he said what?: women write about moments when everything changed  i love you. the meeting ran late. i was a terrible father. i want a divorce. i'm gay. one little word, one casual lie, and nothing is ever the same. twenty-five gifted writers, including pam houston, caroline leavitt, starhawk, beverly donofrio, joyce maynard, amy ferris, share that personal moment when one man said something, good or bad, that changed their lives forever.