'76257  I will leave you with this. I usually follow my gut but there have been times when I do not listen to it and end up hurt. Good luck!|||I have a best friend who is a male ISFP. We get along pretty well but he can tends to oscillate between wanting to always talk to me or being distant. It can be confusing, especially if I hear he has...|||I've written and been written to.  The one who wrote to me was a long-time friend(probably an IxFP) who never got the chance to be with me because he moved far away. We spent a while writing...|||This fits me.  Dad: super competitive, high-achieving authoritarian (He's an ENTJ).  Mother: sacrificial, explosive outbursts, dramatic, knows no boundaries, caregiver (She is some sort of xSFJ)...|||I think space is ok as long as it is not hurting the person you are being distant from. But that takes communication and honesty. I think what scares some people who want space is feeling like they...|||All I can talk about is my ENFP.   He is spontaneous but get's shy/nervous if it's something he has not done and does it anyways. Very energetic but sweet. Makes sure I am not uncomfortable, hold...|||If I said that it would mean that I want to distance myself to work on something, like healing old wounds or get over some emotional issue. It's not that we want to push you away because we don't...|||723377233872339  I'm a 4w5. I constantly battle feelings of alienation (nobody likes me or people suck) and wanting connection (empathy and meaning). Envy is my demon. I love seeing passion in...|||@ ancientone   I just saw Iron Man 3 last night so I have an idea of what you mean. lol Thanks for the picture. His lab is VERY cool. So much intellectual freedom and the right amount of...|||@ Marek  That sounds so lovely. :proud:|||For me it's enneagram. I think it is because I have more to gain from learning about being an enneagram 4 from other 4's than my MBTI type. I can handle being an INFJ alot easier and don't require as...|||I don't have one yet either. lol People around me keep asking me why and I just don't really need it yet. Maybe when I need it for work or something.   I see young people doing this the most but...|||@goldengrass  That is one of my favorite visualizations too. And your avatar photograph is amazing.:happy:|||If you can visualize a place that calms you and makes you happy what would it look like? It would be a place that is tranquil, vivid, and allows you to restore balance. These type of exercises are...|||bekkajp   consists of a mish-mash of grasping key things about me/my thoughts/feelings...even if he doesn't agree with it...and then on top of it, accepting and respecting it <---- This is a good...|||Compare yourself only to who you have been, not to everyone else. Everyone is walking a different road in life.|||Two reasons:  1. To break down the walls that separate me from other people and feel more connected to them on a human level. That cannot happen if I understand them but they don't understand me....|||@Twin2   Yes, that helped. Thank you. :happy: And at least from my experience I tend to try to think about why I am feeling something rather than just accepting I feel it. It's almost like I try to...|||Hi! I am happy you figured it all out. I used to think I was INTJ until I saw the light.   Plus, your avatar is adorable.   :happy:|||@Mango Kiwi  Thank you so much! I like your explanation. :happy:|||@Twin2   It's ok. Thank you for trying! :proud: I  have seen how my ENFP thinks aloud too. And I know it is very difficult to explain what happens inside. That is how I feel about Ni.   I did...|||I am here because I want to know what Fi looks like for an ENFP. Could one of you try to explain it? I asked my ENFP boyfriend about it and he could not say too much because he does not know MBTI too...|||How would one be aware an infj loves them?  You will feel it coming from her.  You will see it in her eyes when she looks at you. She will be vulnerable yet still guarded. She will put herself...|||Most irritated: long days having to engage with ALOT of people because it is the polite thing to do.   Most annoyed: having to listen to shallow and uninteresting conversations but not being...|||I used to score as INTJ all the time. Then I realized Ti is pretty high on my list of functions and Te was somewhere below it. I think that Te was only showing up on tests because my father is an...|||For the moments when you feel alive. I want the opportunity to have moments and I get swept up by them as they come.|||1.   Beautiful dancing or singing mesmerizes me. I know when it is good because I get goosebumps that run all through my body just from observing. Tango, ballet and ballads are some of the most...|||I guess I will try:  Can you tell me any one secret about yourself?  I like walking barefoot on grass, mud and pebbles. It feels wonderful and I do not care about having to wash my feet...|||Hi!  I am not sure if there are many ESTP's on this forum so I figured I should ask INFJ's instead. I could really use some advice. A friend of mine has a girlfriend of about 6 months. He is an...|||Yes, I have been called intimidating before. My friend says that I have too many defenses surrounding myself and that it is easy to just look from afar. lol he once used a castle metaphor and said...|||Unless it will affect my relationship with someone I care about or it violates one of my principles/values I always avoid it. For example, someone cutting in front of me in line is not worth me doing...|||I am actually having some problems with an acquaintance of mine that I think is an ESTP female. She thinks I don't like her because I am quiet and don't comment on what she says. Any advice would be...|||Skewed like italics. I would say upper-right corner like the person above me.|||I hate groups, but if it has to be done it has to be done. I observe and listen mainly. If someone forces me to interact I get nervous but I do the minimum. I hold back alot of myself, though. I...|||Yes. This is a recurring problem of mine. Writing has really helped me. I would also recommend finding inspiration. Watch movies, read, look at art, take a walk, talk to a stranger about it, talk to...|||That is because you are usually lying big brother. I only turn, how did you say it, harsh when there is no other way to get my point across to you that you are being fake. If you were being...|||They are sunshine on stormy days and human piñatas filled with love (if you can get them to open up to you). :happy:  They are fun-loving, charming, quirky humans who like making people laugh by...|||Forgiveness from past mistakes. And a haircut! :proud:|||Make them laugh somehow. It works on me when I am getting to an unreasonable point of irrational ranting/brooding. ENFP's are especially good at this btw. :proud:   Creating a distraction such as...|||I used to be this way (though not as bad as you) when I was in a codependent relationship that revolved around the other person. However, I am not codependent anymore. These feelings pop up from time...|||I don't know about other INFJ's, but I want to know people. There is a curiosity in me to understand. I have had people freak out because some of my questions are too deep but I don't care.|||Hi! welcome to PerC. I hope you have a blast here. The INFJ sub-forum is pretty cool. :proud:|||Don't confuse feelings with the truth. It ruins relationships with people. Especially because I hate conflict and do not give them a chance to prove my feelings were wrong.|||My boyfriend is an ENFP and I always say that he is really good at hiding his intelligence with an armor of random silliness/enthusiasm. He is really interested in social sciences as well. Others...|||- I rarely get bored. I go inwards and think about things if I am unable to leave the situation. Only time i get bored is if I am trying to please someone else and don't have the nerve to tell them I...|||Watching an excellent dance gives me unexpected goosebumps too. It's just so beautiful.|||I like shopping for about a total of two hours when it involves clothes. Anymore time and I start settling for things just to leave. I find it somewhat boring and start getting pissed off I have not...|||Petrichor (the smell after rain), passionate speakers, a man playing with a child, and intellectual banter.|||My brother (one year younger) is an ISTP. We have awesome conversations about complicated matters, but his insight is always direct and short. I always want to hear how he came to it and he can't...|||Yes, I have been accused of talking down to people or making them feel stupid when I go overboard and start telling them they are feeling and thinking something they reject wholeheartedly. I have...'