'I miss how comfortable our friendship was.  But then you left, and although I miss you and that comfortableness, I know that if you ever came back, it would never feel that way again.  In some ways,...|||Not sure exactly what you mean, but I've definitely toned down my directness and made an effort to be more personable at times.  But my legitimate softer sides have always been there, maybe even...|||FWIW, I show people I care by trying to help them be more efficient with whatever it is they are doing.  If it seems like they are struggling, I will try to help.  I'm typically not judging the other...|||Conversations with coworkers.  K: I don't remember Project A.   A:  Oh, it's this project north of Town Z. Me:  Yeah, and there is a campground to the north, and the DOT facility to the south......|||Eyebrows, but usually it's intentional for exaggerated effect.  If I want to keep my feelings to myself, I usually can.  Tone of voice can be a give away too, if the other person is paying attention.|||I used to hoard shoe boxes.  I also hoard time, energy, and information.  I also tend to keep things that I think will be useful in the future.|||I've always marched to my own tune.  As long as I'm making forward progress toward my goals, not going against my moral code, and feeling like I'm at home in my own skin, I'm pretty content.  I've...|||Despotic Ocelot  Please stop derailing this thread.|||Inventor's Box Set:  Building a better Mousetrap: How to spend 10 Hours Designing and Building Something to Replace a Job that Takes 3 Seconds  Inventor's Guide to Hacking Non-standard Uses for...|||Songs unsung and Figure  I'm a Type 5.  I wouldn't necessarily say I desire harmony as much as I despise emotional conflict.  Not sure if that's different or not, but to me it seems like it.  I...|||It wouldn't really be an effect without a cause?|||After moving more times that I care to count for a few years I learned very quickly: always set the bed up first, then unpack the bathroom.  everything else can wait if it needs to, but a shower and...|||I have a somewhat small and skewed sample size so keep that in mind.  I find ENFJs to be more accommodating than INFJs.  ENFJs seem to have a harder time when I don't want to go along with the...|||I agree with pretty much everything Green Girl said.  The other major challenge I had with my ENFJ hubby was more of an introvert vs extrovert problem.  He would assume that if I needed alone time,...|||The eclipse was amazing and well worth the 8+ hour drive.  2024 baby!  I will be better prepared next time (like taking the day after off work instead of getting stuck in a traffic jam that turned...|||Who me?  I would never!  :shocked::ninja::tongue:|||Me too.  I may have been slightly obsessed with wolves.|||I have this too.  As a kid, I was an animal a lot.|||Not usually, but sometimes.  I do dream in 3rd person a lot though.|||This reminds me of my 8 year old self playing super mario brothers on nintendo on level 1-1 where there was one really long jump toward the end of the level that I couldn't make....every single...|||Agree with the others, compartmentalizing is normal for me.  My two best friends of 10 and 15 years respectively have never met.|||LOL!  Do they not get citrus fruit there very often?  What would happen if you brought a salad?|||I think there are two scenarios in the first part of your post and I handle them differently.  I don't usually use emotions to make decisions, but that doesn't mean I don't feel anything.  For me,...|||Finally picked my first cucumber of the season.  Nothing like eating fresh veggies 5 minutes after being picked!|||It depends a lot on intention, like others have said.  It's the difference between expressing what might be an unpopular yet valid stance on a topic in order to reach understanding vs. expressing a...|||I try to keep the yelling out loud in check.  I just hide if it gets to that point.|||I am quickly reaching overload...the stage where I randomly yell leave me the fuck alone! in my head whenever anyone asks me anything.  I hate this.|||I have watched a video on youtube where Dario Nardi presented his research that suggest that INxJ personalities can more easily access flow states (depending on how much you buy into MBTI being a...|||This happens to me whenever I'm in a flow state.  Usually I'm working on a project either for work or a personal hobby.  Also happens when I'm gaming.  More about flow:...|||I think it's partially an age thing...and may possibly depend on personal history as well.  I can't speak for everyone, but I can speak from my experience.  For a while in my late teens early 20s I...|||I don't think that cooperating with others is diametrically opposed to authenticity.  It's certainly possible to be both authentic and cooperative.  Most of the time when I'm being asked to cooperate...|||This song hit me in the Fi:   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zhRXldOsMXY   Especially these lyrics:  I saw this woman with tears in her eyes Driving beside me yesterday|||Gardening this year has been quite frustrating...I've never had to deal with so many different issues (of course, I'm planting a lot of new things this year so I suppose it's to be expected).  On the...|||I don't know if I'd go as far as saying I'm face blind, but if I see people out of context, I usually don't recognize them.  I also tend to just not pay that much attention to people I don't...|||I found a workaround for getting to recent posts in subscribed threads because I was having the same problem.  If you change your posts per page, it seems to make those new posts accessible; however,...|||The struggle is real.|||Ah.  Yes, I struggle with that too.  Sometimes follow up emails/phone calls work well if you've got something to add after the fact.  Hey I was thinking about our meeting earlier and I had a few...|||I forgot about sleep as escapism (I do that too, but to a lesser extent).  I also clean when I'm stressed...something about feeling like I'm doing something (anything) productive as a way to justify...|||Stress: Depends on the situation but...mentally check out from the stressful situation, indulge in mindless gaming and/or endless research on a topic of interest (basically escapism).    Negative...|||I'll start by saying I don't think I'm a particularly insecure person.  That said, I'm with brightflashes on most of my insecurity in relationships was related to being either judged by people in my...|||Yeah, that can be a struggle at times.  Are the meetings you are talking about often lead by the same person?  If so, what is your relationship with that person?  Are you free to discuss things after...|||No.  I have no problem admitting when I don't know that answer.  I will not bullshit people to save face.  I might make an educated guess, but I will qualify it as such rather than pretend like it's...|||Psssh...It's only a digital odd life (which is probably actually quite boringly common when it comes to digital lives; somehow that doesn't make me feel all that much better about by quite boringly...|||It took me until I was in my 30s until I really felt my physical age caught up with my mental age.  That said, I'm like a 30-something trapped in a 30-something body, desperately trying to stay...|||Meh...NPCs are way worse than real people.  So needy...and they can't even begin to solve their own problems and they are all just oh...I need 5 chickens, I know you're busy and on some super epic...|||Sometimes, yes, though it's more intentional than deja vu.  I experience deja vu as a different experience than mental rehearsing.  I think for me, it's mostly just to get into the mindset of how...|||Yes, and totally normal most of the time.  I am usually working on an idea or trying to solve a problem.|||You were a friend to me when my wheels were off the track And though you say there is no need I intend to pay you back When my mind was turning loose and all my thoughts were turning black You...|||https://cdn.meme.am/cache/instances/folder278/500x/44056278/futurama-fry-cant-tell-if-serious-or-trolling.jpg|||I don't know about pure joy, but I certainly have moments of serenity.  I mostly experience it when I'm out in nature appreciating the beauty, complexity, and perfection of nature.  In some ways,...'