Evening star., 1940-06-27
Various Cuts OF Lamb Recommended Good Buys Coming
In Family
Parted
Skilled Treatment
Often Required to
Attain Peace
BY ANGELO PATRI.

Dy nNNLAO Ihxh1s
Brothers and friends are not al
ways synonymous. Brothers can be
less than friendly, and so can sis
ters and brothers and sisters and
sisters. The fact that children be-
long to the same family does not
necessarily mean that they like one
another, or are even friendly toward
one another. They may be and
they often are, but they are not
always and it is a mistake to insist
that they are and must be.
No two children are alike.
Brothers and sisters sometimes
inherit the same qualities and de-
velop the same tastes. Or they
have sympathetic understanding OF
each others abilities and tastes.
But not always. They are some
times so far removed from a SYM
pathetic understanding of each
other as to make them antagonistic
and quarrelsome in the extreme.
If this is the situation between
them it is idle to try to force
friendly relationship. Be content
to keep the peace and wait for a
better understanding.
Sometimes this understanding
comes late in life after experiences
have enlightened them as to values
and meanings. Then warning broth
ers and sisters become friends and
get along more peacefully, especially
when they are not forced to live
under the same roof.
There are children so different,
so antagonistic toward each other
that there can be no peace in the
household while they are together
If at all possible send one of them
away to school, or to live with an
understanding, helpful relative un-
til they develop the necessary ability
to live at peace at home.
Constant friction between
brothers and sisters wears down
the whole family and that does
nobody any good. When mother
falls sick and father loses all pa
tience and control of himself, the
whole family is endangered. Bet
ter separate the warning factors
for a time and hope for a better
solution in time to come.
Sometimes there is an odd child
in the family. He is not defec-
tive, just different from the others.
Maybe he is a bit stronger in
every way than his brothers and
sisters and dominates them to
their great distress. Maybe he is
very much weaker and so domi-
mates them, again to their grief.
Such child should be sent to a
school where his training can be
more effectively accomplished than
at home among the others.
There are some children afflict-
ed with bad temper. One can call
it by no other name. Whenever
they are crossed they 60 into
rage and upset the whole family.
Then for days there will be peace.
Everybody walks on eggs for a
spell and then there is another
outbreak. This child is not friendly
with his brothers and sisters,
and they really do not like him.
1t is best to have children of his
sort placed in the care of skilled
physicians for treatment. The
other members Of the family must
be preserved from his impositions
even If it takes the hospital staff
to accomplish it.
Don't assume that brothers are
friends by decree of Providence.
Maybe they are. If they cannot
be, try to help the afflicted one
and so relieve the others of a
heavy burden. Affection has to
be earned even in the bosom of
the family. Perhaps one should
say, especially in the bosom of the
family.