'Thank you Jazzlee, but it seems my so called boyfriend was after all the manipulative kind of ESTJ: he's been giving me the silent treatment for 7 days now, and I think the relationship is over....|||Thanks everyone for your comments! Well, lots of things have happened since I last posted... I got in a relationship with my ESTJ friend. Communication was good, I know I could talk about anything...|||I can forget discussing anything theoretical or philosophical with them; also my ESTJs friends are not prone to have flights of fancy - I have them all the time!   My ESTJs also seem to jump from...|||Well... maybe I'm just imagining things...|||I have found that during my conversations with two of my ESTJ friends, sometimes when I give my opinions on a certain subject, it seems the more abstract I am, the more unlikely they are to give me...|||I've found that my intuition is like a double-edged sword:   I intuit things from people, things that no one seems to see but to me they're transparent and obvious. This gives me an advantage...|||* I enjoy exploring esoteric subjects of all kind. * Like to read romantic poetry... I also write it. * I seem to be good at making small talk with strangers until a comfortable rapport is...|||This reminds me of the first session of psychotherapy I ever had: the therapist (a man in his mid 40s and well-experienced in his field of work) after half hour of interviewing me confessed that he...|||Aaaw... I wouldn't mind receiving a hug after hearing a sweet compliment like that. I've had my troubles understanding INFPs but they're really awesome people, so... here's a big hug to you too!!|||1) What do you think (or know for certain) are your parents' types? My father is an INFP, my mother was an ENTx.   2) How are your relationships with your parents?  I have a pretty good...|||Do your own homework! LOL!:crazy:|||The inspiration from great scientists and thinkers like Carl Sagan, Joseph Campbell, Carl Gustav Jung and Ken Wilber. Jane Austen's character Mr. Darcy (INTJ!). The life of Vincent van Gogh. The...|||There is something about a crying man that melts my heart. Somehow seeing that vulnerability makes me respect them even more...|||...when the God works in mysterious ways remark sounds idiotic to you.  ***Sorry theist and deist folks!***|||I was just reminded of something my confrontative analyst used to say to me quite frequently: You Think to avoid your feelings. I hated when he said that... dammit, he was so right.|||I haven't read any of his books, but have found Joseph Campbell's insights quite interesting in the field of comparative religion and philosophy. When it comes to levels of consciousness, the work of...|||I write tons of poems, for me it's a form of emotional detox. Art for me is definetly therapeutic.|||Why are you so quiet? That's a classic. Are you mad? Guess what?!!!!!|||In your experience, does being typed as an INTJ changed your self-concept? To what extent?   I ask this because it seems that people tend to identify themselves with their superior functions (e.g....|||Did you ever love someone in a lengthy relationship? I don't know what can be considered lenghty, but a relationship of more than a year, definetly.  Not just love by first sight. I mean after...|||... When people seem to be transparent to you, but somehow others don't notice what you clearly perceive in others.|||With an ESFP. That would be sheer torture.|||You can try seeing all these events from the perspective of Carl Jung's Synchronicity theory (no hocus pocus occult kinda of stuff). If you're not into theories, then I can say that from the MBTI...|||Your reaction is a natural defense mechanism. I, being a thinker, can get easily confused or overwhelmed with strong emotions (they take me a lot of time to sort out), so the easiest way for me to...|||OP again.  @ NexT:  It is totally undestandable that you would have a reaction like that. I think many -if not all- personality types would react in a similar way in order to protect themselves....|||Artistic INTJs: Are you different from typical INTJs? (by typical I mean scientific) Hmm... you could say I lead a double life. I have two careers: one demands severe analytical thinking, the...|||I don't usually avoid confronting anyone if I think I need to make certain things clear or remind people of boundaries, but when it comes to expressing negative feelings to the ones close to me, I...|||OP, here.  Thank you someday for your thoughts! :happy:  Looking back on the relationship, I think that my INFP was unsure of his feelings, but most of all, I think his erratic behavior was due...|||I understand that, it can be hard for me to articulate my feelings, but I always try. I have provided my INFP with loving words even when he's distant.   But, at the end of the day, what this...|||Thank you all for your recent comments.  The on-off switch experience happened months ago, situation came back to normal eventually. I have been in this relationship for months now and I can...|||Sometimes, in order to avoid all this communication mess, I just become emotionally neutral. My Introverted Feeling becomes even more introverted because I don't want to cause problems or hurt...|||I found this article on the subject of a monthly male hormonal cycle...  New Paradigm  Might explain an aspect of the Emotional On-Off switch LOL!|||I have noticed that his withdrawals ocurr in an almost cyclic manner. I though that it could be due to the so-called male emotional cycle (the men are like rubber bands theory by J. Gray -not...|||OP here.  My INFP's emotional withdrawal happened months ago, and I think I know what caused his reaction (something I did). He never hinted that he felt upset about anything, if I hurted him, he...|||Good observation, sadly your discovery has already been described by Dr. Jung himself last century in Psychological Types (CW Vol. 6).|||Curiously enough, the two INFPs I've been involved with have always pulled away after having a high emotional intimacy week/s. Hmmmm... makes me wonder if he feels I'm being too reassuring or thinks...|||That is an interesting... uhm.... theory. As you see from my signature, I am a female INTJ. I don't consider myself to be 'masculine', domineering or agressive when I'm under the influence of the...|||OP here....  Thank you all so much for your sharing your thoughts and pearls of wisdom :laughing: I learned a lot reading all of your posts here, I appreciate it enormously!!|||I have seen this behavior in two male INFPs I know; it seems to occur almost in a cyclic pattern: one month they're all friendly and close, then, out of the blue they pull away, dissapear for...|||Hello everyone,  I have a simple question that I would like to address to all INFPs, but most specially to the males:  Do you ever find yourself putting your romantic (or if not, friendship)...|||INFP guys are great, but they never fail to intimidate me when they, for some odd reason, out of the blue, start to hold back their feelings and become terribly terribly quiet. This is the problem...|||Be careful what you wish for...  Like I mentioned before, in my experience the relationship is great at the beginning, then things start to get complicated due to a strange iF -iF dynamic (well, it's...|||Oh and INTJ-INFP couple is pure magic... at first. I have been romantically involved with a couple of die hard romantics, and I can tell you in my own experience, the key factor to keep the...|||When people end sentences with ... you know what I mean?  Overuse of pet words in general.  F*ck, D*ck, and every word that would require an * to censor it LOL!:laughing:|||I experienced panic attacks in the past, but I wasn't diagnosed with any psychopathology. I underwent psychotherapy for a year with a Gestalt therapist... the problem I had with the process was that...|||The closer I've ever been to appear girly was when, as a teen, my idea of fashion was the hippie-chick look. Now, being a professional I had to change that. I don't mind wearing high heels and...|||People of Paper by Salvador Plascencia.  Next: Angela's Ashes by Frank McCourt.|||That's me alright.|||Sad but true lol!   Oh I get chatty, loud, playful and spontaneous.    In my case, yeap.   Only rarely do I get drunk. Can't remember the last time I was really plastered.    WHITE...|||OP: Thanks for the Johhny Depp eye-candy, that was really nice :wink: What I have noticed about INFPs is that they almost never smile. I am an INTJ and I smile and laugh a lot compared to the INFPs...'