THE SUPREME COURT OF APPEAL OF SOUTH AFRICA
JUDGMENT

REPORTABLE
Case No:  594/2013

In the matter between:

RH

APPELLANT

and

DE

RESPONDENT

Neutral citation:
RH v DE (594/2013) [2014] ZASCA 133 (25 September 2014)
Coram:

Brand, Cachalia, Tshiqi, Majiedt et Mbha JJA
Heard:

27 August 2014
Delivered:

25 September 2013

Summary:  Delictual claim for damages based on adultery between defendant
and plaintiff’s wife on the law as it stands. Award rightly made for contumelia
– but award for loss of consortium not justified – consideration of whether the
action should be maintained as part of our law – concluded that its continued
existence no longer justified.

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ORDER
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On appeal from:    North Gauteng High Court, Pretoria (LI Vorster AJ sitting as
court of first instance):
1  The appeal is upheld with costs, including the costs of two counsel.
2  The order of the high court is set aside and replaced with the following:
‗Plaintiff‘s action is dismissed. Each party to pay his own costs.‘
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JUDGMENT
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Brand JA (Cachalia, Tshiqi, Majiedt et Mbha JJA concurring):

[1] The respondent instituted an action for damages against the appellant in the
North Gauteng High Court, Pretoria. To avoid confusion I shall refer to the parties as
they were cited in the court a quo, ie to the respondent as the plaintiff and to the
appellant as the defendant. The plaintiff‘s cause of action was that the defendant
had committed adultery with the plaintiff‘s wife. Prior to the institution of this action,
the plaintiff‘s wife divorced him and reverted to her maiden name. Minor children are
born of the marriage between the plaintiff and his wife. In order to protect them
against adverse publicity flowing from this litigation, the names of the parties shall
not be disclosed in the citation of the case. For the same reason I refer to the
plaintiff‘s wife just as Ms H.

[2] As has become customary in matters of this kind, damages were claimed
under two headings: (a) contumelia and (b) loss of consortium. In the court a quo, LI
Vorster AJ awarded damages under both headings, but in a composite amount of
R75 000, together with interest and costs on the high court scale. The present
appeal against that order is with the leave of this court.

[3] The background facts that turned out to be relevant appear from what follows.
The plaintiff and Ms H were high school friends. They were married on 30 April 2005
when he was 26 and she 25. Two children were born of their marriage, a daughter in
May 2006 and a son in October 2008. On 23 March 2010 Ms H left the common
home and cohabitation between her and the plaintiff ceased, never to be resumed
again. In June 2010 Ms H instituted action for an order of divorce which was
eventually granted in September 2011. On 15 April 2009 Ms H started employment
with a company where she met the defendant, who was the managing director of an
affiliated concern operating from the same building. The defendant and Ms H, who
both testified at the trial, admitted that they became romantically involved, but this
only happened, so they said, after Ms H left the common home on 23 March 2010.
They also admitted that they subsequently entered into an adulterous relationship,
but this only started, so they said, on 17 July 2010. That was after Ms H had
instituted action for divorce and the plaintiff had filed his plea in that action in which
he admitted that the marriage had irretrievably broken down.

[4] The plaintiff‘s case, by contrast, was that the adulterous relationship must
have started much earlier; that he had a happy marriage until the commencement of
that relationship, which was the cause of Ms H leaving the common home on 23
March 2010. In answer to these allegations Ms H contended that there were serious
problems in the marriage which started shortly before the birth of their son in
October 2008. As a result, she testified, she went for marriage counselling in August
2009, but that, in spite of her efforts, the marriage kept on deteriorating until it finally
broke down in March 2010. This deterioration and breakdown of the marriage, she
said, had nothing to do with the relationship between her and the defendant. Despite
the narrow ambit of the real issues, the trial ran for eight days. The record of
evidence alone exceeded 800 pages with a further 400 pages of pleadings and
documents. The parties succeeded in building this substantial record by an endless
debate on when the marriage between the plaintiff and Ms H became unhappy and
the heavily disputed reasons for that unhappiness, seemingly with little regard for the
relevance of these debates to the outcome of the case.

[5] In the event the court a quo found it impossible and unnecessary to deal in its
judgment with all the disputes of fact that arose. Broadly speaking, however, it
accepted the plaintiff‘s version in preference to that of the defendant and Ms H on all
the major issues. This court‘s reluctance to interfere with factual findings by trial
courts has become well-established. One of the underlying reasons for this
reluctance is precisely that trial courts are simply not able to motivate their eventual
credibility findings with reference to every aspect of the evidence. At the same time,
this court is equally conscious of the fact that an entirely uncritical approach to the
factual findings of the trial court will render appeals on fact illusory. In this case I
cannot avoid the impression that the court a quo had considerable personal
sympathy with the plaintiff and his plight while at the same time it found the conduct
of the defendant and Ms H unpalatable. Since these rather personal sentiments
seem to have influenced the court‘s whole approach to factual findings, I believe
those findings should be treated with caution. As it happens, however, and for
reasons that will soon become apparent, I think the determination of the numerous
factual disputes that arose is for the most part not relevant to the outcome of this
appeal. It will suffice, therefore, to highlight only a few aspects in the judgment of the
court a quo to illustrate why I do not regard my criticism of the court‘s approach as
unwarranted or unfair.

