The Ely miner. [volume] (Ely, Minn.) 1895-1986, 1940-06-06
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ity a man likes in a woman It Is
"confortableness." He likes to be
made to forget himself, forget that
he is openly announcing himself as
an admirer of this woman, forget
everything except the pleasantness
Of companionship and the fun and
Joy of a good time.
The other night, on an evening
walk, passed small lighted house
from whose doorway a tail girl was
briskly emerging. A young man was
waiting in the garden shadows for
her, and as she approached him she
was calling back a message into
the house.
Mary, if you read my book don't
lose the place; I will, Manual I
will, Dad. Tom," said this girl,
joining the waiting swain, 1--WE have
to take my kid brother to Grand
mas, because my sisters here with
her baby. And Mama wants me to
stop and get her some vanilla; I
promised I'd make chocolate Gus
tard for Dad tomorrow. Isn't this
fun!" she went on, as she and the
young man went toward his car,
"d'you realize this is the first time
we've been to movie together?"
The Full Life.
The first time. But If I know men
it wasn't the last. For in her easy,
joyous way she'd told him that she
loved her family and needed them,
and they needed her, and that even
a beau didn't put her fathers, moth
er's, sisters, brothers. comfort out
of her mind; that she was interested
in plenty of things other than the
excitement Of having a man take
her to movie.
To be able to extend simple friend
liness to male friends, as easily as
| to women friends, is a real gift. But
If it is not natural thing it can be
cultivated. The secret is to be a
whole, complete person yourself, not
waiting for another person to round
out your entity. The moment a
woman finds life full and satisfying
some man turns up who wants to
break In on that happy, contented
| life, and share it. She is absorbed
in books, friends, work, hobbies,
| plans. Next summer she is going
to do wonderful things; next win
ter she has been promised that ador-
able apartment she's had her eye on
for two years. Friday night is sym
phony night and Tuesday night Is
the hilarious Spanish class, on Sun
day she always goes out to her
brothers place and they picnic or
do something with the children. She
has a victrola, a radio and a car
and one or two of those male stand.
bys who are not beaus, exactly, but
who are always on hand for escort
duty on real occasions.
Challenge to Men.
When an eligible man meets q
| woman whose life is as weu-rounded
as this, yearning to upset her SNUG
little applicant takes possession OF
him. She doesn't need him, and SO
he has to convince her that she does.
He asks her curiously why she, al
80, has not married, and she can
answer with perfect truth and seri'
BUSINESS that she's been too busy
she likes men, really she does, but
| she never seems to have any time
to think Of marriagei
But surely she'd like a home, and
kids of her own?
Well, ye-es, of course. But ther
so often things don't turn out right
And she is so comfortable, with hei
fire and her books and her friends
He then must set to work to con
vince her that she is all wrong. A
woman doesn't know what happi
ness is until she marries. He's al
ways thought he didn't want to mar
~, himself, but as man gets old,
er and sees the happiness OK bis
friends
And from that point on. all Is
smooth sailing.
OF course, great many women
on small salaries, or living with
more or less trying families, cannot
give this impression Of ease and IN
dependence. But there is 40 woman
who cannot make a man feel thai
she is pleased with her life as it H.
and that is a situation of which nc
man seems able to keep his hands
Il she has made her Life satisfying
he likes it too. But just as long az
he senses in her a yearning to gel
her talons on his life, IN nine case.
out Of ten be has no use for her
whatsoever.