'Entj,  Intj,  Intp|||Oh my goodness! I thought I was the only one who didn't go to my graduation when most, if not everyone except me at my university, were bustling and hustling about it! BTW, after more than a decade,...|||LOL! That's me!! Even though I DID plan my summer with activites and put them on calender. :)|||Firstly, I admire your courage to start this thread!  Secondly, you speak my mind and my (more than unpleasant) dating experiences with my ex-partners who, now in retrospect I know, were sensors......|||You are so intelligent. You are smarter than you want people to know. You are charming. You are so sweet. You are a sincere person.|||Great observation! @niki, thanks, your post turned on my silly laughing machine! So funny but so true... the pictures of the small innocent' child in nature vs the serious matured grow-up inside 4...|||I desire to be together with him now... someone very special to me.|||I know it is an old thread, but  just really wanted to say thank you for such an honesty of your type.|||@myhotCaffeine   Dude, I hope you got enough rest. It's been almost a month since you first mentioning your essay. When will we see it? :)|||A badass steam-roller on the surface but marshmallow inside. On mine, talking about sexual intrigue!|||Humm... I don't think he knew my personality type, I think... unless he was that into typology (which I don't think so) or he was that do at typing.   I know I'm still considered different at my...|||Haha... thank you. I'll take that as a compliment to the INFPs! :)|||Welcome! I am a newbie, too.   You may get more response if you post this in the NT forums or the ENTP forum.  I hope you find what you want in Personality Cafe. :)|||Thanks. I read that. Very entertaining.  The first sentence is an uncanny accuracy of my belief which back up by actions -- I will help the whole world one person at a time.    Thanks NTs for...|||EDIT:   No way! It's creepy when we hardly know each other and we were in a business setting.   But yes, I would have LOVED it if we were already dating. IF the attraction was mutual, meaning...|||Haha... decide what? :)  My question is: Is bold declaration of romantic admiration characteristic of ENFJs? I didn't ask for an evaluation of the content of his letter to me. Make sense? :)   ...|||No problem... really, I didn't sense any of these at all. Thanks for being thoughtful, though. :)|||As a Fi-dom user, I lock up my feelings (both positive and negative)  inside me. It may look like I'm expressive about how I feel, but whatever I  express to the outside world is generally only the...|||@myhotCaffeine  Haha, I like how you called me dude. Thanks bud. LOL! (in my silly mood this morning...)|||This sounds exhausting! Thanks for doing this for our type!   I do know that generally it is more productive to strengthen the first 4 functions instead of developing the shadow functions which...|||He seems INTP to me.   About the humor: INTPs I know can be funny and humorous in situations I least expected.|||@myhotCaffeine,  Come back soon with your essay. Can't wait!! I practically would like to read more about how to develop a strong Se. Thanks!|||Thanks! I find this insightful... something for me ponder on today.   It looks like ENFJs' emotions and affections for others run just as deeply as the INFPs' do, but the INFPs keep those feelings...|||I guess it could be frustrating when the results were totally opposite from what you wanted. I guess people like to know that they are liked or admired. But when the message of romantic interests...|||Thanks for the concern! I did tell him that I was not interested.|||Yes, bold or not bold is subjective and relative. I'm not interested in him and I told him so. But I am interested in learning to understand ENFJs as a group more. The more I understand a type, the...|||Yes, creepy is the word that explains how I feel!   I am not interested in him and I told him so nicely.|||Why do you think so? :)|||I forgot to mention that I told him nicely that I was not interested.   I like that you mentioned about politeness. Yes, when I was younger, I would do things against my own preference in order...|||BTW, that was not my comment. I wonder if you took that wrongly. Those are my questions. I don't know so I asked. Care to educate me? :)|||Why my comment is complete non sequitur? Do you care to explain more, please? I am curious.|||How about those who change from being atheists to theists, such as Antony Flew? What happens to their smartness?|||Hello ENFJs,  I met this guy in a business conference which lasted several days. After it finished, he wrote me a love letter saying how much he admired my charms and physical beauty (in his...|||Thanks for sharing your stories. I can totally relate to them!|||@SweetieDee, I highly recommend the essay written and posted by @myhotCaffeine, a wonderful INTJ who cares so much to try to help us INFPs. You can find her essay in this thread.|||Thank you for educating me about the Weltschmerz thing! I now understand where you come from! Here we clicked: I actually understand the Weltschmerz thing but without the strong intensity of negative...|||My second question is: maybe some INFPs naturally enjoy this state of being sad and dark and don't won't to change?   There is no right or wrong emotions but there is healthy and unhealthy...|||Can I have questions instead?   My first question is: can the following solutions help the troubled INFPs? Please note that all the 3 solutions are utilizing the fact that the human mind can only...|||Hey, seriously, I am still reading. It is very deep (for me). It does show that you've spent a lot of efforts on it. Wow!|||Please prove me wrong for you to say what I wrote is wrong.|||Well said! It's not easy for me because of my strong P, but it's doable: I've learned to focus my attention on what I want but not on what I don't want.|||I really appreciate that you shared with me the bigger picture!   I just wanted to help...|||Yes, people tend to underestimate our type but we also naturally underestimate ourselves, not being confident about our abilities, not being showy about our achievements and shield our inner selves...|||Am I being too honest (without knowing it until someone mentions it) again?? :rolleyes:|||You are brilliant! Thank you for having the interest in helping my fellow INFPs. I don't have the darkness issue mentioned in this thread though. OK, I just printed your essay out and I'll let you...|||Similar feeling here. When I was a child, if I smashed an ant, I feel guilty and would lose in thinking if the ant's family were waiting for him/her to go home at sunset... how did they feel that the...|||This is very dark, IMO. Your profile says you are an enneagram 9, the Peacemakers. Are you sure? I am an INFP enneagram 9, not just I cannot relate to the darkness being mentioned here in this...|||I am a bit ticked at myself. When I joined Personalty Cafe, I decided not to disclose my experiences with a sociopath. But damn it, due to the altruistic nature of an INFP and the need to help...|||I hope I can offer some help here with my limited knowledge... an unfortunate situation which put me in up-close contact and experiences with a sociopath for more than a decade and still going on......|||I am an INFP. I'd always had this feeling of  being a stranger in this world until I found out I belonged to a  group of personality type called INFPs. That day when I read the  personality profile...'