I sent you my heart, and you didn't recoil.  In fact, I think we do now communicate in some form, every single day. And you send me that song today, and I read everything into it, and I think about...|||This post makes me smile, because I have just had the same epiphany.  Have any other young adult (or older) ENFPs found this about yourself? Yes.  I'm 34.  Not sure if that's old or young.  Old...|||I find games are my kryptonite.  I have always played things as I was growing up, an escape from life.  We had a Spectrum ZX (Loved Warlock of Firetop Mountain), Commodore 64 (Shadow of the Beast,...|||I write a list - usually there's something bothering me, worrying about not being prepared for the next day.  The list externalises this, brain calms. This week is was a because I was having a...|||I used to be very direct... if I liked someone I would fairly quickly speak out.  These days I take more time to get to know someone.  I'll want to hang out and create opportunities to do so, I'll...|||Dear anonymous, I am going to stop. I am going to stop trying. I have a feeling I'm tired and sad and cross, but I have this niggling feeling if I stop, you will simply fade away, like smoke, as...|||I do believe it's important to think about your 'work' persona and your 'home' persona as for some people these can be quite different things and we potentially exhibit slightly different functions...|||I don't have a keychain or a wallet.... this means things are carried separately, and yes, they may go missing, but you will only lose the 1 thing, not the whole bunch of keys or all your worldly...|||Which part of Britain?  Are you a Scouser?  Essex?  Mancurian?  Brummie?  Glaswegian?  from the Valleys?  Or a posh Southerner? ;o)|||If I'm on my own there is often a narrative, and when I'm working and concentrating I can also talk out loud to myself, but I don't notice till other people either laugh or make noises at me to stop....|||A new day.  I asked the question, and I did it as gently and quietly as I could. I don't want this to change, I don't want you to panic.  And you gave your answer, quietly, gently.  And now we are...|||He sounds like a dick, hot or not.  In your position I would just ignore his efforts to bait me, be myself and spend more time with more interesting, fulfilling people.  If he were to ever ask why,...|||Question 14 is missing 'Strongly disagree' and has 2 agrees instead|||Dear anonymous  AAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Today I am interviewing people for the first time in my life.  I am wearing my suit. ...|||All the above.  Love language is really important I am discovering.   Feel flattered you are so revered by your ENFP friend :)   Set some 'date' times - I don't mean a romantic date, but perhaps...|||I know I'm a way along the road, but I have very recently experienced my emotional reactivity meter goes from chilled to stressed-but-plastering-over-the-cracks-and-in-denial to...|||It often happens when there is too much going on, and when management are to busy to help!  I went to a really helpful time management course a few years ago and the guy took a glass and half...|||As a lonely, geeky teenager in a small town with little freedom, I watched many thousands of hours of TV and recorded on old VHS so I could re-watch things like Blackadder, Red Dwarf and fragments of...|||Totally scatty, I have developed various methods of out-witting my inner self destructive personality.  Set all your clocks fast.  Leave the house 30 minutes earlier than you should.  I now leave all...|||oops double post :(|||Dear anonymous, You did it!  Your did it!  I never doubted they would want you :)  I know you were terribly sad about the interview and thought you'd completely stuffed it up, but I knew you would...|||Dear anonymous, I'm hoping I've finally reached the end of this road and I am turning a corner and leaving you behind.  It hurts me to think of you and know for all your words there is nothing...|||Yup, I am mess incarnate, but there is a tipping point of chaos at which a red mist descends and I become a tidiness OCD monster for a few hours.  If I'm going to clean, then I'm going to CLEAN baby!...|||And be prepared for it to take a long long long long time.  From my experience, INFPs have a totally different experience of time  They are not ignoring you, they are simply in themselves, happy in...|||I am mess incarnate.  I give messy people lessons in chaos.|||Dear anonymous,  Thank you.  