Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1956-02-02

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the age Of IL helping to take
care of the younger children,
since my mother has been busy
managing the apartment house
lin which we live.
| I took it for granted that
would never marry and that
lit was my duty to help the
younger children get the college
Education I had missed.
Now, quite unexpectedly, ] am
getting a rush act from my fam
lily. There seems to be a con-
lspiracy to make me feel that
am some sort Of criminal II
do not find a man in a hurry and
marry him. I'll admit that
often dream about men and
marriage, but I am dreadfully
afraid OF meeting men and
simply cannot picture myself
living as a mans wife.
am beginning to feel des-
iperate because my whole life Is
built around my place in this
family. which now seems deter
mined to push me out.
MARY - I am the youngest
sister and I like to have my
friends. including boyfriends
visit me at the house, but I am
terribly embarrassed because Of
my sister. They ask questions
about her, and she makes mat
tiers worse by talking sharply to
me in their presence, demanding
Ito know when / intend to go to
bed and criticizing my clothes
land manners.
Jane does things for me and
talks about helping me to go to
college. I appreciate all this. but
II can't stand her bossiness, and
II have told my parents that
may not be able to stick it out
lat home until high school grad
Iuation. unless my sister lets UP
on me. m
MOTHERJane has made
sacrifices for all Of us, but we
have let her go too far. Now
she is becoming very set in her
ways. turning a little sour and
becoming sharp with all of us.
It hurts my husband and me
terribly to see the house full Of
young boys and girls, friends of
Jour three younger children. while
Jane keeps her distance from
Everybody and talks testify to
her brothers and sister.
! have tried to entice her into
meeting a few men but she re-
acts bitterly and almost vio-
lently. She could be an attrac-
tive girl II she would dress up
and put on a smile, and our
family no longer needs the sacri-
'fices that were necessary in for
Imer years.
THE COUNCILS VIEWS
Jane feels that she is being
Icrudely attacked. She is some
what in the position OF a person
who is afraid of the water and
is being roughly pushed in.
The talk OF her meeting men
and the anxious tones in which
this has been discussed have done
much damage. Jane should be
completely relieved Of such pres
sure, at once. She should be en-
couraged to believe that she has
accomplished a great deal for her
family and that. as an adult who
has borne burdens. she has the
right to make her own decisions
without interference.
When the tensions have re-
Taxed, some may be accomplished
by persuading her to dress up a
bit whenever the younger child
rem have company. Don't propa-
gandize her about men and mar
rage. Just get her to dress her
age, really youthful %, for the
gatherings at home and for the
Office, but don't rush or oyerdo
this persuasion.
II she dresses up a bit and gets
into the mood of the home
socialS, she may overcome much
of her fear about men and mar
rage. Nature will do a great deal
if given a chance. The present
tensions have the effect Of vio-
lently crippling her natural
yearning for recognition and
love.
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