'But for various reasons Taylor Swift's relationships are a pretty big target of gossip, so it's understandable that if one of her relationships gets to the point where they mean a lot to her, she...|||lol  Sounds like when I go into my ESFJ friend's office but go talk to someone else instead and she's all what's going on and trying to bring my attention towards her instead.|||I'd ask if he thinks his relationship with his girlfriend will last long term (or even more direct as others suggested). It definitely sounds like he's at least considering a relationship with you...|||Don't listen to me, I'm bad for you. :tongue:  Anyways, when I was thinking about pulling back, what I had in mind was mostly if you felt like the INTP was getting some benefit from you but not...|||The tests, especially the free online ones can point you in the right direction but can be difficult to answer honestly, many people will answer according to how they think they should be instead of...|||Not sure if it helps but this made me think of this song.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y7Xq8PY27-Q|||I'm not sure if this is just an INTP thing or if it helps for other people too, but I find that writing things down helps. When you're just letting all your thoughts and feelings go through your...|||That's Fi. This is one of the longer descriptions I've seen of ESFJ Fe. FeSi (ESFJ) âx80x94 Type in Mind  They call ESFJs FeSi since those are their dominant functions - having an extraverted function...|||So far I've brought my person of interest muffins, cookies and tiramisu. Planning on bringing clafouti or crepes next. I also offer those to others that happen to be around to avoid being too obvious...|||Yeah I'd say I cook a fair bit. Cooking is mostly fun as a group activity or at least if you make it for someone other than yourself. But even if I'm just cooking for myself I like to have 2 warm...|||Yep, I feel like I can figure out their illogical reasons for feeling hurt and feel bad for them being such illogical creatures, therefore it's my responsibility to guide them out of their illogical...|||edit: double post|||Averages so far Open Mindedness: 66 (8/11 were >50) Conscientiousness: 21 (10/11 were <50) Extraversion: 8 (11/11 were <50, highest score was 23) Agreeableness: 21 (10/11 were <50) Negative...|||It's not just you. This is my attempt to draw how Fe users get INTPs to initiate. :P  https://i.imgur.com/rWHgvse.png|||I like the idea of saying you love someone jokingly or in passing or just saying something that implies it to avoid putting too much pressure on the other person to respond.|||Maybe not this one, from what I read INTPs don't often change their minds when they break up. However, I definitely think it's possible to seduce an INTP with Fe. I don't know if you've read up on...|||Well it changes the game completely if pursuing those hobbies means spending time with that special someone.|||One of the most famous quotes that Einstein didn't say. :P  Anyways, I'm not sure why your INTP mentioned he was staying over with his ex. Maybe he didn't think things through and didn't think that...|||ok well from her descriptions although I can relate to some of the stuff about 9s I definitely relate to 5s more.|||I think I'm either 5w4 or 9w1 (5w6, 1w9 and 9w8 are also possible). Usually my enneagram types rank 5>9>1>4>6>8>7. I think I'm LII-Ne which I guess makes me somewhat ENTP-like and could explain why...|||I ticked dare devil but I'm not crazy, adventurous would be more fitting. I don't play with my own life, but I will risk future discomfort. I generally don't swear unless it's in a casual setting...|||I read too fast and read could as would. Could is indeed more non-committal. I think there's still a pretty good chance he's waiting for you to plan it and just didn't communicate that in the...|||You said you'll take him? Doesn't that mean you've assumed responsibility for planning the outing? That's how I would have interpreted it at least.|||Step 1: Leave Step 2: Get a gun Step 3: Get a CCW permit Step 4: Divorce   The failure of the marriage is 100% on him.  I honestly thought this was a joke or some weird kinky thing when I...|||Neutral then amusement followed by a hope/yearning for something more|||Then you need to tell her she deserves better and find friends, family, social workers, etc who will back you up on that. And make it clear that you'll do everything to make sure she gets that.|||If she's ISFJ then I can see how she might not have reacted strongly to his proposal which is unfortunate. The appropriate reaction would have been to laugh him out of the room which is probably what...|||Are you at an age where it's somewhat unusual for your Dad to have died though or are you old enough that's it's not really unexpected? It seems like you didn't make it sufficiently clear that you've...|||Only when people are taking a picture of me.|||Eh.. not sure how it works when a couple determines a head of the household. I can see someone deciding that their partner is better at making tough decisions and let him make decisions that impact...|||I agree. If I didn't want sympathy or didn't feel someone should know that your dad died, I wouldn't tell them. If they unintentionally forced me to mention it like if they ask about my parents then...|||That already seems a bit clingy/desperate to me lol... because you're making it seems like you need him to come. As opposed to just offering for him to join you but if he doesn't, that's fine you can...|||Clearly the ESFJ wants to keep looking at dating profiles and agrees to stop and then lies and continues using it because she doesn't want to upset you.  It's unclear if that's because she...|||I still think I could have a great relationship with her, in terms of what kind of person she is and what kind of person I am. I feel like we click and our interactions are all smooth and comfortable...|||My impression of ESFJs is that although they can be judging and have their own opinions, they aren't going to be very forceful about them in a direct way since they tend to avoid conflict. They'll...|||Maybe it has to do with how different types react to each other. So I (an INTP) is much less likely to push an ESFJ into a corner where they're going to feel the need the need to push back or vice...|||That doesn't really fit with my experiences. Are the ESFJs you know like that with everyone or only those that are close to them? Just wondering if it's just that I've never been that close to ESFJs...|||ESFJ are supposed to be the best match for MBTI INTP. ESFJ-INTJ relationships are supposed to have quite a bit more obstacles if you believe in the theory. Best match (duality) for MBTI INTJ is...|||When an INTJ refers to that it's hard to tell if they're just trolling by playing up the stereotype.  Anyways ESFJ is generally not considered to be the most ideal match for INTJ so I'd be curious...|||Are you MBTI INTJ or socionics INTj (which generally translates to MBTI INTP)?|||If the rule causes me some sort of inconvenience and discomfort, and breaking it won't cause any harm or conflict, and there's no risk of getting caught and punished, I'd say it's unlikely I'll obey...|||INTP SINGLE PEOPLE SURVEY  1. On a scale of 1-10 how committed are you to the idea of having a life partner? If 1 is I'm hoping to die alone! Hooray! and 10 is OMG will this endless waiting ever...|||I was thinking about better as in intelligence or at least talent although I would also view sticking to your commitments as a sort of skill.  I'm not sure how I feel about people being better...|||Not sure about Cheryl being ESFJ. Anyone would be emotional if their twin died and all things considered, she's not that emotional about it. I could see her being ENTJ tbh.  I'd also lean more...|||I've yet to meet a woman that was so smart that she intimidates me. Sure, I'll meet women that are more knowledgeable than me about certain things but I've never felt like I didn't have a chance at...|||No one likes to be accused of being intentionally mean when they really just didn't think of another point of view that someone else might have. I do agree that it's not really reasonable for Chinese...|||Not sure how many male ESFJs there will be to respond here... but there are a couple men I knew before I heard of MBTI (and haven't been in contact with since) that match what I'd imagine male ESFJs...|||My ESFJ friend likes to have a plan too but she seems easily distracted by things sweet, shiny or cute and by other people and photo opportunities although it doesn't typically interfere too much...|||Midnight? Fuck that, I'm tired, I'll work on it at 7am.|||You're even bigger goofballs than we are.'