Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1959-10-11

HOW 10 nave your VlSlIlIlB
cards engraved was discussed
a week or so ago. How to
use them when calling upon
officials would seem to be in
order today as a follow up.
While there are many who
scoff at what they term "the
empty gesturer Of leaving
cards, it is still considered
proper that 1t be done. Par
ticularly is this true when
calling upon an official. 1t
is showing a courteous re-
spect for the position he
holds.
Due to the growth Of our
government and Washing
tons ever expanding popula-
ton, it has been necessary in
recent years to modify some
Of the traditional rules gov
erning the paying Of the
courtesy call. Common sense
has caused new rules to be
adopted to fit the background
OF the Nations Capital to-
day.
One old custom that has
definitely faded into the past
is the formal observance of
traditional days at home"
formerly held by officials
wives. Time was when Mon
day was the day to call upon
the Chief Justice of the
United States and the Asso- .
ciate Justices of the Supreme
Court; Tuesday upon mem
bers of the House of Repre-
sentatives; Wednesday was
for Cabinet hostesses and the
Speaker of the House of Rep
resentatives; Thursday, the
members of the Senate. and
Friday, the members Of the
foreign missions in this
country.
For instance, it was con-
sidered incorrect to leave
cards on a Cabinet official
and his wife on any day ex-
cept Wednesday. Perhaps
they might live next door
to a member of the Supreme
Court, but good form die
tated that one must return
again on Monday to make
that call! 1t is easy to see
why this procedure has been
dropped.
Today, it is perfectly prop
err to leave cards on any
afternoon, upon any official,
regardless of the branch Of
the Government he repre-
sentS. This also holds true
when calling upon members
of the diplomatic corps. The
calls should be made between
the hours of 3 and 6.
While, as say, the rigid
calling procedure of years
past is no longer observed, it
is still considered obligatory,
particularly for those in Of
fetal life, to leave cards land
now is the time to start)
once a year upon the follow
ing officials and their wives:
the President. the Vice Presi-
dent, the Chief Justice, the
Speaker, Associate Justices of
the Supreme Court, and
members of the Cabinet. 1t
is up to the individual
whether or not cards be left
upon those in the diplomatic
corps.
The leaving of cards for
those not in official life is
entirely up to the individual.
Should he wish to pay his
respects to those ranking
high in our government, it
is perfectly proper that he do
so.
It is to be remembered that
when calling, a woman leaves
one card for each lady in the
house; never, under any cir
cumstances. does she leave
her card upon a man. For
example: if calling at the
White House, a m arried
woman would leave one of
her cards for Mrs. Eisenhow-
er, and two of her husbands
cards-one for the President
and one for his wife.
Questions. Answers
Questi0n-Just what is
considered proper to wear to
a formal afternoon tea or a
"semi formal" cocktail
party? Is it all right to wear
q suit? MRS. H. M. S.
Answer-One may wear an
afternoon dress, street or
ballerina length, with, of
course, hat and gloves. Avoid
too dressy a gown. Remem-
Der, simplicity is the key
note of the well-dressed
woman. A suit may be worn
if it is not too mannishly
tailored or of the sports spec
tator type.
Question: have been en-
ployed as a nurse in a doc
tors Office for several years.
We have recently become en-
gagged. I am continuing in
my capacity as nurse in his
Office. Is it permissible that
I address him as "Jack", now
that we are engaged, or
should I continue to address
him formally?
MISS r. D. M.
Answer-By all means,
when on duty, address your
fiance as 'Dr. Smith" or
Doctor" 1t would be ex-
tremely poor taste to do
otherwise.
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