'I know this is ancient news, but she sounds like she has a Cluster B personality disorder.   Do some reading and see if they match. People with antagonistic personality disorders do not match any...|||You make a good point, hammersklavier. I'll define my terms. I view self-esteem as one's identity. By identity, I mean how one see themselves, and sometimes how one imagines others see them.  ...|||Self-esteem is an internal thing, but we confuse that fact because it began as an external thing.   In childhood, we gained our sense of identity entirely from the signals we received, the...|||This is the right advice, and I'll take it.     I'll go No Contact. When they become adults, maybe I'll become Facebook friends with one of the kiddos. If they have questions or stories to...|||Thank you, lollicat.  I needed that.  It does seem like it would be like diving into quicksand.|||Good grief, these are long posts. My apologies. Writing in my journal didn't seem to be enough. Guess I have a need to share this with someone. My top friends aren't equipped to hear this stuff, and...|||One reason I asked for advice was whether I should try to help this woman in some way, or at least suggest to her she's got a problem and needs psychological counseling. So much of the advice I see...|||Oh, I forgot some information. She's moved 4-5 hours away, and the insurance and registration are expired on the car.   She crashed the car in an ice storm last winter. She had it towed to the...|||Pardon my crudeness, but holy shit!  I wanted to resurrect this old thread and give a quick update. All good INFJs of the counselor persuasion, I might need your help at some point.   This post...|||I wish I had half their energy.    http://youtu.be/WIKqgE4BwAY|||That's one cool cat.   Random Thought: My cat's name is Kitty Girl, like she's a superhero. The only patrolling she does is for birds, though.|||Nice! This is a little mesmerizing to me, especially when I run my cursor over them.  Sad and Disgusted get so big.  Distracted is the word that describes me most of the time these days.  That would...|||Yes, yes it is.     I've never played, but I think I know the answer, but I need context, so I have to ask: Is Fenniken really the best?    We don't have enough words for emotions.|||When I was younger, I'd get drawn into the melee, to prove a point or to prove how smart I was. As I've gotten older, I've decided it's not worth the trouble most of the time, and I'm not trying to...|||Thank you for all the perspectives. You don't know how helpful it is to me.   Since our dinner, we've had 2-3 phone and email conversations. I'm starting to think she's having several different...|||This is a relationship question involving an INFJ.   I'm hoping to get some clarity (clue) from a few INFJs out there. One of the reasons this relationship fell apart was because I never pick up on...|||That's exactly why I join in these discussions.  It's really rare online or offline to have a forum where ideas about religion are discussed in a rational fashion.  Usually, it's all the baggage that...|||I may be derailing the conversation a bit, so forgive if I get replies off-track, Ablysmal.  Those sentences I highlighted reminded me of a study I saw earlier this year or last year. In it, research...|||When science fiction is done right, it's great. When science fiction is done badly, it's absolutely freaking awful. Maybe it's that way with a lot of things, but I'm saying there's a chasm and not...|||I give it a big YEA.    Science fiction can get a point across on the sly, or look at an issue in a new and compelling way.  Often, when I read the modern slice of life type of fiction, if they're...|||Isn't Mammon the symbol of greed? I'm no Buddhist scholar, but I don't see much of a connection. I'm no Biblical scholar, either, so maybe there's more to Mammon than I know.   I can argue...|||All of this, except with work.   I do freelance writing for a living and cannot make myself concentrate lately. That's bad, because I have to devote at least some of my time to productive work....|||You're welcome. I've been there myself, so I know how it is.  I'm assuming you either still have feelings or you feel a need to know why this great guy is acting a little flaky, so I'll give it a...|||This is Supersede's ghost. Your brother from Texas fulfilled his destiny and disemboweled himself. He was a power user, so blame Windows 8.|||I've got to get a new cellphone.   The phone's old and rickety, but the biggest problem is, it slides open to text, to answer the phone, and so on. So last night, I was texting my girlfriend to...|||Since we have a sub-plot in this thread, I wanted to ask a question relating to our sub-plot.  Before I get to that question, let me write a paragraph.   I've had it in my head that someone saying,...|||When this happens, it reminds me of a child who is really sleepy (and you can tell it), but they don't want to go to bed or take a nap. That's how I feel my brain is sometimes...too hardheaded to...|||I've seen this pattern before.   I do that thing where I have my whole week planned out in my head, so I seldom have time to fit new people into it. If I ever make that change and the significant...|||Hear hear!|||Well, there you have it...God has spoken. It's nice to have a definitive answer to this question. There's no topping that screen name.|||http://youtu.be/OAZPPY6Rp0M  One of these days, I'm going to start from post #1 and make this thread my playlist. That might take a year, though.|||Interesting to note.  Thanks to everyone for your replies so far.  It's nice to discuss without the usual histrionics associated with  discussions of evolution--I love INTPs.  It's just I was...|||It was my assumption that plants and animals evolved from a common ancestor.   Better put, I've been thinking that all life on planet Earth evolved  from a common life form.  If that were true, the...|||I was watching some documentary the other night about what alien life might be like, in which they analyzed alien-seeming life here on Earth. It got me to wondering if these hypothetical aliens would...|||That's uncool.  I used to have a friend who would bring a friend along for game night, but this guy never wanted to join in the fun.  He would fall asleep and then wake up in the middle of the game,...|||My buddy always orders Marlboro Medium 100s...IN A BOX.  Heaven forbid if you should give him Marlboro Medium 100s in a soft pack.  I don't smoke, so I don't know the difference, but apparently, it's...|||Growing up, I was good at baseball, football, soccer, tennis, ping pong--you name it.  I rode motorcycles and was a good water skier.  I stood in the driveway and shot baskets to all hour's of the...|||That's so awesome I don't have words to describe it. The Einstein logo is classic. So is Darwin. So is...|||http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x69mpUH-sGY&feature=share&list=PLJG2GJx-2SrO52lX7NWUPKjE6QvsD0W5K|||We might have been separated at birth. I'm Gen X, INTP, and 5w4, and my girlfriend went to a costume party last Halloween as that same Twilek character--at my suggestion.  Coincidence? Perhaps.   ...|||Well, they say sex is like pizza; it's still pretty good either way.|||I second that motion. Let's have a vote.|||Like some kind of Candid Camera/Punk'd from the future? That sounds about right for the progress of the human race. In this episode, we send a holographic flying saucer and gray aliens back to...|||Deal. I'll come in disguise, i.e. not wear my Demarcus Ware jersey. That might get dangerous in Philly.|||I agree, KT: people cling to their attitudes for all kinds of reasons.   (1) One night my INFJ ex-girlfriend (who believed in ghosts and psychic powers) and I were walking in a nature preserve in...|||I'm a Cowboys fan (forgive me) and I'll agree...Barry Sanders was better than Emmitt Smith, who, for those INTPs who hate football, holds all the records.  I'll say Emmitt Smith had the best career...|||Oh, of course, iNfeRN0xx!!!...I get the two of them mixed up every time...yeah, that guy sucks.|||Ooh, that's tough.  I've been the second best man a couple of times and, for this very reason, I much preferred that.    It's probably one of those situations where it's best to try to break out of...|||Letters are good, but personal crests display a person's individuality within their classification. INTPs like the esoteric. And besides, they're decorative.|||This should explain everything: http://personalitycafe.com/myers-briggs-forum/146727-proposal-construction-personal-shields.html#post3929561. I think you'll find it very INTP when seen in its full...'