Maybe it is a female thing as a friend seemed to have similar thoughts to me when she turned around my age.|||What is the best way of telling them that they focus too much on themselves in our friendship? Is it best to say that I feel hurt and dehumanized or shall I keep it light and just tell them that I...|||Okay, as clothes have been mentioned twice on this thread, I have something to admit. I am intimidated by people in quirky/alternate clothes (probably because I am the blandest dresser in the world)....|||I do agree that I need to find a way to tell them but they are not stable and the interpret even the slightest thing/behaviour and make a mountain out of it. I don't want to add to their feeling of...|||For me, uniqueness is when someone goes out of their way for someone else for no reason. Altruism I guess. Also integrity and certain boundaries on themselves e.g. as soon as somebody gets out a 2001...|||Yes, me too! I talk to people and in my line of work we have to be friendly and welcoming but I always forget to smile. And then when I realise it's too late and I feel as though they will think it's...|||Recently, my idealism has seemed to have slipped away. I don't know if this makes me more realistic or more cynical but it's not nice. I feel as though the world is an awful place and terrible things...|||My INFJ friend HATES physical touch. It's so funny because I'm a hugger :)|||I have an INFJ friend (definitely an INFJ as they took the test) who is having problems in their life and with their self and is not mentally healthy (they say they are going to get help). Every time...|||Welsy that's understandable. Like the sexuality spectrum but to do with sociopathy.|||Krentz, that is interesting that it slowly dawned upon you that the person was moulding themselves to you. So are you still in contact with him? I can relate many of your person's traits to my friend...|||Haha yes old' Benedict Cumberbatch's Sherlock isn't probably the best advertisement to stay away from them.|||I think he must have sociopathic tendencies then as he did mention that it was his upbringing/family that sort of moulded him this way. How was your friendship with said friend? Did they open up to...|||Recently, one of my friends hinted at being a sociopath and hated themselves for it. They explained that they cannot feel emotions and when they were in a relationship they somehow convinced themself...|||I used to be but I recently tried not to go on the forums in order to stop myself from constantly seeing things through MBTI lenses.|||I don't want to turn this into a rant thread so I'll try and keep this short. My manager at work is an unhealthy ESFJ which may have something to do with her controlling, manipulating, abusive...|||Do you ever suffer from anxiety before social situations and think what others think of you? Do you worry about anything or is this empty feeling associated with everything?|||To be honest I really don't know what I want to happen. I hate conflict so I'm terrified of upsetting the status quo or causing any rifts and I just don't know whether I should just let my sibling be.|||So a sibling of mine has been working for a shop for 5 years and they got me a job there recently but I hated it so I am no longer there. The thing was that when I was there my sibling was keen on me...|||I was in EXACTLY the same position you are in, in my teens and I just want to say STAY STRONG and HOLD ON. I know it is difficult but it's great that you were braver than me in getting professional...|||Admin-please delete thread|||Yes, it's crazy how much work friendships are to maintain but I guess easier when there's some sort of natural 'flow' in the friendship.     Yes, I definitely think investing all your time in...|||Noooooooooo. I am pretty slow with these things. :tongue:     This makes me want to go and hug all my extroverted friends because this is probably how they feel a lot of the time but I guess it...|||For me, I generally don't have any problems talking about music but then it probably isn't as close my heart as it is to yours. Everybody is different and it's always good to have things that you're...|||I can see how introverts using a lot of their 'social energy' on one person could mean that they focus on one person at a time. And extroverts are used to juggling all their friends so that makes...|||Happy Diwali!|||I was discussing with an extrovert friend of mine how I am constantly ditched/neglected by a lot of my friends and joking how I seem to repel people once they get to know me. On reflection, I...|||Just be genuine and yourself.  And deep discussion is good but don't push it if you cannot think of one.|||Sounds like you have a mild case of limerance. You seemed to have fantasized about him so much that you have created your own version of him in your head and put the real one on a pedestal (or as IT...|||One of my friends never replies to my texts and they have even admitted to procrastinating their replies to later times then never getting around to it. I'm pretty sure they don't do this to all the...|||Thanks everybody for your replies!  I guess it's true that death puts things into perspectives and *touch wood* that it doesn't come soon.   However, I don't want to bottle everything up for my...|||I know this will turn into a rant but I hope it doesn't but my mum talks faaaaar too much. I love her to bits but she's a tested ENFJ who talks too much and never knows when to stop. She can be...|||Tincan that's a pretty cool metaphor because I kind of know what you're talking about with some people having a light in their eyes and such.    Eye contact? Lack of eye contact or intense eye...|||Ooo do share your manipulative/narcisstic-dar with us? How does that manifest in the person when you have just met them?    I think that may be because according to psychologists men tend towards...|||I'm terrible ( and I mean terrible) at picking up signals regarding a person's sexuality (unless they are camp which many gay men aren't) so I was wondering whether other people pick up any signals...|||I don't want to sound pervy but I LOVE being touched :unsure:|||Acceptance|||I came across this thread whilst searching for Derren Brown stuff so I hope nobody minds.  Just wanted to add my two sense on the matter.  I don't have much experience on the matter apart from...|||Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh That's so amazing! You're so bloody creative! I love it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! BRILLIANT.|||Thanks guys for your responses! I have definitely know a lot more about it then I did before. I'm still a bit wishy washy with it but I think that once I get used to it, I will find it easier to...|||Thank you very much for that description! The ball metaphor helped a lot with understanding each cognitive function!  However, I did have difficulty understanding the two paragraphs on how it...|||I have lurked and contributed on this forum for around a year now, and all the while I have been hiding a horrible secret. I hope this does not cloud your view of me and I'm very sorry but...I have...|||Haha I definitely do the self deprecating humour thing you guys have mentioned too.  Ooo interesting link. I can definitely see myself doing the compensation, rationalization, sublimation ones and...|||Just wondering what other INFPs tend to do in response to tricky/problematic situations or any general defence mechanisms you have tucked away.  One of my INFP friends, uses humour and constantly...|||I am very sorry for your loss.  Just let the feelings flow and let it all out.|||:laughing:|||That's an excellent way of looking at it!:proud:|||The term 'hipster' is usually used by somebody who is describing a hipster, as opposed to the person themself.  I have met people with hipster tendencies and when I go to vintage shops seem to be...|||YES OP! You hit the nail on the head!  I tend to forget what I look like and forget that people see a visual version of me and then I get reminded by passing a huge mirror in the shop and then get...|||I've only had it twice and it was pretty scary but before that I really wanted to experience it (because I'm a strange little ass of a person) so I was quite excited after my first one that I had...