'Google took me back to this forum, because of this thread.   Leone, what are you doing now? Whatever you get paid for, I hope you write.   What do the non-cubicle-dwellers do? Looking for ideas.|||How do you deal with irrational arguments, labelling, scapegoating, and awfulness in a relationship with an adult sibling? How do you get past old hurts and patterns and move towards a peaceable...|||thecaterpillar - Oh my god, no worries - I should have known better than to use a double negative online, given how fragile this kind of thing is... sorry!   PM'ing you in a minute...|||Sorry... I'm a bit nosy, but your post above was so declarative, so clear... It can be hard to find that kind of joy in life, which is so short... and it makes me sad to think of it being boxed up...|||Depends where you are... in my city, there are dozens of bands playing any night of the week.|||Not really speaking from a whole lot of experience here - I studied music, made a sort of half-assed commitment for a few years in my early twenties, and gave up for many of the reasons already...|||Not impossible...|||Adore dancing... it's a great release, amazing fun. As a casual dancer, I guess I'm not too bad (get compliments occasionally), though am light-years away from some of the amazing dancers I see...|||gravitycantforget: forgot to offer actual advice. Protein is awesome. Fills you up, and keeps you going longer than most other things. Lean proteins are best. Add whole grains and vegetables, and...|||Well, I agree it's important to emphasize how change is possible, absolutely.   But the pressures you and I both mentioned are not imaginary, and it takes extra planning and learning to counter...|||Of course! But understand that making the leap from A to B isn't a cakewalk (groan) for someone who may very well be dealing with very real physiological effects like insulin resistance, or at least,...|||Flora - I've seen that. Makes sense, good advice.   I'm not an emotional eater (I tend to be more disorganized, as in, 'whoops, forgot to eat until 5, now I need a 60oz steak or I'll hurt...|||Yes, sympathize completely. 'Circling' is an apt description of what happens; my arguments are full of digressions, which I usually feel are necessary preludes to my main point. It exasperates ExTJs...|||You said it.   I think one thing to look for is  - as has been mentioned above - feeling a sense of comfort and ease around the person. Rather than palpitations, nausea, and other signs of...|||Yeah, I definitely have missed opportunities in the past (later confirmed). Atm I'm not looking for something serious, but a girl gets lonely, you know... Lately I've said just generally affirming...|||Policy work, marketing, web stuff, librarianship / research, academia, public service, arts or arts management. But. Even in those fields - in any field - you have to be skilled at politics. Life is...|||I tend to prefer not to be verbally explicit when speaking to a guy I like, though I've experimented a bit with this recently. And really, I mean a bit. I suppose my attraction becomes clear through...|||Not a priority right now. Still recovering from the last relationship, which was an ongoing battle of wills, and left me wondering who I am. (It was not within the normal range of relationship...|||Awful at it, bad spatial/visual memory (but, high acuity, weirdly), get stressed if I haven't got a map of some kind or haven't been to the place at least 5 times.|||The most accomplished people I know protect their time. It's important.   I used to be a lot more like you are now... At the time, I felt honoured in a way, to be trusted with confessions and...|||This is horribly, painfully manipulative behaviour, whether she knows it or not (she may not). She has no right to entrap you with her victimhood, and you are not responsible for her mental or...|||The world is just.|||If that's the case, it sounds like a great fit!|||Marketing/PR and IT/information systems can offer a lot, if novelty, challenge, problem-solving, feeling driven, and making connections are important - particularly in an agency/consultancy...|||That's great, Morningcalm! Glad to have been of help. It's nice that you and your wife are doing this together. Good for the belly; good for the marriage :)|||I find it easier to communicate complex ideas in written vs. spoken communication. My thoughts move faster than I can capture in speech. And there are a million details I usually want to address.   ...|||Yup, by a bit.|||There's no secret to the formula. Following the Food Guide + daily exercise = controlled weight. Doing it is another matter, for that there are mos def secrets :)    It helps to think of working...|||I'm less introverted than you, but I have had crippling social anxiety. Are you more introverted (fatigued by interaction) or socially anxious (fearful of interaction)? You said this: The only time I...|||I misspoke - you can't prove the non-existence of a thing. (You can, of course, prove a 'negative'.)|||HI again, ok I only now read your second post. College certificates... The funding picture is obv much better. But to be honest, a lot of employers don't understand them. They can't always tell the...|||If you have NO idea what it is you'd like to do, steer clear of committing to anything for a while. Take a gap year, or two, and use the time constructively. Work, and save. Volunteer. Experiment...|||You've gotten an amazingly comprehensive response above. The 'Big Five' mentioned are indeed our top research universities, and attract the best/brightest profs and students (and the most cash). U of...|||Just want to comment on a comment above: depending on where you live, if you just want to stop after an MA, the undergrad in psych *might* still matter, for counseling programs (not so, for the most...|||verifiable proof of the existence or nonexistence of a deity  You can't prove a negative.|||@ android654: I know you weren't trying to be at all hostile... I just felt I'd maybe spoken too bluntly. I hear you... that sounds frustrating. I still think a good derm could help. (I also wonder...|||HELL no. It nearly killed both of us. I'm not really joking.   (INF/TP woman w/ ENTJ ex)  edit: I'm far from submissive, but am laid back - as in, I don't seek to influence others, necessarily -...|||Sorry to have been abrupt above. In no way did I mean to suggest that you *should* seek out these more expensive treatments (or, my god, hide under some kind of half-sarcophagus). I wouldn't like for...|||Have you been told this by a dermatologist? Fractional laser resurfacing & chemical or physical dermabrasion can do a lot (depending on your skin, of course; your mileage will vary); retin-A can...|||As a kid, I was sensitive and socially incompetent. Got my bruises. Spent my twenties enthralled/excited by science, philosophy, art. Fine things. Was driven by that world-saving impulse. By now -...|||Not sure I agree that no one wants to work. People want to feel productive. Work is a profoundly existential activity. (See Studs Terkel's Working, summary here.)  We have constraints we're born...|||Yeah, not proud of saying I've gotten huffy at times, but it's been more of a strangled cri du coeur than anything effective. I think (but could be wrong) that I did more of this when I was younger. ...|||Yeah, there is NO WAY Simone de Beauvoir is anything other than J. Plath too.    Honestly, I'd guess more INFPs (generally) would find fame and that kind of professional identity by accident over...|||tomilis: It's been a while since I've been here; glad to see your response :)  Agree that property laws (and the whole of capitalism, really) have amplified and entrenched natural differences (to...|||You have shown several times in your post how despite lacking every normal advantage (and right), you found incredible internal resources to put yourself in a better place; to express yourself; to...|||Paragon: If we remove the cause of greed, which is scarcity, then there wouldn't be an incentive for greed to exist.   This, I can't get behind. We will always be fallible. We will always struggle...|||Paragon - first, I acknowledge that I'm a political dilettante, but on the face of it, libertarianism and socialism seem to contradict each other; I'd welcome a more detailed explanation, if you're...|||Hey hey, please don't get discouraged! You can only start from where you are! Don't look to compare yourself to others. They haven't lived your life.   Don't let this hiccup get to you. Get as much...|||Cripes, 176! Smart cookie.   I tested at 140 as a kid, and was enrolled in the 'gifted' class - neither fact has helped me in my ordinary life. Later on, grades were heavily bipolar - As and Fs,...|||Hey, I did a postbacc in journalism. Loved the programme. I did some comms work in non-profits and universities after that, which wasn't too bad, though I found it a bit boring after a while....'