The Ely miner., 1943-08-19
By KATHLEEN NORRIS
Bell syndicate-WNU Features

n TOTHING weakens a wom-
N ans will like a love af-
L fair. Nothing so COM
pletely turns reason topsy-turvy
and breaks down the principles
the codes that have been years
a-building.
When it comes some years
after marriage, to a wife who
has begun to doubt her own
charm, begun to fear that her
day of compliments and thrills
is over, what a love-affair does
to her spirits, how it brightens
her eyes and renews her zest
in life!
And what a terrible pity that is,
for like strong drink, gambling,
horse-racing, firearms and turnip in
stew, passion has to be used with
extreme caution, or it ruins every
thing.
That's the way civilization has
worked it out; a hard way, but the
only safe road to follow. One man
for one woman, and fidelity from
both, and no teasing and playing
with love along the sidelines. If you
have a husband who is even so per
cent satisfactory, you've done as well
as most women, have no more to
endure than they have, and would
be wise to draw most of your happi-
ness from other sources.
Illicit Love Causes Suffering.
It would be pleasant if an attrac-
tive wife could have an affair with
a strange man-say a handsome
young captain recently stationed in
her neighborhood. Pleasant if no.
body would be hurt. But the catch
is that somebody is hurtthe 9TH
er husband and wife suffer the tor
lures of Purgatory; children suffer,
neighbors and families are disap-
pointed if not scandalized, and in
the end the lovers pay, too. Neither
one, all the rest of his or her days,
is particularly proud in looking back
to those delirious hours of passion.
So make up your mind before the
affair really gets under way, that
what has been the law for strong
and self-respecting folk for genera
tons is the right law; faithfulness
to that promise made on June day
of radiant happiness and confidence
so many years ago.
Here is letter from a woman
who wants to jump the ropes after
II years of marriage. Of course I
am going to advise her not to do it,
but the chances are she'll do it any,
way. She has only to look at the
pitiful failures of some of the men
and women who have done it to see
what she is letting herself in for,
but no one ever does when an af-
fair has gotten good start.
Husband, Wife Drift Apart.
'eWe have one son of eight"
writes Winifred. ''He is our sole in
terest in common. But for Jackie,
I believe Carol and I might go days
without speaking to each other.
There is no quarreling, although in
the beginning of our marriage we
did quarrel a good deal. We simply
don't exist for each other. Carol
reads his paper at breakfast; read
mine. We both keep an eye on
Jackie to see that he finishes his milk
and gets off in time. This five days
a week. On Saturday Jackie has
sweeping, watering and raking to,
do; In the afternoon he and his
father pick movie; never one that
I want to see. hate bombing,
zooming of planes, close small thea
tiers. Saturday night poker club for
Carol, and usually dinner with
school pal for Jackie. Sunday Carol
drops Jackie and me at my moth
er's house, goes on to the country
club. Mother is an invalid, very
nervous, and if I can leave Jackie
with some friend or send him on
with his father, / usually do. My
sister, unmarried, and very delicate,
lives with my mother; there is no
quarrel between them and my hus-
band, but he rarely goes to the house.
I try tn cheer nv own people lunch