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Evening star., 1963-12-15

five will only stop fearing our anger and boldly
voice our dissatsfactions, says Dr. Gibson Winter,
we can make giant strides toward intimacy. Conflict,
in his opinion, is not necessarily sign of mar.
riage's disntegration. 1t can be a healthy thing,
revealing the true persons behind the romantic
illusions.
Before intimacy can grow out of conflict, how
ever, DR.. Winter believes that couple must make
two basic decisions: to listen to the other person
and to stand together no matter how sharp the con-
iict becomes. 1--WE cannot enter personal intimacy
without giving attention to the other person. The
decision to listen is, therefore, willingness to be
present. -. Physical presence is not necessarily
personal presence. -. Many husbands get in the
habit Of ignoring their wives chatter. However
justified this may be occasion, such chatter often
conceas real attempt to share serious concerns"
As for standing together, DR.. Alfred Kinsey
Evening star., 1963-12-15

while, they to regard each other as stereOypes,
husband and "wife" instead of John and Mary.
Edith RentreW's problem
This is precisely what happened to Edith Rem
frew's marriage. When her friend suggested she
seek help at the Community Service Society of New
York, and she began telling her counselor her per-
sOnal history, it soon became apparent that Mrs.
Renfrew deeply disillusiOned with her husband,
who was rather happy-golucky, dependent person,
with little drive and ambition. But for almost two
decades she had never expressed this contempt for
him directly Instead she had let it cast chill over
the entire household, and Mr.. Renfrew, sensing but
not understanding the rejection, eventually came to
feel he was an unwanted stranger in his own house
The hidden villain in this and almost all other
communications breakdowns is fear of inadequacy
Practically really feels worthy of being loved
Evening star., 1963-12-15

wrote, "a preliminary examination Of 5000 marital
histories and Of nearly 5000 divorce histories sug
gests that there may be nothing more important in
marriage than determination that it shall persist"
tits especially important for husband and wife
to listen and communicate in the sexual side of their
relationship. DR.. Frank Caprio urges married cou-
pies to be completely candid in their desire for
one another. "Pm often surprised at the indirect
ways that husband or wife will notify the partner
Of feeling of desire, he says. nstead Of realizing
that it is happy circumstance, husbands and wives
carry over an adolescent shyness into marriage and
are ashamed of each others feelings The result is
often confusion and succession Of disaPPOint-
ments.''
1t is never too late to begin the search to infuse
bored marriage with fresh intimacy.
This is what Edith Renfrew discovered. Once she
had expressed her real feelings about her husband
to her counselor she was able to see, for the first
time her role in the decay of her marriage. She
also deeply touched when she learned that her hus-
band had suffered silently for long years.
Fight TO save q marriage
ri feel like stranger in my own home," Mr..
Renfrew had told the counselor "She's turned the
children against me. Why shouldn't spend time
with friends who will listen to me?"
''What can do?" asked the guiltstricken wife.
eff you could just extend to him some of the
same warmth and affection you give the children,
you would be going long way toward resolving
some of your problems" the counselor said.
So Mrs. Renfrew launched her fight to rescue
her marriage. She began to do little things for her
husband surprising him with favorite dishes, includ
ing him in family activities. She cOmplimented him
for little things which she had long ignored
Mr.. Renfrew responded. He began to spend
more and more time at home. He became real
father to his two children And he began to express
the deep love he had for his wife. But the most
amazing effect Of this intimacy not on him,
but on Mrs. Renfrew. 'I feel like I've been reborn,
she told her counselor.
This is perhaps the most mysterious and least
understood side of intimacy in marriage. Rather
than losing ones self in murky togetherness, inti-
macy the path to genuine selfdscovery, to under
standing the real goals and hopes of ones life. 1t
would seem that human beings can only begin to
respect and love themselves when they experience
the acceptance and love of another person.
But we will never know this experience unless
we first reach out to that other person, with whom
we have pledged our lives. The challenge of inti-
macy takes ultimately to the deepest truth of ALL
we must love in order to be loved. -THE END
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1963-01-10

through Koger discount prices :. in
many eoses, the lowest prices in the
entire community.
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1963-01-10

we buy for less :. :. toke only around
Il net profit on our tofoI-soles dollar
and poss The savings on 10 you
Evening star., 1963-09-30
Miss Colt
Is EnQuQed

