Evening star., 1940-01-09

as well as girls. But don't have
very many dates. Boys seem to like
me, but they don't take me out.
Please tell me what's the matter"
Now, we'd have to be combina-
ton of Sherlock Holmes. King
Solomon, and the Wizard of or to
answer that question on the basis of
the facts presented.
We're flattered by your faith in
our supernatural powers, and we're
sorry If we have to disappoint you
a bit with our answers. But we
haven't yet mastered the neat trick
| of going into trance, setting our
mental machinery to rumbling, and
grinding out made-to-order dag
noses of individual problems such
as this. True, we can always make
a shot in the dark. We just might
hit the mark-but we'd be far more
likely to puncture some innocent by
stander who was merely waiting for
a street car.
Long Distance Guessing
| Doesn't Work.
Actually, there may be dozens Of
reasons why fairly attractive girl
with plenty of friends doesn't have
many dates. When a letter tells
us lot of details about the girl,
We can often point one or two things
which may affect the situation.
/ But in many cases, we'd have to
know the girl, talk to her, and
watch her in order to make any
reasonably sound recommendation
for improving her dating technique
However, there are a few general
comments which we'd like to make
in an effort to help you solve this
problem, if it happens to be yours.
First of all. teen-age girls are
far more interested in dates and
dating than are boys of the same
age. Girls mature earlier. for one
thing. For another, dating is
minor manifestion for a woman's
chief interest and aim in life-love
Love isn't a mans chief interest in
life, although it often runs a close
second. In exactly the same way;
dating is seldom boys chief in
terest. At the age when Joan is
pining to have Johnny come over at
least three nights a week, Johnny
may be perfectly happy to see Joan
only one night, while he devotes
the other two evenings to such un-
romantic matters as basket ball and
his short-wave radio.
Not Enough Boys
To Go Around.
So there you have two important
factors: The later maturity of boys,
and their more sharply divided in
tereSts. AS result, there often
just aren't enough teen-age boys
who are interested in dating to sup
ply the demand. And that means
that some girls are going to get left
out for a year or two, until the boys
catch up with them.
But you want to know why YOU
have to be the one left out. Other
girls in your crowd have more dates
than you have and they don't seem
any more attractive than you are
Why?
Well, girls also differ in the ages
at which they become ready for
dating, and at which they start to
exert a powerful appeal to boys
The difference is even more psy-
Geological than physical. And the
girl who attracts boys little later
than her friends need not feel in
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she actually has better chance OF
making a sound. happy marriage
than the more precocious miss
| We've watched the girls who were
knocking the boys starry when
they were sophomores and juniors
in high school and compared their
careers with those of girls who at
the same time were getting hardly
nod from the lads. And in an
amazing number of instances, the
early boomers were quick to fade
In a couple of years they were de-
posed by a new dynasty of popu-
larity princesses.
The Late Starters
Often Win.
And, in case you're interested, 1t
was usually this latter group who
grabbed of the best husbands-on
reason, perhaps, being the fact that
the boys who are doing most of the
dating in their teens don't often
turn out to be the best permanent
matrimonial bets!
So the answer to your question