Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1963-08-04

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who drop in unexpectedly
For example, the other eve
ming my husband and I were
just leaving the house for q
dinner appointment, when
some people we hardly knew
arrived to pay US a visit.
How can you handle this
without being rude?
Mrs. M. H.
Answer: The only course to
take Is to be frank. You are
in the middle in q case like
this. If you take the visitors
in, you are keeping those
with whom you have an APP
pointment waiting. In q gra-
cious way, explain the sit
uation and ask them to
come by some other time
when you are not tied up.
Tactfully suggest that they
call on the telephone first
to make sure that you viii
be at home so that next
time you won't miss seeing
them.
Question: viii you please
answer the following ques-
ton for me? Philip Dow,
shall we say, who is 81 years
old, stops at a hotel while
on an auto tour with his sis
ter, Sue, who is IS. She Is
married to John Gray. My
question is: DO they both
sign the hotel register, or
just the hrother2 If only the
man signs it, Is 1t correct to
write Phillip Dow and sis
ter" or should he write his
sisters name? It seems to me
that "Philip Dow and sister"
is preferable because II the
sisters married name were
used, it would look q bit out
of order on the surface.
Mrs. r. L. r.
Answer: I'm sorry. but you
are entirely wrong in your
solution. The correct way to
do it would be to have the
sister sign the register first,
using her full married name,
Mrs. John Gray, and then
the brother would sign his
name next. To clarity the
relationship for the sake Of
propriety. he may introduce
the clerk to her by saying
This is my sister, Mrs.
Gray" 1t goes without say
ing that separate rooms are
asked for.
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Question: If one women's
club entertains in honor Of
four other clubs whose head
quarters are in the vicinity,
who stands in the receiving
line? We recently had this
experience and must have
slipped up because there
have been adverse comments
about the way we handled it.
What would you doa
Mrs. s. L. r.
Answer: Frankly, I would
try to avoid such q situationl
Some ones toes are bound to
get stepped on. However, II
it does happen, ! would sug-
guest that the president Of
the club, which is acting as
host, stand first in the line,
and the four presidents Of the
other clubs line up beside her.
To avoid any hard feelings,
place them alphabetically,
based on the name of their
clubs. Only some one really
looking for trouble could crit
icize this arrangement.
Question: While attending
a cocktail party the other
evening, I was sitting with
two married couples that I
knew slightly. Suddenly, one
of the women leaned over and
asked the other couple If they
would come to dinner at their
house a week from the fol-
lowing Saturday. They &C
cepted with pleasure, and /
felt like a fool. Nothing was
said to me about coming, nor
to my husband either. Was I
wrong in getting upset over
this?
Mrs. w. r.. p.
Answer: No, you we're not.
The woman extending the In
vitation was extremely rude.
She should have waited until
she was alone with those
she wanted to invite. Moth
ing can show worst taste than
to extend an invitation to
some of those in a group, and
not to the others present.
Why this obvious infringe
ment on good manners is
done so often, is beyond me.
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Question: I had dinner the
other night on q hotel ter
race. My date was q very nice
man, and it was the first
time I had gone out with him.
When the head waiter seated
us, 1t unfortunately was right
next to a very gabby woman
/ have known in q casual way
for years. From the time we
arrived, until we left, she
kept leaning toward our table
and yakking away. I wanted
to get to know my new beau,
and 1t made me furious. I
tried TO be polite by answer
ing her questions about this
and that but what / want to
know Is what do you do in q
case like this?
Answer; Quietly get your
escort to ask the head waiter
to place you at another table,
far removed from that of
your casual friend. Her fault
is one that you see all too