Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1942-12-25
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By Emily Post

No matter how many changes may
be caused by the time-saving re-
quirements Of the war, there is still
no excuse for the rudeness Of certain
thank-you cards. In other words,
I agree with my reader who asks:
Wont you please some time empha-
size in your column the rudeness
exhibited in sending printed thank
you cards? Some months ago I
spent an entire afternoon picking
out wedding present, I so hoped it
would please the bride. About a
month later I received a printed
card with stock thank-you ex-
preston. Nothing else was added to
it to make it at least little per-
sonal. More recently a woman in
our Office left the company A
group of us pooled our money to
buy her an extremely lovely and
expensive gift. If you could but
know the time we spent getting the
money together and buying the
present and the pains we took to
wrap it up. Today comes a printed
card Of thanks. Not a single line of
handwriting added to it!'
On this subject it would be posi-
BILE to over-emphasize the inexcus-
able rudeness of the bride who
failed to write simple appreciative
word Of thanks for the wedding
present sent her. But my reader
has so perfectly explained the effect
of a printed card Of thanks upon
the givers that I can't imagine any
one who has read her letter will
continue to believe printed words
alone either stylish or polite.
Dear Mrs. Post: A young relative
is being married. He is in the serv-
ice so we know he will wear a uni
form, and probably some Of the
other men in the wedding will also
be in their uniforms. When men
guests know that the men in the
wedding are going to be in uniform,
Is 1t best for them to wear plain
business suits instead of formal
suits? Or was your advice in your
column the other day intended only
for those taking part when you said
plain suits go best with uniforms?
Answer-1t referred to all guests
especially. however, to the young
men. Older men might properly
wear formal clothes If 1t has long
been their custom to wear them.
Dear Mrs. Post: Some days ago
we received regulation formal an
nouncement of marriage with a
card inclosed inviting us to the
breakfast which was to take place
Immediately following the cere-
mony. The announcement came
about two weeks before the wedding
itself. When I spoke to a friend
about the irregularity Of something
like this she said she understood
that 1t was being done today. II
1t is. why and with what sensible
reason?
Notwithstanding is wrong
somewhere. To Announce the
marriage" at q future date Is I'M
possible. An invitation to the we'd
ding reception is proper Of course.
Or the marriage might be an
nounced as having taken place and
the reception to be given at
future time.
Dear Mrs. Post: Is it proper to
write to a man in the service when
he Is not personally known to me?
I have one in mind who was for
merly employed here. I joined the
company just after he left but am
told he Is very nice. There Is a
service honor roll posted on our
bulletin board with an appeal for
fellow employees to write to these
men.
Answer-Under the circumstances
that YOU speak Of see no reason
why you should not write to him.
Tell him that you have seen his
name on the bulletin board and
there was an appeal to fellow en-
ployes to write, and that l. why you
are writing.