'Oh for SURE, there is no doubt that an INFJ can be EQUALLY manipulative! I didn't mean to say that we were the angels.  And when I say manipulative, I don't necessarily mean it in a bad way. After...|||I'd be cremated and tossed into the sea. Hopefully no whales turn their heads in disgust.|||ENFJ,  You break my heart. I want to break your neck. Instead, I'll just stay in my corner and write about how angry I am.|||I cannot - for the life of me - think well (or even effectively) on my feet, so in terms of hotfire debates where two sides are spitting out perspectives, heck no I hate them! I am a sit and stew...|||It might just be me and the INFJ friendships I have. As INFJs, I think that we can understand how a fellow INFJ can come to this or that conclusion, or feel this or that way. We get each other. But I...|||My best and worst experience. I think for two people (INFJ/ENFJ) who really want to strip down to the bareness of their souls, the potential is overwhelming. But of all people for INFJs to open their...|||I have not been in a romantic relationship, but I have a close friend who is INTP and he's a close friend BECAUSE he's an INTP (his INTP-ness makes him worthy :P).  I find his somewhat lack of...|||I wish I had an INFJ friend who I wasn't afraid of opening up to.|||I know an ENFJ very, very well. They are the best and worst for INFJs, IMO. We are not just talking about incompatibility, you will always have that. ENFJs can break your heart and mend it at the...|||Maybe his girlfriend asked him to get it?|||An INTP told me that he feels 100% open with me. Whoa.  ----  I started PerC when I first started my graduate program. Along the way I got sick with an underactive thyroid and experienced a shit...|||I came on to this forum because I knew someone else would understand! Hugs all around.   I've been there with the whole having a romantic relationship where the other person couldn't dig deeper. I...|||From personal experience, it's hard. The door slam is like your stance on a person - they were deserving enough of it (possibly), so still remaining in contact with them would feel like betraying...|||Today, I was presented with this question:  How do your primary relationships feel to you? (i.e., loving, supportive, tense, charged, etc.)  How would you answer?     To be honest, it hit...|||My relationship with my ENFJ only solidifies my belief in a loving, merciful God.|||Life is really one big mind fuck isn't it?|||You are sweet.|||I feel like I've shuttered myself from people so much and so often that I've started doing it to myself as well. I don't even know if I am dealing with my own heartbreak or if I actually feel fine.|||I laugh when people think they know me.|||I was engaged. Now I am not engaged. We got along well, and I felt accepted. Now it just feels like I'm sucked back into a void.|||I actually haven't been engaged for almost four months, but it's only really hitting me now. I'm going to be alone forever.|||To have it all - would be nice, right?  Very true. When presented the option of being understood or being accepted, I'd rather be accepted. It's too lonely otherwise.|||I'm happy that you haven't found anyone else like me.|||The holiday blues got me. It only took me a week to realize it (a week of being sick, no exercise, not being able to sleep and sleeping in - it was too cold).   A quick mention to others and they...|||I can be better than this.|||Life, essentially.  I moved once to get out of my old situation, not out of necessity but to kick myself in the rear. Loved it. Things were clean.  Moved again because of life, out of necessity,...|||I have moved 3 times in the last 8 months. Please life, slow down, let me recharge.|||I'm writing this before reading all the responses (for some reason I feel like I have to state this).  I've been told by an ENFJ that I want to be mysterious and be figured out. I always took...|||From time to time I think about what it means to be an INFJ and sometimes I go through websites and such that describe what it's like to be an INFJ. I came across this video about INFJs that...|||I'm feeling so pathetic.|||Sometimes at random locations I have hours long talks with strangers.  I walk away thinking nothing of it, except perhaps how sorry I am to take up so much of someone's time.  What I'm most...|||I'm not much of a luxury goods person. I like my technology (e.g., iPads, iPhones, MacBooks) though. Clothing+accessories wise, probably my Chanel sunnies. I have a wide face and they actually fit,...|||I'm faced with the difficulty of knowing whats right and whats wrong, and acting on my impulses. This is one of the most frustrating things about being an INFJ, in my experience. For once I want to...|||Why, thesis? Why do you torment me so?|||I have a habit of opening doors for the older folks that come in through Starbucks. There's an old man who's very sweet that I will get up and hold the door while he pushes his walker out. He comes...|||Honeymoon Avenue. I can't get it out of my head!|||I pretty much bowl over on cheap puns. Yeah, doesn't take much for me.|||Dear INTP, I sort of miss you and talking to you. I felt grounded when speaking with you - I felt heard, I felt an attempt at understanding, and I felt like for once I wasn't speaking into empty...|||Sometimes I think I need grief counseling, but there's nothing they could say to me that I haven't already said to myself.|||I look at pictures with my hair long and want to cry. It's so weird how I was attached to it. I don't feel like me! And instead I wear a pony all the time now because I hate the way it looks....|||I wish this existed in real life. I need this for persuasion purposes in order to get my way.|||ENFJ,  For once I wish you would just stop whining about the circumstances of our relationship and just be there for me like you claim you are. I don't know how to freaking reach out to you,...|||I cut a foot or so off the length of my hair. I am so sad.|||Feeling like such a failure today.|||I feel like my life has been suspended since March 2013.|||In the next week i'll be teaching again. Ugh, God save me|||All I can say is ALL THE DAMN TIME. I don't have any advice, it just seems to hurt like an open wound always.|||Today is a day where I feel very afraid.|||One of my new years resolutions is to stop being so afraid ... but I can't.|||Sometimes I wish you would float away and reintroduce your soul in some other way because I really want to love you but can't allow you as you are now to hurt me again.'