'This sounds horrible! I don't understand why people have this need to be jerks for no reason. It's like people get off on this shit. Maybe they hear you being self-deprecating so they think it's ok...|||That's interesting that you said that. Because my friend just told me that a month ago. His entire life he was scared to be homeless and end up totally screwed. He was working a job he hated to just...|||Good point.|||I like this analogy a lot. It certainly feels that way sometimes.|||Who here is appealing to authority? I don't think anyone here has been doing that.|||You should've given it a rest a long time ago and you kept pushing it. I am merely responding to your latest post. It's not that you just went about it the wrong way and lacked sensitivity, it's...|||Hmm I get what you're saying. But what about people you see everyday or that every time you see them they are jerks?|||That was brilliant. Where is this city you speak of? NYC by any chance?|||I LOL with this. Hilarious.|||That was beautiful. Thanks Miguel! Many blessings to you.|||Oh, God, here we go again. Alright mate, I'm out.|||So because I don't agree with you it means I am just doing what feels good and rejecting your all encompassing truth? There's a big difference between doing what's easy and disagreeing with someone...|||I realize that. But again, I have not once written here that I thought taking anti-depressants was the way to go. In fact I have been on them before and they helped me very little. But what you are...|||I think you're confusing things. I don't think anyone here is advocating popping pills. Now you're taking the placebo effect and extrapolating and calling depression a philosophical issue.|||I wonder where you get your facts from. Show me your sources and make it clear to me why you think depression is a philosophical problem.|||Except it's not a small issue because it can be the difference between a depressed patient that lives and one that kills him/herself. This is not a joke. When you are in that kind of situation,...|||I agree, but we have science to back it up. People can't really argue with science. You can see the effects in the brain. People that think depression = being sad or down need to go educate...|||daddy like.|||Lol you make it seem like you went to meet Satan and back. I'm sure hearing about your journey could be beneficial to others like me.|||Thanks. You get it :) But it's not that I'm not ready for other ways of coping. It's more that maybe I'm not at a point where having someone tell me to brush it off is beneficial because it's not...|||So what has helped you to achieve that mindset?|||That's interesting. It seems like it's something to try. I understand that there's little we can control about people. We can only control our reactions. I'm with you there. I think it takes time,...|||My title was that, yes. But I made sure to explain the details underneath. I explained in detail how that was a professional setting and that I was simply answering a questionnaire. The fact that I...|||Again. When did I say that I don't want to learn how to deal with this problem? Just because I find your solution to be a bad one for me that doesn't translate into me not wanting to look for...|||cosmia  Similarly, in your situation, it's not your responsibility to educate this med. assistant. So what root of the problem are you looking to get at, exactly? The root of the problem is people...|||@Sangoire   I agree with you in part. While self-esteem certainly plays an important role in how to deal with things like that, suggesting that the problem here is a lack of self-esteem on my part...|||Exactly. I think that's what we SHOULD have been discussing.  edit: I am not asking for closure. I was looking to hear similar experiences and helpful and effective ways to deal with it. I was also...|||No. The point of this post was for us to talk about it and share similar experiences as well as way to cope with it, yes. However, you telling me to brush it off is NOT an effective way to handle it...|||I get it. I know I only have to gain in learning how to not let it get to me because it's obviously going to keep happening. My point is, he wasn't just a random person whose opinion was asked. He...|||While there are people thinking that one should just brush things off and not stand up for themselves, the issue will only be perpetrated if that happens. I'm well aware that I can't expect others to...|||No it can't. Because it only turns the issue around and makes it look like it's MY FAULT for getting offended with what he said, instead of actually addressing the fact that he was uneducated,...|||First of all, I didn't ask for his validation. I didn't go to a primary physician's appointment thinking Oh, what I nice day to make the Medical Assistant give me a little bit of free therapy and to...|||Yes I don't doubt that the environment contributes to it and my anxiety as well. I know it does. But you seem to be fixated on this idea that all there is to it is to change how you think. I am...|||I repeated myself to make a point to the post I replied to. To make it clear that the condition I have is not just a matter of thinking differently. You telling me to brush it off doesn't help at all.|||Also, you seem to think depression is just about how you think and view life. This is not what depression is. It might be a PART of it. Not the whole.   Please educate yourself on this. It's...|||When you are not getting enough sleep and you stop breathing at night, you're gonna be tired, irritated and you will have more chances to also develop depression. This is not a made up thing. But I...|||His message is right? That I shouldn't feel the way I do because I am privileged? I fail to understand what you really mean. I am sure you know depression is a real condition that impairs your...|||Wow. This is literally what happened to me.|||Hahaha funny. It's not, however, that I see people as assholes. I grew up holding the belief that people are good and honorable like most infp's I believe. it was only after twenty something years on...|||Nonetheless, I don't think I am no entitled to that. I would use better words next time. You certainly didn't come off as sensitive.|||I get what you're saying. I didn't mean it that way. It just sounded like he was making fun of my sensitivity and I told him I was choosing to believe he meant something else. But I get it.|||Huh? I am not entitled? Please make yourself clearer. I don't understand how giving someone the benefit of the doubt is in any way hurtful. You're not entitled to say I'm not entitled to my own...|||Huh? Since when saying you're giving someone the benefit of the doubt is hurtful? And I am entitled to give anyone the benefit of the doubt if I want to, sir.|||Ok, I was thinking either you meant that or you were making fun of me for being sensitive to his remarks. It's all good, I understand it now.|||Hmm... I never said f=emotion...? I said it is about values. That's kind of what my post was about, trying to explain that f doesn't equal emotion...|||Which is sad. I don't think I thought like this before. I still give people the benefit of the doubt. I never just threat people like they're scum. But years and years of experience really does tell...|||Thank you. Honestly, me too. That's why I never understood the stereotype we have of thinking everyone is good deep down. That hasn't been my experience at all.|||I know no one is all good or bad but it just seems that there's a lot more bad in most people around me. And do they really need to be like that in order to live? No matter what I wouldn't bully...|||I hope you are not trying to be an asshole. I''ll give you the benefit of the doubt.||| I always feel like they are going to mock me or hurt me somehow     I feel the same way. Most people seem to be assholes, so I think we sort of develop a self defense mechanism by closing...'