'In friendships and relationships?  Trying to understand this better.  For NFs especially.|||I've done it twice but always to very big cities. That helped, because I felt I could be alone while still feeding off the energy of the current of humanity all around me.|||I might try... I don't want to scare them off. But maybe I'll see if there's a moment when it feels right, we're already having a deep conversation, and go from there... thank you for this very...|||I can't. I've tried. If it's just a physical attraction I'm feeling it will become boring to me, and 100% of the time a strong emotional attractions turns into an equally strong physical attraction.|||Some of my closest friends/relationships have been INTPs, but unfortunately it hasn't always ended very well...|||How much I've had to do by myself and how strong I've had to be sometimes :( And how far I've come. But that's the kind of thing you can't ask anyone to acknowledge or notice.|||One of the things I hate the most is people texting/talking to/calling/bothering me when I'm working or busy or having my own time. Even if they're people I love. At worst it'll make me angry, at...|||I think I'm pretty generous word-wise to the ENFJ I know. I wish I could be more generous in terms of physical touch but I'm very shy and often afraid it will be unwelcome. I do quality time as much...|||I wish I could do more acts of service but the ENFJ I know always seems to have everything covered.. I try to do stuff anyway.|||2 on your list is interesting... the ENFJ I'm thinking of knows I feel strongly about a certain subject (and I'm an INFP so when I feel strongly about something, I really do) and they will say things...|||What's the best, most treasured thing anyone has ever said to you?|||What troubles you (or has) about words of affirmation and gift giving? I've been really close to two INTPs, and now that I think about it neither did particularly well with these.|||So, I should start by buying a top hat?|||The one they hide from others?|||Gifts, quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service or physical touch? In what order?|||If I hurt someone else I feel terrible and like I can't live with myself.|||I'm so curious about this.  All the ENFJs make it very easy for an INFP like me to zoom into them, and to develop intense friendships with them (hanging out/talking for hours a day, for example)....|||This is so interesting. Thank you both.   The reason I am asking is because of the conventional view that a way to get someone's interest is to shower them with attention and then suddenly withdraw...|||Interesting. You wouldn't feel rejected in any way? Would you want their attention back again?|||Say you are very good friends with someone who you know for a fact has feelings for you, who gives you a lot of attention. If that person was to suddenly withdraw their attention from you or be less...|||Hello everyone, yet another question in the ongoing saga of me (INFP) and the ENFJ that I love. So this ENFJ knows I have feelings for him, or at least I have told him in the past and he didn't...|||Romantically, I seem to be drawn primarily to ENFJs and INTPs.|||In my bed, reading a book :)|||I'm currently dealing with unrequited feelings in respect of an ENFJ, so maybe it's from thinking about this one particular ENFJ a lot, haha.|||I think if I knew these things about the ENFJs I know, and the one in particular that I care so much about, I would only like them more. These secret, weird things are something that as an INFP I...|||When you mean your effort is pointless, do you mean that you gave the person advice or something and they didn't take it?|||I guess I know some particularly spontaneous ENFJs :)  What is this ENFJ dark side you speak of? I know ENFJs who have shared with me private thoughts and insecurities, and that they get angry...|||(ignore this accidental post)|||Only if it's heavily cultivated or fake.|||I saw this mentioned on another thread. What is it like when it happens, and why does it happen?|||Good things: - Great listeners - Make everyone around them genuinely happy - Loved by so many people - Careful thinkers - Concerned with kindness - Non-judgmental - Understanding - Generous...|||The thing is that I've already let him know how I feel. And so I don't know if it's right to repeat it to someone when they've told you they don't feel romantic feelings for you, only those of...|||Aaaargh I am so in love with an ENFJ and this is the question I have. We are really good friends, we talk all the time, I've told him a while ago that I have feelings for him and he said he didn't,...|||I read a lot! 1-2 books a week.  I'd say I read 60% fiction (I used to use this site as a reference and pick out interesting authors: Authors' calendar, now I try to read as much contemporary stuff...|||My tendency is to sleep too much, especially when stressed. In my bed I can lie there and daydream and then fall asleep and actually dream. If I'm extremely anxious, I can't sleep, but I often worry...|||Honestly, I've fallen in love to some extent with every ENFJ I've ever met.. I'm not sure you'd need to do that much work. But I do agree with WhateverLolaWants, the only reservation I ever have with...|||If someone just liked my FB profile pic I wouldn't take that as a sure sign of interest… unless I already liked them, in which case it would make me feel hopeful. How do you know she is an INFP? If...|||They both told me their types after taking the test… so that's all I have to go on. They are of the opposite sex, so maybe that's what's going on? I do think I haven't done anything to hurt their...|||I would prefer to let things unfold outside of work as far as possible. E.g. if that person chose me to have lunch breaks with, or do something after work with, I'd feel really special. If they...|||Hi guys. So I recently moved to a new town to work on a project. In the group working are an INFJ and ENFP, both of whom I befriended pretty quickly. I get along really well with both of them, and I...|||Have any ENFJs here initially not had romantic feelings for someone and then later developed them once they knew the person had feelings for them?|||I don't, but I like reading about it.|||I'm going through this now (w an ENFJ) and it sucks and is the worst. I'm sorry.|||I have a lot of anxiety that people don't like me or are secretly annoyed by me or are just tolerating me. At best, this has made me annoy people who do like me by asking them if they're annoyed with...|||Why do you ask?|||Honestly, Xyra, I think you are being a little mean. 'If you are planning on actually trying'… I feel as though you didn't actually read my post. I did try - I told him that I had been shy initially...|||I did the IB. I was such a perfectionist and put such impossible demands and expectations on myself that I actually did worse than I should/could have for the exact same reasons you cite. You seem...|||I guess so. I really messed up, huh.  :(|||I think I'm the victim of an ENFJ doing this right now. It sucks.|||Thanks fern, allthelittlelights and shandy - this is great advice.  Xyra, he didn't make an explicit move, he was just being flirty. I'm really shy so it was hard for me to know how to react to it...'