On the website where he is pastor, he discusses parenting ‘by grace’. It is most interesting that he starts by saying that grace as a parenting model was not complicated for him, but was very simple. When he and his wife Cheryl were raising their boys, he says they did 6 things that most all good parents do, and then he speaks of what he did that made parenting most “Christian”. Those six proactive acts were: They set clear boundaries or rules. They recognize the individuality of each child. They had a clear mission or goal that was constantly communicated. They majored on the majors, not the minors. They always considered matters of the heart and of character. They made an effort to have fun with their children. But most of all, in regards to grace, he says, they gave multiple chances and forgive easily. While they held their sons to very high Christian standards, they also “extended to them lots of grace.”