'I don't know about the rest of you (haha), but I can often get really drained by other people or even myself. I also am really emotional and can easily get in a bad place.   I'd like to know what...|||Misconception: I'm well-adjusted and pretty much always have been. Truth: I've been through way more shit than anyone would know and while I'm doing better than ever, I still have really major...|||I like you. :)|||My default is best wishes. It works for business and relationships that include some sort of power dynamic. It also works well for people who you don't know super well or who you don't talk to...|||It's making me happy to read all these responses. :) And I do think that the various forms of daydreaming and such previously mentioned should count as hobbies. Not everything has to produce tangible...|||While INFPs obviously share a lot of traits, I thought it might be interesting to see how wide of a variety we have (or don't have) in hobbies. What do you do for fun?  I like cooking and baking,...|||I feel a whole bunch of dread about going to class. I just want to stay home in bed and be all INFPish today... I don't like the real world. :/|||I'm laughing really hard – and I feel understood! I especially relate to 5, 6 and 13. Thanks for making my day with this. :)|||Quote dump time!  We do not see things as they are, we see things as we are. (I've seen this cited as everything from the Talmud to Anaïs Nin.)  Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is...|||My personality theory professor is an ENFJ (she told us because, well, we were discussing MBTI). It's been awesome because she's really into student-centered learning and so she's had us identify our...|||Favorite: Psychology and journalism Most hated: Math and science|||After narrowing down my gut instincts and analyzing my reality, I guess I've come down to caring.|||Thanks, everyone for this fascinating discussion. It's been great getting ISTJ perspectives on this.  As for the question of whether he is correctly typed, I'm basing his ISTJness on an assessment...|||niss –*Haha, we're both so introverted and such homebodies that doing things together usually involves watching a movie at home because we don't feel like leaving the house to go to the theater. :)...|||I'm an INFP married to an ISTJ and while things are going great, I kind of feel at a loss for as to the best ways to make him feel loved.   I know that it's probably just my INFP insecurity, but...|||I agree with MikeTheKnife when it comes to finding examples. But outside specific individuals, I think that the strengths INFPs can have in leadership have a lot to do with vision and creativity. I...|||I am happily married to an ISTJ. It took some adjustment because we're opposites on everything but introversion (if he was an extrovert, I don't know if it would have worked), but it's been totally...|||My husband is an ISTJ and I'm an INFP, so we both need alone time. In general, I like having him nearby, though. The way his sleep cycle works, he needs a nap after coming home from work, so I...|||I'm definitely interested, but want to keep my profile here separate from Facebook. I understand the convenience, but privacy matters to me. Maybe if we had some sort of label for our group and then...|||I don't know... Sounds like the sort of service that might be successful, at least as a reality show.|||My best advice is to just be honest about it. Explain that you can't help but laugh not because it's funny, but because that's how you cope with it. Sure, they'll analyze that, but then they're at...|||Criticized for not following the rules.|||Criticized for not having an avatar.|||If you don't want people to cry, stop being the kind of person that makes people cry.|||Before I die, I want to make an impact on how the system treats victims.|||Oh yes. I've had the worst time with that. If I'm playing a joke or something, I can't keep a straight face for the life of me.   Because of my life experiences, I've developed a kind of dark sense...|||I would, but you feelings aren't as quantifiable as you think, so you wouldn't understand.|||Criticized for not recognizing an obvious joke.|||Oh, please, please, please show me your work demonstrating how useless feelings are.|||Butthurt is just an insult to you, as you don't actually know what feelings are.|||... Says the person who feels the right to boss everyone else around.|||I feel a little anxious and scared, but also really excited about some things I'm learning right now. I'm also dreading some of the stuff I have to get done, so I'm passing time here...|||Yeah, that would be my husband. If we can't solve it, I can't actually be around him even though it's what I want more than anything. It just hurts waaaay to much to be around someone you love that...|||kaleidoscope *Laughs hysterically while crying*|||kaleidoscope, that's one of mine, too! I came to post something by Andrew McMahon as well, but it's hard to pick between all of it. This probably wins in terms of tearing up, though, so I'll just...|||I agree that I don't handle instability in relationships well. If there's a fight, I want to resolve it IMMEDIATELY. If the other person needs some time, I get really anxious and don't handle it...|||If only you knew me, you would know that I relate ridiculously much to so, so many of your statements on this thread.  If only you knew me, you would know that life has made me feel so alone and...|||It doesn't look like we have a strong trend among INFPs, but that's okay. Not everything has to have a correlation. It's been interesting hearing about how you guys learn... I've picked up a couple...|||Lindsey is my first name. I was surprised when it was still available, as I only signed up yesterday (I've read here before, though)... I guess a personality forum is going to be full of people who...|||If I get mistaken for being younger than I am, it is because of my appearance. Even dressed up like an adult, wearing makeup and a mature hair style, I've been mistaken for being 16 when I'm actually...|||gioh I think that visual communication is at least as important as verbal communication. I think I have kind of an opposite problem of you. I really do love art, but am somewhat inept at it in that...|||As seems to be common among us INFPs, I dabble in many different art forms. What I consider myself strongest in, however, is probably not considered true art by most. I am a damn good editor –*and in...|||It's not necessarily a problem to have a type. There's nothing inherently wrong with being artistic or shy. Maybe you should look a bit more at what particular traits are causing problems for you –...|||Bold = good fit Regular = neutral Italics = bad fit  creative, smart, idealist, loner, attracted to sad things, disorganized, avoidant, can be overwhelmed by unpleasant feelings, prone to...|||Dear ISTJ,  You've put up with a lot of my crap. It's my turn to help you now. Please let me.  Love,  INFP|||I'm just curious about how other INFP's learn best. Maybe we can help each other some.  Personally, I test as an auditory learner, but I can't just listen to something and understand it. I do...|||I'm glad that you're working things out. I'm an INFP married to an ISTJ and while every relationship is different, here's a couple of things that I've noticed.  Instead of trying to get him to be...|||Yes, yes, yes.  I think a sign might be that when my relationships end (after putting it in perspective), I don't ever think, Well, we just weren't right for each other, but rather, What the...'