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Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1962-02-22
THE GOLDEN YEARS
BY THOMAS COLLINS

What follows here is de-
signed to help retired people
cope with the requests for
money that come to them
from their families.
The requests come in all
flavors. For instance: I am
a widow of 68 and have a
little money beyond my needs.
I have one son, also a niece
and a nephew my husband
and I reared in our home.
All three are married. And all
three have come to me ask
ing for loans during the last
year.
I think none of them
even my Son-Would decide
to, help me were ! in need.
OF course, could never know
this for sure until the situa-
ZION arose. Stlll, I'm Skeptlcal.
Do I owe these three chill
dren any money now that
they are adults? If so, how
much? If not, how do I re-
fuse?. -"
The answers to these three
questions are: No, the parent
doesn't owe anything. That
takes care of the second ques-
ton, too. The joker is No. 3
how do you refuse?
From readers of this column
who have had to cope with
the question come some an
swers that may apply to you:
Father and merely play
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you. We want you to be just
like yourself, and not try
to be like Ken. We like Ken,
too, but we want you to
be yourself. Your are our boy
no matter how you act, but
we would like to have you act
nice and be a happy, success
full boy"
She went straight to school,
outlined the situation to
teachers and counselors and
asked them not to refer to
Chris as "Ken's brother" or
compare him with Ken. She
insisted that from now on
Chris was to stand on his own
merits.
At home both parents took
a little time each day to talk
directly to Chris about his
day at school and whatever
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1962-02-22
The GOLDEN YEARS
Kin's Pleas for Cash Met Various Woys

written approval of all the
rest of us. 80.
1.-TWO years ago a son Dor
rowed $1,000. The other three
children approved. And for
the next 10 months nagged
him to pay it back. Mama
and I wouldn't have nagged.
So, what we have actually
done is to make our children
borrow from our children.
"And since the prudent chill
dren suffer if the imprudent
ones default, they m ak e
rough creditors"
Il Il II
when our children, all of
them now past rs, ask for
money I say NO. That's all.
Just No. I said it to them
from the day they started
talking to the day they left
the nest. They got certain
allowances as children, and
pay for certain jobs around
the house. But nothing was
free. and there were no loans
without guarantees of re-
payment. AS a parent I still
have a responsibility to insist
on this. So I just say no.
And without apologies"
n Il 4. u
IF any members of our
family, children or otherwise,
ask us for money we
send them to a bank to Dor
row it. We agree to indorse
the note for them, provided
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1962-02-22

uous discipline, had little ef-
feet.
Chris came home one day
and said, Mother, the coach
keeps asking me why I can't
be more like my brother Ken.
Why do I have to be like
Kemp"
The question shocked the
mother. Chris, she realized.
was living in the shadow of
his 10-year-old brother, Ken.
who got good grades at
school. stood high at home.
Even the mother had intro
duced Chris as Ken's little
brother"
The mother, a wise woman,
sat down beside Chris.
"You are our boy" she said,
"and we love you very much.
We like you because you are
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1962-02-22

poor. Since we don't live ex-
travagantly in our retirement,
and since the children and
relatives don't know how
much we have, it works. If a
situation gets difficult, we
mention that we may soon
have to call on the family for
some money. And that's ef-
fective Our children are
going to get our money, but
only after we're through with
it,"
eve let our children have
any money they request, if it
seems reasonable and we can
afford it. But we keep books.
Everything each gets is
charged up against any in
heritance he or she will get
from us. This makes them
hesitate :. or pay back when
they borrow"
y y n y
eve have four children.
When I retired, with enough
income for my wife and my
self to live on, we put all
our money and our house into
a family trust arrangement
which a lawyer drew up for
us. Income from the trust
goes equally to the four chill
dren-unless and until Mama
and I need it. But if any
child wants to make a touch
it is made on the trust. And
it can't be made without the
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1962-02-22
DEAR ABBY .
BY ABIGAIL VAN BUREN,
Helpful Guests Her Problem

the operation. What's the
answer?
IRRITATED.
When guests offer to do
your dishes, talk louder than
they. Say "thank you very
much, but the kitchen Is off
limits" And say it as II you
really mean 1t.
4 u =
DEAR ABBY: Can a couple
get married by proxy? With
him overseas and me in the
States?
UNSIGNED.
PROXY" marriages have
been performed, but only I'M
der very unusual circum-
stances, Talk to your clergy
man.
y 4 4 4
DEAR ABBY: Just lately,
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1962-02-22

