'My INFJ gf and I have a great relationship -- approaching 1 year now.  She's not shy about telling me everything she loves and appreciates about me  . . . . along with a few pointers about how I can...|||Intellectual property attorney -- patents, trademarks, copyrights, and e-commerce.  My client range from tech start-ups to Fortune 500 compaines.  The best part of the job is being constantly exposed...|||Spending time with you is like being in a Calvin & Hobbes cartoon!|||My understanding is that the climate has been changing since the earth has had a climate.  I'm not sure there's anything we can do to stop climate change, or why we'd want to anyway.  I'm not...|||I find INFx to be generally pleasant folks, and definitely fun getting to know.  But somehow the precious few INFJs I know tend to stick around in my life longer.  Maybe it's the shared Ni or...|||I find INFPs to be kinda polarizing to me.  There's a few I've been able to banter with, but usually I'm just afraid of hurting/offending them and don't feel like I can be myself.  Those ones just...|||Procrastinating is totally normal for INTJs.  But often, it's not really procrastinating -- It's just Ni in action.  Ni is our dominant function, but it's the perceiving function, which is passive....|||Very possibly INTJ.  Some of the emotional things could be a product of Fi.  Also, I think I reccall ISTPs being in benefit relations with INTJs under socionics -- benefit relations often go well. ...|||I'm indifferent to rain, but I prefer warm weather.  Anything below 70 and I'm looking to warm up.  Anything 80 - 100 = perfect.  But more than anything, I am nocturnal -- I usually don't care too...|||I don't relate to any part of the first paragraph.  In fact, I can't stand those types of trivial details.  As for the second paragraph, INTJ's tend to be reclusive and do not have company over. ...|||I waffled with INTx for a while too, but after learning more, I'm INTJ without doubt.  One explanation that I read was that for INTJs, the dominant function is the perceiving function, Ni.  So in my...|||The statements/verbiage occasionally interjected by an INTJ tend to be witty humor, directed to taking the conversation to a higher intellectual level, or directed to rational problem solving. ...|||To me, small talk is mindless chatter, typically about immediate and obvious facts.  Like today's weather.  Or traffic on the way to work.  But as an Ni-dom, my mind is already way down the path of...|||That's a good point -- for anyone who is waffling about becoming a lawyer, I highly recommend being a paralegal for a few years to test the waters.  See if it's really for you before taking on $100k+...|||Former engineer, now patent attorney.  My field of engineering was more about production than innovation, and I got interested in intellectual property as a field where I could always be dealing with...|||I have no desire for celebrity type fame.  My privacy is too important to me, and it doesn't comport with this age of ubiquitous social media and 24-hour news cycles.  I prefer a compartmentalized...|||Why not?!  It totally worked for Bill and Hillary Clinton!  Heh.|||All I can tell you is that I love warm weather and I love driving my car.  If I can get the former by doing the latter, then gas me up!|||Yeah, well, I realized after I made that post that Hitler/Stalin may not be the best examples.  Some perpetrators of atrocities do so out of dispassionate pursuit of ideas, such as eugenics.  It's...|||Oh, I don't know about that.  Inequality is a fact of life because people aren't equal.  There are innate inequalities that will always keep people apart.  Those innate inequalities arise in the form...|||No.  Just no.  This is why it can be incredibly frustrating to deal with a Ti user.  bethdeth was simply explaining that the concept of inequality tends to cause people to think vertically.  If two...|||6.    I'm highly independent and highyly functional.  I'm not sure anyone has checked on my in quite a while -- maybe years.  I also expect others to be able to handle themselves.  My default...|||INTJs tend to have strong Te, which incessantly asks will it work? or how will it work?  Those questions lead to a more practical flavor of philosophy, and INTJs don't tend to pursue philosophy...|||One thing that helped me (to some extent) was compartmentalizing my life.  I get up half an hour to an hour early every morning to get a cup of coffee and sit in my comfy chair and just vege in my...|||So you're smart, logical, enjoy figuring out puzzles or problems, and staying physically active?  I'd say you would be perfect for a career as a field agent in law enforcement.  Like an FBI field...|||No offense, but how is a philosophy degree less of a paperweight than an art degree?  With an art degree, you can at least become a photographer or something.  Or go run one of those Wine and Art...|||Many years ago I took a comprehensive test and got INTJ.  I had no idea what that meant, but I just remembered it.  Years later, but still before I learned about MBTI, some girl asked my type.  When...|||shakti and delphi367, Your last few posts raise an issue that has been very difficult for me to understand.  I have heard F type personalities suggest something like: (i) my feelings exist, + (ii)...|||Yes, and I guess I never really thought about it, but . . . one of my best friends is INFJ and she has never complained about lack of emotional presence/availability from me.  Although I have heard...|||Precisely.  INTJs do not expend great emotional effort indiscriminately.|||Yes.  This is precisely why my best connections with Feelers have always been with INFJs.  I may not always be the most sensitive, and we may take different approaches, but Ni typically lands us on...|||I can understand this part, but it doesn't come instinctively to me.  At all.  I don't know about your INTJ friend, but I would have to focus and concentrate to pull off this conversation, and try...|||Eggsies, thanks for your thorough response.  That's a different perspective than I've heard, and it gives me a lot to chew on.|||So it's really more about making the person feel understood, without necessarily agreeing or disagreeing.  I can handle that.  And I will check out the link you posted.|||Great post!  That was very helpful.  On this part, distancing myself to allow a cool-off period is how I usually handle things.  So, yes, I've adopted your approach a lot.  Like you say, my...|||Ok, this is really helpful.  Your example is perfect.  What about the last part, with the reassurance?  What would be the best way for Jenny to give that reassurance?  I'm still clueless on that...|||I've heard a lot of feelers voice frustration with thinkers on the lack of emotional engagement.  Feelers complain about the lack of emotional validation and understanding.  But what, more...|||Voted other for the same reasons.|||If I really like a song, I can listen 8-10 times in a row.  More than that and I begin not liking it so much.|||I don't see tumbleweed on the list of options.|||Quality time > physical touch.  Nothing else matters.|||Played guitar for 17 years -- mostly cover bands, but it was fun.  Now my favorite creative outlet is photography.  I have always been very visual and had vivid dreams, and it's fun to dream up a...|||Well . . . we have a unique personality connection that neither of us has felt with someone else.  That's the gravitation that is never going away -- similar sense of humor, interests, hobbis,...|||The only female INFJ I know IRL is an ex-gf, and I flirt with witty, intellectual banter/sparring, and maybe some sarcasm.  When she takes that bait, I'll spice it up with more suggestive banter.|||I'm not hypersensitive in the sense that I get my feelings hurt, but I am hypersensitive in the sense that I assume any negative behavior (and sometimes even neutral behavior) is a rejection.  I read...|||I'm allergic to cats -- that'd be a no no with me.|||Yeah, it was hard to tell with her.  I certainly didn't feel like her priority, but she was very upset when i broke up with her.  I was baffled, but resolute in ending it.  I have since learned by...|||Mine was kinda similar, but we were exclusive for about 9 months.  Her P drove me crazy, and at times it was hurtful.  E.g., on a Monday we would make plans to spend time together the following...|||Most INTJs pursue any area that interests them.  Although INTJs may have many interests and pursue knowledge about many topics, generally they are not interested in knowledge merely for the sake of...|||That would do.  But I think I'd prefer being The Lord of the Nazgûl.'