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The Catholic times. [volume] (Columbus, Ohio) 1951-current, 1961-09-22
Making Marriage CLick
Divorce Often
Runs In Families
by Msgr. Irving A. DeBlanc

| have been married
six years and have two
children. I've decided to
leave my husband He
is two inches shorter than
/ and we look ridiculous to-
gether He embarraSses
me and others constantly in
public He yellS at people
in restaurants His criti-
ciSm of me never ends.
He sided with his brother
who wanted me to darn his
socks I decided then to
take the children and go
home. Mama says a good clean
break is better than constant
quarTeling. She wants me to
leave Frank as she left my
father.
Jane
IT SEEMS THAT neither
you nor your husband remem-
Der a happy childhood home.
Both of you seem emotionally
unprepared to defend your
own home and love against
outside attacks.
Your husbands intensely
critical nature is a typical
symptom Of insecurity. Your
withdrawal of love and atten-
ton from him adds to his in
security and is the reason
why he becomes more
and more critical of you and
others. You have reached a
breaking point and changes
are urgent.
YOUR HUSBAND is trying
to prop his faltering ego at
your expense. Since he is
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soned that if these leaders
were sufficiently intimidated,
they would exert pressure on
the Allies to prevent a global
war by making concessions
to the SovietS on Berlin. AS
Arthur Dean, delegate to the
Geneva nuclear ban talks,
said about Khrushchev's STRAIT
egg: 1T was coldly calculated
In the belief that someone
there would beg the SovietS
not to test if the United
States would agree not to
stand firm on its commitment
in West Berlin"
There will be negotiations
but the United States cannot
make any real concessions.
Here we have a case parallel
to the old case of an irresist-
able force meeting an immov-
able object. Chancellor AIDE
nauer has expressed hope
that the negotiations will
prove helpful but it is hard
to see how they will serve
any useful purpose. For it is
obvious that Khr ushchev
wants to grab something big
in the way of concessions on
Berlin and the United States
is committed to give him
nothing of any value.
President Kennedy not
to mention Vice-Pres j d e
Johnson on his recent trip to
West Berlin has pledged
to protect the vital inter-
ests" of the people of West
Berlin. He has not said that
he will refuse to give Khrush.
Continued on page So
The Catholic times. [volume] (Columbus, Ohio) 1951-current, 1961-09-22
GUEST EDITORIAL
World Opinion

Political circles, at long last, have begun to ask
whether we give too much weight to world opinion in
the formation of foreign policy There are indeed
grounds for suspecting that in the past we have often
acted as though foreign policy was a pubic-relations
Job, aimed at the pursuit of approval, prestige and
popularity.
II is none of these: it is the pursuit of legitimate
selflnterest in the society of nations, with due respect
for the common interests of all mankind.
Foreign policy must show a decent respect to
the opinions of mankind" but this does not mean that
world opinion should dictate policy. Many question
whether world opinion really exists. To the extent
that 1t does, it is often the voice of ignorance, bias or
deliberate propaganda, rather than the conscience of
mankind crying to be heard.
In the present crisis we shall not go far wrong il
we conduct our affairs, not by image-makng, but with
firmneSs IN the right, as God gives us TO see the
right" America
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should be resolved by the
blood kin.
YOU SHOULD TALK to
your mother: he should talk
to his brother. You must dis.
cover exactly how much the
in-law problem is a source of
diSSention between you. A
clever person can often get
action by approaching this
subject indirectly.
A wife picks out q quiet
time and says to her husband:
Il have been wondering if
you feel / am dominated too
much by my mother? Tell me
frankly if you think so and
together we can work out a
solution" The husband will
no doubt have several COM
ments. He will probably be
very frank and even often
sive but most probably he will
follow up hrs comment with
his own question: do you
think | am paying too much
attention to my brother"
Now the two can talk the
whole matter out calmly.
Statistics and Samplings Of
thousands of marital cases
handled by counSelors over
the past quarter century show
that divorces run in FAM
lilies. Try to put a stop to this
in your own family. Also real
ize that a divorced woman
with two children will face
much tougher problems than
those you are trying to escape.
Your children must first
be considered but your solu.
Continued on page 81
The Catholic times. [volume] (Columbus, Ohio) 1951-current, 1961-09-22

HOm about Each Day
A Prayer For Peace?

