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SERVICE NOTES
"A Trio of Dances
Are Spot1iuhted

The Air Force Dental Of
ficers Wives Club centered
their decor around a cherry
blossom theme last evening
at their dinner dance.
Cherry blossoms bloomed
in the Far East Room of the
Naval Gun Factory Ofiicers
Club for the event.
Wives of busy officers made
all the arrangements for the
gala evening. Mrs. Robert A.
Best had charge Of the pro-
gram. Mrs. Stephen T. Braun
and Mrs. Thomas Salimeno,
jr., were co-hoStesses.
An informal reception
started the evening of with
Maj. Gen. and Mrs. James
S. Cathroe greeting every
one as they came in. Also
there were 1t. Col. and Mrs.
Eugene L. Dybowski-she is
club president.
I'm the pink" figuratively
and actually were the Marine
officers Wives Club members
as they came in to the Army
Navy Country Club on Friday
for their spring dinner dance.
The Assistant Commandant
and Mrs. Verne j. McCaul
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headed the receiving line.
With them were the Chief of
STAFF and Mrs. Robert E.
Hogaboom. Col. and Mrs.
Richard Rothwell tshe is
president OF the wives club !,
Col. and Mrs. Norman j. An
derson (she is club vice pres
ident.
Hostesses for the formal
dinner dance which is an
annual affair were the wives
of officers of G-3 Division,
Headquarters Marine Corps.
headed by Mrs. William J.
van Ryzin. who with her hus-
band. Brig. Gen. van Ryzin,
helped to see that everyone
had a good time.
Leon Brusiloff's orchestra
played for the dancing which
followed the dinner at 9 pm.
The Army Chief Chemical
Officer and Mrs. Marshall
Stubs headed the list of
guests at the Chemical Corps
Wives Club dinner dance last
evening at Patton Hall Fort
Myer.
The Crystal Room was
sglow with lights and spring
flowers for the party with the
music of the Royal Tones for
dancing. E. M. ID.
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who have the capacity Of
getting along with people
need apply"
Making such a qualitica.
ton important only goes 70
show that those who proceed
under the misapprehensloD
that manners only have r.
do with social usages are
definitely on the wrong track
There is only one way to get
along with other people and
that is by showing consid-
Grafton for their feelings
And what is consideration
but courtesy and what is
courtesy but the foundation
on which all manners are
built.
When you are applying for
a job. 1t is well to remember
that ability to do the work
we'll is not all that is needed.
Your training may get you
the position. but 1t is only
with the help of good man
ners that you will keep it.
The person who assumes
that because he is efficient
in his job. he can ignore
courtesy in his daily dealings
with coworkers, or clients,
is bound to meet disaster
sooner or later.
AS a case in point: / was
talking the other day with
the personnel director of a
large concern and he in
formed me that more appli-
cants do not obtain a position
or, having obtained one, are
dismissed, not because they
do their work poorly. but be-
cause OF bad manners.
To greet people pleasantly
in clear bright tone of voice,
to interview callers in a tact
full courteous manner, to
show consideration for ones
co-workers, to make every
effort to get along with all
those with whom you come
in contact are but a few of
the abilities that are beyond
price in the business world.
With out them you are
doomed to failure and a life
time of changing from one
job to another, regardless of
your ability to do the work
well.
If you are job hunting to-
day. take stock of your atti-
tude towards the little every
day courtesieS that mean so
much. Make sure that you
see the Importance of man
ners in the business world in
their true light. Never under
estimate their Importance!
You may be able to take die
tation at 100 words a minute,
but such proficiency will do
you no good if you ride
roughshod over the feelings
of others.
Never lose sight of the fact
that good manners are your
first and most valuable asset.
Remember, too, that while
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1959-04-12

