The Tacoma times. [volume] (Tacoma, Wash.) 1903-1949, 1940-07-16
GOOD TASTE
TODAY
BY EMILY POST

disconcerting situation Is de-
scribed to me: Someone sends
someone else a present and the
giver either takes it for granted
that the one who receives it will
know who it is from, or else the
card gets lost, and then some
times l get letter like this:
Just now l received a note from
a friend thanking me for flowers
l am supposed to have sent to
her husband who is i'll in the hos
pital. To make it worse, her de-
scription fits quantity and quality
both quite beyond my means.
Evidently there was no card and
she took for granted for some
reason. that they were from me.
II makes it all the more embar-
RAISING because she goes on to
say that ! am always so thought
full. and that Jim and she both
thought it was wonderful of me
to think Of him, etc. What do /
do now ?"
Ny advice is don't worry about
1t. but of course you must write
or telephone at once, to the wife
and say you wish the flowers had
been from you but that they
weren't. But whatever you do,
don't 60 and send some now!
Instead OF being pleasing that
would only be embarrassing to
them under the circumstances.
BY and by you might send him
something elsa book that you
know he wants, or food he espe-
cially likes.
Catching the Bouquet at the
Wedding
Dear Mrs. Post: / am not mar
ried, but even so l don't know
whether it was right for me to
catch the brides bouquet. l was
not in the bridal party because
1t was composed of her sisters
and one of the groom's. I hadn't
intended to catch the bouquet but
there it was in my arms. I've
heard since. that one Of the
brides sisters thought l ought to
have given it up to her. If l was
wrong l am sorry and want to
apologize. but if l was not wrong
would certainly feel relieved TO
have you write something in your
column about il.
Answer: From your letter it
appears that the bride really
wanted you to be bridesmaid.
II this is true then your catching
IL was that much more forgiyable.
Even so, since the unmarried at
tendants of the bride are alone
expected to try to catch the bou-
quet, II you ran forward and
caught IL then you were wrong.
But II II came straight at you
where you stood, then you were
lucky. On no account, however.
could you have returned il or
given it TO anyone else since its
meaning applies only to the one
who catches il.
Announcing An Engagement
Dear Mrs. Post: Could anyone
consider me lacking in feeling if
| announced my engagement one
month after my mother died ?
My fiance is going away and we'd
like 10 announce the engagement
before he goes. and when ne re-
turns four months from now we'd
like to be married.
Answer; think you should not
have an engagement party. but
you may certainly write all your
friends exactly what you have
written me. A notice may also be
sent to your papers. II your
father is living he should an
nounce the whether
he is at the moment at home or
whether he happens to be away.
l add this merely because it is a
question often asked.
Shaking Hands With Gloves On
Dear Mrs. Post: Is il correct for
q woman to shake hands with her
gloves on If the other woman is
not wearing them,
Answer. Yes. II is sometimes
required that lady put her glove
on TO shake hands but never re-
quired that she take II off unless
it be riding or gardening or golf
glove.