'How do you guys determine that your feelings for someone aren't real? That is the part that confuses me a bit.  And - while we're on the subject - do you find that your develop feelings randomly,...|||I've definitely hounded him a bit because I didn't believe him when he said he never liked her (intuition). Eventually he admitted that he had liked her, but that he assessed his feelings and decided...|||Thanks y'all. It blows my mind how different this personality type is from mine. I know a lot of people that would probably type as ENTJs or INTJs, for whatever reason I prefer hanging out with...|||He is definitely smart, and likes to think things through.   He's mentioned their incompatibility as one of the reasons he never acted on his feelings, but never explained why he thought to...|||Well, that explains why he never acted on his feelings - but ultimately, he says that he ever really had them. He says that he thought he did, but realizes that they were merely due to the fact that...|||Well, by flirting I meant that they were touchy-feely. He'd hug her a lot, do cute things like give her piggyback rides, etc., which I know is his way of flirting; but to her, that might just be...|||An ENTJ that I know is very good friends with a girl whom he used to have feelings for. Well, he claims that he only thought he liked her, because the two of them were roommates for several months...|||(Deleted). Decided this would be better on another thread as a post - but am unable to delete this thread!|||Hello everyone! Do you guys feel like you engage in any sort of emotionally suppressive or avoidant behavior, and if so, could you please describe it? I'm talking about a long term coping mechanism,...|||Depends on the insect/pest. Spiders I normally squish. If it's an especially large one or if it's something especially scary, I try to get someone else who's home to get rid of it for me. I do feel...|||Yup! I start to think about everything that could happen if I accepted and reacted to the romantic advancements. Like, oh man what if I flirt back, and he asks me out, and we start dating, but I'm...|||It seems pretty variant. I think certain personality types are quite prone to high self esteem whereas others are more vulnerable to the opposite (like ENFPs), but not exceptionally so...|||Wouldn't want it any other way :wink:    I'm the same way. People say, just be yourself! and I'm like, who's that?   I thought that there'd be more responses given the number of ENFPs I...|||Hey squad.  How would you rate your level of confidence/self-esteem, and why?  I know a lot of ENFPs (myself included) who just aren't that confident. Figured I'd get more answers on here!|||I have generalized anxiety disorder coupled with episodes of depression (these episodes only last for a few days, though, and seem to come and go randomly). When my anxiety gets really bad, I get...|||I know how you feel. I think that there's a big difference, however, between telling people your secrets and allowing people to get close to you. You can be emotionally open, honest and close with...|||So, from my own experience as an ENFP - we tend to be a little... non-committal. I don't mean that in the sense that we don't like to get into relationships (quite the contrary, I've found), it's...|||Perhaps I'm not coming across clearly - what I was saying was that I am not walking away, because I don't feel able to do that.  I am trying to understand the causes of my ENTJs behavior so that I...|||Well, I am trying to make changes - and I seek to understand his behavior and way of thinking so that I'm aware of what needs to be done differently. So no, I'm not just doing the same things and...|||Yup. If I'm not mistaken - you've got something going on with an ENFP? I feel like someone in one of the ENTJ forums did.   We're okay, I guess. As per the suggestion of pretty much everyone I...|||As ENTJs, do you guys feel like you have a habit of giving people advice, or teaching them - often of your own accord?   I'm friends with an ENTJ who constantly advises me to do things that I'm...|||That is quite a good summary, I think - we assume things will get better. And, in our defense, they often do!  I'm surprised at the response rate, and really pleased with the number of ENFPs who...|||I have a tendency to stick it out even when a relationship is clearly falling apart or a person isn't interested, or when a friend doesn't treat me well, etc. Is this an ENFP trait? Do you guys...|||ENFPs generally prefer to keep the peace rather than become confrontational or stir the pot. Your ENFP friend is probably still feeling hurt but finds it easier to remain friendly with your ex-friend...|||Welllll, as an ENFP (and just kind of a neurotic person in general - oops) who is close with an ENTJ, I can come up with some examples. Not that I embody them, or anything.  