'I think I am going to put distance between us. He is a nice guy. I am glad though that I am at a place now where it seems easier to do. I am discussing other guys pursuing - who I am not crazy about,...|||The two of us keep having the same convo about what went on. Both are lying to each other. Fun, fun.  I am stuck not wanting to let the person go, but knowing I should let that idea go. It's hard....|||Yeah, FWB would be dumb, given my age, and rather insulting to my desire to have a real, grown-up relationship.|||Thanks for your responses.  I guess I know what's going on. He is in school, has major life decisions to make about where to live long term, and I'm very much situated where I am. Family, friends,...|||Hey you all,  I need some ISFJ insight on an issue with this ISFJ guy.  Basically, this guy has appeared to be interested in me for a few months now. We finally started texting, and it quickly...|||I was majorly crushing on an INTP. I thought I would always be attracted to them. But I am dating an(other) INTP right now and I am ready to end it. Nothing's happening.|||Anyone else dealing with an ISTJ father?  I used to be really close to him as a child. He was more affectionate than my mom, and so my need to feel loved, the way I need it, was fulfilled.  ...|||I just want to update you guys on what happened with this guy. This is soap opera material. Get your popcorn.  But I'll make it quick.  We started talking again, after months of no contact. He...|||^Religion also has elements of experience.  To OP, nope. Not choosing religion and not dumbing myself down.|||unfortunately, yes. Life is a lot more interesting in my head.|||I've been attracted to all T types; ENTP, INTP and INTJ. I have not been able to sustain my romantic attraction to other Fs.|||My response has nothing to do with MBTI.   This is what I would do in this situation. Send him a text saying you need his advice about xyz that you need to have figured by x day, and if it's okay...|||Sowie. I am trying to get ourselves in situations where I would feel comfortable letting go.|||How much of commitment phobes ARE INTJs? I am moving slower than him. But that's because I don't know how he's seeing things for the long-term.|||he hasn't thrown any criticisms towards me yet. I dunno. He's way too proper. Very proper places to eat, veryyy proper places to go to. I really like it. A guy who treats you that well is hard to...|||I am already feeling a tad bit intimidated by my INTJ (2 months of dating) and this thread is making it worse. You guys come off sounding judgmental.|||alright. so the INTJ i mentioned earlier in the thread asked me out again... we have the date coming up soon. but neither does the person stay in touch, nor ask me how i am doing when we do talk :s....|||I know we're notorious for not being disciplined. My fear of stuff gets really, really annoying. But when it ends, the productive streak only lasts so long.  I feel like I need constant guidance...|||In my experience, I've really liked them, but platonically. Couldn't get attracted even though I knew they made the best husband material. INFJs are the only guys I've called husband material... yet...|||Man, I didn't know INTJs had the whole not wanting to be pushy thing too. THAT is what stops me from putting myself out there.   I would say it's best to stay within your boundary of not wanting...|||Not feeling guilty for not being as attracted, and not making it his fault. I am trying to take the situation as it is.   Would be nice to stay friends.|||I look at my more social friends and try to figure out what they do. It appears that a few meaningful interactions at some point keeps their friendships going. As long as you meaningfully connect...|||1ofakind, do you have any recommendations on resources I can use to get started? I've been on and off with it and the reason for inconsistency is lack of guidance...|||I think his attachment is either strong or he's using me for when he gets lonely. Though, I know he cares for me.   There are certain social differences that can make certain things difficult with...|||I don't know if I want to confront him. I'm just going to let it be. I have put in some effort to get in touch and we've had some pretty genuine convos. So, upto him now.|||Yeah, it sounded very genuine. And I had a good time too. He did most of the talking.  On the first date, a major incompatibility became known and I was completely turned off - which was very...|||I can kind of understand and kind of relate to what you are saying.  With both these guys, even though there wasn't a personal emotional connection with the second one, there was a huge sense of...|||^haha. Interesting. in my case, both the INFJs wanted more way before I was ready...  Or maybe they express themselves strongly, which makes us assume a more stable emotional relationship? With the...|||Yay! I'm glad that helped.|||yeah, i was thinking that too.  They're like: those cry-babies!!|||I have dated two INFJ guys. They just get friendzoned. I think it's their sense of secrecy. They don't open up, they don't have any real intellectual conversations because their emotions are under so...|||There's an INFJ friend of mine who comes and tells me that he really, reallly likes me and wants me in his life (romantically) and then after a while, regardless of if I reciprocate or not,...|||has anyone noticed how INFP relationships questions thread only has 50 pages while that of INTJ has nearly 500? I think it just means we're awesome.|||If an INTJ you've been on a couple dates with doesn't stay in touch with you, it's safe to assume he's not interested right?  He told me that he enjoyed her conversations very much and that it's...|||you guys make me feel so much betterr!!!|||They very much disgust me too. I can't go on for long with people who follow inauthentic dating rules.|||For whatever it's worth in this thread, I am rather picky about friendships too. Friendships take a lot of energy and I don't have that kind of energy unfortunately. Unless ofcourse there's something...|||Do you guys consider yourselves picky about making friends? And then care a lot about the friends you do make?|||NOOOOOOO!!!!!! :crying:|||^Haha  I have gone out of my way to take a picture of a particularly interesting tree - the kind we draw as kids... after getting washed up in awe upon finding something so similar to that...|||I'd feel better if I hear a non-INFP say that :p. We're like the emotional mushes, who are serious about our values and people.   ExFJ friend and I were making fun of me about how I just want to...|||I don't get jealous easily... But then again, I know I don't want to know about a partner's previous partners too much. I wouldn't like the feeling. So maybe I am?  And I 100% dislike people not...|||Are INFPs the most unpopular kind? We're probably the least sexiest as it is :p.|||I am working towards becoming a therapist.. and I'm an INFP. AND I can relate to what you are saying.  I have been thinking about getting a therapist myself. Therapists are often required to be...|||Also, I know some amazing people who have never been in relationships. My last long term relationship was almost 2.5 years ago. Why hasn't it happened again? Well, I've gotten super picky and a tad...|||I am not able to respond to everything brought up by the OP. But I just want to say that no prior experience with a relationship would not be a deal-breaker for me - so that OP knows there are people...|||My first relationship was with an ENTP. Even though, we had it established that I felt a lot more than he did, he was definitely in love.   So yes, ENTPs do fall in love and can be incredibly sweet...|||Any thoughts?|||Pshhh! The person either is talking about those in their teen years or is basing their judgement on very few people. I could care less about their opinion.|||You guys have all been really warm and supportive. Thanks! :)  I figured I'd update you. So I saw him this weekend. I had a good time. Most of our higher level values and views about relationships...'