I have never mastered whether to go with the gut or the heart. I tend to go with the heart when i shoulda gone with the gut. and I've gone with the gut when i should gone with the heart.  I've also...|||Ya its amazing the power photography has to clear a mind|||Well what about people like me that has a best friend who is a girl that thinking back, i could have gotten it to more but i never tried courting her. But yes courting sucks. i suck at courting...|||Ah dude i feel your pain. For example, i'm friends with one particular lady over social media. While she didnt mind it at first, she is totally against communication over social media and keep...|||I'm not sure what might be fueling some of this anger. some of it might just be that anger was his only way of expressing this stuff when he was younger. Personally, i hate being around angry people....|||Ya i feel this sometimes too. I procrastinate a lot but when i feel socially drained, i've noticed that the motivation just disappears.|||But dont get me wrong OldManRivers ,  i do get your points, im just not sure how photography doesnt involve how you gather and process the info you see or feel. like being compelled to take a photo...|||Ok. well i was curious on it because I tend to be told it's because I find the hidden beauty. I know i turn to photography to get away from people. And isnt photography all about what you see. If you...|||Ok so the background. I surprisingly am in the Student activities committee in college (there is maybe 15 of us total). We had our 1st ever talent show and i was asked to be a the photographer. They...|||I'm thinking she might be infj with moments of intj|||true|||I do exhibit this kind of stuff once in awhile. But everyone i know, knows that deep down, im just doing it to survive through college... they know im introverted, like to be left alone (well except...|||Ya like some pop songs i like for beats and not for the lyrics. But i tend to inject some meaning into songs thao  i dont think is actually there|||Well i dunno. when the room is happy i tend to not be happy. I think yes some of it is past experiences especially as i have Social Anxiety, Anti-Social tendencies and i'm just sorta strange when...|||well idk if it is type specific as idk what others types are. But it seems like in my life, INFJs, especially guys, tend to be seen as needy, lacking confidence, indecisive, depressed, dreamers.|||I was wondering if all of you think there might be a connection between how an INFJ thinks and the meanings that lead us to pick certain songs or that type stuff to listen to.  For example, I can't...|||I tend to like winter and sometimes the very early spring. I like winter because it is one of the few seasons that seems to have more of a calming sense to it. You get all the charity stuff for the...|||Almost my life exactly sometimes. Especially the noticing, getting to know em and physical relationship parts. I havent had much luck in dating so ive only had to deal with like 1 or 2 breakups|||Ya. the relationship and social issues are the biggies for me. I've had times in high school where i was the non-popular group guy who nearly stole the heart of the most popular girl in school, but i...|||Well i have social anxiety so ive got issues with indecision on issues dealing with social/relationship situations. I end up being really terrible at trying to attract a girl because i sometimes show...|||I tend to have issues with over-expressing when something is bugging me and ignoring the positive stuff. I tend to have certain people i would go to and i have chased people off because of that. I...|||I've felt similarly and it is somewhat difficult. In addition to me being INFJ, ive got a bad case of ADHD, Social Anxiety Disorder. I also have numerous trust issues. I sometimes have no issue...|||Maybe not in that context but there may be truths. Think of it this way. We seem to know things others dont, we sometimes find the hidden patterns. At the same time we see we dont quite fit in and...|||I was wondering what other INFJ saw as their biggest pitfall not only in friendship relationships but also in potential courting processes too??  For example, mine tend to be things like trying too...|||That's almost exactly like me. Externally in social situations, i seem laid back and easy going and easy to get a long with. but internally, im freaking out due to overloads of everything around,...|||For me, it depends on what's bugging me. usually i don't speak up when somethings bugging me because i dont really like conflict nor do i want to cause issues, so i tend to internalize most things...|||That's where my question came up is what we did was planned out and everything, but it wasnt defined as either one by either of us|||thats true|||Ya I see that would be the easiest and quickest way to find out. But i have enough issues just not getting nervous and whatnot around this girl|||Not to sem weird to answer my own post, but yes im still concerned with this fine line, as it has gotten reblurred when i  invited the girl (the one mentioned before in here) to come to my college's...|||I'm sure we all just mentally shook our heads lol. but i get hat he means about people doing crazy things. Someone i knew last year had never seen snow before, so they took a sled and went down the...|||Things may or may not get better as one of my friends convinced me to join my colleges student activities club (the club responsible for on campus student activities like speakers, dances, etc). They...|||I have to agree with the posts about coming off scary until people get to know you. my best friend from high school almost didnt become my friend cuz of the first impression|||Oh believe me, college is a freaking nightmare. i go to a private college (maybe 1500 students total) that is located near me as i live at home still.  but i am in my second year and its starting...|||What if it's not by choice though? part of my reason is purely cost based, i couldnt afford the dorms. but thats what i'm talking about, people assume that living off campus i want left out when i...|||True there, I'm not totally sure how to describe it, but it just feels like i sorta feel disconnect from people because i dont live in the the dorms, i'm not into the whole get drunk on the weekends...|||Just curious, Those of you INFJ's currently in or who have gone to college, did you ever feel a bit disconnected from everybody? did few people want to socialize with you because they saw you as...|||I do have the issue of social anxiety but i think my friend groups have helped. while i hate interacting around large groups, im fine in classes and hallways and I'm known by some as the most...|||Maybe not so much with the violent stuff, but i get lots of these thoughts. every situation i go into, i immediatley get the thought of the worst possible thing that could happen. such as the day...|||I do have severe S.A.D.. I've been working for over a year to handle it, but when i get anxious, i get super sweaty and nervous over the little things, which then leads to a insecurity-like feeling,...|||makes a ton of sense there. So basically being shy is a sometime unconscious response, or programming, to something in the past (mistakes, failures, humiliations, simple misunderstandings) rather...|||But can't a person unconsciously act shy??|||So i think liquidlight is saying shyness is person to person. i get that some infj are shy and others aren't, but do you think that our introverted-ness and odd-ness to everyone else might make them...|||Same here. i'm a nice person but im shy especially when it comes to love. Love-shyness is not yet recognized as a disorder but its basically a debilitating shyness when it comes to love|||I have to agree there. I have severe social anxiety and shyness due to the years of torment at school (1st grade until i fought back in 10th grade).|||This was brought up in one of my other threads. I was wondering what everyone's opinion is on this. Do you think as INFJs (especially some of us guys), we are more prone to social anxiety, shyness,...|||This is true. I have very severe social anxiety. I eventually asked and found that i had become to close of a friend for her to see me as a more than friends.  But @FemaleINFJ brings up a good...|||I agree, my S.A is more rooted from the years of torment in school and the fear of being a bother to others. When it comes to certain groups of people, i get anxious over what they think of me for...|||Makes sense. I mean i've always told people, even when she is being courted by another guy, the best way to know how she sees the relationship is to just ask. somehow i give good relationship advice...|||eh its ok, all that happened was plans got substituted