Crazy to an ENTJ...|||My mother is an ISFJ (tested), and she has a really bad tendency to put things off. I was wondering if this is a normal or typical feature of this personality type.    She does this with almost...|||That's interesting, I would say that for ENFPs it is the exact opposite (well, for me, anyways). My logical thoughts are buried deep down beneath my feelings. I have to go on a deep sea expedition...|||Thank you for the insight. ENTJs are an endless source of frustration for me (not because of who they are, but because of who I am). I feel like I can read people very easily, but I struggle with...|||I like that metaphor. What is it about discussing feelings whilst feeling them that makes it so hard? I can discuss my feelings as I'm experiencing them, but what comes out of my mouth won't be very...|||Reluctant to share what's going on your life, unwilling to discuss negative emotions or situations, slow to open up. Basically not very willing to discuss personal things.|||A question for all ENTJs (or friends of ENTJs, whatevs): Would you consider yourself - or other ENTJs you know - to be closed off? Is that a common trait?|||I normally don't say this, but it's really not you... it's him. We've all dealt with people that talk too much for our liking, and that's just it; we deal with them. We put up with their behavior...|||Hey, I think you meant to tag me here :)  I took some 5-HTP, which is supposedly a building block of serotonin, although there are some disputes as to whether or not it's really effective. I also...|||I think I know what you are going through. In high school, I developed depersonalization (or derealization, they are very similar and I am not sure exactly how they differ), following a period of...|||Thank you all for your responses! I've come to realize that my situation can go one of two ways; either we get back together someday, or we don't. I might as well maintain my sanity- what little of...|||Hi everyone... this ENFP is back. I know, we're all thrilled. Especially me. If you're confused, I wrote on this thread (it starts on page 63) which led to a lengthy - and very insightful -...|||I don't think that you have ADHD, but I also don't think that's worth trying to label yourself because a) what people in school consider to be ADHD is not necessarily what mental health professionals...|||I actually believe there are a lot of ENFP cult leaders... they don't call us the inspirers for nothing.  That being said, the ENFP cult would be made up of a bunch of people with fantastic ideas...|||I've heard other ENTJs use a storage room or closet metaphor before - all very similar to yours.   And you're quite welcome, do let me know if you'd like some more perspective on your situation...|||From personal experience, I can say that yes, I would - if I didn't believe that there was nothing left to read. I mean, nobody ever says move along, there's nothing to see here! when there's...|||Sorry that it's taken me so long to reply!  This is by no means easy to do, but when I am feeling down I force myself to act as ENFP-ish as possible. I think that this helps because if you don't...|||I don't know if this will help, but speaking as an ENFP, we get really, really frustrated when we can't gauge how someone is feeling. ENFPs like to ~*feel*~ things/people/situations out. When we...|||I'm sorry to hear that. It's tough when someone not only doesn't understand you, but blames you for it.|||I definitely have periods of negativity. There is a great thread on here about the stages of depression in ENFPs; obviously not every bout of negativity indicates that someone is slipping into...|||Dear ENTJs,  OPEN  UP  PLEASE.  It's metaphorically freezing out here!|||Yes, absolutely. The examples that I gave, now that I think about it, are basically signs of disrespect. What it comes down to, for me, is autonomy - my ability to exist separately from others, and...|||Going behind my back to do something that I specifically asked you not to do, or constantly invalidating my feelings/experiences.  Lying is also a big no-no. I can forgive, but not forget.|||Extroversion/introversion refers more to the way that socialization makes the person in question feel, rather than whether or not they do it. An introvert may wish to become more popular by going out...|||Hey! Someone posted this in the ENTJ Relationship Questions thread - it's more popular and bound to get you more advice. You should check it out. I'm having relationship trouble with an ENTJ myself,...|||Yes, I do! I don't mean to do it and I certainly don't want to do it. I recently realized that when people are angry or upset with me, I automatically react in a way that I know will make them less...'