Evening star., 1953-06-26
Problems
Today
Attractive Woman
With Good Job
Ponders MARRIAGE
THE EVENING STAR
Washington, D. G.
FRIDAY. JUNE 26, 1853
By Muriel Nissen

By Muriel Nissen
DEAR MISS NISSEN: I'm an
unmarried lady of SO, good look
ing, earning a good salary and
with, of course, a problem. In
the past I have had my share
of dates, and marriage proposals,
none of which interested me
enough. Now I find my circle
of potential daters dwindling.
leaving me with many lonesome
evenings. I have one friend my
own age, and though I enjoy his
company, I'm not sure love
him. honestly believe his COM
panionship is the important fac
tor to me. He is very good COM
pany and we enjoy the same
things. We have discussed mar
riage, but he refuses to consider
living with my, parents, which
we would have to do, and don't |
think he's the responsible do
mestic type. He likes to go
where he wishes, when he wishes.
Though I don't think I'd like to |
marry him, do hate the thought |
of giving up his friendship. He,
however, won't continue seeing |
me unless I agree to marriage on
his terms Please don't say I'm
silly because to me this situation
is serious. D. F.
ANSWER: Contrary to con-
sidering you silly, I think you
are very wise and sensible. Too
many unhappy marriages result
from need for companionShip
that isn't satisfied after the we'd
ding. Men who insist that
marriage be on their terms are
certainly exhibiting selfishneSs
that isn't likely to disappear
when they become husbands.
Life must continue on their
terms-or else! When a woman
has been independent all her
life, is capable of earning a good
salary, and accustomed to
spending it as she pleases,
marriage in the form of fettered
slavery is not alluring. There
are many things worse than
loneliness, and miserable
married life is one of them.
Though your present existence
is not ideal, don't exchange it
for one that will be intolerable.
If the man doesn't care enough
about you to continue seeing
you, or to court you on con-
ventional grounds, you are really
better off without him.
DEAR MISS NISSEN: The
boys in my class (high-school
freshman) are all very nice and
at one time or another I have
tried to get almost all of them
to be my boy friend. but no luck!
! know I'm as pretty as the other
girls, my figure is good, and I'm
not overweight. Please help me.
I'm desperate. HOLLY C. ],
ANSWER: Trouble is, Holly,
you're too desperate! The fact
probably radiates from you and
Is more likely to scare, boys
away than all the things about
which ads warn you. Do try
to be a bit more subtle in your
approach. The lesson isn't easy
to learn at 13, but upon it de-
pends your social future.
DEAR MISS NISSEN: I'm a
girl of II with a sweetheart in
the Navy. He says he writes to me
every chance he gets, but can't
mail the letters, sometimes for
weeks. It's been two months since
I heard from him now, and I
wonder if he is really thinking
of me and writing. B. v.
ANSWER: Uncle Sam keeps
his boys pretty busy, and their
girl friends must excuse them if
they can't devote as much time
to letter-writing as the young
ladies would like. The middle
of the ocean is sadly devoid of
mail boxes, and since you admit
that you do receive mail in
punches from your sailor, I see
no reason why you should doubt
his word about writing. Girls who
select servicemen for sweet
hearts need more patience and
understanding than the girls who
have their boy friends at home;
instead, you seem to have less
patience and practically no faith.
Either improve your moral and
emotional stamina, or get beau
who is more available.
Muriel NiSSen ,UiH reply to all
readers 1Uho ask her help.
Write for free leafet D-1S
"The Way to a Boys Heart"
In all cases, be sure to inclose
an addressed, stamped envelope
and send request to her, clio
The Won1an's Dept, The EUe-
ming Star, Washington 4, D. c.