'To be honest, I'm kind of bad with money -- though I don't want to be.   Like some of the others said on here, I usually spend the money I have -- regardless of what the amount is. Sometimes I can...|||Let's be real: we ENFPs aren't known for our follow-through on commitments of any kind (big or small). It's not impossible, but sometimes it's tough. It seems like every time we commit to something,...|||I was going to vote for an SP as well. My ISFP isn't as interested in the abstract/spiritual stuff as I am, but he is ALWAYS willing to listen and he will participate if prompted, too (though expect...|||I'm going to put in a vote for the ISFP... maybe because I'm in a relationship with one, but I've been attracted to them a lot in the past, too.   Even if we don't have the same type of...|||Only three countries? But I have a month? Well, I would really want to just backpack all over Europe, but if I could only go to three countries... well, maybe I would throw some different continents...|||So, I haven't logged into this site in MONTHS. But it's funny how things have changed since the last time I posted...  So, up until this summer, I had never been in a real, serious relationship....|||If you really want to be with her for real, then you HAVE to give her space. Because in reading this, all I can think is that if I were in her situation, I wouldn't trust or believe that you wanted...|||Haha, no it isn't always a good thing! In France, direct eye contact and a smile usually means, I'm really into you, so come hither! So imagine this smiley ENFP smiling at everyone... I tried to...|||Hmm, not certain if I mirror exactly, but I definitely calibrate my expressions to the environment around me. For example: sometimes I feel so happy, but it seems out of place where I'm at, so I'm...|||I tend to dress comfortably, but if I am putting effort into it, usually it's a theme or a mood. I do like things that match, but more than that, I like conveying a certain... idea or something. I'm...|||My dream holiday would be one that never ended... where I had enough money/resources to go to all the places in the world for as much time as I would like and I could eat lots of wonderful food and...|||I want that... but I think I would be similar to you in that sense... in having an interesting time adjusting to that, in believing in that (that someone could accept me and want to help me with my...|||Can I just say that I love this thread? :) Awesome idea, Zeptometer  Also, it's fascinating to think about how mercurial an ENFP's love life can be. My answer to this question changes daily......|||Hmm, interesting. I'm less like this as I've done a lot of personal growth (learning to accept others and myself as we are right now) but as a teen and even into my early 20's, I also had VERY high...|||You know, if you think that you'll always wonder what if..? then maybe you should figure out a way to be on that career path you feel you should be on. I'm learning I'm happiest when I am living up...|||I don't think dating other men is necessarily about telling him, but I know that us xNFPs can get caught up on a possibility so much that we lose focus on everything else and become all about that...|||I feel like The Fire Starter Sessions by Danielle LaPorte has changed how I make my goals and just my perspective on day-to-day living. It's helping me figure out the steps I need to take in order to...|||Not saying that I don't think she is an ESFJ, but wanted to point out that I am an ENFP and whenever I write, I reference the past -- especially when I journal (which would be similar to the...|||Sometimes I make lists, but then I just avoid them, haha.   What is working for me lately is: yoga, kind self-talk, recorded affirmations occasionally, peaceful/positive music, and keeping my...|||I don't hug A LOT (at least for an ENFP), but I feel like I hold back from hugging people a lot. Like even at work with customers, when we resolve an issue, I just want to hug them! Or even...|||Haha that's brilliant -- introducing yourself through GIFs!!!   And I want to marry my bed, too. :)|||I think more than change for change's sake, I like surprises, diversity, variety, and unpredictability. I mean, don't get me wrong -- if I really like something, I will like it hardcore! I will get...|||This is amazing and exactly what I needed to read. Wow, what a shift in perspective! Thank you!|||I'm going to go ahead and echo the sentiments of everyone else here and say that looks matter some (meaning physical attraction), but personality matters WAY more.   Also, I can like pretty quirky...|||Haha, you were close... he's about 20 or 21. But yeah, I definitely suffer from the chronic friend-zone thing. I think I get scared of coming off as too clingy or smothering, so I back off instead of...