Detroit evening times. (Detroit, Mich) 1921-1958, 1941-03-09
What To Do
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Youngsters

children arises With the coming of brother
~ sister. Sometimes parents describe such situation
by saying that the childs joint"
fortunately it isn't simple that says Dorothy sE.
Bradbury of the Child Research Station of
the University of Iowa.
IF parents meet this problem with eyes open,
however trouble can almost always be avoided Miss Brad
bury declares and outlines the procedure
varaby youngsters interested in babies they
taken into the parents confidence before the baby
arrives it possible TO the keenes anticipation for
the brother sister, Miss Bradbury Telling
the child that there going to be baby and maybe
you help take of it,, leads the child look
forward to the event in much the that he aHtei
pates plaything parents want their children
be fond of each her they growing up behooves
them to make good start it before the birth of
the second child.
But suppose jealousy has already occurred what
should parent do then If the parent looks
fairly he won't blame the child feeling
does After all he's been the center of his parents atten
ton for three four and suddenly most of II
pink bundle of wrgges that into the family
without any warning at all
After ALL parents, love the first child much
as the newcomer maybe more because we've had him
longer Our problem is to make that fact clear to the child
One of the best of doing this is to give him
such explanation as the following You know, Johnny,
Susan can't do thing for herself have to spend
lot of time taking of her. Once upon a time when
you tiny had to take of you that way
now you almost dress yourself big fine
boy and bother to us at all wouldn't wonder you
could help take of Susan because you're get
ting grownup and she's much yours she is
Thereafter his parents should attention to him
hold him their laps tell him kiss him
often In this they him that he has
real place in the family and he won't be jealous"
Without meaning to do So parents sometimes show
favoritism toward a child who is attractive
gifted troublesome than another family
Bradbury points out Invariably this jealousy
Some parents constantly making unfavorahe COMPARE
between the children in the family IF you would
only keep your clothes clean like Fred does" Why don't
you keep your side of the room as orderly as Betys?
When Tommy is through playing he always picks his
toys Parents who make such comparisons to forget
mat children who are younger can't be expected to perform
at the level of efficiency older children Often they
equally blind to the fact that child in the family
be constantly betted by both his parents and the
other children still other families youngest child
is always right and the older invariably wrong
In such situations the childs only fight
back with all his might meeting disparagement with
sstance and No wonder that under such circum
stances children come to resent the simplest suggestion
the part of their fathers mothers OF course key
to the situation lies in the cause Such children need to
equitable portion praise affection.
So jealousy is shown chiefly situations in which the
child feels neglected by the ones whom he loves Essentially
it fear response he is fearful his
security Just because it response produces
illogical exaggerated or unreason
able Sometimes it is shown by violent outburss anger
at other times by sung and derogaory remarks about
other children often in rivalry trying "outdo"
person of whom the child jealous OF course
Tins of jealousy do not understand the real of their
feelings They simply feel abused sighted lonely. AL
though they unhappy, they don't understand why.
If child experiences such jealousy frequently and
a strong and disturbing degree IT may eventually become
characteristic traits Just cheerful nature
quick temper or good sefcontro become known as char
acteristic development jealousy in
child may tragic repercussons throughout
life if it is allowed to becomeschr and grow
permanent ffetivatiHe ms life Almost every daily
paper story somewhere illustrating the tremend
explosive power of uncontrolled jealous feelings and
the headong reckless actions which often follow AL
always the seeds for such tragedies back
n early childhood
of jealousy then parents should look
beneath the surface behavior for the cause Miss Brad
bury concludes why does the child feel unoved? How
he being in his affections What
his security In its early stages for
tunatelv jealousy very easy handle Sometimes little
praise affectionate pat the back little special
attention is all that needed TO dispel such feelings