Minneapolis spokesman. [volume] (Minneapolis, Minn.) 1934-2000, 1956-09-28
THIS N THAT
BY Hazel Underw vod
Two Most Talked About Mothers

| sweet hLtle RlFi your son brought
home that day he asked you what
DO you think OF her Nom ?" Before
you could get your breath, he
continued. you might just as well
like her for arm going 10 marry
her" You thought. how do I
know how l like her, just met
herr You heard yourself saying.
son, she is lovely. you are both
50 young"
Why did you say that7 For
years everytlme something came
up you were 10 be reminded you
objected from the first because
you thought your son was too
very young to get married. That
was not so. your only thought
was that both Of them were 80
young.
You told them you hoped they
would be happy and you truly
meant II. The bride-to-be hugs you
and tells you she heard from her
fiance what a good cook you are
and she hopes you will give her
some Of your recipes. You do. She
looks in the cook book" and de-
cides your old time methods are
too much TO be bothered with. Yet
she wonders why her food doesn't
taste like yours.
They have been quite content 10
let you move yourself around and
give them your master bedroom
and do all you can to make life
pleasant for them because you do
want them TO be happy. At first
they include you in their happi-
ness. but II isn't long before they
soon let you know you are an out
slider.
Because you love your son 40
much, you close your eyes TO a
lot Of situations. How you used 20
look forward 10 the one long drive
week they took you on. Now
they get ready, go out the door
and sometimes do not even let you
know they are leaving.
They often speak OF getting into
a home of their own. You tell them
that will be nice. but they are
perfectly welcome TO live In your
home until they are able TO save
for their own home.
They decide they will stay II you
fix your house into a duplex. They
want to have their own apartment.
You are so happy TO have them
close to you that you make your
house into duplex. You take the
small apartment upstairs and
they have the lovely downstairs.
The young daughter-in-law
thinks you have gone out Of your
mind II you think she wants your
old stuff in her house. (She and
her friends helped wear II OUT
You get rid OF your lovely things
one by one, Sun you say you win
not complain because the Chill
dren" are happy and you are
close To them. You only see them
occasionally now They are so
busy downstairs with their own
life and friends.
You decide TO build new life
away from the son YOU adored and
who adorcd you before he was
married. You find a Job baby-sit-
ting for your sons friends chill
dren, You find II passes the time
away and you do enjoy u You
also like the extra money il gives
you 10 spend.
I'm the lonely hours YOU wonder
how long you can stand being in
the same house with your son. he
IL a stranger TO YOU You ponder.
Am I making a mistake by let
ting them live here free OF charge.
So To speak. or should | ask them
20 pay me rcnt I told them when
they moved in there would be no
rent To pay, I wanted them TO stay
81 badly I did not know | was GO
ing 20 spend so much on the re-
modelling My thoughts ran on far
into the night, BY morning I had
made up my mind to tell them !
would like them TO pay little
rent
That evening told them I.
wanted to talk 20 them. As soon "a
possible I told them felt they
were able 20 pay me small
amount OF rent the help with the
up-kcep Of the house. They were
astoundcdl The cute little daugh-
ter-tn-law. said they were only
staying there because she thought
you wanted them to stay with
YOU The son said he was sorry he
had been so thouGhtlcsS and o.
course he would gladly paw and he
suggested a far larger sum that you
would have asked Then the sweet
little thing" told YOU II she was I
going 10 paw that kind % rent A..
they would move And get some |
thing they liked The son. Jhe /
loved both his mother and his I
wife' had to stick with his wife 1
and they moved {
They had been Ideally happy in 4
Mothers home Now they were P.
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