'While type may have a hand in how and why someone would lie, I doubt it indicates how likely someone is to lie. The thing is, it doesn't matter whether or not INTJs lie more or less. The fact is your...|||Yeah, I'd say it means he trusts you enough to open up, which can be hard for many INTJs. For me, friendship is foremost built on trust. I need to feel that when I open up to someone, they are not...|||Damn butterflies. ;)|||I think that anybody can use any individual personality trait as a way of rationalizing bad behavior.|||I understand where you're coming from here. I know I close myself off to other people and so it is partially my fault that people don't understand me. But it still hurts sometimes that people don't...|||Not to mention that the OP is pretty much doing exactly what he claims the MBTI. He's putting people in a box based on the fact that they are interested in the MBTI.   Yes, there are those who use...|||Hmm, yes that would make it difficult. Is it that he doesn't really know why he doesn't trust you anymore, or is it that he won't tell you? If it's the first, then my guess is there is something he...|||My sister is an ISFJ and I'm an INTJ, so you'd think we'd always be at odd. We almost always come to the same or similar conclusions, we have the same values, and we can often read each others...|||The other night I dreamed about a reality cooking show that took place on a cruise ship and all the contestants had super powers. It was like a cross between Top Chef, Heroes, and Alphas. Also, I...|||Your friend sounds really immature. Nobody deserves to be treated like a pet. I know it hurts now, but you're better off without her.|||While I still believe that many INTJs have the actions speak louder than words mentality, I was simply giving my personal reasoning behind it, not necessarily ever INTJ's view. I definitely agree...|||I usually talk to myself if I'm having trouble concentrating. I finds it helps me keep my mind from wandering.|||I think it may be a common INTJ thing; I know I do this. Let me give you my thought process on this. Let's say someone says they will do something (the intent) and then does something else (the...|||I have to agree. Even when I can see that someone has made a decision based on emotions first, I still don't understand. For me, emotions are only to be used if they don't conflict with my logic. I...|||I agree with what many others have said about writing. It kind of helps me organize my thoughts a bit. If you have trouble writing, maybe try just writing whatever come into your head with out...|||I'm not a grad student either, but I'm also interested. I've recently been thinking of going back so I can become a career counselor, or something along those lines.|||THIS a thousand times! I really can't turn my thoughts off and it is exhausting. It can make it hard to enjoy life when I'm thinking of ever single thing that could happen.   Also, anytime I'm...|||A couple of basics. We tend to be more blunt, which means we can unintentionally hurt people's feelings. It's not personal; in fact I'm usually more blunt with people I care about, because I feel...|||Ok, it's a picture of a bridge (Golden Gate I believe...San Fransisco...now I want to watch Full House...ok, concentrate) taken at night from a distance. The juxtaposition of hard against soft,...|||I'm pretty sure my mom is an INTJ like myself. We get along really well. I honestly have no idea what my dad is. I'd guess an ISxx, but I don't know for sure. We get along ok now, but when I was in...|||I'm sorry if you thought I was trying to take advantage of your time or trying to get out of doing my own research. That was not my intention at all. You'll notice that I never denied Keirsey and...|||I hadn't heard that Keirsey's temperaments are not accurate. Could you give me some resources you've found? I'd like to investigate.|||Yeah, initiating a conversation based on assumptions can be a disastrous. Definitely have a conversation, but make sure you leave your assumptions and theories at the door.|||There is a good point in here. I wouldn't mind a surprise party if it was ONLY with people I'm close to. If it's a party with every person I know, I probably wouldn't care for it. I prefer smaller...|||@puer_aeternus, First of all, you can't change someone who does want to be changed. When it comes to human beings, we can only change ourselves and not other people. It can be hard seeing a loved one...|||whoknew, Have you tried looking at the difference in temperaments? Maybe identifying which one of those is more like you would help you determine you type. Here are this forums basic overview of each...|||I really hate it when someone claims I don't listen to their advice just because I don't take it. If someone gives me advice I take it and mull it over. I compare it with what I already know, I...|||There are two words in the title of this thread that inspire dread in INTJs: Surprise and Party.  Ok, joking aside. Surprising an INTJ with a bunch of people is probably not a good idea. Large...|||I think you're are right about anger. I'm glad I've been able to help!|||You...don't feel anger?!?!?! I didn't even know that was possible. I've heard that anger is a secondary emotion that stems from a primary emotion, so maybe you simply have a deep enough connection...|||Pragmatic empathy I like that! I agree though. I think we INTJs use our Fi as an excuse to never let someone in and then get mad that nobody ever wants. If we truly want people to understand us we...|||I can see how him making you feel like you have nothing to offer would be discouraging for you. However, before giving up let me try to give you a little insight into that. If may be true that he...|||I can really relate to this. Why bother saying something if you aren't going to back it up with your actions? Better to never have said anything to begin with.  Words specifically though:  ...|||1.) Geniuses  If we're talking about IQ, I've never taken an IQ test and therefore don't know. I do think I have the facility to figure things out on my own.  2.) Psychopaths Nope  3.) No...|||INTJs don't lack empathy, but we process it differently. If I see someone in a bad situation, I can feel sorry for them, but to me giving them a hug won't fix the situation. I'd rather do something...|||My sister is an ISFJ and she has a very accurate first impression of people. She'll meet someone, get a feeling about them (good or bad), and at some point down the road she is almost always right....|||If after a week nothing has changed then she either didn't really understand or she doesn't care. My money is on the latter. You have to cut ties and I'm not just saying that because as an INTJ I...|||Life.|||If I'm warming up to someone I'll become more...intense I guess is the best word for it. I'll get snarky and be more open with my opinions. I'll be like this all along, but in a more reserved and...|||In order:  Quality Time (11)- People wanting to spend time with me and actually listening to what I have to say make me feel really special. It could be because I'm an introvert and like my time to...|||I'm a photographer, so this doesn't surprise me too much. I can definitely see how some people would be surprised; especially by the NTs.|||I'm really bad at math. English always came much more naturally for me.|||(Te here) In school, I usually took notes or tried rephrasing it to know I understand it. To be completely honest though, I was awful at tests and I don't know if I was just a bad test taker (I did...|||I'll often take my problems to my sister, who is an ISFJ, or my mom, who I'd guess to be an INFJ or INTJ. Usually it's when I've having emotional problems I need to get through and they both have...|||Green, Gold, Blue, Orange  It's funny, I actually took this test for a class in college. At that time I was evenly matched between Orange and Gold for my top color. When I told my professor she...|||So many reasons. It helps me deal with fears and uncertainties. If I'm afraid of something I research the crap out of it; I usually find it's not all that bad and even if it is I am now armed with...|||I think for the most part, the OP is spot on about INTJs. However there are two points that are a bit off (not entirely wrong, but off).   I agree and disagree with this statement. I will withdraw...|||I do this all the time. I'll look at something and say I can't do that because of x, y, and z. In reality I probably could do it, but I get stuck on the details and feel I'm not qualified.    ...|||Well, it first helped me to realize that I'm not a freak who nobody understands (true, a lot of people still don't understand me, but it isn't nobody anymore). The biggest use of typing, for me, is...|||It's not so much what we like to converse about; this can vary from person to person. Not every INTJ has the same interests. It's more how we like to converse. We like to go in depth about what ever...'