RPC all_gather doesn't work with dynamic world size (world_size=None)
Labels: oncall: distributed, module: rpc

### 🐛 Describe the bug

The `rpc.api._all_gather(obj)` function doesn't work when the rpc cluster is initialized with `world_size=None`.

Here is a test code that can reproduce the problem:

```python
import torch.distributed.rpc as rpc
import time
import multiprocessing as mp
import torch
import os

os.environ['MASTER_ADDR'] = 'localhost'
os.environ['MASTER_PORT'] = '11111'

def worker(rank):
    rpc.init_rpc(
        name=f'worker_{rank}',
        rank=rank,
    )
    print(f'rank {rank} initialized')
    time.sleep(1)
    print(rpc.api._all_gather(torch.cuda.device_count()))
    if rank == 0:
        time.sleep(1)
    rpc.shutdown()
    print(f'rank {rank} exited')

if __name__ == '__main__':
    ranks = [0, 1, 2, 3]
    for rank in ranks:
        process = mp.Process(target=worker, args=(rank, ))
        process.start()
```
Output:
```
rank 0 initialized
rank 1 initialized
rank 2 initialized
rank 3 initialized
{'worker_0': 4}
[W tensorpipe_agent.cpp:726] RPC agent for worker_1 encountered error when reading incoming request from worker_0: eof (this error originated at tensorpipe/transport/shm/connection_impl.cc:259)
[W tensorpipe_agent.cpp:726] RPC agent for worker_2 encountered error when reading incoming request from worker_0: eof (this error originated at tensorpipe/transport/shm/connection_impl.cc:259)
[W tensorpipe_agent.cpp:726] RPC agent for worker_3 encountered error when reading incoming request from worker_0: eof (this error originated at tensorpipe/transport/shm/connection_impl.cc:259)
rank 0 exited
```
`Rank 0` only collects its own device count, the other ranks throw the `eof` error and doesn't exit. Specifying the `world_size` as `4` makes the code behave as expected.  


### Versions

PyTorch version: 1.13.0+cu116
Is debug build: False
CUDA used to build PyTorch: 11.6
ROCM used to build PyTorch: N/A

OS: Ubuntu 20.04.5 LTS (x86_64)
GCC version: (Ubuntu 9.4.0-1ubuntu1~20.04.1) 9.4.0
Clang version: Could not collect
CMake version: version 3.16.3
Libc version: glibc-2.31

Python version: 3.8.10 (default, Mar 13 2023, 10:26:41)  [GCC 9.4.0] (64-bit runtime)
Python platform: Linux-5.4.0-150-generic-x86_64-with-glibc2.29
Is CUDA available: True
CUDA runtime version: 11.6.124
CUDA_MODULE_LOADING set to: LAZY
GPU models and configuration: 
GPU 0: NVIDIA A10
GPU 1: NVIDIA A10
GPU 2: NVIDIA A10
GPU 3: NVIDIA A10

Nvidia driver version: 535.54.03
cuDNN version: Probably one of the following:
/usr/lib/x86_64-linux-gnu/libcudnn.so.8.4.0
/usr/lib/x86_64-linux-gnu/libcudnn_adv_infer.so.8.4.0
/usr/lib/x86_64-linux-gnu/libcudnn_adv_train.so.8.4.0
/usr/lib/x86_64-linux-gnu/libcudnn_cnn_infer.so.8.4.0
/usr/lib/x86_64-linux-gnu/libcudnn_cnn_train.so.8.4.0
/usr/lib/x86_64-linux-gnu/libcudnn_ops_infer.so.8.4.0
/usr/lib/x86_64-linux-gnu/libcudnn_ops_train.so.8.4.0
HIP runtime version: N/A
MIOpen runtime version: N/A
Is XNNPACK available: True

CPU:
Architecture:                    x86_64
CPU op-mode(s):                  32-bit, 64-bit
Byte Order:                      Little Endian
Address sizes:                   46 bits physical, 48 bits virtual
CPU(s):                          128
On-line CPU(s) list:             0-127
Thread(s) per core:              2
Core(s) per socket:              32
Socket(s):                       2
NUMA node(s):                    2
Vendor ID:                       GenuineIntel
CPU family:                      6
Model:                           106
Model name:                      Intel(R) Xeon(R) Platinum 8369B CPU @ 2.90GHz
Stepping:                        6
CPU MHz:                         2899.998
BogoMIPS:                        5799.99
Hypervisor vendor:               KVM
Virtualization type:             full
L1d cache:                       3 MiB
L1i cache:                       2 MiB
L2 cache:                        80 MiB
L3 cache:                        96 MiB
NUMA node0 CPU(s):               0-63
NUMA node1 CPU(s):               64-127
Vulnerability Itlb multihit:     Not affected
Vulnerability L1tf:              Not affected
Vulnerability Mds:               Not affected
Vulnerability Meltdown:          Not affected
Vulnerability Mmio stale data:   Vulnerable: Clear CPU buffers attempted, no microcode; SMT Host state unknown
Vulnerability Retbleed:          Not affected
Vulnerability Spec store bypass: Mitigation; Speculative Store Bypass disabled via prctl and seccomp
Vulnerability Spectre v1:        Mitigation; usercopy/swapgs barriers and __user pointer sanitization
Vulnerability Spectre v2:        Mitigation; Enhanced IBRS, IBPB conditional, RSB filling, PBRSB-eIBRS SW sequence
Vulnerability Srbds:             Not affected
Vulnerability Tsx async abort:   Not affected
Flags:                           fpu vme de pse tsc msr pae mce cx8 apic sep mtrr pge mca cmov pat pse36 clflush mmx fxsr sse sse2 ss ht syscall nx pdpe1gb rdtscp lm constant_tsc rep_good nopl xtopology nonstop_tsc cpuid tsc_known_freq pni pclmulqdq monitor ssse3 fma cx16 pdcm pcid sse4_1 sse4_2 x2apic movbe popcnt aes xsave avx f16c rdrand hypervisor lahf_lm abm 3dnowprefetch cpuid_fault invpcid_single ssbd ibrs ibpb stibp ibrs_enhanced fsgsbase tsc_adjust bmi1 avx2 smep bmi2 erms invpcid avx512f avx512dq rdseed adx smap avx512ifma clflushopt clwb avx512cd sha_ni avx512bw avx512vl xsaveopt xsavec xgetbv1 xsaves wbnoinvd arat avx512vbmi avx512_vbmi2 gfni vaes vpclmulqdq avx512_vnni avx512_bitalg avx512_vpopcntdq rdpid arch_capabilities


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