'when your landlord comes over and paints the back door, and you realise that the peeling/flake patches on it are not from the sun as he thinks . . . but from you, standing out there with a book and...|||think about how unspeakably horrible he or she is likely to be when/if these abstract impediments become real and the shit hits the fan.   best i've got.  all i would be able to say if i were in...|||flash mobs make me teary.   this one though.     https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h8WiyX21A1c,  it made me sad.|||ugh.|||historically, actually, infps tend to catch me off guard.  they're like a false-cognate type for me - i think they're more like me than they are, and they think i'm more like them than i am.  with...|||friend:  so this place where i work . . .  me:  yup? friend:  just sayin'.  somebody out there needs to go back to acronym school. me:  okay . . .  friend:  posters all over the walls about this...|||this is a very good point.  i had forgotten how much i skid past things that feel a certain flavour of loaded to me.  which, again.  The Producer, if you want to hang out with her, don't say...|||i feel like i get dull and blinkered when i spend too much time being forced to think mostly linearly.  if i'm not allowed to use my ni (i assume that it's that) and i have to follow the mental...|||hah!  if he's asking you what you think only to pick an argument about it, then my advice is just go ahead and stab him.  that ought to get his attention at least.  it seems like a jerky kind of move...|||i guess you're talking about being more able to rationalize then?  either that or you want ways to kind of damp down your opinions by undermining them with alternative perceptions.    that second...|||doesn't that mean that you lied, since you're in here [behind her back, technically] asking us to explain it instead?  this kind of diffuseness-and-indirection-as-policy drives me insane.  ask the...|||i don't have the same yardstick as you for what constitutes being ignored, but when it does happen according to mine . . . hell yes, it bothers me.  it has a lot to do, for me, with the fact that i...|||depends what you meant by fi defibulator.  but if you meant what i think you meant then just don't.  possibly i shouldn't be speaking for her, but as a general public-educational point:  fi isn't a...|||more random points.  - i'd stop worrying about what he needs.  he's a big kid who can talk about them his own self.  or he should be.  and i don't know many intjs who even like people solely for...|||lot of things in here that seem to me like they're separate from one another.  i'm not sure how they all gel together so i'll just go through my thoughts about each of them individually.    - as...|||oh my dear gleebus i'ts dusty in here.  holy SHIT.|||i've noticed that people consistently disappoint me by backing away from a discussion or getting 'tired' of it just when i feel like it's just getting itself underway.  that's for talking about...|||i disagree with this.  mostly because imo neither of those things seems to me like an automatic sign of illhealth.  it depends on the context and stimuli like most things do.  to me it's not whether...|||talk.  i'm oldschool, but i won't take anyone seriously if they won't talk to me face to face.|||slightly endearing thing said by my enemy-of-society brother to mother, in the same circs:  Get That Thing Off My Lap.  yeah no, not as endearing as i used to think.    my own kid said That Is My...|||well, tell you the truth, i dislike the kind of armchair quarterback who's always got something to say about what the other guy should have done, whether it matters or not.   i guess tone counts...|||i used to be such a pro at the stomach flu, except i don't remember any more how it works.  eat / drink and just suck up the barfing?  or not.  urrgh. wish i hadn't thought up that particular joke.  ...|||i totally suck at linkedin.  edit:  no, strike that.  it's linkedin that sucks at me.   and @Napoleptic:  recruiters was how i found a cranny to wedge my way into the profession that i'm in now.  ...|||ohmydearlord.  oh holy groke. oh my crud.    it's nice that you seem so eager to 'help'.  i suppose.  but if this whole reference is to the intj behaviour pattern that i think it's a reference to,...|||dear enfp,  if you were wondering where that vague-but-unmistakeable teflon-shield thing came from, it's because you simply can't keep yourself from imparting advice.    i don't intend ever to...|||the pants or the intj?  doesn't matter.  i don't like anyone 'wearing the pants' so i don't have anything useful to add anyway.|||i don't.  i get along with it in situations where patience isn't called for in the first place.    