The Ely miner., 1943-09-30

minute he got home, and all this
could not have happened. Please
advise me and save me from de-
>spair."
Poor little 18-year-old, you have
certainly made sad mess of your
life so far! But 18 is not very old,
in fact, twice Is is not very old, and
you have time ahead to grow wiser
and build up to happiness and self
respect again out of this wreckage.
The first consideration now is your
baby, and if you don't realize that
today I can assure you that you will
realize it in March, when you have
the little creature in your arms.
Since Louis is the father, and Louis
loves you, the best first step is to
write Louis the truth. That you met
Jack, liked Jack, liked him even
to the point of considering marrying
him, and that it was under that par
ticular emotional stress that you
wrote Louis to ask a divorce.
Write Husband About Plans.
Go on to say that everything is
changed now. A new responsibility
"a new prospect has come. There
is going to be a child. And for that
child's sake you are never going to
see Jack again, you are going to
live quietly, planning for the baby
in the spring, and waiting for Louis
to come home. Say that you are
sorry, and hope he will destroy your
letter and forget it; remind him that
you are very young, and confused by
the exciting conditions in which you
are living in war time.
He will write you forgivingly, I'm
sure. If you can possibly go to his
parents early in the new year,
would do so. And if you do go to the
farm, and it sounds a comfortable
place, make them love you; set
yourself to winning them, and to be-
ing good wife and mother.
AS for loving Jack; you are no
more sure of that than you were of
loving Louis only few months ago.
At Is you are hardly sure of any
emotional reaction, let alone two
love affairs. You have plunged much
too young into the realities of life,
and life revenges itself upon you by
presenting you with its most
poignant reality; that of mother
hood. Nothing matters now except
that you fit yourself to meet this
challenge as worthily, cheerfully,
normally as you can. You are max
ing a high salary, put aside some
thing every week for your expenses
when the baby comes: look about
you for some place where you can
board, and perhaps board the baby,
too, and go on working afterward.
Girl Must Grow Up.
If Louis writes you coldly, indig-
nant at your vaccilations, as well
he may, face that situation, too. In
other words, try to grow up and be
a woman, rather than bewildered
child stumbling from one mistake
to another. Don't say anything more
about a divorce, should Louis an
grily agree to one. Instead write
him cheerful letters about yourself.
about his parents and his home, and
eventually about the baby, and let
all serious decisions wait until he
comes home again.
Remember that ANY marriage
can be a success and ANY marriage
can be a failure, and SO per cent of
success or failure lies with the
wife. Your happiness in marriage
lies in your ability to forgive and
overlook, to grow in unselfshness
and wisdom, and has very little to
do with the sort of man you marry.
Women who divorce and remarry
two, three or four times, know MOTH
ing of true married happiness. 1t is
a thing of slow growth, of patience
and goodness and faith. You will find
it with Louis as quickly as with Jack.