Editor:
Wouldn't it be grand
If every day, or at least
every Sunday, we're
World peace Day? On
Sunday, September 10,
We said the Prayer for Peace
after Mass and ! was appalled,
at how few people remember
ed it..
HAVE ALWAYS had the
impression that the Prayers
after MasS-that we used To
say-Were for the conversion
of Russia. When, in the his
tory of the world, have we
needed these prayers more
than right now!
1t seems a shame to me
that since only about forty
five minutes a week are de
voted TO Church worship of
God tor most Catholics, that
another two or three minutes
cannot be spent in praying for
world peace.
INDEED IT WAS heart
warming to hear a portion of
The Catholic times. [volume] (Columbus, Ohio) 1951-current, 1961-09-22
Sum and Substance:
We Have Nothing
To Surrender
by Fir. John B. Sheerin, esp.
To Surrender

Khrushchev is ''In deadly ear
nest"
Khrushchev's explanat / o n
is, of course, poppycock. Pres
ident Kennedy and Dean Rusk
had already declared their
readiness to enter into negoti-
atoms over Berlin. They had
even discussed with their Al
lies the question of the tim
ing and of the approach to
the SovietS in this matter of
East-West talks.
so THERE WAS no ques-
ton OF the Vests willingness
to talk over the Berlin prob
lem. Actually, what Khrush-
chev really meant was that
he felt some saber-rattling
and talk about a 100-megaton
bomb were necessary in order
to force the Allies to their
knees and to the making of
generous concessions. In his
language, ''nego IS
should be translated ''con-
cessions."
The general feeling among
American experts seems to
be that Krushchev made his
threat in order to exert influ-
ence on the "a leaders of nom
aligned countries who were
meeting at Belgrade. He tim
ed his announcement so that
it would strike like a bomb
shell at the very beginning of
the Belgrade meeting. He
counted on trading in on the
feeling common among some
non-aligned nations that it is
"better to be Red than dead"
HE UNDOUBTEDLY rea-
The Catholic times. [volume] (Columbus, Ohio) 1951-current, 1961-09-22
Inquiry Corner
Why Doesn't Church
Fight Evils OF Alcohol?
by Father Edward T. Healey

@. Why doesn't the Church
do more TO check the evils of
drinking?
A. Recently there was re-
ported in the Catholic Times
the 18th meeting of the Cath
Ollie Total Abstinence Union
of America. The acting presi-
dent Of the union, Margaret
A. McCafferty, stated: over
indulgence in liquor makes a
loss to the country of a citi-
zen and to God of a soul. Par
ents, guardians and teachers
should educate the children
under their charge as to the
evil of drink" The union
commended the practice of
administering the total absti-
nence pledge to children at
the time of Confirmation or
First Communion. 1t also ex-
pressed gratitude to the
Bishops and priests Of the
United States for their en-.
enlargement. Perhaps much
more could be done to en-
courage total abstinence or
at least moderation in drink
ing. In the midst of many OBJ
Jectives this important social
problem may receive less at
tention than it deserves. but
Catholic laymen could do
much among friend dis and
members of their families. 1t
could also be featured at
meetings Of parish societies
more appropriately and eff
fectively perhaps than in Sun
day sermons.
@. One of our best CaFho-
lie weekIies in commenting on
the recent encYclieaI mater
Ell Magistrsl defends il againsr
extremists who seem TO regard
II only as q matter of opin-
ion, but II states that "the en-
eYcIical does NOT define a doc.
irine OF faith or morals that
binds Catholics under pain
OF sin" isn't that still mis-
leading.
A / think so. For too long
1t has been overemphasized
that the Pope is infallible only
In ex cathedra pronounce
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caslon We should sacrifice the
friendship and risk family re-
sentiment to avoid the occa-
sion. That can sometimes be
as difficult and painful as cut.
ting off a hand. If we are re-
CURED to accept dishonest
practices in our jobs we must
protest and, if necessary, leave
the job. The example of par.
ents who show such a devo-
ton to Christian principles is
what Christ demands. We are
all responsible for the reason
ably fair judgment others may
pass on our actions. If some
one takes scandal at something
quite innocent, such as mod
crate drinking or smoking, we
are not bound to regard their
attitude as forcing us to stop.
Even then we should with st.
Paul show charity in our eff
forts to avoid offending their
(misinformed) sensibilities. We
should try to explain and,
within reason, try to avoid oc-
casions of displaying what of
tends them.
@. What do we know about
The Saints Cosmas and Damian
mentioned in the Canon Of the
Msss7
A. There is little historical
certainty of the details of
their lives. According to early
tradition they were twin broth
ers, born in Arabia, who stud
led the sciences and became
famous physicians. They
were even famous for their
Christian generosity and so
when a severe persecution
broke out these noted men
were quickly seized and put
to death. The basilica in Rome
in their honor was dedicated
in $50 AID. and they were
honored as patrons with st.
Luke of physicians and sur
geons. Their feast day is Sep
TENDER 9th.
Send questions to Father
Edward F. Healey, Inquiry
Corner, The Catholic Times,
Box 636. Columbus Is, Ohio.
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e Click

