'*peeks in*   Uhhh, hi guys. Hadn't been here in a while, but I got to thinking about how many of you helped me get to where I am today both directly and indirectly. My ex INTJ and I - I am proud to...|||Double post. my phone spazzed as I typed it last night, so I didn't think it had posted it at all, much less twice.  Dee pest apologies. I get in a very bubbly mood after discoveries.|||Oh my lands.  It just hit me that all of the guys I've dated (for extended length of time) have the EXACT SAME FUNCTIONS.  INTJ :: ni te fi se  ENTJ :: te ni se fi  ESFP :: se fi te ni|||Hai guise.  Long time, no talk.  So I did end up breaking it off about 2 months ago.  I hadn't planned on it, but an entj sort of swept me off my feet and we dated for a month before I got yet...|||This is a VERY personal tale, but it's one I think is worth sharing. I'm recounting it to the best of my ability to do so 20 years later.  When I was really little (around 3), I had an imaginary...|||Um, I'm almost 24 (I think age plays a huge factor), and as I said yesterday in another thread, I am a freaking Care Bear of love. Like, rainbows shoot out of my eyeballs and into theirs. I can't go...|||My brain seemingly rewires itself to include that person in all aspects. Someone's eating mixed nuts? Oh, he loves brazil nuts; I made fun of him for it. I'm wearing striped clothing? He will love...|||I was just talking to my mom, and we were discussing one of my cousins' kids vs my niece and nephew. This made me wonder how I was perceived as a child. My aunt always told me she thought I was...|||MissJordan,  You (along with so many of the other INTJs) have been so kind and expressive and helpful.  I agree with this wholeheartedly. My guy definitely isn't as emotionally mature as me...|||Have any of you dated an INTJ?|||That night,  lilysocks so graciously allowed me to have an im conversation with her. She made me realize that I honestly did nothing wrong.  All the same, he hasn't talked to me in almost 3 days...|||I so desperately wish I had one of you on speed dial.  I'm afraid I may have fucked up. But I'm too bloggled to type it all.  *wrings hands*  brb gonna let the anxiety consume me|||I agree with OrangeAppled.  I also feel the need to rally to INTJs' defenses. They get a lot of hate, as well. I, for one, have pretty much always felt comfortable in their subforum. There are...|||thegrayvapour,  I've literally just been pronouncing it as the gravy pour in a really obnoxious Dick Van Dyke Does the English Accent way to remember how to spell it. Little did I know, I was...|||thegrayvapour, well, I have nothing entirely insightful to say. I went from feeling all swoony for you and the lady to feeling devastated right there with you at the end.  Honestly, your best bet...|||Holy shitballs, that is one verbose-ass post.|||I think things are (very) slowly getting better. I've tried to extricate myself from our relationship because I felt my motives were becoming partially selfish insofar as that we were basically a...|||Just as an abridged update:  Things came to a head; he got mad at me. After some thought and a couple days of ignoring me, he said he understood why I made the decisions that I did.  He seemed to...|||tldr version of what feels like some Nicholas Sparks novel that is still stuck in the thick of the plot...  INTJ male is depressed. Attempted to kill himself. Afraid he may try again. Is in...|||Note: Not to discriminate based on age, but if you are under the age of 25, your advice may not be entirely applicable. (I say this as someone who is 23.)  I can't go into detail in this thread,...|||Sigh. Grumble. Sigh.  Can't I just hit an INTJ over the head and hope that works?|||If there are any INTJ's in here who have been depressed in the past or present and would be willing to talk with me, would you pm me, please?   I need advice on handling a (truly) depressed INTJ. I...|||I swear to all that is holy, after I (FINALLY!!!) finish watching this last Doctor Who episode (and cry to myself softly), I am going to respond to everyone I owe replies to.  YALL DA BESTTTT|||My stomach dropped when I saw this.  I'm afraid my intj is losing his 'logical' battle with his suicidal thoughts, and I really hoped you weren't him. And you're not.  But I must admit that the...|||it's 5 o'clock in the morning; I'm exhausted after closing 4 nights in a row; i still have yet to respond to some very important pm's because i have no mental energy with which to mentally dictate my...