Have you by chance taken
a look recently at the want
ads in your newspaper?
If so. perhaps you noticed
such phrases as the follow
ing: An airline, advertising
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1959-04-12
MODERN
MANNERS
About the importance OF Manners
In the Business World
By CAROLYN HAeNER SHAW

for a stenographer, says:
Applicant must be able TO
deal successfully with peo-
ple." A large department
store. advertising for sales
people, advises: only those
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facts, they become doubly so
n your job, because your liv-
ing may depend upon them!
Questions. Answers
Question-My husband and
7 have received an invitation
to a large wedding to take
place at s o'clock in the after
noon and also TO the recep-
ton which will be held at one
of the clubs here In town.
What would be appropriate
to wear?--Mrs. w. l.. @.
Answer - A street-length
afternoon dress. compile
mented by a hat, purse and
gloves is appropriate for you.
Your husband will be cor
rectly attired If he wears a
dark suit, white shirt and
conservative tie.
y -
Question-In your column
recently, you discussed the
correct forms to be used by a
Divorce who retained her
husbands surname. What
is the correct form for a di-
vorcee who regains her maid
en- name? Does she call her.
self Miss" or Mrs?
Mrs. j. J. c.
Answer - Mrs" by all
means Even though the
former husbands name is
dropped entirely. the woman
should always refer to her
self as Mrs" at all times.
(Registered United States
Patent ofice)
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manners are extremely i'm
portant in your social con-
facts, they become doubly so
n your job, because your liv-
ing may depend upon them!
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1959-05-26
FAMOUS FABLES

Hiding place: Baseball star
Rabbit MaranvilIe was an in
corrieible cutup. who kept his
managers in 9 state Of ner-
'vous tension.
One season. when he was
with the Pittsburgh Pirates.
he and his roommate, an
other prankster. stayed out
late 50 many nights that the
manager decided TO move in
with them, to keep them un-
der surveillance.
The irst night that the
three were to be together, the
manager went up to the room
at ii o'clock. determined to
wait up for his two nocturnal
providers. To his surprise, he
found them both In bed.
asleep. Smiling his satisfac-
ton, he tiptoed over to the
closet to put away his clothes.
AS he opened the door.
there was an excited flap
ping Of wings and q half
dozen pigeons few into his
face. He let out q yell.
Maranville turned over and
cooked q sleepy eve at him.
Don't open the other
closet" he mumbled. "Mine
are in there"
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DEAR ABBY
sy ABIGAIL VAN buren,

them as q souvenir. Please
tell me how / can get my
wings" back without breaking
into her apartment and re-
possessing them?
WITHOUT WINGS.
Let the girl keep the wings.
Appropriately enongh--she Is
for the birds.
- - 4
DEAR ABBY: What do you
think Of a school teacher who
make the kids 60 out into
the auditorium and pick the
old chewing gum Of the bot
tom Of the seats as q punish-
ment? STUDENT.
/ would mot care to get
stuck with . teacher like this.
II true, the punishment" is
revolving and unsanitary.
For your copy Of What
Every Teen-Ager Wants to
Know. send Csc and q large.
self-addressed, stamped en-
velope to ABBY In care of The
Evening star.
y 4
For a personal reply. iOrite
to ABBY IN care of The EUe-
ming Star. TRclose q SELF
addressed. stamped envelope.
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Whining Mother Hurts Wife

She could be popular except
for one obnoxious trait.
Whenever q question comes
up like the spelling or mean
ing Of q big word, she jumps
In with the answer. They
have nicknamed her "The
Walking Encyclopedia" i
know two men cloth very
eligible) in the ONCE who
could get interested in her
but they are afraid to 60 out
with this brain" How can
1 tell her for her own good it
isn't smart to know all the
answers all the time? Or am
I wrong? A FRIEND.
Tell her privately that
"EncycIopedias' are refer
ence books--and reference
books are never taken out.
= 4 4
DEAR ABBY: / am a
lieutenant IN the Air Force.
/ became interested In q girl
and on our first date ! gave
her my wings" She has
broken her promise to me and
has been dating others. Now
I have asked her in person,
called her on the telephone,
and written her letters asking
her to please give my wings"
back. She says she is keeping
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1959-05-26
Murphy to Receive
Lecture Medal

Deputy Undersecretary Of
State Robert ID. Murphy will
be presented the University Of
Notre Danes Laetare Medal
for 1859 at dinner ceremonies
in the Mayfiower Hotel at 1880
pm. Monday, 1t was announced
today.
The solid gold disc suspended
from q gold bar Is awarded an
nually to an outstanding Cath
Ollie layman who is named on
Laetare Sunday, which falls in
the month Of March.
Others who will participate
in presentation ceremonies in
|clude the Rev. Theodore M.
Hesburgh, Notre Dame presi-
dent; DR.. Charles H. Malik,
president of the United Nations
General Assembly. principal
speaker: Archbishop Egidio
Vagnozzi. Apostolic Delegate to
the United States, and Frank
M. Folsom, former president of
Radio Corporation Of America,
POSTMASTER.
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How to
STOP KILLING
YOURSELF
Unsympothetic Doctor Lectured
By DR.. PETER ! STElNckOHN

