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The journal. (Caldwell, Ohio) 1934-1961, 1957-10-17

Mr.. and Mrs. Jack Norris and
family near Woodsfield.
Mr.. and Mrs. Ebert Herlan, of
Rocky River, Mr.. and Mrs. Rob
ert Brown and daughters, of
Cleveland, and Mrs. Blanche Fos-
ter, of GAINESVILLE were Thursday
evening dinner guests with Mr..
and Mrs. WIlfred Garrett.
Mr.. and Mrs. Durbin Hague, of
Akron, visited Thursday with Mr..
and Mrs. c. A. Atkinson.
Mrs. Edna Truax, Mary Weav-
er, Nellie Keylor, Clarice Cutler
and Marie Bircher attended the
Golden anniversary of Woods
field chapter, Order of Eastern
Star.
Mr.. and Mrs. H. w. Weaver re-
turned home last Tuesday from
Dover, where they visited few
days with Mrs. Eta Osborne. On
Sunday, accompanied by Mrs. Os-
borne, they visited with their son,
Mr.. and Mrs. Richard Weaver and
family in Barberton. They also
called on Mr.. and Mrs. Herman
Weaver in Canton.
Mr.. and Mrs. Jack Nelson, of
Columbus, visited over the week
end with Mr.. and Mrs. Earl Day.
Garry Dysert spent the week
end with his grandparents, Mr.
and Mrs. Charles Dotson.
Mr.. and Mrs. Howard Wharton
visited recently with Mr.. and Mrs.
George Moore in Akron. They al
so visited with Mr.. Ira DenboW.
Mr.. Robert Patterson, of Sey-
more, Ind, visited Saturday eve
ming with Mr.. and Mrs. Howard
Wharton.
Mr.. and Mrs. Robert Cal1and,
of Marietta, were calling in town
Sunday.
Mrs. Anna Horton and daugh-
ter, Mrs. Alice Williams, of Can
ton, were calling on relatives and
friends Sunday.
Mr.: and Mrs. Robert Ball and
son, Bobbie, of Caldwell, visited
Saturday evening with her par
ents, Mr.. and Mrs. H. w. Weaver
Mr.. and Mrs. Robert Williams
and daughter, Jean, and grand
son, Jimmy, of East Liverpool,
visited Sunday with Mr.. and Mrs.
H. w. Weaver. Mr.. Williams re-
manned for the week.
Mrs. Leone Wheatley was a
business caller Saturday in Cald-
well.
Mr.. and Mrs. Charles Tilton
were shopping Saturday in Zanes-
vile and Cambridge.
Miss Lylan Garrett, of Colum-
bus, spent the weekend with her
mother, Mrs. Leone Garrett.
Mr.. and Mrs. Cecil Gibson, OF
Cambridge, visited Sunday with
their parents, Mr.. and Mrs. H. p
The journal. (Caldwell, Ohio) 1934-1961, 1957-10-17
Summerfield -
laymen's Day To Be Observed Sunday
Morning In Local Methodist Church

