My boyfriend of 2 years has been
receiving text messages on his works mobile phone of another woman
not dirty but not clean either.  so I confronted him all upset and
angry and he denied it so the next day I go to work with him he
leaves his mobile in the car so im sat there thinking ill text her
but on his phone so she thinks its him and I know I was been sneaky
but ive had the feeling that something has been wrong for awhile. 
anyway the replies I got was nothing I was prepared for.  he told her
he was single and more, so I confront him again, “I want the truth,
if you want to leave or if your not happy here tell me”.  But once
again he said he hasn't done nothing wrong.  there is nothing going
on.  she is trying to make trouble between us he said.  but what gets
me why would she.  she don't know me she didn't even know he was with
someone so I did my homework I know her name her mobile number where
she works what area she lives in but he will not speak to me about
it.  all I want is the truth.  is it really that hard?  I want to phone
her but what do I say if I do speak to her?  He will only say she is
lying.  I want to believe him but I know deep down he is lying.  I
just want to hear it from him and how do I do that?  Then we can get
on with our lives apart cause like they say leopards never change
their spots

My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years and I live
together.  We had always shared everything and there was never any
"private" things between us.  I would go in his e-mail account for
whatever reason and he would go in mine without even thinking twice. 
It was no big deal.  Then one day I was online and turned to him (he
was sitting on the couch) and told him he had a few new e-mails.  I
volunteered to open them for him since his bosses schedule shifts
via e-mail.  He said no and I didn't think anything of it until I
noticed he never wanted me to go on his screen name.  I was
suspicious but told myself to stop being so immature.  A few days
ago, he signed on and immediately blocked everyone and erased all of
his outgoing, incoming and even deleted mail.  This was the sure
sign.  He left for work and I went into his account.  He is a very
dumb cheater, b/c although he erased everything, he forgot that AOL
keeps a log of all the people you send e-mail to in your address
book automatically.  There were 50 women's screen names in his
address book, and 90% of those were transvestites.  Later that day,
one of them called his cell phone and wrote to him about it later. 
He swears he would never meet them and he only talked to the
transvestites because he thought it was bizarre and funny.  I don't
know what to do anymore. 

My boyfriend and my one of my old high
school girlfriends cheated on me....over a lengthy period of time. 
Both had acted like they were on my side.  When my boyfriend did
admit he was troubled...he could not reveal why.  I became suspicious
when he was able to open up to her instead of me and was even more
suspicious when they BOTH confided in each other because she was
having problems with her own boyfriend as well.  I thought my
security blanket was that we've been together for 3 years and
nothing could break that and even more so, I trusted my best friend
whom I've known since my freshman year in high school and had even
welcomed into our house when she first moved into town.  Her motives
became so clear.  He finally admitted he did have feelings but vowed
to repair our relationship because he was just confused to begin
with.  My condition was that he stay away from her and I made the
conscious decision to erase her from our daily lives (as she used to
be).  But months from this agreement....I discovered 40 pages of chat
logs that were hidden in his computer.  I never knew the internet
could be such a detrimental thing to relationships.  There were
grueling and intimate conversations.  My blood boiled to see words of
betrayal come from her.  She had initiated the relationship and was
even trying to convince him it would work.  She would repeatedly tell
him she wasn't happy with her man and would be better off with the
two of THEM together.  There were times when she would even make an
alibi for them to be together.  It was heart wrenching to read.  I
printed out these forsaken pages and threw them in his face.  He
moved out.  I never stopped loving him and we remained amicable for
the most part.  Eventually after time apart...we've reconciled our
relationship and have exiled her from our lives and our social
circle....someone who I thought I knew so well.  Today we are
stronger that we've ever been but my security is so weak and
fragile.  Sometimes I find myself being a private investigator just
to calm my worries.  I wonder if I WILL live the rest of our lives
together like this...or I even CAN. 

