The daily monitor leader. [volume] (Mount Clemens, Mich.) 1942-19??, 1942-07-02

that I was married to a low-class
family making double meanings
out of everything that was said. At
first they had me thinking they
were absolutely perfect. Then they
got tired Of that. / guess and de-
cided to let me know just what they
were like.
II remember the filthy postcards
my husband would bring home and
leave lying around for me to see.
because he knew they would be re-
pulsive to me. He brought friends
in, and introduced them to me, who
weren't At for a pig to associate
with. Then he would point out to
me, when he knew I was so dis
guSted / didn't know what to do.
that I couldn't leave him because
of the children and the fact that I
had no home. and my health would
not permit me to work.
Fears for Sons
so all you can do is make the
best of it, he would say. I had two
boys. and it kept on my mind all
the time. How / would hate those
boys to grow up to be like that! I
knew, of course with that example
they couldn't be otherwise.
my husbands brothers, by the
way. were all like this with their
wives.
MY husband died. I thought.
here Is my chance now to get clear
away from this and raise these boys
up right.
II moved 1850 miles away from
them. My sons we're then 6 and 8.
They are now 10 and 20. have
made 1t my business to get them In
with a good class of boys. They are
very industrious. making 1t their
business to get a good education.
but I can see just lately they are
showing desire for the low, de-
grading things and showing dis
respect for women.
1T just sets me crazy. can't sec
anything at all in the atmosphere
around that would encourage that.
Do you think children can inherit
a nature. that nothing at all can be
done about it?
II have had long talks with them.
They appear at the time to be TAX
ing it very seriously and in whif1
it seems to be forgotten and they
are the same as ever. They fly of at
their little sister and say terrible.
disrespectful things.
II have never been around any
thing like that at any time In my
life before was married and ! have
no idea how to cope with 1t. Is there
any remedy? Unsigned.
Since your boys are now ID and
20, respectively, the chances are
that the Army will take over pretty
soon and the responsibility will no
longer be yours.
Rather Late Now
It's a little late. in any case, to
discipline them. Isn't 1t possible
that you forget that mans nature
is coarser than a womens and that
what may shock you isn't, from the
mans viewpoint. at all unseemly?
Possibly in your reactions to your
husbands coarseness you have
tended to over-emphasize any ten
dency In your boys to talk and be-
have like boys.
You paint very unattractive
picture of your husband and family.
You and the children must be hap
pier and better of removed from
their influence. But you seem. in
your fear and distaste. unwittingly
to have made your boys the victims
of your own inhibitions by taking
their lapses too seriously and by
over accomplishing the ug mess,
rather than the beauty, of sex.
It's unbelievable that any older
brothers would treat a little girl
with a lack of respect. Naturally,
she must be protected from coarse
language and vulgarity, even If you
have to send her away to school.
Have you no man on your side Of
the house. no minister or man
friend who could take these boys in
hand, since you seem to be quite
unable to cope with them? 1t would
appear that their associates are Of
the wrong kind.