nn.BatchNorm2d (track_running_stats = True) causes "modified by an in-place operation" error when in torch.nn.parallel.DistributedDataParallel
Labels: oncall: distributed, triaged

### 🐛 Describe the bug

I have already raised this issue on Torch Discussions [(link)](https://discuss.pytorch.org/t/runtimeerror-one-of-the-variables-needed-for-gradient-computation-has-been-modified-by-an-inplace-operation-batchnorm2d-track-running-stats/189071/1). 
The above issue has a snippet of code and a temporary working solution. 

If we do a second forward pass on the model having nn.BatchNorm2d with track_running_stats = True, while in `torch.nn.parallel.DistributedDataParallel` mode, the code throws the error:

```RuntimeError: one of the variables needed for gradient computation has been modified by an in-place operation```

Only way to prevent this error is: 

1. Run with Track_running_stats = False, or
2. Disable torch.nn.parallel.DistributedDataParallel.
3. Modify the nn.BatchNorm2d implementation 

```
self.running_mean_copy = copy.deepcopy(self.running_mean)
self.running_var_copy = copy.deepcopy(self.running_var)

F.batch_norm(
            input,
            self.running_mean_copy if not self.training or self.track_running_stats else None,
            self.running_var_copy if not self.training or self.track_running_stats else None,
            self.weight,
            self.bias,
            bn_training,
            exponential_average_factor,
                self.eps,
)        
self.running_mean = self.running_mean * 0 + self.running_mean_copy
self.running_var = self.running_var * 0 + self.running_var_copy
```


### Versions

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PyTorch version: 1.13.1+cu117
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CUDA runtime version: Could not collect
CUDA_MODULE_LOADING set to: LAZY
GPU models and configuration: 
GPU 0: NVIDIA RTX A6000
GPU 1: NVIDIA RTX A6000
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Nvidia driver version: 530.30.02
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Versions of relevant libraries:
[pip3] numpy==1.24.4
[pip3] pytorch-msssim==1.0.0
[pip3] torch==1.13.1+cu117
[pip3] torchaudio==0.13.1+cu117
[pip3] torchvision==0.14.1+cu117
[conda] numpy                     1.24.4                   pypi_0    pypi
[conda] pytorch-msssim            1.0.0                    pypi_0    pypi
[conda] torch                     1.13.1+cu117             pypi_0    pypi
[conda] torchaudio                0.13.1+cu117             pypi_0    pypi
[conda] torchvision               0.14.1+cu117             pypi_0    pypi


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