DDP multi node multi gpu inconsistent params
Labels: oncall: distributed

### 🐛 Inconsistent params
@[alexeib](https://github.com/alexeib) @[rohan-varma](https://github.com/rohan-varma) @[mrshenli](https://github.com/mrshenli)
I also reported this on [huggingface issue](https://github.com/huggingface/accelerate/issues/1481#issue-1728799167)

I pretrain on a multi node and multi gpu specified on cluster managed by SLURM.  It worked first time, but now it gives me error message : 

RuntimeError: DDP expects same model across all ranks, but **Rank 0** has `237 params`, while **rank 1** has inconsistent `0 params`.

### Versions

Collecting environment information...
PyTorch version: 2.0.1
Is debug build: False
CUDA used to build PyTorch: 11.8
ROCM used to build PyTorch: N/A

OS: Ubuntu 20.04.4 LTS (x86_64)
GCC version: (Ubuntu 9.4.0-1ubuntu1~20.04.1) 9.4.0
Clang version: Could not collect
CMake version: version 3.16.3
Libc version: glibc-2.31

Python version: 3.11.3 (main, Apr 19 2023, 23:54:32) [GCC 11.2.0] (64-bit runtime)
Python platform: Linux-5.4.204-ql-generic-12.0-19-x86_64-with-glibc2.31
Is CUDA available: True
CUDA runtime version: 11.8.89
CUDA_MODULE_LOADING set to: LAZY
GPU models and configuration: 
GPU 0: NVIDIA A100-SXM4-40GB
GPU 1: NVIDIA A100-SXM4-40GB
GPU 2: NVIDIA A100-SXM4-40GB
GPU 3: NVIDIA A100-SXM4-40GB

Nvidia driver version: 510.47.03
cuDNN version: Could not collect
HIP runtime version: N/A
MIOpen runtime version: N/A
Is XNNPACK available: True

CPU:
Architecture:                    x86_64
CPU op-mode(s):                  32-bit, 64-bit
Byte Order:                      Little Endian
Address sizes:                   43 bits physical, 48 bits virtual
CPU(s):                          256
On-line CPU(s) list:             0-255
Thread(s) per core:              2
Core(s) per socket:              64
Socket(s):                       2
NUMA node(s):                    2
Vendor ID:                       AuthenticAMD
CPU family:                      23
Model:                           49
Model name:                      AMD EPYC 7742 64-Core Processor
Stepping:                        0
Frequency boost:                 enabled
CPU MHz:                         1498.421
CPU max MHz:                     2250.0000
CPU min MHz:                     1500.0000
BogoMIPS:                        4500.08
Virtualization:                  AMD-V
L1d cache:                       4 MiB
L1i cache:                       4 MiB
L2 cache:                        64 MiB
L3 cache:                        512 MiB
NUMA node0 CPU(s):               0-63,128-191
NUMA node1 CPU(s):               64-127,192-255
Vulnerability Itlb multihit:     Not affected
Vulnerability L1tf:              Not affected
Vulnerability Mds:               Not affected
Vulnerability Meltdown:          Not affected
Vulnerability Mmio stale data:   Not affected
Vulnerability Spec store bypass: Vulnerable
Vulnerability Spectre v1:        Vulnerable: __user pointer sanitization and usercopy barriers only; no swapgs barriers
Vulnerability Spectre v2:        Vulnerable, IBPB: disabled, STIBP: disabled
Vulnerability Srbds:             Not affected
Vulnerability Tsx async abort:   Not affected
Flags:                           fpu vme de pse tsc msr pae mce cx8 apic sep mtrr pge mca cmov pat pse36 clflush mmx fxsr sse sse2 ht syscall nx mmxext fxsr_opt pdpe1gb rdtscp lm constant_tsc rep_good nopl nonstop_tsc cpuid extd_apicid aperfmperf pni pclmulqdq monitor ssse3 fma cx16 sse4_1 sse4_2 x2apic movbe popcnt aes xsave avx f16c rdrand lahf_lm cmp_legacy svm extapic cr8_legacy abm sse4a misalignsse 3dnowprefetch osvw ibs skinit wdt tce topoext perfctr_core perfctr_nb bpext perfctr_llc mwaitx cpb cat_l3 cdp_l3 hw_pstate sme ssbd mba sev ibrs ibpb stibp vmmcall fsgsbase bmi1 avx2 smep bmi2 cqm rdt_a rdseed adx smap clflushopt clwb sha_ni xsaveopt xsavec xgetbv1 xsaves cqm_llc cqm_occup_llc cqm_mbm_total cqm_mbm_local clzero irperf xsaveerptr wbnoinvd arat npt lbrv svm_lock nrip_save tsc_scale vmcb_clean flushbyasid decodeassists pausefilter pfthreshold avic v_vmsave_vmload vgif umip rdpid overflow_recov succor smca

Versions of relevant libraries:
[pip3] numpy==1.24.3
[pip3] torch==2.0.1
[pip3] torchaudio==2.0.2
[pip3] torchvision==0.15.2
[pip3] triton==2.0.0
[conda] blas                      1.0                         mkl  
[conda] ffmpeg                    4.3                  hf484d3e_0    pytorch
[conda] mkl                       2023.1.0         h6d00ec8_46342  
[conda] mkl-service               2.4.0           py311h5eee18b_1  
[conda] mkl_fft                   1.3.6           py311ha02d727_1  
[conda] mkl_random                1.2.2           py311ha02d727_1  
[conda] numpy                     1.24.3          py311h08b1b3b_1  
[conda] numpy-base                1.24.3          py311hf175353_1  
[conda] pytorch                   2.0.1           py3.11_cuda11.8_cudnn8.7.0_0    pytorch
[conda] pytorch-cuda              11.8                 h7e8668a_5    pytorch
[conda] pytorch-mutex             1.0                        cuda    pytorch
[conda] torchaudio                2.0.2               py311_cu118    pytorch
[conda] torchtriton               2.0.0                     py311    pytorch
[conda] torchvision               0.15.2              py311_cu118    pytorch



cc @mrshenli @pritamdamania87 @zhaojuanmao @satgera @rohan-varma @gqchen @aazzolini @osalpekar @jiayisuse @H-Huang @kwen2501 @awgu