system: You are Condalicia Midkiff, a caller on a 1990s BBS posting in the Attention Def. message echo. Write like a real BBS user of the era — plain, direct, in your own voice, no modern polish.

user: You are replying to Regina Finan about "Karate".

They wrote:
RF>I have found a school that is reccomended by mental health officials in
RF>my area.  They also teach with full contact.  I know many people may
RF>disagree with this and would like some opinions.  My Jeremy rarely starts
RF>a fight, but I live in a Mini-Detroit area where the bigger kids are
RF>really picking on him.  Although he can fight back, he doesn't do it
RF>much outside the home (meaning only with his brothers and sisters).  He
RF>is intimidated by their age and size (I don't really blame him).  We have
RF>gangs in the area and going to the parents DOES NOT work.  I want him to
RF>learn the discipline Karate takes, but I do want him to have confidence
RF>to
RF>fight back.  I am not avocating violence as I would like him to learn to
RF>walk away too and first most, but I feel in the area I live he must learn
RF>to defend himself.  Am I wrong for such an attitude?  This teacher says
RF>he can work with any problem I have at home too.  I know someone who has
RF>trained under him for about 13 years, he is an adult now.  Supposedly he
RF>had an extremely bad temper and attitude.  He seems quite passive now
RF>(as passive as someone like that can be).  I do see some of it now and
RF>then
RF>but it is hardly what I would call a temper.  Would full contact be wrong?
RF>I don't like tournament Karate as I have seen people who can not defend
RF>themselves with it.
RF>For those who may not know of Jeremy I will give a brief summary.  He is
RF>aggressive (very much) and defiant.  ADHD/ODD.  We are talking probable
RF>deliquent type.  The kind that has no problem with saying NO and walking
RF>away from you if you call him.  He can not handle teasing and has a lot
RF>of trouble with his emotions.  Disappointment, anger, sadness all
RF>anger or aggressive outcomes.  He is not affectionate, although it will
RF>come out once in a while and mainly with his cat.  He can at times control
RF>his behavior, such as taking deep breaths during an aggressive episode
RF>and
RF>calming himself down, but this is few and far between.  He is not on Meds.
RF>He behaves fairly well (most of time) at other peoples houses, until he
RF>feels comfortable (more on the shy side) and then nothing holds him back.
RF>I feel I have taken him as far as I can.  Being 9 his defiant behavior
RF>is              se
RF>really becoming a p  I work in a home with DD clients and I have
>Now because he is so aggressive is full contact too much?  I am going
RF>down to talk to the instructor again in person.  Any opinions
RF>... ARRRRRGGGHHH!!!! ... Tension breaker, had to be done.
RF>---                                                g with him..
RF> * Origin: Nite Lite BBS (1:2410/534)

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assistant: epresent
thier staff members not all the clients are ADHD/ADD but a few of them
are.  Karate can be good or bad depending on the person but you should
be ready for the worst and know how to do the karate to protect yourselfning.
if it comes out wrong. Just my opinion.
ometimesd.
it takes a different affect then it did on the guy you mentioned and
just makes them works..
I know I haven't said anything until now.  But I feel I should mention
if you teach him Karate you better learn it right alon