Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1940-10-15
Comfort and Fashion Interest Embodied Newest gng Ensembles
Meaning Of
Service
Placing of Food On
Table for Guests
To Serve Selves
By EMILY POST.


American service" Is very elas-
tic term; it means everything that
isn't strictly formal service. Strictly
formal" means that with the excep-
ton Of sailed nuts and ornamental
fruits or sweets, no food whatsoever
is put on the table. In other words.
American service" may mean that
the only deviation from the formal
service is having the carving done
at the table. or perhaps having the
coffee served by the hostess herself,
either at the dining table after the
meal is over, or it may mean putting
everything down on the table and
having those at table help them
selves.
Dear Mrs. Post: NV daughter
came home from college wearing a
fraternity pin. Some of her friends
exclaimed "Oh, you're engaged"
She told them she wasn't. and they
seemed very much surprised. She
explains to me that she knows this
young man well, and likes him very
much, but that when he asked her
to wear his fraternity pin, she hadn't
any idea that it was to signify an
engagement, and can't imagine that
he meant this either. I think she
should find out, before going on
wearing it, just what it does mean,
but she doesn't know how to 60
about this, and I can't tell her.
1t might. I have to agree, be rather
awkward to bring up such subject.
Can you shed any light on this
fraternity pin significance?
Answer-Since the young man ap-
parently made nothing of giving
your daughter the pin, I certainly
wouldn't. if were she, take it as a
declaration of serious intentions, I'M
less he tells her or shows her that
he thinks of it as having special
significance.
Dear Mrs. Post: (a) Are the
children in a wedding party-the
flower girl and the ring
posed to be given presents for TAX
ing part the way older attendants
are? CD If We have party for the
wedding party, are they supposed to
be invited to that? I would have
to ask their parents to come with
them. I may invite the parents
anyway, as, they are good friends Of
mine, but I wish I didn't have to
| include the children
Answer-(a) They are usually
given presents of little trinkets OF
some sort, which they can keep. A
bangle or locket or maybe a little
pin for the girl, and for the boy
silver pencil, or book, if there
is one that he wants. and he can
keep. CD 1t is not expected that
children be asked to any party ex-
cept the actual wedding reception,
and at that they need not sit at the
bridal table.
Dear Mrs. Post: Are long after
noon dresses ever worn as early in
the day as lunch time? I don't
mean the guests coming in, but the
hostess and the guest of honor and
several Of the hostess best friends
who are assisting in whatever way
they can. The lunch party is just
for favored few friends and after
this there will be big reception
to which many others are invited to
meet the guest of honor.
Answer-Ordinarily long dresses
are not worn as early as lunch time.
but if the reception is to follow the
lunch, people will naturally dress for
the reception-since this is the more
important event of the day. The
wearing of long dresses at lunch
would therefore be obvious.
Dear Mrs. Post: When drinking
a cold drink through straws, is it cor
rect to life the glass up nearer the
mouth?
Answer: Certainly!