'I'm INFJ and I'd honestly like to know what the best type for me is.  We're obviously so freaking hard to date...  I suspect maybe another J type but not sure.  That may be a personal preference.|||I think NFs make better advisors...|||There's a chance that if you reach out to her, call her or something, and let her know you've been thinking about her, she'll realize you're not upset with her for ignoring you and may talk to you...|||I do that ALL the time...  Even though I'm very socially capable, if I become too overloaded with the stresses of life and/or relationships with people around me, I tend to withdraw to regroup.  It...|||My advice is to deal with her in a way that she understands.  You're an INFJ, which means you can more easily emulate other types anyway.  Be an aggressive extrovert long enough to put your foot down...|||http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mBCm8abnHl8|||http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B4O7aI87E3g|||Met an ESTP and love his personality.  I was wondering if anyone had any experiences in an ESTP/INFJ relationship?|||Dore  I agree with all that wholeheartedly.  And I really had to learn how to spend my energy wisely.  I have a tendency to expend it all in big bursts and then become useless socially, lol.|||PaladinX   I'm curious too...|||Well, there may be a reason you so closely relate, because 100% of that article applies to me.  Good stuff and bad.  Do you know where you fall on the S/N spectrum?  You may be close to the middle,...|||I think you may have missed a point or two...  We don't MAKE ourselves this way, it's in our nature.  But thank you for the kind spending my life alone advice.|||I certainly don't hate being INFJ.  I KNOW that we're gifted in ways.  It's just that we are rare, and so are our gifts and so it's so hard for many people to understand them, and us.  And not to...|||Would have to be either Ravenclaw or Gryffindor, depending on how extroverted I were feeling at the time...  :)|||I'd like to hear some feedback from people interested in this article!  I found it incredibly exposing actually.  It takes some people years to know this much about me....but here you go, all you...|||ANYONE WHO IS EVEN CONSIDERING BEING IN A LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP WITH AN INFJ:  PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD READ THIS FIRST  This article describes the INFJ the way they just cannot explain...|||HAHA!  :laughing:  You're such a smart ass, I love it.  Better than being a dumb ass.  Or just an ASS if you want to abbreviate that too...|||MY ADVICE:  Don't overdo the messages.  That would probably maker her withdraw even more, because you will look clingy and desperate.  Once she loses respect, you've lost your chance.  That's true...|||Yeah, sure.  An INFJ by any other name... lol.    Just don't call me late for dinner... :)|||Also, Perceivers are known for not doing much planning at all...lol.  So take it with a grain of salt, and be true to who you are, happy with what you have, and also happy with some of the things you...|||Well to elaborate on what I said before, I DO think you should consider your future, and know yourself well enough to establish some goals.  But there is a fine line sometimes between planning for...|||But the few friends I DO have LOVE me for my honesty, some say they even need me for it.  I understand because I need them for the same reason you know?  And those sincere people will be in my life...|||But the few friends I DO have LOVE me for my honesty, some say they even need me for it.  I understand because I need them for the same reason you know?  And those sincere people will be in my life...|||I know right?  This is why it's so hard to find a decent relationship (of any kind really)!  I sit around and think a lot about how oh there are so few real men left  But it's true for women too. ...|||Yeah, sorry just trying to shorthand cause I was being lazy.  If you want, you can call me O!  :)|||That's because people generally DO run away after the barrier is cracked, and they can see all of our extremely deep, totally abstract processes, thoughts, and opinions.    It just looks weird and...|||EXACTLY.  I can socialize up a storm, but I've had to suddenly excuse myself a few times to take a mini mental-vacation in the bathroom or run around the block to clear my head.  When they ask where...|||Be careful of that.  It could keep you from being able to be happy with, and appreciate, what you have.  You'll always be thinking what if.    I find it helpful to talk to a xxTJ when I need to...|||Yes, me too.  And I'm pretty blunt for an NF type it seems.  Is it the Judging function that causes that?  All I know is, being totally straight with people has done me, and them, WAY more good than...|||I'll bet if you could find a ENTJ that you share the same basic principles with, you'd be great friends.  My ENTJ buddy is extremely loyal, honest, and makes me feel strong and encouraged.  They're...|||Yes, DM, I definitely agree.  Like I said, you can lead a horse to water, blah, blah, blah. (but you can't make him drink)   But really, my true belief is that all you can do is teach someone...|||Sometimes I feel like I will never meet a partner that will be able to understand me on every level.  I love my friends, and they love me.  But I've never met another INFJ.  The closest I've come is...|||You make some good points, and you're right JungleDisco, it IS a self preservation act, but it's also an attempt to preserve others' feelings from being needlessly hurt.  And I KNOW what you're...|||JungleDisco - Well, I was referring more to how I have this natural way of making people comfortable around me.  I'm very laid back and easy to get along with, and genuinely interested in people. ...|||Maybe it's a good thing then to have this kind of balance?  Although I'm not sure sometimes whether to go or stay, lol.  I LOVE people, and I'm great in a social situation for a while, but once I'm...|||Oh, wow.  That sounds a lot like me.  And I feel like most people find MY enthusiastic friendly attitude exhausting most of the time.  The thought of that's depressing b/c I feel like I have to...|||And I'm the most extraverted introvert possible.  Quite literally.  I don't need nearly as much alone time as many do, as long as I pace myself socially.|||I'm interested in what this is like for other people, especially other INFJs.  INFJ is the most extroverted of the introverts anyway, and I'm only 1% Introvert.  So, I feel like I'm the most...|||SnowLeopard - hey I'm not allowed to reply to messages apparently yet...  I have to post more first so let me go make some posts I guess so I can help you out, lol.|||Also, Opeth ROCKS.  m/|||My ex was a lot more introverted than me, and he needed at LEAST a couple hours a day TOTALLY ALONE apparently.  So it's hard to say.|||It REALLY depends on the person, and where they fall on that I/E spectrum.  I'm almost SMACK in the middle, so I'm only 1% Introverted...  I'm usually fine in Social situations, and generally only...|||What exactly is it that you're asking?  Can you elaborate?|||I agree, but I wonder if it is possible (through example only of course) to teach someone love, IF they are inclined toward a similar style of love as me?  Like perhaps another NF type?  Otherwise I...|||ENFJ's are SOOO awesome too...  I'm INFJ if anyone has any questions.  I'll answer the best I can, based on my own perspective!|||Oh!  I LOVE BEING HAPPY!  I'm INFJ and new here too.  HI!|||I don't get it either, dude.  I think it's kind of selfish to those that love you, if that's not being way too blunt (sorry if it is, sincerely).  And I'm sorry that your friend did that to you and...|||I HATE that most people insist that I'm an extrovert.  I'M JUST REALLY GOOD AT SOCIALIZING.  That DOESN'T mean I LIKE to do it ALL the time!  INFJ is the most extroverted of the introverts, but since...|||Sometimes I creep myself out when I realized that I've manipulated a situation successfully in order to create a more pleasant environment for the people around me.    It scares me to think about...|||I believe INFJs may let relationships happen sometimes b/c of their genuine love for others, and desire to make others happy, connect and be understood.  We don't think enough (in a logical way), we...'