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Evening star., 1955-07-31
Go Slow on Whippings,
Welfare Official Worms

or defiant more harm than good
may be done.
! am sorry that nowhere has
Howard Whitman related pun
lishments to different periods Of
development In o child's Life. Be-
havior starts with birth and
also our efforts to influence 1t.
It is my inclination to say that
in the very early stages the par
ents' job Is to keep the child out
of trouble. and the gradual
adoption Of allowing him to take
the consequences Of his acts
comes later with his conscious
ness Of reasons.
MIR. Whitman also implies that
lack Of punishment itself ac-
counts for the dificulties Of the
individual children he describes.
but I would Judge that these
children have also lacked the
positive relationships which
should have developed In them
conscience and self control. Much
emphasis has been laid on whip
ping-for which ! cannot muster
much enthusiasm beyond saying
that administered in the heat
of the moment 1t is probably
preferable to lingering disap-
proval.
wonder whether most parents
have not been aware that when
they are most tranquil and at
peace with themselves the oc-
casions to punish are few.
Parenthood operates on the
pleasure-pain principle. too, and
for myself I can only say that
some Of the times of greatest
happiness in my life have come
to me not as anybody's expert,
but as somebody's father.
Evening star., 1955-07-31

into any aet which might reveal
them.
Parents generally are much
more grim on the subject of
spanking than children are. To
children. spanking Is simply
speaking 10 them in their nat
|ural language. In theft own play
they express themselves with
physical actions. It seems nat
|ural to them that mother and
dad should punish them in Q
language they understand. just
les mother and dad express love
for their children in physical ac-
tions such as hugging and fon-
ding.
Love Is Child's Sole Concern
The windy debates over spank
ing In the last 20 years have
produced only one absolute con-
Iclusion: That as far as the child
lis concerned it doesn't matter
whether he Is spanked or not
Iso long as he is loved.
A father in Los Angeles related
this incident:
IT went TO give my 12-year-old
boy q spanking-which he well
deserved ~ and the youngster
turned on me belligerently and
said he'd get the police to arrest
lme.
'.I told him, Son, the police
don't feed you. they don't clothe
you. they didn't bring you into
this world. and they're not going
to look after you In It, Then ]
took him by the hand and said,
Now. son. I'm going to take you
Ito the police station and Wen
Itell them what you did and that
/ was going to spank you for it
and one of US is going to get
arrested
The boy looked up at me with
lplaintive eyes and said, 'Aw. gee.
Dad. let's settle 1t right here!'"
Observation-Disclosures can be
constructive.
Distributed by The Register
and Tribune Syndtcate.l
Evening star., 1955-07-31
By john @. THEBAN

Executive Secretary, Family and Child
Services Of washineton
The very next boy who faced
the court. 4incorrigible at home,
insolent in school and generally
obnoxious may wen have been
one whipped more times than
he can count. for our courts
have many such. This is to say
at the outset that the whipped
boy is not necessarily the good
boy or even the conforming boy.
Maybe we have reason to
approach punishment gingerly
Cropping ears never made hon.
est men Of thieves. Webster calls
punishment "a penalty inflicted
on an offender as a retribution
and incidentally for reformation
and prevention" In child rear
ing should prevention be an in
Icidental2 Should not our aim be
less to control the child and
more to have him grow to con-
troll himself? He has to do this
ultimately.
Children grow up by imitation
You can rely on it. they will take
into account not what we as
parents say but what we are.
The standards of behavior we
hold to ourselves viii become
theirs. little by little. do as
say, not as I do" was ever the
mark of the phony.
What makes a child behave
well, what domesticates him?
The experts speak of the
pleasure-pain principle govern
ing behavior and the happiest
parents are those who have not
neglected the pleasure part of
it. What puts us on the rails
of good behavior and keeps us
there, man and boy, is that at
bottom we want to be accepted,
to be loved, to be like those
around us and to act like them,
and given half a chance we will.
Then comes pain. Any pun
ishment is pain and in theory
we will give up the activity
which brings it. Fine if it works,
but is Is a remedy with side
effects. To work, the child must
clearly associate the pain with
the reason for it and not with
the person who Furnishes. If 1t
leaves him withdrawn, furious,
Evening star., 1955-07-31

