Evening star., 1941-12-28
BOYS AND GIRLS TOGETHER
The date" problem is
their main worrY-bu but
il can be solved, says
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Author ef"e,iqvsff.: The Blue
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~ERIOUs-minded college girls and
- boys, people starting out on their
~ careers, gilded debutantes, young
business men. all have one major
problem, dates" how to get them,
how to handle them. In come their
letters, all carrying conspicuously SIM
liar messages. So let US consider this
situation that is so vital to the younger
generation.
THE GIRLS ANGLE: Susan Seri-
GUS and Mary Workman write on good
but unmonogrammed paper. perhaps.
Rhoda Richling spreads her letter on
two double sheets, each with its die
stamping - house address, center;
telephone number at right; cut-out
monogram in three colors, at left. But
what Rhoda asks. they all ask: Why
do boys she has known all her life al
ways come to her parties, but almost
never ask her for date - except to
the neighborhood movies.
Rhoda sounds like the rather spoiled
child of very well-to-do parents. Will
Steve Senior or Charlie Clerking save
up to take her somewhere important?
Probably not One college student,
who did save up and invite a certain
very spoiled girl to supper at the Bird
Nest, said afterwards:
''She acted so unapproachable that
felt as if she couldn't even see me.
She seemed to be sitting alone in the
subway train
But you don't have to be rich to be
spoiled. Perhaps Susan or Mary makes
no effort to be amiable - let alone
amused - at having to wait for seats
atthe movies, or for table at supper,
or a chance on a crowded dance floor.
These traits make most boys, who may
count Rhoda or Susan very good
friend, eager to date Betty Bright.
In fact, one object in writing this
article is to emphasize Betty's out-on-
a-party enthusiasm. She shows it at
debutante ball, supper club, the soda
counter at the corner drug store -
with HIM" or with David Rather
dull She is never bored.
Betty learned in childhood to be like
that. They drilled her at home to find
something of interest or amusement in
everyone and everything. She knows
she must disguise occasional boredom
or start on the road to social failure.
Her friends nickname her Little Can
d6 Camera, because her astute eyes
see everything from an amusing angle.
In contrast to Betty, is Susan Ser
ious - interesting, likable, cookbook
ing, and with very devoted friends.
But she wiN get into long earnest dis
cussions even when dancing. The man,
who calls her friend, dates her when he
wants to sit all afternoon discussing
things. He does not take her out at
night if he wants to dance!
Here are some special DON'FS.
Girls who've had dates probably know
them. A very young beginner, out on
a first date, may not.
Most important: Don't do anything
to attract attention to yourself or to
ysAr boy friend. Don't snuggle up to
him. Don't smooth his hair, or fix his
tie! If you must hold hands, hold them
briefly! Don't scream with laughter.
Don't sing unless everyone in the room
is singing. Don't smoke while you are
dancing. Don't dance with arms
clutched around his neck.
THE MANS ANGLE: A college
senior protests against my criticism of
the man in day clothes who esquires a
girl in evening dress.
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