Milford chronicle., 1940-08-09
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Il wish we could move from thil
u neighborho0d," said Mrs. Welborn
Benny brings home dirty little
youngsters to play with him, and he
learns bad manners from them, and
when ! criticize them, he defends
them hotly."
I'D send them home" said Mrs
Multer. "and punish him Il he
brought them back again"
What would you do. Mrs. Will
liams?" asked Mrs. Welborn, turn
ing to an older neighbor who was
with them. did you ever have a
problem Of this kind?"
What mother does not, II she
lives In q congested neighborhOod
like this?" Mrs. Williams answered.
And it makes a good deal Of differ
ence to the character Of the child,
whether such problems are solved
in the best way. One Of my friends
did as Mrs. Multer suggested; she
broke up some undesirable friend
ships in childhood, but her boy did
not learn from that experience how
TO choose friends, and in later life,
make a mistake in his marriage in
consequence.
What did you do9" asked Mrs.
Multer.
Not liking dirty children as COM
panions for my boy, Tommy, at first
cent them home to wash, but dis
covering that often the results were
quite unsatisfactory, then provided
a wash basin, soap, water and tow
els for them. Tommy always washed
first to prevent any embarrassment
Then, the manners and even the
morals Of some Of the children were
far from desirable, but did not crit
icize the children for that Instead,
when talked to Tommy about them,
/ commended some good quality l
had found IN one Of them-and told
Tommy to watch out for evidences
Of traits worth copying. pointed out,
however, that many Of these boys had
not had a chance to learn some of
the things we knew, and we ought |
to help them find out how to think |
and act better In certain respects |
than they we're then doing"
And how did Tommy like that?"
asked Mrs. Welborn.
HE responded to- the idea in a
fine spirit and tried not only to keep
from initiating their undesirable /
habits, but to help them to form bet
ter ones. With some Of them, this
method was successful, and those
who did not improve before long
dropped out of the circle, OF were
dropped by Tommy and the other
boys
"As for Tommy himself, it made
him more discriminating. Besides
this he had formed the unpleasant
habit Of whining when he could not
do or have what he wished None of
lhese little fellows did that. ! called
TOmmy's attention to this in a
way. He watched them when
they were disappointed, and although
some Of them displayed other faults
here was no whining. After that the
unpleasant tone was less often heard
rom Tommy, and soon It ceased al
ogether."
Il can see how that was a better
Fay,' said Mrs. Multer.
Yes, said Mrs. Welborn. THANK
'Ou. Mrs. Williams, / will try your I
method. It will avoid the danger OF
Ireaking down the habit of loyalty
n friendship, and It will show Ben
y how to be a helpful friend. At
he same time it will give him ex-
erience in distinguishing between d.
God and bad qualities in himself (
nd others, and that will help him
4 forming his friendships wisely all 8
is life" i