not alter the child's view Of
what Is cruel.
Another device of the nom
punishers Is social disapproval. "
The child Is not to be punished
by his parents. Instead, his peers
(playmates and the kids at
school will bring group pressure
to whip him into line.
DR.. Stanley E. Wimberly, pro-
Evening star., 1955-07-31
Teu for Tornado
distributed by The Register
and Tribune Syndicate
SCOTTSBLUFF, Mel

SCOTTSBLUFF, Nebr. up. -
When q tornado struck Scots
bluff, Miss Phyllis Rutland of
Harrow, England, was all alone
in the home Of T. L. Green where
she was q guest. She admitted
she had no idea what Americans
did under such circumstances so
she reacted In British fashion
and brewed q cup of tea. "It's
always the thing in a crisis" she
explained later,
Evening star., 1955-07-31
By HOWARD WHITMAN

This Is the sixth 10 o series Of II
articles by Howord Whitman, prom
inent writer on social problems. John
G. Theban, executive secretary Of
Washinston's FamiIy and Child Ser-
ice, has been asked BY The Star for
his comments on the aftieie.s He
gives them elsewhere on this pose.
have felt out-of- step with the
experts. A counselor at the
Family Service Bureau Of Chi
|cago reported, MANY times q
parent does a fine job Of disci-
|plining his child and then turns
around and undoes 1t all because
he feels guilty"
One conscientious young
mother said to me, AFTER
punish my child don't know,
something happens to me, and
II want to apologize"
She asked why.
Could it be that we have
shifted the sense Of wrong doing
from the child who commits the
wrong to the parent who pun
fishes him for it?
But child psychology is not
dead in its tracks. It has moved
on; today 1t is re-examining the
whole problem Of punishment.
1t is recognizing that while the
brutal, excessively punitive par
ent is certainly neurotic. the
parent who is utterly afraid to
punish is neurotic, too. In the
zeal to avoid corporal punish
ment" to lay a hand on
the child-such a parent may
infiict much greater pain than
he ever could with the palm Of
his hand.
What Is Cruel?
withdrawal of privilege" has
been the most popular device of
the nonpunishers. Instead OF
furnishing" the child you merely
say Johnny, just for that you
can't play baseball with the kids
ION Saturday." or "All right,
MARY, now you can't 60 to the
school party"
What makes anyone think this
lis not punishment? Viewed
Through the child's eyes 1t may
|be punishment Of the worst
sort. In his heart, Johnny may
feel. "I wish nom would just
|give me q spanking and get IT.
over with. But, gee, making me
miss the baseball game-that
Ihurts!" Withdrawal Of privi-
Ilege" may be an easy semantic
dodge for the parent, but 1t does
Evening star., 1955-07-31
CRUELTY CHARGED
AFTER So YEARS

LOS ANGELES (R.-Mrs.
Florence JOY Coleman
charged cruelty in suing her
husband Stephen Rutledge
Coleman for divorce.
She also got a temporary
restraining order Friday
which bars Mr.. Coleman
from molesting her.
The Colemans were mar
ried in Dallas, Tex. So years
ago.
Evening star., 1955-07-31
parenthood Without Hokum
Purt6 -Punshment-Why Ar We Aroid of
B

