'I rarely have difficulty knowing how I feel or why.  I seem to be having more trouble knowing how I feel over the last few years though.  Perhaps this is a result of being in a crappy marriage -- it...|||I am also married to an ISFP.  A lot of what you have said seems familiar.  I have a question:  You mentioned that there are things which can be damaging to your inner core..  Could you please...|||I know a guy whose facial expressions were like that.  He was eventually diagnosed with bipolar disorder.|||I was almost exactly the same way and probably would be still if I hadn't started taking drugs for ADHD.  I am not sure the ADHD drugs are a good thing though they have kept my life from falling...|||I think this might be the Fe vs. Fi problem in a nutshell.  I wish I understood Fi better.  As it stands, I don't really understand it at all.|||I was just about to remark on how I was going to break the mold and say that Troi is not an INFJ, but it seems you beat me to it. :)    Here are my opinions:  Picard:  INFJ.  He grapples often...|||I am married to an ISFP.  It hasn't worked particularly well so far.  I have, through a lot of intentional effort and practice, started to be able to think and act in an SP-type way, (or at least an...|||I don't understand Fi very well, but to the extent that I understand it, what you said sounds correct.  I also believe you are correct about people with strong Fe being able to easily talk about...|||I have been thinking about this a lot and attempting to look at my wife's actions in a different way.  I am coming to the conclusion that a large part of the problem I have with her is her indirect...|||Ah, so I see you've stumbled upon the paradox of my life. I (at least I think) am a nice person, but I have such a damn tough time getting close to people. Yet I DO want to build a bond, it's just...|||Usually.  If I don't, my wife wakes me up.  You might need an extra loud alarm clock.  (They do exist.)  Then again, my alarm clock isn't that loud and it is on the other side of the room.  If you...|||I beg to differ ... the thing is that if an individual knows another well enough, or is concerned about their emotions and feelings, then they will not indulge in behaviour that could potentially...|||First, don't lie to her about where it came from.  You could not mention where it came from, but when she asks, tell her the truth.  I would also explain that the ex really wants her to have it...|||:happy:  Thanks for caring, @Jawz .   Some of the people who live near me have spoken to the housing management about it and they have addressed the problem but it still remains. I'm just going...|||We have seen a few counselors over the years.   They all seemed to have the opinion that the marriage wasn't looking promising.  I do keep in contact with her family members, but I don't really know...|||The basic framework of these problems was all there when we got married.  There were many warning signs.  I didn't heed them because I just didn't know what I was getting in to.  I couldn't imagine...|||I have some ideas, but no smoking gun.  Her parents seem to have milder versions of many of these characteristics.  One time in the very distant past, she mentioned abuse, but I don't know any...|||First, let me start out by mentioning that I have been married to a confirmed ISFP for almost 8 years now.  I see many things I recognize in the other posts in this thread.  These are the things I...|||Not all of us.  I nearly went crazy because of those needs and the fact that I wasn't willing to be manipulative to get them met.  Despite that, all the women I have been in sexual relationships with...|||I do exactly the same things except the part about people I want nothing to do with.  If I want nothing to do with them because I have determined that they are dishonest, I usually watch them just as...|||Yes.  I also have noticed that the eyes are key with an INFJ.  I only know personally one other confirmed INFJ and our eye mannerisms have many things in common.  The biggest thing they have in...|||I'm not sure that my experiences with people like that are entirely analogous to your experiences, but I can tell you what I did that worked out well for everyone.      I just let them be around me...|||It didn't go unnoticed.  There just wasn't anything to add that would have been an improvement.|||Yes.  I was under the impression, though, that most of the intuitive things that they have trouble with are more social/emotional in nature.  For instance, they may have trouble reading or...|||Unfortunately, I don't have time to reply to all of this right now, but I want to point out that the only things I meant to imply by my question are that I believe highly intelligent sensors *do*...|||I definitely agree that the tools that exist to measure intelligence are really only measuring one particular variety of intelligence.  I also think that personal interests have a lot to do with how...|||That makes a lot of sense to me.  The ISFP that I know appears to do something similar to what you said.|||I think you may be on to something here.  The notion that people seem smarter when they have above average proficiency in the use of non-dominant functions seems quite significant and probably...|||That's fairly close to what I wanted, thanks!  If we were to assume that the description of Se would be typical for an average person who uses Se as their dominant function, how would one change that...|||I'm sorry if I came across as believing that sensing types are inferior to intuitive types.  That really is not what I meant to convey.  I need to go do some other things now, but I plan to come back...|||I believe it was Ambrose Bierce who defined common sense as something like: The collection of unfounded prejudices one is typically expected to have acquired by age 18.      I don't think you are...|||I hate the fact that without drugs that artificially increase dopaminergic activity in my brain, I effectively never feel completely OK unless I am getting very intimate with someone of the opposite...|||I have read and ruminated enough about this particular topic to write a medium-sized treatise on it.  I think you are right about everything you said.  I want to point out, though, that if the woman...|||I agree.  I don't think the ESTJ treatment would yield good results.  I think the ENTJ treatment could bring an INFJ out of the comfort zone in a positive way though.  The ENTJ would have to have the...|||I have read elsewhere that there are correlations between MBTI type and measurable intelligence.  I have also read that there are not correltaions between MBTI type and intelligence.  While I don't...|||I find this interesting and sadly believable.  Why do they hate you?  (I am still not completely sure of my own type, but I am leaning heavily toward INTJ at the moment.  I bring this up because...|||Yeah.  I never get used to it.  I can even get used to being around people all the time to some degree.  Noise? nope.  My overall quality of life went up significantly as a result of discovering that...|||I also feel that way -- I don't consider that to be too much alone time though.|||Wow.  I was hesitant to mention it, but I have ADHD as well.  The difference in my work between being on medication and being off medication is huge.  On it, stuff gets done well enough, on time, and...|||That sounds like it might actually work!|||How most people measure such results usually guarantees that the results will look inconsistent even if the underlying mechanism is the same.  Too bad one can't have enough full-depth relationships...|||Were the results positive?|||I'm married to an ISFP.  I agree with the sentiment that ISFPs are very attractive at first at least partially because they are so in the moment and driven by things that are pleasurable.  6.5...|||Yup.  I'm married to an ISFP.  Not happy with the marriage.|||Yes.  I agree having had that experience as well.  I would say that the drive for ideal love, as mentioned in other posts in this thread, is probably the strongest drive I have.  Over the years, it...|||If the personal things he told you about himself made you like him more then I would tell him that it really meant a lot to you that he told you those things and that both the things he told you and...|||Interesting.  I have had the experience of being loved like that for a while.  I suspect that it didn't go on long enough for me to find the evidence that I was deluding myself about it.  Perhaps if...|||I have exactly the same problem.  People whose type preferences are substantially different from mine, (usually they are S types instead of N types,) just can't relate to what I am saying.  It...|||Yeah, I once answered a question about my thoughts on the meaning of life by saying something like, propagating my genes as a way to keep myself entertained while waiting to die. ...|||There isn't much that really offends me.  That which offends me is pretty much limited to what I find immoral.  What I find immoral is pretty much limited to intentional or knowing acts of deception...'