iwylin/imbue_dearman_expert_annotations huggingface dataset:
Situation (family): My teenage son has been spending an excessive amount of time on his computer and neglecting his schoolwork, despite my previous attempts to discuss the importance of balance and responsibility.
Message: I'm glad you're open to finding a compromise. That's a positive step. I think your idea of finishing your work before using the computer is a good one. It ensures that your responsibilities come first, and then you can enjoy your computer time without feeling guilty. Let's give that a try and see how it works for both of us.
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: Strong; Assert: Strong; Reinforce: Weak; Negotiate: Weak; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Reinforce — suggestion: Add in more reinforcers for the son to motivate behavior change. 
Reinforce — rewrite: It ensures that your responsibilities come first, get good grads, you can enjoy your computer time fully, and most importantly, I'll be off your back (if the son finds this type of conversation annoying or bothersome)!
Negotiate — suggestion: I suggest you to re-state your goal and the other person's goal before start finding solutions. 
Negotiate — rewrite: I'm glad you're open to finding a compromise. That's a positive step. I think your idea of finishing your work before using the computer is a good one. It ensures that your responsibilities come first, and then you can enjoy your computer time without feeling guilty.  My goal here is for you take advantage of the education and prepare for you future and I also want you to have fun. And I understand that computer and relax time is important for you. Let's make a plan so that both of our goals will be met
Situation (family): My teenage son has been spending an excessive amount of time on his computer and neglecting his schoolwork, despite my previous attempts to discuss the importance of balance and responsibility.
Message: I'm glad you're willing to try the compromise. I completely understand that school can sometimes feel less engaging. Let's definitely work together to find ways to make your school experience more interesting and tailored to your needs. We can explore different learning approaches and extracurricular activities that align with your interests. Your education is important, and we'll do our best to make it more enjoyable for you.
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: Strong; Assert: Strong; Reinforce: Weak; Negotiate: Strong; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Reinforce — suggestion: Lean more heavily on reinforcing the desirable response-in this case, is the compromise. 
Reinforce — rewrite: I am glad that you are willing to compromise! I can see that you did not completely ignore your schoolwork, and quite the opposite, you have been putting into the effort to make sure school work is on track .
Situation (family): My teenage son has been spending an excessive amount of time on his computer and neglecting his schoolwork, despite my previous attempts to discuss the importance of balance and responsibility.
Message: I really appreciate your willingness to work together on this. It means a lot to me that you're thinking about your future. Let's explore some exciting learning opportunities and activities together. 
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: Strong; Assert: Strong; Reinforce: Strong; Negotiate: Strong; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Situation (family): My teenage son has been spending an excessive amount of time on his computer and neglecting his schoolwork, despite my previous attempts to discuss the importance of balance and responsibility.
Message: You're very welcome! I'm thrilled that we're on the same page, and I'm here to support you in any way I can. Together, we can create a balanced and fulfilling path for your future. If you ever have questions or need help along the way, don't hesitate to reach out. I'm here for you.
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: Strong; Assert: Strong; Reinforce: Strong; Negotiate: Strong; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Situation (family): My teenage son has been spending an excessive amount of time on his computer and neglecting his schoolwork, despite my previous attempts to discuss the importance of balance and responsibility.
Message: Thank you so much for your kind words. It warms my heart to hear that, and I'm truly grateful for the opportunity to be your parent. We'll definitely keep the conversation going, and I'm excited to see you thrive as we work together to strike that perfect balance. Your happiness and success mean everything to me.
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: Strong; Assert: Strong; Reinforce: Strong; Negotiate: No; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Situation (family): My teenage son has been spending an excessive amount of time on his computer and neglecting his schoolwork, despite my previous attempts to discuss the importance of balance and responsibility.
Message: You're very welcome, and I'm touched by your words. It's a joy to see you grow, and I'm excited about all the wonderful things you'll achieve. Remember, I'll always be here for you, cheering you on every step of the way. Let's continue this journey together with love and support.
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: Strong; Assert: No; Reinforce: Strong; Negotiate: No; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: No
Stay Mindful — suggestion: I suggest the conversation to stay on topic, which is to continue to brainstorm solutions and compromises that can help both parties to attain their goals. Right now it seems to be going off track a little.
Situation (family): My teenage son has been spending an excessive amount of time on his computer and neglecting his schoolwork, despite my previous attempts to discuss the importance of balance and responsibility.
Message: I love you too, more than words can express.
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: Strong; Assert: No; Reinforce: Strong; Negotiate: No; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Situation (family): My teenage son has been spending an excessive amount of time on his computer and neglecting his schoolwork, despite my previous attempts to discuss the importance of balance and responsibility.
