'Yeah, I hated it too and still do. There is no advantage to it.|||Bad logic, unwanted touch, stubborn adherence to incorrect information, general arrogance or controlling behavior.|||hunh??|||The items suggested in the link you provided seem reasonable, although I'm not sure there is a cut and dried set of rules for culture. I don't think they mentioned theatre, which is odd... seeing...|||I think it's just as likely the other way around: That cultured people listen to classical music. But if you are brought up in that environment and grow up listening to and learning to play that kind...|||Really? WHY??|||There might be some value in talking to the other neighbors about it, and maybe as a group confronting the noisy ones. Then following up with written complaints and law enforcement if necessary.|||I'm all for talking calmly with people, but you may need to ask the landlord to call the conference. People are often rude and aggressive when confronted, and it's outrageous and intimidating....|||It sounds like another complaint to the office is most definitely in order, and if no follow through, then you may need to follow through with the complaint in writing. You surely can get the police...|||I tend to work in bursts and procrastinate a lot. I do what needs doing, though. When I am at my paid job where I am responsible for something and up for criticism if I don't do it, I'm more...|||Please don't be offended that I am going to suggest you see a counselor, to talk about some of these issues around relationships and loneliness. If you are 22 and haven't had a girlfriend in 7 years,...|||The age difference is an obstacle, and the fact she has children means her life is very different from hers. It also sounds as if your parents still control you, or you are still deeply concerned...|||Actually it sounds pretty troubling if he ditches his fiancee to hang out with girls. What is that about?|||Where would you normally keep the receipt? Some people have a place for receipts in their wallets for exactly that reason. There did used to be a tendency to put the receipt in the bag with the...|||Pipe Dreams--which is a weekly program of organ music broadcast on our local classical station.|||When my partner asks me to do something I usually comply. We help each other that way. With others I'm often skeptical, but it depends on the relationship with them, the reason they need my help,...|||Definitely. Go to events, try to get a local job-- if you're a waitress or a sales clerk you'll constantly be interacting. Go to a house of worship (church, temple) for services at least...|||Gotta love that crazy cat dancing!|||Welcome. I hope you will find things every bit as intriguing as you hope.|||Sometimes MANY. I tend to read bits and chunks, and out of sequence.|||People's main observation to you is You're sooooo QUIET. Or sillier yet, they walk into the break room and say You were so quiet I didn't see you. Yes. People have actually said that. Ahem.|||You sit quietly at coffee hour at church, not approaching anyone, not because you don't have friends there and not because you haven't had wonderful conversations at coffee hour, but because you...|||I just wish it were easier to see the names for the ranks and what post level you had to be to get them. I did get an answer on that once here:...|||This person is actually really unnerving. Wonder if she's been arrested yet? Weird how she psychologizes INTJ's -- somehow arriving at what they really crave. And notice how she emphasizes the...|||Wow, sick weirdos out there like to do things SPECIFICALLY to make people endure things they don't like! How bizarre a personality trait to be pleased by pointless aggravation. And they probably give...|||Socially, in high school and to an extent in college. Developmentally that's pretty normal, but what was a bigger deal for me was the way I was so deprived of any kind of validation from peers back...|||Is there any reason you couldn't enter the Air Force and then pursue your graduate study later?|||Do you have any theory as to your poor marks? If you like the topic, what do you think the obstacle is to getting better grades? Is it due to answering questions wrong on tests? Or do you have to...|||You might not be able to contribute successfully. Does anyone every pester you for being quiet in these conversations? If they do, simply saying sorry I can't me more help in this. Does that...|||You need to work on your anger before you can have a healthy relationship.  What on earth would make you angry at all the girls around you? If you think they are immature, maybe you need to be...|||Yeah, I think sometimes when we ask for what we think is technical advice we end up fending off misdirects. I used to run into that all the time. It's frustrating. Once in awhile someone's reframe...|||You're right, of course. Some of the value in shifting your mindset is that once you fully adopt a new view, sometimes the words you need flow easily. For example if you are able to shift your...|||Whenever people worried that I was telling on them or resented something I said (when I was young) it shook my trust in THEM. It made me think they WANTED to do bad things, and weren't just making...|||I think she's just looking for ideas to pick and choose from, or what inspires her thinking.|||Are you good at acting distracted, like you're not really hearing or listening? Or asking a couple of minutes later-- I'm sorry, what was that you said?  Sometimes facial expressions are helpful,...|||You can't imagine sisters bickering? I guess you're joking...|||Sometimes people use sarcasm as a comeback like Oh, nice! when someone snipes at them in this way. (credit to another poster IIIIII for accurately labeling it as sniping). Or something like Oh, I...|||My ranking is Enthusiast, but I'm not sure what that means.  According to my achievements, though, Im a Posting Guru at over 300 posts. However, other people with thousands of posts are listed as...|||Well, i guess you lost money, as you got quite a number of thanks. I only agree with a handful of your rules.|||It sounds like a convergence of problems. Why are you studying abroad? How important is it to your goals? how soon do you return home? Were you happier there?  Have you previously experienced...|||Do you have a job at all, even part time? Sorry if I missed something but it doesn't seem clear from your post. Some people have retail or food service jobs and rise through the ranks of management...|||Yeah, depends entirely on your goals and how prepared you are up front to specialize.|||I think it can potentially happen to students in every field. I think there should be A LOT more help offered by universities and businesses and temp agencies to help young people get jobs. Getting...|||Why are some people angry and rude the first minute they meet you? What could possibly trigger it?|||By the way, I'm a therapist, and more and deeper knowledge of philosophy would not hurt.|||I sometimes wish I had studied more philosophy, and asked more proactive questions about how my beloved humanities translated into career goals. Ethicists study philosphy (medical ethicists, business...|||And yes, I think some of the serious examples I listed could be considered backstabbing. Some backstabbing is as frivolous as gossiping and saying you said something trivial you didn't say, but that...|||Yes, I think people most definitely need to earn trust.  And it does dissolve, or alter, very easily. In many ways I have people whom I both trust and distrust. For example I at least moderately to...|||It's hard to give examples without getting long-winded, but i have most DEFINITELY known people who start arguments and backstab and make rude embarrassing remarks and deliberately misplace items...|||I definitely feel adversarial to authority that is behaving inappropriately (not following rules, not following logic, getting personal gain, displaying favoritism, being on an ego trip, doing...'