nn.CrossEntropyLoss with invalid target generates corrups memory eventualy leading to CUDA error: an illegal memory access
Labels: module: nn, module: loss, triaged

### 🐛 Describe the bug

The following code will, on occasion, generate an exit(-123), ie: I have bad data.
```
        assert predicted_line_mask.shape[0]==16
        assert predicted_line_mask.shape[1]==4
        assert predicted_line_mask.shape[2]==512
        assert predicted_line_mask.shape[3]==512

        assert all_line_mask.shape[0]==16
        assert all_line_mask.shape[1]==512
        assert all_line_mask.shape[2]==512

        assert not torch.any(torch.isinf(predicted_line_mask))
        if torch.any(all_line_mask > 3):
            print(all_line_mask.dtype)
            print(all_line_mask.min())
            print(all_line_mask.max())
            exit(-123)
        assert not torch.any(all_line_mask > 3)

        torch.cuda.synchronize()

        loss1 = self.criterion_line(predicted_line_mask, all_line_mask)
```

Typical code do not have all these checks and looks like:
```
intermediate = self(image)
predicted_line_mask = self.conv(intermediate)
loss1 = self.criterion_line(predicted_line_mask, all_line_mask)
```

In this case, the code will run most often without reporting any corruptions or strange behavior, even in the presence of this bad data on every run, but I suspect it is corrupting GPU memory.  On occasion runs, it will report and exist
`RuntimeError: CUDA error: an illegal memory access was encountered`
and not report any indication where in the code something went bad leaving the impression that Pytorch just crashes on occasion.

Note the bad data is present in all runs, but just occasional runs randomly crash.

Adding torch.cuda.synchronize() allows the narrowing of the invalid memory access.

It would be nice, if the nn.CrossEntropyLoss could validate the range of its target  vs the dimensions of the input and report this error in the input data rather than silently corrupting memory.



### Versions

Collecting environment information...
PyTorch version: 1.13.1
Is debug build: False
CUDA used to build PyTorch: 11.6
ROCM used to build PyTorch: N/A
OS: Ubuntu 18.04.6 LTS (x86_64)
GCC version: (Ubuntu 7.5.0-3ubuntu1~18.04) 7.5.0
Clang version: Could not collect
CMake version: version 3.22.1
Libc version: glibc-2.27
Python version: 3.10.8 (main, Nov  4 2022, 13:48:29) [GCC 11.2.0] (64-bit runtime)
Python platform: Linux-5.15.0-76-generic-x86_64-with-glibc2.27
Is CUDA available: True
CUDA runtime version: 11.6.124
GPU models and configuration: 
GPU 0: NVIDIA RTX A6000
GPU 1: NVIDIA RTX A6000

Nvidia driver version: 525.125.06
cuDNN version: Could not collect
HIP runtime version: N/A
MIOpen runtime version: N/A
Is XNNPACK available: True
Versions of relevant libraries:
[pip3] numpy==1.22.3
[pip3] pytorch-lightning==1.5.10
[pip3] torch==1.13.1
[pip3] torchelastic==0.2.2
[pip3] torchmetrics==0.11.4
[pip3] torchtext==0.14.1
[pip3] torchvision==0.14.1
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[conda] ffmpeg                    4.3                  hf484d3e_0    pytorch
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[conda] mkl-service               2.4.0           py310h7f8727e_0  
[conda] mkl_fft                   1.3.1           py310hd6ae3a3_0  
[conda] mkl_random                1.2.2           py310h00e6091_0  
[conda] numpy                     1.22.3          py310hfa59a62_0  
[conda] numpy-base                1.22.3          py310h9585f30_0  
[conda] pytorch                   1.13.1          py3.10_cuda11.6_cudnn8.3.2_0    pytorch
[conda] pytorch-cuda              11.6                 h867d48c_1    pytorch
[conda] pytorch-lightning         1.5.10                   pypi_0    pypi
[conda] pytorch-mutex             1.0                        cuda    pytorch
[conda] torchelastic              0.2.2                    pypi_0    pypi
[conda] torchmetrics              0.11.4                   pypi_0    pypi
[conda] torchtext                 0.14.1                    py310    pytorch
[conda] torchvision               0.14.1              py310_cu116    pytorch


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