Message: Our bond is incredibly special, and it brings me so much happiness as well. 
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: Strong; Assert: No; Reinforce: Strong; Negotiate: No; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Situation (work): I had a trip planned to go to Hawaii for the holidays and my boss approved the time off at the beginning of the year. He has just told me that I will need to work on days he approved for my vacation. Iâm afraid I will lose thousands of dollars I have already spent on my vacation.
Message: I have already purchased a flight and hotel for a trip to Hawaii based on your approval of my vacation. Now you're telling me I have to work on days you already approved for that trip.
Expert skill ratings — Describe: Strong; Express: No; Assert: No; Reinforce: No; Negotiate: No; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Express — suggestion: It is important to bring up the describe event or fact and it's implication on you so that the other person can understand why you think this conversation is important. 
Express — rewrite: I have already purchased a flight and hotel for a trip to Hawaii based on your approval of my vacation. Now you're telling me I have to work on days you already approved for that trip. This suddenly changed my plans and the financial aspect of it is stressful for me.
Situation (work): I had a trip planned to go to Hawaii for the holidays and my boss approved the time off at the beginning of the year. He has just told me that I will need to work on days he approved for my vacation. Iâm afraid I will lose thousands of dollars I have already spent on my vacation.
Message: I understand that deadlines can change, but canceling or rescheduling this trip would cost me thousands of dollars.
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: Weak; Assert: No; Reinforce: No; Negotiate: No; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Express — suggestion: Similar to last comment, provide more details regarding the financial stress that the changes might cause. 
Express — rewrite: I understand that deadlines can change, but canceling or rescheduling this trip would cost me thousands of dollars. I'm already stressed out about my finances and this will add to that.
Situation (work): I had a trip planned to go to Hawaii for the holidays and my boss approved the time off at the beginning of the year. He has just told me that I will need to work on days he approved for my vacation. Iâm afraid I will lose thousands of dollars I have already spent on my vacation.
Message: Perhaps I can work overtime ahead of the trip and be reachable by phone for emergencies only during the trip.
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: No; Assert: No; Reinforce: No; Negotiate: Strong; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Reinforce — suggestion: The boss showed signs of compromise. Reinforce this behavior by saying thank you.
Reinforce — rewrite: Thanks for your understanding and willingness to come up with alternative solutions. Perhaps I can work overtime ahead of the trip and be reachable by phone for emergencies only during the trip.
Situation (work): I had a trip planned to go to Hawaii for the holidays and my boss approved the time off at the beginning of the year. He has just told me that I will need to work on days he approved for my vacation. Iâm afraid I will lose thousands of dollars I have already spent on my vacation.
Message: I can't be fully present for work or during work hours on my vacation.
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: No; Assert: Strong; Reinforce: No; Negotiate: No; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Express — suggestion: Express your feelings and preferences will help the other person understand you more and help reach a agreed upon solution. 
Express — rewrite: I can't be fully present for work or during work hours on my vacation. Vacation is the time for me to rewind and recharge before I can return to work feeling ready and refreshed.
Reinforce — suggestion: Maintain behavior change to the direction that you want to see. 
Reinforce — rewrite: I appreciate you having this conversation with me and trying to figure out a solution. I can't be fully present for work or during work hours on my vacation.
Situation (work): I had a trip planned to go to Hawaii for the holidays and my boss approved the time off at the beginning of the year. He has just told me that I will need to work on days he approved for my vacation. Iâm afraid I will lose thousands of dollars I have already spent on my vacation.
Message: As the person who approved my vacation, maybe you can rally the team to pick up the slack in my absence.
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: No; Assert: No; Reinforce: No; Negotiate: Weak; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Express — suggestion: Expressing is a way to continue validate both your and ther person's needs in the situation. 
Express — rewrite: I understand the urgency of the situation regarding the upcoming deadline and I also feel frustrated because my vacation time was not honored. As the person who approved my vacation, maybe you can rally the team to pick up the slack in my absence.
Negotiate — suggestion: Negotiation works best when it states how alternative solutinos can meet both parties needs and goals.
Negotiate — rewrite: As the person who approved my vacation, maybe you can rally the team to pick up the slack in my absence. This way I can enjoy my time during vacation, the team will meet deadline on time, and you will be the boss who kept his words and respect employee's personal time.
Situation (work): I had a trip planned to go to Hawaii for the holidays and my boss approved the time off at the beginning of the year. He has just told me that I will need to work on days he approved for my vacation. Iâm afraid I will lose thousands of dollars I have already spent on my vacation.
Message: I am willing to train anyone who would be involved with taking over my tasks while I'm away.