I met the "Man of My Dreams" on a
online dating service.  After being married for 20 years and single
for 6, I thought that he was the right one.  We dated happily for 2
years, then he started to complain a lot and find fault in
everything I did.  Even though we did not live together, we shared a
lot, both personally and financially.  I thought we were headed to
the alter.  He used to call me "His Joy", "His Essence" and then he
wanted to call me his "EX" Well, as it happened, he was
communicating with a Russian woman on the internet.  He was falling
for her, he said that she "Made Me Feel Good", "I Like Her Photo",
well my thought is you and about 20 other American men that she is
scamming out of money and pulling their heart strings.  How sad is
that!!!  Wake-up.  I wasted two years of my life.  I am almost 50 years
old and want lasting love, not cheating love.  My first husband
cheated on me for most of our marriage, what’s up with this?  Can't
people be truthful, I opened up my heart and my life to another
CHEATER!!! 

A little over a year ago I decided to
check my boyfriends messages at work.  And to my surprise one of the
messages was from a woman crying that she only wanted to spend lunch
with him...She also mentioned that she had got a room and gave the #
to the motel and the room #...So I called her and asked her who she
was...I told her that I was his girlfriend and she said that he did
not have one...She told me that she had been sleeping with him for
the past 2 years.  I was so hurt and started remembering times that
he would not answer his phone or wouldn't call...I confronted him
about it and he swore on his children’s lives that he never had sex
with this woman...It turns out that she was a thief with a long
criminal record who knew very specific things about my
boyfriend...He cheated on his last 2 wives but I chose to stay with
him because I want to believe that this is not true...I am a single
mother of 2 children....None of which belong to him...I have a good
job, a great apartment, and wonderful friends...I just cannot seem
to let this man go...He is 38 years old and still lives with his mom
and dad when he is not here...And contributes nothing to this
household...I feel unworthy...I feel if I let him go I will be alone
for the rest of my life

I came home one day to find my
boyfriend ushering me upstairs.  I looked out the bedroom window and
to my horror my best mate was running down the garden path half
naked.  when i confronted him he said she was having a shower
because her water was knocked off and she ran because i would have
thought it was suspicious.  i slang him out and surprise surprise 2
months later they are officially an item. 

I have just ended a 4 month
relationship... found out he was seeing 2 other women that I know
about.  Always wondering why his phone was on silent, or he had to
cancel dates.  I asked him about his behaviour, but he always had a
story or would talk me round.  But after several weeks my instincts
and intuition made me delve deeper.  I checked his message phone,
and sure enough.. 2 different women had left messages of a personal
nature.  So I followed him the next night and he was at this woman’s
house.  I called him out and yes found out he was cheating on me. 
Also called the other woman, who's number I took from his phone..
she had been dating him a year.  This guy was busted by me, and I
dumped him big time, but I know he will go out and lie and cheat
again.  I'm so angry at his disregard for my feelings, even when I
had asked him point blank what was going on.. I would have rather
him dumped me!  But I live and learn and know I will always trust my
instincts... if he is inaccessible, secretive with his phone...
that’s the biggest clue.  he's the loser, not me.. at least I got
out early

GO TO THE ROOT OF THE PROBLEM >>> I
was totally in love with my boyfriend and trusted him
whole-heatedly, but after a few months he became less concerned and
more withdrawn.  Once we were supposed to spend the day together and
he got a phone call to pick up a cousin.  A week later, i found out
from a mutual friend that his friend who was sitting right behind
me in the car, jus got his phone to ring while he acted like he was
on the phone with some1 else.  I remember how he told me how he was
so looking forward to spending the day with me and that he was so
sorry and went on to promise he'd make time for me the next day. 
After much pondering whether if it were just me, a mutual friend
let me in on his scandal.  After lying to me, he picked her up and
well you know the rest.  I confronted him subtly, not letting on
what i knew, and he fully denied everything, saying that he loved
me and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me.  I knew i
couldn't go far with him so i decided to go to the root of the
problem, i confronted HER, and she was so terrified, cos she had a
boyfriend and she knew that my guy had a girlfriend and shakingly
confessed all.  I then confronted the loser himself and it was over. 
The worst part of it all was the fact that he managed to worm his
way back into my life, i know that its my fault for taking him
back, but i do love him.  Only now, i don't think that i'll ever
trust him or any other man for the rest of my life.  The
relationship is still going on, but its nothing special without the
lost trust. 

