Got error when train models with more than one param_group in torch2.0
Labels: module: optimizer, triaged, has workaround

### 🐛 Describe the bug

I create optimizer in this way:
```python
    for name, module in model.named_modules():
        if isinstance(module, QuantModule_int2lora) and module.ignore_reconstruction is False:
            avg_delta = torch.sum(module.weight_quantizer.delta) / torch.numel(module.weight_quantizer.delta)
            params = [param for name, param in module.named_parameters() if 'lora' in name]
            if firstone:
                optimizer = torch.optim.AdamW(params, lr=avg_delta / 300)
                firstone = False
            else:
                optimizer.add_param_group({'params': params, 'lr': avg_delta / 300})
```
which will lead to an error in torch >= 2.0.0
```
  File "/fs03/dl65/jing/Yefei/stable-diffusion-v1/./ldm/models/diffusion/plms.py", line 477, in p_sample_plms
    self.optimizer.step()
  File "/projects/dl65/jliu/conda_envs/stablediffusion/lib/python3.8/site-packages/torch/optim/lr_scheduler.py", line 69, in wrapper
    return wrapped(*args, **kwargs)
  File "/projects/dl65/jliu/conda_envs/stablediffusion/lib/python3.8/site-packages/torch/optim/optimizer.py", line 280, in wrapper
    out = func(*args, **kwargs)
  File "/projects/dl65/jliu/conda_envs/stablediffusion/lib/python3.8/site-packages/torch/optim/optimizer.py", line 33, in _use_grad
    ret = func(self, *args, **kwargs)
  File "/projects/dl65/jliu/conda_envs/stablediffusion/lib/python3.8/site-packages/torch/optim/adamw.py", line 171, in step
    adamw(
  File "/projects/dl65/jliu/conda_envs/stablediffusion/lib/python3.8/site-packages/torch/optim/adamw.py", line 321, in adamw
    func(
  File "/projects/dl65/jliu/conda_envs/stablediffusion/lib/python3.8/site-packages/torch/optim/adamw.py", line 568, in _multi_tensor_adamw
    torch._foreach_addcdiv_(device_params, device_exp_avgs, denom, step_size)
TypeError: _foreach_addcdiv_() received an invalid combination of arguments - got (list, list, tuple, list), but expected one of:
 * (tuple of Tensors self, tuple of Tensors tensor1, tuple of Tensors tensor2, tuple of Scalars scalars)
      didn't match because some of the arguments have invalid types: (list of [Parameter, Parameter], list of [Tensor, Tensor], tuple of (Tensor, Tensor), list of [Tensor, Tensor])
 * (tuple of Tensors self, tuple of Tensors tensor1, tuple of Tensors tensor2, Tensor scalars)
      didn't match because some of the arguments have invalid types: (list of [Parameter, Parameter], list of [Tensor, Tensor], tuple of (Tensor, Tensor), list of [Tensor, Tensor])
 * (tuple of Tensors self, tuple of Tensors tensor1, tuple of Tensors tensor2, Number value)
      didn't match because some of the arguments have invalid types: (list of [Parameter, Parameter], list of [Tensor, Tensor], tupl
```

However, it works fine with torch==1.9.0. I wonder why ?

### Versions

Collecting environment information...
PyTorch version: 2.0.1
Is debug build: False
CUDA used to build PyTorch: 11.7
ROCM used to build PyTorch: N/A

OS: Ubuntu 20.04.2 LTS (x86_64)
GCC version: (Ubuntu 9.4.0-1ubuntu1~20.04.1) 9.4.0
Clang version: Could not collect
CMake version: version 3.16.3
Libc version: glibc-2.31

Python version: 3.8.16 (default, Mar  2 2023, 03:21:46)  [GCC 11.2.0] (64-bit runtime)
Python platform: Linux-5.15.0-76-generic-x86_64-with-glibc2.17
Is CUDA available: True
CUDA runtime version: Could not collect
CUDA_MODULE_LOADING set to: LAZY
GPU models and configuration:
GPU 0: NVIDIA GeForce RTX 3090
GPU 1: NVIDIA GeForce RTX 3090
GPU 2: NVIDIA GeForce RTX 3090
GPU 3: NVIDIA GeForce RTX 3090
GPU 4: NVIDIA GeForce RTX 3090
GPU 5: NVIDIA GeForce RTX 3090
GPU 6: NVIDIA GeForce RTX 3090
GPU 7: NVIDIA GeForce RTX 3090

