uninformative OOM error
Labels: module: cuda, triaged

### 🐛 Describe the bug

Following is an uninformative error for OOM issues. I am aware that my job raises this error due to memory issues on one of the machines and runs fine another.


```  File "compressor_train.py", line 133, in <module>
    train(cfg)
  File "compressor_train.py", line 126, in train
    train_epoch(train_loader)
  File "compressor_train.py", line 113, in train_epoch
    loss.backward()
  File "/users/shivanim/anaconda3/envs/vqv/lib/python3.8/site-packages/torch/_tensor.py", line 487, in backward
    torch.autograd.backward(
  File "/users/shivanim/anaconda3/envs/vqv/lib/python3.8/site-packages/torch/autograd/__init__.py", line 200, in backward
    Variable._execution_engine.run_backward(  # Calls into the C++ engine to run the backward pass
RuntimeError: GET was unable to find an engine to execute this computation
```

### Versions

```Collecting environment information...
PyTorch version: 2.0.1+cu117
Is debug build: False
CUDA used to build PyTorch: 11.7
ROCM used to build PyTorch: N/A

OS: CentOS Linux 7 (Core) (x86_64)
GCC version: (GCC) 4.8.5 20150623 (Red Hat 4.8.5-44)
Clang version: Could not collect
CMake version: version 3.27.0
Libc version: glibc-2.17

Python version: 3.8.17 (default, Jul  5 2023, 21:04:15)  [GCC 11.2.0] (64-bit runtime)
Python platform: Linux-3.10.0-1160.95.1.el7.x86_64-x86_64-with-glibc2.17
Is CUDA available: True
CUDA runtime version: Could not collect
CUDA_MODULE_LOADING set to: LAZY
GPU models and configuration: GPU 0: Quadro RTX 8000
Nvidia driver version: 530.30.02
cuDNN version: Could not collect
HIP runtime version: N/A
MIOpen runtime version: N/A
Is XNNPACK available: True

CPU:
Architecture:          x86_64
CPU op-mode(s):        32-bit, 64-bit
Byte Order:            Little Endian
CPU(s):                72
On-line CPU(s) list:   0-71
Thread(s) per core:    2
Core(s) per socket:    18
Socket(s):             2
NUMA node(s):          2
Vendor ID:             GenuineIntel
CPU family:            6
Model:                 85
Model name:            Intel(R) Xeon(R) Gold 5220 CPU @ 2.20GHz
Stepping:              7
CPU MHz:               3523.706
CPU max MHz:           3900.0000
CPU min MHz:           1000.0000
BogoMIPS:              4400.00
Virtualization:        VT-x
L1d cache:             32K
L1i cache:             32K
L2 cache:              1024K
L3 cache:              25344K
NUMA node0 CPU(s):     0-17,36-53
NUMA node1 CPU(s):     18-35,54-71
Flags:                 fpu vme de pse tsc msr pae mce cx8 apic sep mtrr pge mca cmov pat pse36 clflush dts acpi mmx fxsr sse sse2 ss ht tm pbe syscall nx pdpe1gb rdtscp lm constant_tsc art arch_perfmon pebs bts rep_good nopl xtopology nonstop_tsc aperfmperf eagerfpu pni pclmulqdq dtes64 monitor ds_cpl vmx smx est tm2 ssse3 sdbg fma cx16 xtpr pdcm pcid dca sse4_1 sse4_2 x2apic movbe popcnt tsc_deadline_timer aes xsave avx f16c rdrand lahf_lm abm 3dnowprefetch epb cat_l3 cdp_l3 invpcid_single intel_ppin ssbd mba rsb_ctxsw ibrs ibpb stibp ibrs_enhanced tpr_shadow vnmi flexpriority ept vpid fsgsbase tsc_adjust bmi1 hle avx2 smep bmi2 erms invpcid rtm cqm mpx rdt_a avx512f avx512dq rdseed adx smap clflushopt clwb intel_pt avx512cd avx512bw avx512vl xsaveopt xsavec xgetbv1 cqm_llc cqm_occup_llc cqm_mbm_total cqm_mbm_local dtherm ida arat pln pts hwp hwp_act_window hwp_epp hwp_pkg_req pku ospke avx512_vnni md_clear spec_ctrl intel_stibp flush_l1d arch_capabilities

Versions of relevant libraries:
[pip3] numpy==1.24.4
[pip3] pytorch-lightning==1.6.0
[pip3] pytorchvideo==0.1.5
[pip3] torch==2.0.1
[pip3] torchaudio==2.0.2
[pip3] torchmetrics==1.0.3
[pip3] torchvision==0.15.2
[pip3] triton==2.0.0
[conda] numpy                     1.24.4                   pypi_0    pypi
[conda] pytorch-lightning         1.6.0                    pypi_0    pypi
[conda] pytorchvideo              0.1.5                    pypi_0    pypi
[conda] torch                     2.0.1                    pypi_0    pypi
[conda] torchaudio                2.0.2                    pypi_0    pypi
[conda] torchmetrics              1.0.3                    pypi_0    pypi
[conda] torchvision               0.15.2                   pypi_0    pypi
[conda] triton                    2.0.0                    pypi_0    pypi
```

cc @ezyang @albanD @zou3519 @gqchen @pearu @nikitaved @soulitzer @Lezcano @Varal7 @ptrblck