Evening star., 1942-10-27
Girl Must Look
Out for Own
In Game of Hearts
Men Still Hold
The Trumbs
By Dorothy Dix .
By Dorothy Dix

Dear Dorothy Dix: I have gone
with a boy for about four years.
We have always had such great
times together and really enjoy each
others company, yet he refuses to
get serious. Instead he keeps look
Ing around for new faces and is
always accepting blind dates so as
to find them. In spite of this,
still like him very much and can't
seem to enjoy myself with other
boys, as I have become so attached
to him during these past four
years. I even refuse other dates
because I am afraid that he might
call and I will miss a chance to be
with him.
If a boy doesn't like a girl we'll
enough to want to marry her, why
does he see her continually for
years and then drop her when the
time comes to make good? Why
does he lead her to infer that he
Is in love with her when he isn't?
Why does he let her waste the time,
when she might make a good mar
riage, running around with him
when he knows that he is going to
fade out of the picture and leave
her fiat when he gets tired Of her?
And how is girl to start all over
again if she is still in love with
boy who wasn't in love with her?
THAT'S ME.
AnsWer-Because, my dear men
are selfish and women are nitwits,
and never more so than in matters
of sentiment. Also, because in the
game of hearts men hold all the
trumps and the cards are stacked
against women.
When man meets a pretty and
attractive girl, he thinks only of
what pleasure he can derive from
the acquaintanceship. If she is a
good-looker with whom he is proud
to be seen, he takes her places. If
she is bright and entertaining and
can pep up any sort of a date and
make it amusing and worth while,
he is Johnny the-spot until she
gets known as "his girl" If she has
pleasant and interesting and hos
pitable family, and a mother who
is good cook, he practically camps
on her parlor chairs.
But in all of this he is consider
ing solely his own good. He isn't
giving single thought as to how
his conduct affects the girl. He
knows well enough that if man
monopolizes girls society that he
Is keeping all other men away from
her and cutting her of from any
chance of marrying some other
man. He knows that while girl
has her youth and beauty she has
her best chance of getting a good
husband and settling herself COM
fortably in life. But that does not
cause him to alter his dog-in-the-
manger policy. He doesn't want to
marry her himself, but he doesn't
want her to marry any other man
and thus break up his pleasant
routine.
He will do that himself when he
gets tired of her, or meets some
other girl he fancies more, and if
poor old Mary is left in the lurch,
well, it is just too bad. It is her
own fault, for, goodness knows, he
never said anything to her that she
could possibly construe into a pro-
posal Of marriage. On the contrary,
he always nimbly sidestepped the
question when she brought up the
subject Of marriage.
And, of course, when the man
whose attentions have been with
out intentions says that the girl Is
to blame when she has wasted years
and years of her time upon him, he
speaks only the truth. For, alas, in
this wicked world we have to look
out for our own interests If we keep
from being cheated. No one is
going to protect a fool from her
folly, nor keep suckers from being
taken In by confidence men. Nor is
there any way In which we can
make our wishful thinking come
true.