Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1957-01-09

Several nice young. men have
wanted to marry her, but sht
always said she had time. Nov
suddenly she is in a great hurr.
to marry.
This man is a widower will
two children, aged 8 and 10, ant
l feel he is in a hurry to f1nC
IA good mother for his children
Lorraine is mature for her age
loves children and is a gooC
homemaker. and I believe he
sympathy for this man and hi
children is running away with
her. ! keep pointing out to he
that when she is a young woman
of 80, she will be married to {
middle-aged man.
LOrraine-It's true that / hav,
a lot of sympathy for Alfred ant
his children. but it's not tn,
main reason that l want Il
marry him. It's also true that h,
is looking for good mothe
for his children. but I'm sure h,
could find better. more ex
perienced women for the purpos,
If that was all he wanted.
The fact is that l feel Alfret
is the only man who has eve
understood me and that's why
love him. Everyone takes me TO
a giddy girl because I am al
ways Glowing and carrying OF
in company, but / am really yer.
serious at heart. I am also yer,
religious and so is Alfred. Man,
young men can't understand
why religion is so important t
me. They laugh at me when
try to talk seriously.
THE COUNCILS VIEWS
Nearly 20 years is vast ag
gap and such marriage pre-
sentS grave problems. Neverthe
less it need not be the cause TO
parental desperation if the mai
is desirable in other respects.
Mrs. D. F. acknowledges tina
her daughter is mature and ha,
had much dating and social ex,
perience. 1t is possible that thi.
marriage is the answer to many
OF the girls inner needs.
Some of the questions LORRAINE
and her parents should try t.
resolve are these:
Has Lorraine made an active
attempt 10 meet young men with
her religious interests? There
are many Of them. and Lor.
raine could be much more sur,
of future happiness with a mar
closer to her own age. She /.
wrong when she feels that M
man can understand her.
Does Lorraine fully understand
the enormous responsibility sht
would be undertaking in becom.
ing mother, at her age, 10 two
children who have been raised
by a different woman? She ap.
pears to be seeking responsible,
lily, but does she realize how
much will be required? She mus
understand that she will havt
to settle down to her duties a
once and forego the first precious
period of marriage in which thu
young couple can become ad.
JuSted to one another. free from
outside care or intrusion. It's I
big sacrifice.
How does Lorraine fit in so.
cially with friends of her hus.
bands age? She will probably
find she must give up many Of
her young friends because hel
husband will find them too i'm
mature.
Why does Alfred choose q
woman so much his Junior? Ii
he the overdomineering type
who feels it would be easy tt
bend a young girl to his ways:
He is undoubtedly set in many
of his patterns of living anc
Lorraine should know what
those patterns are and deter
mine whether or not she car
live within them.
These questions call for seri-
Gus, unhurried consideration
Lorraine should not commit her.
self without having explored all
the angles carefully and dis
cussed them with her parents.
Copyright 1857. Gen. Features Corp
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