'Ugh|||Honestly I am inclined to think of this behavior as abusive: someone is trying to invalidate your feelings, which is is always a red flag for me.  First of all, there is very little if any...|||I really don't get the stereotype of INFPs being weak, and I am especially annoyed at the idea that they let their emotions control them.  It's a ridiculous, fundamental misunderstanding of...|||Oh boy!  So as a kid I loved drawing and storytelling, so these were characters that got fleshed out profiles. I also had the benefit of weekly therapy for like 7 years so I had help identifying what...|||So interesting! I can see it, and I think it's telling about some misconceptions with types and which fields they will excel in.  INFP isn't the first thing you'd think for Head of Neurosurgey, but...|||Yeah okay but if anyone DOES wanna chat on the original topic, I will be around.  I maintain that there is nothing wrong with talking about ourselves and our experiences, and using real labels to do...|||Yeah okay but if anyone DOES wanna chat on the original topic, I will be around.  I maintain that there is nothing wrong with talking about ourselves and our experiences, and using real labels to do...|||It's my war paint.|||I got kind of upset and went on a tangent, so I apologise in advance...  Alright, my qualifier here: I'm gifted.  I was tested when I was 13 because of my incredibly poor performance in school (I...|||woahhhh ok the sadism that de Sade wrote about was specifically sexual, which is completely difficult from just being cruel. I don't have the stomach for the kind of content of his works, but I know...|||I Can't Recall by Lavender Diamond !!|||First: there are different kinds of INFPs. They're not x91specialx92 although they are more rare as men then as women, which indicates if anything that he is less common - but in any case, you being...|||Oh man... Garwain Blackwood is a character from an awful book, Blackwood Farm  He was portrayed as the 'doppelganger' or possibly an imaginary friend of the protagonist, and was actually called...|||Hmm I have some awful memory problems from both depression (long term memory) and anxiety (short term memory), so it's hard to say what kind of memory my neurotypical state would have...  My short...|||I think it's a common mistake to take the definition subjective feeling at face value and think it's inherently self-absorbed but this is really not my understanding or experience with it.  Maybe...|||Oh sure, I bet the theory could be totally untenable - no, I wasn't typed as a kid.  But I'm not talking about normal change or personal evolution. forcible, long term psychological conditioning with...|||as far as I can tell, I used to be ENTJ and it was a bad situation  the grass is always greener on the other side - when you're not suffering from the negative aspects of something it is easy to...|||I know This Much Is True by Wally Lamb, I will never forget it|||Alrighty, since I joined this forum purely for the INFP board in a fit of insomnia, I have been increasingly surprised by this notion around here that we get looked down on or that being INFP is hard...|||Volunteering: cultural events, second language teaching, dog walking (it's free animal therapy for me!)|||Honestly, I relate well, these are the thoughts that I spend all of my energy not to listen to because I wouldn't be around for very long if I let them in.  That's why I was so hard on you.  I know...|||What a perfectionist outlook. If you can't achieve lofty ideals, might as well stock up on videogames and check out of reality?  Not trying and not failing is preferrable to struggling and coming up...|||Likewise, I find it unfortunate that this appears to be a trend in Fi-doms that you know.  I think it might be telling that we both see it that way... that it appears to be a matter of I don't...|||I wonder, not to accuse you, but because I don't have this information readily available in my own interpersonal relationships, are you categorizing people as Fi-doms yourself, or do all of your...|||I wouldn't say that I think Fi or Fe makes anyone more or less able to access their emotions. I was stating that in a scenario described by OP, where one type genuinely manipulates their own emotions...|||Yes and no.  as an INFP it's hard for me to imagine letting go of the things that are inportant to me.. but I experienced a very abrupt and forced change in personality type, from some completely...|||Not many are going to feel they 100% fit their profile.  I agree, I often find lack of criticism so frustrating that I start to believe praise are just polite lies!  I want to improve myself and that...|||I think as a kid I learned to expect flat characters for hero types and always looked for reasons not to like the main character if it was a single protagonist.  As an adult, I am drawn to any...|||Some interesting perspectives on INFJ / INFP tendencies.. I have a best friend who is INFJ and I have a lot of respect for the differences between our types.  however, recently I am really annoyed by...|||instead of trying to give advice on your dad's differing values (which doesn't necessarily mean a totally different personality type.. neither of you seem to be backing down on your values so you...|||I don't think your feelings are just because you're an INFP.  I'm an aromantic and very much an INFP, and far from being heartless I care about my relationships too much and give too many second...|||wow, I couldn't get through the first few paragraphs of that OP. I strongly disagree.  It might be the Perceiving function, the value in flexibility, that makes me completely unable to express my...|||I have too much empathy to a fault; if i get into a disagreement with a friend, usually I come away from it learning their point of view instead of getting mine across in any final way.  However,...|||Wow, just dove into the big questions, eh?* I'm going to give my personal 2 cents in a sec, but I gotta say it's not just a matter of personality types here.* The dynamic between an INTJ type and an...|||I have to say, I think sensitivity is a good thing.  It means sensing, making use of the senses.  In my life, it has meant experiencing, while calm has meant denying.  Yes, calm makes huge...|||^ yes, this. intelligence has nothing to do with personality type. furthermore, there are different intelligence types  I'm an INFP with the predictable proclivity for language (linguistics,...|||INFP(Yesenin) - 255 ***ISFP(Dumas) - 230 ***INTP(Balzac) - 225  it wasn't just incorrect grammar, a couple questions just had straight up nonsense answers|||I thought I could never hate someone truly, because I had never wished anyone real harm.  this year, a disturbed person I know took things too far. i had watched her grow up, because she is family,...|||1. Are you generally good at flirting? I think no... but probably due in large part to the fact that I don't do it. You miss 100% of shots you don't take, right?  2. Do you find it easy to tell...|||took a few tries but i had a nice chat eventually  You're chatting with a random stranger. Say hi!  hola  daanch'e  wat does that mean|||nope not at all  if you become family, then serious commitments. romance? don't want it, don't like it when he tries... I told my first boyfriend if he bought me flowers I would hit him. even i...|||INFP, #2  This might have something to do with the fact that I am very much a nonromantic person, but I have to say I disagree with your description of this option in terms of physical...|||I was suspended in first grade for hiding swear words in an Amelia Bedelia book.  There was a mystery person putting slips of paper with bad words inside our classroom's reading time books.  I...|||I am not well-versed in the difference between our types, but I landed in anxiety group for reasons similar to what you describe. The facilitators shared this Ted Talks speech by Matt Killingsworth...|||As a native american in the harsh north of Canada, I wish I was born here before european settlers came! The people of my home were nomadic and matrilineal and I would love to see that, natural and...|||I think your post displays a lot of insecurities. I know it's hard to express these to other people, and how tense it can become trying to keep them bottled up. I hope you can bring your focus onto...|||There isn't an asexual option!  I haven't had any serious crush, and I have been married 5 years.. very much not a romantic.|||I would want to set up some kind of system for depression buddies, to match suffering people with healthy people who can help them get through the day just by going through it together !!  ...|||Oh gosh, I think avoiding conflict is inherent for INFP and it can be surprisingly destructive in relationships.  Maybe it's just me, being raised by a mother who used guilt as a weapon, but the...|||Man oh man, I feel you - and then every once in a while I will accidentally encounter something and completely lose myself, I'll forget to eat or sleep until I've finished reading.  Last time I had...'