Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1953-07-14
Problems
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Expectont Mother
Fears Husband
Moy Want Divorce
BY Muriel Nissen

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DEAR MISS NISSEN: I have
been married for eighteen
months and expect my baby
next month. In all this time
Dan has been so good to me and
! love him very much, but now
I find that I am faced with q
problem. During the last few
months ] have noticed that he
has become irritable and now he
says he no longer loves me, but
has been seeing another woman.
He hasn't asked for a divorce,
but I am on edge wondering
when the request will come.
- WILMA.
ANSWER: The prospect of
fatherhood is a bewildering one,
and some men react In mystic
rious ways to their new RESPONSE
bility. Your husband seems to
be unconSciously rejecting it, and
his effort to seek affection with
out obligation is shown in his
attention to a woman who has
no claim on him. When the
baby arrives. he'll undoubtedly
return to his normal. paternal
self. and give the new member
of the family his just due Of love
and attention. Wait and see
what develops in the next month.
DEAR MISS NISSEN: I am
upset about a dear friend of
mine, Sylvia. She had a mis-.
understanding with Adele, mu-
tual friend, and though Adele
has apologized for her part in
the trouble, Sylvia refuses to ac-
cept the apology or return to
their former status of friendship.
I think she is wrong, but how
can ] tell her so?
MARY G.
ANSWER: One of the mean
est and most childish things q
person can do is to persist Stub
bornly in maintaining q quarrel
after an apology has been made.
There's nothing more Adele can
can do: and Sylvia is very wrong
to withhold forgiveness. Beyond
telling her this. there's little you
can do to patch things up. AL
most any effort will only add fuel
to the fire and strengthen
Sylvia's determination to con-
tinue the misunderstanding.
DEAR MISS NISSEN: am
quite interested in a young man
at my Office, and would like to
know how I can go about meet
ing him. Although I pass him in
the corridor he never says hello
to me. RIM.
ANSWER: It's the lady'S
privilege to speak first, and GER
tainly there could be no difficulty
about your bidding him a cheer
full good morning." If he's in
terested, he'll take full advan-
tage of your overture. If you feel
particularly formal, why not
have a co-worker introduce you
both? In a place of business.
however, such formality would be
rather out of place.
DEAR MISS NISSEN: For the
past three years I've been in love
with Elijah, who also declared
his love for me. Last summer he
went to California and wrote me
three or four times week. When
he returned, a schoolmate said
she was in love with him and
that he loved her. too. Other
people have verified the fact that
they go out together, though he !.
still comes to see me. Should I
continue by friendship with him
or not?
VIOLET.
ANSWER: Don't take the word
Of other people on a matter Of
so great Importance. Let the
young man tell you himself
whether or not he's in love with
someone else. Since the evidence
in the case is overwhelmingly on
the affirmative side, he probably
does tell the girl he cares for her.
in which case you should most
certainly end the friendship.
DEAR MISS NISSEN: I was
asked to q dance by two boys,
Charles and Bob. Charles asked
me first. but / told him I'd have
to think 1t over. Then Bob came
along with his invitation and I
knew he was the one wanted
to go with. How can I tell
Charles without hurting his
feelings?
DoTTY
ANSWER: It can't be done,
for any attempt on your part,
to string the situation out will
only result in a more serious
hurt. The kindest thing to do
is to tell Charles as soon as pos
sible that you prefer going with
Bob.
Muriel Nissen 1piU reply to
all readers iDho ask her help.
Write for free Ledfet D-9,
"PhilGnderin0." In all cases,
be sure to incloSe an addressed,
stamped envelope and send re-
guest to her, in care OF the
Women's Dept. The EUening /,
Star, Washington, d. C.