'I thought an update might be interesting.A year after I first posted,  my INTJ and I are still together and are deeply in love. He is the love of my life, and the feeling appears to be mutual. He has...|||I wouldn't do all of that analysis about her and her motives. If I realized I knew her, I'd accept her friend request. I have a couple of thousand FB friends. Accepting requests isn't something I...|||I do the same. There is something fascinating about every human being. Every human being has at least one compelling story that they can tell about themselves if one takes the time to ask them about...|||I do not like being around constant whiners, people addicted to drama or people who try to use me as an emotional dumping ground by talking to me only about their problems.|||Best way to connect with me -- through shared interests. Best way to maintain a connection-- shared interests including by tagging me of FB when you post things related to my interests. Do not call...|||Your posting here in the way that you did in order to get support doesn't sound like how ENFPs operate. We are the ones who inspire others. We are charismatic and attract suppporters who believe in...|||It's an ENFP world. We are the ones who have fun and success and  can also benefit from being attractive to the people who are responsible, have lucrative careers and love us.|||Intj's respond honestly to direct questions. It's fine-- and will save a lot of time and anxiety- if you tell him what you want from the relationship and ask what he wants.|||I wonder what type of woman would find that a turnon. I am attracted to sexually dominant, confident men. I would be turned off by humiliation of either of us. I like to say things like, I'm yours....|||Men who are afraid to be dominant for fear of frightening women may benefit by understanding that for many women like me, the joy of being with a sexually dominant man is that I feel very desired....|||Have you tried really kissing him? I don't mean giving a platonic closed mouth kiss: I mean deep kissing him. The unmistakable chemistry that exploded  when I opened my mouth and really kissed my now...|||Make shower together and make him wash you, with soap and stuff.  Ask him to give you a full massage, with perfumed oils - edible oils exist, prepare candles, soft music and such.  She would...|||BTDT with a couple of former boyfriends who were submissive. They just got pissed and then rolled over and went to sleep, leaving me very frustrated There really are some men who are very submissive....|||Google for advice. Here's what I found by googling make him dominate in bed. My How-To Guide for Men on How To Dominate a Woman in Bed ;) : sex|||She wants him to be dominant. You described him being submissive.|||I don't think that being submissive is an INTJ trait as my INTJ is dominant in bed. He's laid back otherwise. I do think, however, that one can't change a submissive into a dominant or vice versa.|||I love my INTJ's sensual, focused, highly skilled loving that's the best I've ever had. And I love the fact that he's honest, responsible, analytical, intelligent, funny and calm.|||I like it that my INTJ is like a smoldering fire that erupts into flames with me. If his intense sexuality were more obvious, I'd have to fight off women to stay next to him.|||My INTJ doesn't seem to get annoyed by my talking because I tend to be quieter than usual when I am one on one with him. I've noticed he really listens to me so I talk with him only when I really...|||Blech. Well, the upside of that is that your husband didn't tell you that he fathered a child outside of your marriage, which is what my husband told me.|||I'm an ENFP who was faithful during a marriage of more than 20 years to an IN (I don't know his full type, but I am sure he is an IN) who during our last years of marriage was so disinterested in sex...|||Therapy combined with medication is the best treatment for severe depression. BTDT. Severe Depression, like diabetes, is a medical problem, not something you can talk yourself out of.|||Can you do your online work while sitting in coffee shops? I hated working out of home. ENFPs need the energy of being surrounded by people.|||You are an enfp: use your gifts. Throw parties, take interesting classes and workshops; create events like meet up groups, volunteer. Enfps create fun. We don't wait for it to come to us.|||Acting, dance or other fun classes. Volunteering backstage in theater (lots of the backstage and tech folks will be Infps, potentially good friends. At least some enfps will be among the actors.|||I'm in my '60s, typically get cast in roles for characters in their 40s. While I have close friends who are as old as 76, most of my close friends are 15-35 years younger. My boyfriend is just a year...|||Someone earlier posted that INTJs are asexual. My experience with mine is that isn't the case. In public, he seems calm and asexual. He is extremely sexual, passionate and sensual, but puts forth...|||He is so cool, analytical and calm, but in bed he is very hot, demonstrative,  creative and skilled (because when INTJs want to learn something, they learn it with their whole hearts!)   He doesn't...|||Hang out with ENFPs. Some of my best friends are INFPs. I treasure their insights, wisdom and listening skills. They seem to treasure my involvement with activities that they normally would avoid,...|||I don't try to change self-absorbed people. Trying to change others is a waste of time. I avoid self-absorbed people.|||My INTJ boyfriend isn't sexist at all.|||The ENFPs I know are all 40 and over, and we are very self confident.|||What do they usually do to get infinite mental simulation?  Classes, conferences, workshops, lectures in subjects that interest them. They'll be the ones sitting in the front row, asking lots of...|||I thought partying is about drinking alcohol and get fun as there is  strong relationship betwen partying and drinking alcohol. why no  alcohol? reason?  Partying really is about being social --...|||I do like to party, and often do so. However I also like quiet time alone and with my INTJ. My INTJ is fine with me partying without him, and I'm fine with his not being interested in partying  a...|||I met my  INTJ in a community theater troupe. He had never been involved in theater before, but got involved in this one because it does original politically-related productions, and he's very into...|||I agree that when INTJs let you into their hearts, they are very playful. They only show that side of themselves to people whom they trust.|||Honesty, ethics, compassion, kindness, liberal/progressive politics, independent, monogamous, fun, and he must have friends and most do more with his life than go to work and watch TV or play video...|||While I don't fit #2 in the bonus, I fit the rest of the bill, including being intelligent. Yes, people with those characteristics do exist! I am not offering myself to you: I am female and am in a...|||Sometimes I do keep talking when people want the conversation to end. A lot of times, however, people keep talking when I want the conversation to end. It's hard for me to extricate myself from...|||You sound  a lot like my INTJ. I have no idea why she is not responding to your romantic overtures unless she is simply not interested in having a romantic relationship. I wanted to keep my...|||I enjoy being naked with my INJP. :)|||I do not analyze why I am attracted to him. I wonder what he's like in bed. :)|||My INTJ's love language is personal time. If that's your INTJ's love language, I suggest doing something with him that he enjoys. The cost of the gift wouldn't be important. The enjoyable time with...|||I am an ENFP woman who was in a platonic then a friends with benefits and now am in a romantic relationship with an INTJ. My question to you, DB Cooper is how is the sex for her? I am a mature woman...|||I like being naked with my INJP. :)|||I forgive if someone does something horrible to me, but I don't continue the relationship at an intimate level. I forgave my soon to be ex husband for cheating on me and having a baby with another...|||INFP are my favorite because they are kind, good listeners, compassionate, and wise. Several of my best friends are INFPs. They also enjoy hanging out with me and they respond to my efforts to get...|||Upper ear lobe piercings are ordinary. Nothing to stress about getting.|||I thought the guide was silly and wrong. I think that introverts should just be themselves with the caveat that when they need time to think, they should let the extrovert know so the extrovert...'