Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1940-09-26
Gloves With
Are
Incorrect
Dinner Coat Called
Informal Attire
At a Wedding
BY EMILY POST.

The answer to the question Of
whether it is proper that ushers
wear gloves with their tuxedos at
an evening wedding Is, according to
all rules of precept, mol" This is
because the tuxedo coat or dinner
jacket, even when made to seem
formal by the addition Of a white
waistcoat Is nevertheless the off,
spring of a smoking jacket and not
in any sense formal. A wedding is
always a ceremonial and therefore
formal And the tail coat obviously
correct.
The question about the gloves
now comes down to the further
question of whether they belong to
the coat, or to the place where the
coat is worn. In my opinion, they
belong to the coat-and mo gloves"
is the best answer 1 can give to the
following letter. In other words, I
agree with its writer thoroughly.
In this community" my cor
respondent writes, the dinner coat
CASUALLY called the tuxedo by every
one here is the only evening suit
worn by the men. Accordingly, this
coat is worn at evening weddings
when there are any. Since I am
more or less looked up to know what
is correct, I have on several oc-
casions been asked what kind Of
gloves the men in the wedding
should wear with their tuxedoS. !
have always said none. But several
people have spoken to me recently
about this, saying that they think
at wedding the ushers and best
man and groom would look better
if they wore gloves, and since the
tuxedo was being worn as a formal
evening suit. did I not think evening
gloves could be worn. I honestly
don't know. wish you would advise
us what you think"
Dear Mrs. Post: Several times
lately the visiting card incloseG
with gift had a line drawn
through the engraved title. In both
instances it was the card of an un-
married woman. am almost begin
ming to feel that the title should
not have been included on the cards
in the first place, else why should
both these young women have
thought it necessary to delete them?
Answer: When using the name
on a card as a signature-that is
when a message such as Hoping
you will soon be we'll" or $50 glad
TO hear you are getting better" is
written above the name when send
ing floWerS-the title of a man or of
an unmarried woman is crossed out
If married woman crosses off the
title from her card. the gift or
message would seem to be from her
husband. Therefore, she never
crosses off the tile, but signs her
own name beneath the name on her
card. However, when cards are sent
with wedding presents, titles are al
ways left on-even those of men.
Dear Mrs. Post: Does the bride
carry her bouquet under or on top
of the long section of her veil that
hangs down in front?
Answer-The veil only hangs to
the bouquet.
Dear Mrs. Post: The other
day you said that a glass saucer
under stemmed glass was too small
to put down on the tablecloth at
any time. Haven't you seen the
small saucers that are often used
under the finger bowls and put
down upon the table?
Answer-One might see many
things done, but this does not al
ways make them right. Correctly,
the small saucer under finger bowl
is put upon plate. This Is not
merely a ong-established conven-
ton of table-setting, but matter
of proportion. A or inch plate
is too small for place plate-much.
Every saucer, whether Of glass or
china, must either haye co6ee or
tea or chocolate cup on it or a
plate under it. A finger bowl is not
considered cup.