When I was barely in touch with my headmates they didn’t seem to have a lot of interest in outside people.  Now Imja’s starting to want his own life, and that of course is all fine with me, but it’s messing up my relationship.  I don’t want to break up with the person I’m with, but I’m scared they won’t feel for Imja what he needs and deserves too, just me.  The others can’t be alone forever and I don’t know how to work around this.  It’s like…all we can do is just either hope this works for all of us, start thinking about a polyamorous relationship (which most likely wouldn’t work for any of us) or just give up. 

The reason I’m writing this here instead of talking more to my SO (sorry, love) is because I’m hoping maybe some other multiple or system could help me.  Just…say how it’s been for you, can it ever work if only one side of a relationship is multiple, something?  I’m lost in this.