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: No; Assert: No; Reinforce: No; Negotiate: Strong; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Reinforce — suggestion: Maintain behavior change and the directions of the conversation. 
Reinforce — rewrite: Thanks so much for being open to rallying the team to hep meet the dealine while I'm away. I am willing to train anyone who would be involved with taking over my tasks while I'm away.
Situation (work): I had a trip planned to go to Hawaii for the holidays and my boss approved the time off at the beginning of the year. He has just told me that I will need to work on days he approved for my vacation. Iâm afraid I will lose thousands of dollars I have already spent on my vacation.
Message: Just to confirm that I am still approved for my vacation in light of this conversation.
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: No; Assert: Strong; Reinforce: No; Negotiate: No; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Express — suggestion: Express help build a common ground where both parties can stay on the same page. 
Express — rewrite: Thanks for spending the time problem solving with me. I feel supported and relieved that I can enjoy my vacation. Just to confirm that I am still approved for my vacation in light of this conversation.
Reinforce — suggestion: Maintain behavior change. 
Reinforce — rewrite: Thanks for spending the time problem solving with me. I feel supported and relieved that I can enjoy my vacation. Just to confirm that I am still approved for my vacation in light of this conversation.
Situation (family): My mom recently suffered from a stroke, so I put her phone on my phone plan so that she would have no problem reaching her kids. Recently, I received a call from my cell phone provider about several hundred dollars in international phone call fees on her phone line. As the primary account holder, I have to pay those international calling fees. I have spoken to her before about this and threatened to remove her from my plan but she insists that it is someone she is dating.
Message: I've told you once before to please stop falling for these romance scams and making international phone calls to Nigerian scammers, costing me hundreds of dollars every month.
Expert skill ratings — Describe: Strong; Express: No; Assert: No; Reinforce: No; Negotiate: No; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Express — suggestion: State the impact of the described event.
Express — rewrite: I've told you once before to please stop falling for these romance scams and making international phone calls to Nigerian scammers, costing me hundreds of dollars every month. This stresses me out.
Situation (family): My mom recently suffered from a stroke, so I put her phone on my phone plan so that she would have no problem reaching her kids. Recently, I received a call from my cell phone provider about several hundred dollars in international phone call fees on her phone line. As the primary account holder, I have to pay those international calling fees. I have spoken to her before about this and threatened to remove her from my plan but she insists that it is someone she is dating.
Message: I'm literally married. There are countless articles online about these romance scams and how they target middle-aged or older women, like yourself. You're in a vulnerable state and I worry you're much easier to take advantage of.
Expert skill ratings — Describe: Strong; Express: Weak; Assert: No; Reinforce: No; Negotiate: No; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Express — suggestion: Express your undersanding of your mom's situation is also important.
Express — rewrite: I understand that you might be lonely and that this man is providing a lot of emotional support for you and making you feel loved. 
I'm literally married. There are countless articles online about these romance scams and how they target middle-aged or older women, like yourself. You're in a vulnerable state and I worry you're much easier to take advantage of.
Situation (family): My mom recently suffered from a stroke, so I put her phone on my phone plan so that she would have no problem reaching her kids. Recently, I received a call from my cell phone provider about several hundred dollars in international phone call fees on her phone line. As the primary account holder, I have to pay those international calling fees. I have spoken to her before about this and threatened to remove her from my plan but she insists that it is someone she is dating.
Message: I want you to stop making international phone calls while on my phone plan. If you want to get scammed, you can pay your own phone bill.
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: No; Assert: Strong; Reinforce: No; Negotiate: No; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Negotiate — suggestion: To ensure that both parties goals are being considered when coming up with the final solution. 
Negotiate — rewrite: I want you to stop making international phone calls while on my phone plan. If you are lonely and would like to date someone romantically, we can work together to get you on the dating market locally.
Situation (family): My mom recently suffered from a stroke, so I put her phone on my phone plan so that she would have no problem reaching her kids. Recently, I received a call from my cell phone provider about several hundred dollars in international phone call fees on her phone line. As the primary account holder, I have to pay those international calling fees. I have spoken to her before about this and threatened to remove her from my plan but she insists that it is someone she is dating.
Message: I would prefer you stop talking to him, but I can't control you. All I can do is tell you to stop using my account to make international phone calls. I will have to remove you from my account if you make any more international phone calls.
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: No; Assert: Strong; Reinforce: No; Negotiate: No; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Reinforce — suggestion: help mom to see your point of view and come to a middle ground. 
Reinforce — rewrite: Thanks for understanding my concern. It is very costly. Say that it is not scam, it might be good to continue on email but still be careful a out anything related to money.
