'right, haha I do the same :D|||mystikro What did you do then?|||InsanityRemix  so you did try before, just after many failed trials, you learned hopelessness and kind of giving up on it, but let others to approach you instead. I think the most important thing...|||InsanityRemix So you don't initiate anything at all? always wait for the woman to make the first move?|||@Sehsucht Are you sure he's INFJ? I have doubt for it.|||Lunatics  you are right, I feel the same. Need to be out of comfy zone, ahhh, it's tough.|||NomadLeviathan   What about in the 30s? still be slow? or faster? but slow or faster is relative concept, let's say the exact time frame. How fast would you think it's fast? 1 month?|||Broomhead  talk about romance but wont' direct at the person Q_Q  what about after you are IN a relationship?|||NomadLeviathan  hmmm, seems like INFJ men tend to give subtle hints, 'observe/study' the potential 'partner', move like a snail on pursuing the partner, caring and supportive.|||ohnno  It's great that yo did that, haha, it's so romantic :D reasons behind my questions?hmm, there's an INFJ guy I like, but I am not sure if he's treating me just as a friend or not. Just need...|||originalsin I agree with you, since they've already told her beforehand, this bad thing to her is like she created for herself, in another word, she asked for it. Things won't change until she...|||NomadLeviathan, originalsin   Besides, women release more oxytocin which lead to let the guard down and fall in love with a man after sex, that's a bonding effect. But men's main hormone released...|||originalsin I highly recommend her to watch Patti Stanger's The Millionaire Matchmaker, the No.1 rule of dating is No sex before monogamy if she wants a relationship not just sex. I think she...|||nightsong it's so beautiful when you write it down, I almost melt. INFJs are too often the support side in a relationship. It's better to keep a balance between giving and receiving, otherwise, the...|||Copper North  Maybe can try other ways to court along girls?|||NomadLeviathan  It's like a flipped coin, isn't it? It could be this at some point, but it could be the opposite as well. Like receiving and giving, it is the balance that matters the most.|||originalsin Sleeping with two guys the same week? oh no, how?! I mean I am confused by casual sex, the intimacy is like a sanctum for me. There are so many reasons for that of course, and people are...|||NomadLeviathan  6 months, hmm, faster than 12 months as least :-) I hope you find the right one that can work out for you|||NomadLeviathan   Thank you for confirming that, the hope is on the rise:laughing:|||Copper North I hope it works for you next time. Quiet and discreet, keeping a low profile, it's so subtle. sometimes I hope that INFJ guys can say it loud too, but maybe it's the charming part about...|||NomadLeviathan You show your love by paying more attention to her even though you don't say it loud :-)|||originalsin  sorry about your ISFJ girl's hard time, we all suffer from our own struggles, don't we? It's part of our life :-) Maybe she just needs some more alone time, or maybe sometimes need a...|||Val37  Thank you for chirping in :-) 10 to 12 months, that's a really long blossom period :-) I've never had relationships that need to take that long to prepare in a relationship. Usually guys...|||Broomhead, hmm, basically you would wait for others to make the first move?|||Broomhead   Thank you. I get it now, it's quite an obscure way to show the interest. Would you do/say anything directly to that person that you like her?|||Jesuncolo, so eventually you do say that you are interested directly, thank you for that:happy:|||Deejaz Thank you for your ramble :-)|||Jesuncolo, thank you for that. How long that you are gonna wait to tell her you are interested or not?|||Congrats that you find an INFP which is a good match with INFJ too. Making her feel like the center of the universe, could you make some examples please? thank you.|||Congrats that you find an INFP which is a good match with INFJ too. Making her feel like the center of the universe, could you make some examples please? thank you.|||Great care... right, it's pretty hard to tell the difference between caring for a friend and caring for the one you really like, especially during the process before there's a relationship. But how...|||Thank you. So what kind of actions that you usually take? like giving her gifts? love letters? or...|||10 or 11 MONTHS!!! Seriously? Are there any romantic things that you would do during the 10 months? Thank you.|||Thank you Sygma, hmm, a lot of time, like 5 days a week? does it include writing emails stuff to her?|||thanks for sharing your thought. But I am not sure what kind of unusual service that you are talking about?  And what about after you find out the other person's MBTI type? let's say she's INFJ...|||thanks for sharing your thought. But I am not sure what kind of unusual service that you are talking about?   And what about after you find out the other person's MBTI type? let's say she's INFJ...|||Thanks for sharing this. hmm, show love by deeds, invite to the place that you feel comfortable with and create things for her, thank you :-)|||Thanks for that.|||Hi all, I am curious about male INFJs' ways to show interest on a girl? How do you guys express love? How to tell if an INFJ male is going to friendzone the person or not before the INFJ male do any...|||let's spread it out, Auckland iNtuitives group  https://www.facebook.com/groups/482667475233815/|||Hey Emilie, why not try to join the Auckland iNtuitives group?  https://www.facebook.com/groups/482667475233815/|||Great, another INFJ in NZ!|||I am not young as 20s, I had BFs before, but, just, you know, I am just afraid to ask a guy out. I'll wait for them to take the move :-)|||I was quite reluctant and felt embarrassed to please people when I was younger. But after I read many self-help/psychology books, I gradually learned how to please people without project my own...|||what about ENTP, would ENTPs go out of their way to please people?|||I think he likes you :-)|||I am INFJ/F in Auckland, want to make some friends having similar types. My question is where do INFPs usually go? Coffee shop? library? thank you.|||Great, I like guys having wide shoulders. INFJ guy sounds amazing, haven't met any guys are INFJ yet.|||I think you gave a perfect example of INFJ guys :-) Thank you.|||dont worry, I am new as well :-)'