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Evening star., 1940-01-06
Controlling
DisObedient
Children
Parents Must Not
Be Divided Over
The Discipline
BY ANGELO PATRI.

There is nothing sadder in this
world than the sight OF fine chill
dren being battered about. spiritual
ly if not materially, between their
parents. When we find otherwise
healthy children having fits of cry
ing, day-dreaming, sulks, moodiness,
we usually and father and mother
who have forgotten that they love
each other. For one reason or an
other they have formed two opposi-
ton parties in the home, and be-
tween them the children are bat
tered to death.
The sad thing about this Is that
they rarely know they are respon-
sible for the children's misbehavior.
Maybe the mother disciplnes them,
Furnishes them repeatedly, day after
day, instead of the husband she
cannot reach. Maybe father, an
gered by the opposition of his wife,
helpless in the face Of it, uses the
, children to revenge himself upon
her. The situation is hard on the
children. They turn to one. then
the other, and find security in
neither.
This kind of home trouble makes
children disobedient, mischievous,
mean, disorderly, according to the
nature of the child worked upon.
They lose standing in school and
have not the power to gain 1t again,
though all the power of the school
is placed at their service. A dis
tressed mind makes a distressed
body, and an ailing, unhappy child
cannot learn.
Il can't do anything with the
children any more. They used to
obey me, but since my husband has
begun telling them that I'm wrong
they pay no attention to me-"
THE children are really not to
blame. Their mother does not know
how to manage them and I'm away
all day. Do the best you can"
We continue to do the best we
can. but that does not get us any,
where. It never will while the chill
dren live in the atmosphere of
troubled, unhappy home. If the
parents could get together, talk out
their differences, agree to meet each
other half way, and start over, the
children might have q chance.
Many fathers and mothers need
q vacation. They need to get away
from home, from the scene of all
their difficulties and forget in a new
and pleasant place. A trip across
the country, a stay at some lovely
spot, would help many of them.
There is always a way to care for
the children for a time. It would
be a poor place, indeed, that did not
offer them something better than
they have at home.
OF course, there is the divorce
court. But that is not going to
solve the childrens problems It
may add to them. It may mean
that for some days in the year
father has them; the rest of the
time mother takes charge. That
Is about the worst fate that can
befall a child. I wouldn't wish that
on anybody. Doesn't it seem strange
that a man and woman who once
loved each other devotedly, who
have brought children into the fam
lily, might find way to give those
children a fair chance for success
and happiness?
Children have the right to ex-
pect something like that from their
father and their mother. It is mean
to fail helpless children.
Evening star., 1940-01-06
Manners
OF the
Moment

A neat newspaper reader goes
nearly crazy If he is forced to watch
an untidy newspaper reader at work
Theoretically, 1t is because the neat
reader is worrying about the mess
the paper is going to be in when it
comes his turn to read it. But ac-
tually that is merely an excuse.
He just can't stand the sight Of =
newspaper falling apart in some
ones hands.
I know. because I've tried the sys-
tenn of paper apiece. And the other
fellow always grows fidgety before I
have finished dropping corners and
loose pages.
It's too bad it has to be this way.
Now, we who mess a paper up never
get sore at the fellow who folds with
such precision. I don't see why he
can't be as generous with us.
But since he isn't, I think that my
kind will have to take to reading
papers behind closed doors, in soli-
tude. If you have opposites In the
same family, it's the only way to
keep the peace.
OF course, I suppose, we could
learn to fold our papers. But it's
so much trouble. JEAN.
Evening star., 1940-01-06
BY BARBARA BELL,


This flare -skirted, e-shouldered
fashion is destined to become a
favorite with every growing-up
young lady who is very particular
about her clothes. Not only does
the flare and the width have the
f1lling-out effect that every to is
girl needs; but also the high neck
line, finished with q tailored collar,
and the darted waistline add de-
cisive flattery.
This Is q style your daughter will
want at once DIETER send for the
pattern this minute) in sturdy wools
or corduroy for skating and outdoor
sports. (Be sure to line the skirt
with the jacket-blouse material, so
that 1t will flash into view as she
skins over the ice.) And then she'll
want it later on in sturdy cottons,
like gingham, percale and calico, to
finish the school term.
Barbara Bell Pattern No. 1853
Is designed for sizes 3. 10, IL, Il and
16 years. Size 10 requires IN yards
Of N-iuch material for skirt: y yard
Evening star., 1940-01-06
My Neighbor Says:

Add sardines to eggs as you
scramble them for breakfast,
luncheon or supper or make q
sardine paste by mixing smoked
sardines with Y cup of chilli
sauce and spread between the
folds Of an omelet before serv-
ing. !,
Pork sausage requires slow
cooking. If much fat collects,
drain it od-to prevent greasi-
ness. Pierce link sausage sew
eral times with a fork to pre-.
vent from bursting while cook
ing. To form a brown, crusty
covering on sausage sprinkle
them with flour just before
they are cooked.
Wash dully-waxed furniture
with q chamois skin that has
been rinsed frequently In warm
water. Doing so will remove
the dirt film. Then rub the
furniture thoroughly with a
soft cloth saturated in furniture
polish. Afterward wipe the
furniture dry with q clean soft
cloth.
Evening star., 1940-01-06
TrOuser Dinner Ensemble
Likely to Be a Success;
Ballerina Skirt Good
Color Is Widely Used in Every
Phase of Southern Fashion;
Red, White and Blue Seen
Nv HELEN VOGT.

Now you'll have to admit that it's something
be standing and
she can buy snbun lotion bathing suits glasses
get used to after the first startled feeling
realize
heading south toward sunshine and serenity-drat em.
from the VIEWPOINT OF wokng gol
mat OF fashion writer we envy their choice suitable
Tor te selection has never been enicng
around the stores looking resort departments watching
OF Southern
envous CT the boss is listening really
But to get back finally to the expect great deal
from resort clothes this Silhouette styling
strangely enough they manage to combine practical characteristics
detailing
they don't have be drab
Color plays tremendous
naturally the popular white
there
Evening star., 1940-01-06
Present>Day
Calling Card
Etiquette
'Pasteboards' Have
Four Strict Uses
In Average Life
By EMILY POST,

Dear Mrs. Post: Visiting card
formalities have gone a long way
since was young, and know my
daughter is right in saying, Relax,
mother put the cards away; this is
1910" 1 am first to agree that many
OF yesterdays mechanical gestures
are out of key today, but in their
time most of them served a real
purpose, which is difficult for our
daughters and sons to believe. What
I'd like to have you write is some
thing definite about the times when
cards should still be used, in addi-
ton to the strictly modern custom
Of writing invitations on them.
Answer: Apart from diplomatic
and official circumstances their
especial uses today are: Cd To be
left when paying a first visit upon
strangers; CD to be left for you by
the strangers who return your visit;
90 to be left at the house of friend
or an acquaintance where there is
illness or where there has been a
death Gn the first case ito in
euire" and in the second deepest
sympathy" is written on your card
90 to be sent with presents and with
flowers.
Dear Mrs Post: Isn't it unneces-
sarily considerate of hostess to call
attention to the fact that guest
hasn't eaten very much? The other
day I had taken larger portions
than I could eat and when I put
down my knife and fork there was
still considerable food on my plate.
"Are you i'll? Was something wrong
with the food? Shall I get you
something else?" I was asked all
these questions and was so embar-
rassed I wanted to drop down under
the table.
Answer: One should not make re-
marks about what a guest has not
eaten unless she Cor he) has refused
everything at table. In this case
one might ask, rs there anything
I can get you to eat?" But even so,
one shouldn't make fuss about It.
At the present moment, most people
eat very little and so many people
are on diets that beyond asking a
guest If there is something one
might provide, one says nothing.
Evening star., 1940-01-06
Origin of Apples