I would prefer you stop talking to him, but I can't control you. All I can do is tell you to stop using my account to make international phone calls. I will have to remove you from my account if you make any more international phone calls.
Situation (family): My mom recently suffered from a stroke, so I put her phone on my phone plan so that she would have no problem reaching her kids. Recently, I received a call from my cell phone provider about several hundred dollars in international phone call fees on her phone line. As the primary account holder, I have to pay those international calling fees. I have spoken to her before about this and threatened to remove her from my plan but she insists that it is someone she is dating.
Message: I am not paying for any of the calls going forward. If you want to make international phone calls, you will need your own phone plan.
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: No; Assert: Strong; Reinforce: No; Negotiate: No; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Negotiate — suggestion: To strive to meet both parties' goals.
Negotiate — rewrite: I would prefer not paying for any of the calls going forward. If you want to make international phone calls, you will need your own phone plan. as your daughter, I will help you find financial assistance.
Situation (family): My mom recently suffered from a stroke, so I put her phone on my phone plan so that she would have no problem reaching her kids. Recently, I received a call from my cell phone provider about several hundred dollars in international phone call fees on her phone line. As the primary account holder, I have to pay those international calling fees. I have spoken to her before about this and threatened to remove her from my plan but she insists that it is someone she is dating.
Message: If you make one more international call to this romance scammer I am removing you from my phone plan.
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: No; Assert: Strong; Reinforce: No; Negotiate: No; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Reinforce — suggestion: maintain behavior change
Reinforce — rewrite: Thanks for being willing to reduce the frequency of contact with him. 

Negotiate — suggestion: Negotiation can make the other person feel heard and more willing to move towards you. 
Negotiate — rewrite: You can have some time to think about this and other alternative solutions such as using email or finidng a parnter here locally. if you still want to talk to him, we might need to come up with ways to ensure that he is paying some of the phone bills.
Situation (family): My mom recently suffered from a stroke, so I put her phone on my phone plan so that she would have no problem reaching her kids. Recently, I received a call from my cell phone provider about several hundred dollars in international phone call fees on her phone line. As the primary account holder, I have to pay those international calling fees. I have spoken to her before about this and threatened to remove her from my plan but she insists that it is someone she is dating.
Message: I'm sure he is a real person, just not the person you think he is. I put you on my account so that you would never have trouble reaching us. This way we had the peace of mind that we could always be in contact if you had any emergencies.
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: No; Assert: No; Reinforce: Strong; Negotiate: No; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Negotiate — suggestion: it is important to not let one party of the conversation feel at disadvantage at the end of the conversation. 
Negotiate — rewrite: I'm sure he is a real person, just not the person you think he is. I put you on my account so that you would never have trouble reaching us. This way we had the peace of mind that we could always be in contact if you had any emergencies. Again, if you are looking to date, we can help you with that.
Situation (family): My mom recently suffered from a stroke, so I put her phone on my phone plan so that she would have no problem reaching her kids. Recently, I received a call from my cell phone provider about several hundred dollars in international phone call fees on her phone line. As the primary account holder, I have to pay those international calling fees. I have spoken to her before about this and threatened to remove her from my plan but she insists that it is someone she is dating.
Message: I really wish you wouldn't have contact with them and I wish you were smart enough to see that you are being scammed. Why do you think all of your kids are warning you? However, I can't control you.
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: Strong; Assert: Strong; Reinforce: No; Negotiate: No; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Situation (social): My neighbor and I have been experiencing issues with noise levels coming from their house late at night. Despite my previous attempts to discuss the matter politely, they continue to be noisy, making it difficult for me to sleep.
Message: Hi there, I wanted to talk to you about the noise issue at night. It's been causing me some trouble sleeping, and I was hoping we could find a solution together.
Expert skill ratings — Describe: Strong; Express: No; Assert: Strong; Reinforce: No; Negotiate: Strong; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Situation (social): My neighbor and I have been experiencing issues with noise levels coming from their house late at night. Despite my previous attempts to discuss the matter politely, they continue to be noisy, making it difficult for me to sleep.
Message:  I understand that you have the right to enjoy your apartment, but it's also important for both of us to have a peaceful living environment. Can we find a way to balance your activities with my need for a good night's sleep?
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: Strong; Assert: No; Reinforce: No; Negotiate: Strong; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Situation (social): My neighbor and I have been experiencing issues with noise levels coming from their house late at night. Despite my previous attempts to discuss the matter politely, they continue to be noisy, making it difficult for me to sleep.
Message:  I respect your reasons, and I understand that it might be challenging to make promises. However, I'm also looking for a solution that works for both of us. Can we explore some possible compromises or alternative arrangements that could help address this issue?