|||Two guys that I work with... We aren't dating but there's chemistry there. One I saw lots of long term potential with, but it turns out he was going on dates with someone else. Of course, that's not...|||I never really know when people like me and I've never been in love... so I would have no idea if someone loved me from afar or something.   I don't know if it's a thing where the guys who fall for...|||So, I read all the time about people having very powerful intuition. But us ENFPs? Well, it's just like that PersonalityPage description -- we can intuit the inherent truth of a situation, but make...|||Also, I wanted to say: have you ever tried listening to affirmations? On iTunes, try searching Belleruth Naparstek... she has a great CD with affirmations about self-confidence and it's a great way...|||Socializing with an ESTJ? I've had lots of fun, good times, laughs. Working with an ESTJ? I could imagine that it's scary :)   My mom's an ESTJ and she believes that work is a place to GET THINGS...|||I'm trying to think of a time when I would be seen as a follower... and sometimes, depending on the group and harmony or whatever, I might align myself to certain socially powerful people... so I can...|||For me, I look like an: INFP if I'm feeling quieter or in an introspective mood  ESFP when I am feeling goofier and more outgoing   But the most in common? Probably an INFP.|||To be honest, I forget about the NF boards! I go straight into the specific ones (primarily ENFP) without remembering that there's one for our temperament. Oops!|||I know it's hard to believe sometimes that you're worthy and it's hard to think of ever getting to a place where life doesn't always feel like it does right now, but it is possible. And I can only...|||Currently, my closest friends are:  an ENFJ -- we talk to each other practically everyday, are super-best friends, can tell each other anything, super-intimate. She is a healthy 2 and is super...|||ESFPs are magic at anything physical! Hahah! I remember being utterly captivated by an ESFP on the dance floor... it was like they were doing everything I wanted my body to do, but way better than I...|||To be honest, maybe you are giving out vibes that you are not self-assured. Because if you think about it, a bully is going to go for someone they don't think will fight back, someone who is weak (I...|||Tell me more about this... so when you sense someone moving away, you move away, too? Just a little, or do you sort of disappear? Does this happen instantly or is it over time? Is it communication...|||I think I am coming to the point where I will use more discretion, too. I thought about this issue a couple of years ago and back then, I didn't want the burden of it. I didn't want to not feel free...|||Oooh, there are a LOT of books that I could say -- I love self-help books! But the one that really stands out above the rest as I think of it is How to Be An Adult by David Richo. Life-changing...|||What sorts of boundaries do you have up? In what ways have people tried to test your boundaries? (Just curious!)|||I've never been in a situation where information was used publicly, but I suspect that it would be quite like you said. Actually, I remember a time in elementary school when a girl tried to make fun...|||I remember reading in the personal growth for ENFPs that we can be too trusting and naive. I definitely relate to what you wrote, especially the part I bolded. I thought that there was no...|||I can definitely relate to this... I can make it so you don't know something is wrong or you don't know what's going on unless I want you to... but yeah, for the people I trust, they can pick up on...|||Reading this, I just smiled because it sounds so adorable! But the others are right -- don't let it go so long without doing anything that she emotionally shuts down because she assumes you're not...|||Oh, I definitely do that as well -- try to keep my problems in or act like everything is fine because I don't want to bring anyone else down.   But I guess, it's more of... conversation. Like a lot...|||I pretty much agree with this whole thing except...    If we're having a fun, light-hearted discussion, I'm totally down for that. But I do not like being interrupted if I am stating a serious...|||Thanks for this! I've been trying to figure this out myself... I was pretty sure I was an ENFP, but went back and forth. But I think this helps to clarify it for me.|||*I* do this as well. *I* totally notice it whenever I write. Sometimes when I am writing papers for some reason (school, blog posts, whatever), I'll change things around because there are just *I's*...|||I like to call myself a bit of a nomad for this reason -- I like change. I don't like too much stability, and yet I crave it in some senses. This is the first time in my adult life that I am actually...'