Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1957-04-16
FAMILY COUNCIL
Man Stirs
Crisis in
Marriage
THE PROBLEM

THE PROBLEM
i VICTOR Al want to find
the child / left behind.
j ETHEL Al don't want his
child or any other.
j THE DETAILS
Victor A.-When / was in Eu-
rope on military duty several
years ago. I got involved with q
girl ! was not really in love with
She became pregnant. but when
IL told her ] didn't love her, she
said she didn't want to marry
me. When I left she was about
to marry another man.
I Three years ago got married
to a girl I love very much. Re-
Gently we learned she can't have
children. When we discovered
this. told her about what had
happened in the past and told
her that I would like to go back
ito Europe and trace my own
child and adopt him or her.
am sure I could do this because
this European girl is not the
motherly type and she said that
she would like the child to be
raised in America.
Instead Of being happy that
I'VE can have a child of my own
blood, my wife was furious. She
says she doesn't want this child
or any other. I think she is just
jealous because she can't have
one.
Ethel All my husband had
told me this story before we
were married. / doubt that /
would have married him. He
says it was AL nothing" but
I'm afraid ! can't look at 1t that
way.
| Before he told me this story
] was thinking about adoption
OF course. would like to have
a family and ] felt that a baby
Is a baby. no matter what Its
background. But now that
think about it. I don't feel az
though I would like to have any
child that is the product of such
a relationship. What kind OF
heredity can such a child have?
i This past has upset me so that
! do not know II ! want to 20
on with our marriage at all.
don't know whether a marriage
without children makes any
sense. I don't know whether !
can ever feel any love for Victor
again. Our religion does not
permit divorce. but I just don't
feel I want to live with him any
more. The way ! see 1t there
is nothing to hold us together.
THE COUNCILS VIEW
/ Victor and Ethel are both
operating under a serious shock
at this time and need to calm
down. All their hopes and plans
for their life together have sud-
denly been shattered and their
reactions are bitter, violent and
foolish.
Victor's attitude Is. In add.
ton. vicious. He chose the mo.
ment when his wife was suffer.
ing under a cruel blow to reveal
a story apparently aimed at fur
Ither destruction of her wounded
feelings. Ethel needed comfort
and the reinsurance that he
loves her. and he chose to taun,
her with the fact that he has q
child Of his own and to accuse
her Of jealousy. His callous atti-
tude toward her. the European
girl and the child he would now
attempt to tear from a mother
who has suffered for his" child
exceeds the bounds Of human
decency.
| Victor must. first Of all. get
over the idea that he has any
right to the child he rejected
when that child and its mother
needed him most. He needs to
learn much about love, respon-
sibility and decent, manly be-
havior and would profit by some
personal discussion with a
clergyman. When he has learned
something about these matters,
Ethel will be better able to for
give him and love him.
/ Ethel should bide her time UNI
It'll Victor can become a real hui
man being and husband. When
that happens. she will feel diff
Iferently about her marriage and
the possibility OF adopting a
child. Her religion will teach her
that she was right in the first
place-"a baby is baby" and a
new human soul. regardless of
the circumstances of Its con-
ception.
tcopyrishi 1857. General Features Corp. }
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Tomorrow: Couple weighs RESPONSE
biIh to osed mother.