St. Paul recorder. [volume] (St. Paul, Minn.) 1934-2000, 1956-09-28
THIS N THAT
BY Hazel Underu vod
Two Most Talked About Mothers


sweet little girl your son brought
home that day he asked you what
do you think Of her Nom ?" Before
you could get your breath, he
continued, you might just as well
like her for / am going 10 marry
her" you thought, how do /
know how I like her, I Just met
herr You heard yourself saying,
son, she is lovely, you are both
so young"
Why did you say that? For
years everytime something came
up you were 10 be reminded you
objected from the first because
you thought your son was too
very young 10 get married. That
was not so, your only thought
was that both of them were so
young.
You told them you hoped they
would be happy and you truly
meant II. The bride-to-be hugs you
and tells you she heard from her
fiance what a good cook you are
and she hopes you will give her
some Of your recipes. You do. She
looks in the cook book" and de-
cides your old time methods are
too much TO be bothered with. Yet
she wonders why her food doesn't
taste like yours.
They have been quite content 10
let you move yourself around and
give them your master bedroom
and do all you can to make life
pleasant for them because you do
want them TO be happy. At first
they include you in their happi-
ness, but II isn't long before they
soon let you know you are an out
slider.
Because you love your son so
much, you CLOSE your eyes to a
lot OF situations. How you used to
look forward 10 the one long drive
a week they took you on. Now
they get ready, go out the door
and sometimes do not even let you
know they are leaving.
They often speak of getting into
a home of their own. You tell them
that will be nice, but they are
perfectly welcome to live in your
home until they are able TO save
for their own home.
They decide they viii stay If you
fix your house into a duplex. They
want to have their own apartment
You are so happy to have them
close TO you that you make youi
house into a duplex. You take the
small apartment upstairs ant
they have the lovely downstairs.
The young daughter-in-law
thinks you have gone out Of vou
mind IL you think she wants you
old stuff in her house. (She and
her friends helped wear IL OUT
You get rid OF your lovely thing
one by one. Sull you say you will
not complain because the "chil
dren" are happy and you ar,
close TO them. You only see then
occasionally now. They are s,
busy downstairs with their owl
life and friends.
You decide 10 build a new If,
away from the son you adored an,
who adored you before he wa
married, You find a job baby-sit
ting for your sons friends chill
dren. You find It passes the tim
away and you do enjoy II. Yo,
also like the extra money it give
you to spend
I'm the lonely hours you wonde
how long you can stand being Il
the same house with your son, h
is a stranger to you You ponde,
Am I making a mistake by let
ting them live here free OF charge
so 10 speak, or should I ask Their
b TO pay me rent I told them whe
they moved in there would be n
rent 10 pay, I wanted them to sta
so badly I did not know / was e
ing 10 spend so much on the n
modelling My thoughts ran on IA
b into the night BY morning I ha
made up my mind to tell them
would like them to pay a lit
, rent.")
That evening I told them
, wanted to talk to them. As soon {
possible I told them I felt the
, We're able 10 pay me a sms
, amount Of rent the help with n
i up-keep Of the house. They We
0 astoundedl The cute little daugl
ter-in-law. said they were on
10 staying there because she thougl
- YOU wanted them 20 stay vii
: YOU. The son said he was sorry !
n had been so thoughteSs and
Q course he would gladly pay and I
- suggested a far larger sum that "
would have asked, Then the "sWe
little thing" told you II she vi
I going to pay that kind Of rel
n they would move and get som
= thing they liked. The son. u
y loved both his mother and h
v wife) had TO stick with his wi
d and they moved.
G They had been Ideally happy
y Mothers home, Now they we