'I haven't had any children yet, but I'm young. As the oldest of a large family led by a single mother, I have already been the co-parent for years. Most of the women in my family have been tied down...|||I know that I'm nodding, and smiling, but please stop telling me every inane detail of your life. I'm polite, not actually interested.|||In general, do you prefer texting or phone calls? Texting, definitely.  Do you like to webcam/facetime with others? Not if I can avoid it.  Do you always/usually reply to your messages? If the...|||I've been mostly just collecting advice and answering questions, thus far. No advice has been ignored, and I'm terribly grateful that everyone put in time to answer. I've responded to criticisms as...|||No, I understand the advice. I'm not arguing that. I'm simply not going to be told what my role as a married woman is and how I'm failing it.|||I sincerely hope you're joking, because this is the most condescending message I've ever received. My husband will not be dealing with someone for me, nor do I need counseling, or do I think I...|||Trusting him to be more emotional than intellectual doesn't mean that I don't realize he has emotions. We're friends; of course I realize that he has emotions. He's also a mature adult. I don't...|||I hope that no one in here is judging him harshly. This seems to have resulted from naivety on both ends. Yes, I did give him six different kinds of aggravation, as learning that your friend is in...|||That's the thing that no one seems to gather from all of this; my husband *isn't* upset about my friendship with this INTJ. I speak with this INTJ quite a bit, but I spend almost every ounce of free...|||That's the thing; my husband doesn't trust him, but he trusts me, totally and implicitly. He doesn't mind us talking, and I don't believe that simply because he told me. I would know if it bothered...|||I've thought a lot about boundaries, and I'm not sure what exactly needs to change. Any suggestions?|||The issue is that I'm not sure how possible it is to keep the acquaintance minimal. We talked nonstop before, (texting, calling, ect.), and he's pushed the amount of contact we have back up to that,...|||He's said as much, in the past. He's also said that he simply really didn't want to be a cliche. He's a wildly good guy. A little misguided once in awhile, but essentially a wonderful person. My...|||Alright, this is going to be a doozy. I'd love responses from true INTJs, or people who at least know them intimately.   I'm an INFJ female. Years ago, I met an INTJ male. We clicked immediately,...|||I'm going to go with a combination of the two above answers. When I lock eyes with someone, it generally means that I like them enough to give them the effort, I'm genuinely trying to suss out what...|||Ugh, this. I generally don't invite people over, even those that I generally like. If I invite you to my home, the most HOLY OF HOLIES, I am going to act exactly like myself there, or end up totally...|||Oh man, my eating habits are a nightmare. I frequently forget to eat. I generally forget at least one meal a day. I'm totally addicted to caffeine, and without it, I just cannot get moving.  When I...|||As an INFJ, I've read nearly every page on the internet about INFJs, or so I would like to believe. Nearly every single one of them mentions something about us being creative. Now, don't...|||I imagine that I'm difficult to be in a relationship with, but it's working out so far. I agree with almost everything that's been said so far. I want to know everything  there is to know about my...|||I agree with a lot that's already been said. I absolutely need someone who I feel supports and accepts me. I feel as though I am censoring myself nearly 95% of the time, and when I can find someone...|||I do this, but it's not normally just waiting for my thoughts to develop; that happens quickly. It's more like...waiting for an opportune moment that doesn't break the flow of conversation, and by...|||I, personally, hate sleeping. It feels like a gigantic waste of time to me. I truly, truly wish I could enjoy sleeping, because I am literally exhausted all the time.  Someone teach me!|||This. It drives my ISTP up the wall.   What do you mean by that? I mean literally nothing besides what I said. Are you sure? ...|||I don't know if know if this is totally strange, but I never hear of other people doing it; all of my CD mixes are centered around a mood instead of a singular artist or album. I literally have an...|||I've seen a couple of people mention the news, and that seems to be a huge trigger for these sorts of dark days for me. I've been told to simply avoiding reading the news, but that answer is...|||I'm not sure if this is actually an INFJ thing, or just a me thing, but I have days that I simply refer to as dark days. It seems as though everything is wrong with the world, and that it really...|||My soon to be husband is an ISTP. We've been together for years and years, but it's interesting how understood I felt. I've totally opened up to him in a way that I haven't been able to with anyone...|||How would you define boundary setting? Can you give us a real-life example?|||This. I'll regularly sleep four hours a night so that I can have more time awake and alone, and then I crash.|||Does anyone know of any other types that have the sort of self-imposed moral struggles that INFJs seem to impose on themselves?|||I thought you said that he was online and doing other things. I'm sorry, but this sounds like an excuse. Especially since he read your message and simply didn't respond. Perhaps he was hoping your...|||Plenty of acquaintances who would probably consider me a friend, but who I feel know literally nothing about me, but maybe two people I would consider a friend.|||I'm usually pretty good about this, but when left to my own devices completely, I'll sometimes realize I haven't showered in a few days. Leaving the house is normally my trigger to remember to do...|||Goodness, this is me to a tee. It really bothers my ISTP. Someone will buy me something, and I won't get rid of it, (because it would be rude), but I also won't ever wear it or use it because it's...|||This. I don't think she was unhealthy. People have sex, that's fine. I just don't see an INFJ getting that intimate, that fast.|||This was from the same page as what I originally posted, so it may not apply to you.   Of all types, INFJs (and INTJs) are the most detached and disconnected from their own bodies. Not only is...|||Yep. We're having a wedding at the top of a mountain, alone, with just our witnesses and our officiant. We wrote the ceremony, ect. The wedding part doesn't really appeal to me, but the marriage does.|||It's my ISTPs favorite movie, and he insisted I had to watch it. I think it's the poetic justice thing. This, in particular;    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uaGrYLDSNZ0  I don't think I'm the...|||I've read that a lot of INFJs stuggle with body awareness, which is why I also eat like an 8 year old. I can't stand the taste of alcohol. And I agree, I don't mean fine things like a label, just...|||The marriage thing I understood. I'm getting married in 6 weeks, but once in awhile I feel like marriage, registering your commitment with the state, is a little trite. I like to imagine that I...|||148258|||I do this too, exactly! I'll make a calendar, and lists, and research how to properly complete the task... :dry:  I'll suddenly realize that the dishes need to be done, or the cat needs to be fed....|||I bolded the ones that I've seen, and I've loved all of them. Apparently I need to see the rest of the list!|||I'm convinced we're the same person. I'll generally pick a book that I've been meaning to read, something popular but not too out there.|||I was actually thinking the same thing from some of your other posts!   Gifts are really, really difficult for me too. Even small things. When I was a child and I'd be spending time with a friend,...|||This! I actually think that's my personal way of balancing my guilt at feeling materialistic, with my love for pretty things. For example, I would rather have one pair of Louboutins than than one...|||I just found an article that describes INFJ Se in a way that absolutely and completely fits me. What do you think?   Despite being the most otherworldly and abstract of the types, INFJs have a...|||This one works.|||Lying people make my blood boil, but I'm also terribly anti-conflict unless someone is being directly harmed. If you can find a way to reconcile these two, let me know! Interested in where this...|||My mom's an ESFP. We get along great because she realizes that she doesn't quite understand me, and that's okay. She tries her best, and she's one of the kindest people I've ever met. She would do...'