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: No; Assert: Weak; Reinforce: No; Negotiate: Strong; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Assert — suggestion: You should try to be more explicit about your ask rather than state that you're "looking" for an alternative solution
Assert — rewrite:  I respect your reasons, and I understand that it might be challenging to make promises. However, I would also like to find a solution that works for both of us. Can we explore some possible compromises or alternative arrangements that could help address this issue?
Situation (social): My neighbor and I have been experiencing issues with noise levels coming from their house late at night. Despite my previous attempts to discuss the matter politely, they continue to be noisy, making it difficult for me to sleep.
Message:  I appreciate your perspective on your right to enjoy your apartment. At the same time, I'm hoping we can find a middle ground that allows both of us to have a comfortable living situation. If wearing earplugs or moving out becomes my only option, it would be disappointing. Can we brainstorm other ways to resolve this issue?
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: Weak; Assert: Strong; Reinforce: Weak; Negotiate: Strong; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Express — suggestion: You can try to weave in your feelings about wanting to be comfortable in your own space when you're connecting to and validating your neighbor's opinion
Express — rewrite: I appreciate your perspective on your right to enjoy your apartment -- I feel the same way about wanting to be able to enjoy my own space. At the same time, I'm hoping we can find a middle ground that allows both of us to have a comfortable living situation. If wearing earplugs or moving out becomes my only option, it would be disappointing. Can we brainstorm other ways to resolve this issue?
Reinforce — suggestion: You can state your feelings as a negative consequence in more direct language
Reinforce — rewrite:  I appreciate your perspective on your right to enjoy your apartment. At the same time, I'm hoping we can find a middle ground that allows both of us to have a comfortable living situation. If wearing earplugs or moving out becomes my only option, I would feel disappointed. Can we brainstorm other ways to resolve this issue?
Situation (social): My neighbor and I have been experiencing issues with noise levels coming from their house late at night. Despite my previous attempts to discuss the matter politely, they continue to be noisy, making it difficult for me to sleep.
Message: I understand that you've made your position clear, and I respect your right to enjoy your apartment. I'll explore other options to ensure I can get a good night's sleep. If you ever change your mind or if there's an opportunity for us to revisit this issue, please let me know.
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: Weak; Assert: No; Reinforce: No; Negotiate: Strong; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: No
Express — suggestion: The expression of your feelings of sadness here could also be used as a potential negative reinforcement, to show truthfully how you feel about not being able to find a solution that helps both of you
Express — rewrite: I understand that you've made your position clear, and I respect your right to enjoy your apartment, though I do feel sad that we can't come to a compromise. I'll explore other options to ensure I can get a good night's sleep. If you ever change your mind or if there's an opportunity for us to revisit this issue, please let me know.
Reinforce — suggestion: You can consider using the "Reinforce" strategy here to leave your neighbor with a potential positive reinforcer for being willing to compromise on this issue in the future
Reinforce — rewrite: I understand that you've made your position clear, and I respect your right to enjoy your apartment. I'll explore other options to ensure I can get a good night's sleep. If you ever change your mind or if there's an opportunity for us to revisit this issue, please let me know. I would be so relieved if we could find a way to compromise in any way.
Stay Mindful — suggestion: You could give another try at being a "broken record" and asking for a compromise again
Situation (social): My neighbor and I have been experiencing issues with noise levels coming from their house late at night. Despite my previous attempts to discuss the matter politely, they continue to be noisy, making it difficult for me to sleep.
Message: Thank you for understanding, and I appreciate your consideration. I hope we can find a solution in the future. Have a good night as well.
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: Weak; Assert: No; Reinforce: No; Negotiate: No; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Express — suggestion: You can be slightly more specific about what you would like here in the future
Express — rewrite: Thank you for understanding, and I appreciate your consideration. I hope we can find a solution in the future where we can both feel comfortable and be able to have fun in each of our apartments. Have a good night as well.
Reinforce — suggestion: You can consider using the "Reinforce" strategy here because it leaves the conversation with space for a more positive outcome in the future
Reinforce — rewrite: Thank you for understanding, and I appreciate your consideration. I hope we can find a solution in the future. I really like living here and don't want either of us to feel uncomfortable in our living spaces if we can help it. Have a good night as well.
Situation (family): My husband watches Television with loud volume even at night without minding its a distractions to me and it also disrupts my sleep. He acts as if he don't care although he knows it's disturbing me.
Message: Honey you have to learn to always turn down the volume of the TV especially at night because I can't sleep with its noise 
Expert skill ratings — Describe: Weak; Express: Weak; Assert: Strong; Reinforce: No; Negotiate: No; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Describe — suggestion: Stick to the fact-say how many days a week rather than "always"-this could sound blaming. 
