Evening star., 1941-08-06

Wives, II you want your husbands
| to be successful, make them happy.
| That will do more than any other
one thing to enable them to make
the most use of whatever talents
they possess. For the happy man
Is a climber who says to himself,
Where do I 90 from here?" While
the unhappy man sits down at the
foot OF the ladder and asks himself,
whats the use?" CuriouSly enough,
the average woman separates her
husbands home life from his public
and professional life and never sees
that they have any bearing on each
other. 1t does not seem to her to
make any difference whether he
starts to work of morning with a
smile on his face after a gay and
pleasant little breakfast, or scowling
and furious after a domestic brawl
that has left him so sore that he Is
ready to commit mayhem on any
one with whom he comes in contact.
Yet this mood, which seems so un-
important to the wife, determines
oftener than she knows whether by
middle age she will be riding in q
limousine or hopping a bus. For
happiness is first aid to the ambi-
tious. 1t makes friends for him. 1t
enables him to get along with other
people. 1t opens doors for him
which are forever closed to the dour
and grouchy whom every one avoids
for fear of catching their misery.
A mans efficiency is affected by
his state Of mind. If he has nothing
to worry about, he can give every
particle of intelligence he possesses
to his job, but if he is mulling over
In his thoughts his last fight with
his wife and the mean things she
said to him. his ability Is reduced
practically to zero. Many a woman
who wonders why her husband
doesn't make as much money as
some other man does, who is no
smarter than he Is, could find the
answer in the way she treats him.
So, wives. If you want your hus-
bands to get there, make them hap
py. Begin by making them COM
Portable, by giving them a home that
Is a place of peace and rest where
they can gather up their strength
every night for the battle of the
next day. Feed them well, for as a
man eats so Is he. Hearty and
strong and going strong at so, or
a nervous. dyspeptic wreck at 40.
Never forget that when your hus-
band married you he put not only
his heart but his stomach into your
hands. 1t is q sacred trust. Deal
with 1t wisely.
Keep your husband happy by
building up continually his faith in
himself. The one person whose ap-
probation man Graves more than
that of any one else Is his wife's,
and as long as she believes him to
be wiser than Solomon and stronger
than Joe Louis he will work him.
self to death to live up to her ideal.
Don't think that you can be boss
of the house and get away with it.
Don't fool yourself into thinking
that because your husband takes
your nagging and your faultfinding
and your criticisms lying down that
he doesn't resent them. Don't be
dumb enough to think that it doesn't
matter when you are continually re-
preaching him for not getting along
better and showing him that you
consider him a failure.
It does. 1t matters vitality to you
as we'll as him, because when you
break a mans pride you break his
spirit and his will to succeed. When
you take away a mans faith in him.
self you have taken away his cour-
age. His morale is gone and he is
defeated, with no more fight left
in him.
And even if there were no mat
ter Of affection involved, 1t would
still pay women to keep their hus-
bands happy, because - long ~ Q
man thinks his wife the greatest