Mr.. and Mrs. Henry F. Colt
Of Wings Neck, Pocasset,
Mass. announce the engage
ment Of their daughter Alex
andria to DR.. Sidney Lee
Workman. son Of Mr.. and
Mrs. Abner Workman Of
Washington.
Miss Colt is the grand
daughter Of Mr.. and Mrs.
James w. Colt Of Geneseo,
N. Y. and Mr.. and Mrs. Ed
ward w. Atkinson of Brook
line, Mass. She was pre-
sented to Boston society in
1856 after graduating from
Garrison Forest School. In
1860 she received her B.A.
degree cum laude from Bryn
Mawr College.
DR.. Workman is a gradu-
ate Of Williams College and
he received his medical de-
gree from Cornell Medical
College in 1852. He is cur
rently Associate Director Of
the Department of Psychiatry
at Children's Hospital and
a senior psychiatric con-
sultant to the Peace
Corps. He is also consultant
to the National Institutes Of
Health and the Public Health
Service.
A November wedding is
planned, following which the
couple will winter in Italy
where DR.. Workman Is work.
ing under a Commonwealth
Fund Fellowship.
Evening star., 1963-09-30
Flowers
AndArt
Are Theme

masterpieces is Cne over
all title the Upperville (VaO
Garden Club has chosen for
an usual show 1t has
planned for Saturday which
will feature the art of flower
arranging along with an ex-
hibition of the fine arts.
The works of art to be
used as a background for the
floral displays range from
18th and l8th-century paint
ings to an example of Junk
yard sculpture" on loan from
the Henri Gallery in Alexan-
dria.
The Virginia Muse Of
Fine Arts, Mr.. and Mrs. Paul
Mellon, Mrs. Anthony Will
son, Mr.. and Mrs. Reed
Thomas, Mrs. Robert Van
derpool Clark, Mr.. and Mrs.
Austin Kaye, Mrs. Walter
NICK. Jones, the Golden
Horseshoe Antique Shop,
Mrs. Barrett Wiley. Mrs. ].
F. M. Stewart, Mrs. D. E.
McElduff and the Mendel-
sohn Galleries are some Of
those who have made their
art possessions available.
The exhibition will take
place Saturday from 2 to 9
pm. in the Trinity Episcopal
Church and Parish House of
Upperville.
Stained glass windows of
the church, designed by the
Dutch artist, Joep Nicholas,
for the Gothic-style edifice
will afford a suggestion of
medieval art for the show.
Altar arrangements also
will be on display throughout
the church.
Kenneth Beers "Depar-
ture," a steel horse galloping
off into mid-air and threa-
tening to disintegrate, un-
doubtedly will be one of the
conversation pieces" of the
show.
Viewers also will be intri-
gued by the story connected
with a painting by George
Morland, Inside a Stable"
owned by Mr.. and Mrs. Reed
Thomas Of Avoka, Paris, Va.
The English genre painter
Of country scenes had almost
finished the canvas when he
was arrested on charges of
h avin g painted the coastal
areas of England for use by
the French. The accuser said
the stable scene represented
a Frenchman giving a bribe
Evening star., 1963-09-30
Malaysia
Party
Given

The Ambassador of Ma
laysia and Datin Ong en-
tertained at a reception yes
terday in the Ambassadors S
Albemarle street residence,
honCring Malaysia's Minister
of Finance Tan Slew Sin.
The Minister is visiting
here in conjunction with the
current meeting of the In
ternational Bank for Re-
construction & Develop
ment.
Guests at the late aft
ernoon and evening recep-
ton included most of the
Ambassadors and their wives
from the Commonwealth
countries, Governors to the
bank from Commonwealth
countries as we'll as other
nations and from the United
States, officials of the Treas
ury, State, Commerce and
Labor Departments.
Evening star., 1963-09-30

to a spy for information on
the British coast, which was
supposed to be represented in
the form of the horse.
The ridiculous charge was
dismissed but the artist was
admonished to make no more
sketches of the coast.
Fine porcelains and a COL
lection Of oriental art will be
other attractions a of the
show.
Mrs. Gordon H. Lightner is
president Of the club and
Mrs. George r. Slater is
show chairman, with Mrs.
Thomas serving as co-chair-
man.
Evening star., 1963-09-30
The REWARDS
of caring
ADVERTISEMENT

