Evening star., 1942-01-08
Compliments
Don't Mean
True Love
Wishful Thinking
Usual Feminine,
Pathetic Trait
By Dorothy Die

Dear Dorotny Dlx. 1 dHl ueePiy
In love with a man who feel sure
loves me. He Is a man Of high prin-
ciples, but he Is cynic and feels
bitter toward everything. He has
often told me that I am the only
girl whom he had ever known whom
he could trust. A month ago he left
town to take job In distant city.
Right before he left he told me he
really loved me, but since he has
been gone he has not written, but
I know he still loves me. Shall 1
swallow my pride and write to him?
Or shall I Just sit and hope and
wait? I am desperate. Please tell
me what to do. He may never come
back II I don't do something, and
love him so very much. B. w.
Answer-When a man kisses and
rides away, it is the end, so far as
the girl is concerned. There is no |
way in which she can bring him
back and 1t is bootless for her to
try to pursue him. So just say good
by to your little romance and forget |
him.
I think there is nothing else in
the world so pathetic as the faculty |
that women have for befooling them
selves about love and believing what |
they want to believe about mans |
intentions toward them. man |
pays girl a few compliments that |
a moron should know is just polite |
conversation, but she reads in them |
a declaration of affection and begins
to get her hope chest ready
He never says word OF love to |
her, but she sees his devotion in his |
eyes. He never pops the question |
to her, but she knows 1t is only |
because he is too shy to do so. She
is certain that he will eventually |
ask her to enarry him because ne /
monopolizes her time and attention |
and sponges on her for his meals, /
wear after year, although when she /
breaches the subject of matrimony |
he almost breaks his neck in Shylng |
away from 1t.
It is this Wishful thinking you
have been indulging in, B. w., and 1t
is time you woke up from your ro-
mantle dream and faced the fact |
that If this man left you without
asking you to marry him he never
had the slightestIntention of escort |.
ing YOU to the altar. And II he hasn't
written to you in the three months |
he has been away, it is because he |
is tired of YOU and has made his |
getaway. Save your face by not
writing to him or begging him to |
responsive, new man.
Dear Miss DIX am a boy 81 |
years old. Am in love with a girl |
10 and she insists on our getting !
married, although I am only max
ing $40 a week and have to pay on
my car and help my mother, who
is getting old and can't work. My
father Is sick and is away with rela-
tives in the country love my
mother and am afraid that I would
not be happy II got married on my
little income and could not do any
thing for her. My mother tells me
I am too young to get married and |
that this is puppy love and should
wait until I am about Is or Is and |
when I will be making enough !
money to provide for family. She |
says I will be sorry if get mar
<N, y,,i1I l1t fNr
life of struggle. Please advise me
what to do. JOHN.
Answer urge you to take your !
mothers advice, for every word she
tells you is only too true. If you |
marry on the small salary you are |
getting now, you will doom yourself |
to a lifetime Of poverty and hard
ships. 1t is not necessary for |
young couple to have a fortune and |
to be able to live luXuriously when |
they marry. There are more happy |
families living in cottages than there
are in palaces, and you see more
smiling faces in cheap cars than
you do in expensive ones But for
a marriage to be successful it has
to have adequate financial backing
Just as any other enterprise does.
Love doesn't take the place of a
roof over our heads, nor of clothes
to cover us. nor Of fire to warm us.
We don't think much of the state of
our affections when our Stomachs
are crying out for food, nor do we
talk much love talk when the bill
collector is hammering on the door
and we are wondering where the
next meal is coming from and how
we are going to get the rent money
So you may be very sure, if you
let this foolish young girl persuade
you into marrying her before you
are ready. that neither your love
nor hers will last very long. You
won't spend your time billing and
cooling. You will spend 1t fighting
because your nerves will be frayed
to fiddle strings with worry and
anxiety about how you are going to
pay your bills. You will be sore with
her because she dragged you into
this mess, and she will be blaming
you because you can't give her pretty
clothes and money for the beauty
shops, and you will both be wonder
ing what made you fools enough to
da II