Tabor City tribune. (Tabor City, N.C.) 1946-1991, 1947-05-30

Several years ago, Daie I.,4
gie got rich by writing ABOUT
5 i1 TO Win Friends and IN
rInrnce People" America went
wild over the book, as IL winning
friends and Influencing people
were some new science which Car
nagie had discovered, u system 10
.ure all the worlds ills.
There we're many, however, ana
myself among them, VINO ie',
Carna"ie had merely written what
every sensible person had known
from childhood.
And these people, AGAIN III
GLIDING myself, felt that Cafila-
ole had overlooked the most mn
oortant need in winning TRENDS
and Influencing people.
Sincerity.
It is all very well to win a
friend or Influence a person d!
remembering his first name, or
learning his hobbies, or supplying
him with his favorite cigars. All
men are basically cyclists and TO
be babied or amused IS bouaa 10
arouse an Influence of some klhd'
But according to Carnage, we
should do I'll these things merely
20 obtain things for ourselves. Ills
book was written for statesmen,
not men and women who sincere
" want friends on seek to ln1!u-
ence people with the proper m
buttons.
We can pretend everything but
lsincerity. We can force laugh
! ter or tears. We can mock SYM
patty. We can initiate interest.
We can let noise be mistaken Tor
enthusiasm.
But we can no more pretend
sincerity than We can give life to
Il plaster doll.
| Sincerity cannot exist without
honesty, fraternity, and good in
tuition.
Sincerity comes from the heart.
1t does not exist in Il firm hand
handshake anymore than love eN-
lists in Il kiss. 1t is q constant
thing, erc.YpreSent in a mans
life, gnawing, like hunger OF
thirst.
4 sincere man cannot live in
The midst of pretenSc, hypocrisy
and deceit. OF course, a sincere
man is not necessarily mfallible
All men err. But when a sincere
man makes mistakes it is only be,
cause he has taken a wrong steE
in his struggle to do good fol
himself, his neighbor, and his
community.
In every town--yes, in ours
to0-thcrc is a man or q gTouI
Of men who shout from tn,
house tops for all sorts of i'm
provementS as they parade abou
singing in self-praise OF what the,
do for others. The rarest wore
III the vocabulary Of Il sincere MAJ
is the first person singular pro
noun. 1t is always wise to be
ware of the Big | Man.
These self-anointed communit,
saints are always the one
Whose motives are questionable
Look behind the boaster an,
you'll find the man who is mere
~ seeking ways to attract NOR
votes in an election, or more Gus
toners into his shop, or more ad
VertiSementS in his newspaper
| The sincere man is fair man
Those who disagree with him ar
his opponents, but not his enc
mics.
Speaking from my own expert
ence with newspapers, | hav
encOunted all sorts of weir
characters in my own profession
whose sincerity was 80 slim tina
the slightest disagreement of opili
ion luIiled the pretended sincerit.
and revealed the seliishnesS an,
! stupidity beneath.
llSlN & Itlcl cuIIOlH WIZ IelN
barred from their columns tn
names of certain community lead
ers because of a disagreement o
misunderstanding. Other editor
have misreprersented facts whlc
cast disfaVor upon groups the
preferred. Still others Haunted il
the faces Of their readers, in new
columns or advertisements, idea
or policies which the cOmmunit
had long and loudly condemned.
As sincerity is embedded in tn
heart, stupidity, like wart on
nose, can be recognized lmmedl
ately by everyone.
When man finds himself II
complete contralineSS with al
entire community, he does one OF
two things. He gets out or NJ
changes his tune when public rel
erence swings another direction.
70 get out displays some NOR
sci of intelligence and an ounce
of sincerity. To change one
tune is merely to don anothel