shorter than you he may try
to show that he is head of the
home and prove his manhood,
by behaving like a household
tyrant. This exaggerated ag-
gressiveness is actually self
destruction. 1t not only en-
dangers his marriage but no
doubt handicaps his business
as we'll.
You may want to look back
at your own childhood, Jane.
Your personality may have
been deeply SCARED from your
parents divorce. An unstable
background may be the rea-
son why you subconsciously
try to win the complete APP
proval of everybody at all
times. Your letter reveals that
you are unusually Mortified by
rudeness and bullying.
THIS MAKES YOU excess
lively embarrassed when your
husband is criticized, espec-
tally by your family. You may
have been running between
your husband and your moth
er, trying to evade criticism.
That effort eventually fails
and you therefore decide to
turn toward the person who
had dominated your thinking
the longest-your mother.
A husband and wife must
talk things over. Your in
law problems are major
ones. In-laws should be dis
cuSsed by both of you calmly
and effectively. A sound rule
to hold in mind is that any
serious in-law problem S
The Catholic times. [volume] (Columbus, Ohio) 1951-current, 1961-09-22

Plus XI directed that the
Leonine Prayers be continued
he stated they were for the
tranquility and freedom of
the Faith in Russia. In June
1860 the Congregation of
Rites said they could be omit
red on certain occasions, but
need not be. A Chancery
Memorandum of August 1861
informed priests that our
Bishop prefers that the prac-
lice of reciting these prayers
after Low Mass be encouraged
and continued. The Prayer for
Peace is of Diocesan origin.)
The Catholic times. [volume] (Columbus, Ohio) 1951-current, 1961-09-22

Khrushch ev'S an
nouncement of resump-
ton of nuclear tests may
mean he has capitulated
to the Red Chinese. They have
been telling him that his poll
cy of co-existence with the
West is futile and that an
about war is inevitable, and
the sooner the better.
This inter probation of
KhruShchev'S world-shak i n G
announcement has a superb
cial FEASIBILITY, especially in
view of the fact that the Red
Chinese themselves are anx-
ious to start some test ex-
plosionS.
Khrushchev himself, how
ever, has said that he aimed
his threat at the Allies in or
der to get them to sit down
with him in negotiations over
Berlin and West Germany. In
an interview with some left
wing British Parliament men,
bers at Yalta on Sept. /,
Khrushchev admitted that he
realized that the announce
ment would "shock" the
world or at least "cause
alarm"
BUT he CLAIMED it was
necessary in order to force
the Allies into negotiations.
%. have had enough. I am
going to do something about
it. We are not going to go on
with the present situation"
Sir Leslie Plummer, one Of
the British visitors, described
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ments on matters of faith and
morals for the entire Church.
Authority exists as God-given
in the case of parents, govern
ment and the Church even
where ii is not infallible. Ii
can be a mortal sin to dis
obey. When the Pope speaks,
Christ speaks, and deliberate
disregard of the teaching of
an encyclical can constitute a
mortal sin. AS Plus XII stat
ed: Nor must it he thought
that what is expounded in
encyclical letters does not of
itself demand consent. since
In writing such letters the
Popes do not exercise the
supreme power of their teach
ing authority. For these mat
tiers are taught with the or
binary teaching authority, of
which it is true to say: He
who heareth you, heareth
me-" and generally what is
expounded and inculcated in
encyclical letters already for
other reasons %appertains to
Catholic doctrine"
@. was reading about
scandal In the New Testament
and | can't understand the
part Of christ's admonifion
which talks about cutting Of
our hands or plueking out our
eyes!
A. VIZ cannot say with Cain
that we are not our brothers
keeper. If our actions (see st.
Paul / Corinthians 8:7-13 and
10:23.33) are giving bad ex-
ample, especially to the young,
we are bound in conscience
TO change our ways. We can
not expect young people to
avoid serious occasions of sin
If we disregard the Legion of
Decency list for movies, watch
anything at all on TV, show
disrespect for the authorities
in Church or government, etc.
AS Christ indicates Matthew
1850 we should avoid any
thing or anyone that is an oc-
casion of sin, no matter what
the cost. Ii a close friendship
or a family tie offers such oc,
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Editors note: Many in
feresFing and provocative
opinions must be omitted
each week because the
writer fails TO sign his
or her name and address.
Initials or a psnname will
be used upon request but
the sender's real name
and address must also be
included. Send your opin-
ions TO Letters 70 the
Editor" The Catholic
Times, Box 636, Column
bus l6, Ohio.
mssNNkMsn8gsasssaazs
the Prayers after Mass re-
turned to the curriculum. In
these days of utter chaos in
the world, / hope that once
again all the prayers will be-
come a permanent addition to
every Mass every day.
Mrs. Louis J. Ouins
tED. NOTE: When Pope
The Catholic times. [volume] (Columbus, Ohio) 1951-current, 1961-09-22
Likes Mama

