The Ely miner. [volume] (Ely, Minn.) 1895-1986, 1940-06-20

brother or even her mother snugly
ensconsed in his especial chair when
he reached home tired and hun
cry, and there never will be
"Talk about loyalty!" says Jane.
"Why, I'm always going to put my
mother first and Dick Brown may as
well know i'll"
But that isn't the answer, and if
James mother is a sensible woman
she'll be the first to admit it.
AS for the old school friends, when
with a visible and violent effort,
finding them for a third time en-
joying his home in the late after
noon, Dick makes himself be civil
to them. Jane is amazed to feel her
spirit flaming suddenly into resent
ment. She loves Dick, but it is ut
terly unreasonable of him to dis
like Peggy and Joan. And surely,
just because ones married one
needn't be disloyal to old friends!
Loyalty, Haven in all TempeStS.
1t does sound irrational. And yet
if Jane wants her marriage to con-
tinue, wants to build a complete
and happy and successful relation
ship between herself and her new
husband, she will often have to be
irrational, and he will, too. They
will often have to forego reason for
that higher attitude in which all
logic disappears in the warmth of
confidence and love. ALI marriages
have their difficult moments, but
these moments will be safely wealth
cred as long as there is rockbound,
unfailing, instant loyalty between a
man and his wife.
So put that into your spiritual
hope-chest first of all, you brides
of June. Love is a beautiful thing,
and while young love and passion
last they fulfill the law; they brim
life with ecstasy.
But when they waver, when they
are overloaded for a time, then
put loyalty in their place. Be digni-
fed, be silent about the trif1es in
which your new husband fails you.
Whether he is at a bridge party
and playing pretty poor bridge, or
at golf club and far behind the
others at golf, or foundering in some
conversation that threatens to make
him ridiculous, or i'll at ease in some
group of your old friends, make him
feel that your admiration and under
standing are his as matter of
course. He won't mind any of the
h., II t0fT ri -
the evening if he knows that you are
right beside him, his wife, and glad
to be his wife, and ready to talk it
all over on the way home.
Devotion Pays.
''Walter is always reproaching me
that make him feel ashamed" one
of last autumn's brides writes me.
eve go about in very nice crowd,
most of the boys are more success
full than Walter, and certainly I am
not going to make much of him for
things he hasn't done and pretend
that like being poor better than
would like being successful"
No marriage can survive that at
titude. But any wife who is won
dering little wistfully why Dick is
a little silent these days, why he is
not enthusiastic about the social af-
fairs she plans, why some of the
bloom, some of the radiance has
gone from their marriage, may find
the answer here.
She may find the cure in quietly
devoting herself to him-not just at
home, where there isn't anybody
else, but when they are out with the
other young wives and husbands,
and when Dick may be resigned to
being ignored and snubbed. A little
tenderness, a little understanding
now will rivet his heart to hers with
iron bands that all the years will
not be able to break. But in the
first months, to let him feel himself
unimportant and neglected is some.
times to destroy all future chances
of happiness at their very roots.