Are you concerned about
success in your job? Or in
your marriage?
In the October Readers
Digest you'll learn how "car-
ing Or not caring can spell the
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can expand your capacity for
caring-and sharpen it in
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Evening star., 1963-09-30
Police Wives Club
To View Hot Show

Police wives Club OF
Washington will see a pre-
view OF hats by Ga tits at
their october 7 meeting at
the NARROW Heights Recrea-
ton Center.
Evening star., 1963-09-30

The Ambassador of
Malaysia and Dotin
Ong chat with their
nations Minister of FL
nance. Tan Slew Sin,
at an Embassy recep-
tion yesterday given in
the Iotter's honor.
-Stor Stoff Photo.
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1963-09-13
TontoIIon Features 7 Builders

number Of different archi-
tects.
Homes in Tantallon will
range from $4,000 up to as
much as 100000. ALI designs
must meet with the approval
of the community's Architec-
tural Control Committee.
All purchasers also must be
approved for membership in
the country club by its Men,
bership Committee.
A spokesman for the firm
said that Tantallon is a "con-
trolled community which pro-
hibits carports, garages which
open from the street, and pro-
hibitS builders or home own
ers from cutting trees Of
more than eight inches d.
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1963-09-13

Tantallon on the Potomac,
site Of a Fall Festival Pre-
view Of "a Homes exhibit is
quite literally a country club
community.
An 18-hOle golf course was
in operation before the first
domestic was sold.
It was planned that way by
its developers Ralph Triska,
Edward ]. Cook and James
R. Thompson. All three Of the
men are in their 3Os and
have come fairly recently into
the development field. Mr..
TriSka is a former nuclear en-
gineer; Mr.. Cook, a newspa-
perman; and Mr.. Thompson,
a golf course architect.
In a d dition to the golf
course, TantallOp is scheduled
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1963-09-13

to include three swimming
pools and offers a sheltered
harbor for the boat owner.
On the 655-acre tract, which
is on the Maryland side Of the
Pot o m a c River near Fort
Washington, the firm plans a
total of 800 homes.
At present there are seven
model homes there, all Of
which have been furnished by
Revere or Wellington House.
Seven different b uilding
firms, Ambassador H o m e S,
Inc, Candlelight Homes, Inc,
Curry Construction Co., Gard
ner Construction Co., Smith
X enn e dy Construction Co.,
David w alker Construction
Co. and Welborne Construc-
ton Co., are building homes
in Tantallon with designs by a
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1963-09-13
Some Color Hints

The uses and effects Of col
ors are virtually unlimited.
Here are a few hints and ideas
from the National Paint, Var
nish and Lacquer Association
about what you can do with
color.
The right colors can make a
small room seem larger,
brighten a dark area, camou-
flage unattractive contours,
usually raise or lower cell
ings, provide a desired mood,
and accomplish scores of 9TH
er visual magic tricks.
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1963-09-13

ameter without written per-
mission"
Directions to reach the COM
munity, as furnished by the
builder, are:
'South CapitolStreet
Bridge past. Boiling Field to
Woodrow Wilson Bridge turn
off. Follow the signs to
Route 2lO (Indian Head high
way). Right three miles on
Indian Head highway to Fort
Washington road. Right on
Fort Washington to Tantallon,
8701 Fort Washington road. I"
For an approximate loca-
ton Of the community in the
Washington area, see No. AZ
on map, Page 2 Of this Sec
ton. ..s ..
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1963-09-13

Size intensifies colors. When
CHI DOSING a color from a
square-inch paint chip, re-
member that the color will
appear slightly darker when
applied to a dark, large area
such as a wall.
A small room can be made
to look larger if you use light
tintS of such ''gOing-away"
colors as blue and green. It
will help, too, if you paint the
woodwork and the walls the
same color; 1t avoi1s that
chopped-up effect.
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1963-09-13

HUtpOit snd ii'SSs'S! s''''''''
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1963-09-13