Mrs. r. s. Of Silver Spring,
Md. (Who signs herself wife,
mother and grandchildren
be-. wants doctors to be more
kindly and reassuring.
Dear DR.. Steincrohn," she
writes. why is 1t that so many
doctors nowadays do not have
q kindly manner In talking
to patients, a feeling that
makes you believe they are
your friends? When you COM
plain they say, It's all in your
head
She suggests that ! lecture
to young doctors just start
ing out-telling them to please
listen sympathetically to what
the sick person is trying to
tell them-and let them know
you are with them"
Wen find your trouble"
when uttered by a doctor to
his patient, is like throwing
the patient a life line. Don't
let doctors cali patients hypo-
chondriacs.
She adds: Most people
really need a doctor when
they call on one, and believe
me, the wrong approach is to
say: There's nothing wrong
with you = its just in your
head
"A doctor should be like q
minister, a person dedicated
to helping humanity. Don't
you agree?"
FOR YEARS I've been tell
ing that to my new interns
and to my associates. Readers
will recall that / keep stress
ing that doctors need big
ears" genuine sympathy.
! believe that only one good
reason prevents most doctors
from being more kindly and
patient. 1t is lack Of time.
A doctor fights the hands
of the clock all day. When
there are more doctors you
will find the qualities you are
seeking in them. Mrs. r. s.
In spite Of rushing through
every "a hours daily, most
psychosomatically minded
physicians-if they have any
time at all-are sympathetic
and kindly.
A doctor has to be q hard
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1959-05-26
BY PHIL YEIAGER and
JOHN STARK


When you put your name
on a check to pay the grocery
bill. do you ever stop TO think
about what q remarkable
device this Isl
The taker Of a check in q
sense Is honoring your name
by putting trust In your hon
esty and solvency. In many
places in the world today this
kind OF trust is considered
sheer lunacy.
Checks or drafts, as they
were called, were limited in
earlier times to great mer-
chants and princes. Ordinary
people had to pay cash on the
barrelhead, or run up q
charge account.
Americans write more
checks than any other nation.
Figures released recently by
the banking industry indicate
that the value Of checks
cashed last year exceeded 50
trillion. And If piled up. they
would have reached 900 miles
into outer space. The book
keeping alone required 100000
bank clerks. These figures
provide striking evidence Of
the extent to which faith in
each other underlies and
supports our national pro-
ductivity.
Checks are governed by the
negotiable instruments laws
in the several States. Over
the years. these laws have
become codified and q con-
siderable degree of interstate
uniformity achieved. In adj
dition, certain practices, based
on years Of experience, are
encouraged. by the banking
industry.
For example, checks should
not be signed in blank, with
the idea of filling in the
amount later If some dis
honest person gets hold of it.
the results can be drastic for
the signer. For similar rea-
sons. many people follow the
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Scott, the woman left the little
boy in a hallway in the Wom-
ans Bureau and then went
outside to hail a taxi. After dis
covering the baby, Pvt. Scott
said she raced outside and
arrested the woman just before
she stepped into a cab.
She is the unwed mother Of
three other children, Pvt. Scott
said, and has consistently re-
fused to care for any Of them.
They are all staying with their
grandmother, who is now car
ing for the fourth child as well,
Pvt. Scott said.
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DEAR ABBY: nay problem

