Evening star., 1953-07-10
Problems
Today
Teen-Age Friends
Raid Her Kitchen,
Girl Complains
By MurieI Nissen

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By MurieI Nissen
NEAR MISS NISSEN: When !
ever my boy friend comes over
he brings at least one of his
friends. I don't object to that, /
but they always get into the
food. Gordon says that when
ever his sister has friends over.
she fixes food for them. ! don't
intend to be their slave, and be-
sides. 1 do get heck for it. How
can I make them stay out OF
the kitchen?
BABs.
ANSWER: Your friends are !
certainly inconsiderate young
sters. Even the most generous
hostess has reasonable objec-
tionS to her young guests swarm
ing all over the kitchen, devour-
ing whatever is in sight. It's
rather diSconcerting to plan a
meal, then discover that it's
makings have fallen prey to a
hungry wolf pack. Instead OF
giving you heck for your friends !
behavior, Nom should give a
little help. Certain foods should
be kept in the house for the re-
freshment of the young, and a
definite mo Snacks" sign put on
everything else. Unless your
friends are interested in you for
food alone, they'll obey the re-
strictions and continue to come
around.
DEAR MISS NISSEN: My 25-
year-old sister has never been
married. yet she is wasting her
life away on a divorced man.
Religion prevents their marrying.
She realizes this. but insists he
is the only man she'll ever love,
and she'd rather be friends with
him than married to anyone else.
I try 70 tell her he is a selfish
person as he realizes the situa-
tion yet prevents her from going
out with other fellows. If he
liked her so much, he'd be look
ing out for her happiness.
Should she go on seeing him or
drop him completely?
MISS r. M.
ANSWER: Isn't it a bit foolish
for you and I to try to decide
your sisters future? She is most
definitely Of an age where she
should know her own mind. and
make her own decisions. Happi-
ness in friendship may be
enough for your sister. and it
certainly is preferable to mar
riage with someone she doesn't
love. Don't put all the blame on
the man, either. Your sister is
perfectly free to date other men
If she wants to: the fact that she
doesn't is a clear indication Of
her choice. Leave her alone and
let hel work out her own destiny.
DEAR MISS NISSEN: I am
engaged to man in the service,
but plan to break the engage
ment when he comes home,
which will be in a few weeks.
I am in love with someone else,
and he thinks we should stop
seeing each other until my en-
aagement is broken I don't want
to date anyone else, but I don't
want to sit home every night.
r. P.
ANSWER. With your consCi-
ence for company, I don't won-
der you can't face an evening
alone. You can't have much
character if your self respect,
and the respect of others, isn't
worth few datelesS weeks. Your
only concern seems to be your
own need for entertainment. The
boy in the service is lucky to
be rid of so Anticipated a girl;
your next fiance isn't so for
tunate.
Muriel NiSSen IDill reply to
all readers 1Dho ask for her
help. Write for free le1tlet
D-14. "Are You Sure It's LoUe?"
In all cases. be sure to enclose
an addressed, stamped envelope
and send request to her, in care
OF the Woman'S Dept. The
EUenin0 Star, Washington 4,
DC.