Sentence:  `` The pattern '' , says Dr. Morton Schillinger , psychologist at New York 's Lincoln Institute for Psychotherapy , `` is for the husband to hover about anxiously and eagerly , virtually trembling in his hope that she will flash him the signal that tonight <WSD>is</WSD> the night '' . 
Meaning of the word marked with <WSD> tags:  be identical to; be someone or something