'm an ESFJ and scored 15. I am very sensitive and aware of others emotions, and physical states. I absolutely cannot stand to see animals in any type of confusion or pain....it affects me so deeply...|||I think being an ESFJ sets you up for loneliness. There is a lot of depth to what we feel and not a lot of friends I can truly confide in on a regular basis.|||In general I like ISFJs. However, I like them at a distance. If the relationship is too close I start to sense they are talking about me behind my back or trying to undermine me. My experience with...|||I have read descriptions of what members on here consider an ESFJ and they sound more like ENFP, ESTJ or ESFP to me. I honestly think they are being mistyped. A number of times male members describe...|||I think ESFJ fits the best....but is still lacking. I would be a solid ISFJ but I score very highly on th E when doing MBTI testing. I also have a preference for Te. I appreciate it and am drawn to...|||Your profile pic is very ESFJ like as well (feminine, beautiful, based on a story from someone's childhood).|||I don't think MBTI is enough for me. I use Si the most of all my functions. Based on this I could be an ISFJ...and sometimes tested as one in terms of cognitive function tests. ESFJs use more Ne...|||I'm an ESFJ and can relate to 90% of this. You sound like an ESFJ who has well developed Se as well as Si.|||I know an ENFPS who talks a lot like the ESFJ but does not have the same type of filter.....hence my guess that the OP is describing an ENFP.'