[6] The plaintiff‘s version, as we now know, was that the marriage between him
and Ms H was a happy one until shortly before she left the marital home in March
2010. Ms H‘s version, on the other hand, was that the marriage started to deteriorate
in October 2008 and by August 2009, was in serious trouble. In support of his
version the plaintiff relied on a bundle of photographs comprising almost 100 pages
of the trial record. The court a quo describes the import of this bundle in the following
way:
‗At the outset I must say that the photographs to which I have referred above depict a happy
family consisting of both the plaintiff and [Ms H], their children and their relatives over a
lengthy period of time since 2008 up and until at least February 2010. If no more is said,
those photographs are prima facie evidence of a happy marriage relationship between the
plaintiff and [Ms H].‘

[7] Further evidence relied upon by the plaintiff in corroboration of his version
that the marriage was a happy one until Ms H left in March 2010, stemmed from a
transcript of a speech made by Ms H on the celebration of her 30th birthday on
3 October 2009. During this speech she described the plaintiff as ‗her soul mate‘ and
declared her undying love for him. With regard to the photographs Ms H‘s response
was in essence that appearances can be deceptive; that she is an outgoing person
who is eager to please; who often smiles even when she is hurting inside; that
people normally smile when they are photographed; and that they normally look
happy when they smile. As to her speech on her 30th birthday party, her answer was
that she was keeping up a front before family and friends on an occasion which was
supposed to be a happy one. The court‘s comment on this evidence shows the
extent to which it was unimpressed by her answers, when it said:
‗When the text of the speech was put to her in cross-examination she was constrained to
deny the truth of what she had said about the plaintiff and explained that it was just a front
she had put up to create the impression of happiness to the family and friends who attended
the occasion. She was constrained to maintain the same stance in relation to all the other
photographs handed in by the plaintiff and which depicted her and the plaintiff and their
family and friends as in a state of complete happiness and harmony.‘

[8] What the court seems to have lost sight of was the undisputed evidence that
Ms H consulted a marriage counsellor on three occasions in August and September
2009. The court‘s only comment on this evidence is that ‗those problems clearly did
not terminate the cohabitation of [Ms H] and the plaintiff or cause the disintegration
of their marriage‘. But as I see it, this comment misses the point. The point being
that it clearly corroborates Ms H‘s evidence that, despite what the photographs may
show and in spite of what she said in her speech, the marriage was in serious
trouble, at the latest in August 2009. Other objective evidence that the court a quo
seemed to have lost sight of was an e-mail which Ms H sent to the plaintiff on 20
August 2009 where she pleaded with him that they must make time to talk about
their difficulties. There was also the uncontroverted evidence of Ms H of a meeting
between her and the plaintiff which she called for on 14 October 2009. The measure
of her despair on that occasion appears from the agenda she prepared for that

meeting in which she enumerated the difficulties she experienced in the marriage,
which she proposed to discuss at the meeting and which happened to coincide with
what she described in her evidence as the main reasons for the eventual breakdown
of the marriage.

[9] Another example of where the court a quo missed the point again relates to
the bundle of photographs. What Ms H marked as the beginning of the end of their
marriage relationship was an incident shortly before the birth of their son in October
2008 when they attended the wedding of friends in the KwaZulu-Natal Midlands.
That night at the reception, she testified, she began to feel seriously ill.
Subsequently this proved to have been the start of pneumonia while she was heavily
pregnant. She asked the plaintiff to take her back to the guesthouse where they
were staying. He refused to do so and told her to lie down in the car. Upon their
return to Johannesburg she asked him to take her to hospital. Again he refused,
saying that she was exaggerating, as a result of which she had to call her parents
that night to take her to hospital. With regard to this testimony, which was not really
disputed by the plaintiff, the court a quo commented as follows:
‗It is possible that she fell ill during the course of that occasion at some stage. The
photographs to which I have referred showed her happily having a ball on the dance floor
with the plaintiff.‘
It is common cause, however, that the photographs depicting Ms H ‗having a ball
dancing with the plaintiff‘ were taken on a completely different occasion.

[10] That is why I conclude that not much reliance can be placed on the credibility
findings of the court a quo. But at the same time, as I have said, I believe most of
these findings to be of peripheral import only. I say that for the reasons that follow.
To start with, it should be underlined that the plaintiff‘s cause of action relied on the
actio iniuriarum in the form of adultery and adultery only. Although he claimed
damages under the two headings of contumelia (ie insult or injury to his self-esteem)
and loss of consortium (ie the loss of comfort and society of his wife), he did not rely
on what has become known in our law of delict as the action for enticement. To

succeed with the latter, the plaintiff would have to show not merely that his wife left
him for the defendant, but that the defendant actually induced her to leave him or, in
the words of Trollip J in Wassenaar v Jameson 1969 (2) SA 349 (W) at 352B, ‗that
he had coaxed her away from the applicant, that he had talked her over, or that he
had persuaded her to leave the applicant, and as a result thereof she had lost her
affection for him. That is usually a very formidable onus to discharge‘ (see also Smit
v Arthur 1976 (3) SA 378 (A) at 387C-D; J Neethling, J M Potgieter & P J Visser
Neethling’s Law of Personality 2 ed (2005) at 213). This means that, even on the
assumption that the plaintiff had purported to rely on enticement as a separate
cause of action – which was never pleaded or raised in any other way – he did not
even come close to discharging that onus. On the contrary, what the evidence
shows is that the defendant and Ms H became attracted  to one another and
became involved in a romantic relationship, each by their own desire. Ms H was as
much the pursuer as the pursued. There was no evidence whatsoever of enticement
by the defendant in the form of coaxing or persuasion.

[11] Once it is appreciated that the plaintiff‘s case relied on adultery only, the sole
question is: what were the consequences of the adultery? Thus understood, the
dispute as to whether Ms H and the defendant became romantically involved after
March 2010 – as they said – or in January 2010 – as contended for by the plaintiff –
is of no real importance. As to dates, the only relevant questions appear to be: when
did they commit adultery for the first time? And what happened after that? In
accordance with the admissions by the defendant and Ms H it happened on 17 July
2010. The plaintiff, on the other hand, set out to prove that it happened on 11
December 2009 at a year-end function when Ms H left the defendant‘s residence at
about 2am the following morning. That suggestion was, however, refuted by the
evidence of Mr Pieter Grimes who testified that he had also attended the same
function; that there were about seven to ten other people present; that he left the
function at the same time as Ms H and that nothing untoward happened while he
was there.

