'I'm here because @Rebecca.M summoned me lol  As with all MBTI, if you're sure he is an ENFJ, my advice is from the limited knowledge I have of ENFJs.  They're hard to decipher because they're...|||Thanks so much for this explanation Wums. It certainly clears up alot of things for me. I guess I never realized how different an ENFJ and INFJ could be. For the longest time I felt as if I...|||I'm pretty tired lol     I'm questioning taking employment at a company that doesn't recognize work/life balance. I have other work I can pick up, so I would much prefer something less chaotic. ...|||Thanks Wums!  After talking to my ENFJ co-workers again, I finally understand. They've echoed your post, but in more laymen terms.   I asked one of my ENFJ co-workers why long distance makes him...|||Thank you guys for all the responses.  Also, it seems that at my job right now, for the first time in my life, there are actually 2 new ENFJ co-workers (male and female).   Throughout my life,...|||How do ENFJs feel about receiving flowers?|||Hi lovelies :wink:  My ENFJ boyfriend and I are struggling a bit in our relationship. As strange as it seems, as an INFJ, I have spent the past 6 years studying MBTI (particularly of INFJs) so that...|||Not an ENFJ but an INFJ, will try to answer.    No idea what HB7, HB4, or HB anything is? We have a lot of international readers, particularly from European countries... not sure I've ever heard...|||I'm not an ENFJ, but I share the same functions in a slightly different order.   Dom-Ni coupled with Aux-Fe. Fe, I can address.    Fe, often times, if unchecked can make it difficult to mediate...|||Dominant Ti provides depth, while Auxiliary Ne provides breadth, deep knowledge on a multitude of subjects (attractive!) injected with Ne humor and play, while Fe communicates without stepping on...|||Just realized today what I love about INTP.   I've had so many INTJ friends growing up, but there is often friction in my relationships with them that has to be addressed. Over the years I've been...|||Hello dear ENFJs, As an INFJ, there's a part of me that's super wary of short term dating before getting hitched, but there's also a part of me that recognizes that age+experience plays a huge role....|||Thank you for this post. I can honestly say that as an INFJ dating and ENFJ, this is my biggest fear. I'm sort of experiencing this right now with the ENFJ I'm dating. My Ni-Dom has been trying to...|||ENFJs are more likely to be honest with someone who they are really close with and trust (close friends). If your texting relationship with this ENFJ is a close enough friendship, I would suggest...|||It's no problemo 😊 I'm honestly more surprised that any ENFJ show up on the forum because I have a hard time getting a hold of my ENFJ sometimes 😂 Dude is everywhere and nowhere to be seen sometimes...|||Hey :cool:    That's great! Cycling sounds awesome. I'm more impressed with the quitting smoking thing. I hear it's difficult?  My ENFJ smokes, and we just had a conversation last night about...|||Not an ENFJ but... I just woke up from a nightmare today where I was with my ENFJ and an INFP friend asked me to take her to McDonalds, so I did, then I left to go home. Once I got home, I realized I...|||LOLOL OH man hahahaRetail job training is a joke. They give you just enough information to survive LOL I never understood the policy for drugstores to have their Register Clerk's answer the phone...|||I use to work retail, and I remember this one time one of the other retail location had a problem with their photo machine, so the clerk who was working in that store had to come to our store to...|||As an ENFJ, what's your secret (non-secret after posting lol) wish? Something you wish others knew you wanted?   I secretly wish my significant other would fight hard to keep our relationship going...|||AWE! That's so AWEEEEE!! *melty heart* I'm super bias'd on ENFJs dating INFJs because I'm an INFJ ._.   And now.... just my comments on the list below :D None of this is a critique, but just a...|||Your post hit the nail on the head :cool: The whole pretty twisted fantasies was also a surprise to hear about, as I can be pretty twisted too but everything is tempered by my own personal...|||I just typed up this really long response, only to have it disappear *sigh*   My mom is also an ISFJ and I completely relate LOL I've noticed over the course of my time on PerC, there are a few...|||Beautifully said! I couldn't agree more.   Especially @ dying at that moment, makes me wonder if that's why MBTI says spiritual experience.|||@Stelliferous;    Just something I noticed, but not sure if it applies to all ENFJs, they can be sensitive to criticism which I think might stem from their primary function Fe and being service...