Perhaps the more intelligent people can see others' flaws more easily and just choose to not tolerate bullshit and be amicable. If you're a top 0.5% IQ person for example, it can be very hard to...|||I'm just trying to explain that from a technical standpoint, the chemical mechanisms are exactly the same for love and lust, and since there are in fact things you can do to manipulate attraction,...|||That sounds exactly like infatuation. :)  By the way, I know fluent Greek. Hahah. While they might have different words, agape and phile are pretty much the same thing and storge doesn't even...|||Getting married, having kids or even conventional work should not be considered the default or something you have to do. Doing things just because others choose to do said things would be stupid...|||While the thread seems answered, I want to add that once you realise what 'love' actually is, the basic chemical reactions and realise that people can be manipulated into feeling that in many ways,...|||Honesty is key in friendships and especially relationships, so clearly she doesn't belong. Your friend is probably attached to what she provides (not actually her as a person) and doesn't realise it,...|||You should never have been chasing others in the first place. Take a relaxed approach and if somebody is genuinely interested in you, something will probably happen. No effort or desperation...|||Regarding her child, I'd say in this situation that's a part of her life that you should not get involved in.  Also, 'rude' is somewhat subjective so perhaps she doesn't think she's being rude.|||I do not doubt that you may be highly intelligent, but clearly you have some issues with staying motivated on one thing long term. I assume this is because they actually bore you and then you...|||Don't take the advice of the person above me, that's nonsense. You get nowhere playing petty games like a kid. You don't need to ask to follow him, just go ahead and do it. Keep a casual mentality,...|||I think the most important traits in people as a whole are honesty, intelligence and a little bit of comedic worth. Obviously it helps if they have good eyebrows too.|||Usually I'd leave a thread like this a long response with lots of different viewpoints and tips, but sometimes you just need to step back and relax. That seems all too ideal, but it seems you give...|||It makes sense not to just pursue, often it's better to let things happen if they do occur naturally.|||Have you tried enjoying nature or something? Soothing self reflection?|||That's hard to say, so many names. It's nice being in London though cause you always see the artists around casually and they're a laugh. Anyway, if you want to link up some time, drop me a PM and we...|||Just an afterthought, do you live in or near London? You could come to a grime rave with me some time if you like.|||Are you here to demonstrate what a better video would look like?  You have no duty to tell her though, just let it sit there. If she ever gets into a mess for it, it's her own fault.|||I have a few little points to make here. Firstly, some of your friends by your description seem like they might actually be ill themselves. Disregarding that, I concur that the only people worth...|||Getting rid of those feelings is a matter of replacing them with better things. Keep busy and let the time pass. Perhaps study how human thought processes work a bit more so you have more of an...|||Of course not. Different topics, a fresh start, no grudges. By the way, are you doing better?|||Seems like she could be somebody who recognises social cues but chooses to forgo them in favour of her more direct form of communication. Non-conformism can be good sometimes. If she's smart,...|||This depends on your preference of OS really. If you consider the newest build of Windows to be equal in your preference to the Mac OS, then that's one of Apple's key attraction points gone.  If...|||I read 'cross country' and immediately assumed running. Oops.|||I've noticed in uni that older students are received just as well as younger, more typically aged students. I think it's because people in their late teens finally get old enough to appreciate...|||I think it would help if you didn't put the power in everybody else's hands instead of your own. You don't have to live on the validation of others.|||Maybe this is why you feel like you have a problem, because you seem to take everything (even respectful conversation or advice) to be hostile (as you've just demonstrated). Nonetheless, I won't...|||There wasn't anything contradictory at all, but you may absolutely feel free to quote the specific contradicting statements. |||Eventually having to lose my brother.|||My policy is to be respectful to everybody but not take shit from anybody.|||Physically I feel 21. In temperament and understanding, I feel a lot older.|||Second or third if it has to be one of those. I don't use dating sites or apps or any of that, but I can tell you what I've heard. Supposedly, wearing colours like red increases your perceived...|||Perhaps you should not automatically assume somebody is a troll because their perception differs from yours, even if they're willing to dispute and may seem negative or hostile. Some people have that...|||I just become more bubbly.|||Lots of things to address here, oh boy! 1) You should ask to switch to a different drug. 2) Is your depression acquired/built up or is it a natural physioloical disorder that you have (for most...|||What is it that makes perfectionism unhealthy?|||I can't and won't type you, because there is a subforum for that where more experienced people will do that for you. I will say however that I can somewhat relate to some of those balanced traits....|||Hi there. This section may be better for you to post in, you'll probably get more responses. http://personalitycafe.com/sex-relationships/ Good luck with your issue.|||There is actually a section for relationship advice, that you should consider next time. :)|||I love the style you type in.|||It's very weird to be asking for tips on deception or whatever you want to call it here.  Nonetheless, picture a bar/slider with you on one end and her on another. Often within any kind of...|||I'm just echoing what a couple of people have said already, but why the hell would somebody want to work for minimum wage if they can make much more? Failing to see any positives on the side of...|||A white one.|||Why would somebody else need or deserve said opportunity more than you just because they're a certain race?|||I have some general tips for you. The first is to know your audience. Different people respond better to different things. If you know what sort of person they are, you can have a better idea of how...|||Maybe you're witnessing some sort of social media effect, where people tend to only post pics and stuff of them having fun or doing 'good' things, so viewing all of that tricks people into thinking...|||I help others a lot and never ask for or require help.|||BranchMonkey Round here we aint play no games boi. :wink: Will give it a look soon though. Thanks again buddy, see you around.|||BranchMonkey Yep, like a busy bee. A curious one that flies straight in. Thanks for the welcome, hopefully it doesn't feel like forever until I can access the debate section.|||BranchMonkey I'm on mobile and those links are just taking me to the forums main page. Also I'm not a massive fan of food. |||What you told her is a very large burden to put on somebody (as I'm sure you already know). I don't think you should stop yourself from talking to her as much as you'd like to. There's nothing wrong...