Nvidia driver version: 525.125.06
cuDNN version: Could not collect
HIP runtime version: N/A
MIOpen runtime version: N/A
Is XNNPACK available: True

CPU:
Architecture:                    x86_64
CPU op-mode(s):                  32-bit, 64-bit
Byte Order:                      Little Endian
Address sizes:                   46 bits physical, 48 bits virtual
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On-line CPU(s) list:             0-71
Thread(s) per core:              2
Core(s) per socket:              18
Socket(s):                       2
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Vendor ID:                       GenuineIntel
CPU family:                      6
Model:                           85
Model name:                      Intel(R) Xeon(R) Gold 6140M CPU @ 2.30GHz
Stepping:                        4
CPU MHz:                         1000.000
CPU max MHz:                     3700.0000
CPU min MHz:                     1000.0000
BogoMIPS:                        4600.00
Virtualization:                  VT-x
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L2 cache:                        36 MiB
L3 cache:                        49.5 MiB
NUMA node0 CPU(s):               0-17,36-53
NUMA node1 CPU(s):               18-35,54-71
Vulnerability Itlb multihit:     KVM: Mitigation: VMX disabled
Vulnerability L1tf:              Mitigation; PTE Inversion; VMX conditional cache flushes, SMT vulnerable
Vulnerability Mds:               Mitigation; Clear CPU buffers; SMT vulnerable
Vulnerability Meltdown:          Mitigation; PTI
Vulnerability Mmio stale data:   Mitigation; Clear CPU buffers; SMT vulnerable
Vulnerability Retbleed:          Mitigation; IBRS
Vulnerability Spec store bypass: Mitigation; Speculative Store Bypass disabled via prctl and seccomp
Vulnerability Spectre v1:        Mitigation; usercopy/swapgs barriers and __user pointer sanitization
Vulnerability Spectre v2:        Mitigation; IBRS, IBPB conditional, STIBP conditional, RSB filling, PBRSB-eIBRS Not affected
Vulnerability Srbds:             Not affected
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Versions of relevant libraries:
[pip3] mypy-extensions==1.0.0
[pip3] numpy==1.24.3
[pip3] pytorch-lightning==2.0.4
[pip3] pytorchcv==0.0.67
[pip3] torch==2.0.1
[pip3] torchaudio==2.0.2
[pip3] torchmetrics==0.11.4
[pip3] torchvision==0.15.2
[conda] blas                      1.0                         mkl    https://mirrors.tuna.tsinghua.edu.cn/anaconda/pkgs/main
[conda] ffmpeg                    4.3                  hf484d3e_0    pytorch
[conda] mkl                       2023.1.0         h6d00ec8_46342    https://mirrors.tuna.tsinghua.edu.cn/anaconda/pkgs/main
[conda] mkl-service               2.4.0            py38h5eee18b_1    https://mirrors.tuna.tsinghua.edu.cn/anaconda/pkgs/main
[conda] mkl_fft                   1.3.6            py38h417a72b_1    https://mirrors.tuna.tsinghua.edu.cn/anaconda/pkgs/main
[conda] mkl_random                1.2.2            py38h417a72b_1    https://mirrors.tuna.tsinghua.edu.cn/anaconda/pkgs/main
[conda] numpy                     1.24.3           py38hf6e8229_1    https://mirrors.tuna.tsinghua.edu.cn/anaconda/pkgs/main
[conda] numpy-base                1.24.3           py38h060ed82_1    https://mirrors.tuna.tsinghua.edu.cn/anaconda/pkgs/main
[conda] pytorch                   2.0.1           py3.8_cuda11.7_cudnn8.5.0_0    pytorch
[conda] pytorch-cuda              11.7                 h778d358_5    pytorch
[conda] pytorch-lightning         2.0.4                    pypi_0    pypi
[conda] pytorch-mutex             1.0                        cuda    pytorch
[conda] torchaudio                2.0.2                py38_cu117    pytorch
[conda] torchmetrics              0.11.4                   pypi_0    pypi
[conda] torchtriton               2.0.0                      py38    pytorch
[conda] torchvision               0.15.2               py38_cu117    pytorch


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