'So my love language is words of affirmation. I like talking a lot(texting, in person talking, on the phone) etc. Spending time is cool too, but the best way for someone to show me that they care is...|||Thank you!  Nothing I've done thus far or that I do is a doormat or will result in me losing my intregrity, etc, haha.  I'm not trying to get him back or anything like that--my situation is a bit...|||Also, in reading something you wrote OP, I just thought of something...  So, as someone pointed out, INTJS generally aren't quick to make decisions like commitment(such as a relationship for...|||Haha thank you! Yes I've went over my issues already in this forum and figured out why I pushed him away and I've already revealed my feelings and asked for another chance, but that's what I mean...|||I pushed him away many times... Me and this intj have known each other for a year but basically everytime he opened up to me, or did things that made it clear to me that he wanted me I pushed him...|||This is a good point actually. Everytime my intj ever distanced himself from me for a long period of time it was always after I continued to push him away... Even now, in the direct message I sent to...|||Have you taken the test to see if your really an ENFP? What do you mean, when you say, you don't fit in anywhere else??? Could you be an INFP? I'm an ENFP--tested that way 4 times, but there were two...|||I know INTJS who do(well two--one female, one male). The male INTJ likes pictures of nearly everyone(men and women), and most of the women pics that he is liking are his platonic friends, or women...|||How do you know that this woman is not a friend? I've liked some of my male friends photos and there was no romantic intent. If he is ONLY liking her photos, and no other female, and she is not a...|||Hmm, that is a good point...I don't know, these days a lot of people like pictures of attractive people, it doesn't always mean anything, beyond harmless flirting. So I still think that the OP...|||Oh in that case, then if you don't feel comfortable talking to him about the girl, then don't. But I wouldn't assume that he likes her, just yet. I was in a similar situation, except I saw it with my...|||The thought of getting into a relationship feels suffocating to me. I do fine without them. But with the right person, yes there are moments where I want a relationship. It's not constant sadly lol. ...|||Poor thing. I completely understand your situation!!! Must be a common one. Definitely listen to dawilliams she gives great advice and knows what she's talking about.   Have you asked him about...|||So I just want to say that da Williams is correct in that for me personally my closure process is just as she described. But it's moot and I suspect that most intjs could not understand it, and even...|||It's not that you haven't been helpful da Williams but as much as I want to ignore lily socks posts, I know she is right in that you are being overly optimistic about this man that you don't even...|||There are a lot of responses here. I do think im at fault for this situation and many others I find myself in with men. I play too many games and by the time I realize I'm pushing them away it's too...|||LOL, you know I really like you. Your such a sweet, loving, happy person. I really believe you see the good in everyone, and really want to help people do the things that they want... I think you...|||If your out of patience with me, why keep reading my posts, for the train wreck factor? At least we can agree that there is something not right with this guy(even if you also feel the same way with...|||I listened to input. I've listened to dawilliams.... And am actually going to try to fix the mess I've made. Why do you dislike me so much?|||Sadly I tried today... I don't know what my intention was but I sent him a message saying that since we our a pill popping society I would like to create a drug that prevents one from developing to...|||I understand everything you are saying... But where I disagree is the reading, I think he can read me better than I can read him, I don't think he believes I can read his mind, there have been many...|||Thank you, I really appreciate your input. Your so optimistic about this and about INTJS lol. I'm going to think on what you've said, because I do agree with your last sentence. For the record, a...|||Thank you. After I flaked out on him, I did tell him I would make it up and proceeded to ask him to let me know when he was free, and he said ok but a week went by and nothing, so the following...|||I do feel a bit used, or at least I did that night. I'm not sure why but perhaps it was because all night he was very touchy, if not trying to grope my pants just laying on me, etc. It's all very odd...|||Oh you aren't being hard on me at all! I appreciate your feedback. I still don't really believe he loves me but that might be me just feeling a but weird about that concept. Just seems way too...