In Juvenile Court In Cleye-
land q boy Of 13 stood before
Judge Albert A. Woldman
charged with being incorrigible
ct home, insolent at school and
generally obnoxious.
II think what you need is q
good whipping" the judge COM
mented. when is the last time
your father gave you a whip
ping?"
"Oh, my father never whips
me-" the boy said. when I'm
bad he Just lectures me-"
about what?" Judge Wold-
man aked.
The boy paused, then blurted
''How should I know? I don't
listeni"
The boys father was simply
being a modern" parent. He
had read some Of the child psy-
chology Of the last 20 years and
had thrown punishment out the
window as medieval" or "a
sadistic outlet for the unre-
solved hostility of parents. "
Where punishment involved lay
ing a hand on a child he had
noted the oft-used phrase "cor-
poral punishment" and learned
to shudder at 1t. half in confu-
sion with capital punishment. y
Puzzled Parents
Now that his boy had been in
adequately brought UP at home
and had to be brought up in
court-the father was under.
standably puzzled.
We have produced a genera.
ton of puzzled parents. In Pom.
tiac. Mich, before Juvenile Court
Judge Arthur Moore q mother
dolefully related:
IT raised my child just the way
they said I should. I nevel
punished him for breaking
things-I'd just try to put thing!
out of his reach. let him do a!
he pleased and didn't say no
no. or don't, don't
But now, judge, he has turnet
out impossible to get along with
have never said mo- to him, 81
when say mo- now it doesn'
mean anything. He doesn't rec
ognize that any one has an.
rights but himself"
The woman added with a sigh
"Well, I guess I trained him tina
way"
Feel Guilty Afterward
Other parents who couldn'
resist the intuitive urge to pun
ish q child for bad behavior iav
later felt guilty about 1t. The.
Evening star., 1955-07-31

lfessor Of psychology at the Uni
Iversity of Florida. commented,
Parents who use this device
apparently do not realize that
social disapproval is the most
cruel kind of punishment. The
child is forced to take his med
licine out in public, in the form
of ridicule and ostracism. These
lare about the cruelest blows q
Evening star., 1955-07-31
READERS DISCUSS SERIES:
'OrocIes' LikeWhitmon
Hit; Fathers Spanked

that the author Is
being compensated by the word
or inch. Though his comments
on THE Great Experiment" may
be excellent and his criticism
valid. both are buried under o.
mountain of verbage. The Tues
day article care You Afraid to
Get Angry?") was reminiscent
of Sid Caeser's character, DR..
Ludwig Won Brainstorm. The
author seems to be falling into
the same bog from which he
seeks to rescue the experts.
God left the raising Of chill
dren to parents, Adam and Eve
had no social workers with
them-this the experts will no
doubt say accounts for Cain.
Be that as it may, parents are
charged with the duty of rearing
their children: this requires work
on their part and the exercise
of common sense. Further, such
training requires the giving Of
example "a hours a day.
The breakdown in parenthood
usually stems from sheer lazi-
ness and immaturity. The par
|ent finds it too much trouble
to accept the burden Of rearing
IA child so it is foisted off as
quickly as possible on the
schools. churches and police.
The total time these agencies
influence the child is but q frac-
ton Of the child's waking hours.
Further. unless the outside train
ing is vitalized by the example
of the parent the effect Of the
training is lost.
Where the parent refuses to
appreciate and understand the
situation the rearing Of a child
becomes even more onerous. A
peace at any price situation de-
7elops and the child discovers
that by merely doing the mini
mum he can obtain a reward.
The child is bribed to be good,
instead Of being punished for
being naughty. This results in
the child tyrarnizing the parents.
Parental authority is further
undermined by the theater, tele-
vision and radio. The so-called
family situation shows depict
the father as mildly idiotic,
stupid. well-meaning but futile,
totally incapable of doing any
1 thing without the aid of his all
knowing wife and children. With
the father neatly disposed of the
mother is next. Despite her
great wisdom, she Is depicted as
Ithe soft-headed and soft-heart-
ed one who can be easily cir
cumvented by her children, and
who must rely on them for ad-
vice.
The children, instead of fill
ing a subordinate position-one
of true dependence, are shown
to be the true bulwark of the
family, the real seat of author
ity. BY ridiculing the parents
these so-called family programs
do more damage to parental au-
thority than the comic books.
| BY and large. the rearing OF
a child is a common-sense prop
osition. Psychiatrists and psy-
BIOLOGISTS have their place, but
If common n-sense is used their
services will be rarely required.
l Children must be treated as
children. The Savior gave such
example Himself. When Jesus
was found in the temple by
Mary and Joseph. the Bible tells
us, HE went down to Jerusalem
with them and was subject tc
them"
Parent
Evening star., 1955-07-31