My boyfriend told me he loved me and
that i was the only one for him ect.  turns out he was picking up
women from online and sleeping with them he slept with eight
different women our first year together and gave me a genital warts
std.  i was totally destroyed.  we broke up but now 4 years later we
are seeing each other again.  i believe people can change and
deserve to forgiven case by case depending one the situation.  i am
writing this because i want people to know that you should trust
your instinct.  if something doesn't feel right event if you have no
proof.  the odds are you are right.  never violate a gut feeling or
"hunch" and the only way to free yourself from the pain is to
realize that what the cheater did has nothing to with you being not
good enough it has to do with the other persons selfish and
deceitful ways.  one more thing if you do decided to forgive and
reconcile make sure you truly have let go of resentment for the
other person caring that pain around is pointless if you are going
to love someone don't be afraid to be vulnerable.  but always keep
your eyes open follow your instinct. 

My ex lover is going out with my best
friend now.  I cannot stand them two going out because I know
exactly what he is going to do to her when they break up!  She will
not listen to me because of course he treats her good until the
next fight they get into.. and then he will treat her bad!  She is
happy with him right now.. but when they get broken up she will be
MISERABLE!  I try to tell her all the time that he will tell her
different stories then what he tells everyone else about her and
about other people!  I really just want her to know that he is going
to make her life MISERABLE when they break up!  I just don’t want to
see her like that!  I hope she learns her lesson! 

My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years all of a
sudden decided to move back to his hometown in January.  I asked him
if it was to get back with his ex-wife, he said no, and that it was
for his sons.  When he got into town, I found out quickly that he
was living with her.  In understanding that he had nowhere to go in
the beginning, he kept flying me back and forth to see him once a
month.  After about 3 trips, he supposedly moved out of her house
into another house with a roommate.  That last time, I had just
gotten into town, we were sitting down to eat dinner, his ex-wife
shows up at the door banging on it and the windows yelling at him
asking if "she knew about me", "you're never going to see your sons
again", and something about his "infidelity".  I asked what was
going on and all he could say was that she's psycho and that "she
wants something she can't have".  Then I asked him why she would
accuse him of infidelity when he wasn't sleeping with her?  He says
she's disillusioned.  After I flew back here, I hadn't heard from
him in 2 days, so I decide to call him at work and found out he had
left work the day before and hadn't shown up.  Worse yet, his
ex-wife was the one to pick him up.  I call his roommate and he
tells me that my boyfriend hadn't been around for a couple of days
and that he'd bet money that he's over his ex-wife's.  So, I call
his ex-wife's house just to see if she at least would tell me
what's going on.  To my surprise, she refused to say anything to me! 
She will not admit to it either!  So, I'm left devastated and still
not knowing what the story is. 

I was in a relationship for three
years.  I had become dependent on my boyfriend, and had given him
everything a man could ask for.  We were actually thinking about
getting married after I finished school.  He used to talk to or
email girls that we both knew.  I would always find out by checking
his cell phone, not on the recent call list, but on the history of
calls.  I would also check all his deleted messages.  He always
denied that something was going on.  He always told me that he just
needed somebody to talk to.  The one thing I learned from this
relationship is to always trust your instincts, even when you don't
have complete truth.  And I always believe that no matter how much a
person tries to hide the truth, the truth will come out.  And you
don't have to live your life in a lie.  You have choices, and are
entitled to a relationship where trust is a cornerstone. 

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