Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1954-06-15
Problems Todoy
Husbands
Swoyed
By MurieI Nissen

DEAR MISS N1SSEN: Due
TO his mothers death, my hus-
band was brought up by an older
lister. He loves her very much.
rs he should. but since our mar
tiage. II years ago. he has never
been able to make a major
decision for himself. Any plans
We make must be put before my
Sister-in-law and her father for
approval. We have our own buSi-
hess, which was largely financed
by my husbands family and,
though I have worked hard to
help build it, know actually very
little about the financial stand
ing. prospects etc.
+. My sister-in-law handles all
these details. I can't even draw
money for current expenses
without her authorization. With
her. the business comes first, so
I get very little money for
necessities, much less for cloth
ing and amusementS. We have
four children, so you can readily
see that running the budget is
not easy. If I say anything to my
husband he says it isn't fair to
put him in the middle. I think
that he, too, is a bit resentful
of the way his sister has taken
things over, though he won't
admit it. BESSIE K.
/. ANSWER: There is a happy
medium between being a Milque-
toast type and a tyrant; If you
show your husband tactfully how
to find it, he could work things
out quite nicely. 1t should be up
to your husband-not his sister
to approve any money you need
from the business. If conditions
Warrant, you are certainly entl-
tiled to enough to cover expenses.
/! Your sister-in-law. as major
financial hacker of the firm. is
not overstepping bounds in ex-
:pecting to know all details OF the
business, and in assisting in It's
management. She has an invest
sment to protect. and II she's
sdoing an adequate job OF it you
shave no grounds for complaint.
However, your husband should
mot permit her. or his father. to
ignore the fact that the project
Us his idea. that he is its guiding
.spirit, and expects to maintain
his place at the helm under any
circumstances. There's no reason
why a Qualification of this situa-
!tion should involve difficulties
with his family. A business prop
.osition should be handled as
such; feminine tears. petty jeal-
.ousies, or self-importance have no
place in the picture. If either you
ior your sister-in-law bring per-
.sonal feelings into focus. you're
both wrong. Your husband and
his sister should work together in
"a businesslike manner. You
should be well aware OF the
istanding of the company, but 1t
would be far better if you did
not interfere in the actual con-
duct of the firm. Keep to the
.sidelines, but make sure the
money due you is forthcoming.
! DEAR MISS NISSEN: I have
been going steady for elgnt
months with a boy my age-l7.
Lately, however. he's been paying
quite a bit of attention to an
attractive junior who is quite
wealthy. I think the romance is
:being encouraged by his mother.
L. K.
: ANSWER: You may be blam-
ing the boys mother for some
thing that isn't her fault. Your
friend may be sincerely inter-
'ested in the other girl, he may
lust like her casually, or you may
be imagining the whole thing.
WHY not ask him, in a tactful
way, whether he prefers her to
YOU, so that you may go back on
the available" list if his attec-
tions are really being directed
elsewhere?
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