Evening star., 1953-07-23
Problems
Today
Girl Resembles
Former Flame
Of Boyfriend
BY MurieI Nissen

DEAR MISS NISSEN: Four
years ago. while taking part in
a local minstrel show. I met Rob.
at that time a junior in high
school, and keeping steady COM
pany. After that he was always
pleasant to me when we met, and
I knew I liked him very much.
went with other boys. but not
steady. Last fall Rob's girl
entered a convent. Two months
later he called me for q date, and
since then we've been going dane
ing every Saturday night.
I still dated with other boys
occasionally. though I don't any
longer. Now for what bothers
me: someone mentioned recently
that I bore a striking resemblance
to his former girl friend, and I
realize that it's true.
Rob has now gone into service,
and asked me to wait until he
comes back. I know love him,
but doubt that he loves me as
much as I would like him to. I
am afraid that what attracted
him to me was only my re-
Semblance to the other girl. I
am II, incidentally.
LAURA c.
ANSWER: Don't let the mat
ter of resemblance worry you.
It's possible that your likeness
to Rob's former sweetheart was
the initial attraction, but prob
ably he isn't even aware of it.
Whatever brought you together
in the first place, whether a
superficial resemblance or a
mutual discovery Of similar in
terests, it is the relationship re-
sulting from the first date that
is now the important factor. You
have unusual intelligence and
common sense for g. 17-year-old
and. I'm quite sure, a personality
to match. There seems no reason
to doubt that you can hold Rob
with your own appeal, and are
not dependent on the fact that
you may bring back memories
of some one else.
There is, however, one point
on which you should be warned.
It's quite possible that Rob,s
former steady may decide after
due deliberation that her voca-
ton doesn't lie in religious life.
OF course, if this possibility
should occur, and you have won
Rob's heart by then, you have
nothing to worry about, but it's
a good idea to be prepared for
the eventuality of his return to
her.
DEAR MISS NISSEN: I would
like to make a trip to Europe
this fall. and since live in a
small MidweStern town, have
no idea how to go about making
plans. I would greatly appre-
ciate any help you could give me
on making reservations, and
what sort of accommodations
I would have on the ship.
MRS. E. w.
ANSWER: Put all your prob
lens in the hands of a reliable
travel agency, and your troubles
are over. If you don't know Of
an agency, have your local bank
recommend one. Your reServa-
tions will be made for the entire
trip, your itinerary planned, in
accordance with your desires, and
you will be saved much time,
money and annoyance.
DEAR MISS NISSEN: What
should do about in-laws who
continually tease me? I can
take teasing to a certain extent.
but it finally becomes annoying.
My husband doesn't realize how
hurt I am at some Of the things
his folks say to me. Aside from
this difficulty, I am a very
happy woman.
BERNICE r.
ANSWER: Bear in mind that
people usually only tease those
they like. Being able to take q
certain amount Of kidding is q
sign of good sportsmanship, but
I agree with you, it can be over
done. You are probably overly
sensitive anyway, and just don't
appreciate the brand of humor
of your in-laws. Try to convince
your husband how you feel, and
see If he won't speak to his
folks about 1t. OF course, the
best thing would be for you to
learn to accept the joshing. but
if it upsets you too much. make
an effort to have them tone it