Lear OlT. ....
have Just read Michael Mum
ley's comments on the father
hood article by Howard Whit
man and would like to ask Mr..
Munley this question: Who took
fatherhood away from the faith
ers except the fathers them
selves?
When the fathers would rather
spend their days on days off In
a tavern or club than spend 1t
getting to know their children
and being companion to them,
then who is at fault for their
offspring not knowing their
father?
Who teaches them wood lore,
fishing, hunting or the games of
sport? From my own expert
ence it's the few, and I do mean
few, who give their time 10
Scouts and other organizations
that give the city boy especially
the experience of these things
that he would never get other
wise.
My grippe is this. If anyone
took fatherhood away from the
fathers Of this country, it was
the father and he alone.
Sincerely,
A Reader.
P.s.
Ny suggestion is this: How
about Dad spending a little time
with his kids.
He might know their thoughts
and designs and be able to lend
a guiding hand when they need
1t. and believe me they need 1t.
To the Editor:
The current series of articles
entitled "Parenthood Without
Hokum" gives one the distinct
Evening star., 1955-07-31

The Star has invited Its
readers to air their pietDs
agreeing or disGcreein0 Nth
HotDGrd Whitnsan's articles on
"Parenthood Without Hokun,." ;"
address your letter to Parent
hood Editor. The Star. Folloar-
ting are excerpts from letters
received::
Dear Sir:
Since time began. the human
race has turned to witch-do doctors,
oracles and soothsayers for ad-
vice on how to live.
Today the process Of think
ing is just as painful as it was
for our ancestors in the forests
Of old and we turn to psychia-
trists, psychologists. astrologers
and others for advice rather than
to our own instincts and COM
mon sense.
Every PTA program has its
psychiatrist with his lecture tell
ing parents how to raise their
children. Every woman's maya.
zine has its articles on how to
get along with your husband by
some eminent M. D. or Phi. D.
We will never truly emerge
from the Dark Ages until we
learn to think for ourselves and
take articles like Howard Whit
mans with a grain Of salt. Time
and time again, false prophets
have led us up blind alleys to
admit, years later, that they
may have been wrong.
These latter-day oracles
haven't penetrated the mysterie.
of life much deeper than yoy
and I. The words they utter dt
not come directly from God, Sc
although we may read their ar.
tic1es and hear their speeche!
with an open mind, let's ado
"Oh YEAH" to the closing para
graph.
r. l. C.
Evening star., 1955-11-16
Colts Owner
Would Like to
Buy Orioles

BALTIMORE, Nov. is ca
Carroll Rosenblocfa, prineipal
owner Of the Baltimore Colts, said
today he Is definitely Interested
Ia buying controlling interest II
the Baltimore Orioles.
II the present owners decide
TO make D change, the board
chairman Of the football cluh
said. "and the opportunity pre-
|sents itself for one naan to ptr.
chase controlling interest III the
Orioles. ! am dafinitely inter-
Iested.
Rosenbloom said he already ha.
some stock In the Circles, but ths
amount 'sis NOS very large and /
have no voice In the clubs oper.
|ations.n =
= have been approached many
times III the last six OF sever
months about investing more
heavily In the Orioles, " the New
York clothing lnanufacturer said
|-ai1d within the last couple 81
days I was approached BY some.
|one Of authority with the Orioles
q told him ] would Be interested
only 4 ! could gain complete
|control."
a turnover In the top echeior
|of the American League clubs
management already Is ID prog.
res. Clarlence w. Miles, presi.
dent, and Secretary-Treasur
Clyde X Morris have resigned
effective Friday.
Evening star., 1955-11-16
YOU BE THE
QUAR- ERBACK
By ygARREN GAER
Head YoothniI Coach. Drake unissrsi