DEAR ABBY: Ny problem
is q quarrelsome. sharp
tongued mother. She picked
on my father. provoking lights
with him until their battles
drove all Of us children out
Of the house. My father re-
Gently entered an institution
with a nervous breakdown
and now my mother Is whin-
ing because nobody wants her
and she refuses TO live alone.
She has set sister against
brother and husband against
wife in our family and now !
am the only one on speak
ing terms with her. My hus-
band says II she comes-he
goes. Can ! tell my own
mother who put the very
breath of life into my body
that I cannot open my door
to her? TORN.
II Opening your door to
her" means your husband
goes, then yen must have the
courage to do what Is nec-
cesary 10 preserve your own
marriage. And don't feel
guilty.
DEAR ABBY: A new girl
has come to work in our office.
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Law IN THE NEWS
Do and Don't Rules
Aid Check Users

precaution Of never making
out q check to cash, unless
they are actually In the bank,
ready 70 hand It to q teller.
Checks should be written in
ink. although q bank could
legally accept one done In
pencil.
When received, checks
should be presented promptly
for payment. II held too
long. the bank may refuse
payment. When sending q
check through the mails to
a bank, it is always q good
precaution to write the words
For deposit only" above your
Endorsement. This prevents
any dishonest person from
cashing the check.
Tomorrow: Sunday shopping.
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hearted homhre, not to feel
sympathy with q suffering
human being.
+ i 4 X
Mrs. w. F. M. writes that
"out Of q blue sky my heart
seems to jump into my throat.
After a bit, / calm down. If
I didn't. I feel I'd faint" She
says the spells last about q
half-hour. Her doctors have
said that her heart is all right.
observation-disclosures prob
ably win reveal that the sud-
den, rapid heart action is =
condition we call paroxysmM
tachycardia. &
I suggest, Mrs. w. F. NJ.
that you be thankful that
your doctors have said that
your heart is normal. If you
don't take their word for it,
you will suffer unnecessarily
for years.
I know that these spells
are ''scary"-but functional
heart trouble never ends in
fatality. Take whatever me-
dicine your doctors prescribe,
and chances are that these
sudden attacks Of rapid heart
action will recurr less often
and finally disappear.
i i i =
DEAR DIR. STEINCROHN:
I've had a pain in my back
for the past few months.
Sometimes I've had spells
when / couldn't move from
the waist down. My husband
wants me to have an X-ray.
Do you think it's necessary?
Mrs. r. T.
YOUR DOCTOR also has
advised X-rays, ! suppose. !
can't understand why you re-
fuse. If you don't have them,
your backache probably viii
continue to be an enigma.
Why guess when modern
diagnostic methods are avail
able? You may have a
slipped Disc" arthritis, mus
Gle strain-or any one Of q
number Of other causes for
your backache.
tReIeased By the Bell syndicate. Inc.)
Tomorrow: Fotolism.
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St. AIbuns School
Graduation June 6

The 5Oth graduation exer-
|cises of st. Adams School will
be held at II am. June 6 at
the Washington Cathedral.
Speaking at the ceremonies will
be the Right Rev. Edward M. @.
Jones, bishop Of the see of st.
Adams, an English diocese
north Of London.
The Right Rev. Angus Dun,
Episcopal Bishop of Washing
ton, will award diplomats to
the graduates.
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to the United States Salvador
de Madariaga championed the
role of the arts in secondary
education before a distinguish
ed audience In the Washington
Cathedral.
The symposium was held as
part of the 50th anniversary
celebration Of st. Adams School
for Boys.
Lower Rank DepIOred
Justice Brennan said he
would "deplore RELOCATING the
arts and humanities to q SUBJ
ordinate role" in the education
of United States youth. He
agreed, however, that better
vocational training in a scien-
tif1c age was probably i'm
perative."
Mr.. Flemming observed with
real regret" that "art educa-
tion, from which evolves indi-
vidual creativity, is often ADAM
doned" in secondary school
curricula.
DR.. Madariaga noted that
Rotary Clubs and other well
oiled organizational groups"
have "symbolized" a trend away
from individuality in this coun-
try. He said such groups de-
mand nothing of their mem
pers except fidelity"
Secondary schools should
seek to develop in the individ-
ual student q mastery over
some field of art" declared DR..
Madariaga.
FIemming for Balance"
Secretary Flemming said the
Nations concern since Sputnik
with the field Of science and
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mathematics makes it more
necessary than ever that high
school programs be well ball
anced Gin the best tradition Of
liberal arts"
And he added that liberal
arts education can contribute
in the intellectual development
of all students irrespective Of
their pre-existing skills and
talents"
DR.. Leonard Carmichael, Sec
Rotary Of the Smithsonian In
stitution, moderated the SYM
postum.
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YIN Brunch Members
Chided on Support

