'I agree with you so much!! :proud:|||sry gotta bail mayb nxt tme Let Your Smartphone Deliver the Bad News - NYTimes.com I just finished the above article, which is about how younger people tend to regard social plans as fluid, meaning...|||This afternoon on the way back from the gym, I bought one of the few romantic comedies I like, The Five-Year Engagement, and Midnight in Paris, which I haven't yet seen but have been told is...|||I miss @Sea_cucumber.  I always enjoy posts and replies by @LiteratureNerd, who so often makes me smile.  I deeply appreciate ElinorDashwood's wise replies.  LadyLullaby sends the nicest emails.|||I feel completely the same way. I've tried, but enneagram just doesn't seem to work for me. Maybe certain tests are more insightful for certain people. These tests are largely measuring the same...|||I'm actually pretty bad at recognizing faces, especially out of context. My sister, and ISTJ, is extraordinary at recognizing them, though. Even with actors playing very different roles, she can spot...|||I LOVE this site! This is Why... is my absolute favorite post.|||One of my favorite websites is Not Always Right, a site where people send in funny stories of customers and customer service-related incidents. Have worked various retail and fast food jobs, I can...|||Personally, I like quiet guys. I know society tells us alpha males are tops, but I really hate being around them. Give me a quiet, introspective guy any day of the week. (No, really, if you have one,...|||Ganesha, the Indian elephant god who is the remover of obstacles and the Patron of Letters|||This hits the nail on the head for me. I like to observe people--the guy sitting across from me in class, the guy who works the same shift as me, etc.--and get to know people when they're not trying...|||I've received some nice messages. There are guys who read my profile and their messages refer to something I've said I enjoy or some shared experience we have, like having gone on vacation to the...|||I think you're right. I thought I'd find other quiet people who are interesting, but just not into the club scene. Instead, I found weird people who lack social skills, or people trolling for sex....|||Scarlet|||I replied to this a few years back, but now my response is different, so I'm replying again.  Some of you know that I decided to try online dating. I thought this would be an easy way to quickly...|||I do think my response was definitely dangerous. But the bar we were at was secluded and it was just me, my friend, and those five guys. It wasn't good. But I took them by surprise and showed I...|||You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which  you really stop to look fear in the face.  You are able to say to  yourself, 'I have lived through this horror.  I can take...|||You could be a highly sensitive person. I just recently found out about this and some of what you're describing fits symptoms.  Highly sensitive person - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia|||I usually hate romantic-comedies, but loved The Five-Year Engagement. I also recently saw this fab French film called The Intouchables. That was one of those rare films that as I was watching it,...|||She just walked on politely and ignored them. I think she figured they were just being guys and, while it wasn't what she wanted, that it was nothing to get upset over. She's a lot more experienced...|||That's a good way of putting it. It boils down to respect, doesn't it? You have to respect what the other person is comfortable with.|||You sound like a gentleman, Northcrest. :)|||I haven't been on much of late, @Elinor Dashwood. It's good to hear from you! I've missed you and your wisdom.  You worded it well. I don't mind being approached, but I hate when it seems like...|||Last night I was at a bar with my friend. To be honest, I wasn't especially comfortable with the setting; this bar wasn't my scene, and if it wasn't for pleasing my friend, I wouldn't have been...|||Not sure if I'm really mad, but yesterday one of my students was criticizing me for not explaining the software that students are required to use at our school. That's not my job. Students have a...|||This one's kind of weird, but I regularly have people come to me to talk about their sex lives or problems with their partners/spouses. I've had roommates ask me about birth control, the pill,...|||This one might be weird, but noises really bother me. Sometimes little noises, like people eating or whistling, just really, really bother me. There's this woman who works in my office and she sucks...|||I kind of relate to bears. Usually I'm solitary and quiet. I love eating fruit and berries. When life gets rough and wintry, I hibernate. And if you mess with those important to me, I will rip your...|||When I was younger (in my teens), I was petrified by any guy I liked. Now, if I like someone, I make an effort to talk to him, especially regarding things he likes. I just enjoy his company as much...|||You look familiar.  You're just so quiet!  You're just so smart!  And my least favorite, You're so cute! (This last always comes from women or men who are unavailable.)|||I would wake up naturally (no alarm clock), blow off work, walk in the park, read for a while, play with my kitties, eat something delicious, cuddle with someone I love, and go to bed early. :)|||Aww, you're making me blush. But really, this is related to my master's thesis, so you really just hit on a topic I feel pretty comfortable with. Thanks for posting; this was fun to read and talk...|||To me, what's interesting about this article is its parallels with early feminist writing in the late 1800s. Feminist writers argued that men would rise to whatever moral standard women required of...|||I definitely do this. I took a tour of the British Isles this past summer, and each place I went, I adopted the accent. Locals were constantly asking me where I was from. I didn't realize I was doing...|||I got a 58.|||I struggle with this a lot. All the time. Sometimes it's even ridiculous the lengths I go through to not inconvenience others. But a friend of mine asked me recently, Why are you not worth the...|||It's strange, but something similar has happened to me within the last two or three months. I don't think so much about sex, but just about the emotional connection and the bond between people who...|||You bring up an excellent point. There are more non-active young people than we're led to believe. Also, the numbers can greatly vary by region in the U.S. (I assume the same is true for much of the...|||I'm 25 and (as far as I know) the only one of my friends who is still a virgin. But then, I'm a stereotypical INFJ in that I've dated very little.  Overall, I believe people have to find their own...|||One thing I realized recently is exactly what you said--I have to be able to laugh with people. If I can't laugh with a person, it's going nowhere, regardless of whether it's romantic or platonic. I...|||I wish I lived closer to some of the people who post on this forum. I think it would be really interesting to meet some of you in person. Like you say, I can't fully connect with someone until I've...|||It's not a matter of getting replies. Lots of people have contacted me. I've even met some in person. The problem is, I just feel nothing. No spark. No interest. It makes me feel emotionally dead.|||Yes, this is how I've been feeling--like the more I try to connect, the less successful I am, and with each failed attempt, I close myself off more.|||Lately I'm having a lot of trouble connecting with people. I've been trying the online dating thing and had hoped to come out with a few friends if nothing else, but I've been woefully disappointed....|||I find I need someone who kind of pulls me out of myself, so if not an extrovert, someone less introverted than myself? I want someone who can be practical, but can also be fun. He must make me laugh...|||I do fluctuate between INFJ and INTJ. In fact, I've sometimes tested as a T rather than an F. However, the INFJ description definitely fits me better overall, and the T is something that has...|||Thanks, Sassy. I think you're telling me what I already knew but needed someone to affirm. People tell me I don't give guys enough of a chance, that I'm being too picky, that my expectations are...|||Yay! I nice, happy, humorous thread. Well chosen, Vaan.  I've been told this a lot. My friends often tell me I mother them, and sometimes they'll say things like, Won't Brittany make a wonderful...|||A couple of weeks ago, someone posted a thread about online dating, specifically in reference to OKCupid.com. After reading everyone's posts, I decided to give the site another try. I've been talking...|||We do? Where are mine? :sad:'