Head xoolhnu Coach. Drake unisersity
Denver has the ban oh the
Wyoming 21-yard line, third
down and Bix after b steady
advance down the field follow
ting the initial kickoH.
Denver has gained ground with
Ills split r tlinenlen split apart,
iquarterhack runs parallel II
lscrimmage linel. with the full
back power play. quick openers,
and the quarterback option
ltback pitches out wide Il end
Icharges).
Now on first down, you. . line
hacker for wyoming. have made
1.-TWO tackles to hold the option
play to two yards and the full
back power play 10 two more
Your team Is playing 3 6-2ra-l
defense tsix iinernell. two line
hackers. two halfbacks, gafety1,
How should you play On tne next
DOWN
Rate these caoises !. z. ) and
III:
with the defensive guard 81
lyosir side, charge IA 4 looping
manner.
/ Expecting = pas. cover ths
defensive end on your side.
Loosen up i bit, beIng pre-
pared to defend aEafnst ! shcri
pass over the line cr - the fiai
liarea Just over serinnage llns
lto sitiel.
CO ID quickly to stop line play.
AnstDer on pn1e Gil
Evening star., 1955-11-16
LANDSLIDE VOTES FOR BOTH
Banks and koIine Win
SopI1 of ear Honors

NEW YORK. Nov. 10 Up,
Ernie banks. VINO lit more home
runs III one season than any
other shortstop In the history
lof baseball. was named the Ma
ltionai Leagues bophomore-of-
the-year today Ii j virtually
Unanimous vote bg members oi
the Baseball Writer'S Associa-
ltion.
The lean, wiry infieider Of the
Chicago Cubs received al bui
three cf the votes Of the 50
writer's who participated in the
annual Associated Press poll
Hank Aaron, Milwaukee's young
Ionffleld star, attracted two votes
and Sam tTuot thpick) Jones
Iflrehall pitcher of the Cubs. col
Ione.
Banks thus joins AL Kaline
the spectacular outfieider of the
Detroit Tigers, who won the
sophomore honors in the Amer
Iican League.
The 90 20-yeAr-old Kaiine,
youngest batting champion since
ny Cobb led the American
League III 1907. made 1t mo con-
test In his circuit. OF the %
major league writer's who cast
ballots. 81 voted for the Balti-
more boy who signed with the
Tigers for q $3S.00O bonus fol-
lowing his graduation from high
school.
Kaline led both majors with
his $40 batting average and was
the only major Lacquer 70 collect
200 hits. He crashed III home
runs and batted In I02 runs.
Four other American League
second year players received
mention. Ray Narleski, Cieye-
lands right handed buiipen ace,
received three votes, First Base
man vic Power OF Kansas CITY
and Right-liander Frank Sulli-
Evening star., 1955-11-16

van Of Boston got two each. and
Inieider Jim Finigan Of Kansas
City got one.
Banks not only was the TOP
sophomore Ii the league. but the
best shortstop In the business
last season. A graceful, flowing
fielder with . Wide range. strong
arm and good speed. the 24-year-
old native of Dallas, Tex. devei-
oped into an outstanding sIugger
despite his fraii-l looking appear
aIlce.
The 175-pounder set q new
record for sllortstops when he
See BASEBALL, Parge C-5
Evening star., 1955-11-16
|BreedersStakes
Heads PimIicO
Opening Gard
| Betting at Laurel
| Up 23.7 Per Cent
As Meeting Closes
By JOSEPH B. KELLY
star Racins Editor