Describe — rewrite: The past couple days this week you have been watching TV ad high volume at night. I am sensitive to noise and I can't sleep, which then impact my work performance next day.
Honey I would appreciate you to turn down the volumne of the TV a little. 
Express — suggestion: Express more about the impact of low sleep quality on the next day
Express — rewrite: The past couple days this week you have been watching TV ad high volume at night. I am sensitive to noise and I can't sleep, which then impact my work performance next day.
Honey I would appreciate you to turn down the volumne of the TV a little.
Situation (family): My husband watches Television with loud volume even at night without minding its a distractions to me and it also disrupts my sleep. He acts as if he don't care although he knows it's disturbing me.
Message: No, it makes me keep thinking what shows are going on and it disrupts my sleep 
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: Weak; Assert: Strong; Reinforce: No; Negotiate: No; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Express — suggestion: validate the husband's needs and the restate yoru needs. 
Express — rewrite: I understand that watching TV helps you relax. I want that for you. 
No, it makes me keep thinking what shows are going on and it disrupts my sleep.
Situation (family): My husband watches Television with loud volume even at night without minding its a distractions to me and it also disrupts my sleep. He acts as if he don't care although he knows it's disturbing me.
Message: Your suggestion is not a good idea to me, I can't sleep comfortably with earplugs. 
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: No; Assert: Strong; Reinforce: No; Negotiate: No; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Reinforce — suggestion: Help husband to come up with solutions to reach a compromise. 
Reinforce — rewrite: Thanks for being willing to come up with alternative solutions. 
Your suggestion is not a good idea to me, I can't sleep comfortably with earplugs. 
Negotiate — suggestion: important to stay open minded and willing to make comprimises. 
Negotiate — rewrite: I can't sleep comfortably with earplugs. Unless you have brands or types of earplugs that you think is comfy.
Situation (family): My husband watches Television with loud volume even at night without minding its a distractions to me and it also disrupts my sleep. He acts as if he don't care although he knows it's disturbing me.
Message: The sound of the TV enters all the rooms and it can't allow me to sleep, this makes me sleepy at work
Expert skill ratings — Describe: Strong; Express: Strong; Assert: No; Reinforce: No; Negotiate: No; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Reinforce — suggestion: maintain behavior change
Reinforce — rewrite: Thanks for thinking of that solution. The sound of the TV enters all the rooms and it can't allow me to sleep, this makes me sleepy at work
Negotiate — suggestion: reach a solution that safisfy both parties
Negotiate — rewrite: The sound of the TV enters all the rooms and it can't allow me to sleep, this makes me sleepy at work. What about you closing the door when you watch TV and turn down the volumn, maybe try headphones?
Situation (family): My husband watches Television with loud volume even at night without minding its a distractions to me and it also disrupts my sleep. He acts as if he don't care although he knows it's disturbing me.
Message: It annoys me when you keep suggesting such to me. Do you know I have headache in the mornings because of this and it affects my work too?
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: Weak; Assert: Strong; Reinforce: No; Negotiate: No; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Express — suggestion: Using "I " statement rather than having an accusative tone
Express — rewrite: I don't feel heard when you keep suggesting these solutions to me. I have bad headaches that affect my work next day. 
Negotiate — suggestion: help both parties feel heard.
Negotiate — rewrite: I understand that you want to watch TV and enjoy it. And I would appreciate you if you could see that sleep is important to me. We can both make changes not just me.
Situation (family): My husband watches Television with loud volume even at night without minding its a distractions to me and it also disrupts my sleep. He acts as if he don't care although he knows it's disturbing me.
Message: Is it not better you accept to turn down the volume a bit  especially at late nights so you won't disturb other neighbors too 
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: No; Assert: Strong; Reinforce: No; Negotiate: No; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Negotiate — suggestion: wiling to make compromises is important. 
Negotiate — rewrite: Even if not for me, turning down the volume at late nights so you won't disturb other neighbors too. That being said, I would be open to talk to a sleep specialist and hear what they have to say.
Situation (family): My husband watches Television with loud volume even at night without minding its a distractions to me and it also disrupts my sleep. He acts as if he don't care although he knows it's disturbing me.
Message: That's better but I want it well turned, I don't want to hear it at all because once my sleep is disrupted, I can't sleep again 
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: No; Assert: Strong; Reinforce: Weak; Negotiate: No; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Reinforce — suggestion: Acknowledge the effort the husband is putting into reaching a compromise. 