|||Jfc I got to the part about you sending him the hyperole and a half depression post, and now I'm in tears.  Huff.  I literally did the same exact thing about a month ago.  gurrrrl. *pats sofa...|||Vad124  They were originally called something else, but I can't remember what. It was like MGV maybe? Something to do with their last initials (McCauley, Griffin, and Vasquez.) Anyway, yes. I was...|||Vad124  I actually prefer Middle Brother to their respective bands (aside from Delta Spirit who will always be my favorites), so good on you.  Also, I served Jack and Walter from Foals the other...|||All right, going to try and break it down into genres as best as I can. I'll also list a song by each artist.  Pop/Rock  Generationals // Put a Light On Miniature Tigers // Dino Damage...|||hey guys.  hey Blacktide, hey dingo, hey lilysocks, hey @leumb, hey anyone else i'm likely to forget.  y'all are great.  just letting you know.|||[/list]|||dearest ex,  for the first time in a long time, i have your physical echo wrapped around my body. i had missed it so much. i don't know what it is about you or your body that leaves such an imprint...|||Wowwwww.  Okay, @MojoEdwin, don't let them scare you away.  My ex intj and I dated for nearly a year, and on our first date we got very intense/deep, as well. We both just felt extremely...|||you know, I never really thought about this until just now, but my ex did this and it drove me INSANE. but you're right, their worrying and complaining is a soothing mechanism just like my need to...|||his! can you imagine how much shit he got from his roommates for that rosebush?! sooooo much.  can you imagine how many kisses etc he got from me for bringing me roses from that rosebush every time...|||hahahahahahaaaaa, god, i love intjs  mine showed up with roses from his garden, and all of my questions regarding the status of the outing were immediately extinguished.  later that night, he...|||the world keeps flinging him in my direction, and i don't know if i'm supposed to take this as a sign or WHAT  seriously. was dragged to a locals only bar after work last night, and he was there. i...|||Hi there! Got your message. That's gonna sound weird here.   ANYWAY.  To answer, I work (temporarily) as a server in a very busy and popular downtown restaurant in a city that thrives on tourism....|||hi i just read this hahahaha  *high fives*|||Only read through to page 2, but here's my take on it.  I was a straight A student (top 200 students in my state, actually). My brain is pretty well-rounded.  When I was little, however, I was...|||I'm going back and reading my old posts and subsequent advice, and I think I need to print this out and tape it to my door.  This is depressing as fuck but possibly true. I don't want this to be...|||I second what Delilah said, but I wouldsay be EXTREMELY specific.  e.g., don't say, I'm still hung up on that relationship. say, hey, i have this sense of betrayal due to what happened between...|||Actually, I always thought it was my Te's way of trying to figure out my Fi.  If I don't get to talk it out with someone, I literally just sit in a stew of my own emotion.  I often resent the...|||dingo  but it's hard to push away someone who I feel so much for and who I think may be trying to reach back in a positive way (finally)?  I cut him out again about 2 1/2 months ago, and he said...|||My Fi sees your Fi and raises you a dominant functioned Fi-led mind that's still struggling with her intj ex.  ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.  Imagine loving said person, knowing they care about you, but...|||My realistic approach to this answer is going to be heavily influenced by an Fi that was overwhelmingly crushed by my ex boyfriend/reality.  I'm currently on my phone, but when I have a moment I'll...|||I'm going through it right now, and I've had to turn on what I call my INFP logic zone to deal with it. I grieved. And I grieved. And I grieved some more. And after getting it all out, a calm...|||this, a million times over. It's so important to my processing to talk it out, but pretty much every time I did, I ended up regretting it because my family and friends would just say, He's an...|||Syntax error! This is what happens when I type posts on my phone. I meant clarity of his own emotions. That he has none of. I would never deign to say he has no emotions. Lord, he has plenty. It's...|||I ask because I have been in four months of limbo that I finally had to cut off. We did this two months ago if you'll remember, but we tried to sort of be together again? Guh, I don't know what was...'