St. Paul recorder. [volume] (St. Paul, Minn.) 1934-2000, 1942-09-11
BY ABBE' WALLACE SERVICE

are in good physical condition and
are likely to be drafted soon and
would have to give up this business
as your wife could not run it for
you. Save every dollar possible,
buy War Stamps and Bonds SO
you will have something to fall
back on when the war is over.
j. W. T.: I am the father of two
very small girls. My wife is cold
towards me. 1 love the babies and
my home but 1 feel like leaving
sometimes. If I should leave,
would provide for them, of course.
Is this the thing to do?
Ans: 1t is very unfortunate that
you and your wife are not very
compatible y. but at the same
time, it would be tragic for your
children to pay for your misunder-
standings, and they invariably are
the ones to suffer in a divorce case.
Although your wife is not of a
very affectionate nature, she has
proven that she has the best inter-
ests of her home and family at
heart which in the long run,
is the very essence of a successful
marriage.
J. B. j.: l am going with a girl
and am deeply in love with her. She
claims she loves me. asked her
to marry and she said yes.
bought the engagement ring and
she likes it fine. Now the thing
that worries me is that this girls
mother doesn't know anything
about it. Must 1 tell her before we
get married?
Ans: That would be the most de-
cent thing to do. It would make
your future mother-in-law think a
great deal more of you if you
would show her the respect of ask
ing for her daughter. Don't for
get that mother-in-law's respect
is worth it's weight in gold. Why
not give your girls mother the
pleasure of planning a small we'd
ding for her daughter? Your fu-
ture wife would much prefer to
marry in style than to sneak away
like she was committing a crime.
C. M: 1 have been going with
this man since '39. He has shown
me some good and some bad. Last
fall broke my leg and he stood by
me, helping in every way that he
could. He wants me to marry him
and am afraid to accept as he is
somewhat younger than 1 am. But
he insists that that doesn't make
any difference.
Ans: AS a usual thing,
wouldn't advise a woman to marry
a man who is several years younger
than she. But there are certain
exceptions. In your case, you have
had three years of constant COM
partnership with this man. He has
definitely made up his mind during
this time that he loves you, and
that your interests are congenial
enough that the age difference
doesn't matter. He was attentive
and thoughtful when you were con-
fined to your bed. If he had any
ideas of running around, surely he
would have done so at that time.
believe that you two could find
happiness together in marriage.
C. F.: have been going with a
man for a year. He has several
children and they all seem to be
very nice. Last year he talked
about marrying. But now he
doesn't seem to want to marry. ]
want to know if he loves me and
will We get married soon?
Ans: Fortunate for you, he did
change his mind. It is hard
enough to adapt yourself to be-
coming a wife. But to assume the
role of wife and mother at the
same time will take more ingen-
uity than the average person pos
sesses. You are too young to take
on a ready-made family. You are
wasting your time with this man
:. for there are greener fields
elsewhere.