Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1953-12-29
Problems Today
Bored Wife
Feeds Vanity
Via Affair
By Muriel Nissen

DEAR MISS NISSEN: After Is
years Of marriage, I can't say
that I'm happy woman. My
husband is a good man, but not
the attentive kind and he doesn't
give me the companionship I
crave. For the past three years
I've been going with another
man, married also. who is much
to my liking. He says he loves
me and is just staying with his
wife for the sake of their child.
The only doubt I have about
him is that he often makes
date with me. then breaks it. and
gives as an excuse that his wife
won't let him out. Is that possible
in the case of a grown man? l
think he should rather be with
me than with her. I know I'm
wrong in loving a married man,
but it can't be helped. I'd prefer
not to have this printed since
I'm sure every one will recog-
nize it.
THELMA.
ANSWER: Let's work back
wards! You don't want your
problem printed, yet you failed
to give me a complete address for
a reply. AS for the problem being
recognized, practically every one
who reads it will know somebody
it fits. Though I've changed the
name, and times, it will fit a
great many persons. It's amazing
how many women, and Occa-
sionally men. can shrug off adul-
terry with the simple comment
that 1T can't be helped" or Il
love him and can't give him up"
ETC., ad infinitum and ad nau-
scum. Some cases are complex,
with inducements that really do
constitute acute problems, but
others, like yours, are deplorably
simple. Your husband is a good
man, offering love and security
to the best of his ability. The
other wife concerned is likewise
good person, doing her level
best to maintain a home for her
children and to keep their father
on a reasonably straight path.
Your reason for trying to break
up both homes is boredom. Does
that sound like adequate justifi-
cation? You aren't sufficiently
interested in your own home, or
are too lazy to do anything in it.
to have it provide any sort of
fulflllment for you. It's so much
easier to satiate your vanity, love
of pleasure. and desire for con-
quest. There isn't one single
mitigating circumstance in your
case. Your only solution is to
break with the man and set
about being a decent wife. Will
you do it? I doubt very much
that you will.
DEAR MISS NISSEN: I have
been writing to a sailor for the
past year. He is 10, I am Is. I
have never met him, but am told
he's married. Should I believe
the people who told me. or ask
him? VERA S.
ANSWER: The fair thT.lg
would be to ask the boy. While
it's foolish to put stock in stray
gossip. it's equally unwise to be
too trusting concerning a CORE
Spondent whom you have not met
in person
DEAR MISS NISSEN: Since
| we moved to this town three
years ago, my husband and I
have been friends with another
couple. Now I'm becoming aware
of the fact that my husba nd and
the other wife are more than
friendly. Is there any way can
break it up before the matter
becomes SeriouS2
ANSWER: Talk the matter
over with the other husband.
Perhaps. he. too. has seen the
portentous signs and is as anx-
ious as you to avert trouble.
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