close of the meeting, a short pro-
gram was presented, consisting of
group singing, with Mrs. Ruth
Day at piano, and led by Pearl
Mckinney and Mary Weaver.
Others having part on the pro-
gram were Elizabeth FriSbee, dep
uty grand matron; Garnet Hoag,
grand representative to Washing
ton; Opal Brumbach, Mildred
Day, Emma McGurk, Vernon
Moore and Durel Truax had II
Got A Secret Vernon read about
the secret, and they had on some
of the members and Durel gave
them little reminder to keep, so
it would not happen again. After
the program, lunch was served in
the dining room by the regular
committee.
Grange To Meet
Summerfield Grange will meet
Friday evening, Oct. 18 for their
regular meeting and installation
of officers. Mr.. c. w. Parrish will
be the installing officer. A pot
luck supper will be served with
the committee furnishing the
sandwiches. Final plans will also
be made for the Halloween party
to be held on Friday evening, Oct.
Is. All officers are asked to be
present for installation.
Meeting Planned
The Sunshine Sunday School
class will meet Monday evening,
Oct. q at the home of Mrs. Thel-
ma Wharton, with Marie Bircher
as co-hostess.
Visits Here
Mrs. Ina Bates, of the Lowe
Rest Home, in Reinersville, visit
ed a few days with her brother,
Charley Wharton and others, and
attended funeral services Thurs
| day for Mr.. V. K Herlan. She re-
turned to the rest home on Sun
day and was accompanied there
by Mr.. and Mrs. Arthur Batten
and Charley Wharton, who also
visited with Mr.. Ward Wilson, a
| patient in Bethesda hospital. They
reported that Ward is getting
| along nicely and will soon be dis
| missed to his home here.
Sunday Guests
Mr. and Mrs. Dwight Nicholson,
of ByeSville, visited Sunday with
Mr.. and Mrs. James Palmer.
In Massillon
Mr. and Mrs. Ross Watson visit
ed over the weekend with Mr..
and Mrs. Alfred Anderson in
Massillon. They also visited with
other relatives there and in Can
| ton.
Visit Parents
Mr.. and Mrs. Dale Garrett and
children, of Caldwell, visited
Saturday evening with his par
ents, Mr.. and Mrs. w. c. Garrett.
Personals
| Mr.. and Mrs. Carl Richeson
visited over the weekend with
The journal. (Caldwell, Ohio) 1934-1961, 1957-10-17

Laymans Day will be observed
Sunday, Oct. 20, in the Methodist
church, with laymen of the
church having charge of the ser
vice. Special numbers will be pre-
sented by the mems chorus.
Everyone is welcome to come and
worship.
Club Meets
The Homemakers Club met on
Wednesday at the home of Mrs.
Wilma Johnson for their regular
meeting. The day was spent sew
ing rug rags. At noon, a delicious
dessert was served by the hostess,
along with the sack lunch. In the
afternoon, two games of Bingo
was played, with Treva Tilton re-
ceiving the first prize and Elsie
Bode, second Mrs. Leone Garrett,
president, conducted the business.
Plans were made to attend a
meeting Tuesday in Caldwell.
The next meeting will be held at
the home of Mrs Elsie Bode, on
Nov. 7. Those present were: Kath-
ryn Dysert, Bernice Batten,
Leone Garrett, Treva Tilton,
Norma Morris, Roma Jean Whar-
ton, Edith Craig, Elsie Bode, Mar
ian Leasco, Beulah Watson and
Marie Bircher. Miss Mabel Sar-
baugh will be present for the next
meeting and the lesson will be
on Space Saving. A pot luck
dinner will be served at noon.
o. E. S. Meeting
Summerfield chapter, o. E. S.,
met Wednesday evening for their
regular meeting and friendship
night. The chapter opened in rit-
ualistic form, followed by rou-
tine business, conducted by the
worthy matron, Edna Truax.
Visitors were present from Cum
berland, Byesville, Caldwell and
Collinswood, Tenn. After the
The journal. (Caldwell, Ohio) 1934-1961, 1957-10-17

oil business as "Oil Progress
Week" They define it as that
period of the year when the oil
industry reports to the nation"
Without doubt, there is a great
deal to report. The contributions
made by the petroleum industry
to almost every phase of Ameri-
can life are nothing short of as
founding. We not only owe our
mobility to petroleum, in the form
of gasoline and lubricants, we al
so are indebted for such contri-
buttons as cosmetics, plastlcs,
fertilizers, insecticides and host
of other products-some 2400, in
all-covering every activity from
aviation to zoology. Even the new
synthetic fibers-dacron, orion,
etc.,-are derived from oil.
When Americas first we'll was
drilled, back in 1859, we were a
third-rate power, a horse and
buggy nation, with most of our
energy furnished by men, ami
mails, and crude machines run by
steam.
Today we are an acknowledged
world power, and most of the en-
ergy we use comes from petro-
leum or petroleum products. After
World War l, Lord Curzon said
the Allies had floated to victory
on a sea of oil After World War
II, Admiral Nimitz said we had
The journal. (Caldwell, Ohio) 1934-1961, 1957-10-17
IVA