Editor:
/ enjoyed the new article
"Hey Mama" by Mildred v.
Cabrera very much.
1t is so clever, true and
sincere.
AnxiouSly awaiting the
second one.
NJ. B.
Columbus
Evening star., 1961-05-01

The opening was attended by
the two Senators from North
ern Virginia, Charles R. Fen
wick of Arlington and John A.
K. Donovan of Falls Church.
Fairfax County. Also present
were Mayors Leroy S. Bend
helm of Alexandria and Charles
M. HALEY of Falls Church.
Senator Boothe, the only
member of the ticket able to
attend, pledged to make a ter
rifle fight" in the July II DEM
ocratic primary against a ticket
headed by former Attorney
General Albertis S. Harrison.
Referrin gto opposing tickets,
Senator Boothe commented,
We're all organization men
some of us may be a little far
ther out in left field than the
other"
The slate headed by Mr.. Har-
rison is generally conceded to
have the backing Of the domi-
nant Byrd organization.
Evening star., 1961-05-01
Abandoned Home
Ruzed by Fire

An abandoned three-story
house on Stringfellow road at
Chantilly, Va, was destroyed
by a fire of undetermined origin
last night.
Fairfax County fire officials
said the house once was part of
the old Stringfellow estate, and
had been vacant for about 20
years.
Firemen from Chantilly and
Centreville responded about
HAS pm. but were unable to
save the burning structure. An
investigation into the cause is
under way by the county fire
marshal'S office.
Evening star., 1961-05-01
HOLMES RUN SPAN TO OPEN
IN JULY IF WEATHER'S KIND

100000 bridge Holmes Run in Fairfax
County which has been under contraction since January
196O will finally be completed in July-almost year
behind schedule.
The work, repeatedly delayed by bad weather, will
be finished by July unless there is lot of rainy
weather" according to S. W. Shoaf general manager of
B. H. Runyon, Inc, the contractor the job
Fred L. Burroughs district engineer for the State
Highway Department said that the delayed
but that it is scheduled for completion by July
The bridge crosses Holmes Run below the Lake
Bancroft Dam connecting on both sides with Columbia
Pike.
There are always delays any job" he said, "but
this is a highway with much traffic They think
we're laying down on the job Actually just haven't
been able to get to the work much of the time"
Evening star., 1961-05-01
VIRGINIA BRIEFS
Defenders
Denounce
u. S. Move

FARMVILLE. Va, May
(AP.-The Virginia Defenders
of State Sovereignty and Indi-
vidual Liberties criticized Fed
eral intervention in the Prince
Edward County school case yes
terday as a threat to Local
self government and urged
State officials to fight the move
without faltering."
The Defenders, in a special
meeting at this Prince Edward
County seat of government
said the Justice Department
] action "by threatening to close
all the public schools in Vir-
ginia is coercion and intimida.
ton of a type found only in
totalitarianiSm."
The Justice Department last
Wednesday asked permission
Of Federal Court in Richmond
to intervene in the Prince Ed
ward case. 1t said it would ask
that the court prohibit Virginia
from spending money on public
schools anywhere in the State
unless those in Prince Edward
were reopened, on an integrated
| basis.
Evening star., 1961-05-01
Honors Taken
By SheiinWoId

