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Evening star., 1962-11-01

preparing, and are being pre-
pared, for a fuller love that
will show us by contrast how
superficial was our former
emotional love. We should
look ahead to the dawn of a
new era in the growth of love
an era brighter, more radiant,
more resplendent and glorious
than all that has gone before"
Here, in mature love, is the
opp or nifty for romance
which makes youthful infatua-
ton look like the child-play it
really is.
A New Dimension
Love achieves a new dimen-
sion. 1t is no longer a matter
of pursuing, of winning the girl
or catching the boy. Boy and
girl have each other. If their
infatuation hinged on want
ing what you can't have" or
on novelty, or on conquest,
then, ipso facto, these go by
the board in marriage. During
courtship, boy and girl may
have used the standard ploys
of infatuation: playing ''hard
to get," arousing strategic jeal-
ousy, threatening to break off,
dangling one another on
strings of doubt. None of these
gambits makes sense after
marriage.
The new dimension of love
gives all these shaky girders a
dependable foundation. They
are riveted into place within
a structure that is held to-
gether by loyalty rather than
doubt, by acknowledged depth
of affection. rather than giddy
pursuit.
When a youngster sends a
mash note to a girl, who knows
if he means it? He may just
be flexing his own ego. Next
week he may give her the gate.
But when a man sends flowers
to his wife of 10 or 20 years,
or writes her some verse, or
phones from the office just to
hear her voice-it's real. This
is the authentic, romantic love
of which young infatuation is
an imitation.
Someone once said, "a flow
er given to your wife for no
reason at all is worth a car
load of Easter lilies"
Don't be bashful. Go ahead.
Give her the flower.
Copyright, 1862. by Howard Whitman
TOMORROW: It's Not All PIutonic.
Evening star., 1962-11-01
MAKING MARRIAGE MORE REWARDING-4
Real Love Just Begins at the Altar

you will, the British marriage
advisers allowed, but it just
isn't real.
That doesn't mean it isn't
powerful. The phenomenon of
precipitate attraction is known
as infatuation, once described
by George Bernard Shaw as
"the most violent, most in
sane, most delusive, and most
transient of passions
ITO infatuate," says Web
Ster, is Ito inspire with a fool
ish and extravagant passion;
to affect with folly; to weaken
the intellectual powers of, or
to deprive of sound Judgment" !"
Perhaps what the high school
girl meant, when she doubted
her parents knew much about
love because they had been
married 20 years, was really
that they didn't know much
about infatuation. True, infat-
uation, though stunning,
doesn't last; like the stunning
orchid it willis in short order.
So the girls mother and
father, while they may have
been infatuated once, had
either graduated to a state of
love or could not possibly have
stood each other for 20 years.
Quite q Difference
This is the opportunity for
new romance that can bud in
the mid-years of marriage. 1t
is no longer romantic infatua-
ton, but romantic love
and there's quite a difference.
When young girls, infat-
uated with boys they had re-
Gently met, were asked what
qualities about these boys ap-
pealed most to them, these
were the most frequently men
toned: Good looking, /"
Cool" i" Smooth dresser" Eek
citing"
Contrast these with the
qualities most frequently men
toned by married women,
deeply in love with their
m teS: "Considerate,"
Tender" Masculine, Loyal" D."
We live, unfortunately, in an
age which panders to romantic
infatuation but has little to
say of romantic love. The male
female relationship is depicted
in our fiction and in our films
as a cheesecake chase, con-
quest, the allure of surface qua
tiles such as bust measurement,
and, in the Sicker offerings, as
a frenetic rush to the boudoir
Evening star., 1962-11-01
FAMOUS FABLES
By E. E. EDG..R

WITNES Playwright
Ferenc Molnar was once
summoned to court as a wit
ness in a lawsuit. He had to
appear at 9 o'clock in the
morning. This was an incred-
ible hour to Molnar, who
never awoke before noon.
On the day of his appear
ance, he managed by super
human effort to get up at
8 am. BY $3.50 he was on
the street. waiting for a cab.
AS he stood there, his eyes
heavy with sleep, streams of
people hustled past him on
their way to work. Molnar
stared at them, unable to be-
live what he was seeing.
MY God" he muttered,
"are they all witneSses?"
Evening star., 1962-11-01