AVA - Mr.. and Mrs. Shine
Rayner and Mr.. and Mrs. Hobart
Davis are spending this week in
Florida.
Mr.. and Mrs. Howard Bates,
of GAINESVILLE, were visiting Mr.
and Mrs. Charles Bates, Sunday
Mr.. and Mrs. Arlo McElroy of
Cambridge, spent Sunday with
Mr.. and Mrs. Mason Wood.
Mr.. and Mrs. George Clippin-
ger were callers here, Tuesday.
Mrs. Bessie DaW and Mrs
Lena Archer were shopping in
Caldwell, Monday.
Mrs. Faye Rayner, Mrs. Leila
Davis and Mrs. Evelyn Raynel
and children were visiting ir
The journal. (Caldwell, Ohio) 1934-1961, 1957-10-17

won it with coil, bullets and
beans. More recently, the in
dustry again displayed its pre-
paredness-and patriotism-when
it went all out to supply Europe's
oil needs, in addition to domestic
demand, after immobilization of
the Suez Canal
On its record, the oil business
merits tribute. And so, this Oil
Progress Week, we join the rest
of the nation in a salute to the
American petroleum industry-to
its people, its products, and its
progress.
The journal. (Caldwell, Ohio) 1934-1961, 1957-10-17
Carlisle

CARLISLE - Mr.. and Mrs
Hank Pryor, of GAINESVILLE, spent
the weekend at the home of Mr.
and Mrs. Bert Miracle.
Miss Pat Hidden and Earl
Johns, of Westerville, visited
Sunday evening with Blanche
Smith.
Mrs. Gene Wharton and daugh-
ters, Barbara and Brenda were
Sunday dinner guests at the
home of her parents, Mr.. and
Mrs. Argyll Leasure.
Mr.. and Mrs. Leland Hesson
and son, Scott, of Caldwell, were
Sunday dinner guests of his par
ents, Mr.. and Mrs. Lester Hes
son.
Mrs. Blanche Robbins, Mrs
Adelaide Robbins, Mrs. Madeline
Mallett and son, George, all OF
Caldwell route, visited Monday
evening with Blanche Smith.
Mr.. and Mrs. Ralph Flynn and
children, of Akron, visited Sun
day afternoon with his mother
Mrs. Zuba Thompson.
Mr.. and Mrs. Dale Garrett and
daughters, Sheryl and Sharon, OF
Caldwell route, were Thursday
evening dinner guests at the
home of her parents, Mr.. and
Mrs. Lester Hesson.
Mrs. Anna Miracle, Mrs. Cert
rude Kuhn and Mrs. Emma Rit-
terbeck visited Tuesday evening
at the home of Mr.. and Mrs
Willis Rath at Charlottesville.
Mrs. Zuba Thompson and Mrs
Emma Ritterbeck attended the
Stanley Brush party at the home
of Mrs. Rome Thompson, Mon
day evening on Summerfielc
route, and Mrs. Gertrude Kuhr
attended the Stanley party Wed
nesday afternoon at the home ot
Mrs. Margaret Warner, Caldwell
route. Mrs. Betty Kohut was
demonstration.
The journal. (Caldwell, Ohio) 1934-1961, 1957-10-17

Canton, Friday.
Mr.. and Mrs. Ralph Mellon, of
Sarahsville, were visiting Mr..
and Mrs. Robert Mellon and fam
lily, Sunday.
Mr.. and Mrs. Edwin Wood and
sons, of Buffalo, were visiting
his parents, Mr.. and Mrs. Minor
Woods, Saturday.
The journal. (Caldwell, Ohio) 1934-1961, 1957-10-17
NOTICE OF APPOINTMENT
Case No. 6075
Estate of Daniel Elmer Wagner, De-

Estate of Daniel Elmer Wagner, De-
ceased.
Abbott Wagner, of Route No. 2, Lo-
well, Ohio, has been duly appointed
Executor of the Estate of Daniel Ell
mer Wagner. deceased, late of Jackson
Township, Noble County, Ohio.
Creditors are required to file their
claims with said fiduciary within four
months.
Dated this 5th day of October. 1857.
EARL P. McGINNIS
Probate Judge of said County
Is 16 IT
The journal. (Caldwell, Ohio) 1934-1961, 1957-10-17
FILL 'ER UP, PLEASE"
Till 'ER UP, PLEASE"
Area Petroleum Men To Observe
"0iI Progress Week" Oct. 1919

