The Ely miner. [volume] (Ely, Minn.) 1895-1986, 1941-07-17
By KATHLEEN NORRIS
tBen syndicate-wNU Service

+ MARRIED. men with GOOD
if unexciting, wives, could
i get it through their heads
that the fascinating sweethearts
they want so much to marry,
after a divorce, are just the
same as other women, and will
make wives no better and no
worse, how sirnplifed and sta
bilized marriage would be!
And if attractive young
women, mildly bored with
seven or eight years of wife
hood, could possibly foresee the
complications into which tempt
ing illicit affairs on the side
would draw them, one of Amer
ica's most serious social prob
lens would be lessened.
But a husband will continue to
think that the lovely, eager, SYM
pathetic girl in the Office has no
faults. And his wife will go on
dreaming Of the perfect lover-like
that man she met at Jane's-so
polite-so handsome-so attentive.
And so the mischief goes on, breed
ing incalculable difficulties, heart
breaks, Establishments for all con-
cerned.
Same Situation Over Again.
When Mildred divorces Bill and
marries George, things usually go
wonderfully for a few years-per-
haps three. But then, if any woman
friend is mean enough to remind
her of some Of her sentiments at
the time of the divorce she meets
a cold stare from Mildred's eyes.
Mildred doesn't remember things
exactly that way.
'pn never forget how you and
George adored each otherI" babbles
the friend. ''Do you remember you
two used to meet at Chez Louis
and simply stare at each other for
hours? Remember he used to call
you my little Duchess and moon
around places where you were dining
with Bill?"
No, Mildred doesn't remember
that. She admits that Bill was such
brute she had to divorce him or
go mad and that George had been
crazy about her for years, and so
she married him. Further than this
she doesn't go; the subject seems to
hold no interest for her.
Sensible Viewpoint.
No marriage retains, after the
first few months or year, the trem-
bling glamour of the honeymoon;
sensible women know it, and resist
the illusions of the new affair. And
sensible men remind themselves
that the girl friend, all sympathy,
youth, fragrance, lure today, will
turn, after few years of marriage,
into just another faulty, unreason-
able, selfish and extravagant COM
panion as was the discarded wife.
Which brings us to "Bobby's" let
ter, which came to me few weeks
ago. This is part of it.
"After a few years of marriage,
when our two girls were seven and
five," writes Bobby, "My wife and
! drifted apart. We seemed to have
no interest in common and life be-
came dull and dragging affair for
us both. was then travelling for
my firm, and met a woman I will
call Hazel. She was most SYM
pathetic and understanding friend,
and we became lovers, Hazel giving
up her job and maintaining a little
establishment In a town some 20
miles from nay home.
Bobby's Complicated Problem.
when my wife discovered this
she left me, but did not Immediately
apply for divorce A year passed
and was promoted, moved to an
other city, and had an opportunity
to meet some unusually interesting
people. One of these, young radio
actress, is everything I ever
dreamed of finding in woman, of
fine family, beautifully educated,
lovely in every way. We are deeply
In love; Margaret (the radio &C.
tress) for the first time.