分类：烦恼-夫妻
问题：带着五岁孩子的离婚女人，怎样生活才能更快乐？我三十六岁，有一些积 
我三十六岁，有一些积蓄，有一份较稳定的工作，有一套面积六十多平米的房子，收入每年有六万，够生存，但我还想养父母，每年固定给一万。我应怎样安排我的，让我与女儿的生活无论在精神，生活水平上不输于完整家庭的生活。请大家多出主意。其实还没离婚，但他已经不回家了，现在的我就如单亲家庭一样，我提前准备，不打无准备之战。
回答：1.首先要自信。因为出局未必不是好事,茫茫然倒是有些危险!!!!2。以法的意识保护自己。就你的情况,先咨询一下,然后做充分准备。比如有规定:离婚时,如果不能达成一致意见,或者有一方不同意离婚,那你就得去法院离婚,你去了以后,法院工作人员会安排诉讼程序.如果谁的过错造成离婚,最好拿出证据能证明,然后别一方就可以多分得财产.(转发)而你丈夫已经在外同居,但不提离,在外做生意,可并不给家用,这些因素都对你有利,你应掌握证据。3。心态要摆正:是自己的,离婚是正常的,切忌攀比!!!比如你说:‘让我与女儿的生活无论在精神,生活水平上不‘输'于完整家庭的生活’就没必要。因为每个人,每个家庭,都有各自的具体情况,和自己的生活方式。就你现在的状况,(加上他应尽的义务)和能力,享有安康愉快的生活是完全可以做到的。关键是精神!!!!!4。重整旗鼓,准备人生的新开始。你才三十六岁呀,有的是活力和成熟的魅力。你的不打无准备之战的思路很好,关键是勇气和策略。相信吧,困难是暂时的,生活依旧美丽!!!furthertoyourmessagetoday,wri ,whichmeanswithonlyoneperson'slovefortheother, isnecessarytoknowthat, woul yourmessageonIASK,youdidn'ttalkaboutpresentsituationofyourmarriage,butonlyaskedhowtopreparefordivorce.Iwasmisunderstood,andthereforeonlygaveyousomesuggestionsonthat.Ifyouthinkthereisapossibilitytorecoveryourrelationshipbetweenyoutwo,youhaveto,firstly,re-examyouandyourhusband'sfeelings,notonlyfromyourperspective,butalsofromhis.whenyoudoso,youshouldcalmdown(notsoemotional,otherwiseyoucouldn'tgetaccuratedanalysis)toseetherealpositivesideofyourmarriageandthenegative,therealproblemswithhimandyou,andjudgeifhestilllovesyou,Howmuchyoucantryyoureffortstorecoverandmaintainyourrelationship.howtomanagethissituationisveryimportant,becauseyoucan'tmakedecisionsonlybasedonyourintention,nottodivorce,butbasedonhisthoughts,hisfeelings,andhisproblems,hispersonalityand,veryimportant,onhischaracter.(youshouldalsoknowhowlongtheyhaveknowneachother,whyyouhusbandsaidlittlepossibleforyourrelationship,whatkindofdifficultieshehas,ifhethinkofyourkid’sfuture,etc.)livingtogethermorethanadecade, neyisapracticalissue,andalwaysshouldbeatthesecondplaceinpeople'srelationship.ifyoucanmakehimrealisebothyourrealfeelingsforeachotherinthewaysthatbothyouaccept, emainpointsarethetiebetweenyouandhimwithinthefamily(enoughlove?loveforyourchild?),andwhyhehasanotherrelationship(iftheyknoweachotherwell,andsuiteachotherbetterthanyoudo?Forhimitalsowilltakesometimes).youshouldthinkoverhowtodoandlethimcomebackhomeasap, isunacceptable,illegalandnotnormalforamarriagewithoutthehusband' beawisewomanbyrealisingthetruthsensibly,bytryingyoureffortstoreachyourgoalbyrightmeans,andbybeingreadyforfacingtherealitycalmly, objective,beconfident,becareful,bebraveifthetimecomestoendyourrelationship,letitcome,whichcanreducethedegreeofhurtingeachotherandbeingsadforacertaintime,butitwillincreaserespecttoeachotherandmakeiteasyforyoutore-startyournewlifewithrelaxedpeaceandabeautyoflovewithacompleteloyalty!BEYOURSELF!!!!BEHAPPY!!!!bestregardsp.s.