She has worked with well-educated adults in their twenties and thirties who are discontent with their lives despite seemingly �having it all,� and a growing number of young mothers who suffer from the stress of pushing themselves and their children to attain impossible ideals. In her book The Self-Esteem Trap, a recent addition to the BGMS Parent Library, Young-Eisendrath addresses the problems that can develop when children hear how special they are from the moment they enter the world. A generation of parenting advice intended to instill self-esteem has instead had the opposite outcome, she says, resulting in children who