I adore them!!! But sometimes I can be an unhealthy INFJ, and as such am tormented by the fact that ENFP's can seem a little fickle, when I am steadfast and resolute. I know that my amazing ENFP...|||thanks everyone, your perspectives are all VERY helpful to me. I just needed reassurance that this sort of backlash from people might be normal (it might mean I've unearthed something they can't see,...|||I've always thought I was pretty good at understanding people - who they are, their motivations, what they need out of life. A few arguments I've had with people in the past week have left others...|||I think, as long as there is hope I am fine. What you describe to me is that when you are in a place that is hopeful, you can cope with life. I think you are right about being cautious of...|||I kind of wish i knew what kind of energy I give off to people... I'm not really sure how to get that information from people. I don't see friends very often. I have been told I'm rather intense to a...|||Wow! That is an excellent summary of INFJ-ness. I would say I agree 100% with all of those statements in my life!|||I've noticed this with a number of people around me, they have either an anxious or calming or angry energy. One of my good friends is awesome, because even though he's a goofy loud ENFP with me he...|||thanks for the input everyone! I know I pay attention to many facial cues at once, but recently have become curious about eyes - looking away, pupil dilation and constriction, etc. because it changes...|||I don't have a very healthy relationship with food....when I'm stressed, I eat. When I'm lonely, I eat. I don't eat healthy food very often. I stress about food and don't eat breakfast or lunch, and...|||Hey everyone - I don't often make eye contact with people, unless I'm really interested in getting to know them, or am somewhat comfortable with them. It's something i'm trying to do more and more....|||we live in possibilities, so sometimes 'satisfaction' is going to be an issue when there are other possibilities. Also, we keep growing and evolving  and expect people to want to chase the darkness...|||If I was in the possition of your friend, I would say give her a little space for now, and keep things light and friendly. You don't want her to feel as though you are going to drain her forever and...|||Um, can I just say that catagorically ENFP's are awesome, and the OP was awesome, and you have a very lucky INFJ. :) Take good care of her, okay? And be very careful with whatever delicious gooiness...|||I would just like to add, I don't think that keeping a group type-same will eliminate all conflict. Yes, we don't go after it... but we're not all going to see eye to eye, and you know what?...|||I'm absolutely a cat. I crave attention, but on my terms ONLY, I am unpredictable, apparently. I think I'm quite logical but my husband says I'm like the cat I used to have that would let you pet it...|||I have a Christian community around me, from which I feel often distant. I would love to get to know other INFJ Christians. :) I have very firm reform-theology like beliefs, but have studied other...|||I am married to an INTJ, and have found communication with him really easy, but I don't know what a female INTJ would actually be like. My INTJ has to be given space to be right about things, he...|||1. I am idealistic, and I don't see it as a weakness. I can worry ferociously, and be illogically optimistic at times. I dream of things being better, though, and that's what's at the core of me. I...|||I love this thread. :)  I agree with most of the types here listed here. It's strange how this is a very rational-dominated show, but I suppose the writers of science fiction often would be,...|||how much do people in your group know about her?? Sometimes as INFJ's we know a lot about other people, but people rarely know about 'us', unless of course we've decided we can trust you, or for some...|||I totally get 'vibes' from people - and I make a lot of decisions about who I want to be around based on them. I just get an intuition about them, and I can't even pinpoint HOW I arrive at these...|||It is really interesting to hear all of your voices on this topic. It's good for an INFJ like myself to realize how we come accross to people, and what to work on! (And from this little INFJ to all...|||I don't have a lot of crushes, but when I have I have fallen hard. And like other posters have said in this thread, it isn't at all necessarily sexual. I am a married woman, and I can find I just...|||Another question. Do you think about people when they are not around? Or is it out of sight, out of mind? Do you miss people when you haven't seen them in a while, or do you just move onto other...