Reinforce — rewrite: Thank you for being open to trying to turn down your volumn. You are so understanding. At the same time, I wonder if you can turn it down enought so that  I won't  hear it at all because once my sleep is disrupted, I can't sleep again
Situation (family): My husband watches Television with loud volume even at night without minding its a distractions to me and it also disrupts my sleep. He acts as if he don't care although he knows it's disturbing me.
Message: It would be better if you have any special and interesting programs you want to watch, maybe you should used the TV in the other room and also lower it. 
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: No; Assert: Strong; Reinforce: No; Negotiate: Weak; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Negotiate — suggestion: negotiation should make both parties see that their goals are being valued during solution generation. 
Negotiate — rewrite: It would be better if you have any special and interesting programs you want to watch, maybe you should used the TV in the other room and also lower it. That way I can sleep well and you can enjoy you TV show.
Situation (family): My husband watches Television with loud volume even at night without minding its a distractions to me and it also disrupts my sleep. He acts as if he don't care although he knows it's disturbing me.
Message: Yes, I'll be very happy and would be able to enjoy my sleep if you do so.
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: No; Assert: No; Reinforce: Weak; Negotiate: No; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Reinforce — suggestion: Provide a reinforcer for the other party. 
Reinforce — rewrite: Yes, I'll be very happy and would be able to enjoy my sleep if you do so. This will I will be less grumpy and more pleasant to be around.
Situation (family): My husband watches Television with loud volume even at night without minding its a distractions to me and it also disrupts my sleep. He acts as if he don't care although he knows it's disturbing me.
Message: It's nice we've reached this agreement, I won't have any issues with you as long as you keep your promise 
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: No; Assert: No; Reinforce: Weak; Negotiate: No; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Reinforce — suggestion: Stronger reinforce
Reinforce — rewrite: I'm really glad that we reached this agreement and that you are super understanding throughout this conversation. I won't have any issues with you as long as you keep your promise
Situation (work): My colleague consistently takes credit for my ideas during team meetings, despite my previous attempts to discuss this issue with them privately.
Message: Hi, I wanted to discuss something that's been bothering me. In our recent team meetings, I've noticed that there have been instances where my ideas were presented as yours. It's important for me that we have a transparent and collaborative work environment, and this situation has been causing some discomfort.
Expert skill ratings — Describe: Strong; Express: Strong; Assert: No; Reinforce: Strong; Negotiate: No; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Situation (work): My colleague consistently takes credit for my ideas during team meetings, despite my previous attempts to discuss this issue with them privately.
Message: I appreciate your willingness to discuss this. One example that stood out to me was during our last project presentation when I suggested the new marketing strategy. In the meeting, it seemed like my idea was presented as if it was yours. It's essential for me to address this issue so that we can maintain a fair and respectful work environment.
Expert skill ratings — Describe: Strong; Express: Strong; Assert: Strong; Reinforce: Strong; Negotiate: No; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Situation (work): My colleague consistently takes credit for my ideas during team meetings, despite my previous attempts to discuss this issue with them privately.
Message: I appreciate your willingness to work towards a solution. It's possible that there was a miscommunication, and I'm glad we can discuss it openly. I agree that in future meetings, we can make a concerted effort to clearly define our contributions to avoid any misunderstandings. This way, we can continue working together effectively and collaboratively.
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: Strong; Assert: No; Reinforce: Strong; Negotiate: Strong; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Situation (work): My colleague consistently takes credit for my ideas during team meetings, despite my previous attempts to discuss this issue with them privately.
Message: Thank you for being open to resolving this matter. I believe we've covered the important points, and I'm satisfied with our plan to communicate our ideas clearly and acknowledge each other's contributions in future meetings. I'm hopeful that this approach will lead to a more positive and productive working relationship.
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: Strong; Assert: No; Reinforce: Strong; Negotiate: No; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Situation (work): My colleague consistently takes credit for my ideas during team meetings, despite my previous attempts to discuss this issue with them privately.
Message: I'm also glad we had this conversation, and I appreciate your willingness to address the issue and work together towards a solution. I share your confidence that our future interactions will be more productive and that we can maintain a respectful and collaborative work environment. If any other concerns arise, feel free to reach out. Thank you for your understanding.
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: Strong; Assert: No; Reinforce: Strong; Negotiate: No; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Situation (work): My colleague consistently takes credit for my ideas during team meetings, despite my previous attempts to discuss this issue with them privately.
Message: I appreciate your understanding and your commitment to open and honest communication in our work environment. It's reassuring to know that we can address issues constructively. I'll definitely reach out if anything else comes up, and I look forward to continuing to work together effectively and positively. Thanks again for your cooperation.
