'Yep, betrayal of trust is up there for me. I don't even give people a second chance if they stab me in the back.  Also, being wrong|||I am motivated to think about and research the living hell out of things that interest me. MBTI being one of them|||I actually love drawing/painting and always get told I'm good. I think I could be if I could just get motivated to take some classes.  I would also really like to do a degree in psychology or...|||I can't give people 2nd chances. If they betray me, we are done.|||Ok, so I've been in a relationship for a while. Everything has been fine, except the usual INTP emotional unavailability and being expected to attend social events like weddings, which I hate. These...|||I want them to go away until I want to see them. It could be in a week, a month or a year.   It's selfish but it's what I want.  Friends turning up at my house unannounced kills me|||I care about morons killing people in the name of religion. I think religion is ridiculous and completely illogical to begin with, so when someone kills people in the name of their imaginary friend...|||When people make illogical conclusions or statements.  Also, incorrect grammar and spelling. Especially when people spell like chavs, just because they are lazy.  Someone wrote thort instead of...|||I find I'm mainly indecisive over the things that don't interest me, which is most things|||Commercial transformation consultant. I go into companies and build a strategy for improving their sales performance.  I can be really creative and it's all theoretical, I love it.  If I could be...|||I think it's really hard to spot another INTP because we are social chameleons in a sense.  I feel like I have about 5 different personalities that can emerge, depending on who I'm with. I range...|||For me it's more like trying to just acquire enough knowledge to understand everything just to satisfy my own curiosity. I'm on a mission to fill in all of the gaps.  I feel like there is a status...|||The other day, 2 of my friends turned up at my house knocking on my door. Apparently they were going to the local pub for a few drinks and wanted to see if I would join them as they hadn't seen me in...|||100% correct. Look up the spotlight effect. Tests have shown that people only notice us, our behaviour, how we dress etc a fraction of what we think they do.  Realising this really helped me get...|||It's more around your actions/behaviour being underpinned by solid reasoning. I.e. You take a pragmatic approach, which is most likely to get you the desired outcome|||For me, although I do think I've become more confident as I've got older, I also think I'm more comfortable in who I am too.  I used to worry a lot that I was different and tried to force myself to...|||I really try and bite my lip when the subject of religion comes up, but I think this time it's relevant, so...  Who is to say that the love you feel for God as a peaceful Christian is any...|||I love how alike we all are.   I spent most of my life thinking that there was something wrong with me for simply being so different to everyone.  Turns out there are plenty of us and we are all...|||And who would be the one to speak first? And what if I said something and there was just no response?   Soul destroying|||Yep, plus this way I get to re-write what I'm saying about 10 times before I post it so that it makes absolute sense/has the right impact etc|||I think that's a solid no to the chat room idea lol|||Lol brilliant :)|||I generally don't even answer the phone to people. I just text them after they ring to see what's up|||Exactly, a bunch of INTP's on Skype = Silence.  I feel I can express myself so much better when it's written down|||My overriding fear is one that I experience at work. It's as if I've somehow managed to con my way into my current position and that any minute I'm going to be exposed as someone that has no clue...|||That's smart. Plus it's an approach that a lot of therapists recommend too...exposure therapy. I tried it, but it's really hard as you are literally facing your worst fear/s head on.  Keep at it,...|||I do haha :)|||I can almost see this as a quote on a valentines day card lol|||Sounds messed up. Definitely not me though. I think I just bought into too many movies that depicted the perfect relationship and always hoped I'd find the same.  I probably just need a reality...|||For us INTP's, I think we are so disconnected from our feelings that we don't realise we love someone until something threatens the relationship|||I think everyone has an idea of what their ideal partner would be like, I don't think that it's in any way misogynistic.|||I tried propranolol too, which did nothing and Valium just made me tired.  In the end, I tried Clonidine, which is an alpha blocker and was recommended by a number of people on forums for social...|||When I was younger, particularly through my teens, I was quite emotionally needy. In fact this was the reason why my first really serious relationship broke down.  I really didn't handle the...|||Actually yes. I tried lots of things over a number of years including cognitive behaviour therapy, breathing/relaxation techniques etc. and nothing worked.  In fact it got so bad that my fear of...|||I developed Social anxiety disorder 10 years ago, which sounds similar. Worst thing I've ever had to deal with|||Makes sense, but then I can't stop thinking that maybe the right girl is just around the corner, it's so frustrating!|||Ok so my idea of the perfect girlfriend would be someone that doesn't demand all of my time, doesn't expect me to go to lots of social/family events and understands my need for privacy.    At the...|||You know this is an INTP forum when most of the responses have been about where ketchup should actually be stored :)|||Yea, girls just love guys that don't dance, talk or smile|||Probably obvious but Alter_ego simply refers to how I have different personalities depending on where I am and who I'm with.  At work I'm heavily analytical but quiet and reserved, lacking...|||I think I was kind of doing ok to begin with. We sat on the back row during the ceremony, which didn't last too long.  The main problem was the party afterwards. Usually, like many of you, I would...|||I had to go to a wedding yesterday, followed by a party afterwards and to make matters worse, they were all my girlfriends friends. I didn't really know anyone, plus I was the designated driver, so I...|||Warning: Has no patience for morons or your ridiculous religious beliefs|||Dr Gregory House, Dexter Morgan, Rorschach (watchmen)|||I've noticed recently that quite often I zone-out when someone is talking to me.  It's like I subconsciously do a check to see if I'm interested in what the other person is saying and if I'm not,...|||I can relate to this totally.  I have different playlists for different activities, one for the gym, one for the car, one for motivation....  Plus, if I'm ever at a party and someone is playing...|||This sounds a lot like what I do/used to do for meetings.  I used to literally write down word for word what I was going to say, in order to ensure it was properly structured and all of the...|||Personable, always think I'm right, reserved, sarcastic, aloof|||I do this A LOT.   I do it in meetings at work, where I'll fiddle with a pen or constantly flip my phone around in my hand. When I'm watching tv I'm tapping a beat on my cup, when I'm driving I'm...|||It's kind if a double edged sword, as I actually do really well in other aspects of my job and I've recently been promoted, but I just feel like self doubt is holding me back from realising my true...'