|||I am gluten intollerant (and my son is celiac - I may be too, for the most part I avoid gluten). That is genetic, rather than based on my type, I think. Most of my family are are 'S' personalities,...|||all the INFJs you know wish their boyfriends were just like you...|||The thing I'm learning about ENFP's is that possibilities are everything, and they need someone to not judge them, not try and analyze them, or figure them out... just listen and support them. My...|||I don't have an answer for you - but this behaviour sounds a lot like my ESTP brother displayed after a break up (that took 2 years to actually 'take'). There was no communicating with him, nothing...|||I come accross as nice and friendly to people. For instance, the other moms at the school my kids go to all know who I am, and I usually initiate conversation. But they only get surface-me. Although,...|||I think there is nothing wrong with having standards, and having goals. I met my now husband when I was 21, and I had never had a boyfriend (because I wasn't ready to get married!). We...|||My favourite people ever seem to be ENFP's (and some INTJ's). You might find one of us 'in the wild' by noticing our eye contact with you. We're always watching. And we can come accross shy or mildly...|||more questions:  1. how do you feel about people with large personal space needs? (i.e. they don't hug you, touch you, etc. and put on an air of 'touch me and die') do you understand? think it's...|||Anyone who assumes I'm dumb, incapable, or deficient because I happen to be introverted. I do have people skills, I will have you know. People who assume I don't care about the things I'm passionate...|||I LOVE cats. Coffee, I can do without. I don't even care for the smell of it.  Give me  nice cup of tea, on the other hand (earl grey! hot!) and I'm a happy girl...|||this is tremendously helpful. :D Thanks! (and weirdly I felt I had to make some cookies to cheer her up the other day, so I made some salted caramel chocolate sandwhich cookies, and brought them over...|||I have found I'm not able to create anythign I love when I paint, sculpt, draw, etc. because I have very high (unreasonable) expectations of what I can acheive without putting in the work. I think...|||I follow Jesus. I believe the words he said were true, all of them. And I am not so very good at following them, but I'm learning. And I believe in a world in which truths are really hard to find I...|||okay, here's another. Why are ENFP's crazy and silly with some people, and straight up and deep and connected with others? What does it mean when you're one way or another? (like, are you just bored...|||you are quite right. I am changing that immediately! :)|||This happens often when I pray, I never knew it was *called* something, or that others didn't share it! Also when I listen to a friend of mine speak, who is an articulate barritone with an...|||:happy: thanks wonderful ENFP types! Hugs for everyone. I will just keep being who I am. I have a tendency to not trust myself to very many people, because people move on so quickly. I love being...|||I am about 90% certain a new friend of mine is an ENFP. And - for the most part - we just click. I don't have any deep friendships in my life, and I'd like to keep this ENFP. At the moment they are...|||Interesting - maybe this isn't a type thing then. I find that only other NF people ever look - really look - into my eyes when we're having conversations. I mean, not fleeting words with someone I...|||I really like the ENFP's I know. They are my favourite type! I can look into their eyes and just *get* them. So here are a couple of questions -does it bother you when someone looks into your eyes?...|||Firstly, I really appreciate all of you who have posted here, sometimes these things are hard to talk about. It's very interesting to hear everyone's stories and where you have come from and what you...|||an ENFP and I had a project to work on together once for work - the most fun I've ever had on a project! He made me instantly comfortable in his presence, and I could just sort of relax and be...|||I'm not saying it will be easy - seriously, sometimes I've been enthralled by Muses for two years before we ever talked! But somehow, for me, things happened and I found myself in a place where I was...|||Let us know how this progresses. :) I believe the universe makes more sense than we realize, and the best things in my life have happened when I followed my intuition, usually fueled by an...|||Totally have had a similar experience. I call them muses too. There have been three total in my lifetime, and it's a very complicated thing to undergo. I just want you to know that you're not alone....|||Zster - your advice was particularly helpful!! It is a good reminder, as it's been a while since I was young when I lost my mother, it had a different impact on me (and I wasn't trying to to take...