! RICHMOND, May l (Spe-
ciaD ALFRED SheinWold, bridge
columnist of The Star, and four
others from the Washington
area, were among major win
ners at the Mid-Atlantic Re-
gional Bri id ge Tournament
which ended here last night.
Mr.. Sheinwold, whose column
is a regular feature in The Star,
finished first in two of the
three principal events and
fourth in third.
He teamed with Prof. Ivar
Stakgold, of Northwestern Uni
versity in Chicago, formerly a
resident of Washington, to win
the master pair championship
and also was a member of the
five-member team which won
in the open team champion
ship. Other members of the
team were Prof. Stakgold, An
drew Gabrilovitch of Silver
Spring, Richard K. Freeman
of Washington, and Mrs. w. C.
Robinson of Charlotte, N. C.
Mrs. Agnes Fischer of Wash
ington and Manuel Weinberg of
Frederick, Md, won the open
pair championship.
Earlier, Mr.. Sheinwold fin
ished fourth in the mixed pair
competition. Some 1000 bridge
enthusiasts participated in the
five-day tournament at the
John Marshall Hotel.
Evening star., 1961-05-01
FeIIowships Granted
To 7 Area Scholars

Seven local scholars and
scientists are among the 265
persons throughout the country
who have been awarded fellow
ships by the John Simon Gug.
genheim Memorial Foundation
The fellowShips are granted
to persons with proven capacity
for scholarship and scientific
research.
Those receiving awards and
their projects include:
Nicholas C. Bodman, head of
the Department of Far Eastern
Foreign Services In
Stitute. Linguistic studies OF
Tibeto-Burman languages.
Francis Dvornik, professor of
Byzantine history, Dumbarton
Oaks Research Library. Study
in the origin of early Christian
political philosophy.
Hans P. r. Frederikse. physi-
ciSt, chief of the Solid State
Evening star., 1961-05-01
3 Suspects Held
In Theft of Safe
At Gas Stution

An Alexandria policeman
early today rounded up three
burglary suspects and a 400
pound safe they are accused OF
hauling away from a gas sta
ton.
Pvt. w. F. Yost reported he
found the station, on Duke
street, had been broken into
when he made a routine check
Pvt. YoSt recalled seeing a
car parked nearby when he
made an earlier check.
Meanwhile, the station owner
Vivian A. Smith, told police his
400-pound safe with $3.50 inside
was missing.
Pvt. YoSt said he later spotted
the car, stopped it and saw in
1t a safe which had been cut
open with a torch.
Police charged three men, all
listed as Alexandria Hospital
employees, with statutory bur-
glary. They are: Carl A. Claus
48, of the 1900 block of South
Thirty fifth street, Arlington;
Cecil c. Morris, 81, of the 140O
block of Duke street, Alexan-
dria, and Joseph E. Barker, Sc
of the 500 block of Arcturus
drive. Alexandria.
Municipal Court Judge James
N. ColaSanto held them under
$500 bond each for a hearing
May Is.
Evening star., 1961-05-01
Stephens Ticket Opens
North Virginia Offices

Northern Virginia headquar-
terS was opened today for the
campaign of 1t. Gov. A. E. S.
Stephens, State Senator Armi-
stead L. Boothe and T. Mum
ford Boyd.
Democrats from the 10th
District gathered for the open
ing and heard Senator Boothe
declare: We're not going to be
anti-anything-it's going to be
a pro-Virginia campaign"
Senator Boothe of Alexan-
dria is running for Lieutenant
Governor on a ticket headed by
Mr.. Stephens. Mr.. Boyd, a
blind law professor from the
University of Virginia, is run
ming for attorney general.
Evening star., 1961-05-01

Physics section, National Blu.
reau of Standards. Studies oi
the physical properties of oxide
semi-conductors.
Evans v. Hayward, physicist
National Bureau Of Standards
Studies in the field of photog-
nuclear reactions.
Raymond E. Shapiro, soil sci.
enlist, Department of Agricul-
ture. Studies Of soil factors in
il-plan relationships.
DR.. Frederik B. Bang, profess
sor Of pathobiology. School OF
Hygiene and Public Health
Johns Hopkins University
Studies of responses to diseases
in various marine invertebrates
Howard E. Winn, associate
professor of zoology, University
of Maryland mparativ c
studies of sound production, as
means Of communication in
certain fish species.