Evening star., 1944-11-03

| you Will turn too domestic on him
and wants you to keep on with your
job which, symbolically, still con-
tinueS your CourtShip days. Could
you perhaps compromise by taking
halliday job? Aside from every
thing else, believe every one who
possibly can should work these days
when employment is so badly
needed.
Above all, let me repeat, be care
full to analyze what you call ideals"
before YOU become too noble about
holding on to them. After many
years person may find that he still
has all his ideals" but that pin
nacles are very chilly and that he
has lost love and warm companion
ship, and 1t is then that he realizes
that many ideals" were Just lofty
words for having my own way"
(Thanks to Mr.. r. W. s.,
Washtngton.)
l had almost decided not to send
this letter (my first to you); how
ever, thinking that a mans views
on the problem of Miss L. E. S.
might, after all, be of interest, and
having seen contributions by other
men readers Eyes, you evidently have
themD, here goes:
l think the young lady's friends
are telling her right. It's simply
not possible for woman to do JUS
t1ce to both home and Office. And.
as many working wives have dis
covered, the home cannot be run
economically with the homemaker
away all day, SO more money Is
needed to meet the greater expenses.
which makes the wife continue to
work away to help meet these ex-
penSes, and SO on around the circle.
incidentally, I wonder if the man
who Is marrying L. E. S. realizes
that he is getting an unusual girl.
In this day of "women's independ-
ence' a girl who is willing to stay
home and take care of things is
rather rare. With too many it is
the reverse-they insist on working
outside. Also rare is the woman
who loves man so much that she
feels she cannot give him up. For
1t seems to me that all too often
women marry for almost every rea-
son except love-that is, love is de-
cldedly secondary, not their whole
existence" as the old saw has it,
women being more practical and less
romantic than are men. (What a
furor this will raise-I can imagine
the angry protests coming in! Never
theless, my opinions are based on
years of study and observation of
Woman's notwithstanding SubjectD
Being single and A, I have prac-
tically given up finding my ideap:
if I should, however, here's how I'd
manage the situation (and this
touches on the "manpower-at-
home" problem discussed on this
page some weeks ago, so both the
married and about to be" might
listenD. I'm old-fashioned enough
to believe it is the mans place to
bring home the bacon" for the
wife to fry. So I should prefer a
wife not to hold a position. If she
wished to do so (and I would get
this "ironed out" before becoming
engaged, would urge her to take
only part-time work. Then we'd
agree on definite time limit to her
working, say for year. And all
the money she could save in that
time would be put in a separate
bank account, or bonds, for her very
own, to use as she wishes. as for
some luxury she wanted that could
not afford. Now the task of making
ones living is no sinecure-neither
is the job of running house, and
both certainly are too much for any
woman. And man should be fair
with his wife, above all. So I would
discourage her doing any more
houseWork than absolutely neces-
sary; we would eat out more or less
and go to some entertainments for
pleasure and relaxation; I would
buy her every labor saving mechani-
cal device I could afford for the