The Waterbury Democrat., 1945-12-18

DEAR MARY HAMORfH. have &n attractive daughter. ig who lx a cadet nursr. She is being cuarfed by a young man. 1s. nos in the NfFvlcc. who wants Co mary her. Fortunately. from my viewpoint. the nuphe training school she attends coes not permit students tO mary. and as nothing could induce her To drop the course. She is safe in that respect from hAsty commitment.
 HoNsYeT. the young man wants her 10 become engaged 10 h.m. He .fays he k willing t0 walt mill she has finished the courAe and thcn get married. I have not given Tly consent fer several reasons. as lolloNs:
 He ls very jealous of her and , win not permit her Co have other ' 0ates. although she has vcry high standards Of behavior and will not let other boys kiss her, as be knows He. or the other hand. continues to have dates with other girls and tells her about them. He admits 10 "love making" buf says he does not talk of love 10 these other girls.
 My daughter is five feet. five inches tall. He is somewhat shorter than she And I feel this IS one reason why he is always criticizine Ter. First, he claimed she couldn't Gance. Now he has seen her danc- ,ng very well with his frients and he can't understand why she can't dance with him. He has gwen her sn inferiority complex.
 Ills latest criticism infuiiates me. He doesn't like her clothes. He especially objects 10 suits on girl. She is very conservative in dress and the only bright garment she las is red dress which l insisted cn her buying. This he likes. He is a very honest, outspoken person so much so that he has no regard for her sensitiveneSs. What chance Cf happiness has my daughter II she n.arries this man?
 GIRL PURSUED
 BY PSYCHOPATH
 DEAR A. w: Sometimes large soul dwells in an undersized frame, but not in the case Of this Self- distrusting, meanly vulgar little fel- low is counting your daughter. His ugly jealousy which puts her in so- cial quarantine, combined with hls .boasted routine of sensualist triflng with other girls, clearly reveal a psychopathic bias to personality.
 That psychopathic bias probably mas its rise CD in an essentially ' brutish concept of what constitutes admirable masculinity and impress s.ve accomplishments or desirable experiences, plus CD case history of pretty general illustration, in the matter of trying to personify his own foggy ideas of what constitutes The Real Mccoy.
 Inwardly I think he seethes with pent-up feelings Of underdoe ferocity, enormously attributing his also-ran rating among men and his uneasy time in the field of romance to his pint size-when the truth is of course, that everybody involun- tarily comedies man to be as big as his heart, his intellect, the mora tonnage of his character and the force for good he throws around.
 His criticism of your daughters mode of dress may be the last straw to you: and as for his objection te girls wearing suits. say it marks him a social barbarian, lacking knowledge of either high fashion ol second taste in women's clothes. But this eruption of ignorance and bac manners is the least bad aspect oi his morbidly uncivil treatment ol ber-patently intended to destroy her self-confidence, clip her wings take her out of circulation ano gradually rob her of the will, hope