|||I kind of disagree. I don't doubt that he likes me, but I don't think he loves me. Like I said the minimal contact for three weeks, and he doesn't want to hang out all the time. If he loved me I...|||Thank you for this. I did text with him last night, seem like things are much better. I don't love him though--I don't use that word lightly so I definitely wouldn't go as far as to say that. And I...|||Um are you guys reading the same thread? How in the world was I playing games and messing with him when I went to his house? I had no idea what to expect. I was not being passive aggressive either. I...|||The two months where I cut him off I explained before hand that I was going to stop talking to him and I explained why. I told him that I would reach back out when I was ready to be platonic friends....|||That's not true. I didn't think we were fwb anymore. If you remember my threads, a month ago after we had sex and he had alluded to not wanting to do an fwb and gave me reasons I myself tried to make...|||I don't want him as a boyfriend. I don't want a boyfriend right now but would eventually like a boyfriend when my plate clears up. But I do what to understand what exactly he is doing. I had...|||Just when I thought I was done lol. Brief update. I had attempted to move on from the intj when he texted me Tuesday asking me if I wanted to chill with him Wednesday night. I said yes hoping that we...|||I had forgotten all about the thread that I started in this forum room, but checked my email and saw that I got responses, so I just want to say thanks everyone for the feedback. I'm in a much better...|||I know what I'm saying. You(and others) just can't comprehend it. I'm not crazy or having a mental crisis. But I will take Green Girl's advice and refrain from posting about this online any further,...|||No, your misunderstanding what I'm saying... What I was saying is before I can change the way I look at the situation, assess what I've learned, and apply it to future relationships and how I...|||My stress is clearing on the situation. I messaged with a guy that has shown interest in me. And I talked about the situation with a friend and even made fun of myself for being so awkward. That...|||I don't know what you mean by think things through and how you believe I'm looking at things without growing. This is the first time this has happened to me I'm still processing it, my thinking and...|||I don't see how I contradicted but ok.  And yep I know now I can't date an intj, you guys truly are unique. Never have I experienced this type of situation before... I wish I didn't sleep with him....|||Lol. Gawd I hope at 50 I'm not obsessing over closure. For me a topic is closed once a person slams the door shut. So saying in no uncertain terms that they are done or seeing that I have no option I...|||I've taken the test 6 times since I was 18. Five times I scored enfp, once i scored infp. He's only taken the mbti once but felt that the description of him as an intj was a 100% accurate. My sister...|||I did not put him through an emotional roller coaster. And if I did it was not intentional. It had nothing to do with stress in those occasions-I just wasn't certain how to proceed with him, so I...|||I am stressed. Like I said there are other unresolved things going on in my life. But I don't like feeling bad. I like to feel happy or at least stable. This situation and others are not making me...|||No closure for me is not friendship, or fwb.   I can't be his friend. I tried to be platonic. This was after two months of no contact. I approached him again platonically. He acted as if those two...|||He was an intj. I believed so based on many of his behaviors. He participated in small talk with me last week, but more like one liners(I.e. Why did you do that) in response to a story I might have...|||I'm trying to move on. Like I said I've posted on the enfp forum to ask for closure on how to let this go. I've never experienced this in my life and it's hard to close it but I'm determined to, I...|||He wasn't ever in favor of it. I suggested it, he agreed. Was hesitant for weeks, then after I pressured him, we had sex. Afterwards when I inquired about the FWB status, he said that FWBS never end...|||I've posted about my situation on the INTJ thread mainly, because it involved an INTJ. You see I've been in a limbo with this INTJ for about a year now. It started off hot and intense, with us having...|||I understand what your saying and have already began investing myself in other ways. This week it was my goal to let go of all loose ends. Things that I felt were unresolved, or that needed to be...|||He didnt ignore me for a month. He didn't ignore me until I revealed my feelings for him Sunday evening( 2 days ago).  Two weeks ago(this was after the sex) he had invited me on a date but I bad...|||My intuition was wrong as an enfp... After having sex for the first time with an intj in an fwb situation, I thought or my intuition picked up on the fact that he wanted more but wanted me to...'