DIRECTIONS, Out Botmors. Washington Pkwy.
10 Route 40. right ubovi seven miles TO Enter.
prise Rood, right loo n. 10 proiset Or out
Route 50 10 Palmer HiehwaY, north 10 Route $50,
right Va miles 10 Enterprise Reed, right 10 prof.
eel. Or out Central Avenue mile post Larse 10
Enterprise Rood tRis. sS6l. left on Enterprise
Rood miles Of project.
St. Paul recorder., 1963-11-07

of ordinary, minor defects in Highway 35" OF
course, the Highway 35 issue not over ordinary,
minor defects, and careful reporter would say
that it was or report the opinion without qualifying
it with facts.
The Highway 35 issue was, of course, over the
integrity of the states highway inspection services
and the proper enforcement of specifications in high
way contracts. 1t shown that an Inspector S
findings and reports Of substandard materials were
ignored and the Inspector reprimanded. (Later the
inspector was forced out of state service) In the
investigation that followed, it was proved that the
faulty materials resulted in faulty pavement and
parts of it had to be replaced. How much other
faulty pavement has gone into state highway
system because of this kind Of inspection we may
never know But for serious reporter 10 treat this
issue as one Of ordinary, minor defects" Is simply
preposterous.
AS to the question of whether or not the state is
up against financial crisis perhaps only time will
tell; but again. the Williams line is the official Re-
publican party line We suspect that any competent
person in the Governors office would do as Rolvaag
has done faced with difference Of over So millions
between what the state received in tax revenues
during the year and what the tax commissioner and
land the legislature assumed) the state would re-
ceive. Would it not be irresponsible folly for the
state not to take steps 10 anticipate the crisis
which this state Of affairs portends?
St. Paul recorder., 1963-11-07
Does The Real Estate
Board OK. Law Violation?

We wonder what the Minneapolis Board Of
Brandberg, of NortarSide Realty Co.
In an interview with Beverly NIndrum in the
Minneapolis Star, Oct. 30 Brandberg says in so
many words that people have the right" to defy
violate state law.
He says it's naive ito believe that all of a sud-
den because there is law there is discrimination
in holE5ng''-wtich is a fair enough statement of
fact. Butt
But: when you are talking real estate you are
talking economics. The interview goes Anyone
in the business worries about anything that
might affect his profits, says Brandberg, and many
feel mixing white and colored tenants would be fl
nancial suicide" The interview then quotes Brand
berg directly Would you risk renting to a Negro
knowing that in the process you may lost three or
four other tenants?"
Brandberg also backs up builders who violate
the law by refusing to sell to Negroes. And he sup
pOrts in effect the idea of Negro ghettos: Where
you going TO find enough coIored families that
afford to pay rents of $10O TO $125?" Enough,
that is to say, to fill UP segregated apartment
houses and neg1borhoods.
Regarding the rights spelled out by law Brand
berg raises another right" which he appears to feel
jlEalfies violation of the law There is also right
10 sell when and TO whom you choose"
The president of the Minneapolis Board Of
Realtors is record advocating violation of the
law What docs his organization propose to do about
St. Paul recorder., 1963-11-07
Southern Daily Editors
Really Don't Want
Truth On Civil Rights

