'That's how Keirsey figures it in his books--though he mentions it only in passing. But there's an in-depth discussion of it here.|||Oh yeah--I forgot about THOSE four temperaments (sanguine, phlegmatic, melancholic, choleric). They're often called the four humors, and they're centuries older than Jung or Myers or Keirsey. But...|||Nothing. But this thread hardly seems the place for it, since the OP is just asking about the basics and clearly isn't ready to be getting into any advanced debates.|||I've never actually read anything by Ayn Rand. But I like that she apparently talked up individualism and personal freedom/responsibility, and that she talked down collectivism and irresponsible...|||To learn to give and receive divine love. That's what my spiritual path, Eckankar, teaches. But it's also very personal to me, as it has been the center of my life for over forty years.|||Jung came first, publishing his thoughts in Psychological Types and other works. But he did not devise the kind of neatly categorized personality typing we do today. He probably didn't even believe...|||Yes and no. As a boy, I was more sensitive and hesitant than most, and my ex-paratrooper dad sometimes called me names in an attempt to get me to man up.  I think I developed some stubbornness...|||After spending most of my life believing and insisting that I'm unique and my life is especially meaningful, I've come to realize that basically I'm just like everybody else.  That thought would...|||Why, that reminds me of The Point.   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xjfKteUBa_s|||Keirsey calls INFP the Healer.  He also writes that NFs probably developed from the need for healers in primitive society. Knowing separation and conflict better than most, and being especially...|||Ditto to everything posted above.  But I have to admit that the peak of my nostalgic period is behind me now. I turned sixty this year, and for the past couple decades I've noticed that I just...|||In the sense that life is basically all about conquering fear, I can agree. Even anger and shame (associated with the gut and heart triads respectively) are manifestations of fear.  You conquer...|||But keep in mind that an INFP can also be an enneagram type 9, or a 6 (like me), or a 1--or any other type really, but usually 1, 4, 6, or 9.  Type 4 is best at doing the brooding, self-suffering...|||You might want to have a look at this PDF document. Scroll down to MBTI® Type and Conflict Pairs, and read that section as well as Understanding Others in Conflict.  FPs have a unique approach...|||Wow, Therese! I had been thinking maybe PerC wasn't worth my time. Thanks for proving me wrong. There are important things to learn here--and some great teachers. I'll be digesting your reply for a...|||Spirituality is important to me; it's the only thing you can take with you, so it's the only thing that really lasts and ultimately all that matters.  There's nothing wrong with the material world;...|||I'm not. I'm the same ... as, uh, everybody who's different, I guess.  I'm too old for teenage angst, though. But back in the day, I used to sing this song:  ...|||Thanks for that clue. I'm going to take it to heart and see what I can do with it.  Meanwhile, just FYI--and in line with the general discussion here--as an INFP, I'm feeling anything but apathy. I...|||Henry Ford got depressed over the same sort of thing, for the same reason. Then he learned about reincarnation, and it gave his life new meaning. He realized that his work was part of a greater...|||In sympathy for your BF, I have to ask you to please restrain yourself from voicing your knee-jerk reaction. My INTJ wife has the same kind of reaction, and I know that because it often comes right...|||That's good to hear! Because of your tone, I was worried about those things.   I'm a lifelong language hobbyist (and I'm sixty, so it hasn't been a short life). Learning languages is hard, and as...|||Y'know, I think that if you just turn that triangular piece a bit, it'll fit into the square hole. (Maybe not, but worth a try.)  On a serious note, what do you have to give? You apparently want...|||Sorry, we INFPs can't do solutions. Inferior Te, you know. We're much better at making problems more complicated. :wink:   Relationships can be silent, or mostly so. It depends on what the two...|||Your conclusion would be welcome ... if it could be trusted.  Unfortunately, Socionics defines the cognitive processes (functions) somewhat differently than MBTT. Also, the Reinin dichotomies are...|||Can the future not be different than the past?  And are there no kinds of work you haven't tried?  * * * How are you at relationships? It's kind of old-fashioned, but you could hook up with...