The simple phrase F er please has become an accepted
of the American life But backing the men who SER
request up fascinating industry of some
100000 working at than 1000 different
trades crafts sk poessionsthe American oil industry
This week has been designated by the and women the
The journal. (Caldwell, Ohio) 1934-1961, 1957-10-17

Kidron, IL miles southeast of
Wooster, Ohio is the site of the
weekly community livestock
auction, among the first of its
kind in the United States.
The journal. (Caldwell, Ohio) 1934-1961, 1957-10-17

Gibson and Mrs. Offa Bishop, and
in the afternoon, the Gibsons,
along with his parents, called on
Mrs. Verda Draper in Lewis
vile.
Mr.. and Mrs. E. T. Bircher call
ed on Mrs. Robert Weisend and
children, Sunday evening.
Mr.. and Mrs. Charley Warner
visited Sunday evening with Mr..
and Mrs. H. P. Gibson.
Mrs. Leone Garrett and son,
Larry and Mrs. Hiram Ruther-
ford attended the homecoming at
the Olive Green church.
Mr.. and Mrs. Howard Wharton
are spending this week at Lake
Hope, here they will attend meet
ings on Weights and Measures.
Mr.. and Mrs. Ernest Bode, Mrs.
G. A. Horton, and house guests,
Mrs. Ella Moore and son, Ray
mond, visited Sunday with Mr..
Flode Yost, a patient in the North
Wheeling hospital in Wheeling,
w. Va, and his room number is
301.
Mr.. and Mrs. Arthur Gene
Wharton had as dinner guests
Sunday, Mr.. and Mrs. WILDER
Marquis and daughter, Jane, of
Sharon, and Mr.. and Mrs. Argyll
Leasure and son, Argyll Jr., of
Caldwell.
Mrs. Marie Bircher is now
the official correspondent from
Summerfield for The Journal
and Noble County Leader. AS
such, she will appreciate the
cooperation of the entire COM
munity and area for news
items in her letter. If you had
guests, went away for the
weekend or entertained let
Mrs. Bircher know about it for
her weekly newsletter.
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1957-10-20
Oct. q

5-Mornins Movie.
IA Hours. Speed Limited. I"
1896. Rolph Groves.
9-The Garry Moore Show.
1890
4-TreosuEe Hunt. Quiz.
Jon Murray, host.
S-Arthur Godfrey. Variety.
1900
4-The Price Is Right. Quiz.
Bill Cullen. m. c.
7-RompeF Room. Kids.
Featuring Miss SolIy.
l1:30
4-TFuth or Consequences.
5-liberaee. Music.
9-Ssrike Il Rich. Quiz.
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WEDNESDAY progrom Listinss

6:35
4-Todoy on the Form. News.
$50
4-Look to This Doy. Proyer.
6:55
S-Meditotion. lnspirotionol.
TOO
4-Todoy. Voriety.
! Hour. IS Min. Fronk Bloir and
Helen O'Conneil ore featured.
Skinny Deem Show.
7:45
S-News. Hottelet.
9-Loeal News. Sutton.
500
s-coptoin Kangaroo. Kids.
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1957-10-20
AFTERNOON

