Detroit evening times. (Detroit, Mich) 1921-1958, 1941-09-28

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and women, who win keep telling him how wonderful
his ideas
But there is one group of people who just don't have
any luck at surrounding themselves with yes-men" and
who wish that they would hear the word yes at least
once In while.
did hear yes too frequently they would really have
start worrying, for it would be a bad sign
These people parents and the 'no-men are their
children. As child is two three years old,
he is utterng emphatic and repeated no's before
baby learns the word No he coordinate his head
enough give negative long
he learns the positive upanddown shake He learns
say No before he can say Yes"
Now, while all this may alarm mothers and fathers,
according Or. Gladys c. Schwesinger practising psy
biologist writer about heredy and environment and
at the American Museum Of Natural History in New
York. there for alarm this early negative
attitude In fact DR. Schwesinger believes that an easy
acquescence in childhood might lack Of initiative.
so she prefers children who shout No"
'Wlfulness, dsobedence. what is usually thought Of
as selfishness" explained Or. Schwesinger
the suggestions of mothers fathers and
other grownups all signs of what I call negativsm.
And they hard to live with will admit 1t is
tany upseng have small boys and girls show their
resistance by clenchng fists holding their muscles
rigid flashing their eyes, drawing their teeth and lips
together stamping their feet kicking biting screaming
lying the floor in protest and running away.
1T pleasant either to have a angry youngster
has just carried out destroy something
which someone has made, express his mega
by Withholding what he wants to say just to show
his parents that his own win is stronger than theirs
Another psychologist Or. David Levy, studied this
mo- during special examination of about
children from months 10 six years old He found
girls who resisted taking his tests showed the most
dsobedence at rs to % months of and the boys who
the recacitran from 80 to SO months
seemed pretty evident that children have to be past
years old before their desire TO say mo- to every
thing their elders say disappears
When a child is five six he seems TO have learned
many of the things 10 which he has TO conform that
is when DR. schwesnger hopes that children won't begin
to much THAI they will lose their initiative
According to her it is how and why person resiss that
really counts
For good adaptation to life its many phases" said
DIX scwesnger the positive the negative trends
of personality must developed But these should be
adequate proportion to each other and children must
be helped develop this good proportion.
Since the child is smaller than grownups they
make him do things just on their physical
and mental superiority whether the child wants do
them not and whether 1t is good for the child to do
them not
Adults who do not understand a child even their own
very feel enough sympathy for his position
they grant him the rights which his just
due member OF the household. Young children are
very quick 70 feel this injustice that is being done TO them
and they 20 it,"
Dr schwesngcr believes that-mauy parents try to
discipline a child without trying to get his
with other children The result Of this kind of
to put uncertain ground. child feels insecure
ghcn different ways deceiving him.
telling truth and of not keeping their promises
90 him child very much upset when grovuups
threaten him or are over-anxious about him and
control their emotions worries in front of him.
Disagreement between parents about how to raise
their children, teasing the children naggng scodng,
threats brides many demands too much service
much discipline unclear directions all these TO
heIghten a chids early insecurity" Such attitudes on
The part unthinang parents encourage child to say
80 and bring forth other negative reactions This
psychologist believes that 10 is not good 90 make child
Lose too many battles childhood because defeat may
give him "A personality which fear is uppermost and
there s no spirit The parents should try TO check
this ncgavsm very early by praisng the good things the
child
thinks that a conquered chiid whom submission per-
anenty established by bad punishment may develop into
a spinciess weakling who s unable 70 cope with life
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