Evening star., 1944-05-28

EIecuE1De secretary d.
Why do some marriages click and
others 60 haywire? With divorces now
occurring in more than one out OF each
five marriages and with this rate
threatening to rise sharply when post
rehabilitation disruption takes it's toll,
this opening query assumes pressing
current Importance. Along with other
postwar problems, that of possible in
crease in divorces to the ratio of one
to three or even one to two marriages
is vital issue facing society.
why" you may ask, will the present
global conflict influence rise in divorce
rates when peace comes?" Here are
several Of the main reasons.
Among wars many cruelties, not the
least is that of promoting laxity in
marital standards Some husbands in
service, facing death or mutilation daily,
acquire the viewpoint, well, fellows,
we're here today and gone tomorrow.
Let's live now" Some-too many-of
their wives at home, knowing of this
reaction, say Whats sauce for the
gander is sauce for the goose" and act
accordingly. Such PHILOSOPHERS provide
fine fuel for later divorce fires.
Hasty War Marriages
Mars also adds extensively to the
normal crop OF hasty marriages as
Nationwide records for the past three
years prove. Many of these unions are
Of young people who have carefully
considered the pros and cons of today's
complexities, but numerous others are
the regulation "gin marriages" Some
even are based on the conniving females
knowledge that Uncle Sam provides
monthly allotment and low-cost in
surance. Certainly here are situations
made to order for a postwar divorce
epidemic.
But we shouldn't let the probable
temporary increase in broken homes and
families resulting from war conditions
become permanent. Much can be done
to lower our normal peacetime divorce
rates II we but examine the causes and
act wisely toward removing them. What
are these routine causes for martial
smashups?
Why Marriages Fail
Marriages fail usually from one-or
combination-of these five reasons: ~
Financial disagreements, CO sexual
Embellishments, 90 recreational diff
ferences, (4) health hazards and (5)
religious differences.
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grooms reached mutual understandings
IN these five fields prior to marriage. the
divorce mills would lose much of their
grist. But such agreements cannot be
attained without study, discussion and
counsel, and these items usually are dis
regarded by impetuous and romantic
youth.
Now let's look over the five major
marital hazards one by one. What are
their components and how can the
dangers be lessened or eliminated?
These diagnoses and suggested treat
ments are not based merely on theory.
They are presented from experience
gained In marriage counseling services
covering quarter century of advising
with thousands of perplexed men and
women, young and old, both before and
after marriage. zfss,,J n esm a. +.
Regulating the Purse Strings
Money, whether or not the root of all
evn, surely is the root Of many divorces.
A foremost example Is that of the aus-
band who has never grasped the idea
that his wifes services as cook. nurse-
maid, washerwoman and general home
maker involve mental and physical work
Budgeting is the fair and efficient
way to handle a couples fiscal affairs.
II, as happens frequently NOWADAYS.
the wife continues her regular work or
profession after marriage, both incomes
should go into the common pool and be
1airly apportioned therefrom.
Most aspects of the financial disagree
ment bugaboo can be dispelled through
aoherence to budgeting and fair plav-
TWO simple partnership essentials-and
premarital understanding and agree
ment on those two points will lessen.
greatly, the dangers of financial di-
vorceS.
Biological Considerations
Whether one calls it "sex" or, more
formally, "the biological urge" this as
pect OF martial life is fraught with pos
slbilities for misunderstanding friction
and grief. Obversely it has great po-
tentialities for congeniality, harmony
and happiness. Like other vital factors
OF successful marriage, the sexual fac
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