Evening star., 1940-10-29

of good-looklng girls in another car.
The girls wave at Fred, who smiles
little too broadly and greets them
q little too cordially.
He Immediately explains that
they are a couple of girls who work
in the Office, but that doesn't sat
isfy Alice. She withdraws into
silence and the recesses of the front
seat, where she pouts and sulks
for the rest of the evening, thus
running what otherwise might have
been an enjoyable date.
These are typical instances of the
green-eyed monster at work. You
can all see Immediately that Johnny
and Alice are behaving foolishly and
childishly. But how many of you
can honestly say that, under similar
circumstances, you too wouldn't have
felt small but sharp pang of that
ol debbil jealousy?
The matter of fact is, whenever
our affections are involved with
another human being, a little jeal-
ousy is almost sure to creep in.
Johnny is very fond of Irene, and
it's important to him that she feel
the same way about him. At the
slightest indication that she may
be interested in another boy. John
ny's pride is wounded and his fears
are aroused. And jealousy rears
its ugly head.
It's not that Johnny really dis
trusts Irene, although that's the
outward form his feeling may take.
Actually, Johnny distrusts not Irene,
but himself. The reason he gnashes
his teeth when she shows an interest
In another fellow Is that he is
subconsciously doubling his own
ability to meet any and all COM
petition.
The same thing is true OF Alice.
Consciously, she realizes that Fred
could meet a dozen pretty girls at
the Office without having them
change his feelings toward her But
underneath, little doubt is created.
She is afraid. And therefore, she
becomes angry, and sulks.
Once you understand the real
nature Of jealousy you feel, it's
much easier to control 1t. Suppose
that when Johnny gets this feeling,
he says to himself, "Ha! Some
other bird thinks Irene is pretty
nice, too. Well, he's got good taste,
but he's barking up the wrong tree.
I'm in solid there already, but
just to make sure, I'll be twice as
nice to Irene from now on. The
best way to meet any situation is
not to give it chance to get started" j"
BY doing this, Johnny will keep
from blowing up and making un-
justified accusations to Irene. In
stead, he'll be nice to her, and her
inevitable reaction to that treat
ment will bolster Johnny's own self
confidence. Before long his inner
doubts will be quieted, and all cause
for those jealous pangs will be re-
moved.
And Alice, II she's smart, will use
exactly the same system when Fred
waves at a couple Of nifty numbers
from the ONCE.
It's pretty hard TO get rid of an
unpleasant emotion unless you delib-
erately replace it with a pleasant
one. Giving in to your jealousy and
expressing 1t is the worst thing you
can do. Instead, perform some act
that will give rise to a pleasant
emotion. Do something nice for
Irene or Fred. You'll find that
this system will enable you TO keep
those jealous pangs from getting
out of hand.
But Danish them completely3 Not
while you're human!
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