The McDowell times. [volume] (Keystone, W. Va.) 1904-1941, 1941-02-07
BY KATHLEEN NORRIS
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ME fears of a girl before
she takes the serious step
of marriage are very nat
ural fears. Any girl who is will
ing to jump into the new life,
accept the new name and home,
responsibilities and position
without any misgivings, is a
rather shallow girl. We expect
the bride to be a little dubious,
a little hesitant, a little afraid
of her own fitness to handle the
problems of marriage.
But the other extreme is al
most as unfortunate as the one
Of too much confidence. To
weigh and measure, doubt and
worry, analyze and hesitate
over your matrimonial pros
poets is to rob the happiest time
of your life of it's fragrance and
beauty. When 1 receive a letter
like the following, I have small
hopes that the girl who wrote it
is headed for a successful ex-
perience as wife.
An Eye to Alterations.
David and have been engaged
for more than a year." writes Maude
Brown. "He is "a, am seven years
younger; we are both school-teach-
ers. Everything / know Of David
character Is fine, but there are
many little things about him that
worry me; they may not seem
important to most girls, but they
are to me. I would not hurt his
feelings for the world; just because
he has not had some of the social
advantages that most of my friends
have had. But I feel that just q
few changes In him would make him
perfection itself and need advice
as to how to 60 about accomplishing
them. Intellectually he is more than
q match for any of my friends; next
year he will probably be superin-
tendent of our Union High, the young
est man ever to hold that position.
ITO give you an idea Of what I
mean. David Is very outspoken.
Before our friends he will say things
like: How can you folks afford
that7' or: were going to board with
Maude's mother awhile, at regu-
lar boarder rates. little intimate
matters that embarrass me and my
friends. Once at a picnic David
refused frankfurters saying that
they gave him gas he never rises
when a woman stands up to leave
the table; he doesn't take off his
hat when women are in the elevator,
pull out my chair, or open the car
door for me. In short, he is a rough
diamond, but he is a diamond
Makes Her Feel Self Cons clous.
Nov, If these things worry me
before marriage, and make me self
conscious before all my old group
he Is a comparative newcomer in
town, by the way, will they not wor-
~ me infinitely more when we are
married, and / feel that there Is no
escape7 Marriage is a delicate and
an intimate relationship; to a sensi-
tive woman there cannot be in IL
too much consideration or inesse.
want to be proud OF my husband in
every way, and in every way that
really counts, am proud of David.
He IS moderate in all his habits,
popular, thrifty, successful.
Would Destroy David's Bigness.
II would hope by gentleness and
example and the influence Of a wife
to influence him, but even now he
only laughs good naturedly if am
disturbed, and within a few DAYS
repeats the offence, whatever il was
David really does not see in what
way he is failing me, and I ASH
myself II he ever will see. Have
you had problems similar to This
one before, and if you have what
has been your advice?"
My advice in this case. Maude