The Tacoma times. [volume] (Tacoma, Wash.) 1903-1949, 1940-10-05
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~ EMILY POST
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quite different situation from
that II Two remarked parents slho
call cur attention 10 their shat
tered and rehsshed pledges upon
the same sheet Of paper which calls
upon u to witness the solemn TAX
lng d these same hreakahls
pledges ~ their daughter. ms
last would certainly not hs giving
the lstter's marriage . fair chance
at the start
However. this Il not the answer
to the following question. but Just
something I again should like To
emphssizs. We have Just received
= wedding invitation sent in the
two names q The divorced parents.
Since this invitation asks for an
answer. to whom and how do we
send our answer >"
Under the circumstances. your
acceptance Of the wedding invita-
ton would be sent 10 the brides
mother. since the responsibility Of
sending out and accepting invita-
tons Is usually that Of the hostess.
When Ne Return Is Possible
Dear Mrs. Post: I have been
invited to spend a week with = girl
who used 10 so to my school. She
moved away several years ago and
I have not seen her since. I should
like 10 20. but don't like TO accept
her kindness unless there In some
thing I can do to repay IL without
inviting her 10 my house. I can
never have any one here ~ our
house il small. our family large,
and mother and father are not
even congenial. Do you think I
ought TO explain to the girl why
I cannot invite her to my house,
Answer: Certainly not Never
explain your family to their detri-
ment, Moreover. IL Is NEVER nee
essary 10 return an invitation in
kind. II you like the girl and you
are sure she likes you IF she didn't
she wouldn't invite youl. there Is
no reason why you should not 20.
And there are many ways that you
can return her invitation. which
have nothing 10 do with money or
whatever present return you are
able TO make. BY this I mean by
being sincere. sympathetic and
good-tempered.
A Hostess Problem
Dear Mrs. Post: How can I In
wife certain friends to come at .
definite time and also tell them i
want them to leave at a definite
time? II I invite them for the
weekend. they are likely to stay
over until after lunch Monday,
and when they do this, they upset
the house completely All our
other friends who are invited for
the weekend always come TO
lunch Saturday and stay either
until after the evening meal Sum
day, or over until after breakfast
Monday morning. depending upon
circumstances. How can I make
1t plain to these staying friends
just when they are to come. and
to leave without being too pointed
about the whole thingY Hereto
fore. I have always said for the
weekend" and have let them mako
their own Interpretation of the
length.
Answer: The only suggestion I
can think Of Is TO say plainly:
"Will you come Saturday for
lunch. and stay until as late as
you viii on Sunday" Certainly
you can't say to them on Monday
morning, VIII you please 20
home ?" Most people do take II
for granted that they are expected
10 leave on Monday Immediately
after breakfast. But this Ia be-
cause a man-and often a woman
has 10 go to business. But II
guest has nothing to do and wants
to stay In the country. I don't
think you can possibly ask her 10
leave. But wording your invita-
ton until after supper Sunday"
could not be taken TO mean after
lunch on Monday"