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user: You are replying to Desiree Louvre about "any ideas?????".

They wrote:
> Hi all...
>
> I wonder if anyone has any suggestions for this problem we've been
> having
> in regards to the way our 18 year old bosses around my 7 year old who
> is
> ADHD.
>
> David (the 18 year old) likes to throw his weight around especially
> when
> it comes to Cory (the 7 year old). When we are trying to discipline
> Cory
> for something David feels it is his 'right' to get his 2 cents worth in
> also. It gets extremely irritating, not to mention that Cory now feels
> like everyone is picking on him and bossing him around. We have told
> David repeatedly to butt out and that the discipline is up to his
> father
> and I AND when it comes right down to it, it is none of his business
> why Cory got into trouble in the first place. He doesn't see the
> problem.
> Some mornings around here get ballistic when I have told David to just
> worry about getting himself ready for school and mind his own business.
> HIS behavior disrupts the whole household, sometimes *more* than Cory's
> does. My anxiety is what is all of this doing to Cory???? I know how he
> feels because he has no problems expressing this, especially when he
> gets
> frustrated. David won't lay off. The other part of the problem is David
> has all these rules he expects Cory to abide by... one of them being
> that
> Cory has to knock first before he goes into David's room. This rule is
> not the problem... the problem is David doesn't follow his own rules.
> He
> never knocks before entering Cory's room, or mine for that matter. We
> can't have him babysit a whole lot because he always ends up banishing
> Cory to his room the whole time we are gone. If Cory doesn't move fast
> enough for David's liking, such as the day the sitter told Cory to shut
> off the Sega... when he didn't respond right away, (David happened to
> be
> home sick that day), David figured the sitter wasn't going to do
> anything
> about it and got in Cory's face and started yelling at him. By the time
> I got home Cory was so upset he fell asleep. (He does this when he gets
> highly emotional and frustrated.) David also treats his sister alot
> nicer
> and kinder than Cory. Always. If she does the same 'misdemeanor' as
> Cory,
> David will pass it off and even when he doesn't he chastises her alot
> more nicely than he does Cory. I, personally would rather him not try
> to discipline either one of the younger two in the first place, but my
> talking, demanding and finally ranting hasn't gotten this problem
> fixed.
>
> Any suggestions... other than kicking out the 18 year old. He's
> planning
> on moving out with his girlfriend sometime in April (if the
> relationship
> lasts that long), but in the meantime, he will still be here throwing
> his
> weight around.
>
> Desiree
>
>
> ... The difference between stupidity and genius: genius has it's
> limits.

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assistant: *** Quoting Desiree Louvre to All dated 03-11-97 ***
Well what you need to do is lay down the law...does he use one of your
cars...take the keys away if he does not change his ways...try to get help
from a counciler...and when it comes down to it let him know that if he does
not change his ways soon he will have to leave...that way you are not kicking
him out he will do it him self because of the way he is acting...does he have
a job?
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