Sentence:  <WSD>Altruism</WSD> allows doing for others as one would be done by. Unlike reaction formation, which also gives to the object what the self desires, <WSD>altruism</WSD> leaves the self at least partly gratified. Unlike reaction formation, <WSD>altruism</WSD> tempers asceticism with pleasure. Unlike passive aggression and martyrdom, <WSD>altruism</WSD> allows the object to feel blessed and not afflicted. <WSD>Altruism</WSD> attracts people to the user; martyrdom repels them even as it holds them close in chains. 
Meaning of the word marked with <WSD> tags:  Regard for others, both natural and moral without regard for oneself; devotion to the interests of others; brotherly kindness.