Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1954-08-03
Problems Todoy
SWeetIneorts
Find SoIoce
In I rust
By Muriel Nissen

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DEAR MISS NISSEN: You Of
ten advise young lovers to date
others when they are lonely.
However. my girl friend and
have found such contentnnent in
our love that we have no wish
to date any one else. Must we
put up with the consequences of
loneliness brought on by being
so far apart? I'm in the Army
and won't be home until Oc-
tober. We are in our late teens.
Ak.
ANSWER: Where an attach
ment is as strong as the one be-
tween you and your sweetheart,
it certainly would be foolish to
advise outside dating. You are
both much happier, even in your
loneliness. with the mutual con-
fldence in each others loyalty.
Your girl friend could somewhat
assuage her loneliness by work.
ing for the Red Cross, or some
other organization helping serv-
icemen. For you, of course,
there's not much choice of vol
unteer work; Uncle Sam has
your time quite well scheduled.
Just put all your efforts into
being the best possible soldier,
and getting as much schooling as
you can while in the service.
Best Of luck to you both.
DEAR MISS NISSEN: NV sis.
ter, her husband and I are Civ
ing q present to a relative. How
many people should pay for it
tmy sister doesn't work., and
how many names should be on
it? My sister says the expense
should be divided three ways, I
Cnlnk Two. Mrs. j.
ANSWER: First Of all, II this
joint present is causing any dis
sention. it would be better for
separate gifts to be sent. Accord.
ing to the arrangement you sug-
geSt, it would seem to me most
fair to put all three names on
the card. but divide the expense
two ways-after all, it's coming
from two households, not three.
DEAR MISS NISSEN: I re-
Gently met q girl who is is. She
likes me a lot, and ! like her.
However, as I'm 81 she thinks
the difference in our ages would
be a drawback. To tell the truth.
don't act as old. as am and
don't look it, either.
ANSWER: Wouldn't it be a
good idea, Roy to learn to act
your age? Being 81 but acting
younger is nothing to boast of.
The girl is too young for you,
and I think miss closer to your
age would be better company.
DEAR MISS NISSEN: I had
been happily married for five
years until I started having an
affair with my boss, who is also
married. When my mother-in-
law found it out, she threatened
to have me declared an unfit
mother and have my small son
taken away from me. Now my
husband is getting suspicious,
too. What should ! do?
| ~ B, e.
ANSWER: Try to find your
way back to self-respect, obvi-
ously. Since it is fairly certain.
however, that you have no in
tention of doing so, you might
as well let matters take natural
course. This is for your husband
to discover your infidelity, per-
hapS getting divorce and being
awarded custody of your son.
THEN-just watch Mr.. Boss do
a quick getaway from the whole
trouble. The progress of affairs
such as this is standardized.
DEAR MISS NISSEN: I am II
and desperately in love with a
soldier, who is 81. We would be
very happy except for my in
tended'S sisters-in-law. They
are always trying to break us up.
Both are trying to come between
me and my sweetheart. l don't
know whether to break our en-
gagement or not.
/ DONNA M.
ANSWER: You have an ado
lescent persecution complex,
Donna. 1t doesn't seem possible
that a whole family, plus their
friends, should try so zealously
to break up a youthful romance,
unless there's more to the story
than appeared in your letter.
Stop imagining things.
Write MURIEL NISSEN for
free ieafet Dill. "Onr Fine
/ Teen-GgerS." In all cases, be
sure to tncloSe a stamped. SELF
addressed envelope and SEND
request to her, care OF the
Women's Department. The
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