'Hmmm true true. Thanks|||Yes, that's a good point. I can own my decision. I'll just have to do more research first...  How about this?  306266|||Yeah I guess my qualms about that were related to his cultural norms. After he left, his friend was alarmed that I was walking home alone (cultural thing) and escorted me, so the contrast struck me....|||I'm going crazy and need a sounding board! I would love some insight as I have lost perspective!  I have been seeing a man who I think is an infj .(Jackpot..!?)   He replies to my messages and...|||I don't know- it's been a few months now- we live in separate cities, but he's come to visit me, introduced me to his friends in my city, and even taken me to meet his parents twice. I've become...|||Thanks for your insights frabjuosity. I don't know how I feel about this ISfJ, I would like to date exclusively but beyond that I couldn't say, so maybe throwing myself at him would imply more...|||Thanks that's encouraging. I'll think about it..!|||Because I'm terrified of rejection too... Is there something I can do without actually making a move, that might encourage him?|||There's a man in my life who I think might be an ISFJ. He's taken me out to dinner several times, taken me out to meet his friends several times, taken me for a sunset stroll on the beach, taken me...|||New Years resolutions:  Say yes anytime someone asks me out... I already have a date this weekend. And I want to vomit.  Live in the moment- especially in relation to dating- be kind and open...|||This pretty much.  In my words...  open minded and interested in all types of people and cultures  social conscience/ interest in the state of the world/plight of battlers etc.  Laughs when I...|||Wow, as an INFJ 6w5 I find this freakin' depressing- I wish I hadn't read it! A few more positive aspects of this enneagram/MBTI combination please!|||INFJs I'm back for dating advice...   I've been trying real hard to navigate the dating world by being more open minded and giving guys a chance when they ask me on a date- but my intuition...|||Some thing as simple as making eye contact and taking a genuine interest in what someone is saying can go a long way in showing that you have genuine interest. I know for me, feeling like my thoughts...|||From her latter responses, it sounds like she's not interested, but is trying to be nice. One big mistake you've made is writing signifigant stuff in messages!! Sms, facebook and email should only be...|||Is this part of Te? I've always been good at sorting and keeping material things organised. I find it secretly thrilling sorting through a cluttered storeroom and creating order and more efficient...|||It was such a good post before I got to that bit.|||This thread is getting me thinking about how to nurture my Ni rather than the Te I was digging for! Interesting.|||Interestingly I relate to this too. I'm still emerging from a season which shattered all my beliefs and motivators (what feels like) beyond repair.. But if it was a result of interacting with Te, it...|||I'm constantly using Ti (I think?), in that I can assess situations logically and identify problems and changes to the system that would make everything work better. When I can implement the changes...|||Thanks Ginnaynay. What you're saying makes sense. I think I have to train my brain to accept that.|||This sounds like just the sort of thing I'm looking to read at the moment. Thanks for the suggestion!|||This sounds good, I'll start there.|||Actually I'm not too bad at that type of discipline- I'm a great budgeter, and if I have a deadline for something, I just go go go to get it done on time. Open ended things like writing or long term...|||Feeelings. They're just so problematic. INFJs do you ever think you'd be better off as an INTJ? I feel like I could look at everything more objectively, and enact a greater degree of discipline into...|||Over the years, my closest friends have tended to be ENFPs, they are a type (I feel) I connect best with. But I've realised a recurring trend which causes me angst!! Thoughts please!    It seems...|||Oh yeah, I get that- people who think too much...it's just not sustainable. I know a lot of happy and successful people who just don't think too much about a lot of stuff. Sometimes I wish I was more...|||I used to think I was smart. I got told that a lot when I was young. I'm a perfectionist, so if I study something I enjoy, I do it well.  These days though I'm getting pretty stupid. I admire the...|||Thanks Gypsy, that's an encouraging response! Sounds a lot like me, so I won't give up chasing the odd ENFP just yet.|||Yes! I would literally book a ticket and go to Greenland. Even if only 3 other people come. That would be fantastic. Hang out with INFJs and see the Aurora Borealis- kill two birds with one stone....|||I'd say pick your battles.   For an INFJ, just turning a blind eye to clear injustices is very detrimental, well for me anyway. It'll eat away at you and make it very difficult for you to respect...|||Thanks for this thread! It makes me feel like less unique at cocking up relationships. There's some quote- Sometimes we build walls, to see who cares enough to knock them down. I sort of hate that...|||I feel like I should add though, that ultimately, being emotionally plundered by the constant nastiness I had to deal with from people, media, academic study, for being a Christian- it contributed to...|||ENFP guys and gals. What gets your attention, what piques your curiosity, what steams up your glasses, and  what ultimately wins your heart?  Or even better, what do you look for in a really,...|||I suppose I'm a reluctant agnostic. Losing my faith is still very painful to me, and an ongoing process. I'm afraid to be wrong, which is why I'm an agnostic not an athiest. And like  stardeep said-...|||Oh yes, come to Australia! We can have a big camp out in the bush in winter with lots of ambient campfires- perfect for deep and meaningful conversations- what introvert doesn't come out of his shell...|||I wouldn't say INFJs are socially inept by definition. Some of us are though! But you're right, very probably less-so than we think.|||Thanks  emerysfriend. I adore ENFPs and try to have as many in my life as possible :)|||Thanks  Ann Kaneand  Ethanol. Yeah you are right, he was a douche. He'd also had a few drinks, and if I'm honest I think we had a bit of twisted, frustrated chemistry, and he was feeling annoyed that...|||LOL, I just posted this a few days ago about jobs I avoid:    I like your point though!|||It's funny because sometimes I can give off this vibe that I'm a natural extrovert. But more and more I'm finding social settings incredibly difficult and am really doubting myself. I'm not the type...|||I think I'm just repeating what others are saying, but I tried so many minimum wage jobs before I got qualified and found my niche. The one's that I felt most comfortable in were:  -cleaning jobs...|||I wound my way around by convoluted paths, to find a new route forward.   But the detours of a busy life have brought me to an impass once more.  The camoflage of chaos have tipped the...|||Hey Jamie,  I didn't get my license until I was 25- nearly all of my peers had it by 17/18. I didn't even get my permit until I was 21/22? It was a long haul to get it! But now I've been driving...|||I know, you're right. ! . There are many good things about me, some days it's just hard to see the forest for the trees! :)|||I just read this quote:   Socionics - the16types.info - INFj description by Filatova  Is this something most INFJs can relate to? I've never seen in mentioned in any descriptions before, but...|||Tendency towards negativity- ironically rooted in intense idealism. Deep sense of lacking.   Screwed up social skills.   My faulty family interactions, and inevitable guilt and resentment that...|||My mother doesn't hate all sauce. It was a specific sauce.     I care a lot about both of my parents, and have spent much of my life doing my best to see it from both sides, and this whole...|||Ah...hell no!! (Unfortunately). Goodbye anonymity...(history there). I will definately print off some info for him though. I've been finding some good stuff online tonight- and in the articles...|||I could see how this could be perceived as humour in a odd way, sadistic humour..The sauce incident happend twice in a matter of weeks, and I don't think it was mere humour. I feel that sometimes he...'