The Ely miner. [volume] (Ely, Minn.) 1895-1986, 1943-04-29

was hardly over before quarrels be-
gan, I think any young couple, feel
ing as we did, would have married
as we did.
Tended Baby Alone.
CT wanted a child; Sidney didn't.
He hated the idea. Before Janey-Jo
was born he treated me with real, If
not always purposeful, cruelty.
Night after night he was away until
one or two in the morning, and
lay awake worrying about him. The
baby was that damn kid and, as
dancing, tennis, trips became i'm
possible for me, it was an incessant
well, what did you have it for?'
Finally, / was to be forgiven If it
was son. His mother came to stay
with us, and stated that the Bates
babies always were sons. My ador-
able baby was born tiny, weak, a
nutrition problem from the begin
ming. Neither Sidney or his mother
showed any concern. / brought my
little girl through her first hard
weeks alone, bearing all the anxiety
and fatigue as best ! could. Sidney
was away more than ever; 1 felt
like mere paid housekeeper, keep
ing my fretful baby out of his way
as much as l could, sleeping in the
nursery to be sure that she survived
the nights, and spending long lonely
days with book and a perambula-
tor in the park.
"Then ! went to my mother, and
here 1 have been for more than
three years. Janey-Jo is glorious
ly sturdy little creature now, and
the delight of both our lives. Sidney
asked me not to get divorce for
business reasons, and agreed, glad
to be spared publicity. He was trav-
cling a good deal, and only few
intimates knew that we were living
apart. Also, at the time of the sep
aration he stated that he wished half
custody of his child; very surpris-
ingly, for he hadn't seemed to know
she was alive. But think his moth
er put him up to it.
"You can guess the rest; the good,
fine, protecting man who has come
into my life, to show me what love
is, and what life might be- He is
my mothers doctor, 38 years old,
fine in every way. He lost his wife
two years ago; is childless, and loves
my child.
Price of Happiness.
"And now Sidney won't consent
to a divorce unless surrender jan
ey-Jo entirelyl His mother and
widowed sister want her, of course,
and he wants to please them. So
between them they would sacrifice
the little thing who owes her life to
me, who would never have wealth.
cred a thousand crises but for me.
Is this fair? / become so frantic
with resentment when / think of il
that / know l am not regarding the
situation reasonably, and / want
your opinion. What is my best way
| out?"
How to avoid paying the piper?
1t was headstrong 19 that called the
tune; it was an inexperienced, in
| fatuated girl who leaped into the
marriage; it is a saddened, hurt,
wiser woman who has to bear the
| result.
Mary's only solution lies in pa
tience, but time goes slowly for sep
arated lovers, and her resentment
will break forth again and again.
Perhaps if she had been less ex-
acting, perhaps if the great affair
of bearing child hadn't seemed to
her a time of loneliness and jeal-
ousy, but a strictly Individual and
gloriously important job, independ-
ent of Sidney's comings and goings
during the months of waiting; per-
haps if she had been a little more
resourceful, little more inclined to
regard herself as an Individual rath-
er than wife; this difficult situa-
ton wouldn't have arisen. But it has
arisen, and the piper is waiting for
his pay. She insisted uson calling
the tune, ard now she must pay.