The daily monitor leader. [volume] (Mount Clemens, Mich.) 1942-19??, 1942-10-24


nonsense. It isn't necessarily true
that q girl marries her first. and
only love. She may love her second
husband far more than she did her
hrst, or she may not.
Understand Men
It may not be the most romantic
viewpoint In the world but It Is the
realists' viewpoint that q certain
amount Of experience Is q good
thing to bring to marriage. No that
widows necessarily are better wives,
but they at least know more about
the eccentricities Of the male AMI
NAL. his moods and lenses and, un-
less they are stupid. how to handle
men with tact. which Is one Of the
essentials to q smooth-running
married life.
There's q time and q place to
spring things on ones husband, II
it's something about which one is
in doubt. It's only common sense to
present the matter In the best pos
sible light and under the most ad-
vantageous circumstances. That's
something gushing brides don't
know, or II they know. brush aside.
Wise wives wait and watch their
mates before they pounce on EN-
with some proposition that has all
the earmarks Of q problem.
There Is q general belief among
sophisticated folks at least that
men like widows. and even in less
sophisticated circles It's pretty gen.
orally conceded that an attractive
widow Is pretty stiff competition.
1t also seems to follow that men
who are accepted by them feel
pretty set up to be chosen by q lady
who knows, or should know. q good
thing when she sees one.
There are, Of course, certain dan
gers ones son has to face In marry
ing for the first time q woman who
Is marrying for the second. but
these disadvantages probably are
no more difficult to deal with than
others that follow the honeymoon.
Ones son can certainly do much
worse than marry IN attractive
widow and one could have q much
less desirable daughter-in-law for,
chances are. she has had some pre-
viouS mother In . law experience
and this should help In knowing
how to handle this rather prickly
relationship.
Children Cause Trouble
Most Of the difficulties that re-
suit from second marriages arise,
over the children Of = previous
marriage; where there are no chill
dren there II no reason for saying
no to 4 second marriage. WhetV
there are children. and their Mol.
fare or happiness may be 'unfAvor-
ably affected by q marriage, one
should. Of course, think well before
imposing such handicap on them.
In the case In point. the mans
mother has no fault to find With
her sons choice excepting that he
has chosen q woman who has been
married before. II the man can
accept her under those terms. there
Is certainly no reason for his mo-
ther to feel disturbed.
Let them alone; II this woman
Is tactless enough to keep her hus.
band constantly reminded Of her
first marriage. she should be eau.
toned against forming any such
habit, but it's hardly the mans
mothers place to caution her
husbands can usually be relied
upon to handle such . situation
with promptness and dispatch.
Many years ago second marriages
were rare and third marriages
practically unheard Of. IT'S very
different today: second marriages
and even third marriages are any.
thing but unusual In many levels
Of society.
A mans mother might well b
agitated about his choice were he
marrying q widow much older than
he, In which case II might be In
fatuAtion or fortune hunting.