DEAR ABBY: What do you
do when dinner guests leap
up from the table as soon
as the last bite is swallowed.
start carrying dishes to the
kitchen and even wash them?
I know they are trying to be
helpful. but they irritate me.
I live alone and would pre-
fer to wash the dishes at my
leisure when my guests have
departed. After the strain of
having prepared a company
dinner, I want to turn my
back on the dishes, enjoy my
guests and relax. When my
guests insist on helping" me.
1t means three or four women
in my tiny kitchenette work
ing" while I stand and direct
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Second Of q Series

And he has as much right
to it as he has to his body.
1t should be respected
throughout his life.
1t is not right for a parent
to regard a child as my very
own baby" It is even worse
to regard him or her as
"Henry's little brother" or
"Sally'S little sister,"
How his personality de-
velops depends in large de-
gree on how he is regarded
as an individual at home and
abroad
I know a busy mother of
five who takes time every day
to sit down with each child
and discuss his problems,
aims, successes.
Each child is secure in her
love. interest and approval.
He knows his mother is be-
hind him in every worthwhile
effort.
He is an individual.
But there was a time when
things were different in this
household.
Son Became Problem
The 8-year-old son. Chris,
who had been happy, CO.
operative. a good learner in
school, suddenly became a
problem. He quit learning and
pretended that he had for
gotten what he already had
learned.
He was a bad" boy on
the playground, showing,
pummeling, and crying when
he did not get his way. Mild
discipline. then more SIREN
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1962-02-22

four teen-agers besides my
self saw a hit-and-run acct
dent. We chased the car and
got the license number. We
went back to the scene of
the accident and gave 1t to
the policeman who had just
arrived. They caught the
man and gave all the credit
to the police. We aren't look
ing for any medals. Abby. but
this is just another example
Of how the teen-agers are
smeared all over the front
page when they do something
bad. But when they do some
thing good, somebody else
gets the credit.
TEEN-AGER.
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1962-02-22
USELESS
INFORMATION

A New York radio station
announced that it has re-
corded 5 minutes Of dead 81
lence for broadcasting at ap-
propriate times.
You may Call yourself a
'labologist" if your hobby is
collecting paper labels.
If it's an electric chair you
want, your best bet is to at
tend a Hollywood backlot
auction. You'll probably be
able to pick one up for $50
(pluS taxi.
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1962-02-22

else he might be interested
in.
Chris Makes Good
Rapidly the youngsters be-
havior pattern changed. He
succeeded in school. He be-
came, if not an angel, at least
a normal little boy on the
schoolground. He took over
his share of duties at home.
Chris had been concerned
because he was treated as a
second-class citizen. Treated
as a first-clasS citizen, he be-
came a first-class citizen.
Children, as well as adults,
respond when treated as re-
Spected individuals.
Sunday ION School Pose): The
"SpiroI of Success"
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1962-02-22

the bank agrees to pursue
collection Of the note to the
extent of a court suit be-
fore calling on us to pay. This
puts on somebody else the un-
happy chore of collecting, and
puts the whole matter on a
business basis. I've Consigned
two family notes on this basis
since retirement, and both
have been repaid on time"
Copyright, 1862,
General Features Corp.)
The Golden Years oppears Thurs
Days.
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1962-02-22

HotD is the 1Dorld treating
you? Unload your problems
on Abby, care of The Evening
Star.
For Abby's booklet, "HoW
to Haze a Lovely Wedding"
send SOC to Abby, Boz 1865,
. Beverly Hills, Calf.
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1962-02-22

Victor Roberts has been
arrested because he was
found with 5000 counterfeit
10-shilling notes. He told
Scotland Yard detectives:
"It's an inoffensive passion.
I just like to carry lots Of
money. even If it's false"
Daily Express, London
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1962-02-22
WORLD ECHOES
WE FRENCH q
North American Newspaper Allan

WE FRENCH were nick
named Frogs" because we
loved to eat frogs legs. Be-
fore the first World War the
owner OF a one-acre frog
farm could easily make a
fortune. But times change SO
that now frog raisers COM
plain that they sell only
$4,000 pounds of frogs each
year. Most are eaten at the
Paris restaurants in Les Hal
les. above all by Americans,
English and Germans.
Liberation. Paris
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1962-02-22
HELP YOUR CHILD IN SCHOOL
Bad Chris Lived in Brothers Shadow
BY LESLIE ]. MASON

