The daily monitor leader. [volume] (Mount Clemens, Mich.) 1942-19??, 1942-09-05

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what was going to happen next
or exactly what reactions to eX-
pect from ones family and friends.
life would lose much Of it's zest.
Men who claim they don't under
stand women mean it only when
some woman does the unexpected
and something they don't approve.
When a woman reacts as he ex-
pected her to, and as he would. he
never complains about not UNDER
standing her. And that's the way
with women too. When their hus-
bands are yes" men, they under
stand them. When they are mo"
men. opposing everything their
wives suggest. then 1t Is that their
wives find. them enigmas.
Maid Of Mystery
There seems to be popular be-
lief among girls that men like mys-
FERROUS women. They 60 to all sorts
OF pains to create airs Of mystery
that are as easily seen through as
cellophane. It's when girl Is per-
fectly natural and entirely without
guile that she has man mystified.
He expects her to be involved and
complex. When she isn't. he is at
sea.
The average girl, dealing with
the average male. would get along
better II she did not try to be any
thing but herself. One can't put
on an act that lasts a life time.
The curtain must fall sometime or
the scene shift. causing much
trouble that might have been
avoided If the "act" had never been
put on in the first place.
But don't expect to know every
last thing about another person,
male or female. II you do. you are
going to be surprised, perhaps un-
pleasantly You never will scale
the intangible wall that rises be-
tween two people as protection.
That wall is provocative. We
want TO scale 1t in order to possess.
If possible, every last bit of the one
we love. But it isn't intended that
one human should gain such as
tendency or power over another.
The possessive type, very COM
mon one. always finds out in the
end that 1t is the wrong technique.
If married folk would only realize
how important the freedom Of the
individual is to perfect marriage.
they would let down, instead Of
put up, matrimonial bars.
II you know anything at all
about yourself. and you are prob
ably not an exception to the rest
Of the human race, you know that
you have impulses, but you do not
always know what you are going
to do. All right, then, how can you
expect someone else to be entirely
consistent?
Why Be Surprised I?
Why are you surprised when
someone in whom you are inter-
ested does the unexpected thing?
None of us can truthfully say that
we are sure of our own reactions.
that we know how far we can be
tempted and still resist, or that
some circumstance. plus person.
won't create situation which will
turn out to be severe test Of our
integrity. What tempts one person
does not necessarily tempt another.
What is no temptation to person
today under certain circumstances
may be a temptation under other.
or even the same, circumstances
tomorrow.
How can you tell? And II you
can't tell about yourself, how in the
world can you expect to know about
someone else?
Even the most communicative
person has his reserve. Even those
who can't keep secret can keep
their own secrets. Who can say 1t
isn't their right?
Wives are charged with using
third degree methods. or Of prying
into their husbands affairs, either
from curiosity or because they are
jealous and suspicious. It's bad
business and never results in any
thing but trouble.
Husbands sometimes are victims
OF this mania for domestic des-
truction. 1t would certainly be
poetic justice to have such men
marry such women but they rarely
do, specifically it's easy to UNDER
stand such people. but who really
knows what actuates them or who
really knows when anyone may de-
velop these or other traits foreign
to ones conception Of the others
character
Never brag about how we'll you
know a persons reactions-or be
too cockSure of your own.