directed by day. And to keer
going, poor Joe had to take a
Biz shot every day. A fresh
mind on the $S5 million project
could be of value.
Gardner Mckay is CORE
spending with a beautiful writ
er in New York, and the hand
some star of Adventures in
Paradise" is taking this title
literally. He has been travelling
all over the world for the last
five months and is now off to
the Orinoco in South America
with, he writes, "a dog, an In
dian and a lens" Sounds like
a new series.
= + 4
1t looked like a great theatel
season in New York with all
the Hollywood stars going east
for same a couple of months
ago. But most, of the plays with
the movie stars have flopped
The worst was Jane Fonda ano
Brad Dillman's ridiculous romp
in THE Fun Couple"
I hope Doris Day didn't have
any of her money in husband
Marty Melcher's triangle mish-
mash, starring Jan Sterling, An
gle Dickinson and Gene Barry.
All the girls looked gorgeous
and Jan in particular gave a
good performance, but it was all
pretty silly. And how wise Rita
HaywOrth was to step out OF
"Step on a Crack" leaving boy
friend Gary Merrill holding the
bag.
1t was supposed to be a two
week honeymoon for Sandra
Dee and Bobby DARN in New
York, but Bobby accepted an
engagement at the Latin Quar-
ter in New Jersey. . . And to be
there with him, Sandra can
celed out of the Perry Como
show-that and the fact that
Perry wanted her to sing as
well as dance and Sandra is nc
dancer. Anyway, the give-up is
costing her $500.
Evening star., 1962-11-01
MASON ON EDUCATION
It's How You Study
That Counts Most

French at conversation speed.
Silent home study had been
no preparation for this. What
he needed was practice in
hearing words.
Also his hands were receiv-
ing no training in writing
French. Since he had not
prepared himself for two
basic classroom functions, it
was not surprising that he
had little success.
Change Study Pattern
We devised a new study
pattern for Henry.
He read each of the sem
tenceS involved in the days
lesson eight or 10 times.
The first two times, he read
each sentence while picturing
the things described in his
mind. Next he read the sem
tenceS aloud, bring his minds
pictures to his ears.
Then he read the sentences
faster and faster until he
reached conversational speed.
He was training his ears to
hear the words and his mind
to see the pictures as it was
stimulated by the words.
Next, Henry wrote the SEN
tences several times, train
ing his hands to write the
words clearly and easily.
The next time he was
called to the blackboard in
class, he wrote three dictated
sentences without error. The
surprised teacher compli-
mented him.
From this point on, his
status in the class changed
completely. And his grades
moved up from failure to
very satisfactory.
II you haze a question,
1Drite to DR.. Mason in care
OF the Evening Star. He Uill
discuss in his column those
OF most general interest.
Sunday Ion School Pose):
Faith in Ability
Evening star., 1962-11-01
BY LESLIE J. MASON

FTOIeSSOT OF EuuCHJlOn
University of Southern California
why do you get poor
grades?" I asked the student.
Il don't know" he
shrugged. II certainly spend
enough time studying. May
be I just don't have what it
takes"
The student, like many
others, was wrong. It's HOW
you study, not how long, that
counts.
My suggestion to him
and to others who come to
me for advice on similar
problems-is this: Analyze
your course and your class as
you would a job. Ask your
self:
What am I required to do
in a class period?
What am I required to
hear and understand?
What am I required to
write?
When you've answered the
questions fully, practice do
ing the things you will be
required to do.
Henry Had Troubles
Henry, a high school stu
dent, came to me for help.
He was spending a lot of
time studying French but he
was failing nevertheless. He
was discouraged.
I asked him to tell me pre-
cisely what went on in his
French class. This proved to
be a key question.
II hate that French class"
he said bitterly. THE teacher
makes us go to the board,
one at a time, and write
sentences dictated by the
class"
Whats wrong with that?
"The class says the French
words so fast that 1 can't
seem to do what the teachers
expects"
The answer to- Henry'S
dilemma was apparent.
He was being asked to hear
Evening star., 1962-11-01

