The Tacoma times. [volume] (Tacoma, Wash.) 1903-1949, 1940-02-21
Good Taste
Today
SHOULD GIRL RETURN RING
WHEN ENT FIANCE
SEEMS TO COOL.
She Il Advised to Send II Back
OF Own Accord 20 Save Pride
BY Breaking Engagement


permits the writer Of the following
letter TO consider that she Ia wear
ing an engagement ring. Perhaps
i am wrong. and II may be better
therefore TO quote her letter In
full. "A year ago" she writes.
my fiance went away. presum-
ably TO pay q visit In the far
West. A few weeks have become
months. and for half q year now
his letters have been growing
fewer and fewer and now they
come only At rare intervals. Last
time he wrote he said that he liked
II 20 much out there. that he had
decided TO accept a business prop
osition that pleased him very
much. and become an out and out
Westerner. But not a word did
he say about our engagement or
about the plans we once had TO
marry this coming spring. The
impcrsonality Of his letters -
nothing about what he thinks. no
talk of 'us"-makes II very plain
that he doesn't know how 10 get
out Of a situation which he no
longer likes. But until he has
the courage TO give me real
explanation. my sister thinks that
he doesn't deserve to have his
ring returned. II Ia very pretty.
I wish I knew whether to keep It
or TO send II back"
II seems TO me that the best
thing to do Is not to answer his
letter. II this silence on your
part brings no explanation from
him. then whether you feel like
wearing a ring. whose sentiment
Is nothing but ghost Of memory,
Is something which you alone can
decide. Actually you are not
forced to give 1t back until he
asks for his freedom. When that
happens. you cannot refuse to
give II to him or fail to return his
ring. But IL you do send his ring
back Of your own accord you will
at least save your own pride by
breaking the engagement yourself
s. unless you care more for the
ring than for your pride.
The Hostess II Embarrassed
Dear Mrs. Post: Please tell me
whether I was wrong about this:
I invited six friends to lunch In
honor Of a seventh friend who was
visiting me and whom all the
others knew. 1t 80 happened that
two Of the six friends are no long
err on friendly terms with each
other. So when / invited the
one told her was going to in
vite the other and she said she
would come anyway. When
invited the other one, however,
she said that l should count her
out. As II happened. the one who
refused to come was the better
friend OF the guest Of honor. and
II seemed too bad to have her, Of
the six. absent from the party.
But what could I have done?
Answer: There is nothing you
could have donel In fact, as It
turned out II was very lucky you
asked them In the order you did.
because had you asked them the
other way around the two "ene-
miles, would have met and the af-
ternoon might have proved UNI
pleasant for every one. The only
other thing you could have done
was TO ask B." who refused to
meet a. that day. to come to
lunch or dinner or tea another
time in order to see her friend
who Is staying with you.
Mrs. Post is sorry she can no
longer answer personal letters.
She Is glad however to have
many printed slips on a var-
ETY. of subjects to offer to her
readers. Today's slip Is "A
Dance Can Be Simple" Be
sure TO send a three-cent stamp
ed. seif-addressed envelope with
your request to Mrs. Post. in
care OF this paper. p. o. Box
$50. Times Square Station. New
Unrlr NJ "