Evening star., 1940-01-16

eye appeal may be the sum total {
party partner, he may be an out-an
self in for the most dismal evening
giving cause for of1ense to the b.
reasonably expect you to invite ther
So our number one suggestion is
to ask boy whom you know fairly
well. and preferably one who has
recently dated you.
II there's some other lad in your
class or your neighborhoOd whom
you'd like to know better, don't US
this party as an excuse to scrape an
acquaintance. Bide your time, and
use your feminine wiles to persuade
him to make the advances. That's
the more subtle technique, and it
Is usually more successful than the
direct approach of an invitation.
OF course, If you have had very
few dates, and none with boys you
wish to encourage, you're in a more
difficult position. In that case
choose one who has shown some
slight friendly interest in you, even
if it has been very casual.
Invitation by
Note or Phone.
In inviting the boy to go to the
dance or party with you, it's per-
fectly correct to drop him a note
If you don't care to telephone or
ask him In person. Explain that
your club is giving this party on
such and such a date, and that
you'd like to have him attend as
your guest. Add any necessary
details as to hour, dress, and other
arrangements.
If your invitation is declined, be
cheerful and nonchalant about it
Tell him you're sorry, and let it &c
at that. And If he accepts, be
sincerely pleased, but not ecstatic
Don't let him get the idea that you
are absolutely amazed that he'd
really condescend to 60 with poor
little you!
II it's necessary to provide trans
portation to the party, and the boy
is able to do so, then that is his
duty. However, If you can't get to
the party without a car, and he has
none, you'd better arrange in
advance to 60 with another couple
Or choose q different escort!
It's also up to the boy to pay fol
any refreshments that may be con-
sumed at Chow Mein Charles after
the party. In other words, you de-
fray the cost of the party itself and
that's all. Incidental expenses are
your escorts responsibility.
In some cases, of course, your club
might plan to pay for the entire
evenings expenses, perhaps includ-
ing transportation, to a place Of en-
tertainment some distance away
Under such conditions, necessary
tickets should be purchased in ad-
vance, or, II that is impossible, by
one girl acting as buyer-inner fol
the entire club. The idea is to save
your personal escort the embarrass-
ment of standing by, looking un-
comfortable while you tumble in
your purse for money.
Incidentally, when you are paying
the expenses on an ordinary date
for any reason. it is tactful to give
your escort the money in advance
and let him spend it. Girls who &c
in for Dutch treat dates learned
long ago that this is the only satis-
factory way of handling them.
Arrange Those
Program Dances.
Your club may carry the Lear
Year idea over to the dance itself
with the girls choosing their part
ners throughout the evening. If so
a program dance will be your best
bet, with the girls filling their pro-
grams by trading dances with other
club members In advance, or just
before the music starts on the night
of the party. You can have cut-ins
on the encores, with the boys cut
ting on some dances and the girls
on others.
We know one girl who found her
self in an embarrassing position
when a dance to which she had in
vited a boy was suddenly Cancelled.
This resourceful miss promptly got
tickets to a special movie and then
called the boy to explain the situa-
ton, asking him to be her guest at
the theater instead.
If no such substitute entertain
ment had been available she would
have merely expressed the hope that
he could be her guest on some future
occasion. Or is she had known the
boy well she might have suggested