'Wow... if that wasn't insulting.  My friends tell me that I'm a nerd because I like to read so much. I'm learning German right now just for the fun of it. I use words that I have to explain to...|||Yeah... I'm pretty much the same way... It took me a week to get over a year long relationship.|||It was a compliment... You guys are so deep, and you understand the complexity to normal life situations, its awesome!|||Morgan, I know EXACTLY what you're saying. Being an ENFJ I dont share my emotions either, and I dont like to explain why or how I feel a certain way- because just like you said there are so many...|||Yeah... I have to force my INFJ friend to tell me what his feelings are.... Actually, he doesnt have a problem telling me when he's angry or hurt or upset, he just has a problem explaining WHY. It...|||Well I'm certainly glad that i'm not the only one!|||But what if that person is the only person that has the power to hurt your feelings? Why tell them the truth if it's mainly them thats upsetting you? I don't reveal things about myself for a reason-...|||Haha! No didnt see the edited version.... And i'm sorry that you've had that experience- I've tried to explain to people that I dont just open up and tell stories of my life, you have to have known...|||I've had my fair share of people loving me. lol. And they know nothing about me at all. It almost makes me laugh now, except I feel bad for them...|||Exactly... Its overbearing. People dont LOVE ENFJ's... they're infatuated with the way we make them feel- and how we're able to bring happiness to any situation|||Yes... I don't believe that I've ever experienced a love that would compel me to spend the rest of my life with someone.. And I think that what I've felt has been love, but there are different...|||Yeah.. You guys are creepy. lol. Being an ENFJ, i'm used to being able to read people, and I deliberately don't reveal much about myself... But every freaking time I talk to my INFJ friend, he tells...|||Oh, its absolutely not attractive. lol. I've dated guys that are jerks, and i've dated nice guys... I much prefer being treated with respect.  Which leads me to a quesiton about love... Do you...|||I'm sure that it would be. Even myself, if I met an ENFJ male- I probably wouldnt believe they have honest intentions. Its so confusing for me when I meet a guy that seems genuine, i think that puts...|||Yes I always have things planned. lol. I use my sister and her friends as contingency plans. :)  There are usually more enfj's around here.... hmm....|||I totally understand! How do you feel when there's not really anything going on? If I'm just having an average day i feel like something is missing- because I dont have strong emotions either way....|||Us ENFJs.... we always know just the right thing to say. lol. Its nice to have a support group for when you're misunderstood by almost everyone. I swear, I always intend to do the best thing for...|||Aww! Don't feel that way. At least they were experiences you can learn from.... and you know not to date girls like that again. Find yourself a nice ENFJ. I hear they're wonderful. :tongue:  ...|||Aww! you always know how to make me feel better :laughing: lol     How could that make someone weak!? I find it to be a more mature approach to solving problems. You cant just go back and...|||Thank you for explaining that in words! haha. Thats exactly how I am, but I can't ever articulate it to the people that are trying to understand. I'll have to just print that out and carry it around...|||Isnt it nice having someone that understands you!? haha. I have a question for you though- recently I noticed that when i'm upset at someone, I dont want them to admit they're wrong, I just want them...|||I love how I just KNOW how to interact with mainly everyone. I enjoy making people happy, and I'm generally pretty good at it.   I like that I'm sensitive and understanding. I enjoy having strong...|||INFJ men. haha. They're a trip. Very insightful with strong beliefs. When they decide that they love someone, and actually open up to that person its truly amazing. There is so much depth to their...|||No, thats awesome. I'm the same way with demands... I'm an intellegent individual, and I can figure things out without someone telling me what i HAVE to do. I absolutely hate that. lol. If someone...|||How can I fix that though? lol. Its who I am... I dont try to flirt, and if I did I'd feel like a fool.  I have assumed that its based on the fact that I'm always nice and I like making people...|||Seemed like it was too late to revive too much love so I'm adding a part 2! This is kinda different anyway...  Here it goes...   Why does it seem like any male that I'm friends with decides...|||Hm. That prompted me to add some photos of myself... we both have dark hair. lol. and we're younger.... seems thats where the physical similarities end.|||Are you serious!? omg! ur like my twin! scarrryyy! there are two of us in this world! haha. do you have a myspace or something? I'm dying to see what you look like- maybe we're physically similar!|||haha. I just feel like everyone would get along a lot better if we all tried to understand one another. It would make true motives more clear.|||I love ENFJ females! They're so amazing.. haha! :laughing:|||Thinkers should be able to rationalize other peoples necessity for feelings, as well as feelers empathize with thinkers need to rationalize.   Everyone is different, everyone processes emotions in...|||Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle -Plato  Thats my favorite quote of all time|||compassionate, kind, odd, funny, loving|||I know the feeling!! We've made things work by setting boundaries.... If he doesn't want to talk about something, I dont pry and he's the same with me. It can be a very rewarding friendship, but i'm...|||I have an INFJ friend. He's a very unique individual... At times he can be so compeltely understanding and compassionate, while at others- the most dispasisonate person on earth. He has an amazing...|||I think that the privacy issue would be a  big thing.... Since I'm more concerned with others feelings, there's always a part of me that I dont want people to see, and I think that he would be the...|||He's been getting frustrated with me because I wont state the answer- which is why he stated it for me. He's been trying to get me to admit it to him for a few months now... I think he was just...|||Aww! Thanks for your kindness. :) its much needed. I just feel like its so hard to express myself and my emotions, which is why i'm drawn to this INFJ... He understands and KNOWS without me having to...|||I've read some about mbti. I'm going to research it more....   I am pretty much stuck in my extroverted feeling though. I would even go as far to say that I dont care about my feelings at all. I...|||Haha! Yeah, my INFJ friend and I get along well, but he's like my kryptonite! I know that I'm good at manipulating situations and peoples feelings, even though I only do it for the better- to make...|||I've been looking for information on how well an ENFJ and an INFJ would work together in a relationship... But I couldn't find much. Anyone have insight?|||outgoing, social- yes attention seeking- not really... I dont seek attention, i give it emotional, loving- of course! I love everyone organized- In most aspects, however i'm not very tidy at home...|||Exactly! Take a bully for example. Why are they mean to people? Maybe thats how they were raised, maybe they didnt have loving parents, or maybe they have really low self esteem and they feel like...|||I struggle with those thoughts daily... I've just came to the realization that not everyone knows how to be a good person. I think that most people have good intentions, and want to be happy- they...|||This reminds me so much of my experience... My mother however, was never supportive.  Its going to take him time to adjust to who he is as a person. Its so tough growing up as an ENFJ. Its difficult...|||You should include that in your introduction then. lol. I'm sorry for being abrupt the other day, my names...   I forgive people when they apologize. She probably will too. :)|||lol. I'd also say something about having a drink sometime, coffee or alcohol- whatever. If she's talked to you before, then she'll probably text you.|||haha! Ummm...... You could try that... but i'd say something like hey, i've seen you here a few times, my names xxx, what's yours? and then after her reply, tell her that you don't have a lot of...|||Hmm. Thats difficult to say. I like to make all people feel comfortable, and this tends to come off as flirting to others, but to me- i'm just being me. It takes a long time for me to cultivate a...|||haha! your posts are hysterical! I can't speak for all ENFJs... but when I talk to people, I'm usually trying to get a feel for them, their expressions, gestures, body language... It's easier for me...'