[12] That moved the plaintiff‘s contention as to when adultery was committed for
the first time, forward to either April or June 2010. What happened in April 2010,
according to the defendant‘s own version, is that he invited Ms H to a health spa. He
reserved a single room where they spent the night together in the same bed. In June
2010 Ms H returned the favour by inviting the defendant to spend the weekend with
her in Paternoster. They admitted that on this occasion she booked a single
bedroom cottage with a double bed in which they slept together, but denied,
however, that they had sexual intercourse on either of these occasions.

[13] Even if the plaintiff‘s contention in this regard is to be accepted, it would of
course not afford him a claim for loss of consortium. This derives from the fact,
which is common cause, that the parties were separated in March 2010 and never
resumed cohabitation. But as to the claim for contumelia, it turned out to be
important to determine whether adultery occurred for the first time on one of these
earlier dates and not on the later date admitted by the defendant and Ms H, which
was 17 July 2010. Why this is so, stems from the principles of our law which were
formulated as follows by Tindall J in Groundland v Groundland and Alger 1923 WLD
217 at 220:
‗The question then remains as to the amount of damages. There is a judicial separation in
existence between the plaintiff and his wife, but in my opinion the fact that a separation
exists, does not in itself, according to our law, disentitle the husband from claiming
damages. . . . I am satisfied that the plaintiff in this case had not permanently given up all
intention of living with his wife. This case is distinct from the case of Michael v Michael &
McMahon 1909 TH 292, where the plaintiff had abandoned his wife.‘
(See also Neethling et al supra 209-210 and the authorities there cited.)

[14] By 17 July 2010 the plaintiff had relinquished all thought of reconciliation
between him and Ms H and had given up on the marriage. I say this because by
then the plaintiff had admitted in his plea filed in the divorce action that the marriage
had broken down. By contrast, that was not the position in April 2010. At that stage
the plaintiff was still trying to rescue the marriage with the help of professional
counselling. The court a quo rejected the denial by the defendant and Ms H that they

had intercourse on these earlier dates as completely improbable. I must admit
having some misgivings about the notion that the defendant and Ms H would be
truthful enough to admit that they slept in the same bed on two occasions – a fact
about which there was seemingly no other evidence – and then to deny that they
committed adultery on those occasions. Yet I am not prepared to say that the court a
quo‘s finding on the probabilities constituted a misdirection which would allow us to
interfere. Neither the defendant nor Ms H gave a satisfactory explanation as to why,
on each occasion, they booked a single room with one bed. In addition I do not
regard it as insignificant that towards the end of June 2010 the two of them
exchanged e-mails suggesting the name Isabella for the daughter they hoped they
would have.

[15] In the light of this finding of fact, the present state of our law allows the
plaintiff an action against the defendant for contumelia. The conclusion that the
adultery was committed at a time when the marriage had already broken down
irretrievably is no absolute defence to this claim, although it means that the award
for loss of consortium was wrongly made by the court a quo. That, however,
introduces the antecedent question that we had raised with counsel prior to the
hearing. It concerns the justification for the continued existence in our law of the
delictual claim for adultery.

Continued existence of the action for adultery
[16] The present existence of the action cannot be doubted. After it had been
explicitly recognised by this court for the first time in Viviers v Kilian 1927 AD 449,
that recognition had been confirmed on several occasions (see for example Foulds v
Smith 1950 (1) SA 1 (A); Bruwer v Joubert 1966 (3) SA 334 (A) at 337). Its
continued existence was pertinently raised by way of exception in Wiese v Moolman
2009 (3) SA 122 (T). In that case Du Plessis J held, after an in-depth consideration,
that the action should be maintained. In this matter, Vorster AJ not only held himself
bound, but found himself in complete agreement with the decision in the Wiese
case. The question raised now is whether that case was rightly decided.

[17] The context in which the question arises is the recognition by our courts that,
while the major engine for law reform lies with the legislature, the courts are
nonetheless obliged on occasion to develop the common law in an incremental way.
These occasions are dictated, firstly, by s 39(2) of the Constitution which imposes
the duty on the courts to develop the common law so as to promote the spirit,
purport and objectives of the Bill of Rights. Secondly, by the acceptance that the
courts can and should adapt the common law to reflect the changing social, moral
and economic fabric of society; that we cannot perpetuate legal rules that have lost
their social substratum (see for example Du Plessis v De Klerk 1996 (3) SA 850
(CC) para 61; Carmichele v Minister of Safety and Security & another (Centre for
Applied Legal Studies Intervening) 2001 (4) SA 938 (CC) para 36).

[18] The boni mores of society or the legal convictions of the community, which in
effect constitute expressions of considerations of legal and public policy, are of
particular significance in determining wrongfulness, which is an essential element of
delictual liability in our law, both under the lex Aquilia and the actio iniuriarum. In Le
Roux v Dey (Freedom of Expression Institute and Restorative Justice Centre as
amici curiae)  2011 (3) SA 274 (CC) para 122 the principle was formulated thus:
‗In the more recent past our courts have come to recognise, however, that in the context of
the law of delict: (a) the criterion of wrongfulness ultimately depends on a judicial
determination of whether — assuming all the other elements of delictual liability to be
present — it would be reasonable to impose liability on a defendant for the damages flowing
from specific conduct; and (b) that the judicial determination of that reasonableness would in
turn depend on considerations of public and legal policy in accordance with constitutional
norms.‘
(See also F v Minister of Safety and Security & others 2012 (1) SA 536 (CC) paras
117-124; Roux v Hattingh 2012 (6) SA 428 (SCA) para 33.)
This means that, especially in determining whether conduct should be regarded as
wrongful, ie whether delictual liability should follow, courts are more sensitive to
have regard to the dynamic and changing nature of the norms of our society.

