'Would you go to a job interview if the office was in a small town (30 k inhabitants) and the next city (about 150 k inhabitants) was 25 km away, a big city 35 km away (both with a bad train/ public...|||Hi lilysocks. What I mean here is all the stories and beliefs we use to explain our and other people's behaviors to make us feel better. I think this can be described as (negative) defence...|||I would add something to my first comment on the previous site: many INTJ I know go to language exchanges (Stammtisch, Sprachaustausch, usw.).   I'm sure there are some in the city you live in if...|||On the internet (=dating sites). Some even describe themselves as INTJs, so you can search this term in their profiles.  Interestingly, I found the male INTJs I've met IRL so far much too...|||I frequently read about how people should get more aware about the feelings they are repressing, how they should get more awareness about who they really are, how they should stop deceiving...|||Traveller's Boss: Could you maybe talk slightly less strongly with S. [= coworker]. Maybe you're not aware of that but the way you talk to him comes across as a bit strong. Your arguments basically...|||I guess I'm just looking for a person somewhat similar to me.  The guys I've met so far never needed as much intellectual stimulation or were as rational as I am. Most of them were also less...|||If I could draw, I would now draw a male Neanderthal who opens a jar for a female Neanderthal. (Still thinking about the caption though). Or who carries her bag.  But honestly, I won't waste my...|||When reading such posts I always ask myself in what type of imaginary world some people live and why they lost contact with the empirical reality. Strong guys opening jars, carrying women's bags,...|||normal buzzwords and corporate newspeak, like soft skills, EQ, gamification, etc. (I'm writing this while working on an actionable proposal) sexist words, like pushy|||I have the same.  No, most people don't like me. I can be charming if I really want to but find it exhausting in the long run. And my rationality is too overwhelming for most people.|||I haven't read all posts here but would like to comment, this time seriously.  People normally procrastinate for a reason.  Maybe  - you feel lonely and look for contact with people online not...|||You want to eliminate unproductive distractions and you write about it on an internet forum?|||When, although 1) you're old enough to know better and 2) know enough research to be aware this strategy is not effective, you're still trying to charm the (wo)man you like with your brainpower and...|||Buah. I know so many people who I'm convinced have some disorders but who will never get diagnosed because they would never go to the doctor. Being on meds doesn't actually mean anything. It says...|||I just can't anymore. I'm so furious every time I think about my job that I find it extremely difficult not to offend people. I'm so tired with idiotic job interviews after which I withdraw my...|||You mean the kind of sources the Google guy supported his memo with? Oh sorry, he didn't give any, did he?  I wrote very clearly in my post that I'm not going to quote here and that many good...|||No arguments to criticize the posts above, just mimimimi I'm being victimized.   Simply unbelievable who describes themselves as INTJ these days.|||This passage you quoted is actually funny. While partially correct - men should definitely be given the freedom to behave like women, but are these really mainly women who make it impossible and who...|||Well, I would have fired him for being an illogical idiot and lacking analytical skills.  I read the memo several days ago, wanted to know what the whole fuss was about.  There are plenty of...|||I'm so angry.  Today I was turned down by a company I interviewed with. We got the decision directly after the interviews. I believed it had gone well, the questions weren’t difficult at all. I was...|||Jon Richardson :love_heart::   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0bCLWeycGMA|||I actually thought you posted a pic of Marshall from How I met your mother before realising it was your picture.  But honestly, you're super handsome (strange how straightforward this INTJ can be...|||If you can't enjoy your meetings with him just limit your contact with him. Many of us have experienced difficult periods in their lives and I don't think your telling your friend that his behavior...|||Don't get me wrong but you seem to feel you are better than him, which is not a thing most friends would be proud of.    Why would small age differences play a role among adult people? They would...|||The funny thing about this thread is that when I visit it I always ask myself whether I'm really an INTJ :D  No, honestly, when reading the music thread I have the impression that I share my taste...|||I haven't read all the previous comments, but after reading the initial post, I think that maybe the OP has unrealistic expectations about what love feels like.  Because: I've been in love before...|||It's just like you describe it. So I'm not 100% sure I want to stay in the field, also apply for other roles. The worst thing about consulting is the culture (I could write for hours about the...|||It does. That's so depressing... :)|||During a job interview the employer tells me I have to play 3 games as a part of the interview process (Have you ever played angry birds? It's something similar!). He says that everybody in his...|||1. What wakes you up most mornings (alarm, pets, kids, etc.)?  I wake up automatically about 6:00-7:00 am every day.   2. Which historical figure not named Adolf Hitler would you kill? Why? ...|||What a strange question!  Obviously, like every INTJ I know, I have an Excel template with the criteria that play a role for me in terms of the choice of a partner. Of course I also employ...|||Actually the attitude towards big boobs (I first wrote big books and had to correct ;)) seems also influenced by testosterone levels. Guys with a lot of it tends to be attracted to big boobs....|||Yes, although that doesn't explain everything, there are also other factors that play a role. For example we are also conditioned by what our parents looked like and the experiences in our childhood....|||Of course the appearance of possible partners (and only them) matters.  In my case this is about:  - the guy being preferably my hight or a bit taller than me. I know that's primitive but I just...|||https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TIQspsk6KE8|||I frequently have crushes but I'm always totally aware of the fact that it's about the hormones in my brains, which make me want me to procreate, nothing more. I can still fancy someone knowing that...|||It's a good post, but I think priorities change with time. So I think it's important to try to envision our needs and priorities in future, not only now.  At least my priorities used to be...|||I don't want more time since I'm getting crazy when I think about the whole situation...  I still have two job interviews scheduled next week - of which only one is interesting. But it all takes so...|||If you want to go into IT, an MBA is a waste of time.  But you really need to find out what you want to do first.  I'm in (business) consulting, taking on IT-related projects at times, so I know...|||After reading your post I'm curious whether we work for the same company.|||You know what, I just can't take it anymore. It's not getting better at all. I'm so exhausted because of this lifestyle, sleeping in hotels all the time, rushing between the airports and train...|||I switched to business after several years in science.   You probably saw yourself in education because as a teacher you 1) work quite independently compared to other professions, 2) you are in a...|||It would be easier to list those of my habits which are not weird, honestly.|||I research a lot and at least in case of my - admittedly not very serious - health problems, this has frequently helped me to solve them.  I had problems with adult acne. I downloaded a university...|||I have to say I find your approach  very confusing.  You're not there to teach anybody anything.  I assume the man is happy the way he is.   If you don't like the way he communicates just limit...|||I sometimes think I have social anxiety, especially in male-female contexts. I normally understand people well or very well - because of my educational background I normally know why people behave...|||I actually used the search function. There seems to exist a general forum on that, for all communities but I haven't found a thread specifically for INTJs.  What are your favourite movies and...|||What I don't like about talking to some women is that they make me justify myself.   I used to have this female friend, who I really liked but who would frequently drive me nuts.  One...|||I don't think you can understand him by assuming he belongs to an abstract group of INTJs and trying to understand the group. People are more complex that that.   You should think about yourself -...'