without thought of any deer
personal or moral relationship
This is a childlike, a candy
grabbing attitude.
Henri de Toulouse-Lautrec
great as a painter but malad-
justed to life, is reputed tc
have said out of the depths OF
his own failure to find hap
piness, Marriage is a dull
meal with the dessert first
And never a truer word was
spoken if marriage is to be
based on infatuation.
But where love develops over
the years, that dessert" to
which Toulouse -Lautrec re-
ferred becomes only an aperitit
for a lifelong repaSt of hap
pineSs. 1T is believed" says
New York'S DR.. Erich Fromm
that to fall in love is al
ready the elimination of love
while actually it is the begin
ming; it is only an opportunity
for the achievement of love.
Or, as DR.. William G. Holster,
of Birmingham, Ala, puts it
you don't fall in love-you
climb up to love-"
It's a difficult climb. The
girl who is infatuated with her
knight in shining armor must
learn to love that same knight
in a shiny blue serge suit.
Young marriedS sometimes
think they are falling out OF
love" when some of the early
eXcitements of their relation
ship wear off. They are not
falling out of love. They are
falling out of infatuation
Whether they will climb up
ward into love is up to them
You see, knights in shining
armor really don't exist. But
the man is the shiny blue
serge suit is real. Can you love
him? And that goes, too, for
the girl whose strapless formal
has turned into a kitchen
apron.
A marriage course prepared
at the University of Ottawa Of
fers this counsel: after the
first bloom of love has passed,
when you no longer thrill to
the mysteries and discoveries
over which you once sighed,
something happens crisis
arises. Emotional salts
faction has gone and SEEM
ingly nothing has come to re-
place it. This period of
aridity is a time when we are
Evening star., 1962-11-01
USELESS
INFORMATION
BY PAUL STEINER

By PAUL STEINER
North American Newspaper Alliance
The African green mamba
snake has a chicken taste
with sort of a fishy flavor
when properly prepared, a
world traveller reports.
No chicken has been por-
trayed on a United States
postage stamp before Sept
ember 8. 1948, or since, a
poultry-conscious philatelist
reports.
Evening star., 1962-11-01
HOLLYWOOD
HOLLYWOOD (NANA)

HOLLYWOOD (NANA). -
Sophia LOren's Children OF
Sanchez" has been postponed
for a year. 1t was to have been
made right away, in Mexico,
but Mexico does not like the
image of itself as portrayed in
the story, and the movie will
now be made in Hollywood next
Evening star., 1962-11-01
BY HOWARD WHITMAN

In a class on family living
a pert young girl got up anc
said with vigor:: What do my
parents know about love-
They've been married 2(
years."
Well, I suppose it all de-
pendS on what you NEAR
by love.
A teen-age boy said to me
Il know I love Margaret, be-
cause if she doesn't go to the
prom with me, I'll never speak
to her again."
The late DR.. Abraham Stone
an outstanding marriage coun-
selor said: Some people use
the word love as though they
were saying something like 8
love oranges Well, if ar
orange could. talk back, il
would say? You say you love
me. But all you really want tc
do is squeeze me, get the best
out of me, and then throw me
away"
There's also the famous quiz
of psychiatriSt Alfred Ad-
Ter. When he heard from q
mutual acquaintance that q
very self-centered woman hac
fallen in love. he asked
Against whom?"
In Pittsburgh, the marriage
license bureau got quite a jolt
when it received a letter from
man who had once been Suf-
ficiently head over heels ir
love with a girl to marry her but
had now forgotten her name
He wrote:
"Gentlemen-I was married
in Pittsburgh some years ago
I don't like to admit it, but
I have forgotten the name OF
the woman I married. Will you
kindly send the name to me?'
The bureau obliged. But II
could hardly affirm that the
love which sends some couples
into marriage is precisely i'm
perishable.
Evening star., 1962-11-01
THE GOLDEN YEARS
Annuities Proposed
AS Investment Plan

Says Irving Grody, a dis
tinguished insurance man i'll
California:
Had this man put $3,371
per year - or S23, 500 for the
seven years - into a ioint
and survivor annuity, it would
have guaranteed $120 per
month for as long as either
he or his wife lived. (This
figure varies with the age
of a man and his wife,
1.-THE man thus would have
no further investment prob
lens and no further concern
over the management of his
money. Furthermore, the an
nuity income would be very
largely income-tax free,
whereas the money received
from most other investments
would be subject 10 income
tax
The $4,000 the man had
left after the stock slide, ac-
cording TO Mr.. Grody, would
give him and his wife con-
siderably more than $40 a
month "and would be guar
anteed for life worry-free."
Says Dale F. Harter. an
insurance executive in Ohio:
Proper life insurance or
annuity policies would have
done much more for the So
year-old man than what he
did :"
And then he offers four
plans.
IF he had bought a 10
payments life insurance pol
icy at age So with an annual
premium of $4,285.75 Zone
seventh of what the man
wanted to save for seven
years.. he would have had at
age IS an income of $109.15
a month.
"If he has invested in an
annuity the $23,600 he actu-
ally saved, he would have
had an income of $146.32 a
month at 65.
IF he had invested in an
annuity the $21, ,020 he ended
up with, he would have had
$130.32 at 65.
IF he wanted 500 a
month at 65, he could have
had it for $751; invested in
an annuity and would
lave had $4,000 left over in
cash to put in the bank. :"
Mr.. Grody and Mr.. Harter
represent different life in
Surance companies in diff
ferent parts Of the country.
There could be variations in
their policies, as there could
be with other companies in
Denver and Miami. How
ever, the figures they give
are good ones and are typi-
cal of what you can get in
annuities.
Exceptions Noted
With two exceptions, I
think their suggestions of
annuities for retirement are
good:
One is that the money you
put into an annuity can't
grow in value. This is all
right if the country remains
static or has a depression
but not so good if the econ
omy expands and everything
starts costing more. The
58-year-old man had a
smart idea because his $23,-
900 grew in seven years to
$31, 200; he just failed to
cash in soon enough.
The second exception is
that in most annuities all or
most of the money is used up
by the time you die, which
leaves none or little for chill
dren and other heirs. This,
for many retirement people,
is all right.
General Features Corp)
Evening star., 1962-11-01
Much TO Be Leorned