[19] The action for adultery is part of a group of actions, based on the actio
iniuriarum, which are connected to the institution of marriage. The group also
comprises the action for breach of promise to marry. With regard to the latter, Harms
DP said the following in Van Jaarsveld v Bridges 2010 (4) SA 558 (SCA) para 3:
‗Courts have not only the right but also the duty to develop the common-law, taking into
account the interests of justice, and at the same time to promote the spirit, purport and
objects of the Bill of Rights. In this regard courts have regard to the prevailing mores and
public-policy considerations. Davis J felt [in Sepheri v Scanlan 2008 (1) SA 322 (C) at 330I-
331A] the time had come for a reconsideration of the action [for breach of promise to marry],
but felt uncomfortable to take a lead in the matter. However, having had regard to the views
expressed by the authors quoted by the learned judge . . . I do believe that the time has
arrived to recognise that the historic approach to engagements is outdated and does not
recognise the mores of our time, and that public policy considerations require that our courts
must reassess the law relating to breach of promise.‘
And (para 6):
‗The world has moved on and morals have changed. Divorce, which in earlier days was
available in the event of adultery or desertion only, is now available in the event of an
irretrievable breakdown of the marriage. Guilt is no longer an issue. There is no reason why
a just cause for ending an engagement should not likewise include the lack of desire to
marry the particular person, irrespective of the ―guilt‖ of the latter.‘
(See also Cloete v Maritz 2013 (5) SA 448 (WCC).)

[20] The question raised in this case is whether the same can be said about the
delictual claim for adultery. Exactly 100 years ago this court held in Green v
Fitzgerald 1914 AD 88 that adultery was no longer a criminal offence in our law,
because it had become obsolete due to disuse. In the course of his judgment Lord
de Villiers CJ inter alia said (at 103):
‗Adultery . . . is unhappily of most frequent occurrence, and although the reports of divorce
cases are daily published in the newspapers, the authorities take no notice of the offence. It
has ceased to be regarded as a crime.‘
Thirty years later the following was said by Blackwell J in Rosenbaum v Margolis
1944 WLD 147 at 158:

‗The criminal sanction for adultery having disappeared, the only remedy left to an injured
husband is an action for divorce against his wife, with the claims ancillary thereto, and for
damages against the adulterer. In so far as the latter may be regarded as a deterrent and in
the public interest, I can see no good reason why it should not enure equally in favour of the
wife. There is something, in my opinion, to be said for the view that an action for damages
against an adulterous third party is out of harmony with modern concepts of marriage and
should be abolished. But as long as the action remains, it should remain in favour of both
sexes alike.‘

[21] In Foulds v Smith supra the extension of the action to allow the wife of an
adulterous husband to also have a claim, was confirmed by this court. But today, 70
years after Rosenbaum, the question brought up by Blackwell J is again pertinently
raised before us. In the meantime, adultery was abolished as a ground for divorce in
the Divorce Act 70 of 1979. Yet, as I have said, Wiese v Moolman supra decided the
question whether the action against the third party based on adultery should be
maintained in the affirmative. Academic writers on the subject go the other way, with
the notable exception of Neethling‘s Law of Personality to which I have referred
earlier. The judgment in Wiese relied mainly on Neethling Persoonlikheidsreg 4 ed,
ie the Afrikaans version of Neethling‘s Law of Personality. In a subsequent article by
Prof Johan Neethling ‗Owerspel as onregmatige daad – Die Suid-Afrikaanse reg in
lynregte teenstelling met die Nederlandse reg‘ (2010) 73 THRHR 343 at 346, he
concludes that Wiese was correctly decided and seems surprised that Dutch law
does not hold the same. The fact is, however, that the position in most other
countries is that the action is no longer available. I shall come to that. The various
other academic authors who argue that the claim should be abolished hold the view
that the action is outdated and archaic and that it has lost its place in the context of
modern society (see for example J Church ‗Consortium Omnis Vitae‘ (1979) 42
THRHR 376 at 380-381; HR Hahlo, South African Law of Husband & Wife (1980
Supplement to the 4th ed) at 31; JMT Labuschagne ‗―Deinjuriering‖ van Owerspel‘
(1986) 49 THRHR 336, DSP Cronje & J Heaton South African Family Law 2 ed
(2004) at 50-51, HJ Erasmus, CG van der Merwe & AH van Wyk Lee & Honore
Family, Things and Succession (1983) para 59 note 5; M Carnelley ‗One Hundred

Years of Adultery – reassessment required?‘ in S V Hoctor & M Kidd (eds) Stella
Iuris Celebrating 100 Years of Teaching Law in Pietermaritzburg (2010) 183-204).

[22] From a historical perspective, Roman law punished adultery as a crime but
did not afford an action in private law (see for example M Carnelley ‗Laws on
Adultery: Comparing the Historical Development of South African Common-Law
Principles with those in English Law‘ (2013) 19 (2) Fundamina 185 et seq). As to
Roman Dutch Law, JC Sonnekus concluded in his doctoral thesis at the University of
Leiden in 1976, Die Privaatregtelike Beskerming van die Huwelik (at 58 and 75), that
apart from certain general statements by De Groot (eg ‗Inleidinge‘ 3.35.9 and ‗De
Iure belli ac pacis‘ 2.17.15), support for the proposition that Roman Dutch law
afforded a private law action for adultery, is hard to find amongst our old authorities
(see also Wessels JA in Viviers v Kilian supra at 458 and Watermeyer J in Wagner v
Kotze unreported but referred to by CH van Zyl The Theory of the Judicial Practice
of the Colony of the Cape of Good Hope and of South Africa Generally (1902) at
514-515 and alluded to by Wessels JA in Viviers v Kilian).

[23] In Biccard v Biccard & Fryer (1892) 9 SC 473 at 475, De Villiers CJ, however,
relied on De Groot Inleiding 3.35.1 to allay the doubt expressed earlier by
Watermeyer J about the existence of the action in Roman Dutch law. When the
issue came before this court for the first time in Viviers v Kilian, it confirmed the
judgment of De Villiers CJ in Biccard. In doing so it relied largely on the judgment of
the Privy Council in Norton v Spooner [1854] UKPC 21 which was given in 1854.
This was an appeal from British Guyana in which the Privy Council held that a civil
action for recovery of damages against a defendant for ‗criminal conversation‘ lies by
Roman Dutch law which prevailed in British Guiana at the time.

