'I didn't marry until my early 30's and have been married for 16 years. I went a different approach then most--I knew the kind of relationship I wanted and who that person would need to be. I decided...|||This is so great that you're coming to this so early! Really. One thing I'll add, just for what it's worth, along the lines of paying one's dues (which is a really mature and realistic...|||We are totally of the same ilk! I have three people who work directly for me, but I give pause at how to refer to them--our group, our office, etc., because I dislike the sense of ownership. My...|||This isn't my regular type of post at all, but I'll consider it a PSA: For those being brutalized by cleanings that involve fear, intense pain, and a lot of blood, I have three words: Find Another...|||This is such an accurate summation of this. It's not like I'm bottling up bad feelings and thoughts about people, but all of a sudden I'll decide that it's just been too much. I do have a limit, but...|||I agree--angelcat summed it up beautifully! I always say that it can be confusing being me, because I always see at least two outcomes. Being hyper-aware of another side or possibility is what keeps...|||Ditto! Just had to say, the type theory may come in time! At first, my INTP husband was totally put off by it, thinking it would be totally confining and narrow. When I finally got him to read a...|||I'm out of my depth, and will let the pros and/or ENTPs here field this. But, to clarify, I don't at all have to experience something to want it fixed in society. I don't know any soldiers but I...|||I agree that for ENFPs this is probably less gender-based than personality-based, even though I'm not a guy... However, I've been described (by an ENTJ no less!) as the most analytical person I've...|||There are a ton of people here who are so much better at describing this than I am--but, alas, I totally understand the challenge so will give my two cents. At work, I'm very pragmatic (as I say, I'm...|||I'm sure I've said this in other threads, but, for what it's worth... Ns, especially NPs (read, me!) can really drive Ss, and especially SJs, crazy. So this is not a one-way street and it has nothing...|||I don't have any sage input but my husband (INTP) and I met at work and to this day he has been my favorite work partner, if you will. It was the perfect compliment. We both want to get stuff done...|||Thanks for taking the time to tell the story. Wow. You weren't kidding about it being emotional, though I'm glad to know how it ended. Heartbreaking as it is... At least for me, the regret of not...|||I have a compulsion to know how stories end... (I will even fast-forward-watch a terrible movie I'm giving up on, just to find out how it ends.) So, I have to know--did the calf make it? What...|||I think the best thing would be to find others who have gone through this who she will identify with--whether a book written by someone who has gone through this or a support group. A friend is a...|||I also knew very early on I had no desire to get a degree--when I was in high school I would say, Why do I need a framed piece of paper on the wall? Ends up now that I work in academia I get the...|||Well, the best way to sum it up is that last night I had a nightmare about a predator I could see in broad daylight--I wasn't personally at risk (for some bizarre-dream-world-reality reason), but I...|||I'm surprised there aren't more fans of Game of Thrones. Definitely my first choice. (I don't have a TV or cable--I only watch on my time-table, and via streaming or discs. I absolutely despise...|||I have a weird need to find out the end of the story. I'll fast-forward (for real) through a movie I'm hating, just to see how it ends (and to make sure I don't miss anything). I'm not on FaceBook,...|||This may not help at all, or may seem obvious, etc., but here are a few of things I've learned, in no particular order:  -When I run, I still bring everything with me (this was rather shocking to...|||Well, good point--I'm in my 40's... though most people I know who are 40+ (both personally and professionally), are on both.   The interesting thing about your question is that whenever people tell...|||This is too funny! If my husband and I are watching a movie and he gets up, even briefly, I compulsively have to start reading a book or my news app. (Even if there's only time for a paragraph!) I'm...|||As someone who is originally from the Bay Area, but moved to New England an age ago, I think the East Coast definitely may be something to try on for size. I always say that I much prefer New...|||Crazy happily married to an INTP for 15 years. We are different enough to make things super interesting, but also very similar in important ways and so seemingly avoid all the conflict couples...|||I have a huge problem with this when I'm watching a movie--I readily catch the interpersonal stuff and nuance (and often explain it to others), but the foreshadowing and symbolism... Ugh. Sometimes a...