1900
Ate Tee Dough. Quiz.
jock 6ory, host.
5-cIubhouse "5." Kids.
7-Pete and His PeIs. Kids.
9-hotel Cosmopolitan. Serial.
Storing Donald Woods.
l2:l5
9-Love Of Life. Seriol.
1880
Alt Could Be You. Variety.
Bill leyden. host.
5-FFonkie Lcine Show.
9-SeoFch for Tomorrow. Seri.
i2:45
9-Guidins Light. SerioI.
100
Alex and Jinx. Interviews.
S-lilli PoImer Show. Drama.
7-Favorite Story. Dromo.
9-TheoteT Of Stars. Dromo.
Sweet Tolk Ne, Joekson." Dick
Hoymes.
l:30
4-HowoFd Miller Show. Color.
] Hour. Variety show.
5-Tv Readers Digest. Dromo.
Tiny Hero. Comedy.
Storing Bob Cummings.
9-As the World Turns. Seriol.
600
5-lodies Be Seoted. Movie.
VA Hours. Might Beot." 1850.
Ann Crowford. tBritish.l
7-Town and Country Time.
] Hour. Elton Britt, m. c.
9-Beot the Clock. Contest.
2:30
4-Bride and Groom.
9-House Party. Variety.
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1957-03-06
COUNCIL
Man Feels
Underdog
ToIn-Luws
THE PROBLEM

CARL MIN tired of being
the underdog in Debbie's life.
DEBBIE M.-Carl must accept
my family.
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1957-03-06

well able to take care of the
children in an emergency.
I like to spend few evenings
Ia week with members of my
family. but Carl has always re-
sented this. He won't come with
me and then he complains of be-
ing left alone at home. Carl was
an only child and his mother
lis no longer living. He sees his
father about twice a year. He
doesn't understand what it feels
like to have a close-knit. affec-
tionate family.
Our arguments about this
have become so serious that l
have threatened to leave if Carl
can't accept my family.
THE COUNCILS VIEW
Debbie states quite clearly
that If things were to come to
"a showdown she would reject
Carl in favor of her family
and by her family she means
her parents and brothers and
sisters.
Debbie evidently hasn't yet
realized that her real family con-
sists Of Carl and her children.
In a showdown. it is they who
should take precedence.
Carl recognizes that Debbie has
still not torn herself away suffi-
GENTLY from her childhood re-
lationships. and this is why he
may make unreasonable demands.
1t is natural for Debbie to
want to be with her sister when
she is critically i'll. 1t is very
likely that Carl would accept
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1957-03-06
FAMOUS FABLES
BY E. E. EDGAR

RUMOR: Surgeon Charles
Mayo. cofounder of the Mayo
Foundation in Rochester, MINI.
was accompanying a newspaper
reporter on a tour of the hospital
grounds.
You know. DOCTOR" comment
ed the reporter. "a lot of wild
stories have sprung UP about
this place"
Il know" said Mayo. "Will
you please inform your readers
that there is no truth whatever
to the rumor that the driveway
is paved with gallstones."
PRISONER: Theatrical pro-
ducer-director David Belasco
went out of his way to flatter
his actors, but he was not so
solicitous OF his writer's. During
one rehearsal he was trying to
get the playwright to rewrite a
scene.
After numerous attempts had
produced nothing to his salts
faction. he decided on more dras-
tic action. With the help Of
burly assistants, he locked the
author in his hotel room. De-
spite the writer's anguished
howlS, Belasco stubbornly refused
him food and spirits until the
revised scene had been showed
under the door.
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1957-03-06

young children, but she runs off
at the drop of a hat to take
care Of a sick sister or to do
some favor for her mother. Her
sister was quite i'll recently, but
she had her husband and other
members Of the family to help
out.
Nevertheless. Debbie felt she
had to be with her sister every
possible minute and left me
alone with the children nearly
every night and every week end
for a month. Our children took
sick. but to Debbie that wasn't
important. Only her sisters
sickness was important.
This family Debbie is so loyal
to has never done anything for
her. They all take advantage of
her because she is so devoted to
them. I'm tired of being the
underdog in Debbie's life. A
husband should come first.
Debbie M.-My husband has
always hated my family. don't
know why. because they have
always liked him and would do
anything for him.
My sister lowered between
life and death for weeks. Was
I supposed to stay away from
her at a time like that? My hus-
band kept calling me to come
home because the children had
the sniffles and ran a Slight
fever. He always pretends to be
helpless without me. but he is
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FEATURE Rcz
THE GOLDEN YEARS
EorIy Retirement
May Be Advisable

