`torch.nn.utils.rnn.unpad_sequence` modifies arguments in-place
Labels: module: docs, module: rnn, triaged

### 🐛 Describe the bug

`torch.nn.utils.rnn.unpad_sequence`  has the unexpected side-effect of transposing the input-tensor in-place. This should be either documented or, even better, fixed so that the function call does not modify input data.

```python
import torch
x = torch.randn(4,2)

# x.shape == (4, 2)
torch.nn.utils.rnn.unpad_sequence(x, lengths=torch.tensor([4, 4]))
# x.shape == (2, 4)
print(x.shape)
```
Yields `torch.Size([2, 4])`

The problem is the `x.transpose_(0, 1)` when `batch_first=False` [in this line of code](https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/blob/master/torch/nn/utils/rnn.py#L440).


### Versions

PyTorch version: 1.13.1+cu117
Is debug build: False
CUDA used to build PyTorch: 11.7
ROCM used to build PyTorch: N/A

OS: Ubuntu 20.04.6 LTS (x86_64)
GCC version: (Ubuntu 9.4.0-1ubuntu1~20.04.1) 9.4.0
Clang version: 10.0.0-4ubuntu1 
CMake version: Could not collect
Libc version: glibc-2.31

Python version: 3.9.16 (main, Mar  8 2023, 14:00:05)  [GCC 11.2.0] (64-bit runtime)
Python platform: Linux-5.15.0-69-generic-x86_64-with-glibc2.31
Is CUDA available: False
CUDA runtime version: No CUDA
CUDA_MODULE_LOADING set to: N/A
GPU models and configuration: No CUDA
Nvidia driver version: No CUDA
cuDNN version: No CUDA
HIP runtime version: N/A
MIOpen runtime version: N/A
Is XNNPACK available: True

CPU:
Architecture:                    x86_64
CPU op-mode(s):                  32-bit, 64-bit
Byte Order:                      Little Endian
Address sizes:                   39 bits physical, 48 bits virtual
CPU(s):                          8
On-line CPU(s) list:             0-7
Thread(s) per core:              2
Core(s) per socket:              4
Socket(s):                       1
NUMA node(s):                    1
Vendor ID:                       GenuineIntel
CPU family:                      6
Model:                           142
Model name:                      Intel(R) Core(TM) i5-8350U CPU @ 1.70GHz
Stepping:                        10
CPU MHz:                         1900.000
CPU max MHz:                     3600.0000
CPU min MHz:                     400.0000
BogoMIPS:                        3799.90
Virtualization:                  VT-x
L1d cache:                       128 KiB
L1i cache:                       128 KiB
L2 cache:                        1 MiB
L3 cache:                        6 MiB
NUMA node0 CPU(s):               0-7
Vulnerability Itlb multihit:     KVM: Mitigation: VMX disabled
Vulnerability L1tf:              Mitigation; PTE Inversion; VMX conditional cache flushes, SMT vulnerable
Vulnerability Mds:               Mitigation; Clear CPU buffers; SMT vulnerable
Vulnerability Meltdown:          Mitigation; PTI
Vulnerability Mmio stale data:   Mitigation; Clear CPU buffers; SMT vulnerable
Vulnerability Retbleed:          Mitigation; IBRS
Vulnerability Spec store bypass: Mitigation; Speculative Store Bypass disabled via prctl and seccomp
Vulnerability Spectre v1:        Mitigation; usercopy/swapgs barriers and __user pointer sanitization
Vulnerability Spectre v2:        Mitigation; IBRS, IBPB conditional, RSB filling, PBRSB-eIBRS Not affected
Vulnerability Srbds:             Mitigation; Microcode
Vulnerability Tsx async abort:   Mitigation; TSX disabled
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Versions of relevant libraries:
[pip3] mypy==0.990
[pip3] mypy-extensions==1.0.0
[pip3] numpy==1.23.5
[pip3] torch==1.13.1
[conda] numpy                     1.23.5                   pypi_0    pypi
[conda] torch                     1.13.1                   pypi_0    pypi


cc @svekars @carljparker @zou3519