The Waterbury Democrat., 1946-01-22

UEAR MARRY MAWONAtlt EeE many years I entertained and ser- ved llqOor in my hone because e was what ulY husband liked and wanted. nut had I known Q years ago that it would make life for me the hell it has I would have chosen death in prefefence. However. \ have loved ny husband SC much, knowing thera win never be another man for me. that I have done my best % make my marriage a good one.
 Having children, I took a firm stand a few years ago and refused Co have 6 drop of liQuor brought into our home. Yet this morning my 70 year old son initiated an intoxicated person and when I told him it was wicked to do SO, be- cause Q drunken person Is a sick person, he replied, well, mother, then there are an awful lot of sick people having lots of fun. Look at dad" Then he mentioned his uneles ana aunts who never entertained without liquor.
 My sisters and also my husbande brothers and sisters, tell me I must not try Co run others lives. They say 1t would be more intelligent for me Co have my children fanillarize themselves with liquor in their own home and learn their own capac. ities. I used to enjoy a cocktail or two, but when saw my fine hus- band degrade himself under the influence of liquor. to the point of taking liberties with other women, and disappearing from home for days. all that was decent in me cried out against it.
 told my husband if it weren't for the children I might have gone into the gutter with him, but I could not let them down. Now, what am 1 to do with my family all arrayed against mep Although my husband has stopped drinking, he, too, maintains with the others that the best people drink today and that I should serve liquor. My home is not dull without it.
 We have first-class reading mat ter. play and sing. both classical and ragtime music. In fact. the days are too short for my many interests. But I am treated as an unbalanced personality by those people I am close to, and my health Is impaired by the prolonged tur- mol. feel discouraged enough to tell my husband to % live his own life as he chooses, but that I can- not share that kind of life with him. I will thank you for anything you might say to help me.
 Jealous Worry
 Basic Problem
 DEAR c. R.: It seems to me that your mind is playing tricks on you. think your basic agitation has to do with jealous fear of losing your husband, and with bottled-up res- eminent of his polygamous tenden- cies. revealed years ago in philan- dering sprees attuned to alcholic excess.
 These affronts to your pride. these threats to your security, were between the devil and the deep blue sea in the sense that you AOfNa AAAAA CS kuMI4A-OE. EdlllEE, were emotionally so enslaved by him-that you simply couldn't face the prospect of living without him. Therefore, it seemed expedient to forgive, which you went through the motions of doing but never did from the heart.
 However, since his philandering and drinking went hand in hand, you were. able to save face with yourself (and him) when taking him back after such escapades, by focusing your outrage on alcohol as if it were the william of the piece.
 Evils Tn Mind,
 Not in Liquor
 Yet, the truth is, alcohol con- tains no evil properties which themselves don't bring to it, to mingle with it, in their own