with reasonable certainty, that
there will always be enough
money?
4. Find something for your
husband to do that will lure him
into retirement. See that he re-
tires not from a Job but to a
new life. And don't drag out a
hobby. Hobbies are like chill
Idren's toys to a man who has
fought his way through the bust
ness world until age 81. Can he
go exploring? Can he write or
paint? Or study music? Would
he like a trailer? Would he like
to set up a gift shop on the front
porch of an Arkansas cabin?
Would he like to be a preacher?
"a teacher? Something must lure
him.
S. Men do die-usually before
their wives do. And jobs do kill
them. But you will not convince
your husband that either of these
statements is true.
One Of the strangest things of
our times is that no man ever
believes he will die. And no man
ever stops thinking that he can
preserve, or recapture. his youth.
Check Pension Now
So insist that your husband
check at his Office to see Just
what pension he will get If he
retires now. just what company
benefits, like insurance and hos
Ipitalization, he can retain. and
then make him sit down with
you and figure how much it is
costing him to go to his lob
every day. With transportation,
lunches. income tax. social Sc
curity, and this and that figured,
he'll see his salary is much less
than he thought.
with all this done, start tell
ing him how the lines will 90
out of his forehead and the
WEAKNESS will 60 out of his walk
how once more the two of
you can have fun together-if
only he will fight his way free
OF the 40-hour-a-week monster
that hollis him captive.
Here is how the wife who
prompted this column figured
the financial angles of her hus-
bands retirement: They had
$4,000 equity in their house.
$4,000 in stocks and savings, and
$4,000 cash value on her hus-
bands life insurance-for a total
OF $4,000. She figured to in
vest this in public utility stocks
at "A per cent for sl42 a month.
Her husbands pension at 81
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touting winners but soon switched
to straight slapstick.
Because it is human nature
to be on the side of the weak, :"
Bud once said. JEFF has always
had the sympathy of the public.
but I like Mutt the better
Sometimes. over the years. JEFF
has bested Mutt in their eternal
deals and wranglings by switch
ing places with his powerful twin
brother, Julius. And Mutt fire.
quently comes a cropper through
the rolling-pin craftsmanship of
the redoubtable Mrs. Mutt-re-
ferred to as "Mlove" or the
Sweet Woman.
Gus Geevem, Sir Sidney and
other m e m bers of the Lion
Tanners occasionally take a hand
but Mutt remains the harried
husband and JEFF the carefree
bachelor.
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THE DETAILS

Carl M.-What can you do
with a wife who is so tied to her
parents and brothers and sisters
that she deserts her own family?
Debbie and I have been mar
ried seven years and have two
Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1957-03-06
By THOMAS COLLINS

How can a wife talk her hus-
band into retiring when he is
only 81 and the company won't
make him go until 65?
Many wives are asking this
question. This week one asked
it urgently.
I'D rather have a husband in
the living room making $3.50 a
month." she said, than to have
one in the cemetery making
$785. And I'm actually afraid
my husband will kill himself if
he tries to keep on until 65
How can I make him quit?"
Conceding that couple at 81
has enough money to live on
and 1888 is enough-here are
five steps a wife might consider:
l. Discuss with your husband
the basic purpose of life. There's
only one life for each of us, you
know. That purpose may differ
with different people. but it
certainly is not to work for
somebody else for $785 a month.
A man is supposed to work to
live. not the other way around.
And once he has the substance
to live on, there may be some
sort of moral obligation on him
to live. instead of work. A COM
pany has no business telling him
he can't work after IS. There's
question whether he had any
business wanting to work after
81, If it isn't necessary.
This discussion will start your
husband thinking.
2. Ask your husband where
he thinks he's going. IL he works
on until IS. If he has no crown
on his head now, it is unlikely
that he'll get one in four final
years, And he's too old to kid
himself about this.
Get Down to Money
3. Then get down to money.
"A man who has been in business
until age 81 is no fool about a
job. He knows he can't walk
out and get another one. He
knows he can't walk out and then
come back. The Job he has is
his only chance to have a good
job for the rest of his life. And
he knows a lot more about it
than his wife does. So if he is
to be talked into quitting now.
he must be assured he'll always
have enough money not to go
back begging. Can you get into
the handbook yourself. talk to
investment brokers and bankers
and help your husband decide,