Misleading error message in multilabel_margin_loss when passing incompatible tensor dimensions
Labels: module: nn, triaged, actionable

### 🐛 Describe the bug

While using MultiLabelMarginLoss in PyTorch, I received a RuntimeError with a misleading error message. Here's the traceback
```
RuntimeError: Expected non-empty vector or matrix with optional 0-dim batch size, but got: [20, 9, 20]
```
The error message suggests that I'm passing an empty vector or matrix, but that's not the case. I have tried tensors of different shapes, and the error message remains the same.

In my first example, my input tensor shape was [20, 9, 20] and the target tensor was a 7-D tensor. In a second example, the input tensor shape was [1, 2, 3] and the target tensor was a 3-D tensor. In both cases, I suspect the issue is that tensor shapes are uncompatiable.

While I understand that multilabel_margin_loss is expected to receive 1-D or 2-D tensors, the error message could be more descriptive. It would be helpful if it indicated the expected and received tensor dimensions, rather than just saying it expected a non-empty vector or matrix.

Here are the examples that led to this error:
```python
# First example
input_tensor = torch.rand([20, 9, 20])
target_tensor = torch.rand([2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2])  # 7-D tensor

loss_function = nn.MultiLabelMarginLoss()
loss = loss_function(input_tensor, target_tensor)

# Second example
input_tensor = torch.rand([1, 2, 3])
target_tensor = torch.rand([2, 2, 2])  # 3-D tensor

loss_function = nn.MultiLabelMarginLoss()
loss = loss_function(input_tensor, target_tensor)
```
Please let me know if there's any additional information you need or if there's a better way to approach this problem. If this behavior is expected and known, feel free to close this issue. Thank you!

### Versions

PyTorch version: 2.1.0.dev20230622+cu118
Is debug build: False
CUDA used to build PyTorch: 11.8
ROCM used to build PyTorch: N/A

OS: Ubuntu 20.04.6 LTS (x86_64)
GCC version: (Ubuntu 9.4.0-1ubuntu1~20.04.1) 9.4.0
Clang version: 12.0.0-3ubuntu1~20.04.5
CMake version: version 3.26.1
Libc version: glibc-2.31

Python version: 3.9.16 (main, Mar  8 2023, 14:00:05)  [GCC 11.2.0] (64-bit runtime)
Python platform: Linux-5.4.0-152-generic-x86_64-with-glibc2.31
Is CUDA available: True
CUDA runtime version: 12.1.105
CUDA_MODULE_LOADING set to: LAZY
GPU models and configuration:
GPU 0: NVIDIA GeForce RTX 2070
GPU 1: NVIDIA GeForce RTX 2070
GPU 2: NVIDIA GeForce RTX 2070
GPU 3: NVIDIA GeForce RTX 2070

Nvidia driver version: 530.30.02
cuDNN version: Probably one of the following:
/usr/lib/x86_64-linux-gnu/libcudnn.so.8.9.2
/usr/lib/x86_64-linux-gnu/libcudnn_adv_infer.so.8.9.2
/usr/lib/x86_64-linux-gnu/libcudnn_adv_train.so.8.9.2
/usr/lib/x86_64-linux-gnu/libcudnn_cnn_infer.so.8.9.2
/usr/lib/x86_64-linux-gnu/libcudnn_cnn_train.so.8.9.2
/usr/lib/x86_64-linux-gnu/libcudnn_ops_infer.so.8.9.2
/usr/lib/x86_64-linux-gnu/libcudnn_ops_train.so.8.9.2
HIP runtime version: N/A
MIOpen runtime version: N/A
Is XNNPACK available: True

CPU:
Architecture:                    x86_64
CPU op-mode(s):                  32-bit, 64-bit
Byte Order:                      Little Endian
Address sizes:                   46 bits physical, 48 bits virtual
CPU(s):                          32
On-line CPU(s) list:             0-31
Thread(s) per core:              2
Core(s) per socket:              8
Socket(s):                       2
NUMA node(s):                    2
Vendor ID:                       GenuineIntel
CPU family:                      6
Model:                           63
Model name:                      Intel(R) Xeon(R) CPU E5-2630 v3 @ 2.40GHz
Stepping:                        2
CPU MHz:                         1224.656
CPU max MHz:                     3200.0000
CPU min MHz:                     1200.0000
BogoMIPS:                        4794.39
Virtualization:                  VT-x
L1d cache:                       512 KiB
L1i cache:                       512 KiB
L2 cache:                        4 MiB
L3 cache:                        40 MiB
NUMA node0 CPU(s):               0,2,4,6,8,10,12,14,16,18,20,22,24,26,28,30
NUMA node1 CPU(s):               1,3,5,7,9,11,13,15,17,19,21,23,25,27,29,31
Vulnerability Itlb multihit:     KVM: Mitigation: Split huge pages
Vulnerability L1tf:              Mitigation; PTE Inversion; VMX conditional cache flushes, SMT vulnerable
Vulnerability Mds:               Mitigation; Clear CPU buffers; SMT vulnerable
Vulnerability Meltdown:          Mitigation; PTI
Vulnerability Mmio stale data:   Mitigation; Clear CPU buffers; SMT vulnerable
Vulnerability Retbleed:          Not affected
Vulnerability Spec store bypass: Mitigation; Speculative Store Bypass disabled via prctl and seccomp
Vulnerability Spectre v1:        Mitigation; usercopy/swapgs barriers and __user pointer sanitization
Vulnerability Spectre v2:        Mitigation; Retpolines, IBPB conditional, IBRS_FW, STIBP conditional, RSB filling, PBRSB-eIBRS Not affected
Vulnerability Srbds:             Not affected
Vulnerability Tsx async abort:   Not affected
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Versions of relevant libraries:
[pip3] numpy==1.24.1
[pip3] pytorch-triton==2.1.0+440fd1bf20
[pip3] torch==2.1.0.dev20230622+cu118
[pip3] torchaudio==2.1.0.dev20230622+cu118
[pip3] torchvision==0.16.0.dev20230622+cu118
[conda] blas                      1.0                         mkl

[conda] ffmpeg                    4.3                  hf484d3e_0    pytorch
[conda] mkl                       2023.1.0         h6d00ec8_46342

[conda] mkl-service               2.4.0            py39h5eee18b_1

[conda] mkl_fft                   1.3.6            py39h417a72b_1

[conda] mkl_random                1.2.2            py39h417a72b_1

[conda] numpy                     1.24.1                   pypi_0    pypi
[conda] pytorch-mutex             1.0                         cpu    pytorch
[conda] pytorch-triton            2.1.0+440fd1bf20          pypi_0    pypi
[conda] torch                     2.1.0.dev20230622+cu118          pypi_0    pypi
[conda] torchaudio                2.1.0.dev20230622+cu118          pypi_0    pypi
[conda] torchvision               0.16.0.dev20230622+cu118          pypi_0    pypi

cc @albanD @mruberry @jbschlosser @walterddr @mikaylagawarecki