Evening star., 1949-10-09

from his father aggressive imaginative who had built
up the business The far from chip off the old block
apparently unable to make sharp decisions formulate
positive company policy. He brought new line
until after he had another company do His merchan-
dsng policy wishy wasy that neither statesmen nor
buyers knew what expect from week to the next
Industrial oonsultant Daniel Starch studied several hum
dred business executives and concluded There is one re-
qurement without which be executive even
mediocre And that one is making decisions"
Leading psychologists agree that indecsveness one of
the most common and at the time least recognized
bars to happy marriage Most spnstes and bachelors saw
they married because they found the right mate
More likely they married because they couldn't make
cacu decision and stick by it. And psychologists agree
that marriages probably bghted by ndecisiveness
than by another woman
The Husba.d Who walled Out
OE psychologist told this story THE other day
frightened and bewdered young wife came to me for hep
Her husband of four months had walked on her with no
explanation contacted him at his Office and coaxed him to
come Before got married, he told me- it seemed
natural for me to make decisions for both of guess was
fatered that Jane always wanted decide where we'd
for dinner what we'd where we'd 70 afterwards
1t wasn't till after married that discovered that Jane was
practically incapable of deciding anything for herself
Shed start every morning the way Bill what should
make for breakfast And Bill tell me what to get for dinner
Shed call me six times day could tell her what to do
about every little matter that came up. What really broke
my back though the way she kept telling me that
couldn't make decisons!"
Bill calmed down the psychologist explained,
Many indecisve people honestly believe that every
body else is unable make decisions. It's common un-
conscious device called projection which saves them
from admitting how timid and insecure they are Others
achieve the result by unoonscousy delaying action till
the need for decision has passed Still Others chance
or someone else to make the decision for them
Trouble long the ndecsve person remains unco-
sous OF his decsveness there's chance that he over
come it. and chance that it will spread to more and
of his activities And it will be- of course increasingly
difficult for him to stand on his feet and live his own life
Your Jane has chance become aware of her inde-
csveness and do something about it. But most indecsve
people never find OUT
Do You Hate Change?
How do you tell you're indecisve? Take sharp look at
yourself then confirm or deny the following:
l. In restaurant you usually wait what the Others
are going to eat before you make a choice
You frequently return purchases few DAYS after making
them.
You're set in and get upset by the prospect of
change You prefer following similar routine day after day.
in dressing and eating and working and can't abide people
with irregular. unpredictable habits.
You're afraid of making mistakes and generally prefer
to do nothing rather than risk failure or error.
You feel that other people boss your wife YOUR
children give you all the respect you deserve and
don't reward you sufficiently for what you do for them Inde
cisive people often feel they're getting a raw DEAL
6. You're tired much of the time, even in the morning
your answers predomnanty yes then you probably
are not as decisive you should be- Your first step in
coming it Is to find out why you're indecisive