Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1954-02-07
7 cen Etiquette
Getting to
Know Boys

By Kite Turmoil

There is a boy at our school
I want to know. says Laura Ann.
He seems to smile at me, some
times. But I doubt if he really
knows I exist. How can I make
him pay particular attention."
II am new here" says Tom.
How can I get girls to notice
me?"
For boys, girls this can be a
big problem" For your solu-
ton, here's the size-up from
high school students who have
jumped "first-date" hurdles,
breezed on to high-date rating,
with many, or one well-chosen
steady"
Girl. don't pay particular at
tention to any boy until he
shows some interest.
Be at ease. friendly. Assume
the boy might be more shy.
Chances are he is in early
teens).
Don't overdo the date-effort
until he gets a chance to pay
some attention." his way, quiet
as that might be.
Boy, by tradition, you're to
make the first move to show you
want to know a girl.
Do not hesitate to give the
date-bid that's a compliment to
any girl!
How do you get to the dis
tant date" with one you don't
know-really-yet?
Find ways to pause, talk. by
chance. on impulse, whenever
you happen to meet. After class.
in the corridor. three deep at
the water-fountain. in the slow
cafeteria line. Start with Hi"
or How goes it," or comment
on the topic-of-the-day, the
exam. the basketball game, the
school salvage drive.
AS talk or time goes on, real
talk about mutual interests can
develop from chit-chat about
homework, class elections, as
sembly programs. news-flashes
from your daily or school news
paper. All this leads to CONVEX
sation Of solid interest to be
continued first date. you hope!
To meet girls. boys worth
knowing the proper way" 60
where boys. girls are apt to be.
Find out what is offered in
social events for students at
noon. after school. In many
schools, there are noon dances.
record listening sessions. week
end club events and after-game
doings for mixed groups. Some
thing like that could be spon-
sored by your school or club
if you ask for it!
Be at your best In activities
you like. That's the best way
to attract attention. Be on the
go for group-activity to develop
the social skills that make it
easy to meet and attract dates.
friends! Youth studies at the
University of Chicago and else
where, summed by DR.. Evelyn
Mills Duvall show: youngsters
who date early land easily are
apt to have more social skills
and be better adjusted"
To prepare for early dating.
lasting popularity. enduring
friendships. seek your kind!
Join the school club, church.
community groups to draw the
type you want to know and date.
K. E, Barnhart. CALIFORNIA;
professor of sociology. says:
The idea that opposites at
tract is a dangerous fallacy. 1t
is better to prefer realism to
romance and look for these six
things in common: Recreation,
race. nationality. age. religion.
philosophy way of life). The
more of this you can share. the
better your chances for getting
to know the girl or boy right
for you.
What if you don't get to date
the too-distant date? Life can
still be full" says Svend Riemer.
human-relations advisor. Don't
be bound to one remote loyalty
to which you owe nothing, yet.
Find something else you can get
excited about. Not man or
woman necessarily. Go on to
sports. hobbies, clubs, stag or
doe parties. You might even
try studying just for the devil
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