Evening star., 1940-10-10
Not Wise to
Let Friends
Tag Along
Mistake for Girl to
Make Boy Escort
Several Home
BY KAY CALDWELL and
ALDEN HARRISON.

Dear Kay and Alden:
A girl goes to a party with two
girl friends. The party ends quite
late, and a boy whc1n the girl knows
slightly asks to take her home.
Is it proper for the girl to ask if
the boy would mind taking her two
girl friends home also? They live
close to her, and they have no other
convenient means of getting home
except by walking. ct is not far)
The fellow drives a large enough
car. Do you think the friends might
be a hindrance to the boys asking
the girl for another date?
Also, what would you say about
the somewhat similar case of two
couples at a weiner roast, where
one couple didn't have a car. and
the two girls were friends? Should
it be left up to the boys. or just
what? S. j. F.
In the first situation, We think the
girl should accept the boys invita-
ton without feeling obliged to ask
him if her two girl friends could go
along.
If she had gone to the party with
only one other girl, it would be up
to her to see that her friend got
home safely. But since there are
two other girls who can go home
together, we think she should feel
free to accept the boys invitation.
Most boys wouldn't care to take
three girls home, and we feel that
1t would be poor strategy to let the
boy think that the two friends had
to tag along"
OF course, when the boy extended
the invitation, the girl might say,
well, I came with Mary and Jean.
I'll ask them If they'd mind if I
didn't go home with them, but I'm
sure they won't" Then if the boy
wants to take the other girls along,
he can make the suggestion.
In the other situation you mention,
you don't say whether or not the
crowd came to the weiner roast in
couples. If two girls came together,
rather than with dates. one Of them
should not accept an invitation to 60
home with boy unless her friend
had a similar invitation.
If both girls receive invitations.
then it's up to the boys to arrange
the transportation. But If they all
know each other fairly well. we see
no reason why one girl should not
suggest to her escort that they
might take the other couple home
In the boys car.
Dear Miss Caldwell and Mr.. Har-
rison: My family has always insist
ed that have any boy I'm dating
come to the house first, 50 they can
meet him. This is all right, as it's
not hard to arrange. and some of
the boys seem to expect it.
But now they're getting the ides
that shouldn't go out with a boy
unless they know his family. And
it's Just about impossible for me to
fix that up! Do you think I
shouldn't go out with anybody ex-
cept boys whose parents are known
personally to my family? SARA r.
Well, Sara, we can sympathize
with your parents desire to know
as much as possible about any boy
with whom you go out. But we
agree that, living in city as you
do, it's very difficult to have your
parents meet the families of every
bov who might ask you for date.
We do not believe that your dates
should be confined to boys whose
families are known personally to
your parents. If you know that
boys reputation is good, and if he
meets your family and passes their
inspection, we think his relatives
can safely be ignored.
For one thing, a boys family Is
no absolute guarantee that he Is all
right. Even the loftiest names are
inherited by an occasional black
sheep. On the other hand, some Of
the finest men in this country have
come from families which probably
wouldn't have met the requirements
Of most girls parents.