'I really enjoyed reading your take on intuitive types. My closest sensor friends usually just say, You think too much.   Something I wanted to respond to:    I find this so interesting,...|||You analyze/think too much (implying its a waste of time)|||Sensors can just DO things. The dishes have to get done? DONE (or it seems that way to me). I have to actively shut off my thoughts to physically do anything, even when I want it done. If what I have...|||Don't necessarily take this as advice, because it might not be good. I would never, ever make the first move on a guy. Not because of any gender rules, but because I prefer to be with someone who, if...|||I'll just say that when I would get punished for talking back (always the reason) I would sit in my room all day and read, be left alone, and love every minute of it. At dinner my parents would have...|||Lust just sounds more adventurous than sloth :tongue:  I'm sure all of these are destructive in excess, but they are part of the human experience. I'm actually surprised an INFJ would answer lust.|||Lucky.|||SLOTH by a long shot--- followed by gluttony, and throw in some wrath. I was born lazy and lack the capacity to do anything about it.|||I have this relationship with the friend I started this post about :happy: I have often been the person who can give her the words or help her find the words she is looking for to clarify what she is...|||I was actually having a conversation with a classmate the other day, and she barely looked me in the eyes the whole time she was chatting away. I couldn't help but watch her eyeballs move around and...|||Very helpful, thanks. It does seem as if she is trying to get a new kind of start. I think I will point her to MBTI and see if that is a source of inspiration and feeling connected.|||Thanks iamkin and webnek. It makes sense that many of these behaviors are shared by unbalanced NFs in general. I can certainly relate. But what concerns me about her explosive behavior is that it is...|||She does feel that she is too odd to be understood by almost everyone. We relate in that way, but because she an E... well, her oddness is just more E. (Like I said before, its usually very charming...|||Thank you very much, Seeker. I agree with your explanation of the word healthy, but it can be difficult to find the right word in this situation. Your description of yourself (good and bad)...|||I am fairly sure my friend is an ENFJ, but I don't know any others so I wanted to ask... What does an unhealthy ENFJ look like?   Her major symptom is that she seems out of touch with reality....|||I have been known to take it as a personal affront when someone disagrees with me. Learning about MBTI has helped me with that tremendously. I used to not understand that other people could have all...|||I had a similar experience in high school where I was unable to come to terms with some truly horrible qualities about the person I was dating. For some reason I was unable to let go. The whole thing...|||I feel the same way when I say something funny-- which is often. Some people just can't appreciate the deadpan delivery.|||For some reason, I have had multiple yoga instructors who were INFPs. Something about their dispositions seem more harmless and gentle than my own. I can't say if that is because all the INFPs I've...|||I can relate so much to parts of this. I cannot stand when my ISTJ closes up. Its just unfair. He is great in so many ways, but sometimes I feel like the worst is being drawn out of me!   I'm glad...|||My best friend, dad, and boyfriend of 3 years are all ISTJs. I love them all, and they have some really awesome qualities. I love their ability to work hard and play hard, and our senses of humor...|||I do act different with different people. I don't think anyone has ever said something to me about it, however if two people were to talk about me, I think they would be surprised they were talking...|||With my ISTJ, I can become passive-aggressive, critical, and codependent amongst other things. I'm wondering what kinds of traits other INFJs have struggled with in difficult relationships and what...|||I've never lost a best friend since childhood, only gained a few more :D Here they are listed from oldest (childhood) to most recent (4 years ago):  ISTJ -- we speak a different language (STJ vs...|||Usually when I know I am the only person that person is seeing and that we are on the same page. It took me and my last boyfriend three months. If I'm in a place in my life where I am keeping people...|||My dad, best friend, and former boyfriend of several years are all ISTJs. They have some really great qualities. My favorite is their ability to get things done without getting wrapped up in their...|||If she is INFJ, there is a reason.|||I can't read my old writing. I always feel embarrassed by it for one reason or another. I can barely read old texts.|||My two girlfriends who talk about sex all the time and always seem to be having it are both ENFPs. They are wild, funny, and full of stories. They also have a wandering eye and are not keen on...|||I've been really trying to do some research about how to better relate to my ESFP mom on certain issues. I love her to pieces and she is a warm, generous, affectionate mom who I look up to for so...|||Sorry, I really can't relate to that at all. As someone else said... I've been called many things throughout my life, but never fake. Even when I say something unexpected, I find people accept that...|||Sorry, I really can't relate to that at all. As someone else said... I've been called many things throughout my life, but never fake. Even when I say something unexpected, I find people accept that...|||Can someone recommend an Enneagram test they liked? I found the two I've tried irritating. Several times I felt both of the options applied to me, and the Type 2 and 4 really seem to sugarcoat a big...|||Also, this. Many of those people though are only interested in superficial or fast friends. I'm better at accepting that its pretty cool to take your time to get to know someone. To be fair, I know I...|||Like others have said, being so emotional is very draining. I think it is a big part of why I am naturally low energy and lazy.   The other thing is I never understand how people see me. I am often...|||I don't know about relationships between types, but I would be reluctant to date someone like myself. For me, attentive is good, but not feminine or submissive. I also think INFJ would probably need...|||I don't know any other mid-twenties INFJs in real life, but now I'll be keeping an eye out. For science reasons and stuff.|||.|||Very funny how we are the same type and yet mostly opposite in that regard. Maybe its a gender thing.|||I know what you mean by feeling rage. I could be sitting completely still and quiet, but anyone near me can see and feel it too. I don't know about you, but I doubt I could make my rage sexy haha....|||Does anyone else experience emotions as all-consuming? When I let myself feel rage there is nothing anyone can do. I am aware that my behavior is irrational, but I am at the mercy of the feeling. I...|||If I'm shopping for clothes, I either shop alone or with one friend and at stores that are not too loud or cluttered. You could not pay me to be a part of anything Black Friday. I love grocery...|||I need resolution. I enjoy debating and I am naturally very dominant in my opinions, but that is in many ways a way for me to bring resolution to the other person disagreeing with me. I don't create...|||When I was a kid:  Its not what you say, its how you say it.  What is the point in grounding you if you just enjoy napping and reading all day?  You seem very mature for your age.|||My epiphanies with discovering I am an INFJ have been two-fold.   I had a paradigm shift when I realized people are different from me. That sounded ridiculous when I told this to one of my best...|||I rejected the idea of a god from the time I was a little girl-- even before I made my First Communion at age seven. The whole notion just didn't resonate with me, and I found the idea of worshipping...|||Even if I am confident and happy, I am still an idealist. I struggle whenever I see room for improvement and find it difficult to just be cool with all the things I'm happy and confident about the...|||I went through a phase where I dealt with being uncomfortable at parties by drinking, and I always got too drunk. I've regretted every single one of those times. I still drink, and I always feel...|||1. 15 2.  3. It was awful. I was so young that I felt the need to maintain a relationship with him after, and it ended up being traumatic for me.  4. Wait. If you think you've waited long enough,...|||I've only ever been in love with another introvert. Many people would be (and are when they find out) shocked that either of us are introverts. We both have our party personalities and can let loose...'