BALTIMORE, Nov. i6Pim-
|lico opens the final phase Of the
Maryland fan racing season this
afternoon with q well-balanced
program topped By the $500
breeders Stakes which drew
eight Maryland -hred 2-year-olds,
The Maryland Jockey Club. as
signed what are usually termed
lBowie's traditional dates an-
Iticipates q record breaking
injecting, operating free Of New
Jersey and New York coTnpeti-
Ition. The session continues
Through Saturday, December 3.
with post time daily at ] pm.
Meanwhile. Laurel completed
Its highly successful l5-day fan
Injecting yesterday with q 81, ,l08,-
l927 daily betting average and
total wagering Of $I6,633 ,905.
which represented q 23.7 per
lcent increase over. last falls
meeting. The attendance for the
lis programs totaled 2lB.292. an
average Of lA,633.
Eastgate. Calumet Farms
promising 2-year-old who raced
Ito his nrst stakes victory In yes
Iterday's SIS. 900 added Spalding
Lowe Jenkins raised his stock
las q Kentucky Derby contender
lhy his splendid performance un-
der Jockey Willie Hartack.
The son Of Bull Lea and Raida
developed slowly BY Trainer
Jimmy Jones. Is scheduled to ap-
pear again Saturday Id the Pian-
ihco Futurity and probably viii
Ihe aided by his stablemate
Liberty Sun. d colt Nv sun Again
land Liberty Lady. Earlier tfis
week, Liberty Sun demonstrated
his fitness by working q mile al
Pimlico In l.417s.
II the weather does not be-
come too miserable ID cold rair
has been forecast for today--the
predictions on new attendance
land betting marks for Pinlicc
might be realized with some oi
the Nations better known stables
competing IN four stakes. includ-
Iing the famed $4,000 Pimiicc
special.
| Only yesteday, Louis Pondfield
IPimlico executive director. an
Inounced that Prendase. the Ven.
lezuelan horse who missed win-
lining L.aureiss washington. b. C.,
Inter tioual by 8 head last Fri
day, had accepted an invitation
for the Pirnlico Special to be run
lon Saturday. November 26. How
lever the international winner, q
EChanla, who also was givena bid
| for the Special, was scheduled Il
lfiy to Venezuela today.
The Special Is lining IN As quitt
ID race with Social Outcast, sailor
See PIMLICO. Pags c.
Evening star., 1955-11-16
Orange Bowl Tickets
Be Scarce | Here
Council Meeting
I onorroW to Set
Distribution Plan
By MERRELL WHITTLEsEY

BY MERRELL WHITTLESEY
The policy for distribution Of
Afaryland,s Orange Bowl tickets
IwiIl not be established until the
athletic Council meets tomorrow
with Dr., Wilson H. Elkins. presi-
ldent Of the university. but all
ready 1t Is obvious there win not
lbe any public sale Of the TerpS'
allotment of 12.I29 tickets.
Requests from Maryland's
1000 students, 5000 season
ticket holders, the faculty and
1.-THE i,40O that go to the other
lseven members of the Atlantic
Coast Conference win more than
leat up the Terps' share. The
other ACC members get 200
tickets each.
Maryland officially was named
1.-THE Aces most representative
team. shortly after noon yester.
day In q unanimous vote Of the
feight Faculty Chairmen Of Ath-
lietics. Acceptance was obvious,
iinasmuch as Dean Geary r.
kEppley Of Maryland cast one Of
1.-THE votes.
Knew Bid Was Theirs
/ Most Of the Maryland football
players still were eating lunch at
1.-The training table when the an
InouncenlenE was made from
lGreenshoro. N. c.. by Commis-
Isioner Jim Weaver. But 1t was
lso obvious that most of the play
Iers continued eating or talking
and didn't even look up.
1 They knew after their ASIA
triumph over Clemson last Sat-
Iurday that the bid was theirs.
lat the afternoon practice they
managed to raise q few cheers
lfor the photographers.
/ C1ach Jim Tatum hoped to
withhold the officaiI announce
iment until after Saturdays game
with George Washington at Byrd
stadium. But Maryland was such
ian obvious choice that Commits
lsioner Weaver was forced to take
ia ballot.
i The fact that Maryland al-
ilready has been named win give
,IGW added incentive for an up
lset, but TatuIn was encouraged
when squad members talked
more about the game with the
lColonials than the January 2
date with Oklahoma.
\ Taturn has q speaking engage
See MARYLAND. Page C-3
: - f. Fl