The Ely miner., 1943-05-20

ton, and Randy, the only dental sur
geon In our small town, was asked
to do it. Little Pam, with her cour-
age and her spirit, captivated her
father. I saw him twice during
this time, and he asked me for per-
mission to see the other girls, all
three sweet, natural pretty children,
if I say it myself. After that he
came hunbly to me and asked me
if he might be my friend, might see
them now and then. forgot to say
that he and his office sweetheart,
married Immediately after the di-
vorce, were also divorced II months
later, and she has married twice
since. Months of friendship, during
which he has won the affection Of
the three girls, and appears to be
the proudest and most understand
ing of fathers, have brought him to
the place where he wants to come
home. He is almost 49 now.
ST want to clean my heart and
mind" the letter goes on, "of the
memory that he hurt me deeply,
Inundated me, set all our friends
specializing about our divorce, left
our children when they needed him.
But also I have to remember that
Randy and I never quarreled; that
our relationship was one of under
standing, laughter, cooperation, per-
feet companionship always thought
of myself as the happiest of wives.
I like to be a married woman; to
have man to spoil, consult, and be
praised by. And there can never
be any other. Shall I give him an
other chance?"
Stress Infidelity Too Much
In answer I say, my dear Helen,
think we women put too much
Importance upon that type of in
fidelity that so often smites a man
like a sudden high fever, just when
his children are in the awkward
stages of grade school homework,
teeth-straightening, dime-demanding
and comic-section infatuation. We
say tacitly, even if we don't put it
into words: ''You may like women,
dear, as much as you like, admire
their minds and their talents. You
may look after pretty 18-year-olds
In the streets; that's quite excusable.
You've been devoted to me for IA
years now, and possibly some of the
glamour - IN purely passional
sense, has worn off. But the minute
you become interested in that young
office half-wit, out you go!''
Now this isn't sensible. It is hu-
initiating and shocking to realize
that ones physical charms may
pale, and that men are weak, but
both facts are indeed cold facts,
and we have to face them if we want
ever to be happy. Randy was fiat
tered; she made him feel that he
was Superman. You, with all YOU
know about him, couldn't honestly
compete with her babbled little lisp
ing compliments. He fell for it all.
and has since proved to the world
that he was a consummate fool.
that ought to be some satisfaction
to you, and very present help in
time of argument.
But if you let him come back he
won't argue. He'll be a model hus-
band, father, home-keeper, compan-
ion from now on. I believe you
would be wise to forgive and forget.
Don't overvalue the things that are
merely bodily; young love, honey
moon meals, all the novelty and ex-
element of first days are indeed
wonderful. But you are not a true
man and true woman if they have
not long ago been sublimated into
something far higher, into the con-
fidence and dignity upon which true
marriage is based. If you have hu-
mutations to recall, he has worse.