Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1943-03-03

him. But the question is: Should l
continue on this way and keep pray
ing for him to get over this awful
spell OF uncertainty, or should I
leave him? C, S,
Answer-You and your husband
are treating your love as children do
flower that they plant out Every
day they pull it up to see if it has
grown and it ends by their killing it..
That is what will happen to your
affection for each other if you don't
let it alone and give it time to root.
There isn't any love in the world
that will stand perpetual viviSection.
Even the grand passion would curl
up and die under such an ordeal.
ANY man who sits with his hand on
his pulse and decides that he doesn't
love his wife any more because 1t
doesn't quicken at the sound of her
footsteps is simply goofy. We just
don't thrill and go hot and cold over
the people or things that we are
accustomed to every day. And if all
the husbands who have been married
five years to ever-loving wives left
them because they had quit running
temperature about them the world
would be filled with Divorces.
Married love is one of the things
that has to be taken for granted. and
the wise wife doesn't probe into the
quality or the quantity of it too
much. AS long AS her husband is
reasonably pleasant to live with and
pays her bills and doesn't flaunt any
other woman in her face she assumes
that he is satisfied with her and lets
1t go at that. And, as a matter of
fact, it is that way. Nothing in the
world makes a husband SO tired as to
have a wife always asking him: DO
you love me? Do you love me as
we'll as you did when we were mar
ried? Am I the only woman in the
world to your"
So my advice to you is not to take
your husband seriously. Laugh at
his morbid joke of probing his emo
lions, and tell him that the way he
loves you suits you and let it go at
that. Don't be foolish enough to
break up your marriage for such a
silly reason AS that ne can't gauge
his feelings.
Dear Dorothy Dix: May I offer a
word of consolation and advice to
the girls who say that they have no
attraction for boys and never have
date? This is my own experience
When l was in my teens l was a
homely girl with the handicap of
having beautiful and charming
sister, SO I was always overlooked.
l had no pretty clothes. no talents,
not much education, and ! was about
the most miserable person in the
world
But one day it occurred to me to
see what I could do about making
myself over. I took stock of myself
and found that my only nice feature
were my pretty teeth. That was the
beginning. I cleaned them four
times a Gay and smiled frequently.
and my conversation by reading good
books. the papers and magazines so
l could talk intelhgently on almost
any subject. I joined the YWCA
and learned to dance at the expense
OF stepping on other peoples feet
| learned how to buy wisely and how
to dress the right way. I also
learned how to play good game of
bridge and tennis and badminton so
that l made a good partner.
I am still far from beautiful. but
people call me attractive because ]
nave learned the secret Of wearing
clothes and developed pleasing per-
sonallty, and that rates higher than
looks. To be popular with your own
sex Is a good start toward being
popular with the opposite one. Every
individual has one outstanding fea-
ture, small as it is, and any girl, If
she will play that up, can make
herself attractive. ! know because I
tried It. A HAPPY GIRL.
AnSWer-ThiS is heartening advice
to the many thousands of girls who
attribute their lack of dates to their
not having been born Miss Americas,
but who do nothing about 1t except
to wall and weep, which makes them
still less attractive.
AS matter of fact, there is moth
ing that girls overvalue so much as
they do looks. They think that il
they were not born with peaches
and cream complexion and sapphire
eyes and naturally curly hair, they
might as we'll book their room in the
Spinsters' Retreat But such is not
the case. for while men talk lot
about beauty and profess to worship
it, they seldom marry for it, As you
will perceive If you look around
among the wives of your acquaint-
ances and observe that few of them
would ever even have been men,
toned In beauty contest.