'Buy the technical I meant that perhaps if you had something in common with him, he might relax at the apparent boundaries and you could get to know him better. I 'jive' better with people with same...|||For me, it's like a battery. I loose energy on people contact, if I am running low to start with, I will avoid people. If I feel 'topped up', I will extend myself (everything with people is an...|||It doesn't matter how much you earn, it's *YOURS*, that is a huge step in independence; it might feel good not having to ask dad for money for gum, comix and movies...would feel good, no?|||Thanks! Both of your inputs kinda cleared that up for me.|||Hello, thanks in advance, I am an ISTP. Since we are both sensory, thinking and perceiving, we share a lot, yet in action most of the ESTP's share very few of my traits. I didn't know whether it was...|||I have a son that exhibited just what you are describing. He was kind of 'gripped' by a pushing need to individuate at an early age. If he wasn't able to he would likely feel as you do.  He got...|||Thanks for the mid morning laugh...I *blew* coffee out my nose!  I'll have to tell my hubby about his 'Visionary life mission', usually he just pulls out his Sword of Richeousness and his Majic Bag...|||There is little info in the last of these postings, like someone ran out of info or time. I fit some of it, but actual info 782 is missing completely, and I pretty sure it would read differently than...|||I am an RN. It is singularily the most pressurous, overwhelming and demanding job in the world. Just thought you might want to know :)|||Based on this statement he made in Subtypes,   Enneagram Three Self-Preservation: Security. In their obsession for security they make themselves sure of themselves. These Threes are too sure of...|||But, as I would say to my 1w9 hubby, what's wrong with wanting to use it just to belong to some cool club? Perhaps that's all they really wanted to do with the information, find others in the same...|||OMG. That is literally the funniest thing I have ever read on here! Very assute analogy. I find this very enlightening. Thank you.|||Or patner/befriend one. There's some gap filling with a joining that is well meshed.|||I just wanted to interject that you guys are sooooo hard on yourselves with all that 'living up so some expecation somewhere', but you make the best husbands and fathers. I married one of you guys,...|||Painful is having done something I shouldn't have done. I am an introverted one, I am never bored, there is always cool stuff to do. I seek physical and mental stimulation. I seek not to have...|||Hi, I thought the same things, turned out to be far more valuable to me than I thought it would. It's purpose is not just identification of type, but to understand the purpose of it's identification....|||I'd write the coolest script ever, and assign the bully the job of being a 'rock', or 'furniture' or something equally perched on the stage without dialog, assign each of the gossip girls a part...|||OK. I think that his 'S' was pretty developed in spite of the 'N' development though, his painting were of things in front of him, nothing in his mind, my 'N' mother's art is all from the brain. This...|||He was physically competitive and mentally competitive, he thought of it as 'play'. His mind was like a sword and he augued points unmercilessly. He played tennis, raced bicycles, played chess for...|||I can't drink. Half a beer and my feet disappear....I can smoke screamingly large amounts of primo weed and do fine...I don't get it either.|||Yeah, but you obviously saw the wisdom in a thread with the ability to increase the posting count of someone new, so they can play the games here!|||This is the page I'm working on...http://personalitycafe.com/cognitive-functions/98508-cognitive-function-picture-game-28.html#post3095549|||Wooo hoo! 15...  off to the really cool cognitive picture game!!!!!!!  Thanks.|||This should be 14 posts.  Watch, someone with a J at the end of there XXXX will post something...|||This is number 3, and I'm up to 13! wooh hoow, getting there...|||This is number 2. I am up to 12.|||I need to put up 5 more posts because right now I have ten, and this site is telling me that I cannot play until I have 15.  The cognitive picture game is really cool. I want to play. I'm not good...|||When I was tiny, I would bite people. I bit them because they touched my stuff.   When I was school aged, I became a back pack wearer at a young age, so I could take all my stuff with me, and only...|||Thank you for replying, I have learned a lot.  Why would you see need for a 'team'? The job I have is single-minded, single-purpose, Primary Nurse care, RN of CCU patients. She has employed use of...|||Whom else would I use as a basis for what everyone is doing/thinking/feeling? I really only have the one frame of reference at the moment.|||You must have developed methods that I clearly have not. I have been surfing here for a while, and of all the sections, the INFP's are my least understood pile of threads that I have read. I have...|||Underwear is neither. Never having to say sorry for farting. You make a list, and you start it with something already done... so that you can put a line thru it. Being the only one in the house...|||Sorry if this a repost to this thread, me, my puter or your forum is acting a bit 'off'...   In March or so I got a new boss. Female, 58-62, either INFJ or ENFJ. She  is uniformly causing trouble...|||I live with three heavy usage of 'f' peoples, and one more 't' people like myself. Watching them, I would say that you could develop you're usage of the 't' portion of your makeup by placing yourself...|||Autobody repair and restoration, wood butchery, weilding metal, tile work, plumbing, repairing furniture, repairing appliances, door hanger, widow framer, electrician, autobody widow instillation,...|||I have found that with me, and I'm older, I need people in my life, in my house and in my job, to shut out, separate from and proclaim 'Alone time' against. If no one is around, no one to try and...|||My own job would be much improved if it were full of ISTJ men. I don't find them as confusing as all the other people I have to work with. They don't 'emote' on me, they do sports and body related...'