The apples original habitat ap-
parently was between the Caspian
Sea and Europe, from where it went
to different parts of the world, but
it has become so we'll adapted to
the American continent that it now
ranks as the foremost producer Of
this wonderful fruit. Petrif1ed apples
have been found in the Swiss noun
tain areas. Ancient history records
apples in the Euphrates region; first
chronicled mention of them.
Evening star., 1940-01-06

good students and ahead of their
classes IN school, do the same thing.
Certainly no one has any right to
criticize you for associating with
girls you find congenial So just
ignore the Mrs. Grundys.
However, it might be a good idea
for you to take out younger girl
occasionally, just for the sake Of
variety and your own wider expert
ence. You'll find that there are
plenty of girls of your age or younger
who are by no means silly.
Dear Columnists:
"Is there anything that can be
done about knock-knees-any exer-
else or other help? Mine aren't bad.
but Id like to make them less no.
ticeable.
PAUL S."
AS far as we know, there is no
practical way of helping knock
knees although you might consult
your physician and get his opinion.
Or a good tailor should be able to
make them less noticeable by cutting
your trousers carefully.
Generally speaking. dark clothes
with coats and trousers that match,
rather than sports coats and con-
trasting slacks, will make your legs
less noticeable. But plenty of popu-
lar people are somewhat knock
kneed, so it's nothing to cause you
worry or embarrassment.
The asking for Date" COL
umn, which helped S. K, is now
available as leaflet, and it's
yours for 3-cent stamp. Ad-
dress Kay Caldwell and Alden
Harrison, In care of this news
paper.
Evening star., 1940-01-06

of the Caribbean ports have ap-
peared lately in number of the COL
lections, and they. too, are wonder
full in their brilliance and effective
ness. So, don't be afraid of bright
color this season, for it's being
hoWled about as never before.
At the beginning of autumn, you
will recall. the phrase "covered-up
look" appeared in every other sem
tence of any well written fashion
column. Well, it's here again. In
resort clothes, the long -sleeved,
high-necked motif finds great prom
inence, and We think it will take
this year as it did not do in the last
one. That daring modesty-if you
can call it that-has a good start
this time. for winter fashions found
it accepted as smart high style.
Look for this trend in play clothes,
including simple shirts made on
boyish lines. Watch for it in eve
ming and dinner gowns for informal
dining on a yacht or in the patio
In fact, don't overlook its possibili-
ties in almost every phase of fashion.
Speaking of play clothes, you are
probably familiar by this time with
the much heralded ballerina skirt
1t is an adaptation of the skating
skirt which has become incorporated
into daytime dresses as well as sport
outfits. The new ballerina skirt,
however, is shorter and fuller.
usually worn with a long -sleeved
blouse over tight fitting trunks.
These outfits are most popular and
very fetching.
Also. in play clothes, you'll dis
cover the most marvellous bathing
suits. either fitted in with lastex at
the waistline to provide you with a
real hour glass silhouette" or made
in two-piece styles that leave the
midriff exposed Last winter found
the bare midriff idea being intro
duced in evening gowns with Poly
nesian influence. This season the
trend continues. Most of the girls
wear the new shorter beach coats
over their bathing suits. so that too
much exposure to the sun is avoided.
The abbreviated coats are often de-
signed to match the suit, such as q
charming ensemble of white shark
skin with polka a-dot trim. However,
most of the shops are carrying these
jackets in variety of fabrics, in
Guiding the popular terry cloth
styles which come about to the knee.
Some time ago we mentioned that
a local shop was carrying trouser
ensembles to be worn to dinner.
Now we find that the idea has
spread like wildfire. and that the Sc
lection of these outfits is compare
lively wide. Personally, we love 'em.
Trousers are so comfortable and
casual that you can relax and really
enjoy the luxury of lounging. And
these new trousers are so wide that
it's difficult to distinguish them from
the skirt of a dinner frock. Don't
know why, but We have a funny
feeling that here is theme likely
to catch on very, very well next
summer. Harem-style trousers will
be wonderful for dining on the ter
race.
And just one more word: There's
still a great deal of very feminine
"little-girl" influence in clothes.
Next time you see resort fashion
show-and of course you won't miss
it-take a look at the starched effect
of many play clothes, at the bonnets
and quaint hats and even at the
flower trimmed sun glasses.
It's going to be wonderful south
ern season grrrrr -.
Evening star., 1940-01-06
Dorothy Dix Says .
Pity for Girl Is No Reason
For Man to Marry Her

