Evening star., 1942-07-27
By Emily Post

BY Emily Post
Another hospitality to soldier
question is sent me in the following
letter from = girl who asks II 1t will
be proper to invite a soldier (who is
the friend Of q friend and with
whom she has been corresponding
to spend his furlough- with her
mother and herself in her mothers
apartment. Her letter continues:
Through our mutual friend who
started our writing to each other,
I do know quite a good deal about
him and about his family, so he
doesn't seem q stranger. Mother
says she can't imagine he has much
money and hopes you will stretch q
point and say 1t IS proper to invite
him here. If not, then suppose we
may invite him to all meals. II you
say he mustn't stay here, shall we
engage and pay for room for him?
In answer to this: With mother as
hostess, Of course 1t is proper that
he accept her invitation to stay at
her (and your apartment.
Dear Mrs. Post: Recently my faith
er-in-law passed away after q long
illness. My own family did not know
him and evidently thought for that
reason they could not show any per-
sonal regrets. Nevertheless I think
they should have shown some SYM
pathy for my husband. Don't you
think 80, too?
Answer: Certainly do. The fact
that they may not have known his
father has nothing to do with the
feelings Of sympathy that every nor
NAL human being feels for friend
who Is in sorrow. In your husbands s
case, their heartlessness is impossible
to understand-unless they disap-
proved OF your marriage and have
never been friends with him.
Dear Mrs. Post: Do you think
group Of young girls-obviously still
OF school age-should be expected to
tip In Q restaurant?
Answer: Decidedly yes!
Dear Mrs. Post: Is the bride sup
posed to write the thank you notes
for wedding presents even when
these come from personal friends OF
the bridegroom whom she has never
met? What about the presents sent
from his business friends? They
were certainly sent because of him,
and I feel that thank-you sent
from him would be much more ap-
preciated.
Answer-It is an unbreakable obli-
cation of the bride to write q thank
you note for every gift she receives
and very especially is this evidence
Of appreciation required of her when
q present is sent to her by friends
Of the bridegroom whom she doesn't
know. OF course II the present is
addressed to him and therefore
belongs to him, then he must write
the note of thanks. AS matter
of fact. gifts sent to bridegroom
are not unheard Of but neither are
they usual.
Dear Mrs. Post: This Is a small
ofiice. In addition to the employer
there Is a telephone operator who
also does Office work, and stenog-
grapher who was employed about
year ago to assist me. I have
been here since the start Of the
business Now that our business is
not too brisk I imagine 1t would be
good Judgment on my part to help
to reduce some Of the ONCE ex-
penses. I would be willing to try
to do my work alone for the dura-
ton. I find it rather awkward,
however, to speak OF this since 1t
will mean throwing the other girl
out of employment. Would you ad-
wise it, and, if so, how would you
advise going about it 50 as not to
be misunderstood
Answer-You might say exactly
what you've written me: Since the
work has grown much less you feel
you should do without an assistant.
There is SO much work for every
one at the present time that it is
not likely that any young able
bodied person could be long unem-
ployed. In other words, having
made the suggestion to your en-
ployer it would then be up to him.
Dear Mrs. Post: At a club to
which belong, a well-known doctor
was the guest speaker at the annual
luncheon. He was in fact the only
man present. The caterer assumed
that as he was a man this guest of
honor should be served last. Which
of course thought was all wrong, as
did many others.
Answer-He should have been
seated next to and been served after
whoever may have been considered
a woman guest of honor-but not
the chairman of the lunch or any
one who could have been considered
the hostess.
Dear Mrs. Post: Not long ago
when an account of the wedding
of two well-known young people
here In town was written In the
newspapers. the best mans name
was given this way: John SANDY
Gregor." This man Is q noted ath-
lete, known to his public as Sandy
Gregor. We were wondering whether