'You clearly don't want to move there.  Don't.|||Want it or don't do it.|||I have a similar background. Avoidant/dismissive types tend not to pair up with other avoidant/dismissive types, but my parents did. If they had been young today, I don't think they would have had me.|||Russian female acquaintance Alyona: My ex-husband won't pay me child support! He is abusive and never does anything to help me! Me: Uh-huh. Alyona: He just drinks and parties all the time! How am I...|||It does predispose one to instability, though other factors may alleviate the issue.  For me, the issue is that I never really fall for anyone. Bodies are bodies and oxytocin is produced upon touch...|||Aye. I don't attach, you don't attach, we're cool. Get clingy and we're done.     Seems valid enough. Touch is so overwhelmingly mine, I don't even notice the others much.    The combination...|||Yes. Mostly in terms of over-/underindulgence, difficulty finding physical balance. Haven't ever cared about social status or groups, have found my way through life without them. For example to avoid...|||No. I generally only expose myself to humans when I feel soft.|||Buddha Blues: Know Thyself and Despair|||That is either intolerable incompetence or nefarious politicking. Either way, I hope you find a way to handle him.  Reminds me of an ex-colleague who inspired me to go solo many moons ago.|||Out of curiosity - how is this based on empathy? Note that I'm not necessarily defending IQ tests, I just found the word empathy somewhat unusual in this context. Curious to hear your reasoning. ...|||Likewise.  If I am guilty of ignoring the patch of road I am currently traversing, it is only because I am busy mapping out the next 100 miles.|||While I like Sherlock, I always found him much too volatile.  I find Ivan Karamazov in Dostoevsky's The Brothers Karamazov quite relatable.|||Not my son, but thanks. Did someone introduce your son to Scratch?|||I'm somewhat involved in raising a 10-year-old boy, likely an INTP. Early days of course. He's got a decent brain on him, learns quickly, is not into sports and likes gaming above all else.  He...|||1. Jungian psychology is fuzzy and not falsifiable. 2. MBTI statistics likely aren't terribly accurate, outside the US in particular. 3. No one knows how genetic or inheritable personality is.|||Yes. I often follow through as well.  Not conducive to friendships, but you get to see the world.|||Sounds like your attachment style is dismissive/avoidant.  Mine, too. I have found regular meditation to help with acceptance/equanimity, though not (yet?) with my aversion for clinginess.|||By way of example...   I love reading, and sometimes my aphantasia trips me up. A good example is Dan Simmons' Hyperion. I love the ideas, I love the story arc, but because Simmons' language is so...|||Interesting. I can't draw, but I have done well as a photographer in amateur contests. I literally can't draw - my mind has no visuals to work with, and my hand has no clue what to do. Somehow...|||Aphantasia: Suggested name for a condition where one does not possess a functioning mind's eye and cannot visualize imagery.  Anyone here with aphantasia?  There's a quick test halfway through...|||Ironclad routine. Diet, exercise, meditation, work, R & R all properly scheduled seven days a week, with meticulously prepared contingency plans for illness and other unforeseen events.|||I've found meditation/mindfulness helpful in assuming neutral intentions. By practicing regularly, I find it easier to let people be and do whatever they are/do.   I still have very limited energy...|||I'm not going to describe my exact system for privacy reasons, but I can describe the basic principles while using fabricated, but similar, examples. Some details below are not how I actually do it,...|||I've tried all sorts and concluded that I prefer vanilla (though chocolate is nice, too).|||FWIW, the ENFPs I have met have come across as performance artists. They put on a show. It can be entertaining to watch, but they've been far too flighty to bother with beyond watching the...|||Probably easiest to join some online thing which includes personality types and AFK meetups. Some dating sites have personality tests and whatnot, although accuracy may be a problem. Some personality...|||Seems more Enneagram-related to me. Some Enneatypes (2s, 5s, especially 9s) tend to repress while others tend to express (8s, 4s, 7s, maybe 1s?).|||I recall someone asking something very similar over at the INFJ board a while back, mentioning the same cities unless I'm mistaken.|||Define world and better.  There is no way for us to answer such a question objectively. Subjectively from the POV of mankind and most human individuals, existence is preferable to...|||Fine.|||Unhealthy INFJs tend to go numb (Ti over Fe). Unhealthy INTJs tend to get emotional (Fi over Te).  Mostly though, not enough information.|||https://faithbibleministries.files.wordpress.com/2011/01/sheep-big-one-wolf-in-sheeps-clothing.jpg  It's a lot of effort to pull on that sheepskin every morning. Not to mention trying to remember...|||What would someone with aphantasia experience during a DMT trip?|||Depends on country, context, language and my mood.|||An island in Indonesia.|||I was blind, but now I can see. (After re-uploading it.)|||Perfectly normal.  I can go months without having anything to share. I am very up front about it and will tell new acquaintances that I am strongly introverted and often disappear for weeks/months...|||Not an INFJ, but 37 years and counting - haven't said it yet.|||I should think that different enneatypes come across as quite different even when they have a shared MB type. Different instincts, too.|||Some people just won't STFU. Lost my temper yesterday and told an extroverted now ex-friend to hightail it out of my life. I get it that she's sad after her latest breakup, but there's only so much...|||My Kobo displays [current page] / [total pages], my old Kindle displayed percentage of pages read.|||If I'm interested enough to pay it any attention, I'm more likely to analyse the robber's personality and life to see if I can find any patterns. Or in the case of the recent trouble in Europe, see...|||True. Anything very graphic is better on paper, including comics.|||Can't think of any. Quite a few ENTJs, of course.|||The topic of physical books vs. e-books came up in a different thread. I didn't want to derail that thread, so I decided to create a new thread dedicated to reading books. I'll make the case that...|||No idea.|||Hence why e-ink e-readers (as opposed to tablets) are so good. The wi-fi only internet connection in my Kobo Aura is so shitty, I've never used it. It stays off 24/7. Any new books I want to read I...|||I used to hoard books. Then I bought my first e-book reader, and haven't looked back. Reading is so much easier on my eyes, now I can read non-stop 24/7. Not to mention any book I want to read is...|||I keep to myself.'