Montgomery County sentinel., 1958-10-16

tDO you have problem?
Send it to Debbie Dean. All
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Dear Debbie Dean:
am 16 years old and very
much in love with boy 81. He
has a good job and keeps asking
me to go steady but my parents
hit the roof. Now they won't let
me go out with him at all. They
say am too young to go steady.
All my friends go steady and I
don't see why 1 can't. My boy
friend says if l don't, he will go
with my best friend whose par.
entS are not so old-fashioned.
Should l meet him without my
parents knowing-like he wants
me to?
MTV. Rockville
No sympathy from me in the
matter of going steady or meet
ing your heart thrOb on the sly.
Girls who go steady before they
are old enough to seriously con-
slider marriage not only have
holes i'm their heads-they miss
lot of fun. Believe me, pur-
suit by several swains is far
more interesting than settling
on one. The lad who raises your
blood pressure at 16 won't raise
a hair on your head when
you're five years older. Your
parents are far from old-fash-
iOned in refusing to allow you
to have steady beaux. Are you
really stupid enough to fall for
the young mans high pres
sure? II he wants to go out
with your girl friend, let him.
Where's your feminine pride?
And, by no means, agree to
meet him secretly. You'll lose
his respect and, i'm the long run,
your own self-esteem. Tell him
to go fly kite.
Dear Debbie Dean:
1 am the other woman and 1
don't like it. am % and have
been going with a married man
for six months. He fell in love
with me because his wife treats
him like dog. She works and
never gets home in time to cook
his dinner and take care of things.
She always throws cold water on
everything he wants to do. He
says l am his ideal. My problem
is this: Even though he says he
loves me and not his wife, he is
always scared to death she will
find out about us. 1 think he
ought to have a showdown with
her so we can make a life for
ourselves. Don't you think I'm
right?
WORRIED, TwinbrOOI1
You're old enough to know
when you're being a patsy.
From your letter (much too
long to publish i'm fulD I be-
lieve you've fallen for the old
est cOrnball line exchanged be-
tween men and women. 1 also
wish to say that at your age
you should know how utterly
stupid it is to become involved
with man who has other obi
cations! My opinion is-the
gentleman's wife probably un-
derstands him too well. Mark
my words, he'll never desert his
welI-paid meal ticket for you.
Why don't you make a quick
descent from Cloud 8 and face
the facts. You're involved i'm a
sOrdid mess. You'd be well adj
vised to toss this character out
on his ear before your feputa-
ton suffers further setbacks.
Note to b. H.: Where did you
get the idea that running away
will solve your problem? 1t would
be the worst thing you could do.
I urge you to tell your parents
Immediately. There are public
and private agencies who will
lend an interested ear in cases
like this, but your parents (and
the boy's) should be in on the
discussion. And, for heavens
sake, get your chin off your chest.
You've made a mistake but a
mistake need not be the end of