'Me too... but sometimes it works. But I keep forgetting it D). No, seriously: it only works when I do it purposefully, because when I start rambling it's mostly too late to stop it.|||And that's even more recognisable. I can't handle too much people on one day. Even if I keep it superficial. It's exhausting. But you can practise it. Once somebody told me in the middle of an...|||Ha ha, D). That's so recognisable!|||And I did today, and she understood and it helped :))|||And I did today, and she understood and it helped :))|||Try this one: how about trying to like yourself? It works for me (at least sometimes;)|||Yeah I think my boss is willing to allocate me to a more suitable role, but only to a certain degree I think. It's time to talk about it with her.|||Just keep on rambling please, it really comforts me. I recognise a lot, for example about being buried in details and can't handle it. My boss said to me You have to do more with less. Right now I'm...|||Don't know if there's any comfort in this, but I so totally understand by being frozen inside. I feel the same at the moment and I think your right about the dealing with the emotional stress. It's a...|||The weird thing is that when I let go I become highly uninterested and not caring about anything anymore..|||I really envy you. I feel totally disconnected but it's not okay. Definively not. I play my part and nobody knows how miserable I am.|||Today an 8, tomorrow 5. Depends on my mood and degree of anxiety...|||Well, I certainly do not. But I tend to lean toward ENFP... And as someone else said: we can be quite lonely. The giving thing can be quite exhausting btw, esp. when there is little returning back....|||:crazy:|||Today I felt totally frustrated. Instead of doing the nice part of my job (connecting with people, inspire eachother and giving) I had to work at home whole day filling out excellsheets, doing...|||Close your eyes: I give you a soft pillow to lay your head on that takes all the noises away. Let it all go :).  Your beautiful avatar shows so much colour, you have so much to give, it's only...|||OK. Well put! And I agree.|||??|||Intriguing, bit a bit scary ;). Does make me curious though.|||The stupid thing is that you kind of expect a reward the next day, but today started again with anxiety :(. Guess it's all part of the process...  btw: I'm curious about the meaning your avatar.|||Thank you so much :)). You're absolutly right about the mental gain. And that it doesn't take long. You just don't realize is when you're in the middle of an anxiety attack. Today I totally flipped;...|||Question: I agree that I have to take it at a pace I can handle (small steps), but what's a small step? I always  seems (without intention!) take steps to for too big (talking about it too much,...|||I wasnt totally sure yet if I am an ENFJ but now I read this I must be! It's certainly harder to figure out what I want then figure out what other people want. You have to love yourself first though,...|||Hi again, I recognize a lot. As a matter of fact: everything. The fear itself (for me: that I will be this way for the rest of my life and if that's so, I don't want to live) is the worst part. And...|||You certainly have a point in that the anticipation of trying triggered the panic attack(s)! Thank you for that insight. And also thanks for your remarks about that basically all techniques are the...|||Hi Happy about nothing, I try not to fight; that's the whole point of this strategy, not fight, flight or freeze but accept! Accept is one of the most difficult things for me to do because it makes...|||Today was a shitty day because I tried the AWARE (see: Overcoming Panic Attacks: A Five Step Response) approach more than 20 times to overcome my anxiety attacks. Yeah, that's the plan: you have to...|||Pff, this is heavy. I'm an ENFJ and I certainly recognise emotional explosions like this (and the apologizes aftewards). When I snap, my boyfriend reacts mostly calm and logical and in the beginning...|||Agree! Sometimes a emotional outburst can be quite effective. But certainly not all the time ;)|||:)))  here 's another one 79969|||Thanks, this means a lot to me :). I give so much to other people, and experience so little giving from other people. Is really comforts me! More pictures you can find on my blog Anxiety girl (my...|||Thanks. We are together for almost 30 years now, so there must be something good;). No seriously: we do have the same taste in an lot of things like films (and I do like a film once in a while, but...|||Well, I'm an manager, mentor and coach at the moment, so maybe this is the right job for me after all. I like to help people found out what there best at and stimulate them to do that :)|||Thanks. I never find answers rubbish because I always appreciate people for trying. The case is that I only have a few friends and they were all on vacation. I have a job and he doesn't so he is used...|||I'm curious: what kind of job fits an ENFJ?|||I totally understand. Don't understand me wrong, I have a relationship, but the need to chat privately I do have too. The forum is mostly too overwhelming for me. And as I understand correctly:...|||I recognise all of it. Mostly I feel/am different from a lot of people around me and this forum really comforts me.  An issue I'm working on is to speak out loud (say what I have to say) in groups...|||sorry, double post. See other post with Quote.|||I'm somewhere in the middle but I think my anxiety overshadows my E. I'm still not used to being different, for example at work. I need a save environment to speak out loud. I'm curious if you...|||Hi, My boyfriend is INTJ and stays 99% of his time indoors, not needing other people. After almost two weeks of vacation I went beserk. I always have to go out alone, my few friends are not available...|||I recognise that! At work I had an emotional outburst and some people became very quiet (it's not common to react so strongly). Afterwards 3 of them came to me say I was so right in every aspect en 2...|||Thanks. I'm also a little bit introvert, but I think that's because of my anxiety. My boyfriend feels very underappreciated, but he (INTJ!) just isn't enough for me now. I don't like to be so...|||79499storms in my head|||79498|||Today was my 6th day without much (real) contact with other people it really depresses me. It makes me feel lonely and I think that is because there's nobody to give to. I can easily like and give to...|||I recognise being indirect. It's almost imposible for me to say directly what I want or need. Simply because I don't know exactly. I'm a giver not a taker ;), can't that be the explanation?  When we...|||Be glad that people see how you feel. I can feel shit and (except my partner because he knows me very well) and nobody notice.  I consider it as a burden that nobody sees anything so they think I'm...|||To add to this: sometimes I have serious arguing with my partner because I have compassion for everybody, even when that person has hurt another person badly..|||Yes that makes sense. When I translate this to my work: I always do things on time, but nobody knows how much stress it causes to do so.|||I recognise almost all of it! And about never been angry: I wish I could sometimes; you can give too much! The only part I'm not certain about is that when I'm not communicating with people that I...'