[24] The thesis advanced by Sonnekus (at 219), was that the decision in Norton v
Spooner was heavily influenced by English law and that in consequence Viviers v
Kilian was representative of English law rather than Roman Dutch law. That thesis
appears to be supported by the reference to ‗an action for criminal conversation‘ in

Viviers at 451, which is a description of the action peculiar to English law. Of further
significance is the fact that other civil law countries such as France, the Netherlands,
Germany and Austria do not recognise a private law claim for adultery although at
some stage it was punishable in these countries as a criminal offence. So, for
instance, a famous professor of civil law at the University of Vienna is reported to
have said many years ago, when coming to the subject of liability for adultery:
‗The treatment of adultery as a criminal offence, has long ago been abrogated in every
civilised country in the world, but I am given to understand that there still exists in a few
countries an action for damages for adultery. This is utterly repugnant to modern ideas. Not
only is it degrading to the wife, who is treated as a kind of chattel belonging to her husband,
but it is wrong that the time of the courts should be taken up in attempting to assess marital
fidelity in terms of money.‘
(See B Tennet ‗Damages for adultery: a criticism of our law‘ (1952) 69 SALJ 96.)

[25] It appears that after the Second World War academic writers in Germany
sought to persuade the German courts to recognise a private law claim of this kind.
The Bundesgerichtshof, however, steadfastly refused to do so. This appears, for
instance, from the judgment of the Bundesgerichtshof (Sixth Civil Senate) on 22
February 1973 (JZ 1973, 668), as translated by BS Markesinis and H Unberath The
German Law of Torts A Comparative Treatise 4 ed (2002) at 364-365. I apologise in
advance for quoting so extensively from this judgment. My excuse is that I found
much guidance in the clarity of reasoning that it displays. It reads:
‗The plaintiff bases his claims on the fact that the defendant was an accomplice to the
breach of fidelity for which the plaintiff‘s wife was to be blamed. According to a constant
practice of the Bundesgerichtshof, maintained until now in the face of attacks by some
writers, no claims in tort are allowed by the law in force in cases of ―intrusion of a marriage‖
either against the guilty spouse or against the intruding third party . . . [In an earlier case the]
Fourth Division points out that without the co-operation of one of the spouses no
interference with the marriage can occur and that, therefore, it constitutes essentially an
internal marital matter, which is not sought to be protected by inclusion among the situations
attracting liability in tort. In view of its strong link with the conduct of the unfaithful spouse the
participation of the third party must be coloured by it as well. It is inadmissible to divide the
activities into misbehaviour of the spouse governed by matrimonial law and a tort committed

by the third party rendering him liable to pay damages. The Fourth Division has pointed out
further that it is difficult, having regard to the multiplicity of possible acts of interference with
marital relations, to establish suitable limits for any such liability and that the necessary
enquiries, as required in the individual case, would have undesirable effects in various
respects . . .
It is true that according to the practice of the Bundesgerichtshof, particularly of this Division,
a claimant whose general right of personality has been severely infringed may be awarded
pecuniary damages for his non-pecuniary loss, provided that additional conditions have
been met. However, in so far as the right of personality of a spouse has been infringed
because a third party acting together with the other spouse has interfered with the right to
the integrity of the marital community, as in the present case, any claims for damages in tort
must be denied for the reasons stated above which rule out liability in tort . . .
The legislature has refrained from enforcing proper marital conduct directly or indirectly by
public measures . . . including any penalties and equivalent measures for adultery, and has
contented itself with the protection provided by family law . . . [I]t expresses the conviction
that highly personal relations should not be regulated by law, which is at least compatible
with constitutional law and corresponds to modern ethics . . .
Finally, a conclusion to the contrary cannot be based either on the protection of marriage . . .
Admittedly, marriage is a human institution which is regulated by law and protected by the
Constitution and which, in turn, creates genuine legal duties. Its essence, however, consists
in the readiness, founded in morals, of the parties to the marriage to create and to maintain
it.‘

[26] In view of the clear and consistent recognition of the private law action for
adultery by this court, its origin is of significance in one respect only, namely that in
England, which is its country of origin, the action for adultery against a third party, or
‗criminal conversation‘ as it was called, has since been abolished by legislation in
terms of the Law Reform (Miscellaneous Provisions) Act 1970. Both the history of
the action and the reasons for its demise in England appear from the following
summary by Diplock LJ in Pritchard v Pritchard and Sims [1966] 3 All ER 601 (CA)
at 607-610:
‗In 1857, when marriage in England was still a union for life which could be broken only by
private Act of Parliament, there existed side by side under the common law three distinct

causes of action available to a husband whose rights in his wife were violated by a third
party, who enticed her away, or who harboured her or who committed adultery with her. In
enticement and in harbouring, which were actions on the case, the damage claimed was for
loss of the society and services of the wife. In the action for adultery known as criminal
conversation, which . . . lay originally in trespass, the act of adultery itself was the cause of
action and the damages punitive and at large. It lay whether the adultery resulted in the
husband‘s losing his wife‘s society and services or not.
All three causes of action were based on the recognition accorded by the common law to
the husband's proprietary interest in the person of his wife, her services and her earnings,
and in the property which would have been hers had she been feme sole. The common law
in 1857 reflected in this respect the social values of a country governed exclusively by the
dominant male, and, although by judicial extension the cause of action for enticement is now
available to both spouses . . . there is no trace of such an action being brought by the wife
before 1857.
. . .
The ancient common law action for criminal conversation was abolished by s 59 of the
Matrimonial Causes Act, 1857, which first gave jurisdiction to an English court to dissolve
marriages. By s 33 of the same Act, however, the newly constituted court for matrimonial
causes was empowered to award to a husband damages for adultery, and the section
provided that such claim should be tried on the same principles and in the same manner as
actions for criminal conversation were formerly tried at common law . . .
[I]n 1857 . . . the old concept of the husband's proprietary rights in his wife was still firmly
rooted, and the principles on which the amount of damages was assessed in the old
common law action for criminal conversation, immediately before the passing of the Act,
were applied to the new statutory cause of action for damages for adultery. These principles
. . . had by 1857 already been rationalised as compensatory – but compensatory for what?
Certainly and primarily for the loss to the husband of the value of the wife . . . Nevertheless,
no doubt as a rationalisation of the former punitive nature of the damages, it was well
established that, where the action did lie, the husband was entitled to be compensated also
for the injury to his feelings and his pride . . .
The measure of the . . . compensation for injury to the husband's feelings and pride, must
also take account of changing social norms. The test must be his rational resentment, not
his mere idiosyncratic ire, and the factors to be taken into account in mitigation or in
aggravation are those which would affect the feelings of a reasonable man with an unfaithful