Professor of Education
University of Southern California
From the moment a child
is born, he is an individual.
Treat him like one!
At birth. the doctor lifts the
newborn by the heels and adj
ministers a swift spank. The
baby yells. Already he has in
dividuality.
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1962-06-15

door, he kissed me good
night for the first time.
Mrs. Kicker, he was so
sweet and shy about it I
almost cried. Well, 1 told
Nom about it. She leased
me a lot and I didn't mind
that. But, Sunda y was
Dads birthday and several
Of our relatives were here
for dinner. While we were
eating, my m OF her told
them everything 1 had told
her about Garry! 1 left the
table in tears.
1 guess she thinks it is
all a huge joke, but it isn't.
If a boy ever kisses me
again, you can bet 1 won't
tell her about it! I would
like to have your opinion
about what h appene d.
Don't you agree with me
that my mother was
wrong? BETH.
Your mother was definitely
wrong! In fact, what she did
doesn't tie in with your re-
lationship. If you two are
so close that you felt free to
tell her about Garry kissing
you, it is difficult to under
stand how she could be so
inconsiderate of your feel
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1962-06-15
SPLASH PARTY
Seniors Stay on the Go

I'VE had races to see who could change from a for
NAL into Bermudas fastest" says frankie &c" won in 10
minutes. But had my Bermudas all laid out and my
mother on hand to hang up my foorlength prom gown
The girls had spent so much time fixing their hair
for the senior prom that they determined not to
get their cofures wet at the splash party But that
didn't work for most The boys saw to that.
I'D like to have the money that went down the
drain in hairdos at that swimming pool" says Senior
Class Secretary Andrea Pandolfo.
Most of the seniors took their dates to an elaborate
dinner before the PROM but Senior Glass President Chris
Parel was an exception. He was busy decorating the
gym in an Olympus theme for the big dance and got
home just in time to grab sandwich and put on his
tuxedo.
He made up for it afterward though with an after
the splash party breakfast at Senior Kenny Barnes
house and trip to Maryland beach with some 80 teen
ayers afterward Upon returning to Virginia kept
the party mood by going INCORPORATING water skiing
and to buffetdnner dance Lake Jackson at Class
mate Jenny Zabawa's home.
That's one night Ill never forget" says Linda Sims,
And all the seniors must have felt the same way.
Because the party, that in way a farewell party
to senior class good the seniors Just couldn't say
goodby They're going to try again tonight Only in
stead Of shedding their formals they'll Jump out Of their
caps and gowns into their swimming clothes for really
final splash together.
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1962-06-15

make a choice between her
and a future wife. Since she
has nothing against you as
an individual, I think you
and Bruce should stop acting
like a pair of guilty children
and start seeing each other
openly.
However, since you are not
planning to marry until after
you graduate in two years, I
suggest you postpone an
nouncing your engagement
until Bruce receives his de-
gree.
In the meantime, his
mother may become more &C
customed to you and Bruce
being together, and gradually
accept the fact that she
CANNOT hold on to her son
forever. If she really had his
interests at heart, she would
want him to be happily mar
ried when he is capable of
supporting a wife.
Dear Mrs. Kicker:
1 am almost 16 and I
have been dating for about
five months. Last Friday
night I had a date with
Garry, the boy l like best.
When he walked me to the
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1962-06-15
By Fiji GoRSKA
Star staff Writer

If there's one thing the last weeks of school require
from a senior, it's stamina.
AS II the senior class picnic the PROM awards as
sembeS baccaaureate exercises exams and commence
ments weren't enough, Wakefield High School has added
a splash party.
After the senior prom, the teen-agers usually take
OFF for the beach, So the splash party was added to the
prom night agenda ITO tire out the seniors and keep
them from driving to nearby beaches" as one chaperon
ing parent explained at the concrete waterhole
But the stamina of most seniors was highly under
estimated Most Of the Vrginians not only went to the
prom and the splash party afterward at Brookvile
swimming Club in Alexandria, but they threw in all
kinds OF other parties, events activities and fun
WakefieldS senior class treasurer, Charlie Howell
for instance began splash party night with dinner at
the home Of his date Carol Loeb, Wakefield Junior
They dressed in their formal attire aferward and went
to snack party before going to the prom the high
school, After the prom they PARTED at friends house
and ate more, went home and changed into Bermudas
for the am. splash party Then there was a break
fast at another friends house. and in the afternoon
Charlie left for his Job q feguard at a motel pool
Going home to change clothes between the various
parties didn't seen to bother the teen-agers frankie
Stewart and her date, Phil Cullen and the couple they
doubled with, made game out Of It,
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1962-06-15
By DOROTHY KICKER