|||Yeah, I remember my boyfriend saying What...what are we? What is this? Are we dating? This is so strange. I've never been in a position like this.   We weren't technically dating, but we were...|||Yeah, I think if you want to hang out with him, just asking him to hang out is your best bet.   Since it's a work based relationship, I think being Fe-dom an ENFJ might be cautious about starting a...|||Couldn't agree more. Getting older has the perks of not caring anymore. I feel like the older you are, the less guessing games are enjoyed LOL I'm becoming senile!    I think xNFJs when we find...|||Couldn't agree more! My boyfriend is a straight shooter, he doesn't like the guessing games and is rather upfront. He prefers it that way. He once said this about how his ex would hint at certain...|||I'm dating an ENFJ. All I can say is that, for an INFJ, you have to step out of our mode of comfort and secrecy. If you have feelings for him, you have to drop hints and you have to be bolder than...|||Very cute thread :laughing:  I think the same thing happens to me. I can use my Fe sometimes draw people to me but put someone that I have feelings for infront of me and I'm just like... don't know...|||Well that was unexpected! LOL    Okay, that makes perfect sense. I was wondering too, is Fe-dom focused on making the other person happy partially in the hopes that it would be reciprocated too?...|||Hey CloudFire, just read your post and wanted to thank you for the insights. I found your post really helpful because, as long as I've been on PerC, I've always stuck mostly to MBTI and...|||OH boy! Here we go :laughing: I've come from a long hiatus to yet again, discover more about the inner workings of ENFJs :tongue: I'm curious about ENFJ and Sex. I'm struggling to form a question...|||Have you, ENFJs, ever gotten into a legitimate argument with your Significant Other? I'm not talking about disagreements, I mean like an actual argument with raised voices and everything? If so, why...|||That's exactly my point, I am limiting it to those who are married. The goal of the thread is to be a resource for INFJs interested in marriage specifically https://i.imgsafe.org/67120d3245.png  ...|||If they count it as a marriage, they're free to respond, if not... unfortunately there's nothing here for them, sorry! https://i.imgsafe.org/6712e958b1.png|||Hi guys https://i.imgsafe.org/6710a24e58.png,  In my search for all INFJ threads related to marriage, I found them lacking in details https://i.imgsafe.org/67120d3245.png I wanted to create an...|||https://i.imgsafe.org/67104e67f2.png Hey guys... guess what? https://i.imgsafe.org/6712c6c1cb.png  I'm in a new relationship! YAY! https://i.imgsafe.org/6710a24e58.png  He's an ENFJ, and I met...|||Inside my mind, I'm cool. In the real world and in the eyes of others? EHHHHH... probably not LOL   My personal definition of cool is someone who is unafraid to be themselves. I admire that a lot,...|||This whole thing reminds me of this scene... http://www.animateit.net/data/media/july2012/Bilbo_I_Want_it_back.gif|||I'm not an ENFJ, but close enough right? https://i.imgsafe.org/67112e21ab.png   https://i.imgsafe.org/6710338cd5.png I'm going to be completely honest... none of my boyfriends have ever, EVER...|||Friends first is not the best method for everyone but it goes without saying that if you're in the dating game, the first real requirement is honest communication. The friends first method worked...|||I wanted to write in on this one last time https://i.imgsafe.org/6711b1f7c1.png only because I think my last series of posts had more to do with how to win/read an INFJ but it didn't really address...|||Industrial Designer - It's a fulfilling job, especially if you're interested in industrial design for humanitarian purposes (in particular product design) like designing temporary shelters for the...|||I'm interested in knowing more about this topic https://i.imgsafe.org/67120d3245.png I've been wondering a lot these days, about my feelings and how I seem to be very uhhh.... what's the word,...|||If she's a young INFJ (teenage - mid-twenties), give her 6 months to 1 year to warm up to you with close communication and time together.  If she's an older INFJ (late-twenties - mid-thirties),...|||Being optimistic I think is better https://i.imgsafe.org/67120d3245.png I think INTJs are usually a fair judge of themselves, in so far as, what you have to offer in a relationship, how attractive...|||I've been getting a lot of Private Messages from people who need help with INFJs in their life... and I'm always surprised to hear and see such similar stories about INFJs. It's rather frustrating...|||I can't imagine being married to someone who doesn't understand me, it would feel like a prison https://i.imgsafe.org/6712737f07.png However... that would also require the INFJ to be an open book...'