'teddy  I'm so dense. I have that book (and love it).|||@NineTypesOfLight Thanks hun :) I only asked about your age because you look far beyond your years (not in a bad way at all).  @Cassie Wow, that's a long list and I couldn't imagine going through...|||Bigbrother87 You are adorable (not to undermine your masculinity)!|||Just a few minutes ago, something made me laugh. Right after I laughed, I frowned, realizing that I had picked up that particular laugh from an ex who is completely and justifiably no longer a part...|||May I ask what book this is?|||Last year around this time, I was just starting to dig into MBTI and PerC. Somewhere I got note of a book called The Introvert Advantage and I was super excited to get my hands on it because I was...|||teddy So much great advice, as usual! Thank you, you're tireless...|||^^This. I'm in my second year of college too, but I'm home for awhile. I've been wanting to go out of town to visit my godmother for weeks now but didn't want to upset my mother (she's kinda jealous...|||J'adore les ESTPs.|||Does anyone else shut down aka withdraw when hurt from a conflict?   Whenever someone crosses my boundaries or hurts my feelings, I immediately withdraw to further protect myself from hurt. I have...|||Great thread :)  I'm in that period of my young life too.|||I definitely agree with the turtle analogy.   I start in a shell.   When I start to trust you (which can happen too quickly sometimes), my head starts to poke out a little bit...  The more...|||teddy564339 Thank you :laughing:. I'm def under the radar as much as possible.|||Well I'm also going to be biased since I only know of two ESTPs for sure. One: my former close friend. Two: my younger sister.  ESTPs. I love them, based on the two I know. Even though I had a...|||You stole the words right out of my mouth. It scares me too, but regardless I still crave pain sometimes. And when I get it, I hate it.|||Your message sounds lovely to me; the tone of it would make me feel safe-r if I was her...but because I'm not her I can only speculate. Tell us how it goes!  And you're awful hard on yourself, it...|||I resonate with all of you saying that it's hard not to minimize accomplishments, for various reasons.   NineTypesOfLight You're 20 y.o.?  Earlier this year, I randomly made a Word document and...|||I don't know if I believe in marriage so much anymore, but eh, it could happen.   As for kids, I am completely unsure because as much as I love babies and the baby nephew I have running around the...|||I relate so well with what you're saying. I've picked up on laid-backness over the years, enough where it can appear that I am  a laid-back person most of the time--and nothing wrong with that--but...|||I'm sorry if there's already a thread floating around about this, but anyone know what about an ISFJ's functions makes us lean towards frequent seriousness?  I was told I didn't smile once in my...|||Here's more (look at me being conceited) :cool:  36535  36536  36537|||I'm glad I made this thread! Reading back over it, I kinda cringe at how pissed off I sounded in the OP, but eh, that's okay, I got my point across. But also in posting my ill-informed frustration, I...|||I'm a sophomore in college and still struggling with developing the type of friendships I prefer (non-superficial ones). I think I come off as boring to those who don't know me...and few know me,...|||I love this! I have a youtube channel and have been wanting to make videos about this sort of stuff for a while, but I just never get around to it (plus my channel is geared towards hair care haha)....|||Taking tests may not be one of your strengths, and that's fine, but do try to work on what I call trusting yourself. The trick is to prepare as best as you know how and then to concede that you've...|||I learned I was an ISFJ when I was a freshman in high school, but I didn't realize that there was so much more to learn about MBTI types until a couple of years ago (to my delight). When I did...|||dagnytaggart: No no lol, I don't think you sound racist at all, I'm just not that familiar with functions like Fe or Si and so I simply needed clarification on the I notice a LOT of Fe.  ...|||Wait, can you elaborate more on that please?|||You'd be surprised: I've been feeling very closed off and cynical towards people lately, but tonight I got a hug, a really heartfelt one, and I completely melted. It can make a big difference; bigger...|||I consider myself extremely loyal, but I believe this quality comes with a cost. My tendency to stick to you through thick and thin usually has me sticking to toxic people and/or situations that...|||Thank you for the input everyone. I suppose it'll just take time as I get older to accept myself for who I am and shut out what society tells me to be.|||Too much. That's all I'm gonna say.|||I suggest him getting involved in activities where he can give back to the community.|||I took a test that gave me 3 results. One of them I'd rather chuck, so the remaining two are: 6w7 and 4w5. Both resonate with me pretty well.|||I don't feel like posting anything long tonight, but I'm really bad about this. I'll just address one facet of the question: my ability to say no.  I'm so terrible at it. If somebody really really...|||Dedicate each day's headspace more to you than to whomever you're trying to get over.  Be patient with what will probably be a long process. Be patient with yourself.  Realize that as much as you...|||This be me :)  Showin my face and my crazy hair|||I'm a sophomore in college. Always been a goodie goodie until last weekend. I got drunk for the first time *gasp* (accidentally).  I've gotten tipsy a couple times this past year, and that's a...|||Hey ISFJ community,   I don't post very often, in usual ISFJ fashion, but I really should and this is one topic I haven't really seen before, so I'm bringing it up.  Are there any ISFJs on this...|||LiquidCool,  I was just aiming a question at older and wiser ISFJs (technically, they don't have to be older...) who have come to a place where they are just fine (in other words, self-sufficient)...|||That helps a lot :)|||Flory, thanks for the reply. I hold really long grudges too :/|||Most of my life I've felt unappreciated for what I'm about and what I do (for myself & others). I have moved about 7 times, so all the close friendships I've had have withered. In my senior year of...|||...free of anyone's opinion? How is it possible to be self-sufficient if appreciation is crucial to who we are (generally speaking)? :frustrating:|||Gahh it's so hard to actually post things on here (second post ever)! I come to the forum and I go all insecure-ISFJ and think it has already been posted or it won't be a good enough post. Finallyyy,...|||Thank you for all the support! I have so many threads to start (or search for)...|||@Teddy: Yep, I found there to be some good information in there too, but not all of it was news.  XXXX: You can find the book on Amazon for about $10, shipping included.  Here's more info :) :  ...|||...if you don't have this book.  This is my second post on PerC! I recently broke up with an INTJ/ENFP and then started researching our incompatibility issues. It led me to buying a book called...|||Hello Everyone,   Glad to be here. I've been reading for a month now, and it's taken me just as long to work up the feeling that I indeed have something to contribute as a doormat and nurturing...'