Register and Tribune Syndicate
Dear Mrs. Kicker:
I am a sophomore in
high school and have just
started to date double
only in the past few weeks.
My problem is about girl
ask-bOy affairs. Occasion
ally, even our school has
this type Of dance or party.
My parents think it is
being too forward when
girls ask boys out, but when
a school sponsors such
things I don't agree with
them. I would like to have
your opinion on this sub
ject. CINDY.
In some communities I
think this girl-ask-boy bust
ness is overdone, but there
are situations where it is
perfectly proper; for example,
when a girls club or all-girl
group is having a party or
dance, or when a girl has two
tickets to a special event. An
occasional "Turnabout" party
is Vail right, too, but gen.
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1962-06-15
MRS RCKERs MAIL
Is There Anything Wrong With Girls Asking Boys for Dates?

week his mother told me,
Betty, I think you are a
fine girl, but Bruce is all I
really have and 1 will never
let him CO."
Mrs. Kicker, he Is torn
between his family and me
and it is affecting his job
and his studies. Friends
advise us to announce our
engagement anyway, but we
do not want to hurt his
mother. There must be
some other solution.
We still see each other,
but feel like bad children
meeting on the sly. Our
love has always been open
and above board and we
just can't go on like this.
If we only could make his
mother understand that
Bruce will still love her if
we marry; he has enough
love for both of us. We
want so much to be happy,
but we want her to be
happy, too.
BETTY.
Bruce apparently is bur-
dened with a selfish, overly
possessive mother, and one
Of these days he may have tc
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MRS. RICKER's MAIL

orally speaking, girls should
let the boys ask for the dates.
Do your dates like you and
Ddnt to date you again? If
not, tDhy not? Dorothy Rick
er'S Selt-quis, "HoW Do You
Rate as a Ddte?" will help
you become a keener date
and it's free! Please enclose a
stamped, SeB-addreSsed en-
Delope NTH your request.
Mail to Dorothy Kicker in
care of TEEN, The Euening
Star, Washington 3 d. C.
Dear Mrs. Kicker:
/ am a I9-year old col
lege sophomore. I've been
going with Bruce, a junior
at the same school, since
last August. We are in love,
but will not consider mar
riage until after we both
graduate. However, we
want to announce our en-
gagement on my birthday,
next November.
have spent many happy
hours with his parents and
we get along extremely
well, until he told them he
loved me. Now they are
making him miserable. Last
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1962-06-15

ings. 1t was not a nice thing
to do, and you are justified
in feeling hurt.
However, your mother
probably didn't stop to think
how you would react to the
situation, and I feel sure she
must be sorry for upsetting
you. Everybody makes mis-
takes SO I suggest you talk
things ever with her-and
forgive her this time.
Do you have problems? Write to
Dorothy Kicker. in care of TEEN.
The Evening Star. washington 3.
D. C. Letters to Mrs. Kicker can
be answered through her column
only.
The Sidney herald., 1962-12-12

Louise Dore and Richard 4.
Christensen were united in mar
riage by Rev. d. E. Austland in
a lovely double ring ceremony at
the Zion Lutheran Church in
Tairview Sunday, Nov. l6 at 2:30
pm.
Hugo Asbeck and William H..
Dore ushered the couples many
friends and relatives to their
seats TO the accompaniment of or
gan music by Mrs. Robert DOre.
Charlene Schlothauer was pianist
for Yvonne Davidson, who sang
The Wedding Prayer" and THE
Lords Prayer.
The radiant bride, wearing q
pearl crown tiara with tulle and
lace. the traditional white satin
and lace gown, a delicate pearl
necklace and carrying a bouquet
II red roses and white NUNS was
given in marriage by her father.
Arthur j. Dore.
Maid Of Honor was Nancy
Pratt. Bridesmaids were Mrs. FL
mer Christensen and Mrs. Char
les Hardy. Little Susan Gable
the brides niece, was flower girl
The Sidney herald., 1962-12-12
Band Mothers
Served 700 at
Turkey Dinner

