Some of Miras comments may stem from the judgement that full time mothers face today Feminism is surely about choice Child rearing is often a group activity and it is up to all the people involved in rearing the child to decide what role each one of them will play Sometimes its a group grandma grandpa mom and dad so each one of them is able to do other stuff while spending a part of the day with the child Sometimes both parents divide the responsibility Sometimes one parent prioritizes work and the other one is a full time caregiver Sometimes you hire dependable help No configuration is wrong Economic factors also play a role in the decision What I find a bit jarring is that she almost seems to shame working mothers for bringing up their children like a puppy As long as all parties including the mother have a choice then its all good