Evening star., 1963-01-06
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you get what l mean. Among
my two biggest problems are
those who sent me cards
that I forgot-and those who
gave me gifts-for whom l
had nothing, What do I do
now? Rush New Year card
to one group and a belated
present to the other? Please
tell me what to do. I don't
want to make the situation
worse by doing the wrong
thing nowl
Mrs. K. M. P.
Answer: If you have al
ready thanked those who
gave you a gift, personally
I mean, I would let it go at
that. The others, write a note
Of thanks for their thought
of you and drop it. To send a
gift as late as this would
certainly be an obvious give
away of an oversight on
your part. AS for cards,
would do nothing, except to
make a note on your list to
remember the senders next
year. However, If some among
them are folks you would like
to contact after a long peri
cd Of time, dropping them a
personal note mot a card)
would certainly be a nice
thing to do. Express your ap-
probation and bring them up
to date on the doings of your
family.
Question: My parents will
be celebrating their 35th
wedding anniversary next
month. I am anxious to in
vite a few Of their friends
in to celebrate the occasion.
. l cannot afford to have in
vitations printed or spend
much oney on refresh
ments. Can you offer some
suggestions?
Mrs G. v. w.
Answer: If you are plan
ming on asking small group
of people, I would suggest
telephoning your invitation.
If the guest list is fairly
large, a short hand-written
note would be the best way to
handle it. If the latter is the
case, suggest that those you
are inviting let you know
just how many to prepare for.
With regard to refreshments,
a punch, or tea and coffee,
small sandwiches and ice
cream and cake would be &C
ceptable for either an after
noon or evening party.
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Question: 1 had the most
embarrassing thing happen
during one of the black-tie
evening parties / attended
during the holidays. I started
talking with a very nice look
ing man who was standing
beside me, only to have him
draw back and stiffly an
nounce, Madame, I am the
butler" / could have gone
through the floor! What
should I have done? Run?
Miss F. v. A.
Answer: No! Smile sweetly
and move over to chat with |
others standing nearby. Your |
hostess is at fault in this
case. A white coat should be
worn by men assisting at |
such a party, otherwise how |
are the guests to know they |
are assisting if all the men |
are In tuxedos? 1t was a nat
ural mistake to make and has
been made by many others, /
can assure you. 1t may have
caused both you and the but
Ter a moment of embarrass-
ment, but I can promise you
it is nothing to worry about.
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Question: When a couple Is
to be married, does the bride
groom make all arrangements
for the ceremony with the
minister, or does the family
of the bride-to-be handle it?
Mr.. l.. D. c.
Answer: The usual proce-
dure is for the engaged cou-
pie TO go together TO see the
minister, telling him they are
going to be married. After
this, the brides family takes
over and makes all plans for
the services, whether they are
to take place in the church
or the home. The man is only
responsible for the fee that
is presented to the clergyman
the day Of the wedding. After
the ceremony is over. the best
man is responsible for seeing
that the minister receives an
envelope containing this fee,
which is really a donation TO
the church.
Question: During the hec-
tic round Of holiday parties,
which, while ! enjoyed them,
are now over tthank heaven.
! ran into a problem. Al al
most every party have been
embarrassed no end by hav-
ing my host persist that II
should have another drink,
canape or what have you"
My question is. How in the
world can you say a flat mo-
when you have had enough?
mean. In such a way that
you aren't rude or indicate