wife in the social conditions of today. Such reasonable cuckold of the common law may be
divorced from reality as well as from his wife, but the concept is needed so long as
Parliament preserves a cause of action which, in so far as it extends beyond proven
pecuniary loss, I confess I find ―repugnant to modern and sensible ideas‖.‘
And by Scarman J in the same case when he said (at 611):
‗When a wife was a piece of property whom the husband could not divorce short of an Act of
Parliament, her infidelity was understandably regarded as a terrible blow to his honour and
his pride. A cuckold was then a contemptible, ridiculous figure, ―the husband of an unfaithful
wife, derisory‖ says the Shorter Oxford English Dictionary; but today all is changed. Divorce
runs at something like forty thousand cases a year; a man can divest himself easily, cheaply
(and without loss of face) of his adulterous wife. Thousands of husbands come annually to
the courts seeking the relief of divorce for adultery; but how many claim damages?—the
merest handful. The truth is that our social mores have changed, and with them the
monetary assessment of the factors of loss and injury, whose graphic descriptions increase
the volume and enrich the literary quality of the older law reports.‘

[27] The abolition of the action for criminal conversation in England was followed,
so it appears, in most other common law jurisdictions which inherited that action
from English law. In New Zealand and Australia it happened in 1975, in Scotland in
1976, in Ontario in 1978 and subsequently in almost all the provinces of Canada. In
the United States of America the action has been abolished or severely restricted in
42 states and the District of Columbia either by what has been called ‗anti-heart
balm statutes‘ or by decisions of the State Supreme Courts. Indeed, North Carolina
appears to be one of the last remaining states where tort claims for adultery are still
recognised (see L McMillian ‗Adultery as tort‘ (2012) 90 North Carolina Law Review
1987 at 1988; JM Cary and S Scudder ‗Breaking up is hard to do: North Carolina
refuses to end its relationship with heart balm torts‘ (2012) 4 Elon Law Review 1).
The reasons for the abolition in these jurisdictions are, in short, that the action is
regarded as no longer in confirmation with considerations of morality, that it has
grave disadvantages and that on balance, its continued existence is no longer
justifiable.

[28] Experience teaches us that different jurisdictions provide more or less the
same answer to a particular legal problem, albeit that they sometimes arrive at that
answer in different ways. Where our law therefore gives an answer that appears to
be directly at odds with what has happened in most other jurisdictions, it makes one
stop to think: are the morals and the needs of our society so different from most
others? And if so, why? Proponents of the continued existence of the action believe
that in the main it serves two purposes: First, to protect marriage as an important
institution of society and, second, to protect the personality rights of injured spouses
by affording them compensation for the contumelia or injury they had suffered and
(perhaps) for the wounded feelings they were made to endure. I shall return to
these.

[29] What the proponents of the action have to admit, however, is the clear
anomaly that the action is available against the third party only and not against the
adulterous spouse, although a clearer case of a co-perpetrator is difficult to conceive
(see for example Neethling et al supra 208; Wiese supra at 128C-H). This anomaly
was advanced in the judgment of the Bundesgericht, from which I have quoted, as
one of the reasons why this action should not be admitted as part of German law. It
was also underscored by Van Zyl JP in Asinovsky v Asinovsky 1943 CPD 131 at
132-133 when he said:
‗It is difficult to see why the act of a man committing adultery with another man‘s wife should
amount to a delict towards the husband, but the adultery of a woman‘s husband should not
be treated as a delict committed by him towards her.‘

[30] The anomaly becomes even more stark when it is borne in mind that:
(a)
If anything, the behaviour of the guilty spouse is patently more reprehensible
than that of the third party and more hurtful to the innocent spouse. It is, after all, the
guilty spouse, not the third party, who solemnly undertook to remain faithful and who
is bound by a relationship of trust.

(b)
According to the law as it stands, it makes no difference whether the guilty
spouse initiates the relationship or whether he or she was the seducer or the
seduced.
(c)
Neither does it make any difference whether the two spouses subsequently
carried on with their marital relationship or even that they were married in community
of property with the result that the guilty spouse would share in the benefits of the
award of damages.

[31] One answer to the anomaly which appears to be accepted in Wiese supra
198G-H is that the remedy of the innocent spouse against the guilty spouse lies in
an action for divorce. But this is no longer the case. It is true that the former can
obtain an order for forfeiture of benefits or maintenance against the latter in terms of
s 7 of the Divorce Act, but this would only benefit the innocent spouse in limited
instances. And, as I have said, the innocent spouse can condone the adultery of the
guilty spouse, continue with the marriage and still sue the third party for damages.

[32] The further reason for the immunity of the guilty spouse advanced, for
example in Wiese at 128F-G, is that it lies in considerations of legal policy. But this
does not even begin to explain what those policy considerations may be. What it
also fails to explain is the apparent conflict with the further statement in that
judgment, that if the action against the third party were to be abolished, it would
send out the unfortunate message that adultery is ‗regmatig‘, ie not wrongful and
therefore somehow condoned by our law (see Wiese at 128A). But that raises the
question: why is the same message not conveyed by the immunity of the guilty
spouse? The answer is, of course, in both instances, that when we say that conduct
is ‗regmatig‘, ie not wrongful, it only means that the defendant is immune from legal
liability; that despite the possible moral blameworthiness of this conduct, the law has
decided, for reasons of legal or public policy, that it would not impose legal liability
on the defendant for that conduct (see for example Trustees, Two Oceans Aquarium
Trust v Kantey & Templer (Pty) Ltd 2006 (3) SA 138 (SCA) paras 11 and 12). Thus

understood, the statement that conduct is not wrongful does not convey any legal or
moral condonation of that conduct at all.