|||Here are my thoughts from my experience:  It's clear your intention is not to be clingy, but the TV show issue could be perceived as controlling and/or clingy, unless you both had agreed, Let's...|||In case it's helpful, no matter how close I am to people, I typically am the one who listens, because, well, I'm a natural, genuine listener and people are used to me doing that, and because I won't...|||I'm glad. When it comes to relationships, everyone has an opinion (most conflicting) about what a person should or shouldn't do... It sounds like you want to and are prepared to take the risk. I'm...|||Just my two cents--I feel like I can get through just about anything with a mile-marker/finish line since I naturally live in the future anyway. X will be over is six months, X happens on X date,...|||I only have a few Ns or SPs that I work with at any given time (out of dozens and dozens of people)--so, I totally get it. I'm in the desert with only periodic glasses of water! The SJs I happen to...|||I dislike knee-jerk, generic, or cliched compliments. I tend not to believe anything when forced or when it's expected socially. I like out-of-the-blue, organic affirmations, if you will, or hearing...|||This is a great question! Sadly, the people I really need to ask this question aren't self-aware enough... You sound self-aware enough that you will likely pick up on the signals, non-verbal clues,...|||When I'm being wholly misunderstood and I gently, calmly clarify the reality of what I said, feel, etc., and I'm accused of being defensive, negative, or revising history. I allow everyone else to...|||I have two ESTJs in my life. I have learned one has to stick to the facts and/or basics. The weather. Planning. The name of the restaurant and what street was it on (these two I never know, but they...|||I think, romantically speaking, a pairing between Ps really reduces the amount of conflict. (Your point makes me wonder if it's Ps in general, or IPs in particular, since you mentions Is... Hmm.)...|||I SO agree with this! I worked with an ISTP for many years and we had an amazing, mutually synergistic working relationship. I think it's probably fairly universal that ENFPs will generally get on...|||Just had to say this is hilarious--a regular saying of mine is, I have the attention span of a goldfish right now!|||When people say that not having kids is selfish, or that you'll regret it in the end (and all the other pablum that's doled out--ugh!), I always say, People should have kids because they want them,...|||Here are a few thoughts, just for you think about. People are certainly unique, and we all vary even where we are on the continuum (i.e., 50%/50% T & F vs. 90% F). So, as they say, results may vary....|||A big factor as we get older is to weigh our need for impulsiveness against our long-term values and goals. I've been at my current job since 2001. (Yikes!) I of course intended only to be there a...|||I SO agree with this! I hate shopping, think fashion is fairly dumb (why on earth would I change the length of my skirt annually because I'm told to?), and wear pretty much grays and blacks, with a...|||ENFPs see the potential in people/relationships/situations. Against all odds, they can hold on, hold out, keep trying harder, and keep forgiving. There can be the thought that if they keep working...|||I believe people should have children because they genuinely want them, not because society expects everyone to procreate. I knew in my early 20's that I didn't want children. (A few years to go...|||I say the exact same thing! Hilarious. I'm fairly alone with the sentiment (especially after this winter--best winter ever!).   The snow makes me crazy happy. The particular quiet that blankets a...|||I work with a ton of SJs and I often can't believe my train of thought when they're babbling at me. Spot on! You have no idea who I am. I also start thinking things like, I am SO bored, I don't...|||I agree about the questions. When I tested people myself I used fewer questions and tossed out the ones that feel too confining or odd.|||Once I delved into this a bit more, I learned that there are actually two types of visual learners--visual-verbal (language one sees/reads) vs. visual-non-verbal (pictures and diagrams one...|||Thanks for clarifying... If it's any consolation, I was sure my husband didn't know I existed. I had no idea he (and another NP at work!) were interested in me. NPs can be so laid back and friendly...|||Just curious, go too slow how? Personally, I find the differences totally synergistic. (I wouldn't have asked if you said we're too animated or loud, etc., as I would totally get that--but the...|||Learning style versus teaching style--what a great thing to look at... As Ns we're also aware of wanting to reach the largest audience possible, so I wonder...? In the presentation I just gave on...'