Edited sentence: ABUSE: Abuse is an out-of-control situation.ABUSE: After an episode of abuse, the people involved feel bad.ABUSE: Alcohol or drugs are often used before an episode of abuse.ABUSE: No concern is given to the needs, desires and limits of the abused person.ABUSE: No consent is asked for or given.ABUSE: One person determines what will happen.ABUSE: The person being abused cannot stop what is happenning.SM: After an SM scene, the people involved feel good.SM: An SM scene is a controlled situation.SM: Everyone involved in an SM scene is concerned about the needs, desires and limits of others.SM: Knowledgable consent is given to the scene by all parties.SM: Negotiation occurs before an SM scene to determine what will and will not happen in that scene.SM: The people in an SM scene are careful to be sure that they are not impaired by alcohol or drug use during the scene.SM: The “bottom” has a safeword that allows them to stop the scene at any time should they need to for physical or emotional reasons.The Differences Between BDSM & Abuse