'There's something to be said for self-acceptance. At the same time, I think it's dangerous to let your type -- which represents your preferences, not your destiny -- limit the way you experience...|||I don't know that I've ever wanted to love someone. I'm not even sure how that would work. Seems to me like either I love, or I don't.   Keep in mind that although we can be gushy and effusive and...|||Also, Trailer Bride.   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=neQTm4l-NeM  OK, I gotta get to work...|||Do you know The Sadies? They're very much in the same vein.    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zcfd1kFmsqE&feature=related   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AsZWgLCQI7Y&feature=related|||I was just listening to that on your profile page. How have I never heard this before? There's no awesomer sound on earth to me than a Bigsby-bent guitar chord with a trail of reverb.|||http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3xXvZ3f7Z1A|||Yeah, I think he's the greatest songwriter ever ... and I also love his guitar playing and his singing. I came to listening to him about 10 years ago via Cowboy Junkies, who adored him.  Live at...|||This website has been priceless to me:   INFJ or INFP? a closer look|||I love love love Woody. Dustbowl Ballads is a perfect album.   And I love Townes even more.|||What is it exactly that you think you're doing to this person?|||This all sounds so familiar to me. I truly relate. For me, I think that even when I want closure, I don't really want closure, you know? With my big fat Fi and my Te, I seem to have boundless energy...|||My most common recurring nightmares are about nuclear war. I haven't had one in awhile, but I remember every one vividly.    This sounds like sleep paralysis. It's happened to me, and it is...|||I find that ENFJs have strong morals, and are dramatic about defending them. While I've never felt exactly manipulated by an ENFJ, I have felt led on by one, which I think was a combination of her...|||I seem to click easily with ENFJs. My ENFJ friends are so much fun ... but some bad experiences with their hair-trigger tempers and grudges keep me a little bit on guard.  ENFPs are great fun, to...|||Wow, so much angry industrial music, and crunchy grindy guitars here... Makes me feel old. :D    This song got me through a divorce:  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T-gbCq-f0ms  And then this...|||I like that quote.  I would add that, for me, much of this longing has to do with wishing I could share the experience with another person -- share it completely, and know it was shared completely,...|||Sounds awesome to me.|||I have rudimentary skills on guitar, piano, banjo, dobro, harmonica, ukulele, lap steel, bass, and bowed saw. I love having all these instruments around and picking one up and just messing around. I...|||Ahhhhh you're right. I've got INFJ on the brain. Nix that.|||I'll take a look, thanks. I admit I was stereotyping, but I'm tellin you, what I described is my experience with multiple ENFP's.  Whether INFP and ENFP are very different ... well, our functions...|||Can you give me a description of an unhealthy ENFP that you'd accept? Seriously, I'm interested in learning. Both of the ENFPs that made up my picture above were not typed by me. Both told me their...|||Doesn't the title of this topic sort of advertise in big neon letters that it's going to be a bunch of venting in the form of offensive stereotypes? Is there another way to discuss your least...|||Well, I am sorry if I offended. Those are my repeated experiences with ENFPs, though. Seriously, can you paint me a picture of a healthy ENFP? Something to counter that?|||Oh, wait -- no. No I'm not.|||Ha -- yes. Yes we are. :laughing:  I was probably just venting, though. Guess I'm the only one who's used this thread to do that.|||I think compulsively considering people's feelings can be an excuse to not engage with life. I think to some degree, worrying about how other people will feel about our actions is a self-aggrandizing...|||No no, on the contrary ... I was married to an ENFP and I understand her just fine.   I don't know that they're all unhealthy, but I have had multiple experiences with ENFP's and the same issues...|||I love it, and I use it every day.  Besides keeping in touch with my family, none of whom live close to me ... I had lots and lots of friends in high school that I lost touch with, and it feels so...|||This thread is destined to be locked, isn't it.    OK, are there ENFP's who have not gone bad? Seriously. I asked my gf this question the other day: Is there such thing as a healthy ENFP? I'm not...|||So I read this article today, and it reminded me of what you said above.  BBC News - Men are bigger liars than women, says poll   Men are more likely to tell lies than women and feel less guilty...|||Right. We can never know who deserves what punishment ... and outside of yourself, who would you trust to decide?|||Ah, but I DON'T trust most people. I am very withdrawn and self-sufficient. Only a very select few people on earth get any of my trust. The process for choosing who is worthy is intuitive and...|||We get people -- we truly understand them, with very little (or subtle) data. In my experience, people of other types, even other NF types, seem to see it as a magical power.|||Rushing back again and again to trust the same person(s), regardless of how many times they've demonstrated they are untrustworthy.  Oh gee, maybe they've really come around this time, gotten their...|||Don't use your type as an excuse or a reinforcement for behavior, or habits of thought and feeling, that don't serve you. Most of the big personality type theorists, including Jung, see personality...|||I love this post. My family's envy and negativity and defeatism are so draining. You just don't want to tell them about anything; they'll take the steam right out of it.   It is fun to be cynical...|||I've been guilty of ditching friends when i get into romantic relationships. I've got some insanely loyal, forgiving friends. And I've gotten better as I've gotten older.|||This is hard, because strong intuitives really can read other people's minds much of the time; our intuitions are so often correct. But for me, I have to try to remember that when I'm reading...|||This is really well-observed and helpful. Thank you.     This I don't buy at all. Maybe I'm not reading it correctly. But I, for one, am strongly attracted to intelligent, accomplished, achiever...|||Like with Acey's experience, my assumptions about how other people see me are often pretty far off the mark, colored by distorted self-image.|||Most people I don't trust at all, and I am completely withdrawn and walled-up around them. Family, coworkers. But once in awhile I meet someone with whom I feel a strong connection, and I find myself...|||Well, I've gone the route of jealousy, and rules, and checking up, and it has always ended badly. Ultimately, I think I believe in that hoary cliche: if you love something, set it free. Not saying...|||Honesty=awesome.|||Which is not to say that I'm this enlightened, unjealous man all the time, cause I ain't. Only that I'm trying my best to recognize and exercise some self-control and trust.|||OK, thanks for clarifying. For me, those things are not justified jealousy, even if they're really happening, and I've worked (and work) on getting rid of jealousy over those things. It's hard. It's...|||CristianLuca, what do you mean by justified jealousy with facts? Can you give examples of what you think is justified, and what you think is not?   I don't have much of a problem with envy of...|||It's my first filter for everything. It's like my 6th sense. Or, since my Se is so retarded, it's more like my first sense.|||You know, I didn't think I had this issue until the end of my marriage, with an ENFP who was very effusive and needy and into me until she suddenly (it seemed to me) flaked out and ran off and left...|||I find that my confidence builds most when I can put myself into a teaching role. For me, this centers around creative writing, and music history. People who are interested in these things, but who...|||Being so lost in my thoughts and worries and insecurities all the time that I miss all the joy and wonder of the current moment. Cell phones, and internet, and internet on cell phones, have really...'