Thank you for being who you are and replying and caring and being so very dear.  Now the monthly blur of hormonal paranoia has subsided I can see just how we fit and...|||Dear anonymous, Tonight I have a new houseguest.  Someone I don't know well, but I know well enough to want to invite into my life for the next few months.  Tonight we drank tea and caught up, and...|||And your response brought tears to my eyes and made me laugh.  Hugs to you fellow ENFP, we stand shoulder to shoulder with all our idealism to take on the rigours of being grown up xXx|||33, will be 34 next month.  Early 20s - No sense of self.  No idea of where life is going.  Bright, full of potential.  Frightened.  Lonely.  Paranoid.  Fearful of never being loved.  Fearful of...|||Dear anonymous INTJ prick.  You are rude, supercilious, arrogant, patronising, misogynistic and unpleasant.|||The few Extroverts I've dated I found really annoying!   They were all E*T* and I know now, avoid E*T* missus, it's not going to work, for me at least.  I have always found shy, quiet people...|||I found that leaving high school was like coming out of a chrysalis, I spread my wings when I escaped all the pre-conceptions and could re-invent myself.  Sai has a very good point about spending...|||Hey Emma :)  I know when I was younger I found it very hard to differentiate between someone making a general observation about the way I had said or done something, and a criticism.  It's...|||Oh sleep and food are a big part of it.  She's a Facebook junkie and is up till all hours.  As she looks after animals she has to get up very early most mornings to do all her chores - constantly...|||She is not easy to help, I thought I would go to the source... :) It seems part of the irony, that ESTJs are not happy in seeking help.  The don't like 'failing' so you really know they're cracking...|||Thank you EmmaGilbert, those all sound like very good, simple, positive suggestions.  I know venting is a big thing for her too. There's often a not-so-muted scream out on Facebook and I always...|||Hello folks,  I have a really amazing ESTJ friend.  She is one of the most determined people I have ever met.  She works every hour of every day.  She has the most remarkable reserves of stamina...|||33  Enthusiastic Friendly Messy Disorganised Mobile (never in the same place one day after the next) Verbose Authentic Empathetic|||I give any store points to whoever behind me has a store card.  I don't have one (I'd only lose it) and I like giving my free and useless points away.  I love the look of shock on peoples faces,...|||Dear anonymous, A year.  A whole year since I realised I had got you all wrong and wanted your company because you are amazing. Thank you for helping me conquer myself. I am stronger, better,...|||I recently went to visit some very good friends and as part of my visit their two little boys helped me to clean my car.  My car is always a dump.... I live in it for work, it's full of equipments,...|||A long post with my experiences of getting to know an INFP work colleague over the past year.  I would love feedback from both INFPs and ENFPs on similar experiences or contradictory ones, if you...|||More Than Words - Extreme... and for some silly reason, Nathan Carter's Wagon Wheel :)|||Dear anonymous,  Definitely hormonal, and I know that means I'm not seeing the world quite right.... and I'm tired to boot, and that's another foggy lens to peer through.... but I still can't shake...|||Dear anonymous,  Wretched hormones, and wretched Christmas break, and wretched messy house, and wretched paranoia.  I was so cross with you.  A little miffed over Christmas, but sort of not...|||Dear anonymous, I'm a bit overwhelmed by how I saw you behaving last night. I knew she meant a lot to you, but I didn't really know where to look and you were directly behind the person I was...|||I don't know if it's like hydroponics, like you can force growth and maturity by putting yourself in a psychological greenhouse.   I would however, recommend spending time with people who you feel...|||You will be much missed, but enjoy this new road!  Thanks for your thoughtful words and deep heart xXx|||Greetings interstellar_overdrive, welcome to PerC.  Plenty of tree-like threads for climbing here :)|||We are all human.  Weak, selfish, stupid, loving, contradictory, selfless, heroic, infuriating, tired, frustrated, irrational...  I realised my parents were human when I was 17 years old.  I went...