DEAR MISS DIX: Two and a
half years ago girl I know asked
me to go steady with her. I couldn't
hurt her feelings by refusing, so I
agreed to do so. But about a year
ago began to grow tired of her
and told her I would like to quit
and she took 1t very hard and on one
Of our dates tried to take poison.
I just happened to see her in time
to forestall any serious consequences.
This frightened me and made me
feel that, If she had died, morally I
would have been her murderer, so
I begged her forgiveness and asked
her to go steady again. Now the
old urge for freedom is strong upon
me, but I can't bring myself to
mention the subject again. am
afraid she would kill herself. What
must I do? JIM.
Answer-Brace up your backbone
and quit. Do 1t in a hurry, or else
some day you will find yourself
marching up the church aisle with a
girl who has simply bluffed you into
marrying her.
And there will be no happiness in
that for either one d you, because
you will always be resentful of her
having taken advantage of your
weakness. If you are tired Of her
before you marry her she will bore
you afterward until you take to
drink and you will come to feel
toward her as If she were your jailer.
And she will be miserable because
she will always know that you don't
love her and didn't want to marry
her. She will be so jealous of every
woman you speak to that you don't
dare to say good morning" to your
own grandmother.
No man makes a more asinine
sacrifice than the one who marries
a woman out of pity. Don't be afraid
Of her committing suicide Ninety
nine chances out of a hundred she
was just putting on an act when she
said she would take poison and there
was nothing more dangerous in what
she swallowed than little sugar and
water.
DEAR DOROTHY DIX: am a
sophomore in college, taking q six
year course. A girl and I are deeply
In love and are thinking about be-
coming engaged. DO you think our
love for each other will last until I
have graduated from college and
have got q job? CHARLIE.
Answer-Not much adolescent love
lasts that long and it will be better,
both for you and the girl, to take an
option on each others hearts than
to enter into definite contract. BY
that I mean just keep on being
good friends, sweethearts If you like,
with the understanding that If you
are still in love with each other
seven or eight years hence you will
get married. An engagement can be
like q ball and chain about your
feet and you will be the happier for
being free Of it.
Dear Dorothy Dix: I am a boy 16
years old. All my life have been
. spoiled brat. My mother separated
from my father ana took me with
Evening star., 1940-01-06

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Evening star., 1940-01-06

her and I have never known what
1t was to have a father. We have
always lived with my grandmother
and aunt and they pampered me
and babied me until now at 16 I am
fed up with it I want to leave my
family and 60 out in the world to
make man of myself I will finish
high school this year and I've just
simply got to strike out for my
self. I hate to do this because
my mother and grandmother and
aunt have always been so good to
me, but can't stand the baby
boy" stuff any longer. What do
you think about it? ELLIS.
Answer don't think that any
boy in the world is more to be pitied
than the hapless victim of an over
fond mother. And when you add
doting grandmother and aunt to
this conclaye of worshipers it is
marvel that any youth has enough
strength and spirit to survive it.
It doesn't palliate the crime they
commit against the boy that it is
motivated by misguided love. The
result Is the same as if it were in
spired by hate. They weaken him
by coddling him. They cultivate
selflshness in him by giving him
everything he wants. They are so
afraid he will get hurt they keep
him tied to their apron strings and
make sissy out of him. They
concoct legend about his having a
delicate chest, or being nervous to
excuse his never going to work.
They can't bear to be parted from
him, so he is kept from all contact
with the world of men and becomes
an old woman himself. All of us
know dozens of cases of boys who
have been ruined by the women who
love them. And nothing can be done
about it unless the boy himself
happens to have enough strength
to break the chains that bind him
and get away from his loving jailers.
InlS IS Wnat l strongly ADVISE you
to do, Ellis: Insist upon your mother
sending you of to college, some-
where away from home. If she re-
fuses to do this, get Job for your
self.
X
Dear Dorothy Dix: What chance
has q man for happiness If he mar
ries q girl with whom he is in love,
but who is only marrying him for
a home? Also, she has bad temper
and is selfish and bossy. They are
both in their 30s. She is in the
Social Register. He is not.
WORRIED.
Answer-The man hasn't chance
in the world of happiness because
such a woman would always look
down on her husband and take out
her spite in having to marry for a
living on him,
Evening star., 1940-01-06
Resort Clothes Introduce Many Interesting and Attractive Style Trends
Telephone Conversations
Between Boys and Girls
Must Not Be OverlOng
Any Family Is Sure to Object
To Cosby Marathons That
Keep Wires Always Busy

