'I tend to idealize it as magical but it's probably more the fact that I don't have to think about the connection, it just happens intuitively, subconciously ...the people I DON'T connect to far...|||I love all these suggestions!  reaffirm who we are...one of my best friends is good at this. She's very down to earth and often intervenes when I'm getting irrational or worried - using humor...|||from my own experience, I appreciate it when a friend makes the first move when it comes to spending time together. I may show interest and approach them to talk but I'm sensitive about asking people...|||I know quite a few NFs, but I have a hard time specifying beyond that. I know a girl who has tested both as an intp and an infp...she's very kind and friendly but I find her a little mysterious and...|||Ideally I would actually love to bring all my individual friends and groups of friends together so we could all be awesome friends together. In reality it might not be that fun for everyone, even...|||If I get a weird vibe from a person then I don't like them to touch me. For instance if I feel that they are insincere, or that it's for show I get annoyed and feel somewhat used.|||Practice is helpful : )  I've gotten into the habit of talking out loud in the car when I am by myself, which not only helps sort my thoughts but is practice for actually talking to people. (bonus,...|||I feel like two different people, because when I'm relaxed I am the nicest person...  but when I get stressed it's a different story :-/. I'm pretty sensitive so sometimes I don't even realize that...|||It's ironic but not surprising that you want to help since you struggle with it yourself! It is like an endless journey. But it's also nice that it's a process that happens over time and doesn't...|||hmm  howl from howl's moving castle severus snape The Baron in The Cat Returns special agent aloysius pendergast from the book series.  faramir from LOTR sherlock holmes mr rochester (in Jane...|||it was, thank you! Especially the part about finding your inner peace first. One thing that always got me when I was an extremely insecure teen was that I was too unhappy with myself to really enjoy...|||Looking over the other answers I can definitely relate. When I'm first in love I overlook a lot of important stuff. I really want to please them, I'm vulnerable...messy, anxious, insecure...I...|||Once an elderly woman came up to me and told me that I have haunting eyes.|||movies:  the english patient  leon: the professional nell (1994 film) girl with a pearl earring (the book as well) the piano  chungking express  a little princess (90s version)  the silence...|||It's the other way around for me. Do you think it has something to do with early-life interactions with men and women/family members? For instance, my earliest life experiences with females were way...|||I KNEW there was a memo >_<|||excessive pride in or admiration of one's own appearance or achievements.  Nah. But I'm very proud of the effort I make with my appearance, it's a way I express myself and show respect....|||I'm enjoying reading through this thread! I just earned a degree in studio art (ceramics, photography and painting)...right now I'm a cashier in my small town (I want to move on, though I love it...|||Hi everyone,   I could use some advice and perspective, especially from older or more mature INFPs.  First of all, I'd cautiously describe myself as fairly healthy INFP emerging from an ...|||Singlehood can be awesome. I think you have the right idea about it! If anything being single is incredibly freeing. Start doing the things you love and figuring out what is meaningful to you...what...|||it really depends on the situation and my mood. I've been described as refined and even mysterious a few times. Honestly it's ridiculous but I kind of eat that crap up, I love being mysterious. I...|||Doing alright and I smile, or good, thank you  I've been on the other side where I'm the one asking. It makes me sort of nervous when people go beyond something polite and simple..|||I think my best friend is an enfj/maybe esfj....it's hard to tell, she's pretty much a 2 as far as socionics go. Alot of my friends are enfps, infjs, esfjs..a couple infps|||:laughing:  this was the first thing to pop into my mind   It does not do to dwell  on dreams and forget to live, remember that. -Albus Dumbledore.   I  think dreaming is wonderful in a lot of...|||1. What is the best way to initially connect with you?  I connect well with people who are open and friendly right off the get go. Having something in common to talk about always helps, so when I...|||http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cl5cR6gnnXo|||I don't know if I've changed personalities...but my idea of myself has changed in many ways : -) But I never experienced a major change in preferences like that. I did go through a difficult time in...|||no. I how would I connect with people if I was so different?  It seems like a bad idea to have so much power without a lot of self control and wisdom.|||I had an ENTP (I think) roommate for a semester - it was sort of exhilarating to have someone so direct and blunt around. And we both had weird senses of humor...so we got along.|||77.  I guess some of those could have been 5s though if I was REALLY honest :-P|||you remind me of my second cousin|||lol ^^   I do this with everything, especially with cars, to the point where some cars are just really annoy me. I despise gloomy looking headlights...  And trees...I grew up with a field behind...|||well, old boyfriend actually ; )  I'm curious   here is a description, what's your opinion on his type?   speaks his mind pretty easily -  pretty open and blunt cares for his appearance -...|||I had a professor who said we don't fall, we climb into love. Which blows my mind and inspired my views on that : ) The adaptability of the human soul..|||it's romantic but not very realistic... : (  but then I think it's possible for you to BECOME soul mates with someone, like your souls sort of adapt and grow into it...gah I sound like an infp..|||Yes, especially of people I see as underdogs/minority/vulnerable. I hate seeing parents treat their children with unnecessary harshness. And I'm also a bit jealous of my good friends and siblings -...|||If it has to do with conflict or (possibly) hurting someone's feelings I tend to resort to a watered down version of my feelings...or not at all, it just depends. Otherwise I'm pretty expressive to...|||yeah, around guys who like me (when the feeling isn't mutual). It's something I'm working through, but I get irrationally panicked, and it's hard to control my feelings. Any tips for dealing with...|||I touch my face and arms and hair constantly in conversation - It must be so distracting for the people talking to me|||I want people to perceive me as refined but approachable - so I try to reflect that in what I wear. I was very insecure in college and went over the top to stand out as an artist *cringe* but I still...|||I think I was quite sweet as a kid, but dreamy might be a bit much, I had an intensity and seriousness about me. We have home videos of me being silly, but also videos of me intently drawing pictures...|||this is not a serious answer, but  this reminded me of yesterday when I was coming up with a list of friends and family to send letters out to. I had spent the morning by myself reading and thinking,...|||these are great ideas!   Some things that have helped me:  distancing myself from my emotion, for example: I have feelings of despair/sadness/worthlessness I need to deal with. Rather than I am...|||@INFPanonymous ha no reason, just  I'm not into that stuff   *shrugs*|||I think some people *sort of* avoid me, yes. Or at least they don't actively try to come into much contact with me. I've realized that some people just aren't as comfortable around quiet (and...|||I feel bad...I've tried to get several of my friends into it! >_< (perhaps they feel the same way?)|||hm. people who assume because I am soft spoken and reserved that I am naive and childlike, craving meaningful deep conversations and having few people to have these conversations with, I'm out with...|||At age 10 I realized that I was nearly grown up and that my life was essentially meaningless. Like I was terribly depressed, and that was frightening and painful because I couldn't verbalize it to...|||thank you for seeing me,   you were the first boy I fell in love with. I was that silly shy younger kid who sort of stalked you. And although I think you knew it, you never led me on, rejected me...|||I like scents that remind me of being a little kid  like dandelions and queen anne's lace flowers, freshly tilled dirt, sweet hay... Can you tell I grew up in the country?'