'Alright...she was an ENFJ.|||Most likely a Type 4 enneagram...possibly an ENFP, ESTJ, or a INTJ.  :)|||Just let us know when you get it finished :happy:. Looking forward to re-reading it.|||Would you care to elaborate how on how dysfunctional it was and how you finally managed to let go of someone you obviously cared for?|||So I've been reading socionics theory and according to Gulenko's Cognitive styles (what we would loosely call a thinking style) ENFJ's fall under Dialectical-Algorithmic Cognition style (rather wordy...|||Sounds like it came from his heart.   Thanks for sharing|||You are more than welcome. You're right when it comes to society not wanting to have to deal with the unpleasant realities of life.  We get old, and some people are ill and need constant attention. ...|||Dear Lord Jesus,  I lift up this mother who is deeply concerned for her child's well being.  I ask Lord that you would give her your peace.  The peace you promise to give to those who ask it...|||If I had to choose a good quality it would be there desire to serve (or give).  At their healthiest they have the beautiful quality of wanting to meet people's needs and desires in special ways.|||It pains me to admit it but I have broken a heart on occasion.  Yes, it seems like something INFJ's unintentionally do from time to time.  After my last heartbreaking encounter I've endeavored to be...|||You wrote this a little over two years ago but it's so edifying for me to read this.  My best friend is an INTJ and the fact that we're both male results in us arguing all the time about politics,...|||Where have you been in life or where do you live that INFJ's are plentiful enough that you can spot them? :happy:|||This is the opposite of selfless :wink:|||Don't you feel at a least a little bit guilty that you're dating someone right now and yet you'd rather be with the INFJ?  It seems a bit unfair to your INTP.:happy:|||Something has happened in the last two weeks that I never thought would.  A relationship with an SJ and an ESFJ at that.  I have an ESFJ Mom and two ESFJ sisters.  I love them but they're definitely...|||You sound like an NF.  What other type inspired such passion in your NT soul?|||I have to agree with you about ESFJ's and ESTJs.  I could see it would be hard for an ENTP to get along with both of those but especially an ESTJ.  You don't have Te in your functional stack.|||I'm starting to theorize that the reason INJ's are attracted to ESPs is because there SE is so apparent.  While for ENTPs the Si (and your need for Si) is not something that is easily visible or...|||According to the myers briggs foundation (My MBTI Personality Type - My MBTI Results - How Frequent Is My Type?) the top five types in terms of frequency/percentage are:  1. ISFJ - 13.85% 2. ESFJ...|||I'm assuming this is directed to me and the OP.  I think you're spot on when it comes lost possibilities.  The only exception I'd take to to your post is where you say there was a lack of tangibles. ...|||There's nothing I, or anyone, can really say when someone's dealing with heartache.  If I knew you well and was near you I'd put my arms around you and hold you.  It's enough to know that others care...|||Your post makes me wonder if this is more geared toward male INFJs.  All rules are meant to be broken but in general it's men that make the first move romantically.|||Culturally conditioned?  The stigma where everyone is suspected of having wrong intentions when hugging a child.|||I guess I should clarify a little.  It wasn't JUST a gift :happy:.  I really liked her and wanted to take the relationship to the next level.  I'm not in the habit of just kissing anyone, but as I've...|||I'm sure someone has done a thread similar to this, but nonetheless I've been thinking a lot lately about how much I enjoy giving physical affection.  When physical affection hasn't happened yet...|||To be fair to her she didn't know that she was going to break up with me.  Half way through our make out session I told her that I wanted our relationship to continue and I asked how she felt.  She...|||In an ideal world where I had the ability to decide such things I would have preferred to have that conversation in person. We live in neighboring states and I had just returned from staying with...|||You're not alone...and yes I do think it's magnified somewhat by being an INFJ.  Our ability to empathize and care deeply has it's downside.|||I'd agree. I guess that my situation got me thinking about closure in general and particularly when it comes to us as INFJ's or even just as NF's.  What are your feelings on closure and...|||I'm mourning a relationship right now and only recently have come to the bottom of why it bothers me so much.  The short answer: the way it ended.  Namely, a thoughtful email from her telling me that...|||Dear Katie,  I know you think that it won't work out and that I'm not who you really want...but you let me love you.  I wish you'd let me continue to love on you.  Don't take this as...|||I've had relationship experience with both ENTPs and ESFPs.  The ESFP romance was intense, passionate, and made me feel more alive than any other relationship I've ever had.  The ENTP relationship...|||You're absolutely right and I would never do that.  I have nothing but respect for the way she was so upfront and honest which is a major credit to her character.  After I got the email I knew it was...|||Yes, I'm definitely an INFJ and she was 100% ENTP.  We were both into psychology and self-growth although she was more into enneagram.  I think the biggest problem was the life stage differences. ...|||Do female ENTP's ever reconsider their former exes?  A 2 and half month month relationship with a 30 year old ENTP has come to an end.  She admitted to me that she'd self-sabotaged relationships in...|||Feeling wounded right now.  I thought maybe other INFJ's could understand.  I'm 24 with a lot of work experience in the service and manufacturing industry and a little university under my belt.  I...|||Sounds hot :happy:.|||How does one become mentally stimulated during sex?  Is it an eroticism based on the partners intelligence?  Anyways, I found this quote.    Female NTs, in particular, are apt to have their...|||I guess the important question for me is what are those ends?|||Interesting.|||What does it mean?|||So I've seen a variation of these quotes and I'm trying to understand what they mean.  If this description resonates with any of you ENTPs could you explain what it means.  Maybe it doesn't and it's...|||? :)|||Yes, I'm sure a lot of mothers have problem when it comes to letting there children become adults.  ESFJ mothers probably more so than some.  I'm always like mom, I'm 24 you don't have tell me things...|||Just looking for feedback.  Trying to start conversation :happy:.|||I recently had a thread about the lack of connection I have with ESTJs.  Which got me thinking that there have to be lot of INFJs out there who like me have an ESFJ mother.  I'm not knocking her for...|||I'm curious to know how you became married to begin with?  There must have been some attraction from the start.|||Thanks me too.  I'm worried about her right now.  Haven't talked to her for a couple days and she's in the part of Spain where they just had that bad train crash.|||I recently noticed that the type that I just can't seem to get along with or relate to are ESTJs.  They always come across as cold, bossy, and fake.  My best friends dad is an ESTJ and I have never...|||We got an INFJ love fest going on :).'