Gender disappointment is often dismissed or not discussed, she recently told MSNBC, because parents feel they will appear ungrateful. Venis adds that it's not wrong for parents to hope for a specific gender, and it does not mean that they don't want the child. "They have the right to want the certain sex," she tells MSNBC. But if the problem is severe enough to cause symptoms of depression, parents should not be ashamed to seek the advice of a therapist.