[33] This brings me to the advantages of the action that are put forward by those
who contend that it should be retained. First amongst these is that it protects the
institution of marriage which our society holds dear as one of the most important
bases for family life and which is recognised and protected as such by our
Constitution. This advantage was underscored in Wiese (125F-H; 127C-G). It also
formed the bulwark of the plaintiff‘s argument as to why the action should be
maintained. In response and lest I be misunderstood, let me start by saying that I
have no doubt that marriage is one of the most important institutions in our society
which is and should be recognised and protected by our Constitution. That much
was clearly confirmed by the Constitutional Court in a number of cases (see for
example Dawood & another v Minister of Home Affairs & others 2000 (3) SA 936
(CC) paras 30-33).

[34] But the question is: if the protection of marriage is one of its main goals, is the
action successful in achieving that goal? The question becomes more focused when
the spotlight is directed at the following considerations:
(a)
First of all, as was pointed out by the German Bundesgericht in the passage
from the judgment (JZ 1973, 668) from which I have quoted earlier, although
marriage is ‗a human institution which is regulated by law and protected by the
Constitution and which, in turn, creates genuine legal duties . . . Its essence . . .
consists in the readiness, founded in morals, of the parties to the marriage to create
and to maintain it‘. If the parties to the marriage have lost that moral commitment,
the marriage will fail and punishment meted out to a third party is unlikely to change
that.
(b)
Grave doubts are expressed by many about the deterrent effect of the action.
In most other countries it was concluded that the action (no longer) has any
deterrent effect and I have no reason to think that the position in our society is all
that different. Perhaps one reason is that adultery occurs in different circumstances.

Ever so often it happens without any premeditation, when deterrence would hardly
play a role. At the other end of the scale, the adultery is sometimes carefully planned
and the participants are confident that it will not be discovered. Moreover, romantic
involvement between one of the spouses and a third party can be as devastating to
the marital relationship as (or even more so than) sexual intercourse.
(c)
If deterrence is the main purpose, one would have thought that this could
better be achieved by retaining the imposition of criminal sanctions or by the grant of
an interdict in favour of the innocent spouse against both the guilty spouse and the
third party to prevent future acts of adultery. But, as we know, the crime of adultery
had become abrogated through disuse exactly 100 years ago while an interdict
against adultery has never been granted by our courts (see for example Wassenaar
v Jameson supra at 352H-353H). Some of the reasons given in Wassenaar as to
why an interdict would not be appropriate are quite enlightening and would apply
equally to the appropriateness of a claim for damages. These include, firstly, that an
interdict against the guilty spouse is not possible because he or she commits no
delict. Secondly, that, as against a third party ‗it interferes with, and restricts the
rights and freedom that the third party ordinarily has of using and disposing of his
body as he chooses; . . . it also affects the relationship of the third party with the
claimant‘s spouse, who is and cannot be a party to the interdict, and therefore
indirectly interferes with, and restricts her rights and freedom of, using and disposing
of her body as she chooses‘ (at 353D-E).
(d)
In addition, the deterrence argument seems to depart from the assumption
that adultery is the cause of the breakdown of a marriage, while it is now widely
recognised that causes for the breakdown in marriages are far more complex. Quite
frequently adultery is found to be the result and not the cause of an unhappy marital
relationship. Conversely stated, a marriage in which the spouses are living in
harmony is hardly likely to be broken up by a third party.

[35] The second purpose of the action advanced in Wiese (125I-126A) is that it
serves as a solatium (ie compensation) to the innocent spouse for the contumelia (ie
insult) which he or she had suffered. It must, however, be borne in mind that in our

law, the claim for insult or contumelia involves an objective criterion. As Harms DP
explained in Van Jaarsveld v Bridges supra (para 19), it requires that the conduct
complained of be tested against the prevailing norms of society. Even if that conduct
is subjectively perceived by the plaintiff as insulting or hurtful to his or her self-
esteem, it cannot give rise to an action for compensation unless it is, objectively
determined, insulting. Unless the reasonable observer would also regard the
conduct as humiliating or degrading, no action for iniuria or insult will lie (see for
example Delange v Costa 1989 (2) SA 857 (A) at 861D-862G; Le Roux v Dey supra
paras 177-180). Applying that test, it appears to me that in this day and age the
reasonable observer would rarely think that the innocent spouse was humiliated or
insulted by the adultery of his or her spouse. The passages from the judgments of
the Court of Appeal in Pritchard that I have referred to express the view that in
modern society the reasonable person would not regard the ‗cuckold husband‘ with
less respect. Or, as Diplock J put it, that the cuckold who still feels humiliated may
find himself divorced from reality as well as from his wife. I think the position in our
society would be no different. Perhaps, society will think less of the guilty spouse but
not of the one who had been betrayed.

[36] Neethling‘s Law of Personality supra (at 209) contends that the action serves
to protect another personality interest, namely ‗die gevoelslewe‘, or wounded
feelings of the innocent spouse. He regards this protection as part of the claim for
loss of consortium. Wiese (126A-C) appears to endorse this notion, but regards it as
part of contumelia. However, as far as I know, an action for wounded feelings as
such had not as yet been specifically recognised by our law. Moreover, I am not
entirely sure what the proposed action entails. Does it refer to the purely subjective
feelings of the spouse? That would directly conflict with the established principle that
our law does not concern itself with subjective feelings of hurt which are not
regarded as objectively reasonable. In addition, if the law is to be extended to
protect wounded feelings, where would we draw the line? Would it include the
wounded feelings of a party whose agreement to marry had been broken or of a
man whose girlfriend had left him for another? If it can only be brought as part of the

claim for loss of consortium, what about the spouse who has no claim for loss of
consortium, but nonetheless feels deeply hurt?

