Error when building with USE_TENSORRT=1
Labels: module: onnx, module: build, triaged

### 🐛 Describe the bug

When I compile with USE_TENSORRT=1 I get the following error:
onnx2trt_utils.hpp:30:10: fatal error: onnx/onnxifi.h: No such file or directory

Note that removing USE_TENSORRT=1 from the build command, it compiles successfully without tensorrt.

I'm using WSL2 from Windows 10. Trying to compile pytorch v1.13.1 with CUDA that is compatible with a 4090. I have tried the same thing with CUDA 11.8, and with CUDNN 8.9.0 & 8.6.0, it's the exact same error. The exact procedure to replicate this error is in the following text file...
[Reproduce.txt](https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/files/11779520/Reproduce.txt)

The output log is in this text file...
[log-tensorrt-fail.txt](https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/files/11779524/log-tensorrt-fail.txt)


### Versions

Collecting environment information...
PyTorch version: N/A
Is debug build: N/A
CUDA used to build PyTorch: N/A
ROCM used to build PyTorch: N/A

OS: Ubuntu 22.04.2 LTS (x86_64)
GCC version: (Ubuntu 11.3.0-1ubuntu1~22.04.1) 11.3.0
Clang version: Could not collect
CMake version: version 3.26.4
Libc version: glibc-2.35

Python version: 3.10.11 (main, May 16 2023, 00:28:57) [GCC 11.2.0] (64-bit runtime)
Python platform: Linux-5.15.90.1-microsoft-standard-WSL2-x86_64-with-glibc2.35
Is CUDA available: N/A
CUDA runtime version: 12.1.105
CUDA_MODULE_LOADING set to: N/A
GPU models and configuration: GPU 0: NVIDIA GeForce RTX 3080
Nvidia driver version: 531.79
cuDNN version: Probably one of the following:
/usr/lib/x86_64-linux-gnu/libcudnn.so.8.9.1
/usr/lib/x86_64-linux-gnu/libcudnn_adv_infer.so.8.9.1
/usr/lib/x86_64-linux-gnu/libcudnn_adv_train.so.8.9.1
/usr/lib/x86_64-linux-gnu/libcudnn_cnn_infer.so.8.9.1
/usr/lib/x86_64-linux-gnu/libcudnn_cnn_train.so.8.9.1
/usr/lib/x86_64-linux-gnu/libcudnn_ops_infer.so.8.9.1
/usr/lib/x86_64-linux-gnu/libcudnn_ops_train.so.8.9.1
HIP runtime version: N/A
MIOpen runtime version: N/A
Is XNNPACK available: N/A

CPU:
Architecture:                    x86_64
CPU op-mode(s):                  32-bit, 64-bit
Address sizes:                   39 bits physical, 48 bits virtual
Byte Order:                      Little Endian
CPU(s):                          12
On-line CPU(s) list:             0-11
Vendor ID:                       GenuineIntel
Model name:                      Intel(R) Core(TM) i7-8086K CPU @ 4.00GHz
CPU family:                      6
Model:                           158
Thread(s) per core:              2
Core(s) per socket:              6
Socket(s):                       1
Stepping:                        10
BogoMIPS:                        8016.00
Flags:                           fpu vme de pse tsc msr pae mce cx8 apic sep mtrr pge mca cmov pat pse36 clflush mmx fxsr sse sse2 ss ht syscall nx pdpe1gb rdtscp lm constant_tsc arch_perfmon rep_good nopl xtopology cpuid pni pclmulqdq ssse3 fma cx16 pdcm pcid sse4_1 sse4_2 movbe popcnt aes xsave avx f16c rdrand hypervisor lahf_lm abm 3dnowprefetch invpcid_single pti ssbd ibrs ibpb stibp fsgsbase bmi1 hle avx2 smep bmi2 erms invpcid rtm rdseed adx smap clflushopt xsaveopt xsavec xgetbv1 xsaves flush_l1d arch_capabilities
Hypervisor vendor:               Microsoft
Virtualization type:             full
L1d cache:                       192 KiB (6 instances)
L1i cache:                       192 KiB (6 instances)
L2 cache:                        1.5 MiB (6 instances)
L3 cache:                        12 MiB (1 instance)
Vulnerability Itlb multihit:     KVM: Mitigation: VMX unsupported
Vulnerability L1tf:              Mitigation; PTE Inversion
Vulnerability Mds:               Vulnerable: Clear CPU buffers attempted, no microcode; SMT Host state unknown
Vulnerability Meltdown:          Mitigation; PTI
Vulnerability Mmio stale data:   Vulnerable: Clear CPU buffers attempted, no microcode; SMT Host state unknown
Vulnerability Retbleed:          Mitigation; IBRS
Vulnerability Spec store bypass: Mitigation; Speculative Store Bypass disabled via prctl and seccomp
Vulnerability Spectre v1:        Mitigation; usercopy/swapgs barriers and __user pointer sanitization
Vulnerability Spectre v2:        Mitigation; IBRS, IBPB conditional, RSB filling, PBRSB-eIBRS Not affected
Vulnerability Srbds:             Unknown: Dependent on hypervisor status
Vulnerability Tsx async abort:   Vulnerable: Clear CPU buffers attempted, no microcode; SMT Host state unknown

Versions of relevant libraries:
[pip3] numpy==1.24.3
[conda] magma-cuda121             2.6.1                         1    pytorch
[conda] mkl                       2023.1.0         h6d00ec8_46342
[conda] mkl-include               2023.1.0         h06a4308_46342
[conda] numpy                     1.24.3                   pypi_0    pypi

cc @malfet @seemethere