There is, to be sure, much
to be learned about love, many
angles from which to view it,
much searching if one is to
find its essence. But the prime
question must be: Is it real?
At one of its conferences, the
British Marriage Society came
out with a flat conclusion that
there is no such thing as love
at first sight" Call it love if
Evening star., 1962-11-01

%THE IKETTES
"VIZZY ZEEM ZUM"
Evening star., 1962-11-01

Tomorrow: Food Poisoning
Evening star., 1962-11-01

X Godfrey Cambridge
New Funsotion g NC.
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Sunday Ion School Pose) 4:
Foith in Ability
Evening star., 1962-04-08
Potomac our
features Ponies

Potomac, Md. has for a
long time been considered
synonymous with horses, but
when that area has it's an
nual Country House Tour on
April 90 and 80, the ponies
will steal the thunder from
the horses.
A special tour feature will
be the bi-weekly relay of the
Potomac Pony Club, which
will be held at the Potomac
Hunt Kennels and to which
the public is invited.
The pony club movement
was begun in England a num-
ber of years ago and spread
to this country after World
War II. The Potomac Pony
Club, which has won the ma
tionwide pony club compe-
titionS twice, was formed in
1850 by a handful of interest
ed parents and with a mem
bership of 20 children. To-
day there are more than 100
members and the equine pop
Evening star., 1962-04-08

ulation Of Potomac has ex-
ploded.
This year the Potomac
Pony Club will host the COM
petitive meet for pony clubs
from all over the United
States. This meet will be held
in July at DuFief Mill Farm,
owned by Mr.. F. G. Harting,
jr., commissioner Of the Poto-
mac Club.
Aim of the Pony Club is to
develop a happy and re-
laxed child on a happy and
relaxed pony" and guests on
the House Tour will see evi-
dence of this when they visit
the Kennels on Glen Road.
Eight homes will be open
for the tour,
Evening star., 1962-04-08
What Does
1t Mean?

Paisley is a town. In Scot
land. of all places. Not a
maharapah In sight. Paisley.
as we know it, all began when
the White Carte River that
runs through the old town,
became navigable. The ships
Of Paisley sailed off to the
Indies and returned loaded
with those lushly patterned
silks, tapestries and brocades
in the distinctive designs of
the Kashmir district in India.
The Scots, seeing q good
thing. promptly reproduced
them on their handwoven
shawls. And sold them all
over the world.
Evening star., 1962-04-08
Capitol Hill Home
Tour Slated May 6

Capitol Hill residents are
busy planning their annual
Capitol Hill Restoration So
ciety home and garden tour,
to be held Sunday, May 6
from 2 to 6 pm.
Mrs. John @. Norris Is
chairman Of the event.
approximately IS members
Of Congress live in the area.
Committee chairmen are
Mrs. Alex Greenfield, Miss
Charlie Miller, Mr.. Harry
Brogden. Mrs. Eugene Krizek,
Mr.. George Cheely, Mr.. Jim
West. Mrs. willard Edwards
Evening star., 1962-04-08

and Mrs. Jessie Stearns
Buscher.
The proceeds from the tour
will be used to identify and
foster the preservation Of
buildings Of architectural and
historical significance in the
Capitol Hill area.
Evening star., 1962-04-08
CoIored Patent

Colored patent leather
bags for spring, daring in
yellow, bright in red, dazzling
in greens and blues, cool in
white or neutral create news.
Evening star., 1962-04-08
White Is Riqht

White as the sleeper color
for spring, shown in all the
collections was given q real
big push by Mrs. ]. F. K. on
South American trip.
Evening star., 1962-04-08
Meeting Set

