'I lived through a lot of abuse when younger. That came back to haunt me in my 20's. Flashbacks. Of my abuse. Severe ones. Lasted an entire summer. 3 months of hell. Had intense emotional flares where...|||First off, the time needed to recover from a breakup will depend on such things as how long it went for, how invested the involved parties were, how tumultuous the relationship was (or how many...|||lol  Oh really? Do tell.  :happy:|||Well said. Motivation is everything.|||I used to be part of an online program that would have Reunions every year, a different destination each time. Reunions for like 15 years! Anyone who used the program was invited to come. So you'd...|||If you just wanted to release some of your emotional pressure, then yes, this was a good way. But if you are hoping it will affect change in the situation, I'm afraid it will not have the desired...|||Perfect bookends! You can't find the words to express it, we can't seem to find the ones anyone else will understand. Same outcome! *hugs* Welcome to the club|||I know, it's like the mothership just beamed us up and flew us to our home planet. We're not alone after all. Welcome to the family  ;)|||That right there is the clincher. When people ascribe or question my motives they are challenging my very core. My motivations are everything. You just hit the bullseye on the nerve that all of us...|||I've been having trouble with a few friendships because of this. They have very set ideas about what they think I'm thinking or feeling, which are inaccurate, and they think I need to change how I...|||I love this thread! You always see so many threads about the things all the NFs share, but these questions have really been an eye-opener into our differences. I love comparing and contrasting and...|||I thought the same thing! But I love it  :D  Woot, thinkers. You turn me on when you use your thinking to connect to my world.  (Yes, I know the original poster is female. I don't care. :P ...|||1. Do you automatically realize when you are experiencing an emotion? Yes. It's kind of shocking to think anyone wouldn't. Interesting revelation.   2. When you realize that you're experiencing...|||Love math and puzzles and games. I like figuring things out. I want a bit of a challenge, because then I didn't just accomplish something, I learned something to boot.|||Haha, I pity guys watching that, because yeah, us INFP's, even if we don't totally identify with everything the girl in the video said, we are TOTALLY paradoxes in so many ways, and that can't be...|||Something I've come to believe about J vs. P is that J's like to organize people and what they do, P's seem to like to organize things (data, objects, memories, etc.) That being said, I have almost...|||ima3w4sx  You still there? How did it go?   You okay?|||While anything is possible in this world, and an ENFJ is really really good at seeing those possibilities, I think this is one of those things you can't change. If someone is interested in girls,...|||Both geared toward people, especially about helping people live to a truer form of themselves.   Fiercely protective about people they care about.  Can get amazingly agitated (and aggressive)...|||The responses by strawberryLola and psyche made me think of a conversation I was having the other day with someone about the welfare system. There are a growing number of people with physical...|||That's an intense schedule! No wonder you are stretched taut!   It makes sense you would start craving a deep connection with people when your schedule disconnects you from anything but what you...|||I think it's a highly complex subject.  It's a demoralizing experience for those that are truly in it. People in poverty are always losing out in some way, because they have to choose which of the...|||Can't we all get along??? lol  I'm with WickerDeer, the more I watch and learn about different spiders, the more respect and appreciation I find for them as living things. But I treat every living...|||I agree with Epic Love  It's so awesome to hear about a relationship that has weathered the storms and has grown (and even thrived!) in the years it's been there. 18 years is great!  Can I ask,...|||When a problem comes up, and you'd like to handle it yourself, don't tell it to your parents until AFTER you've handled it. They obviously have a compulsion to always want to handle it for you, not...|||Actually, when I think about it, if you ever read comments on any website anywhere, people generally think anyone else is dumb if those people aren't agreeing with their comments. lol    I think...|||WOW! Think of all the potential. Everything it was, everything it could be!|||Yes! Give me old houses. I need that history, to touch the past. I want depth and story and colorfulness and challenge. I want something that has it's own personality. Something that has cracks and...|||You realize, neither of you share any of the same functions. Of course this is going to challenge your brain! Both of you are going to challenge each other to think in new ways.   This isn't a game...|||This simple statement conjured up a dramatic mental picture for me. If their personality is strong like a solar sun, and it attracts other planetary bodies to revolve and coexist with it, I'm so for...|||When you both were younger, your disagreements were about the things children fight over. Now that you both are getting into the adult world, the stakes are higher. You're going to be disagreeing...|||When I was younger, I'd react harshly. Now I stop and try to dissect what's behind the comment.  I ask things like:  Why did the person say what they said? What motivates them?   Is it their...|||I'm going to take the heavier route, since I don't know exactly where you are on the chaotic/grounded scale you are thinking of.  When things in the outside world upset my inner stability, when...|||Because INFPs and ISTJs share all the same functions, just in a different order. So in reality, you don't share any functions with either the INFP or the ISTJ...kind of an opposites attract kind of...|||I had two LDRs, and although they didn't work out, it wasn't because of the distance.  LDRs aren't for everyone. Some people need that immediate-vicinity contact. Personally, I'm the kind of person...|||This is a possibility    You made some valid points. I decided I was too hasty and needed more information, because basing a typing off of one video seemed kind of narrow. In the posted video,...|||lol  I can't picture any INFP or ISFP being able to keep up a continuous stream of words like that. We're looking at an E, for sure.   Definitely has a passion about what they believe in, but the...|||Is he asking this because he wants something to work on, or because he thinks he can fix it and suddenly become what you want? That put a little caution flag up for me.  The things you critique him...|||1. How do you attend to your looks as an NF? (Makeup, eyebrows,hair styles, etc?)  For everyday living, I don't want to spend a lot of time and effort on how I put myself together. I have too much...|||I thought that was an interesting reason to stay in the relationship. They didn't say it was because they care about the person, or because the person provides something your friend lacks, or that...|||When I meet people I clique with, I tell them, You're my kind of crazy. @entheos @OrangeAppled attic , I do believe you guys might be my kind of crazy  :)    I think we're constantly put in a...|||When I was in my early twenties, I used to help several elderly people clean their homes. The one woman I cleaned for was very gentle and sweet, I never had any problems with her, but she would...|||Please don't stop! I like how you say things. And you always offer a new perspective to the conversation at hand. :)|||This. 100%.  What do you see wrong that you'd love to help be the solution to? Just because things are a certain way doesn't mean they are supposed to be that way. Can you get involved in something...|||Is it possible you had to do a LOT of focusing recently, and it's starting to show? INFPs can be intensely focused when something is important, but after awhile, they burn out from being so driven....|||So, to join that childlike delight with words of wisdom, I bring you Kung Fu Panda.  (I just watched the third movie and it's tagged my brain for the next week... and I make NO apologies for...|||I think Master Oogway says it the best:  609218|||Depends on how much is going on in the scene, how quickly it unfolded, and whether or not the mental and emotional resources were tied up in something else at the time. If the emotions are pretty...|||I don't think #1 has been my experience. Fi and Fe can both be reactive. I've seen ESTJs become highly reactive, and they use Fi. It's not about what function you have, because Fi and Fe should not...|||Maybe I'm misunderstanding the initial question, because I didn't automatically link Ne with creativity. Creativity kind of is out there on it's own.   For me, my creativity is a way of releasing...'