you don't discuss people having the 'patience' for the most obvious characteristics of a...|||that's what i was thinking about.  i have had two friends who 'participated' in the death of a family member and talked to me about it afterwards, and it was a bit of an eye-opener.  it hadn't...|||i find bantering just for the sake of bantering exhausting.  i also hate flirts, and i think it's a mistake to want to get to know 'an intj' as if we were all interchangeable and you can just pick...|||um er . . . so that's slightly sophistry, right :tongue:.  of course everyone dies 'alone' but not everyone dies without witnesses.   i think it's quite likely i will, and i'm not sure how i feel...|||this.  and what @ponpiri said: nothing about this is 'normal'.    i see one of two things happening, (but remember i might be wrong)  - if she's as popular as she seems to you then you could be...|||i don't think this is your doing.  you broke a social 'code' that this girl seems to be trying to impose on the world - i.e. that she should get to behave any way that she wants, and nobody should...|||mental weridscape.  i normally make sure i'm there when they open the door, if i'm doing laundry.   this long weekend i was much later than that.  and not having any prior knowledge of what the...|||i'm pretty sure i remember this story from when you were asking about it a few years(?) ago.  i would tell him.  and then stand by and be prepared to support, if he trusts and likes you.    just...|||to me, if she said she was up for it and then didn't follow through, it probably means one of two things: she thought it was just an abstract theoretical kind of idea in the first place, and never...|||so . . .  for fairness' sake i feel like i should pre-warn you i graduated from high school in 1983 so my idea of a 'relationship' and yours might be totally different things.  to me, it's not a...|||sports and recreation:  woman walks into a bar ambiverted cycling for right-footed people making perversity work for you:  athletic guidelines for couch potatoes yoga as four-letter word ...|||'society' as a whole is actually a really huge space.   there's space in it for pretty much everyone, so the 'norm' is really just another one of the niches in it.    i think it's more localized...|||teacher!  teacher!  i know! pick me!   because they're not important enough to spend brain-time on, is why.  i was showing some of my buddies at work how sql works on friday.  they're brand brand...|||i agree about this, but with a caveat.  he should be given the information as information only.  simply in order for him to be able to make an informed choice about it.  which should be entirely,...|||groke dammit, post-50's brain fail.  i KNOW there's a song out there somewhere where the singer does this completely uncalled-for final-chords thing of 'don't need no ruth! cause it's the truth!'.  i...|||Memory of Talon Asura WickerDeer  i'd like to ask for this thread to be promoted into the 'stickies' section.  or if not that, then at least added to the topics of interest list where bethdeth...|||[/COLOR]sure, you can be if you want.  on the grand scale of things it's merely a social sin - and a pretty minor one, when you compare it with boiling babies and such.  but on the other hand, being...|||not sure if this is what you mean, but i know i often get startled by how quickly 'expressive' people seem to get over feelings.   i tend to take the expression at its face value, so if someone seems...|||heh.  like people thinking i wanted to run a home daycare just because i had a small kid of my own.  or people thinking i know how to/want to organize social events just because i'm a woman.  book...|||that's a great point.  i think i'd want to see something archaeological too.   herculaneum?  one of the bog people? or be able to know whether that really was richard the third that they found in...|||all the way at the absolutely other end of the scale, i love the word 'knob' just. so. much.  i can't think of a time when it ever failed to make me completely happy.    and a friend of mine once...|||'meretricious'.  that's one of my own favourites.  'detritus' had a really good run :P  i think it peaked when we decided it was the natural name for a neighbourhood cat that mr t hates, though. ...|||i am so going to inflict this word on mr t and my lifting club tomorrow.    the word 'detritus' has run its course there.  it's time for a new one o/  inb4 mr squats, who is FOR SURE going to...|||i don't think i have 20 favourite artists.  but any excuse to list ones i do.  paul simon gets in there twice, #because paul simon, of course.    1.   mother glasgow - michael marra 2.   dreamer -...'