The Tuesday Woman's
Club will meet at Jessup
Blair Recreation Center at
noon Tuesday.
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1962-11-25
FASHION, NOTEBOOK
Penthouse Party
OnGround Floor

Edith Head, Paramount's
chief fashion designer for
some 81 years, believes very
few women. unfortunately,
have the courage not to want
to be noticed"
One tragedy, she explains.
In the relationship of women
to clothes is the competition
involved with other women.
often a woman selects
things she knows are wrong,
but lacks the security to say
"out with the idea"
She does not believe you
have to excuse a deviation
from the norm. In a new
book she is finishing, she
will outline how to Dress
for Success.
A woman can control the
way she looks, she told us
at a studio party given in
honor of fashion editors COW
ering the recent California
collections. She is one of the
few Hollywood designers not
to go Commercial" and de-
sign off-stage, as well as on
stage, clothes. I'm planning
on staying at Paramount
too" she said.
Her big, black, round
trimmed eyeglasses: her short,
banged couture; the me
dress and jacket style
changed with different cuff
trims and choice of fabric
for the occasion; a hat that
is Q cross between q turban
and pillbox in different fab
RIGS are Edith Head fashion
signatures.
This is the way I feel I
look. I am a background per-
son to the most glamorous
women in the world. ] have
no desire to compete" says
positive Edith Head.
The studio party was held
right in the apartment set,
In the sound studios where
the Frank Sinatra picture.
Come Blow Your Horn" was
being shot. The luxurious
penthouse setting looks like
a decorators fling with the
fabulous decor one thinks of
in q New York penthouse.
The illusion was complete
right down to simulated New
York harbor lights twinkling
away outside the living room
terrace.
Stars Modelled
We had a chance to see
q number of stars in the
Edith Head costumes they'll
be wearing in some II yet
to-be released films. Jill st.
John wore the citron yellow
wool jersey at-home jump
suit with a huge silk over
skirt she'll be wearing in
Come Blow Your Horn" She
told us Frank Sinatra, whose
company is producing it, gave
all of the feminine stars
their film clothes. Miss Head
considers this film to be her
most important picture in a
long time from q fashion
point Of view. In 1t she
dresses Carol Wells, Phyllis
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1962-11-25
BY ELEM

Mcguire, Jill st. John. and
Barbara Rush. One outfit was
estimated as costing $3.50.
Modelling and mingling
with the guests at the cock
tail-dinner reception at Par
amount studios. were Glynis
Johns, Barbara Rush,
Martha Hyer, Nita Talbot,
Carol Wells. and Elizabeth
Allen. Miss Allen is a former
Christian Dior and Ben
Zuckerman model in New
York. She told us her run
way and Photographic mod
cling had been a tremendous
help to her in front of the
cameras. THAT poise has to
be learned" she says. She'll
be in "Donovan's Reef"
Edith finds screen design
ing challenging. The IL films
she worked on were Just one
years output. ST do a minia-
ture fashion collection. for
each one," she says. The de-
sign can be a housewives
skirt and blouse. or a beaded
job for a slinky dame. One
time it's a chic modern pic
ture. The next may be a
period film. You get a great
cross-section Of fashion
when you design for the
films, Miss Head notes.
Interested Spectators
Among the most interested
spectators watching Miss
Head doing a fashion show
spool of Hollywood designs
from a Mae West type gown
so you can look like a girl
from all angles" to a walk
ing costume for a girl who
wants to get places" was
one of filmdom's better
dressed male stars, Cesar
Romero, and Cliff Robertson.
Mr.. Robertson said he ex-
poets he'll be in Washington
shortly in connection with
the film PT-109, in which he
plays the role of 1t. John F.
Kennedy.
Miss Heads own outfit was
adorned with a pin that
could only belong to her. It's
a huge baroque pearl with
tiny spokes to which are at
tached seven gold miniature
Oscars. Five are hers. Two
belong to her husband. Wizard
linen.
Another piece Of unusual
jewelry she owns is a neck
lace of theater tickets. The
antique ivory chips, round
like poker ones, are part of
the only collection she be-
lieves Of antique theater
tickets. Most are of ivory, and
and bear the name of the
person who had the seats on
specific evenings. There's a
disc with the Duke of Leeds,
Box 81. etched on 1t. There
are tickets from the Kings
Theater, Her Majesty's Thea
ter, and one from Covent
Garden with Thursday
spelled out on it. She haunts
antique shops when she goes
to London to get the season
passes of the past.