'Ask him to take a quick look at this: https://7chan.org/lit/src/Robert_Glover_-_No_More_Mr_Nice_Guy.pdf|||I think we'll have to wait for someone with a J to do all this.|||Emasculation can be in many forms: constantly telling a man that he is incapable of something, or that he is too confident, or his plans will never take shape. Yes I knew I was on to something.|||Just narrowing it down from the previous poll.|||Sister poll to: http://personalitycafe.com/intp-forum-thinkers/562074-unscientific-poll-were-you-eldest-did-you-have-dominant-mother-figure.html|||Video games work on very tight deadlines and the entire project revolves around timely completion of tasks in music, art/graphics, tools, physics, AI etc. Games need to be released on a timely basis...|||I was only modeling this from a male standpoint, I believe females INTPs might have some other influences...maybe they are more pure as INTPs?|||I think ideas are easier to deal with because in the case of failure or rejection, you can always start over. In contrast, reality is irreversible.|||basically I was interested in knowing who had the most influence on your thinking abilities. Strong mother or several females could be equivalent. Still its just a theory, might refine it more.|||Yep must be a joke.|||I have a (politically incorrect) theory that if you're a man, a female dominated household suppresses your ability to take risks, and introduces P in your INTP-ness. And similarly, to cope with...|||Just testing a theory:  1. Were you the eldest child? 2. Did you grow up a female dominated household?|||In the Indian spiritual text Bhagavad Gita it is said that timing of death can determine your afterlife: Bhagavad-gita As It Is Chapter 8 Verse 26|||Angry and Hungry?|||This is it. Basically, the only way a conversation or connection can happen is if they provide something, and I keep feeding off it. My only contribution is to dissect what they said.|||I think this is the clue to improving such behavior. When I'm low on energy, I try to get a grip on reality by quizzing someone, and its easy to ask questions, but there is nothing to be gained from...|||I've noticed, when my own energy level is low (due to lack of sleep or something), my interest in finding out facts becomes even more powerful and ignores social norms. My curiosity about another...|||Will try this tomorrow. Thanks for the tip.|||Thanks for this. I don't have social anxiety, only thing that often makes me lose steam is the total pointlessness of most social interactions.|||Church and friends, you didn't need a disclaimer.|||this is a useful feedback.|||the thing is, sex is not my main interest. I'm interested in finding out if the entire mechanism of meeting a stranger and doing something with her is possible in a few hours.|||Finally|||Yeah that's how I do it too. Sometimes the pleasure comes from unrealistic hope, like the value of a lottery ticket.|||I think its sad undertones come from my longing for human touch. Haven't had sex in 8 months, not even a kiss ;) And realizing that its easy to get some fulfillment through other people who want the...|||I've found a great way to get over it. Find a club with good music, and focus on the music. Forget the people and even how you're dancing. It gets better with practice. Then when you're in the music,...|||Can you elaborate on what its so glorious?   I've never been into the club scene for all the reasons mentioned in the INFJ forum thread...|||The impression I get is that my nightclub-averse behavior during my 20s is definitely an INTP behavior..... Still, think of this as an experiment, its a bit of a hunt. The thrill of finding out if a...|||This is a sequel to another thread I've created in the INFJ forum (http://personalitycafe.com/infj-forum-protectors/531073-do-you-go-nightclubs.html). What is the best way for INTPs to get one night...|||I'm in my 30s and have started exploring nightclubs. During my 20s I never liked it much, too much noise, pointlessness, and I used to not drink. But now, I've learnt to let go and dance whatever way...|||Just do what you need to do to fulfill your desires. That's one way of listening to your heart. When you doubt it, that's where overthinking begins. Get what you want and forget the right or wrong or...|||This is just perfect!|||A million justifications, excuses, shifting of blame doesn't change the fact that you're responsible for your actions.|||Show some respect for your previous relationship. It's good karma even if it means putting your hormones in the freezer for a few months. A rebound won't help you in the long run.|||Read my previous reply.|||Let me add a more straightforward reply: the problem doesn't appear to be him but you. It seems to me that you want to have some fun with him without taking responsibility for it, and to have some...|||Sounds like you're looking for some kind of justification to like this guy.|||They are not mistakes if you trust your heart.|||Don't overthink about what part of you is responsible. Just follow your heart, and live in the present moment.|||I didn't mean to hurt your sentiments.|||In my experience with an ENFJ, I've noticed not so much that she became logical but that she became open to accepting logical solutions to whatever was bothering her. The concept of overthinking...|||You don't like being controlled?|||Yes! This! Its like walking while cuddling. Feels great. On the surface it looks very mellow and calm but internally between the two partners it can be a turbulent ocean.|||Look, sex is the most powerful source of personal energy that we have, and often we don't know how to find an outlet for it. We have the source of this energy, but many times we have nobody to...|||Its normal to feel lonely due to lack of physical affection. If I may suggest, why don't you try taking up some dance classes, like Tango or Rumba? I've discovered that sometimes my need for a hit...|||I suggest this with a disclaimer: maybe you'll find happiness in this but if not, maybe you can find something beautiful in it.  Indian Spirituality and Yoga revolve around the concept of being...|||Yes visit it. Its a dense city with much going on. Much of what Hollywood portrays is the bits of NYC which are unique to it, and Wall street is one of them. Best idea, stay at a hostel like...|||SATAN|||This is true. For example its difficult for me at times to focus on reading a book in a cafe or a bar because of the chitter chatter around me. I'd rather be away from everyone and focus on my...|||Thank you. This helps. Although I've not been verbally critical with any of my S/O's in the past, my only wish was that they'd understand me, and thats a tall order given how complicated people like...'