By Caldwell AND ALDEN HARRISON
Columnists:
your Asking Date helpful
after studying
methods right in front Of her steady and she
accepted from will
tany follow your tips
S picture
enough
to give pay won't
it me?
regularly with but know get at least
call
admitted that liked talk and that
versaton interesting and funny.
"Om acquaintance short
do adviser"
certainly done all right getting date from
STEADY Don't spoil now We think
little fast trying get her picture this stage Of
Evening star., 1940-01-06

We agree with her that you don't
yet know her we'll enough to be en-
titled to a photograph. Certainly you
would be unforgivably presumptuous
to try to obtain one now, ignoring
her expressed wishes in the matter.
If you continue to 60 with her,
you can bring up the matter of
picture later on, and you'll prob
ably get a different answer. But
don't be too hasty about it.
We also suggest that you shorten
those Commute telephone sessions.
Smart young people use the tele-
phone as a time-saving convenience,
not as a means of holding long,
gossipy conversations. You'd do
better to call Frances only when you
have something definite to say; and
when you've said that, to hang up.
For one thing, these telephone
marathons are going to annoy her
family sooner or later. And they just
aren't the mark of fellow who
knows his way around.
Dear Columnists:
Your Pointers on Popularity
booklet was very interesting. and
I know it will prove helpful to me.
1t has been circulating about among
other young people, who have en-
joyed reading it.
Il have a problem on which Id
like your help. I am l8 years old.
/ have gone out with girls slightly
older than 1 am, and have been Sc
verely criticized for doing so. How
ever. when I am out with girls of
l6 or II, they seem to be a darned
nuisance.
rs it a crime to 60 out with
some one about 10 or 20. with whom
you can talk intelligently, dance en-
joyably and not have a partner that
acts like a 10-year-
"Please send me an answer on this.
so that III know If the numerous
Mrs. Grundys have right to criti-
cize me. I pass for about 20, so
have my doubts about going out
with girls Of l6.
'P. L."
If you are mature for your years,
you certainly shouldn't worry be-
cause you like to go with girls
slightly older than you are. Many
boys, particularly those who are
Evening star., 1940-01-06

in combination. is subject about
which you'll hear plenty before the
season is past. Some of the coun-
try's leading designers have carried
it out in anv number of street and
evening dresses and you'd be sur
prised to see how we'll the outfits
look, escaping anv vestige of gaudi-
ness. Red and white and blue-for
the Americans travelling this year in
America.
Exciting prints which carry out
the idea of Tahiti, Algeria or one
Evening star., 1940-01-06
Chocolate DOUGH

Chocolate biscuits are something
very different. Make biscuit dough
the regular way. then spread each
biscuit generously with grated sweet
chocolate. Fold half over and bake
as usual,
Evening star., 1940-01-06

Selected for their beauty and fashion importance these
costumes for Southern for all embody the neDest
snartest in resort clothes At left dboue the rouser
ensembles similar to those last outfits
On the Rpera At right OF the most interesting fashions
seen in this evening bathing ensemble of silk print skirt
Jersey lined s suit enabling n1ddy to dance In lonely rock
then slip of the skirt IN readiness for moonlight Dip Beo
the for matching svn suits short
ensemble OF trimmed wite sharkskn The other
seeker baerina skirt outfit oh contrasting
girdle and long-sleeued Jersey blouse
Evening star., 1940-01-06
Wax and FINGERS

To help keep painted woodwork
clean, apply . thin coat Of colorless
wax to the parts most often finger
spotted.
Evening star., 1940-01-06


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attractive emsitch motifs The
diameter the smaller joining motif
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The pattern envelope contains complete direc
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crochet hook and what material and how much will need
pattern No. 1914 and inose Is cents In
stamps postage Address Needle
rk Editor Of Evening Star.
Evening star., 1940-01-06

Answer-The man hasn't chance
in the world of happiness because
such a woman would always look
down on her husband and take out
her spite in having to marry for a
living on him.
DOROTHY DIX.