'Wow! You are obviously her muse... Be flattered. They are quite well written, but honestly, who cares what she thinks of you now? I had a friend like that, although she didnt post anything, but the...|||I admit, I used to have friends who were more like acquaintences. I didn't have the deep and interesting friendships I have now. I had to leave some people behind to find friends worth having. I felt...|||I am the eldest of five children. both my parents are also eldest children. serious perfectionism issues!|||I like to help. But I've sometimes gone ahead when I should have held back. I let people too close when I should be more circumspect. I don't listen when those closest to me warn about the dangers. I...|||I wish I didn't doubt mine... there have been many painful lessons because I didn't listen to it and let my compassion rule my head. Is gut instinct a highly evolved survival instinct?|||yup! sure do.|||definitely. animals have no choice but to rely upon our kindnesses. its inexcusable to mistreat them. people who deliberately enjoy tormenting, half killing, torturing and maiming animals should be...|||wow, sorry to hear your night is crap. but you do have some very good points and we appreciate that here on the forum! you're safe here with us, no matter what 'arguments' and misunderstandings seem...|||I'm a bit confused about what is happening here and more importantly, why it is happening. but I guess its just illustratng the point perfectly, about what pisses us off about people...:confused:|||there's a saying, 'what other people think of you is none or you business' who the hell cares f they're talking about you? The people whose opinions really count won't be swayed by malicious lies....|||perhaps lying to yourself, self delusion, is the worst lie. it hurts others as well as yourself. no good can come from it. but keeping certain things from those you love, for their own sake, now that...|||I find myself giggling at your list, goodewitch. so many a-hah's from me!|||I like that idea of team work... being on the same wavelength. Hm. sounds good. I have to admit!|||Excellent point! A little bit of mothering goes a long way when you're used to being the one doing the mothering...|||I love the idea of a man undersandng me intuitively, but I also like the contrast of different perspectives. Its weird, but in some relationshps, I become the quirky, try anything person and the...|||oooh.... I like the way you put that!|||OK, I haven't strictly answered the orginal question of this tread - oops! There are so many interesting tangents here...  I like: tall men, (6ft) dark haired and masculine-looking, somewhere...|||Me too. Can't stand extroverts! All that loud, attention seeking behaviour... ugh!|||Wow, Blueheart, you are talking about my life! My man is ISTJ and although we have found each other confusing, we're figuring out how to communicate. I have always said we compliment each other,...|||Do INFJ men find us INFJ women too intense or do we connect on a deep and satisfying level? Are we not funny/outgoing/quirky enough?:blushed:|||I take in everything and I think some days it makes me physically ill. Is there a cure? Is there an INFJ's EA - Empathy Anonymous?|||I have great difficulty blocking other people's emotions, even actors on TV and films. I know, its pathetic! I feel what they are feelng, even when I know its not real. I am there, in their body, in...|||I know this is a little out of character for me, being this blunt, but hey, sometimes people just.... argh! I feel it goes against my tolerant, supportive and lovng nature to say this, but some...|||I'm just wondering how much heredity plays a part in developing an INFJ personality. I seem to be becoming more introverted the older I get. I've had the corners knocked off so many times its changed...|||I just thought of something else that has defintely helped - I copied the 'How NOT to win over and INFJ' thread and the How to win over an INFJ' thread and gave them to him, (after some judicious...|||I agree. Attraction comes not just from a physical, chemical process and unconscious interpretation of body language, it comes form a FEELING of connecting with the person. When I meet someone for...|||Insightful, Tyrael. thank you. Perhaps females are hardwired to look for the perceived 'strongest' male. Although, persoanlly, I may find them physically appealing, there is a hollowness about them i...|||You're onto something here, Dr M. I find myself nodding as I read your response. We can get waaaaaay too wound up about definitions. Let's look at practicalities for a second. If guys are more F,...|||Sound advice! I work myself up to it, but sometimes the hammering in my chest is so loud I worry others will actually hear it. When you're on the verge of hyperventilating, its difficult to think...|||I guess initially its about hunkering down to ride out the storm. With time comes the confidence and distance to reconfigure how you feel about it. I have learned, int he last twelve months in fact,...|||Thanks SLN! You are wise for one so young, Glasshoppa...|||You are precisely ON the point, Damaged. I feel for you! Please accept my virtual hug... :happy: Its hard as the child caught in the middle of divorce not to feel somehow responsible, especially if...|||Thanks for your comments, TransparentMe. I think the hardesnt thing sometimes is to stand by and watch someone you love go through those fires. Sometimes it is necessary, a cleansing, purifying...|||Thanks Duke. And no, you are not self-indulgant, just expressing something complicated. You're safe here with us INFJs! :proud:  I do take your point about making sorrow a noun. That is kinda what...|||I have always felt like aliens dropped me into my family! They just don't get me. I used to tell people I was adopted. I have four siblings. Two full sisters who are like Mum, and a half brother and...|||So true! i find the connection between deeper thoughts/understand on the subject and formulating sentences which could be uttered out loud is jiggered in a social setting or when I am under pressure....|||I am interested to know if this strikes a chord with any of you. I've survived the usual childhood traumas of divorced parents etc but have also had a lot of chronic physical pain in my life. I...|||thanks Rouge! btw my new fave perfume is called 'rouge' by christian lacroix.|||I agree Rouge, that dressing for work has to fit the job. I want to be taken seriously in my work. I am a sort of authority figure in my field.  I wear lots of different things, depending on my mood,...|||I agree Rouge, that dressing for work has to fit the job. I want to be taken seriously in my work. I am a sort of authority figure in my field.  I wear lots of different things, depending on my mood,...|||[quote=avalanche183;83285]All of these are true of course;  1.) Have no trouble getting guys/girls,  true. never had a problem there. Its been a case of the oppostie and still is. Have lost friends...|||I like you already! No wonder we feel safe with you guys. And that is a big compliment, coming from the wildly independant INFJ clan.  :laughing:|||Hi there dreaming panda. I have been married to an ISTJ for half my life ( I know, I can't believe it myself) He has been a bit of a mystery to me too LOL! He is the big guardian inspector type (see...|||Hubby (I suspect ISTJ) has read the 'HOW NOT TO WIN OVER AND INFJ and started putting it into practice. Bless him! He would like a list for the opposite. HOW TO WIN OVER AN INFJ. I thought there was...|||[quote=Amittai;44833]Hey internet INFJs,   I was wondering if other INFJs share my problem.   It seems obvious that many (if not all) INFJs suffer from some kind of mental illness, generally...|||Thanks! we are pretty much cats ourselves, which is why many of us have them as pets. I understand cats and they understand me. Its uncanny, that they know when to play fight with you and when to...|||Wow, you sure know how to romance us INFJ girls! I'd be all over you too. :blushed:  I don't have any male INFJ friends. I seem to attract ISTJ's and INFP's. I wonder why that is?|||Tridentus, perhaps asking yourself why you are attracted to these types would be a good place to start. As an INFJ I go with my gut feeling and that is pretty much immediate when i meet someone. I...|||I feel for you, empatheticsoul! Its hard enough being an INFJ woman, let alone an INFJ man! I can only imagine what you must be feeling. All I can say is that love, no matter who you find it with,...|||LOL! Yeah, as INFJs we can't really switch off feeling stuff. Very hard to block it. But negative people can suck you dry of positivity, if you let them. I try to imagine a forcefield around myself....'