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: Strong; Assert: No; Reinforce: Strong; Negotiate: No; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Situation (work): My colleague consistently takes credit for my ideas during team meetings, despite my previous attempts to discuss this issue with them privately.
Message: Thank you, and I share the same sentiment. Let's work together to achieve great results. Have a fantastic day!
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: Strong; Assert: No; Reinforce: Strong; Negotiate: No; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: Yes
Situation (family): My brother has been going out a lot lately and my mom has been telling me that he's coming home drunk often.
Message: Hey bro, how you been?
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: No; Assert: No; Reinforce: No; Negotiate: No; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: No
Describe — suggestion: You can consider using the "Describe" strategy here to make sure that your brother knows exactly what you'd like to talk about in this conversation
Describe — rewrite: Hey bro, I've noticed that you've been going out more frequently than usual lately. How have you been?
Assert — suggestion: It is important to follow a description with a clear ask to have more effective conversations. 
Assert — rewrite: Hey bro, I've noticed that you've been going out more frequently than usual lately and want to make sure that everything's ok. How have you been?
Stay Mindful — suggestion: Make sure to stick to your goals in this conversation and not get distracted by opening up the conversation to other potential topics
Situation (family): My brother has been going out a lot lately and my mom has been telling me that he's coming home drunk often.
Message: I'm just asking. We don't talk a lot lately.  
Expert skill ratings — Describe: Weak; Express: No; Assert: No; Reinforce: No; Negotiate: No; Appear Confident: No; Stay Mindful: No
Describe — suggestion: You should try to be more detailed and specific with your description to set up exactly what you're reacting to
Describe — rewrite: I'm just asking. We haven't talked in a few weeks and I've noticed that you've been going out more frequently than usual.
Express — suggestion: You can consider using the "Express" strategy here so that your brother knows exactly what you're feeling -- don't assume that he knows without you telling him
Express — rewrite: I'm just asking. We don't talk a lot lately and I've been worried about how often you've been going out at night and wanted to check in.
Appear Confident — suggestion: Try not to get defensive and be confident in your engagement in this discussion
Stay Mindful — suggestion: Try to add an "Express" strategy in to connect the fact that you haven't talked to the goal of this conversation
Situation (family): My brother has been going out a lot lately and my mom has been telling me that he's coming home drunk often.
Message: Lol.  Yeah I know. I work as well but I can call you from time to time and catch up right?
Expert skill ratings — Describe: Weak; Express: No; Assert: Weak; Reinforce: No; Negotiate: No; Appear Confident: No; Stay Mindful: Yes
Describe — suggestion: Try to be more descriptive with your situation of being busy to help set up your motivation for checking in now
Describe — rewrite: Lol.  Yeah I know. I've been busy with work as well recently and haven't had as much time as usual to chat, but I can call you from time to time and catch up right?
Assert — suggestion: Be more assertive in your ask rather than phrasing it like a passive question
Assert — rewrite: Lol.  Yeah I know. I work as well and have been busy, and I'd love to be able to call you and catch up when I'm thinking of you
Reinforce — suggestion: You can consider using the "Reinforce" strategy to provide your brother with a positive reward that he can expect for checking in with you
Reinforce — rewrite: Lol.  Yeah I know. I work as well but I can call you from time to time and catch up right? I miss you and would love to be able to check in and hear how things have been going for you.
Appear Confident — suggestion: Be more assertive in your ask rather than phrasing it like a passive question
Situation (family): My brother has been going out a lot lately and my mom has been telling me that he's coming home drunk often.
Message: Why so defensive if I haven't even brought up anything yet?
Expert skill ratings — Describe: No; Express: Weak; Assert: No; Reinforce: No; Negotiate: No; Appear Confident: Yes; Stay Mindful: No
Describe — suggestion: description can be used more than once in a conversation whenever you think you need to re-ground yourself and the other in the fact. Here, it is important to symply state your observation of the reaction of the other person and then assert that you are supportive of them. 
Describe — rewrite: I intended to check in on you and I could sense that you are a bit guarded around me. I want to say that I care about you and I am here to support you.
Express — suggestion: You should try to make statements about your own feelings and opinions rather than the other person's
Express — rewrite: I don't want to make you feel like I'm intruding or lecturing you, I only want to make sure that you feel supported and like you have someone to talk to when things get stressful
Assert — suggestion: It is important to keep coming back to your ask to keep orienting the conversation back to what you need.
Assert — rewrite: I intended to check in on you and I could sense that you are a bit guarded around me. I want to say that I care about you and I am here to support you.
Stay Mindful — suggestion: Don't get distracted and turn it around to make it about your brother's defensiveness -- your main goal is to talk to him about his drinking and staying out at night