Evening star., 1953-06-19
Problems
Today
15-Yeur-Old Girl
'Luments' Beou's
Reticent HIS
By MurieI Nissen

DEAR MISS NISSEN-I am
very much interested in a boy
of IS who is friendly to me in
school. However. when I meet
him outside all he'll say is "Hi!'
! know he doesn't have another
girl, and I'd like to encourage
him. ALICE.
ANSWER - Fifteen-year-old
boys are difficult to interest
sometimes. They don't like to
show too much fondneSs for any
particular girl because they know
it will lead to kidding from the
other boys. If you like the lad,
bide your time until he's bit
older, and has acquired a little
more social consciousness.
DEAR MISS NISSEN-Three
years ago, when was Is, my
parents brought me to this
country. AS is the custom in
our native land, they had a hus-
band selected for me, but since
he was about 40 I didn't care
much for him. Actually. am
interested in a boy of my own
nationality who is closer to my
age. Should I tell my parents
that I intend to pick my own
husband? F. O.
ANSWER: Since your family
has become part of our own great
land, they must learn to adopt
it's customs. which include the
privilege of young people to
choose their own mates. Their
choice may not always be wise,
but, at least, the freedom to make
1t belongs to them.
DEAR MISS NISSEN: The boy
I like is %, five years older than
I. He has dated me a couple of
times. but I think the reason he
doesn't take me out more often
is that he has home responsible
tiles, consequently little money to
spend. How can I show him that
what he spends on me isn't i'm
portant; it's being with him that
matters.
ANSWER: It's up to you to
suggest inexpensive pleasures.
You might have him to your
house occasionally. making the
evening entertaining with rec
ords, new dance steps, perhaps a
showing of home movies, and
ending up with simple refresh
ments. Consult your local paper
for news Of happenings around
town that will provide low-cost
amusement. Don't let the boy
get into the habit of never. spend
ing money on you, though. But
don't make your concern with his
finances too obvious. He prob
ably has pride, too.
DEAR MISS NISSEN: I have
been going with a very nice man
for 16 months. I'm "a and he's
80. Though he seems to like
me, he has mentioned, casually,
that he never intends to marry.
Do you think, he'll change his
mind? HELENE F.
ANSWER: Not if you continue
your present rate of dating. He
enjoys your companionship and
hospitality but is quite willing
to let things remain there. II
you try going out with other
men for a while. he may realize
how much your loss would mean
to him, and perhaps offer the
security of a wedding band.
DEAR MISS NISSEN: I am
"a years old and have been di-
vorced for a year. ! have been
going out with a divorced woman
slightly younger. We both claim
to be just good friends. She
claims she doesn't want to go
out with me. yet she plans way
ahead for things we are to do
together. She has met my fam
lily, and is quite chummy with
my mother. Yet, in spite of all
her apparent interest in me. she
says we are seeing too much Of
each other. I have a small son,
whose custody I shall soon have
since my ex-wife doesn't want
him. The girl is very fond Of
the boy and thinks it splendid
that I am going to have him.
I would like to marry her. yet
wonder if she would accept me.
T. L.
ANSWER: For goodness sake,
stop worrying. All the young lady
is waiting for is a proposal. Her
actions belle her words to such
an extent that they have no
other Interpretation than ex-
treme interest in you and your
welfare.
Muriel NiSSen tDiH reply to
all readers iDho ask for help.
Write for free leGfet DIS,
"What Age for Dating?" In all
cases be sure to inclose an dd-
dressed, stamped envelope and
send request to her. care OF
the Wondn's Department. The
Euening Star. Washington 4.
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