|||LOL. Truckers all suffer from insomnia--often self-induced. That's how you get in those extra miles (though you also have to be creative with your logbook entries).   Regarding your initial...|||Travel there. Or not, if it's too much of a hassle.   Find one. Or just do taxes myself instead.   <shrug> I probably just pick one of the five. If I don't like any of 'em, I wish for more; if...|||I was a truck driver once. I worked for a nonprofit company, and we had seminars in cities across the country. We had been renting trucks to carry our material to seminars, but it got to where we...|||I would suggest starting with Keirseyan temperament. It shows overall patterns of SPs (Artisans) and NFs (Idealists), and they're quite distinctive.  I'm an INFP, and I have a couple ISFP friends....|||Hey, the title says forced to wear. You don't get a choice.  * * * So, uh, I guess mine would say, Warning: Pedantic  * * * But some who know me would have it say, All talk and no action.|||IMO it's can be so hard to get one's primary enneagram type right that it's what everybody except advanced students ought to be doing. Even the wing should be ignored in the beginning. And no fair...|||More like putting the puzzle of life together in her mind, verbally welcoming each new piece she picks up.  Introverts are all self-absorbed. Not selfish or self-centered necessarily, but...|||Guess I'm just comparing notes here now, rather than trying to be helpful. It's interesting to meet another INTJ-INFP couple, if only in this online forum.  On the topic of shared interests,...|||That's some pretty good self-awareness there! It alone should serve as excellent bridge-building material.  Sounds like you'd have an easier time with me, if Acts of Service are so important to...|||I don't have an answer, but the Awww reminds me of a woman I've worked with for years. She sits a few cubicles down, and every time she sneezes, it's like she's making a big announcement to the...|||I skimmed part 2, because something in part 1 struck me as a fallacy. I don't believe the Rational Decision Maker necessarily ought to be at the wheel. He's an allegory for Thinking--Te in...|||That seems to have been true for my INTJ wife as well. She'd have peaked in her career and retired by now if it hadn't been for other people--especially higher-ups. INTJs have their strengths and can...|||https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jXZcJojTucg  I think I was fifteen when this song came out.|||Are you one?  If not, what do you think a teenager feels like? And how is the way you feel different?|||Speaking of that . . . well, I don't want to confuse you with too much information, but there's a perhaps more fundamental communication-style difference that you might look into, if you haven't:...|||I recently took the test for the 5 Love Languages here, and my results were these:  10Words of Affirmation 9Physical Touch 5Quality Time 4Acts of Service 2Receiving Gifts  I forwarded...|||Ah, of course you're mainly wanting to fix the problem. You see, that's (astoundingly to you, no doubt) something that didn't really cross my INFP mind. But it's something my INTJ wife brings up over...|||I laughed out loud at your post, Nitrogen--not because I'm unsympathetic, but because I'm an INFP who's been married to an INTJ for twenty-eight years. What you wrote sounded so much like what I've...|||I've been a language hobbyist for most of my sixty years. My native language is English, so it's what seems normal to me. I guess I'm more interested in the structure of a language and the associated...|||Maybe. More generally, I think the teen years are the romantic age of life, and INFPs are usually romantics. There's angst in that, but there's much more besides.  Do you ENTJs have a favorite...|||That reminds me--when I was young, people sometimes told me I acted like an old man. As a child I sometimes wished I were a retired old man, because that image seemed appealing to me when I saw it on...|||I've read that several times too, and I like to think it's true. But I'm not sure how I'd explain it in terms of cognitive functions.  People (teachers, friends, and native speakers of other...|||It's the ideal match according to Socionics--the dual relation.  I've always kinda wanted to meet an attractive female ESTJ just to test it out (even though I've long been happily married to an...|||First, congratulations to stiletto.  Second--LOL, because I've been seeing these So-and-So Is a Robot threads for a week or two, and up until now I always guessed they were exposes of spam...|||I was always shy but also much more social as a child. In third and fourth grade, I used to be a little playboy, chasing flocks of girls around the schoolyard. My relationships--good and bad--with...'