The Twelfth Street Branch
YMCA is campaigning to end
what q member of its managing
body calls very lukewarm sup
port" from its members.
West A. Hamilton. of the 1867
year-old branch's Committee of
Management. has appealed to
members to stimulate interest
in q drive to raise $4,000 for
the branch. Contributions now
total 5000 in the campaign.
which viii end June 2.
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Boby Desertion
Holds Mother,24

A 24-year-old woman who
abandoned her 8-month-old
baby in the Woman's Bureau
last Saturday was found guilty
yesterday Of deserving the child.
Municipal Court Judge
Thomas c. Scalley ordered the
woman sent to District Gem
eral Hospital for a 30-day mem
tai observation before sentence
ing her.
According to Pvt. Virginia
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Embassy Aide TO Speak

Arnaldo Costa, first secretary
of the Brazilian Embassy, will
be the guest speaker at the
washington alumni Of the Uni
versity Of Michigan luncheon
at noon Thursday at the o.
cidental Restaurant.
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Misses Own Door

SAN DIEGO, Calf. (AP).--
Fred Halleman ended up with
one spare newspaper after he
took over his ailing sons paper
route one morning. The father
retraced the entire route before
he realized the paper was the
one for his house.
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1959-05-26

doing about average work in
school. They are good kids,
no special troubles - except
that my wife keeps driving
them to do better.
The Oldest boy recently. be-
gan to develop q stutter and
I think it could be as a re-
suit Of my wife's making too
many demands on him. I feel
that she is making him ner-
vollS.
! don't see anything so
terrible in being only average
in school. / was and I know
I'm happier in my life than
some Of the guys VINO always
came out on top.
Anne SCI certainly don't
see anything so terrible in
being ayerage-if you really
are that. But our kids all
have high los One of the
teachers told me that when
I asked her about it. The
Oldest boy. particularly, has
q very high 10.
/ ask myself all the time
why my smart children some
how don't make out too well
at school. The oldest boy is
on the lazy side and a bit of
q dreamer, but the other two
are very alert. They both
say they get very nervous be-
fore tests and can't think
well.
/ would not drive the chill
dren If I weren't sure they
could do better. 1t just rifles
me to see other kids get ahead
Of them when I know it's
not necessary.
THE COUNCILS VIEW
II 1t Is true that these chill
dren have superior los we can
ind one good reason why they
would do only average work
and that is their mothers
driving ambition for them.
Educators agree that one
Of the biggest factors in a
child's doing schoolwork that
is up to the peak Of his abil-
ity is the comfort of feeling
completely secure in the love
Of his parents. When a par
ent places too great a stress
upon achievement the child
gets the idea that he isn't
loved much for himself.
This idea is no illusion,
either. A parent who wants
his child to be outstanding is
looking for some reflected
glory. It is one thing to want
a child to bring out the best
in himself for the sake Of his
own greatest happiness and
quite another to want to see
that child covered with glory.
Every child has some assets
that can be brought out and
that will win q degree of
recognition. However, the
mother who gets ''riled''
when other children get ahead
Of hers may not only defeat
her own ends, but takes all
the Joy out Of doing and
learning.
A teacher may have said
that the los were high when
she meant high enough or
average-high. The 'very-
high" Of the Oldest boy indi-
Gates something more. bat it
is most unfair to him to set a
rigid standard for his per-
Torrance. It is quite possible
that the suffering has been
caused by his mothers pres
sure.
tCopyright 1859.
General Features Corpl
|
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The Fsmih cssncIl consists Of i
judge, q psyekiettist, three
clersymen. newspaper editor, .
womsa's editor and two writes.
Each prticls s q summory Of en-
aetlel eass history. The council
reports ION pfpblems thof have
been dsalt with BY, responsible
agencies and eounselors.
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THE DETAILS

Frank S.--My wife and I
are having q serious disagree
ment about the way our chill
dren are brought up.
We have three school-aee
youngsters and they are all
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1959-05-26
FAMILY COUNCIL
She Drives
The Boys
Too Hard
THE PROBLEM

Frank s.-My wife drives
the kids.
Anne 8. - They can do
better.
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1959-05-26

FREE.
lfyou want to get better gas
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Tomonow: Bic sister sdrisss.
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Secretary Flemming said the
Nations concern since Sputnik
with the field Of science and