The Waterbury Democrat., 1946-01-01

DEAR MARY HAwORTH: My #on. 11. a returned veteran with 4hree years foreign service, has be- come engaged to a young woman Nho works in a nearby city. Her home is much farter away. She is motherless, as I was when I mar xied. This won my sympathy and, having no Daughter, began to anticipate happy relationship.
 wrote her an invitation to visit tis--that is, my husband and my self and our younger son, a high school senior, who next year ex- poets to enter the college from which his brother was graduated. My elder son, ScientiSt-more or less as story writers depict the type --disapproved the contents of the letter. It was warm and cordial. Hence I did not mail it. Incidentally, the girl holds college degrees equal to his.
 Keeping in mind the importance of getting of to a good start" I concealed my dismay and tried again but somehow I couldn't get another letter written. Nor would John consent to have his lady spend Thanksgiving day with us, explain ing that our home is too small. To be sure, 1t is small, but as I have been working in war plant for three years was glad to minimize housekeeping. Yet I could have planned a fine holiday and felt sure the girl would understand that due to the housing shortage We are caught in this small place.
 He Hunts Better
 Home For Family
 On Thanksgiving Day John and the girl I wished with all my heart to welcome had dinner in some restaurant in another city-and me a firSt-claSs cook! This ThankSgiv- ing Day, when the family could have been together for the first time in three years, was disappointment to me. I am amazed by the turn of events and puzzled how to proceed. . had never considered John a snob He always seemed just the opposite
 He is not unkind and has wished to help me very substantially in buying a house. He has driven me about in his car many days, search ing; and if we had seen a desirable house would have bought 1t to please him, although the last thing I wish to own is property. Needless to say, we found nothing to rent.
 This may seem trivial problem compared to others in our turbulent world, and in my lifetime I have coped with real trouble. But all though grain of dust in ones eye Is a small thing, it can be mighty uncomfortable. I like your straight Forward advice and now want some for myself M. c.
 Seems He Thinks
 Girl Is a Snob
 DEAR M. C.: Obviously there is some discrepancy between the truth about Johns home folks and their warmhearted makeshift mode of life and the impression he is giving his girl, by implication at least. Pos kibly she is the product of a more gtyhzed background and infers from his meaured scientific manner and Co-equal education that he was born to the silver spoon, too-which Adea he may be at pains not to dis Ezlrb.
 Yet wouldn't it be amusing if she should be putting 8 similarly false best foot forward. too? "All's fair in love or war" they say; and a Eot of this nervous oamouf1age is employed in the game of hearts by l1nitten man and maid, theoretical 1y to outwit competition. when usually the truth early reviewed. whatever 1t might be would make little or no difference. as Cupid in earnest wears roSe-coloreoI Iblinders, Eou know.
 You are such a fine person ("so real" as the phrase goeS), with your social impulses in such good taste, and a degree of education, however acquired, that would give you passport to wellbred company anywhere-as your sweetly turned, humorous, discerning letter indi- cates-that am sure your scien- tist son must appreciate your worth among women.
 If he seems to be a snob in al- Mance with his fiancee-and alas he does-it must be that he fears