Evening star., 1942-05-04

J. anu ices, DuU YOUR WOHldn ITlenO
let's you weep out your sorrows on
her breast.
| Besides, no woman can ever get
the real satisfaction out OF mans
society that she does out of an
other woman's, because the two
| sexes have not the same interests
No man, for instance, can really
spend hours and hours talking
about clothes. Nor is his idea of a
good time spending day wandering
! around a department store pricing
things. Nor does he think the baby
cutting its first tooth a world -shak-
ing event that should be headlined
in the newspapers.
But another woman feels about
these things even as you and I, and
that is why we can gossip endlessly
with our intimate" friend with
out either of us getting bored and
why life is dust and ashes to us If we
haven't some woman to whom we
can talk womens talk.
A woman friend. then, being such
a treasure, it is obvious that every
woman would like to possess one and
should make an effort to grapple
one to her with hoops of steel. But
while all women want them many of
them never acquire the fine art
of making friends, so they are
doomed to 60 their lonely way with
out ever getting close enough to
another woman to tell her their
secret sorrows.
OF course, it is just as much a
mystery why woman attracts
other women as it is why some
women have only to whistle and all
the men get up and follow them.
But, generally speaking, when a
woman fails to make friends of
other women it is for one or an
other of the following reasons:
She may be catty and women
are afraid of being clawed if they
are in her tongues reach. No
woman likes to feel when she leaves
room that she is leaving her
character behind her. You will
never find wisecracking lady who
has the knack of making sarcastic
comments on the peculiarities of
her sisters, who is popular with
other women.
Perhaps she is predatory and
finds it amusing to flirt with other
women's husbands and watch the
green-eyed wives souirm. OF course,
the wife may know that it is Just
Sally's little way and that she
doesn't mean thing by it, but, all
the same, she makes the husband
stealer just as welcome around the
house as she would porch climber
Another reason some women
never have any friends is because
they are not willing to pay the price.
They do not realize that friends
have to be bought with thought and
sacrifices and work and by contin-
ually keeping ones friendships in
repair, as wise old Ben Franklin
said.
They go their egotistic, self-cen-
tered way, spending their money on
their own good times, forgetting to
make little gestures of appreciation
and sympathy, going to the house of
mirth instead of to the house of
mourning. Then, when they are old,
or sick, or in trouble, they wonder
why they have no friends.
Another reason why some women
have no friends is because they
make friendship a tyranny. They
feel that they have a right to mo-
nopolize their friends and dictate
to them about whom they shall
know, where they shall go, how they
shall run their houses and manage
their families, and when this op-
preston gets too great to be borne
their victims fade away and leave
| them to their lonesome
| And still another reason why SO
many women have no friends is be-
cause they expect too much OF
friendship They demand perfec-
ton, which is not human nature
! They are not like the little boy who
said that a friend was somebody
who knew all about us and likec
us still, And that is the only rea
criterion OF friendship,