Evening star., 1942-05-01
Answering
Readers
Queries
Celebration Given
By Office Staff
Is Discussed
By Emily Post

Is Discussed
By Emily Post
Dear Mrs. Post: I should like to |
have your opinion of the Office girls
in my husbands place of business
giving a party each year to which
all the men in the company are in |
vited to dine and dance. A few
Of the girls are married and they |
bring their husbands; q few of the |
others bring their men friends. But |
none Of the wives Of the guests are !
invited. This to me seems very
irregular, besides which I rather |
resent having to spend the eve
ming alone while my husband trips
the light fantastic with the office
girls. Business requires him to be
away so much of the time anyway
and 1t seems unnecessary to add
one more night away from home.
Answer-Since this is evidently
an established Office custom, think
1t would be impossible to try to put
an end to it without causing criti-
cism Of him. They might think |
him either lacking interest in the
Office or snobbish or hen-pecked.
Certainly you would not like to have
this last said, would you?
Dear Mrs. Post: My son Is to be |
married and inasmuch as the young |
people need money desperately my
husband and I intend to give them |
q check for wedding present, 10 be
used toward buying some of the |
many things they need to start |
housekeeping. think it is natural
for us to prefer to draw this check |
to our son rather than to the bride. |
In our case we hardly know her. |
May we do this without running the
risk of hurting her feelings?
Answer-It is hardly possible that |
the bride will expect you to give the
check to her, but she may very well |
feel hurt II you exclude her alto
gether. I would suggest that you |
either write the check out to him |
and write her that it is Of course
meant for her too, or else give the |
check to them together by making |
1t payable to John and Mary Blank. |
This would mean depositing it to |
their joint account for use after |
their marriage.
Dear Mrs. Post: My sister is 30
and am II years older. She is going
to have big wedding and wishes
to have me serve as maid Of honor.
I think I am too old although I do
know that every one thinks I am
much younger because look young.
Will it be proper for me to take part,
or shall insist that she ask close
friend her own age?
Answer-Apart from the youth
fulness Of your appearance, I think
the ages Of the bridegroom and best
man should be taken into account.
II they are almost your age, then
there would be no question about the
propriety of your taking part. But
II they are young and If perhaps the
ushers and bridesmaids are younger
still, you would be wise, I think, to
advise her to choose a friend In your
place.
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Dear Mrs. Post: In . recent -ts-.
sue of a well-known picture maya
zine there are pictures of q formal
dinner OF one Of the reputedly blue
book hostesses Of yesterday. Guests,
also OF conspicuous Importance,
have their elbows on the table dur
ing dinner, and one Of them is seen
using a small piece Of bread as a
pusher. Aren't these flaws In best
table manners, which certainly In
this example ought to be exemplary?
Answer-The rightness or wrong
ness Of elbows depends on the when
and how. When" is when not eat
ing. How" is not far from the edge
Of the table and arm not serving as
prop for head. A small piece of
crust Is entirely proper, but not a
soppy piece into which ones finger
tips sink.
Dear Mrs. Post: Will you please
tell me where the telephone num-
ber should be die stamped? I am
going to have dies cut for our street |
address and our telephone number. |
Should the latter be placed below
the first or do you like the little |
cut Of the telephone with number |
placed by itself?
Answer-The separate one is pret-
tier, but since die stamping in color
Is charged for at 50 much for each
separate die, and not by its size.
1t Is much more economical to have
the telephone number cut below
the house address. The telephone
number alone, no matter how small, |
counts as much when separately |
stamped as a long address or mono
gram or coat of arms.
Dear Mrs. Post: We are giving
an engagement party for our daugh-
ter and would like to ask one ques-
ton In connection with the invita-
tions. Just how wrong is it to ad-
dress the envelope ''Mr. and Mrs.
and family" since we wish to |
include their three daughters, who
live at home?
Answer: The "wrongness" of be-
ing not fashionable practice Is
very unimportant. It's real wrong
ness is that 1t is indefinite. In a
family of graduated ages one does
not know whether the grandparents
and the half-grown members of the |
family are-or are not-included. |
Correctly the invitation in uues-
ton should be addressed Mr.. and |
Mrs. John Smith. The Misses
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