Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1963-10-27

question: ! am 70 be best
man at the wedding Of .
friend. We are having quite
an argument ss to whether
or not . bachelors dinner
b . definite must, and II 20,
who pays for 1t. me or the
bridegroom
Mr.. L. LII.
Answer; It 10 entirely o
personal choice as to whether
or not . bachelor dinner Is
held. It is not obligatory.
Should one be held. however,
the bridegroom foots all the
bills. With one exception, 1t
Is merely like any other stag
dinner. Toward the end Of
the meal, the bridegroom
stands, holding q glass Of
champagne on high. saying.
ITO the bride" Every man
stands. drinks the toast, and
then breaks the stem Of the
glass 30 it may never serve
Q less honorable purpose.
Question: I recently re-
ceived an invitation q very
formal one) to Q silver an
niversary. At the bottom Of
the card it said Pot Of
Silver" I hadn't the faint
est idea what this meant. Ny
husband and I went to the
party, taking no present. a.
we did not know these peo-
pie well. We were very up
set to find that everyone else
had brought gifts. Everything
went into Q big pot that had
been painted silverl Lots Of
folks Just put money In II.
(My husband sneaked five
dollars into 1t when no one
was looking). What do you
think Of this idea7
Mrs. ]. A.
Answers I don't like II. II
70 extremely unfair to put
acquaintance, which you OBJ
viously were, in this position.
It is perfectly all right to have
fun with such an idea, but
only when family and close
friends are invited and all
know about 1t. To begin
with, no formal invitation
should have been sent out
for such an obviously infor-
NAL affair. and they should
not have been sent 10 those
not In on the game.
Question: When you are
asked to drop In" ct the
home Of your husbands EN-
ployer. should you take Q gift
when you CALF Anyway. when
we made the call. I didn't
take the gift. They had
made no set date. It was
Just the famous last words
Of most people why don't
you Srop by sometimes Did
] do wrong7
Mrs. J. L. N.
Answer, You did absolutely
right Gifts should not be
taken when making . call
anymore than II you are in
vited to dinner at someone's
home. Where this idea Of
taking gifts when visiting
another's home came from.
I do not know. I get many
questions about 1t. A gift
should never be expected un-
less 1t L. o special celebra-
ton, such as o bridal shower.
baby shower. birthday, or
housewarming.
Question; I am q widow
and am IS years old. / have
several very nice men who
take me out for the evening
for dinner. the theater and
the movies. I always call
them the next day and thank
them again for being so
thoughtful and showing me
such q good time. Some Of
my friends have criticized me
for doing this. They say Q
lady should never call q man
and thank him the second
time. Thanking him after
he has taken you out for an
evening Is all that should
be expected. What do you
Think
Mrs. r. p.
Answer: Actually, your
friends are right. However, I
cannot see why 1t Is wrong
for you to call and express
your thanks the next day. I
think the men probably ap-
preciate your thought. Per-
haps your friends are afraid
that these men may think
you are chasing them" Is
usually q woman does not
make Q call Of this kind,
But, If they are the right kind
Of men, and you handle 1t
with common sense, I can