I have gone through similar things in the past, a few things have prevented this from recurring. 1. Looking at the family dynamics in my childhood. NFs are sensitive to a lot of things that are not...|||From my personal INFJ perspective, people tend to come to me more for sympathy in the garb of advice. It is only then that I get mad. And it is only a rare set of people it happens with. They are...|||I was in law for quite a long time... mostly biglaw. It doesnt fit well. I have spent most of my law years looking for something else to do. As to alternate careers - I loved business, management...|||It's not really a personality type thing I suppose but there is no where else I could have discussed this.  I have moved back with my mom and sis (ENFP, 23 I am a couple of years older) last year...|||The article is very well written. I am sure to read it quite a few more times.  Thank you :)|||Hi Everyone Thank you very much for taking the time and replying to the post.  I was so sick of dealing with my family that I had unsubscribed from this post for a while. After lot of harrowing...|||I think there is a difference between 1. solitude, 2. loneliness that leads you to greater spiritual awareness, and 3. the absence of intimacy. What INFJs seem to complain about is the absence of...|||This one made me laugh. I for one would definitely wonder about the motive of the persons around me.   If it does turn out to be a real all INFJ gathering - I think it should turn out to be quite a...|||I usually feel that my assessment of people is very accurate in even brief interactions. The mistake I make is discussing my opinion with others and they some how try to correct it. E.g. I thought a...|||As to me I feel it is more a mechanism to cool things off for a while and get back to them when both parties get more emotionally sober. Ideally I would like to pause a fight before it gets too...|||Typism or not, I think Sensors do lack self-awareness in general, which is an important criteria for how they actually get along with someone like me. I am not saying all of them are immature, but it...|||I know for a fact that there was something there, but it was all non-verbal of course, so its not accepted by him. I have to work with him everyday, what do you think would be the practical thing to...|||Thanks for your reply. But there has been an interesting development, I had seen the guy taking interest in me off and on, so I finally decided to come clean with him. I told him I kind of liked him...|||Thanks for your reply. But there has been an interesting development, I had seen the guy taking interest in me off and on, so I finally decided to come clean with him. I told him I kind of liked him...|||I have been reading posts about INFJs not getting along with their families. I was just wondering that is it really our families or is there really a problem with us? I have just spent an entire week...|||What are the chances of getting along with an ESFJ guy for an INFJ girl? I am a little unsure as of now, he seems very charming, but somehow I feel we will eventually run out of conversations, or...|||Thanks for the replies everyone. Actually in the heart of my hearts I keep wondering that why is it that I don't get along with my mother. I get along with everyone and most people get along with my...|||There have been quite a few threads on this topic, which I have been reading for quite a while, but this time I thought I'll start one of my own... My mother is an ESFP, I dont have my dad. She sort...|||Thanks for all your replies, my last doubt is, would it be ethical to take the job knowing about the guy's intentions and then refuse the guy later. I know morals and ethics don't really count in...|||But hypothetically how do I do that? We've never talked much, so its difficult to be upfront about anything...|||I have been offered a job by a guy who really likes me. He has never said it, but he is usually making efforts to be around me and just be extra-chivalrous.  The job is a big deal career wise. I...|||Yes you are correct if you assume that better work environments are possible. And they do depend on the industry you are in. You might take sometime in finding them but they do exist. Also even if...|||'If you play with pigs in the mud, after a point you would notice that the pigs are enjoying' I think for you the best strategy would be to start looking for another place to work in, and be as low...|||Hi Everyone, I came across an article by Jane Spurr and Lusia Stopa, in 2002 Clinical Psychology Review. It talks about how increased self-awareness implies higher social anxiety. It says people who...|||Hi, thanks for the post.  Just to confirm that I've understood well, does this mean that when we are acting we are using two pair functions simultaneously and not just one function?|||Try a change of scene, place or schedule - you'll feel better about yourself. :) INFJs instinctively avoid scenes and situations where they would be noticed by people. I for one do it, so that I can...|||Yes. I have stayed for 7 and I have developed some serious stress related illnesses.|||Also adding to what Adamantya said about learning new skills. I also feel very conscious of experimenting with something new in my own social group. I would much rather do it in a place where no one...|||I too agree about the perfectionism which also translates into a tendency to beat myself up internally for every small little mistake I make. I have to make regular conscious efforts to be gentle on...|||:D Some of them may be.  But the ones I have come across have this amazing understanding smile and pleasant, quiet persona! You wouldn't even notice they were there, and then you look back and...|||Do you think INFJs are high maintenance boyfriends/girlfriends? :)|||I'd posted something here, but thought would start a new thread... couldn't figure out how to delete the post.|||That's really sweet, to have someone pick up on your covert intentions :)|||Lol! All this is so true for me as well... I take weeks to actually realise that the person was flirting with me, and earlier I used to be glad that he has moved on to someone else. For the really...|||I know, being in the legal field can make you feel like that. It does make one very cynical. I have been able to come out of that frame of mind after a long time, but was really hoping I could use my...|||And why would you say that?|||Any INFJ Environmental lawyers or law professors on the forum? Do you like your work? The only mainstream legal careers which suit INFJs appear to be academics (for public policy related issues) or...|||Even I associate most with Gandhi, specially when I read 'My Experiments with Truth' I could feel at every point as if it was I who was living it. Dumbledore in Harry Potter is also an INFJ......|||I love the last one... its so rare to be able to do that! :D|||Can't really generalize but I have also seen, that sometimes because INFJ women could appear a little detached/aloof, they are nice but distant. So people avoid approaching them. It might be better...|||Actually if she is an INFJ, you shouldn't really worry too much about rejection, the exchange would be pleasant only. INFJs care too much about people to actually be nasty to you. There is a chance...|||:) I know it happens with me too!|||If you need help interpreting, I could discuss.|||Its quite true, what you say. In India for example I have observed, introversion and exercising N functions seem to be more acceptable than in western societies. But largely I have found most of...|||Hi Everyone :)  Thanks a lot for all your replies. It feels nice to just be understood :) I think I'll just take whatever has happened as lessons in assertiveness, and I think I really need to work...|||I have noticed a very annoying habit of myself which I really want to get rid of. I am sometimes just too nice to people specially when they are upset. But the latest thing I have observed is that...|||I feel you are just taking anyone who's been nice to you as your friend. There are no 'friends' in a competitive environment. It is actually a war. You let down your guard for one minute with anyone,...|||I haven't been able to read the entire thread. But I have been in really bad work environments, and my usual strategy is to not show much of my emotions when with people. Most of them actually think...|||I have observed that when I am working I usually don't like to be disturbed by either food or sleep or any other activity. Ideally I would prefer to eat and sleep only after I have finished my work,...|||I can also identify with what has been said above. I have been acquaintances whom I started to like over a period of time and that raises the amount of words I use with them. And when I am really...