recent meeting of daily newspaper editors
and publishers in Chicago under the auspices of
United Press International, developed some interest
ing regional antagonsms coVerage of the civil
rights story Southern editors especially belng
erent in charging that the press generally has mis-
reported and misrepresented the story.
The editor of Charleston (S.C.) Evening Post
published in city that has especially disgraceful
record put the bias charge most belhgerently. The
South has held monopoly on this problem
though countless readers of non-Southern newspap-
have long been led to believe that violence can
not be racial unless it carries Southern date-ine
This Illustrates what is SO battling about the
entire conflict. Here is editor whose job it is to
read And obviously he doesn't. He doesn't know
what northern newspapers and news magazines are
reporting and saying Here is man whose job 1t is
to know what's going on, and obviously he doesn't
He doesn't know the difference between the problem
in the North, where the powers of government are
organized to support and protect the rights of min
orities and the South where the powers Of govern
ment are organized to deny and Illustrate rights and
wreak violence upon those who stand up in defense
of their basic rights.
If the South wants the civil rights story to be
reported in a way that makes them look little
better let's hear few southern editors outside Of
Atlanta and GreenVine, Miss, speak up against the
jailings the dynamitngs the beatings, the police
dogs and frehoses. Let's hear few of them demand
the release Of the political civil rights prisoners still
in Jail all over the South.
We have not been aware that the civil rights
story in the North has been swept under the rug"
Nor are we aware of any smugness or satisfaction
among Northerners with the progress we are max
ing On the contrary. But in the North we are able
to report genuine efforts at meeting the problem
and conscientious government action to support the
rights Of minortties The North has no Faubuses or
Barnetts or Wallaces sitting in Governors chairs
and preaching defiance Of orderly government.
We suspect that what really rlIs our Southern
editor friends about the difference in the coverage
of the story North and South is the difference in
the facts in the objective story in the North and in
the South
St. Paul recorder., 1963-11-07
Letters To The Editor
kinks Sou+hside Needs To Take
Position Against Crime Invasion

Editor: heard you on television
at the meeting Of the Northside
Community Action recently. The
sentiments you expressed were
mine and those of my wife. I
wholly agreed with the community
action people. However, you must
be aware that those OF us who
have purchased homes on the
Sout1Iside are also in danger from
an influx in our area Of characters
who live by their wits.
This influx has been going on
practically unchallenged for sever
al years. Our neighborhoods which
for years were relatively free on
buffet flats and prostitutes plying
their trades, are being slowly filled
UP with the type Of people whose
presence and criminal activity en-
danger the welfare Of our children,
especially of the iInpressionable
adolescents who see them operat-
ing.
We parents on the Soutlrside and
all parts of the city of Minneapolis
have got to fight the encroach-
ment of the underworld. AS I
wrote this letter today I noticed
that a police officer was shot at in
a duplex at 3419 Second Avenue
South as he tried to arrest a pros
titute. Since my wife and family
of children live only block away,
we were stunned. Only a few
blocks away in the 3Sth Etreet
block on south Oakland another
man accused of being a hold up
man killed himself Sunday night as
the police moved in. This Is too
close for comfort or peace of mind.
All of this Is disturbing to many
southside families I am sure who
have invested their life savings in
the purchase of homes in what
they considered good clean, law
abiding neighborhoods. I am also
told that there Is a rash Of good
time houses being run on weekends
in the area between Lake Street
and 10th street which keep the
neighbors awake half the night
and bring all kinds of undesirable
goodtimers into the neighborhoods.
Maybe we had better begin to
St. Paul recorder., 1963-11-07

look at the Southside a little closer
and perhaps adopt some Of the
recommendations favored by the
people Of the Northside Community
Action Committee and insist that
the law enforcement officials carry
them out. If we do not we will
face the same problems and handi-
caps that the decent people Of the
Northside have had to put up with
for years. Both my wife and my
self with five children are worried,
and we think all other Southsiders,
white and Negro should be vitally
concerned.
It seems TO me that the church
es, their pastors and their congreg-
ations on the Southside should
concern themselves with those
problems. They should be the nat
ural leaders in halting the invasion
of good neigthbOrhoods by those
who would bring criminal blight
with them. - Aroused SOuthSide
Citizen, (Name withheld by re-
quest), Minneapolis, MIMI, Nov.
4, 1868.
St. Paul recorder., 1963-11-07
Reason Why Chicago
Negroes Are Fighting
School Superintendent

Why Chicago Negroes are fighting Superintend-
ent OF Schools Ben Wilhss segregation policies, as
reported in the Saturday Evening Post:
For several years the faculty (of Chcagos
Wilson Junior College, had been concerned with the
low reading ability of about one-thdrd of the enter
ing freshmen These youngsters, nearly all Negroes,
did poorly that they had less than chance in
10 Of successfully completing the twoyear program.
Where Dean Charles Monroe wanted to know, had
these students been educated?
About TO per cent, 1t turned out, attended Chi
oago public schools, while most OF the rest received
their education in Mississippi. According to Dean
Monroe's study, there was no significant difference
in the reading of the youngsters educated in
Chicago and those who attended schools in state
with of the lowest educational standards in the
nation"