The Omaha guide., 1947-04-19

E. HI have fallen in love with
a married man and he is very dear
TO me. He gives me practically
everything I need. When I first
met him it was three months be-
fore I knew that he was married
and I thought it was too late to
quit then because I had fallen SO
in love with him. Please advise
me if l should 60 on with him or
not. I am 13 years old.
Ans: Child, the minute you
found out this man was married
and leading you on, you should
have quit. 1t is not too late yet.
Although he may be kind and give
you things you want, he knows
that you r. only a child and that
what he is doing is sinful and a.
gainst the law. When not in school
studying, you should be spending
your play time with other young
people your own age. There is
nothing in the world for you to
gain from any fellowship with this
married man-but, he can harm
you in many ways.
Y. A.-Shortly after our MARI
|iage my husband went into the ser
vice. When my allotment checks
started coming in, I begun to get
the house fixed up and by the
time he returned, the place was
cozy and nice. I a see a great
change in him and we don't get a.
long at all. I have in mind to ask
him to leave as I feel that if eth
er of us have to leave, it should be
him and not me. 1t was his house
when we married, but I have done
a lot of work on it. Do you think
| am right in asking him to leave
as l feel sure we will not be able to.
get along.
Ans: Two and a half years is a
long time in the span Of life. Nat
urally your husband changed
you have too. You were married
for such a short time before he
went overseas-~-you had hardly
time to get acquainted. You are
both going through a period of re
adjustment and you must be. pa
tient and understanding. 1t is up
to you to help him in his efforts to
get back to a normal life. This is
certainly nc time to ask him to
cave his own home. 1t is true that
you did a lot of work around the
home but while you were doing
this, he was making a greater sac
rifice----.and remember it was his
monthly allotment that furnished
the money for the improvements.
You folks can get along if you
bury the Ratchet and pull together
as married couples should.
You have been so much help to
me but it has been several years
since I wrote you. At that time I
was leaving my home town for Chi
-cago to get a job. I got the job
and it was a good one. I have been
on the same job since '43. You had
told me to set a goal and call it
my 5 year plan This 1 did and
the Lord blessed me. In '46 I
bought a As acre farm and paid
cash for it and made a down pay
ment on a 6 room building three
months later. May I say thank
you for everything.-A,B.G
M. A. TT was called home to
Texas a few months ago by my
family. Mother was low sick. At
the time I was with a girl whom
I had thought seriously of marry
ing. After a few days at home I
realized that I was falling in love
with mothers nurse, and also
saw that she was falling for me.
We saw quite a bit of each other
and when left to come back to
Chicago, I asked her to marry me.
She accepted and said she would
come to me the next month. She
did. and we were married but I still
continued to e the old girl friend
Now here is my problem. My wife
and I r expecting a child and I
am beginning to worry for fear I
do not love her. My mind has been
on my old girl friend for weeks
now and when I see her I know
she is worrying about me. Tell me
what to do.
Ans: The girl friend is not worried
about you as much you think.
So far as she is concerned it was
all over and done with between
you the day you took the other girl
for a wife. You may as well face
the facts. You are a married man
now and no longer free to fit from
one girl to another as Of old. The
other girl didn't come up to your
expectations, or you would have
married her before you met your
wife. Forget the old flame and ap
preciate the girl you have. BY
your fretting and Tuning you are
passing up lightly one of the most
important events of your life.
a father.
900
K. M.-Every so often I meet a
young man and imagine myself
in love with him. I put my
in him, believing everything
he says, forgetting that there are
very few young college girls as
serious as l. And I suffer a great
hurt when he tires of me as he al
ways does, but in time get over it
and start anew. Quite recently I
went steady with a fellow whom I