'I guess it's my turn to seek the guidance of the wise and powerful INFJ's, on this scary thing you call love :shocked:  Short story- I was intimate with someone many years ago.  Twice.  Without...|||Experience?  I've had complaints lol.  Ironically, complaints are usually by in person friends.  Makes sense though.  Maybe you need to get on your friends radar more then once a month.  Avoid the...|||Oh.  Didn't realize she was an INTP, that makes her a little more distant by nature.|||True.  We are very obsessed with our work...but I highly doubt he was playing a chase game with you.  More then likely he just realized he was being distant, and started making an honest effort to...|||Busy...or absorbed in a special interest/distant?|||Everyone is entitled to bad days.|||Oh I would agree, yes.  She does have some very valid points, and am not offended either.  Mostly I'm here trying to learn about these types, but as an INTP can't because I see an emotional motive...|||I have uncovered the emotional motive behind the article.  Author states in one of her other blog posts:  INFJs seem like some of the most promising people to be in a relationship with, but in...|||But how can the INFP writing this be the nicest people on earth if he/she is calling INFJs assholes?! Logic fail.:confused:|||Yes, I pull back for a week or two if it's starts to get worrisome again.  But when I do regain control over my thoughts, I make an effort to communicate more regularly.  Always at least once a week,...|||That is tough, but I do it all the time too in one of my long distance friendships.  Almost like a short panic if a message isn't responded to.  Im not exactly skilled in evaluating emotions (secret...|||You could play online games together (multi-player).  There are even several multi player apps for your phone: solitaire, scrabble, etc|||You and me both...will let you know when I figure this out too.  to me the dating games all seem ridiculous anyway (not fun, what is the point) + trust issues = this wall is double barricaded...with...|||Incredibly logical answers?  You are a so funny one :)  Seriously though, sounds like you're trying to convince me (as an observer) you shouldn't pursue, so I think you already know what to do as...|||Sorry, I'm just going to run through these questions.  Plz excuse my directness :)  He's probably good at keeping boundaries because his job would be in jeopardy  Why are they all married? ...|||Wait...what?  You were both standing there, and he gave *him* a hug (as in the male friend) before bed, but not you?  Unacceptable.  Is he intimate with the male?|||Seems though, you are already doing everything right that you possibly can.  You have his best intentions in mind, you don't want to manipulate, or pry, you don't pressure him, and you are trying to...|||Thanks Absurd Man.  Now our ENFP has overdosed.  Who will entertain us?  Who?!|||Hmm..not sure you'll get my evil plans just yet, but there's plenty of free hugs here :shocked:  175530|||Why so many questions this evening bippity-boppidity? ;)|||It reminds me of the Ni-Fi loop, as my friend does the exact same thing.  I believe your friend is likely nervous (ie what expectations come after hugging/cuddling).  A real INTJ may need to...|||Second.  It takes a long time to establish, so depending on the duration + intensity of the friendship.|||You: I think it saps your energy because they aren't your natural functions...and it is hard to relate patience and understanding to the bottom line (what you are contributing to the household). ...|||LOL. Manly- Save me, etc.  That is funny, but a very important one.|||Agreed.  I don't even understand how people date in the real world without being friends first for a long time, but I don't really date so maybe just weird....|||I remember in elementary school seeing a 4ft blowup dinosaur at show and tell.  Really wanted that dinosaur, bad.  Snuck back into the classroom during lunch and stole it.  Had to deflate it first,...|||There's actually a company that has been doing research on this for a while....I've read a lot of it (for my own ADHD).  According to the 'research': Most diagnosed cases of ADHD are really E/INFP,...|||Here's a cool example: Hotspot Map - Powerful annotations and tooltips. Preview - CodeCanyon|||Code challenge?  Exxxcellent... I need a $200K software project done.  You can have my request in 48 hours?!  Joking...how about a hot spot map built in Javascript?!|||Cool to read the other responses here :)  Seems as though most of us like it.  I love change too.  It's really the only time I feel focused, in control, and alive.|||Ha, yes I noticed the fighting against change!  Had to push my viewpoints on the lack of longterm viability of us for years just to get the relationship to end in the first place.  Then spent the...|||Technically no I didn't tell him to back off, because my type is non confrontational.  We'll just give you the evil eye, and then go off and do our own thing :laughing:  Whereas he would chase me...|||Wow, you were right with the paranoia!  Thank you to all the ISTJ's here for your help and wants2know as well.    I actually re-approached the situation with clear boundaries, & he expressed he was...|||Hmm...never mind!  This is probably a situation where I need to be polite, and just keep my distance instead of trying to understand/solve the problem.  Thank you for your help anyway!|||Thank you for your response!  Another NF point of view is always nice too :)  We have already come to an agreement that neither will be dating around the children (we have an 11 yr old & a 7 month...|||Hi ISTJ's,  I'm having an issue with an E/ISTJ ex (father of my kids), and am seeking some insight into the behavior please?    In general, we are pretty well mannered and get along great. ...|||Agreed!!  Like the energizer bunnies we are.  You can hit us with a sludgehammer and we'll shake it off (or maybe just grab it and hit you back).  Ironically, I think the little pointless hurdles...|||We also melt in your mouth, not in your hand.  I kid! I kid!  Couldn't help myself.  Lol...|||C'mon now.  The SJ's must have something...to believe in.  :laughing:|||MWAH back at ya!  Now...more pointless rambles please sir.  Tis my entertainment. :ninja:|||Lol.  I think there's a whole slew of us lost somewhere between INFP/INFJ/INTJ that would just rather be here.  The INFPs can get too cuddly/cutesy/sensitive and INFJs can get too religious/proper. ...|||True...I noticed this anti FWB or casual with of a lot of NF's as well.  I'm right there with you and NK though.  Not casual per se...but more of a FWB situation.  Not too many though.  Maybe 1 a...|||No comment :laughing:|||One of the other INFJs said this sex quote in another forum, but I'm just going to steal it for a moment:  Some people make love.  Some people make war.  But I make both...at the same time.  :)|||Ha!  I remember commenting in that thread with you too.  Yes, I second.  Physical touch creeps me out.  Only kindred spirits (usually other IN's) will get the occasional hug from me|||Hmm...I can see why you're confused.  Maybe the best solution then is to avoid the tests, and just interact with the different types to determine who you relate more too?|||Exactly.  Like an Edgar Allen Poe or something.  Have you tried taking a cognitive functions test?  I was having the same issue a while ago, and one of the INTJs here suggested this to me.  They...|||It's very possible you're just a developing INFP.  Alot of the type confusion with INFPs is because of the personality descriptions (cute, cuddly, romantically obsessed, etc).  When many look and act...|||Bahahaha!  Your posts make me fall out of my chair.  Ok I lied. My couch...which I technically can't really fall out of.  But you get the point.|||Perhaps she grew up believing she wasn't normal, and therefore like BlissfulDreams says, believes she will hurt others.  Darkness may be your closest companion.  But maybe she grew up in an SJ...'