Evening star., 1941-01-18
Dorothy Dix Says >>>
Girls Endanger Regulations by
Going Out With Married Men

Dear Miss Dix: Do you think I
am unreasonable in asking my
daughter to stop riding home from
the Office every evening alone with
married man, when she could
come on a bus and really get back
an hour earlier? The man is an
excellent character, so far as I know,
but he has wife and a young child
and am afraid this might cause a
misunderstanding between him and
his wife. They now seem to be very
happy and congenial.
ANXIOUS MOTHER.
Answer-You are not only not un-
reasonable in trying to stop your
daughter from her joyrides with
this married man, but you would fail
utterly ir your duty to her if you
did not try to protect her from her
folly. For, though she be chaste as
ice and pure as snow, there are cer-
tain things that no girl can do with
out running her good name. And
going out alone with married man
in his car is one of the headliners
among them. Your daughter and
the man may be merely platonic
friends. They may discuss nothing
more personal than the weather. But
no one will believe it. Appearances
are against them and tongues will
wag.
And nobody has a right to blame
tho vuI,u chNr,lI
eral public be more careful Of the
girls reputation than she is her
self? Every one knows that the
married man who shows attention
to a girl seldom bodies her any good
and the girl who accepts it is gen.
orally no better than she should be
Furthermore, unless the mans
wife is entirely devoid Of jealousy
and has a far more trusting dispo-
sition than most wives possess, she
is sure to get green-eyed, and then
the girl finds herself involved In
a messy and unsavory scandal.
Perhaps your daughter will say
that so long as she is innocent and
does nothing wrong she will not heed
what people say Of her, but that
is where she makes . mistake. In
nocent or guilty, Mrs. Grundy will
break her unless she conforms to
the conventions. Once girls name
is slimed over 1t can never be washed
clean again.
If a girl is q cold-hearted ad-
ventures who has no pity for a
sister woman and who is willing
to break up a home and orphan lit
tie children in order to get the man
she wants, you can see why she has
q love affair with married man.
The game Is worth the candle to
her. But it is incomprehensible why
any girl who is not home robber
will jeopardize her peace and hap
piness, and even her chances Of
marriage, by Irritation with man
who already has a wife. She risks
so much for so little and she so sure
ly loses out in the end.
Dear Miss Dix: I have a great
many extremely wealthy relatives
and friends who are always inviting
us to their homes for dinners and
week ends. They seem to esteem
us and favor us at all gatherings,
yet when I ask them to come to my
house, which is within easy driving
distance, I never seem able to pin
them down to a definite date. And
I wonder if 1t is not because we do
not live in the style that they do.
We have a small savings account
and I am sometimes tempted to
use this to do over our apartment
in a more modern and grander style.
Do you think this would be wise
investment in view of the fact that
quite q bit Of my time is spent with
these rich people?
BEWILDERED.
Answer-No, I don't. think the
most foolish thing that any poor
person ever does is to try to keep