You may be eligible for VA benefits or compensation for surviving spouses if you meet certain requirements.  You will also need to provide evidence with your claim showing that one of the descriptions is true for the veteran or service member.  That evidence may include documents like military service records, doctors' reports, and medical test results.
What are the requirements for me as a surviving spouse for VA Dependency and Indemnity Compensation?
Were you married to the veteran or service member prior to January 1, 1957?
I was not even born yet in 1957.
Did you marry the veteran or service member within 15 years of their discharge from the period of military service during which the qualifying illness or injury started or got worse?
No.  We got married while in service.
Were you married to the veteran or service member for at least a year?
Not quite a year, no.
Did you have a child with the veteran or service member?