Sidney Band Mothers served
about 700 persons at their annual
turkey dinner at the Moose Lodge
Saturday.
Mrs. Joe Mock and Mrs. Arth-
ur Hoffman were co-chairmen
for arrangements. Mrs. Donald
Kingery and Mrs. Kenneth Nc
Donald had charge of the dining
room and food service; Mrs. Cum
ner Hansen, the cleanup; and
Mrs. 10 Maltese and Mrs. Bethel
Dashner, tickets sales.
Chairmen for the foods includ-
ed Mrs. Dudley Stone, meats;
Mrs. Alvin Christensen and Mrs.
Bert Weber, potatoes; Mrs. p,
Gunner Hansen and Mrs. Otto
Habedank, vegetables; Mrs. Clay
de Yoder and Mrs. Milton Ander-
sen. salads; Mrs. Gilman Foss
pies: Mrs. Charles Berner, relish
es and Mrs. Avery Sanford, bread:
and butter.
Money raised for band project.
such as new uniforms, instru
ments and various trips by banC
members for appearances anS
competitions.
The Sidney herald., 1962-12-12

presented, as were the reports
from the various organizations
within the church.
The newly elected officers are
vice president, EldOn S~teffenS;
secretary, Richard Christensen;
trustee g years., Waldemar Sor-
ensen; trustee q year,, E. H. Wick
deacon, Reuben HUndtOfte; Sun
day school superintendent, liver
IverSen; asst. Sunday school Supt.,
Mrs. Art Hall; sexton, Henius
Hansen; auditors, Arnold Larsen
and Rodell Bentson; cemetery
committee, James Dynnesen, Nels
Baadsgaard and Ed Erickson; head
usher, Lang Gund.
Mr.. Chris IverSen, who served
as vice president during the past
year, will now serve as the preSi-
dent of the congregation. Mr.. Don
aid Johnson was appointed to
serve as treasurer and Aaron
Frandsen as financial secretary.
A budget in the amount of
S45, 10000 was adopted. This bud
get includes The Pastoral Minis
try, Worship and Service, Our
Church Home and World Mission.
A rising vote of thanks was eX-
tended to all who had served the
church in any area during the
past year.
The Sidney herald., 1962-12-12

CuIbertson News

Mr.. and Mrs. George Daniels
spent Sunday in Plentywood
where they visited their daugh-
ter and family, Robert Torgersons.
At the Culbertson Hospital a
son was born to Mr.. and Mrs.
Lee Birch of CulbertSon Dec. 4.
Those admitted were Dallas Nc
Neil Of Froid, Mrs. Sven Jensen
Of C~U-bertson, Mrs. Ruth Swanson
of BrOckton; admitted and dis
miSsed--Mrs. Otto Hansen Of Cul-
bertSCn and Barbara Brese of
CulbertSon; discharged-MrS Han
nah Mahlen, Selmer Anderson,
Mrs. Glen Picard and baby girl
Of Bainville, Mrs. Jessie Erickson
CT Medicine Lake, Agner Hof-
man Of McCabe, Mrs. Virginia
Boyd Of Brockton, Baby Michele
Machwick, Mrs. Elsie Park, Mrs.
Don Palmer, Mrs. Lynn VALID
hansen and baby girl, all of Cul-
bertSon.
A Christmas faculty party was
held Tuesday evening at the grade
school for the teachers, cuStodians
cocks, office secretary and their
families. Following a traditional
Christmas dinner, the evening was
The Sidney herald., 1962-12-12
LEGAL NOTICE
CALL FOR BIDS

1ahLL IOh bAD0
SEALED bids will be received I'm
70 zOO O'Clock PM. on Thursday.
December 20. 1852. at the office of the
Board of County Commissioners for
county fire and extended -coverage in
surance on all county buildings and
property for a term of five year de-
ierred premium payment policy. eff
tective December q, 1862. with gOGs
co~-lnsurance; to be written in one
policy and the name of the COMPANY
specified in bid.
The Board of County Commissioners
reserves the right TO reject any and
all bids. ~
All bids to be addressed to the Clerk
and Recorder. Sidney. Montana. mark
ed BID.
Further information may be obtain
corder.
Dated at Sidney. Montana, this 3rd
day of December, 1862.
T.. l.. Hooker. Clerk and Recorder
Sidney, Montana
Publish: December 5. y. 10, 1862