'Kyfra, You pretty much stated my thoughts on the subject EXACTLY.   I am much better off when I'm single. I crave love, and when I'm in love I am insecure and miserable. When the relationship ends,...|||Obviously you are capable of empathizing. You told us already that this aunt was like a mother to your mom, so you realize what an important relationship this was to her.  When someone close to us...|||When I'm under a lot of stress and not really being myself, I test INFP, but the rest of the time as INFJ. I am definitely INFJ.|||I came from an exceptionally large family (8 kids), and have my own exceptionally large family.   One of my daughters is INFJ, and I am, too. She also has a ton of younger brothers. She and I both...|||Sometimes I wonder how much of it is strictly biological - the woman's search for the strongest, most aggressive men to have babies with.   Susan Sarandon, upon breaking up with Tim Robbins, said...|||It is through love that I feel I find my soul... for me, love is completely a spiritual/religious experience.  Have you read Sufi poetry? So spiritual, and so much of it is about love. Hafiz,...|||When I fell in love the first time, I felt I found the man who could reside within my soul.  It was (and is) a heartbreaking experience... I don't know if I could ever love anyone like that again.|||No, that is not actually what I meant.  Why not save yourself all sorts of time and not comment in threads you didn't read? I don't get the point in insisting your life is so busy and your time too...|||I saw some references to metaphors in another thread, and wanted to ask you all about it.  I love metaphors. So often it's the only way to really communicate something.  Why do you suppose that...|||I have been in long distance relationships, and the guy had NOTHING to worry about. He had my whole heart, and I never looked elsewhere.  As for past relationships - eventually I do fully get over...|||One of my favorite people in the world is INFP. I think sometimes I drive her crazy, she worries that she drives me crazy, but the coolest thing about her is that she doesn't mind when I overanalyze...|||I am so sorry.  You didn't get what was coming to you. You loved him, and there is nothing shameful in loving someone.|||Ha! I totally missed that line of text. Silly me!|||But that guy isn't dangerous, except to himself. He's thrill-seeking.  The only danger in loving a thrill-seeker, is that you might end up a young widow.|||That makes perfect sense to me. I'm like that with people that I don't have a really close relationship with in the first place.|||Did you read the whole topic?|||I'll have to think about this in terms of ISFJ. I have known people like that, and it's just foreign to me. I find it really annoying. I want to say, But just last week he was the biggest jerk on...|||I don't think by dangerous men I meant the same thing that you're describing here.  Also, I think there are lots of different approaches to problem solving, not just two.|||I was married for 20 years. I have learned to give 2nd, 3rd, 4th, etc., chances.  For me to do that, once someone has truly, really screwed up, is:  1. Honesty - I need the person to be...|||Better than just meeting you halfway - I'm sure someday you'll meet someone you like who thinks your quirks are really cool.  Just like there are women who like complicated men, there are men...|||The only way I read tarot is through empathy. I feel what they're feeling, then, through examining that feeling, find the details of the issue at hand. For me, the empathy comes first. It's why an...|||I just cannot imagine an INFJ being not empathetic. One of my daughters is INFJ. She can be counted on to cry watching things like the YouTube video of Korea's Got Talent where the guy talks about...|||I know they are cheating, but then want to believe I'm just overly paranoid. I need proof, absolute proof that they are lying and cheating. So... after some time of telling myself I'm just insecure...|||Ok. But... just look at all those symptoms. Dry skin, low heart rate, etc. Cause you can have thyroid problems but still test normal on the blood tests. It has to do with the body putting itself in...|||Oh, and yeah. Coffee is Life.|||Peer, if you have low blood pressure, is your body temp low, too?  Check your body temp with a glass thermometer. If it's also low, then you need to get your thyroid checked.  Wilson's...|||For me, you could add, Let her know you want her, then step back and give her space to get to know you and make up her mind. Do NOT let her see you checking out or pursuing other women in the hopes...|||Ya. When getting dressed in the morning I will make my kids decide which outfit to wear. About twice a week. I work behind a computer at a place where no one cares what I look like. I've also brought...|||I am the opposite - I open up very quickly about SOME things. And it therefore seems like I've opened up more than I actually have. There are just so many layers, and some of them are pretty...|||When I'm trying to decide something, or need to find a solution to something, I think and think and think about it. I pull up all the random bits of related information and re-examine them, and...|||I agree with almost all those bullet points completely, in regards to myself, at least.  This is awesome.|||Some people aren't worth the energy, you're right.  I had a bf many years ago who cheated on me the entire time. After I broke up with him, he saw me with my new bf who was very, very,...|||No lie.  The guy I was so madly in love with could not understand that about me. When I finally took revenge, it shocked him. Utterly shocked him.  From his pov, hurting someone out of neglect or...|||I feel like I know and accept myself. I also know that with new experiences, I will change my mind about things, and see things differently. Just because I know who I am TODAY doesn't mean I won't be...|||Cyborg vulcan? I see potential for danger there. ;)|||Yeah, I saw that. And felt a little guilty about it.  I think part of it is that I'm pretty odd. There are lots of layers. I've lived in a lot of places and done a lot of things, and some of them...|||I'm mostly thrilled that you wrote this:     I like to think there is hope for me. heh  Actually, I did meet a person a great deal like my ideal. I was not prepared to deal with him the way he...|||Yes. The one guy I really had trouble getting over told me I knew him in a way no one else ever had. He told me I knew his soul.  Actually, I can say that about my ex husband, too. Only one other...|||YES.  You got it!|||As a mother, I can state this is true.  As a woman, I can also state there is nothing wrong with fantasy and desire. Usually changing diapers and wiping noses isn't part of the fantasy.|||Oh, but I want them to look at me and WANT me to have their babies. heh|||Charlotte Bronte - Intuitive. Emily Bronte - Sensor.|||Nickelback. That's sensor.  NICKELBACK LYRICS - Figured You Out NICKELBACK LYRICS - Gotta Get Me Some|||One of my kids is ESFJ. He's a brilliant artist, but he works mostly with sculpture. He plays keyboards, draws, does 3d modelling, too. But his sculptures are amazing.  His art is physical, as...|||I would say ESFJ. I'm not a fan of his. He seems so... earthy. In a way that makes nice girls like me really uncomfortable. That's all I'm basing it on. heh  Just having seen videos and getting...|||Wouldn't you say David Lee Roth is a sensor?  But, overall, I do agree. Most of the writers I love, at least, would be intuitives.|||I have had some relatively long periods in life where I was much more extroverted. (Long periods as in 9 months or maybe a year or two.) But always, always, it reverts back to the need for lots of...|||I've done sales and fundraising. I do much, much better at fundraising.  In fact, I worked at a place where people could buy for themselves - or buy to donate to others. When I couldn't get them to...|||Um... yeah. The one scenario you can count on seeing me really scary in, is if I think some adult has mistreated one of my kids.  I sent my kid to the counter at a fast food restaurant since they...|||I don't know for sure, but I think he's ENFP, though he may be ENTP. He is very popular with other kids, younger kids especially like him. He's sunny, affectionate, sweet, and fun, but Greek...'