[37] Another purpose rather obliquely advanced in Wiese (128A-B) is that adultery
often gives rise to strong emotions and that, but for the availability of the action for
damages, the innocent spouse may resort to self-help through unlawful means. I find
the argument somewhat perilous. The law cannot be expected to create or maintain
remedies with the sole purpose of preventing unlawful conduct, even if the
motivation for that conduct is understandable. People often feel wronged by others
without any available legal remedy to amend that wrong. Yet both the norms and the
laws of civilised society expect them to restrain themselves from self-help by means
of what would amount to unlawful revenge.

[38] In the end the history of the delictual action for adultery reveals its archaic
origin. On the one hand it stems from the concept in old English law that the
husband has some proprietary interest in the person and ‗services‘ of his wife. That
is why in common law the action for criminal conversation was always confined to
the husband of an adulterous wife. According to some of our older judgments, on the
other hand, the action was influenced by the biblical notion received from Canon law
that both husband and wife in a marriage are entitled to the sole use of each other‘s
body (see for example Strydom v Saayman 1949 (2) SA 736 (T) at 738; Foulds v
Smith supra  at 8), akin to some kind of servitude. When these archaic notions were
exposed by changing norms of society, the law started looking for a new raison
d’etre. This was found, on the one hand, in the protection of marriage as an
institution and in the notion of a solatium for the insult of the innocent spouse, on the
other. But as I see it, the time has come for our law to recognise, in harmony with
most other legal systems, that in the light of changing mores, these reasons
advanced for the continued existence of the action have now also lost their
persuasive force.

[39] What is more, even if the action still performs some legitimate function which I
may have overlooked, that notional advantage will be far outweighed by the hurt and
damage that the action too often brings about. Some of these were well-illustrated in
this case, and the list is clearly not exhaustive:
(a)
First, the trial exposed the young children of the marriage to harmful publicity
and emotional trauma which was manifestly not in their best interest. One day they
may even be confronted by the evidence given at the trial and the cross-examination
which delved into the extramarital sex life of their mother.
(b)
The evidence normally led in adultery actions seriously impacts on the dignity
and privacy of the defendant, and the spouse that is alleged to have committed
adultery. In this case Ms H was subjected to embarrassing and demeaning cross-
examination and was made to suffer the indignity of having her personal and private
life placed under a microscope and being interrogated in an insulting and
embarrassing fashion.
(c)
The clear impression one gains from the evidence in this case was that the
plaintiff was motivated by considerations of anger at his wife for the breakup of their
marriage. He found the defendant a convenient scapegoat and repository of his
anger and his desire for revenge. So, instead of being moved by a need for solace
and closure, the action was driven by a negative and destructive craving for
revenge. I have no doubt that this is often the case.
(d)
Actions for adultery are usually prosecuted in the high court and involve the
parties in enormous costs. During the trial reference was made to costs incurred by
the appellant alone which amounted to half a million rand. That of course is to be
doubled to provide for the costs on both sides and it obviously did not include the
costs of appeal. The actual award of damages thus paled into insignificance when
compared to the costs. One suspects that these costs will be far beyond the means
of most defendants who may then be compelled to suffer the consequence of a
default judgment. Even from the plaintiff‘s perspective, the game can hardly be worth
the candle.

[40] The conclusion I arrive at is that in the light of the changing mores of our
society, the delictual action based on adultery of the innocent spouse has become
outdated and can no longer be sustained; that the time for its abolition has come. In
the light of this conclusion I find it unnecessary to consider the further contention
advanced by some of our academic authors (see for example M Carnelley ‗One
Hundred Years of Adultery‘ supra at 199-201) which was subscribed to by the
defendant in argument, that the continued existence of the action is in conflict with
our constitutional norms. Suffice it to say that there could well be merit in some of
these arguments.

[41] Finally, and in order to avoid confusion:
(a)
My finding is that the action derived from the actio iniuriarum and based on
adultery, which afforded the innocent spouse a claim for both contumelia and loss of
consortium, is no longer wrongful in the sense that it attracts liability and is thus no
longer available as part of our law.
(b)
I make no comment on the other actions based on the actio iniuriarum which
relate or are connected to the institution of marriage, such as the action for
abduction, enticement and harbouring of someone‘s spouse. I leave the
sustainability of their continued existence as the subject of consideration for another
day.
(c)
I also make no comment on the continued existence of the claim against a
third party, based on adultery, for the patrimonial harm suffered by the innocent
spouse through the loss of consortium of the adulterous spouse, which would
include, for example, the loss of supervision over the household and children (see
for example Viviers v Kilian supra at 455). This may well afford the innocent spouse
a claim under the lex Aquillia (see for example Media 24 Ltd v SA Taxi Securitisation
(Pty) Ltd (Avusa Media Ltd & others as amici curiae) 2011 (5) SA 329 (SCA para 7).

Costs
[42] What remains are issues of costs. As to the costs of appeal, it appears to me
that, even if we were to retain the action of adultery, the defendant would still have

been at least partially, yet substantially successful on appeal because the award for
loss of consortium should not have been made by the court a quo. In any event, he
would therefore be entitled to these costs. But in the high court, the plaintiff would
have been entitled to a costs order in his favour if we were to maintain the law as it
stands. In the circumstances where we have now shifted the goal posts on appeal, I
believe it would be fair to order that each party should pay his own costs in the high
court.

[43] In the event:
1  The appeal is upheld with costs, including the costs of two counsel.
2  The order of the high court is set aside and replaced with the following:
‗Plaintiff‘s action is dismissed. Each party to pay his own costs.‘

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F D J BRAND
JUDGE OF APPEAL

APPEARANCES:

For the Appellant:

S Kuny and Z Ndlokovane
Instructed by:
Friederich Inc, Pretoria
c/o Symington & De Kock, Bloemfontein

For the Respondent:

D A Smith and J A van Tonder
Instructed by:
Terblanche Attorneys, Pretoria
c/o Lovius Block, Bloemfontein